I see a lot of ladies going through this torture with their husbands who are just husbands by marriage and not by nature, care or affection. Have gone through this in the past but once I understood I deserved better and started to stand up for myself and let go of the need for love and validation from him I could get out of that hell. I am a much happier person today because of 100% self love, self care and gratitude for life in general. Ladies, please value yourself and be courageous to stand up for yourselves when needed and continue to have a positive outlook on life. The men will understand that life doesn’t revolve only around them and their needs eventually.
Yes...my husband fight trying to kill me...hit me..... dominating me....dont go wrk....dont go out....dont eat dis n dat.....im mother of 2kids....I just keep quiet bcoz of my kids.....I filed a complaint in police....
My husband do the same things with me he first did not allow me to continue my job now he demands me stop using mbl phone sale it if you do not do this do not expect anything from me also says if you go to anywhere even though wedding events wear burkha
Leave him live your life in same house you think you married to one dog don't consider has human love yourself too much take care of yourself and your health don't bother your husband think in mind he is servant and money gathering machine you came to seek love it is not given means its not your fault use himh as money machine
Kalsm sir. Being a bachelor has given wonderful points which applies for more than 90 percent of the women, 😂its said that to be in the heart of your man,it should be through his stomach, to make him understand you, stop giving home food for a week and get financially independent
This video really hit me hard, just a few weeks ago, my partner, whom I’ve been with for five years, decided to leave me for someone else. I love him so much, and I can’t imagine my life with anyone else. I’ve tried everything to forget about him, but it feels impossible. I’ve even tried to get him back, but nothing seems to work. I feel so lost and frustrated, and I can’t get him out of my mind. I don’t even know why I’m sharing this here, but I really miss him and can’t stop thinking about him.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Letting go of someone you love deeply is incredibly hard. I was in a similar situation-my 12-year relationship ended, and it was devastating. Like you, I couldn’t just let go, and I did everything I could to get him back. Eventually, I sought help from a spiritual counselor, and he helped me get my partner back.
1.he does not listen you 2.he let's himself go 3.he does not seek your advice 4.he stops making small talk 5.he takes more than he gives 6.he does not appreciate you 7.he does not compromise 8.he fight with you 9.he is unreliable 10.he demeans you
My dear beautiful hurt souls your happiness is within you love yourself and shine each day you dont need anyone to put a value on you you are strong brave and beautiful never allow anyone to make you feel small dont dont allow it fight your way up by being bold each day you shall feel your strength shine shine shine .be a strong happy you live among the thorns and weeds but remind yourself each day you are a flower keep blooming smile the universe will send you every thing ❤
@@sharidasheik1080 We SHOULD get our VALIDATION from the LORD and HIM ALONE...!!!! HE AND HE ALONE is aware of ALL OUR NEEDS and will SUPPLY them ALL, if we ask HIM....
My husband don't understand me nor listen to me and appreciation is far behind. Toxic relationship and everyday he pull me down by talking or even sometimes infront of his family 😢
All this survived.. Not standing by loosing myself, one day i by myself go and admit myself in mental hospital. Then all the ones and no matter husband wiill be relieved. But i will get my freedom atleast. Would spend my time atleast by serving those special humans instead of this fake abusive relationships
Even me ..day by day I am feeling like when I will die...fedup...i am somehow alive for my little son coz he is the only hope....my elder daughter is cancer survivor and then is my husband who has been mentally harassing sins so many years though I have given everything every time full freedom liberty to live life as per his wishes he has nothing to do with my life 😢
My husband is world's no 1 husband.... He likes , loves, cares, supports, listens to me. He doesn't do anything without my permission... He shares everything with me from professional to personal life... Sometimes our relatives think that l am manipulating him... He appreciates and praises me in front of everyone... He is my Ramachandra Prabhu ... Everyday he tells me that whatever he is doing to keep me and my children happy.... It's a very important thing to observe the person who is kind and compassionate to others , will be much more kind and compassionate to his wife and family... Because his nature is like that... He never can be rude .....
I don't mean to be rude but I don't understand why you would even watch this video let alone comment here if you have zero experience dealing with something like this. It's great your husband is perfect but your comment is kind of a slap in the face of those who endure this struggle...
Please don't put Dr Kalam's photo and misguide people... Don't put the iconic people in these discussions... When he was not even married, sorry to say this... Please respect them and keep out of this..
I am in a loveless marriage..I feel like killing my self sometimes but because of my daughter I don’t do this .. I got married very early in my early 20 s under family pressure I regret my decision now ,I won’t do this to my daughter
Mmm, good.But the same thing happens with educated, love married,late married women also. Actually it depends on his mind whether truly he values his marital life. Whatever may be in such situation self dependence becomes a great support
It’s been almost 9 years I’m married. I was 23 and he was 32 when we got married and had our first daughter right after marriage. I caught him cheating all these years with his ex gf who’s married and has a son.. she looks so so ugly. He slept with prostitutes and talked to so many girls when there wasn’t a single time I even thought of any other guy. I was pious when I got married when he was sleeping with different women and lied that he never touched anyone before marriage. My daughter is 7 years old and my husband still stares at other women although I’m prettier and educated than the women he desires.. only I know how much I’ve cried these years :(
It hurts when u expect something from someone , be love , financial help anything.... firstly don't expect, love urself , be kind not nice , there is difference between nice nd kind , don't kill ur self respect, be connected to God , pray to him , u will find peace ...look at them with kindness , who treat u bad coz they are unfortunate to lose a lovely person like u ...be calm , don't react , care a lot for ur good health , ignore them ...the more u plead for their love nd attention the more HE hurts u ...give so much cold response that he gets scared what's going on in ur mind 🤣
My husband does the above, he also never tell me about phone call, msgs,chats, he says its his privacy. He hides his salary.he says im useless, waste etc. Since im not working im useless. Ishud not ask any question. I don't have any right as a wife. Please give me suggestion as im getting suicidal thought help
Try to be financially independent. Always pray to Allah. Try to make conversations about your feelings. Let him know. If nothing works, get separated for few days and Observe him if he cares. Life is long. Best wishes 🎉
Get a hobby, start loving yourself, dress up, go out with friends... If cannot divorce, just treat him like a housemate, ignore him... Soon you'll be a happier person Very soon, his curiosity will be pique...
I have a incident I don't know I am wrong or right my husband wants me attend a special puja with my in laws that's I agreed and ready to attend but my wish to go to my parents house aswell for few days and I don't want to take more than 10 days for leave and he wants me to stay with his parents for whole 10 days and no taking any interest that I want to stay with my parents house aswell . His mom and dad are doing fine on terms of health and I never refused to serve them still ,Since he married to me he don't respect what I want if his parents expressed.any desire that's going to kill my desire he is always without any hesitation willing to do it , He don't care how hurt I'm .
May Allah never put any Girl under this Trial. U Loose everything - Looks, Personality, Career, Finances, Respect, Relationships and Icing on the Cake U R Labelled as a Culprit
Foundation is marriage not good 1 - Reason got married - that reason will let people suffer not person ... So take our power within us ... Its challenging but it can happen only if we do meditatio. Anapanasati budh dyan gives strength to see with clarity
Mere husband mujhe value nahi dete mujh se piyar nahi karte ye samajhne ke liye mujhe 20 saal laggaye ,aur main sirf unhe innocent samajh ke unke saath unke har situation main support karti rahi aur sirf dena sikha bina koi shikayat kiye,ab life bekaar lagti h ,kash mujhe ye samajh pehle aa jaati to aaj m un akele na rahti .mere husband ho ke bhi na hone ke brabar h.
My husband doesn't respect and use bad words to scold me sometimes in front of my kids.. If I ask about money he would say its my money why r u asking. I can't get even a single day rest. During my periods he treats me like dog and I have to use separate bathroom. He would care even if I die.. Im living as a shameless human being😢
I just don't understand this,Abdul Kalam is a bachelor,how can he say what a husband should be like.but every person should stand and value themselves,especially a women
I see a lot of ladies going through this torture with their husbands who are just husbands by marriage and not by nature, care or affection. Have gone through this in the past but once I understood I deserved better and started to stand up for myself and let go of the need for love and validation from him I could get out of that hell. I am a much happier person today because of 100% self love, self care and gratitude for life in general. Ladies, please value yourself and be courageous to stand up for yourselves when needed and continue to have a positive outlook on life. The men will understand that life doesn’t revolve only around them and their needs eventually.
Yes...my husband fight trying to kill me...hit me..... dominating me....dont go wrk....dont go out....dont eat dis n dat.....im mother of 2kids....I just keep quiet bcoz of my kids.....I filed a complaint in police....
Confidence is main. We should not think about partner. If they are not showing care. Just forget it. U start Your life.
Then wat about kids?
Hmmm😢
He does all this to me.. But outsiders he is helpful kind and compassion person.. People don't belive if I tell them he doesn't value me 😢😢😢
Same with my husband also dear.. Don't worry.. V should b strong❤
This happens with me as well..This kind of people are dangerous..they have 2 faces.my husband is also same
My husband do the same things with me he first did not allow me to continue my job now he demands me stop using mbl phone sale it if you do not do this do not expect anything from me also says if you go to anywhere even though wedding events wear burkha
Leave him live your life in same house you think you married to one dog don't consider has human love yourself too much take care of yourself and your health don't bother your husband think in mind he is servant and money gathering machine you came to seek love it is not given means its not your fault use himh as money machine
Same with me
Add one more - never accept his fault or rude behaviour
yes . They blame others, never accept their mistakes. They play victim.
Yes
Yes that's true my husband also does the same
True
Right 😢
The most important point....when he can't stand for you whether it is public or family, definitely that time he doesn't deserve you.
Thats my husband 😢
Very true
But there was no 11 th point??
Enjoy yourself and learn banking and investment.Don't bother about other's validation.You should raise yourself to validate others
Kalsm sir. Being a bachelor has given wonderful points which applies for more than 90 percent of the women, 😂its said that to be in the heart of your man,it should be through his stomach, to make him understand you, stop giving home food for a week and get financially independent
All the points relates to my life... I thought Im the only one who is facing this mental torture but i see so many like me... 😢
Me also
Better you ignore him
Physicaly mentally spiritual prepare yourself be strong.......busy yourself...
Me too
Me too😢
I too face same prblm every day
This video really hit me hard, just a few weeks ago, my partner, whom I’ve been with for five years, decided to leave me for someone else. I love him so much, and I can’t imagine my life with anyone else. I’ve tried everything to forget about him, but it feels impossible. I’ve even tried to get him back, but nothing seems to work. I feel so lost and frustrated, and I can’t get him out of my mind. I don’t even know why I’m sharing this here, but I really miss him and can’t stop thinking about him.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Letting go of someone you love deeply is incredibly hard. I was in a similar situation-my 12-year relationship ended, and it was devastating. Like you, I couldn’t just let go, and I did everything I could to get him back. Eventually, I sought help from a spiritual counselor, and he helped me get my partner back.
That’s amazing. How did you find a spiritual counselor? How can I reach him?
His name is FatherAkabu . He’s a great spiritual counselor and he helped me bring back my partner.
Thank you so much. You’ve just given me hope. I’ll look him up right away.
1.he does not listen you
2.he let's himself go
3.he does not seek your advice
4.he stops making small talk
5.he takes more than he gives
6.he does not appreciate you
7.he does not compromise
8.he fight with you
9.he is unreliable
10.he demeans you
Thank you
And he eyes other women even same age as his daughters 😢. untrustworthy ?
My dear beautiful hurt souls your happiness is within you love yourself and shine each day you dont need anyone to put a value on you you are strong brave and beautiful never allow anyone to make you feel small dont dont allow it fight your way up by being bold each day you shall feel your strength shine shine shine .be a strong happy you live among the thorns and weeds but remind yourself each day you are a flower keep blooming smile the universe will send you every thing ❤
@@sharidasheik1080 We SHOULD get our VALIDATION from the LORD and HIM ALONE...!!!! HE AND HE ALONE is aware of ALL OUR NEEDS and will SUPPLY them ALL, if we ask HIM....
All the points are related to me.
My husband don't understand me nor listen to me and appreciation is far behind. Toxic relationship and everyday he pull me down by talking or even sometimes infront of his family 😢
exactly me too he always insults in front of my son and everyone in fam
All this survived.. Not standing by loosing myself, one day i by myself go and admit myself in mental hospital. Then all the ones and no matter husband wiill be relieved. But i will get my freedom atleast.
Would spend my time atleast by serving those special humans instead of this fake abusive relationships
Is she can get letter of protection
Even me ..day by day I am feeling like when I will die...fedup...i am somehow alive for my little son coz he is the only hope....my elder daughter is cancer survivor and then is my husband who has been mentally harassing sins so many years though I have given everything every time full freedom liberty to live life as per his wishes he has nothing to do with my life 😢
@@Tanishqa-gh1cx😢😢😢😢😢 don't know what to say but my wife is also suffering the same.
Hushband is slow poison
If you can’t divorce him physically for some reason, divorce him mentally and take care of yourself. It’s very doable.
Mine do 100% this to me. Outside he is very loving caring to others.
My husband is world's no 1 husband.... He likes , loves, cares, supports, listens to me. He doesn't do anything without my permission... He shares everything with me from professional to personal life...
Sometimes our relatives think that l am manipulating him...
He appreciates and praises me in front of everyone... He is my Ramachandra Prabhu ...
Everyday he tells me that whatever he is doing to keep me and my children happy....
It's a very important thing to observe the person who is kind and compassionate to others , will be much more kind and compassionate to his wife and family... Because his nature is like that... He never can be rude .....
I don't mean to be rude but I don't understand why you would even watch this video let alone comment here if you have zero experience dealing with something like this. It's great your husband is perfect but your comment is kind of a slap in the face of those who endure this struggle...
Give any tips please how to connect ourselves with husband
Jaise ki main pati ki laadli ban jau
Yes, my husband did all this to me and he died. Karma😅
God saved
True. I got divorced due to many problems.But my family can't let me free from his thoughts and past married life... Too bad..
I don't understand the psychology of marriage they just get marry and doesn't even think to bother about us😢
It's a blessing in disguise he said divorce as mentally i am much better and happier🥰👍
We cant do much in India. Mental divorce is better. But very difficult when living under same roof.
@@Quotablequotes99 what is the exact thing you are trying to say sir
Please don't put Dr Kalam's photo and misguide people... Don't put the iconic people in these discussions... When he was not even married, sorry to say this... Please respect them and keep out of this..
I am in a loveless marriage..I feel like killing my self sometimes but because of my daughter I don’t do this .. I got married very early in my early 20 s under family pressure I regret my decision now ,I won’t do this to my daughter
Mmm, good.But the same thing happens with educated, love married,late married women also. Actually it depends on his mind whether truly he values his marital life. Whatever may be in such situation self dependence becomes a great support
Married man like other women only not his wife
@@tppudhunagariiprojectv6144 THAT'S my husband.
Same me too 😢
This is how my das is to my poor mom. I can't stop crying when i think about it
Very very true
❤Thank you very much sincerely for the wonderfully informative video. ❤
All 10 signs are apply with me...... wife doesn't mean compromise... she can enjoy... she can demand...she can dream 😢
It’s been almost 9 years I’m married. I was 23 and he was 32 when we got married and had our first daughter right after marriage. I caught him cheating all these years with his ex gf who’s married and has a son.. she looks so so ugly. He slept with prostitutes and talked to so many girls when there wasn’t a single time I even thought of any other guy. I was pious when I got married when he was sleeping with different women and lied that he never touched anyone before marriage. My daughter is 7 years old and my husband still stares at other women although I’m prettier and educated than the women he desires.. only I know how much I’ve cried these years :(
How are you being so strong. I really appreciate you.
My husband is doing all this with me since 32 years alongwith an affair but to save our family and daughters in laws family,i have suffered a lot.
Wow describes my husband perfectly
Best video
Wow my husband had all the stated qualities & still kicking with it!
Im also facing these points in my life....but I can't take a strong decision.. because I have an daughter..... confused situation now
Same here .. 😢
@jongtielam827
Mm.... Hope with god
Marriage is a big mistake that we have ever committed
Many ladies are facing this problem.Financially women are strong they can ignore and lead a comfortable life.
That’s my situation right now and I’m getting suffocated 😢
No woman will stay with a man who do not value her
As appreciation is needed for a wife to stay
I get more than 💯
I am in the same situation
It hurts when u expect something from someone , be love , financial help anything.... firstly don't expect, love urself , be kind not nice , there is difference between nice nd kind , don't kill ur self respect, be connected to God , pray to him , u will find peace ...look at them with kindness , who treat u bad coz they are unfortunate to lose a lovely person like u ...be calm , don't react , care a lot for ur good health , ignore them ...the more u plead for their love nd attention the more HE hurts u ...give so much cold response that he gets scared what's going on in ur mind 🤣
All the points related to my life
😮Wow!
My husband does the above, he also never tell me about phone call, msgs,chats, he says its his privacy. He hides his salary.he says im useless, waste etc. Since im not working im useless. Ishud not ask any question. I don't have any right as a wife. Please give me suggestion as im getting suicidal thought help
Try to be financially independent. Always pray to Allah. Try to make conversations about your feelings. Let him know. If nothing works, get separated for few days and Observe him if he cares. Life is long. Best wishes 🎉
Don't think about suicide. Ut life is valuable for u. Iam in same condition. My hus many times ask to me why didnt do suicide? I don't mind it.
Try to live your life sister.You deserve a lot.I m suffering thr same.Dont chase him for love.
Get a hobby, start loving yourself, dress up, go out with friends...
If cannot divorce, just treat him like a housemate, ignore him... Soon you'll be a happier person
Very soon, his curiosity will be pique...
Leave him
My husband value his sister and her 2 sons both oast mid 30s and uses me to make her happy her husband is a free loader
I have a incident I don't know I am wrong or right my husband wants me attend a special puja with my in laws that's I agreed and ready to attend but my wish to go to my parents house aswell for few days and I don't want to take more than 10 days for leave and he wants me to stay with his parents for whole 10 days and no taking any interest that I want to stay with my parents house aswell . His mom and dad are doing fine on terms of health and I never refused to serve them still ,Since he married to me he don't respect what I want if his parents expressed.any desire that's going to kill my desire he is always without any hesitation willing to do it , He don't care how hurt I'm .
😢😢😢😢true
' s' i too face ,i think.better we ignore,divert ourself change our selves i mean
Yes , my husband is doesn't value me....... All points related to my life..... My life is waste...... 😢😢😢
He never fails to bring food on time ,means he values me.
May Allah never put any Girl under this Trial. U Loose everything - Looks, Personality, Career, Finances, Respect, Relationships and Icing on the Cake U R Labelled as a Culprit
Same with me too
What is the eleventh sign
Mine acts like it's so horrible to have to repeat himself. Like I'm not worth the air that takes.
Even me also same feeling I my life toxic husband and his parents and sister also😭😭i am also suffering same problem,
Fghtback u knw who u r don stay just like mahan fight bck nd tell him u nvr buy me i can fight bck m not servant tell him
This is 100% sure
Same here
Where is #11?
All are infinity % same true in my husband
Where’s #11
❤❤❤😊
All true, now the solution?
Foundation is marriage not good
1 - Reason got married - that reason will let people suffer not person ... So take our power within us ... Its challenging but it can happen only if we do meditatio.
Anapanasati budh dyan gives strength to see with clarity
Most of the husband's be like that, even my husband too,my daughter is my strength.
Watched this thinking my husband doesn't value me as he is not letting me work now, but it seems like he values me😢
Me b same things face kr rhi hu
Whatever, for childrens sake stay united adjust and find happiness with children ignore him be happy.
Which one is 11th point
😊
What's number 11?
I feel so lonely in marriage, i want to leave please I need help.
My husband is the same.
what you shoukd do if u already know its not worth but u have kid abd he needs and attached with father? should we compromise?
Marriage is worst culture i think ,stick to one person destroy our life😢
So what does it mean if He does them All.
Does that make me a bad person?
Mere husband mujhe value nahi dete mujh se piyar nahi karte ye samajhne ke liye mujhe 20 saal laggaye ,aur main sirf unhe innocent samajh ke unke saath unke har situation main support karti rahi aur sirf dena sikha bina koi shikayat kiye,ab life bekaar lagti h ,kash mujhe ye samajh pehle aa jaati to aaj m un akele na rahti .mere husband ho ke bhi na hone ke brabar h.
Everything
I wish someone values me 😢
He does all these 😢
11 Signs... 10 Signs done daily
My husband is exactly all that is listed you
Oh !!! why is my husband promoting all these qualities 😂😂😂😂
Poor me still trying to ignore it to keep my family going......
❤️
Waise ye Abdul jee ki baatein nhi hai
I see myself here
😭😭.
How to handle the depression if you know he loves someone else..but for kids you have to stay together
Try Focus on urself.. But tough only😢
One Word For This kind of Person is Narcissist
I like number 9
I'm thinking I'm the only one but there r so many women r going through
That’s only 10: What happened to the 11th as per the heading of the video
I'm the woman a the this struggle😢😢
I think all men's does like it and also can't accept 😢
My husband do all this thing and beat me insult me
My husband doesn't respect and use bad words to scold me sometimes in front of my kids.. If I ask about money he would say its my money why r u asking. I can't get even a single day rest. During my periods he treats me like dog and I have to use separate bathroom. He would care even if I die.. Im living as a shameless human being😢
That's why I don't love my husband he could not share me always he rejected my words
Add one more- He doesn't give you his earning...
All this is happening in my life 😢
He ruined my life and my health
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I just don't understand this,Abdul Kalam is a bachelor,how can he say what a husband should be like.but every person should stand and value themselves,especially a women
11 signs….where is the 11th?
You need to change your title of this video. There is only 10.
Ah the power of one
I like that! 👍🏻😁
My husband do this all.. Choti choti bat pe gali deti hai .. Bachi ho gayi income nehin karti hi isliye nikal nehin pacrahi hu
Living with a covert narcissist.
Unfortunately,my husband has all these qualities not qualities but features