I'm a performer since I was 15 and anxiety was pretty bad, I still get it but have learned to accept. Here are my golden rules 1) when you feel anxiety coming on NEVER push it away, accept it for all that is and itll pass 2) it's just an uncomfortable feeling and nothing more 3) you're not going to die, your mind is lying to you 4) what's the worse that can happen? 5) love yourself, you're getting better and better
I have never heard anything as relatable as this. I lost so much in my life due to my fear and anxiety... I have always wondered what if I would have conquered my anxiety. I could have achieved so much. I feel like an underachiever. People around me used to admire me but I just never lived up to my potential. Always afraid about what could go wrong, or that I am not good enough. I am still young in my mid 20s. One day I will overcome this. I owe myself this! Thank you to the speaker for his courage to give this speech. Gives me hope!
This is exactly what I want to do to overcome my anxiety. I have lived half of my life in fear. I'm 30 now. The last ten years of my life I didn't realise that I had so much fear. I was depressed, but I thought that was just part of me. Now I realise I was depressed because I wasn't doing the scary things that would make me happy. Three years ago, I already came up with the idea of trying stand up. I shoved it aside, telling myself it wasn't what I wanted to do. That I didn't need people's attention or approval, no laughter or applause. I was right, but I missed the point. The point isn't to get approval, it's to overcome the fear and build self-confidence. My plan is to first try sky diving. That should really give me a boost since I'm afraid of heights. After that I will visit open mics and try outs to see how it works, and to watch others bomb on stage. Then I must try it myself. I have my anxiety to thank for this plan. Before, I was just depressed, and content being so. A month ago I had my first panic attack. That changed everything. I realise now that even if I keep avoiding my fears, it will simply come to visit me in my sleep. Terrorise me during the day. During my panic attack I was more scared than I'd ever been, even more scared than when I had to speak in public. I feel like my subconscious is giving me this fear to tell me something very important. That I haven't given up. That I don't want to die. That I want to be happy.
1. Let life happen. Control is illusion. "Those who grasp lose" (Buddhist proverb) 2. Self-investment. Only you can approve of yourself. No one can tell you what you do is good or bad. 3. What pain do you want? What we get out of life isn't determined by the good feelings we desire, but by the bad feelings we are willing and able to sustain to get to those good feelings. (Mark Manson) You don't need to be anything or do anything to be deemed as worthy. You make that decision at any moment you please, and I invite you to do that right now. Have you done it?
I can relate to him very much. I used to be very shy and quiet in my high school, but I would always look up to some of my friends who could confidently come on stage to perform their talents or speak to the entire school while I had a stagefright every time I made a presentation in class. One fine day I just decided that I was sick of my current self and I was going to change, and I joined the school's public speaking club. It was, back then, the stupidest thing I could have done because I would screw up so hard, or so I thought, but of course it was the best thing I could have done to myself. After I conquered the fear of signing up, came the fear of my first speech in front of 20 friends in the club. Then the 2nd, and the 3rd, and a competition with 10 other schools. The fear is still there every time I make a public speech now, but I am more aware of it and I know how to handle it just a little better every time. I'm in college now and I realize the tremendous difference compared to me in high school. I still got last place in that competition, though, but all I felt was relief that I could stand up and speak to so many "scary strangers", and I made many friends.
I had the same story with anxiety but my struggle with it ended the day I learned the fact that anxiety is not bad itself but the negative thinking patterns we associate with it ,in fact anxiety is good for you its providing you with the energy you need to deal with the situation
I think the chemical and/or adrenal reaction is far too powerful for brain to understand.. when you're just saying "hello" to some dipshit intern... but 30 seconds later you freak out wondering why we still have water coolers, and if you do in fact live in a world where you have water coolers, then what led you to such a shitty world of water coolers. why not have wireless water routers or sumthin?
yo bro after so much thinking and checking inside my emotions eryday I realized that emotional checking the thoughts were the culprit that lead to anxiety..not the anxiety itself...anxiety all starts with fearful thinkin and negative outcomes...little do we kno at that time the anxiety itself ain't the problem..
Yeah, I totally agree with you. All it's needed is a shift in the way you experience anxiety. It's way better thinking of it as a energy and be "excited" by it, than see it as a bad thing.
This is life. It what we get for being alive. We definitely conquer fear by being in the present moment. It's the past and the future that causes anxiety. What do we expect or what are we expecting? It's hear that our imagination step in and causes our heart and breathe to feel or even become heavy. Thanks for the talk.
Even though his hands were trembling and he was nervous he never gave up and finished the whole talk. That's me when I have to give a presentation or public talk. I feel like I'm gonna die because I get so nervous that my hands and voice trembles and I'm scared that I will embarass myself. But the moment it's over there is a lot of relief and I regret thinking I could have done it better.
You have to focus more on the process than the outcome! Do whatever you can to make your presentation the best you can FOR YOU and enjoy it! And then let the outcome be what it will be... 😀
That was very helpful, Daniel. Battling anxiety and depression I know all the feelings. Yet I also know it's rewarding once you're on the other side of fear. Also, I haven't seen anyone mention that you're also very cute :)
I'm afraid, scared all of the time night and day every second that goes bye. I've started new meds for the time in my life.49 now.sufferd stroke from food poisoning 3yrs now. I've no1
I found it distracted from the importance of the moment, especially for the guy on stage. Have never heard that sort of distraction on a TED Talk before. Why would someone bring a child to such an event?
Are his hands shaking? So im the the only who does it. Actually my hands develope a mind of its own, watch the anime Parasyte, its like that but without the protection.
Xbot4Life My hands shake really bad too when I have to perform. I'll be waiting for a piano exam and whilst I'm running through my pieces I honestly look like I have severe Parkinson's disease because I shake that badly.
many of the ted talk should be called ted story ,..because they tell their stories but not techniques or ideias they had ...they should tell their techniques and just then the story following ..
You say that “you decide what you think you decide what you feel. Do you decided to start re-frame you’re thinking “my question is how??? What are the daily activities that you do, whether it’s writing or meditation or what, what is it that you do to re-frame you’re thinking? I understand that you made a decision to do that but what is it that you were doing??? I am lost!
he's made immense progress. he just gave that amazing speech about when he was absolutely terrified of even being on stage. He took 8 months to book an act. Sorry about whatever in your life that makes you feel you have to undermine someone's progress in dealing with mental illness. That shit deserves a gold metal
Anxiety is hardwired into our brains to alert us to danger. So, conquering anxiety means to simply learn how to cope with it when it comes instead of letting it rule your life
"I did terribly, but all I felt was relief". Overcoming fear feels so good
Too true Shunkela, thanks for the positive comment.
I'm a performer since I was 15 and anxiety was pretty bad, I still get it but have learned to accept. Here are my golden rules 1) when you feel anxiety coming on NEVER push it away, accept it for all that is and itll pass
2) it's just an uncomfortable feeling and nothing more
3) you're not going to die, your mind is lying to you
4) what's the worse that can happen?
5) love yourself, you're getting better and better
I have never heard anything as relatable as this. I lost so much in my life due to my fear and anxiety... I have always wondered what if I would have conquered my anxiety. I could have achieved so much. I feel like an underachiever. People around me used to admire me but I just never lived up to my potential. Always afraid about what could go wrong, or that I am not good enough. I am still young in my mid 20s. One day I will overcome this. I owe myself this!
Thank you to the speaker for his courage to give this speech. Gives me hope!
What a nice guy . Top talk . Anxiety steals your life from you . Don’t let it
He seemed like he was struggling with the talk but he went out and did it beautifully anyway. Conquering fear FTW
This is exactly what I want to do to overcome my anxiety. I have lived half of my life in fear. I'm 30 now. The last ten years of my life I didn't realise that I had so much fear. I was depressed, but I thought that was just part of me. Now I realise I was depressed because I wasn't doing the scary things that would make me happy.
Three years ago, I already came up with the idea of trying stand up. I shoved it aside, telling myself it wasn't what I wanted to do. That I didn't need people's attention or approval, no laughter or applause. I was right, but I missed the point. The point isn't to get approval, it's to overcome the fear and build self-confidence.
My plan is to first try sky diving. That should really give me a boost since I'm afraid of heights. After that I will visit open mics and try outs to see how it works, and to watch others bomb on stage. Then I must try it myself.
I have my anxiety to thank for this plan. Before, I was just depressed, and content being so. A month ago I had my first panic attack. That changed everything. I realise now that even if I keep avoiding my fears, it will simply come to visit me in my sleep. Terrorise me during the day. During my panic attack I was more scared than I'd ever been, even more scared than when I had to speak in public. I feel like my subconscious is giving me this fear to tell me something very important. That I haven't given up. That I don't want to die. That I want to be happy.
1. Let life happen. Control is illusion. "Those who grasp lose" (Buddhist proverb)
2. Self-investment. Only you can approve of yourself. No one can tell you what you do is good or bad.
3. What pain do you want? What we get out of life isn't determined by the good feelings we desire, but by the bad feelings we are willing and able to sustain to get to those good feelings. (Mark Manson)
You don't need to be anything or do anything to be deemed as worthy. You make that decision at any moment you please, and I invite you to do that right now. Have you done it?
I was searching this in the comment and got 😀☺
I can relate to him very much. I used to be very shy and quiet in my high school, but I would always look up to some of my friends who could confidently come on stage to perform their talents or speak to the entire school while I had a stagefright every time I made a presentation in class.
One fine day I just decided that I was sick of my current self and I was going to change, and I joined the school's public speaking club. It was, back then, the stupidest thing I could have done because I would screw up so hard, or so I thought, but of course it was the best thing I could have done to myself.
After I conquered the fear of signing up, came the fear of my first speech in front of 20 friends in the club. Then the 2nd, and the 3rd, and a competition with 10 other schools. The fear is still there every time I make a public speech now, but I am more aware of it and I know how to handle it just a little better every time. I'm in college now and I realize the tremendous difference compared to me in high school.
I still got last place in that competition, though, but all I felt was relief that I could stand up and speak to so many "scary strangers", and I made many friends.
I had the same story with anxiety but my struggle with it ended the day I learned the fact that anxiety is not bad itself but the negative thinking patterns we associate with it ,in fact anxiety is good for you its providing you with the energy you need to deal with the situation
I think the chemical and/or adrenal reaction is far too powerful for brain to understand.. when you're just saying "hello" to some dipshit intern... but 30 seconds later you freak out wondering why we still have water coolers, and if you do in fact live in a world where you have water coolers, then what led you to such a shitty world of water coolers. why not have wireless water routers or sumthin?
Thanks for you comment Ali, I completely agree. Neil Burton's TED talk puts anxiety and depression in a positive light too, you should check it out!
Ali Farhan Swati well said mate
yo bro after so much thinking and checking inside my emotions eryday I realized that emotional checking the thoughts were the culprit that lead to anxiety..not the anxiety itself...anxiety all starts with fearful thinkin and negative outcomes...little do we kno at that time the anxiety itself ain't the problem..
Yeah, I totally agree with you. All it's needed is a shift in the way you experience anxiety. It's way better thinking of it as a energy and be "excited" by it, than see it as a bad thing.
I hate anxiety - it has caused me years of physical pain... I think it's great to hear this presentation.
i'm going to feel the fear and do it anyway this video has inspired me
quinton truong yes Quinton lad!
quinton truong yes Quinton lad!
This gave me new perspective to social anxiety. Thank you to the speaker. He was amazing.
This is life. It what we get for being alive. We definitely conquer fear by being in the present moment. It's the past and the future that causes anxiety. What do we expect or what are we expecting? It's hear that our imagination step in and causes our heart and breathe to feel or even become heavy.
Thanks for the talk.
Even though his hands were trembling and he was nervous he never gave up and finished the whole talk. That's me when I have to give a presentation or public talk. I feel like I'm gonna die because I get so nervous that my hands and voice trembles and I'm scared that I will embarass myself. But the moment it's over there is a lot of relief and I regret thinking I could have done it better.
You have to focus more on the process than the outcome! Do whatever you can to make your presentation the best you can FOR YOU and enjoy it! And then let the outcome be what it will be... 😀
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you!
A generous-hearted and empowering talk - thanks for doing it!
perfectcelery thank you for the positive comment!
I completely agree with perfectcelery. After a day full of panic attacks this was just what I needed before bedtime-- thank you!
All the best on your journey Jenna. You can beat this! Thanks for the comment.
The Litany Against Fear has helped me many a time. It helped me cut my way through a dozen phobias, along with a few other tools.
Aging Ophelia I've suffered from health anxiety for three years now... I wish I could learn a little from you!
Aging Ophelia the first
"What we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire, but by the bad feelings we're willing and able to sustain"
That was very helpful, Daniel. Battling anxiety and depression I know all the feelings. Yet I also know it's rewarding once you're on the other side of fear. Also, I haven't seen anyone mention that you're also very cute :)
Rosalind thanks Rosalind you're very kind.
confidence is something that you gain with life experiences
Thank you for the wonderful and extremely helpful talk!
Life is magical wonders. Great great talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true .
this made me cry, I identify so much.
Well thought out and presented talk. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this speech. I really liked the 3 quotes you gave at the end. Hope I can take those to heart.
Living with it and don't think it will go away
This is so good, thank you!!!!
really good and inspiring and true
one quote I would add is by Robert Kid - "terror and violence is provoked by the mind"
wonderful video ... !!! you are so brave
still my favourite ever ted talk
Bravo !
'Submit to imperfection'
Awesome, man! Congratulations and thank you for your message!
Nathanael Furtado cheers man!
Loved this
I'm afraid, scared all of the time night and day every second that goes bye. I've started new meds for the time in my life.49 now.sufferd stroke from food poisoning 3yrs now. I've no1
It's essential that you get a good you get a good behaviour i.e cbt therapist
Great short video with useful ideas.. Nice one man
Loved this talked. I really did! Thanks dude 🙏🙏
Thanks man, much appreciated.
This was amazing - thank you!
My man sounds like he's straight out of Game of Thrones
🤣 And I was wondering, what or whom he reminds me of 🤔 so true!
Respect bro 👍
My son has anxiety and he keeps talking about. He says he has fast heart beat
Teach him meditation.michael Sealey channel has helped me
@تلاوات القران - Tilawat Al-Quran wow. Thanks. 🙏. Wishing you all the best in the Holy Month
@تلاوات القران - Tilawat Al-Quran It will pass away.
AMAZING , TOLLE
Brilliant.
Jane Smith thanks Jane.
Thanks a lot :)
Amazing how it gets it all right but all wrong at the same time.
Feel the fear and do it anyway book
Babies/toddlers should be forbidden in the audience. It is disturbing. They don't understand much of what is said anyway, or do they.
I found it distracted from the importance of the moment, especially for the guy on stage. Have never heard that sort of distraction on a TED Talk before. Why would someone bring a child to such an event?
Malcolm Archer Exactly. A case of ignorance, in my opinion.
Forbidden!
The baby though
Are his hands shaking? So im the the only who does it. Actually my hands develope a mind of its own, watch the anime Parasyte, its like that but without the protection.
Xbot4Life My hands shake really bad too when I have to perform. I'll be waiting for a piano exam and whilst I'm running through my pieces I honestly look like I have severe Parkinson's disease because I shake that badly.
@@Smudgie_ sorry for delay in responding lol YT didnt notify me. Seem like a few of us do this!
@Espada Arrancar true. True
many of the ted talk should be called ted story ,..because they tell their stories but not techniques or ideias they had ...they should tell their techniques and just then the story following ..
In entertainment a lot of customers are drunk. Just keep singing or talking.
You say that “you decide what you think you decide what you feel. Do you decided to start re-frame you’re thinking “my question is how??? What are the daily activities that you do, whether it’s writing or meditation or what, what is it that you do to re-frame you’re thinking? I understand that you made a decision to do that but what is it that you were doing???
I am lost!
When do you Improve Runcorn Cheshire
I cant sleep....l feel exausted
very cutie!
hes obviously not conquered it
he's made immense progress. he just gave that amazing speech about when he was absolutely terrified of even being on stage. He took 8 months to book an act. Sorry about whatever in your life that makes you feel you have to undermine someone's progress in dealing with mental illness. That shit deserves a gold metal
Yes,but conquered is a dishonest choice of word that helps no one. I didnt mean anything more than that.
Tit.
TheJ4RD: Oh fuck off arsewipe.
Anxiety is hardwired into our brains to alert us to danger. So, conquering anxiety means to simply learn how to cope with it when it comes instead of letting it rule your life
taking advice from him would be like taking advice from overweight trainer