Girls, find yourself a man who IS AFRAID OF LOSING YOU, don’t waste your time on men who aren’t. I give my bf maximum attention and he gives me his maximum, but my ex didn’t. Best lesson I’ve learned
1- Keep your options open 2-Leave him wanting more 3-Have an active social life 4-Use your walking power 5-Have a high self worth 6-Have boundaries 7-Prioritize yourself 8-Connect to who he really is
I’m a guy if I am into a girl I answer nearly as soon as I see the message. I might not see the message for half an hour or an hour if I am busy. Otherwise I answer pretty much straight back. I want to get to know the girl.
Paul Rutherford this usually in the very early stage. But when you both know and liked each other or if you know she’s interested in you, you will start to reply late. Hahah
As for the first tip, when I was a week into dating my current boyfriend of a year and a half, one night I told him I couldn't hang out because another guy I met asked me to come with him to a concert (which was true), and literally the second I said that he asked if we could be exclusive 😂
*Making someone fear losing you isn't about playing games; it's about having self-respect and setting healthy boundaries. Thanks for sharing these valuable insights!*
It's amazing to note that the dating advice for women is identical to that for men. I am a man and I have seen this video out of pure curiosity. Male dating coaches say exactly the same things to men. Women and men are really very similar and this is very tender. Congratulations for the brilliant video and greetings from Italy.
Whenever I doubt my worth and lose my confidence, I watch one of your videos. I can say you save my life every time I fall ❤️ thank you for being such an amazing person 🥰
Gonna write notes here. 1. Keep your options open. 2. Keep him wanting more. Don't say yes all the time. 3. Have an active social life. 4. Use your walking power. ( a belief that you can walk away anytime in the rel) 5. Be a high value woman. Be confident. (stop being too needy and jealous of everyone) 6. Have boundaries (u can say no also) 7. Prioritize yourself (dont think that it's all about him, but also you) 8. Connect to who he truly is (who he truly is. Not what he shows others, he will become addicted to u)
OMG this really hit home for me!! This is the second go around with us n I really do need to stop being so available to him....I will drop everything to rush over n spend time with him when he asks n sometimes when he doesn't ask to hang out I am BEGGING to come see him WTF REALLY TRISH!!!
im a man and just started looking at some of these dating vids for women after months of consuming info from male dating coaches and have to say if this advice is similar to what most other female dating coaches are offering then nobody is getting into any kind of relationship lol. my bet is that even though women listen to this advice, in the end they cave and play the more feminine role and must exhibit these traits/behaviors to an extent. The not showing too much interest thing is the biggest issue i think. in my experience, if the woman has even the slightest feeling the man is more interested, it turns her off completely. Now, I won't pursue a woman that doesn't meet a certain level of interest in me and shows it. And I would have to behave in a way to make sure she doesnt ever get the idea i like her more than she likes me. so if both parties are listening to this kind of advice, unless their is the perfect balance of interest on either side, there will forever be drama. haha...sounds about right.
Perfectly said. I scope out dating advice for men pages sometimes, probably for the same reason you came here. Just to see what the other side is being told & suggested to do. I dislike the whole don’t act too interested theory. Though it is what we have to do when dating. I wish it was plain & simple, you like me, I like you. Let’s do this.
@@krystalleigh315 the pretentious act don’t really work. People need to acknowledge that if you start making an idol out of anything it gets taken away from you eventually.
I don’t know..I think I lost and wasted everything because I’ve sent lots of texts that it hurts seeing “seen” and getting no reply. And though he said it’s okay, stop beating yourself up.. I think we won’t never patch up things like there were earlier. I became too needy..he’s not afraid of losing me anymore. And we’ve lost that affection and playful mood..
Thank you for these!! 😄 I really believe it’s what I’ve needed to hear during this season of my life. It’s like God’s talking to me straight through you. 😅❤️ I haven’t really even been in a relationship-just this tortuous mad-style crush/infatuation that has lasted about a year-and-a-half. The whole time I’ve been wrestling with it, and trying to lay it to rest. I’ve gotten some breakthrough in the last few months, and your wisdom in these videos-and the realization that, no, I’m absolutely okay if he never sees my true value, because I have the sense that I’m coming into an understanding of my own true self-worth-these videos have been as water to my parched and weary soul. Seriously. Thank you!!
Thank you so much..I need to hear this. The guy Im dating really likes me but he has that fear in his mind that he maybe lacking something in him.He dont want to hurt me or see me getting hurt.He was divorced for almost 3 years now.We used to date before he got married but we lost contact bcuz I dont saved his number when I got a new number and phone.Lately we bump to each other again and had dated once.He is so happy when we dated and hang out.I love the respect and honesty he have towards me.He admits that Im special to him. He is a loner but very successful in his career,smart and organized just like me.He told me he is always there whenever I need him.I think that he isnt ready for a relationship yet so Im not rushing.I keep myself busy and do fun things.I priorities myself and gain more power and self confidence.I am happy being with myself.I really likes him and Im trying to understand him after all we are good friends too.
he broke up with me after 5.5 years of relationship....I tried hard to get him back.... But he don't seem to want me.... he wished me best of luck to start a new life....and said he has already started....I didn't reply insist I deactivate my Viber account... At last my all hope fade away... I broke into pieces....But I still love him so much.... I am not contacting him... I am so much hurt.... Even his sorry will not work this time... and now I think it's time to let him go.....
Don't not close your book girl, just turn to a new page, you should not settle for less for you deserve better girl.. Some one out there will priotise you and make you feel loved.
if a guy really likes you then he would approach you regardless to be there in your life, to share the moments and to support you. No matter what people go through in life, a new big love would wash the pain away and make a way for new opportunities. No games needed in real life.
Oh my god, my ex was my first love and first boyfriend.. And i did all the mistakes.. You know, love was new to me and I felt alive with love, it is my passion and I made him my priority.But I don’t know, but i didn’t feel loved and he told me im not his priority and let’s not be committed. I broke up 2 times. And he came back and idiot me accepted him.. The 3rd time i was serious and broke up with him 5 months ago. He contacted me again after 15 days. And he told me let’s be friends. I said no, I don’t want to be friend with you. Now we don’t have contact for 4 months. Of course i miss him, but it is his mistake. He just didn’t love me.
It's not his mistake he didn't love you, you can't force anyone to be in love. I wouldn't call the things in this video right, because I've done the opposite of some, and I ended up with my amazing girlfriend. Again, not his fault.
Ashlynn Blue it is.. He told me “I love you”. He could tell me the truth. And he could not playing with my feelings, and wasting my time. He is 4 years older than me and I wasn’t his first girlfriend. He just had to tell “Yeah, I don’t love you”..
If you’re too available, too accommodating and accepting then you will get taken for granted 😐 possibly get walked on or settle for crumbs. Pull back and Get busy being you😊Scarcity equals value 👌 You inspire him to WANT to make the effort. Keep an active social life 👍 hobbies and interests make an interesting person😎
Thank god I found my guy on easy mode. Guys, just filter out bad apples and take no shit from anybody, while being yourself. It helps to get to know a guy as friends, then build from there
I've no problem with anyone building up their self esteem. I've had two long term (20+ years) relationships, and one thing is very clear to me is that both men and women will grow their own strengths over time. A strong man or woman needs no fear of losing their significant other, unless their "other" is changing in a way that is not liked. A quick way of finding whether your relationship is strong or toxic is to announce that you wish to improve your self esteem, and list the changes you want to make. Someone who truly loves you unconditionally will support you on your journey, and may even join you in making changes to themselves. Someone who doesn't support you, and attempts to stop you, is toxic and you should get out of there ASAP.
Omg i am 34 he is 50 And yet i was treated like everything was my fault all the time I mean everytime I caught him flirting with other women.Thanks for your videos i realized my worth.
Make him jealous is advice from his so-called dating coach? Trying to make someone jealous is abusive narcissistic behavior. Why would you want someone you like to feel like you don't really give a shit about them and are willing to hurt them the first chance you get? Please go ahead and explain how that makes any fucking sense at all. How about just showing them your true self? If they like you, great; if they don't, just move on without the manipulation and save your own sense of self-esteem for god sake.
@@michaelfitze7894 A guy tried that on me and it was so obvious, and it was pathetic. I lost all the respect I had for him. I am against the make jealous thing too. But keeping distance doesn't mean make jealous. Distance is necessary, otherwise the person will take you for granted or get bored of you for being in their face 24/7. And some girls actually stay in a guy's face that long. Because of the L word.
Diamind : right. Keeping distance isn't making jealous. Simply staying away from someone is sincerely not manipulative. I don't believe it's reasonable to expect that someone not be bored by my presence if they are in it 24/7. Better to find someone that you can be bored with together and still feel comfortable. I guess I'm against all manipulative behavior.
I am absolutely going to apply this to my relationship and hope for the best. I was wondering if you could possibly do a video on "How to get the man you live with to fear losing you"?? I have gotten into the routine of doing everything for him and changing SO much about myself to accommodate him yet, he couldn't care less about my wants and needs anymore!!?? I lost my "power" completely and I don't know how to get it back!!!???? Please HELP!!!???
Don't waste time with someone who has little to no respect for you and your needs. Why not make him responsible for himself. You're not married, don't be afraid to walk away...you are worth far more than what you're being given. You are not responsible for him. Set boundaries and hold on to them. Respect yourself..
I Love this 🙌🙌 although ain’t the shadow self the parts of himself he isn’t conscious about? Usually the bad parts! But I catch your drift, and it’s good! Although once you get them and you’re married to them, they usually revert back to making it all about them. So I’d just bag yourself a healthy guy who knows what’s right for him and goes for it in the first place. One who see’s your worth but also values your insecurities, Otherwise over time, he’ll crush your vibe anyways.
The guy I’m dating.. says we don’t need titles .. pulls away .. then messages me how come I don’t contact “my man”.. excuse me since when ? True story happened the day before yesterday. He pulled away again. I still didn’t contact him.
Jojoangel1205 that guy is very entitled, i know one guy who says “ you’re too busy you did not text me” 😳 like what?? Why should i? .. this guy is trying to imply that he got what you are looking in a man, And he’s so sure you you really liked him. I deleted his # rightaway worse was he’s not even my type at all! Jesus.
He needed an ego boost and thought you would tell him how great he is. If he really wanted to be your man, he would pick up the phone to hear your voice.
Saw a post: Never chase a man. If you chase him (and get him) he will always be emotionally unavailable and your emotional needs will never be met. Hardest thing in the world for me to do, personally. I definitely have a bold personality, and have to work at toning myself down. Great advice!
Could you touch on Performance Anxiety? A truly great guy experienced this with me and cut things off. I know for certain we checked each other's boxes....he said so as he said he was just in a "bad head space." SO SAD for what could have been.
Any suggestions as to how to manage this in our current situation with most states being on lockdown? A video about how to date amidst all of this would be interesting to see.
I have considered doing one! So I think all the advice in the video applies even during this quarantine. Obviously your social life is going to look different, but you can still fill your time up with a lot of meaningful things. You can exercise, Skype with friends and family, read self-help books, learn something new like how to bake or a new language. And you can keep options open! Now is a great time to swipe on the apps because everyone is home and bored and focused. It all just comes down to loving yourself and filling yourself up with a lot of different things. Hope your'e staying safe and healthy!
He's text. Answer after two hours. Say you were watching a real good film. Didn't hear the phone. He calls...answer. Then hang up in the middle of the conversation. Let him call you back. Say.. I don't know what happened. 😉
One thing is very true. A man wl lose interest in a woman who is too needy. Who makes him to be 100% sure that she can't live without him. That's when a man wl start taking u for granted. And mind u, it hurts alot wen he ignores u. But learn to back off for a while. Learn not to text Al the time. Learn to be silent sometimes. Don't be an open book for him always. Let him adventure yo life. He should not guess what u r going to say next, eat, or gona do the next minute. Dats being too much. Leave him to want to know you. Let him have questions in his mind. Don't give him straight answers all the time. Like, do u know honie, I hv never loved any man like you!!! Or Do u know something hnie, Yo de only man dat has satsifies mi in every area of life, and if we ever break up, I wl never fall in love again!!! Never ever pour all yoself to a man. He wl eventually look for someone else, coz he knows yo very much available for him and theriz nothing to fight for in u. He can get u whenever he wants.
Mind games are manipulation, in stead of promoting good communication you're promoting passive behaviors with a desired outcome, not a fan, in fact its this type of behavior which I know a lot of guys really don't like that a lot of women think will be the way to go.
These ideas are good. Women should be confident and independent whilst in a relationship, and men love that. Thank you, Sabrina! However, there are times when these just wouldn't apply to all men. Some men would think that these are mind games, and instead of chasing, would just leave. It's helpful to understand your man's personality best, to know how he'd fall for you deeper.
You are right but first let's try to know what's wrong with him at that moment. He could be on depression or anxiety so try to know his reason for not replying or or showing commitment first then if no good reason add value to your self giving him a break. His next action will explain his mind about u.
@Suada Chuna it just doesn't feel like you're an adult. Judging by the way you type. Of course, English might not be you're first language. Still, it doesn't seem like you're an adult
Thank you for this information 🙏 The most things I do already. But he is insecure .he knows that i am the one . I have a soul connection with him since November 2008 Unconscious. Since 2021 concious . We were very much in love but didn't do anything. Because I was not divorced yet ,I thought. And no house yet . So I suffered a lot . But it was him a the time . I have exceptie that he is far a numerous people. It is his experience. Sometimes I feel him doing it . I know we are meant to be for each other ! It is just a matter of time. And in the meantime I am doing my things . Thank you for the support 🙏 so grateful! Love Diana Holland
We started dating in July 2020. He is a gentle man and very respectful towsrds me but suddenly i have noticed that he does not respondto my text messages and also if he does than in short and quick way. Does not bother to call me like before. Many thoughts have run into my head but now will just keep my distance.
@@nailabashir8543 lemme make 10 reasons why he is not calling you 1. Bad internet connection 2. No internet connection 3. He does not want to talk 4. He’s in the midst of work 5. He’s spending time with someone he loves (family) and doesn’t want ya to interrupt him 6. He’s an introvert 7. He’s going to a funeral 8. He’s going to somewhere to buy ya something 9. He is calling someone else 10. He lost/broke his damn phone Extra reason: His phone ran out of n battery
Love you so much , you helped me so much I was becoming someone that I’m not in my relationship, you made me realize that it wasn’t me and that I wasn’t truly happy ! I was just afraid of loosing him . THANK YOU
Only us in distance relationship will find it hard to do any of this . But I tried for 3days without texting or calling him he text the 4 day with bae what have you been up to And he began to text back then I thought everything was alright then I started texting him then he became so comfortable so I told myself I have to do this again it's really hard
I cancelled my dating apps because I got fed up of the dirt bags that contacted me, not because I've met someone. I do really like this guy but I've pulled back because hes waaaaaay too busy to put enough in to the connection. He knows where I am, if he wants me , if he doesnt I'm ok with myself. I'm not actively looking because I dont have the energy too
Thank you for your insights! A little suggestion is to increase the font size of the sayings that pop up throughout the video. Since several are watching from their phone it’s too small to see. Thank you again 🙏
Ur amazing Sabrina it’s so true what your saying and the way u say everything is so clear and so shaking up 👌 ! Thank you for the golden advises ! So how do u react and apply this for long distant relation ?
I usually loves your videos. But if I would make him think that he might loose me, he would be sad and give up, since he has asperger and his biggest fear is to have a relation that could end.
Sabrine!please give some hints for COVID time!!! He knows that I can’t go out with other friends due to restriction!!! It’s also obvious that I can’t always to keep that busy alone at home!!!😅 reading book! Write book! Doing errands e cleaning home .,,, what to say to keep that amazing life during COVID?!
How to make a man miss me and excited to see me. Now we are getting married soon but i feel like he just waiting the wedding but dont make effort to have great relationship
Shadow concept is to be the unknown dark side of the personality so no one would really want to show it to the other person, especially not to the potential partner. Also, person rarely knows how to recognize it in themselves. I do agree with the essence comment though...
I can answer that. I understand why you really want to do those things trying to keep that man interested. I heard so many girls are being dumped by caring too much, so they try this things. But it's such a blunder to attract nice guys that is trully caring and good guys that is emotionally available bcz those things are similar trait of abusive girl they met in the past. Unless they understand what might u have gone thru, they will ask why you do those abusive things for them. Here's my advice, the right guy knows how to work on the relationship together as a team.
So you want the man to feel intimacy, that’s not good. Imagine if someone did this to you, would you like that? It’s just like you want to let them know that they’re worthless
This popped up in my recommended, I'm a straight dude, RUclips is high today, well it is 4-20 so I guess it makes sense, unless my mom was watching this....
Keep watching her videos. Learn the stuff they do to draw you in. These tactics are similar to what dudes do, too. I’m a dude. I just look at these vids to be prepared. My rotation stays healthy due more to her videos then male-driven dating advice channels. Everyone’s trying to run game. Just make your moves and hope the target reciprocates. If they don’t, on to the next one.
it's been so long guys from 2002 until now no man who is truly in love with me what can I do with my life and without any who loves you l'm now 36 years old and next year it's 37 without any who will be truly in love with me, is it possible for me to get a man who can love me for the rest of my life
Am I the only one who disagrees with this video? Why make him/her fear you? If they really love you, you don't need to fake anything or make them fear you. I have an amazing girlfriend, and I never tried to make her fear loosing me, neither did she.
Same I don't get why people make a game out of relationships like honey it doesn't make you an interdependent woman to make someone fear losing you just because you have your own fears of losing them
It isn't fear, but it is being assertive so that the woman doesn't waste more time on a bastard who is playing her and taking her for granted. So that she can swiftly nip it in the bud, and move on.
@@Ashley-sh7yt You are assertive, when you don't assume the person automatically has good intentions, and you act according to that. Meaning, you acting as if you are their wifey, when you are a replaceable nobody, is naïve.
@Diamind And how exactly are you automatically supposed to know if they have good intentions or not? I feel like no one would want someone who does stuff like this.
How can you trust someone in a long distance relationship? Assuming your relationship wasn't long distance from the beginning, because if it was, then oh boy.
Hey Sabrina, I would like to get your book " He is not that complicated", but I have failed. Am in Uganda. I saw it online and I really liked it. How can I get it?
I love your video!! Please make a video with ecxampels of what to do and what to say to the man in diffrenets situation, especially at the start of dating.
And if you’re hoping this will be long term/marriage, this cat and muse stuff gets in the way of living real life Tho I do agree with the video that even in a marriage, self care, investing in your own passions etc are impt too. So is genuine trust and connection and making each other top priority. Very tough juggling act (for me, at least)
Hi Sabrina, I'm from India, and my experience of the dating apps here has shown that most of the men on these apps are guilty of ghosting, abuse, toxicity, and whatnot. How do you navigate dating in such an environment? How do you safeguard your mental health and bounce back to dating when you encounter such issues? It's difficult to "keep your options open" this way when you actually find a man who isn't invested in you but who's also a far cry from such men. And the situation has become even worse in the pandemic when people know that everything is shut, so there's no compulsion or obligation to meet up and take things ahead. Do share your thoughts. TIA!
I'm so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me and our kids for another woman. I was so happy to me how he help many people to bring there lover back.,
“don’t pretend to be busy, be busy” I haven’t replied to him for like 2 hours cause I was busy watching your videos lmao
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Facts 😂😂
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😂😂🤸🤺same here but can we have an update please did u break up with him?
Girls, find yourself a man who IS AFRAID OF LOSING YOU, don’t waste your time on men who aren’t. I give my bf maximum attention and he gives me his maximum, but my ex didn’t. Best lesson I’ve learned
Yes there is a lot of idiots out there....
So true
Ur right baby gal
@BeautyQueen2023X thanks, you deserve the best!❤️
1- Keep your options open
2-Leave him wanting more
3-Have an active social life
4-Use your walking power
5-Have a high self worth
6-Have boundaries
7-Prioritize yourself
8-Connect to who he really is
The bitch schedule
Thnks yo ! 😀👍
Thanks!
Great
Thank you
Basically, the point of all this is, "Don't care too much about a man... Make believe that he doesn't exist."
You are right
No honey.
The point is: Make sure that he knows if he wants you, he should also work on a relationship and make the effort.
Hahauauhahahah exactly!
Exactly
Ikr, like bruh-
So true , after six years of dating. I’m not going to instantly text back or state what I’m doing . Going to build up my social life .
Darling. After six years...Get a ring on it!!
Six years 😳 waiting and hoping is six years too many imo 👎Time for a fresh start
New Beginnings😎😘
Gd gurll
Six years?!?! Hmm
Omg I’ve been with mine for over 4 1/2 years.... and still nothing ... please tell me how your experiment works out...
If I text a guy and he always take hours to reply, I'll just drop him. It means he's not keen.
MsSexyAngel29 that’s true..
When they Really like you. You text. They call.
@@CrystalDatingCoach true true
I’m a guy if I am into a girl I answer nearly as soon as I see the message. I might not see the message for half an hour or an hour if I am busy. Otherwise I answer pretty much straight back. I want to get to know the girl.
Paul Rutherford this usually in the very early stage. But when you both know and liked each other or if you know she’s interested in you, you will start to reply late. Hahah
As for the first tip, when I was a week into dating my current boyfriend of a year and a half, one night I told him I couldn't hang out because another guy I met asked me to come with him to a concert (which was true), and literally the second I said that he asked if we could be exclusive 😂
Wh@tzpp for he'lp + 1 9 7 2 5 3 4 8 3 9 9
Damn that’s what I’m talking about!!
*Making someone fear losing you isn't about playing games; it's about having self-respect and setting healthy boundaries. Thanks for sharing these valuable insights!*
its hard when u are in love with someone to just walk away when 2 days ago they were in love with you aswell :/
It's amazing to note that the dating advice for women is identical to that for men. I am a man and I have seen this video out of pure curiosity. Male dating coaches say exactly the same things to men. Women and men are really very similar and this is very tender. Congratulations for the brilliant video and greetings from Italy.
No they just copycat for what male side does smh
Because they are Turning women into men don't you see it
@@shaftofwisdom You’re so sad I guess you’re not happy when we refuse to be your doormat 😂😂
Whenever I doubt my worth and lose my confidence, I watch one of your videos. I can say you save my life every time I fall ❤️ thank you for being such an amazing person 🥰
Really want to get busy and be with friends. But covid wont let me 😂
Ikr. Lol. 😆
Hang in there ! It WILL get better !
Excellent advice! Always see the relationship for what it is and not for what you build in your head of it.
Wh@tzpp for he'lp + 1 9 7 2 5 3 4 8 3 9 9
Unfortunately that what I do I build the relationship in my head the way I want it to be and not the way it is, I'm learning but the very hard way.
Gonna write notes here.
1. Keep your options open.
2. Keep him wanting more.
Don't say yes all the time.
3. Have an active social life.
4. Use your walking power. ( a belief that you can walk away anytime in the rel) 5. Be a high value woman. Be confident. (stop being too needy and jealous of everyone)
6. Have boundaries (u can say no also)
7. Prioritize yourself (dont think that it's all about him, but also you) 8. Connect to who he truly is (who he truly is. Not what he shows others, he will become addicted to u)
OMG this really hit home for me!! This is the second go around with us n I really do need to stop being so available to him....I will drop everything to rush over n spend time with him when he asks n sometimes when he doesn't ask to hang out I am BEGGING to come see him WTF REALLY TRISH!!!
im a man and just started looking at some of these dating vids for women after months of consuming info from male dating coaches and have to say if this advice is similar to what most other female dating coaches are offering then nobody is getting into any kind of relationship lol.
my bet is that even though women listen to this advice, in the end they cave and play the more feminine role and must exhibit these traits/behaviors to an extent. The not showing too much interest thing is the biggest issue i think. in my experience, if the woman has even the slightest feeling the man is more interested, it turns her off completely. Now, I won't pursue a woman that doesn't meet a certain level of interest in me and shows it. And I would have to behave in a way to make sure she doesnt ever get the idea i like her more than she likes me.
so if both parties are listening to this kind of advice, unless their is the perfect balance of interest on either side, there will forever be drama. haha...sounds about right.
Perfectly said. I scope out dating advice for men pages sometimes, probably for the same reason you came here. Just to see what the other side is being told & suggested to do. I dislike the whole don’t act too interested theory. Though it is what we have to do when dating. I wish it was plain & simple, you like me, I like you. Let’s do this.
@@krystalleigh315 the pretentious act don’t really work. People need to acknowledge that if you start making an idol out of anything it gets taken away from you eventually.
Most of these are good at the beginning of the relationship. But don't want to live my life with somebody and be ready to walk away any minute.
I don’t know..I think I lost and wasted everything because I’ve sent lots of texts that it hurts seeing “seen” and getting no reply. And though he said it’s okay, stop beating yourself up..
I think we won’t never patch up things like there were earlier. I became too needy..he’s not afraid of losing me anymore. And we’ve lost that affection and playful mood..
Thank you for these!! 😄 I really believe it’s what I’ve needed to hear during this season of my life. It’s like God’s talking to me straight through you. 😅❤️ I haven’t really even been in a relationship-just this tortuous mad-style crush/infatuation that has lasted about a year-and-a-half. The whole time I’ve been wrestling with it, and trying to lay it to rest. I’ve gotten some breakthrough in the last few months, and your wisdom in these videos-and the realization that, no, I’m absolutely okay if he never sees my true value, because I have the sense that I’m coming into an understanding of my own true self-worth-these videos have been as water to my parched and weary soul. Seriously. Thank you!!
Thank you so much..I need to hear this.
The guy Im dating really likes me but he has that fear in his mind that he maybe lacking something in him.He dont want to hurt me or see me getting hurt.He was divorced for almost 3 years now.We used to date before he got married but we lost contact bcuz I dont saved his number when I got a new number and phone.Lately we bump to each other again and had dated once.He is so happy when we dated and hang out.I love the respect and honesty he have towards me.He admits that Im special to him.
He is a loner but very successful in his career,smart and organized just like me.He told me he is always there whenever I need him.I think that he isnt ready for a relationship yet so Im not rushing.I keep myself busy and do fun things.I priorities myself and gain more power and self confidence.I am happy being with myself.I really likes him and Im trying to understand him after all we are good friends too.
This actually helped me out too with the guy I'm talking to. Thank you!!
Yes spend time finding out who his Shadow self is!! Deeper connection!
he broke up with me after 5.5 years of relationship....I tried hard to get him back.... But he don't seem to want me.... he wished me best of luck to start a new life....and said he has already started....I didn't reply insist I deactivate my Viber account... At last my all hope fade away... I broke into pieces....But I still love him so much.... I am not contacting him... I am so much hurt.... Even his sorry will not work this time... and now I think it's time to let him go.....
Don't not close your book girl, just turn to a new page, you should not settle for less for you deserve better girl.. Some one out there will priotise you and make you feel loved.
if a guy really likes you then he would approach you regardless to be there in your life, to share the moments and to support you. No matter what people go through in life, a new big love would wash the pain away and make a way for new opportunities. No games needed in real life.
Oh my god, my ex was my first love and first boyfriend.. And i did all the mistakes.. You know, love was new to me and I felt alive with love, it is my passion and I made him my priority.But I don’t know, but i didn’t feel loved and he told me im not his priority and let’s not be committed. I broke up 2 times. And he came back and idiot me accepted him.. The 3rd time i was serious and broke up with him 5 months ago. He contacted me again after 15 days. And he told me let’s be friends. I said no, I don’t want to be friend with you. Now we don’t have contact for 4 months. Of course i miss him, but it is his mistake. He just didn’t love me.
It's not his mistake he didn't love you, you can't force anyone to be in love. I wouldn't call the things in this video right, because I've done the opposite of some, and I ended up with my amazing girlfriend. Again, not his fault.
Ashlynn Blue it is.. He told me “I love you”. He could tell me the truth. And he could not playing with my feelings, and wasting my time. He is 4 years older than me and I wasn’t his first girlfriend. He just had to tell “Yeah, I don’t love you”..
If you’re too available, too accommodating and accepting then you will get taken for granted 😐 possibly get walked on or settle for crumbs. Pull back and Get busy being you😊Scarcity equals value 👌 You inspire him to WANT to make the effort. Keep an active social life 👍 hobbies and interests make an interesting person😎
i definitely have a crumb even he doesn’t care lol 😆
Thanks you make so my sense
Thank god I found my guy on easy mode. Guys, just filter out bad apples and take no shit from anybody, while being yourself. It helps to get to know a guy as friends, then build from there
my boyfriend just paused his game or stopped whatever he does just to text me back right away....😊😊😊 we're in LDR🤗🥰
I've no problem with anyone building up their self esteem.
I've had two long term (20+ years) relationships, and one thing is very clear to me is that both men and women will grow their own strengths over time.
A strong man or woman needs no fear of losing their significant other, unless their "other" is changing in a way that is not liked.
A quick way of finding whether your relationship is strong or toxic is to announce that you wish to improve your self esteem, and list the changes you want to make.
Someone who truly loves you unconditionally will support you on your journey, and may even join you in making changes to themselves.
Someone who doesn't support you, and attempts to stop you, is toxic and you should get out of there ASAP.
Omg i am 34 he is 50
And yet i was treated like everything was my fault all the time I mean everytime
I caught him flirting with other women.Thanks for your videos i realized my worth.
Go and watch 'the girl on the train'
Be mysterious. Less available. Make him jealous...like I saw my ex. He wants to go out. Always works!
Why would anyone want an ex back?
@@DiamondsRexpensive WHY?? YES. IT'S OVER FOR A REASON.
Make him jealous is advice from his so-called dating coach? Trying to make someone jealous is abusive narcissistic behavior. Why would you want someone you like to feel like you don't really give a shit about them and are willing to hurt them the first chance you get? Please go ahead and explain how that makes any fucking sense at all. How about just showing them your true self? If they like you, great; if they don't, just move on without the manipulation and save your own sense of self-esteem for god sake.
@@michaelfitze7894 A guy tried that on me and it was so obvious, and it was pathetic. I lost all the respect I had for him. I am against the make jealous thing too.
But keeping distance doesn't mean make jealous. Distance is necessary, otherwise the person will take you for granted or get bored of you for being in their face 24/7. And some girls actually stay in a guy's face that long. Because of the L word.
Diamind : right. Keeping distance isn't making jealous. Simply staying away from someone is sincerely not manipulative. I don't believe it's reasonable to expect that someone not be bored by my presence if they are in it 24/7. Better to find someone that you can be bored with together and still feel comfortable. I guess I'm against all manipulative behavior.
I am absolutely going to apply this to my relationship and hope for the best. I was wondering if you could possibly do a video on "How to get the man you live with to fear losing you"?? I have gotten into the routine of doing everything for him and changing SO much about myself to accommodate him yet, he couldn't care less about my wants and needs anymore!!?? I lost my "power" completely and I don't know how to get it back!!!???? Please HELP!!!???
Go OUT with your girlfriends...More. Make him a little jealous. Say you'll be back at 8...come back at 9.
Don't waste time with someone who has little to no respect for you and your needs. Why not make him responsible for himself. You're not married, don't be afraid to walk away...you are worth far more than what you're being given.
You are not responsible for him. Set boundaries and hold on to them. Respect yourself..
@@maryfister7278AMEN. Work on yourself.
@@CrystalDatingCoach please expand on your reply.
Alors ?
I Love this 🙌🙌 although ain’t the shadow self the parts of himself he isn’t conscious about? Usually the bad parts! But I catch your drift, and it’s good! Although once you get them and you’re married to them, they usually revert back to making it all about them. So I’d just bag yourself a healthy guy who knows what’s right for him and goes for it in the first place. One who see’s your worth but also values your insecurities, Otherwise over time, he’ll crush your vibe anyways.
agreed
The guy I’m dating.. says we don’t need titles .. pulls away .. then messages me how come I don’t contact “my man”.. excuse me since when ? True story happened the day before yesterday. He pulled away again. I still didn’t contact him.
Jojoangel1205 that guy is very entitled, i know one guy who says “ you’re too busy you did not text me” 😳 like what?? Why should i? .. this guy is trying to imply that he got what you are looking in a man, And he’s so sure you you really liked him. I deleted his # rightaway worse was he’s not even my type at all! Jesus.
Happened to me as well
He’s playing games and probably do this to many girls. Drop him.
Jojoangel1205 why do they pull away and come back pull away and come back ?
He needed an ego boost and thought you would tell him how great he is. If he really wanted to be your man, he would pick up the phone to hear your voice.
Saw a post: Never chase a man. If you chase him (and get him) he will always be emotionally unavailable and your emotional needs will never be met. Hardest thing in the world for me to do, personally. I definitely have a bold personality, and have to work at toning myself down. Great advice!
Could you touch on Performance Anxiety? A truly great guy experienced this with me and cut things off. I know for certain we checked each other's boxes....he said so as he said he was just in a "bad head space." SO SAD for what could have been.
Want to let others know these videos actually are very accurate and do work. She’s great
Got along without him before I met him I will get along without him now. Waited three years and nothing changed. JS
Any suggestions as to how to manage this in our current situation with most states being on lockdown? A video about how to date amidst all of this would be interesting to see.
I have considered doing one! So I think all the advice in the video applies even during this quarantine. Obviously your social life is going to look different, but you can still fill your time up with a lot of meaningful things. You can exercise, Skype with friends and family, read self-help books, learn something new like how to bake or a new language. And you can keep options open! Now is a great time to swipe on the apps because everyone is home and bored and focused. It all just comes down to loving yourself and filling yourself up with a lot of different things. Hope your'e staying safe and healthy!
a new mode... agree. many thNkz
He's text. Answer after two hours. Say you were watching a real good film. Didn't hear the phone. He calls...answer. Then hang up in the middle of the conversation. Let him call you back. Say.. I don't know what happened. 😉
OH MY GOD HER SENTENCES ARE JUST WOAH She must be a genius
You must be styupid
@@adventcoleman1121 says the one who spelt stupid “styupid”
One thing is very true.
A man wl lose interest in a woman who is too needy. Who makes him to be 100% sure that she can't live without him.
That's when a man wl start taking u for granted. And mind u, it hurts alot wen he ignores u.
But learn to back off for a while. Learn not to text Al the time. Learn to be silent sometimes. Don't be an open book for him always. Let him adventure yo life. He should not guess what u r going to say next, eat, or gona do the next minute.
Dats being too much. Leave him to want to know you. Let him have questions in his mind. Don't give him straight answers all the time. Like, do u know honie, I hv never loved any man like you!!! Or Do u know something hnie, Yo de only man dat has satsifies mi in every area of life, and if we ever break up, I wl never fall in love again!!!
Never ever pour all yoself to a man. He wl eventually look for someone else, coz he knows yo very much available for him and theriz nothing to fight for in u. He can get u whenever he wants.
Mind games are manipulation, in stead of promoting good communication you're promoting passive behaviors with a desired outcome, not a fan, in fact its this type of behavior which I know a lot of guys really don't like that a lot of women think will be the way to go.
These ideas are good. Women should be confident and independent whilst in a relationship, and men love that. Thank you, Sabrina! However, there are times when these just wouldn't apply to all men. Some men would think that these are mind games, and instead of chasing, would just leave. It's helpful to understand your man's personality best, to know how he'd fall for you deeper.
This is the first video of yours I’ve seen. Great content & high quality insightful advice! Hugs from Poland
You are right but first let's try to know what's wrong with him at that moment. He could be on depression or anxiety so try to know his reason for not replying or or showing commitment first then if no good reason add value to your self giving him a break. His next action will explain his mind about u.
I wish my mum told me this before i got marrid!!!
Me too 😭
you sure you're not just a 7 year old pretending to be a married adult?
@@Ashley-sh7yt sorry?
@Suada Chuna it just doesn't feel like you're an adult. Judging by the way you type. Of course, English might not be you're first language. Still, it doesn't seem like you're an adult
@@Ashley-sh7yt no, she is not. look at her channel
Thank you for this information 🙏
The most things I do already.
But he is insecure .he knows that i am the one .
I have a soul connection with him since November 2008
Unconscious.
Since 2021 concious .
We were very much in love but didn't do anything.
Because I was not divorced yet ,I thought. And no house yet .
So I suffered a lot .
But it was him a the time .
I have exceptie that he is far a numerous people.
It is his experience.
Sometimes I feel him doing it .
I know we are meant to be for each other !
It is just a matter of time.
And in the meantime I am doing my things .
Thank you for the support 🙏 so grateful!
Love Diana
Holland
This video helped me when my guy and I were new to each other and he was playing with my feelings
Was deing from a hurtbreak lately but I think I'ma gana keep ma heads up high from today, this is the best advise to move with 💔
+2348102997455⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.
Plus I don’t juggle baby. I rather fall back and do me I don’t go from man to man smh.
Walking power! It's me, I didn't know it is rare till I heard this. Thanks for sharing this good tips :).
+2348131563088⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of breakup.,.
We started dating in July 2020. He is a gentle man and very respectful towsrds me but suddenly i have noticed that he does not respondto my text messages and also if he does than in short and quick way. Does not bother to call me like before. Many thoughts have run into my head but now will just keep my distance.
Naila Bashir well what if he’s busy?
@@keimosgd we all are busy but if i can make time to call and ask his well being, how difficult is it for him to do? How much time does it take?
@@nailabashir8543 lemme make 10 reasons why he is not calling you
1. Bad internet connection
2. No internet connection
3. He does not want to talk
4. He’s in the midst of work
5. He’s spending time with someone he loves (family) and doesn’t want ya to interrupt him
6. He’s an introvert
7. He’s going to a funeral
8. He’s going to somewhere to buy ya something
9. He is calling someone else
10. He lost/broke his damn phone
Extra reason:
His phone ran out of n battery
Love you so much , you helped me so much I was becoming someone that I’m not in my relationship, you made me realize that it wasn’t me and that I wasn’t truly happy ! I was just afraid of loosing him . THANK YOU
When he texts you goodnight 💕 text back :she's sleeping bruh lol🤸🤺 turn off your phone and wait 😂🤦
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vicious vee 😂😂😂 I love this
How would you handle this when you live at distance having little time to see each other
Only us in distance relationship will find it hard to do any of this . But I tried for 3days without texting or calling him he text the 4 day with bae what have you been up to
And he began to text back then I thought everything was alright then I started texting him then he became so comfortable so I told myself I have to do this again it's really hard
So sad but i feel you
This is exactly what i needed to hear thanks you much , i loved it.
This is actually the best video I have ever watched on RUclips preach girl 🤝
this video is amazing! only thing is i've realized i do not like him at that much after following this video lmao
Wake up call. Thanks girl
I cancelled my dating apps because I got fed up of the dirt bags that contacted me, not because I've met someone. I do really like this guy but I've pulled back because hes waaaaaay too busy to put enough in to the connection. He knows where I am, if he wants me , if he doesnt I'm ok with myself. I'm not actively looking because I dont have the energy too
Thank you for your insights! A little suggestion is to increase the font size of the sayings that pop up throughout the video. Since several are watching from their phone it’s too small to see. Thank you again 🙏
Noted!
Too bad my relationship was during quarantine so I could not do any of this. Bad timing for sure
Ur amazing Sabrina it’s so true what your saying and the way u say everything is so clear and so shaking up 👌 ! Thank you for the golden advises ! So how do u react and apply this for long distant relation ?
Excellent advice, as always. Thanks, Sabrina!
Thank you!
Very true!!! I’m not free to see my guy every day and I keep things interesting on dates
I usually loves your videos.
But if I would make him think that he might loose me, he would be sad and give up, since he has asperger and his biggest fear is to have a relation that could end.
Here I am thinking I’m being too much but this is really me
Im binging your videos as crazy 🤣🤣 loving it!
Sabrine!please give some hints for COVID time!!! He knows that I can’t go out with other friends due to restriction!!! It’s also obvious that I can’t always to keep that busy alone at home!!!😅 reading book! Write book! Doing errands e cleaning home .,,, what to say to keep that amazing life during COVID?!
How to make a man miss me and excited to see me. Now we are getting married soon but i feel like he just waiting the wedding but dont make effort to have great relationship
Perfect time for this message ❤️ Thank you 🙏🏼
You've opened my eyes
Thanks so much for uploading this ❤️
Everything u said was so touching thank u for ur advise.. We should all be strong independent women
I agree with you. Love your videos and email! Thank you so much 🥰😘
You're welcome!
Shadow concept is to be the unknown dark side of the personality so no one would really want to show it to the other person, especially not to the potential partner. Also, person rarely knows how to recognize it in themselves. I do agree with the essence comment though...
You have shared with me so much!! Everything you have said has worked!!! Thank you
This video is amazing. I'm going to take this on board. Thank you xxx 💝
Can’t wait for the next video !! 💓
Thankyou Sabrina !!
On point! In a LDR so I make time to get texts but I do realize I just might be making it too much about him! Great advice:) ty
Its funny if the guy is busy, has an active social life, and they both are doing what she says..
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Very tough to follow the first few suggestions if he is in the military.
New Subby here! Love this! Short Sweet and straightforward!
I've done these and the man really walk away and just see me from afar if we meet by accident.. why
I can answer that. I understand why you really want to do those things trying to keep that man interested. I heard so many girls are being dumped by caring too much, so they try this things. But it's such a blunder to attract nice guys that is trully caring and good guys that is emotionally available bcz those things are similar trait of abusive girl they met in the past. Unless they understand what might u have gone thru, they will ask why you do those abusive things for them. Here's my advice, the right guy knows how to work on the relationship together as a team.
Very tru about boundaries ! boundaries are things the guy shouldn’t do or cross over ! Do they include also things that he should do ??
This was so helpful... to understand some critical psychological traits that lower us down...!
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So you want the man to feel intimacy, that’s not good. Imagine if someone did this to you, would you like that? It’s just like you want to let them know that they’re worthless
This popped up in my recommended, I'm a straight dude, RUclips is high today, well it is 4-20 so I guess it makes sense, unless my mom was watching this....
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Keep watching her videos. Learn the stuff they do to draw you in. These tactics are similar to what dudes do, too. I’m a dude. I just look at these vids to be prepared. My rotation stays healthy due more to her videos then male-driven dating advice channels. Everyone’s trying to run game. Just make your moves and hope the target reciprocates. If they don’t, on to the next one.
@@celestes8437 I have plenty of years left I think I'm ok
i needed to hear these words
it's been so long guys from 2002 until now no man who is truly in love with me what can I do with my life and without any who loves you l'm now 36 years old and next year it's 37 without any who will be truly in love with me, is it possible for me to get a man who can love me for the rest of my life
A helpful video thank you i got an idea no wonder why my boyfriebs afraid so much in losing me.once again thank you
Am I the only one who disagrees with this video? Why make him/her fear you? If they really love you, you don't need to fake anything or make them fear you. I have an amazing girlfriend, and I never tried to make her fear loosing me, neither did she.
Same I don't get why people make a game out of relationships like honey it doesn't make you an interdependent woman to make someone fear losing you just because you have your own fears of losing them
It isn't fear, but it is being assertive so that the woman doesn't waste more time on a bastard who is playing her and taking her for granted.
So that she can swiftly nip it in the bud, and move on.
@Diamind If you put up a fake act like that, he/she will never get to know you. I don't really think this is being "assertive".
@@Ashley-sh7yt You are assertive, when you don't assume the person automatically has good intentions, and you act according to that. Meaning, you acting as if you are their wifey, when you are a replaceable nobody, is naïve.
@Diamind And how exactly are you automatically supposed to know if they have good intentions or not? I feel like no one would want someone who does stuff like this.
This was really good advice and counsel, however, how do women that are already married do this?
Can you apply this on a long distant relation ? Please advise
How can you trust someone in a long distance relationship? Assuming your relationship wasn't long distance from the beginning, because if it was, then oh boy.
What about if you have been living together for 17 years
Ignore him a lot.
Lots of very useful information. Thank you so much, Sabrina.
Hey Sabrina, I would like to get your book " He is not that complicated", but I have failed. Am in Uganda. I saw it online and I really liked it. How can I get it?
Great advice! Thank you Happy Holidays
Thank you! My questions have been answered! ♥️♥️♥️
I love your video!! Please make a video with ecxampels of what to do and what to say to the man in diffrenets situation, especially at the start of dating.
I love this! Thankful. I couldn't have agreed more with your great advice. I've watched many videos and yours was on-spot.
So glad!
Women at times do some silly things for men to chase them, not all men have time for those drama.
Just be real and work as a team
True, this all seems manipulative, it might all end up backfiring if you do some of the things she says
And if you’re hoping this will be long term/marriage, this cat and muse stuff gets in the way of living real life Tho I do agree with the video that even in a marriage, self care, investing in your own passions etc are impt too. So is genuine trust and connection and making each other top priority. Very tough juggling act (for me, at least)
Hi Sabrina, I'm from India, and my experience of the dating apps here has shown that most of the men on these apps are guilty of ghosting, abuse, toxicity, and whatnot. How do you navigate dating in such an environment? How do you safeguard your mental health and bounce back to dating when you encounter such issues? It's difficult to "keep your options open" this way when you actually find a man who isn't invested in you but who's also a far cry from such men. And the situation has become even worse in the pandemic when people know that everything is shut, so there's no compulsion or obligation to meet up and take things ahead. Do share your thoughts. TIA!
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I'm so excited my broken marriage has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me and our kids for another woman. I was so happy to me how he help many people to bring there lover back.,