The person who loves you truly never create space ... Just focus on yourself rather than waiting for someone who wants space... Enjoy your own life ...date yourself and move on ... You will meet someone who value your presence ... Believe me.
Try not to look at it as the minimum. Its normal for things to slow down after the cupcake phase. When things slow down just match his effort and be warm and ready to recieve.
Yep, it's happened to me every time. Relationships take work...many people relax over time and that is when some cracks appear. Men stop chasing, women react. Then they wonder why things are the same. pfft.
@@shorooq22 Man change suddenly. I just don’t get it. They just take decisions suddenly . How things can change on their mind all of a sudden . Don’t we know the habit law ?? A long time habit is like a drug . We woman get attached more with time but why do they get irritated with time ?
1. Don’t chase after him 2. Don’t call and text or win him over 3. Don’t obsess over it 4. It has very little to do with me in my situation 5.don’t be a ball of anxiety don’t engage 6. You’re in control of your own mind 7. Do not bag plead or threaten 8. Don’t text him and ask how long 9. Just back off 1. Get fears under control 2. Fear of loss 3. Feelings of being unworthy you need to stop. 4. You will be okay 5. No man wants to feel like you need him! He will pull away 6. Just give him his space! They need to think things though before talking things through. 7. Space is a good thing in a relationship 8. Focus on you. Not the relationship 9. He is having a family crisis 10. He is struggling RESPECT WHAT HE NEEDS! Be a little selfish
@@lyde.official hi. I told him our situation is suffocating us and we really need to take a little time to make ourselves calm and think about things. I made no contact but he's always the one who reaches out first. If he trully loves you, he will.
It 1000% works!! Just let him go, don’t text, don’t call, don’t pop up and he will miss u like crazy. It’s scary, it hurts, but it’s worth it. He normally comes back saying I love you🥰
It is countertuitive to us women, when he pulls away and you do absolutely nothing (no texting, phone calls). It works like magic for me too, when he comes back I get showered with the most deep love, he plans every little details of the dates and follows through which I appreciate so much, the I love you, you are special to me text etc. I must say it was scary at first for me but through learning and practicing I couldnt be happier that I was open to learning the process.
By the time he decides to come back I’ll probably be married with kids 🤣.. he can have all the space that he wants I gave up on him. Men are too complicated
I need to remember this. My long-term partner has asked for space. He runs his own business with 90% doing it all on his own. He has been feeling at rock bottom mentally for a while now. He feels empty inside about everything and also how he feels, especially about me. I know deep down he loves me, only over a wk ago he showed it during Xmas. I think he has depression I have asked him to seek professional help. He is a guy of 64, not a young man so I need him to get his life on track. I have been through hardship in life and he knows. I will give him the space he needs no matter how painful.
As a man I can tell you this. He pulls away because 1: You are too much (emotional/energy vanpire) 2: There is someone else 3: He lost interest (AKA there's someone else) 4: He's not ready to handle you (avoidant reaction) 5: Although rare, he could value you too much to mess you up because he knows he's toxic
He said that things get messed up and he doesnot want to worrying me about it he will fix it and gonna meet and talk about it ( he took Space a week almost now)
Mine was the last case, he said he wanted to work on himself for many years and it seemed to me he was having anxiety. Then after a week he came back saying he didn't feel the same, because I tried to understand him pulling away.
*Don't* 1. Do not chase after him. 2. Don't obsesses over it. 3. Do not begged and threatened. *Does* 1. Get your fear under control. 2. Just give him space. 3. Focus on yourself.
What you shouldn’t do: 1. Do not chase after him - no calls, no texts 2. Do not obsess - don’t replay your last interaction with him 3. Do not beg or threaten - let him know you’re there for him What you should do: 1. Get your fears under control - no matter what happens, I will be ok 2. Just give him space - men rather think things through instead of talking 3. Focus on myself - indulge in self care
Sooo true....mine says I need to see a therapist before we continue seeing each other...lol....I’m not giving you no space Bruh sorry!! After 5 yrs of relationship you think I’m crazy now..BS
"It's so important to ... work on those feelings of self-worth within yourself that is independent of being in a relationship." YES. YES YES YES to ALL of THAT!!
I feel like you are my therapist talking directly to all my concerns lol. I can't express how meaningful and powerful your content is. You are a blessing to women everywhere for knowledge and self help. Thank you so much for your content. I will continue to support you for all your valuable knowledge!
@@PrettycupcakesgemAJ There is no specified time on hw long you should wait. But it's gonna be a long time for him to reach out to you. Bottom line is, don't reach out at all. If you do, it will make you seem very desperate. Wait for him to reach out to you, it may be a while.
I broke up with my boyfriend 3weeks ago and I was dying inside cause l loved him so much, l was in denial but after watching this l can simply say l am relieved and am ready to let him go.
I needed to watch this video so much!! My BF of the last year just asked us to “cool off” and have some space. I love and adore him and he 100% knows that. I am doing everything you talked about here and I needed to hear that I’m handling this the right way. I’m missing him daily but I’m focused on myself right now and that feels good.
Grown woman thinking 👏🏽 Everytime things slow down a bit women get insecure and start letting their imagination run away with them. Projecting your insecurities on a your partner is such a turn off. Life is always in session. You are not your partners who world. As someone who just finished my RN program there were days I didn't have the time to talk on the phone for hours and text all day amd my woman understood that. She didn't get insecure or excuse me of foolishness. There were days when I studied 12 hours! . She was my peace and support at such a stressful time in my life.
When my ex asked for space it was really because he was dating someone else and was too scared to break up with me, so in my case my thoughts were justified. It's not always because he needs time to deal with things. In my opinion, stress is a part of life and if you need a break from someone you love just because you're stressed, instead of opening up to them and letting them be there for you, you aren't ready for a relationship. Yeah they might not want to talk nonstop about it, but they should still be able to be around you. Once you're married, is a guy going to leave and ignore you whenever he's stressed because he "needs space"? That's why I don't think space can ever be a good thing. Even early on during dating, as you say if he wants you he will make it obvious and make the time and not make you question anything. So regardless of what point you're in the relationship, I don't see how it can be viewed as good.
This is exactly what I told my recent ex. He went from one day not being able to not see me to the next, needing space. I told him he would never be able to get married or have anything serious if he was constantly stressed over needing time to himself. He also complained that the relationship was too routine. Again, not something that you can avoid in marriage either. Ironically, he did this once before and came back but I can’t go through it again
When they say "I need some space", they actually mean "I want to search for another girl, because I don't want you" If they add "we might meet again", they mean "I will keep your number in case I am too lonely and desperate"
So I just got done crying and found the strength to leave the bathroom. I knew the next thing I needed to do was watch you. I am a new subscriber and you just made it all so peaceful for my aching heart. After 3 months of dating, he has come to the conclusion that he doesn’t want a gf. That the more time we spent time together, the more he doesn’t see me in his future. It’s hard to accept that I am no longer going to see him anymore. I was falling for this guy. He felt guilty always cancelling on me because he has so much in his hands prioritizing his new company. Plus he isn’t making income from it yet so that’s another thing and he mentioned that his employees are revolting against his company; he has a lot on his mind right now so the last thing he needs is a gf. I get it. He wants his space. So I will wholeheartedly give him that. But once everything stabilizes and if he decides to come back to me, I’m not so sure if I’d want him back again. Thank you for this video! This is helping me during the space he needs. And I’ll be ok. I was happy before I met him. I know I will be happy after meeting him. ❤️
Thank you. This reminds that self love is so important!! Be gracious, be kind and respectful. Be your best self and it will work if you both want it to.
Since following Sabrina and Eric on A New Mode, I have become the QUEEN of giving a guy space. It really works. Also, I have learned that I too need space. Love their videos and advice. They are the best. Thank you Sabrina/Eric for all your knowledge and advice.
Every video of yours I have watched...SPOT ON! You don't just tell the facts, you describe how and why it is, what to do and how to do it, what you'll feel before, during and after. You are always motivational and uplifting for your listeners (anyone for that matter) to be the best they can be and focus on themselves and take care of themselves and that things will fall in place. You have helped me immensely and opened my eyes to a lot and helped me be a better me. Thanks girl!
I don't have time to waste or play games, I am going on with my life. Who has time to waste when a man is not completely invested in the relationship (no one).
He ended it 3 days ago, said I’m in his heart, and he doesn’t want to date anyone else, has too much going on in his life and it’s all too much. He’s upset he can’t give me what I need right now and that I haven’t lost him. I’m trusting his words... but In my head I have to think I’m single and try and move on, what if he does come back, brilliant... otherwise I’m okay. X
@@LindsaySolo turned out he was living with his ex again and hadn’t told me... that was the end of that.... he’s been in touch since, but I can’t trust a liar 🤥 x
Ok. Here is the whole thing: he needs space more then he needs you. So... Please, go live your perfect life and stop thinking about what is HE thinking about or what HE needs. He doesn't need you in the first place. Stop. Go, find YOUR man. You deserve better. ❤️
Never wait on a man. Ask him how he feels about you and the relationship and open up too but always keep your boundaries in mind. If he finds it "too hard" to answer, then say BOY BYE :) tell him you deserve someone who is mature and emotionally intelligent and available to communicate with you 🥰
Actually I watched a video which presents 3 ways to stop a relationship: 1. Criticize constantly instead of trying to understand 2.Ignore the other person or interrupt them talking about your things 3. Remain silent until they leave you... Silence is bad
I'm so glad I found this video ☺️ It helps a lot as this is what I am going through right now. It gives me positive vibes! Thanks! More power and God bless ☺️
WOOOW i wish i saw this a few days ago where i felt like i was emotionally dying :"D i am now seeing the good things that come out of this space, like i can save money on gas AND choreograph and record dances that i have been working on for awhile now. thank you so much for saving me
I can relate. I am a highly sensitive person and I am in a relationship with a man who does not talk much. Sometimes I do not know what to think and ready to call it quits.
This is the 3rd time he desapears and says he cant be in a relationship and that he feels bad and that he has problems with relationships and not with me. First 2 times when he desapeared i wanted to talk but he pushed me away. After that I desapeared, no contact no nothing and then he shows up and wants to talk and be with me. And now again he feels bad and leaves. We are bouth in our 30s and now when we should move forward in our relationship, he does this. Why is he doing this and what should I do and think? Help 🙄
You give [ really good advice ] thank you. ..but your background tunes is so overpowering, it was distracting me the entire time. Please reconsider. Thanks.
Yeah let him sniff around when he find aut u let him his freedom and when he come back home ..don't ask stupid questions..first u don't know it's true so better just let it go and take him in ur arms .give him Unconditional love like a animal u get what u give ...no stress ..just love ...and be happy he is back in ur arms...so simple..but people make life so complicated...like they live forever ...all is temperary ..you and me too ..enjoy the moment ...then nobody know s when the last moment will come ...be happy 😎😻💖
Ive just listened to this, im going through this now and your advice is invaluable to me. I will listen to this over and over. Im giving him space. If he messages I answer. The only thing I do is say goodnight and he answers. Thankyou x
I just love you, it’s helped me a lot, I been so miserable am still trying to build my self back I do have self esteem issues and attachment issues due to my child hood issues...
Very timely information ℹ️ I appreciate it. I’ve been going through this with various male friends I’ve had. I used to get upset 😢 when they withdrew from initiating calls, texts and meeting up. I’d make the mistake of hounding them down texting and asking if they were ok. When I leaned back and went into silence for a period of time is when I began hearing from them again. It makes proper sense
Thank you! Love your videos, I can totally relate with this one in particular. Could you please talk about long distance relationships and how to deal with it? It's been 8 months without seeing each other and because of the virus it will probably be longer.
This was good! Very good. Current situation so this was a great reminder not to take things personal nor create stories in my mind that are fear based. Thanks.
I dated a guy - and he's the one who wanted to talk every single dingle day. If not even more. I tried to slow it down- and he said he would find someone else. Whaaaa ? So back to nonstop talking..and about 5 months later, it just burned out. No mystery, no intrigue, etc. And I KNEW it would happen. Long story short; it didn't end there..it just went on n on - out of habit I guess. So I know what it's like when someone won't give it a rest. It's Boring.
You got tired of him talking all the time. And ended it. ? Was it on the phone ? And when you say it went on and on , so you dumped him ? You think he would want to be with you instead of just talking to you.
Everything in life needs a strategy nothing at this age can go spontaneous, Life pressures are tremendous and then givens and varieties are at the tip of both men and women fingers. So as Esther Petel has mentioned “ Desire is rooted in absence and in longing as well as it is in heaving.” So treat him as an equal and have this real believe that you are both in this game together and that he should seek your loyalty as well.
Thank you so much! Your right it’s time to focus on me. He’s stoped responding to my texts about a week ago so I cut back to just saying good morning and good night and still no response. He’s been away for work so I’m just going to stop & let it go for now. I’m worried that he’ll think I don’t care but for my mental well being you’re right it’s time to stop obsessing and focus on me!
Its been 5 months now. How are things going? I think it was a good thing for you to back all the way up. When someone doesnt reply to you (usually their phone isnt broken), they're making a choice. It hurts, but its their right to make that choice, just as it is your right when you want to move on from someone. In the end, hopefully you have focused on fulfulling yourself and your goals so you are an even better version of the awesome person you've always been! Do some self- healing if necessary. Many of us carry background baggage that causes us to cling to folks after they have made it clear that they aren't committed. Perhaps 'abandonment issues' of some sort or something else. But the sooner we address background stuff, the better. Anyways, I wish you the best.
I am so much guilty with every word you said. It gave me so much chills and made me teary eyed. I am so thankful i've stumbbled upon your video. Thanks sooo much! You helped me a lot with I am going through right now. 🙏
Now the only question i have is, i know he needs space but hes not telling me about it all (tho some of his actions says differently) since he still message me from time to time (we're on LDR) and i dunno how i woyld give him the space without actually asking him if he wants space.
LET THEM GO,IF A MAN WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU KEEP THEM; BUT IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE KEPT ITS THEIR LOST NOT YOUR..ITS A BLESSING FOR YOU😅😂❤
I love this! The problem is that they act like asses when they need space instead of just saying, "Hey babe, I need some space." The other important thing is if something goes wrong, like you're stranded on the side of the road, they need to GTFO their hypersensitive ninny feelings and answer the damn phone.
It absolutely can! In fact I've gotten a lot of feedback from people in same-sex relationships that this advice has helped them a lot. Every person has "masculine" and "feminine" energies, and this isn't determined by gender and that's what creates a relationship dynamic.
@@pavi9312, IT CANNOT BE TACKLED, BEST THING TO DO IS TO LET HIM GO AND BOTH OF YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFES IT IS VERY HARD TO MAINTAIN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
You make so much sense! I didn't realize I could be such a toxic girlfriend lol 🙈 thank you for your videos!! I plan to keep watching and learning to make my life better!! Much love!! ❤️
This is hard to do but ut defo works... u just have to hide your pain from him & focus in yourself .... things turn around because u will be more relaxed and attractive to him, u may even attract someone better so keep your options open , unless tge space doent mean a break up
This is exactly what's going on with me and my guy.....he needs space and I'm headed to Insanity ville....trying to keep him interested in me etc. You make so much sense and I need to remember all of your words!! Thank you 😊💓
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 well we have seen each other a few times, the heartbreaking thing is he accidentally messaged me instead of someone else an hour ago saying "thanks for lunch :)))" I messaged him "wrong person " he tried to make out it was his roommate, i just said "it's ok...I get it" and I do get it now..he's obviously just wanting to play the field 😔 sooo upset though....when you have this amazing connection but it's not reciprocated or seen as special....major sadness 😪
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 uggg I'm sorry to hear this....mine also said that text was meant for his roommate and not a woman but idk...try to stay positive...i know it's hard..I'm having a very down day myself...sending you hugs 🤗
It worked but when he wanted to comeback it backfired on him, I never wanted him back, he started stalking and chasing me until I saw him as vulnerable and I was very much turned off. I watched him emotionally hurted but I never took him back. That’s one thing he regretted in life, we’re friends today but that’s about it. He have to watch a next man love on me 😁
sometimes guys need space when they are going through things like my man hasn’t been the same since his friend has passed away from suicide. mind you this is his like third friend this year that he has lost. so he has been depressed and has been drinking and smoking his life away.. and I’m so worried and concerned about him. but I’m truly going to give him the space he needs to heal from the grief.
These are the things that we never learned in our formal (school/ university) or informal education (from our parents). Learning love skill is as important as learning how to cure the Coronavirus ❤️
I appreciate your advise. All your points were excellent and exactly this is how most girls do and they don't know what's wrong in it. Thanks for this video
Even me I need space also because I Am masculine according to my sign- So I understand men if they really need space bec they need to rise up and focus.
I’m so happy I came across your video…..it’s really helped me ….I’ve done nearly everything I shouldn’t do……I will save this video to remind me when I start overthinking…..thank you
I have social anxiety and I really like this girl I’ve been texting and seeing for a while. I don’t want her to think I'm not interested in her and she's been giving me obvious signs that she's interested in me. So I got to find a way to break outta this shell and tell her how I really feel. I felt like I messed up even though she reassured me with a kiss on the cheek
The person who loves you truly never create space ... Just focus on yourself rather than waiting for someone who wants space... Enjoy your own life ...date yourself and move on ... You will meet someone who value your presence ... Believe me.
I 100% Agree with You!
I agree entirely!
Out of sight out of mind! Whatever? Ho hum!
💯true to that
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The problem is that they are so warm when they just met you and as time passes they start to give the minimum, gives me anxiety every time ugh.
Try not to look at it as the minimum. Its normal for things to slow down after the cupcake phase. When things slow down just match his effort and be warm and ready to recieve.
@@NaturallyHERS That's what I'm doing at the moment and slowly adjusting, will see how it turns out.
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Yep, it's happened to me every time. Relationships take work...many people relax over time and that is when some cracks appear. Men stop chasing, women react. Then they wonder why things are the same. pfft.
Life is hard enough without your partner looking elsewhere or taking you for granted.
There’s nothing worse than waking up one day and seeing the person you gave everything to just walk away. That shit hurts.
Am here I surrender everything
Hrt
Time
My wealth
My mind and he is like
No interest at all,
It does extremely hurts
It does!
@@strongmummy580 let him go, believe me if he cared about you he would think thousand times before hurting you...
@@shorooq22 Man change suddenly. I just don’t get it. They just take decisions suddenly . How things can change on their mind all of a sudden . Don’t we know the habit law ?? A long time habit is like a drug . We woman get attached more with time but why do they get irritated with time ?
1. Don’t chase after him
2. Don’t call and text or win him over
3. Don’t obsess over it
4. It has very little to do with me in my situation
5.don’t be a ball of anxiety don’t engage
6. You’re in control of your own mind
7. Do not bag plead or threaten
8. Don’t text him and ask how long
9. Just back off
1. Get fears under control
2. Fear of loss
3. Feelings of being unworthy you need to stop.
4. You will be okay
5. No man wants to feel like you need him! He will pull away
6. Just give him his space! They need to think things though before talking things through.
7. Space is a good thing in a relationship
8. Focus on you. Not the relationship
9. He is having a family crisis
10. He is struggling
RESPECT WHAT HE NEEDS!
Be a little selfish
Harsh but true
What abt her needs
True
I'm so weak.
I have an issue of not being able to be worthy of him this is where i feel anxiety
BY THE TIME HE DECIDES HE WANTS ME BACK AND STOP IGNORING ME, I WONT WANT HIM BACK HE CAN GO TO SPACE FOR ALL I CARE, BOY BYE
Grace Jegels me too 🤣😂😅😅😅
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Me too 😂😂
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Oh if he wants space, I can give him the universe 🌌
Yes! I like your dialog.
hahahaha,nice idea.
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💯😂
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*Giving space can be challenging, but it's vital for a relationship's growth. Let's use this understanding to build trust and intimacy.*
This truly works. I gave him space gracefully and he always comes back. He needs it. And sometimes I need it too. It makes a relationship healthy.
Precisely!
True!!
Whats the reason of the space? My partner ask for space after argument, how long it will take?
@@lyde.official hi. I told him our situation is suffocating us and we really need to take a little time to make ourselves calm and think about things. I made no contact but he's always the one who reaches out first. If he trully loves you, he will.
So you will always on dating stage ,never married
It 1000% works!! Just let him go, don’t text, don’t call, don’t pop up and he will miss u like crazy. It’s scary, it hurts, but it’s worth it. He normally comes back saying I love you🥰
when even he is out of love and thinks that we are incompatible? I don't believe that.
@@riyabanerjee2656 yess i also wanna know this😃
It is countertuitive to us women, when he pulls away and you do absolutely nothing (no texting, phone calls). It works like magic for me too, when he comes back I get showered with the most deep love, he plans every little details of the dates and follows through which I appreciate so much, the I love you, you are special to me text etc. I must say it was scary at first for me but through learning and practicing I couldnt be happier that I was open to learning the process.
@@nhl4264 congratulations!💕 but may I ask, what was the reason for the breakup? And after his many days/months did he come back?
By the time he comes back other men have offered me dinners and wine and perhaps proposed.He may be last in class
By the time he decides to come back I’ll probably be married with kids 🤣.. he can have all the space that he wants I gave up on him. Men are too complicated
Exactly
I totally agree...they say we are the complex one..! But its them!Men are from MARS!!!
Omg ..this is soo true 😝
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You don’t deserve a man who comes back, you deserve a man who never left in the first place.
I need to remember this. My long-term partner has asked for space. He runs his own business with 90% doing it all on his own. He has been feeling at rock bottom mentally for a while now. He feels empty inside about everything and also how he feels, especially about me. I know deep down he loves me, only over a wk ago he showed it during Xmas. I think he has depression I have asked him to seek professional help. He is a guy of 64, not a young man so I need him to get his life on track. I have been through hardship in life and he knows. I will give him the space he needs no matter how painful.
As a man I can tell you this. He pulls away because
1: You are too much (emotional/energy vanpire)
2: There is someone else
3: He lost interest (AKA there's someone else)
4: He's not ready to handle you (avoidant reaction)
5: Although rare, he could value you too much to mess you up because he knows he's toxic
He said that things get messed up and he doesnot want to worrying me about it he will fix it and gonna meet and talk about it ( he took Space a week almost now)
Mine was the last case, he said he wanted to work on himself for many years and it seemed to me he was having anxiety. Then after a week he came back saying he didn't feel the same, because I tried to understand him pulling away.
@@sukiarts its almost month they lie about it too gost and left with out worrying about explaning
My husband wants me to understand him for cheating he want to mingle with another girls and after that he want me not to react about that..
No 5 is interesting 🤔
*Don't*
1. Do not chase after him.
2. Don't obsesses over it.
3. Do not begged and threatened.
*Does*
1. Get your fear under control.
2. Just give him space.
3. Focus on yourself.
Thank you for brief.. It's really helpful
Im ready
@@mistywheeler376 I'm ready
Life is short so i make it sweet for rest of the day that i left here😍
Thank you.
I love it when she says "focus on yourself, who cares about him! "
“You can never know what he’s thinking and also who cares!” That’s gold🤩
😂😂😂
What you shouldn’t do:
1. Do not chase after him - no calls, no texts
2. Do not obsess - don’t replay your last interaction with him
3. Do not beg or threaten - let him know you’re there for him
What you should do:
1. Get your fears under control - no matter what happens, I will be ok
2. Just give him space - men rather think things through instead of talking
3. Focus on myself - indulge in self care
We are ladies we dint chase after men. The rules. Hard to get
@@annedungu5449 wrong ! girls can't handle being chased, that makes the guy weak and you don't desire him after
Nowadays when men need space is because someone already in your space
Sooo true....mine says I need to see a therapist before we continue seeing each other...lol....I’m not giving you no space Bruh sorry!! After 5 yrs of relationship you think I’m crazy now..BS
Not necessarily !
Or in their space
This is absolutely true
Perfectly true
Just like Lizzo says, "Why're men great til' they gotta be great?" So true.
That part!
what if he's seeing someone are texting
"It's so important to ... work on those feelings of self-worth within yourself that is independent of being in a relationship." YES. YES YES YES to ALL of THAT!!
I feel like you are my therapist talking directly to all my concerns lol. I can't express how meaningful and powerful your content is. You are a blessing to women everywhere for knowledge and self help. Thank you so much for your content. I will continue to support you for all your valuable knowledge!
When you don't focus on him, it makes him wonder
I couldn't agree more, that is so true.
I know he is cheating.. But I still I'm almost chasing him... Why o why?
I know we r supposed to give space.. but how much space?? when exactly can we call and how much... just need some advice
@@PrettycupcakesgemAJ There is no specified time on hw long you should wait. But it's gonna be a long time for him to reach out to you. Bottom line is, don't reach out at all. If you do, it will make you seem very desperate. Wait for him to reach out to you, it may be a while.
@@lilyroeun7324 is twoonths normal?
When he feels he needs space ..its time to fill the space , girl!
sr sr good one ☝️
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Na everybody needs space. Alone time.
I need space means indirect way of saying I am no longer interest in you.... I don’t what kind person sit around and wait for that
lmfao
I broke up with my boyfriend 3weeks ago and I was dying inside cause l loved him so much, l was in denial but after watching this l can simply say l am relieved and am ready to let him go.
I needed to watch this video so much!! My BF of the last year just asked us to “cool off” and have some space. I love and adore him and he 100% knows that. I am doing everything you talked about here and I needed to hear that I’m handling this the right way. I’m missing him daily but I’m focused on myself right now and that feels good.
Did he come back?
What’s the update?
We need an update? Im on day 5 and 7 days seem to be the common time for when space shifts to break up
@@dabada9541update for you?
I find that giving space n supporting his goals makes him appreciate you. A busy man is a successful man. Let him follow his dreams
Yes, for sure. The last thing is man wants is seeking his attention constantly.
😂😂😂😂 busy fucking other people lol but true
Healing Angel damnit same🤦♀️
Grown woman thinking 👏🏽 Everytime things slow down a bit women get insecure and start letting their imagination run away with them. Projecting your insecurities on a your partner is such a turn off. Life is always in session. You are not your partners who world. As someone who just finished my RN program there were days I didn't have the time to talk on the phone for hours and text all day amd my woman understood that. She didn't get insecure or excuse me of foolishness. There were days when I studied 12 hours! . She was my peace and support at such a stressful time in my life.
And how's that working out for you? Has he put a ring on it yet?
Maybe I will just start moving on. He can have all the space he needs.
That’s what I did and it’s been over a year of unfriending and no contact.
I love your videos!!! They have helped me feel mentally better already! It all makes so much sense, thank you for doing what you do!
I Iove your optimistic point of view! It’s refreshing to hear A view that doesn’t put down a man.
When my ex asked for space it was really because he was dating someone else and was too scared to break up with me, so in my case my thoughts were justified. It's not always because he needs time to deal with things. In my opinion, stress is a part of life and if you need a break from someone you love just because you're stressed, instead of opening up to them and letting them be there for you, you aren't ready for a relationship. Yeah they might not want to talk nonstop about it, but they should still be able to be around you. Once you're married, is a guy going to leave and ignore you whenever he's stressed because he "needs space"? That's why I don't think space can ever be a good thing. Even early on during dating, as you say if he wants you he will make it obvious and make the time and not make you question anything. So regardless of what point you're in the relationship, I don't see how it can be viewed as good.
Seriously you are making alot of sense, my man is doing it for the second time in 2 years
Agree
This is exactly what I told my recent ex. He went from one day not being able to not see me to the next, needing space. I told him he would never be able to get married or have anything serious if he was constantly stressed over needing time to himself. He also complained that the relationship was too routine. Again, not something that you can avoid in marriage either. Ironically, he did this once before and came back but I can’t go through it again
Good point
When they say "I need some space", they actually mean "I want to search for another girl, because I don't want you"
If they add "we might meet again", they mean "I will keep your number in case I am too lonely and desperate"
So I just got done crying and found the strength to leave the bathroom. I knew the next thing I needed to do was watch you. I am a new subscriber and you just made it all so peaceful for my aching heart. After 3 months of dating, he has come to the conclusion that he doesn’t want a gf. That the more time we spent time together, the more he doesn’t see me in his future. It’s hard to accept that I am no longer going to see him anymore. I was falling for this guy. He felt guilty always cancelling on me because he has so much in his hands prioritizing his new company. Plus he isn’t making income from it yet so that’s another thing and he mentioned that his employees are revolting against his company; he has a lot on his mind right now so the last thing he needs is a gf. I get it. He wants his space. So I will wholeheartedly give him that. But once everything stabilizes and if he decides to come back to me, I’m not so sure if I’d want him back again. Thank you for this video! This is helping me during the space he needs. And I’ll be ok. I was happy before I met him. I know I will be happy after meeting him. ❤️
So true
Awww that is so sad
The same here. 😢 Its just a devastating feeling that he likes you but you’re not a priority. I hope one day, the right guy comes for us.
Did he ever come back?
I am truly sorry ☹
This video is exactly what I needed. Currently going through this with a guy I’ve been seeing. I feel less crazy and anxious now. Thank you!
❤️🙏🏽
If he is pulling away, or saying he needs space. He is seeing/entertaining someone else!
Ahhh you’ve definitely helped me in my healing!! Thank you ❤️❤️ stay strong y’all and love yourself !!
Thank you. This reminds that self love is so important!! Be gracious, be kind and respectful. Be your best self and it will work if you both want it to.
Since following Sabrina and Eric on A New Mode, I have become the QUEEN of giving a guy space. It really works. Also, I have learned that I too need space. Love their videos and advice. They are the best. Thank you Sabrina/Eric for all your knowledge and advice.
Every video of yours I have watched...SPOT ON! You don't just tell the facts, you describe how and why it is, what to do and how to do it, what you'll feel before, during and after. You are always motivational and uplifting for your listeners (anyone for that matter) to be the best they can be and focus on themselves and take care of themselves and that things will fall in place. You have helped me immensely and opened my eyes to a lot and helped me be a better me. Thanks girl!
I don't have time to waste or play games, I am going on with my life. Who has time to waste when a man is not completely invested in the relationship (no one).
Yessss no one!he can go
True.. If he want space he go to hell
You are so on point. My sentiments exactly!
He ended it 3 days ago, said I’m in his heart, and he doesn’t want to date anyone else, has too much going on in his life and it’s all too much. He’s upset he can’t give me what I need right now and that I haven’t lost him. I’m trusting his words... but In my head I have to think I’m single and try and move on, what if he does come back, brilliant... otherwise I’m okay. X
What happened now?
@@LindsaySolo turned out he was living with his ex again and hadn’t told me... that was the end of that.... he’s been in touch since, but I can’t trust a liar 🤥 x
@@ceebeeceebee671 🥺🥺🥺🥺so sorry for that
Ok. Here is the whole thing: he needs space more then he needs you. So... Please, go live your perfect life and stop thinking about what is HE thinking about or what HE needs. He doesn't need you in the first place. Stop. Go, find YOUR man. You deserve better. ❤️
Of course.
Never wait on a man. Ask him how he feels about you and the relationship and open up too but always keep your boundaries in mind. If he finds it "too hard" to answer, then say BOY BYE :) tell him you deserve someone who is mature and emotionally intelligent and available to communicate with you 🥰
even if you are still or have been pursuing/chasing him? Oh and you said no to going out with him, but you're still chasing him. TF is that shit!
lovely..❤️..just say them Good Bye..
@@darioschaeffer5513 I didn't say no to going out with anyone that I'm interested in..
@@nadianasrin352 ❤️
@@zelihagokce what if they're in a relationship with someone else but are giving you blatant signs of flirtation?
I love the way you explain it. It’s not offensive, just truthful and hilarious❤️💜
Giving him space an urself from each other is really great because u want each other all over again an talking is really great as well
Actually I watched a video which presents 3 ways to stop a relationship:
1. Criticize constantly instead of trying to understand
2.Ignore the other person or interrupt them talking about your things
3. Remain silent until they leave you...
Silence is bad
I'm so glad I found this video ☺️ It helps a lot as this is what I am going through right now. It gives me positive vibes! Thanks! More power and God bless ☺️
I'm ready
Same here
I got engaged to your videos Sabrina! They are so insightful and helpful! Thank you very much for making things clearer for us!
This is 1000% true
You may have just changed my whole life. I'm so glad for stumbling across your channel! Thank you so much! ❤
WOOOW i wish i saw this a few days ago where i felt like i was emotionally dying :"D i am now seeing the good things that come out of this space, like i can save money on gas AND choreograph and record dances that i have been working on for awhile now. thank you so much for saving me
I can relate. I am a highly sensitive person and I am in a relationship with a man who does not talk much. Sometimes I do not know what to think and ready to call it quits.
I like this... “just back off”
Relate to this so much.
Thank you Sab for the words of wisdom. I can relate to this ‘giving space’. God bless🙏💕❤️
A relationship is not a relationship without appropriate communication. A lack of it is the beginning of a problem.
Thank you for this video. It’s true to have self care and self focus 🧘♀️ and things will fall into place.
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Hope you liked the video! If you have any questions, comments or anything you want to share, let me know here! 😘
My boyfriend have go silent for me... how can i do
This is the 3rd time he desapears and says he cant be in a relationship and that he feels bad and that he has problems with relationships and not with me. First 2 times when he desapeared i wanted to talk but he pushed me away. After that I desapeared, no contact no nothing and then he shows up and wants to talk and be with me. And now again he feels bad and leaves. We are bouth in our 30s and now when we should move forward in our relationship, he does this. Why is he doing this and what should I do and think? Help 🙄
You give [ really good advice ] thank you. ..but your background tunes is so overpowering, it was distracting me the entire time. Please reconsider. Thanks.
So what should I do he's in my social networks accounts like fb insta? Should I deactivate my profile.
Stop the background music focus on your voice its distracting me
I’m going through all what you are saying ! Thanks for the advice , I’m letting him have his space👍🏽
Yeah let him sniff around when he find aut u let him his freedom and when he come back home ..don't ask stupid questions..first u don't know it's true so better just let it go and take him in ur arms .give him
Unconditional love like a animal u get what u give ...no stress ..just love ...and be happy he is back in ur arms...so simple..but people make life so complicated...like they live forever ...all is temperary ..you and me too ..enjoy the moment ...then nobody know s when the last moment will come ...be happy 😎😻💖
Ive just listened to this, im going through this now and your advice is invaluable to me. I will listen to this over and over. Im giving him space. If he messages I answer. The only thing I do is say goodnight and he answers. Thankyou x
I love the way you talk thank you for being here.fast talking but clear and easily can be understood.
I just love you, it’s helped me a lot, I been so miserable am still trying to build my self back I do have self esteem issues and attachment issues due to my child hood issues...
Excellent advice. Congratulations!
Very timely information ℹ️ I appreciate it. I’ve been going through this with various male friends I’ve had. I used to get upset 😢 when they withdrew from initiating calls, texts and meeting up. I’d make the mistake of hounding them down texting and asking if they were ok. When I leaned back and went into silence for a period of time is when I began hearing from them again. It makes proper sense
Really insightful. Thank you. Sincerely even I need space sometimes
Thank you! Love your videos, I can totally relate with this one in particular.
Could you please talk about long distance relationships and how to deal with it? It's been 8 months without seeing each other and because of the virus it will probably be longer.
Yes same
This was good! Very good. Current situation so this was a great reminder not to take things personal nor create stories in my mind that are fear based. Thanks.
As stressful as it is, sometimes you feel rejected but withdrawing works because he asks himself why you are quite and call back.
I loved this video and I helped me out so much! Great background music. Your the best ☺️💗
I dated a guy - and he's the one who wanted to talk every single dingle day. If not even more. I tried to slow it down- and he said he would find someone else. Whaaaa ? So back to nonstop talking..and about 5 months later, it just burned out. No mystery, no intrigue, etc. And I KNEW it would happen. Long story short; it didn't end there..it just went on n on - out of habit I guess. So I know what it's like when someone won't give it a rest. It's Boring.
You got tired of him talking all the time. And ended it. ? Was it on the phone ? And when you say it went on and on , so you dumped him ? You think he would want to be with you instead of just talking to you.
Everything in life needs a strategy nothing at this age can go spontaneous, Life pressures are tremendous and then givens and varieties are at the tip of both men and women fingers. So as Esther Petel has mentioned “ Desire is rooted in absence and in longing as well as it is in heaving.” So treat him as an equal and have this real believe that you are both in this game together and that he should seek your loyalty as well.
Love it ❤ thank u for being the best reminder of me again, focusing on me. I feel grateful for your support and kindness. Thank you 😊❤
Thank you so much! Your right it’s time to focus on me. He’s stoped responding to my texts about a week ago so I cut back to just saying good morning and good night and still no response. He’s been away for work so I’m just going to stop & let it go for now. I’m worried that he’ll think I don’t care but for my mental well being you’re right it’s time to stop obsessing and focus on me!
Its been 5 months now. How are things going? I think it was a good thing for you to back all the way up. When someone doesnt reply to you (usually their phone isnt broken), they're making a choice. It hurts, but its their right to make that choice, just as it is your right when you want to move on from someone.
In the end, hopefully you have focused on fulfulling yourself and your goals so you are an even better version of the awesome person you've always been! Do some self- healing if necessary. Many of us carry background baggage that causes us to cling to folks after they have made it clear that they aren't committed. Perhaps 'abandonment issues' of some sort or something else. But the sooner we address background stuff, the better.
Anyways, I wish you the best.
I am so much guilty with every word you said. It gave me so much chills and made me teary eyed. I am so thankful i've stumbbled upon your video. Thanks sooo much! You helped me a lot with I am going through right now. 🙏
Now the only question i have is, i know he needs space but hes not telling me about it all (tho some of his actions says differently) since he still message me from time to time (we're on LDR) and i dunno how i woyld give him the space without actually asking him if he wants space.
LET THEM GO,IF A MAN WANTS TO BE WITH YOU THEY WILL DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE YOU KEEP THEM; BUT IF THEY DONT WANT TO BE KEPT ITS THEIR LOST NOT YOUR..ITS A BLESSING FOR YOU😅😂❤
Omg! You have helped me decode the guy’s thought. Thank you! Yes it does not mean he doesn’t love you.
If a guy asks for space, give him a map of Mount Everest and fill your dance card.
I love this! The problem is that they act like asses when they need space instead of just saying, "Hey babe, I need some space." The other important thing is if something goes wrong, like you're stranded on the side of the road, they need to GTFO their hypersensitive ninny feelings and answer the damn phone.
Best comment!
Love the content that "A New Mode" produces and publishes! Wishing (or wondering) how this could also apply to relationships between 2 guys haha!
It absolutely can! In fact I've gotten a lot of feedback from people in same-sex relationships that this advice has helped them a lot. Every person has "masculine" and "feminine" energies, and this isn't determined by gender and that's what creates a relationship dynamic.
If he thinks you're too much it's cuz he's just not one to stay with. Letting go sux but it feels gud to get your energy back.
Great video. Yes, I'm giving him space if he comes back good if he does not I wish him the best.
When I do give him space, he asks me if I've stopped caring about him. I'm in a long distance relationship and it's tough.
Same 😞
@@lilmissdoctor How do you tackle it?
@@pavi9312, IT CANNOT BE TACKLED, BEST THING TO DO IS TO LET HIM GO AND BOTH OF YOU MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFES IT IS VERY HARD TO MAINTAIN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.
Same
same here its so draining
You make so much sense! I didn't realize I could be such a toxic girlfriend lol 🙈 thank you for your videos!! I plan to keep watching and learning to make my life better!! Much love!! ❤️
You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed! xo
This is hard to do but ut defo works... u just have to hide your pain from him & focus in yourself .... things turn around because u will be more relaxed and attractive to him, u may even attract someone better so keep your options open , unless tge space doent mean a break up
Really needed to hear this thank you so much for sharing your Pearl's of wisdom with us incredible lady
This is exactly what's going on with me and my guy.....he needs space and I'm headed to Insanity ville....trying to keep him interested in me etc. You make so much sense and I need to remember all of your words!! Thank you 😊💓
Is he back?
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 well we have seen each other a few times, the heartbreaking thing is he accidentally messaged me instead of someone else an hour ago saying "thanks for lunch :)))" I messaged him "wrong person " he tried to make out it was his roommate, i just said "it's ok...I get it" and I do get it now..he's obviously just wanting to play the field 😔 sooo upset though....when you have this amazing connection but it's not reciprocated or seen as special....major sadness 😪
@@sophisticat6456 mine was gone for 6 months n he came back now his gone again
@@kelebogilemotshoane5186 uggg I'm sorry to hear this....mine also said that text was meant for his roommate and not a woman but idk...try to stay positive...i know it's hard..I'm having a very down day myself...sending you hugs 🤗
Beautifully said 🙌🏻
This is the best advice. Thank you
Good 👍🏼
I'm thankful for this beautiful msg ❤
Thank you for sharing this, Sabrina. Great help ❤️
I'm glad you liked it!
It worked but when he wanted to comeback it backfired on him, I never wanted him back, he started stalking and chasing me until I saw him as vulnerable and I was very much turned off. I watched him emotionally hurted but I never took him back. That’s one thing he regretted in life, we’re friends today but that’s about it. He have to watch a next man love on me 😁
Nathania Andrews Powerful!!!!!👍🏽🙌🏽🤗❤️👑👸🏽
Yeah girl.... ✌
How long did it take for him to come back?
🏆 You are the real MVP! 🏆
Yes coz some men think that when u plead for them they are the only ones that u have in life or this world
You're so spot on. Thanks for the great advice.
sometimes guys need space when they are going through things like my man hasn’t been the same since his friend has passed away from suicide. mind you this is his like third friend this year that he has lost. so he has been depressed and has been drinking and smoking his life away.. and I’m so worried and concerned about him. but I’m truly going to give him the space he needs to heal from the grief.
I really needed to hear this,thanks so much I'm just trying to put myself together...weeew!
These are the things that we never learned in our formal (school/ university) or informal education (from our parents). Learning love skill is as important as learning how to cure the Coronavirus ❤️
You are true 🥰😂😂
You are true
Totally lol
Girrrlll you nailed it....perfectly said it!! I super duper agree with you
This is really good Thank you!
Loved Ur inspiring words abt this topic😍thank u so much
Loved this video 🙌🏼
I accidentally came across this site. Great and very helpful and realistic tips. Thank you.
I appreciate your advise. All your points were excellent and exactly this is how most girls do and they don't know what's wrong in it. Thanks for this video
Best video on this topic ever.
Even me I need space also because I Am masculine according to my sign- So I understand men if they really need space bec they need to rise up and focus.
I’m so happy I came across your video…..it’s really helped me ….I’ve done nearly everything I shouldn’t do……I will save this video to remind me when I start overthinking…..thank you
I really needed to hear this right now, thank you so much for sharing this video! ❤
I have social anxiety and I really like this girl I’ve been texting and seeing for a while. I don’t want her to think I'm not interested in her and she's been giving me obvious signs that she's interested in me. So I got to find a way to break outta this shell and tell her how I really feel. I felt like I messed up even though she reassured me with a kiss on the cheek
have you asked her out?