I remember my mother telling me that it's best to marry while young. As we get older, our value decrease. My husband and I were 23 and 24 when we got married and just celebrated 35 years of marriage on June 3rd! Also, my parents were 19 and 21, and just celebrated their 59th wedding anniversary on June 5th. Everything wasn't easy nor perfect, but we're so blessed to have come this far.
Congrats. My wife and I are going on 28 yrs this September. However, I don't believe women loose value as they get older if they haven't lived an abusive lifestyle 😁
Life is filled with windows of opportunities. Both men and women will prioritize what’s important according to their needs. Vivica, like many women don’t prioritized relationships with men and the consequences are missed opportunities to be loved, covered, and protected.
@nnekaonyilofor I'm glad you are having the conservation sis so many women need to wake especially us black women. Keeping having these type of conservations my dear.🙏🙏🙏
She has more men followers, She is more towards the Male Gaze in her looks, She is what men find attractive. So mostly men listen to her. Women listen to women who have the baddie aesthetic. with full face of make up with bright colors, hair weave and eye lashes, an more ish. She dont look hood or ghetto enough for women to watch her channel. I noticed another youtuber who is conscious complained about her audience being mostly women and the viewership dropped when she started going natural.
As a man hearing women feel invisible in their 40s. Men from a young age that are invisible. Most women find most men unattractive. A lot of women think that they have all this time. To men, the older a woman gets the more her value drops. When it's too late, women think they still have the same value when they were in their 20s Women forget it's about what men want.
im 47 years old. i have always fooled around with older my age and older since i was younger. But i do prefer women 18 to 24 the most. Thats always been what im most attracted too. But ill still play with women in their 30s and 40s.
@@genovasquez8361Sir....18 year olds are NOT interested in dating a man that could be their Dad. Stoppppp ittt...lol stick to women in their thirties.
@@ellemoe22 Well i always attract women 18 and 19 even at age 47. So maybe this is why women my age get so mad. lol if you got a nice size "PRINT" and some pretty eyes as a man most women wont care about your age.
Pookie(s) done ran through these women more than you ever will. And they got it better than you will for almost nothing...In some cases they even paid Pookie.😂 Now it's sticker shock prices for a simp at at 34+.
This time around, the women that accepted the deal with the serpent and took the apple are falling alone, this time they are being evicted from the garden by themselves to return to the dust by their own choices. Totally acceptable ✔️💯
Yeah all that bullshit about the man gotta approach me. Well that only last for awhile. Usually these women when men stop approaching them they revert back to trying to get with exes. Because they not gonna pursue no man. lol
Reality can be a blessing or a curse. Those that accept it will grow by gaining wisdom through life lessons. Those that don't ultimately suffer from arrested development.
You spoke a painful truth Ms. Nneka, as a 58 year old Black man, i believe most Black men desire a Black woman when she's in her prime. A group of Asian women who saw the Vivica fox interview used the term "Sheng nu." When I asked what the term means they replied in Asian culture "all women" over the age of 27 are considered left over women. Women no man wants. I believe Sheng nu is the Asian's cultural definition of the WALL. 😮
27 to about 45, but 60?!!??! I know life has a lot of cycles, but this foolishness has got to stop. I know single BW in their 50’s right now who are decent enough acquaintances, but they absolutely are not marriage material. They are too stubborn and don’t want to admit when they’re wrong. They don’t want to change. So great, you make a mean pecan pie, but it does no good if a man knows you’re not respectful and responsible enough to date because you’re not flexible enough to change your ways. Jesus wants women to obey and submit to their husbands. Can’t do that if you don’t qualify to be a fiance.
You can’t be super old, stubborn, always right, and in many cases, overweight, and expect men to pursue you when they can find a woman half your age who isn’t toxic or unhealthy.
Your counsel and encouragement sister is excellent we appreciate you talking with our women because despite the situation we want our women to be hole and well because no one can reach a black man's soul but her!!!
“ i can take my time, i look good …at 40” Not even men can take their time at 40 because once they’re that age the women they tend to want usually require more than they can give to be with a man that old. It’s ridiculous to be Middle Aged and think “it’s not a priority rn”
Ladies, have you ever said to yourself “I used to be naive when I was younger and let men take advantage of me. Now I’m older and wiser and based on my experiences, I deal with men differently”. Right there…that’s when you’ve hit the wall for marriage. Because now that man has to deal with the repercussions all the other failed relationship you’ve had. Better to find someone with a relatively clean mental and emotional slate that you can imprint with YOUR actions. The “wall” when it comes to men vetting a woman for marriage is not just biological. It’s also mental and emotional. The good news is the emotion wall can be moved with work. Then you just need to find a man who’s not interested in more children.
Most men over 40 that are single have baggage of their own, whether that be children from previous relationships or emotional pain and trauma from divorce.
The wall begins at 30 for the sake of fertility. The looks hit the wall soon thereafter except for the exceptional ones but ultimately men want looks and fertility so 30 is where the wall begins... anything else is coping.
@@Ummkelechi in general before 30 looks better than after 30. There are some exceptions. Also, IMO, after 30 is when all the bad life/ dating experiences begin to make some women, not all, unbearable for the husband- wife relationship dynamic. I'm sending this in the most civil and nice tone so don't take me as being mean. Men have a wall too, but it's not so much looks or fertility based. It's productivity and leadership based to say it without writing a book. We can miss the moment too.
@@BigSnead76 thanks for your feedback….is this mainly an issue in the black American community? I agree with some of your feedback I will say it makes sense.
@@BigSnead76 yes I agree…but the most alarming trend I see is more people aren’t interested in marriage or even having children…both men and women. I do wonder why both sexes are becoming adverse to traiditonal families.
Some women that are sixty & above married to men around their same age are nurses & those that fantasize about being with a younger man is usually a purse & some except the bad choices we've made & don't beat ourselves up about them and look at being single realistically & thank God each day I wake & enjoy life & pass the baton
I am still trying to wrap my head around this wall thing. Black women are some of the most beautiful women on the planet. They age gracefully compared to other ethnicities.
I think that the problem is what comes out of her MOUTH. Older men don't have time for a bunch of foolishness and mile-long interpretations about the relationship. Men want PEACE.
Please. This isn't reflected in reality and unless we come to terms with the REALITY of the way we navigate the world and how we are REALLY perceived collectively, we are just gonna continue to live in delusion and blame the world and avoid looking within.
I'm 47, my preference is 24 and under. There is no sista I have seen in my entire life who look 18 and 19. I seen some 23 years old look younger than 23 but I never seen a woman who is 30 look 18. They look for her age ie she old but not as bad looking as most women her age I prefer a woman who looks good for an 18 year old. That's the standard youthful beauty. Halle Berry looks good for 60. But she is not my type. I like Skai Jackson and Marsai Martin.
She's been picked over and plucked x 1000 times. There is a woman from my past that reminds me of some of our past sexual encounters when we do communicate. She remembers them vividly from many years ago. Imagine having to marry a woman like this. Still fantasizing over every dude that bent her over the stove for the last 20 years... If you think all of this mileage isn't accrued, good luck. Lots of damage in the souls of these women that don't settle down. Were living in Babylon.
Ms Badu is a ratchet. She will never find a king, there’s only frogs for that future. Ms Fox, her time has run out. Her best bet is a mature dog. It will love her unconditionally but she will be able to boss and control it.!
She's had at least three children and many long-term relationships. I doubt she's really hurting, she probably has a boyfriend or two as we're typing this.
When women are in their teens and 30s, the environment tells them that they can pick and choose their quality of men (hence the notion of never settling). The problem comes from not only having a flawed vetting system, but also lacking a valid value system (part of which is entitlement). Case in point Erykah Badu; when she first came out with the song Tyrone (this was surprisingly 27 years ago), she catered to the soul sister but male bashing crowd (which in and off itself is an oxymoron). Art typically imitates life: she had kids with The DOC and Andre 3000, both prominent, accomplished, and respected men men in the rap game (To add to my point, remember Speakerbox/Love Below cemented Outcast legacy but no one would imagine that would've been their last album in 2003). My point is, you mean to tell me that both men were dusties? Toxic? Not on their square? The problem is, unfortunately, many women squandered their youth with bad choices and bad decisions, then expect the world to feel sorry for them; meanwhile the men are either excoriated for either not being up to her standards, not choosing these women for marriage, or exercising their options (because truthfully, as men get older, we tend to be more wiser, discerning, and confident in our ability to protect and provide).
Yes! Great points. Erykah Badu had her share of men. Don't forget about Common and the other guy she had a baby with. Sometimes, we have to look at the common denominator. 🤷🏽♀️
@utamu777 by that metric (worth respect), she's the perfect example for these reasons: 1. Why doesn't she believe in marriage? 2. Hope many women did she influence with her music? 3. How many women follow her pattern of behavior, despite not following her "religion"?
When you're in your prime. Older men are always trying to holler at you. Especially a man you feel who are too old to be with you. When only boys old enough to be your son starts approaching you. Thats when you know you hit the wall.
🤔 What exactly is a woman in her “prime”? If we are just judging off looks…I’m 31 but I look 21, and it’s very hard for me to even attract men in my age group. I’m 8 years from 40…so it’s a mystery. My clock is actually going EXTREMELY slow. The older I get…the younger I look. Benjamin Button issues. It’s weird, frustrating, and interesting all at the same time ♐️
A woman's prime is 18 to 25 years old. That's why the store was called Forever 21, not 41 or 61. 30 is the danger zone. Lock down a good man now and have those kids. Most women can get attention after 40, but those guys are only looking for one thing.
@@josephbranch2342Hmm…🤔 Well I was an ugly duckling between the ages of 18-25 years old, and didn’t attract much of anyone. I definitely would NEVER want to remain “Forever 21”. I am a late bloomer. All my “beauty” is coming at a late stage in my life. And since I look so young, I don’t attract “men” I attract “boys” that only want ONE thing…like you said. I believe your statement is just for women “in general” but I don’t think I fit into that category 🤷🏽♀️
i prefer women who look 18 to 24 years old. If i could find a woman who was in her 30s and 40s that looked 18 would be a plus, im 47 years old. I would definitely be happy to have a woman your age who looks young. You need to go places where its predominantly men in their 40s.
@@ThegoddessgenesisAll men just want one thing. Until we get sprung. My ex wif was 18 when i met her and she was just my homey lover friend for 2 years first. married her when she turned 20 and i was 32 years old. i have heard women say 18 to 25 they werent attractive, but i see pics of them back when she was 18 and 19 alls i see is a dyme or fine fine woman who most men were afraid to approach because they assume she was out their league. The only time i seen a woman look better at 30 than she did at 18 is if she naturally lost 100lbs or more. Outside of losing weight and getting skinny nothing else really improves your looks.
The term "wall" is problematic but enabling sisters to destroy their health, their mind, their finances, their children, etc is not problematic. Sister all due respect but you are still in the sisterhood
@@LadyK007 she probably is the problem. I think she should take time 1. For 3 years only date white and Asian men 2. For the next 3 years date only women 3. Take one year and be totally celibate Then come back to black men when she has experiences that can level set her
It depends on her age. A widow or divorcee is still a woman past her prime. And she will find a different dating experience on the other side than of the one she experienced in her youth.
There are many more facets to this conversation than just age. If blk men want to marry blk women in their prime then why are most, young blk women not married by the time they’re 25? Men say they control marriage so why aren’t they asking the young women to marry them? Also, most blk men are not financially successful enough to raise and support a family and many women are not interested in having to financially support an adult man. Also, statistically if a man hasn’t been married by age 37 the chances of him finding a marriage partner are extremely low, so this conversation needs to include the male “wall” as well. And yet there is still more. Also, we need to talk about how delusional it is for a man to be like 50 and think he can marry a 19 year old. Instead of this conversation being centered women who are already “over a wall” the conversation needs to centered on why so many young blk women are not married.
@@nnekaonyilofor In order for this conversation to be genuine and address the root of the issue try asking the question of why so many young bl wmn are not married. Otherwise this will continue to be a circular, unproductive, and useless conversation.
Stop deflecting! The wall or limit on long lasting relationship opportunities for black women is real. The younger black women can learn from the mistakes of older black women as it pertains to the wall. Nneka can talk about what she wants to, and nobody can fit all of those talking points you listed about black men along with black women in a reasonably short video.
@@nnekaonyiloforEither way, that stat doesn't help black women avoid the wall. Please continue to share your overall message sister. The alleged woman above is spreading a lot of bitter woman hyena like babble and misery.
@@karenmassey8354So many young blk wmn aren't married because they choose to act like sexually liberated tools like their influencers such as Megan Thee Stallion, Sexyy Red, Eboni K. Williams, Gabrielle Union, Janelle Monae, Issa Rae, Amanda Seales, and many others.
I remember my mother telling me that it's best to marry while young. As we get older, our value decrease. My husband and I were 23 and 24 when we got married and just celebrated 35 years of marriage on June 3rd! Also, my parents were 19 and 21, and just celebrated their 59th wedding anniversary on June 5th. Everything wasn't easy nor perfect, but we're so blessed to have come this far.
This is beautiful. Congratulations!!
@@nnekaonyilofor thank you so much!🙏
Congrats. My wife and I are going on 28 yrs this September. However, I don't believe women loose value as they get older if they haven't lived an abusive lifestyle 😁
@@perrykeshahwalker5321 I believe there is value loss in society and to men. Not intrinsic value.
@@nnekaonyilofor It depends on the man and what stage of life they are in.
Life is filled with windows of opportunities. Both men and women will prioritize what’s important according to their needs. Vivica, like many women don’t prioritized relationships with men and the consequences are missed opportunities to be loved, covered, and protected.
Yes! 💯💎 Unfortunately some women see being covered as being controlled.
@nnekaonyilofor I'm glad you are having the conservation sis so many women need to wake especially us black women. Keeping having these type of conservations my dear.🙏🙏🙏
But she was married. I don’t understand this talking point most people in general don’t rush back into marriage after a divorce.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, 60 single hot flashes and ready, to mingle.😢
😂😂😂😂😂😂
We all get old work out be nice and you will be ok.
ANYONE NOTICE only men leaving comments on this post?? The truth to a woman is like a hyena to a lion.
She has more men followers, She is more towards the Male Gaze in her looks, She is what men find attractive. So mostly men listen to her. Women listen to women who have the baddie aesthetic. with full face of make up with bright colors, hair weave and eye lashes, an more ish.
She dont look hood or ghetto enough for women to watch her channel.
I noticed another youtuber who is conscious complained about her audience being mostly women and the viewership dropped when she started going natural.
The women are out on dates or socializing. Only incels watch these videos.
As a man hearing women feel invisible in their 40s.
Men from a young age that are invisible. Most women find most men unattractive.
A lot of women think that they have all this time.
To men, the older a woman gets the more her value drops.
When it's too late, women think they still have the same value when they were in their 20s
Women forget it's about what men want.
im 47 years old. i have always fooled around with older my age and older since i was younger.
But i do prefer women 18 to 24 the most. Thats always been what im most attracted too. But ill still play with women in their 30s and 40s.
@@genovasquez8361Sir....18 year olds are NOT interested in dating a man that could be their Dad. Stoppppp ittt...lol stick to women in their thirties.
@@ellemoe22 Well i always attract women 18 and 19 even at age 47. So maybe this is why women my age get so mad. lol if you got a nice size "PRINT" and some pretty eyes as a man most women wont care about your age.
@@genovasquez8361maybe they see dollar signs when they see you. Question ...do these women have fathers in their lives?
@@genovasquez8361oh you sound like a creep
Chasing Pookie.....
The Netflix forever series 😊
A billion episodes 😂
Pookie(s) done ran through these women more than you ever will. And they got it better than you will for almost nothing...In some cases they even paid Pookie.😂 Now it's sticker shock prices for a simp at at 34+.
This time around, the women that accepted the deal with the serpent and took the apple are falling alone, this time they are being evicted from the garden by themselves to return to the dust by their own choices.
Totally acceptable ✔️💯
You gotta get with men when they approach you. A lot of women think they have all this time and they don’t. e
Yeah all that bullshit about the man gotta approach me. Well that only last for awhile. Usually these women when men stop approaching them they revert back to trying to get with exes. Because they not gonna pursue no man. lol
Reality can be a blessing or a curse. Those that accept it will grow by gaining wisdom through life lessons. Those that don't ultimately suffer from arrested development.
You spoke a painful truth Ms. Nneka, as a 58 year old Black man, i believe most Black men desire a Black woman when she's in her prime. A group of Asian women who saw the Vivica fox interview used the term "Sheng nu." When I asked what the term means they replied in Asian culture "all women" over the age of 27 are considered left over women. Women no man wants. I believe Sheng nu is the Asian's cultural definition of the WALL. 😮
Interesting!
I rebuke this in the name of Jesus! I have seen with my own eyes many women over the age of 27 and far beyond desired and get married.
@@ms.a806in traditional Asian culture ?
27 to about 45, but 60?!!??! I know life has a lot of cycles, but this foolishness has got to stop. I know single BW in their 50’s right now who are decent enough acquaintances, but they absolutely are not marriage material. They are too stubborn and don’t want to admit when they’re wrong. They don’t want to change. So great, you make a mean pecan pie, but it does no good if a man knows you’re not respectful and responsible enough to date because you’re not flexible enough to change your ways. Jesus wants women to obey and submit to their husbands. Can’t do that if you don’t qualify to be a fiance.
Then how come most blk mn don’t marry blk wmn when they’re in their prime?
You can’t be super old, stubborn, always right, and in many cases, overweight, and expect men to pursue you when they can find a woman half your age who isn’t toxic or unhealthy.
Thanks for telling the PLAIN TRUTH. ❤
❤❤❤❤❤
If men are saying that women hit the wall at 30, does that mean that Vivica hit the wall twice?
Yes
three times, the third was when she decided to tamper with her beauty.
Yes, the physical wall and now she finally is coming to grips with the mental wall. 💯
💯% right there say in a minute when a man women want doesn't want them then they say he wasn't for me
😂 So true!
Your counsel and encouragement sister is excellent we appreciate you talking with our women because despite the situation we want our women to be hole and well because no one can reach a black man's soul but her!!!
Well said! Thank you! 🙏🏾
“ i can take my time, i look good …at 40”
Not even men can take their time at 40 because once they’re that age the women they tend to want usually require more than they can give to be with a man that old. It’s ridiculous to be Middle Aged and think “it’s not a priority rn”
Or are willing to give.
You telling facts
Sister, you need to go viral
If I’m still single in my 60’s ain’t no way I’m dating
Shid that's what I'm sayin!!! Ain't no way in hell. Smh lol
A women dating in her 60s nowadays Might experience invisibility?? Lol its a given.
They are upset because they have the numbers or quantity of men chasing them like they did in her teens and 20s.
Haha don’t think vivcia ( was a Fox) will be invisible. She can advertise hamburgers with her plump rump round face.
Real talk
Ladies, have you ever said to yourself “I used to be naive when I was younger and let men take advantage of me. Now I’m older and wiser and based on my experiences, I deal with men differently”. Right there…that’s when you’ve hit the wall for marriage. Because now that man has to deal with the repercussions all the other failed relationship you’ve had. Better to find someone with a relatively clean mental and emotional slate that you can imprint with YOUR actions.
The “wall” when it comes to men vetting a woman for marriage is not just biological. It’s also mental and emotional. The good news is the emotion wall can be moved with work. Then you just need to find a man who’s not interested in more children.
Very interesting! 💎
Most men over 40 that are single have baggage of their own, whether that be children from previous relationships or emotional pain and trauma from divorce.
Great presentation
Very edifying video Sister ❤
Yes you always honest
Wow real content ❤I never knew
The wall begins at 30 for the sake of fertility. The looks hit the wall soon thereafter except for the exceptional ones but ultimately men want looks and fertility so 30 is where the wall begins... anything else is coping.
You really think after 30 women start to lose their looks? That seems far fetched.
@@Ummkelechi in general before 30 looks better than after 30. There are some exceptions. Also, IMO, after 30 is when all the bad life/ dating experiences begin to make some women, not all, unbearable for the husband- wife relationship dynamic. I'm sending this in the most civil and nice tone so don't take me as being mean.
Men have a wall too, but it's not so much looks or fertility based. It's productivity and leadership based to say it without writing a book. We can miss the moment too.
@@BigSnead76 thanks for your feedback….is this mainly an issue in the black American community? I agree with some of your feedback I will say it makes sense.
I believe it started in the black and poorest communities and is rolling over to everyone else with the changes in society over the last 4 decades.
@@BigSnead76 yes I agree…but the most alarming trend I see is more people aren’t interested in marriage or even having children…both men and women. I do wonder why both sexes are becoming adverse to traiditonal families.
Some women that are sixty & above married to men around their same age are nurses & those that fantasize about being with a younger man is usually a purse & some except the bad choices we've made & don't beat ourselves up about them and look at being single realistically & thank God each day I wake & enjoy life & pass the baton
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I never heard it described this way. 😅
I am still trying to wrap my head around this wall thing. Black women are some of the most beautiful women on the planet. They age gracefully compared to other ethnicities.
I think that the problem is what comes out of her MOUTH. Older men don't have time for a bunch of foolishness and mile-long interpretations about the relationship. Men want PEACE.
Please. This isn't reflected in reality and unless we come to terms with the REALITY of the way we navigate the world and how we are REALLY perceived collectively, we are just gonna continue to live in delusion and blame the world and avoid looking within.
I'm 47, my preference is 24 and under. There is no sista I have seen in my entire life who look 18 and 19. I seen some 23 years old look younger than 23 but I never seen a woman who is 30 look 18.
They look for her age ie she old but not as bad looking as most women her age
I prefer a woman who looks good for an 18 year old. That's the standard youthful beauty.
Halle Berry looks good for 60. But she is not my type. I like Skai Jackson and Marsai Martin.
She's been picked over and plucked x 1000 times. There is a woman from my past that reminds me of some of our past sexual encounters when we do communicate. She remembers them vividly from many years ago. Imagine having to marry a woman like this. Still fantasizing over every dude that bent her over the stove for the last 20 years... If you think all of this mileage isn't accrued, good luck. Lots of damage in the souls of these women that don't settle down. Were living in Babylon.
Just enjoy your life with or without a man. Life is too short to worry about if someone is attracted to you or not. Love yourself.❤❤❤
Ms Badu is a ratchet. She will never find a king, there’s only frogs for that future. Ms Fox, her time has run out. Her best bet is a mature dog. It will love her unconditionally but she will be able to boss and control it.!
She's had at least three children and many long-term relationships. I doubt she's really hurting, she probably has a boyfriend or two as we're typing this.
When women are in their teens and 30s, the environment tells them that they can pick and choose their quality of men (hence the notion of never settling). The problem comes from not only having a flawed vetting system, but also lacking a valid value system (part of which is entitlement).
Case in point Erykah Badu; when she first came out with the song Tyrone (this was surprisingly 27 years ago), she catered to the soul sister but male bashing crowd (which in and off itself is an oxymoron). Art typically imitates life: she had kids with The DOC and Andre 3000, both prominent, accomplished, and respected men men in the rap game (To add to my point, remember Speakerbox/Love Below cemented Outcast legacy but no one would imagine that would've been their last album in 2003). My point is, you mean to tell me that both men were dusties? Toxic? Not on their square?
The problem is, unfortunately, many women squandered their youth with bad choices and bad decisions, then expect the world to feel sorry for them; meanwhile the men are either excoriated for either not being up to her standards, not choosing these women for marriage, or exercising their options (because truthfully, as men get older, we tend to be more wiser, discerning, and confident in our ability to protect and provide).
Yes! Great points. Erykah Badu had her share of men. Don't forget about Common and the other guy she had a baby with. Sometimes, we have to look at the common denominator. 🤷🏽♀️
Erykah Badu probably doesn't believe in traditional marriage, she's not a good example. She's living a new age/hotep lifestyle
@utamu777 by that metric (worth respect), she's the perfect example for these reasons:
1. Why doesn't she believe in marriage?
2. Hope many women did she influence with her music?
3. How many women follow her pattern of behavior, despite not following her "religion"?
By the time they reach 30s/40s there is no room for anything except their careers.
There is one flaw in all you said, boss women. That’s a topic by itself I would like you to speak on. Boss women are simply women behaving like men.
Yes, I have been meaning to make a video about boss women.
When you're in your prime.
Older men are always trying to holler at you. Especially a man you feel who are too old to be with you.
When only boys old enough to be your son starts approaching you.
Thats when you know you hit the wall.
Why aren't you married?
@@utamu777 i divorce my wife. i was tired of being locked down with one woman. as i got older i wanted younger women.
🤔 What exactly is a woman in her “prime”?
If we are just judging off looks…I’m 31 but I look 21, and it’s very hard for me to even attract men in my age group. I’m 8 years from 40…so it’s a mystery. My clock is actually going EXTREMELY slow. The older I get…the younger I look. Benjamin Button issues. It’s weird, frustrating, and interesting all at the same time ♐️
A woman's prime is 18 to 25 years old. That's why the store was called Forever 21, not 41 or 61. 30 is the danger zone. Lock down a good man now and have those kids. Most women can get attention after 40, but those guys are only looking for one thing.
@@josephbranch2342Hmm…🤔 Well I was an ugly duckling between the ages of 18-25 years old, and didn’t attract much of anyone. I definitely would NEVER want to remain “Forever 21”. I am a late bloomer. All my “beauty” is coming at a late stage in my life. And since I look so young, I don’t attract “men” I attract “boys” that only want ONE thing…like you said. I believe your statement is just for women “in general” but I don’t think I fit into that category 🤷🏽♀️
i prefer women who look 18 to 24 years old. If i could find a woman who was in her 30s and 40s that looked 18 would be a plus,
im 47 years old. I would definitely be happy to have a woman your age who looks young. You need to go places where its predominantly men in their 40s.
@@genovasquez8361I’ll try that, thanks.
@@ThegoddessgenesisAll men just want one thing. Until we get sprung.
My ex wif was 18 when i met her and she was just my homey lover friend for 2 years first. married her when she turned 20 and i was 32 years old.
i have heard women say 18 to 25 they werent attractive, but i see pics of them back when she was 18 and 19 alls i see is a dyme or fine fine woman who most men were afraid to approach because they assume she was out their league.
The only time i seen a woman look better at 30 than she did at 18 is if she naturally lost 100lbs or more.
Outside of losing weight and getting skinny nothing else really improves your looks.
The term "wall" is problematic but enabling sisters to destroy their health, their mind, their finances, their children, etc is not problematic.
Sister all due respect but you are still in the sisterhood
Date interracially. Problem solved 🤷🏽♂️
The other races of men don't want their asses either lol😂
Yes please and thank you!!!!
Eboni K Williams has tried that and it still didn't work for her
@@genovasquez8361She’s likely the issue, not interracial dating.
@@LadyK007 she probably is the problem.
I think she should take time
1. For 3 years only date white and Asian men
2. For the next 3 years date only women
3. Take one year and be totally celibate
Then come back to black men when she has experiences that can level set her
What happenes when the woman is a widow? Does hit the wall too?
I don’t believe so. That is out of her control.
It depends on her age. A widow or divorcee is still a woman past her prime. And she will find a different dating experience on the other side than of the one she experienced in her youth.
There are many more facets to this conversation than just age. If blk men want to marry blk women in their prime then why are most, young blk women not married by the time they’re 25? Men say they control marriage so why aren’t they asking the young women to marry them? Also, most blk men are not financially successful enough to raise and support a family and many women are not interested in having to financially support an adult man.
Also, statistically if a man hasn’t been married by age 37 the chances of him finding a marriage partner are extremely low, so this conversation needs to include the male “wall” as well.
And yet there is still more.
Also, we need to talk about how delusional it is for a man to be like 50 and think he can marry a 19 year old.
Instead of this conversation being centered women who are already “over a wall” the conversation needs to centered on why so many young blk women are not married.
This is interesting. I never heard the stat about men over 37 yrs old.
@@nnekaonyilofor In order for this conversation to be genuine and address the root of the issue try asking the question of why so many young bl wmn are not married. Otherwise this will continue to be a circular, unproductive, and useless conversation.
Stop deflecting! The wall or limit on long lasting relationship opportunities for black women is real. The younger black women can learn from the mistakes of older black women as it pertains to the wall. Nneka can talk about what she wants to, and nobody can fit all of those talking points you listed about black men along with black women in a reasonably short video.
@@nnekaonyiloforEither way, that stat doesn't help black women avoid the wall. Please continue to share your overall message sister. The alleged woman above is spreading a lot of bitter woman hyena like babble and misery.
@@karenmassey8354So many young blk wmn aren't married because they choose to act like sexually liberated tools like their influencers such as Megan Thee Stallion, Sexyy Red, Eboni K. Williams, Gabrielle Union, Janelle Monae, Issa Rae, Amanda Seales, and many others.
🤷🏽♂️ It seems like granny 🧓🏽 is ready to date again. 😏 Stop 🛑 it.