Gay Men Answer Coming Out Questions Everyone Is Afraid To Ask
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- Опубликовано: 30 янв 2025
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"I wanna look like that... no I think I just want that"
lmaooo
that's literally me a year ago
now i'm a biromantic homosexual
Well hello me from a different universe
Percy Jackson that username 😍😍
Lol. Whenever i see some good looking person, I always do everything to look like that person. So i look handsome and girl will chase me lolz
That's so me
if I was the dude who gave his mom a note and ran away I would have folded that paper SO many times so I had enough time to run 😂😂😂😂😂
maybe marissa I left a note and then went on a school trip to wales! It was a brilliant idea 😂
better timing then I could ever imagine 😂😂😂
maybe marissa that's amazing
maybe marissa I would fold it so I had a whole five minutes to run 😂😂😂
*goes to like comment*
*sees 666 likes*
"The gay souls will find each other" that's actually pretty true
@Michael Standing dude seriously?
Michael Standing yeah that judgement day you speak of ain’t happening lol
Michael Standing I hope not
Michael Standing The rapture is gonna be so lit, bro. You all go sing to god for eternity while we live an apocalyptic storyline while playing rock and roll and befriending penguins.
@@mslightbulb lmao I'm up for that
"MOM IM GAY"
"Honey I know"
literally my life
Same. Also: "Friends of mine, I am gay". "We know that".
Same
Told my brother “I’m pansexual” he responded “I KNEW YOU WERE GAY
Ikr
My life.
Me: I’m gay.
My friends: wait what? No you aren’t. You don’t act gay.
Me: well you don’t need to act gay to like other dudes.
My friends: wait you are really gay. That’s crazy bro.
Me: yup 100% gay
"I wanna look like that...no wait....i think i just want that" 😄
Why not both tho 😏
Jenna Kontkanen Fav line ever
Jenna Kontkanen we all want daddy
That's how I felt with girls lmao
I love Dan and Phil my two beautiful fathers yeah same :D
So when I came out gay 3 years ago my mom said I knew since you were born.
Now she throws rainbow twizzlers at me once in a while and yells I found your people.
Wolfy The Wolf Prince aww that is so sweet
Why is that the cutest thing I've ever heard of🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
My family dose that to me
@@yuhnosjuicyfatass1489 stop stealing his thunder
Thats so sweet
I came out as bi, and my parents only reaction was surprise that I wasn't a lesbian.
Talk Toxic I think something important to remember is that you don't have to come out all at once. Maybe tell one friend or one parent. I definitely spaced mine out, because it made me less anxious. Whether they believe you or not doesn't change the fact that you are bi. So maybe they'll believe you're straight or gay instead (and don't get me wrong, it is REALLY frustrating), but if you date both or talk about the people you have crushes on from both genders, it makes it kind of hard to ignore and not believe. I don't think I've heard of people having parents who laughed at them because of it. Maybe you can ask a parent for advice on how to ask a (insert member of the opposite gender) out? My mom reacted well to that because her priority has always been to get me through times of emotional turmoil without a break down (I have panic and anxiety, so I'm a bit prone to them). You know your parents best, and you probably have at least an inkling of an idea on how they feel about members of the LGBT community. So go into it knowing how they feel and therefore how they may react. I hope it goes well for you, but even if it doesn't, remember that it isn't something you can change and so you shouldn't be ashamed. It might take some time, but hold tight amd I'm sure they'll come around.
*sorry If that didn't totally answer the question and/or wasn't helpful*
Lol!! I love that. When I told my mom I'm pretty sure I'm bi she was completely surprised actually. I was shocked that she didn't figure it out yet, especially since I'm such a feminist and always talking about gay rights and stuff haha.
LMAO
That is the best thing that I have heard all day.
Kyla Quinn wow
"the gay souls will always find each other"
Uche Agali i scrolled past this right as he said that
Uche Agali true. A lot of my HS are LGBT and they knew then and even after we graduated.
Uche Agali I can confirm, it is true
yeah it's true
So true though like in my friend group of 7 only 2 are actually straight
If I ever have a child and they say dad I'm gay. I'll just say hi gay I'm dad.
Same
r/dadjokes
Oh my gosh that’s so funny!!! 🤣😂
I'll just say "I thought you were American." Then walk out backwards doing finder guns.
Millenialls as a parent:
No ypu wont
“I want to look like that... wait, I want that!”
LOL I WAS IN THE BOYS LOCKER ROOM TODAY AND I WAS ALL LIKE YASSSS IM NEVER COMEING OUT
Me when I saw my best friend in a short dress
Wait wait, I want to look like that AND i want that,
This is me and me now
"MOM IM GAY"
"Honey I know"
Engergy Boost That would ruin me
I came out as asexual to my mother about 2 years ago and she said the same thing. I'd say it's both relieving and concerning to hear
FireLight dude youre really asexual?
Yeah
Lol well then congrats :D
AT least you dont feel miserable if you dont have sex for years like me, 22 still Virgin. Sometimes i wish/think im asexual too...
My older brother told me he was gay and I literally just looked at him and said "Cool. . .you still wanna go to Popeyes?" I didn't care. Plus I already knew.
There's no way I would ever leave a friend if they told me they were gay/trans. Everyone deserves love and compassion. Coming out is insanely hard. There's no way to know how it will end. Its nerve wracking. I love you all, gay, straight, bi, ace, pan, trans, whatever. ❤
Stephanie DuBois at least you do
Came out to my mom by writing a note and leaving it in her room while she was sleeping. Woke up to the sweetest text from her saying she loves me! I wish I had done it sooner!
Awwe 🤗
Karen Boynton I
Karen Boynton that's awesome :)
Karen Boynton iiii
Karen Boynton ahh... amazing
"Mom I'm gay!!!"
"Honey I know"
this killed me
I came out today. It was hard. I went on a date with a boy and told my mom. She was shocked. Then I told my sister, she cried because she didn't know how to handle it. I told my dad and he gave me a hug and said it's okay. I cried in his arms. Today was an emotional day for me. I felt every emotion possible. I feel lighter than ever before. Coming out is really hard but as soon as you tell the world you are free to be yourself forever. Don't wait for the world to be ready. Be brave, just say those two words, whatever it is, "I'm gay...bi...trans" Just be you. ❤
Mickey's Nightmare ✨
Little Cities I still wish that "coming out" didn't have to be such a big deal though... 😆
Conrad x why do people always gotta start crying haha
Conrad x You just made me cry because I'm a closeted trans male. 😭😭😭
I'm gonna freakin cry bro
This is the most positive comment section out of all buzzfeed videos I have watched.
Jimin Daddy same here
ARMY
Jimin Daddy SO TRUE
If you are here, and you are gay, a lesbian, or even any lgbtq+
.. just remember, I love you, i accept you, if your parents don't, I'm your new parent ok? I am the person who accepts people for who they are. I have a friend who is a lesbian, but she sometimes says she ain't, but I told her that I would be her friend no matter what, and I would love her❤ I hope you like this😍😘😗
Plz adopt me lol
@@bobward6315
My sister came out when she was 7...
XD
XMx BiG SIbLiNg😭😄😂
I’m 14, I came out when I was 13 and I know imma have to do it again because my parents keep on teasing me saying ‘are you texting boys?’ It’s as if it never happened and I hate it... thanks so much for accepting the lot of us 😂❤️
Thanks♡♡
"I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not" ❤
phannypack MilesChronicles?? ☺️
Than
phannypack MILES MILES MILES MILES MY SON MILESY BOY
phannypack MILES HAS GOT MANNERS AND THATS WHAT MATTERS
phannypack Easier said than done. Hate is a powerful deterrent for the LGBT from coming out.
I feel ready to tell everyone except my parents. I don't plan on telling them just yet until they question me again. I won't deny it anymore.
SwaggyDucks I'm bi
Rebeca Diaz, same, almost everyone in my school knows and my parents and my family in general are the only ones left. But they don't really get the concept of the whole LGBTQ thing so I'm done trying to come out and eventually like during college I'll just mantion that I have a boyfriend for something but by now idc if people knows, Idk I feel like it shouldn't define you that much so I don't care to come out to people until they ask me.
Thats what i did too, i came out today and i still can’t believe it but i am relieved i did.
I think my mom knows that I was born as a Lesbian but I'm scared of my Grandpa, I have two gay uncles and I don't think he gets it or he just hates it. I already told my three friends,and I guess they accepts me for who I am, and I'm confirmed lesbian at 12 cuz, if any boy asked me out, I'd be saying no and waiting for a gal.
I feel the same way about my extended family (Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, etc.). I won’t say that I’m gay unless they ask me. I’m out to everyone else though.
The first person I came out to was my friend Sarah, she literally just kinda laughed and went “literally same”
As a bisexual person, I can confirm it is hard. Very hard.
But it feels so worth doing in the end.
I was 16, now I'm 17
Connor Macfarlane All the love and respect to you. Remember that you matter, what you think does too. 💜
Connor Macfarlane Bisexual people also get a lot of criticism...we're just "confused" or we don't know what we want. I came out to my sister the day before Easter this year and she told me she had fallen in love with a girl a few years ago. It was really good to finally tell a family member. Now, it's just my parents!
Connor Macfarlane what up bi fam! same here! everyone just assumes it's easy cuz we're "half straight" but in reality it's harder because everyone thinks that!
in the end all that matters is you...
Connor Macfarlane I think I might like girls... but I'm sure I like guys.
I might have just come out to random people on the internet.
when i came out as bi in middle school (!!!) a friend came out 2 secs after me lol so i was not a alone. now in high school most of my friends realized they are bi, gay and lesbian SO YES GAY SOULS FIND EACH OTHER
jeonghan supremacist true dat
No nope they don't your just lucky
jeonghan supremacist ikr my friend and I came out to each other at the same time I Learnt my crush and friend was pan a few days ago and Someone forgot to tell me that my best friend was bi
I know that feeling all to well, when I came out as bi, one of my friends told me that he also was bi, and a week later another friend told me that her sister ( who I had met many times) also was bi, and that she also had been thinking about being bi or pan. So gay souls truly finds each other 😁
Same I came out and my two best friends came out at bi too!
I'm 31...I've come out to some people... but it's so much effort to have to keep coming out... friends have come and gone...my family still love me but it's like they have wiped it from their mind -- my dad still says to me "when are you going to have a baby to continue to the family name?" and my mother is like "When are you going to find a nice girl?"... I told my sister I was meeting up with one of my female friends and she was like "is she single?"
I've not been lucky to find a group of close friends - mostly because I hid my sexuality for a long time - i guess people saw me as fake and I also had so many barriers up that I stopped anyone getting close.
It's taken me a long time to accept that I like guys and be ok with that... I'm now working on not giving a crap what others think - I can't live life trying to please everyone else and morphing into something they may accept - I need to learn who I am and just be happy with that...people can love or hate for who I am instead.
I've been living in Japan for almost 8 years -- it seems like the rest of the world is moving so fast and here is stuck in the 80's :-(
I'm so sorry to read that you had to go through this.. I wish we lived in a world where something like that couldn't happen. You're right about living your life not trying to please everyone, I truly hope that you'll find someone who will love you for who you are one day. But i'm not worried about that, you seem like a genuinely good person, you'll find someone eventually !
Sending you encouragements from France !
Paul D hey
Paul D hey
Bryan is me with any women. I'm always like "wow i wanna look like that" until i realized i actually wanted that 😂
same
Alyssa J u can have me ;) ima cute stud
OR "Omg I wanna be her friend!" lol that was me when I was little
Alyssa J I'm the same haha. But because I grew up in a catholic environment I never realized it until pretty late haha
Alyssa J sameeeeeee
I think this video is so important. The laughs are great, but you can also see how much pain there is. No one should have to deny who they are .
My mom found gay porn on MY computer.
And I’m a straight girl.
Was it gay men or lesbians? I know some straight girls watch gay men porn and some straight guys watch lesbian porn.
That's normal
Oh gosh 😂
Margarita M. me-
Well there's a community for you it's called yaoi
As they said in the video, being in the closet is exhausting, painful and the constant fear and sadness can be very harmful, but coming out is often a luxury many of us can't afford, myself included. I used to be jealous of straight ppl since they didn't have to go through all this, but then I realised everybody has their own share of problems, and it taught me to be more kind. That's really the gist of it actually, be kind and don't judge, and hopefully one day nobody would have to come out.
Ankush Mudgal this is so true but I'm not sure what being fully out is so 😢
I disagree, it's no problem for me.
Ankush Mudgal that's exactly what I said in my coming out video . It's hard and depressing
it's so much more than not being able to talk about who you're attracted to. i was trying to hide all of my feminine traits because people link it to homosexuality all the time. having to watch america's next top model in secret, not being able to wear what you want to wear, not wanting to be around too many girls not because you don't like them but because you want to be masculine. it's exhausting.
white ppl wont get it lol ...sigh
I knew i was a lesbian when i was the only "straight girl" in a mix group of gay people in high school.. I was very reserved in high school
Sandra LEE same
Mom: Why are you talking to me like that! When you have a GIRLFRIEND you won't talk to her like that!
Me: *in my head* I'm gay though
Same!
I am a lesbian
shane is so handsome
beth Is he the one in the plad?
AlexisDaPig he's with the curly hair
it says all of their names at the start :)
he is kind of beautiful idk how to describe it
I like brayn
Wish i could teleport to a place where i can be myself and start a new life...
Me too
same....
Sorry to hear that
Wish I could go too :'/
Me: mom im gay
My mom: your sense of fashion says otherwise.
Mom stereo type
Q: What's a major problem you face when you're a gay artist?
A: it's hard to draw straight lines
🤣
Self Made Trillin LOL BYE
😂😂 nice one
Self Made Trillin 😂😂😂 this is honestly the best thing ever 😂😂
But easy to change what pencil you use
Can you make a video about bisexuality. I feel that subject is really under-represented in media.
Entertain Me Now Try being pan
Non-binary aswell should be taken to more attention
"There's only 2 genders" "You made that up." "Haha! Do you like pans?!?!??!"
ThnksFrThDnkMms I have the same problems :/
ThnksFrThDnkMms oh! and don't forget
*"it's just a phase"*
"Mom, I am gay"
"You're not my son anymore"
ignas79 :( sad
Wait did that happen to you? Are you okay?! If you need to talk im here for you..
I am so very sorry.
That might happen with me and my dad... I hope not but I gotta prepare for the worst...
You're my daughter alreadyy:)
Who else is not gay but just here out of curiousity?
Me lmao
Tiger Flash Ya boi, taken tho. anniversary in 3 days 😊
Tiger Flash lmao me too I'm definitely straight
Tiger Flash me lol😂
Tiger Flash I think that Is what this video is for
Im bi and I think If i told my parents they would kick me out
Gabby Quezada If you love them and you know they love you unconditionally then there should be no problem🙌
I'm gonna keep it real you don't need to tell them yet. Focus on yourself and your education and your own life don't worry about anyone else and what they will think. Focus on growing up and becoming a stronger person. Tell people once you are living on your own and not dependent on anyone financially and emotionally.
Gabby Quezada Bro I know it's hard to be in the closet, but we are in the same room. Telling them isn't a requirement, as long as you have friends who you can trust. Just have fun and we love you!
Gabby Quezada I imagine us all in a room full of metaphorical closets sometimes and we'll come out of that closets and sometimes you're faced with loads of people who are fine with it and sometimes there's a wall between you all. It can be tough but only come out if you're ready or have somewhere to go.
Then you need to wait till you are in a position where they can't dictate to you any more. I had the same issue, but in reality I just came out and told them, and my mom was ok with it, it took my dad some time, but he still never talks to me about my life, and calls the people I've been in relationships with my "friends"
*How I came out to my parents:*
Me, after my friend came out to them as bi: "Well, I'm pan..."
My mom: "That's nice."
My dad: "Ditto."
Pretty much the same thing that happened to me. Not long after my friend came out as gay (we already knew) I was at dinner with my Mom and Gma, looked at them said, “I think I’m Bi.” They both replied with “ok” and we continued eating. 😂
GAY IS OKAY, BUT IT IS NOT MY WAY!!!!
I am not gay. But I think I know who is in my school. I accept them. THEY ARE PEOPLE TOO!! And to all those people who think gay isn't okay... There is something that you're insecure about too. So be accepting, be kind, be inclusive. All they want is for people to treat them like actual people
-Ryan, 2017
Ryan when one of my friend came out:
"I'm gay"
"Okay"
BEST.REACTION.EVER
I'm really glad that there are people like you in society 💖
Pre-Algebra-Friend69420 i read that “gay is okay, but it is not THE way” LOL
this is the nicest thing ever
Coolbeans dude
DO THE SAME THING BUT WITH LESBIANS COMING OUT
I told my mom I had a crush on this girl when I was 5 and I didn’t think about it... cuz I was 5... so technically that’s when I came out but when I was 11 I knew everything and thought about it and one day she asked me “honey are you gay?” And it took me a while but I said “yeah I think so...” and she said “I know. And I love you the same.”
Me: thank you- Wait. You knew?
Her: yeah you had a crush on a cute girl named Makayla when you were 5 I suppose you forgot you told me but I remember :)
Then I got really embarrassed but now I’m glad 5 year old me trusted my mom and didn’t think anything about who I loved. It’s kinda strange when someone knows your gay before you do though. I did know by the time I was like 9 just because I knew about LGBT and I knew I didn’t like guys. So that was fun
Who else is questioning their sexuality? **cries on the inside**
LilyPop_314 hi
LilyPop_314 I'm not questioning it but I used to and when you know yourself you can tell others (I think I haven't .8.)
LilyPop_314 I am...... I really dont know I know that I want to have kids but I also get confused "do I want to look like that or I just want that" I mean I cqnt imagine having a relationship with a guy because I woulent want to break up (Im too senwitive and when I find someone I will bond to them forever) but at the same time (warning:opinion) gay sex kinda just a little tiny bit grosses me out and as I said.... I want kids. Maybe if I find HER and she is perfect I will know... plz reply if u feel the same
Niden Mladenov I'm gonna assume you're fairly young? When I was in ms/hs I questioned/experimented with my sexuality a lot. I hate remembering those years. Ugh so confusing and painful. I came out as bisexual and dated/had sex with both guys/girls. But after a few years things settled and in the last 5 years I've been in a heterosexual relationship. Point is it gets better. You get older, have time to find yourself and your head clears. You reach the point you know what you like and however it turns out it's not bad. If you're straight you're straight. If you're gay you're gay. However you are you can still have a family and a good life. Keep your head up.
LilyPop_314 I settled on bi. So I know I am not confused.
Thank you guys. So much. This really helped. I need a bit more time, but I can't wait to come out to my parents. I'm a bi-sexual girl and i have only told my closest friends. they were really accepting and supported me fully. i wish everyone else good luck with their journey!
Update: 8 months later and it turns out that I'm Pansexual, and my parents were fully accepting. I wish you guys all the luck in the world, and please take your time when finding out who you are!
Madzilla i believe in you,tell your parents your bi,no matter what I we all will be there for you😚
Lily Harrell Thank you! Thats really sweet.
Madzilla sameee
Madzilla Hope your family accepts you! I'm also a bisexual girl and I've come out to a few friends, but not my family, and I'm not planning to tell them anytime soon. I'm sort of scared on how they'd think of it, because we don't talk about it much, and I don't know how they'd react.
Kittenlover Good luck! I know how scary it is and I'm still working up the courage to tell my family. Just know that if they don't accept you, there will always be someone out there who does.
“The gay souls will always find each other” 😂
Im 15 and I came out 2 years ago. My mom is perfectly fine with it. My dad isn't, but he is someone I cut out of my life. I also had a few friends leave me because of it. But then I made a lot more friends that accepts me the way I am. The point of me telling everyone this, is that if someone dislikes you for who you are. Take them put of your life. You will be much more happy. I got to the point of coming out that when someone asks me If I'm gay. I say yes. I came out to three people in my classroom yesterday😂😂 all three where fine with it, but one of them got closer with me. This little thing about you, can make people like you more. Not because of just being gay, but because you had the guts to say it. It's hard. Really hard. I hope Everyone going through something like this has a happy ending. Because after I came out. My life became 30 times more better
Trevor Stackhouse Totally agree. Well done you!
Trevor Stackhouse I agree ! Life is so much better ! I talked about that in my coming out video as well. It away all the stress
I came out to my parents this year (i'm 15) and they took it well but they always make me feel bad about it. they are always asking me if i like girls and don't let me sleep over my best friends house ( she's a girl) because guys and girls can't be alone together but i have already told her that i'm gay and she still doesn't accept it. every time anything like that comes up she tells me well we just have to keep hoping that's this is a phase or that we can get you some help to make sure that your gay because i don't want that for you and all it does is make me feel bad about myself but i've been dealing with it. what really hurt me the most was that when i came out to them they said okay and that they will love me forever but that i can't tell family and friends that because they don't want them knowing, another thing that hurt was that they told me that they accept me but that want me to participate in "heterosexual" activities like sorts and hang out with guys. if they really accepted me then they wouldn't try to change me
Mathew Torres so I'm sorry for what you're going through. I know it seems hard right now. I know it feels like it's never going to get better, but it does. I don't know your struggle, but I know what mine was like. It felt like people that had taught me right from wrong somehow forgot those lessons themselves. It made me feel like suddenly I was the adult and they were the child. Behaving selfishly; thinking only of themselves while I was dealing with a very real and very difficult situation. And this will not be the last time you will find yourself disappointed by them because they are only human. You are growing up and the consequence is that you will now sometimes discover that the "adults" in the room often behave like children. And you will see this many more times throughout your life.
But if you love them, then be patient with them. And keep being yourself because you are beautiful. The rest will work itself out. Best of luck Sir.
*sending virtual hugs* stay strong.. things will get better..
Wow this just hit me like a truck god damn I am gay to Mathew and something similar is happening to me to and I just want to you to stay strong just wait and see they will come around.
Matthew, I am really, really sorry for what's happened to you. I'm myself am not gay/lesbian, but I really wish you the best. I'm sorry that your parents have done that to you. I can't say it as eloquently as Gary Gibson managed to, but just know that what he said encompasses my thoughts, especially the end. I hope that you can find someone in your life that will accept you for who you are, and more than that, love you for it. Oh, this also applies to Johnny O. And I wish we lived in a society where people could be themselves without being judged, and I am so sorry that we don't. Also, I'm sure that coming out to your parents must have been really hard for you, and you are so brave for doing it at 15. I hope everything turns out well for you, and that everything with your parents ends up alright.
I don't know anything about you personally, but I read a lot, and it's a way that I release my emotions. If it's something that you enjoy, I would recommend Wattpad (for both books and writing, I'm sure that many people can sympathize with your story, and if it's something you might like, I would read your story, if that helps). Anyway, that was just advice from a nerd who hasn't had to deal with anything like that in her life. I hope you find something that works for you.
Mathew Torres Man, this almost brought tears to my eyes... I wish you the best of luck and I really do hope it gets better and that your mother accepts the fact that this is not a phase. It is a part of your identity, not like what defines you as a person, but a pig part of who you are, and I hope the people around you learn to accept that. This is excactly why I’m afraid of coming out. But then again, I am about 3 years younger than you, though you don’t have to be a certain age to realize what you’re attracted to. I am a closeted bisexual, and stories like yours are the reason I’m so afraid of the my future as a closeted member of the LGBTQ+ community. Again, I truly do wish you the best of luck, and always keep in mind that you don’t have to change, you just be you, and if the people around you don’t accept that, then don’t keep listening to that same stuff that hurts you. I know it’s easier said than done, but you can do it.
"The gay souls will always find each other" I laughed so much out loud bc a few months after I came out (almost 3 years ago now) 3 of my friends also came out and we are a group of 7 and my roommate came out to me a few days ago.
In my close friend group. We are 3 bixesuals, 1 lesbian and 1 straight girl.
It’s kind of hilarious.
When I came out the most accepting person was the girl I had a crush on XD turns out she was gay for me too!
Teal Downie awwww
I wish that would happen to me
Dawwww
Blehp :P lucky xD
It is so sad that so many people all over the world has to feel bad for so long, just because the society have us believe it is not normal being gay.
Naomi yep. I was just reading some comments on a different video where a bunch of homophobes were saying being gay is some "sick perversion" it breaks my heart that such ignorant people are in this world.
Well... it isn't normal... the parts don't fit
Bare Bronze srs?
Kenzieb Rodents yea but it still ain't "normal" lol. the amount of heterosexual people towers over the amount of homosexuals making heterosexuality the "normal", or better put, typical choice.
statistically it's not the norm... but homosexuality is a natural phenomenon and is harmless
people can't control who they're attracted to
it makes me so sad that we have to be afraid of being who we are, stay strong everyone you're all amazing 💜
Do this video for lesbians and for bisexuals plzzzzz
Helena Fisher there all pretty similar experiences theres only so many ways it can go.
FwP Commanndo gaming 1103 I feel like lesbians and gays often have slightly different experiences :) like for example the one guy in this video saying his dad blamed himself for not taking him fishing, etc. for men there's judgement of not being masculine enough. with lesbians (not always) there's often the judgment of being too masculine or not feminine enough. so the pressures and worries are different, and I'd be interested to hear about them.
honestly im gay af and my problem is im too feminine. lmao everyone always assumes im straight and it was twice as difficult to come out because no one was suspecting it. even other lesbians think im straight and avoid showing interest in me lmfao
Yeah there are differing stereotypes about bisexuals. Also there can be a lot of confusion because you may feel like you're straight for a lot of your life.
the femme struggle is real!
Bruh as soon as I walked into the school building girls was like that girl is gay I used to deny it but now I'm OPENLY GAY
Aries Fr I bet u feel free now. I know the feeling
" I went fishing all the time and im still gay" 😂💀
Bella Pepper hey
I cried for no reason. Lesbian gay trans or whatever we deserve be loved!
Yes we do!
@@7kazu honestly i don't think that a man being attracted to a specific gender is gross or stuff, but why do you think that if i may ask ?
@@7kazu could you explain why? Other wise str8s are gross. I don't know why either.
Yes I agree . I am not homophobic but I just don’t like gays rubbing it in our face like they are special.
@@JPGLEMALE if society didn't make such a big deal out of it, I don't think they would have any reason to do so.
I was on a trip with my school in about a state over, and I came out to my mom in a text so I wouldn't have to deal with her voice when I told her and she didn't reply the whole day and I thought she hated me. when I came back, she was there and she just walked up and hugged me. She said "honey I don't care if you like boys, girls, or you're attracted to tables. I will still love you none the less." And BOI I CRIED I'LL TELL YA
"or your attracted to tables" that just made my day. but good for you for coming out, I still yet to have done it
Kaylee Whitman tablesexual
Rockz Rocker im tableromantic XD
I think no matter straight or gay, everyone learned about the importance of clearing search history and incognito mode the hard way...
Shane is gay???? Hunty I'll take a slice of that cake. 😂🍰
Stormagedon 10
Guh save me a slice.
Stormagedon 10 what? lol :v
He isn't bisexual. He is gay. The title says gay men
NUTTED
😂
Remember, you don't need to worry about your sexuality, because you know and I know that you're beautiful just the way you are :)
Unicorn_ Madness thanks for the message
Unicorn_ Madness Exactly. Be your true self. People who matter don't mind, people who mind don't matter.
Yes and I love your avatar btw 💜❤
❤️😄🙌
We need more people like you 💖
I remember one night, when I was 15, laying in bed and forcing myself to whisper out loud, 'Am I a lesbian?' I was very much still questioning, but it was getting to the point that I couldn't deny something was up, and it was really eating at me. I'm not kidding when I say I've never experienced such an intense release of emotion in my life. And they were all totally conflicting emotions too!! I was relieved and terrified and thrilled and confused and scared and a thousand other things all at the same time, it was just so much to process. I really think straight people underestimate the power of the closet and how much strength and courage it takes to break out of it.
I am not straight too but I am afraid to tell it. People always say "the man you will marry..." but I am a lesbian, it really get on my nerves but I am too afraid to tell the truth
Cat TV It will be a relief for you in the end, just make it in your own pace. Maybe you can talk to the school nurse and he or she can help you out a bit. I'm 35+ and I came out as a lesbian in the late 90's and it wasn't very accepted at that time. Not that I really faced any discrimination or so, but today people and parents is way more informed. It's for you and your own happiness and don't let anyone take that away from you. In the end you are the most important person for your self and your parents. They will still love you. :)
Musiknird I THOUGHT YOUR PROFILE PIC WAS A HAIR ON MY SCREEN AND I TRIED WIPPING IT OFF SEVERAL TIMES BEFORE REALIZING IT WASNT A HAIR WHY U DO DIS TO ME 😂
Art is love Art is life WTF ME TOO 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Same. It also get on my nerves when someone says to me:„ yeah, your future boyfriend.... “ I always wanna say: „ or my future girlfriend.“
I hate to pretend being someone I'm not. But I'm to afraid to come out of the closet.
N. Ol. And the some people that when they see a gay or lesbian couple they tell me it's disgusting while I am a lesbian
My friend recently just came out. I am so happy for him.
best friend: when you get to high school, you’re going to be obsessed with guys, I can tell
me: I don’t think so...
best friend: yeah you definitely will be
me: **internally screams in gay**
I'm 40 and I've never come out to my family. It would devastate my parents, I have no siblings and only a small group of very close friends. I think my life has been very limited because of my choices but despite all the videos like this one I've watched I've never been able to tell them.
I'm sorry. I wish we lived in a world where you didn't feel the need to hide your identity from you parents because you don't want to hurt them. I hope that you'll find someone who'll accept/love you for who you are, and that you'll take the opportunity to be with them despite the risk of devastating you parents. At a certain point, you have to know that you love your parents and you friends, but you need to make the decision for yourself, because this is your life. You sound like a very kind and selfless person though, and I wish you the best.
oh my god... I am so sorry. You're the age of my dad, literally. I am 17 and haven't come out yet. Take care of yourself and be happy. Please :)
Hi! I have just watched this video and just seen your comment. I am like you. I have few friends and it seems that I won't tell my family and my surroundings about my sexuality. It will devastate them. I am glad to know you more Dude! Please answer my comment. 😊 Love from Indonesia. 😊
I'm 30 and in the same spot you're in. Not very easy..
Can you do lesbians next? I feel like they have a really hard time too...
Not to start a debate but I think lesbians have it a bit easier than gay men do.
I believe they've made another video with lesbians in the past, either on here or on boldly.
how so?
I think men have it worse. Especially from their father.
Brendan Fernandez Imagine being told by a guy "don't worry baby I'll make you straight" (that's literally been said to me) and my father didn't talk to me about 1 1/2 months after I came out.
i came out to my mom 2 years ago and to this day she doesn’t believe me🤦🏼♀️ she said that not being straight was a “trend” that i wanted to follow. it still hurts but hopefully she’ll get it one day
My mom thought the same thing until she saw that I had a boyfriend that I was serious that's when she was like wow
At my school, someone came out and so she wouldn't be bullied, her friends regardless of whether or not they were actual gay said they were so she wouldn't get bullied and if someone dared they'd all step up. I thought that was very sweet and true friendship.
I'm lesbian and I blurted it out during the Grammys and my mom literally said ok.
Im_Gay it was similar with my mom, we were talking about gender and sexuality and she said "do you like girls or boys more?" and I just said idk and she was like ok (I'm pretty sure she totally knew though, I had an obvious crush on a girl)
Im_Gay My Chemical Romanceeee :)
Im_Gay they should to a lesbian version of this
MCR!!!
This gives me so much motivation but *nah*
That's exactly me
Me tbh 😂 how old are you?
enoch same
Same
Is Enoch your name? I love that name 😺
IMO, it should be MANDATORY for parents to go through some type of sexual orientation course at some point in their lives, whether high school or wherever. Because the population is growing. So with that, a higher population of homosexuals will be produced than in the past. Courses and/or classes MUST be established to help everyone understand the different facets of sexual orientation so it can be dealt with and adjusted to, much more easily.
In England (where I live) its becoming mandatory to teach about sexualities from this year I think so we're getting closer
OMG YES! I don’t think they’d do that in my catholic school tho... They’re not even letting us have gender neutral uniforms... 😭
@@gabriellafagan9651 yeah I live in England too and I heard about that. So exciting that people will finally learn to learn about this community! 🌈🌈🌈
Or it could be mandatory for... EVERYONE???🤷🏾♂️ Some ppl will use religion as an excuse to be biased and hateful, but at least they can’t hide behind ignorance.
Why the heck do you have my moms initials
My brother is Gay and didn't tell me until my extended family knew. My brothers friends, mom , dad and sister knew before.
The same happened to one of my friends. She's bi, her brother's gay and they both came out to their mom like 3 years ago. But while she told him immediately, he hid his sexuality from her until some months ago. And all his girl friends had probably known that for years... So yeah, she was pissed.
The "I want to look like that... wait no I just want that" is super relatable
omg shane and jarred are so cute i want to by them a beer and just say thanks for being cool and then walk away
Why walk away when they're already cute and drunk? ;)
People like you are why I felt safe coming out to my friends.
“We were fighting about something or other and I was like “Mom I’m GAY!”
😂😂 works every time
ugh the struggle of changing the pronouns so annoying, especially in french bc we don't even have gender neutral pronouns rip 😢
also, unrelated but shane has really pretty hands 😶
i got a gay dating ad how fitting
Lmao
As for coming out, deep down I know no one will find anything wrong with it. I just am not ready for everything to change.
*nods* yeah Same here I really hate talking with certain people
I remmber I came out to my mom that I was bi she was surprised at fisrt and then said ok and and I'm so glad she said she was fine with it
my one worry for coming out was that my crush would notice me staring at him 😂
"The gay souls will find each other" actually super true like 75% of my friend group came out around the time i did in high school
I like reading comments in a buzzfeed video.
Angel Starfire so do I friend so do i
I like reading comments in general
Angel Starfire not on body positivity videos. that shits terrible
When I told my grandmother that I am gay she just answered "Oh! That's the reason you look that good"
I live in germany and everybody was accepting my coming-out. I am still bored of thier reactions. (Maybe I just know the right people...)
So lucky you are...
I'm from India nd it's pretty hard to come out here...
We people are still dealing with gender stereotypes..
I mean no one here gives a damn bout LGBT community...
Even though I've came out to my bestie as a bi* cause he truely understands me plus he is my crush.. 🤭🤭🤭
Wish I was born in Germany my friend... 😔😔😔😔
Mom: WhY DiDnT yOu mAke YoUr bEd?
Him: MOM IM GAY
imagine how hard would it be for a transgender person to come out
My life
Alex Smolovin As somebpdy who is trans
I can confirm that this is true. Also questioning my sexuality yay the whole package is here
The hardest thing
Alex Smolovin how is it any harder? I don't want to sound mean but I don't really understand your comment
Professor Vamana you have to go through life changing experiences (become your true gender) and explain to your friends and family what it means
Being a Black Gay Male in Mississippi it was most definitely hard!! And exhausting! I was "Asexual" for most of high school as well. But then as a senior I just came out as Bisexual! In college ppl don't care so I'm good! 😂
I'm glad you can be happy now.
The term "gay" can be used for women as well, it just isn't used as often.
I’m happy you’re happy but please don’t misrepresent what asexuality actually is and what it means. It is an actual identity and is not synonymous with abstinence or celibacy
I remember watching this video before coming out, almost half a year ago. I cannot believe how relatable this video is to so many situations that have occurred to me, since then.
To all of you who are planning to come out: It gets so much better, and you will feel relief. (Maybe not initially, but over time).
I came out as bisexual at 12 and I'm still 12
that is sad
BTS_Trash Girl hopeful you become straight. sorry to hear that 😞
DELO PRODUCTIONS wtf
DELO PRODUCTIONS tf
DELO PRODUCTIONS wtf
Even if I could I would not be straight I'm the happiest I've ever been right now my parents support me and I have the best girlfriend right now.
I came out as gay April of this year. My parents were totally surprised. They said they still loved me right away, but it was still very hard. My parents had a vision for my future and that vision kind of changed all at once. Everyone in my house is cool now, tho I keep my thoughts about boys to myself lmao
If you have a Steven Universe pfp, your comment doesnt matter
My friends still don’t get the “they” hint when I talk about cute people
How I came out to my dad:
Me: "Hey Dad, you know yesterday when you were asking me about my date, did you notice that I kept saying 'they'"
Dad: Yes, I did
Thanks Dad!
I'm bi/pan and it's great! I have only told some of my friends but most of my friends are gay anyway but it's hard in a small minded town
I never wanna tell my mom and da
Megan De Monster same girl! I'm bi and I've told my mom and my siblings (my dad is abusive and we thankful escaped from him a few years ago), I don't know how to tell my friends though, most of them seem to be the homophobic type and the only one that would be ok with it is my biggest crush! 😥(omg I just thought about her 😍😍 lol)
StormyCorgi I Don't know how old you are but I'm only 15 I find most of my friends are older then me and that's alright. Thanks for the inspiration it might really help me!
Talal Malik Wow dude that's ruff I'm so sorry... I hope you are okay and I hope you and your boyfriend have a great life together that quote have always been my favourite quotes of all time and I live by it, I am so proud to be apart of the LGBTQ+ community and I do plan on coming out eventually but for now all the knows are my friends and I think I'll keep it that way for a little longer. I'm so happy there is such support in the comments over here it's amazing and have a fabulous day!!😍👑💕
Megan De Monster at my school pretty much all the lgbt kids (apart from me and my maybe best friend , he is questioning) all of them are emos and they blame it on being gay or bi but where we live ive never met a homophobic for miles and im not emo and im lesbian af. Why do you guys think that mist of them are so depressed because i know one of them quite well and her family loves her and she has a decent life.
"the gay souls will find each other", isn't the half of it. While closeted I ended up dating like 3 closeted lesbians. XD
I don't know why RUclips suggested this video but worth watching it. So much hurdle each one of them had to go through. Inspirational!!!!
I wrote my mom a note as well~ XD She didn't really care.
Berry Punch same
This is really inspirational for a bisexual girl like me. I'm not afraid of telling my internet friends but I still haven't told a lot of my friends irl. Tbh I'm scared people are going to slowly walk out of my life like some of the friends I came out to. My mom and one of my sisters are the only ones in my family who know, and when I am fully ready to tell the rest of my family I hope I will be accepted.
The way I thought of it, was that its a part of me. And the people around me should accept all the parts of me. If they don"t, I wound't want them to be around me. Your true friends will accept you for who you are, otherwise maybe they aren't meant to be your friends after all. :)
Lyellae hopefully you are accepted
Lyellae i can relate, I'm currently a closeted homosexual and I'm just really worried
I'm gonna keep it real you don't need to tell them yet. Focus on yourself and your education and your own life don't worry about anyone else and what they will think. Focus on growing up and becoming a stronger person.
My son's gay. We suspected since he was 2.. I was sure when he was 6 or 7.. he always denied it though. He came out when he was 12.. he's 14 now. We love him so much! He also loves fishing and camping lol
My mom found out i was pan sexual because on pan sexual pride day I posted a pan sexual flag on instagram and she called me and asked me what it was. I told her and the next day she took me to a food place. When we got there she told me pan sexual isn't a thing and she found out I had a girlfriends and said that It's a phase and I'm not actually bi and I kept telling her I'm pan and she kept saying I was too young and she went through the phase too.....I've been pan for a year and I have had my girlfriend for 7 months my mom thinks I'm straight and thinks I broke up with my girlfriend and now she's a good friend
Xander Bonds i think im pan aswell and my mom found a tweet where i mentioned "coming out" and said the same whole, "its a phase/i went through it too" thing and its just so so frustrating omg
yeah it really is
Welp. Good luck? I hope that she accepts you someday.
Xander Bonds Can you explain me what pansexual is?
Cry_Baby 69 The key difference between being bi and pan is that bisexuals have gender preferences, while pansexuals don't. A bi person may be attracted to only cis people, while a pan person may be attracted to whatever identity a person uses. I hope this helps.
A guy in my year came out during his GCSE final drama performance by dancing to I'm Coming Out - Diana Ross
I just came out yesterday and it is the best feeling in the world to have ppl support you in Wat ever you need (I am crying rn )
Almost cried halfway through :(