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I remember once, being with a man i deeply loved, we were driving and his car caught a flat. We had to stop and get a tire. He didn't have enough money so I paid for it, no big deal. First off I didn't have a car and he would take me places and even let me practice driving his. He was so appreciative that I did that for him with no hesitation and didn't make him feel like less. But I was so grateful for him being in my life and treating me right. He knew he could be open with me and trust me to have his back.
Definitely 100%. From my own experience at being a woman in love. I melted in love into my most feminine self with my man, very naturally and unconsciously. And I love it
She deeply loves him when she talks sweetly to the man, calls him sweety, apologizes when she is wrong, enjoys massaging him, enjoys rubbing his shoulders and chest from behind, asks him about his emotional state, and asks what she can do to add value to his life
@@ericbush6124 Real talk, women like that, my God, you on the road constantly checking the time highly anticipating to get back to her thinking "Man I've been cussed out today, the client didn't get to the venue in time which interfered with my other appointments, the car got a flat tire, the pick up order for the food turned out to be the wrong order when I opened it later, I'm ready to go hooooome and chill with my soothing queen, to my safe place." 😃
So true Steph. I’m with the women that don’t mind if I guy cries in front of me when he’s hurting. I’ll run towards him more to help him. Fellas, don’t let people tell you that you can’t cry in front of women. If you can’t grieve or be emotional vulnerable around her then she ain’t it for you. A real woman will still respect and love you for you.
Stephan, when a woman is deeply in love and she cannot get more into the feminine energie and she has been healing on past trauma then the problem is that the men does not open his vulnerability to her. She feels a kind of a wall. She has to leave him because there is no way to go. She loves the man but cannot go into the depth with him. Thank you Stephan for everything you bring to the world. Much love.
This is so true. I told my son 23 and my friend guy not all women have a problem with men showing their emotional side. I feel that's a release button men shouldn't hold it in. My friend said he was raised without emotion and showing it is weakness. I just hope men understand not all women look down on them for showing emotions 💯
This happened to me but only with someone I was getting to know. On only WEEK 2, we were talking bout the Bible and he got super angry, his voice kinda changed over the phone. He had already started showing other red flags before this. I immediately said I gotta go and hung up. When I immediately broke it off , I had to go to lengths to block . Fucking psycho. But I’m glad my discernment was up . Kiki your gut is screaming at you “GIRL LEAVE” . I know it’s harder said than done. And yes it’s going to hurt badly after , but the peace starts to come back . You got this boo
I was with one like that. He was ready to criticisize me and i changed for him. He couldnt even be bothered to shower or take care of his pet. When remembered that change goes both ways, he threw fits and turned his back on me. I said him to leave when he least expected. Thats what you get.
If he's response is not reasonable than what makes you think that one day he won't put hands on you, man who are extremely emotional are like a ticking time bomb. Better stay away, men can be violent at times,better to play safe
A man will instinctively know very quickly when a woman is really into him. Body language, what she says, how she looks at him and intimacy. He will feel the vibes and chemistry between him and the woman. Back in your younger days I had a few girls place me in friend mode only I didn`t have enough life experience to realise that and wasted a lot of time trying to appease girls that would lead nowhere.
I long for simpler times when a man was a leader, protecting, providing for, and developing his woman and children… If he’s fully engaged in that role, he will not concern himself with self pity and will never feel vulnerable! A good woman is a happy woman with a “leading” man. Man up bro!
... if she's emotionally healthy - BUT doesn't show up in her feminine way in your relationship - it's because you DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL SAFE!!! She does not believe you are truthful, honest and/or faithful. She doesn't trust you with her body, her money, her kids, her home, etc etc - - - because you either have already proven that you are not going to, or you have failed to proof to her that you are capable and willing to keep her safe.
Then why she beg me to stay when I leave😭😂 trust is a whole relationship that’s her fault if she don’t feel safe tbh if I was a girl if I didn’t feel safe around a man that’s immediate red flag bc he’s not protective
@@squeezodadon3269 I said if she's emotionally healthy!!! Clearly she is not, or she has never experienced a healthy relationship model to learn what's acceptable and what is not. Everybody's boundaries are their own. Unfortunately, we tend to duplicate what we experience in our childhood and upbringing - and it takes a mature person to first recognize it for what it is and then leave that kind of sh*t behind. Or if we don't experience this type of mistreatment in our childhood or via our parents relationship/marriage examples, and we first get exposed to it during our own dating/relationships - and if we don't have healthy boundaries and expectations and a way to communicate them, we sometimes get lost in the emotional devastation when something like mental, verbal or emotional [never mind physical] abuse happens on a regular basis.
This video is so true. If you plan on dating intentionally, you have to show moments of vulnerability to see how segue reacts. When I met my girl, I was unemployed. She was super beautiful but from our conversations, I could tell she was a keeper too. Instead of trying to keep my pride and look good to get in her good graces, I told her straight up, on our very first date, that I was unemployed in between jobs and if she’s expecting a bunch of dates and such, then she should probably leave me alone. She reassured me she doesn’t care about money and that meant so much to me. It’s only been a month but she hasn’t shown me yet that she can’t see me vulnerable. I think I found a really good one.
@@Spookyaki1 Thanks for asking. We’re still going strong. A couple petty arguments here and there but nothing that isn’t fixed with a little communication. We love each other very much.
Stephan, Your 2nd point is absolutely right and 💯 % correct. It's d major reason I walked out of d relationship. Initially, she wasn't into my finances and cautious, after abt 6 months together she started acting funny and yells, go cold and gives attitude when her financial expectations are not met. No longer giving out feminine energy. So. I just let her go.
My ex wife looked at me as weak because I was vulnerable. The problem was, she was not vulnerable with me. The only time I would get upset pertained to our relationship. She lost respect. And like I said, she is an ex. And yes, I was the one who ended it.
The third one is sooooo true. (So the first and second one is true for any guy tbh) but I told the guy that god sent to me that he brings out a different softer side in me. Immediately. I let him lead more. And even though I’m not getting exactly what I want like in past relationships where I was more vocal about certain things (like FaceTiming over texting for example) it doesn’t even matter bc I’m 10x happier texting the guy I’m so in love with than FaceTiming a meh guy ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Stephan, I'm watching your men's channel co's men come to me for emotional support in their abusive relationships. Thank you for being there for all of us. Sending love and good vibes! 🤗
I had a situation similar, I guess yu can say (vulnerable) my house burned down I had a lot & lost everything had to start from 0 with no money saved up,….I shook back quick because I was so numb to the pain but in that first few days she pulled up never looked down on me & we was figuring this situation out together but I left to rebuild my life because i didn’t want to put my situation on her being she has a son & is struggling to make it herself, I no if I would have stayed she would have help me rebuild but I left to go figure it out for myself as a man & bounced back rather quickly
Last point hit me hard. Listened to it a few times...exactly what I've been going through with a woman who is damaged. I feel someone has to love her, but i must let her go so she can participate in her own rescue. I pray for her everyday.she was in her feminine in the beginning but I broke her heart. Now she's been with several men in our no contact period and she's very angry. I pray she finds her healing and i become the man i need to be to keep her if i ever get another chance.
@@Thiccythiccreads she was damaged before I met her. I was the only man that actually cared about her. A d yes, I did hurt her. And I've asked her to forgive me, bcse i really care for her.
I hope the guy that I love who have left me crying that night for misunderstanding know that I still not changing him in my heart and I did what I told him that loosing him will close my heart for any man
True. Most women are capable of building men up when they have vulnerable moments. Women have to be careful with their trust and hearts when they share. I messed up with my Husband and Son, being harsh. It took my Husband years before he she'd a tear in front of me. I find myself asking him if he's OK and when I sense he's in deep thought, I just sit next to him. My Son hasn't come around to trust me hearing his heart because it involves his fiance. It'll take prayer, time and him understanding how I see into their superficial relationship and he's being used. I wasn't handed a manual, but the strong woman pattern.
It's really nice to have a man help you with your coat, or hold doors....or remind you to pick up your sunglasses from the table...looking out for you it's nice!
My man, I have listened to Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, Fresh and Fit, @Whatever, David Goggins, etc. and honestly, I mean this from my heart - this is the best lecture regarding emotional help for men that made sense in a clear and concise way. Most other podcasts had me thinking I could never, ever show any emotion whatsoever, a true stoic and honestly it made me feel hopeless. You helped me understand how to stay in frame when dealing with the small stuff, vs. being able to cry because my father died. Just wanted to say thank you.
what he said about feminine energy is so true. I’ve hung out with guys over the years that I didn’t like more than friendship so I would act very masculine with them. Treat them as homeboy to them now, with my boyfriend. Right now. I am a girly girl woman.
12:36 Yep! My husband was broke coming out of college! Even though I am younger, I graduated two years before him (he went military first), so I did not have any debt. He would NEVER have allowed me to pay for dinner at a restaurant. So, I constantly would offer to cook when he asked me on a date. That way, he wasn’t having to spend money he truly dis not have but we could still have a nice meal together! He picked up a movie on the way to my apartment so we had dinner and a movie that cost him $5. We have been married 31 years and he only recently found out THAT was why I always offered to cook. 😂
A man being vulnerable adds to me feeling mentally and emotionally connected as well as safe. I think that if a man shares that part of him, it's major. I always embrace that. I believe that it shows a good level of mental and emotional healthiness. Men that suppress and act all hard like they have it all figured out, are so tough and have no feelings about almost everything are a red flag for me. There's no way that he can make me truly feel cared about, loved and safe if he can't be vulnerable at times.
The sexiest thing I've ever seen a man do is cry in a moment of vulnerability.....it says a LOT about the condition of his heart and his emotional confidence. It causes me to respect him even more and become quite protective of his heart.
First time I saw my man cry, I was more compelled to let him lead. I because so protective of his feelings and what he needed from me as his woman. He needed to know that I believed in him and that I was confident in who he is as a man. I quickly made sure I let him be my King and listened. It’s not about being harsh. The most masculine thing is being able to be gentle with his woman.
I totally agree with the vulnerability point. I think the main reason for the people to not be is more around hookup culture and or like you said not being overly emotional and unstable most of the time.
Hey Stephan, I love your videos, I am currently going through a break up with a girl that I truly loved. I would like your advice on how to let it go. I value your opinion, since you bring a certain balance to the manosphere. Thank you and keep doing up the good work💯
Take a minute and enjoy being single. Learn something new, treat yourself to something you want as you definitely won't be spending your money on her, show yourself some love and build yourself back up.
That’s if we as women can find a quality man to begin with. With the internet the majority are ALWAYS on the look out for what they think is better. There is no better out there! Only the commitment you are willing to make as a Man to the relationship and the women who loves you.
What if you have a woman whom you have a great relationship with but has kids that make it hard to cope and or disrespectful to the point where it affects your overall happiness no matter how much you are there for them and no matter how much support you give to them
Even if we fail do something don't mope real long get going she needs to know you're vulnerable bu not emotionally fall apart because we lose a job of get a flat tire.A good Woman will always appreciate a Good Man. Men give Women recieve a Good woman will temper her wants and they'll be more emotional spiand intellectual Money is for needs spending time more important than spending money All really good Points my Brother Stephen
Ok, I fell in live with a man who misrepresented himself to me! We could talk about anything anything and he was vulnerable.....exactly what you said, he held so much in that I wasn't aware of about his ex, he drinks, but said he didn't and he showed his anger issues, of which I had no idea about, so now what????
PERSONALLY I Want To Be ABLE To Be Their I want to know all That’s Not Saying He Is Less Of A MAN Their was a Situation with me I Was Really Sick And My Son He Had To Grow Up Fast And He Felt he had To Be Strong He Felt he had Too I told my son It’s okay to cry Because he had one more year high school and He Was Going Off to school with that being said yes connection is involved and their heart is More with the man and he loved me Back Exactly I care nothing about that money Because I want the man no every woman I Care Nothing Now I Will Walk Away If You Are ignoring the real me then I Will remove my self I have no time for game play No arguing no fussing I Will Exit Out , Thank You Mr. Stephan As Always for your sit down Blessings be with you always 🙏🏽✝️🕊
I will accept you as a broke man, but at the same time, I want to see self improvement and growth and the fact that you are trying. I will stick by a broke man that is at least making efforts to get out of the rut he is in.💯
I am not into a mans financial status, if i love a man its true. It is him, who he is as a person and what he brings to the relationship, by way of his roles and responsibilities as a man. He doesnt have to be rich, or have many material possessions. He just has to be hard working, responsible, kind, loving, gentle, understanding, and a loyal God fearing man. ❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊 I was out with a group of friends, and an older gentleman complimented me while i was getting my food. Well, he was sitting accross the room from our table. When our group, got up to go for a walk, he caught up to me and asked if i would like to join him and his group. I declined, not because i didnt know who he was. But because i was just not into him. ❤🎉😊
can you pray for me, Mr. Stephan? I am too deeply emotionally involved (although he does not know it) into a man that is not convenient for me because he deceived me by hiding from me that he is married. Everyday I see him , I mean, every single day, and I cannot embrace him, I cannot speak to him ( dont want him to get any ideas of me at all), but I am dying for me, wanting to talk to him and ask him how is he?, I want SO MUCH TO JUST HUG HIM but I cannot. I want to prepare him meals and prepare him his clothes, his house, make him feel so relaxed and so much loved and pampered by me but I have to limit myself from these devastating feelings for that .....and I really need higher intervention. If you could join me in prayer not this minute but when you can, to unite yourself with me in prayer for me so that I may pass this phase. I am trying to pray for myself every single day and so if when you have time to pray for me, I'll be praying as well. help me and keep me in your prayer , at least just once. :/ -thank you :(
i no longer look up to the man who can sleep with a lot of women ... i now look up to the man who found ONE good woman who loves TRULY loves him and that relationship will last. it took me getting my heartbroken to finally take on this mindset.
My woman’s does these things but then has moments of serious toxicity and takes her frustrations out on me and makes it about her, shaming me for doing things women look for men to do. She totally blacks out and then comes back and apologizes. It turns me all the way off and makes me wonder what did I get myself into. How did I meet an Angel and a Devil in one person, no bullshit. Can somebody help?
I think she loves you and knows that she has a good man but there is something from the outside influencing her and making her believe that you’re not doing enough. Most likely, it’s social media. It could also be some guy who likes her, a family member or friend who is always telling her what she should want in a man and hinting to the insecurity in her that says maybe she made the wrong decision in choosing you. That doesn’t mean SHE thinks choosing you was wrong, it just means someone or something that she sees, in constantly manipulating the situation and playing on her insecurities about your relationship. Sounds to be like whatever that shit is, needs to be eliminated. If it never stops, you will have to leave to make her understand and appreciate you as her man. Ask her what she wants and tell her to be VERY SPECIFIC. I mean VERY SPECIFIC and tell her she doesn’t have to remember all at once and that she can tell you at any time what else she needs. Just make sure that in the midst of that though that YOU are still being appreciated and valued for your efforts. If you are not and she refuses to tell you what she needs, she may not be healed yet or she may just need a lesson on appreciating a good man.
Also, don’t just flat out leave. Just make sure that she knows that this behavior is pushing you to detach emotionally. If she understands, wants to change and makes an effort, just make sure you tell her what the effects of her blacking out are doing to you.
She is not healed from something in her past and until she acknowledges that and gets help and heals from it then she is not ready for a relationship with you or anyone else. For your own sanity and emotional health you need to talk to her and encourage her to get the help that she needs. If she refuses and goes into toxic mode and attacks you verbally then you need to end the relationship. Pray for her that God will lead her to the help that she needs. This will be very hard to do but necessary for your happiness and mental health. God bless.
I grew up collecting ammo for my father… I tend to remember all the unpleasant things… also my father is a crier but he’s been crying all my life but whEn my significant other does it .. I think it’s an *ick* especially if it’s over something small that doesn’t include death. Just don’t cry in front of me…
I’m a woman, and I clicked on this video half expecting some type of “your woman will do everything you say and cook and clean” stereotype 😭, but the first one made me realize otherwise. Yes, *lots of men are taught as young children that crying is a sign of weakness* But as a lady, trust me, if we really love you we do not care, get it out. It’s better to release than bottle.
I Don't believe that one should look for happiness in The Next person in the sense That you should be happy Anyway in your self and then I feel other Little irritations that may come about bother you less ! as you know yourself and them too . That confidence is enough I think! If someone likes being in your company then Cool an if you feel like minded then Greater Still I feel it doesn't Need a word.
If I am deeply in love, no matter how many scars that I have on my heart or past trauma, I will not walk away from the man I am crazy about. If anything it will be hard for him to get rid of my AZZ!😆
Yer that is me. My wife is hot as. However, at age 42, I do 80+ km a week of bike riding. 800 push-ups a week. 800 other exercises for my six-pack per week. I don't drink, smoke, party. I meditate. To stay hard is to stay fit.
He lost his job and didn’t want more money bruh. I ain’t gone cap Id get a job anywhere until I find another specific job like that, especially now. Most restaurants like Taco Bell and stuff hiring anyway😂.
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I remember once, being with a man i deeply loved, we were driving and his car caught a flat. We had to stop and get a tire. He didn't have enough money so I paid for it, no big deal. First off I didn't have a car and he would take me places and even let me practice driving his. He was so appreciative that I did that for him with no hesitation and didn't make him feel like less. But I was so grateful for him being in my life and treating me right. He knew he could be open with me and trust me to have his back.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I appreciate that ?
So what happened to that relationship?
@@frankiegunnz8066haha
Then why are you no longer with him?
Definitely 100%. From my own experience at being a woman in love. I melted in love into my most feminine self with my man, very naturally and unconsciously. And I love it
She deeply loves him when she talks sweetly to the man, calls him sweety, apologizes when she is wrong, enjoys massaging him, enjoys rubbing his shoulders and chest from behind, asks him about his emotional state, and asks what she can do to add value to his life
Yes true and hopefully he's doing it for her too. 👍🙏❤️🌞🌈
@@sonyaellis2059 Oh yahhh I endorse reciprocal love
That is a Truly Beautiful Woman to find and we must Protect honor and cherish her
@@ericbush6124 Real talk, women like that, my God, you on the road constantly checking the time highly anticipating to get back to her thinking "Man I've been cussed out today, the client didn't get to the venue in time which interfered with my other appointments, the car got a flat tire, the pick up order for the food turned out to be the wrong order when I opened it later, I'm ready to go hooooome and chill with my soothing queen, to my safe place." 😃
After marriage.
So true Steph. I’m with the women that don’t mind if I guy cries in front of me when he’s hurting. I’ll run towards him more to help him. Fellas, don’t let people tell you that you can’t cry in front of women. If you can’t grieve or be emotional vulnerable around her then she ain’t it for you. A real woman will still respect and love you for you.
Awww thanks for this affirmation
Don't tell men false things because you're a small minority of woman that think that way
Stephan, when a woman is deeply in love and she cannot get more into the feminine energie and she has been healing on past trauma then the problem is that the men does not open his vulnerability to her. She feels a kind of a wall. She has to leave him because there is no way to go. She loves the man but cannot go into the depth with him.
Thank you Stephan for everything you bring to the world.
Much love.
I agree with your comments
Dating relationships are difficult for ppl over 55, LOVE is a beautiful thing when God is the glue.
This is so true. I told my son 23 and my friend guy not all women have a problem with men showing their emotional side. I feel that's a release button men shouldn't hold it in. My friend said he was raised without emotion and showing it is weakness. I just hope men understand not all women look down on them for showing emotions 💯
Most do though
The women you soak off are RARE but exist none the less
@@hoo_jii do you know the majority of women ?
Not all women, but enough women have proved that crying as a man is a turn off
Don’t show it too early. Makes sure she loves you before doing all that.
About to break off a relationship with a man who speaks harshly when uncomfortable subjects come up. I don’t like feeling intimidated. It’s scary
Sadly, with a person like this it's impossible to resolve misunderstandings/arguments everything gets pushed under the rug. @user_km2kr2su3e
This happened to me but only with someone I was getting to know. On only WEEK 2, we were talking bout the Bible and he got super angry, his voice kinda changed over the phone. He had already started showing other red flags before this. I immediately said I gotta go and hung up. When I immediately broke it off , I had to go to lengths to block . Fucking psycho. But I’m glad my discernment was up . Kiki your gut is screaming at you “GIRL LEAVE” . I know it’s harder said than done. And yes it’s going to hurt badly after , but the peace starts to come back . You got this boo
Uncomfortable subjects like the "M" word ? "Marriage"
I was with one like that. He was ready to criticisize me and i changed for him. He couldnt even be bothered to shower or take care of his pet. When remembered that change goes both ways, he threw fits and turned his back on me. I said him to leave when he least expected. Thats what you get.
If he's response is not reasonable than what makes you think that one day he won't put hands on you, man who are extremely emotional are like a ticking time bomb. Better stay away, men can be violent at times,better to play safe
A man will instinctively know very quickly when a woman is really into him.
Body language, what she says, how she looks at him and intimacy.
He will feel the vibes and chemistry between him and the woman.
Back in your younger days I had a few girls place me in friend mode only I didn`t have enough life experience to realise that and wasted a lot of time trying to appease girls that would lead nowhere.
Its friends zone, not mode. But we get what you saying brother. I think 85% of us men have been through that. Painful life lessons.
It’s a great feeling knowing my wife passed all three signs with flying colors and more. Thanks Stephen!
then sounds like you are TRULY BLESSED… PROVERBS 18:22
All the best sir and Merry Christmas from London:UK
Bro finally someone preaching positivity. You’ve got a new subscriber right here.
We ALL make mistakes 😊
We HAVE TO be able to HONESTLY, OPENLY talk to each other & TRULY WORK through the issue.❤
Good vid! When you get a compatible one that deeply loves you, DO NOT take her for granted ❤❤
I long for simpler times when a man was a leader, protecting, providing for, and developing his woman and children… If he’s fully engaged in that role, he will not concern himself with self pity and will never feel vulnerable! A good woman is a happy woman with a “leading” man. Man up bro!
True. But what happens when that said woman Is not being taught to act like that or be In her role?
She Is being taught to be your equal.
FACTS 💯
Vulnerable vs emotionally unstable 🎯
... if she's emotionally healthy - BUT doesn't show up in her feminine way in your relationship - it's because you DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL SAFE!!! She does not believe you are truthful, honest and/or faithful.
She doesn't trust you with her body, her money, her kids, her home, etc etc - - - because you either have already proven that you are not going to, or you have failed to proof to her that you are capable and willing to keep her safe.
Then why she beg me to stay when I leave😭😂 trust is a whole relationship that’s her fault if she don’t feel safe tbh if I was a girl if I didn’t feel safe around a man that’s immediate red flag bc he’s not protective
@@squeezodadon3269 I said if she's emotionally healthy!!!
Clearly she is not, or she has never experienced a healthy relationship model to learn what's acceptable and what is not. Everybody's boundaries are their own. Unfortunately, we tend to duplicate what we experience in our childhood and upbringing - and it takes a mature person to first recognize it for what it is and then leave that kind of sh*t behind.
Or if we don't experience this type of mistreatment in our childhood or via our parents relationship/marriage examples, and we first get exposed to it during our own dating/relationships - and if we don't have healthy boundaries and expectations and a way to communicate them, we sometimes get lost in the emotional devastation when something like mental, verbal or emotional [never mind physical] abuse happens on a regular basis.
Nonsense. That immatury on her part not a man’s fault. FOH😂
I feel like you understand me and my values as a man. Love your content keep it up!
This video is so true. If you plan on dating intentionally, you have to show moments of vulnerability to see how segue reacts. When I met my girl, I was unemployed. She was super beautiful but from our conversations, I could tell she was a keeper too. Instead of trying to keep my pride and look good to get in her good graces, I told her straight up, on our very first date, that I was unemployed in between jobs and if she’s expecting a bunch of dates and such, then she should probably leave me alone. She reassured me she doesn’t care about money and that meant so much to me. It’s only been a month but she hasn’t shown me yet that she can’t see me vulnerable. I think I found a really good one.
How’s it going now?
@@Spookyaki1 Thanks for asking. We’re still going strong. A couple petty arguments here and there but nothing that isn’t fixed with a little communication. We love each other very much.
Where we at now bro @@edjohn5114
bro is absolutely right about all of these points and just about every point is the reason i’m really ok being by myself for the foreseeable future.
Stephan Spoken like a True 👑 Thank you for always knowing what to say and when to say Glory Be To GOD 🙏🏼🤍💯 Extremely Gifted 💎
Thank you very much I appreciate that 🙏
So much wisdom! Thanks Stephan!
My pleasure ❤️
Stephan, Your 2nd point is absolutely right and 💯 % correct. It's d major reason I walked out of d relationship. Initially, she wasn't into my finances and cautious, after abt 6 months together she started acting funny and yells, go cold and gives attitude when her financial expectations are not met. No longer giving out feminine energy. So. I just let her go.
My ex wife looked at me as weak because I was vulnerable. The problem was, she was not vulnerable with me. The only time I would get upset pertained to our relationship. She lost respect. And like I said, she is an ex. And yes, I was the one who ended it.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏🏼
@@StephanSpeaksforMen thank you
“I can give you everything you thought you weren’t worthy of having. I am your best!”🔥🙏🏽❤️🌟👑
The third one is sooooo true. (So the first and second one is true for any guy tbh) but I told the guy that god sent to me that he brings out a different softer side in me. Immediately. I let him lead more. And even though I’m not getting exactly what I want like in past relationships where I was more vocal about certain things (like FaceTiming over texting for example) it doesn’t even matter bc I’m 10x happier texting the guy I’m so in love with than FaceTiming a meh guy ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love and respect her, then you'll be surprised what you can achieve. 🙏❤ Stop seeing her as your enemy, it's your teammate!!!
Stephan, I'm watching your men's channel co's men come to me for emotional support in their abusive relationships.
Thank you for being there for all of us.
Sending love and good vibes! 🤗
Glad I could help 🙏
I have been following Stephan for awhile. I agree with a lot of his logics.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
I’m improving my English with you, and everything you saying is interesting for me💝
I had a situation similar, I guess yu can say (vulnerable) my house burned down I had a lot & lost everything had to start from 0 with no money saved up,….I shook back quick because I was so numb to the pain but in that first few days she pulled up never looked down on me & we was figuring this situation out together but I left to rebuild my life because i didn’t want to put my situation on her being she has a son & is struggling to make it herself, I no if I would have stayed she would have help me rebuild but I left to go figure it out for myself as a man & bounced back rather quickly
Did you go back to her after you rebuilt?
I'm the first to comment. Getting you clearly from Kenya
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Love it , Kenya too ❤️
Stephan; seems like you have got a wide fan base in Kenya. I am Kenyan too.
@@jefrokatai5418 Mungu akubariki kaka
Last point hit me hard. Listened to it a few times...exactly what I've been going through with a woman who is damaged. I feel someone has to love her, but i must let her go so she can participate in her own rescue. I pray for her everyday.she was in her feminine in the beginning but I broke her heart. Now she's been with several men in our no contact period and she's very angry. I pray she finds her healing and i become the man i need to be to keep her if i ever get another chance.
Several men 😂 Juvenile - Let Her Go Dawg That Ain't Ya Hoe Dawg
Wait, so you’re praying for her because you damaged her and she’s not forgiving you fast enough?
@@Thiccythiccreads she was damaged before I met her. I was the only man that actually cared about her. A d yes, I did hurt her. And I've asked her to forgive me, bcse i really care for her.
Why would you want another chance after she's been with several different men
@@anthonylair27 well what did you do to hurt her?
Vulnerability is a good thing in a relationship on either side!🙏🙏❤
I hope the guy that I love who have left me crying that night for misunderstanding know that I still not changing him in my heart and I did what I told him that loosing him will close my heart for any man
I thought this place was for men to express their experiences with women not the other way round 😂😂😂😂😂
True.
Most women are capable of building men up when they have vulnerable moments. Women have to be careful with their trust and hearts when they share. I messed up with my Husband and Son, being harsh. It took my Husband years before he she'd a tear in front of me. I find myself asking him if he's OK and when I sense he's in deep thought, I just sit next to him. My Son hasn't come around to trust me hearing his heart because it involves his fiance. It'll take prayer, time and him understanding how I see into their superficial relationship and he's being used. I wasn't handed a manual, but the strong woman pattern.
Being protected and secure lessens the fear of being vulnerable, as she can trust him and be sure he is faithful, if she loves him deeply.
#3 really explained my current situation. Thank you!
It's really nice to have a man help you with your coat, or hold doors....or remind you to pick up your sunglasses from the table...looking out for you it's nice!
My man, I have listened to Jordan Peterson, Joe Rogan, Fresh and Fit, @Whatever, David Goggins, etc. and honestly, I mean this from my heart - this is the best lecture regarding emotional help for men that made sense in a clear and concise way. Most other podcasts had me thinking I could never, ever show any emotion whatsoever, a true stoic and honestly it made me feel hopeless. You helped me understand how to stay in frame when dealing with the small stuff, vs. being able to cry because my father died. Just wanted to say thank you.
That's it my man... That's it... Thanks a lot for this video tt made me come out of my tough situation. Thanks brother
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
you make a lot of sense my brother.. I had to subscribe :)
Bruh I think I’m experiencing this for the first time in life at 35 with the woman I’m dealing with now 💯💯
what he said about feminine energy is so true. I’ve hung out with guys over the years that I didn’t like more than friendship so I would act very masculine with them. Treat them as homeboy to them now, with my boyfriend. Right now. I am a girly girl woman.
12:36 Yep! My husband was broke coming out of college! Even though I am younger, I graduated two years before him (he went military first), so I did not have any debt. He would NEVER have allowed me to pay for dinner at a restaurant. So, I constantly would offer to cook when he asked me on a date. That way, he wasn’t having to spend money he truly dis not have but we could still have a nice meal together! He picked up a movie on the way to my apartment so we had dinner and a movie that cost him $5.
We have been married 31 years and he only recently found out THAT was why I always offered to cook. 😂
love this story❤😊
A man being vulnerable adds to me feeling mentally and emotionally connected as well as safe. I think that if a man shares that part of him, it's major. I always embrace that. I believe that it shows a good level of mental and emotional healthiness. Men that suppress and act all hard like they have it all figured out, are so tough and have no feelings about almost everything are a red flag for me. There's no way that he can make me truly feel cared about, loved and safe if he can't be vulnerable at times.
The sexiest thing I've ever seen a man do is cry in a moment of vulnerability.....it says a LOT about the condition of his heart and his emotional confidence. It causes me to respect him even more and become quite protective of his heart.
First time I saw my man cry, I was more compelled to let him lead. I because so protective of his feelings and what he needed from me as his woman. He needed to know that I believed in him and that I was confident in who he is as a man. I quickly made sure I let him be my King and listened. It’s not about being harsh. The most masculine thing is being able to be gentle with his woman.
I totally agree with the vulnerability point. I think the main reason for the people to not be is more around hookup culture and or like you said not being overly emotional and unstable most of the time.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
AMAZING VIDEO, SIR!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Such wholesome content! Thank you Stephan
More teachings brethren bless up to the mos high 🙌🏽💯
Hey Stephan, I love your videos, I am currently going through a break up with a girl that I truly loved. I would like your advice on how to let it go. I value your opinion, since you bring a certain balance to the manosphere. Thank you and keep doing up the good work💯
Go read Stephan's book "Love after heartbreak". Really good!
Im so sorry..... 💔
@@beefaye6861 thank you I appreciate it
Take a minute and enjoy being single. Learn something new, treat yourself to something you want as you definitely won't be spending your money on her, show yourself some love and build yourself back up.
Definitely!!! Well explained 🎉
That’s if we as women can find a quality man to begin with. With the internet the majority are ALWAYS on the look out for what they think is better. There is no better out there! Only the commitment you are willing to make as a Man to the relationship and the women who loves you.
❤️ So much wisdom
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I love your views!!!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
What if you have a woman whom you have a great relationship with but has kids that make it hard to cope and or disrespectful to the point where it affects your overall happiness no matter how much you are there for them and no matter how much support you give to them
Even if we fail do something don't mope real long get going she needs to know you're vulnerable bu not emotionally fall apart because we lose a job of get a flat tire.A good Woman will always appreciate a Good Man. Men give Women recieve a Good woman will temper her wants and they'll be more emotional spiand intellectual Money is for needs spending time more important than spending money All really good Points my Brother Stephen
Ok, I fell in live with a man who misrepresented himself to me! We could talk about anything anything and he was vulnerable.....exactly what you said, he held so much in that I wasn't aware of about his ex, he drinks, but said he didn't and he showed his anger issues, of which I had no idea about, so now what????
Jay...Kim Dale... Lyle McDonald... just to start naming a few of this dudes aliases 😂
PERSONALLY I Want To Be ABLE To Be Their I want to know all That’s Not Saying He Is Less Of A MAN Their was a Situation with me I Was Really Sick And My Son He Had To Grow Up Fast And He Felt he had To Be Strong He Felt he had Too I told my son It’s okay to cry Because he had one more year high school and He Was Going Off to school with that being said yes connection is involved and their heart is More with the man and he loved me Back Exactly I care nothing about that money Because I want the man no every woman I Care Nothing Now I Will Walk Away If You Are ignoring the real me then I Will remove my self I have no time for game play No arguing no fussing I Will Exit Out , Thank You Mr. Stephan As Always for your sit down Blessings be with you always 🙏🏽✝️🕊
I will accept you as a broke man, but at the same time, I want to see self improvement and growth and the fact that you are trying. I will stick by a broke man that is at least making efforts to get out of the rut he is in.💯
ALL FACTS ! 👊🏾 Appreciate you bruh.
Story of my life.
I am not into a mans financial status, if i love a man its true. It is him, who he is as a person and what he brings to the relationship, by way of his roles and responsibilities as a man. He doesnt have to be rich, or have many material possessions. He just has to be hard working, responsible, kind, loving, gentle, understanding, and a loyal God fearing man. ❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊 I was out with a group of friends, and an older gentleman complimented me while i was getting my food. Well, he was sitting accross the room from our table. When our group, got up to go for a walk, he caught up to me and asked if i would like to join him and his group. I declined, not because i didnt know who he was. But because i was just not into him. ❤🎉😊
That last one is so true!
can you pray for me, Mr. Stephan? I am too deeply emotionally involved (although he does not know it) into a man that is not convenient for me because he deceived me by hiding from me that he is married. Everyday I see him , I mean, every single day, and I cannot embrace him, I cannot speak to him ( dont want him to get any ideas of me at all), but I am dying for me, wanting to talk to him and ask him how is he?, I want SO MUCH TO JUST HUG HIM but I cannot. I want to prepare him meals and prepare him his clothes, his house, make him feel so relaxed and so much loved and pampered by me but I have to limit myself from these devastating feelings for that .....and I really need higher intervention. If you could join me in prayer not this minute but when you can, to unite yourself with me in prayer for me so that I may pass this phase. I am trying to pray for myself every single day and so if when you have time to pray for me, I'll be praying as well. help me and keep me in your prayer , at least just once. :/ -thank you :(
He is making a fool of you, like it or not!
In his mind you’re a side chick. Stop it.
My first wife demanded i had to change. Or she was gone. I'm sure gonna miss her
Great content bro.
I wish I could like this video a billion times!!!!!
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i no longer look up to the man who can sleep with a lot of women ... i now look up to the man who found ONE good woman who loves TRULY loves him and that relationship will last.
it took me getting my heartbroken to finally take on this mindset.
Preach brother preach
Spot on.
My woman’s does these things but then has moments of serious toxicity and takes her frustrations out on me and makes it about her, shaming me for doing things women look for men to do. She totally blacks out and then comes back and apologizes. It turns me all the way off and makes me wonder what did I get myself into. How did I meet an Angel and a Devil in one person, no bullshit. Can somebody help?
I think she loves you and knows that she has a good man but there is something from the outside influencing her and making her believe that you’re not doing enough. Most likely, it’s social media. It could also be some guy who likes her, a family member or friend who is always telling her what she should want in a man and hinting to the insecurity in her that says maybe she made the wrong decision in choosing you. That doesn’t mean SHE thinks choosing you was wrong, it just means someone or something that she sees, in constantly manipulating the situation and playing on her insecurities about your relationship. Sounds to be like whatever that shit is, needs to be eliminated. If it never stops, you will have to leave to make her understand and appreciate you as her man. Ask her what she wants and tell her to be VERY SPECIFIC. I mean VERY SPECIFIC and tell her she doesn’t have to remember all at once and that she can tell you at any time what else she needs. Just make sure that in the midst of that though that YOU are still being appreciated and valued for your efforts. If you are not and she refuses to tell you what she needs, she may not be healed yet or she may just need a lesson on appreciating a good man.
Also, don’t just flat out leave. Just make sure that she knows that this behavior is pushing you to detach emotionally. If she understands, wants to change and makes an effort, just make sure you tell her what the effects of her blacking out are doing to you.
sound like mental illness maybe bpd or bipolar u gotta decide if u can handle ppl w mental illness sometimes they might not even know they have it
She is not healed from something in her past and until she acknowledges that and gets help and heals from it then she is not ready for a relationship with you or anyone else. For your own sanity and emotional health you need to talk to her and encourage her to get the help that she needs. If she refuses and goes into toxic mode and attacks you verbally then you need to end the relationship. Pray for her that God will lead her to the help that she needs. This will be very hard to do but necessary for your happiness and mental health. God bless.
Yes. I agree with this.
I grew up collecting ammo for my father… I tend to remember all the unpleasant things… also my father is a crier but he’s been crying all my life but whEn my significant other does it .. I think it’s an *ick* especially if it’s over something small that doesn’t include death. Just don’t cry in front of me…
Yea…great video however, I definitely loved my husband 23 years in June but sadly it is over.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I like this guys talks
💯 Truth..... From a woman peeking over to see what you're saying to the men folk! 😂😂😂😂
We sure do Stephan😂💯👍🏾
Good content 👌
Facts,Lol Tell them Again
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I’m a woman, and I clicked on this video half expecting some type of “your woman will do everything you say and cook and clean” stereotype 😭, but the first one made me realize otherwise. Yes, *lots of men are taught as young children that crying is a sign of weakness* But as a lady, trust me, if we really love you we do not care, get it out. It’s better to release than bottle.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
My Stacie does all this and more ❤
I Don't believe that one should look for happiness in The Next person in the sense That you should be happy Anyway in your self and then I feel other Little irritations that may come about bother you less ! as you know yourself and them too . That confidence is enough I think! If someone likes being in your company then Cool an if you feel like minded then Greater Still I feel it doesn't Need a word.
Facts!
Well…that settles it. No woman has ever deeply loved me lol.
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🤗💯 Hey Stephan The Mens
Channel Rock 🎸 👌
On point
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Haha I’m a girl look to see if these r true I’ll update u guys once I watch 😂
If I am deeply in love, no matter how many scars that I have on my heart or past trauma, I will not walk away from the man I am crazy about. If anything it will be hard for him to get rid of my AZZ!😆
3 can actually be quite subconscious on the part of the woman.
😂Car broke down 😅
💯 agree ❤️.
True
💯 yes!
Yer that is me. My wife is hot as. However, at age 42, I do 80+ km a week of bike riding. 800 push-ups a week. 800 other exercises for my six-pack per week. I don't drink, smoke, party. I meditate. To stay hard is to stay fit.
Don't slip up. They won't support and encourage you out of your struggle. They will just bounce
Women ask for Cashapp while dating these days?? Wow WTH 😳
I think I do all of that 😂
👋🏽🛎🙏🏼 Yes Lord, hallelujah !!
He lost his job and didn’t want more money bruh. I ain’t gone cap Id get a job anywhere until I find another specific job like that, especially now. Most restaurants like Taco Bell and stuff hiring anyway😂.