5 Ways To Work With Your Partner's Love Language
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
- Are you currently in a relationship, or seeing someone? Do you know what your partner's love language might be? According to the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., he believes that there are five types of love languages. According to Chapman, the five ways to express and experience love called "love languages" are: words of affirmation, quality time, giving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Knowing your partner's love language can help you communicate with them better. We previously did a video going more on the five love language her: • What is Your Love Lang...
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Credits
Writer: Tristian Reed
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Tris Canimo
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Bland, A. & McQueen, K. (2018). The Distribution of Chapman’s Love Languages in Couples: An Exploratory Cluster Analysis. Society for Couple & Family Psychology, 7(2), 103-126.
Surijah, E. A. & Septiarly, Y. L. (2016). Construct Validation of Five Love Languages. Anima Indonesian Psychological Journal, 31(2), 65-76.
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“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.”
--Peter Drucker
A quote I've made...."So much is said in the words not spoken."
Like what do you do with the Haagen Dazs sundae, cell warming gift that your new cellmate left on your bunk?
"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."
--Stephen R. Covey
Yes true
ruclips.net/video/j8rrvjOrawg/видео.html in case you're interested 😣
Seek to understand, then be understood.
Better
gotta say in 10 times
keep explaining and repeating until they get it.
1- Words of Affirmation
2- Quality Time
3- Receiving Gifts
4- Acts of Service
5- Physical Touch
we knew that-- it's ideas on what to do for each love language, just listing the love languages doesn't do anything??
@@unus-annus I believe they were listing them in order of importance to them. That's the format of the test results if you take the Love Language quiz online! 😊
@@BriannaAddison hm, okay. thanks! people just tend to make lists of what the video was about so people can just look in the comments and not watch the video and it's just annoying to me-- but you could be right. if you are i'm sorry :b
I'm gonna try all 5 one day
@Olivia you don't have to be hostile, i wasn't being hostile :/
Is anyone else finding it hard to figure out their OWN love language. Like.. I want ALL of these lmao
You could take some online tests to see if they help you figure it out but most people probably have multiple love languages that are meaningful to them so even though one or two might matter the most it's possible that you care about all of them pretty evenly :)
You’re suppose to rate them from 1-5 most important to least, hope that helps:)
of course you want all of them that’s not the case but taking the test will help rate them from most important to least. and the most important is your main love language. doesn’t mean you disregard everything else.
You can take THE test. Like the official one
Love language is not about what you want, but about what makes you feel loved. Sure, all of these things are nice to experience, but if you listen to your gut, you should be able to narrow down which of these makes you feel loved.
My love language is touch but I’m touch starved so I feel awkward when being touched or even receiving a hug from my mom. I feel bad for asking for any physical contact. My friend was playing with my hair the other day and it was pure bliss..
Beautiful thing about hugs is when you give one you get one :). But it has been hard, though. Hope you are well ❤️
Ikr I don’t exactly like to touch my dad specifically...but like if my friends hug me or cuddle (not romantically ya know) I would be so happy
Cute
same
My husband and I made a deal... I clean the kitchen to express my love in HIS language and he compliments me to express his love in MY language. If we only have a little time each day, it’s important to make the most of it!
That's good to know! I'm glad to hear that this is working for you! What are your thoughts after watching this video?
I LOVE this! That is an AWESOME way of handling it! I hope it's all still going well!!
I told my boyfriend I love you for the first time recently, and he froze in a panic. It's been over a year together, so I thought it would be ok. Timing felt right to me, but I guess it wasn't for him. He hasn't said it back, but he still shows me he cares. He's more of a physical person when I'm more verbal. Just makes it hard sometimes because he can be very bottled up with his words regardless of what it is. I wish I knew what to do.
Show him this video and have read the 5 love language's book 😉
Yeah talk with him about how you feel
Same
It’s so much healthier to find someone with the same love language as you. Your relationship doesn’t sound like the happiest, especially since it clearly lacks communication. If things like what you’ve described happen at the moment, they will keep happening in the future. If you said you loved him and he still can’t bring himself to say it, then it’s best to move on.
If you really want this person and you believe it is a forever thing, then you can make it work. I suggest talking to him about how you feel. No sugar coating, no holding back how you feel just to keep the "peace." Just be you and be real and speak from the heart. If you try this, please keep me updated!
0:53= Word of affirmations
1:49= Quality time
2:26=Receiving gifts
3:20= Act of service
3:50=Physical touch
:0 thanks
My partner is so simple, I give them a compliment, she's happy for the rest of the day! And when I take my schizophrenia medicine, they get so happy they leave to tell everybody they know!
Cool
BTW you’re really special 😊
You had me in the first half, not gonna lie
The second half of that is unhealthy. Invasion of private matters.
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Knowing and utilising love languages is the biggest life hack for relationships I have ever found.
Love language to myself helped me a lot instead of being destructive towards myself! 😂💪🏼
Yes, I discovered NVC that changed my life...
This is actually so important
_ Can't believe I have learn more about Mental Health and other Issues on this Channel rather than at school _
My school didn't even learn us about mental disorders, I have both depression and anxiety I think I know in our school the best what it means to have mental disorder
Schools dont give a shit about your or others mental health. Only on doing their job
I only found out about mental health from RUclips which I watched since I was a little kid and also from me having adhd which I got diagnosed with at 9
that's because school isn't for learning that. That's what further education like college or University is for. 😂
@@nemmnemmsbecause that's not what school is for 😂😂 that's what further education is for. College and University.
3:48 5) Physical touch. This me and i need a 5 too. Finding someone with the same language is becoming more important the more people i meet. While you can give someone their language and they can give you yours, after a while you realize you’re speaking a foreign language .
I love how it feels like when it’s done intentionally and when you make someone feel good and loved and how beautifully vulnerable they are to what makes them feel loved.
This is a really difficult thing both me and my fiancé. We both have physical touch and quality time love languages (he lives in Europe while I'm in America) 😭😩
Hey! I had the same struggle with one of my exes too, she lived across the country from me :(. BUT, that doesn’t mean it’s all bad. Make calls with him! Make a video call so you both watch a movie! Maybe play a video game with him (all guys love video games trust me 😂) I truly wish the best for you two. Maybe one day you two will meet up one day! :)
I'm also going with the same struggle too. I'm from Asia while my significant other lives in France, timezones makes her stay up late at night just to join me until lunchtime.
Like what Alejandro said, video games and calls do help. We both played our favorite multiplayer games and sometimes hang out by drawing each other affectionate doodles to make sure that the both of us are enjoying quality time.
Everyone's relationships is since everyone is unique, so maybe you can ask him about the things he like and find if something he likes correlates with yours. That way, you both can spend time in your own ways and keep the relationship going.
P.S. I wish you the best with your fiancé 💕
Long distance is hard, especially for those love languages. With a lot of patience you can still have a very happy relationship. In my opinion, the best thing to do is play games together (App called Plato) and calling. If you don’t have this app already I definitely recommend getting it. It’s called Rave and it allows you to watch Netflix, RUclips and other things together.
Love is a language spoken by everyone but understood only by the heart. Coffee is my love language 🖖
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Writing letters to each other, even if u live together, is a great way to be romantic and express ur feelings if ur too shy, embarrassed or nervous to express the feelings in person. And, you and your loved one can keep the letters to read later on if u want
I am inlove with Amanda's voice like she sounds the more frendlier version of my kind mother.
My boyfriend and I took the love languages test online and we discovered that we have same main love language. ❤
Amazing ^_^
my language is more put into words or doing little things for my boyfriend, like doing breakfast, tee, coffee, planing his haircut meetings and stuff. And he is more into physical, sometimes he also says cute things to me, but not thaaaat often, than I do. But he also does little things for me. And he is always watching over me.
What we both do is always be there for each other, listen to each other, care for each other...
There is a little bit difference in which way we show it to each other, but we understand it very well ♥
It is so tough to compliment someone but if it is a partner,I belive that I can try to give the most meaningful words to them
I believe it's exponentially important in any relationship to do all the love language activities! To help strengthen and nurture it to grow.
ACT OF SERVICE. My lover serves me from 5am to 10pm. He does all kinds of chores like cooking me delicious food, cleaning the house, washing the dishes, works hard for our business and offer services like driving me wherever I want to go. This is his way of showing his love & care for me. a rare kind. many people told me how blessed i am having him. Praise the LORD!
Me: Starved for any or all of them.
I bought my crush a gift today after I saw her looking at it in the store. Really hope it's the right one
It was in fact, the right one
I'm a year late, but yaay!!
My love langauge is physical touch and my partners love language is gift giving. Thanks for this informative video! Will use these techniques.
my boyfriend's love language is acts of service while mine is more physical touch and quality time!! im glad that even with our different love languages we make it work by doing exactly what the other's love language says to do :))
How?
I'm someone who likes quality time. My bf is someone who likes giving gifts. Yet we're a long distance relationship. One way we help with this is combining both of our artistic skills and spend time talking about them. It truly means the world to both of us and helps a lot. Whether that's by receiving a poem from him or me creating illustrations of him written work. It feels wonderful.
I have an amazing partner & so does he... We put each other first.... 100% commitment. We tell each other we love one n other all the time, it can't be said enough times.... ( I want my man to know he, s loved & cherished every single day. I love every part of him. The good, the bad, the everything. He is my soul mate.
I need a lot of words of affirmation and physical touch, and I send out a lot of gifts that I think they are meaningful.
My partner’s love language is physical touch. I feel bad because that is literally the smallest percentage on my list of love languages. He often says he feels deprived and it makes me feel inadequate as a partner because I feel like I can never satisfy the amount of touch he needs. I came across this video because I’m currently seeking ideas on how to be more physically intimate.
I relate to him. .
@@gal974 same
If your "love language" is completly different, (one usually have all 5 but in different ammounts, 1 a bit stronger) lets say you'r the mirror opposits in this case.
You either call it quits because you'r too different and it feels like too much of a hassle to overcome.
OR you both have to activly work on showing the type of love the other need, actully puttint in effort into it, it can deffinetly work for many couples! but you have to be kinda aware of it and work for it.
I'v had 3 Longterm relationships myself between 2-5 years each.
The first girlfriend was very much on the Gifts / Act of service spectrum, words or letters didnt matter, physical contact didnt matter, meanwhile I'm like the partner you described a very Physical contact needing person, I tried my best to get it to work, doing little extra stuff all the time, bringing gifts, and it made her feel loved, although felt less and less loved myself because she was very UN-physical person, so eventually I stopped having energy to put extra effort into someone who didnt show me love back in my "prefered" way, so I broke it up.
Second Girlfriend She was very much relying on words! constantly telling me and wanting me to tell her, this didnt work out too well because I'v never been that comfortable with constantly confessing my love verbally and openly in any situation, so it made her feel unloved unfortuantly, she was better at making me feel loved with closeness then first relationship, but this time I feel like my behaviour led her to break us up.
My third relationship was someone very much of the same mindset / love language as my own, often sneaking up behind eachother to give hugs and kisses on the neck and other similar things, I think we only ever told eachother we loved eachother like 15-20 times over a 5 year period! neither of us got eachother that many gifts or such, but both had Quality time as a big second, and a tiny bit of Acts of Service back and forth, we ended it because of other reasons though, we had careers that made us go to different countries, and since both of us are very relyant on physical closeness & quality time together, long distance relationship just wasn't an option.
As a physical touch person, here’s a little trick that my partner has figured out and really really works
Basically just scoot up next to them when they’re on the couch or something similar, close enough to make contact, and just give a little nudge to let them know you did it on purpose.
My love language for my family is physical touch and acts of service. When I'm with friends it's words of affirmation (I make letters), and receiving/giving gifts.
My partner and I both are physical touch followed by words of affirmation and gifts. Physical touch for us both was so healing from our pasts, words just reenforced that love followed by those special thought of gifts.
I 100% say I'm a physical kind of lover while my gf is a verbal lover, it all stems from how we grew up but I still love her, even if things can sometimes get frustrating, we both try
I'm here to show my mom her love language. Right now is tough for her and I want to show her I appreciate her
I love through physical touch and he loves through quality time. I love that we are able to mesh the two. ❤️
How? Because I am struggling with my boyfriend, him being not touchy. I feel like I am always begging for love.
"A wonderful fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other."
--Charles Dickens
Charles Dickens seems to be a wonderful person
I would have loved to meet him
I don't know why, but I hate that quote. It's so unnecessarily wordy.
@@shadyshinies3116 probably he was paid per word. or wording is his love language)
Sometimes I think I'm a mystery to myself 0.o
"Touch" seems like the easiest and most fun way to express and share love..and the one I most definitely identified with. Hope I find someone who speaks that language 🤗
oh this is SO SO important!!! I took the love language test with a date i went on!!! WE LITERALLY DID IT AS A VIRTUAL DATE
How was it?
@@Psych2go It went really well! i think we felt closer to each other
Ever since u guys came out on YT and I found u. I have always been educating myself from only u guys. And "better me/ideas"
I love u guys! U are my everything!
There's an amazing app that helps with this! It connects you and your partner and you both take a quiz to see thier love language and lets you set goals! It also has a meter to express how loved you feel so if your feeling unloved the app will let the other person know!
The app is called love nudge!!
This might sound weird, but this works really well for parents and children, too. My mom is definitely a Touch and Service, for example, whereas my dad is very much a Quality Time guy.
I found when my boyfriend and I found out our top 3 love languages, it made it a lot easier for us to understand what the other needs and wants. Yes, I still think I am all of them but in different scenarios. Like when I am having a bad day, acts of service cheer me up. Definitely recommend doing the quiz! Love the video :)
My partner is a Physical Touch Lover, and I'm an Acts of Service lover. We can manage really well in our relationship in the daily life, and I hope everyone else also can ♥
My love language is definitely physical touch which makes my emotional life hell. I have crippling depression and loneliness and cuddles are like the purest expression of love to me. I’d do anything to have that feeling again, I know I’m unattractive but I just hope I’ll feel it again soon… I need it..
My #1 is quality time, but I've started to love physical touch more, and it's a close 2. I would fall onto legos to hug one of my friends again. I miss her so much. As someone who's struggled with terrible loneliness in my 18 years on earth, she is a blessing.
And btw, I've never met you, but you're a person on earth. As such, you're a veteran of a damn brutal place sometimes. i'm so proud of how much you've accomplished. You still have so many things to experience, and so much joy to give to the world. And you are beautiful. :)
I'm watching this for my friends! I want to make sure they know they're very appreciated and I love them very much.
I really, really, like quality time. I think its the most important for me. Words like I love you and compliments are touching, yes, but SHOWING you love me is more touching.
My partner really likes quality time but unfortunately I cannot give him much time for my extreme studies... Plus its a long distance relationship. So whenever I text him when I am free he always seems so happy to see me and always tells me how much he missed me. He always gives me words of affirmation, many more stuff which just makes my heart melt. I came to watch this video to know what I could do for him instead because most of the time it is him doing the things for me to make me happy.
For me it’s giving gifts, words of affirmation, quality time and physical touch but receiving wise I love all of them
Who else is watching this despite not having a partner? 🙋🏻♀️🙃😂
Yep
I'm preparing myself for when I find it.
Definitely me. My love language is touch.
Me
🤙🏻
There is a lot of truth to the love languages and how different we all are
So glad you made this video cause I’ve been looking into Love Languages a lot lately! ❤️ My primary love language is Physical Touch. I think my boyfriend’s is Words Of Affirmation
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Ikr?
@@orvimai yesss
This video is so cute idk why I cried so much 😭❤️ makes me miss someone I haven’t even met
in a relationship you must have everything
I think physical touch is my love language, because when I was crying once my friend held me and stroked my head and it made me feal safe. I love hugs but I don't get the chance very often.
My fiancé and myself apparently have our own category. We both match with all of these. Please note we both came from broken homes. On the plus side being that we share all of these. We both know how to get through to the other one without even having to think about it. The great thing is with both of us having all of these. It means every little thing we do for each other every time we touch and every time we say I love you means that much more.
This animation is so adorable ☺
I would say, my top three would be touch, quality time, and words of affirmation, although I certainly wouldn’t say no to the occasional gift or active service.
You guys don't know how many people ur actually helping out here 😩😭😍
that keep a running list for gifts advice is so great and true lol
it’s my love language and i have a mental and amazon list of gifts for all my favorite people
All of your videos are so helpful, thank you so, so, SO much for this. I don’t even think words explain how grateful I am for you.
Glad you find them helpful! Thanks for leaving such as nice comment!
Psych2Go thank you for replying! It’s honestly just telling the truth. :)
The love of my life prefers touch and I'm a quality time kinda gal so they work together really well! I get my quality time and he gets all of the handholding and physical touches he needs :)
Mine
1. Quality Time
2. Physical Touch
3. Words Of Affirmation
4. Acts Of Service
5. Gift
Mine's are quality time and words of affirmation. i didn't realise words of affirmation was a love language of mine as I never liked compliments, was always awkward about it, and only recently learnt to accept compliment as a way to avoid making situations awkward. But I notice I give other people compliments all the time, and I'm always saying positive reassuring things to other people to make them feel seen and validated. I think that's the part of affirmations that resonate with me, needing that reassurance that everything is okay and well.
Fun fact: 80% of people watching this is single.
I’m one of the 80%
Hey me as well
Legend says they are still dating to this day
My love languages from top to the lowest are:
1.Quality time
2. Words of affirmation
3. Physical touch
4. Acts of service
5. Receiving gifts
You know mine is spending
quality time with the person
I love. That's you, Ryan.
I know you're afraid.
This is a huge step for both of us.
You're afraid I'll lose interest
or enthusiasm suddenly,
because my actions have been
either intensely there
or seemingly nonexistent.
That must be scary for
the level of commitment
we're undertaking.
I want you to know
that I don't do this up/down
interest thing in real life.
When I commit to anything
I'm 100% cheerfully in.
My seeming lack of enthusiasm
today is simply being tired
of creating plans with no
resulting forward movement.
Being stalled and balked over
two years has created some
mental conditioning that I
need to fight. Like occasional
hopeless feelings.
I love you, Ryan.
Don't worry.
Normally, I'm both consistent
and look forward intensely
to our future as entrepreneurs.
Hang in there until we can meet.
This is mainly me gushing about my partner:
My language is words of affirmation and so is my partner's, and luckily we're both good at communicating how we feel and comforting each other
I was upset earlier and they validated my emotions and did their best to help. And just them giving me that validation and words of love made me want to cry
I love them so much they're just so sweet
My SO likes physical touch, and though I am horrible at it (my love language is acts of service), I do my utmost to try and remember that’s what they like!
I've always wanted to know my partner's love language but I didn't know how to. I have a hunch about it but I was not sure, until this video. I tested it just now and behold, the result is awesome, I'm amazed! Thank you Psych2Go!
I never thought or knew about love languages before i saw Psych2Go. Now i know i'm a 5. Thanks for making these videos.
Definitely physical touch and quality time... Thanks for this. X
My love language is definitely physical touch. I love hugs, kisses, holding hands, and cuddles. When I'm in a relationship, I love smothering my girlfriend with this kind of love and affection. Sadly, I can never find love these days, especially with me being cooped up in my house during this pandemic. I'm always lonely.
I have watched this third time already the art is adorable as huck
Yeaaa, those practical vídeos are the best!!! They inspire me me a lot to make new content :)
keep going!
@@picannabis I'm releasing new stuff soon! :D
Cool channel!!
@@luisterrust thanks! I'm working really hard to release the next video. hope you'll enjoy :D
Love languages are sooooo important
Not really. I have quality time, but its pretty obvious i'd be spending time with my partner, or they might as well not be my partner
@@joeyjointjebaiter1275 Idk if that's true. Time spent together isn't necessarily quality time. Speaking from experience. Plenty of people take the test and get quality time as the least important.
I don't currently have a partner, but I know that I prefer to be shown love by gifts and words of affirmation. I prefer to show love by acts of service.
My husbands’ is gifts, and acts of service. Mine are physical touch, words of affirmation and quality time 💕
Mine are words and touch, his are acts of service and time, it's quite hard to make it work because in daily life we sometimes forget that we should show our love in different style... I want to hug him all the time when he needs me to go for a walk with our dog, he wants to go out together but when we leave the house he forgets to say that I look nice etc. But I hope that we will both try and work on it!
I am multilingual. I love all 5!
My boyfriend is physical touch and giving gifts. I'm all about words and acts of service ❤️
This video is amazing. Thank you. My partner and I have complety different love languages: her's are words of affirmation and quality time, while mine are physical touch and acts of service.
I love all of these ways to show love ❤ super looking forward to Valentine’s Day because we’ll be including all 5 in our celebration! But I think my girlfriend especially likes acts of service because she always gets so excited to cook things for me :)
I want to use all of these lol, I don't care which one(s) I get back-
I love making presents for people, I'm a total hugger, I love complimenting people, I love spending time with people, and taking care of people!
Hey psych2go! Im SO SINGLE but I still love all of your vids about love💜 Makes me feel less lonely😁
Awwww thanks a lot never give up you are amazing 🥺💕💕
Just remember that your partner needs to be willing to work with you. If your partner doesn’t, you need to be strong and walk away.
Has anyone ever told you how soothing your voice is? Because for me it's wonderful🥺💕
You know ur having a good day when ur fav channel just uploaded a vid about fun facts in a love story you don't have :)
That's exactly the video I needed thank you !
Mine are word of affirmation and gift, but if only i met them irl i definetly all of them ❤
She’s quality time, so I try to spend as much time with her as I can :) and I’m physical touch!
Every one watching this have a wonderful day ♡♡
You have a wonderful day too!
Psych2Go
You’re rather energetic today 😀
@@Psych2go thank you ♡♡
My partner and I are lucky because our love language preferences align pretty well. My major love language is touch, and his are touch and quality time. I do have a tendency to flip flop between each love language in terms of what I perform, though he and I both dont put much stock in gift-giving.
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL it helps me a lot when i get hurt from my messenger group chat ;-;
Sorry to hear! Time to start your own messenger chat group!
Thank you!
i feel im needy af because my love language includes all of these 💀
Well, i relate to all of these, but mostly Quality Time. So choose the one you resonate with most.
Same! And i know that i love someone with all of them 😅 so i want to be loved like this as well but mostly someone gives me „only“ one 🤷🏽♀️
I think everyone has all of them to some extent, you have to order them, not eliminate all but one.
The 5 love languages book by Gary Chapman is a real eye opener, helped me understand my partner way better