Today I told my husband what Sheikh Belal said: Ohh you are such a great husband. Without you I couldn't do this all. His answer: Not without me, without Allah ❤ I told him: of course, but Allah sent you to be my spouse. And really, as Sheikh said he felt so proud ❤
Sisssss that‘s so beautiful, allahuma bareek. 🥹💗💗 May Allah (swt.) protect your marriage from all evil and gives yall always peaceful love for the sake of Allah (swt.) between you two!!
What they love: 1. Respect 2. To look good for them 3. Show confidence in him and his abilities 4. Speaks well of him to both families 5. Physical touch
@hadilayyad6147 I think it goes without saying. But this narrative is specific to husbands. There are women who mete out "respect" according to their own estimate of what he (the husband) deserves, based on their mindset or emotional state. Women have a mercurial flux of emotions (and I speak personally here, too) and are best guided by the wisdom of the Almighty who created us and our partners and knows what is better for us to succeed in the earthly life and the Hereafter.
@@hadilayyad6147My wife said the same thing about the need for intimacy at the beginning of our marriage, 8 years later, she accepts that she can’t keep up with my needs… men and women are not the same sister.
He meant all good and bad ones which I don't even wanna use. Treat what you have like he mentioned, stood by him, pray for him to be the best you wish for and surely your wish would come true by the will of Allah
The problem is in the "islamic" culture that men arent updated on what women need: 1. To give her undivided attention, even if for 30 mins, undivided, with her being the priority. 2. To listen to her..and u can combine # 1 & 2 together and make it easier 3. Respect her intellect, her decisions, her way of doing things. 4. Speaking to her in a soft tone 5. Words of encouragement or appreciation Generally muslim men barely do any of those 5 & think relationship is one way that only women should give what they need and if they earn money, women should have no other needs.
Are these not the things Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did with his wives? Out of his schedule he would always allocate quality time for his spouses, he would talk and listen to them individually, he would respect and love them, however if they accidentally did something wrong (which we are all prone to do as human beings) he would gently correct and advise them, he also was known for his kind and soft/gentle manner around people, and he would compliment his wives, call them by beautiful nicknames and made them feel loved and appreciated (through many other ways as well, not just nicknames) As Muslims, we should always try and learn from Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) and his sunnah, the way he acted and the way he treated others,
What the husband loves in his wife: 1. When she shows respect: she respects his leadership, respects that he's her protector and respects that he's her provider 2. When she looks good for him 3. When she appreciates his efforts and abilities 4. When she talks good of him to her family and his family 5. When she gives physical touches What the wife loves in his husband: 1. When he protects, defends and supports her. 2. When he listens to her and he talks to her 3. When he gives tender physical touches and he is tender in general 4. When he compliments her and shows that he's interested in her 5. He makes her feel secure and safe that he won't leave her and look for another woman
Total agree not all husband give enough attention when you most need in good or bad times , of course the main thing is respect each other and understand each other and specially give to her enough love and true you need feel secure and safe both of them . But every one think different and others think they know more better they just want go to television to pay attention to the people they think they are clever they know everything
I cannot tolerate hearing jargon from ignorant people when they talk about sexual activities and use prophetic traditions to spread misguided principles. It makes me angry when I see people use sharia and Islam to fulfill their own carnal desires. For several years, I have been teaching Islamic Jurisprudence in Islamic establishments in NY, including in Darul Quran WasSunnah and I have been leading tarawih salaah since the age of thirteen, and now am an Imam at Hedaya Masjid. Unfortunately, Jahili and ignorant ones dare to tell me that I am speaking against Quran and Sunna, when I try to educate them about the true purpose of life. I believe I am more qualified to discuss this topic than most people who are posting here. Before you criticize me for advocating abstinence, and sexual moderation, go to the refugee camps in Yemen and Syria. I have personally seen how terribly Moslem mothers and sisters are suffering, where to get even one packet of food, they have to jostle with wild men and get assaulted. They do not have any medicine, and their children are starving in front of them. Dare not we claim that those Moslems are any less pious than we are, or deserve less earthly comfort, but those Moslem mothers whose children were burned to death by Burmese Buddhist junta will not agree with these video makers and neither should we be obsessed with sexual acts. Rest assured, we may try to use any hadith or verse of the Quran to justify any form of pleasurable thing or sexual acts with spouses, but remember that Islam is given only to the people who Allah loves, and using one's spouse for lust is not a believer’s objective. Some Moslems have become obsessed with satisfying selfish lust and desires, and constantly upload disgusting videos, when not a single Jewish Rabbis or a Christian monk or priests ever uploaded videos about sexual relation with spouse. Never will the people of paradise be obsessed with sex. It is a place for purity and justice, an abode of cleanliness and worship. If doing disgusting acts interests someone, they are free to enter hellfire, where the inmates will suffer in torment and nakedness, and then they can gaze at each other freely and use one another as toilet bowls. Indulging in sexual acts cause the light of faith to diminish from the heart, and slowly, Islam leaves that person, and they become ex-Muslim, as I personally had seen many who had become dedicated to destroy Islam.
All the things that you’ve explained are found in many husbands.if wife respect him and his family he would disrespect her, he humiliates her in front of others and never keeps her privacy. She feels like she has no privacy in her I n-laws. At home he’s an abuser but out side home he’s the nicest person ever. Islam has warned a lot to women regarding husbands even for little things there is big punishment. But really can’t understand why our scholars don’t speak much if husband is abusing his wife or having extra marital relationships?
All the sheikh just defended husbands . Allah did not prefer the husband or the man over the woman. We are all equal .Why don’t you speak the opposite about the unjust husband and the obedient woman?
Dude check out the other part. He said everything clearly on both parties. And Islam is FAIR and if no sheikhs talk bout that we girls just gotta learn by ourselves from Quran and sunnah
@@Pretty995 you should correct your knowledge first about Islam we are not equal Allah gave men leadership over women aallah gave leadership Adam over Hawa l, sister you have to agree this Islam is not like the European culture ❤
@@kaziAbdur-r1r leadership is a role that doesn't decrease value of women in front of Allah. Women and men are equal in front of Allah as humans. What does Adam over Hawa means? Stop bringing bad innovations.
Yes its true.I realized it by my self and iam very happy that i understood it very early in my marriage.Sometimes we women are wiser, we have so much power to do things, because of this women tend to loose respect for their man.But at the end of the day when you want your marriage to work you should not show it and respect what your husband is doing for you. Because the partnership its worth it to put your ego byside sometimes
Mmm how do I respect someone who has a borderline personality disorder and consistently throw rage at us? Despite communicating our feelings? The ratio and compromising is exhausting. Wife needs love to get that respect again
Make Tahajjud and Ruqyah in your house... 🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽... I know it sounds crazy but... it can work... Allah can change the heart of anyone.... InshaAllah you will at least ease your burdens... ❤❤❤❤❤
@@khadijahrose3325 inshallah Sista, thank u so much for your well wishes! u are right. I should made tahjjud! ♥️🫡Nothing is crazy … I know only allah can push thru by his miracles. I needed the reminder n that encouragement again. Sometimes the heart starts to get numb, and I start to be tired n discouraged . Make d’ua for us pls.may allah reward you for your sincere intention .May allah breaks theses cycle of generational trauma and May allah grant ease to bpd people and the receiver. Appreciating you! Xx
@@NiaPgn amin , amin amin ya Rabb! Yeah he needs treatment but seems impossible to even bring up this topic… trust me it’s hard.mental health is a silent killer. I can still manage…but it’s the toddler witnessing that can be difficult n then be traumatic for them… hence another cycle …. thank u for the d’ua n ur sincere intentions♥️ only allah can reward u. And for all the wives out there whose is trying hard and holding down the fort,don’t give up ⚡️ never lose the faith and hang tight to the ropes of allah! Do make d’ua for me n my 5 yo. Xx
Me n my husband are best friends . He is lazy . Though he respect me listen me . But i use to tell him that he is lazy n i like hardworking people . He smiles 😊. But he wont change he is the way he is . I also love his chilled attitude
May Allah pak protects & helps you brother.. for your efforts against attacks on ISLAM, MUSLIMS AND family style of Muslim.. We all Muslims should open our hearts for our own religion and the perfect words of The only one creator of everything . There's lot of negative propaganda against Islam by social media..and those who are fighting against it truly are the warriors.
Assalaamu alaikum For everyone commenting on "what about what a wife needs/wants" ....this video is actually just a clip. This speaker spoke about the wife's needs first before this part (the husband's needs).
Things men loves about their wives 1. Respecting him as a leader, provider, and protector 2. Men wants their wives to look good for them 3. Appreciate him 4. Speak well with his family 5. Physical touches
There's a feminist mindset in some of us. It is about "I'll respect him if he deserves respect" rather than "I'll respect him because this is my duty to my Lord and Creator."
I learned these all points at an early age from my parent's broken marriage. Yup "either you learn a life lesson or sulk forever." I realized both my parents lack these when i compared the situation to other couples. Although we can't make them realize their lackings, becoz of their STICKING TO THEIR EGOS. So i decided I won't follow their foot steps. I respect them but I don't idealize them.
Women please, exceptions doesn't negate the rule. This is wifes duties and we should focus on ours. Men have duty to be kind too, so please if you need research mens duties, don't ignore yours when someone is teaching strategies for better relationship.
I respected my husband and his family but I never received respect back from him, he always insulted me in difficult times, in front of his whole family outside and inside the house
you should divorce him as soon as possible I divorced also my ex husband im happy now with my son alone love yourself u will find a better men believe in it @@Nekokeeb
Even one of my family member was so.. But Alhamdulillah things changed and now he's a grt husband and father! Just wait, make DUA NEVER UNDERESTIMATE making Dua
I feel like this is a good but very basic, very general guideline. Maybe for newlyweds it's ok advice because it's new and they're still learning to live together. But let's be real, every couple is VERY different and over time, if you're paying attention, you learn what your spouse needs. I'm not saying this is bad advice but it is vague. It's like saying all men are the same or all women are the same, they're not. One small example, I think there's this idea that all women want jewelry for their anniversary or birthday, some do some don't. When I got married my husband would buy me jewelry and it was thoughtful, I thanked him. But I had to talk to him about it because it felt like a lot of money to spend for gifts I was pretending to like, didn't want to hurt his feelings. I'm just not a jewelry person. RIngs are annoying, babies tug on earrings, bracelets get in the way, etc. And quite frankly it makes me think of elderly ladies, they always want to sparkle, like my grandma. One year he bought me a tree that was the same number of feet tall as years we had been married, for our anniversary. To me it was the most thoughtful, beautiful gift ever. I thought, he gets me. I loved it. He planted it in the back where I could see it directly from my bedroom window so that's my special tree. BUT, that's not a gift for anyone. A lot of people would hate it. Why? Because we're all different. respect
Its a big challenge, i think the mainthing is to pray to Allah and maybe ask for help by a good friend/ family you trust and an Imam.But try to involve him when you go to the imam
This is beautiful... However, it's not balanced unless "what women love from their husbands" is added immediately after 😂. There's more to marriages than these.
So true men like buttery wives. In my language (makhan polish) my husband and my all loving men like my brother, father and my sons uncles they all like butter polish from women. Once my husband made tea and he wants that everyone must like his tea even he was accepting from all women in the house and alhamdulillah we all appreciate him so he was happy and proud but to be honest his tea wasn't good tea that time and we all women didn't like it hihi. My sons are same when they dress up they ask me am i look good and I love my all men alhamdulillah
Conversations / listening to each other with patience is the key to healthy relationship. agreeing or disagreeing comes later. My warning to men, what you can do at least is to listen to your partner even if you don't like it or else you will be responsible for unhealthy marriage and disrespect from your partner. I have gone through much trauma & thus telling with experience. Only men can understand, never try to change the functionality of a woman's brain or she will not make it hel for you but for herself as well.
What husbands hate about their wives: 1) Not accepting a co-wife. 2) Wife fighting for not being traumatized for the rest of her life because of the selfish choices of husband. Husbands want wives being content with every male desire or hiding the sufference and hurt and damage like it's not their business at all.
Funny thing is that my husband is the one who looks good for others and never for me. For me he won't shower for days or brush his teeth or shave, won't wear cologne or dress nicely. The minute he is going to see his sister he is at the barber getting his hair and beard done, best clothes, cologne, shower. I am totally turned off by him now. He comes to me to be intimate with his breath stink, hair stink, hasn't even washed his face or hands and I just can't bring myself to be intimate with him, or sometimes I force myself. I have pleaded with him to please at least on a Saturday night, just one time a week, take a shower and put in a little effort for me and he never does it. It's so hurtful, and when I ask why he can do a this for his sister and never got me he gets mad. But I find that so weird, like aren't you supposed to try to attract your wife, your intimate partner like this and not your sister? 🤔 He's also constantly picking his nose and wiping it on furniture or the bed, so utterly nasty.
Sister i understand the situation but i dont think you should expose someone sins. For we can do nothing except advise but I Swear By Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى Were You To Ask Allah Then He Can Make Him The Most Beloved Husband you can ever dream of yours. Make Alot of Dua Sister And Dont Give Up Then See How Much Of a difference it makes. For i hated someone and then asked Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى To Make That Person Better And He Did It For Me. Indeed He Has Been Very Good To Me:D
FEAR NOT ! I AM ALL SEEING AND HEARING ALL THE TIMES, LET ME HANDLE ALL THIS, SLEEP PEACEFUL BLISS I MAKE SURE; IT; IT IS UNTO MY WIFE LAGGING BEHIND UPDATED ALWAYS
There are different ways of respects. My wife cook for me , wash my clothes etc etc I also help her vacuum the house , wash dishes etc etc. But my wife don't respect my leadership . Always backbiting about others , hours and hours talking on the phone with friends talking about others doing gheba .. complaining etc etc .. that's the reason I don't love her . I told her stop doing these things and I will love her etc etc but she keeps doing i feel like leaving her . I am in deep depression.but I can't due to my kids😢😢
My parents have a huge communication gap As an elder sibling I try my level best to try and make them understand each other but then I get so confused because I cannot hate one because of the other as both are my parents and I love both of them However as I’m mostly with my mother I see her struggles closely and she also expresses her frustration whereas my father doesn’t do so He’s outside the house mostly obviously trying to earn money and all but when he comes back he doesn’t spend much time with us he just lies down sees his mobile and the day repeats we hardly have family time anymore And if my mom asks him something he never responds as if he’s not even hearing her What should I do in such a situation??? What should be my role as a daughter trying to mend their relationship??
Just focus on your relationship with your mother and father. When InshAllah you get married , trust me you don't want anyone interfering in your relationship. What mothers sometime do wrong is involve their kid in their marriage. Maybe u are destroying ur relationship with ur father by interfering in his marriage.
@@sadafjaved6823 seeing a lot of marriages around me I don’t think I’m ever planning on getting married Seeing my mother totally burned out trying to make the ends meet and in the end she doesn’t even get a little peace I just wish to grow up so I can earn enough and make my parents carefree about any monetary issues I try my best to mend my relationship with both my parents ✨
Assalamualaikum, I am 29 years old , I am depressed right now because of my husband. I could neither love nor respect him because of what he did in the past. He let me suffer so much from her family. I have been abused mentally by them. This caused me to mentally stop loving him and become unable to fulfill his physical desires. I'm afraid Allah will punish me for this. I am a working woman. I give him all my salary. He even took a loan from my salary. His immature decisions, selfish thoughts and ungratefulness made me hate him even more. He still expects money from my family and has no respect for them. What can I do now? I feel like I can't live with him anymore. I cry everyday because of this miserable life. I'm afraid to live with him. If I have more children with him in future, I'm afraid of being alone on the road because he's already made me suffer and let me live alone in a boarding house with my 3-year-old son. He didn't even pay for my son's expenses because I couldn't afford the expenses due to the loan I took out for my husband. I want a divorce. Is it permissible to get divorce because of these reasons?
Gurl, it is permissable coz he did not fulfilled his Duty as a husband and nor as a father. Husband is a protector and a provider, if he is not doing any of his duties then get a khula from him. Allah didn't permit ur husband to make u this miserable miserable miserable
Assalammualaikum sister, I feel you. In your case, it is permissible to get a divorce from him as he doesn't fulfill his duty as a husband. Mentally exhausted is a serious matter because I go through the same. My husband provide for me but when we have no money, he will always blame me. I try to look for a job but he doesn't let me, I am so stress, this keep happening until now. I just want to get a divorce 😢 I'm just not in a happy relationship. Whenever I open my mouth to correct him he will shout and even slap me.
Assalammualaikum sister, I feel you. In your case, it is permissible to get a divorce from him as he doesn't fulfill his duty as a husband. Mentally exhausted is a serious matter because I go through the same. My husband provide for me but when we have no money, he will always blame me. I try to look for a job but he doesn't let me, I am so stress, this keep happening until now. I just want to get a divorce 😢 I'm just not in a happy relationship. Whenever I open my mouth to correct him he will shout and even slap me.
I’m suffering from two different illnesses that affect my appearance. 😔 Ordinarily, I like to look good for my husband, but there’s no way I can do that anymore.
I have to comment on this one it’s true women are sometimes the problem that their men drift away Communication solves everything talk to her vice versa…
Completely disagreed. Once a cheater is always a cheater. Only those men will drift away who wanted to involve in other women. Otherwise a real respectful man who knows Islamic values never cross the boundary.
Depends if his really cheating or is doing it halal wise why r women so jealous I don’t get it where is the prohets sws ways his values his lifestyle his wives his Islamic orders People get confused between a religious man trying to follow the prohets sws ways and consider it as cheating Wake up we r all gonna die we belong to no one but Allah swt
True it really depends. But how many of us have seen husbands doing multiple marriages and treating wives equally? Any one example in present times? Not only they deprive their wives from their rights but also children suffer too. Ive seen 10s of examples where husbands abandon their older children and involve deeply with new wife and her children. My heart hurts when I see those ignored children by their own dads.These men in the name of Islam are doing nothing good but putting negative impact on their children’s mind and character.
@SoldierofGod121 bro I’m standing here for those women only who know about Islam and it’s values and still are victims of domestic abuse and sluggish behaviour of their husband.I’m talking about cheating and abusive husbands and of course I will do every possible effort to make my little boys not to be bad like that.
Thanks for this, but in my experience, women will only ever give you what they want, not what the husband want. So better make sure you marry the woman that were raised to want to fulfill these criteria
And what if everything you mentioned in this video, a women is already making sure she does all this for a healthy relationship and yet the husband doesn’t give a dam then what? 😑
You’re right brother but if husband don’t know anything about Islamic rolling and he acts like he’s the leader but he doesn’t know what is the leadership then what would you say ?
I'm in my husband I give all the sport in I give him all the best I make him a word I make him all the best care to him to much that I know no one can replace me in this way but after that he needs to married in under women why should I say Im perfect woman but I'm still not enough so sad to say I need to allow him to go marriage coz I want to see him happy coz I love him it's so hard in make me kill inside but I can't say anything I just want to say now everything will be okay I just want to say always Allah make me more strong in strong pray for my health in my first baby to him watching from Dubai 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
SLM me my husband don't respect me or take me as wife, he do think wethough telling me he married 2 woman's wethough telling me have children's, Only he's family knows about it,after 20 years of our married i found out ,
But what if he doesn't respect wife.. what if when u get ready he says why u always look at mirror and get ready..what if u appreciate him and he becomes arrogant..n never ever appreciat u..but what if he becomes so abusive that in the end u jave to tell to your parents cuz his parents don't do anything even after watching everything
Please put in some effort to search before you come to a conclusion. Just because there is a video about wives doesn't automatically mean there is no video about husbands. ruclips.net/video/c9EMYUIZIJA/видео.htmlsi=ssFlYFNeM2R7LrAy
He’s no longer the provider. Some of us are pitching more than he. Anyhow, mutual respect is important in marriage. You can’t expect us to just respect him while all he does makes mean comments or criticizes everything
Yes true absolutely right but when husband do not good behavior do not respect wife and wife family used abous language and do not give her rights alweys camplin every one and his family do not respect and not able to do phisicaly unfit right i spend my 20 years ago i mery him when he was in bad not job unfit helf louer body dad not allowed to contact any one i cant meet go anywhere im like presnor i really hat my self my disigeon why I chose him his mantly phisicaly sick i hat my self i bearing my feeling he is unavailable to phisicaly teach he give me torcher what i do ????how i do for him how i give respect him i do good prtant butt not from my ❤ im leveling for my children please remember me your prayers every one sir billal i wont peace bless always some time i can't cantroll my feeling
STOP talking. Don't be arrogant. Allaah ❤❤❤The Almighty is The Leader The Protector The Providor. You are not talking about respect. You mean oppressing.
I wish pray for my husband every manfollow able to do and get every quality snd also every women Respect husband take care husband family basic need do good out said what ever any condition because ALLAH know see every thing do better one day InshaAllah ALLAH return Happiness our secrfices i really always pray ALLAH my every camplen talk to just ALLAH ❤bless you inspired bayan sharing us jazak ALLAH
اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹مهم ☝️اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹 الله لا إله إلاّ هو الحي القيوم لا تأخذه سنة ولا نوم له ما في السماوات و ما في الأرض من ذا الذي يشفع عنده إلا بإذنه يعلم ما بين أيديهم و ما خلفهم و لا يحيطون بشيء من علمه إلا بما شاء وسع كرسيه السماوات والأرض و لا يئوده حفظهما و هو العلي العظيم❤
Yes respect your narcissistic abusive husband. Yes keep trying eventhough you will be never good enough and he will end up marrying a second wife.🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
@@maazkhan8746 Very true that's why Allah (swt) also gives right for women of khula. May Allah (swt) grant women and men both to understand the right of each other and increase their love and peace between them provide them salihin offspring. Ameen
Today I told my husband what Sheikh Belal said: Ohh you are such a great husband. Without you I couldn't do this all. His answer: Not without me, without Allah ❤ I told him: of course, but Allah sent you to be my spouse. And really, as Sheikh said he felt so proud ❤
Sisssss that‘s so beautiful, allahuma bareek. 🥹💗💗 May Allah (swt.) protect your marriage from all evil and gives yall always peaceful love for the sake of Allah (swt.) between you two!!
May Allah bless your family
Yes it is true
I wish I had a husband like that 😢 he is no where near to my level of deen and compatibility
The only protector,providor alone is Allah..beshak..
Sheikh pls correct your words.
What they love:
1. Respect
2. To look good for them
3. Show confidence in him and his abilities
4. Speaks well of him to both families
5. Physical touch
Jazakallah
I don’t know why people make it seem like this is only something husbands want. Both husband and wife need to do this for each other.
@hadilayyad6147 I think it goes without saying. But this narrative is specific to husbands. There are women who mete out "respect" according to their own estimate of what he (the husband) deserves, based on their mindset or emotional state. Women have a mercurial flux of emotions (and I speak personally here, too) and are best guided by the wisdom of the Almighty who created us and our partners and knows what is better for us to succeed in the earthly life and the Hereafter.
@@hadilayyad6147My wife said the same thing about the need for intimacy at the beginning of our marriage, 8 years later, she accepts that she can’t keep up with my needs… men and women are not the same sister.
The husbands he is talking about are the good ones those whom Allah is pleased with not those who mistreat the wives.....
He meant all good and bad ones which I don't even wanna use.
Treat what you have like he mentioned, stood by him, pray for him to be the best you wish for and surely your wish would come true by the will of Allah
@ModouLaminFofana-l3i most men are good it's women who have became bad now
@@Tesla.model.99 he he
Women that ends up with bad men are in most cases bad women
The problem is in the "islamic" culture that men arent updated on what women need:
1. To give her undivided attention, even if for 30 mins, undivided, with her being the priority.
2. To listen to her..and u can combine # 1 & 2 together and make it easier
3. Respect her intellect, her decisions, her way of doing things.
4. Speaking to her in a soft tone
5. Words of encouragement or appreciation
Generally muslim men barely do any of those 5 & think relationship is one way that only women should give what they need and if they earn money, women should have no other needs.
They can respect their decisions but can also correct them or say to do things other way
Are these not the things Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did with his wives?
Out of his schedule he would always allocate quality time for his spouses, he would talk and listen to them individually, he would respect and love them, however if they accidentally did something wrong (which we are all prone to do as human beings) he would gently correct and advise them, he also was known for his kind and soft/gentle manner around people, and he would compliment his wives, call them by beautiful nicknames and made them feel loved and appreciated (through many other ways as well, not just nicknames)
As Muslims, we should always try and learn from Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) and his sunnah, the way he acted and the way he treated others,
What the husband loves in his wife:
1. When she shows respect: she respects his leadership, respects that he's her protector and respects that he's her provider
2. When she looks good for him
3. When she appreciates his efforts and abilities
4. When she talks good of him to her family and his family
5. When she gives physical touches
What the wife loves in his husband:
1. When he protects, defends and supports her.
2. When he listens to her and he talks to her
3. When he gives tender physical touches and he is tender in general
4. When he compliments her and shows that he's interested in her
5. He makes her feel secure and safe that he won't leave her and look for another woman
so general. not all people are the same or have the same relationship dynamics
When did he talk about the sisters part?
Most important thing is loyalty. Like really deep. Like she is loyal and pure, even in imagination and thoughts
Total agree not all husband give enough attention when you most need in good or bad times , of course the main thing is respect each other and understand each other and specially give to her enough love and true you need feel secure and safe both of them . But every one think different and others think they know more better they just want go to television to pay attention to the people they think they are clever they know everything
I cannot tolerate hearing jargon from ignorant people when they talk about sexual activities and use prophetic traditions to spread misguided principles.
It makes me angry when I see people use sharia and Islam to fulfill their own carnal desires. For several years, I have been teaching Islamic Jurisprudence in Islamic establishments in NY, including in Darul Quran WasSunnah and I have been leading tarawih salaah since the age of thirteen, and now am an Imam at Hedaya Masjid.
Unfortunately, Jahili and ignorant ones dare to tell me that I am speaking against Quran and Sunna, when I try to educate them about the true purpose of life. I believe I am more qualified to discuss this topic than most people who are posting here. Before you criticize me for advocating abstinence, and sexual moderation, go to the refugee camps in Yemen and Syria. I have personally seen how terribly Moslem mothers and sisters are suffering, where to get even one packet of food, they have to jostle with wild men and get assaulted. They do not have any medicine, and their children are starving in front of them. Dare not we claim that those Moslems are any less pious than we are, or deserve less earthly comfort, but those Moslem mothers whose children were burned to death by Burmese Buddhist junta will not agree with these video makers and neither should we be obsessed with sexual acts. Rest assured, we may try to use any hadith or verse of the Quran to justify any form of pleasurable thing or sexual acts with spouses, but remember that Islam is given only to the people who Allah loves, and using one's spouse for lust is not a believer’s objective. Some Moslems have become obsessed with satisfying selfish lust and desires, and constantly upload disgusting videos, when not a single Jewish Rabbis or a Christian monk or priests ever uploaded videos about sexual relation with spouse. Never will the people of paradise be obsessed with sex. It is a place for purity and justice, an abode of cleanliness and worship. If doing disgusting acts interests someone, they are free to enter hellfire, where the inmates will suffer in torment and nakedness, and then they can gaze at each other freely and use one another as toilet bowls. Indulging in sexual acts cause the light of faith to diminish from the heart, and slowly, Islam leaves that person, and they become ex-Muslim, as I personally had seen many who had become dedicated to destroy Islam.
100% agreed to what he said but I feel shy to share this with my wife 😂
Send it to her
All the things that you’ve explained are found in many husbands.if wife respect him and his family he would disrespect her, he humiliates her in front of others and never keeps her privacy. She feels like she has no privacy in her I n-laws. At home he’s an abuser but out side home he’s the nicest person ever. Islam has warned a lot to women regarding husbands even for little things there is big punishment. But really can’t understand why our scholars don’t speak much if husband is abusing his wife or having extra marital relationships?
All the sheikh just defended husbands .
Allah did not prefer the husband or the man over the woman. We are all equal .Why don’t you speak the opposite about the unjust husband and the obedient woman?
Dude check out the other part. He said everything clearly on both parties. And Islam is FAIR and if no sheikhs talk bout that we girls just gotta learn by ourselves from Quran and sunnah
Our prophets last words was to men, to be good to their wives. Islam emphasizes on women rights too. 😮
@@Pretty995 you should correct your knowledge first about Islam we are not equal Allah gave men leadership over women aallah gave leadership Adam over Hawa l, sister you have to agree this Islam is not like the European culture ❤
@@kaziAbdur-r1r leadership is a role that doesn't decrease value of women in front of Allah. Women and men are equal in front of Allah as humans. What does Adam over Hawa means? Stop bringing bad innovations.
Yes its true.I realized it by my self and iam very happy that i understood it very early in my marriage.Sometimes we women are wiser, we have so much power to do things, because of this women tend to loose respect for their man.But at the end of the day when you want your marriage to work you should not show it and respect what your husband is doing for you. Because the partnership its worth it to put your ego byside sometimes
*Praise be to Allah for the beauty of Islam and its teachings of compassion and empathy. Praying for the safety and well-being of every soul*
This is true but this should also be followed vice versa….
this is true but … ❌
This is true! And this should be … ☑️
Mmm how do I respect someone who has a borderline personality disorder and consistently throw rage at us? Despite communicating our feelings? The ratio and compromising is exhausting. Wife needs love to get that respect again
That’s not a healthy relationship unfortunately. Definitely need help tgere
Make Tahajjud and Ruqyah in your house... 🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽... I know it sounds crazy but... it can work... Allah can change the heart of anyone.... InshaAllah you will at least ease your burdens... ❤❤❤❤❤
In sha Allah he can get treatment but that is really hard to live with. May Allah make a way for you and give you ease.
@@khadijahrose3325 inshallah Sista, thank u so much for your well wishes! u are right. I should made tahjjud! ♥️🫡Nothing is crazy … I know only allah can push thru by his miracles. I needed the reminder n that encouragement again. Sometimes the heart starts to get numb, and I start to be tired n discouraged .
Make d’ua for us pls.may allah reward you for your sincere intention .May allah breaks theses cycle of generational trauma and May allah grant ease to bpd people and the receiver. Appreciating you! Xx
@@NiaPgn amin , amin amin ya Rabb! Yeah he needs treatment but seems impossible to even bring up this topic… trust me it’s hard.mental health is a silent killer.
I can still manage…but it’s the toddler witnessing that can be difficult n then be traumatic for them… hence another cycle ….
thank u for the d’ua n ur sincere intentions♥️ only allah can reward u. And for all the wives out there whose is trying hard and holding down the fort,don’t give up ⚡️ never lose the faith and hang tight to the ropes of allah! Do make d’ua for me n my 5 yo. Xx
for Sure Sheikh Belal Thank you so much
Alhamdulillah! So needed to hear this now!!!
Me n my husband are best friends . He is lazy . Though he respect me listen me . But i use to tell him that he is lazy n i like hardworking people . He smiles 😊. But he wont change he is the way he is . I also love his chilled attitude
This is so sweet 😊 may Allah bless you both 💕
The Qur'an is a heavenly book revealed by Allah as a guide for mankind. Let us recite the Qur'an and make the recitation pure and beautiful.
May Allah pak protects & helps you brother.. for your efforts against attacks on ISLAM, MUSLIMS AND family style of Muslim..
We all Muslims should open our hearts for our own religion and the perfect words of The only one creator of everything .
There's lot of negative propaganda against Islam by social media..and those who are fighting against it truly are the warriors.
Assalaamu alaikum
For everyone commenting on "what about what a wife needs/wants" ....this video is actually just a clip. This speaker spoke about the wife's needs first before this part (the husband's needs).
Things men loves about their wives
1. Respecting him as a leader, provider, and protector
2. Men wants their wives to look good for them
3. Appreciate him
4. Speak well with his family
5. Physical touches
That's what I always say that if we appreciate our husbands little efforts like we always want to be appreciated,men too desire to be recognised🥰
There's a feminist mindset in some of us. It is about "I'll respect him if he deserves respect" rather than "I'll respect him because this is my duty to my Lord and Creator."
Thank you for this teaching. Our females need to hear this. May the Lord give our females wisdom to remain happily in their marriages. ❤
He forgot “trust.” I think that comes even before “respect.” Totally agree with Sheikh Bilal ma sh Allah 💯
I think trust is earned. If you are honest and truthful she will trust you. Otherwise not.
I personally can't respect someone without trusting them
Masha’Allah, very helpful.
I learned these all points at an early age from my parent's broken marriage. Yup "either you learn a life lesson or sulk forever." I realized both my parents lack these when i compared the situation to other couples. Although we can't make them realize their lackings, becoz of their STICKING TO THEIR EGOS. So i decided I won't follow their foot steps. I respect them but I don't idealize them.
This man was listening to him long time ago, he is great teacher
needed to hear this jazkahallah
Number 1 you hammered the nail on the head
Best brother may almighty bless you and your entire family 😍💝💝💝
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May Allah bless and reward you with goodness ya Sheikh 🤲 ameen
Women please, exceptions doesn't negate the rule. This is wifes duties and we should focus on ours. Men have duty to be kind too, so please if you need research mens duties, don't ignore yours when someone is teaching strategies for better relationship.
I respected my husband and his family but I never received respect back from him, he always insulted me in difficult times, in front of his whole family outside and inside the house
Same 😢 whenever I'm with his family he always disrespect me, even kick me infront of them, but the mother did nothing!
These men for sure would be narcissists
you should divorce him as soon as possible I divorced also my ex husband im happy now with my son alone love yourself u will find a better men believe in it @@Nekokeeb
im also facing the same 😢😢😢
Even one of my family member was so..
But Alhamdulillah things changed and now he's a grt husband and father!
Just wait, make DUA
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE making Dua
Jazāk Allāhu Khayran for this videos, keep going!
Subhan Allah. Nice video masha Allah
This is the thruth.
I feel like this is a good but very basic, very general guideline. Maybe for newlyweds it's ok advice because it's new and they're still learning to live together. But let's be real, every couple is VERY different and over time, if you're paying attention, you learn what your spouse needs. I'm not saying this is bad advice but it is vague. It's like saying all men are the same or all women are the same, they're not. One small example, I think there's this idea that all women want jewelry for their anniversary or birthday, some do some don't. When I got married my husband would buy me jewelry and it was thoughtful, I thanked him. But I had to talk to him about it because it felt like a lot of money to spend for gifts I was pretending to like, didn't want to hurt his feelings. I'm just not a jewelry person. RIngs are annoying, babies tug on earrings, bracelets get in the way, etc. And quite frankly it makes me think of elderly ladies, they always want to sparkle, like my grandma. One year he bought me a tree that was the same number of feet tall as years we had been married, for our anniversary. To me it was the most thoughtful, beautiful gift ever. I thought, he gets me. I loved it. He planted it in the back where I could see it directly from my bedroom window so that's my special tree. BUT, that's not a gift for anyone. A lot of people would hate it. Why? Because we're all different.
respect
This the absolute way to be a good wife. Husbands deserve it.
Husband's deserve only when they too follows the duty of wat Allah has given them
A narcissistic and neglectful one doesn't
What if the man is not a provider, a protector nor a lover . He does nothing and isn’t even trying to
If nothing works than maybe getting help from outside or leaving ?
Its a big challenge, i think the mainthing is to pray to Allah and maybe ask for help by a good friend/ family you trust and an Imam.But try to involve him when you go to the imam
Leave!!!
If you don’t have kids, leave. Even if you have kids, leave. Marriage takes two people to navigate it, not one.
This is beautiful... However, it's not balanced unless "what women love from their husbands" is added immediately after 😂. There's more to marriages than these.
So true men like buttery wives. In my language (makhan polish) my husband and my all loving men like my brother, father and my sons uncles they all like butter polish from women. Once my husband made tea and he wants that everyone must like his tea even he was accepting from all women in the house and alhamdulillah we all appreciate him so he was happy and proud but to be honest his tea wasn't good tea that time and we all women didn't like it hihi. My sons are same when they dress up they ask me am i look good and I love my all men alhamdulillah
Conversations / listening to each other with patience is the key to healthy relationship. agreeing or disagreeing comes later. My warning to men, what you can do at least is to listen to your partner even if you don't like it or else you will be responsible for unhealthy marriage and disrespect from your partner. I have gone through much trauma & thus telling with experience. Only men can understand, never try to change the functionality of a woman's brain or she will not make it hel for you but for herself as well.
Good reminder..I really needed this
Astagfirullah, la ilaha illallahu Muhammadur rasulullah. Sollallahu alaihi wa sallam.
Allah is the greatest beshak. RasoolAllah Sallallahu Alayh Wassallam. pls correct spelling .
What husbands hate about their wives:
1) Not accepting a co-wife.
2) Wife fighting for not being traumatized for the rest of her life because of the selfish choices of husband. Husbands want wives being content with every male desire or hiding the sufference and hurt and damage like it's not their business at all.
Thanks for telling me... i messed my marriage!! 😢
Ma Shaa Allah ❤😢
Ya Allah where to find a spouse who does all that and once I get her she can have every bit of my respect love and care unconditionally🥺
First to last nice ........
If the husband doesn't work and do any cooperative works, he doesn't need respect.
Everything is not in me😢 Allah help me to change my behaviour 🤲🤲🤲🤝
The answer or solution to every problem is ALLAH...keep going..work on the quality of your Salah..cry to Allah in your doahs..
Funny thing is that my husband is the one who looks good for others and never for me. For me he won't shower for days or brush his teeth or shave, won't wear cologne or dress nicely. The minute he is going to see his sister he is at the barber getting his hair and beard done, best clothes, cologne, shower. I am totally turned off by him now. He comes to me to be intimate with his breath stink, hair stink, hasn't even washed his face or hands and I just can't bring myself to be intimate with him, or sometimes I force myself. I have pleaded with him to please at least on a Saturday night, just one time a week, take a shower and put in a little effort for me and he never does it. It's so hurtful, and when I ask why he can do a this for his sister and never got me he gets mad. But I find that so weird, like aren't you supposed to try to attract your wife, your intimate partner like this and not your sister? 🤔 He's also constantly picking his nose and wiping it on furniture or the bed, so utterly nasty.
Sister i understand the situation but i dont think you should expose someone sins. For we can do nothing except advise but I Swear By Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى Were You To Ask Allah Then He Can Make Him The Most Beloved Husband you can ever dream of yours. Make Alot of Dua Sister And Dont Give Up Then See How Much Of a difference it makes. For i hated someone and then asked Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى To Make That Person Better And He Did It For Me. Indeed He Has Been Very Good To Me:D
Sis leave him😂
Ewwww
I would never stay with such a nasty guy!
May Allah your difficulties easy!
Ameen
FEAR NOT ! I AM ALL SEEING AND HEARING ALL THE TIMES, LET ME HANDLE ALL THIS, SLEEP PEACEFUL BLISS I MAKE SURE; IT; IT IS UNTO MY WIFE LAGGING BEHIND UPDATED ALWAYS
Thank you💖
Totally agree
Is the same logic applicable for egoistic men? Just curious.
There are different ways of respects. My wife cook for me , wash my clothes etc etc I also help her vacuum the house , wash dishes etc etc. But my wife don't respect my leadership . Always backbiting about others , hours and hours talking on the phone with friends talking about others doing gheba .. complaining etc etc .. that's the reason I don't love her . I told her stop doing these things and I will love her etc etc but she keeps doing i feel like leaving her . I am in deep depression.but I can't due to my kids😢😢
My parents have a huge communication gap
As an elder sibling I try my level best to try and make them understand each other but then I get so confused because I cannot hate one because of the other as both are my parents and I love both of them
However as I’m mostly with my mother I see her struggles closely and she also expresses her frustration whereas my father doesn’t do so
He’s outside the house mostly obviously trying to earn money and all but when he comes back he doesn’t spend much time with us he just lies down sees his mobile and the day repeats we hardly have family time anymore
And if my mom asks him something he never responds as if he’s not even hearing her
What should I do in such a situation???
What should be my role as a daughter trying to mend their relationship??
I'm a guy going through a very similar scenario and I'm clueless as well. Despite trying my best. I've practically given up.
Just focus on your relationship with your mother and father. When InshAllah you get married , trust me you don't want anyone interfering in your relationship. What mothers sometime do wrong is involve their kid in their marriage.
Maybe u are destroying ur relationship with ur father by interfering in his marriage.
@@sadafjaved6823how is she destroying her parents marriage when all she asks is how to fix their relationships??
Start by making dua regularly...the way forward will become clear to you..Will get the understanding of how to deal with this situation
@@sadafjaved6823 seeing a lot of marriages around me I don’t think I’m ever planning on getting married
Seeing my mother totally burned out trying to make the ends meet and in the end she doesn’t even get a little peace
I just wish to grow up so I can earn enough and make my parents carefree about any monetary issues
I try my best to mend my relationship with both my parents ✨
Please upload what the wives wants.
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Assalamualaikum, I am 29 years old , I am depressed right now because of my husband. I could neither love nor respect him because of what he did in the past. He let me suffer so much from her family. I have been abused mentally by them. This caused me to mentally stop loving him and become unable to fulfill his physical desires. I'm afraid Allah will punish me for this.
I am a working woman. I give him all my salary. He even took a loan from my salary. His immature decisions, selfish thoughts and ungratefulness made me hate him even more. He still expects money from my family and has no respect for them. What can I do now? I feel like I can't live with him anymore. I cry everyday because of this miserable life. I'm afraid to live with him. If I have more children with him in future, I'm afraid of being alone on the road because he's already made me suffer and let me live alone in a boarding house with my 3-year-old son. He didn't even pay for my son's expenses because I couldn't afford the expenses due to the loan I took out for my husband. I want a divorce. Is it permissible to get divorce because of these reasons?
Gurl, it is permissable coz he did not fulfilled his Duty as a husband and nor as a father. Husband is a protector and a provider, if he is not doing any of his duties then get a khula from him. Allah didn't permit ur husband to make u this miserable miserable miserable
he's clearly as day is abusive and irresponsible.Leave him..find a better man for yourself
Assalammualaikum sister, I feel you. In your case, it is permissible to get a divorce from him as he doesn't fulfill his duty as a husband. Mentally exhausted is a serious matter because I go through the same. My husband provide for me but when we have no money, he will always blame me. I try to look for a job but he doesn't let me, I am so stress, this keep happening until now. I just want to get a divorce 😢 I'm just not in a happy relationship. Whenever I open my mouth to correct him he will shout and even slap me.
Assalammualaikum sister, I feel you. In your case, it is permissible to get a divorce from him as he doesn't fulfill his duty as a husband. Mentally exhausted is a serious matter because I go through the same. My husband provide for me but when we have no money, he will always blame me. I try to look for a job but he doesn't let me, I am so stress, this keep happening until now. I just want to get a divorce 😢 I'm just not in a happy relationship. Whenever I open my mouth to correct him he will shout and even slap me.
@@Nekokeeb thanks for your opinion sis
I hope your relationship will be fine in shaa Allah. May Allah relieve you from your heart pain.
I’m suffering from two different illnesses that affect my appearance. 😔 Ordinarily, I like to look good for my husband, but there’s no way I can do that anymore.
I have to comment on this one it’s true women are sometimes the problem that their men drift away
Communication solves everything talk to her vice versa…
Completely disagreed. Once a cheater is always a cheater. Only those men will drift away who wanted to involve in other women. Otherwise a real respectful man who knows Islamic values never cross the boundary.
Depends if his really cheating or is doing it halal wise
why r women so jealous I don’t get it where is the prohets sws ways his values his lifestyle his wives his Islamic orders
People get confused between a religious man trying to follow the prohets sws ways and consider it as cheating
Wake up we r all gonna die we belong to no one but Allah swt
True it really depends. But how many of us have seen husbands doing multiple marriages and treating wives equally? Any one example in present times? Not only they deprive their wives from their rights but also children suffer too. Ive seen 10s of examples where husbands abandon their older children and involve deeply with new wife and her children. My heart hurts when I see those ignored children by their own dads.These men in the name of Islam are doing nothing good but putting negative impact on their children’s mind and character.
@SoldierofGod121 bro I’m standing here for those women only who know about Islam and it’s values and still are victims of domestic abuse and sluggish behaviour of their husband.I’m talking about cheating and abusive husbands and of course I will do every possible effort to make my little boys not to be bad like that.
Thanks for this, but in my experience, women will only ever give you what they want, not what the husband want. So better make sure you marry the woman that were raised to want to fulfill these criteria
And what if everything you mentioned in this video, a women is already making sure she does all this for a healthy relationship and yet the husband doesn’t give a dam then what? 😑
Thanks
SUBHANALLAHI WABIHAMDIHI.
Thy should b also a question wat WIVES Hate n love abt HUSBANDS
Wat shd be done when we are constantly ignored irrespective of the efforts we make to praise console help emotional and physically
You’re right brother but if husband don’t know anything about Islamic rolling and he acts like he’s the leader but he doesn’t know what is the leadership then what would you say ?
Ask the value of a husband from the the wives who’ve lost theirs’
Agree 👍
I'm in my husband I give all the sport in I give him all the best I make him a word I make him all the best care to him to much that I know no one can replace me in this way but after that he needs to married in under women why should I say Im perfect woman but I'm still not enough so sad to say I need to allow him to go marriage coz I want to see him happy coz I love him it's so hard in make me kill inside but I can't say anything I just want to say now everything will be okay I just want to say always Allah make me more strong in strong pray for my health in my first baby to him watching from Dubai 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
Wives also like those things in return... but what if husband gets those things and wife doesn't....
SLM me my husband don't respect me or take me as wife, he do think wethough telling me he married 2 woman's wethough telling me have children's, Only he's family knows about it,after 20 years of our married i found out ,
2nd point to get ready for husband i did it many times but he dont even notice and if I personally ask that how am I looking his reaction is blank....
My wife has none mentioned above ...😔😔😔😔
Why to respect someone who is gold digger and not provider . How to respect someone who is not protector?
But what if he doesn't respect wife.. what if when u get ready he says why u always look at mirror and get ready..what if u appreciate him and he becomes arrogant..n never ever appreciat u..but what if he becomes so abusive that in the end u jave to tell to your parents cuz his parents don't do anything even after watching everything
Please tell us about things women like &hate about men
If i said that to my hubby, he'll Said "Oh, what do you need why you so nice today 😏
Full video link?
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jazakallahu kayran
@@FirmBelieverinIslamjazakallahu kairan
There's always one post or the other about wives. What about the needs and desires of the wives.
Please put in some effort to search before you come to a conclusion. Just because there is a video about wives doesn't automatically mean there is no video about husbands.
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What if the man does not provide??
Then hes not doing his duty obviously lil feminist yall always try to bacfire at men
Sorry I cannot appreciate his painting, it ruins my walls :-) But I learned to stop criticizing and give good feedbacks :-)
He’s no longer the provider. Some of us are pitching more than he. Anyhow, mutual respect is important in marriage. You can’t expect us to just respect him while all he does makes mean comments or criticizes everything
Yes true absolutely right but when husband do not good behavior do not respect wife and wife family used abous language and do not give her rights alweys camplin every one and his family do not respect and not able to do phisicaly unfit right i spend my 20 years ago i mery him when he was in bad not job unfit helf louer body dad not allowed to contact any one i cant meet go anywhere im like presnor i really hat my self my disigeon why I chose him his mantly phisicaly sick i hat my self i bearing my feeling he is unavailable to phisicaly teach he give me torcher what i do ????how i do for him how i give respect him i do good prtant butt not from my ❤ im leveling for my children please remember me your prayers every one sir billal i wont peace bless always some time i can't cantroll my feeling
STOP talking.
Don't be arrogant.
Allaah ❤❤❤The Almighty is The Leader The Protector The Providor.
You are not talking about respect.
You mean oppressing.
I wish pray for my husband every manfollow able to do and get every quality snd also every women Respect husband take care husband family basic need do good out said what ever any condition because ALLAH know see every thing do better one day InshaAllah ALLAH return Happiness our secrfices i really always pray ALLAH my every camplen talk to just ALLAH ❤bless you inspired bayan sharing us jazak ALLAH
اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹مهم ☝️اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك لا إله إلا أنت استغفرك و أتوب إليك 👏اللهم صل
على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما صليت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد و بارك على محمّد و على آل محمّد كما باركت على إبراهيم و على آل إبراهيم في العالمين إنك حميد مجيد عدد خلقك و رضا نفسك و زنة عرشك و مداد كلماتك آمين 🙏🌹
الله لا إله إلاّ هو الحي القيوم لا تأخذه سنة ولا نوم له ما في السماوات و ما في الأرض من ذا الذي يشفع عنده إلا بإذنه يعلم ما بين أيديهم و ما خلفهم و لا يحيطون بشيء من علمه إلا بما شاء وسع كرسيه السماوات والأرض و لا يئوده حفظهما و هو العلي العظيم❤
Im2.56 min in crying
Bdtameez susralio ka kya kre jo k shohar ko biwi se alg hone ko lga rhta h
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What about a husband who constantly uses abusive words on his wife? How can I respect him?
Sadakta
Ok, the respect is not different. Idk who he is but that's wrong. Respect goes both ways, you are equals in your relationship.
What about respect towards Wife...my husband had affair...how could i respect him
It's taking about wife duties, there are men's duties too.
And what about the husband who betrays, abuses, does no earning plus plus plusssss
Well then you get to refuse him intimacy or divorce. Not speaking bad mouth is nature of Muslim. Exceptions doesn't negate the rule
My Muslim wife is 0/4 💔😔
Women provide too
exactly. this video is just generalizing. everyone has different needs/wants and relationship dynamics
Yes respect your narcissistic abusive husband. Yes keep trying eventhough you will be never good enough and he will end up marrying a second wife.🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
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Even for a cheating husband?
You know what the punishment for cheating is, don't you? But all you can do is to divorce him.
First of all did he deserve respect?
@@maazkhan8746
Very true that's why Allah (swt) also gives right for women of khula.
May Allah (swt) grant women and men both to understand the right of each other and increase their love and peace between them provide them salihin offspring.
Ameen
I just came here to say, I'm not watching tjis video until you also gave a wife's version.
It takes two to tango.
He actually spoke about that first...it's in a separate video.