Very important subject ! Toxic relationship is not only about « open abuse », but much broader… If you are not happy and do not feel fulfilled while in the relationship, it means there is something wrong with it
I wish someone would talk about toxic relationships with siblings. Having a narcissistic older sister has been the biggest challenge of my life and the dynamics and challenges are different than when it’s an intimate partner
I also think that we project very quickly, what we want to see and believe in a potential partner. If he’s cute and charming, then automatically we project who we want him to be, onto him. I think we also need to learn how to slow that process down internally. Great convo. Love you both ❤
So true, so important. It’s easy to be misguided coming from these dysfunctional homes. Pace yourself ladies and really, really, be trusting your gut. I know where I came from, I hadn’t even known what love truly is. Wasted lots of time learning what it is. And honestly…it was the love from the family of the father of my two children that showed me what true love really is. And I’m grateful, that they had that, and that I learned from that.
@chilloften...I hear you. I didn't have "fatherly love" till I married and met my father-in-law. And my husband's whole family. Their "healthy examples" of family were alien to me for awhile. But after being married 26 years, I am so grateful and blessed for it. My father-in-law passed two years ago. My mother-in-law this year. I love them and miss them both.♥️
I just started listening. I don't know if they will go into it or not, but the hot and cold, the breadcrumbing, really takes an effect when we start to feel that the reason they treat us bad is because of those things that would cause us to be unlovable in any other relationship situation.
I think this raises an intresting point. We often xonsider other people as outside of their brain but they are in it as is everything we experience so when they tell us words, those words would look to us in the same way as when we tell ourselves words so i believe that a simple way to see if someone is in a toxic relationship is to ask them how they would feel if they did to themselves what their partner does to them and if the experience is negative then of course the relationship becomes toxic
I have followed the two of you for a while and then this came up. Great subject and discussion!! That you also tell these personal stories makes it very relatable, clear and real. I wish I had channels about relations and psycology when I was young, but even now at 50 I learn a lot. I guess most of us see many kind of toxic relationships during a lifetime, or even are in them ourself. I think it should be educated about these things in schools. You two should get a Superwoman title for the work you do!
In order to save women, we must heal men. Teach them that emotions are going to be heard and even respected. Too many women commit domestic abuse, made possible by the lack of healthy boundaries from us, men.
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Very important subject ! Toxic relationship is not only about « open abuse », but much broader… If you are not happy and do not feel fulfilled while in the relationship, it means there is something wrong with it
A relationship is not 50/50 it is 100 % from both to make it great and healthy.
What a great episode of two powerful , knowledgeable women sharing wisdom. Love from India 🇮🇳.
I wish someone would talk about toxic relationships with siblings. Having a narcissistic older sister has been the biggest challenge of my life and the dynamics and challenges are different than when it’s an intimate partner
I also think that we project very quickly, what we want to see and believe in a potential partner. If he’s cute and charming, then automatically we project who we want him to be, onto him. I think we also need to learn how to slow that process down internally. Great convo. Love you both ❤
So true, so important. It’s easy to be misguided coming from these dysfunctional homes. Pace yourself ladies and really, really, be trusting your gut.
I know where I came from, I hadn’t even known what love truly is. Wasted lots of time learning what it is. And honestly…it was the love from the family of the father of my two children that showed me what true love really is. And I’m grateful, that they had that, and that I learned from that.
@chilloften...I hear you. I didn't have "fatherly love" till I married and met my father-in-law. And my husband's whole family. Their "healthy examples" of family were alien to me for awhile. But after being married 26 years, I am so grateful and blessed for it. My father-in-law passed two years ago. My mother-in-law this year. I love them and miss them both.♥️
@chilloften whoops! To be clear, I married my husband...my father-in-law's SON. Sounded like I wrote I married my father-in-law. 🙄😁👍
I just started listening. I don't know if they will go into it or not, but the hot and cold, the breadcrumbing, really takes an effect when we start to feel that the reason they treat us bad is because of those things that would cause us to be unlovable in any other relationship situation.
That sounds like an Avoidant
I think this raises an intresting point. We often xonsider other people as outside of their brain but they are in it as is everything we experience so when they tell us words, those words would look to us in the same way as when we tell ourselves words so i believe that a simple way to see if someone is in a toxic relationship is to ask them how they would feel if they did to themselves what their partner does to them and if the experience is negative then of course the relationship becomes toxic
I have followed the two of you for a while and then this came up. Great subject and discussion!! That you also tell these personal stories makes it very relatable, clear and real. I wish I had channels about relations and psycology when I was young, but even now at 50 I learn a lot. I guess most of us see many kind of toxic relationships during a lifetime, or even are in them ourself. I think it should be educated about these things in schools. You two should get a Superwoman title for the work you do!
Awesome talk. Beautiful and insightful sharings from both of you. Thank you both. ❤❤
This is everything. Thank you both for this video - excellent and healing content.
Wow perfect combination of healing woman! ❤🎉❤
Too much to say...so all i can say is thank you. Thank you so much 💙
Great discussion thank you both. On a healing journey. Food for thought ♥️🌹♥️
Asking into the the abyss: can you undo the toxic dynamics with couples counseling?
Yay! 🎉 Love both of you!❤
You two ❤❤
This is epic 🔥
In order to save women, we must heal men. Teach them that emotions are going to be heard and even respected. Too many women commit domestic abuse, made possible by the lack of healthy boundaries from us, men.
Love this
Not being in a system of patriarchy that forces artificial hierarchy & gender roles would be real helpful too
How did you come to the lovable identity validation? I can't imagine how far in you had to go to find that and recognize it. How? Idk how
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Did she say my homie
I think “thanks for having me on homie” haha😊
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Blinking much?
That doesn't look very stable to me, mrs Holistic Psychologist.