I don't know who needs to hear this, but remember that you are doing your best. I'm 100% certain that you don't wake up every day with the intention to make bad decisions and be an asshole. You're human and you have moments where you make mistakes. Sometimes you do them even when you know better. You have faults. You're not perfect. Surprise surprise. But as long as you learn from your mistakes, you are improving and becoming a better person. The person who made that mistake in the past is not who you are today.
@@Horonnwhat i do is ask myself "what can i do to prevent that from happening ever again" For example, i had a trans friend, and when he became trans he said that people will want to beat him up because of that and that he is sure that i will ran away and let them hurt him, eventhough it never happened. Because of that i started to train at MMA to be able to protect anyone in times of need. Btw sry for my english
I down with guilt of not doing anything but procrastinating I wanna change that, I do for 7 days then fall back with some unconscious excuse. I am Stuck. I don't wanna be like this I wanna come out of pleasure trap.
Yes, they are called sociopaths and psychopaths, the part of the brain that gives us a feeling of right and wrong is either not formed properly or through constant denial is left to rot basically. Some people are born sociopaths whilst others become sociopaths.
Guilt is easy to overcome. But shame is something worse entirely. When you feel guilty for long enough, you start feeling shame, and it is no longer about what you did. It's about what you _are,_ and that is much more difficult to change. It's no longer about "I didn't help them!" It's about "I _am_ such a coward..." But dammit! One has to _own_ his own mistakes! One has to _accept_ that, yes! I am a dirty coward, a liar, an idiot! But I can't be an idiot if I try to become smarter! I can't be a coward if I learn to _do the things I'm most afraid of!_ I can't be a liar if I never lie again! Shame is healthy in a sense. It makes you know there are things about yourself you need to change. And even if there are things you can't really change (like the _past,)_ one doesn't have to be held back by them. You can't fix your past mistakes, but you can _learn_ from them.
I could never forgive myself for wasting 1 year in med school. The financial expenses gone to waste. My precious time that I could have spent with family and friends gone to waste. Ive been a huge burden on my mom for wasting all that money and just failing all the classes. Ive been feeling depressed and unmotivated. I keep telling myself, "you can do better! Just focus on studying while you're in hiatus" But I just keep on procrastinating and hardly get any studying done. I'm so scared to go back to med school but I know it's my calling, it's my dream... I hope one day I can redeem myself.... So sorry for sharing this in the internet
Champions will keep fighting no matter what. Mistakes will come in life it’s how we respond to mistakes is how we fix them. Keep fighting for what you love you can do it
I did the same 😭... Now I can't figure out what to do.... I Am just so scared .. I can't even tell my parents... They won't talk to me if I told them the truth .... But they will get to know ... I don't even want to die .... I just want this situation to be over ...
What if you've done something terrible, something absolutely unacceptable as a 15 or 16 year old kid. How can one forgive something he highly disapproves of and is so deeply ashamed that he doesn't think he deserves happiness or even to be alive? How does one get past that.
If you've realized your mistakes it shows that you've grown as a person. Make sure to apologize/confront anyone effected by you're mistake, and if there is a way to make up for it, then do. Move forward in life with you're experience and learn from them. Getting upset with yourself won't change anything. Everything you've done shapes you as the person you are today. So become great. Lastly there is always the option to go to therapy, there is nothing to lose so if you really do feel hopeless it wont hurt to try.
Ive realized mistakes make us grow. You learn from ur mistake. And carry that lesson with you throughout life. Let life be your teacher. Keep a positive mind.
Thanks for this - I was beating myself up over how I mistreated my partner in a relationship, and now I think I can move on and find ways to forgive myself.
hey i’m a bit late to this comment but i just wanna say i’m glad you realized you did something wrong. many people struggle to do this and end up never getting better. i’m proud of you for trying to make a change, and i hope you can continue moving forward :)
@Mara i've moved on and found a new and better partner. Still finding ways to improve myself and my relationship, but that's part of life. Still making some mistakes of the past, but gotta keep working at it!
Your biggest asset is being yourself. Don't pretend to be someone else. Keep going your way where you feel happy. Never listen to others that you can't. You can and you will.
i betrayed my best friend... i was unloyal, a traitor and worst of all a bad friend. but watching this video showed me that yes i left her, but now i can redeem myself and forgive myself.
Bro I was a bad friend too,I drove away those who loved me with my toxic behavior,I was an obsessive and toxic friend.Although this happened in middle school I still feel guilty.I slapped one of my friends who was always on my side because she tore my notebook,I always feel sick thinking about it.
@@just_extremely_confused this is exactly what happened to me. I was a horrible friend, I betrayed them, and I don't feel like I deserve have a friend never again
I want to say, thank you for your video. Not just a moment ago, I was regretting a decision I made 5 years ago. It re-surfaced in my mediation. I typed, how to forgive yourself because I was about to go down a rabbit hole and this video is EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you kind sir, for being you.
Mistakes will come in life. It’s how we respond to them is how we fix them. Ether we worry about the mistake and never fix it or move on with life and do better.
For anyone reading this comment section, the pain of regret is an essential one to growth. Some people are lucky enough to live life without many massive regrets or moments of selfish desire at the expense of another person’s well being. Just know that acknowledging that pain brought you here, to this video. That’s a step a lot of people in this world would skip. People that would rather make the rest of the world suffer and feel the pain they do instead of taking the pain they feel and turning it into the catalyst for improvement. Take a moment to acknowledge this very important step that YOU decided to take. Take a moment to be proud of that willingness to do right for the world, and not to do what felt best for yourself. Take a moment to forgive yourself at least partially for the people you’ve hurt or the damage you’ve caused. If you came here your heart is likely in the right place. Let that regret drive you to do better, but don’t let it drag you down because you deserve to live a happier healthier life.
I'm coming back now from a porn addiction after admitting it to my parents yesterday. I hope I can forgive myself and wash away the shame of it by accomplishing other things. I feel deeply ashamed but I can't change the past. I can however better myself in the future to make up for it which I hope to do now. For some of you guys that might have the same problem I wish you luck. I know you feel despairity sometimes trying to get away from it and failing but you can get away from it just like I'm trying to do right now. If you can admit it to your parents or to a trusted friend since not feeling alone and isolated will give you more power to fight it. Then work on the shame one step at a time. I hope we can escape this devil once and for all. Have a nice day.
I'm still haunted by the time I was left by my friend group when i was in uni. I managed to be happy with my highschool friends who i kept in touch over the years, but it still pains me when i look back. I think my redemption arc will be when I land a job and manage to to charm them and influence them. I hope i could land a job real soon, pls pray for me :")
By the time you achieve that goal, you will be different, they will too And you find out...making and dropping friends is part of the program of self improvement
I lost someone due to my mistake. And I can't get over it. I can't forgive myself for repeating the same mistakes over and over again. I've hit rock bottom this time. The only thing that can help me is fixing that relationship but I guess it's really over and I can't move on cause I want to fix it.
I'm stuck in a similar situation now and it has been really detrimental for my mental and physical health. Its devastating. I hope you are doing better now
Same. There needs to be a group for people like us. I mean, I didn’t lose them because of a mistake… I just thought they were my friend, but they just used me. I feel guilty for messaging them after they blocked me bc I had a panic attack and just couldn’t control my emotions. He wasn’t mad I don’t think, but then I messaged him again while I was crying. I learned… I shouldn’t message people when I’m emotional. He was an a-hole and used me when I was depressed, but he became a better person later on. I still did some things wrong too, and even though he was worse, it doesn’t right my wrongs. I think he blocked me there too :( I learned that I cannot talk to people when I’m crying or having a panic attack. I should just let my emotions simmer and accept that, even if I think his reasons for not wanting to speak to me are dumb, he still has that right. Just like when people don’t consent for dumb reasons, like because their signs aren’t compatible. I feel so guilty, but I should take this as a lesson learned. I’ve had 8 years on and off of memories with him, all tainted because things ended on bad terms and I got no closure. I’m taking anti-depressants because of this and seeking therapy, as he was my only friend.
We're in a same situation. I lost someone sooo important to me aswell, because of my own mistakes. I have severe anger issues and i always overthinked. I left that person a few times and they always came back but after i started realising how wrong i was I started to change and fix my dumb self with all the lil knowledge i had. But by that time the person also started to became toxic so now we don't talk anymore. I was the reason he became like that. I made him cry. I hurt him. And all he has in his eyes for me is complete hatred. I completely understand his pov and yes this is what i literally deserve but what i regret is not realising my mistakes sooner. Not trying to understand him and always being selfish about myself. I loved that guy sooo much but all i could ever provide him was sadness. I'm soo sorry my love.
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b I had a similar situation, lost control over my emotions, and texted very sad and emotional, because of this we ended up on bad terms. I essentially got no closure which prolonged my moving on. It was my first relationship and really didn't know better but since then I have forgiven myself. I know I will never text someone again when I have not cooled off. Time heals all wounds.
I was told as a kid that in a few years I would forget about my mistake but an entire decade has passed and I still remember it intensely and people are telling me “well maybe it’s because you are too busy thinking about it”.
thank you, I struggle to forgive myself for past transgressions. I worked with a therapist for many years and it was something that she helped me ease the pain/guilt of but not eliminate and I think this redemption arc idea could work. It would be an event that would feel like it proved I was no longer that person in the memory. Brilliant.
I can’t take it anymore! I can’t forgive myself and I feel sick too my stomach, I just want to rip my skin apart, I did it not only once but again after I told myself I’d never do it ever again I can’t take it anymore i feel horrible
I have made mistakes during my teenage years when I be in a toxic friendship I taught I am the best and used to talk against the who advised me and a few years back I understand my mistakes and I get over from my toxic friends and today iam 16 years old and I released that it's important to be with people who really love you not the one who kick from back
Came for a life lesson. Stayed for the storytelling. And now I'm on a redemption arc to forget farting in class. The one and only improvement pill 🙌🏽 💊
I'm haunted by almost every social interaction I've had - every time I try to redeem myself and think on my feet, something completely embarrassing or even accidentally rude comes out. There was one time at work our shift lead said, "Everything is going to be okay" on a busy day. "Isn't that what you said on Friday?" I referred to a time she said the same thing and it all went terribly. She didn't answer, and I feel horrible. What is the answer, if all of your redemption attempts dig a bigger pit for yourself? I've read books, practiced, leapt out of my comfort zone for nothing so far. What am I missing?
@@ImprovementPill Thank you. I notice that you always manage to bring an important enlightening detail into the picture - tone and/or delivery in this case. Again, thank you for the new perspective.
Thank you for this video, it helps a lot - genuinely feel awful over the way I've treated some former friends, although it was never intentional to hurt them. I was far too toxic, negative, critical, intense etc. It still hurts now, even many months later.
It's been a few months and getting better finally. But the loop of shame and regret, paired with the people still being in my life not forgiving me, makes my mind hold on.
I am finally plan to forgive myself. But didn't know how to. Thank you so much for your video. I will rebalance everything that I have ever failed. I will move on and will have better future, Inshallah.
I don't even remember what haunts me anymore because I have something called Dissociative Amnesia. Its the best thing that's happened to me cause I cant remember or feel anything anymore, all those memory's are so deep in the back of my brain I cant remember anymore.
U don’t need to punish yourself for the past, it’s an action u did and u regret it, this action is no longer a part of you, you are a being, and that action was a being, don’t link yourself to it and set yourself free.
Its like you always know the right time to post when im feeling a certain way, thank you improvement pill! You’ve helped me be more positive and aware throughout the years ❤️
I talked poorly behind a friend's back and said awful and nasty things because i was angry and frustrated with them. I rightfully got caught for it. I hurt them and i deeply regret it, i apologized but i feel i dont deserve their trust and forgiveness from them. I wish i never did it in the first place.
Yesterday I made a very big stupid mistake. My friend trusted me with something that was very personal to her and I used her personal work and added it to my own. I apologized to her and we both agreed that we need to give each other some space for a while to figure things out. She said she’s forgiven me, but I don’t even know how to forgive myself I feel like crap for what I did. I reflected and cried about this all night, I just don’t know what to do from here on out.
Be thankful for you're friend to forgive you. If there is anything you can do to make it up to them, then do. But don't dwell on you're mistake. Everything happens for a reason and maybe this mistake happend at this point in time to teach you a lesson which prevented you from making the same mistake in a much much worse situation. Take this mistake and learn from it. You feeling bad about yourself is just a sign that you have grown from your experience and realized you were wrong. But getting upset with yourself won't change anything. Instead move forward from this point with you're experience and don't make the same mistake again. Forgiveness makes the heart stronger, and forgiving yourself is one of the most hardest things to do. But once you do you'll feel relieved and proud to know you've grown as a person.
Thank you for this! From now on, I'm going to enter my redemption arc and give myself the punishment I deserve! For too long, I've tried to forgive myself. But now I know the only way is to make changes and kill the past. I don't have the luxury to have "balance" in life. I've wasted too much time already. From now on it's all in, all the time! Let's go!!!! I'm pissed!
I cant forget all my past regrets and the chances I didnt take aswell as the person I could've become. I really needed this video. I was feeling full of regret today as I didnt prepare in time for my tests this week as I was procrastinating and trying to deal with my porn and masturbation addiction ..
Thank you for this. As a pre-teen, I beat myself over all the bad things I've done, especially when I'm on my period. Once I had full-on break down with my friend- These comments are also really great.
I’m struggling I done something wrong in the past and it’s been 6 months and I still felt bad for it I felt I don’t deserve anything I felt like I’m a bad person that everyone hates
It’s true. But unfortunately sometimes in life you can’t do anything to redeem yourself and you’re left dealing with the pain of regret for a long time
last year in my french class i didnt talk to people and was just generally unfriendly as a result of my social anxiety, and i wish i wasn't like that because it hurt both myself and everyone else in the class. im hoping to right that wrong next year when i take the next level in that class
I can't find that way for long long time now. I knew it but for some reasons I can't find that way anymore and struggled much recently with that problem. Thanks mate, even if for me that's just a reminder, it's still really helpful. I really grateful you did that video.
I’m glad I watched this video. Today I’ve done something that I’ve regretted, with my Anger and things related to money. I will check back every month to this video to update my improvement of handling of my emotions, and how my redemption arc with money.
When my Dad was ill. I always had bad moods about why no one was helping us, a few did though. None of his friends came. I was there, always by his side cooking, studying, cleaning , Tired, lack of sleep, couldn't go to class. Unhealthy meals. I always depend on the caretaker and was foolish. One day i went to church to meet friends, before leaving home. I left his breakfast by him and a note to eat. But little did i know, it was the last time i'd see him. Got a call from a family member, a relative. He's gone. I realized, I was the one who killed him. Even though i did help him, I still feel pain from that scenario where it looked like he was asleep but he's gone. I killed him with my own ignorance. Its been 3 years. And still haunts me. I'll never forgive myself for that. Now my guilt ends up hurting people i care too.
I did something under someone else's influence when I was somewhere around 5-7 years old, I don't even remember the timeline. I feel so horrible about it once in a while and it would also trigger memories of some other mistakes of mine which makes it even worse. The feeling never leaves me in peace.
This video is what I really need right now. I had been depressing about my mistake I did a couple of weeks ago and I couldn't forgive myself. I gave up the test and quit although I know it was great chance to me . Moreover I hurt my friend feelings and lost her faith. Just kept thinking about it and I didn't know how to get rid of regret. Now I get the answer . All I need is to prepare again for the next opportunity and get the work done and succeed with my friend again.
Wow what an amazing video! Something that haunts me isn’t necessarily something I’ve done to embarrass myself publicly, but rather just in front of one person at a time. I find it hard to socially interact with others and every awkward social moment is replayed in my head again and again. I’m really embarrassed about how I deliver myself to other people, and don’t know where to start improving on that. I feel a barrier when it comes to talking to others, and honestly, quarantine had only made me more socially awkward.
I’ve done some messed up stuff in the past and i try to move on from it telling myself I’m not like that know and I knew it was wrong but I can’t stop feeling guilty and ashamed for what I did in the past it always comes back to haunt me
I did something absolutly terrible when i was about 14/15 and it just won't stop haunting me. I feel so bad for those i've hurt and I do not know how to forgive myself for My inhuman behavior... I dont feel like i ever derseve happiness in My life ever again
this makes me think.....my 15 yr old sis has been so mean to me and inhuman sometimes she relly hurt me and today i lashed out and defended myself which is rare and i said something harsh but i didnt mean wat i said and im worried shes hurt..... shes just 15, and will probablu regret her rudeness later :( i feel bad for saying the harsh thing to her ..... i didnt mean it, shes only a teen and teens go through so many emotional changes... it isnt their fault
What I did was bad, and I regret every second of it. It was selfish and immature of me. I hurt people and now they want nothing to do with me. I can’t forgive me when I’ve got no shot for redemption. Now I just lay in bed and think about how I deserve to die.
I know how you feel, but you cant give up on yourself, you have to keep going and redeem yourself. know that there is no such thing as a bad person, we are all just people that do bad things sometimes.(I know that this comment is almost a year old but im still going to respond to it)
@@DrDodoBird3.26 I rlly appreciate it man. I’m doing a whole lot better ever since I discovered self love. The thoughts are still there, but I know how to deal with them. I wanna thank you for checking in on me 🥲
@@megaladon5897 im going through it now I did something that I highly regret and Now I just ruminate on what I did and the moment just repeats in my head
I’m having anxiety that’s affecting my relationship I don’t know where to start, I’m a shitty person. Basically the night I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so relieved, it wasn’t what I wanted at the time, so I went to talk to my friend who’s also a girl and I ended up staying over with her because I didn’t feel like getting up. Nothing happened, just slept over. During my breakup period I eventually stayed over there again, this time even making out. After a while I realized my ex is what I wanted, and we got back together. I am so happy with her right now. My problem is I constantly have anxiety thinking about my actions to her when I broke up with her. I don’t know how I say I love her now, but did these things to her in the past. She keeps telling me she’s over it she forgives me, but I can’t forgive myself, and every day I tell her it’s eating me up. Spending the night elsewhere on the night of our breakup, where she was so upset. And making out with that girl weeks later, I can’t live with. It’s so hard telling her I love her, but having caused this pain to her before.
Did something awful. Multiple times. I created a living hell…Will I ever forgive myself? Idk man…idk…I keep trying to but it’s so hard, and I still hate myself idk how to forgive me
I have been watching your videos for a month already and every time I fascinate how unordinary your videos are!!!! I just love that you present solutions for any problems from totally different perspectives. Your ideas are incredible and so easy to understand 🥰Thank you for hard work!
I think back of drinking and driving when I was a teenager. It was decades ago yet I still obsess over the horror I could have caused if things had gone just a little differently. I was never arrested but Im still paying a penalty.
thank you so much, this helped me so much i was in a rough place for a bit and didn't know how to forgive myself or others but now i'm on the right track. Thank you
I have an extremely overactive conscience and really bad anxiety. It ruined my childhood because I am constantly trying to live life without regret. Even with the little things will make me feel guilt and regret, like whether I tried putting salt on food or not. It's exhausting because I can't do anything without being scared that I did it wrong or missed out
To sum the video up : make sure that your past mistake is only part of your past, and that as a result, you can move on. It is a great video, hence the mental struggle of quarantine implies running in circles in your room, thinking about your past mistakes. Thanks Improvement Pill !!
I don't want to do anything with people. People are trash in your life that you have to throw out as soon as moment comes, the problem is that most times you're forced to learn or work with that people, this the main problem. Just don't collect negative feelings towards yourself and others and move on and you have to ditch the people as soon as opportunity rises.
what if you hurt somebody in a way that could last forever...where forgiveness is probably thrown out the window...how can i even that out? how can i forgive myself for something they will never forgive me for?
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Rather than focusing on what you could’ve done, focus on what you can do now moving forward.
Thats right!!
@jekel thirteen exactly
I say that to myself but I can't get over it
I tell myself that man but it doesn’t work.
But how do I do that?
I don't know who needs to hear this, but remember that you are doing your best. I'm 100% certain that you don't wake up every day with the intention to make bad decisions and be an asshole. You're human and you have moments where you make mistakes. Sometimes you do them even when you know better.
You have faults. You're not perfect. Surprise surprise. But as long as you learn from your mistakes, you are improving and becoming a better person. The person who made that mistake in the past is not who you are today.
Thank you.. I am so much relax after reading this❤❤❤
Ty❤️
Thank you, I made an awful mistake today where I felt the most regretful and terrible I have ever felt, and this made me feel a bit better. Thanks
I needed this so much. Thank you more than anything.
Hey Marty are you there?
I find that there can be two kinds of guilt: a kind that drives you to become better; and a kind that drowns you into inertia.
and i happen to have a guilt that is a combination of both
@@Horonnwhat i do is ask myself "what can i do to prevent that from happening ever again"
For example, i had a trans friend, and when he became trans he said that people will want to beat him up because of that and that he is sure that i will ran away and let them hurt him, eventhough it never happened. Because of that i started to train at MMA to be able to protect anyone in times of need.
Btw sry for my english
hey, you're from fj's channel
I down with guilt of not doing anything but procrastinating I wanna change that, I do for 7 days then fall back with some unconscious excuse. I am Stuck. I don't wanna be like this I wanna come out of pleasure trap.
@@ambrish58 try out some hobbies like learning a new language, callisthenics, yoga and meditation
Can you believe there are people out there who doesn’t feel guilt at all, no matter what they’ve done wrong.
That is crazy I don't know how they do it .it must be evil
@@joysimmons446 not evil just broke
This made me laugh. So true and they just move on. damn! I wish I’m like that.
Yes, they are called sociopaths and psychopaths, the part of the brain that gives us a feeling of right and wrong is either not formed properly or through constant denial is left to rot basically. Some people are born sociopaths whilst others become sociopaths.
That's called antisocial personality disorder
Guilt is easy to overcome. But shame is something worse entirely.
When you feel guilty for long enough, you start feeling shame, and it is no longer about what you did. It's about what you _are,_ and that is much more difficult to change.
It's no longer about "I didn't help them!" It's about "I _am_ such a coward..."
But dammit! One has to _own_ his own mistakes! One has to _accept_ that, yes! I am a dirty coward, a liar, an idiot! But I can't be an idiot if I try to become smarter! I can't be a coward if I learn to _do the things I'm most afraid of!_ I can't be a liar if I never lie again!
Shame is healthy in a sense. It makes you know there are things about yourself you need to change. And even if there are things you can't really change (like the _past,)_ one doesn't have to be held back by them. You can't fix your past mistakes, but you can _learn_ from them.
Wisest comment thankyou man
It’s just something I did like 5 months ago I wished I never did. It was horrible of me. And I just randomly thought about it now
@@Jubby1 i feel u) : be happy
This helps me so much
Thanks bro
I could never forgive myself for wasting 1 year in med school. The financial expenses gone to waste. My precious time that I could have spent with family and friends gone to waste. Ive been a huge burden on my mom for wasting all that money and just failing all the classes. Ive been feeling depressed and unmotivated. I keep telling myself, "you can do better! Just focus on studying while you're in hiatus" But I just keep on procrastinating and hardly get any studying done. I'm so scared to go back to med school but I know it's my calling, it's my dream... I hope one day I can redeem myself.... So sorry for sharing this in the internet
YOU CAN DO IT
@@PP-nu5lj thank you for your kind words 🥺 I just hope I will be better the 2nd time around
@@H4nnahjane i wish if i could hug u rn, im kind of in a similar position as the person who posted the comment and that was so thoughtful. thank you
Champions will keep fighting no matter what. Mistakes will come in life it’s how we respond to mistakes is how we fix them. Keep fighting for what you love you can do it
I did the same 😭... Now I can't figure out what to do.... I Am just so scared .. I can't even tell my parents... They won't talk to me if I told them the truth .... But they will get to know ... I don't even want to die .... I just want this situation to be over ...
What if you've done something terrible, something absolutely unacceptable as a 15 or 16 year old kid. How can one forgive something he highly disapproves of and is so deeply ashamed that he doesn't think he deserves happiness or even to be alive?
How does one get past that.
If you've realized your mistakes it shows that you've grown as a person. Make sure to apologize/confront anyone effected by you're mistake, and if there is a way to make up for it, then do. Move forward in life with you're experience and learn from them. Getting upset with yourself won't change anything. Everything you've done shapes you as the person you are today. So become great. Lastly there is always the option to go to therapy, there is nothing to lose so if you really do feel hopeless it wont hurt to try.
I have the same problem. Awful feeling.
hey mate i got da same feelin i myself pretty young did sum terrible i but still feel bad
same :(
What did u do?😶
The way that i forgive myself is by understanding human nature and that no one ever has been perfect or ever will be. ✨im a human bean✨
Real human bean
I wish I could be a human bean too 😭😭👌🏻👌🏻
Lmfao
I'm a human carrot.
Lettuce pray
"To understand everything is to forgive everything." ~Buddha ❤️️
I saw your channel content and subbed :)
@@yungwallacebenson8381 I guess so
Yeah that deffs sounds like someone who uses psychedelics would say. Lol
"To understand everything is to forgive everything"
- Buddha
Ive realized mistakes make us grow. You learn from ur mistake. And carry that lesson with you throughout life. Let life be your teacher. Keep a positive mind.
Thanks for this - I was beating myself up over how I mistreated my partner in a relationship, and now I think I can move on and find ways to forgive myself.
hey i’m a bit late to this comment but i just wanna say i’m glad you realized you did something wrong. many people struggle to do this and end up never getting better. i’m proud of you for trying to make a change, and i hope you can continue moving forward :)
There is no mistake , it's all an experience for one to experience, just learn from it and you will know what to do next time around
@Mara i've moved on and found a new and better partner. Still finding ways to improve myself and my relationship, but that's part of life. Still making some mistakes of the past, but gotta keep working at it!
Me too. I’m still in the process of getting over the self hate that came from it.
@@cr0wtherr same... but you can forgive yourself.. that wont change the harm done.. Thats where im stuck
This guy’s timing is impeccable, is he an all knowing time traveler? I wouldn’t even be surprised.
@Spexial Spice same here
@@ImprovementPill uh huh you’re a time traveler
I am forgiving myself for everything that I was and i was not able to be....
Your biggest asset is being yourself. Don't pretend to be someone else. Keep going your way where you feel happy. Never listen to others that you can't. You can and you will.
Yes exactly I completely understand & agree with you, thank you for sharing this with us
i betrayed my best friend... i was unloyal, a traitor and worst of all a bad friend. but watching this video showed me that yes i left her, but now i can redeem myself and forgive myself.
You can be and probably are already a better person😊you got this
Bro I was a bad friend too,I drove away those who loved me with my toxic behavior,I was an obsessive and toxic friend.Although this happened in middle school I still feel guilty.I slapped one of my friends who was always on my side because she tore my notebook,I always feel sick thinking about it.
@@just_extremely_confused this is exactly what happened to me. I was a horrible friend, I betrayed them, and I don't feel like I deserve have a friend never again
I want to say, thank you for your video. Not just a moment ago, I was regretting a decision I made 5 years ago. It re-surfaced in my mediation. I typed, how to forgive yourself because I was about to go down a rabbit hole and this video is EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you kind sir, for being you.
Mistakes will come in life. It’s how we respond to them is how we fix them. Ether we worry about the mistake and never fix it or move on with life and do better.
what if you worry about the mistake and do better simultaneously
For anyone reading this comment section, the pain of regret is an essential one to growth. Some people are lucky enough to live life without many massive regrets or moments of selfish desire at the expense of another person’s well being. Just know that acknowledging that pain brought you here, to this video. That’s a step a lot of people in this world would skip. People that would rather make the rest of the world suffer and feel the pain they do instead of taking the pain they feel and turning it into the catalyst for improvement. Take a moment to acknowledge this very important step that YOU decided to take. Take a moment to be proud of that willingness to do right for the world, and not to do what felt best for yourself. Take a moment to forgive yourself at least partially for the people you’ve hurt or the damage you’ve caused. If you came here your heart is likely in the right place. Let that regret drive you to do better, but don’t let it drag you down because you deserve to live a happier healthier life.
I'm coming back now from a porn addiction after admitting it to my parents yesterday. I hope I can forgive myself and wash away the shame of it by accomplishing other things. I feel deeply ashamed but I can't change the past. I can however better myself in the future to make up for it which I hope to do now. For some of you guys that might have the same problem I wish you luck. I know you feel despairity sometimes trying to get away from it and failing but you can get away from it just like I'm trying to do right now. If you can admit it to your parents or to a trusted friend since not feeling alone and isolated will give you more power to fight it. Then work on the shame one step at a time. I hope we can escape this devil once and for all. Have a nice day.
youre so strong. i hope you are proud of yourself, you should be proud
I needed this video. I have hard time forgiving myself and forgetting my mistakes.
It's so easy to assume a mistake we made is an end point, but it rarely ever is. We can always make it right, balance things out.
Yes every hero fails and has his redemption arc have yours do not wallow in self pity and shame. Reflect and improve. GREAT LESSON!
I'm still haunted by the time I was left by my friend group when i was in uni. I managed to be happy with my highschool friends who i kept in touch over the years, but it still pains me when i look back. I think my redemption arc will be when I land a job and manage to to charm them and influence them. I hope i could land a job real soon, pls pray for me :")
Got the same problem me. I wanted to win a girl's respect, but endet up behind her in uni. She will finish masters before me.
By the time you achieve that goal, you will be different, they will too
And you find out...making and dropping friends is part of the program of self improvement
I’m a bit late but praying for you!!
I lost someone due to my mistake. And I can't get over it. I can't forgive myself for repeating the same mistakes over and over again. I've hit rock bottom this time. The only thing that can help me is fixing that relationship but I guess it's really over and I can't move on cause I want to fix it.
I'm stuck in a similar situation now and it has been really detrimental for my mental and physical health. Its devastating. I hope you are doing better now
Same. There needs to be a group for people like us. I mean, I didn’t lose them because of a mistake… I just thought they were my friend, but they just used me. I feel guilty for messaging them after they blocked me bc I had a panic attack and just couldn’t control my emotions.
He wasn’t mad I don’t think, but then I messaged him again while I was crying. I learned… I shouldn’t message people when I’m emotional. He was an a-hole and used me when I was depressed, but he became a better person later on. I still did some things wrong too, and even though he was worse, it doesn’t right my wrongs. I think he blocked me there too :(
I learned that I cannot talk to people when I’m crying or having a panic attack. I should just let my emotions simmer and accept that, even if I think his reasons for not wanting to speak to me are dumb, he still has that right. Just like when people don’t consent for dumb reasons, like because their signs aren’t compatible.
I feel so guilty, but I should take this as a lesson learned. I’ve had 8 years on and off of memories with him, all tainted because things ended on bad terms and I got no closure. I’m taking anti-depressants because of this and seeking therapy, as he was my only friend.
We're in a same situation. I lost someone sooo important to me aswell, because of my own mistakes. I have severe anger issues and i always overthinked. I left that person a few times and they always came back but after i started realising how wrong i was I started to change and fix my dumb self with all the lil knowledge i had. But by that time the person also started to became toxic so now we don't talk anymore. I was the reason he became like that. I made him cry. I hurt him. And all he has in his eyes for me is complete hatred. I completely understand his pov and yes this is what i literally deserve but what i regret is not realising my mistakes sooner. Not trying to understand him and always being selfish about myself. I loved that guy sooo much but all i could ever provide him was sadness. I'm soo sorry my love.
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b fr there really needs to be a group, would u consider making one?
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b I had a similar situation, lost control over my emotions, and texted very sad and emotional, because of this we ended up on bad terms. I essentially got no closure which prolonged my moving on. It was my first relationship and really didn't know better but since then I have forgiven myself. I know I will never text someone again when I have not cooled off. Time heals all wounds.
Wow! Thank you for this. For some reason, I've been overthinking my past mistakes, especially during this past month. This helps a lot.
i wish i can fogive myself for what i did or at least learn to live with it. it 's so hard to carry for the reste of my life.
I was told as a kid that in a few years I would forget about my mistake but an entire decade has passed and I still remember it intensely and people are telling me “well maybe it’s because you are too busy thinking about it”.
thank you,
I struggle to forgive myself for past transgressions. I worked with a therapist for many years and it was something that she helped me ease the pain/guilt of but not eliminate and I think this redemption arc idea could work. It would be an event that would feel like it proved I was no longer that person in the memory. Brilliant.
I can’t take it anymore! I can’t forgive myself and I feel sick too my stomach, I just want to rip my skin apart, I did it not only once but again after I told myself I’d never do it ever again I can’t take it anymore i feel horrible
on one single act that i have done in my past cannot be forgiven and thus is like a curse to me I will never EVER forgive myself for that.
I loved the pineapple story, you were supposed to defend it's honor! Haha
@@ImprovementPill I’m just curious, is that story actually real or do you just jot it down on spot to get your point across?😂 great video otherwise
So basically be like Zuko from Avatar the last airbender.
Zuko carried around his shame for a long time until he found that his redemption is in himself
Zuko is my Idol of redemption arc. Also, he's so handsome and cute
I have made mistakes during my teenage years when I be in a toxic friendship I taught I am the best and used to talk against the who advised me and a few years back I understand my mistakes and I get over from my toxic friends and today iam 16 years old and I released that it's important to be with people who really love you not the one who kick from back
I missed a chance to get the love and i acted like a fool when i was a teen
I think both of these are universal experiences for us to all learn from and grow to be better.
Same...
Same
Came for a life lesson. Stayed for the storytelling. And now I'm on a redemption arc to forget farting in class. The one and only improvement pill 🙌🏽 💊
You'll need to burp in class to get over it
I'm haunted by almost every social interaction I've had - every time I try to redeem myself and think on my feet, something completely embarrassing or even accidentally rude comes out.
There was one time at work our shift lead said, "Everything is going to be okay" on a busy day. "Isn't that what you said on Friday?" I referred to a time she said the same thing and it all went terribly. She didn't answer, and I feel horrible.
What is the answer, if all of your redemption attempts dig a bigger pit for yourself? I've read books, practiced, leapt out of my comfort zone for nothing so far. What am I missing?
@@ImprovementPill Thank you. I notice that you always manage to bring an important enlightening detail into the picture - tone and/or delivery in this case. Again, thank you for the new perspective.
Thank you for this video, it helps a lot - genuinely feel awful over the way I've treated some former friends, although it was never intentional to hurt them. I was far too toxic, negative, critical, intense etc. It still hurts now, even many months later.
It's been a few months and getting better finally. But the loop of shame and regret, paired with the people still being in my life not forgiving me, makes my mind hold on.
I am finally plan to forgive myself. But didn't know how to. Thank you so much for your video. I will rebalance everything that I have ever failed. I will move on and will have better future, Inshallah.
From this day forward, I will make sure I give myself a redemption arc after any mistake I have made that I feel shameful of.
I don't even remember what haunts me anymore because I have something called Dissociative Amnesia. Its the best thing that's happened to me cause I cant remember or feel anything anymore, all those memory's are so deep in the back of my brain I cant remember anymore.
I’m really struggling with forgiving myself for past mistakes, I’m haunted everyday by regret
Me Too.
U don’t need to punish yourself for the past, it’s an action u did and u regret it, this action is no longer a part of you, you are a being, and that action was a being, don’t link yourself to it and set yourself free.
Guilt just holds me back everytime, this quote i found recently that i should've done before, "Don't bleed on the person who didn't cut you."
Fight the urge to vocally ruminate on the situation.
I think all of us do this on some level. Fixate and talk about bad things over and over again..
This is exactly what I needed right now. My guilt is weighing down on my chest.
Its like you always know the right time to post when im feeling a certain way, thank you improvement pill! You’ve helped me be more positive and aware throughout the years ❤️
I talked poorly behind a friend's back and said awful and nasty things because i was angry and frustrated with them. I rightfully got caught for it. I hurt them and i deeply regret it, i apologized but i feel i dont deserve their trust and forgiveness from them. I wish i never did it in the first place.
Yesterday I made a very big stupid mistake. My friend trusted me with something that was very personal to her and I used her personal work and added it to my own. I apologized to her and we both agreed that we need to give each other some space for a while to figure things out. She said she’s forgiven me, but I don’t even know how to forgive myself I feel like crap for what I did. I reflected and cried about this all night, I just don’t know what to do from here on out.
Be thankful for you're friend to forgive you. If there is anything you can do to make it up to them, then do. But don't dwell on you're mistake. Everything happens for a reason and maybe this mistake happend at this point in time to teach you a lesson which prevented you from making the same mistake in a much much worse situation. Take this mistake and learn from it. You feeling bad about yourself is just a sign that you have grown from your experience and realized you were wrong. But getting upset with yourself won't change anything. Instead move forward from this point with you're experience and don't make the same mistake again. Forgiveness makes the heart stronger, and forgiving yourself is one of the most hardest things to do. But once you do you'll feel relieved and proud to know you've grown as a person.
I feel you. I was forgiven for something I did in 6th grade but I never forgave myself.
Wow this is the best advice I’ve ever heard on this topic. Too much of it focuses on just forgiving yourself but that’s just not enough. Awesome job
Thank you for this! From now on, I'm going to enter my redemption arc and give myself the punishment I deserve! For too long, I've tried to forgive myself. But now I know the only way is to make changes and kill the past. I don't have the luxury to have "balance" in life. I've wasted too much time already. From now on it's all in, all the time! Let's go!!!! I'm pissed!
I'm forgiving myself for binge watching improvement pill all day
I cant forget all my past regrets and the chances I didnt take aswell as the person I could've become.
I really needed this video. I was feeling full of regret today as I didnt prepare in time for my tests this week as I was procrastinating and trying to deal with my porn and masturbation addiction ..
Thank you for this. As a pre-teen, I beat myself over all the bad things I've done, especially when I'm on my period. Once I had full-on break down with my friend- These comments are also really great.
I’m struggling I done something wrong in the past and it’s been 6 months and I still felt bad for it I felt I don’t deserve anything I felt like I’m a bad person that everyone hates
i love you and you are such a beautiful soul trust us
This makes a lot of sense.
Thank you so much. Made a terrible mistake yesterday and I’m big on doing better today.
It’s true. But unfortunately sometimes in life you can’t do anything to redeem yourself and you’re left dealing with the pain of regret for a long time
I feel this.
last year in my french class i didnt talk to people and was just generally unfriendly as a result of my social anxiety, and i wish i wasn't like that because it hurt both myself and everyone else in the class. im hoping to right that wrong next year when i take the next level in that class
Are you ready kids?
Oooohhh
Who struggles with pineapples while watching TV?
stevie
Lmao
@@SNinjaQK wonder?
Yeah he doesn't watch tv...
Reminds me on how i met your mother
I can't find that way for long long time now. I knew it but for some reasons I can't find that way anymore and struggled much recently with that problem. Thanks mate, even if for me that's just a reminder, it's still really helpful. I really grateful you did that video.
Your timing is literal witchcraft! It’s like you know whenever I’m depressed
Thank you I feel real better after hearing this video
So, I am guilty of a bad habit that I started in 2019, that means I have to break that habit so that I can forgive myself
I’m glad I watched this video. Today I’ve done something that I’ve regretted, with my Anger and things related to money. I will check back every month to this video to update my improvement of handling of my emotions, and how my redemption arc with money.
I love it.
This vid was like.
You just gotta redeem yourself bro.
Be a hero. Get it done.
Or ya could just watch some documentaries before bed.
2:40 I like how the revolver start to ejecting shells.
When my Dad was ill. I always had bad moods about why no one was helping us, a few did though. None of his friends came. I was there, always by his side cooking, studying, cleaning , Tired, lack of sleep, couldn't go to class. Unhealthy meals. I always depend on the caretaker and was foolish. One day i went to church to meet friends, before leaving home. I left his breakfast by him and a note to eat. But little did i know, it was the last time i'd see him. Got a call from a family member, a relative. He's gone.
I realized, I was the one who killed him. Even though i did help him, I still feel pain from that scenario where it looked like he was asleep but he's gone. I killed him with my own ignorance. Its been 3 years. And still haunts me. I'll never forgive myself for that.
Now my guilt ends up hurting people i care too.
I did something under someone else's influence when I was somewhere around 5-7 years old, I don't even remember the timeline. I feel so horrible about it once in a while and it would also trigger memories of some other mistakes of mine which makes it even worse. The feeling never leaves me in peace.
This video is what I really need right now. I had been depressing about my mistake I did a couple of weeks ago and I couldn't forgive myself. I gave up the test and quit although I know it was great chance to me . Moreover I hurt my friend feelings and lost her faith. Just kept thinking about it and I didn't know how to get rid of regret. Now I get the answer . All I need is to prepare again for the next opportunity and get the work done and succeed with my friend again.
I mean, how did u get the courage to go after the thief. If I was in ur place I will be shivering with fear.
Wow what an amazing video! Something that haunts me isn’t necessarily something I’ve done to embarrass myself publicly, but rather just in front of one person at a time. I find it hard to socially interact with others and every awkward social moment is replayed in my head again and again. I’m really embarrassed about how I deliver myself to other people, and don’t know where to start improving on that. I feel a barrier when it comes to talking to others, and honestly, quarantine had only made me more socially awkward.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO! As a Christian this helped me and I can enjoy my weekend without feeling down
How are you always releasing videos that are relevant to me at exactly the right time? Are you somehow stalking me? Great vid
I’ve done some messed up stuff in the past and i try to move on from it telling myself I’m not like that know and I knew it was wrong but I can’t stop feeling guilty and ashamed for what I did in the past it always comes back to haunt me
same. but you’re not alone u knew it was wrong but now you’re no longer that person. there’s ppl making mistakes and don’t even feel guilty about it
"There is only one way to live life, and that is without regrets!" - Portgas D. Ace
Great quote
My situation is too embarrassing and bad so imma just keep my mouth shut even though I want to tell :)
Tell someone, i did something disgusting and horrific and I wanted to kill myself, but telling someone lifts weights, it did for me
ok
I did something absolutly terrible when i was about 14/15 and it just won't stop haunting me. I feel so bad for those i've hurt and I do not know how to forgive myself for My inhuman behavior... I dont feel like i ever derseve happiness in My life ever again
Are you feeling better today?
this makes me think.....my 15 yr old sis has been so mean to me and inhuman sometimes she relly hurt me and today i lashed out and defended myself which is rare and i said something harsh but i didnt mean wat i said and im worried shes hurt..... shes just 15, and will probablu regret her rudeness later :( i feel bad for saying the harsh thing to her ..... i didnt mean it, shes only a teen and teens go through so many emotional changes... it isnt their fault
It depends on how severe was that thing that you did and how sorry and willing to change you are that dictate if you deserve redemption or not
This was better advice than expected. Thank you!
Always feels good to see an improvement pill video. Idk why but it makes me feel so good watching these videos.
I am a minor. I did something awful in 2017. 5 years ago, and I can't let go:). I don't think I can ever move past it.
Did it get better?
Forgive yourself and take the next step in life. Do not dwell in the past. 👍
What I did was bad, and I regret every second of it. It was selfish and immature of me. I hurt people and now they want nothing to do with me. I can’t forgive me when I’ve got no shot for redemption. Now I just lay in bed and think about how I deserve to die.
I know how you feel, but you cant give up on yourself, you have to keep going and redeem yourself. know that there is no such thing as a bad person, we are all just people that do bad things sometimes.(I know that this comment is almost a year old but im still going to respond to it)
@@DrDodoBird3.26 I rlly appreciate it man. I’m doing a whole lot better ever since I discovered self love. The thoughts are still there, but I know how to deal with them. I wanna thank you for checking in on me 🥲
@@megaladon5897 im going through it now I did something that I highly regret and Now I just ruminate on what I did and the moment just repeats in my head
I’m having anxiety that’s affecting my relationship
I don’t know where to start, I’m a shitty person. Basically the night I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so relieved, it wasn’t what I wanted at the time, so I went to talk to my friend who’s also a girl and I ended up staying over with her because I didn’t feel like getting up. Nothing happened, just slept over. During my breakup period I eventually stayed over there again, this time even making out.
After a while I realized my ex is what I wanted, and we got back together. I am so happy with her right now. My problem is I constantly have anxiety thinking about my actions to her when I broke up with her.
I don’t know how I say I love her now, but did these things to her in the past. She keeps telling me she’s over it she forgives me, but I can’t forgive myself, and every day I tell her it’s eating me up. Spending the night elsewhere on the night of our breakup, where she was so upset. And making out with that girl weeks later, I can’t live with.
It’s so hard telling her I love her, but having caused this pain to her before.
Did something awful. Multiple times. I created a living hell…Will I ever forgive myself? Idk man…idk…I keep trying to but it’s so hard, and I still hate myself idk how to forgive me
I have been watching your videos for a month already and every time I fascinate how unordinary your videos are!!!! I just love that you present solutions for any problems from totally different perspectives. Your ideas are incredible and so easy to understand 🥰Thank you for hard work!
I think back of drinking and driving when I was a teenager. It was decades ago yet I still obsess over the horror I could have caused if things had gone just a little differently. I was never arrested but Im still paying a penalty.
Honestly , I think I've been doing this and I don't feel guilty anymore
thank you so much, this helped me so much i was in a rough place for a bit and didn't know how to forgive myself or others but now i'm on the right track. Thank you
I have an extremely overactive conscience and really bad anxiety. It ruined my childhood because I am constantly trying to live life without regret. Even with the little things will make me feel guilt and regret, like whether I tried putting salt on food or not. It's exhausting because I can't do anything without being scared that I did it wrong or missed out
Are u ok
@@ashlylifesummer3934
I'm working through it in therapy right now, don't worry about me
I'm still try to grasp the fact that 10 kids were trying to eat a pineapple on a playground. Like that shit is one of most difficult fruits to eat.
This is the best video ever on self forgiveness
To sum the video up : make sure that your past mistake is only part of your past, and that as a result, you can move on.
It is a great video, hence the mental struggle of quarantine implies running in circles in your room, thinking about your past mistakes. Thanks Improvement Pill !!
I totally agree. Without even knowing this I have forgived myself lot of past things by being better version of myself
Hey! I just listened to that story 1:50 at graphy, really worthwhile podcast too btw
This comment section truly shows there's caring individuals in this world still! Thanks for the help!!
I'm very.sorry for what I did I know we only barly did anything but I feel shame and guilt
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this on my path of forgiving myself & to become better
Some mistakes can never be balanced they are done they'll haunt you for life 🙂
I don't want to do anything with people. People are trash in your life that you have to throw out as soon as moment comes, the problem is that most times you're forced to learn or work with that people, this the main problem. Just don't collect negative feelings towards yourself and others and move on and you have to ditch the people as soon as opportunity rises.
what if you hurt somebody in a way that could last forever...where forgiveness is probably thrown out the window...how can i even that out? how can i forgive myself for something they will never forgive me for?