👩🏾🤝👨🏼3 SHOCKING TRUTHS WHITE MEN TAUGHT ME ABOUT BLACK WOMEN
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- Опубликовано: 11 окт 2024
- In this video, I'm sharing 3 shocking truths I have learned about myself as a black woman through my interracial relationships. These truths change the way you think about race in general. Listen and see how you can apply them to your own life!
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Many things like Black folks don't hike, we don't go into the woods. This was rooted in fear. I am an older Black woman and we were taught this because of a fear of what would be done to us in those spaces. I'm happy that times have changed and that young Blacks like yourself are exploring the beauty of the world, traveling, and experiencing interracial relationships- other points of view are so important for our growth as humans. Continue to thrive.
I appreciate your comment. Yes, we were taught to limit actions based on fear. I'm glad we are now in a time where black people, especially women are freeing themselves from limiting mindsets.
Wait until you meet a "white " prince that knows " if you keep your queen happy, you'll be happy 😊. Most men know "Happy Wife, Happy Life " my secret to you ladies. Feel free to use it on us. Nothing in the world is better than loving our girl, like she is the ONLY girl in the world! Not to make less of Houstons own Bey . You know what you are really worth. Every guy and any guy you want becomes putty in your beautiful dark, soft and silky hands!😂 Sorry, wasn't supposed to give up our guy secret. Black Beautiful women make it way to easy to speak our feelings that we shouldn't.
so deep. love your comment
Well let's also be realistic there are alot of dangerous wildlife in those woods that's not always maintained. I think black use common sense most of the time
As a white guy with high functioning autism called Asperger syndrome, I wanted you to know that I’m always doing my best to learn about other races and I find your videos highly informative and enjoyable. However due to my autism, I’m technically the weak link in any friendship or relationship. I do hope that one day I could find someone, but due to the fact I’ve been betrayed by a lot of people on the friendship level but also on the dating level and quite honestly, dating isn’t a top priority for me no matter who it is. I’m actually always misinterpreted and miss judged based on what I say, and do where people think that’s all I care about but your descriptions about white men I find enlightening because a lot of it I can relate to on a personal level. I find it more impressive if a woman can be independent and ask a guy just like any guy. I think your videos as a whole, though talking about one section, is valuable information for both men and women of all races. You are really a great example of bridging the gap. Stereotypes really just need to go out the door no matter who you are. After all information is power.
Thank you so much for watching and sharing this with me! I am so happy that my words have been helpful and have provided you insight. Your words are so kind and if they are any indicator of who you are as a person then your future partner will be lucky to have you! Be well and have a lovely day.
@@AmandaAwakens Thanks that means a lot. Sadly I tend to find more women who cares about what I have rather than who I am. I also have more women look and smile at me than actually talk to me. As a guy with autism, its already hard enough with social problems and trying to walk up to a girl to be friends with them gets me improperly labeled as only caring about dating. SADLY, I don't think there is anyone out there for me because I live in a world that isn't really made for autistic people. If there was and it was a girl that wanted to get to know me for me, they would be trying to find a way to talk to me then smiling from a distance when its already hard enough involving the social problems. That doesn't mean I don't believe in the classic way of things, just means its extremely harder for me then the typical guy. As of right now, looking and smiling from a distance isn't facts and because it isn't facts I won't do anything. I already have the odds against me. 1 and 5 autistic people have successful marriages and its 1 and 50 for a successful relationship and by my own statistics there's a 1 and 40 chance that I can even become friends with one. As a autistic person, the deck is stacked against me from birth so honestly I just don't think there is anyone out there which is fine for now because I would rather have something that lasts then be another autistic statistic. Yes I know people say there is someone out there for everyone, but sadly, unless I get facts, its hard for me to react to anything as I am perfectly aware that I don't read social ques properly so I can't base those as facts knowing that. I do hope one day but the facts are as it stands, unless one talks to me, there's not much I can do based on facts and making sure things are correct. Guess you can say I am a bit OCD when it comes to this sort of things because I don't want to become another autistic statistic. But hopefully one day..............Under gods grace.
Been hurt 1 too many times by fake people both at the friends level and beyond so I just don't look or feel the same way about relationships as most but your stuff does give me hope believe it or not.
And I do try to be a good guy, doesn't always come across like that correctly. Its disappointing. Always unintentionally ether don't make a good impression, or make someone feel uncomfortable or even make someone mad and I don't even have to try. Just naturally happens.
Oh and I wanted to say I'm a long time fan. If memory serves you have been doing this for like 2 years and I found your channel shortly after that. I don't say much BUT I do learn ALOT form your experiences. That means I have been here for far longer than I have been at the church I am currently going too, quietly watching quietly observing like I do with most everything in my life. Some people would probably assume that i JUST started watching and in retrospect you could say that because I did follow you just recently BUT for 2 years I just hadn't because I am very OCD when it comes to too many channels in my list, LMBO
Your experiences and the way you view things match up to the way I believe the world SHOULD BE, not what it currently is.
This is A Powerful Reason Why I Love Black Women !!!!! 😍🥰😘❤🙏
One of the best antidotes to racist ideas is the idea of individualism.
Yes, individualism works but to a degree. We have to also remember that we are interdependent beings living in an interdependent world. No man is an island.
Yes!!!! I love individualism! ✨️💛✨️
@@AmandaAwakens True
I may be wrong asking this. But we were all hunter gatherers at one time. Black people have always ridden horses, farmed & hunted just like white, red, yellow, purple & green people. Black people have always fished as well. When did the rumor start that it was not black to go outside?
When we tried to live like the Europeans in the big house on the plantation
Probably from slavery times, as My mother would tell me not to go outside because my skin would get too dark. I was in my early 20s when I finally realized how insane of a thought that is lol. It was preached to me my whole life
She didn’t say outside she said hiking which is sort of true. White people in general seek thrills differently than black people. They also on average have more leisure time and can afford to explore nature more. That’s all I think she meant by that.
If anyone travels to Africa, they’ll see Black peoples filling all of these roles.
BTW not swimming, not venturing out in the woods , not golfing’ playing tennis, etc… have origins in exclusion.
Sometime after 1900 black largely banned from public pools ( which everyone’s tax dollars paid for), so generations lost out.
Expensive sports such as golf & tennis (school systems paid for football, basketball & basketball).
In the south, for over a hundred years, it was unsafe for black folks in rural areas , as black people could randomly be accosted, threatened and even lynched, for simply making a wrong turn…
Thank you all so very much for honest answers. Just so you understand I have a 6 year old granddaughter who is half black. Her father chased her mother with a butcher knife & picked her up by her throat off the floor when she was 3. Needless to say he has no more contact with his daughter, but, he doesn't have to pay any child support either. My father took me fishing regularly from age 9 to about 13. It was good bonding, we had great personal talks & we knew each other so much better. But, as my granddaughter is going to have to be taught how to be black by her white mother & grandmother & I am not a fool, things that I don't understand can be life threatening for her. Have no doubt that I love her. Because of these honest answers, lazy spring days fishing at a river for bonding is out. Maybe I can send her grandpa away & I can teach her to sew or something, for bonding.
You and Stephanie Perry, along with Pink Pill, have done amazing work on behalf of black ladies. For that, I say thank you, Ms. Amanda🥺💐
Stephanie Perry? Aww I love her channel! Thank you so much. What an honor to be put in a conversation with women like this. Be well and know you’re appreciated. ✨💕
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LOL, you are so welcome! You know summer is almost over but let me tell you this. All summer long everywhere I went (I live in California) I saw black teen girls, black young women, and even older ladies walking hand in hand with nonblack men. Not just white men either, but Latino and Asian guys and yes, of course, hot white dudes. And one thing I noticed is that both were really smiling and looked happy to be in each other's company. The world is more open to us than ever before and my friends and I have passports and traveling is the best thing that us black ladies in 2023 and beyond can do to find love and marriage and build strong happy families. Amanda thank you so much for your videos Help with the movement of black women divesting into a better place for all of us black ladies🤵🏻♂👰🏾♀💍
@@amethyststone1678Loved ur comment
@@amethyststone1678well said. I’m a wm living in the uk and I have been a subscriber & advocate of Amanda’s channel since its inception. I would encourage you to travel, the world is small place, to gain knowledge and experience of life, furthermore it is no surprise to me that the number of bwwm relationships continues to increase, right across the age spectrum, throughout Western Europe.
@@missssophisicated6742 😊Thank you!
Glad you escaped the monolith and and are proud to be independent and think for yourself. You’re awesome!
Hey thank you so much! It’s not easy escaping the “monolith” because everyone and everything seems designed to keep you contained within it but so much of what we want lies on the other side of our comfort zone. Be well! ✨💕
Hello there. I’m from a Mediterranean background and my partner is of afro-Caribbean heritage. We’re both 🇬🇧 uk born and bred.
We don’t talk about race, we never have, we’ve never had the courage. We know each others parents, we live together, never talked about it.
Great video.
She’s so pretty.
I feel more comfortable around black women
Black people don't do outdoor things in the woods? We come from Africa, the most outdoor woodsy continent in the world.
Some do less now
I thought Michigan was 😢
I actually had to watch your video a couple of times to digest some of the things you said. I never looked at any of my relationships as a competition that I had to win. I just want someone that I can enjoy life with and that we can both learn from each other. One of the things that I have learned is that stepping out of your comfort zone can be, and usually is, a good thing. Thanks again Amanda.
Aww thank you as always for your support. I appreciate you more than you know and always look forward to your comments and insight. Be well! ❤
Great video; the lessons are true across races and anyone non-Black who doesn't think they apply universally is shortchanging themselves. Limiting beliefs are bad regardless!
All the best.
Yes! Self imposed limitations in my opinion are the worst form of limitations! Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to chime in. ❤
Good lessons. We can grow by opening our thoughts to new ideas across racial lines. Yes 100%!
Thank you for understanding the intention behind this video and saying it in such a succinct and accurate way. You are so, so appreciated! ❤
Maybe another thing to consider is the prejudice of stereotypical thinking. When someone looks at life I thru stereotypes there is no accounting or room for individuality, which could be the beauty of an interracial relationship. Two people looking at each other as INDIVIDUALS and not stereotypes. Two INDIVIDUALS who care and relate to each other instead of stereotypes.
“Black people don’t hike” had me cracking up bc it typically is true😂 thanks for the content❤
Thank you! So many people in the comments are mad at me for saying this like it’s not common for many of us lol. And there’s nothing wrong with if we do or don’t! Different strokes for different folks. ❤️
OMG! The stereo types were the first things I noticed when dating interracially. Also, the femininity part was true for me. The main thing I appreciated and loved was the ability to be myself and function as a human without being asked to Do.
Great video❤
Thank you so much for watching and commenting! So glad this resonated.
I felt the same way about hiking but now I love it. I could definitely relate with your experiences and glad you covered this topic 👏 ❤❤❤
Thank you as always my sweet friends! ❤
Truth has been spoken. I agree 1000% , When we can rest comfortably in our femininity, we are the most feminine beings out here. 🧔🏼♂️🩷👩🏾🦱
Take good care of yourself, Amanda! You let yourself be first. We, (your followers) from Spokane to the rest of the world. Are greatfull that you have opened the rest of us the see how beautiful a woman, that is strong and sensitive can be! Its not my fault they ALL happen to be Beautiful Black Women. That's Just the way it is. Thank you Amanda! Live the best life you can, you definitely deserve it! 💋 from Spokane to Tacoma. Don't look back, Thank you for giving hope. Priceless!
Binge watching your videos and im def a new subbie! "a man will appreciate how strong you are!" absolutely love it
Aww so happy you’ve found the channel! And it’s true. Strong men aren’t just attracted to strong women; they *require* a strong woman 😉✨
thats right! just wanted to share something I was told while having a conversation with a white man on a dating app the other day! i NEVER thought a white man would admit this but he said the one of the main reasons he wants biracial children is because "I want a strong woman to be the one to raise my children" (btw he has no kids currently). i said wow, i don't blame him.
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My answer to the hiking question would've still been, no, but not because "blk people don't hike." My answer would've been, "I'd love to but I cant." When asked why, the answer to that is "I'm de¤thly agraid of getting bitten by a tic and getting Lyme Disease." It may even be a phobia of mine.🥹
I'd absolutely LOVE going skiing, which I have NEVER been able to get any blk friend, family member, or romantic partner to do with me.😩 They also won't go to the opera or the symphony with me, which everyone knows I love since I'm a classically trained violinist. (I don't play professionally anymore.)
Its so frustrating being locked into one set of activities all because of some made up "cultural norms." I'm mixed-race but I was raised to identify as blk. I have dated white guys and they"re really not into the stuff I've mentioned either. They like hiking, dogs, fishing, sports, cooking... blah, blah, blah.😅
Well, the cooking is not so blah, especially the Italian guys, since I'm not the most domestic myself.🤣
To be fair, if you live on the East Coast ticks are a huge problem! Living on the west coast, or at least here in the PNW hiking is a lot more fun because ticks aren't a problem at all or like a super small problem. I used to run into ticks daily when hiking/walking my dog back in NY and haven't had any encounters yet so that's a major relief. It is frustrating though the "cultural norms" and how limiting they can be at times. Be well and have a lovely weekend!
@@AmandaAwakens Yes, Amanda, it is definitely more of an east coast worry. I never thought about it from that perspective until you just pointed it out. I am a lifetime NYer and I'm a Gen-Xer, and we used to run around playing in the fields as kids. That is, before every square foot of land was "developed."
So, I did enjoy the woods when I was a child, but I also remember kids getting tics on them and getting them out was a major production. Luckily, none of us kids got Lyme Disease but a couple of adults did get sick. As years went by, I learned they had gotten Lyme. Hence, my fear. I've learned to explain this in great detail to any white guy that asks me to go hiking because, unfortunately, there is that stereotype that "black people don't like to explore the wilderness." So, I feel like I have to explain myself.
What's even more unfortunate is the fact that, as you've shared in this video, the stereotype is actually often true. Thanks for responding to my comment and be well, beautiful! 🤩💛✨️
Unfortunately in the past black men were murdered while hunting in the woods a lot back in the days so men taught their boys that it just wasn't safe.
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Yes, I know this to be true and only didn’t mention it in this video because I’ve mentioned it in a previous one. There are many reasons, include a lack of leisure time and the inaccessibility of nature in many urban areas that prevent people of color from enjoying nature in the ways in which many (of course not all) nonblack people do.
Women were treated the same. It was no more safe for women.
Black people in my experience are more gentle and humble. I'm white. But that's my opinion. Sorry about the hiking thing. That is terrible. Nature is very spiritual. Everyone needs it. Strong women are super attractive.
You gave lots of great information. New sub here.
So glad you enjoyed! Take care and wishing you a happy new year. ✨
This was excellent. It should go viral!
Aww so glad you enjoyed! Thank you so, so much. 💕✨
I think I get it. When women say "my truth" they mean their opinion or their belief, not necessarily truth as it is defined.
Right, we all have a personal truth or truths that are defined by our life experiences. But when I think of "my truth" I think of what is authentic to me. Some people say they are living their "truth" and I always take that as they are being their most authentic selves. You're not getting a facade or veneer but the real raw person.
Lady Amanda! I can never make it through one of your wonderful videos without shedding Happy tears! I loved everything about today's message especially the last portion of the video that is championing self-love and strength. I MUST echo what a previous subscriber said to you...Thanks to you and Stephanie Perry I am really enjoying this season of my life of growth, evolution and the feeling of no shame associated with hoping to meet a wonderful "hot white dude" as the fellow subscriber stated it so beautifully! LOL It's really nice to have videos like this that encourage me to dwell in possibility. Enjoy what is left of this summer and I look forward to your videos resuming in September! xx
Aww thank you as always sweetheart! And yes to Stephanie Perry! She's really doing such amazing things out here. I was just watching one of her recent videos and I love, love, love what she stands for. Be well my friend.
@@AmandaAwakens 😘😘
Really liked your talk! Very reflected :)
Thank you! Really happy you enjoyed. Be well. 💕❤️
I'm a black heterosexual man, but encourage black women to date, marry & procreate with other races of men. I am a 'Realist', I deal in reality. Marry men who will 'Protect & Provide' for you. I fully support the "Swirling & Divestment" Movements #BlackGirlSwirl 🙂
Thanks for chiming in! I really hope that we can get to a point, however unlikely, where race means nothing in terms of searching for a partner or at the very least character and values is the priority.
Keep it up Amanda. Thank you for opening doors and horizons for women to look for white guys that really do love a black woman for her amazing beauty. If we love black (soft silky skin and beautiful) we love a woman's black/African roots beauty for everything she is and her experiences that have made her who she is. Keep Opening Minds! Please.
Thank you so much! I’m so happy my content has resonated with you. That’s the ultimate compliment. Be well my friend! ✨💕
Get down to it they are more down to earth and i can relate
Can you do a video on what a brown man should do to be in a relationship with a black woman i hope i wrote that correct lol
You did 🥰
A fish cannot teach a fisherman how to fish. You need to go to the fisherman for that info.
Um, express your interest (respectfully) and date one. Not to mention I think you have an interested candidate in this reply section.
I somehow missed this comment, but better late than never?
To answer your question all a brown man has to do is be kind, emotionally intelligent/communicative, and able to provide for your partner in the ways in which she needs and to know that in this day and age where many women have their own financial security and ability, we need more than men who are just wallets and many of us want men who are more than wallets. We want men who will listen, engage, and respect us and be not just our intimate partner but our friend. Don't be afraid to approach us! Many men nowadays shy away from approaching so a man who isn't afraid already has the "one up" on men who are reluctant. And I can't emphasize this enough: be yourself and be your most authentic self. Of course making a good first impression is important but you do not want to mislead anyone into them thinking that you are someone or something you are not. This sets you up for failure and you want to be loved for who you are because who we are is enough (with some tweaks here and there :) ). I hope this helps! Be well.
@@AmandaAwakens thank you 😊😍
No dispute with your main point. But as a Black man born & living in the US. I would just dating “interracially” isn’t some secret key to a more expansive life. You live and workin the US, you can do these things.
Camping, hiking, triathlons, zip lining, parasailing, etc… that said, yes I’m likely to encounter my brothers and sisters of European descent in these activities, but the same is true at the workplace. Lots of diversity in corporate America & throughout Tech. Other fields as well.
But if someone is working at a fast food spot around the corner, then no, you’re likely not being exposed to the world, beyond what you see online & on cable.
This was her path, but it’s almost as though she “feels” this access could only be gained by dating interracially. That’s the narrative I have to push back on.
Definitely not my thoughts. All healthy relationships are the “goal” and not relationships based on race. I stated in the video multiple times this is my personal experience and not some standard or the rule and I have stated in several videos that interracial relationships are not superior to any other style of relationship. All love is love.
WMBF supremacy ❤
Shocking truth black women have treated me better and are easier to relate with and don't have the toxic baggage of white women prefer working with black women work with a sweetheart right now at McAllisters...
Growing up, every BW that dated WM, and there weren't that many during that time, ended up killed, in the most degrading way. As such I was always afraid to date any. But I always liked them. Still do. Would I date one now? Yes. And it seems like more BM are killing BW now. I'm more afraid of them now.
Unfortunately, men harming women is a constant across all races. All women can really do is protect themselves and be as discerning as possible when interacting with men.
Thx 4 another installment/take care 🤠🐎
Thank you so much for watching! Be well
This is so true ❤
Thank you so much for chiming in. Be well! ❤
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Good video! As always thanks Amanda
Thank you as always for watching and commenting! Be well
This is toxically dangerous and misinforming my sister, if I may call you that. I am a proud Black brother in a community of brothers that have taken the time to learn our our culture and our history as well as other peoples culture and history. My experience has been the people or black men in your case that you catch depends on the pond you fish in and type of fish that are attracted to your bait. I could be wrong but It appears to me that you came from a family and community that was quite limited and when you met Brad or someone of another race that hikes, skis, rock climbs, surf's and skydives you're like "Oh my God!" I know allot of Black young men who do the above. Queen, there are plenty of Black Kings out there that would love and respect you. my sista, It makes me feel a certain way when your experience is put out there as a given.
I was very transparent in this video (and all my videos) that my experience is just that: my experience. I am no standard and my experience is no standard. It's a small droplet in a big ocean and I always emphasize that. I also believe there are many black men out there who would treat me with respect as well. At the same time, knowing people who do those things doesn't change the fact that as a whole in this nation (USA) we do not do those things at the same level that others do and that's okay to recognize that truth (and it is true if you look at multiple environmental studies, urban studies, national park surveys and studies, etc.). It doesn't make us inferior. It doesn't make our experience inferior and there are socioeconomic reasons behind why this is true. It's okay to recognize the multiple truths that coexist within a cohort of people and none of these truths are diminishing of any others. But, long story short, I'm sorry you find my sharing of my experience to be toxic. Many other black women found it validating of their own experience and some even found inspiration in hearing my perspective and at the end of the day, those are the women for whom I create content. Be well and have a lovely new year!
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There are a bunch of research studies that prove black people are not as outdoorsy as white people for reasons that go back to the Jim Crow era of segregation, black people not allowed into outdoor recreational spaces, and violent crimes committed against black people during that time. Just because you know some other black men that hike and you hike, as well, does disprove all the research that shows the majority do not.