Is Your Mind Functioning Properly?
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Isn't it also true that we require to take emotions into consideration when making any decisions or substantiating any ideas? It's popular myth propagated by movie myths where mc is super intelligent and logical by removing emotions or being a psychopath.
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Grr. You made me realize im sad xD time to ignore again
That guy can smoke because he's playing omen and I am playing phoenix
What's that timestamp?!
"I'm not a doctor, therefore I cannot operate on this woman" I won't let my ego hold me back anymore, thank you dr k
It could be an ego statement with context, the following comes to mind. I'm not a real doctor, even though I have all the documents, qualifications and experience for doctor because a patient died on me yesterday and I'm an utter failure unlike Josh who's a genius doctor who's never had a patient die on him. Even though yesterday's surgery had 0.001% of success I could never operate again, it's all my fault and you should get a real doctor like Josh to do it.
@@KucheKlizmadamn bro do you need someone to talk to?
@@KucheKlizmayou okay?
I mean you certainly can operate on someone. Your results just may not be too great lmao. There’s been people who straight up faked being doctors and successfully done surgeries though.
@@JustSomeWeirdo I'm good, thanks for asking! I was imagining what a hypothetical doctor with impostor syndrome might sound like.
Everyone's talking about ego but god i've been preaching this "just because you aren't feeling the emotion doesn't mean it isn't active" stuff for EVER and I'm so glad to see it confirmed here by an actual professional
timely reminder- I'm a recovering expert stuffer and I still have to pay attention to when I think I'm not feeling emotion and am in "logic" mind. Wildest thing therapy taught me was all those times I thought I was being logical and emotionless were high emotion, low awareness ones. When I am in what feels like a "pure" logical state I'm being driven by intense emotions that have shorted out the sensors for them. Learning core defaults helped too- ie I default to fear of worthlessness and abandonment which generally pushes me towards self sacrifice (in an unhealthy manner) or leaving first.
Thank you, very describing. I see the feeling of pure logical state may have flaws since the unaware emotions shorten the perspective
Thanks for sharing your experience
What is an expert stuffer?
@@Sewblon Just a way of saying I stuff my emotions down until they explode out.
Holy crap! What you posted is very enlightened. Can you point me to any terms, subjects, books or articles that could help with tackling the problem of "stuffing" emotions?
Ego is like basing your worth on others, while selfworth is something coming from the self. "Selbstwert" vs "Fremdwert"
Lol
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@@KingDavi1998he basically just said selfworth vs external worth
@@Konvecz thanks
"Blindness and inactivity are two different things." 💯 YES!!!
I'm autistic, I had to really learn how to become aware of my emotions so I could control my behaviour but also understand my limits. Most of the time, I'm emotionally stable now, so I'm no longer affected by my triggers in devastating ways and it no longer undermines my rational thought (though there are a few slip ups here and there, but luckily my support system knows when to reality check me out of this, and that I need a damn nap).
A big part of my equilibrium that has saved me has actually been to accept that there are certain things I want to be able to do, but cannot, due to the way my brain works. I work maximum between 8 - 12 hours a month, if I do more than that, the stress makes me be so uncomfortably aware of my frontal lobe and I risk dissociation and psychotic breaks. I've had psychotic breaks for over a decade in my teens because I kept chugging on and couldn't/didn't take the breaks my brain was begging for.
But I can work now. I can work out, I can socialise, I can live alone, I can take care of my cats, I can take care of myself, I manage my finances, I can help others with their own self-management. Things I can only with self-awareness and under the condition of limiting and boundaries.
If that means, by this logic, that my logic is flawed, then oh well, let my logic be flawed. I'm finally living a fulfilling, stable life.
This speaks to me so damn much. I have autism too and I have SUCH a hard time identifying and being aware of my emotions, when I really fuckin need to because it affects the things I do.
I’m also the same about work, I get burned out and riddled with anxiety so unimaginably fast and I have always told myself to just get over that or something? I’m really happy to learn I’m not alone with that struggle.
I live in an apartment by myself, but my mom comes over every single day (she lives literally 2 minutes away so she doesn’t mind) and helps me with most of my life. I feel way too dependent and it’s kind of scary, but I don’t know how to manage myself yet. I’ve started going back to therapy, so hopefully I can work on that issue 😰
Maybe what he’s saying isn’t as beneficial or true for neurodivergent people like us, but seeing your comment just made me feel a whole lot better, and hopeful about my future 🥺 thank you ❤️
How do you work 10 hours a month and live alone
That must be so tough man
@@raamoo_ prob. just SSDI, SSI, savings, & parents. ASD is no joke. It's really unfair that these people are so overlooked by our society.
@@raamoo_ I mean they might not live in America.
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Same bestie
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who told u that
A lot of people are like it, just how people are brought up in societies
Dr. K’s hair cut be looking nicee
I like your cut K
@@sofijasirgedaite7893👋👏
Doctor Rizz
His hair always on point
My mum also warned me when I was a kid that 'always' and 'never' statements are the depression talking.
Its 'always' the depression and 'never' the logic
It's more like pattern recognition.
You can observe someone smoking for 60 years and say they'll always smoke, and then some nerd walks in and tells you that's illogical.
The probability of them quitting in miniscule enough to more accurately say always.
@@browserboy1984 and the probability is even smaller in people who identify as someone who will always smoke. the point isn't really to fix other people, it's to make sure you're not needlessly causing yourself suffering.
Thank you for this. This was... eye opening.
Why did you take the time to type out 3 full stops that imply a pause for thought when you simply could have just stopped typing altogether while you were pausing?
This smartass self satisfying observation did not come from my ego because I didn't use "I am" or "therefore" so ha ha.
@@phoenixmodellingphotography why did you take the time to type all this (same here too lol)
@@deninpaul7509 Idk but one thing's for sure it certainly wasn't my raging ego barreling down upon us all, because don't forget, I didn't say "I am" 😏😎
I totally am with you here on the emotions being active but suppressed. I'm not sure how expressing limits is a form of ego. People have limits. I have limits. I started getting healthier once I started accepting them and not criticizing myself for my limitations. They aren't bad. In fact they are a great guide for life in a lot of ways. I wish I had been much more aware of my limits and accepting of them and myself in my early 20's. I would have made radically different choices. Now I am living a life almost pushed beyond what I can handle on the daily, but to raise my family its the life I have. Choices can have 20 year consequences.
I don't understand what his problem with ego is. It's perfectly normal to separate yourself from the world around you and to have a sense and understanding of self. I can't fly like a bird because I don't have wings or the right bone density. There's nothing flawed about that logic.
But it's important to understand you are not static. So making definitive determinations about yourself is a pitfall. You are now what you are now.
How you saw yourself 5 years ago is different than how you see yourself today. It is also different from how you see the you from 5 years ago today. We walk the path of our life, half with purpose, half wandering. And as we move along that path our perspective changes and we change.
Ten years ago you may never have anticipated to become capable of the things you are today. If you had made different choices, you may never have become capable of them. Or maybe you expected to grow way more in some respects, and you might have if you had made different choices.
But you can't retrace your steps and take another path. At best you can change direction now... still half with a purpose, half wandering... and see where you end up. But I have a feeling you like your limits. They work for you.
The bug 🐜 crawling in the first woman’s hand was… 😮
So glad someone else saw that 😨
Samee
It's a fly not a bug, you don't live on earth that u r so surprised to see one?
@@hurtsyangel4654 aw 🤗
So glad it wasn't just me 😂
that first one describes my Mother so perfectly, she never lets herself feel her emotions and she is controlled by them
I just wanted to say this has been my meditation mantra lately and this mindset has already completely changed my life and my attitude! Thank you so much for everything you do!!
This makes sense, however what if our limitations are actually viable and are a major hindrance and we can't do anything about it in the moment or even foreseeable future
I have found that as a result of my autism, I cannot stay in any customer service based job for more than 3 months before I start seeing negative and severe effects to my physical and mental health. In my case an "I can't do this job" statement is both correct and necessary for my survival.
@@EmperorZaph1512 I'm also on the spectrum, possibly aspergers, so this was my exact line of thinking. I'm also stuck in an area that does not cater to invisible disabilities in the general public. I've already had comments on my autistic demeanor at work and it has traumatized me, and I can't find suitable help that specializes in ASD.
Case by case. You likely set aside your flawed logic to come to the conclusion that you have severe limitations. That is healthy, to accept what you can not do. It's when you use superficial limitations as an excuse to not try things that you very well could do. For example, someone who is able bodied and neurotypical saying they cannot get a job because they didn't graduate highschool and don'thave a drivers license. They could very easily lay out a game plan to get there, the hurdles in their way are easily overcomable, it just takes some patience and elbow grease. Yet they blame the fact that they didn't put in the effort before, so they don't have to put in the effort now.
That is very different from someone with disabilities who has done their best and has found where the lines need to be drawn. The hardest part for people with disabilities is often allowing ourselves to draw those lines, because we are scared of being the previously mentioned case study.
I'd say it's the difference between judgement and analysis
This video is about people who don’t have those issues, and just use other peoples’ situations as an excuse for themselves
This timing is still way too uncanny. Great stuff as always
This makes for way better logic but also for less enjoyment in work in my experience. I've learned that too much analytical thinking will lessen your drive and selfasteem which only lowers your productivity. The key is finding a balance where your ego en emotions allow you to take risks and discover new grounds but not so much that you make stupid mistakes. Only thinking logical made me play life on safe/easy mode which made me quite depressed and stuck in the same place for a while.
"I'm 4 ft tall, so I can't reach the high shelf without a step-ladder."
"Don't make 'I' statements. That's your ego talking!"
"No: that's my SHORTNESS talking!"
Im paralyzed so i cant walk. Guess im egotistical huh
your ego is talking so your thoughts are focused on the fact that you need something to reach the high shelf. which is rarely relevant, big deal, it might take a bit more time and effort, but you can just grab a step ladder in the next room. you can be factually right while still using flawed logic, being blind to the facts that would conflict with your negative sense of self while seing and stating those that confirms it is an example of that.
in most situations where you word your thoughts or speech in that way "i am ... therefore" you are being influenced by your ego.
"i'm paralized so i can't walk" is not about the statement itself, but about the implications within the wording. are you saying that implying that you can't move around or travel?
@@niscent_ if you want them to walk but they are unable that is not an ego problem. That is reality.
@@1kpennyxx238 the way you phrase it or think about it can be an ego problem even if the limitation is rooted in reality. who wants who to walk? that's not the goal or objective. the biggest issue of someone who can't walk is usually not that he can't do this or that, it's just that it's fucking hard on your mental health to live with a disability.
I’m stupid therefore I should not correct others in fields their an expert in
This information and other info relating to this that I learned from Dr K is how I got my anxiety down to more normal levels (not gone) and stopped having panic attacks, which I had very intensely at times. Thanks for all the help, it truly has changed my perspective on life and has helped me very much.
Thank you, this is very validating. I was trained in logic and philosophical thinking and yet I still doubt myself, when another person gets *very* confident in their suppressed emotions being non-existent. I allow their conviction to cause me to doubt myself (because I am v reluctant to assume anything that is in another's inner world), which is exactly their mission.
“I’m not able to go into strangers houses because it is illegal.” Thank you Dr. K for helping me realize my ego! Now I break into everybody’s houses!
I have a bigger ego than Walter White bruh🗿💀
put your ego away waltuh its time to cook
Damn how are you still alive
@@SectorOne350any suggestions on how to get over yourself when you are just so freaking GREAT?
@@Andrew-hx9tz cant relate so idk
Waltuh
• emotions (& impulses) cloud your logic.
• emotion circuits are always active. if you cant feel it any time, its probably its suppressed or numb or you are just blind or whatever
• being unaware of emotions will automatically cause damage to your logic integrity
• ego statements ( i statements ) will very much influence your logic. _coz the ego will convince you to believe certain things_ . a potent tool if utilised.
That was an impressive short, alot of good information and not having it loop is actually refreshing
I can be perfectly logical. The problem is that society is built on top of demonstrably unethical or immoral principles that everyone automatically rationalizes. To function in a society is to internalize the dominant rationalizations and to be perfectly rational is to not have said automatic rationalizations making you underperform.
If you want to be rational and without emotion, you first need to understand all the implicit moral and ethical compromises that society will impose on you and then make your own conscious reasoning of which to follow and which not to.
It would be easier to just follow society's own assumptions and then slowly digest each one that is important to you and decide whether to follow it in the future or go against it.
Life isn't tabula rasa.
Dammit, in my childhood and teenhood I didn't have to worry about these things, and life went on. Wasn't a perfect life, but I didn't have to pay attention on whether or not I am controlled by emotions. I feel like being aware of my emotions is required now. And boy am I bad at it.
The ego is not a gateway to inaccurate decisions/judgments. The ego is very important for an individual. Let's not demonize something that all humans have, and should have. Instead, maybe focus on the persona as it's what is likely flawed.
Been feeling emotionally numb for a while. This video is a wakeup call.
I really wish I could understand my emotions better, but it's tough. Maybe it's because I don't show them enough. I know the potential's in me. I just wish I knew how to activate it
Being logical as a human is just knowing you are emotional and using tying the right emotions to the right logic. Anger and indignation when tied to having stealing or inequitable trade strategies used on you makes tackling the problem easier.
When love is tied to favors, it makes giving and receiving favors also easier. This is essentially the art of making and using an intuition. As a high functioning autist, I have a good conscious understanding of my emotions, ego, morality, ethics etc. because I have no choice since I don't automatically develop them by copying my peers and parents.
These can leave you stale without that guidance or at least someone to bounce ideas off of. Ethics while being a personal philosophical concept really needs to be tested on the world to know how ethical your values are.
@@Andrew-hx9tz I've been told I'm too extreme about good or evil. I have no tolerance with any type of unethical stuff and have a mentality of "it's either off limits or just another part of the game" which makes me either too naive to function or too ruthless for anyone tolerate being with.
The older I get the more I start leaning on "it's just part of the game" and the more I am told, I need to have some "lines I do not cross." It doesn't make sense. The way I see it, people just wanna do bad stuff that they can rationalize. I just only do things that align with my philosophy.
More wisdom in a short than most YT shorts combined
I told my disabled friend, it’s his ego and he’s wrong. We had a lovely walk today, he was dragging behind a bit, but it’s a big first step
I havent felt anything but rage in a few situations for about 8 years guess I'm blind.
People have many more emotions than just rage, this seems like something you should get checked out for. If it is possible...
@@rw5622as he said he is blind, he may be only allowing himself to show anger rather than only feeling it
Yes
Sort that shit out
@@WildcardASMRLMAO no reason to be so aggressive
I've had a really difficult time being aware of my emotions for the last few years. I know I have them, but even when I experience things that make people severely sad, I have a hard time processing it.
I base literally everything off others, so my ego is so big that it’s got integer overflow and I’m riddled with confidence issues and anxiety
"I can't deadlift 1000 pounds because I'm not strong enough" Wtf is flawed with that logic? I was with you till the end lol
Yeah it’s really more about day to day stuff. “I can’t go to the thing these people invited me to because i’m bad at socialising” or other stuff
I feel emotions and am aware of them, but any frustration, anger or sadness only lasts for a few minutes and then I forget about it and move on
And for things that makes me really angry or sad I get bursts of anger or sadness when I think about it
I've always found this strange considering the norm seem to be holding onto your feelings for way longer
Positive emotions seem to stay at least
For the ego part, Idk, I still catch myself almost relating something to something that has happened to me and stop myself, but it doesn't happen very often, or maybe I'm obnoxious and unaware of it 😂
good to know im starting to get healthier in my mind. thanks brother
When I ignore my feelings to keep myself safe. It comes up in dreams and when I wake up I know I have to analyze it to bring stability in my emotional state.
EMDR really helped me access my unfelt emotions and start healing. It was seriously tough though. Probably the most difficult thing I've ever done on purpose 😭
yeah, emotions have been a vital tool in our survival and social function for literally our entirely history, and compliment logic in an essential, vital way that benefit, not hinder eachother
As someone who studies stoicism this is correct. I find I'm right a lot of the time because I don't tie who I am to what I'm saying. I look at the bigger picture and imagine how someone else feels given a percieved problem. Its only when I go "how they feel is not my problem" that I divert attention back onto myself. Now their feelings about how they feel internally doesn't matter anymore because Im in the process of ignoring them. Which is a negative emotion. Therefore my response would be negative to their percieved problem. Even in my imaginative state of hallucinating their emotions, it would show that I'm empathizing with them because my response would be indicative that I actually am directing myself at how they might feel. That really tied something together for me there... the way that was said was amazing.
"as someone who studies stoicism" that just means you've thought about reading meditations doesnt it
@eater_of_garbage_ No I've read beyond good and bad by Fredrick Nietzsche, I've read Discourses by Epictetus, I've read Plato's work, including his symposium, I've read the Illiad by Homer, I've read George Orwell's work, I've written my own philosophy.
Excuse my edited texts. That was for an unrelated video. What exactly was the point of you commenting that though? Are you mentally ill? Are you seeking some sort of validation? I don't really understand you needing to be rude to someone who says he does something. You absolutely have no reason not to trust that I've done what I've said, you've never met me. Nor will you ever.
If that's the kind of interactions you have with people who you walk by on the street then I'm sure that I don't really want to get to know you. Even though I've answered your question I don't believe you really think before you speak, and I don't think you care about yourself enough to interact with people appropriately. So with that being said I'm not gonna respond to whatever you say next.
I'm someone who reads for fun, do you think that hopping online and responding to my comment with some stupid remark like that shows you're better than me in any way? I also believe I wasn't speaking to you. In the belief of stoicism it's actually encouraged to check arrogant people which you so happen to be.
I also have a Mensa score of 121 and was a Paralegal Specialist for the military. Do you really think I'm that dumb? You speak to me like we're close friends, I don't believe you really have the right to judge me about anything. Nor tell me who I am or will be. I without a doubt know whatever comes of this interaction, you pay for it in the future.
This is not as profound as you think it is. There are a lot of obvious mistakes that you somehow missed, but at least you are trying.
no honey I am a mess. I"m aware of being a mess.
hey that’s the first step in becoming less of a mess :)
Hey you use "I" so that's still an ego
@@letsreadtextbook1687 True, the point of this video is that it’s not good to let what you identify with hold you back. If you keep telling yourself you’re a mess as an excuse, it will be hard to grow. Tricky stuff :0
@@letsreadtextbook1687 Not necessarily. He didn't say that just use of the word 'I' is the ego he's talking about, but thoughts like "I am X, therefore I can/cannot Y" or "They can but I can't."
@@howlingdin9332 i am drunk, therefore i cant drive.
I know I have an ego but I didn't realize how to detect ego thoughts. That's really helpful, I'm trying really hard to get rid of my ego.
I have fallen and I can't get up!
here have a donut 🍩, sit with the feeling of feeling down, how does it feel?
That's your ego talking!
Interesting to see other people's perspective on stuff like this in the videos (and definitely comments).
I read a book in high school. I believe that it was titled " the power of I". I chose to read it because the preference was like "I liked school so much I majored in both creative writing and psychology".
The book Went into this and many other things about how our language is influenced by our mental state. Something about hand writing too..... I should read it again!
I never knew ego was also abput negative things... I always thought of speaking negatively of myself as humbleness......
My emotions are smarter than my logic is sometimes.
You’re saving lives with this!
Best to balance your Ego, logic, and emotions to try to make the best decisions.
I absolutely adore how this man is able to balance eastern and western philosophies. I wish I had this resource as a teenager. Thank you for helping us fight the good fight! Amor Fati!
I'd appreciate some clarity on what he really *means* by "ego" statements. There is nothing unhealthy about telling yourself something like "I need to improve because I'm not meeting my own goals" or even telling yourself harsh truths like "I am being lazy/selfish/inattentive/etc." I would even argue that forming those thoughts and coming to those conclusions is a big part of taking steps toward change.
The way I think of it is your always feeling something. If you feel nothing its because your ignoring or are unable to feel your emotions. Only make decisions when you can truly say that you are calm. If you are happy you will downplay the cons of the decision, if you are sad you will downplay the pros, if you are angry youll act irrationally. Only when calm, not happy, sad, or mad, can you make truly intelligent decisions. Thats my take.
This makes sense to me. I know that I feel emotions, but because of verbal/emotional abuse when growing up, I know that my ability to express emotion is suppressed. The one thing that makes my thoughts flawed is the presence of anxiety (time and social anxiety).
Of course emotions are always present. They are primordial, they were here before intelligence and self consciousness
I am drunk, therefore I cannot drive.
Ego is present, Logic is flawed.
It would be lovely if one day there was an AI version of dr. K following me for a week and snapping me out of it when my ego or emotions take the wheel 🤝
You can definitely work towards having your own little internal Dr. K though. Remember to check in with yourself every so often.
Your chase for absolute logic is also an ego trap.
You're not a robot, you're not A.I.
Humans are bound to feel emotions and Ego, just like ID and Super-Ego, are both meant to be felt and experienced.
You're calling emotions flaws because you prone logic is the correct objective way to exist but the matter of fact is that your obsession with that point is also an emotion.
You just demonstrated the flaw of logic. Humans are not bound to be copy-pasta of one another with logic-working minds that cannot have different degrees of emotions.
It's good to feel. You can't shut them down and neither can you the Ego.
Logic, emotions and ego should be playing in harmony. There should be cohesion. It's when there is strong dissonance that you have a problem imo. It's like you're fighting yourself instead of training yourself.
I have to nit pick just a bit on the framing of the mind being “flawed” and not functioning “properly”because of emotions. If we demonize emotions, then it’s possible to then conclude it is better to have little respect for them. Emotions are natural part of the life experience, and contribute to navigating the world with meaning. They can also indicate important things about how life circumstances are affecting you-like the dashboard tells you important things about the functioning of car. I do agree that it is beneficial and more functional to develop awareness to your emotions to the highest level possible so that they don’t run your life.
I used to think, “I am mortal, therefore I should practice self preservation.”
Obviously I wasn’t thinking clearly. Thanks Dr. K! I can finally take that walk into an active volcano I always wanted.
Dude your such a smart guy, I wish I was knowledgeable just like you. I love your videos you have the most impactful channel on RUclips. I love you ❤️
This is sarcastic but it's just too funny not to point out:
that's a lot of "I"s you've got there in that sentence
This is.. one of the answers that i've been searching for all my life. You're so good in explaining what we've been experiencing but can't really explain.. thank you so much.
I think ego is often more present in "you-statements": "YOU blah blah blah!" "You ALWAYS blah blah blah!" or "You NEVER blah blah blah!"
Okay, so this gave me a thought.
Let's say I am in a situation where I need to make a difficult choice, and let's assume I don't feel emotionally controled.
Given how emotions are always around, would it be the right course of action to focus on invoking those feelings present, be able to name them, find their source and intent, and then based on that try to come up with a decision separately, knowing how those emotions want to control me?
TLDR: Deliberately focus on the emotions to know what they exactly are, to then be able to make an independent decision better?
The only time I would watch a video on Twitch is when Dr.K is on.
Wish you were looking at the camera tbh but love the message
I’m not sure how to not share my concerns or needs with people I care about without ‘I statements’
It seems like the ‘I statements’ Dr. K is referring to aren’t just statements that start with “I” or “I am”, they have more to do with justifying things based on your identity (“I can’t do this because I’m stupid”)
I think something like “I am feeling hungry” would be fine
"I'm not sure how to not share ... without ..."
And I'm not sure how to interpret these triple negatives, so do you want to share or not?
@@letsreadtextbook1687...Seriously?
@@letsreadtextbook1687 unhelpful. they clearly want to share.
“I am feeling very hurt by what you said.”Must be flawed thanks Dr K. Gaslight me into not having boundaries.
Do you sell books that are written in the way you're speaking? I would love to read it
This was deeply troubling.
How does one know if they are rational.
I am aware of my emotions and in control of my ego therefore I can think rationally... wait a minute
Can we just please note that anger is also an emotion. A huge one. Logic and anger doesn't work together as a lot of people falsely believe.
👏🏽you ALWAYS have emotions👏🏽
Balance ego (action) with emotions and intuition
Just making it clear about the "I" statements, he means when you're assigning to yourself the presence or lack of inherent characteristics and you think they determine your life.
Rhett and Link: “Of course I can fly! I’ve got a broom!!!”
Ego free right there
You should talk to Casually Explained, he made a very interesting video on his second channel (Jamie's Channel) about self-perception, would love to see you two talk about it
I love Dr K and the way he said it: " There's one Key" like an old Chinese master 😂
Ofc there’s is balance in all of this, cuz a little emotional suppression and a little ego are beneficial
It’s the excess that harms the self and potentially the others
What I get from this is "never send 'I'-messages." Got it!
This is really valuable 🙏
So in other words I should always talk about Charles in the third person before making jedgments as to whether Charles is able to do A B, or C. Thank you Dr. K. Charles now has a properly functioning mind, and can now feel emotions, and control them.
I think my default emotional state is slight annoyance and maybe anger. Not with others but with myself.
I tend to call it Trauma Block if i find myself lacking any emotions at times, which is usually a long period of time until recognized
How to tell something in our mind is an ego or a reality? Sometimes i feel i can’t do something, but it’s hard to tell whether it’s reality or ego talking
I dont have an inner dialogue unless I imagine one. How do I determine if my Ego is active? I dont posess a moment when "I" statements would occur unless I'm imagining saying that to another person to convince them, not myself.
When I can't decide about something I flip a coin. Whichever result I find myself hoping for while the coin is in the air is what I pick. It brings the subconscious preferences to view.
THAT BUG CRAWLING ON HER HAND
"If you cannot feel emotions, that means they are active."
So, if my mind cannot feel happiness, therefore my mind is happy????
If your emotions are “active” it means they are affecting your thought process. That doesn’t necessarily make you happy
If you don't feel any emotions, it doesn't mean they're not there. It means you feel some emotions but you are unaware of it. It's for emotions all together, not every emotion separately.
@@tymondabrowski12 I still don't get it, but maybe it's because I'm unaware of the emotions.
Thank you for responding.
@@redpepper74 Ok. Thank you for responding.
It's not about a specific feeling. In general, some people (such as myself, haha) aren't really aware of *any* emotions. That doesn't mean they're not present, because the brain's emotional circuitry is still firing.
How do I know that I am feeling emotion?
There are wheels of emotions, try to find out by picking the ones that feels the most similar to what you're feeling. If you don't know what you're feeling, there is a big chancs there are several emotions involved.
Thank you!
yeah, happened to me, i broke down mentally and i have yet to fully recover, i still to this day feel like i am physically weak because my mind crushed me physically.
ive been feeling quite emotionally numb for a few months. is this why im so level headed now? terrible things have happened since the year started but its as if my mind always takes the logical and almost more mature route. weird how that works out
I've been trying to deal with a lot of problems in my life & with anxiety in my relationship too. Sometimes I realise that I'm improving in something. For example, the lack of a text message doesn't send me spiraling in anxious thoughts and feelings & I can just calmly think: _"he's very busy and he'll reply whenever he can."_
In moments like that I can feel really proud and impressed with myself.. but is it "ego" or "flawed" to feel good/relieved/proud and to think or say to myself: _"I'm dealing with this issue a lot better. I'm proud of myself. Nice job."_ ~ or something like that? 😮
Ego talking is not flawed, it is shame bound and the unwillingness to reveal or even acknowledge it is a survival strategy. E.g. there is something wrong with me and i must hide it to avoid social rejection.
i no longer feel emotion the same way as i did before bc of medication
i realized tho that on an innate level, i know when im happy, sad, or anxious. which is weird bc i used to appraise these emotions off of feeling. now it's 'i am laughing, so this must be funny to me.'
i still feel weird about it, but id take feeling like this over feeling overly sad or angry
My first best friend.. was an Indian kid in the 6th grade when I was in forth.
My most recent best friend Mahesh also Indian. Something about this dude love it. These shorts are amazing tbh
The more of your videos I see, the more I realize how good it is I'm in therapy
Remember kids, flawed does not mean incorrect, but damaged. Your ego is damaged and it can be healed.