My grandparents had a clause that if you contest and are found to not be in the right you lose your share of inheritance and have to pay all lawyers fees
Sounds like a great plan! Still in the fight over it. They don't deserve it. My ex-husband's stepsisters when their mom died or fighting over one of her dresses in the bedroom and ripped it before she even been buried
My grandma had the same clause. But certain family members were mad over what I and others got, so they tried to get my inheritance changed but lost theirs to charity. Apparently they didn’t understand the clause, they had thought that they get mine taken away from me. I thought it was funny. They’re not very bright.
The fact they called the police and had OP arrested based on a false crime was enough for me to cut ties with all of them. The police probably went after the family because they knew they messed up when the lawyer showed up. I'm so glad OP decided to leave and start her life without any of them.
Funeral costs are usually charged to the estate if there is much of an estate. Often, someone will foot the bill so the funeral isn't delayed, then the cost will be submitted to the estate. The bonds OP sees being broken have always been broken. The grandmother was the duct tape that held the family together.
My thoughts exactly, they're probably always fighting and never really forgave eachother. But she was the duct tape to this Chaos of a family. Sometimes ppl think it's this waay. When it was that way along. But she was shielded and
Some people buy their funeral arrangements ahead of time so not to bother the family. My dad died and he did not prepare so we had to payback my grandma estate when she died. My aunt still tac on it when she sells properties of the estate. Only her kids and her benefitted. We are still not getting any money. I refuse to sign any paperwork nor claim taxes cause I have not recieve no money. When she dies I am going to celebrate. She is an evil woman and her husband is just the same. Her daughter uses foster kids as a means for income.
I have no idea where this story is taking place. And in the US, each state has their own unique flavor of estate management. I can't claim to be an expert of the field in even one state. But generally speaking, if you have property you need a will. That will, will layout all of your wishes including funeral expenses. Now with Grandma well aware she was sick and likely dying, I have to scratch my head if no will was in place. If there is a will, why is anybody fighting other than poorly handling their grief on the passing? Now, assuming no will is in place, an administrator can be setup to run the estate. Generally speaking if the family of heirs can't agree to who that can be, the estate sits in limbo until either (1) an agreement is reached on who will administer the estate or (2) somebody does it once they legally can. I don't know if every state in the US is the same, but in mine if no decision has been reached within three months of the person passing, the first one who shows up at the clerk of court is the winner or loser depending on your point of view. Now, the estate pays for the funeral if there is any money left. Funeral expenses is priority number one I believe. So even if the family pays for it out of pocket, the estate will still need to cover that expense before the estate is settled. Now, estates without wills cover financial assets. Generally speaking not physical assets like homes. These generally can be brought into the estate only if (1) everybody agrees to it (recommend getting that in writing) (2) the property is needed to cover the bills. The short of it all is that if you have minors involved if you own physical property, you need a will. Generally speaking, inheritance goes like this. Children, grandchildren, great grand kids, etc. No children? Then parents. No parents, then siblings. From siblings it goes to nieces and nephews. So unless the grandkids are next in line, there is nothing to really argue about. Their cut is likely to be so small as to be hardly making it worth while to even be involved. The more inheritors the more diluted the estate gets (without a will).
True BUT..eventhough she was 'so close' to her GM she never makes clear if she even wanted to spend 1 cent towards the funeral Don't no why GM gave everything to OP either ...she must have secretly hated them all
@@robertx8020most likely she saw each of their characters and ultimately decided the one who deserved it was the one who wasn't in it for the money but because she cared for her own well being near the end of her life
OP's grandmother wasn't holding this family together. The thought of her money is what had everyone getting along, and sucking up so they get a better inheritance. But, I am glad Grandma knew better and saw through them all. Also, you can tell by OPs personality in her writing, that had the family just shut up during the reading, OP probably would have split the inheritance without a second thought.
So EVERYBODY was showning love was 'sucking up to her ' but OP showing love was 'true love? Really? Not a single person of this large family loved her? I call BS and feel OP was jsut her golden GC
OP thought the same...read the post again. She was expecting the updates when she made the first post.. "MY HARD EARNED INHERITANCE," line. Exposed them. Wow impressive. Hope granny felt the love though
@@robertx8020 I agree. If the story is real. OP exposed themselves when she literally followed the usual reddit advice BEFORE hand, and had made the first post. She was expecting the whole situation. And the reddit post would have been useful if her family was smart and not made upstoriea. But hired a lawyer..It made her "look innocent," but this whole story smells. The "hard earned inheritance," comment...plus the "I have learned that..learned that..lesson of,: stuff? Very scary post
I'm glad you didn't give those greedy vultures a dime! They wouldn't do anything for their own grandma. And had the audacity to file false charges on you. Grands was the backbone of the family. Enjoy your inheritance and don't look back!
You know.. if one elderly death causes your whole family to fall apart, it means that your family never was whole and that elderly person spend their whole life holding up every one like in “grandma” cage.
My Grammie recently passed and we are dealing with greedy green eyed family members too, I had hoped she’d be able to spoil herself longer on this earth. Inheritance is a family ender.
I know how you feel. My aunt's family (I'm estranged cause I married a technician, not some dude with money) asked me to go to her funeral. I said no since they only wanted to save face. Best decision ever made.
Reminds me of my family, my mom was the glue to my family, when she passed, fight over what little inherentance there was (few hundred dollars), constantly fighting and everyone going their own way, some haven't made contact in the last 6 years
This happened to my mom and her cousins when her aunt died. The money and possessions ruined their friendship. Unfortunately something like this shows who people really are....
Well the grandma could have done worse with her inheritance. She could have mirrored the man who declared that his wealth only be distributed 21 years after the death of his last surviving grandchild. The man who did this died in 1919, the money was finally distributed in 2011
"Inheritance" is a rusty dagger thrust into most families. A rusty dagger that brings out peoples ugliest faces. Im glad my family have a bit of tradition to sort out part of inheritances ahead of time to avoid conflicts later and for everyone to be able to focus on the right things when the time comes.
I keep getting hung up on random “flaws” in these stories. For example, the argument about everyone chipping in to pay for the funeral. That should come out of the estate…. Like, why would that even be up for discussion? It’s not like they have to wait until after the funeral to read the will…
I took care of my mom after my dad died . I got everything, my brothers said i deserved it all. My sisters of course contested. They were out of the house the longest and never around unless they needed money. Family ya can't live with them and ya can't live without them
OP, your grandmother knew what she was doing. Honor her wishes. Use the money she left to make a better life for yourself. And learn to love yourself the way she did.
My brother and his kids did something similar when our mom passed. All i cared about were the cast iron skillets I used to help her fix homemade biscuits in and my niece *tried* to horn in on those AFTER they ransacked the house literally a couple of hours after she passed away. I have little doubt that if that kind of money were involved - this would be my brother. But mom wouldn't have left him out in the cold. so... I broke ties after the funeral. It's been 13 years... not one peep from them. I've heard other family horror stories from friends where a family death caused the vultures to descend. :(
for the OP, its quite simple they want money, tell them to shut up, be entitled! then ask them to discuss when everybody cooled down, if theres just any hint of spiked distress just call it off. even as her mom, since even granny totally entrusted everything to OP, thats really a wise decision of her since only her mourns.
Family fortunes can be wonderful or they can be the worst thing ever. OP's grandmother left the money to the one who SHOWED how much the grandmother was loved and SHOWED her concern for the grandmother. As the old saying goes, "Talk is cheap." My story doesn't involve millions, maybe a couple of thousand and some jewelry, but it caused a rift between my family and my godmother. My mom's sister (let's call her H) told my mom and me (64 year-old female), on the day of my 16th birthday, that she was giving me an antique Cameo dinner ring and that she had named me executor of her estate. Well, my godmother (call her Z) overheard this and was livid -- if you don't want to hear something you won't like, then don't eavesdrop on private conversations. Z was mean to H during their visit to my parents' home and on the trip back to their home town -- she was also upset with her mother and the other two aunts that had come with her because they thought it was a good idea (H had talked with the aunts - her sisters, actually - and her brothers about what she had planned and they all supported it). H died when I was about 31. As executor of the estate, I had to make the arrangements for the funeral, put her money into an account that allowed her brothers access so they could pay property taxes and do some upkeep to her home until it could be sold. Yes, the money WAS left to me. NO, I did NOT go overboard with the funeral expenses -- she was a person who lived frugally and did not want an elaborate funeral. And, NO, I did NOT keep any money when I moved it into the account that gave my uncles access. I got two other rings, a few books, and furniture -- the house was put in my uncles' names so they could sell it. Z stayed angry with H and me long after H's death. The reason H named me executor and put my name on her bank accounts was that Z had manipulated her father's brother and her own parents into naming her as their sole heir (cutting out her brothers and sisters from her parents estate and her cousins from their fathers estate). H knew I would do what was right with the money and not go too far nor skimp too much with the funeral arrangements. Z approached me the day of H's funeral telling me she hoped I spent the rest of H's money as frugally on myself as I did her funeral and that I did NOT deserve any of H's money NOR the rings I got. Z never apologized for the things she said to me, my mom, or H; but I forgave her as did my mom. I did learn that the LOVE of money is the root of evil due to that experience.
My Aunt is suing her own granddaughter because my grandfather signed the house over to her to go to medical school. My aunt got the entire contents of the house plus his IRA, but the is not enough for her. My niece ended up moving out of state to get away, but it is still in the courts.
Their reactions show why OP was left all of the money. And for those in the audience, if you want to know who a person or people really are, give them $500 to fight over.
Same happened in my family, but there was no millions to get. Just an old house. My dad and his siblings didn't see or talk to each other for 20 years now...
I wish OP the best if luck. Money usually causes more family issues than most people understand. Some people think that they have a say on their parents or grandparents money. They absolutely do not, it was Grandma’s money to do with as she wished. Don’t give in, it will never solve any family issues that came up. Because they believe you cheated them out of their “fair” share of someone else’s money. Sounds like it is time for you to charge your family for lying to the police and having you arrested. If you do not fight back it will only get worse.
Reminds me of how my dad's family completely fell apart after his mom passed away. I was six when she did and was the only one of my sisters that knew her. I used to be very close to two cousins on that side of the family but after she passed away those relationships broke. Now my dad's father doesn't want anything to do with anyone and refuses to leave New Mexico for anything not even for the funeral of his oldest son. He's also made it clear that he doesn't want to be family. My middle sister was asked if we had any grandparents left, she told them biologically we have one left but relationship wise, no we don't. The only one close to him is one my dad's sisters and we're pretty sure it's just for the money. The only family I'm close to is my mom's side of the family minus her disowned brother.
Same thing for me but it was my Grandfather. Almost exactly like yours with a few differences. It's so sad to think about. Unfortunately my grandmother was just like your grandfather. The one who was close to her was my Uncle and that was because he used her for free room and board. Glad to know this wasn't unique even though it sucks.
@@sacredseraphim3987 so sorry to hear that. It does suck when a family just shatters. Specially when you have only one grandparent left and they don't want to be family. He was also very abusive to my dad when he grew up, part of why I actually don't want anything to do with my dad's father.
I am estranged from a younger sister. She was rude to my current fiancée when I introduced her to him. I am also estranged from my stepmother that raised me. She catered to my sister and never helped me out when I needed her. I seen her only when my sister went to visit her son and grandkids at my moms house. Well this year she kicked my nephew out and he doesn't want anything to do with her. I need to tell him it is. A blessing cause she uses people for her gain. She never went and picked me up if I needed to go anywhere due to car issues, never helped me out financially yet was jealous of my MIL AND VISITING HER OR DOING THINGS WITH MY INLAWS. I GOT DIVORCED AND I HAVE NOT TOLD MY STEPMOTHER ABOUT IT. ALSO I REFUSE TO BE AROUND HER WHEN SHE TRIES TO QUESTION MY RELIGIOUS FAITH.
Yeah, people these days... money has become an evil vessel. My family lives nearby a coal Co. so becuz there were mining on our land we were supposed to get a certain %. But greedy relatives manipulated it away from my grandmother and used it on themselves, karma came back in my family having more educated individuals unlike their family. They do not have one educated individual since they stole all that $ since.
If your family hates your guts because you got the money block them all they need to honor the wishes of your grandmother even if they don’t like the outcome, it’s not like you’re some gold digger or some man after her money
Wow, just wow. I have nothing to say about how I feel about this family, enraged is an underestimate of the anger I feel towards this toxic greedy family. OP was the only one who truly felt love for her grandma as a person and not as a free bank account to dip into. My suggestion to OP, get a new phone number, the family might try and call you from a different number to call you.
Don't delay in set up your will naming a nationally recognized charity as beneficiary if you die (before writing an new will). And after you have it, let that information slip to the in family gossip. And continue to distance yourself from your family. They need time to come to their senses. You need time to moan and heal from the lost. Don't give them money. Don't make any big decisions. Don't spend much more then your need to be safe, but be safe. You need time to sit with the changes (without others in your ear).
You did the right thing cutting ties with that horrible family. They were like vultures circling around your poor grandma just waiting for her to pass to try and get a nibble of the inheritance
Unfortunately I have a similar story. My grand parents died last year (October and December). I don't know if they left much in the way of inheritance, I never really cared about that kind of thing, but the youngest of my aunts managed to get a power of attorney and took everything left behind. 2 properties and then some. All she ever did was get black out drunk, disappear for weeks on end, abandon her son who literally ended his own life. This has been nothing but drama since it happened. I wanted to forgive her for the way she treated me in the past, and my faith will have me do that anyway. But I know I will never have to see her again and I don't soo much as care one bit. I only dread when my parents die I will have to go through the same with my sister. She is every bit as much the same type of person. Any time my mother tries to reconcile with my sister, it always becomes about money that my sister needs. My mother pays her light bill, helps her get a car, and it's never enough to satisfy my sister. I'm unfortunate that I have to live with my parents. Medical issues, lack of work, bad luck and decisions. Once my parent pass I will become homeless so my sister can get her half of everything.
You need to start planning now. You need to see what you can do to earn money and get yourself out of this mess. Make sure there is a will so you can at least get half. Make sure that you, not your sister, get power of attorney or let the lawyers handle it. Remind your parents of what happened when your grandparents died if you have to and tell them that their last act of care for their children is to get this sorted out.
Big big hole in the story: If the family didn't know where the OP was staying, how could they have sent the cops to have her arrested? Because you KNOW if the family knew wherebshe was, they wouls be banging on that door themselves.
My father got a divorce from my step mother when I was in my late 20s. I am in my late 50s now. He passed away 5 years ago. I was the original witness to his will in that it was meant to be divided equally amongst my brother, half sister and I. Somehow my ex step mother and half sister got everything. My brother and I were not even invited to the funeral nor given any info on it. People can be really fucked up....
Greed and selfishness often surfaces at family deaths. My brother, sister and myself have always known that we would never fight over my parent’s estate. We did not. There was nothing they had that was worth fighting with them over. Watching our parents and their brothers and sisters after their parents death, learning by their example how to do things correctly. Their were no fights or coldness. My family has always been completely amazing.
This is alot like my family. When my Mother passed in 2015 things with my kids relationship with each other are not as it was , my Mother kept them together I don't have my Mother's way of keeping the peace between my kids. She was our backbone, counselor, mentor and lord how we all miss her. I have tried to tell them that grandma would be disappointed in they and it last a month or two. 😢
Hope OP keeps the young members of the family in mind as she never mentioned anything nasty done by them. Her grandmother would have wanted her to help them in their time of need, but she should also keep in mind the parents could manipulate them to get at the money.
OP should retain the lawyer and sue for false arrest. Even if they arrested her uncles, she's got a right to sue for false arrest and be compensated for it.
This is exactly what happened to me many years ago. My parents passed away in an accident and left me the entire inheritance. I have 2 sisters and one brother who when they turned 18 left the family to live away from everyone. Years passed and no word from anybody. The will gave me the money then all of a sudden everyone was at the door with their hands out. Even uncles,aunts,cousins I've never met where crawling out of the woodwork.
My MOTHER had nothing to leave and they (30+family members) went after me like a dog in heat. Brother, sisters their kids and grandchildren. My life has never been the same , since I laid my mom to rest. Panic attacks, PTSD, AND Anxiety diagnosed. All because I would Not abandon my OUR MOTHER AND GRANNY at the end of her life. That's been a couple of years, but I AM FINISHED WITH THE WHOLE DAMN GROUP. SAVE 2. IT WAS 10 SIBLINGS ABOUT 2O NIECES AND NEPHEWS PLUS THEIR CHILDERN. Freedom from TOXIC RELITIVES IS A VICTORY WELL WON. GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME, even when I could bare no more✝️‼️FAMILY CRAP SMELL THE WORSE‼️
Where ever you go never tell anyone about your full wealth. The greater the wealth the more they will want to get some of it. The less they know the more genuine they will be.
OP should have told them about splitting it up between everyone, but when they tried to get her arrested, she gave their payouts to charity. Just to mess with them. Then move away like she did. 😂
This young woman had it right all along. Her grandmother was full of wisdom. She knew her kids and they proved their metal or should I say lack of it when their mother was sick and they never comforted her, helped her or would even change her diaper. She knew what her children had turned into and gave the inheritance to the one person who cared for her and loved her. Her granddaughter. Their greed and evilness came out when they received none of the inheritance.
The cops made themselves look like idiots for trying to arrest someone based on rumors and hearsay. With a minimum of investigation, they would have realized what was happening.
The sad thing... She probably would have shared the inheritance with her family if they hadn't all started acting like children. Hope they realized that.
Who is the executor of Grandma's estate? I presume her lawyer. Get what you need from the estate to give grandma a decent funeral and get it taken care of. All the relatives are responsible for their own actions and can face whatever consequences are coming their way.
The family calling cops shows you exactly why gma Mary left op the inheritance
My grandparents had a clause that if you contest and are found to not be in the right you lose your share of inheritance and have to pay all lawyers fees
my granny had the same in her but if they did contest it all they got was 1 dollar
Yeah, my parents are well and truly alive but said they have a clause that if we fight over it it goes to Charity
Sounds like a great plan! Still in the fight over it. They don't deserve it. My ex-husband's stepsisters when their mom died or fighting over one of her dresses in the bedroom and ripped it before she even been buried
My Mum Stepdad did too. My stepbrother backed off once he was told that by the attorney.
My grandma had the same clause. But certain family members were mad over what I and others got, so they tried to get my inheritance changed but lost theirs to charity. Apparently they didn’t understand the clause, they had thought that they get mine taken away from me. I thought it was funny. They’re not very bright.
Money never changes people. It reveals who a person really is
I always say that, it just brings the inside out
Money... money never changes.
Yup, this comment said after a very famous Farrah Gray Quote: “Money doesn't change who you are; it magnifies who you really are.”
I agree it does reveal who they really are
True that
Looks like Grandma Mary could see all the phonies in her family so left it all to the one person who was open & honest.
The fact they called the police and had OP arrested based on a false crime was enough for me to cut ties with all of them. The police probably went after the family because they knew they messed up when the lawyer showed up. I'm so glad OP decided to leave and start her life without any of them.
Go after them for filing a false police report.
You did the right thing. Had they been civil and understanding I'm sure you would have helped them out. They deserve NOTHING. Best of luck.
Funeral costs are usually charged to the estate if there is much of an estate. Often, someone will foot the bill so the funeral isn't delayed, then the cost will be submitted to the estate. The bonds OP sees being broken have always been broken. The grandmother was the duct tape that held the family together.
My thoughts exactly, they're probably always fighting and never really forgave eachother. But she was the duct tape to this Chaos of a family. Sometimes ppl think it's this waay. When it was that way along. But she was shielded and
Some people buy their funeral arrangements ahead of time so not to bother the family. My dad died and he did not prepare so we had to payback my grandma estate when she died. My aunt still tac on it when she sells properties of the estate. Only her kids and her benefitted. We are still not getting any money. I refuse to sign any paperwork nor claim taxes cause I have not recieve no money. When she dies I am going to celebrate. She is an evil woman and her husband is just the same. Her daughter uses foster kids as a means for income.
My grandpa prepaid his and my grandma's funeral, so when both of them passed away, my mom and uncles didn't have to pay for anything.
I have no idea where this story is taking place. And in the US, each state has their own unique flavor of estate management. I can't claim to be an expert of the field in even one state.
But generally speaking, if you have property you need a will. That will, will layout all of your wishes including funeral expenses. Now with Grandma well aware she was sick and likely dying, I have to scratch my head if no will was in place. If there is a will, why is anybody fighting other than poorly handling their grief on the passing?
Now, assuming no will is in place, an administrator can be setup to run the estate. Generally speaking if the family of heirs can't agree to who that can be, the estate sits in limbo until either (1) an agreement is reached on who will administer the estate or (2) somebody does it once they legally can. I don't know if every state in the US is the same, but in mine if no decision has been reached within three months of the person passing, the first one who shows up at the clerk of court is the winner or loser depending on your point of view.
Now, the estate pays for the funeral if there is any money left. Funeral expenses is priority number one I believe. So even if the family pays for it out of pocket, the estate will still need to cover that expense before the estate is settled. Now, estates without wills cover financial assets. Generally speaking not physical assets like homes. These generally can be brought into the estate only if (1) everybody agrees to it (recommend getting that in writing) (2) the property is needed to cover the bills.
The short of it all is that if you have minors involved if you own physical property, you need a will.
Generally speaking, inheritance goes like this. Children, grandchildren, great grand kids, etc. No children? Then parents. No parents, then siblings. From siblings it goes to nieces and nephews. So unless the grandkids are next in line, there is nothing to really argue about. Their cut is likely to be so small as to be hardly making it worth while to even be involved. The more inheritors the more diluted the estate gets (without a will).
@@superdave8248 There was a will... original post said they were all getting anxious about "the reading of the will" which doesn't really happen?
There’s no such thing as talking things out with your family they’ve shown who they truly are OP
True BUT..eventhough she was 'so close' to her GM she never makes clear if she even wanted to spend 1 cent towards the funeral
Don't no why GM gave everything to OP either ...she must have secretly hated them all
@@robertx8020most likely she saw each of their characters and ultimately decided the one who deserved it was the one who wasn't in it for the money but because she cared for her own well being near the end of her life
@@swansonskull3154 Yes that's possible
I feel so sorry that OP had to go through the heartache of grandma passing and her family being greedy and hateful
Your grandmother probably seen into your heart. And liked what she seen.
OP's grandmother wasn't holding this family together. The thought of her money is what had everyone getting along, and sucking up so they get a better inheritance. But, I am glad Grandma knew better and saw through them all. Also, you can tell by OPs personality in her writing, that had the family just shut up during the reading, OP probably would have split the inheritance without a second thought.
Agree
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So EVERYBODY was showning love was 'sucking up to her ' but OP showing love was 'true love?
Really? Not a single person of this large family loved her?
I call BS and feel OP was jsut her golden GC
OP thought the same...read the post again. She was expecting the updates when she made the first post.. "MY HARD EARNED INHERITANCE," line. Exposed them.
Wow impressive. Hope granny felt the love though
@@robertx8020 I agree. If the story is real. OP exposed themselves when she literally followed the usual reddit advice BEFORE hand, and had made the first post. She was expecting the whole situation. And the reddit post would have been useful if her family was smart and not made upstoriea. But hired a lawyer..It made her "look innocent," but this whole story smells.
The "hard earned inheritance," comment...plus the "I have learned that..learned that..lesson of,: stuff?
Very scary post
I'm glad you didn't give those greedy vultures a dime! They wouldn't do anything for their own grandma. And had the audacity to file false charges on you. Grands was the backbone of the family. Enjoy your inheritance and don't look back!
You know.. if one elderly death causes your whole family to fall apart, it means that your family never was whole and that elderly person spend their whole life holding up every one like in “grandma” cage.
My Grammie recently passed and we are dealing with greedy green eyed family members too, I had hoped she’d be able to spoil herself longer on this earth. Inheritance is a family ender.
tell people this happens in real life
I’m happy OP is moving on with her life and has blocked them all
Make your grandma proud, take that money and live a wonderful life and get some education once you decide what you want to do in life . Good luck 👍
I hope that OP finds her peace and lives a good life.
My grandmother was the same way in my family. This is the one on my mother's side. Mine has been gone awhile now and i still miss her
My mom always said you don't know families true colors till someone is dying or has died I found that out first hand.
true... my siblings showed who they are...not pretty
I’m so sorry everything you went through OP deaths and marriages, bring out the worst in people
I know how you feel. My aunt's family (I'm estranged cause I married a technician, not some dude with money) asked me to go to her funeral. I said no since they only wanted to save face. Best decision ever made.
Reminds me of my family, my mom was the glue to my family, when she passed, fight over what little inherentance there was (few hundred dollars), constantly fighting and everyone going their own way, some haven't made contact in the last 6 years
Money turns people into vultures. You see their true self
Thank you for bringing back the peace!!
This happened to my mom and her cousins when her aunt died. The money and possessions ruined their friendship. Unfortunately something like this shows who people really are....
As far as I know, being arrested doesn't take away your inheritance. I don't know what the family thought that would accomplish.
Well the grandma could have done worse with her inheritance.
She could have mirrored the man who declared that his wealth only be distributed 21 years after the death of his last surviving grandchild.
The man who did this died in 1919, the money was finally distributed in 2011
Bruh, his family had to be ass
Wellington Burt!
I liked the guy who chose names at random from the phone book.
Good for you OP. Live life that your Grandma would be proud of you living Blessings to you
"Inheritance" is a rusty dagger thrust into most families. A rusty dagger that brings out peoples ugliest faces. Im glad my family have a bit of tradition to sort out part of inheritances ahead of time to avoid conflicts later and for everyone to be able to focus on the right things when the time comes.
I keep getting hung up on random “flaws” in these stories. For example, the argument about everyone chipping in to pay for the funeral. That should come out of the estate…. Like, why would that even be up for discussion? It’s not like they have to wait until after the funeral to read the will…
I took care of my mom after my dad died . I got everything, my brothers said i deserved it all. My sisters of course contested. They were out of the house the longest and never around unless they needed money. Family ya can't live with them and ya can't live without them
OP, your grandmother knew what she was doing.
Honor her wishes.
Use the money she left to make a better life for yourself.
And learn to love yourself the way she did.
Inheritance and money will show people real colors believe or not. I also went through the same thing when my mother passed away.
Grandma united all the family by giving the granddaughter all the money.
This is so true, I've seen families completely destroyed over inheritances.
My brother and his kids did something similar when our mom passed. All i cared about were the cast iron skillets I used to help her fix homemade biscuits in and my niece *tried* to horn in on those AFTER they ransacked the house literally a couple of hours after she passed away.
I have little doubt that if that kind of money were involved - this would be my brother. But mom wouldn't have left him out in the cold. so...
I broke ties after the funeral. It's been 13 years... not one peep from them.
I've heard other family horror stories from friends where a family death caused the vultures to descend. :(
OP should sue the police as well. Double your money!!!
for the OP, its quite simple they want money, tell them to shut up, be entitled! then ask them to discuss when everybody cooled down, if theres just any hint of spiked distress just call it off. even as her mom, since even granny totally entrusted everything to OP, thats really a wise decision of her since only her mourns.
Glad Uncle got arrested and what a nerve to ask Opie to get them out of jail. Those uncles deserve to be arrested
Family fortunes can be wonderful or they can be the worst thing ever. OP's grandmother left the money to the one who SHOWED how much the grandmother was loved and SHOWED her concern for the grandmother. As the old saying goes, "Talk is cheap."
My story doesn't involve millions, maybe a couple of thousand and some jewelry, but it caused a rift between my family and my godmother. My mom's sister (let's call her H) told my mom and me (64 year-old female), on the day of my 16th birthday, that she was giving me an antique Cameo dinner ring and that she had named me executor of her estate. Well, my godmother (call her Z) overheard this and was livid -- if you don't want to hear something you won't like, then don't eavesdrop on private conversations. Z was mean to H during their visit to my parents' home and on the trip back to their home town -- she was also upset with her mother and the other two aunts that had come with her because they thought it was a good idea (H had talked with the aunts - her sisters, actually - and her brothers about what she had planned and they all supported it). H died when I was about 31. As executor of the estate, I had to make the arrangements for the funeral, put her money into an account that allowed her brothers access so they could pay property taxes and do some upkeep to her home until it could be sold. Yes, the money WAS left to me. NO, I did NOT go overboard with the funeral expenses -- she was a person who lived frugally and did not want an elaborate funeral. And, NO, I did NOT keep any money when I moved it into the account that gave my uncles access. I got two other rings, a few books, and furniture -- the house was put in my uncles' names so they could sell it. Z stayed angry with H and me long after H's death. The reason H named me executor and put my name on her bank accounts was that Z had manipulated her father's brother and her own parents into naming her as their sole heir (cutting out her brothers and sisters from her parents estate and her cousins from their fathers estate). H knew I would do what was right with the money and not go too far nor skimp too much with the funeral arrangements. Z approached me the day of H's funeral telling me she hoped I spent the rest of H's money as frugally on myself as I did her funeral and that I did NOT deserve any of H's money NOR the rings I got. Z never apologized for the things she said to me, my mom, or H; but I forgave her as did my mom. I did learn that the LOVE of money is the root of evil due to that experience.
My Aunt is suing her own granddaughter because my grandfather signed the house over to her to go to medical school. My aunt got the entire contents of the house plus his IRA, but the is not enough for her. My niece ended up moving out of state to get away, but it is still in the courts.
OP did the right thing and cut ties with her toxic family... I'm glad you've moved on with your life and left the leaches behind!!!
The first lawyer joke I was told by a lawyer was “Where there is a will, there is a lawsuit “. Sigh…..
Their reactions show why OP was left all of the money.
And for those in the audience, if you want to know who a person or people really are, give them $500 to fight over.
Block them all. Have grandma's lawyer call a meeting and serve them all restraining order against them
Same happened in my family, but there was no millions to get. Just an old house.
My dad and his siblings didn't see or talk to each other for 20 years now...
I hope OP lives her best life!
I wish OP the best if luck. Money usually causes more family issues than most people understand.
Some people think that they have a say on their parents or grandparents money.
They absolutely do not, it was Grandma’s money to do with as she wished.
Don’t give in, it will never solve any family issues that came up.
Because they believe you cheated them out of their “fair” share of someone else’s money.
Sounds like it is time for you to charge your family for lying to the police and having you arrested.
If you do not fight back it will only get worse.
Can OP not sue the department for false arrest? I’d imagine some kinda civil rights were violated here.
Greed can bring out the worst in others. It's even more brutal when family is involved.
Reminds me of how my dad's family completely fell apart after his mom passed away. I was six when she did and was the only one of my sisters that knew her. I used to be very close to two cousins on that side of the family but after she passed away those relationships broke. Now my dad's father doesn't want anything to do with anyone and refuses to leave New Mexico for anything not even for the funeral of his oldest son. He's also made it clear that he doesn't want to be family. My middle sister was asked if we had any grandparents left, she told them biologically we have one left but relationship wise, no we don't. The only one close to him is one my dad's sisters and we're pretty sure it's just for the money. The only family I'm close to is my mom's side of the family minus her disowned brother.
Same thing for me but it was my Grandfather. Almost exactly like yours with a few differences. It's so sad to think about. Unfortunately my grandmother was just like your grandfather. The one who was close to her was my Uncle and that was because he used her for free room and board. Glad to know this wasn't unique even though it sucks.
@@sacredseraphim3987 so sorry to hear that. It does suck when a family just shatters. Specially when you have only one grandparent left and they don't want to be family. He was also very abusive to my dad when he grew up, part of why I actually don't want anything to do with my dad's father.
I am estranged from a younger sister. She was rude to my current fiancée when I introduced her to him. I am also estranged from my stepmother that raised me. She catered to my sister and never helped me out when I needed her. I seen her only when my sister went to visit her son and grandkids at my moms house. Well this year she kicked my nephew out and he doesn't want anything to do with her. I need to tell him it is. A blessing cause she uses people for her gain. She never went and picked me up if I needed to go anywhere due to car issues, never helped me out financially yet was jealous of my MIL AND VISITING HER OR DOING THINGS WITH MY INLAWS. I GOT DIVORCED AND I HAVE NOT TOLD MY STEPMOTHER ABOUT IT. ALSO I REFUSE TO BE AROUND HER WHEN SHE TRIES TO QUESTION MY RELIGIOUS FAITH.
Yeah, people these days... money has become an evil vessel. My family lives nearby a coal Co. so becuz there were mining on our land we were supposed to get a certain %. But greedy relatives manipulated it away from my grandmother and used it on themselves, karma came back in my family having more educated individuals unlike their family. They do not have one educated individual since they stole all that $ since.
If your family hates your guts because you got the money block them all they need to honor the wishes of your grandmother even if they don’t like the outcome, it’s not like you’re some gold digger or some man after her money
Wow, just wow. I have nothing to say about how I feel about this family, enraged is an underestimate of the anger I feel towards this toxic greedy family. OP was the only one who truly felt love for her grandma as a person and not as a free bank account to dip into. My suggestion to OP, get a new phone number, the family might try and call you from a different number to call you.
Don't delay in set up your will naming a nationally recognized charity as beneficiary if you die (before writing an new will). And after you have it, let that information slip to the in family gossip. And continue to distance yourself from your family. They need time to come to their senses. You need time to moan and heal from the lost. Don't give them money. Don't make any big decisions. Don't spend much more then your need to be safe, but be safe. You need time to sit with the changes (without others in your ear).
I had to sever ties with my family for 8 years or so to get them to quit looking at me as an ATM.
Either I know OP (and her family) or this story is a crazy coincidence...down to the names...😧
Same
Small world. Was it in the news?
@Elise Jackson I don't think so...
Attacking each other like starving wolverines about inheritance is a proud tradition in many families.
Love you content. The only issue this the miss pronounced words. Great video.
You did the right thing cutting ties with that horrible family. They were like vultures circling around your poor grandma just waiting for her to pass to try and get a nibble of the inheritance
Think I would be bothered about family if I got that amount of money.
They showed their true colours so tough
It does it even when there is almost nothing and it's disgusting and hurts going through it
Unfortunately I have a similar story. My grand parents died last year (October and December). I don't know if they left much in the way of inheritance, I never really cared about that kind of thing, but the youngest of my aunts managed to get a power of attorney and took everything left behind. 2 properties and then some. All she ever did was get black out drunk, disappear for weeks on end, abandon her son who literally ended his own life. This has been nothing but drama since it happened.
I wanted to forgive her for the way she treated me in the past, and my faith will have me do that anyway. But I know I will never have to see her again and I don't soo much as care one bit. I only dread when my parents die I will have to go through the same with my sister. She is every bit as much the same type of person. Any time my mother tries to reconcile with my sister, it always becomes about money that my sister needs. My mother pays her light bill, helps her get a car, and it's never enough to satisfy my sister.
I'm unfortunate that I have to live with my parents. Medical issues, lack of work, bad luck and decisions. Once my parent pass I will become homeless so my sister can get her half of everything.
You need to start planning now. You need to see what you can do to earn money and get yourself out of this mess. Make sure there is a will so you can at least get half. Make sure that you, not your sister, get power of attorney or let the lawyers handle it. Remind your parents of what happened when your grandparents died if you have to and tell them that their last act of care for their children is to get this sorted out.
This story is so real I can't help but think of my own family it's pretty sad I've seen this happen
Big big hole in the story: If the family didn't know where the OP was staying, how could they have sent the cops to have her arrested?
Because you KNOW if the family knew wherebshe was, they wouls be banging on that door themselves.
The sad thing is that good old guilt tripping would have worked with OP.
Sue the police for wrongful arrest and the family for defamation
Thanks!
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Take the money, etc. and RUN, leaving the toxic monsters to each other.
My father got a divorce from my step mother when I was in my late 20s. I am in my late 50s now. He passed away 5 years ago. I was the original witness to his will in that it was meant to be divided equally amongst my brother, half sister and I. Somehow my ex step mother and half sister got everything. My brother and I were not even invited to the funeral nor given any info on it. People can be really fucked up....
Sounds strange
Enjoy what your grandma left you and knows her loves you
I would've got the money and moved to an entire different state far far away from that greedy family
Once the matriarch of the family passes, so does the closeness of the family whether money is involved or not.
Greed and selfishness often surfaces at family deaths. My brother, sister and myself have always known that we would never fight over my parent’s estate. We did not. There was nothing they had that was worth fighting with them over. Watching our parents and their brothers and sisters after their parents death, learning by their example how to do things correctly. Their were no fights or coldness. My family has always been completely amazing.
This is alot like my family. When my Mother passed in 2015 things with my kids relationship with each other are not as it was ,
my Mother kept them together I don't have my Mother's way of keeping the peace between my kids. She was our backbone, counselor, mentor and lord how we all miss her. I have tried to tell them that grandma would be disappointed in they and it last a month or two. 😢
Hope OP keeps the young members of the family in mind as she never mentioned anything nasty done by them. Her grandmother would have wanted her to help them in their time of need, but she should also keep in mind the parents could manipulate them to get at the money.
OP should retain the lawyer and sue for false arrest. Even if they arrested her uncles, she's got a right to sue for false arrest and be compensated for it.
Press charges on all of them and get restraining orders if you have to
This is exactly what happened to me many years ago. My parents passed away in an accident and left me the entire inheritance. I have 2 sisters and one brother who when they turned 18 left the family to live away from everyone. Years passed and no word from anybody. The will gave me the money then all of a sudden everyone was at the door with their hands out. Even uncles,aunts,cousins I've never met where crawling out of the woodwork.
My MOTHER had nothing to leave and they (30+family members) went after me like a dog in heat. Brother, sisters their kids and grandchildren. My life has never been the same , since I laid my mom to rest. Panic attacks, PTSD, AND Anxiety diagnosed. All because I would Not abandon my OUR MOTHER AND GRANNY at the end of her life. That's been a couple of years, but I AM FINISHED WITH THE WHOLE DAMN GROUP. SAVE 2. IT WAS 10 SIBLINGS ABOUT 2O NIECES AND NEPHEWS PLUS THEIR CHILDERN. Freedom from TOXIC RELITIVES IS A VICTORY WELL WON. GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME, even when I could bare no more✝️‼️FAMILY CRAP SMELL THE WORSE‼️
Say cut the hell off 😡 whew my emotions are all over the place with this one 😭
Where ever you go never tell anyone about your full wealth. The greater the wealth the more they will want to get some of it. The less they know the more genuine they will be.
OP should have told them about splitting it up between everyone, but when they tried to get her arrested, she gave their payouts to charity. Just to mess with them. Then move away like she did. 😂
Yes it does. Money brings out the worst out of everyone.😢
They’re at odds with you, not you being at odds with them
OP you need to honor your grandmother last wishes
I've noticed the gradual increase in quality of the animation in each new video, and i must say, i love it
Money reveals a person's true character
I would sue the family for the false accusations when they called the cops
OP should give each family member 2 pennies and a note stating how dumb each member is.
God bless you.
She'll have more money when she sues the police for false arrest.
This young woman had it right all along. Her grandmother was full of wisdom. She knew her kids and they proved their metal or should I say lack of it when their mother was sick and they never comforted her, helped her or would even change her diaper. She knew what her children had turned into and gave the inheritance to the one person who cared for her and loved her. Her granddaughter. Their greed and evilness came out when they received none of the inheritance.
The cops made themselves look like idiots for trying to arrest someone based on rumors and hearsay. With a minimum of investigation, they would have realized what was happening.
Love the little peaple 😅
The sad thing... She probably would have shared the inheritance with her family if they hadn't all started acting like children. Hope they realized that.
There’s nothing like money to bring out the vultures in a family!
your doing the right thing they only love her for the money .
That’s because now they want to guilt you into giving them the money. They know you’re not the bad girl.
You go girl!!!
I would sue for wrongful arrest
This sounds like a writing assignment
Seems like Grandma knew exactly what she was doing. Everyone else was waiting for her to die, while OP was there for her while she was alive.
Who is the executor of Grandma's estate? I presume her lawyer. Get what you need from the estate to give grandma a decent funeral and get it taken care of. All the relatives are responsible for their own actions and can face whatever consequences are coming their way.
Should’ve sued the cops and doubled your money.
Unless she had preplanned prepaid funeral arrangements with little to no out of pocket costs her funeral costs comes out her estate.