Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..
I promise you, this too shall passed. I met my husband two weeks after my break. He was my first boyfriend, I was 21 years old and it felt like I was literally dying internally. I’ll be 41 in November and it was best for me. The moment I finally let go, here comes hubby.
Praying for you to get through 🙏🏽 I’m going through a breakup after 14 years and 3 kids and my 4th on the way with him. But he moved on and got someone else pregnant and doesn’t care at all about how he has hurt me. It sucks bc we have kids ugh I wish I could just not see him ever again and maybe that would make it easier 😢 but God is good and he will always make a way🙏🏽💪🏽
I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade
15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much
exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.
@@fairy4196I know it really hurts and what you are going through must be painful. Trust me, i’m going through same right now but we will be fine and you won’t die
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
@@dabilover9205u are still worth so much as a human and you don’t need them to express that validation towards u. u are more than enough to be loved n u are capable of being happy no matter how hard it is. sending u hope n comfort rn ❤️🧸
There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏
Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.
I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long. This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact. I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.
And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛
I'm struggling 3 weeks later I can't let go no matter how much I pray. I drink again and I don't know what to do without her. I don't feel like existing. I wish I had a friend like me. But I have none.
@@suavemente7281trust the process you will heal it takes time. Don’t fall into temptation stay strong. Keep talking to god and praying. I wish you the best.
Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜
The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.
This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you
I understand your pain. I broke up with someone on our so called 1 year anniversary. I had a feeling it was coming but the pain is still real. I know I needed to let go because he was toxic and verbally abusive. I’ll miss the good times but I have to move on😢
It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩
I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now
Mannn I just got out of a 4 year relationship yesterday. It's crazy😅and wild but I do have a plan to get through this. I have my family and friends and whenever I'm feeling down about it, I accept the pain bc I know eventually it'll blow over, I'll be okay though.
Hwy guys I hope y'all doing good! Please reply here whenever you guys wanna talk! Really I'll be here for y'all Stay safe and healthy and good luck!!!!❤
@@chriswhite3198said mythical being is the reason you are breathing and why you were even born in the first place so watch how you talk about other people's religion and about God
I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.
@@saritamoorebansa4485 who knows, the end of this chapter might just lead to you finding your true soul mate. I think it’s better to make a leap of faith and find out what happens than to never know
He doesn’t care about you he’s manipulating you. I promise you will find someone else. My mum went through it and she’s in her fifties now dating a very sweet man. You are worthy. You are loved.
#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.
I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready
Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.
I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..
you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??
before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men
You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.
Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them. I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.
I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩
I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!
Thank you.... I'm trying to learn good and healthy ways to continue moving on, I just went through my first break up and we didn't even last long :( Thank you for sharing these tips
Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.
my boyfriend left me due to my mental health apparently straining us. it took us breaking up for me to realize he narcissistic he was and how manipulative he was. he wouldn’t let me set certain boundaries. blamed me and turned every argument into my fault, even if it was his. i told him sometimes i can’t control my thoughts, he called me psychotic and said i need to ‘fix myself’ and woke up the next morning like nothing happened. i thought i wasn’t normal and that i literally needed to be fixed. that i was a broken piece of sh!t. turns out he was fueling that and just turned the tables on me, saying i haven’t been helping myself as he’s been trying to ‘help me’. now it’s been 5 days and he’s already interested in someone else. it took me 9 months to realize this as he broke up with me 5 days ago. freakin’ crazy. if he truly loved me, would he have stayed and just stood with me along my healing journey? your healing journey should take as long as you need, i thought. guess not according to him.
Totally!!! Focus on the logic behind the breakup. Cutting off all ties though is not always possible. Some people gave kids or are directly or indirectly in touch because of work... It can be a setback but it is doable when you focus on the reasons you break up without idealizing the situation...
The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.
So I was dating this guy and we weren't officially together. Last week he broke it off due to stress in his life, not willing to hurt me and especially not wanting to hurt me with his problems if we'd have stepped in a relationship like that. (stress about school/internship). He told me right now is not the right time for us. A few days later we talked it out, deciding to stay friends and see where time will take us. I am heartbroken and I am still holding on to hope that someday we will get together. Is that wrong?
“Boys are supposed to ruin your lipstick not your mascara”- Marilyn Monroe
😂 I'll keep that in mind if I ever get into a relationship with someone next time
What does that mean?
@@cherbears_club It means they’re supposed to kiss you not make you cry
@@Your_fav_blondie ohhhh
And still Kennedy messed her up lol
I agree. You have to go through the pain in order to heal. It hurts like crazy at first but you will get through it
I wish it ends quickly I can’t take it anymore
@@lilyflower9218true.
@@lilyflower9218for real
@@lilyflower9218neither can I
@@lilyflower9218 exactly 🥺🥺
Going through it right now... just happened a couple of hours ago. I ve been with him since I was 14 I am now 27 and this feels like the biggest rip out of my chest because he's my best friend and I don't know how to heal from this I am stuck..
Keep busy..do different things..take classes, go on trips with good friends..
List the reasons you broke up. Remember that everyday. Remember all the bad days. The heavy gut feeling and misery. I promise you, it shall be well.
I promise you, this too shall passed. I met my husband two weeks after my break. He was my first boyfriend, I was 21 years old and it felt like I was literally dying internally. I’ll be 41 in November and it was best for me. The moment I finally let go, here comes hubby.
@swilson5346 thanks for the advice I apperciate it 💞
Praying for you to get through 🙏🏽 I’m going through a breakup after 14 years and 3 kids and my 4th on the way with him. But he moved on and got someone else pregnant and doesn’t care at all about how he has hurt me. It sucks bc we have kids ugh I wish I could just not see him ever again and maybe that would make it easier 😢 but God is good and he will always make a way🙏🏽💪🏽
I totally agree, do not pretend to be okay when your not okay, allow yourself to feel everything and I mean everything, the pain, the crying, the anxiety , the wish you could go back and everything and ever yday it gets easier and it starts to fade
Please promise me 💔
@@mariyaxmx5427 i hope you're okay I'm also going through this🥺
Heavy on the cutting ALL mutual
ties!
My best friend is her brother, I’ve known him since we were in elementary school and didn’t really know her much till years and years later
reallll
15 months. Still think about him everyday knowing he doesn't give a damn! Miss his family too. I feel like I'll never be vulnerable again. Regret it so much
exactly, distracting yourself and pretending you don't feel is just going to make it worse. at least for me it did make it worse. so I chose to be mature and let my emotions go free. I acknowledged the heart break, and I honestly healed pretty fast after that. trying unhealthy ways to cope, especially pretending something never happened made the situation worse for me.
Hey could help me right now I'm going through a lot i just wnnna die 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@fairy4196I know it really hurts and what you are going through must be painful. Trust me, i’m going through same right now but we will be fine and you won’t die
im distracting myself from the breakup with anime/phone and really hate feeling pathetic and lonely which i am very much and im also mentally exhausted and numb! idk what to do pls help
@@dabilover9205u are still worth so much as a human and you don’t need them to express that validation towards u. u are more than enough to be loved n u are capable of being happy no matter how hard it is. sending u hope n comfort rn ❤️🧸
@@vhopseok thankyou ily 💕💕 have a good day
she’s like the big sister i never had 🥹❤️
I always think this when I watch her vids 😢❤️❤️ love you Nicole!
Same lol
There's nothing worse than being with the wrong man. I got counseling after my breakup, and he triggered abandonment issues. Counseling helped me see it really wasn't him I was hurting behind. He sold me a dream. It was over two years ago and he was my next-door neighbor. He got evicted five months ago and had to move, thankfully. Don't settle for any man who doesn't bring peace and joy into your life. ❤🙏
And know that this too shall pass and you’ll be a better stronger person because of it
Got cheated multiple times. Had a child with him. I keep forgiving him without him asking for forgiveness. Verbally abused me, my family, and my relatives. Still, I stayed with him. I was bonded to this guy. I couldn't think right. I told myself I would never find any man like him. Finally, I had to call off two days ago. I am currently hurting. I don't know what to do. I have been calling God to take the pain out.
How are you doing now?
pray to God so that he can break the soul ties!! they’re so real trust fans they keep u attached to those who aren’t right for us💔
What about now
I'm really really happy you brought up cutting ties. SO many women I know will continue to contact them and will either get back together with them and start a vicious cycle, or hold on to feelings for them way too long.
This is especially important if you were in a relationship where your partner was manipulative. The best thing for you AND them is to leave and have no contact.
I know it's easier said than done though. I've been there.
And going to God about it also helped me. God loves you and nothing in all creation can separate you from that. Romans 8:38-39. You can cast all your anxieties onto God because He cares about you. 1 Peter 5:6-7. ✝️
Thank you. I was the one wrong in the relationship causing her to break up and completely distance. It is hard waking up everyday. Existing breathing thinking without my bestfriend. I have some codependency and trauma, addictions that damaged her and I’m learning to heal and let her go. I wish I had treated her better and I pray for forgiveness from her and god. I wish her the best and I regret it everyday that I wake up. Her father passed recently and I just wish I knew she’s okay. And to talk to her again. The feeling felt almost unbearable just getting sober today and not drinking the pain away. I wish all of you Love, peace and happiness 💛
I'm struggling 3 weeks later I can't let go no matter how much I pray. I drink again and I don't know what to do without her. I don't feel like existing. I wish I had a friend like me. But I have none.
@@suavemente7281trust the process you will heal it takes time. Don’t fall into temptation stay strong. Keep talking to god and praying. I wish you the best.
I hope you're doing okay now, also you are a really brave person to admit your mistakes but just remember that it takes two to tango
3. Is what I’m here for. Cutting off all ties to that person is hard. But it has to be done.
Saving this as I’m currently going through a breakup as a uni student. Even though we were together for nearly 2 years we drifted apart when I started university. At first I didn’t know if I made the right choice to break it off and I did it in person which looking back at it was the right choice and both my side and his family’s side respected it. Seeing him cry broke my heart but I know now it was the right choice. I’m saving this video in case I feel low or doubt myself throughout this time. Thank you for the massive big sister advice!! 💜💜💜
How are you doing now?
How are you doing today?
The heart always gets us in trouble... definitely listen to the brain (logic) more. It 🧠 helps us perceive reality vs ♥️ what we wished the relationship was but isn't.
Best advice I heard, especially when you said the logic behind the breakup. Thank you!
This helps so much thank you I had a boyfriend that was dating for 5 months and today you broke up with me and on the 28th of this month it was in our six-month anniversary today is the the 11th of August 2023 I poured my heart and soul into that relationship and he ripped my heart part and stomped on it like it didn't matter so this helps very much thank you
I understand your pain. I broke up with someone on our so called 1 year anniversary. I had a feeling it was coming but the pain is still real. I know I needed to let go because he was toxic and verbally abusive. I’ll miss the good times but I have to move on😢
It’s #1 for me I’m 26 and I feel like I won’t find anyone else I already have self doubt and confidence issues and that’s what hurts the most I feel like I won’t have the family I’ve always wanted or someone that will love me for me and fight for the relationship 😩😩
This, too, shall pass.
My situation but it'll pass
Me too😢
Just broke up with him a few hours ago , I can't even sleep , it hurts like hell, I don't think I'll ever be myself again 😪 😔
I'm in the middle of one too. It's complicated and nasty, because he literally can't wrap his mind around the idea that I'm actually leaving. We had been together for almost 6 years now. And I feel so lost rn, almost like someone ripped out a huge part of me, and now It's just void and loneliness. To make things worse, I have no friends and my only source of support is my lil sis. I wish all of us in the comment section could come together and be each other's support systems because I would really appreciate having one in my life especially now
Me too! No friends and only told my lil sister about it until I told my parents
Mannn I just got out of a 4 year relationship yesterday. It's crazy😅and wild but I do have a plan to get through this. I have my family and friends and whenever I'm feeling down about it, I accept the pain bc I know eventually it'll blow over, I'll be okay though.
Hwy guys
I hope y'all doing good!
Please reply here whenever you guys wanna talk! Really I'll be here for y'all
Stay safe and healthy and good luck!!!!❤
God come first all time
a mythical being is not how you heal or healed!
@@chriswhite3198said mythical being is the reason you are breathing and why you were even born in the first place so watch how you talk about other people's religion and about God
No one talks about the hair loss that comes from a breakup that really hurt you. I lost allot of hair
I hadn't realised this is a thing until now 😭😂
Excellent advice and a humble reminder that time does heal and that it always gets better ❤
I am about to divorce my husband. he gaslights me and is an emotional rollercoaster. I am so scared I'll regret it after, feel alone or don't find a new partner.
Going through the same thing…. Scared I will end up old and alone too.
@@saritamoorebansa4485 We can do this!
@@saritamoorebansa4485 who knows, the end of this chapter might just lead to you finding your true soul mate. I think it’s better to make a leap of faith and find out what happens than to never know
But you will die early and your husband will celebrate and he will find a new girl. She will be in your funeral too.
He doesn’t care about you he’s manipulating you. I promise you will find someone else. My mum went through it and she’s in her fifties now dating a very sweet man. You are worthy. You are loved.
#3. It’s only hard because we go to church together and his dad is the pastor. I am keeping my distance as much as I can because I only see those people on the weekend.
Same. His sisters are actually in choir with me which l can’t really avoid for rehearsals and all
That last one people can sometimes have trouble with. I deleted his whole family and him off of socials asap even grandma🗣️
Savage don't blame you , I'm going to follow suit too.
I've been distracting myself by getting back into the things I used to enjoy doing.. making myself a routine and sometimes adding new things when I'm ready
Maybe this is just me I had 6 relationships in my whole 32 years on this earth and every time I break it off it become easier and easier. It goes from 1yr of heart break, 6m, 1m, 2wks, 5days. The older I get the more I know my worth and what I tell myself is y am I crying for someone who didn't deserve me.?And I tell my husband u are lucky number 7 I love u deeply but u betray me just walk away I'll b fine it'll take a day to get over u because I will not cry for someone who didn't value me enough to not disrespect me.. he don't believe me but trust me I mean every word. I love hard but when I'm done I'm done forever, u don't exist in my world, maybe it's the Taurus in me but I do not play games when it's my heart and life involved.
Thank you so much!❤❤ so sorry for your tragic break up! Glad you got better!
Glad my story of break up was me finding my self , healing , being with my family and friends and happy .
I agree with the video and a few comments saying to block them, I also agree. However, these things can get a little tricky when it’s kids involved. There’s still constant communication, interaction with his family(because of the kids), you still have to see this person because of co-parenting because you don’t want the kids to see it’s a weird vibe between the parents. It’s all about setting boundaries for myself and knowing what works for my mental health. I’m also going to add to the list: cutting off sex, this should be #1 IMO..
This is def hard because of that
you can do so much for a persons and they still leave you in the end 💔💔💔😢 it makes me not wanna help anyone ever again my girl is trying to leave me at this very moment It’s 5 am and I have work at 3 I wrote a long paragraph and still haven’t heard anything back what is life ??
I hear you. The same thing just happened to me. I hope you are doing better now.
I needed this, my heart needs to catch up 😔 thank you
Number 3 is what did it fa me! 💯
Can u plz repeat it i didn’t understand number 3😢
before the break up occurs im already gone mentally i tend to leave on a silent note. therefore i dont really have to heal and take time away from meeting other great men
You need to here these: Those powerful words that helped me a lot.." time shall heal you my child". Till then focus on yourself. Afterall dignity is your future brahmastra. Experience is your weapon. And always remind yourself to move on and make progress, no matter how hard the pain it is showering , shower your progress and success into the pain , which will eventually nullify it.
“If love keeps giving me lemons, I’ll just mix them in my drink” -Miranda Lambert
I needed this right now. Thank you!
These were really helpful !! Thank you so much for the tips .
I absolutely agree with you 💜 need to heal 💔
Girl i needed this so so so bad.
Breakup hack: If you fall out of love make the other person fall out of love and initate the break up that way the hurting would be less, do not CHEAT it's not gonna be easy but take this route, you can't leave someone still Loving you it would kill them.
I prefer to be hurt than hurt someone i think i can handle myself better.
I wish I could go back and tell myself this in college… or just told myself to not date in college. My college bf broke up with me 7times because I kept in contact with him between the breakups, I was following “my heart” and I couldn’t deal with the emotional distress of a relationship. I would always find myself back with him and unhappy. I wasted my college years fr 😩
7 times?! That’s gotta b a Guinness world record I hope u r doing better now
I’m glad you said cut off until you heal from the situation
Thank you. I’m trying to go around the pain but maybe I need to go through it.
Thanks. God bless you ❤
Thank you some much I’m going through a bad break up at the moment and this really helped thank you so much ❤
Thank you for letting us share your pearls of wisdom ❤
I really needed this rn ty..
Thank you!!! People please cut ties!!!!
Thank you for being honest
I’m old enough to be her Mammy’s older sister, but Nicole is the Big Sister we all need! ❤️
I knew a family who refused to let go. You just have to seek healing regardless
When you have a child with that person, it even harder 🤦🏾♀️.
This was gold!!! I’ve definitely been going through the motions. But I know it’s best for me 😢😔
Listen to her young ladies 💪🙏🌍❤️
I love this. Thank you girl! So glad you made it through that. I know how you felt
I cut off all contacts and within 2 months, I was stable, not healed but stable! It is now 6 months I can go through busy days without thinking about him once!
I’m going through it. 😢 but agree on going through the pain to heal.
Thank you.... I'm trying to learn good and healthy ways to continue moving on, I just went through my first break up and we didn't even last long :( Thank you for sharing these tips
Great advice doll. You’re so right. Pretty gal. I love your way of doing your make up too. Very simple. Stunning.
yes, you are right. 100 percents Right
Good advice & I agree you have to sever all ties🤗🤗🤗
Can’t cut ties when you have a child together
Just experienced the worst breakup ever, man it hurts so bad, it’s like my internal organs are burning 😢 but one step at a time, I’m not gonna lie I’m in serious pain.
Spot on...break ties. It's for the best
Thank you girl 🙏🏽💚✨
Great advice.
You are really pretty even without makeup ❤ God bless
Ma'am I love your skin tone.Also drop the skincare routine! !!!
This is so important
It would be so beneficial if I spoke with you right now about my breakup cause honey listen…
Big facts. Thank you!!!
my boyfriend left me due to my mental health apparently straining us. it took us breaking up for me to realize he narcissistic he was and how manipulative he was. he wouldn’t let me set certain boundaries. blamed me and turned every argument into my fault, even if it was his.
i told him sometimes i can’t control my thoughts, he called me psychotic and said i need to ‘fix myself’ and woke up the next morning like nothing happened.
i thought i wasn’t normal and that i literally needed to be fixed. that i was a broken piece of sh!t. turns out he was fueling that and just turned the tables on me, saying i haven’t been helping myself as he’s been trying to ‘help me’.
now it’s been 5 days and he’s already interested in someone else.
it took me 9 months to realize this as he broke up with me 5 days ago. freakin’ crazy.
if he truly loved me, would he have stayed and just stood with me along my healing journey?
your healing journey should take as long as you need, i thought.
guess not according to him.
Unless you get the best chosen family from the break up. Well chosen love is thicker than blood. Truth.
Cutting ties is important ❤
really appreciate this
Totally!!! Focus on the logic behind the breakup. Cutting off all ties though is not always possible. Some people gave kids or are directly or indirectly in touch because of work... It can be a setback but it is doable when you focus on the reasons you break up without idealizing the situation...
Needed to hear this. Thnx sis
#2is extremely important!!!
Number 3 resonated with me the most
I love this!!! Great tips.
I ❤❤❤listening to you Talk 🎉🎉❤
Thankyou for sharing. ❤
Thank you. ❤
Im coming from a 2 year relationship that I put my heart and soul into, this will help me to heal! Thank you 🤍
The mutal friends getting the axe 😂 so true though. I do know a women that stayed in contact with his mother. He got married no kids then they broke up and then he got back with the women, as she was still in contact with the mother. 😂 but I don't want to give hope to clingers on.
Really great advice thank you
You are so right!
Thankyou. It might be the persons that we don't mind.
Thank you 🙏🏽
So I was dating this guy and we weren't officially together. Last week he broke it off due to stress in his life, not willing to hurt me and especially not wanting to hurt me with his problems if we'd have stepped in a relationship like that. (stress about school/internship). He told me right now is not the right time for us. A few days later we talked it out, deciding to stay friends and see where time will take us.
I am heartbroken and I am still holding on to hope that someday we will get together. Is that wrong?
how u so wise, girl. but fr we should all strive to be like that
Good advice ❤
So true!
this is very helpful thank you
Yes girl… 💯
Can we just really fast appreciate that your so pretty
What lip product is this? You are so pretty. I love your videos, and the advice you give.