1) Stop thinking in extremes 2) Stop over-generalizing the negative 3) Don‘t minimize the positive 4) Stop mindreading (very important haha :D) 5) Stop taking all the responsibility (accept your achievements, don’t make yourself small, how much control/ influence do you really have ? etc.) 6) Stop forcing your own rules on life... don’t be so hard on yourself :) 7) Stop making stuff up and believing it !!! Thank you! :)
Heather, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
My motto is 'think about what you are thinking' if its negative stuff then shut it out of your thoughts. Shout at yourself if you think that helps to kick the bad thoughts away. You CAN change your thoughts around when you are focused on them. Just dont allow yourself the luxury of self pity or negative sloppy ways. It takes a bit of effort to switch yourself around. And it's for your own benefit.
I am shocked, i always thought i was quite a positive thinker. But i definitely do a lot of these, my expectations are very narrow and rigid. I also have a very vivid imagination! Thanks Mark for the insight.
This has got to be one of the most helpful videos i've seen. The thinking in shades of grey, and the mind reading tips really cLmed me down. Thank you!
Very well introduced (explained why it is important to adopt a more positive approach of thinking for our physical health and wellbeing), encompassed and elaborated, plus exposed with verve and confidence, this was very useful! I love the use of examples, which resound with all of us, I believe... Quotidian situations which explain it in detail.
I used to be way too much of a positive thinker and seeing only the best in people around me. It resulted in my putting up with a lot of really poor treatment and staying in situations that have had significant damage to my mental and emotional health. Now I find myself struggling quite often with knowing when to see the best in a situation, and when to actually walk away because it really isn't a good relationship or environment.
Yeah you need to go by your feelings and your gutit is difficult to distinguish between the two but you know you know deep down inside how far to go with people . If it's not serving you or feeling good walk away
Some people harm others even kill others without meaning to and I have realised that caring/kind people wishing to help such troubled types need to keep themselves safe. Without meaning to be some people are predators on kind people and this can leave the kind person damaged mentally or even physically. It is so easy to trust someone who seems put upon/portrays themselves as a victim and cries out for help. You are right that we are always being encouraged to think positively (not judge even) but I agree with you that this can be very dangerous indeed sometimes. It is not easy to walk away but for survival it sometimes has to be done - without delay.
@@neveo9428 Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@Roxanne Smith you and I share a commonality for being empathy sensitive. I get you completely. youve a good heart and in a terrible world that is sorely needed however don't be afraid to be a little greedy sometimes. Other people put themselves in situations most often knowingly. I used to be all about defending the little guys vigilantly. It caused me too much stress to caring my load plus theirs. be sure you only carry enough stress for one and only if its worth carrying around. Loves and Hugs!
I suffer from repeated negative thinking coming from a difficult social situation at school and university, I find doing anything challenging difficult, including starting a new job, I need to get some guts to support myself through this.
This video was very helpful to me as I have alot of anxiety, depression, PTSD and a very negative thinker. I don't want to be this way. I am in thearpy and I am on anti-anxiety/depression . I have experienced alot of trauma in the past 3yrs and it has caused PTSD.
THIS IS ME....ITS BEEN 30 YEARS I THINK LIKE THIS.....SCARED OF EVERYTHING...DONT GO NO WHERE....IM GONNA TRY.....I Dont know....why this happened ?????
Leeann, Do some public speaking courses and if required visit a psychologist without delay. One more solution is the following. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@lennoxbaylor8155 What you watch and read is fed into your mind. Watch plenty of comedies and avoid fake news channels which is aleady making people sick in the present pandemic tragedy. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shanegrayson2507 What you watch is stored in your mind. Watch a lot of positive and comedy shows. A void negative news channels which is already affecting people in the present pandemic. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thankyou so much. This is something I need to work on. Recognised a lot of what you said. Hadn't realised how negative I tend to be. Not surprising due to the cruelty & violence I suffered as a child but now I can see it, I have the opportunity to change. Awareness Empowers Choices. One of my mantras. When I say it, I see a flash of brilliant lightning lighting up the scene & empowering me by charging up my metaphorical batteries, readying me to take action.
It’s very difficult to change trauma programmed schemas into new and healthier adaptive type thought patterns. It seems there is a default setting on how I perceive myself juxtaposed in this world. “Time may change me but I can’t change time.” This video is dense with good information. Thanks for your wisdom 🙏🏻
In my defence of negative thinking, I will say this. I feel safe. Life requires less courage. Complaining is one my fave hobbies. I expect the worst and I'm usually not disappointed. Life can be surprisingly good, because I don't expect it to be. The world needs negative thinkers. We focus on what could go wrong. Therefore we encourage carefulness and concern. We evaluate. We assess. Some positive thinkers are headed for disaster. Because they haven't planned. Spontaneity is fine but being unprepared is asking for trouble.
Thank you very much for doing all these videos it helps me every time when i listen. I have been thinking negatively almost of my life resulting in extreme anxiety and panic attack. The life hits some people very hard but i see now that we should still get the best out of it no matter how hard we were hit
Rayna, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I feel that the young man who suddenly had a lot of money had also become aware of having some big choices. Many people spend new wealth in a flash because they can't assess the value of the choices that it opens up. It is worthwhile to pause and plan your choices. There is a seriousness to it all.
Yes, but I think the point being made is that a very good thing became a bad thing (in his head) because it became a stressful problem which caused anxiety.
@@pippipster6767 Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
You're a great psychologist and very successful in delivering therapy and advice. I'm an extreme pessimist and indeed think that negative thinking can 'protect' me from negative stuff
Ironically, I find your advice about being lax with expectations too stiff. There are exceptions to this. I once dated someone who told me that it was a deal breaker for her if I came too late to the airport to pick her up. Even if it was just a minute too late. At first this might sound unreasonable but she was right. Let me explain how I come to this conclusion: I am someone who is often not extremely on time. When the expectation is set, like at the work place, I am on time. But as soon as the other person is a bit lax, I am notoriously not on time. At uni this pattern was so pronounced that just by looking at my arrival times in class, one could get an idea of how laid back the teacher was. So my partner had made it very clear that she expects me to be on time and not one minute too late. And I was on time because i cared about her. This is an example that shows that there are situations where sticking to expectations, no matter how unreasonably stiff it might look to an outsider, is useful. For my taste her expecation that day was a bit over the top but I acknowledged and respected what was important to her and could show my appreciation by not letting her down.
what about the negativity at work? I felt just wonderful and then the brutality of the bar and verbal violence is damaging to self worth and that becomes the voice we hear and I know that's not my voice and it's not God's voice who I know loves me, what can we do to protect ourselves in places that are harsh? May I also say that your videos are very nice and you speak very respectfully
Gordana Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
It's real to me. When things look so bad I'm thinking negatively. I don't see things in black and white there's always a grey area. Wish things could be crystal clear in my mind. Listening to video is a massive confidence booster for me.
Bernie, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Brother whatever you are saying is really my problem. But the problem about negative thinking its coming to your mind in less than a second. Invade your mind so fast and when you are physically responding it put you away of therapy. For example. I set with my friends and take the lead to talk .i start speaking with full trust of myself with normal attitude. In the middle of talking it comes to my mind ( why did you choose such long story to tell. You know you cant continue????????? Than time of anxiety comes especially of ending the talk still far. Adding the problem new negative thinking comes to add problems. Ooooohhhh now people are noticing that your color changing. Im really trying to get away of that whispering person inside me to live normally like others
What awesome advice... Been using ur tips on negative thinking and jealousy and I'm not saying it will work for everyone but it darn sure helps me.. u sir are gold. From the bottom of my soul I appreciate u
Thank you, Mark :) I really enjoy your way of thinking and watching these videos. I suffer from negative thinking a lot - perfectionism coupled with feelings of inferiority. But I try telling myself that I will get there and I think that it might be sooner than I expect (because my models of the future are usually quite worst-case hahah). To close my comment with a positive note, I would like to repeat myself: Your work is good and I really appreciate it, thanks for being the man you are. I hope you and everyone else reading this has a nice day. Cheers :D
Snow, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Gold Pedalist, If anxiety affects physical health then a visit to the psychologist is needed. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Justin Dickens, Friend, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 I have been using the breath/ pulse technique a lot. I love using other was to stimulate the vegas nerve for calming to like the hold breath and apply chest pressure and the fake yawning/ raise the roof of mouth works for me as well. I want to make all of these teachings a way of life like a monk and finger train them to second nature like I have in art/ guitar. best wishes and prayers you amazing angel!
@@sortofcute As I have mentioned practice being still with out moving much and observe your breath. Feel the stillness within you just like monks. Try to reach a state of equanimity. I remain still for a few minutes anytime day or night and observe my breath. I am totally relaxed. If you are looking for a major transformation then do the famous Buddha meditation known as "Vipaasna" practiced all around the world. Check on the website if there is a Vipaasna centre in your city or country. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir.
Talhah Khan hi you don’t have to worry about death. It’s inevitable. Death happens everyday what you can do is pray. And educate yourself about death. There’s a lot of verses in the Bible that talks about death.
@@simplybuyer1 Hi, I can tell you one simple thing, you have been thinking about the death all these days right? but you are still alive... So when one has to take birth and when one has to die is been already programmed by the Almighty... Whatever we think will not happen, believe me. And good that it's doesn't happen.. Almighty knows what's good for us... I would say, let's not interfere in the administration of GOD...
@@simplybuyer1 if we are good to our body then, we would die as programmed by the Almighty. We are just travellers in this world. When we die we would be going to a much much better place than we live here.
1) Stop thinking in extremes
2) Stop over-generalizing the negative
3) Don‘t minimize the positive
4) Stop mindreading (very important haha :D)
5) Stop taking all the responsibility (accept your achievements, don’t make yourself small, how much control/ influence do you really have ? etc.)
6) Stop forcing your own rules on life... don’t be so hard on yourself :)
7) Stop making stuff up and believing it !!!
Thank you! :)
Thanks for summarizing!
Thank you indeed.
Whenever my anxiety gets the best of me, I watch your videos and it soothes my mind. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and calming voice.
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Heather, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
My motto is 'think about what you are thinking' if its negative stuff then shut it out of your thoughts. Shout at yourself if you think that helps to kick the bad thoughts away. You CAN change your thoughts around when you are focused on them. Just dont allow yourself the luxury of self pity or negative sloppy ways. It takes a bit of effort to switch yourself around. And it's for your own benefit.
I am shocked, i always thought i was quite a positive thinker. But i definitely do a lot of these, my expectations are very narrow and rigid. I also have a very vivid imagination! Thanks Mark for the insight.
Its an unconscious thing
Thank you . I know what to do when I get the negative thinking. Very helpful useful.
This has got to be one of the most helpful videos i've seen. The thinking in shades of grey, and the mind reading tips really cLmed me down. Thank you!
Very well introduced (explained why it is important to adopt a more positive approach of thinking for our physical health and wellbeing), encompassed and elaborated, plus exposed with verve and confidence, this was very useful! I love the use of examples, which resound with all of us, I believe... Quotidian situations which explain it in detail.
I used to be way too much of a positive thinker and seeing only the best in people around me. It resulted in my putting up with a lot of really poor treatment and staying in situations that have had significant damage to my mental and emotional health.
Now I find myself struggling quite often with knowing when to see the best in a situation, and when to actually walk away because it really isn't a good relationship or environment.
Totally understand.
Yeah you need to go by your feelings and your gutit is difficult to distinguish between the two but you know you know deep down inside how far to go with people . If it's not serving you or feeling good walk away
Some people harm others even kill others without meaning to and I have realised that caring/kind people wishing to help such troubled types need to keep themselves safe. Without meaning to be some people are predators on kind people and this can leave the kind person damaged mentally or even physically. It is so easy to trust someone who seems put upon/portrays themselves as a victim and cries out for help. You are right that we are always being encouraged to think positively (not judge even) but I agree with you that this can be very dangerous indeed sometimes. It is not easy to walk away but for survival it sometimes has to be done - without delay.
@@neveo9428 Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@Roxanne Smith you and I share a commonality for being empathy sensitive. I get you completely. youve a good heart and in a terrible world that is sorely needed however don't be afraid to be a little greedy sometimes. Other people put themselves in situations most often knowingly. I used to be all about defending the little guys vigilantly. It caused me too much stress to caring my load plus theirs. be sure you only carry enough stress for one and only if its worth carrying around. Loves and Hugs!
I suffer from repeated negative thinking coming from a difficult social situation at school and university, I find doing anything challenging difficult, including starting a new job, I need to get some guts to support myself through this.
Thank you so much! ❤️ Absolutely love the advice 😁
thank you for this!💪❤️
This video was very helpful to me as I have alot of anxiety, depression, PTSD and a very negative thinker. I don't want to be this way. I am in thearpy and I am on anti-anxiety/depression . I have experienced alot of trauma in the past 3yrs and it has caused PTSD.
THIS IS ME....ITS BEEN 30 YEARS I THINK LIKE THIS.....SCARED OF EVERYTHING...DONT GO NO WHERE....IM GONNA TRY.....I Dont know....why this happened ?????
Maybe it's just a situation that you slid into. Take small steps back into reality and you can build up your confidence.
Leeann, Do some public speaking courses and if required visit a psychologist without delay. One more solution is the following. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
"Stop making stuff up and believing it" love it!
pro trick: you can watch series at Flixzone. Been using it for watching lots of of movies recently.
@Lennox Baylor Definitely, have been watching on Flixzone} for since december myself =)
@@lennoxbaylor8155 What you watch and read is fed into your mind. Watch plenty of comedies and avoid fake news channels which is aleady making people sick in the present pandemic tragedy. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shanegrayson2507 What you watch is stored in your mind. Watch a lot of positive and comedy shows. A void negative news channels which is already affecting people in the present pandemic. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 Gonna take your advice right now.
Palms up and breathe......
Thanks friend
Thanks Mark. You and the rest of your group's work is brilliant. I have received much, much benefit from it. I am one very happy customer. :-)
Thankyou so much. This is something I need to work on. Recognised a lot of what you said. Hadn't realised how negative I tend to be. Not surprising due to the cruelty & violence I suffered as a child but now I can see it, I have the opportunity to change. Awareness Empowers Choices. One of my mantras. When I say it, I see a flash of brilliant lightning lighting up the scene & empowering me by charging up my metaphorical batteries, readying me to take action.
It’s very difficult to change trauma programmed schemas into new and healthier adaptive type thought patterns. It seems there is a default setting on how I perceive myself juxtaposed in this world. “Time may change me but I can’t change time.” This video is dense with good information. Thanks for your wisdom 🙏🏻
“But the thing I wasn’t really knowing, people always help you the way you’re going” From ‘I Am the Blues’ by Memphis Slim.
In my defence of negative thinking, I will say this. I feel safe. Life requires less courage. Complaining is one my fave hobbies.
I expect the worst and I'm usually not disappointed. Life can be surprisingly good, because I don't expect it to be.
The world needs negative thinkers. We focus on what could go wrong. Therefore we encourage carefulness and concern. We evaluate. We assess. Some positive thinkers are headed for disaster. Because they haven't planned. Spontaneity is fine but being unprepared is asking for trouble.
Hello! Thank you for your videos. I was wondering if you take on new clients?
Mine is off the charts, can't I just be hypnotized
Thank you very much for doing all these videos it helps me every time when i listen. I have been thinking negatively almost of my life resulting in extreme anxiety and panic attack. The life hits some people very hard but i see now that we should still get the best out of it no matter how hard we were hit
Rayna, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I am thankful for finding your educational videos I have been looking for this help for years right across the board 👍
SUPERB knowledge..Thanks a million.
I feel that the young man who suddenly had a lot of money had also become aware of having some big choices. Many people spend new wealth in a flash because they can't assess the value of the choices that it opens up. It is worthwhile to pause and plan your choices. There is a seriousness to it all.
Yes, but I think the point being made is that a very good thing became a bad thing (in his head) because it became a stressful problem which caused anxiety.
@@pippipster6767 Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63
Thank you, will try it.
You're a great psychologist and very successful in delivering therapy and advice. I'm an extreme pessimist and indeed think that negative thinking can 'protect' me from negative stuff
Thanks Mark. This video was genuinely helpful. I really needed this.
Ironically, I find your advice about being lax with expectations too stiff. There are exceptions to this. I once dated someone who told me that it was a deal breaker for her if I came too late to the airport to pick her up. Even if it was just a minute too late. At first this might sound unreasonable but she was right. Let me explain how I come to this conclusion: I am someone who is often not extremely on time. When the expectation is set, like at the work place, I am on time. But as soon as the other person is a bit lax, I am notoriously not on time. At uni this pattern was so pronounced that just by looking at my arrival times in class, one could get an idea of how laid back the teacher was. So my partner had made it very clear that she expects me to be on time and not one minute too late. And I was on time because i cared about her. This is an example that shows that there are situations where sticking to expectations, no matter how unreasonably stiff it might look to an outsider, is useful. For my taste her expecation that day was a bit over the top but I acknowledged and respected what was important to her and could show my appreciation by not letting her down.
Thank you...I needed this!!!
what about the negativity at work? I felt just wonderful and then the brutality of the bar and verbal violence is damaging to self worth and that becomes the voice we hear and I know that's not my voice and it's not God's voice who I know loves me, what can we do to protect ourselves in places that are harsh? May I also say that your videos are very nice and you speak very respectfully
Gordana Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
It's real to me. When things look so bad I'm thinking negatively. I don't see things in black and white there's always a grey area. Wish things could be crystal clear in my mind. Listening to video is a massive confidence booster for me.
Bernie, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I really like your video that doesn't hav AD, I can fully concentrate to your video.
Brother whatever you are saying is really my problem. But the problem about negative thinking its coming to your mind in less than a second. Invade your mind so fast and when you are physically responding it put you away of therapy. For example. I set with my friends and take the lead to talk .i start speaking with full trust of myself with normal attitude. In the middle of talking it comes to my mind ( why did you choose such long story to tell. You know you cant continue?????????
Than time of anxiety comes especially of ending the talk still far. Adding the problem new negative thinking comes to add problems. Ooooohhhh now people are noticing that your color changing.
Im really trying to get away of that whispering person inside me to live normally like others
What awesome advice... Been using ur tips on negative thinking and jealousy and I'm not saying it will work for everyone but it darn sure helps me.. u sir are gold. From the bottom of my soul I appreciate u
These are really practical and realistic tips.
IMAGINATION....YES I BEEN IMAGININF HORRIBLE THINGS ALL WINTER....I HATE WAKEING UP.....IM SORRY THIS SOUNDS BAD.....I NEED HELP I KNOW....
But HOW do I stop doing those things??
I've been asking God for some inspiration, and I'm getting some right now!
This channel helped me alot, i wish i got it before my break up, is ok this was how it was planned to be
Very useful indeed.
Thanks man. I think you are my best friend
That's helped me alot❤
Do you guys offer online therapy sessions?
Hi Vivienne, I'm an online Psychotherapist if you are still looking for one? noreen@honeybeehypbotherapy.co.uk
Thank you, Mark :)
I really enjoy your way of thinking and watching these videos. I suffer from negative thinking a lot - perfectionism coupled with feelings of inferiority. But I try telling myself that I will get there and I think that it might be sooner than I expect (because my models of the future are usually quite worst-case hahah).
To close my comment with a positive note, I would like to repeat myself: Your work is good and I really appreciate it, thanks for being the man you are. I hope you and everyone else reading this has a nice day. Cheers :D
Snow, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I guess her phone battery been dead all week ;(
Ever noticed that all good, healthy and healing things are beautiful? Your Insights are just that, and very encouraging.
I love your sense of humor.
Thank you for this ..
Point 6 is amazing. I find myself being negative because people arent acting as I want them or expect to
thank you!
Thank you!!!
so incredibly helpful. Thank you!
I had to rewatch the “must’ve-ation” part several times before I understood what was meant!
Thank you so much
Thanks alot 🎉
Really helpful video. Thanks for this!
thank you
I am calm
Awesome
Where can we aplly this methods? What if your anxiety is caused by hormonal imbalance or nerve damage...
Gold Pedalist, If anxiety affects physical health then a visit to the psychologist is needed. Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
sup broski, love the video by recommendation of my psychologist, however, I am curious on whatcha got about agoraphobia?
Justin Dickens, Friend, Practicals are needed to reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 10-15 minutes or more. Let thoughts come. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. Whenever you are free during the day or night sit still for a few minutes and observe your breath. Being still reduces negative thoughts. Make it a habit. Do the above meditation regularly to have a better life. Best wishes and prayers. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 I have been using the breath/ pulse technique a lot. I love using other was to stimulate the vegas nerve for calming to like the hold breath and apply chest pressure and the fake yawning/ raise the roof of mouth works for me as well. I want to make all of these teachings a way of life like a monk and finger train them to second nature like I have in art/ guitar. best wishes and prayers you amazing angel!
@@sortofcute As I have mentioned practice being still with out moving much and observe your breath. Feel the stillness within you just like monks. Try to reach a state of equanimity. I remain still for a few minutes anytime day or night and observe my breath. I am totally relaxed. If you are looking for a major transformation then do the famous Buddha meditation known as "Vipaasna" practiced all around the world. Check on the website if there is a Vipaasna centre in your city or country. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir.
Good advice
Thank you sir
Interesting. My husband is negative and says these exact sentences. I'm a realist, etc
So he got the porsche right?
Good title , BAD examples
Good points.
Thank you sir, This is very useful
Please can you help me. I cant stop ruminating about death. Death of oneself and my parents in the near future. Death frightens me too
Talhah Khan hi you don’t have to worry about death. It’s inevitable. Death happens everyday what you can do is pray. And educate yourself about death. There’s a lot of verses in the Bible that talks about death.
@@erikaangelina5187 Thank you for response. I cant stop thinking it at times. Its drives me insane at times. How do you cope
@@simplybuyer1 Hi, I can tell you one simple thing, you have been thinking about the death all these days right? but you are still alive...
So when one has to take birth and when one has to die is been already programmed by the Almighty...
Whatever we think will not happen, believe me. And good that it's doesn't happen..
Almighty knows what's good for us...
I would say, let's not interfere in the administration of GOD...
@@simplybuyer1 if we are good to our body then, we would die as programmed by the Almighty. We are just travellers in this world. When we die we would be going to a much much better place than we live here.
@@erikaangelina5187 lol yes, don't take life so serious, none of us are getting out alive.
Just steal one so that you do not have that terribly stressful condition of being deeply in debt.
Thank you! I like how you communicate these processes and there application