How We Speak About Aging...Let's Have A Conversation
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- Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024
- Thank you SO much for all your feedback on my last video about struggling with aging! I think there is room for much more conversation! Care to join me??
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I really appreciate this topic. I am 69 and just embarking on a new full-time job. I want to be strong, peaceful, happy, and, yes, joyful! Thank you!❤
This is a great conversation. It feels good to be part of a community that is open about discussing our struggles. I’m 56 and trying to rely on internal rather than external validation, which is important since I seem to have become invisible in the last couple of years. I’m working on self acceptance.
Aging series. Yes please.
I think a series would be great (from Barcelona Spain) thanks
A series on positive aging would be very helpful. This subject really deserves more light.
I would love a series about aging thank you for this.
I think we have to think of ourselves as being like fine wine. All that we have learned from the aging process has been invaluable. Beautiful message and Beautiful sharing 🙏🏻💐🥰❤💞👍🏻
I'm in! I am a relatively new subscriber, but I have found you to be perfectly delightful and so very encouraging! The issue of aging is a difficult one with the spectrum being all over the place. I think you have found a good series to land on and feel you are off to a great start! I believe aging should be a beautiful thing and something to be embraced Aging gracefully would be lovely and I hope to pull it off, but it is part of life and cannot be avoided. Thank you for your sensitivity.
Your content is so necessary 💞
Thank you so much! I am truly surprised by the response to my previous video about struggling with aging.... Which tells me that there really is a need for this conversation!
I am 59 too and can totally relate to this video. My desire is to be a "super ager", I want to serve the Lord until I finish my race.
Love this comment so so much! Amen and amen!
To be the best me, I can be today at 62. That is my goal.😊
I just want to say that you are an outstanding speaker!
Thank you so much!
I feel like I'm "fighting aging" but not in the way you speak of. Never been a make up/fashion type of girl. I'm more like the last person you describe. I could care less about trying to look younger. Let my hair go gray at 50 (('m 63 now). I think by fighting I mean more of trying to preserve what I have. My health, my mind, my social connections, my spiritual journey. I have noticed since being in my 60s, I have more aches, pains, things like that. I feel totally blessed to be aging and plan on continuing to grow old, Lord willing. I try to enjoy every day, fight through aches and pains and whatever health issues arise. I'm just so thankful to wake up every day and feel like I need to make the "best' of the days.
I think this is a wonderful idea and I hope you find willing participants, if not in person, perhaps glean from your viewers stories❤
That is a great suggestion! Thank you! 🤍
My hair is bride-of-Frankenstein type curly so I use a curling iron to make it presentable. I don’t use makeup but I do use tinted moisturizer. I felt like makeup was actually more aging for me. I don’t mind being in the middle of my 7th decade, but I don’t want to present to the viewing neighborhood as a bag lady.
A bonus of getting hearing aids last year is that I can listen to audiobooks I have access to via my Libby app much like the AirPods I used prior to that.
And for you grandmothers raising young kids…I’m saying a prayer for you …for an extra measure of hope and patience and grit. An older neighbor recently gained custody of four great grandchildren…one not yet in school. May God bless you every one.
Yes please for the series! ❤
I think you have very valid points. I don’t necessarily want to look young, but current in my thoughts and dress. I’m 76
I, too, much much much prefer the words "current" or "relevant" or "fresh" rather than "younger"... 😊
I’m hoping you will be successful in finding a couple older ladies to sit down with you and speak to you about their experiences with aging. It’s always interesting to hear other people’s stories and how they coped.
I just turned 84…I agree with most of what you say. I’m in comp #3 with a touch of #1. I’ve learned not to worry about everything. When sh** happens just deal with it and go on,
I think a series would be great. I am almost 63. Each year since turning 60 I am noticing little changes. I workout 3 to 5 times a week which I look at as maintenance. My goal for the coming years are not to necessarily live longer but to keep life in the years that are left. I am not fighting the aging process at all. The wonderful part about that is that I don’t have to worry about coloring my hair and if I want to take a nap I can. I have finally earned all kinds of luxuries.
I love this perspective! ❤
Our stage of life is beautiful. We are so blessed to be there. I try to think of all I have accomplished and try to think about what I can accomplish in the future. That is how I feel about being 57 at the end of this year. I am however trying to eat more healthy and be healthy.
Yes, it is! I mean when you really stop and think about it... It can be a beautiful season of life! We just have to tidy up the "clutter" of our culture that can sometimes creep in and keep it from being that... 🤍
@@TheLifeTidy I agree! I hope you have a great weekend! ❤
Yes, thank you for the new aging series.
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My outlook on aging shifted when I met a lovely, active 96 year old woman in bible study. She is inspiring! Lives on her own, drives, volunteers, travels and shares her life experiences with the rest of us who are in our sixties.
Yesssss!! ❤️
Yes to this! I live right by Sun City AZ and there are so many Happy 80 to 100 year olds just like this lady. I try to be like them ❤
Enjoy your content❤
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Yes we need to talk about it!
I would love for you to have a series on aging! When you spoke about it on the last video I was excited to have someone who could relate. I know I am blessed and I'm so Thankful to God for everything! Sometimes I just need to talk openly to another woman who's my age. I need to talk about the struggles and feel seen and heard. If you know of a grandma raising her grandchildren at 59 yrs old and upward, I would appreciate their thoughts on what they will do when the grandchildren are adults. I'm single after 27 yrs of marriage so there's also that struggle of doing things by myself. Another area you could talk about is how it's difficult when you're living on disability, older and don't have money to go anywhere or do anything. I get bored doing the same things all the time and need some experiences doing new things. My teenager-grandchild has kept me young and also worn me down 😂. My life didn't turn out the way I thought it would so I'm really wondering if this is all (I know.. that's a very bad attitude because this is not our home, but it's how I feel at the moment)..I know that sounds selfish, which I'm 100% not. I guess maybe I'm ready to start trying to be a little selfish when my grandchild is an adult. I've been a wife, mom, caretaker, nurse, and a grandma. I never had that empty nest.
Your experience is being shared by more and more older women these days. You are not alone. I know many many grammas who are raising their grandchildren for various reasons. Maybe one of them will be willing to come on my channel and talk about it. I will for sure ask them! You are dealing with a lot! I feel like many people here who read your comment will be praying for you! I know I will! ❤
@@TheLifeTidy Thank you so much ❤️
I am glad you are willing to continue the conversation on aging, it is very needed. I struggle to know what it's normal to feel like at my age(58). I have Hashimotos and have symptoms that leave me wondering what there is to look forward to when things can be so difficult right now. I love to see and hear of older women still doing, still learning, still showing up to do life with enthusiasm and optimism, I think we all need to encourage one another
Absolutely
Just found out I have osteoporosis. I’m a vegan and eat pretty good. About 70 to 75% whole food.
Drs. say between 70 to 80% of women get osteoarthritis with aging. I’m working on eating better. Started taking a really good (and expensive) calcium supplement that also has the other needed vitamins to absorb more calcium.
I walk and have been decreasing my weight since 12/23. Anyway. I wanted to thank you for all you do.
At 61.5 years of age I have started to feel my age and to me it is not acceptable to me. I have to be careful with myself and think about will I hurt myself if I do certain activities. I never worried about that before. Again, thank you. Add on here…
Positive ways to care for our bodies as we age. Treating ourselves with respect by doing things that in our eyes show respect.
Would you mind sharing the calcium supplement you are taking? I am in the process of trying to find a good one. I know exactly what you mean about having to think about how your body is going to respond to things you want to do.... So so annoying! And we didn't even know how much to appreciate that when we didn't have to do that cause that was just life. It is so important to give our bodies every opportunity to be as strong and healthy as possible for as long as possible. ❤
I feel grateful each day when I wake albeit with creakyness❤ I am happy to get up, make my bed, shower and dress for the gym 5 days a week. I enjoy the quiet of the morning, my delicious coffee, having something good to eat. Working out and having the rest of the day to be productive and do something I enjoy❤
That is an awesome perspective!!! ❤️
My husband is 79 and I am 59. I am planning to retire next year. We are looking at moving to a 55+ community and I find myself feeling a bit reticent about living in an enclave of older people. It's a strange thing thinking of spending time with a lot of "older" people. But I think it is about a generational gap that I perceive. But I feel older just thinking that a lot of the staff I work with are younger than my children. It's weird when I've always thought of myself as a younger person to now think of myself as older in many contexts. And to have to think about maintaining my body when I never used to think about it.
Hi! Yes, I would be delighted to grow and learn through a series on aging. Although I am approaching 52, I see so many peers in my age range maturing rapidly due to various reasons (e.g. health issues, lifestyle choices, stress,…). Thanks for producing very thoughtful videos consistently. ❤
Thank you for the kind words! Glad you are along for the adventure! 🤍
A series on aging challenges would be great. I just turned 69. My husband passed 4 years ago. I have no major health issues. Im able to mow my yard with a zero turn mower. I discovered battery weed eaters, so i can do that myself also. Creapy skin on my arms is annoying ! Im not big on lots of makeup, but do still try to look good.
Really enjoy your videos, no matter what the topic !
So so sorry about the loss of your husband. I can't even imagine how profoundly difficult going through that would be, even though I have walked alongside many women through it. It sounds like you are a warrior!
I LOVED your last video, and would be so delighted if you created a series on the manifold topic of aging. As you said, the majority of content made is concerned with how to eek out our youthfulness, which is fine, but the reality is that when we age we do change who we are and become a different version of ourselves. It would be nice to be able to appreciate our new older selves as much as we did our younger ones. All my life I’ve been known as the person with boundless energy and an outgoing personality. As I’m aging I find, no, I don’t have the energy levels or the sociability I had - I spend a lot more time wanting solitude and peace and rest. I need it. And although I’m pretty happy with these changes, sometimes I’m made to feel that somehow because of this I’m a bit of a disappointment to other people who’ve been used to me being endlessly outgoing and full of energy and big ideas and ambition . Truth is I’m not that person now and I don’t want to be anymore, but it’s hard not to feel like I’ve somehow failed because I’d rather stay home and enjoy my own company and don’t often feel the need to be seeking out the next new experience. I’d love to listen to your, and others, experiences of aging, I’m sure it would be something so many people like myself would appreciate. Thank you for everything so far ❤
That lessening of energy is a very real thing! And somehow it is something I was not expecting.... Probably one of those things that I thought happened to other people but I could keep it from happening to me... But I love your point that we should be able to appreciate being that new person for this new season of life! Let's press in to that together! ❤
Yes for sure a series
Yes to the series!!❤
I feel young in my mind so I want my clothes, hair color, etc to match. My body hurts due to numerous medical conditions so I feel older than dirt. Having said that I still want to keep trying but I 100% feel like I'm on a time clock to do things before my conditions get worse.
After watching my beautful Mom pass from ovarian cancer at only 49 years old, she never saw 50. She was one who was nip, tucking and lifting everything possible to hold to a standard that was important to her. Her entire life, her self worth and value to others was always to mention how beautiful she was. So when that started fading, long before her cancer arrived, she was going to fight it with everything at her disposal and for her that was fine. I never have and never will judge her for making those choices for herself. Part of it stemmed that her face and beauty was a part of her career. And that plays into how aging may or may not affect you, especially for women.
But I know, that I know, that I know, that I know she would have so loved and not cared about aging as much, as getting older would have allowed her to hold two grandchildren whom she wasn't here to meet, or watch the two she did, grow up and have children of their own, her great grand-children.
Losing my Mom at such a young age, I was just 27. I never got to watch her grow old and when I see her again, she will be young and perfectly shinning in heaven. My loss, our families loss, helped form my thinking about aging. And I never worked in a career where my appearance would be a factor in pay, opportunities or merit. Thank God for that. I would have hated that.
So any way you go, no matter the trials, choices, the affects of gravity upon us, resisting your life is a form of ingratitude to God for what you do have. It's looking in at what's missing or not perfect. Rather than looking out and counting your so many blessings. A home, the beauty of nature, safety, freedom, a full refrigerator, so many things to take for granted in this life, in this world, but looking out blesses your spirit, looking in can drive you to depression. Count your blessings, pray for others, care about doing good and right for our fellow man. Then and only then are you truly beautiful in a way that lasts for a lifetime and always in heaven. ♾
Such a profound truth. Thank you so much for sharing it with us! So sorry for the loss of your mom. My husband's mom passed when he was 35 and she was 59.... And we often think about all the blessings she wasn't able to enjoy In terms of grandkids and now great grand kids. But do you sometimes think they do get to glimpse down here from heaven now and then and they do know what is happening.... From a place of perfect peace and understanding? I don't know, of course, but sometimes wondering about that gives me comfort. ❤
@@TheLifeTidy Yes, I've wondered about that as well. I know after her death our Mom came in a vivid dream to my sister, they were like two peas in a pod. My sister told me that in her dream, this was before our Mom was buried, that she went to the funeral home and our Mom sat up and yelled, "There's my baby!" and my sister had to tell her that she had died. She said our Mom was very surprised by this news and kept saying, "I died? This is it? I died?" This is so true to form and to their relationship. After our Dad's death, whom I was the closest to, I waited to have a vivid dream about him and I did. It wasn't the same thing, it wasn't scary or anything like that, but I started the banter we had almost everyday on the phone at the start of our conversations and he didn't say his part, so I said it for him. Then I sat down on the side of his bed after he sat up and he looked at me, with a look I'd never seen from him before and he said, "Do you see what's happening in the world?" and I was kinda casual about it, as one of my callings is to the persecuted church as a prayer warrior, so I keep up on international news to stay informed as to what we should be praying about and for. And I said, "Yes Dad, I know" his response with a look of horror on his face was "It's terrible" and then I woke up. I think he was warning me about things that would come many years later. Perhaps right now with what's happening in Gaza. This too was true to form with our relationship, we'd talk about important things, when he wasn't telling me a hilarious story about his amazing and hilarious life adventures.
The scriptures tell us, "Do not communicate with the spirits of the dead". So it's nothing we should be seeking. But I've heard that many people do have vivid dreams about their loved ones soon after they have passed. You can't control that and from what I've heard it's normally a final goodbye of some sort.
Do I want them to have glimpses of our best moments? Yes. Do I want to believe they are looking after us sometimes in the trials? Yes. But I stand on the scriptures and this is a mystery that we'll only find out when we get to Heaven. With that said, I do sometimes feel like their spirits are with me and my Dad was an Electrical Engineer, so once in awhile when I'm thinking about him, I miss him terribly, a light will flicker or dim somewhere near me. I just don't start talking to him or pray to him. I pray only to Jesus and our Father in Heaven, God our Creator and Jesus our Savior and Lord.
@coleengoodell7523 I've never had an experience like that after a loved one's passing.... But I do know that they are alive and well in eternity, and I can't help but think they do have knowledge about what's going on down here... We are truly living in interesting times! I honestly don't know how people without faith navigate times like this....
@@TheLifeTidy Oh I so agree, they are alive and well. Our spirits are eternal even after our flesh has worn out.
I never hardly do comments but there's just something I want to say.
I'm soon 74 yrs and those years have not always been pretty. Until 20 yrs ago when I grew up, stopped doing drugs, drinking, smoking and whatever else I thought was fun.
These 8 months brought me to a sceatching half. I had 2 hip replacements, gall bladder surgery and was almist dead from starvation due to a very severe stomach/intestine problem. Just for record not cance but should be operated on cause it causes Alit of belly pain and a huge diet deficiency. I've lost 80 lbs since january.
I'm up walking, taking care of my daughter who just had a partial footloss, driving,and do manage to keep my weight decent with pain meds
I just want to be now. Any way it 16:36 comes comes. I spoke to my family, minister, psych dr, best friend. They all understand except my reg doctor and insists on with holding pain meds to make my stomach and life better because I wont go 16:36 again
I've lived a good life and Age almost dying i just want to live the rest of my life. They only person not happy is Dr.
I'm happy right now. I'm caring for myself, and i have a lively ginger male 5 mo th kitten I've been blessed with.
I'm just going to let it be live out my good and bad days. Say my prayers and keep opening my eyes everyu morning until I don't.
We all go sometime and I'm going with god on his terms. Selfish no loving yes I want people to remember my kindness, love, and my smile
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Wow, this was such a great video! Thank you so much for opening this conversation & I am voting yes for a series on this topic! I really appreciated your insights on this, very helpful. Wholeheartedly here for helping each other embody grace in our twilight years :) I'm near to 60 myself. I don't have any specific ideas on how to do your series, if I get any I will add them later.
I love the way you worded that... Helping each other embody grace in our twilight years.... So well put! Thank you!
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Just found your channel I’m 60 and can relate to what you’re saying I’d love for you to put out more videos about positive aging &handling challenges with aging.Thank you ❤just subscribed
America is probably the very worst country to grow old. Living in the UK before moving here, I became aware that some cultures value their elders, the way Native Americans and the people of China do, all generations are valued, but the elders are honoured for their wisdom. Age descrimination is real. In my early twenties, I always knew I could find a suitable job tomorrow, if I happened to lose the one I had today. But, very quickly youth became more valued than knowledge and/or experience. Looks, or rather a lack of good looks, quickly became the focus of those with superficial values. Society still dictates that if a woman is not married by her early twenties, with few exceptions, she is 'on the shelf' for life. Considering at least 50% of marriages fail, the concept of 'being on the shelf', could actually prove to be an advantage. No divorce or adjustments needed when Singledom rules! Even so, one cannot help but notice, society still tends to function in a manner that favours couples, and those who are single, are often treated as odd, or lacking in some way, as though something must be wrong with them. For some reason, I have always considered myself to be enough, without the need of a mate. Being resilient is my strongest quality, one I am still proud of, even more so, now that I am in my mid-seventies.
Each season of life has its benefits and negative aspects. Being sixty is the very early part of old age. Sixty is the new forty! Each decade of life is a gift in its own right. A neighbour in her nineties told me her seventies were a great time, eighties not so much, due to the onset of physical limitations. That said, she lived to be ninety-seven, and enjoyed a better Social Life than most teenagers, even though legally blind. Being able to adjust to physical or emotional difficulties such as loss of loved ones, can have a huge impact on our happiness. It is not what happens to us, but rather how we react to it that counts! I tend to steer my life by living in- keeping with clearly defined values, which automatically guide my choices. Living mindfully and with purpose, making the most of every day, and being grateful to wake up each morning are now the norm, especially as time becomes more and more precious. I am now far more selective about who I choose to associate with, as well as the activities I choose to participate in. Though some are keen to promote the need to be with others, as an introvert, I find time alone to be highly productive. We are taught the importance of having enough money. Money can make our lives easier, but beyond that, it doesn't actually make us happier. Loving and being loved in return does, along with having something to be passionate about.
I've decided to slow down a bit. If I have an especially demanding or exhausting day, I allow myself to follow with a Quiet Day. Doing nothing is not something to feel guilty about, but the means to rest, refresh and reconnect. I always have a 'To Do' list with more jobs than can be accomplished in a day. But, at the same time, it is just as important to have a 'To Do' list of things that bring joy to one's life. And, remember to always asked the question: What would bring me joy today? I have decided to be instantaneous occasionally, and do things on the spur of the moment, albeit within my budget. My time is my own, I am accountable to nobody, but myself. If that is not impowering I don't know what is! Of course, there are those who are happily married, but it seems there are just as many in relationships that do not enhance their lives. So, I feel grateful, that I am not expected to cook, clean and take care of another, though having an occasional companion would suffice. Somewhere, I read that being in a relationship makes a woman feel more feminine and a man more masculine, I believe that's true. It is something I miss. I always treasured getting dressed to look my best for a special date, and feel a tad sad, that those days are likely gone forever. Even though they say one is never to old to fall in love!
Cancer and the after effects of Radiation Treatment means that the idea of an intimate realationship could prove stressful to put it mildly. Albeit, with a recurrence risk of only 3% I have no fear of it returning. There is such a thing as having a platonic relationship with a man, but I neither want, or need that, other than in brief day to day interactions. Likewise, it seems difficult to understand why some older single women seem to gravitate to groups of other older women. For some reason, I tend to be a 'Lone Wolf, ' unattracted to such behaviours, or need for companionship. If I am honest, I'd find them rather boring.
Just as I review and adjust my financial budget on a monthly basis, I frequently review and refine life's priorities, to make the most of opportunities, resolve challenges and prepare for future events. Each year, I choose a particular theme or two. This year, my financial plan included a gold bridge and crown, made at the Dental School. Having the bridge there alone saved at least $1000.00. I want to cycle more, ride further and increase fitness, as well as working on a Swedish Death Clean. followed by a Garage Sale. As my mother aged, the importance of preparing for each stage of life became apparent. None of us know when we may wish we had focused more on good health, enjoyed experiences or tidied -up, because the time may come, when we are nolonger able to take care of such tasks, The importance of living somewhere that is well maintained, and conveniently located, within easy walking distance to amenities without the need to drive, or rely upon others, sounds like a plan. So, with that in mind, I aim to create a house and garden sanctuary in the modest abode I call home with my family of pets.
Though some are keen members of Faith Communities, Senior Centers, and other organizations and volunteer, to each their own. I prefer to satisfy my curiosity by being open to exploring new activities and skills, honing old ones, and replacing those that are nolonger a good fit. Life Long Education is important both formally and by being self-taught. YT offers a mine of information, that can help one become a better person.
We are all individuals and one size does not fit all, therefore the importance of being true to oneself cannot be over- stated. I look forward to learning how others address this topic, and wish you, and your viewers, a healthy and happy future!
I enjoy all your videos. Thank you for these videos. I think it's an important topic. I feel I fall into the third category of ageing.
Can you do a video on aging and having no children. I'm finding the thought of getting older without children daunting. It was hard enough coming to terms with not having had them and now the grief is resurfacing in an almost overwhelming way.
I was fortunate to have been a teacher, but getting old without family is pretty depressing to say the least.
Jane, your post caught my eye. You brought up a sad reality. Without lessening your feelings in any way, I would say that the process of being a parent, means preparing children for adulthood. Becoming an adult means that most will eventually leave home and embark on their own lives and careers and create their own families. In times gone by, it was common for people to stay close to where they grew up, but now, families often find themselves scattered, or even living in different countries, making in person visits on a regular basis difficult, or financially impossible. Just because a person has children, does not automatically guarantee that they will be around to help as parents age. Being childless, is often seen as an advantage if one chooses to date. Even adult children can be considered 'bagage'. We live in a funny old world, but that does happen.
Hopefully, your career provided an income that allows you to live comfortably. With that in place, there is always the option of choosing one's own family. Not everyone is an animal lover, but having a pet is a great way of providing joy and companionship, and something as simple as taking a walk in the park often results in meeting others. Dogs are great conversation starters. The old saying about meeting others through shared interests rings true, many retired folk volunteer as a way of making friends if fit enough to do so. There is a saying that a mother can raise five children, but five children cannot take care of one mother. It is more common than one would think. One also hears of parents who are estranged from their adult children for a variety of reasons, a situation most find heart-breaking.
Even though things may appear great on the outside, we never really know what goes on 'behind net curtains.' We all have a face we present to the world, and one that is private. There are those who have taken on the responsibility of bringing up their grand-children, because their own children are drug addicts or in prison, along with having mental health issues. While not being a parent may be a big regret, if one looks at the 'Big Picture,' life is not perfect, being without family is likely becoming more common, even among younger people, not that it makes it any easier. That said, we live in a culture where it is nolonger that common for one generation to take care of the next, except in some close- knit communities, or for all adult children to take care of their parents, though many do. In fact, some purposely make it a point to live a distance from their parents, because they don't want them around. They also prefer to send their children to private sitters than send them to retired grand-parents for care, even though to do so may be free.
Though none of the above is a solution, all any of us can do is to make the best of the situations we find ourselves in. For Christmas, when asked what gift I would like, I opted to sponsor a little girl in Guatamala. She is beyond adorable, and it is a delight to correspond with her and her family. They have so little, it feels very worthwhile to make even a tiny difference in their lives. As I struggle to live on Social Security, it brings abundance to my life, and helps put things into perspective. At least that's how I see it. We all have our challenges, it is just that not all of us share the same ones.
I hope you will be able to find a way to lessen the pain you are feeling. With best wishes for your future!
@@sjordan7085 fantastic post! When I read the comment about childlessness I wanted to let her know that having children and having those children around are two very different things. I love my son to bits, but we very rarely see each other as he’s grown up and living his own life. We haven’t fallen out, we had a great mother/son relationship until he left home, but he did leave home, and now he has his own life, his own friends, and his own support systems. I’ll always be his mum, but I’m not a big part of his life and that’s okay. I brought him up to be confident in his own ability to be whoever he wanted to be, and to follow his dreams, and that’s what he’s doing. Having children and being a parent is a beautiful privilege, but it isn’t always a forever thing, it comes with its own limitations and sadnesses. I do understand this ladies wistful feelings, but I’d urge her not to regret the things she didn’t do, and celebrate all the relationships she has had with everyone her presence has brought joy to, and vice versa. As you say, it’s the tiny differences that can make a worthwhile life.
No children due to a hysterectomy, I used to dream about holding a baby, but not any more. Since I'm not married either, I'm better off not having children. I just ended being a caregiver for my mom who died of Alzheimer's and if I had a child, I would have been stuck caring for both. I remember when I was a girl, giving my mother grief when my dad had cancer and all I wanted was to go shopping for a doll. In fact I gave my mother a lot of grief growing up. I also see a lot of adult children angling for their share of their dying parents' inheritance...siblings end up going to court, it's ugly.
@sjordan7085 Thank you for your thoughtful, beautiful reply, sjordan7085.
At 62, I don't think much about aging (despite having some concerning health symptoms, going for a biopsy tomorrow - but hey, I had a friend born in the same hospital one day after me, she became an MD, got married, died at 40 leaving behind her one year old son, she used to be proud of her long life line on her hand and was pretty vain about marrying a rich husband). I'm really surprised that you seem to obsess about age in your videos, like why? (I was into your minimalist topics) unless you are just catering to your audience who also define their identity with their age.
At the moment I'm hooked on a viral song (by a young Japanese singer/songwriter) titled "Any Angle" (the actual title is "Beautiful Young Girl from Any Angle") and the (Japanese) lyrics are tongue in cheek, it's about the vanity of the Tik Tok generation posting selfie shorts from "any angle" and bemoaning how pretty they are - the creation of a "monster" called "a girl"...I'd add at any age. The lyrics has the line, "your destiny is not determined by the date you were born but by the clothes you choose" and "from the front, from the side, from the bottom up, she looks so good I can't help it, you're a beautiful girl from any angle"
ruclips.net/video/QrqYgJNXkrc/видео.html (CC shows a rough translation)
I think one's entertainment choices (and fragrance) says a lot about a person's thoughts on aging; not having children also keeps you the perpetual child in your own mind, no one to call you mom or grandma, lol. Can't have that old lady smell.
You are strong and fortunate to not be struggling with getting older. I was only going to make the 1 video about this subject, because it is part of the life tidy In terms of tidying up our emotions to minimize the negative elements of the aging process that we can become focused on. I was completely surprised by the response to that video. Clearly, it is something that a lot of people do struggle with and would find benefit in talking about. So I'm gonna make a few videos which will hopefully be encouraging to the people who are struggling.. But there will also be my more usual minimalism content coming up along the way as well. 😊