You have to play the RUclips games to win the RUclips prizes lol. Please know that I know that all people are people and there are far more similarities between us than differences. I hope those of you who requested this video find it helpful and wishing you the absolute best weekend!
You are a beautiful , intelligent young woman with a great personality. You are right on point when you say we are all basically just people. I love and always have been very attracted to the beauty of black women and I've made that very apparent over the course of my life and am very glad that I did. Vive La Différence, what a boring world it would be if everyone was alike.
appreciate the video our sister, i am a white guy who loves color, and women of color - i think you all are so funny, kind, sweet, powerful so many times ( if not always by potential 💖 ) and though it may be controversial, i want all the controversies that come with being with and loved by the softness and power that you all so vibrantly express, simply by being you - may God bless you sister, and may dreams for all of us, by love and in love - come true 💛 truly, earnestly - brother cam
I don't understand why black women would date white men. When they're considered nerds or lame. However I black nerd or lame guy are disrespected in the black communities, it's not as bad now.
You're the type of person I would love as a friend. You have the ability to see beyond race or maybe I should say being inclusive of races other than yours.
Yeah as a white man we don’t think y’all will be attracted to us cause we are white 🤷🏻♂️ but now I’m dating a Nigerian woman and she makes me happy and I make her happy and all we want to do is lift each other up to be the best person we can be
@@ambersummer2685 for me personally as long as you have natural nice eyebrows that don’t need to be painted on my attracted to you lmao I know it’s strange but aye 🤷🏻♂️ but yeah I’ve talked to a lot of my white friends and we agree that we most of the time assume y’all won’t like us cause we are white lol
@@ambersummer2685I don’t think what he said contradicts what you said, I agree with him generally we think we don’t have a chance 😂😂 idk why though tbh, maybe the straight white man comments are getting to us lmao
@@jaystringer4294 the truth of the matter is both WM and BW feel the same that the other isn't interested..As a BW you always hear about how we are the least desired demographic when it comes to dating sites.. So that doesn't inspire confidence when it comes to potentially dating white men..
WM here who dated a fair number of BW before getting married to a BW (married 30 years now). As you note, we WM face a threshold question about whether a particular BW might be interested in a WM at all. We get rejected just for being white. It happens. In addition, however, there is also a worry that she will think we were just a thrill-seeker trying to satisfy a "brown sugar" fetish, as opposed to a man interested in a human woman who is black. So we go overboard in simply showing human, friend-like interest to make it clear that we are really interested.
This is why it's so difficult for WM and BW to connect.Most WM don't think that BW are interested so they do not approach us which is understandable.. But I know that as a BW we also don't think WM are interested in us so no one makes a move!! I can't tell you how many times I have been out and there are WM staring at me (Im a pretty BW) but making no moves so WM sits there staring at me all night..I understand that the normal assumption would be we all prefer BM but I actually don't but it's so hard to meet WM and I don't feel comfortable marching up to a WM and starting a. conversation . . .
Black women have a very powerful effect on most of us white men.. for me It lit my desire to provide and protect for her like I’ve never experienced, I became super attentive and was constantly thinking of shit to do for her 😅
I wish I had started pursuing black women 25 years ago when I was in high school. Black women have the power to make you forget the rest of the world. They are truly intoxicating.
Thank you for making this video. It’s very accurate! As a BW who does date out of my race, I first learned this in my twenties. A WM was continuously staring at me in a restaurant. I initially thought he was uncomfortable, considering “where the restaurant was located”. Until he eventually walked over and told me I was the prettiest woman he had ever seen. How sweet!
I've had the same experience more times than I cam count they'll just stare and stare and I'm like why doesn't he approach and we'll both be looking and neither will say anything guess I'm old fashion and want the guy to approach but guess I better start saying something 😂💖
As a white man, I find black women extremely sensual and sexy. But what holds me back is that I have this mindset that they aren't going to be attracted to me because I am white...well technically native american but light skinned. For instance, there's a girl that I see every morning and she just takes my breath away every time I see her. But I'm hesitant because I have no idea how to approach her or even if she would be willing to go out. The weird thing is, is that I have no problem approaching white women, and getting them to date me. Maybe it's because I don't find them as intimidating because the attraction isn't as strong. Thank you for this Amanda, this gives me confidence to try and put myself out there and see what happens. As we say in Lakota - Pilamaya (Thank You)
This may be a silly question but are the Lakota people of the N/S Dakotas? I'm always curious to learn more about indigenous/native tribes. And your fears/insecurities are VERY common. Truly, I hear this from at least one commenter on each video haha. Hopefully some of my content can help to relax those fears and as I always say, you really never know when you approach any woman what the outcome will be regardless of race/ethnicity and just because a black woman may turn you down that doesn't even necessarily mean it's because of your race/ethnicity. Wishing you the best of luck!
Thank you! And yep, Lakota are based out of the Dakota territories. My tribe is the Lakota Sioux tribe in Pine Ridge, it's located in South Dakota but I was raised in Indiana. I had the chance to reconnect with my tribe when I lived in Montana many years ago :)
If you are terrified good. You must never be turned away by fear. I think the thing that turns black women off to white men is their timidity. If you feel such passion for her why wait?
I've always wanted to do that! (to all women, though) But, I'm too scared of accidentally offending the women I compliment so I stay silent. Complimenting women I don't know just feels inappropriate somehow.
You’re speaking facts. They be so scared to talk. This white man literally walked past me and said hey in his shy voice and walked away so fast I couldn’t even see his face fully 😭 I’m like why didn’t you stop?
I'm a Irish man married to a Ugandan lady , Bugandan Engabi clan for 23 years 6 children. Men when making the introduction to the lady just be yourself nothing else , don't try to be something different the ladies can detect false actions a mile away.. keep true to her and honest and she will love you like you never been loved before. Even though we've been married a long time the passion is still hot like the first time we met.
A European (White) Man who wants to have an actual relationship with a woman of African descent often chooses a woman that is quite beautiful (at least to that European/White Man she is!). He will first seek to interact with her verbally, talking to her…being what she considers as “nice”. He’s presenting himself to her but women of African descent do not presume niceness to mean “relational/emotional interest”. He will listen to her to learn her preferences, character traits, intellect, etc. She thinks he’s wonderfully understanding and compassionate. (LOL!) If he has financial security….Once he has determined that he truly wants her to be “his” and his alone…..He will DO THINGS FOR HER. He will show her his ‘life’…..He will privately bring her into his personal space….his home….his office/company, etc. He will follow her habits to know what she is likely to be doing and when she will be doing it. A European (White) man with financial resources will simply make use of those resources for her benefit. He is NOT showing off….He is doing what European (White) men with wealth do….because accessing their resources is their “normal” when (and only when) they have determined that a Woman of African descent is a Woman he ‘wants’ and ‘needs’. That;s what those resources are for….to be used for something important or satisfying to that man. She becomes his ‘center’….and he is very sensitive to her emotional state….He’s not faking it….He truly is that uncomfortable if she becomes angry with him. Women of African descent make it clear when a man has messed up! Her slightest criticism will cut him like a knife. European men (White men) are not accustomed to the emotional directness that often comes with a Woman of African descent….and they love it…..dread it…..and will do anything possible to avoid it!!! In short - White men are careful but very deliberate when pursuing a Woman of African descent. He will enter “the unknown” of her social/professional/racial reality just to be with her. 🥰
@@latinaking3816 Race has nothing to do with it. It's the type of men you are attracted to is. I've seen BW date a certain type of BM, get hurt, switch to a different race, and date the same type of man and get the same results. The man that you need and the man that you want are two different types of people.
This has been MY experience. And you can’t keep doing the same thing expecting different results, right? What I want and need are exactly the same, trust. It’s just nearly impossible to find mentally/ emotionally healthy BM. Again- MY experience.
@@latinaking3816 You should try being a man for a week. You'll be surprised what some women will put you through lol. But, I do agree, it's difficult find people who can easily trust. When you get around my age (assuming you aren't already there) you'll start noticing that the people you meet have past from which they've experienced emotionally trauma from a past relationship. Certain types of people handle it differently than others. Both my current wife and my ex Gf (who was a BW) both experienced trauma in their past relationship but they are night and day compared to how that trauma manifested itself and how they dealt with it. All I can say is one of them worked on improving herself and the other one didn't. I married the one who became the better woman.
As a BW I find that when I do pay attention to a WM and our eyes meet I always look away first because I think he won't be interested in me as a Black Woman and nobody likes to feel silly about maybe a chance at talking...
Hi Amanda. Thanks for explaining this. As someone who’s dated white men, I’ve noticed this. There’s a guy I know for 10 years. I couldn’t remember exactly how we met. In the last 2 years we’ve been in touch more often since he’s moved to the city I live. Since the end of lockdown and everything opening up again we’ve caught up in person in social gatherings and Christian assemblies. At these events he’s always come to find where I’m seated and chat during breaks. We happened to go out to dinner recently with another group of people last weekend and that’s the most time I spent in his company. We went home together. He so proudly tells people how he met me. He’s such a character and I can be my true self around him.
Aww that’s amazing! I’m really happy for you and hope that things can continue to go well between the two of you (if that’s what you’re hoping for of course). Fingers crossed. ✨💕
Hi Ms. Amanda. As a white man who's married to my black queen, keep doing your thing and telling the truth. You are making a big difference. People are very quietly paying attention and getting together. I see it more and more everyday.
@@MorainalorettB Morning and happy Wednesday to you. Remember, it's not you or the person you're with. Racism is caused by lack of education, love, understanding, patience, self destruction, jealousy and whatever else that pops into their weak hearts and minds. We faced it in Philly, NJ, Texas and VA. Remember, you're not alone. So, F em. You make you happy, and your partner should add to your happy.
@@MorainalorettB You do what makes you happy. Your partner should add to your happy. Remember not everyone has a course charted for there life. Racism is just people letting evil run their lives for whatever reason instead of being an intelligent adult for whatever reason. We faced this in Philly, NJ, Texas and VA. F em, don't let it stop you or bother you. Been in a few altercations because of it, but, that's not my women's job to deal with it, it's mine from whomever starts it. ENJOY YOUR LIFE!! Today is a gift. Yesterday is the past, tomorrow will always be waiting. That's why today is called the present.
My own experience as a white man completely agrees with what you say. I remember being so surprised the first time I mutual-matched with a black woman on a dating app that my first thought was to wonder if she swiped on me by accident.
I've always been attracted to and have dated white men, white boys when I was younger. I prefer the approach of white men. Their approach is usually gentlemen like. I don't like aggressive males.
You are talking about White-White men who are the subtle ones. The ethnic type White men from the Mediterranean, Middle East, and Eastern Europe are much bolder and won't hesitate to approach any woman, including Black women.
INME, it's very subtle. They may offer to carry your grocery bag, or something else you may have in your hands. They will speak above a whisper so that you close in while in a public space. They may approach you with their head tilted down with a schoolboyish grin. They may ask for your random opinion about something in a vinyl shop. Because black women aren't used to this kind of display of masculinity, we tend to think nothing is happening. If he's into you, he will smile at you. They aren't going to straight up ask for your number until they get the green light to do so.
Black women have always been attracted to me. I have an idea why. First because I don't treat them any different than any other women, which is charming, funny (dark sense of humor), and I get to the point. Also I won the NY Golden Gloves and never lost a street fight despite growing up in a mixed race neighborhood, and black girls tend to like guys who can handle themselves. Lastly, being handsome doesn't hurt either.
The price of men respecting your space (literally and figuratively) is that you will have to be clear and unambiguous as to when you’re okay with them entering it.
The difference in bm/wm approach is true. The subtleness is true...i started working at a restaurant as a hostess. Immediately, one of the chef assistants, a black man, came out to me as im standing at the podium, diners in the restaurant and everything, and asked if he could take me out lol.... meanwhile, a server, a white guy, has been super thoughtful and subtle that I have to double-back and think...why is he so apologetic, thoughtful and considerate towards me....and it seems like me only? Does he like me?? And his thoughtfulness actually made me realize he's very handsome too. So now I'm crushing on him lol
Yeah, it can be a very different approach depending on the men involved and I don't think neither is any better or worse. The positive of a direct approach is there is no lack of clarity. The positive of the subtle approach is it feels more respectful. Good luck with your crush. It's always fun having someone you look forward to seeing :)
Blk women always loved white men. We're just afraid sometime to be a 'betrayal of the race'. I kinda think we're a bit intimidating, alot of us has strong personalities.
You should never feel like you are “betraying@ your people because you’re following your heart. I’m sorry that was ever in question. Find your man, girl! You deserve to be happy.
The conditioning… “a lot of us” have this or that and we’re intimidating. The bottom line is we all have individual personalities, that’s nothing to do with color. If you believe that about yourself, that’s fine. That intimidation narrative is old!
Man, what a great video! As a single white man, you hit basically EVERY fear that I have when trying to approach black women, and one in particular (lol).
Oh, yay! So glad you enjoyed it and found the information to be accurate (at least to your own experiences). That’s a huge win for me. Be well and I wish you luck with your pursuit of love. Take care! ✨❤️
As a white man I love black women because I have felt more nurtured by black women growing up than by white women, excluding my mom-she is amazing. But outside of my mom white have always have been more condescending to me. Black women have such an amazing beauty, style and confidence that just melts me. 🥰🥰☺️
You are 100% when a majority not all white people come off condescending as if Black people don’t have common sense. I’m quick to call it out and roast the hell out of someone doing that slick move. Other than that, I respect your honesty about Black Women. Don’t believe the negative lies and stereotypes. 👏👏👏
As a black woman from Africa living currently in Sweden, I used to find white men here strange. It is making a little bit sense now after watching this video because I was most of the time pissed of by the attitude of some of them. They would stare at you and some time you feel like they are following, them being around you almost all the time. If you make eye contact, they sometimes look elsewhere. I found it creepy actually because I'm used to the black men ways. They are usually direct and to me, that reduces the risks of misunderstanding. But now I know that they mean no harm, in the contrary. But still it feels weird to me!
I went through the same situation in highschool with my best friend who was a white guy . Me and him use to make fun of each other and used humor a lot. He later admitted to me he had liked me 7 years later. because we had lost contact with each other. I told him I never knew or what have guessed. I admitted I liked him too. I never noticed how subtle white men are when it comes to their approach. That’s so attractive to me.
Omg, this happened to me in high school too..but this was in the early to mid 90s. And silly me wasn't open to it at the time because of conditioning and to this DAY I regret it. Have no idea where he is now...and he was cute.
@@orahs_worldall white men know that a black woman is difficult for a white man. the white man feels fear when a black woman is interested in him. it is a type of inferiority. amanda's ethnicity has superior physical characteristics. Will the East have the courage?
Hi Amanda, I think the trope that "Black women are the least likely to date and marry outside of their race" is believed by a lot of white men. Certainly my realisation that I was attracted to Black women was at first me thinking that it was unlikely that I would be able to find a Black woman who would want a relationship with me, a white man. Nice framing of the shot, by the way.
It's tricky because there are definitely many black women who feel that way but I do believe that things are changing and that more and more black women are opening up their options and I love to see it. And thank you! Now that I have a proper desk/chair set up it's easier to make videos from a new angle. Be well!
@@stevefanning-vg2rgI’m from Toronto, Ontario, Canada, too. Yes there are many interracial couples here. I’m open to dating AND marrying a WM or any other male who treats me with the same love and respect I have waiting for him. Until then, I have no issues being single. 😊🫶🇨🇦
You are so spot on! We (I) start out as friends but then get scared of compromising the friendship later. It’s also a way of ensuring you do nothing that is insincere. Touch, hugs, compliments can help build up that confidence to something more-what’s the woman’s responses to those things-men’s fear will melt away if the response matches the effort.
I adore black women ❤ I find them easier to talk to too ! I have always been very attracted to black women . unfortunately not many black ladies here in Australia 🇦🇺
Are you kidding we are here unless you live here in a small town. I live in NSW and l personally wouldn’t know if a white man is interested in me because black men tend to be overt about their actions.
Take a trip to SA , uganda, Kenya, Nigeria. Caribbean Islands , UK , or the US., she is waiting for you. Pick any of the places listed because language isn't a problem so easy to talk to . I'm Irish married to a Ugandan for 23 years, you won't regret it , go find your beautiful lady
BW don’t flirt because everyone tells us that we are the least desirable, even if that’s the furthest for the truth. BW into WM will most likely not show it. I’m married to a WM and dated all kinds of men before, mostly WM. They hurry up and get into relationships with me, but my dating experiences as a BW is not typical. More WM have chased me throughout my life.
Before I met my wife I pursue a black woman for 6 months who told me she is only interested in white men. She told me for her to change her mind I need to make $200k/year, have a house, drive a BMW, and pay 100% of her bills. I don't know if she was joking with me or just being a dick but I stop pursing her and she eventually found a white guy who I heard was an complete leech. I met my wife a few months later.
I don't flirt with anyone but if and when I do I can tell they're put off. I think I live in the wrong country. I can't begin to imagine, what is it like having options?
As a BW I never believed WM could be attracted to us so whenever a WM flirted with me it went over my head I just took it as him being friendly…it wasn’t until recently I realized WM flirt A LOT different from BM they will flirt with you seems like forever before they actually express they like you lol
I am always astonished to read things like this. You would be surprised to know that black women are very attractive to us. Here in France, black woman/white man couples are extremely common. Do not mistake fashion or advertisement with real life. In real life white men are attracted to black women, we have always been. 😉
Thanks so much for this video, I’ve never dated outside my face in all my years of dating I stayed loyal to black men. Although I love black men I just want something different now.
Thank you so much for watching! I really appreciate your viewership. There's nothing wrong with wanting to step outside of your comfort zone. You never know unless you try :)
I've been with my black girlfriend for 8 years, and I think she appreciates the fact that I love her not because she's black, I love her for who she is. We did have the conversation early on in our relationship over whether or not I was dating her as a novelty just because of her colour (we live in Western Australia, which has to be one of the whitest places on the planet). I think my confused reaction probably said all she needed to know, but I just told her I was dating her because I thought she was hot. As a result of that conversation, even today her nickname is Hot Stuff. Yes, I love the fact that she's black, but it's an incidental part of why I find her attractive. I play the guitar and sing in a band, so I've never had an issue with confidence, but I do find it odd that white men would be intimidated by the thought of approaching black women. Any woman, regardless of colour, is going to smell that fear/hesitancy from a mile off, and she's likely to be put off by it. So any white man who displays such behaviour when approaching a black woman is just setting himself up for failure.
very lovely video amanda! you hit it on the freaking nail when you said "i know in some spaces you feel like you can't be direct. but there are some people who appreciate that." girl!
As a black woman, we are very much attracted to white men.. but, there are a lot of challenges to be able to approach us to have a conversation because their are societal expectations for both male and female
Totally appreciate your insight Amanda. I always assumed White Men are just not interested in dating me a Black Woman...but maybe I missed the signs, because I'm so use to Black Men being so bold with their feelings, I just expect other Men to do the same thing. Next time I'll know to look out for those subtle hits. Thanks for sharing my friend and I have a lot of your videos to catch up on 🙈.
Hey Johnneladderley03 if that is you in your profile photo you have nothing to worry about! You are beautiful. I'm a white man and only interested in black and latina women. Life is what you make it.
Oh man, I think the anxiety is there for men of other color when it comes to approaching black women. I'm a mix hispanic/white man who has always adored black women, but have been a little intimidated by how strong they can come off as. Not to mention also being of a heavier set adding to the anxiety lol.
As a Black American Man, I encourage our counterparts to go for it or whoever they like. We as Black men have been doing it for along time. Explore your options; we do. Not all Caucasian guys prefer Asian & Latino women as pushed by media, society etc. Same for us Black men; so many folks think we run after Caucasian women. That's far from the truth, heck all my friends are married to different types of Asian women. In our FB groups we have quite a few Asian men that are in relationships with Black women. Ladies go for it. Just want to encourage Black Men & Women Not to put down each other. That narrative is Very destructive.
Don't have one problem flirting with black women been around black women my whole life my two sisters my grandma my sisters friends my brother i was adopted we are puerto rican & italian but none of that should matter life is short date who want to date and all these stereotypes about black women that's bullshit find out for your shelf and yes black women are beautiful for sure
@AmandaAwakens I’m a white man in my 20s and I’ve been becoming more attracted to black women. Seems like they’re always in their 30s. Anyways, you basically described my approach to a certain black woman I’ve had a crush on for months. Even though she was the one who approached me and she’s definitely flirted with me a lot and made what I thought were advances. But we’ve maintained a friendship for months. She’s not been direct with me and it’s made me afraid to make a move even though I think she wants me to. Anyways now my main concern is that she’s no longer interested in me because I was so afraid to make a move when in hindsight, it was obvious she was wanting me to make a move on many occasions.
You should go for it. I say that because there are so many people in my comments and emails who send me messages about how they wish they would have pursued a woman from 10, 20, and even 30+ years ago. You definitely don’t want to have that sort of regret. Although I do recognize it’s far easier for me to say this than for you to do it and so I wish you the best of luck and discernment. Be well! 💕
I agree with Amanda go for it. Have the conversation while having coffee or lunch (you pay), have a couple of laughs to lighten the moment and tell her something like, I like when we have moments like this and how much you enjoy being with her. Take it from there.
How old are you exactly? I'm almost 24 and I'm always mistaken for 14-15. It's a bit annoying but once I get in my late 20s early 30s I don't think I'll care as much.
Good topic, Amanda. I think a romantic relationship that began as a long friendship is more likely to last. By that time, you should know each other well and have established trust.
When I was in school I was super nervous. But the more I explored my attraction, the more natural it felt. Years later, when I first flirted with a black woman the difference was palpable. I winked at her in a slow and natural way. It made her face melt.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Seems like you've gotten flirting down a T. I'm really thankful to be in a relationship because I am a TERRIBLE flirt lol.
I don't know. I work closely with a lovely white man and i did try to show interest but i have enjoyed getting to know him as a friend. I noticed he seems to put space between us. In example I tried to initiate hanging out sometime and he agrees, but he always says he has other plans. I think he likes me more as a friend, which is fine. Im not trying to make something thats not comfortable. So now i just focus on myself and still be a good friend.
And sometimes that’s all we can do is focus on ourselves and creating opportunities with and for more active suitors! Wishing you such a lovely weekend. Be well. ✨💕
As a white man. Not all white men are as friendly and lowkey with their intentions like your friend was with you. I'm white and I make it obvious from our first meet that I'm into you
Of course. There’s no “all” or “everyone” to anything I discuss. I try to always make the disclaimer that I’m speaking from my own experience and that if I do generalize it’s for the sake of making a 10-12 minute video versus a 2-3 hour video where I try to break down all the nuance and even if I tried that would be impossible because we are all so nuanced and individuals vary significantly.
Full transparency… Twice married to a BM. The first cheated. Second (current) takes me for granted and hurts me out of his childhood hurt. OVER IT. Makes me wonder if I would have had a better relationship with someone outside of my race. My family is multiracial, but I identify as Black to keep it simple. I’ve found that some BM are intimidated by me. Some have told me so! I simply don’t know why. I’m a nice person. I’m a loving companion, faithful, intelligent, straightforward and generally a happy person. I don’t know why I’ve had “bad luck” with BM. Honestly, I don’t know if this marriage will last. (I’m truly trying) But if it’s not meant to be, I’d be open to dating a WM. I just wish to be loved and appreciated. Thank you for your video. It was illuminating.
Wow, I opened up this app and saw this comment and it really touched my heart. All things race aside, I really am wishing you clarity and courage. The clarity to know what's best for you and the courage to pursue what's best for you. You are worthy of the love you put into the world and you are worthy of someone recognizing your contributions. Sending love and light to you.
@@AmandaAwakensThank you. I appreciate the encouragement. This is not easy. I’ve invested years into this relationship, but my heart is not holding up well underneath these circumstances. Keep me in your prayers. 💕💕
I will say, 98% of my interracial(I'm a white male/dating black females) relationships have come from online dating. But the "feeling like a creep," comment is def true and I hate to say the "metoo," movement has had an effect as well. Men in general and especially white men have to be more careful, especially when meeting a female in a work, social, or school environment. So we end up being very passive-aggressive, being friends first or where if we get rejected it's not a hard no, and we can take a small step back.
I'm sure the Me Too Movement did make many men take a step back from approaching women and if that is the price that we as a society have to pay to bring light to sexual harassment and discrimination then even though it sucks, it's worth it until we can find a better solution. I have found that most of the men who worry about being "creeps" aren't creeps and that when you do start off on that friendship footing you will have such a higher chance of having a successful relationship because you've been able to learn one another without the pressure that sometimes comes with romance. Thanks for commenting and be well!
@@AmandaAwakens Haha...so true, the guys who are creeps don't even care if they come across as one. I hope I didn't come across as downplaying the metoo movement. Its also 50% of something is better than nothing, that we rather be friends than be nothing. Where I think some other ethnicities of men it all or nothing is taught of how they should relate with women. I've also dated black trans women and you have to be even more passive-aggressive as they have been fetishized and sexualized by many cis men.
Be bold men. Be assertive. Women don’t like meek. Regardless of color. Good content. Im a WM and grew up in an all white community so I felt awkward with different races. But I think the media doesn’t focus on what we have in common. Which is a lot. I had women of other races hit hard on me and I was too stupid to know.
Hello Amanda. Thank you for your very insightful content. I am a single black woman that has never dated outside her race before and up until I watched this video, I thought that white men did not find me attractive at all. Now I am eager to put myself out there to find my white king because of this. Thank you sis!
I think same race relationships will always be the "norm" but there are definitely many people out there willing to step outside the box. Just remember that at the end of the day people are people and men are men. The same standards you would apply to one group make sure you apply to all groups. I am wishing you the best of luck in your journey for love. Be well!
At an early age, back in school, I usually had crushes on black girls but thought they wouldn't like me. And I didn't get along with most white girls. It felt like we came from different worlds. But by the time i got to high school and came out of my shell, i realized i had more of a chance with the girls i liked than i thought.
For me, I'm definitely attracted to white men but I live in Georgia. I don't get approached by white men in person. I do online, but they ask questions like, "Do you like white chocolate and I'm like ughhh. Not this approach. That feels like a fetish. I just wonder what we'd have in common. I'm definitely open to it. I'm just nervous.
As a White male who has dated a dozen or more Black women I can tell you this: you have to have confidence and swag. If they turn you down, just move on to the next one. I have dated 3 Black women who didn't even like White men but they dated me because I had Swag. Good luck, hope this helps.
Personally, and "personally" really is key here, I could care less if my partner has "swag" (which I don't think he does lol). I care far more about the character of a man and if they are good-natured and reliable. "Swag" is like a cherry on top!
An Auntie chiming in: Amanda, it’s so refreshing to see and hear a young, Black, educated, confident, well-spoken woman express herself intelligently while being fully clothed, not constantly touching her hair, no outlandish fake eyelashes/nails, no neck rolling, no foul language, not shaking her hips nor turning her butt up to the camera……none of the foolishness that seems to be common among our young women today. Thank you! THANK YOU! Continued blessings in 2024.🙏🏽🙏🏽
That's kind of you to say! While I don't have those personality traits I have no ill will or unkind words for the women that do. We all go through different phases at different times for reasons beyond our understanding. Also, I should add in that I cannot dance so that's why you won't see my hips shaking on camera hahaha. Be well!
The reality is that my girl is black but I never really think of her like that. When are together its so peaceful and that romantic connection in our environment feels restored.
this girl is spot on. when she said that alot of white guys are more subtle, I got flashbacks to all the times I fumbled a girl by being to cautious and indirect lolol.
I do agree with the friendship starter (of which so many I missed the “ques” for - also I believe you should be friends before lovers) Mmmm… this gives me some hope.
I'm a white guy from south africa. I have dated many black woman. Maybe it's cause I come from a different culture to you guys in US, but never had these fears. If I like you I will be bold!
You made a great point with being open to befriending white women, you’re exposing yourself to culture outside of your own. I’ve made friends with white girls and then women from middle school into adulthood. My best friends are Asian. I can comfortably relate to white men because I’ve always been in their spaces and now on a consistent basis because I entered a sailing ⛵️ program and it’s a predominantly white space and I’m sometimes the only black person in the room and I never feel like an outsider or hope that a black person will accompany me. I very much enjoy outdoor activities like hiking, sailing, climbing etc. I consider myself a granola girl and those qualities of me always bring me into white or other cultural spaces and it’s an entire joy. Can’t wait to meet my special someone. Love your content.
Thank you girly! I always appreciate your thoughtful comments. I can't wait for you to meet your special someone as well. I have no doubts he'll be a fortunate man to have found you. Be well!
Another great thing about these spaces is everyone is in their practical gear and sharing an activity, you can’t really hide or be fake in those scenarios so it’s a great way to find genuine connections. With sports and outdoor activities you also discover who the jerks are (male and female) that never help if someone is struggling, or refuse to be team players - genuinely competent, kind, fun and considerate people stand out.
I think what you’re saying as true. And from my experience as a white woman who has dated black men, I think white men in general are more subtle in approaching women overall than black men (generally speaking from my experience)
Great content Amanda, finally starting my journey towards interacial dating with other non black men, as point of refrence can you do a video about " What type of Questions to ask about Race" when it comes to a potential date/partner. Its great if black girls get to understand and vet men who can be secretly racist , who might not like black women and potentially try to fetishize us.
A black woman like Amanda can get any white man if she wants. It's impossible for a white man who is still blond to be able to handle a black woman like Amanda. I'm white and blonde so I'm weaker. I wouldn't have the physique to support such a strong physique. A white man Blonde doesn't have the slightest chance with a black woman. Serena Williams must control herself so as not to hurt her white husband. Imagine if Serena puts pressure on him?
I think a big part of it is the backlash from the Me2 movement. It seems like most anything a man would do comes off as creepy, even just saying "Hello." There's also the subtle cues that men may not pick up on that a woman is interested in them. Or maybe the women aren't sending THOSE signals but just the "friend" signals.
That's understandable. As someone who has been a victim of harassment personally and professionally I am a major fan of the MeToo Movement for bringing light to the harm many women deal with in the workplace and in their own lives. I do hope we can find a middle ground as time moves on so that we can continue to pursue meaningful relationships. Be well and thanks for chiming in!
I appreciate you! Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment. Those things really mean a lot to me. Believe it or not, I receive MANY comments from white men who live in and/or around Memphis who also say how difficult it has been for them to meet and date a black woman. It can be harder in the south but sometimes it's the difficult things in life that have the biggest pay off. Wishing you the absolute best!
D'awww! This is the best comment, ever. Hands down. Thank you so, so much! You ARE free and the only person who gets to determine the limits on your life are you. Be well pretty girl!
REAl attraction is just too difficult to hide from the intended. Every woman I ever dated told me she could tell after the first few minutes we met (lol)
I totally agree with these sentiments. I'd be hesitant to show my interest in a black lady too in fear of rejection or goofiness lol But yes, i think white men are attracted to black women simply because they look different and are of a different culture. It makes it interesting to have these mixtures lol
It's very interesting to me so many men seem to feel that way and don't feel that hesitation towards women of other races. I would assume the fear of rejection is the same regardless of the person you're pursuing. Thank you for chiming in and have a good day. Be well!
Amanda, you are amazing. You along with Stephanie Perry, ENERGI, and Pinky Girl Travels the World have revolutionized how black women move within the dating world. The world for the first time is open to black ladies and millions of us have or are currently getting our US Passports and traveling the world in search of love, marriage, and family. Your videos are powerful and very helpful and for that, I thank you Amanda. I predict that not since the Great Black Migration that occurred at the beginning of the 20th century are we going to see a mass exodus of black women from Gen Z to the Millennials and even Gen X leaving America and traveling to foreign countries to meet, date, and marry men of different ethnicities. We are going to create great communities all over the world and we are going to leave our mark and our legacy for posterity🤵🏻♂👰🏾♀💍🤰🏾🤱🏾👶🏽👶🏼💖💗💓💞
I'm a very old white guy. I was always shy. One of my (black) Navy friends decided to teach me how to meet women. I was honestly kind of shocked. He would just walk up to a random woman and say "what's your name?". Since then, I have found that tactic works on pretty much everybody. But the one black girl I dated was a college girl in my Economics class. I didn't like her because she was black. I just liked her.
That’s a tried and true tactic! Of course some people may be rude, but I take that as a positive. You see their true colors in advance instead of finding out later down the line. Thanks for sharing and be well. ✨❤️
you are so under standing about relationships, I am glad that I am not the only one that miss cues from other friends who wish to have a more personal relationship. keep up the good fight Amanda
This was very interesting, but I've had mixed experiences between all races of men. I've had white men be very forward with me-super complimentary and outwardly flirty. I've also had them be really mild around me, but so thoughtful and eager to help that I figured they were just kind-but, then thinking back, realizing that they weren't just being kind, they were going out of their way to be extremely helpful because they liked me/or were attracted to me. But, I've also had black men, hispanic men, and asian men go between these two extremes as well. So, I can't say that subtlety is a white guy thing-it's an individual thing.
Everything is always nuanced! I wish I could speak to all those nuances but I have to generalize for the sake of video length and clarity. There’s truly nothing that is specific to race and individuals will always be individuals lol. Thanks for watching!
This is an eye opening video. I feel like I’m in a twilight zone. Back in 2021, I was living in a neighborhood that I moved out of in the fall of that year. Yet prior to that, there was a man who was white and very very tall that stopped me on the street to tell me I looked lovely or beautiful. I never really got a good look at his face I guess. I forgot all about it and moved into the current neighborhood I’m living in now. I happened to go to a grocery store in the old neighborhood this past Saturday night. I wasn’t going to go as it was a little late and as I walked into the supermarket, I got to an aisle and I saw this really tall guy, he just stood out to me for some reason. I glanced at him briefly and he looked my way so I decided to go into another aisle to pick up the things I needed. He actually came into the aisle and waved at me because I had my AirPods in. I took them out and he said to me “I just wanted to say you look lovely and I’m sure you hair if often.” I kind of didn’t know what to say but I said thank you and then he went about his way. I actually stared at his face and he had some beautiful green eyes and a super long beard. Then it came back to me that he’s the same guy who approached me a few years ago. It was eerie to me. Who would’ve thought that he would be in the same place I was in at the same time? I really don’t know why he keeps stopping to tell me this, but I just figure he’s giving me a compliment and I leave it at that. I guess I’m trying not to read into it, although some of my friends say that it’s a common way that white men flirt (he didn’t ask me for my number) 😂
Tall, beautiful green eyes and a super long beard? I'm sold lol. Your story is so common (just check out the comments). It makes you wonder how many matches out there haven't been actualized because that contact zone/barrier was never broken. Be well and thank you so much for sharing your story!
@@AmandaAwakens Hi, thank you for your video. What do we do when this happens ? Like... Should we ask for their number or... ? Please girl I need help
I wish i would have found this 3yrs or more ago when i was with ny exfiance it would have done ny relationship real justice. I was so use to being treated like a piece of meat by black men i didnt know what to exspect. We were together8yrs he treat ke and my son so well. Him and my son just began talking again. I was really happy he answered him on messaenger. I really miss him its veen 3yrs and i still love him even more so. 😢😢😢due to my alcoholism i failed my family. Now im sober im feeling the heat and loneliness
I'm so sorry to hear this and at the same time so proud of you for finding sobriety! Your past is your past and while it can no doubt still bring up painful feelings you now have the opportunity to create a beautiful future for yourself and your son. We all have "would've, could've, should've been" moments in our lives but where there is life there is hope and possibility. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable comment and I am wishing you the absolute best of luck. Be well
This is so true. This is my experience too. Black men are so direct and that's what we are used to. so when a white man likes you. its hard to recognise their approach. I have friend-zoned so many of them and years later the penny dropped for me. Someone, please explain this to white men.
Pretty spot on video the only things I would "nitpick" is for me its not that I or we don't believe BW would be interested in me/us its more us feeling out if you are a girl who doesn't have a problem with ID. Other than that pretty good insights over all.
Glad you thought this was spot on. And that's a worthy point to nitpick. I only mentioned it because in the emails and comments I receive from many men, they often mention their hesitation to approach black women because they have this preconceived notion we are uninterested in white men. Of course their experience is not the experience of all. Thanks for watching, commenting, and be well. Happy holiday season!
I’m a white male who dates black women. I always take a subtle approach with them. I am a retired nurse who worked at a county hospital here in Florida. So I was usually in contact with black women ( nurses ,therapists,administrators,visitors)and they’re usually pretty sweet on me. There was one who was the daughter of a patient of mine. She was attractive.I bumped into her again the following night,as the man was assigned to me for a second night in a row. I remember she was wearing a dress and white stockings and told her she looked very nice, but I prefer ultra sheer coffee stockings on a black women .Lo and behold ,when she came during the visiting hours the following day,she was wearing ultra sheer coffee stockings.We dated for a while.as her dad was recuperating.It was a fun relationship. Unfortunately, she had to return to her life in California. We remain good friends to this day..
I am Italian and I am not familiar with the social interactions in the United States between white men and black women. I can say that I have always loved women of all ethnicities, but I have never had the opportunity to fall in love with a black woman here in Italy, partly because there are few of them, since the African diaspora began in the 1980s and there are more men than women, and then because the vast majority of African immigrants are of the Islamic faith. Italy among developed countries is among the least multicultural. If you go to France, Australia, Canada, Germany, the United Kingdom the situation is different. So it is quite normal that on the street you find many multi-ethnic couples because there the phenomenon of immigration started a long time before here in Italy, but apart from that I think white men are cautious in relating with black women because most of the time they make a mistake in conversing with them, either for cultural reasons or because of the jealousy of many black men, according to what some of my foreign friends have told me in their dating with black women.
Your 100 % correct on the friendship step and that's the best way because you truly want to date your best friend ...wife in the long run ...you understand it most don't
Absolutely. I definitely want my partner to be my best friend. I've always thought it was more important to "like" your partner versus just "loving" them. Be well and have a good day!
I lived in a black neighborhood for over 40 years and you would be hard pressed to catch a BW being with a white man unless they were arguing in the street. Just about every BW I encountered in that time period often expressed how much they hated WM and their reasons were always very petty. Only after I moved out of that black neighborhood & bought a house in a quiet & peaceful neighborhood, only then did I find friendly & down to earth BW. They still won't date white guys, but at least they are a tad bit more friendly as they aren't influenced or pressured by other jealous POC to stay away from WM. A lot of the time, the thing that keeps BW away from WM and visa-versa is usually the pressure from other people of the same race who insist that you stay with your own kind and dictate your happiness for you. Sometimes WW do it to WM as well.
Yea, he finally became a little more “forward” with me after 8 months 😅 and here I am dumbfounded, to say the least… and getting nervous and not knowing what to do. Thank you for this video
Oh that's so funny! The comments don't lie lol. A LOT of women have this experience. No need to be nervous (of course easier said than done). Just be yourself. Clearly that's what he likes.
🙋 greetings, as what maybe perceived as a white male. Half white half native. Been dating black women since 1969. The stories I could tell you. The good, the bad and the ugly of my experiences. My last and final woman of 18yrs of marriage. We were only friends for 24yrs. Because she's not only 10yrs younger but also we really didn't have the opportunity to connect because of me frequently in other relationships. Have had MANY white males ask me to teach them about approaching a black female. The majority fell out with, "I'm afraid of what my family and friends would think" cop out. THAT'S their main issue
You say half native. I'm curious what tribe you identify with if that's what you're referring to. And yes, the harsh reality is that a) many people simply aren't attracted to people outside of their race or b) those who are are not afraid of the social ramifications that can occur when dating someone outside of their race. I can sit here all day and encourage people to think beyond race but I can't alter reality lol. I do hope though that as the world continues to change and grow more people look at people as simply people and that we all begin to look towards heart and character over simply race. Thanks for chiming in!
I usually assume black girls wouldn’t be interested in me, partially because I know some black girls that say they only date black guys, and then partially just because I’m alt, and super into heavy alt music, and I know all my black friends talk about how that’s white music and they don’t like it, so I assume the style and aesthetic isn’t as often liked by black women, as maybe a white guy that is more into hip hop
There are black women out there who are also into heavy alt music. I'm not saying they are the "norm" but they exist. Also, I wouldn't really rule out potential partners based on music unless you are a musician or it's a focal point in your life. I love my partner and we are the best of friends but there's not a ton of music that we both love and that's okay. We do have some overlap with older things but newer things are sounds are completely different. Unless a shared love of music is important to you it's not really a dealbreaker (imo) when it comes to finding a partner.
@@AmandaAwakens I am a musician, but as long as someone is into me, and we get along, then I'm into it haha. But anyways, I think my coworker might be into me, and after watching some of your videos, I think I'm going to ask her out soon!
@@AmandaAwakens omg you are so right! my husband loves rock and grunge, I am total in to trance and techno music( i grew up in germany lol) but that did not stop me from dating him. In fact I approached him first while he was stationed in Germany. I am from east africa btw
Sorry I wasnt here for the Live, Amanda. Im rewatching right now. I was in the kitchen watching Spaghetti boil (lol). Great content as always. 🌹💕👏 Keep it up, Our community needs a great channel / forum like yours.
You have to play the RUclips games to win the RUclips prizes lol. Please know that I know that all people are people and there are far more similarities between us than differences. I hope those of you who requested this video find it helpful and wishing you the absolute best weekend!
You are a beautiful , intelligent young woman with a great personality. You are right on point when you say we are all basically just people. I love and always have been very attracted to the beauty of black women and I've made that very apparent over the course of my life and am very glad that I did. Vive La Différence, what a boring world it would be if everyone was alike.
appreciate the video our sister, i am a white guy who loves color, and women of color - i think you all are so funny, kind, sweet, powerful so many times ( if not always by potential 💖 ) and though it may be controversial, i want all the controversies that come with being with and loved by the softness and power that you all so vibrantly express, simply by being you - may God bless you sister, and may dreams for all of us, by love and in love - come true 💛 truly, earnestly - brother cam
I don't understand why black women would date white men. When they're considered nerds or lame. However I black nerd or lame guy are disrespected in the black communities, it's not as bad now.
You're the type of person I would love as a friend. You have the ability to see beyond race or maybe I should say being inclusive of races other than yours.
@@Cheech2106thank you so much for your kind words and your viewership. Be well! ❤
Yeah as a white man we don’t think y’all will be attracted to us cause we are white 🤷🏻♂️ but now I’m dating a Nigerian woman and she makes me happy and I make her happy and all we want to do is lift each other up to be the best person we can be
I find that odd. Most of us wouldn’t expect wm to be into us. There’s this idea that ww are the most desirable in the dating market.
@@ambersummer2685 for me personally as long as you have natural nice eyebrows that don’t need to be painted on my attracted to you lmao I know it’s strange but aye 🤷🏻♂️ but yeah I’ve talked to a lot of my white friends and we agree that we most of the time assume y’all won’t like us cause we are white lol
Congratulations!
Wishing you both all the best!
@@ambersummer2685I don’t think what he said contradicts what you said, I agree with him generally we think we don’t have a chance 😂😂 idk why though tbh, maybe the straight white man comments are getting to us lmao
@@jaystringer4294 the truth of the matter is both WM and BW feel the same that the other isn't interested..As a BW you always hear about how we are the least desired demographic when it comes to dating sites.. So that doesn't inspire confidence when it comes to potentially dating white men..
WM here who dated a fair number of BW before getting married to a BW (married 30 years now). As you note, we WM face a threshold question about whether a particular BW might be interested in a WM at all. We get rejected just for being white. It happens. In addition, however, there is also a worry that she will think we were just a thrill-seeker trying to satisfy a "brown sugar" fetish, as opposed to a man interested in a human woman who is black. So we go overboard in simply showing human, friend-like interest to make it clear that we are really interested.
Thanks for chiming in! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness with your partner. Be well.
Well said!
This is why it's so difficult for WM and BW to connect.Most WM don't think that BW are interested so they do not approach us which is understandable.. But I know that as a BW we also don't think WM are interested in us so no one makes a move!! I can't tell you how many times I have been out and there are WM staring at me (Im a pretty BW) but making no moves so WM sits there staring at me all night..I understand that the normal assumption would be we all prefer BM but I actually don't but it's so hard to meet WM and I don't feel comfortable marching up to a WM and starting a. conversation .
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Yes as said it here we can be rejected just being white. We know that majority of bw will reject us. Not as easy as commonly believed for white men.
Black women have a very powerful effect on most of us white men.. for me It lit my desire to provide and protect for her like I’ve never experienced, I became super attentive and was constantly thinking of shit to do for her 😅
wow, thats great to know!
They make you feel masculine.
Spiritual energy.
Stay sweet and kind! Cheers from Djibouti
This is so sweet!
I wish I had started pursuing black women 25 years ago when I was in high school. Black women have the power to make you forget the rest of the world. They are truly intoxicating.
Well, it’s never too late!
Aww, thank you!❤
Periodt 😌🔥
Thank you for making this video. It’s very accurate!
As a BW who does date out of my race, I first learned this in my twenties. A WM was continuously staring at me in a restaurant. I initially thought he was uncomfortable, considering “where the restaurant was located”. Until he eventually walked over and told me I was the prettiest woman he had ever seen. How sweet!
That is super sweet! Thanks for sharing.
I've had the same experience more times than I cam count they'll just stare and stare and I'm like why doesn't he approach and we'll both be looking and neither will say anything guess I'm old fashion and want the guy to approach but guess I better start saying something 😂💖
As a white man, I find black women extremely sensual and sexy. But what holds me back is that I have this mindset that they aren't going to be attracted to me because I am white...well technically native american but light skinned. For instance, there's a girl that I see every morning and she just takes my breath away every time I see her. But I'm hesitant because I have no idea how to approach her or even if she would be willing to go out. The weird thing is, is that I have no problem approaching white women, and getting them to date me. Maybe it's because I don't find them as intimidating because the attraction isn't as strong.
Thank you for this Amanda, this gives me confidence to try and put myself out there and see what happens. As we say in Lakota - Pilamaya (Thank You)
This may be a silly question but are the Lakota people of the N/S Dakotas? I'm always curious to learn more about indigenous/native tribes. And your fears/insecurities are VERY common. Truly, I hear this from at least one commenter on each video haha. Hopefully some of my content can help to relax those fears and as I always say, you really never know when you approach any woman what the outcome will be regardless of race/ethnicity and just because a black woman may turn you down that doesn't even necessarily mean it's because of your race/ethnicity. Wishing you the best of luck!
Thank you! And yep, Lakota are based out of the Dakota territories. My tribe is the Lakota Sioux tribe in Pine Ridge, it's located in South Dakota but I was raised in Indiana. I had the chance to reconnect with my tribe when I lived in Montana many years ago :)
Why would u ever want to be white passing?
If you are terrified good. You must never be turned away by fear. I think the thing that turns black women off to white men is their timidity. If you feel such passion for her why wait?
DUDE...smile and say. "How you doing "then you will know
As a white man I just go to a black woman and say you are beautiful
I've always wanted to do that! (to all women, though) But, I'm too scared of accidentally offending the women I compliment so I stay silent. Complimenting women I don't know just feels inappropriate somehow.
have you ever tried it??
Great idea!
Oh that is so sweet I'd definitely appreciate that!
@@Charlene-zc4ck No, I haven't. I'm too shy.
You’re speaking facts. They be so scared to talk. This white man literally walked past me and said hey in his shy voice and walked away so fast I couldn’t even see his face fully 😭 I’m like why didn’t you stop?
That's definitely the reality for many of them!
It's cause we think you would never mess with us for real
@@joeyz5577Awwww Joey! A lot of us are so open! 🇨🇦
Yes I get the same thing...please stop and say something
I'm a Irish man married to a Ugandan lady , Bugandan Engabi clan for 23 years 6 children. Men when making the introduction to the lady just be yourself nothing else , don't try to be something different the ladies can detect false actions a mile away.. keep true to her and honest and she will love you like you never been loved before. Even though we've been married a long time the passion is still hot like the first time we met.
A European (White) Man who wants to have an actual relationship with a woman of African descent often chooses a woman that is quite beautiful (at least to that European/White Man she is!). He will first seek to interact with her verbally, talking to her…being what she considers as “nice”. He’s presenting himself to her but women of African descent do not presume niceness to mean “relational/emotional interest”. He will listen to her to learn her preferences, character traits, intellect, etc. She thinks he’s wonderfully understanding and compassionate. (LOL!) If he has financial security….Once he has determined that he truly wants her to be “his” and his alone…..He will DO THINGS FOR HER. He will show her his ‘life’…..He will privately bring her into his personal space….his home….his office/company, etc. He will follow her habits to know what she is likely to be doing and when she will be doing it. A European (White) man with financial resources will simply make use of those resources for her benefit. He is NOT showing off….He is doing what European (White) men with wealth do….because accessing their resources is their “normal” when (and only when) they have determined that a Woman of African descent is a Woman he ‘wants’ and ‘needs’. That;s what those resources are for….to be used for something important or satisfying to that man. She becomes his ‘center’….and he is very sensitive to her emotional state….He’s not faking it….He truly is that uncomfortable if she becomes angry with him. Women of African descent make it clear when a man has messed up! Her slightest criticism will cut him like a knife. European men (White men) are not accustomed to the emotional directness that often comes with a Woman of African descent….and they love it…..dread it…..and will do anything possible to avoid it!!! In short - White men are careful but very deliberate when pursuing a Woman of African descent. He will enter “the unknown” of her social/professional/racial reality just to be with her. 🥰
I’m going to a movie with black woman on Saturday I hope it goes well
Wishing you the absolute best of luck!
How did it go?
Update!?
Update?
I wanna know too! 🤗
I can't wait for the day when people realize character of the person you are interested in is more important than their race.
I agree wholeheartedly. Character supersedes everything, always and forever.
Realized: Every BM I’ve dated has lacked said character- both are equally important. I’m tired of the trauma bonds ✌🏾
@@latinaking3816 Race has nothing to do with it. It's the type of men you are attracted to is. I've seen BW date a certain type of BM, get hurt, switch to a different race, and date the same type of man and get the same results.
The man that you need and the man that you want are two different types of people.
This has been MY experience. And you can’t keep doing the same thing expecting different results, right?
What I want and need are exactly the same, trust. It’s just nearly impossible to find mentally/ emotionally healthy BM.
Again- MY experience.
@@latinaking3816 You should try being a man for a week. You'll be surprised what some women will put you through lol.
But, I do agree, it's difficult find people who can easily trust. When you get around my age (assuming you aren't already there) you'll start noticing that the people you meet have past from which they've experienced emotionally trauma from a past relationship. Certain types of people handle it differently than others.
Both my current wife and my ex Gf (who was a BW) both experienced trauma in their past relationship but they are night and day compared to how that trauma manifested itself and how they dealt with it.
All I can say is one of them worked on improving herself and the other one didn't. I married the one who became the better woman.
As a BW I find that when I do pay attention to a WM and our eyes meet I always look away first because I think he won't be interested in me as a Black Woman and nobody likes to feel silly about maybe a chance at talking...
Hi Amanda. Thanks for explaining this. As someone who’s dated white men, I’ve noticed this. There’s a guy I know for 10 years. I couldn’t remember exactly how we met. In the last 2 years we’ve been in touch more often since he’s moved to the city I live. Since the end of lockdown and everything opening up again we’ve caught up in person in social gatherings and Christian assemblies. At these events he’s always come to find where I’m seated and chat during breaks. We happened to go out to dinner recently with another group of people last weekend and that’s the most time I spent in his company. We went home together. He so proudly tells people how he met me. He’s such a character and I can be my true self around him.
Aww that’s amazing! I’m really happy for you and hope that things can continue to go well between the two of you (if that’s what you’re hoping for of course). Fingers crossed. ✨💕
good for ya! GBY
@lookatyou1881You're a sad, lonely person.
Marry him
@@nicks2581 TRUTH
Hi Ms. Amanda. As a white man who's married to my black queen, keep doing your thing and telling the truth. You are making a big difference. People are very quietly paying attention and getting together. I see it more and more everyday.
Hey, thank you so, so much! And congratulations on your union. Wishing you two a lifetime of love and happiness. Be well.
It's 🎉beautiful swirl loving and vice versa , but ppl still face racism I do for who I am with.🎉
@@MorainalorettB Morning and happy Wednesday to you. Remember, it's not you or the person you're with. Racism is caused by lack of education, love, understanding, patience, self destruction, jealousy and whatever else that pops into their weak hearts and minds. We faced it in Philly, NJ, Texas and VA. Remember, you're not alone. So, F em. You make you happy, and your partner should add to your happy.
See you tube is deleting responses.
@@MorainalorettB You do what makes you happy. Your partner should add to your happy. Remember not everyone has a course charted for there life. Racism is just people letting evil run their lives for whatever reason instead of being an intelligent adult for whatever reason. We faced this in Philly, NJ, Texas and VA. F em, don't let it stop you or bother you. Been in a few altercations because of it, but, that's not my women's job to deal with it, it's mine from whomever starts it. ENJOY YOUR LIFE!! Today is a gift. Yesterday is the past, tomorrow will always be waiting. That's why today is called the present.
Ima white man and i love the directness. The beautiful queen im talking was direct and sincere from the start and i loved it!
Yeah being called creepy when you have genuine good feelings towards a woman is a terrible thing for a man to hear.
I don’t doubt that’s true. ❤️
My own experience as a white man completely agrees with what you say. I remember being so surprised the first time I mutual-matched with a black woman on a dating app that my first thought was to wonder if she swiped on me by accident.
I've always been attracted to and have dated white men, white boys when I was younger. I prefer the approach of white men. Their approach is usually gentlemen like. I don't like aggressive males.
You are talking about White-White men who are the subtle ones. The ethnic type White men from the Mediterranean, Middle East, and Eastern Europe are much bolder and won't hesitate to approach any woman, including Black women.
Especially Middle Eastern men!
INME, it's very subtle. They may offer to carry your grocery bag, or something else you may have in your hands. They will speak above a whisper so that you close in while in a public space. They may approach you with their head tilted down with a schoolboyish grin. They may ask for your random opinion about something in a vinyl shop. Because black women aren't used to this kind of display of masculinity, we tend to think nothing is happening. If he's into you, he will smile at you. They aren't going to straight up ask for your number until they get the green light to do so.
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Black women have always been attracted to me. I have an idea why. First because I don't treat them any different than any other women, which is charming, funny (dark sense of humor), and I get to the point. Also I won the NY Golden Gloves and never lost a street fight despite growing up in a mixed race neighborhood, and black girls tend to like guys who can handle themselves. Lastly, being handsome doesn't hurt either.
Hmm nice
The price of men respecting your space (literally and figuratively) is that you will have to be clear and unambiguous as to when you’re okay with them entering it.
I agree with this 100%.
The difference in bm/wm approach is true. The subtleness is true...i started working at a restaurant as a hostess. Immediately, one of the chef assistants, a black man, came out to me as im standing at the podium, diners in the restaurant and everything, and asked if he could take me out lol.... meanwhile, a server, a white guy, has been super thoughtful and subtle that I have to double-back and think...why is he so apologetic, thoughtful and considerate towards me....and it seems like me only? Does he like me?? And his thoughtfulness actually made me realize he's very handsome too. So now I'm crushing on him lol
Yeah, it can be a very different approach depending on the men involved and I don't think neither is any better or worse. The positive of a direct approach is there is no lack of clarity. The positive of the subtle approach is it feels more respectful. Good luck with your crush. It's always fun having someone you look forward to seeing :)
Ahh ...the sweet in lub white guy
@nicks2581 TRUTH. ...when you ARE only interested in something REAL
Hang out with them after work then
Blk women always loved white men. We're just afraid sometime to be a 'betrayal of the race'. I kinda think we're a bit intimidating, alot of us has strong personalities.
I'm curious, are you currently dating a white man or being courted by one? Or have you ever been with a white man as a black women in the past?
You should never feel like you are “betraying@ your people because you’re following your heart. I’m sorry that was ever in question. Find your man, girl! You deserve to be happy.
The conditioning… “a lot of us” have this or that and we’re intimidating. The bottom line is we all have individual personalities, that’s nothing to do with color. If you believe that about yourself, that’s fine. That intimidation narrative is old!
BM have never been afraid of being a betrayal of the race, so you should go for it.
Man, what a great video! As a single white man, you hit basically EVERY fear that I have when trying to approach black women, and one in particular (lol).
Oh, yay! So glad you enjoyed it and found the information to be accurate (at least to your own experiences). That’s a huge win for me. Be well and I wish you luck with your pursuit of love. Take care! ✨❤️
@coachtc1965 Don't be afraid to approach black women. We are not going to bite. Lol
@@lovelyone98 Send that message to Kansas City!! LOL
Go for it!!!!
BW/WM marriages are half as likely to end in divorce. I'm a white woman married to a white man.
Do what makes you happy. Don't stress about race. ❤
Thank you for chiming in. Be well
Makes sense.
As a white man I love black women because I have felt more nurtured by black women growing up than by white women, excluding my mom-she is amazing. But outside of my mom white have always have been more condescending to me. Black women have such an amazing beauty, style and confidence that just melts me. 🥰🥰☺️
You are 100% when a majority not all white people come off
condescending
as if Black people
don’t have common sense. I’m quick to
call it out and roast
the hell out of someone
doing that slick move.
Other than that, I respect your honesty
about Black Women.
Don’t believe the negative lies and stereotypes.
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We love you too!
@@leegaleaglenombo9430. You and who?
@@snobbishruk751 *sigh*
@@leegaleaglenombo9430I’m with you on that! SMH! 🤦🏽♀️ 🇨🇦
As a black woman from Africa living currently in Sweden, I used to find white men here strange. It is making a little bit sense now after watching this video because I was most of the time pissed of by the attitude of some of them. They would stare at you and some time you feel like they are following, them being around you almost all the time. If you make eye contact, they sometimes look elsewhere. I found it creepy actually because I'm used to the black men ways. They are usually direct and to me, that reduces the risks of misunderstanding. But now I know that they mean no harm, in the contrary. But still it feels weird to me!
I went through the same situation in highschool with my best friend who was a white guy . Me and him use to make fun of each other and used humor a lot. He later admitted to me he had liked me 7 years later. because we had lost contact with each other. I told him I never knew or what have guessed. I admitted I liked him too. I never noticed how subtle white men are when it comes to their approach. That’s so attractive to me.
Aww I’m not surprised you were in this situation it’s so common! Thanks for sharing. Be well. ✨❤️
I hope you and him find true love together! Human to human I say GET IT GIRL ❤
Omg, this happened to me in high school too..but this was in the early to mid 90s. And silly me wasn't open to it at the time because of conditioning and to this DAY I regret it. Have no idea where he is now...and he was cute.
I absolutely love black women.
And you are absolutely handsome!
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@@orahs_worldall white men know that a black woman is difficult for a white man. the white man feels fear when a black woman is interested in him. it is a type of inferiority. amanda's ethnicity has superior physical characteristics. Will the East have the courage?
We all love black women what is there not to like?? Are you saying this cause u feel they shouldn't be like or isn't liked already??
@@ProtectTheBlack-W please shut up 😭😭 don’t you see he’s just complimenting us
Hi Amanda, I think the trope that "Black women are the least likely to date and marry outside of their race" is believed by a lot of white men. Certainly my realisation that I was attracted to Black women was at first me thinking that it was unlikely that I would be able to find a Black woman who would want a relationship with me, a white man.
Nice framing of the shot, by the way.
It's tricky because there are definitely many black women who feel that way but I do believe that things are changing and that more and more black women are opening up their options and I love to see it. And thank you! Now that I have a proper desk/chair set up it's easier to make videos from a new angle. Be well!
@@AmandaAwakens, my girlfriend and I are noticing more BWWM couples in Toronto! We call them (and us) "wave of the future couples". 😉
@@stevefanning-vg2rgI’m from Toronto, Ontario, Canada, too. Yes there are many interracial couples here. I’m open to dating AND marrying a WM or any other male who treats me with the same love and respect I have waiting for him. Until then, I have no issues being single. 😊🫶🇨🇦
You are so spot on! We (I) start out as friends but then get scared of compromising the friendship later. It’s also a way of ensuring you do nothing that is insincere. Touch, hugs, compliments can help build up that confidence to something more-what’s the woman’s responses to those things-men’s fear will melt away if the response matches the effort.
I adore black women ❤ I find them easier to talk to too ! I have always been very attracted to black women . unfortunately not many black ladies here in Australia 🇦🇺
Hii
Are you kidding we are here unless you live here in a small town. I live in NSW and l personally wouldn’t know if a white man is interested in me because black men tend to be overt about their actions.
We’re glad to know that there are white men who appreciate the beauty of a black woman 🥰
Take a trip to SA , uganda, Kenya, Nigeria. Caribbean Islands , UK , or the US., she is waiting for you. Pick any of the places listed because language isn't a problem so easy to talk to . I'm Irish married to a Ugandan for 23 years, you won't regret it , go find your beautiful lady
My friend from Australia has a black gf all the way in the UK. That was his only luck 😂 might have to follow suit
BW don’t flirt because everyone tells us that we are the least desirable, even if that’s the furthest for the truth. BW into WM will most likely not show it.
I’m married to a WM and dated all kinds of men before, mostly WM. They hurry up and get into relationships with me, but my dating experiences as a BW is not typical. More WM have chased me throughout my life.
I have had a similar experience to you it seems. Thanks for sharing your insight. Appreciate you! Be well and happy holiday season.
Before I met my wife I pursue a black woman for 6 months who told me she is only interested in white men. She told me for her to change her mind I need to make $200k/year, have a house, drive a BMW, and pay 100% of her bills.
I don't know if she was joking with me or just being a dick but I stop pursing her and she eventually found a white guy who I heard was an complete leech.
I met my wife a few months later.
I don't flirt with anyone but if and when I do I can tell they're put off. I think I live in the wrong country. I can't begin to imagine, what is it like having options?
I'm sorry to hear that.
As a BW I never believed WM could be attracted to us so whenever a WM flirted with me it went over my head I just took it as him being friendly…it wasn’t until recently I realized WM flirt A LOT different from BM they will flirt with you seems like forever before they actually express they like you lol
This is definitely an experience many black women have had. Thanks for sharing be well and have a lovely day!
I am always astonished to read things like this.
You would be surprised to know that black women are very attractive to us.
Here in France, black woman/white man couples are extremely common.
Do not mistake fashion or advertisement with real life. In real life white men are attracted to black women, we have always been. 😉
I can honestly say that I am totally addicted to BW. You are the best!!!❤❤❤
Thanks so much for this video, I’ve never dated outside my face in all my years of dating I stayed loyal to black men. Although I love black men I just want something different now.
Thank you so much for watching! I really appreciate your viewership. There's nothing wrong with wanting to step outside of your comfort zone. You never know unless you try :)
I've been with my black girlfriend for 8 years, and I think she appreciates the fact that I love her not because she's black, I love her for who she is. We did have the conversation early on in our relationship over whether or not I was dating her as a novelty just because of her colour (we live in Western Australia, which has to be one of the whitest places on the planet). I think my confused reaction probably said all she needed to know, but I just told her I was dating her because I thought she was hot. As a result of that conversation, even today her nickname is Hot Stuff. Yes, I love the fact that she's black, but it's an incidental part of why I find her attractive. I play the guitar and sing in a band, so I've never had an issue with confidence, but I do find it odd that white men would be intimidated by the thought of approaching black women. Any woman, regardless of colour, is going to smell that fear/hesitancy from a mile off, and she's likely to be put off by it. So any white man who displays such behaviour when approaching a black woman is just setting himself up for failure.
My wife is Black and thank God she approached me because I never would have thought she'd be interested.
very lovely video amanda! you hit it on the freaking nail when you said "i know in some spaces you feel like you can't be direct. but there are some people who appreciate that." girl!
I am white hansome man from Poland. I like black women ❤
Like your confidence Monsieur!😊
Hi! Confidence is key!
I treat all races equally. I just walk up to a woman and say hey girl do u want to watch the titanic with me? I hear its a good icebreaker.
As a black woman, we are very much attracted to white men.. but, there are a lot of challenges to be able to approach us to have a conversation because their are societal expectations for both male and female
This is very true!
You can let things unfold naturally without trying to force things with a lot of questions.
Exactly!
Totally appreciate your insight Amanda. I always assumed White Men are just not interested in dating me a Black Woman...but maybe I missed the signs, because I'm so use to Black Men being so bold with their feelings, I just expect other Men to do the same thing.
Next time I'll know to look out for those subtle hits. Thanks for sharing my friend and I have a lot of your videos to catch up on 🙈.
Thank you as always my friend for sharing your experiences and insight. You're a kind spirit. Be well and happy holiday season!
Hey Johnneladderley03 if that is you in your profile photo you have nothing to worry about! You are beautiful. I'm a white man and only interested in black and latina women. Life is what you make it.
@@lawdog369I’m black. And my name is Latina. Interested? 😂😂😂 jk
LOL. A 1000 times yes.😉@@latinaking3816
It's funny because as a white man, i think black women don't like us lol
Oh man, I think the anxiety is there for men of other color when it comes to approaching black women. I'm a mix hispanic/white man who has always adored black women, but have been a little intimidated by how strong they can come off as. Not to mention also being of a heavier set adding to the anxiety lol.
As a Black American Man, I encourage our counterparts to go for it or whoever they like. We as Black men have been doing it for along time. Explore your options; we do. Not all Caucasian guys prefer Asian & Latino women as pushed by media, society etc. Same for us Black men; so many folks think we run after Caucasian women. That's far from the truth, heck all my friends are married to different types of Asian women. In our FB groups we have quite a few Asian men that are in relationships with Black women. Ladies go for it. Just want to encourage Black Men & Women Not to put down each other. That narrative is Very destructive.
Don't have one problem flirting with black women been around black women my whole life my two sisters my grandma my sisters friends my brother i was adopted we are puerto rican & italian but none of that should matter life is short date who want to date and all these stereotypes about black women that's bullshit find out for your shelf and yes black women are beautiful for sure
@AmandaAwakens I’m a white man in my 20s and I’ve been becoming more attracted to black women. Seems like they’re always in their 30s. Anyways, you basically described my approach to a certain black woman I’ve had a crush on for months. Even though she was the one who approached me and she’s definitely flirted with me a lot and made what I thought were advances. But we’ve maintained a friendship for months. She’s not been direct with me and it’s made me afraid to make a move even though I think she wants me to. Anyways now my main concern is that she’s no longer interested in me because I was so afraid to make a move when in hindsight, it was obvious she was wanting me to make a move on many occasions.
You should go for it. I say that because there are so many people in my comments and emails who send me messages about how they wish they would have pursued a woman from 10, 20, and even 30+ years ago. You definitely don’t want to have that sort of regret. Although I do recognize it’s far easier for me to say this than for you to do it and so I wish you the best of luck and discernment. Be well! 💕
I agree with Amanda go for it. Have the conversation while having coffee or lunch (you pay), have a couple of laughs to lighten the moment and tell her something like, I like when we have moments like this and how much you enjoy being with her. Take it from there.
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How old are you exactly? I'm almost 24 and I'm always mistaken for 14-15. It's a bit annoying but once I get in my late 20s early 30s I don't think I'll care as much.
Good topic, Amanda. I think a romantic relationship that began as a long friendship is more likely to last. By that time, you should know each other well and have established trust.
Thank you as always for your support! I always enjoy reading your insights. Be well.
Men are always saying “look in the friendzone!” when women say “where have all the good men gone?”
When I was in school I was super nervous. But the more I explored my attraction, the more natural it felt. Years later, when I first flirted with a black woman the difference was palpable. I winked at her in a slow and natural way. It made her face melt.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Seems like you've gotten flirting down a T. I'm really thankful to be in a relationship because I am a TERRIBLE flirt lol.
Loveee when men wink❤❤❤
@@missssophisicated6742 Me too! Makes me blush! Good thing I’m black ! 😊🫶🇨🇦
I don't know. I work closely with a lovely white man and i did try to show interest but i have enjoyed getting to know him as a friend. I noticed he seems to put space between us. In example I tried to initiate hanging out sometime and he agrees, but he always says he has other plans. I think he likes me more as a friend, which is fine. Im not trying to make something thats not comfortable. So now i just focus on myself and still be a good friend.
And sometimes that’s all we can do is focus on ourselves and creating opportunities with and for more active suitors! Wishing you such a lovely weekend. Be well. ✨💕
If you can sense he’s not interested in you, then it’s best to move on and focus on yourself. Sometimes you have to let a man initiate something.
There a white guy at my job that acts weird around me. If he sees me, he freezes or goes in another direction. I don't know what it means.
I don't know what it means either. :) The only way you will know for sure is if you ask him.
As a white man. Not all white men are as friendly and lowkey with their intentions like your friend was with you. I'm white and I make it obvious from our first meet that I'm into you
Of course. There’s no “all” or “everyone” to anything I discuss. I try to always make the disclaimer that I’m speaking from my own experience and that if I do generalize it’s for the sake of making a 10-12 minute video versus a 2-3 hour video where I try to break down all the nuance and even if I tried that would be impossible because we are all so nuanced and individuals vary significantly.
Full transparency…
Twice married to a BM. The first cheated. Second (current) takes me for granted and hurts me out of his childhood hurt.
OVER IT.
Makes me wonder if I would have had a better relationship with someone outside of my race.
My family is multiracial, but I identify as Black to keep it simple. I’ve found that some BM are intimidated by me. Some have told me so!
I simply don’t know why.
I’m a nice person. I’m a loving companion, faithful, intelligent, straightforward and generally a happy person.
I don’t know why I’ve had “bad luck” with BM.
Honestly, I don’t know if this marriage will last. (I’m truly trying) But if it’s not meant to be, I’d be open to dating a WM.
I just wish to be loved and appreciated.
Thank you for your video. It was illuminating.
Wow, I opened up this app and saw this comment and it really touched my heart. All things race aside, I really am wishing you clarity and courage. The clarity to know what's best for you and the courage to pursue what's best for you. You are worthy of the love you put into the world and you are worthy of someone recognizing your contributions. Sending love and light to you.
@@AmandaAwakensThank you. I appreciate the encouragement. This is not easy. I’ve invested years into this relationship, but my heart is not holding up well underneath these circumstances. Keep me in your prayers. 💕💕
I will say, 98% of my interracial(I'm a white male/dating black females) relationships have come from online dating. But the "feeling like a creep," comment is def true and I hate to say the "metoo," movement has had an effect as well. Men in general and especially white men have to be more careful, especially when meeting a female in a work, social, or school environment. So we end up being very passive-aggressive, being friends first or where if we get rejected it's not a hard no, and we can take a small step back.
I'm sure the Me Too Movement did make many men take a step back from approaching women and if that is the price that we as a society have to pay to bring light to sexual harassment and discrimination then even though it sucks, it's worth it until we can find a better solution. I have found that most of the men who worry about being "creeps" aren't creeps and that when you do start off on that friendship footing you will have such a higher chance of having a successful relationship because you've been able to learn one another without the pressure that sometimes comes with romance. Thanks for commenting and be well!
@@AmandaAwakens Haha...so true, the guys who are creeps don't even care if they come across as one. I hope I didn't come across as downplaying the metoo movement.
Its also 50% of something is better than nothing, that we rather be friends than be nothing. Where I think some other ethnicities of men it all or nothing is taught of how they should relate with women.
I've also dated black trans women and you have to be even more passive-aggressive as they have been fetishized and sexualized by many cis men.
Many thanks for sharing your views. As a mature adult, I’ll keep my mind wide open, dating a Christian woman ✨☀️💖🙏
Be bold men. Be assertive. Women don’t like meek. Regardless of color. Good content. Im a WM and grew up in an all white community so I felt awkward with different races. But I think the media doesn’t focus on what we have in common. Which is a lot. I had women of other races hit hard on me and I was too stupid to know.
Hello Amanda. Thank you for your very insightful content. I am a single black woman that has never dated outside her race before and up until I watched this video, I thought that white men did not find me attractive at all. Now I am eager to put myself out there to find my white king because of this. Thank you sis!
I think same race relationships will always be the "norm" but there are definitely many people out there willing to step outside the box. Just remember that at the end of the day people are people and men are men. The same standards you would apply to one group make sure you apply to all groups. I am wishing you the best of luck in your journey for love. Be well!
At an early age, back in school, I usually had crushes on black girls but thought they wouldn't like me. And I didn't get along with most white girls. It felt like we came from different worlds. But by the time i got to high school and came out of my shell, i realized i had more of a chance with the girls i liked than i thought.
Appreciate the time you take to do these videos darlin love from Wisconsin God bless
Hey thank you so much for watching! Be well and have a lovely day.
For me, I'm definitely attracted to white men but I live in Georgia. I don't get approached by white men in person. I do online, but they ask questions like, "Do you like white chocolate and I'm like ughhh. Not this approach. That feels like a fetish. I just wonder what we'd have in common. I'm definitely open to it. I'm just nervous.
As a White male who has dated a dozen or more Black women I can tell you this: you have to have confidence and swag. If they turn you down, just move on to the next one. I have dated 3 Black women who didn't even like White men but they dated me because I had Swag. Good luck, hope this helps.
Personally, and "personally" really is key here, I could care less if my partner has "swag" (which I don't think he does lol). I care far more about the character of a man and if they are good-natured and reliable. "Swag" is like a cherry on top!
An Auntie chiming in:
Amanda, it’s so refreshing to see and hear a young, Black, educated, confident, well-spoken woman express herself intelligently while being fully clothed, not constantly touching her hair, no outlandish fake eyelashes/nails, no neck rolling, no foul language, not shaking her hips nor turning her butt up to the camera……none of the foolishness that seems to be common among our young women today.
Thank you! THANK YOU!
Continued blessings in 2024.🙏🏽🙏🏽
That's kind of you to say! While I don't have those personality traits I have no ill will or unkind words for the women that do. We all go through different phases at different times for reasons beyond our understanding. Also, I should add in that I cannot dance so that's why you won't see my hips shaking on camera hahaha. Be well!
The reality is that my girl is black but I never really think of her like that. When are together its so peaceful and that romantic connection in our environment feels restored.
this girl is spot on. when she said that alot of white guys are more subtle, I got flashbacks to all the times I fumbled a girl by being to cautious and indirect lolol.
I do agree with the friendship starter (of which so many I missed the “ques” for - also I believe you should be friends before lovers) Mmmm… this gives me some hope.
Wishing you the best!
I'm a white guy from south africa. I have dated many black woman. Maybe it's cause I come from a different culture to you guys in US, but never had these fears. If I like you I will be bold!
You made a great point with being open to befriending white women, you’re exposing yourself to culture outside of your own.
I’ve made friends with white girls and then women from middle school into adulthood. My best friends are Asian.
I can comfortably relate to white men because I’ve always been in their spaces and now on a consistent basis because I entered a sailing ⛵️ program and it’s a predominantly white space and I’m sometimes the only black person in the room and I never feel like an outsider or hope that a black person will accompany me.
I very much enjoy outdoor activities like hiking, sailing, climbing etc. I consider myself a granola girl and those qualities of me always bring me into white or other cultural spaces and it’s an entire joy. Can’t wait to meet my special someone.
Love your content.
Thank you girly! I always appreciate your thoughtful comments. I can't wait for you to meet your special someone as well. I have no doubts he'll be a fortunate man to have found you. Be well!
@@AmandaAwakens 💗💗
Another great thing about these spaces is everyone is in their practical gear and sharing an activity, you can’t really hide or be fake in those scenarios so it’s a great way to find genuine connections. With sports and outdoor activities you also discover who the jerks are (male and female) that never help if someone is struggling, or refuse to be team players - genuinely competent, kind, fun and considerate people stand out.
The white guy I have the hots for is probably 30 years older than me…UNREAL ☕️ 😂 i could cry……my life is impossible😢
Damn lol 😆
I think what you’re saying as true. And from my experience as a white woman who has dated black men, I think white men in general are more subtle in approaching women overall than black men (generally speaking from my experience)
Great content Amanda, finally starting my journey towards interacial dating with other non black men, as point of refrence can you do a video about " What type of Questions to ask about Race" when it comes to a potential date/partner. Its great if black girls get to understand and vet men who can be secretly racist , who might not like black women and potentially try to fetishize us.
Hey, well wishes on your journey! And absolutely I can make a video like that. Thanks for supplying such a great idea. Have a lovely Sunday!
A black woman like Amanda can get any white man if she wants. It's impossible for a white man who is still blond to be able to handle a black woman like Amanda. I'm white and blonde so I'm weaker. I wouldn't have the physique to support such a strong physique. A white man Blonde doesn't have the slightest chance with a black woman. Serena Williams must control herself so as not to hurt her white husband. Imagine if Serena puts pressure on him?
I think a big part of it is the backlash from the Me2 movement. It seems like most anything a man would do comes off as creepy, even just saying "Hello." There's also the subtle cues that men may not pick up on that a woman is interested in them. Or maybe the women aren't sending THOSE signals but just the "friend" signals.
That's understandable. As someone who has been a victim of harassment personally and professionally I am a major fan of the MeToo Movement for bringing light to the harm many women deal with in the workplace and in their own lives. I do hope we can find a middle ground as time moves on so that we can continue to pursue meaningful relationships. Be well and thanks for chiming in!
@@AmandaAwakens Well said!
Appreciate your content! I have always been attracted to WM,but I live in the South...Memphis to be exact. It's very difficult to meet someone!
I appreciate you! Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment. Those things really mean a lot to me. Believe it or not, I receive MANY comments from white men who live in and/or around Memphis who also say how difficult it has been for them to meet and date a black woman. It can be harder in the south but sometimes it's the difficult things in life that have the biggest pay off. Wishing you the absolute best!
I definitely appreciate it when women initiate things! I, unfortunately, find it exceptionally difficult to make myself initiate anything.
Her vids are so insightful and freeing ❤
D'awww! This is the best comment, ever. Hands down. Thank you so, so much! You ARE free and the only person who gets to determine the limits on your life are you. Be well pretty girl!
@Amanda..can u start doing videos reading the emails u receive from men..really would be interesting..
Yeah! I’ve been thinking about doing that and just withholding private information. Thanks for the encouragement. I’ll add that to the list. ❤️✨
@AmandaAwakens Exactly..then we can hear their thoughts str8 from them..Love ur channel..
REAl attraction is just too difficult to hide from the intended. Every woman I ever dated told me she could tell after the first few minutes we met (lol)
I totally agree with these sentiments. I'd be hesitant to show my interest in a black lady too in fear of rejection or goofiness lol But yes, i think white men are attracted to black women simply because they look different and are of a different culture. It makes it interesting to have these mixtures lol
It's very interesting to me so many men seem to feel that way and don't feel that hesitation towards women of other races. I would assume the fear of rejection is the same regardless of the person you're pursuing. Thank you for chiming in and have a good day. Be well!
Amanda, you are amazing. You along with Stephanie Perry, ENERGI, and Pinky Girl Travels the World have revolutionized how black women move within the dating world. The world for the first time is open to black ladies and millions of us have or are currently getting our US Passports and traveling the world in search of love, marriage, and family. Your videos are powerful and very helpful and for that, I thank you Amanda. I predict that not since the Great Black Migration that occurred at the beginning of the 20th century are we going to see a mass exodus of black women from Gen Z to the Millennials and even Gen X leaving America and traveling to foreign countries to meet, date, and marry men of different ethnicities. We are going to create great communities all over the world and we are going to leave our mark and our legacy for posterity🤵🏻♂👰🏾♀💍🤰🏾🤱🏾👶🏽👶🏼💖💗💓💞
Aww thank you so much sweetheart. You're really so kind to put me in the same conversation as some of those women. Be well.
Yep..more subtle but good to stay open to it! Bw be smart pick up on these Q"s
I'm a very old white guy. I was always shy. One of my (black) Navy friends decided to teach me how to meet women. I was honestly kind of shocked. He would just walk up to a random woman and say "what's your name?". Since then, I have found that tactic works on pretty much everybody. But the one black girl I dated was a college girl in my Economics class. I didn't like her because she was black. I just liked her.
That’s a tried and true tactic! Of course some people may be rude, but I take that as a positive. You see their true colors in advance instead of finding out later down the line. Thanks for sharing and be well. ✨❤️
you are so under standing about relationships, I am glad that I am not the only one that miss cues from other friends who wish to have a more personal relationship. keep up the good fight Amanda
Thank you so much! Be well. 💕❤️
This was very interesting, but I've had mixed experiences between all races of men.
I've had white men be very forward with me-super complimentary and outwardly flirty. I've also had them be really mild around me, but so thoughtful and eager to help that I figured they were just kind-but, then thinking back, realizing that they weren't just being kind, they were going out of their way to be extremely helpful because they liked me/or were attracted to me. But, I've also had black men, hispanic men, and asian men go between these two extremes as well.
So, I can't say that subtlety is a white guy thing-it's an individual thing.
Everything is always nuanced! I wish I could speak to all those nuances but I have to generalize for the sake of video length and clarity. There’s truly nothing that is specific to race and individuals will always be individuals lol. Thanks for watching!
This is an eye opening video.
I feel like I’m in a twilight zone. Back in 2021, I was living in a neighborhood that I moved out of in the fall of that year. Yet prior to that, there was a man who was white and very very tall that stopped me on the street to tell me I looked lovely or beautiful. I never really got a good look at his face I guess.
I forgot all about it and moved into the current neighborhood I’m living in now.
I happened to go to a grocery store in the old neighborhood this past Saturday night. I wasn’t going to go as it was a little late and as I walked into the supermarket, I got to an aisle and I saw this really tall guy, he just stood out to me for some reason. I glanced at him briefly and he looked my way so I decided to go into another aisle to pick up the things I needed. He actually came into the aisle and waved at me because I had my AirPods in. I took them out and he said to me “I just wanted to say you look lovely and I’m sure you hair if often.” I kind of didn’t know what to say but I said thank you and then he went about his way. I actually stared at his face and he had some beautiful green eyes and a super long beard.
Then it came back to me that he’s the same guy who approached me a few years ago. It was eerie to me. Who would’ve thought that he would be in the same place I was in at the same time?
I really don’t know why he keeps stopping to tell me this, but I just figure he’s giving me a compliment and I leave it at that. I guess I’m trying not to read into it, although some of my friends say that it’s a common way that white men flirt (he didn’t ask me for my number) 😂
Tall, beautiful green eyes and a super long beard? I'm sold lol. Your story is so common (just check out the comments). It makes you wonder how many matches out there haven't been actualized because that contact zone/barrier was never broken. Be well and thank you so much for sharing your story!
@@AmandaAwakens wow, you’re right. Thanks for responding!
@@AmandaAwakens Hi, thank you for your video. What do we do when this happens ? Like... Should we ask for their number or... ? Please girl I need help
@@tatienono if he was really interested in you, he would ask for your number.
I wish i would have found this 3yrs or more ago when i was with ny exfiance it would have done ny relationship real justice. I was so use to being treated like a piece of meat by black men i didnt know what to exspect. We were together8yrs he treat ke and my son so well. Him and my son just began talking again. I was really happy he answered him on messaenger. I really miss him its veen 3yrs and i still love him even more so. 😢😢😢due to my alcoholism i failed my family. Now im sober im feeling the heat and loneliness
I'm so sorry to hear this and at the same time so proud of you for finding sobriety! Your past is your past and while it can no doubt still bring up painful feelings you now have the opportunity to create a beautiful future for yourself and your son. We all have "would've, could've, should've been" moments in our lives but where there is life there is hope and possibility. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable comment and I am wishing you the absolute best of luck. Be well
This is so true. This is my experience too. Black men are so direct and that's what we are used to. so when a white man likes you. its hard to recognise their approach. I have friend-zoned so many of them and years later the penny dropped for me. Someone, please explain this to white men.
Yep lol. This is the common thread.
Pretty spot on video the only things I would "nitpick" is for me its not that I or we don't believe BW would be interested in me/us its more us feeling out if you are a girl who doesn't have a problem with ID. Other than that pretty good insights over all.
Glad you thought this was spot on. And that's a worthy point to nitpick. I only mentioned it because in the emails and comments I receive from many men, they often mention their hesitation to approach black women because they have this preconceived notion we are uninterested in white men. Of course their experience is not the experience of all. Thanks for watching, commenting, and be well. Happy holiday season!
@@AmandaAwakens you too 😁
Let me save ya'll some time. We're subtle. We are low key.
I’m a white male who dates black women. I always take a subtle approach with them. I am a retired nurse who worked at a county hospital here in Florida. So I was usually in contact with black women ( nurses ,therapists,administrators,visitors)and they’re usually pretty sweet on me. There was one who was the daughter of a patient of mine. She was attractive.I bumped into her again the following night,as the man was assigned to me for a second night in a row. I remember she was wearing a dress and white stockings and told her she looked very nice, but I prefer ultra sheer coffee stockings on a black women .Lo and behold ,when she came during the visiting hours the following day,she was wearing ultra sheer coffee stockings.We dated for a while.as her dad was recuperating.It was a fun relationship. Unfortunately, she had to return to her life in California. We remain good friends to this day..
You got to shoot your shot 🤷🏼♂️
I am Italian and I am not familiar with the social interactions in the United States between white men and black women. I can say that I have always loved women of all ethnicities, but I have never had the opportunity to fall in love with a black woman here in Italy, partly because there are few of them, since the African diaspora began in the 1980s and there are more men than women, and then because the vast majority of African immigrants are of the Islamic faith. Italy among developed countries is among the least multicultural. If you go to France, Australia, Canada, Germany, the United Kingdom the situation is different. So it is quite normal that on the street you find many multi-ethnic couples because there the phenomenon of immigration started a long time before here in Italy, but apart from that I think white men are cautious in relating with black women because most of the time they make a mistake in conversing with them, either for cultural reasons or because of the jealousy of many black men, according to what some of my foreign friends have told me in their dating with black women.
Interesting. Thank you for sharing! Be well.
Thanks to you Amanda ❤
Your 100 % correct on the friendship step and that's the best way because you truly want to date your best friend ...wife in the long run ...you understand it most don't
Absolutely. I definitely want my partner to be my best friend. I've always thought it was more important to "like" your partner versus just "loving" them. Be well and have a good day!
I lived in a black neighborhood for over 40 years and you would be hard pressed
to catch a BW being with a white man unless they were arguing in the street.
Just about every BW I encountered in that time period often expressed how much
they hated WM and their reasons were always very petty.
Only after I moved out of that black neighborhood & bought a house in a quiet &
peaceful neighborhood, only then did I find friendly & down to earth BW. They still
won't date white guys, but at least they are a tad bit more friendly as they aren't
influenced or pressured by other jealous POC to stay away from WM.
A lot of the time, the thing that keeps BW away from WM and visa-versa is usually
the pressure from other people of the same race who insist that you stay with your
own kind and dictate your happiness for you. Sometimes WW do it to WM as well.
Yeah it's really unfortunate how we allow others to influence our personal decisions and potentially block ourselves from experiencing happiness.
Yea, he finally became a little more “forward” with me after 8 months 😅 and here I am dumbfounded, to say the least… and getting nervous and not knowing what to do. Thank you for this video
Oh that's so funny! The comments don't lie lol. A LOT of women have this experience. No need to be nervous (of course easier said than done). Just be yourself. Clearly that's what he likes.
🙋 greetings, as what maybe perceived as a white male. Half white half native. Been dating black women since 1969. The stories I could tell you. The good, the bad and the ugly of my experiences. My last and final woman of 18yrs of marriage. We were only friends for 24yrs. Because she's not only 10yrs younger but also we really didn't have the opportunity to connect because of me frequently in other relationships. Have had MANY white males ask me to teach them about approaching a black female. The majority fell out with, "I'm afraid of what my family and friends would think" cop out. THAT'S their main issue
You say half native. I'm curious what tribe you identify with if that's what you're referring to. And yes, the harsh reality is that a) many people simply aren't attracted to people outside of their race or b) those who are are not afraid of the social ramifications that can occur when dating someone outside of their race. I can sit here all day and encourage people to think beyond race but I can't alter reality lol. I do hope though that as the world continues to change and grow more people look at people as simply people and that we all begin to look towards heart and character over simply race. Thanks for chiming in!
I usually assume black girls wouldn’t be interested in me, partially because I know some black girls that say they only date black guys, and then partially just because I’m alt, and super into heavy alt music, and I know all my black friends talk about how that’s white music and they don’t like it, so I assume the style and aesthetic isn’t as often liked by black women, as maybe a white guy that is more into hip hop
There are black women out there who are also into heavy alt music. I'm not saying they are the "norm" but they exist. Also, I wouldn't really rule out potential partners based on music unless you are a musician or it's a focal point in your life. I love my partner and we are the best of friends but there's not a ton of music that we both love and that's okay. We do have some overlap with older things but newer things are sounds are completely different. Unless a shared love of music is important to you it's not really a dealbreaker (imo) when it comes to finding a partner.
@@AmandaAwakens I am a musician, but as long as someone is into me, and we get along, then I'm into it haha. But anyways, I think my coworker might be into me, and after watching some of your videos, I think I'm going to ask her out soon!
@@AmandaAwakens omg you are so right! my husband loves rock and grunge, I am total in to trance and techno music( i grew up in germany lol) but that did not stop me from dating him. In fact I approached him first while he was stationed in Germany. I am from east africa btw
Sorry I wasnt here for the Live, Amanda. Im rewatching right now. I was in the kitchen watching Spaghetti boil (lol). Great content as always. 🌹💕👏 Keep it up, Our community needs a great channel / forum like yours.
Oh no worries David! I’m glad you enjoy the content and always lovely to hear from you. Be well. ✨💕
Thanks for this video! Good insights!!