shay mitchell is so on point. her mindset is everything, and i love the way she carries herself with grace. love her to death and forever an icon in my book
Spot on in every way. "And I hope you're happy. If you truly love somebody, you want them to live their happiest life, and if that's not with me- I don't want to force that". Loving someone is wanting them to be happy, with or without you. It's not clinging. Forcing never works and always backfires, getting what you feared. It's not grasping for your own validation and illusionary security through codependency. It's freedom. It's the freedom and flow of choosing each other, with all the space in the world not to. And then you are free too.
I totalllllllly get where Shay is coming from. 10 years ago when I was in my mid 20s, I would have been stressing about guys what they were doing why I didn’t hear from them. But I received advice from my best friend who did long distance for the first 5 years of her relationship with a pro athlete and I asked her how she managed and she said what Shay said. I can’t live my life worrying about if he’ll cheat on me. We’ll cross that bridge if we get there, but for now, I know he loves and wants to be with me, and as long as he keeps returning to me that’s all I’ll concern myself with.
The amount of times I have come back to this video when my anxiety is getting the best of me due to past traumas and wanting to protect my heart. I just need more of Shay in every way.
The " if its meant be it will be" or the it was meant to happen its how I live my life and I love that so much, regardless of how bad or painful my mind always takes me to those conclusions and I can move on.
Jealous and anxiety in relationship is not normal... Let none normalize such.. relationship is about bonding and growing,romance.. anxiety and jealousy is on the darkside( no winning in this).
I don't ever think I've heard this woman speak before now in my life, and I've never watched any shows she's been in, but this just made me an instant fan of her. She's so on point and I swear everything she just said just like.... changed my brain chemistry lol. Thank, you Shay 😩😭🩷
Most know her from playing Emily on Pretty Little Liars lol That was her first acting gig and Wow, has she come a long way in terms of self-confidence ❤
Literally I think the exact same way as Shay and that how I’ve lived my life since I was a little girl. For me it was a trauma response to the disfunction and chaos in my household. I couldn’t sit there worrying abt what “could” happen. And when shit went down it didn’t break me bc I kept it moving and then I heard the saying “everything happens for a reason” and to this day I live my life by that and I love how Shay literally brought that up bc it helps with soo much in life even when bad shit happens, it was for a reason to bring you where you are now. God is always here and just bc shit isn’t going well doesn’t mean he isn’t here, it’s his plan for you.
I love Shay but her response here was a bit off. The way she was repeatedly saying "I am ok if some "deceit" happens cos I'll be ok, I'll co-parent" etc gives the gist that she may have slightly fallen out of love with him and has already come to terms that the relationship might not last. The "he is living his own life and we are just 2 people who came together and had kids" at 1:18 makes it sound like having children is the main purpose of their relationship rather than them being each other's companion for life.
I agreeeeeeee! I was wondering who else felt the same way about her responses. I'm sorry, but if my man, whom I adore, father of my children, etc...cheats...my life will fall apart. I'll be broken for a while, and not be okay. It's okay TO NOT BE OKAY. But that doesn't mean, that you will NEVER heal from your pain. There may be scars but the recovery will take time. Deep emotional feelings don't work like an on/off switch. Shay speaks all typical woman power motivational speaker (which is fine) but it felt out of touch and unrelatable.
@@MJ-fk2ko Shay is saying everything is cool even though it clearly is not. She repeated herself multiple times to almost try and make her self believe that she actually feels that way. You know what is really cool. Being fully invested in your relationship and caring wholeheartedly.
@@MJ-fk2koshe never said it wasn’t okay to not feel okay. When she says things like “if I have to fight for him he’s yours” that means not lessening herself for anyone which is a healthy mindset. There’s nuance in her statements but it comes off as very relatable and not outta touch at all
I am so I love with him you will learn a hard lesson about that like Shay said love yourself more this isn’t a movie. Yes of course it will hurt but the difference between me now and my 20s is I let go faster. We can’t control the outcome and I say now who really cares
This is the first episode I’ve watched of this podcast and was drawn to it because of Shay Mitchell. I have to say I was a little creeped out by the interviewer. They mention wanting to make Shay Mitchell drunk as she’s really well media trained so they would need to get her drunk to get stuff out of her. Almost like a creepy guy trying to get a girl drunk. Towards the end, the interviewer mentions how they want some “tea” because everything about Shay Mitchell so far has been too positive. Is the aim always to draw on an individuals negatives? Seems a little strange. Can’t speak for whether Shay Mitchell felt uncomfortable, but certainly felt uncomfortable to watch.
I understand what you're saying but I think it has more to do with how Shay was fake-positive AF and that's annoying for a show that's all about being real. It's frustrating when people refuse to open up, like why are you even here to begin with?
I feel these questions didn’t allow her to shine through she’s so fun free spirited relaxed happy and her relationship is amazing just watch the video of when they went to Vancouver I felt she was a little on defense because of the interviewer
When you're being interviewed, there's always this tendency to come across as self-assured and as though you've figured life out. I find it boring and cliche.
all I could hear was "he's having fun" which clearly means he's stepping out multiple times. it seems she's chosen to accept that he will never be loyal to solely her... sad to see, but I hope she realises that life can be shared with someone who wants the same things as her
nah I don't think so. She's just using stoic principle here. Deal with things as they come. It's no use to be hurt by imagination that might or might not be real.
The reason it bothers you is because it has nothing to do with something being meant to be. There's no overseer making things happen unless you're in a movie so things don't happen for a reason or because they are meant to be. If you're living real life, then the reason it bothers you is because you know, whether consciously or not, that if you both leveled with each other and made it happen, it would happen and the fact that maybe you want that but your hoped for partner doesn't or isn't behaving like they do makes you jealous and annoyed and all sorts of other things. If we're truthful with each other, these problems go away.
She also doesn't care for marriage or have those "labels"... which is fine, to each their own, but it all makes her responses here make sense. She makes it very clear that she does her stuff and he does his. Sounds like a big divide in a relationship lol. Where's the "we" ? He's the "love of my life" ? Nowhereeeee
@@9crimes87 if she's providing for him then she has someone on the side and that would be why she loves what they have. Women don't respect a man they provide for. If that's what it is than coo but don't sell other young women a dream that they will love that lifestyle also. It breeds mental health issues as you can see.
@@callherdaddy Are you going to address the fact that you bullied Priyanaka and Nick, called her uglly, lesbian, said Nick has big nipple syndrome, and that you wanted to punch them?
Loves Shay’s answers. Almost therapeutic. The interviewer however is not at the same maturity level and comes across loud and vulgar - as if she was trying to use foul language to be cool enough to carry this conversation with Shay or something.
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shay mitchell is so on point. her mindset is everything, and i love the way she carries herself with grace. love her to death and forever an icon in my book
Spot on in every way. "And I hope you're happy. If you truly love somebody, you want them to live their happiest life, and if that's not with me- I don't want to force that". Loving someone is wanting them to be happy, with or without you. It's not clinging. Forcing never works and always backfires, getting what you feared. It's not grasping for your own validation and illusionary security through codependency. It's freedom. It's the freedom and flow of choosing each other, with all the space in the world not to. And then you are free too.
We need a self esteem podcast from Shay Mitchel
Yes Shay. 1000 percent. This is the attitude you have to have. If you can be stolen. We aren't meant to be.
Currently crying because this is me at 25. ❤ I needed to hear this as I’m trying to grow.
I totalllllllly get where Shay is coming from. 10 years ago when I was in my mid 20s, I would have been stressing about guys what they were doing why I didn’t hear from them. But I received advice from my best friend who did long distance for the first 5 years of her relationship with a pro athlete and I asked her how she managed and she said what Shay said. I can’t live my life worrying about if he’ll cheat on me. We’ll cross that bridge if we get there, but for now, I know he loves and wants to be with me, and as long as he keeps returning to me that’s all I’ll concern myself with.
Wow that's a really good perspective to have!! Thank you for sharing ❤
I love Shay and her personality. Such a strong woman
Shay needs her own podcast
Yes 😩
I agree with you… she’s very good at speaking, her perspective is so good and very elegant like and her conversation style is on point
The amount of times I have come back to this video when my anxiety is getting the best of me due to past traumas and wanting to protect my heart. I just need more of Shay in every way.
OMG same! I've watched this so many times in the last month and it makes me feel so empowered. ❤
@@meganrenee5581 sending you all the love ❤️ you are brave :)
If it is meant to be, then it is meant to be. Love this ❤
Shay Mitchell is my role model and always will be! Love her views on this as with so many other things. She's the real deal and the best!
Ugh this is so good for me to listen to. Let him go, it's not worth the stress
this conversation is literally going to change my life.
Holy shit I think this convo just changed my life.
The " if its meant be it will be" or the it was meant to happen its how I live my life and I love that so much, regardless of how bad or painful my mind always takes me to those conclusions and I can move on.
Jealous and anxiety in relationship is not normal... Let none normalize such.. relationship is about bonding and growing,romance.. anxiety and jealousy is on the darkside( no winning in this).
I don't ever think I've heard this woman speak before now in my life, and I've never watched any shows she's been in, but this just made me an instant fan of her. She's so on point and I swear everything she just said just like.... changed my brain chemistry lol. Thank, you Shay 😩😭🩷
Most know her from playing Emily on Pretty Little Liars lol That was her first acting gig and Wow, has she come a long way in terms of self-confidence ❤
Literally I think the exact same way as Shay and that how I’ve lived my life since I was a little girl. For me it was a trauma response to the disfunction and chaos in my household. I couldn’t sit there worrying abt what “could” happen. And when shit went down it didn’t break me bc I kept it moving and then I heard the saying “everything happens for a reason” and to this day I live my life by that and I love how Shay literally brought that up bc it helps with soo much in life even when bad shit happens, it was for a reason to bring you where you are now. God is always here and just bc shit isn’t going well doesn’t mean he isn’t here, it’s his plan for you.
ugh i love shay mitchell, her perspective on things is really refreshing!
And also he’s either going to do it wether you are a loving caring person. Cheater is gonna cheat no matter how much you do for them.
She has GOT to be the prettiest woman. Ever! She’s so beautiful!
Shay is dropping knowledge 🔥🔥🔥🔥
She is absolutely iconic and her mindset is so inspiring. Thank you for this podcast, I need part 2-22✌️
I get what she says but walking away is hard because you've invested so much
Stop investing so much. Listen to sheraseven. Make him invest in YOU. Invest in yourself.
Wow, I love Shay’s vibe!
Everything Shay said!!!! Sensible. On point.
This video came at such an important time for me. Thank you.
I love Shay but her response here was a bit off. The way she was repeatedly saying "I am ok if some "deceit" happens cos I'll be ok, I'll co-parent" etc gives the gist that she may have slightly fallen out of love with him and has already come to terms that the relationship might not last. The "he is living his own life and we are just 2 people who came together and had kids" at 1:18 makes it sound like having children is the main purpose of their relationship rather than them being each other's companion for life.
I agreeeeeeee! I was wondering who else felt the same way about her responses. I'm sorry, but if my man, whom I adore, father of my children, etc...cheats...my life will fall apart. I'll be broken for a while, and not be okay. It's okay TO NOT BE OKAY. But that doesn't mean, that you will NEVER heal from your pain. There may be scars but the recovery will take time. Deep emotional feelings don't work like an on/off switch. Shay speaks all typical woman power motivational speaker (which is fine) but it felt out of touch and unrelatable.
@@MJ-fk2ko Shay is saying everything is cool even though it clearly is not. She repeated herself multiple times to almost try and make her self believe that she actually feels that way. You know what is really cool. Being fully invested in your relationship and caring wholeheartedly.
she def sounds like she’s directly trying to get this message out to him rn 😭
@@MJ-fk2koshe never said it wasn’t okay to not feel okay. When she says things like “if I have to fight for him he’s yours” that means not lessening herself for anyone which is a healthy mindset. There’s nuance in her statements but it comes off as very relatable and not outta touch at all
more women needs to here this and believe in themselves.self love always❤
Please do longer interviews🙏🏻
I have her exact mindset 👏
All the time?
The best episode!! Shay is a boss babe
Love these conversations 💖
Needed to hear this ❤
I am so I love with him you will learn a hard lesson about that like Shay said love yourself more this isn’t a movie. Yes of course it will hurt but the difference between me now and my 20s is I let go faster. We can’t control the outcome and I say now who really cares
I love her too. even since PLL is like a queen!
Loooove Shay! ❤ when i need motivation i look her up 🎉Beautiful and Smart!
If he wanted to, he would!
Shay is a healthy woman
Shay, my dear Shay, always so lovely.
I LOVE THIS WOMAN
Adore this woman so much and I’m older than her
I love me some Shay Mitchell! Always gorgeous, cool and loads of wisdom to share.
😍😍😍😍 obsessed with Shay!
very much needed to hear this as an 18 yearold women.
I love shayshe needs a podcast
Love Shay 😍 her tiktoks are the best
i needed to hear this today
This is the first episode I’ve watched of this podcast and was drawn to it because of Shay Mitchell. I have to say I was a little creeped out by the interviewer. They mention wanting to make Shay Mitchell drunk as she’s really well media trained so they would need to get her drunk to get stuff out of her. Almost like a creepy guy trying to get a girl drunk. Towards the end, the interviewer mentions how they want some “tea” because everything about Shay Mitchell so far has been too positive. Is the aim always to draw on an individuals negatives? Seems a little strange. Can’t speak for whether Shay Mitchell felt uncomfortable, but certainly felt uncomfortable to watch.
I understand what you're saying but I think it has more to do with how Shay was fake-positive AF and that's annoying for a show that's all about being real. It's frustrating when people refuse to open up, like why are you even here to begin with?
@@dr.jenniferma3914who’s to say she’s fake positive? Why is only being a mess being real?
I love the hosts honesty.
I feel these questions didn’t allow her to shine through she’s so fun free spirited relaxed happy and her relationship is amazing just watch the video of when they went to Vancouver I felt she was a little on defense because of the interviewer
Yea definitely 💯 her relationship and very private and she seems very secure in that
Beautiful message
So good i really neeed this
Get to know each other first and learn to trust them true truth of goodness God bless each other's all life's for the best ❤❤️🇹🇹.
This was so good. Shay is dope.
I love this 🩷
This was a therapy session for me
I love her perspective, very mature ❤
Wait so all the full episodes are on Spotify? Nah I’m good.
I love shay ❤
Jay Sheety interview brought me here 👏🙌
I need more love yourself ♥️♥️
Wow I love her perspective.
I've ALWAYS thought like this.
Shay's so beautiful ❤
THIS WOMAN.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Shay has good advice
Needed that
Where's the full episode?
When you're being interviewed, there's always this tendency to come across as self-assured and as though you've figured life out. I find it boring and cliche.
kudos
Girl,
Everything you said.. SAME!
I am not this healed yet 😢
all I could hear was "he's having fun" which clearly means he's stepping out multiple times. it seems she's chosen to accept that he will never be loyal to solely her... sad to see, but I hope she realises that life can be shared with someone who wants the same things as her
nah I don't think so. She's just using stoic principle here. Deal with things as they come. It's no use to be hurt by imagination that might or might not be real.
The reason it bothers you is because it has nothing to do with something being meant to be. There's no overseer making things happen unless you're in a movie so things don't happen for a reason or because they are meant to be. If you're living real life, then the reason it bothers you is because you know, whether consciously or not, that if you both leveled with each other and made it happen, it would happen and the fact that maybe you want that but your hoped for partner doesn't or isn't behaving like they do makes you jealous and annoyed and all sorts of other things. If we're truthful with each other, these problems go away.
Shay Mitchell is 100% correct.
Lie again
Where can I watch the full thing for free ?
i want to know too
On Spotify!
@@callherdaddy it’s not for free tho
@@Flowersgot7it is! You don’t need to pay anything for Spotify if you don’t mind the ads. It’s the same for RUclips
She said it's hard and she loves what she has. She said nothing about loving him. She loves the life he provides. There's always a trade-off.
She already has a life, she been in the acting game for a minute
" I love what WE have". She's a successful actress and entrepreneur. If anything shes's providing for him
I heard that too. Just in how cavalier she is about losing him, says a lot. This is a woman who doesn't fall in love (at least not deeply).
She also doesn't care for marriage or have those "labels"... which is fine, to each their own, but it all makes her responses here make sense. She makes it very clear that she does her stuff and he does his. Sounds like a big divide in a relationship lol. Where's the "we" ? He's the "love of my life" ? Nowhereeeee
@@9crimes87 if she's providing for him then she has someone on the side and that would be why she loves what they have. Women don't respect a man they provide for. If that's what it is than coo but don't sell other young women a dream that they will love that lifestyle also. It breeds mental health issues as you can see.
Yes.
Wow love this. Why I cannot watch the full video here on RUclips? I love visuals
Full interview is available to watch on Spotify!
@@callherdaddy Are you going to address the fact that you bullied Priyanaka and Nick, called her uglly, lesbian, said Nick has big nipple syndrome, and that you wanted to punch them?
Loves Shay’s answers. Almost therapeutic. The interviewer however is not at the same maturity level and comes across loud and vulgar - as if she was trying to use foul language to be cool enough to carry this conversation with Shay or something.
How do we watch the full interview?
spotify
She doesn’t sit home she’s always out
Shay my G, effin’ ❤ her 💋
😢 and we will be able to make sure that you always have a problem with a liar
2:21 lol
Where is the FULL interview :) Someone help
spotify
Did I miss something? Alex is wearing a diamond on her ring finger 😯
Do not go where you are not invited.
The problem starts when he wants her and ME! A cheater who comes and tells you about it is not a problem!
What does he do?
INTERVIEW ERIKA JAYNE!
Love you ❤
Letting him go. Not letting my money go.
The questions were quite intrusive and disrespectful, very pushy as well 👎
What she do t understand if her mans really loved her she would be wherever he is there would be no oh whats he doing bc she would be with him
That’s not possible. She can’t possibly be EVERYWHERE he is lol
These people have children. Not possible 😂
Wait where is the madison beer episode?
on spotify
@@viktoriamertens3601 no it’s not :/
@@liakourti it is, i’m listening to it right now
I could literally send you a screenshot rn. It’s from April 19
@@viktoriamertens3601 I just looked it up and it’s not there do you have the link?
🥺🥺🫡🫡
😇😇😇
Also who is this actor? Never heard of her