MY DAUGHTER YOSHIKO | Omeleto

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  • Опубликовано: 7 июл 2022
  • A Japanese-American mother struggles with her daughter's autism.
    MY DAUGHTER YOSHIKO is used with permission from Brian Blum. Learn more at brianblumfilms.com.
    Saki is a young Japanese-American stay-at-home mother, caring for her daughter Yoshiko while her military spouse is away on duty. Her situation is hard, but it's made more complicated by her daughter's autism, which makes her prone to overstimulation.
    Saki struggles alone, acutely aware of how the outside world might be judging her. She leaves apologetic notes and tokens for her neighbors; she doesn't reach out to her parents for help, fearing especially their judgment. But on a particularly tough day, Saki's isolation catches up with her, compromising her ability to care for Yoshiko just when she needs it most.
    Directed by Brian Blum from a script by Kent Morita, this short family drama is a sensitively observed, perceptive portrait of a young mother struggling with the unique needs of her child, ones that aren't immediately apparent to the outside world. As a result, she often faces the harsh judgment of her parenting -- and her child -- that she's internalized. Through documentary-like attention to detail, a well of deep empathy and a powerful performance by lead actor Saori Goda, viewers observe the costs of that internalization, as well as the callousness of a society too often quick to rush to judgment.
    The foundation of the film lies in the compassion of both its writing and directing, which are driven by the churn and tumble of Saki's emotions, especially as they arise with caring for Yoshiko. The child isn't the focus here, but the hard work of caring that Saki does for her, without support. The storytelling has an eye for how small choices and gestures reflect deeper emotions and attitudes, and as they add up, we see Saki's desire not to be a burden on others and perhaps avoid subjecting Yoshiko to their judgment. Scenes with her parents are especially wrenching, especially when we see Saki hiding or minimizing her struggles or smarting with her own mother's opinions. Whether it's self-imposed or out of avoidance, Saki is isolated, compounding the unique stresses that parents of children with autism can face.
    The look and feel of the film have a muted, almost gentle naturalism and a sense of pacing in the editing that lets moments and feelings breathe. But its most powerful element is the central performance by Goda, who plays every moment with honesty and vulnerability. As her struggles pile up, Saki sags more and more under the weight of the stress. And when faced with a crisis with another child and mother at a park, it's understandable that Saki snaps. Only then does she come face to face with the cost of going it alone, for herself and her daughter.
    Though she's not the namesake of the film, MY DAUGHTER YOSHIKO achieves emotional depth from its resolute focus on Yoshiko's mother, who has effaced many of her own needs in trying to meet her daughter's needs. In finally owning her needs and perhaps her latent shame in needing help, she learns to fully accept and be compassionate of her situation. Saki achieves an even deeper connection as a parent to her daughter, as her unapologetic protector and advocate -- just as the film achieves a powerful, moving ending, and becomes a portrait of a fiercely loving mother.
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  • @KSakemi
    @KSakemi 2 года назад +534

    The grandfather did exactly the right thing by joining in with the paper tearing and lining up. She needed someone to join her world instead of expecting her to always be able to adapt to a world not made for her.

    • @badonnaberkman741
      @badonnaberkman741 2 года назад +43

      Many autistic people crave acceptance and are often aware of their loneliness

    • @rosedewittbukater4203
      @rosedewittbukater4203 Год назад +6

      I thought the same.

    • @itsdune079
      @itsdune079 Год назад +31

      Yes yes yes “join her world instead of expecting her to always be able to adapt to a world not made for her”!!! That is exactly what neurodiverse people need. I wish more people could understand that. Your comment should be pinned.

    • @5StackNinjaFam
      @5StackNinjaFam Год назад +5

      @@itsdune079 my parents say the world is not like that and expect me to change I have mild autism

    • @itsdune079
      @itsdune079 Год назад +7

      @@5StackNinjaFam That sucks, dude. Hopefully your parents’ ignorance will dissipate soon in the future. Maybe if you educate them consistently over time, they will think differently than their current narrow-mindedness? Assuming you are a minor and living with your parents, with a number of years yet to go before you can legally move out (without parental consent) at 18, with exception to emancipation...it may take some years for your parents to stop re-blowing their bubbles you have to keep popping. But have hope. It is possible for set-in-their-beliefs adults to change.
      If you’re already an adult (living outside of your parents’ roof), you don’t have to listen to everything your parents say because they aren’t responsible for you. Adults should still honour and respect their parents, but that doesn’t necessarily mean obeying them. If there are a lot of belief differences between you and your parents that are causing you significant harm to your mental health, and you are a moved-out adult responsible fully for your own finances and life choices and future, maybe going no-contact is the way to go.
      But I’m nobody: I’m no life coach nor nor social worker nor family therapist. You don’t have to listen to some stranger on the internet.

  • @sorryimemo
    @sorryimemo 2 года назад +765

    I've never related more to a short film in my entire life. I have a 4 year old son with autism and as amazing as he is, I too am covered in bruises, constantly exhausted, always feel judged, sorry for the noise my neighbors have to deal with during my son's meltdowns, embarrassed when he has them in public, and I too know the urge to slap anyone who would be unkind to him. I'm raising him all by myself like the mother in this film and it's so much harder than anyone without a special needs child could ever understand. But those rare moments he does show me affection and gives me hugs and kisses make it all worth it. You have no idea how badly I needed to watch this. I'm in tears. Thank you, Omeleto. 💝

    • @breezystl777
      @breezystl777 2 года назад +48

      You're an amazing mother. 💖 It takes true strength and absolute unconditional love with all the extra hurdles. I know you must mean everything to your son 💜

    • @ebonn93
      @ebonn93 2 года назад +32

      You’re an incredible mother and such a strong person. Thank you for writing this! I’m so happy my film resonated with you and represented you well.

    • @jennifergannuscio6086
      @jennifergannuscio6086 2 года назад +17

      SWEETEST OF HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR SON♥️

    • @keneesha
      @keneesha 2 года назад +7

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Summerdee223
      @Summerdee223 2 года назад +10

      You are an amazing mother and you are doing a good job. Please take good care of yourself.

  • @paulabrown6840
    @paulabrown6840 Год назад +224

    I love that she’s decided not to apologize for her daughter anymore. Very moving. 💜

    • @rosedewittbukater4203
      @rosedewittbukater4203 Год назад +16

      Yes. A great ending of the story.

    • @Superplexor
      @Superplexor Год назад

      I wish that was fine but in some cases letting an autistic person hurt other people without any sort of apology might send the parent(s) to jail

  • @luckyz0mbie
    @luckyz0mbie Год назад +75

    I will never understand why the world treat us like we’re some sort of disgrace …. I’m a 18 year old autistic person who’s been undiagnosed for most of my life and I never understood why my mother was so shocked and sad when I was diagnosed. That video helped me to see my mother’s side a little better. Thank you.

  • @tcareberry4
    @tcareberry4 2 года назад +255

    My daughter has Autism and she's 12. She's hurt herself, her siblings, classmates and me. She's run away alone at night once because she's constantly overwhelmed. The physical toll has been very rough and the mental exhaustion is relentless. This was such a relatable video. So many single parents of special needs children feel isolated and like no one understands the day to day struggle. This video showcases how hard it can be but those times when they show affection even in a minute way, makes it worth it because we love them so so much and only want what's best for them. Thank you Omeleto for sharing this and shedding light on the struggles of parents with special needs children ❤

    • @martamarin8688
      @martamarin8688 2 года назад +6

      ❤️❤️❤️👍

    • @carlahosang3804
      @carlahosang3804 2 года назад +7

      💙

    • @guitarista666
      @guitarista666 2 года назад +9

      I wouldn't say I understand in the way that you mean, but it seems to me that your commitment to the best interests of you daughter is heroic, and I wouldn't claim that I could measure up to what you are doing if I were in your place. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mother.

    • @kazb4496
      @kazb4496 Год назад +5

      I know that feeling my sons 14 it’s so hard an stressful 💔🙏

  • @furstwilhelm7982
    @furstwilhelm7982 Год назад +262

    1. If you know one person with Autism, you know one person with Autism. It is not a one-size-fits-all syndrome.
    2. We are different, *not less.*

  • @itsdune079
    @itsdune079 Год назад +86

    They portrayed the experience of autism so very well. The scene in the grocery store where they filmed the too-bright lights, the loud crinkling of the plastic packaging and thud of fruit dropping, the busyness, and the swishing/blurring/quickening/distortion of each piece all together at once...best portrayal of how an overstimulating public environment feels to a neurodiverse person, that I have ever seen. Much love to the filmmakers. ❤️ Thanks for making space for this!!

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      The whole of humanity is neurodiverse. A person cannot be neurodiverse. The term you're looking for is "neurodivergent". It's okay in this instance to say Autistic. Please be more specific.

    • @itsdune079
      @itsdune079 Год назад +4

      @@rahbeeuh I wrote this at a time where I didn't like using the term "neurodivergent", because 1. it reminded me of the book series/movies "Divergent" and made me feel outcasted, which 2. made me not want to use the term because ADHDers/Autistics/etc already have enough stigma.
      I do use the term "neurodivergent", nowadays, to describe what I was describing in my previous comment, and have used that term for the past few months. You're right that I was looking for the term, "neurodivergent". I didn't say Autistic because I don't have a diagnosis. But a month later, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm much more sure that I have C-PSTD than I am that I could be Autistic.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      @@itsdune079 thanks for clarifying. I can understand that. Divergent was the first thing I thought of when I learnt about neurodivergent lol. All it means is a brain that diverges or is different from what society has deemed typical. I, personally, prefer just using Autistic and/or ADHD when they apply. Especially since everyone doesn't know the term "neurodivergent" and the accompanying terminology.
      When I mentioned it's okay to use Autistic I was referring to the short film as Yoshi is Autistic but I may have misread or misunderstood your comment. Reading it back were you stating how this short captured how it felt for you? That's the reason why you used neurodiverse?
      I know it seems like it's just a grammar thing but it's not one. Misusing the terminology causes the spread of misinformation which is already running amuck as-is.

    • @itsdune079
      @itsdune079 Год назад

      @@rahbeeuh Ohhhh, I see. I think I might have used "neurodiverse" because the things I listed from the video are things that are overstimulating to me. I couldn't confirm the other parts of the video as overstimulation to the "average" (haha for lack of a better word) Autistic experience, because each Autist is different and also I have to go off the knowledge I know about Autism while [likely] being Allistic myself.
      But the comment was so many months ago; I can't remember my actual intention. Maybe I should have put more space between the first sentence and the rest of the comment? I think I pressed enter between them, but I'm not sure. Maybe I should have put a full horizontal space between them

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад

      @@itsdune079 no problem. I tend to reply without paying attention to how old the comments are lol. In any case, it's good (or maybe not idk) that you or anyone else for that matter could relate in some way to this short film. I think it's really well done to how many of us Autistics experience such things like sensory overload. The grocery store scene ...I've been there myself quite a bit but I gotta good pair of ear defenders that really help.

  • @sheli4239
    @sheli4239 Год назад +66

    My autistic son is now 12. He used to jump out of the shopping cart every 60 seconds. This was prior to home delivery of groceries. He could not be buckled in, or else a freak out. So I had to catch him hundreds of times while I was shopping. I learned to let him do what he needed to do (feel freedom in his movements) and adapt to it on my end. So instead of strapping him in. I just catch him as he jumps. So also he was a runner. I let him run. I adapted on my end by chasing him, jogging behind him and adapting to what he needed. I never thwarted his need to do what he felt he needed to do. He bolted from me wherever we went and I always wore my running shoes. He never had a meltdown because I always let him physically do what he needed. He needed to line up every DVD in the house, I let him. I too was all alone taking care of him, husband is a trucker, not home very often. I didn't realize how hard I had it because he was my first child.

    • @abbaup8543
      @abbaup8543 Год назад

      The key out is called SURAMINE!

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey Год назад +3

      @@abbaup8543 For some, maybe. Not everyone responds well to medicine, + not every medicine is right for every patient.

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey Год назад

      Have those things which may be considered unacceptable behaviors in some circumstances decreased as he got older?

  • @spvcecloud8314
    @spvcecloud8314 Год назад +54

    When she held her daughter while she was having a meltdown I was brought to tears because I saw myself in her my son is autistic and I’m glad I’m not alone

  • @CeliaMariaEpaminondas
    @CeliaMariaEpaminondas 2 года назад +188

    Send hugs and good vibes for all mom and dad around the world who have a kid with special needs
    You all are heros...

    • @debraromero4361
      @debraromero4361 2 года назад +12

      I have a daughter with Downs Syndrome
      Thank you. I needed to hear that

    • @CeliaMariaEpaminondas
      @CeliaMariaEpaminondas 2 года назад

      @@debraromero4361 🫂

    • @resolecca
      @resolecca 2 года назад +13

      @Celia da Gaia I like to amend that to read: To all the kind loving parents of children with special needs

    • @michalgabby
      @michalgabby Год назад

      I have a mom with special needs. She is a narcist. The physical spots reminded me my emotional scars. I have been suffering all my life from her. She would mock me in front of other people. Also in this case, I pretended that it is acceptable. Life sucks sometimes.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      Please don't use the term "special needs" that's typically a euphemism for "disabled" which btw is not a bad word. The needs of Autistic people aren't special. Our needs are just needs.

  • @Im-Done-Playing
    @Im-Done-Playing Год назад +57

    I am guilty of being one of those parents who think that when a child acts up, you just need to discipline them to train them. I know very little about Autism, and didn't really believe in it other than to say these doctors are poisoning our kids to test medicines. I have to say I was honestly moved by this short film. It opened my eyes and now I will be more aware. Thank you 🙏.

    • @donnanewby3386
      @donnanewby3386 Год назад +7

      Thank you for your hinesty

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад

      Just know Autism is a spectrum disorder that presents differently in everyone Autistic person. It's not caused by vaccines or mercury, etc. It's highly genetic.

  • @pavanswaroop1712
    @pavanswaroop1712 2 года назад +67

    A heartwarming short. Sprinkles of Japanese was good on the ears. A mother is always a mother first. Kudos to the entire team. You made many of us tear up.

  • @amyschulz
    @amyschulz 2 года назад +114

    Extremely proud to have been part of this impactful film 🙏🏻

    • @user-qq2zk8wd9s
      @user-qq2zk8wd9s 2 года назад +8

      @@lux5164 I think she acted as the karen at the playground

    • @amyschulz
      @amyschulz 2 года назад +22

      I played the playground Karen

    • @ermo5623
      @ermo5623 2 года назад +13

      You did a great job! I was actually angry with you-which is a good thing!😂 I also watched your reel & will definitely watch the other projects you’ve been a part of! Great work👍😁

    • @carlahosang3804
      @carlahosang3804 2 года назад +3

      💙

    • @antispiralking9417
      @antispiralking9417 Год назад +1

      @@amyschulz nice

  • @skywishr1313
    @skywishr1313 Год назад +17

    I do not have an autistic child but I have a child who has ADHD and let me tell you the struggle as a parent is real. Not only do you have to deal with other parents, but you also have to deal with teachers, strangers, friends, family, your child, and yourself. Frustration can be built up, but in the end, you have to advocate for your child, because your child has only you. I only wish there could be more support from the community. Thank you for making this film.

  • @KristiContemplates
    @KristiContemplates Год назад +38

    As someone on the spectrum, with children on the spectrum, I am grateful for this short movie.

    • @kat19977
      @kat19977 Год назад +4

      I don't think that most of the people who watched this know that the grocery scene from the little girls perspective really feels like that.

  • @barefootgirl67
    @barefootgirl67 Год назад +36

    I can relate to the mother so much. As a widow, in 1996, I had 2 undiagnosed young toddlers. The stares, the judgements, the evictions, the everything....phew...they are 26 and 28 now and doing 95% better. I did it. I loved how she stopped apologizing at the end. Good momma.

    • @courtneycook7910
      @courtneycook7910 11 месяцев назад

      When were they diagnosed?

    • @barefootgirl67
      @barefootgirl67 11 месяцев назад

      @@courtneycook7910 around ages 8- 9

    • @courtneycook7910
      @courtneycook7910 11 месяцев назад

      @@barefootgirl67 I was a mystery diagnosis until I was 5

    • @barefootgirl67
      @barefootgirl67 11 месяцев назад

      @@courtneycook7910 you're on the spectrum too?

    • @courtneycook7910
      @courtneycook7910 11 месяцев назад

      @@barefootgirl67 yes

  • @90sbaby1
    @90sbaby1 Год назад +20

    It's even more extreme for her because 1: Asians particularly Japanese supposedly do not treat mental health the way westerners do, and 2: in the USA, Asians are model minorities; their kids are "perfect," and for her child to be acting this way in public might be extra-too much for the mom/family.

  • @Luna-zh1wy
    @Luna-zh1wy Год назад +19

    As an older sister who has a brother with Autism this brought me to tears. Glad this film was made.

  • @MurasakiOkamiVtuber
    @MurasakiOkamiVtuber Год назад +120

    When the mother slapped the horrible mother for what she said about Yoshiko, I cheered!
    (I'm autistic and I have a great relationship with my mother. I understand her struggles. Constant worrying about appearances and countless piles of paperwork, (especially when I was young). I am eternally grateful for that.

    • @lynxycon.exe-_-
      @lynxycon.exe-_- Год назад +10

      Same

    • @lifeas_jaz
      @lifeas_jaz 9 месяцев назад +2

      She's lucky that's all she did!

    • @nadezdat5081
      @nadezdat5081 3 месяца назад

      Wtf? Japanese mother is responsible for what her child did even being disabled. If she start with physical attack on me she would lost all her teeth. That's not normal you beat someone when you can't explain yourself. She could just say "sorry I lost my attention and my child is autistic". What a terrible society.

    • @ishaalimtiaz6715
      @ishaalimtiaz6715 20 дней назад

      Hahaha as an autistic person... it felt nice to see ❤❤

    • @ishaalimtiaz6715
      @ishaalimtiaz6715 20 дней назад

      ​@@nadezdat5081red head did not have to use slurs. Red head did have a point that maybe Yoshiko shouldn't be brought to public spaces since it overwhelms her and she doesn't know how to not hurt others yet, but using a slur is unforgivable.

  • @k.a.2241
    @k.a.2241 2 года назад +83

    This made me cry in empathy and I don't have any kids or personally know anyone with autism. God this was so good. You can see the pain, shame and torment on the mom's face

    • @anthonyb7571
      @anthonyb7571 2 года назад +4

      'God,' this was so good; seeing the shame, pain, & torment on the mom's face...
      Okay?...?...?

    • @ebonn93
      @ebonn93 2 года назад +2

      Thank you! I’m glad it resonated with you!

    • @k.a.2241
      @k.a.2241 2 года назад +4

      @AnthonyB
      Meaning wow this film captured accurately and realisticaly how painful everyday life can be.

    • @anthonyb7571
      @anthonyb7571 2 года назад

      @@k.a.2241 lol I'm being facetious. Just trolling. 😞

    • @anthonyb7571
      @anthonyb7571 2 года назад

      @@trublu2556 🤣

  • @SuperCHERISHED
    @SuperCHERISHED 2 года назад +65

    This short film was outstanding! The authenticity was absolutely captivating. The acting from absolutely superb by everyone! My heart went out to everyone. The mother had physical bruises on her body from her daughter fighting her. It was touching when the artistic daughter leaned back on her mother. We saw people with compassion and we saw people with unhealthy impaired thinking when it comes to autism. Physical violence is never acceptable but I can understand how the mother reacted. Often we take for granted our children who do not have significant physical and emotional challenges. I was impressed with the mother’s dedication to her daughter. The film showed how continued education on autism is needed!

  • @lizziem
    @lizziem 2 года назад +43

    Incredibly powerful, thank you for this film. It can be so lonely being a parent, especially in this case with a child the world bwhich neither understands nor embraces.

  • @AstroBot_99
    @AstroBot_99 11 месяцев назад +11

    As a boy with autism. I want to say it’s hard but also, I love my parents and that even though I give them a hard time. I try to make it up for how hard they care for me for the past 19 years as I turn 20 this year…

    • @seanwalsh5717
      @seanwalsh5717 5 месяцев назад

      Your parents love you. They are happy to help.

  • @IAMGiftbearer
    @IAMGiftbearer Год назад +60

    It's sad that adults can be as cruel as children to those who are different. Autistic children grow up and are autistic adults and the cruelty doesn't stop. Every day is like ground hog day, over and over, and over. Nothing but this is permanent.

  • @rgarlinyc
    @rgarlinyc 2 года назад +34

    Oh, oh, oh, oh... such a tragic story so sensitively crafted, I can only imagine the pain, heartache, helplessness... of Yoshiko's family as they try to safely guide her through this cruel world.💔💖

  • @haannguyen4402
    @haannguyen4402 Год назад +26

    9:56 the red headed lady deserved that slap! Cheers to Yoshiko’s mum!!🎉

    • @haannguyen4402
      @haannguyen4402 6 месяцев назад +3

      Least my mum was right about one thing: there are many people in the big world who don’t understand

  • @scottcupp8129
    @scottcupp8129 2 года назад +82

    My daughter was autistic. She had a seizure disorder that she had given herself because every time she would get frustrated, she would beat herself in the head with whatever was in her hand at the present moment including her iPad. On December 14th of 2021 she had a severe grand mal seizure. A seizure from which she never recovered from. She was only 23 :(

    • @CAMBY608
      @CAMBY608 2 года назад +8

      so sorry for your incredible loss!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @cwayzums
      @cwayzums 2 года назад +14

      I’m so sorry for your loss. This is so devastating. Your daughter was very young, but at least you had 23 years with her. It’s never long enough for a parent. I hope you’re starting to have peace with it now.

    • @nicholasvanorton7840
      @nicholasvanorton7840 2 года назад +6

      My condolences🎈

    • @ea7109
      @ea7109 2 года назад +2

      🧡🥺

    • @IcyLife3956
      @IcyLife3956 2 года назад +1

      sorry for your loss sir

  • @TomoyoTatar
    @TomoyoTatar 2 года назад +38

    I have autism...and I relate

  • @mirrorride
    @mirrorride Год назад +40

    Sometimes wondering which is more horrible, the situation of the handicapped kid or the ignorance of the surrounding population

    • @tracik1277
      @tracik1277 Год назад +6

      Most of the time it’s the ignorance. Like the use of words like handicapped. Please educate yourself.

    • @mirrorride
      @mirrorride Год назад

      @@tracik1277 to use the perfect word doesnt change the situation. But anyways you could teach me the better word to use in this case, sorry for my poor english. Thanks in advance

    • @tracik1277
      @tracik1277 Год назад +4

      @@mirrorride Use Identity First language, eg, I am Autistic, rather than ‘a person with autism’ and to be Autistic is not a disability or a handicap (a very outdated term) but rather a difference in the ‘operating system’ of the brain, the term for which is neurodivergence.

    • @mirrorride
      @mirrorride Год назад

      @@tracik1277 ok thanks, but this matter of the terminology is wide less important than the ignorance of the common population against this special persons. But thanks anyway for the lesson :)

    • @tracik1277
      @tracik1277 Год назад

      @@mirrorride I agree having been on the receiving end so often.

  • @AlauraJones
    @AlauraJones Год назад +10

    Thank you to everyone who is lovingly raising their children with AS, you are their whole world and you are making it a better place. ❤️ May God lighten your load and bless your heart. This is a good reason to smile kindly at people when their children are crying in public! And sometimes when my daughter is upset I pretend that I’m 80 years old getting to go back in time to hold my baby, and suddenly all the tears don’t seem to matter as much, I’m so happy to see her beautiful face.

  • @lilac2583
    @lilac2583 Год назад +8

    Never in my whole life i have ever related to a film as someone who has a sibling that's 2 years old and has autism and my mother always being judged about my little sister and my mother always having to apologize for my sister.this film is the most realistic film I've ever watched♥️.

  • @Tactical_Arts
    @Tactical_Arts 2 года назад +64

    Public stares. The laughs & snickers. Judgment without knowing the full story. I've experienced this for 20 years through my autistic son's eyes, and yet I love him just the same.
    God made him "who" he is for a reason - I wouldn't want him any other way.

  • @rowenahatakeyama5977
    @rowenahatakeyama5977 Год назад +15

    Virtual hugs to both of you

  • @19kcombatvet39
    @19kcombatvet39 Год назад +19

    I don't have the words.. Great job to all who worked on this.

  • @riku125
    @riku125 10 месяцев назад +12

    This. This whole story is my life and I hate it. This is exactly why I don’t take my autistic kid anywhere anymore. The stares, the judgment, the “can’t he be fixed”, the “he’s too cute to have autism”, the expectations for him to do things he might not ever do. All the blame and shame and guilt. The juggling therapies and appointments and everything else. And everytime we go out and see “normal” kids it feels like a slap in the face that my son won’t EVER be that. We can’t just hop in the car and go somewhere without having to plan for a meltdown. This is no life and I hate it. But at least I know I’m not alone in what I go through. This video reminded me that others have kids like this too and struggle just as much just to make it day to day with them.

    • @haannguyen4402
      @haannguyen4402 6 месяцев назад +4

      Don’t shelter your children

  • @carlahosang3804
    @carlahosang3804 2 года назад +52

    Such a well executed film! Heart warming and shows the struggles of what parents go through with a child with disability .. I’m so happy my daughter got to work on this film (played Yoshiko) 💙 thank you omeleto for sharing this film.

    • @gtaylor8098
      @gtaylor8098 2 года назад +6

      Your daughter did a phenomenal job! She’s very talented!

    • @carlahosang3804
      @carlahosang3804 2 года назад +2

      @@gtaylor8098 thank you so much 💙

    • @abbieprice3430
      @abbieprice3430 2 года назад +4

      Is she on the spectrum in real life or is she neurotypical?

    • @alexandrangreen6852
      @alexandrangreen6852 Год назад

      Very blessed that she was able to show the world how to love unconditionally. Many blessings to you and your family for your daughters talents🙏🏾

  • @kylewessling1996
    @kylewessling1996 2 года назад +10

    This is one of the most beautiful films I've seen on this channel in a while and I watch every single one. Magnificent.

  • @benjaminshealey7451
    @benjaminshealey7451 Год назад +10

    As a father of two autistic adults, I can relate to this story. Thanks.

  • @sarahcrisp6145
    @sarahcrisp6145 Год назад +12

    Been there, everything...my daughter and I went through the grocery scene so many times. One woman told me I needed to teach my child how to act better than that! A lot of pain, I am so sorry.

  • @metermorphose
    @metermorphose Год назад +9

    What a beautiful scene when the mother hesitated touching her daughter and got this proof of trust and affection when she unexpectedly leaned against her.
    All wonderful acters.
    Impressive film.

  • @KristiContemplates
    @KristiContemplates Год назад +9

    The tearing of the paper and crushing it, Yoshiko Chan no origami desu 🥰
    Yoshiko Chan is trying to apologise

  • @requiesticat
    @requiesticat 2 года назад +75

    When the redheaded mother insulted Yoshiko, I wanted to slap her too.

  • @nildaledixpagan7300
    @nildaledixpagan7300 2 года назад +15

    Truly, a very touching film. Very well done. Congratulations!

  • @alexdurham2037
    @alexdurham2037 2 месяца назад

    I have never related to a short film as much as this one. My daughter is turning 4 this year in June and she has mild autism she is my world 🌍. Yes it is exhausting, full-time job but it is 100% worth every second of my life. She has taught me so much I'm so proud of her. ❤

  • @Tygrus758
    @Tygrus758 2 года назад +8

    Powerful, moving, enlightening, and truly great performance, writing, and production. I really to this in a way that more empathizes with the child than the mother because I feel as though I was similar to this child for years after infancy until certain things became more habitable for me to endure this world that was all too stimulating, way too often. I look back and realize the burden carried by my parents, teachers, and siblings while I figured out the this world, and count myself merely lucky for the life that I have now. No, I am not this girl, but she is going through so much as she is portrayed. Some things do not always get better with time, but everything gets better with patience, understanding, and the strength to endure. She is stronger than she looks, and she will get stronger everyday. We all do, in our own ways. I am proud of the mother's acceptance that she showed at the very end.

  • @DirtyGirlCharlie
    @DirtyGirlCharlie Год назад +1

    This is 100% what I too am going through right now & im sobbing watching this video. The judgments can be so harsh, the looks. All of it. I pray we all can be strong & get our littles through 💕💕💕💕

  • @vipset87
    @vipset87 2 года назад +15

    comin back to say the actress was REALLY good.

  • @summerwine121
    @summerwine121 Год назад +7

    Am crying! For me I get so lonely most of the times. I am still adjusting to my son ASD.

  • @elliehernandez9069
    @elliehernandez9069 Год назад +4

    As a mom of 4 children and 2 are autistic. Thank you for this

  • @andyleung3661
    @andyleung3661 Год назад +8

    The Japanese mother took a big risk of attacking the American mother. I'm also autistic as a young child. My family always defend on behalf of me if I make an ugly situation.

  • @kayray4858
    @kayray4858 2 года назад +18

    Exactly please do not feel the need to apologise ❤️❤️❤️

    • @charlescole645
      @charlescole645 Год назад

      To neighbors who are not able to sleep because of the noise, probably yes.

  • @andresrodriguez3708
    @andresrodriguez3708 2 года назад +16

    This was an excellent episode.

  • @leeannamaiyang5495
    @leeannamaiyang5495 Год назад +4

    Never cried so much.

  • @mrharizonal
    @mrharizonal 2 года назад +7

    Wow, lovely and touching. I see you Kent.

  • @Ultrawicked
    @Ultrawicked Год назад +6

    I do t take my son to stores anymore cause i be ready to fight anybody all day 😂 but seriously he hates going into those places . He did his best when he was little but now he will only go if there isnt barely anyone in there. What dosent kill you makes you stronger in this world 💪. Both sides of the family are extremely supportive and love him alot.

  • @SiiriCressey
    @SiiriCressey Год назад +10

    The mother + daughter sharing the habit of tearing + arranging paper:
    Neurodivergence runs in families. I know. It's in mine.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +2

      It's okay to say Autism runs in families. That's what this short is about.

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey Год назад +1

      @@rahbeeuh Neurodivergence is not just autism.

    • @haannguyen4402
      @haannguyen4402 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@SiiriCresseyadhd, spd, ocd…

    • @SiiriCressey
      @SiiriCressey 6 месяцев назад

      @@haannguyen4402 SPD: sensory processing disorder?

    • @ishaalimtiaz6715
      @ishaalimtiaz6715 20 дней назад

      She also bites her nails, another sign

  • @enchanting_places_
    @enchanting_places_ 2 года назад +7

    It's heartbreaking 😣🥺💔

  • @deepalimehta4114
    @deepalimehta4114 Год назад +3

    Its like watching my life..only the mothers who are handling autistic child alone can understand the pain behind it..

  • @summerfatima2525
    @summerfatima2525 Год назад

    Beautiful documentary 😢❤

  • @nevaehhamilton3493
    @nevaehhamilton3493 Год назад +5

    When I was younger, I used to have autistic meltdowns in public places. Now that I'm older, I'm much more tolerant to overstimulation, however it doesn't mean I don't get sensory overload.

  • @mari-greciaodal2436
    @mari-greciaodal2436 Год назад +3

    Yours is a very fine and educational film, dear sir. Thank you!🙏

  • @jazzya7383
    @jazzya7383 8 месяцев назад

    This made me tear up.

  • @smustipher
    @smustipher Год назад +5

    A friend of mine has a son who is on the spectrum, and takes care of him, as well as his wife's siblings who have other developmental challenges. It is difficult on him and he handles it like a champ. People without knowledge or appreciation for how challenging it is for the kids, AND the parents, would do well to educate themselves and learn to be more grateful if their family does not face this challenge.

  • @rituparna6133
    @rituparna6133 2 года назад +17

    Her gifts being thrown in the garbage is same as her emotions by the world.

    • @YouTubeallowedmynametobestolen
      @YouTubeallowedmynametobestolen 2 года назад +18

      You are talking about the ending, right?
      I read it that her throwing her gifts in the garbage was her decision that she had no need to apologize to others for her daughter's behavior. She let go of the guilt that was eating away at her because she finally came to accept that she was guilty of nothing.

    • @highhorse902
      @highhorse902 Год назад +1

      @@RUclipsallowedmynametobestolen Nice 💞💞

  • @mauneen19
    @mauneen19 Год назад +8

    Some people can be thoroughly rotten to those who are perceived as different

  • @jessicapearson9479
    @jessicapearson9479 Год назад +3

    This hits home. I have 2 boys on Spectrum. People really do not understand how strong young child can be!! I have simular marks.

  • @sassyscribe8642
    @sassyscribe8642 Год назад +2

    Phenomenal film!

  • @GrasshopperRDG
    @GrasshopperRDG 2 года назад +7

    WOWWW! This is WHY I tune in to OMELETO....Incredible Features, this ONE is EXCEPTIONAL Indeed!

  • @soul_fiddler.cosplay20
    @soul_fiddler.cosplay20 2 месяца назад +1

    Oooo tearing paper and crumbling it up is my favorite

    • @ishaalimtiaz6715
      @ishaalimtiaz6715 20 дней назад

      Same, it looks ridiculius to any outside POV but makes complete sense from our POV. Its just, nonverbal people can't explain why they do what they do so they look 'crazy'

    • @soul_fiddler.cosplay20
      @soul_fiddler.cosplay20 20 дней назад

      @@ishaalimtiaz6715 they can use sign language if ppl understand sign language or have an interpreter, write things down on paper or small white board or type on any electronic device, use an iPad/tablet or phone with a communication tool/app, or use communication note cards, etc.

  • @kentonyc
    @kentonyc Год назад +15

    Thank you for watching the film! The team that made the film was truly a blessing. I can't thank enough the hard work, and the empathetic team that brought my words to life.
    ご視聴ありがとうございます!本当に素晴らしいチームに恵まれた最高の映画作成現場でした。視聴者の皆様、そして制作チームの皆様この場を借りてこの場を借りてお礼と感謝を申し上げます。私の言葉に命を吹き込んでいただきありがとうございました!

  • @angelineperales
    @angelineperales 2 года назад +20

    I loved this story....short and sweet sentiment

  • @user-qo3kf8bq5g
    @user-qo3kf8bq5g Год назад +7

    Autism is not a death sentence, some of us are actually pretty damn smart and independent. Mine means social deficits not intellectual.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +2

      Well none of us are impacted intellectually by Autism. That would be a separate matter called intellectual disability

    • @user-qo3kf8bq5g
      @user-qo3kf8bq5g Год назад

      @@rahbeeuh good point, but in the US people sometimes assume it.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад

      @@user-qo3kf8bq5g I'm from the US as well. I know that many people are ignorant when it comes to Autism.

  • @annamariesantillan9196
    @annamariesantillan9196 Год назад

    very well presented in portraying real life story

  • @skgoode75
    @skgoode75 Год назад +1

    You did a great job showing amazing sort film like this one. When a amercaion Japanese mother who. Struggling with a daughter who have autumn. What a great movie sending me more amazing sort film on my RUclips channel you are my favorite youtuber from your favorite youtuber shawna ❤ have a safe evening and also haveing a safe weekend ❤

  • @AMYBIERHAUS
    @AMYBIERHAUS Год назад +2

    Brava! 💞

  • @07naina
    @07naina Год назад +2

    That’s such a beautiful movie ❤

  • @Yourpleasure721
    @Yourpleasure721 Год назад +2

    thanks for sharing 💛💛

  • @supermiraculousladybug6731
    @supermiraculousladybug6731 Год назад +4

    Some parents don't understand what is like to raise an autistic child.

  • @indeed1965
    @indeed1965 2 года назад +11

    I work with autistic children, I don't live with them, but I give props to family members that do.

  • @MT-dh2tr
    @MT-dh2tr Год назад +3

    56 year old grown man. My make testosterone level is night I have to admit, I shed tears. Beautiful story.

  • @vivianchetty7477
    @vivianchetty7477 2 года назад +4

    I can relate to all this too.

  • @earthlycolorbrown6246
    @earthlycolorbrown6246 8 месяцев назад +2

    She didn't slap her entirely hard enough!

  • @vipset87
    @vipset87 2 года назад +7

    powerful stuff

  • @yuliwai6343
    @yuliwai6343 Месяц назад

    i chance to see this video. It is so relatable to me, so much insights here. I am learning to not be apologetic for my autistic son's behaviour. The grandfather's teaches understanding of the child's mind. TQ

  • @Saudyization
    @Saudyization 2 года назад +22

    Just watch news from Japanese former PM on Shinzo Abe died r.i.p. And I'm now watching another great episode from Omeleto.

  • @easternhealingarts33
    @easternhealingarts33 2 года назад +10

    ~~~I appreciate this movie cuz it helped me process something I really needed to process for the stage of life that I'm in right now and that is that some people will just think that you're crazy and that you need to stand up for yourself and you need to set boundaries and not let people walk over you and this comes from when my mom was trying to explore if I was autistic and what kind of autism I had by letting me babysit other kids of other low-income parents. When my crush wanted to turn on me and told me what was going on I investigated my suspicions and I cut off my relationship and stopped babysitting the neighbors it broke everybody's heart and cut relationships burned Bridges but I will never let people use me and think that I'm crazy and I spent two years plotting how I would explain that I'm not only to test through tag and be able to be accepted for the Japanese exchange student program~~~

    • @statickaeder29
      @statickaeder29 2 года назад +1

      Good luck on the exchange program. I didn't get my diagnosis until I was 40, but I was able to go abroad to Russia twice. I think that dyslexia and autism actually helped me learn Russian - reading has always been hard, and so I didn't suffer from the loss of trust at finding it hard to read Russian. Also, while I miss many social cues, I read people in other ways that are very helpful.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад

      Just a note about "what kinda Autism you have" no one has a kind of Autism. They are either Autistic or they're not.

  • @soelvfaks1
    @soelvfaks1 Год назад

    Golden.

  • @mikemartinez1557
    @mikemartinez1557 2 года назад +5

    I know the feeling..

  • @kazb4496
    @kazb4496 Год назад +2

    It’s sad the mom can’t except it her grand daughter has Autism this woman needs surport not judgment 💐

  • @Syndilouwho
    @Syndilouwho Год назад +8

    My son is 22 and has Autism. My brother is 39 and has Autism. I agree with all of the comments. They are our greatest gifts and deepest heartaches; it is hard has to explosion. In so happy for all who mentioned a loved one with Autism. They are the person before the disorder ( not my autistic daughter etc). It is a huge difference
    and recognizing them as humans... this was great.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      The two aren't separate though. Autism is a part of who we are. Like I'm also Black but if I said I have blackness that's just silly. Accepting someone as Autistic is accepting them for their whole self and not excluding any part of them.

  • @misstressglamourghoul_6663
    @misstressglamourghoul_6663 Год назад +5

    I have a few spectrums of autism as well it’s not easy when it comes to dealing with noise or being easily irritated

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      What does that even mean? "A few spectrums of Autism" you're Autistic or you aren't.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh 11 месяцев назад

      @@ZiggyonMars the way that it's worded is confusing but I know why it's called a spectrum. Thanks /gen

  • @jshelton100
    @jshelton100 2 года назад +20

    I wish there were more mainstream TV shows like “The Good Doctor” to explain autism.

    • @TheAutisticEducator
      @TheAutisticEducator 2 года назад +5

      That is a stereotype

    • @time3620
      @time3620 2 года назад +1

      My friends have autism

    • @TheAutisticEducator
      @TheAutisticEducator 2 года назад +8

      @@time3620 We don't "have" autism, we are Autistic. It is not a disease.

    • @time3620
      @time3620 2 года назад

      The Autistic Educator Âû o sorry

    • @yukononun
      @yukononun Год назад

      The Good Doctor isn't accurate. It's just stereotyping autistic people.

  • @Hidy_Ho
    @Hidy_Ho 2 года назад +7

    Intense ....

  • @koltindriver5935
    @koltindriver5935 6 месяцев назад

    I’m on the high end of the spectrum. Currently in the process of getting another job (the last one I had was a temporary position at a sporting goods store over my final 6 months of high school), I recently graduated high school with a diploma (and planning on going into the skilled trades), I do chores around the house, and can drive a car/pickup truck (I have my learner permit).
    However, when I was very young, I will admit, I **used to** consistently melt down, but as I got older, it eventually came to the point where I don’t melt down at all. I still have medications that I have to take, but they are not very potent at all. I did have the benefit of growing up in a rural area, or else someone would have called CPS. Because of these issues, I’m having a late start to my adulthood.
    Autism is, technically, a learning disability, but, it is a very diverse spectrum; on the lower end, you have the nonverbals who require a substantial amount of support, and on the higher end, you have the ones that are (almost, but not quite) indistinguishable from the neurotypicals, but still require minimal support (ie. medications).

  • @yoviferial1667
    @yoviferial1667 2 года назад +8

    In my country if her husband is a soldier,she doesn't need to be worry of cops for her ordinary problems.

    • @vipset87
      @vipset87 2 года назад +5

      yea im sure the cops are takin real good care of her while her husbands away

  • @Rafarish1
    @Rafarish1 2 года назад +11

    i feel parents with autism children are so brave and courageous, more power and love for them

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +1

      *Autistic children not Autism children

  • @jazzya7383
    @jazzya7383 8 месяцев назад

    I’m happy she decided to let Grampa help

  • @KristiContemplates
    @KristiContemplates Год назад +8

    As soon as I saw the elephant drop I knew

  • @lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64
    @lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 Год назад +12

    She meant business with that slap! Hopefully the woman will watch her mouth in the future. You can't just say anything to anybody.

    • @charlescole645
      @charlescole645 Год назад +2

      Not really, the slap only intensifies the discrimination, she is going to raise her son and teach him to avoid (never befriend) autistic people. Hence why this isn't really the answer.

    • @rahbeeuh
      @rahbeeuh Год назад +6

      ​@@charlescole645she already had a poor attitude towards Autistic people to begin with. She might be more discriminatory towards Asian people as well. Neither of which is right in any way.

  • @itzover22
    @itzover22 Год назад +3

    As an autistic person, I have the same behavior. Luckily I was able to get a therapy when I was a kid that time. Wonder how I would be now if I didn’t get any therapy that time damn