INTP Weaknesses - and how to SOLVE them

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @lovewho
    @lovewho  4 года назад +151

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    • @azeezsmith8584
      @azeezsmith8584 4 года назад +2

      Thank you for helping me understand myself

    • @neurophilosophers994
      @neurophilosophers994 4 года назад

      I’m an INTP and just thinking about how I probably need more INTP friends with developed Fe. It just seems rare though most are ENTP or INTJ

    • @otakus1216
      @otakus1216 3 года назад

      I just want to watch the world burn (:

    • @ambrosearts
      @ambrosearts 2 года назад

      Oh my GOSH....you are only 27 NOW? You are a wealth of information and I assumed you just looked young for a 37 year old. You Go Guy :) I have learned much from you this spring.

    • @Thrna_1
      @Thrna_1 Год назад

      Since you discuss the expressing thoughts in a less structured thought trains seem to be your very style of video. Are you an INTP?

  • @ailurophile4341
    @ailurophile4341 4 года назад +2329

    "INTPs see thinking as an activity."
    What the hell. This is so real.

    • @DreamQuillRose
      @DreamQuillRose 4 года назад +171

      For just a second I was like, "You mean other people don't?" and was genuinely surprised. Then I thought about how some of the people I know would see it and I was like, "Oh." Kinda knocks you down a peg, doesn't it? When I learn something new or have come to a satisfying end to a train of though/decision, I honestly feel like I accomplished something. Sad that a lot of other people don't see it that way.

    • @neesh6362
      @neesh6362 4 года назад +5

      Looolz

    • @h.louise4746
      @h.louise4746 4 года назад +62

      Yes, which means that our thinking often trumps our doing. If we've got it all figured out in our minds, we rarely feel the need to put those thoughts into practice. It's quite strange actually...

    • @pashaveres4629
      @pashaveres4629 4 года назад +22

      @@h.louise4746 Yah. Having determined the absolute coolness of something I'm much more likely to... add it to the COOLNESS PILE and never do it again.

    • @vi0let781
      @vi0let781 4 года назад +4

      Omg yes

  • @vaidaszapereckas4655
    @vaidaszapereckas4655 4 года назад +1839

    Being INTP is both blessing and a curse.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +87

      Amen ~ Nathan

    • @popkhorne5372
      @popkhorne5372 4 года назад +119

      Correction : being an INXX is in itself a source of pride and suffering.

    • @Enzo-si1it
      @Enzo-si1it 4 года назад +52

      I feel like INxx are the ones who truly know and understand the world and human nature in general it feels like you know something nihilism at its finest I guess

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 года назад +4

      @@popkhorne5372 😅😅😅😅😅

    • @_xxpegasusxx_7204
      @_xxpegasusxx_7204 4 года назад +15

      i've come to a conclusion that ignorance is a better blessing and sometimes i think that the blue pill might be the way to go :(

  • @tushyata3449
    @tushyata3449 4 года назад +941

    "offending humans.....I mean, People"
    *DED*

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +71

      Lol couldn't resist ~ Nathan

    • @RC--tw7em
      @RC--tw7em 4 года назад +7

      *dead :)

    • @robenkhoury7079
      @robenkhoury7079 4 года назад +3

      @@RC--tw7em tsokke

    • @valeriaburina
      @valeriaburina 4 года назад +29

      what's funny is that I actually talk like that about humans. being INTP is hard, man

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 года назад

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @booboodadfool8015
    @booboodadfool8015 4 года назад +1386

    You know your an INTP when the people you like the most are the people most willing to engage in an argument.

    • @burpie3258
      @burpie3258 4 года назад +22

      YESSS

    • @h.louise4746
      @h.louise4746 4 года назад +122

      Sometimes, I provoke little disputes just to see how the other person will react. Yikes, I'm a weirdo. I don't like shouting though.

    • @burpie3258
      @burpie3258 4 года назад +9

      @@h.louise4746 exactly the same with me.

    • @lamp9359
      @lamp9359 4 года назад +26

      Probably Any NTP actually.

    • @Rachel-xu7jj
      @Rachel-xu7jj 4 года назад +20

      I know no one who I don’t somehow offend during the argument or take my points personally and get sad

  • @condotiero860
    @condotiero860 4 года назад +920

    'Sometimes things dont need to be clever, they just need to be done'

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +39

      Haha! Didn't mean to start triggering any sensing ~ Nathan

    • @condotiero860
      @condotiero860 4 года назад +40

      @@lovewho oh im not a sensor.
      Im INTP and im triggering to the sensors in my life.

    • @nina3538
      @nina3538 4 года назад +6

      Triggering to sensors.... omg yes 🤣

    • @Rutabega_NG
      @Rutabega_NG 4 года назад +11

      This. This is what I'm trying to manage. How I haven't been fired, yet, I don't know.

    • @jeneusschneider243
      @jeneusschneider243 3 года назад

      im so confused what is a sensor. we all have six senses

  • @cassac8049
    @cassac8049 4 года назад +910

    INTP’s are often described as highly intelligent, I feel like I’m on the lower end of the INTP intelligence spectrum. >~

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +382

      I've noticed that intelligence, although extremely useful in many ways, rarely wins against other traits like: determination, grit, consistency, willingness to fail etc... So you don't have anything to worry about. ~ Nathan

    • @robloxloversixnine
      @robloxloversixnine 4 года назад +20

      Love Who that’s not true, IQ is the best predictor of success

    • @juanmanuelmoramontes3883
      @juanmanuelmoramontes3883 4 года назад +78

      @@robloxloversixnine it depends, depending not only about raw intelligence but other type of abilities, AND LUCK (yeah, some people can be called "lucky" or "luckier" than others) you'd have success, because trust me, high IQ does not mean successful life, but I think you quite had that figured out.

    • @cuac5869
      @cuac5869 4 года назад +44

      @@juanmanuelmoramontes3883 well not precisely IQ but intelligence in any form can totally determine success. Emotionally intelligent people are often the most successful if paired with IQ intelligence.

    • @animegamernerdo
      @animegamernerdo 4 года назад +55

      I feel the same way.. I mean, I'm terrible at things like math and physics even though I find them to be very interesting :|

  • @pegs9951
    @pegs9951 4 года назад +434

    "Watches from the shadow without subscribing" 😐

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +57

      I mean to be fair... I do that all the time with channels I watch ~ Nathan

    • @beatrizcutrim2047
      @beatrizcutrim2047 4 года назад +13

      I felt attacked when he said that 😔

    • @celticcook3950
      @celticcook3950 4 года назад +1

      👀

    • @lyx8039
      @lyx8039 3 года назад

      If I like 5 videos I sub.

    • @cmymotion
      @cmymotion 10 месяцев назад

      I cant sleep after watching your video

  • @lisagehrig7023
    @lisagehrig7023 4 года назад +654

    You know myself better than I do

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +31

      Well... thank you ~ Nathan

  • @Jacob_EstateAgent
    @Jacob_EstateAgent 3 года назад +399

    You know you're an INTP when you doubt that if you're really an INTP , even though you've taken the test more than 30 times .
    Edit: been through shitty times , and I'm an infp now .

    • @boblo385
      @boblo385 2 года назад +8

      Me too

    • @lime7208
      @lime7208 2 года назад +6

      or INTJ.

    • @Tea12456
      @Tea12456 2 года назад +10

      YESS god one time i thought i can be intj Bec i did an organized notebook .. well apparently i realized that well being intj are more then just being organized and they have different rules in life and thoughts .. well i had high hopes there .. but Man being an intj maybe better when it comes to educational system and being able to get work done and ACHIEVING something ..or did i miss read intj .. maybe

    • @KatherineLWince
      @KatherineLWince 2 года назад +7

      we're the shit.

    • @Jacob_EstateAgent
      @Jacob_EstateAgent 2 года назад +1

      @@KatherineLWince not always though , sometimes we can come out as genius

  • @babablackiesheep
    @babablackiesheep 4 года назад +918

    My biggest INTP issue is people thinking I enjoy their company when I'm actually trying to figure them out and analysing why they are so irritating or their logic is flawed. I don't like you, your fallacies are a puzzle I just solve.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +91

      Haha! This is such an INTP comment. I enjoyed this greatly "a puzzle I just solve" - amen ~ Nathan

    • @zilama4848
      @zilama4848 4 года назад +11

      That sounds like Dr. House

    • @cuac5869
      @cuac5869 4 года назад +42

      I'm constantly wondering if I'm a bad person by making someone I dislike think I like them. Deep down I feel this annoyance by them but I'm too much of a coward to just say what my conclusions are on why I dislike them.

    • @quintuplebanned4267
      @quintuplebanned4267 4 года назад +5

      Emily Blackie so you are an elitist lacking in self awareness (since you did decide to post this).

    • @anthonyphil4743
      @anthonyphil4743 4 года назад +1

      @@quintuplebanned4267 no, she's just INTP.

  • @gleefulpebble
    @gleefulpebble 4 года назад +431

    You talked about the stupid zone. Why must you reveal our secrets, Nathan?

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +72

      My bad! I'll do a video retracting my comments and will denounce the stupid zone as a myth ~ Nathan

    • @nabeel9187
      @nabeel9187 4 года назад +2

      Lol

    • @RichH93
      @RichH93 4 года назад +15

      Wait, is the stupid zone like playing dumb? I I need to rewatch the whole video as I think I got distracted a couple of times (can you tell I’m an INTP?)

    • @jewels7954
      @jewels7954 4 года назад +8

      @@RichH93 I rewinded about 10 times

    • @elmojtabaadam8990
      @elmojtabaadam8990 4 года назад +34

      Richard M. Hall The stupid zone is basically a category that we place people into who struggle to understand or have intellectual and deep conversations. I thought I was the only one until I learned about personality types and saw this video...

  • @effyaddams
    @effyaddams 4 года назад +442

    "In a sense intp and they approach to life is fighting against human nature" so accurate 👀

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +31

      Not an easy fight to win ~ Nathan

    • @waffleisnice
      @waffleisnice 3 года назад +1

      I like ur name and your profile tho

    • @snoweh1
      @snoweh1 3 года назад +10

      Human nature as we see it today is anything but natural. Some people are far more capable for adapting to new norms than others, but that shit ain't gonna fly with me. I guess you could argue that human nature has "progressed" by proxy, but I'd say it's regressed and I won't allow, nor support it.

    • @Ca1nxd
      @Ca1nxd 3 года назад +1

      @@waffleisnice wtf

    • @jsmith317
      @jsmith317 2 года назад +1

      That stood out to me as well. "Oh, that IS what I'm doing."

  • @maroonspider50
    @maroonspider50 4 года назад +472

    Friend: What did you do today?
    Me, an INTP who has been in quarantine for two months and barely noticed: I argued with myself for an hour over whether or not I should eat a vegetable today, then I created an entire novel plot while sitting on the couch for four hours.
    Friend: .........
    Me: I also memorized the periodic table and 100 digits of pi because I finished building my mind palace.
    Friend: *awkwardly shuffles away*

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +41

      HAHA!!!! This comment is just hilarious ~ Nathan

    • @NESTEAftw
      @NESTEAftw 4 года назад +9

      I am laughing so hard ;DDDDD

    • @fredsolo730
      @fredsolo730 4 года назад +23

      I think you meant "an old friend of mine"

    • @potatojesus2565
      @potatojesus2565 4 года назад +4

      Why do I actually do this...........everyday

    • @tammymccaslin4787
      @tammymccaslin4787 4 года назад +20

      Am I the only INTP who doesn’t have a mind palace? Stupid brain can’t even INTP properly.

  • @istp1967
    @istp1967 4 года назад +122

    The key is not to continually go out of your comfort zone; but continually increase the area of your confort zone.

  • @discogoth
    @discogoth 4 года назад +189

    "Let's create an INTP army"
    Me, an INTP who's always wanted an army: :)
    Me, realizing having an army involves interpersonal communication: :(

    • @Skyprince27
      @Skyprince27 3 года назад +16

      Me, an INTP, totally bought into the concept of an INTP army:
      It would definitely work if you used Zoom & only let one person be unmuted at a time.

    • @idkbro9703
      @idkbro9703 3 года назад +18

      @@Skyprince27 and no one would have camera on

    • @NoorNoonMoon
      @NoorNoonMoon 3 года назад +7

      I actually enjoy leadership roles 🤭 -intp

    • @KatherineLWince
      @KatherineLWince 2 года назад +5

      INTP's of the world . . . UNITE!!!

    • @cirelesten
      @cirelesten 2 года назад

      No...just taking orders.

  • @katherinesmith1849
    @katherinesmith1849 4 года назад +200

    I died at "offending humans...er... people". Never related to anything more in my life. It's like you know... XD

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +27

      Lol sometimes it’s easier to forget that you yourself are also one of these so called humans ~ Nathan

    • @katherinesmith1849
      @katherinesmith1849 4 года назад +2

      Love Who that’s 100% true especially when you are relying a lot on logic and not emotion! Creates a nice paradox where we separate ourselves from people and then go... wait but I am one... I think you mentioned that in the video actually. So perfect example of that!

    • @seventesprit3000
      @seventesprit3000 4 года назад +7

      As an INTP extremum I have a hard time recognizing real life from my imaginations sometimes. And way back when I was like 13 I thought of being an alien because of feeling children not understanding me. My friend catched that up and after a while there were times I was able to forget that in fact I'm not an alien.
      INTP checklist:
      Write an essay in the comment answer - done

    • @bluesherbet2741
      @bluesherbet2741 3 года назад

      @@lovewho true

  • @swoch185
    @swoch185 4 года назад +316

    Here is more dodgy advice for INTP's. Play more dungeons and dragons and make sure you are the Dungeon master. You will have to make quick decisions. You'll have to talk in front of a group of people and organize like hell. At the same time, you will love creating a world full of characters and stories as you logically piece the laws of the world together.
    INTP's love their comfort zones but life will constantly push you to get out of it. This is always uncomfortable. Try to think about how you can use this uncomfortable situation and turn it into knowledge. Find a way to apply it to your hobby. Take control over the task instead of the other way around.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +15

      I approve this comment! ~ Nathan

    • @absolutfx
      @absolutfx 4 года назад +3

      I was the eternal DM/GM, but prefer playing more. I can get outside of my comfort zone and just play pretend as a character instead of the rigid structure I have when I DM.

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux 4 года назад +13

      ...and find yourself an INTJ. You're capable of actually respecting us and vice versa.
      My best friend is an INTP. We have a great time bouncing creative ideas off of each other and we're both pragmatic in very different ways.
      We also struggle with Se; so of course, we often end up laughing at each other.

    • @Lungsucker
      @Lungsucker 4 года назад

      @@dacksonflux I think INTJs are egoist and they think they know everything better than other people which is unattractice

    • @astoriasxyle5713
      @astoriasxyle5713 4 года назад

      @@Lungsucker You don't say Ricardo.

  • @A-Ls1
    @A-Ls1 4 года назад +415

    I need this. I personally have an issue with not controlling myself. I correct people on everything they do wrong. I wish I didn’t care so much about fixing minor flaws in people.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +61

      Yes it’s hard to resist using your main strength all the time... eventually it becomes the whole: “when you’re a hammer every problem looks like a nail” scenario ~ Nathan

    • @RC--tw7em
      @RC--tw7em 4 года назад +3

      @ginaintegrityseeker the irony is so satisfying

    • @_xxpegasusxx_7204
      @_xxpegasusxx_7204 4 года назад

      nah fam thats just OCD

    • @suigenris
      @suigenris 4 года назад +2

      @@_xxpegasusxx_7204 Agreed. I don't need to correct anything. That's why I have Le' Stupid Zone and limit my exposure... Ya'll act like social distancing was discovered this year.

    • @_xxpegasusxx_7204
      @_xxpegasusxx_7204 4 года назад +1

      @@suigenris lol

  • @jennamcguire5067
    @jennamcguire5067 4 года назад +351

    INTP females have it the worst. We are in opposition to the “typical female” format. I’m too logical to deal with most other people. I overthink and deduce everything, which others perceive as cold or uninterested. I’m hopeless.

    • @diogeneschicken2968
      @diogeneschicken2968 3 года назад +55

      I feel you , girl . Sometimes it's not perceived as an attractive quality to men to be overly logical and less emotionally expressive . It just sucks .

    • @stevedavenport1202
      @stevedavenport1202 3 года назад +60

      True. However, the happiest INTP females I know learn to accept themselves for who they are. Also, if you can get yourself into a room full of INTP males, your popularity score will go through the roof.

    • @jennamcguire5067
      @jennamcguire5067 3 года назад +29

      @@stevedavenport1202 I’ve accepted it, thus, I stopped looking for someone because I’m rather happy in my own mind.
      I find that all the men I have found say that I’m perfect, yet cannot tolerate me when I correct their utter wrongness. It’s frustrating when one is in the dating pool. Or they take advantage of my kindness and finances.

    • @Skyprince27
      @Skyprince27 3 года назад +2

      @@stevedavenport1202
      IKR, if Jenna was on INTP Bachelorette, I would for-sure sign up!

    • @mldiluna969
      @mldiluna969 3 года назад +12

      @@stevedavenport1202 INTP pus INTJ is also a pretty compatible combo.

  • @metas1779
    @metas1779 4 года назад +371

    Another great video. Sometimes It feels like I have an inferiority complex and a God complex at the same time. At least one of those is unjustified. Thanks for all the excellent content!

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +47

      Haha! “Inferiority complex and God complex at the same time” - very true ~ Nathan

    • @Rutabega_NG
      @Rutabega_NG 4 года назад +2

      Yep

    • @aaronrashid2075
      @aaronrashid2075 4 года назад +39

      My insecurity paradox is that I assume myself to be below average, but then I’m confused as to why people act dumb and irrational. Then it just cycles

    • @pashaveres4629
      @pashaveres4629 4 года назад +11

      At least one of them IS unjustified - but which one?

    • @lamp9359
      @lamp9359 4 года назад +8

      Are you telling me not everyone on Earth has this??

  • @kiaraetsuko
    @kiaraetsuko 4 года назад +181

    Oh yeah I have so high expectations of myself in terms to be logical and rational and I get very annoyed with myself when my emotions appear and make me act irrational. But It's so hard to not be self-critical...

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +15

      Yes... it’s seems that INTPs can fall into having impossibly high standards in this area often ~ Nathan

    • @jayasri6764
      @jayasri6764 4 года назад

      You know, You could benefit from self criticism .

    • @shofadzakiah6125
      @shofadzakiah6125 4 года назад +1

      As an INTP, these months, I tried to listen to my self-critical, as I know it always there. Just listen, like listening to someone talking without carried by it. It was really hard at first, but it saved me from drowning into my perfectionist nature.

  • @Ab-ub2ii
    @Ab-ub2ii 4 года назад +270

    we need (intps) a person like this , who can put 20 min worth of talking in just 8:49 min , with the help of clear ,to the point and precise language.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +30

      Well I'm at your disposal ~ Nathan

    • @Ab-ub2ii
      @Ab-ub2ii 4 года назад +9

      @@lovewho aww, thanks :)

    • @leejaerim8972
      @leejaerim8972 3 года назад

      @Zhiyue Yang omg 2x for me 😂🤦‍♀️

    • @wynnhorton1208
      @wynnhorton1208 3 года назад

      index with bullet points or even numbered in order are nice.

    • @Ca1nxd
      @Ca1nxd 3 года назад

      @@leejaerim8972 3.5x

  • @oOZanlanOo
    @oOZanlanOo 4 года назад +193

    My guess: INTPs have to accept that mediocre really is ok.

    • @martinmaher8129
      @martinmaher8129 4 года назад +74

      Mediocre is not okay. However, good enough is good enough.

    • @amberu1098
      @amberu1098 4 года назад +8

      is it really...

    • @tf1768
      @tf1768 4 года назад +17

      Never

    • @_xxpegasusxx_7204
      @_xxpegasusxx_7204 4 года назад +3

      lol tf you talking about

    • @georgexm2032
      @georgexm2032 4 года назад +4

      I do accept it. But every time it seems like I have to accept it more (and more, and more) and, that, I don't like.

  • @renatamiron8095
    @renatamiron8095 4 года назад +51

    I am the philosopher type of INTP. It's impossible to stay one second without thinking. Every little thing captured by my eyes become one entire year of study, meditation, questions, answer and doubts.....

    • @faizahanif9515
      @faizahanif9515 2 года назад +6

      Same bro same

    • @KatherineLWince
      @KatherineLWince 2 года назад +4

      I wish I understood how lucky we are to have this trait at a much younger age. Please, embrace it.

    • @doneyes
      @doneyes 3 месяца назад

      That sounds inefficient

  • @anitamuscaria497
    @anitamuscaria497 4 года назад +60

    Was it only me that felt anger rising at the thought of charming people instead of methodically crushing them and their arguments devoid of any coherent thought?

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +10

      No I can assure you that it wasn't just you! There's lot's of us that aren't happy about that fact! ~ Nathan

    • @anitamuscaria497
      @anitamuscaria497 4 года назад +19

      @@lovewho Trying to charm people is insulting. It's like saying "you are unable to process information so i have to wrap it in cheese or ham like a pill for a dog"

    • @nfgatorgal
      @nfgatorgal 3 года назад +2

      @@anitamuscaria497 I completely agree. It also completely goes against my sense of authenticity and truth. If you’re being disingenuous, you feel like a Holden Caulfield-esque phony. It is also terribly illogical. Why do I have to pretend to be something I’m not just so you will listen to the damn truth? Ugh. This is why I have to learn yearly to just bite my tongue more often.

    • @jsmith317
      @jsmith317 2 года назад

      I get that. After flipping the "say it with honey" switch on, it feels like I have to go home and scrape off the thick muck of a mask sometimes. Yet, what keeps me doing it is that they are more likely to listen and be a better person for society's sake, which helps me to have hope for humanity as a whole.

    • @faizahanif9515
      @faizahanif9515 2 года назад +2

      Me too. I thought like "I would rather not deal with people I need to charm."

  • @thehalm1208
    @thehalm1208 4 года назад +32

    "Offending Humans.... I mean ... people"
    Hilarious and genius twist only INTPs will understand.

  • @jsmith317
    @jsmith317 2 года назад +26

    Very well done. Insightful. When I was a kid, Dad took me aside....before Mom could strangle me...and said, "Don't think that, just because you know the truth, you have to say it." It was a revelation at the time. 😄

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  2 года назад +6

      It's simple but endlessly useful advice in all walks of life! ~ Nathan

  • @dacksonflux
    @dacksonflux 4 года назад +49

    "Be as charming and schmoozy as you possibly can, without making yourself physically sick."
    Slap that on an INTJ mug and I'll buy it.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +5

      OK I can certainly do that!! Check back on there tomorrow! ~ Nathan

    • @whiterabbit1975
      @whiterabbit1975 4 года назад

      Me too!

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux 4 года назад

      @@lovewho o.k, I'll snatch one up when I get paid.

    • @quintuplebanned4267
      @quintuplebanned4267 4 года назад

      Dackson Flux is that even close to possible, for my most favorite personality type ever, in the entire world, the INTJ?

    • @dacksonflux
      @dacksonflux 4 года назад

      @@quintuplebanned4267 you just reminded me to get one of these mugs. Thanks.

  • @7of913
    @7of913 4 года назад +48

    I have done that. Recorded a 40 minute theory then realized the camera was off. I hurled the computer out of the the window...in my mind.

  • @pepitka1234
    @pepitka1234 4 года назад +22

    “You're never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you're never as bad as they say when you lose.”
    ~ Lou Holtz

    • @thelaurelwreathismine4805
      @thelaurelwreathismine4805 3 года назад

      Exaggeration belike

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Not always true, some successes are overstated, some failures overstated.
      Markets overshoot true value in both directions

  • @thesaltiestspoon
    @thesaltiestspoon 4 года назад +138

    I never noticed how focused I was on perfectionism until this year while I was making a charcoal drawing for art
    I was drawing a picture of my cat and the rough draft looked great- it was probably the best I had ever drawn anything realistically. Of course after the draft, I was supposed to start on the actual project and I started sketching out the cat on my project paper but it just didn't look right. So I kept erasing and redrawing and getting new pieces of paper until my teacher stepped in and said that it didn't have to be perfect.
    I did, in fact, start crying out of frustration at that point, which just made me feel worse.
    Anywayyy, long story short, I got to trace that initial draft onto the actual project paper and the drawing is hanging up in the living room.
    This has been my TEDtalk

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +12

      I enjoyed your TED talk very much ~ Nathan

    • @Bougart
      @Bougart 4 года назад +3

      Beauty in mess

    • @somethingunusual8456
      @somethingunusual8456 4 года назад +14

      ~ cries in artist INTP language

    • @lishayost44
      @lishayost44 4 года назад +2

      @salty spoon lol You are awesome!

    • @shinchaeri
      @shinchaeri 4 года назад +8

      As an artist and also an INTP I can relate to this very much

  • @dmytrobaranovskyi6005
    @dmytrobaranovskyi6005 4 года назад +59

    Taking action is hard for INTP. So true... You realized it after a huge amount of unfinished projects or just actions. I don’t want to continue, because everyone knows it very well here.
    I just wanted to mention one interesting thing that occurred with me in one of the darkest period of my life. I lost my job and I didn’t know what to do with my life in general, I was broken. When everything reached its boiling point, something had changed in my mind. Everything became very clear and I reached very different state of my mind, I named it “voice of common sense”. It was like an adviser. This state guided me to healthy actions. It was very smart and reasonable and I didn’t have any contradiction or doubts as any INTP has. It was some sort of an advanced version of my mind.
    Have you experienced something like this? How to explain this? How to manage it consciously?
    Yeah, typical INTP’s questions.😂

    • @niceboy2464
      @niceboy2464 Год назад

      I have this too. I like to divide everything that i do with those two things. For once my brain and second my as you said „voice of common sense“. For example my brain and hormones that its produces wants me to eat something bad but my common sense knows that its not what i want but my brain so i dont do it. Its really hard to explain tho

    • @RcNe-bk3vb
      @RcNe-bk3vb Год назад

      Sometimes, when there are difficult tasks that I cannot handle. I will take a break/play a tv game/take a walk. All of a sudden, an idea from nowhere will be pop-up to solve the task (similar to your mentioned "voice")

    • @detroitapple5436
      @detroitapple5436 Месяц назад

      I call it "The Calling". I have been stuck in my mind when I found out that I was living and indeed thinking of a contradictory life, wanting something, yet doing the other. I felt bad that I compared myself to my friends; I was literally experiencing a mental breakdown because of it. But, after some time, after some cold, hard logic, and some self-reflection, I deduced that actually, I held myself back and copied everyone around me to be normal and be seen as normal. During my contemplations, I literally heard a voice calling out to me to straighten myself, to think straight and to be straightforward as I can be. It's hard to explain, yes; I have so many questions about it. It was like an epiphany.

  • @АнастасияЧурина-м6п
    @АнастасияЧурина-м6п 4 года назад +28

    "be as charming and schmoozing as you possibly can... without being sick" made my day

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад

      Haha! Glad to hear it ~ Nathan

    • @RichH93
      @RichH93 4 года назад

      But how can we be charming if small talk is effort...

    • @АнастасияЧурина-м6п
      @АнастасияЧурина-м6п 4 года назад

      @@RichH93 no magic here, just years of training. And even then it's hard

  • @sust8n
    @sust8n 4 года назад +66

    You're so right! Spot on. I laughed at "be shmoozey, without making yourself physically sick".
    You certainly know more about this stuff than I did when I was 25.
    I'm sub'd and bell'd.

    • @sust8n
      @sust8n 4 года назад +3

      But... I'm mug-less. Do they come in double-walled vacuum-insulated easy-to-clean non-spill-lid large-size travel mugs?

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      Lol yea I could sense that INTPs would be recoiling in horror at that part! ~ Nathan

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      So right now they are just... conventional mugs. Although this comment is low key motivating me to want to make flasks ~ Nathan

  • @ShakiraElizabeth
    @ShakiraElizabeth 4 года назад +55

    Being self critical and trying to remove human aspects are major issues for me. Regarding your example, whether I get too heated in an argument or even if I remain calm and objective in an argument (which is preferable) I look back and over analyze things to the point where I make myself uncomfortable no matter what. Very seldom am I up to my standards, and when I actually am, it’s hard for me to get off my high horse. Then I conclude that it’s best to just eliminate interactions all together. And sensory aspects of being human are the most uncomfortable for me. Because of this, I don’t always take the best care of myself physically (forget the eat, brush my hair, do my nails, etc.) because I often see it as irrelevant, forget about it, or it’s an obstacle to my never-ending train of thought. I also don’t like being in a human body so that’s an issue. (😂)

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      But you’ve probably done far better at living up to your own standards than have the people with whom you were arguing

  • @octavreghina7367
    @octavreghina7367 4 года назад +61

    Good advice, i discovered the power of Fe, after a long time of bashing people over their heads with the truth (as i saw it). But i discovered something else. An INTP truth is as good as the data he absorbs and process. So a lot of sorting through vasts amounts of data and filtering them is required - that's why people call us lazy- cause we need to read and process, every day, lots and lots of information. Also that's where our insecurity is coming from: is what i know really correct?
    PS: i have a question for you (Nathan) - are you an INTX type? Maybe even INTP?

    • @UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy
      @UnsuspectingCommenterPassingBy 4 года назад +1

      He is

    • @yacinedamak4903
      @yacinedamak4903 4 года назад +2

      Such content can not but to be produced by an INTJ , i mean the organisation as a whole and the structure is subtily more J than P.. Then i think that the approach is rather more « a whole » like to be conceived by Ni than by Ti ...

    • @Manamore
      @Manamore 4 года назад +1

      @ginaintegrityseeker The ESTP is Lu (the other host of the channel) and she said in a video once in the past (or maybe Nathan said it himself) that he was either INTP or ISTP, so S/N being what was hard to figure out, not sure if that has changed since then or anything.

    • @katherinesmith1849
      @katherinesmith1849 4 года назад +2

      INTP saying, yes, he very much is an INTP.

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      As tho I’d trust him if he told me what he thinks he is.
      I trust myself far less.

  • @platonicforms562
    @platonicforms562 4 года назад +61

    I've noticed that only about 1/4 of the INTPs who are responding have 'edited' their comments. This could mean the following: That some did edit, then cut/copied the comment, deleted what was on the screen, and then repasted so as to hide any sign of errors; that not all those posting are INTPs; that certain INTPs have been remiss in spell-checking themselves enough times to find spelling errors and fixing them. INTPs who haven't edited, are you SURE that your post was sufficiently spelled and composed according to RUclips comment section standards? ;)

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +14

      I have never noticed this before... but now I won't be able to stop checking to see how many edited comments there are ~ Nathan

    • @platonicforms562
      @platonicforms562 4 года назад

      @@lovewho Haha!

    • @jamersbazuka8055
      @jamersbazuka8055 4 года назад +8

      I think the high Ti -and- Ne are the killer combo with this. A peek to the INTP RUclipsr's comment development:
      *wants to be precise*
      (Much think, many ideas)
      *Filter, maybe follow that rabbit trail of a word that's only half-formed in brain and is definitely not the other word in your brain*
      (Review, double check your sentence editing didn't leave vestigial words from rewording phrases)
      *submit*
      (Minding own business)
      *more ideas, also... did you word it that one way that you're thinking of rn? Cuz that's not anywhere near precision*
      (Edit: I'm working on submitting comments in under a week, but that means I did it not-the-best-my-brain-could-ever-possibly-make)

    • @lytea5191
      @lytea5191 4 года назад +6

      Lots of times I just delete the comment altogether, but as for other times what you said seems pretty accurate for me too haha

    • @cdenese108
      @cdenese108 4 года назад +11

      Hilariously accurate. I fought myself editing a previously entered comment on this page. (Really?? Do you need to edit every comment, every text message, every everything you ever write??) Don't ask me how many times I reworded this simple comment before pressing reply.

  • @NkosiCebile
    @NkosiCebile 4 года назад +14

    My brother is intp... he uses humor to push his logic... his a lawyer and a entrepreneur... his very sweet but straightforward (people love him)... I think your environment helps too... my dad uses humor to make people listen but his isfj...

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +3

      Humour is such an excellent communicative tool. It's instantly endearing and disarming in equal measure, both your brother and Dad sound pretty cool! ~ Nathan

  • @nailachoudhury3795
    @nailachoudhury3795 4 года назад +47

    This is such great advice!! Even for me an infp and i can definitely relate to not being able to explain to people that all i did today was sit here and think. And it felt incredibly fulfilling and having to force myself out of that to do "real world" things is very very tiring.
    Also, the whole charm during argument things reminded me of a quote i was told by an ENTJ that helped them deal with "humans".
    If you are right and you are an asshole, people will remember you were an asshole. If you are right and you are gracious, people will remember you were right.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +7

      That quote is amazing!! ~ Nathan

    • @taiweannoona1204
      @taiweannoona1204 4 года назад +1

      Totally relate to the first half.

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      The quote is kinda wrong tho. If you’re an asshole who is wrong but reconfirms wrong worldviews, people will remember that you are right.
      If you are gracious and are right, many will think you’re dumb.
      The fallacy of the quote is in assuming that people come to the correct conclusion about what is right. More often they don’t

  • @jkistaesexual6690
    @jkistaesexual6690 4 года назад +7

    I fall into the very unhealthy INTP and it’s gotten very bad, honestly don’t feel like I’m myself anymore. Just stuck in a dark room all the time, I can’t even think logically anymore...

    • @readerofareader
      @readerofareader 3 года назад

      I have the same problem. Just know you're not alone

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Remember that the standard health advice applies to intps.
      Get regular exercise and veggies.
      Make your sleep schedule regular.
      Get human interaction.
      Nature, green spaces. Breathing exercises.
      INTP? Great. You’re still mostly the same machine that others are. Give yourself the well known maintenance.

  • @SuperJack454
    @SuperJack454 4 года назад +27

    It’s okay to have high standards for yourself and life in general. Nothing wrong with that.
    The issue comes when they don’t appreciate what they have and what they’ve achieved (which may seem brilliant for all the world and mediocre for them).
    Even if anything in their lives meets their standards, they are never happy and satisfied.
    The first thing the Intp need to learn is to appreciate their efforts and things in general only then they’ll feel satisfied and motivated.
    Off course this is from my infp perspective.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      Very well said! ~ Nathan

    • @ashreetis625
      @ashreetis625 11 месяцев назад

      No because this is why milestones such as birthdays or graduations are so hard for me. :( but working on it!

  • @AgeofMachines
    @AgeofMachines 4 года назад +17

    "Putting people in the 'stupid zone'"
    I checked mine and yeaaaaah....
    I put a ton of people in there for good reason and funny enough, you touched on it - logical inconsistencies.
    And yeah thinking is one of my favorite ways to spend a weekend.
    Your RUclips example is perfect. I do my best work when I can sidestep my perfectionist tendencies.

  • @RenegadeWarrior97
    @RenegadeWarrior97 4 года назад +47

    Absolutely thank you. Though if I may give a video suggestion: INTP vs INFP. I've been wondering a lot if I'm actually an INTP or just that much of an emotionally repressed INFP. It's been difficult for me to tell the difference, even with as many cognitive function tests that I've taken.

  • @sladewilson9718
    @sladewilson9718 10 месяцев назад +1

    Great quote, don’t know who it’s by. ‘Correct a fool and they will hate you, correct a wise man and he will be grateful’ 👍🏽

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Intp here, learning to search my most hated list for wisdom

  • @GameplayzOfficial
    @GameplayzOfficial 3 года назад +6

    "Taking action" is a huge thing for me to strive, I stopped so many things because I tried to do so many things at a time, I know basic web design, so I wanted to start making websites and having a passive income, knew HTML,CSS, but if I wanted a decent website needed at least PHP for a dynamic website, then needed to know MySql, then wanted to add interactivity to the website, needed to learn JavaScript, then wanted to have nice effect on it, learned to use the jQuery libraries, long story short, learned all of them and I didn't even built the website.

  • @goldieblocks1372
    @goldieblocks1372 4 года назад +5

    I watched this vid a while ago but the phrase “sometimes things don’t need to be clever, they just need to be done” stuck with me and helped me out. Thank you!

  • @invaderg3332
    @invaderg3332 4 года назад +11

    Nathan,
    Your wording and sentencing is very impressive and full of clarity, I've a problem with being thorough in my research and my thinking, (I had a case of anhedonia for awhile), hearing you speak inspires me because I can probably get that obsessive as well.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +5

      Speaking as a fellow obsessive person this is great to hear! The idea that I can sit down in front of a camera and do one of my weird ramblings and have it motivate or inspire someone else is mind blowing! ~ Nathan

  • @katherineh8051
    @katherineh8051 4 года назад +5

    today i was drawing eyebrows on my dog. the first one i drew was perfect, the best eyebrow ive ever drawn, but i couldnt get the second one right. i mustve been there for 10 minutes, erasing and redrawing some eyebrows for my dog tears streaming down my face. in the end i erased them both and made a new set. they turned out pretty well.

  • @theonvandenberg7888
    @theonvandenberg7888 4 года назад +5

    INTP in an argument - I am not arguing. I am explaining why I am right.

  • @antarcticabear6883
    @antarcticabear6883 4 года назад +28

    INTP Master Race Rise Up!!!

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      It begins... ~ Nathan

    • @georgexm2032
      @georgexm2032 4 года назад +3

      MAHAHAHAHAHAHAH-!
      er, no.
      these are the intjs...

    • @anduro7448
      @anduro7448 4 года назад

      @@georgexm2032 we are second in command and more than the sum of our parts

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Gross

  • @Enzo-si1it
    @Enzo-si1it 4 года назад +4

    I'm an intp and I have adhd which is the worst because I want to know everything about everything but my adhd makes me incredibly lazy and just makes me feel like a dumbass

  • @anuuuul
    @anuuuul 4 года назад +11

    This was all spot on! If any fellow INTPs feel like it's impossible to learn to quickly move on from embarrassment/your mistakes & embrace them in order to grow & get better - it’s not! I genuinely feel like I've got a hang of it over the past few years. And about going out of your comfortzone - totally agree. We need to find a balance between trying new things and falling back into our bubbles of routine and familiar habits. What I'm still struggling with is the not-using-my-Ti-like-a-hammer thing. Always working on it though!
    Thank you for the video! Love being analyzed almost as much as analyzing. 😉

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      Well I love analysing you so we've got a good thing going on here clearly ~ Nathan

    • @jamersbazuka8055
      @jamersbazuka8055 4 года назад +1

      One of the most freeing things I've had a boss say to me (granted, as a new hire) was "There are no stupid questions."
      I can ask any question and not be shot down as stupid? Even if after your answer I feel kinda stupid? Whoa!
      Since then I've tried to offer others the same liberty, which I think people appreciate especially from INTPs, since people generally see us as "the smart ones(tm)," and we can seem aloof or elitist if we forget ourselves.

    • @jsmith317
      @jsmith317 2 года назад +1

      @@jamersbazuka8055 Yes. Once I experienced the same, I have said it to others and similarly set them free. 😄

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      If I feel it’s impossible… it is?
      Most demotivating typo I’ve encouraged this year

    • @anuuuul
      @anuuuul 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@SigFigNewton …Wow. Took only 3 years for someone to point this out! Thanks.

  • @moinpalekar
    @moinpalekar 4 года назад +9

    "Intps dont expend energy" I don't agree as thinking is highly energy intensive.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +3

      Ok thats true ~ Nathan

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      I literally eat more on coding days

  • @menageriesofsalt
    @menageriesofsalt 4 года назад +3

    As an INTP, I feel very attacked, yet grateful for this video. Thanks for the great content! Take care.

  • @Tontoquienloleation
    @Tontoquienloleation 2 года назад +1

    When I was a kid and a teen you could say I lived inside my mind. My mind was my favourite place in the world. Then I went through a short period of depression during my early twenties, and now I'm okay, but after that I don't feel as comfortable in my mind. Because when I started thinking, I remembered episodes of my depression and I got sad and angry every single time. It doesn't happen to me now, I can think for hours without getting sad, but I got used to trying to shut my thoughts doing mundane stuff like listening to music or doing jigsaws. I also walk a lot. The thing is I never get lost in my thoughts as I used to, but I'm not sure if it's a good or a bad thing.
    Also three months ago I ended a relationship that lasted 8 years (basically all my adult life). I broke up with my ex because I felt I don't love him anymore, but now I realise how lonely I really am, because he was the only person I could trust with my thoughts and the only one who really knew me. Since we broke up I feel I'm alone with my thoughts again, and I'm scared to the point I consider getting back together with him.
    And now I'm so lonely I use old youtube videos as my personal diary 😅

  • @tw6428
    @tw6428 4 года назад +3

    I've been forced onto the dancefloor on a mexican wedding by peer pressure, drunk. Embracing the situation knowing full well the unavoidable damage it would cause was the best option. As an INTP I believe in situatiouns of these kinds you have to accept your weakness, and focus on damage mitigation. If you get yourself into a situation where people around you don't see you as an INTP kind of Person it is usually better to be seen as awkward than weird.

  • @fatimaa.alsaad7919
    @fatimaa.alsaad7919 4 года назад +16

    It is very satisfying to see most of my thoughts, organized in a neat way through your very well done videos. Thank you very much for your satisfying work, and keep up the good work!

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      Comments like this always give me the most amount of satisfaction, when someone says the videos articulate something that is accurate about them ~ Nathan

  • @lalune9938
    @lalune9938 4 года назад +4

    Well, this is my opinion, as an INTP (and INTJ) (I often switch between these 2 , this year the former that year the latter etc...), calling for like and subscribe never works for me, because obviously we always analyse things and in this case I'll see whether your channel will benefit me in certain aspects or not to be worth it for my subscription. And so these are the things that made me subscribe to your channel :
    1. You know what you're talking about and explain them in a way or order that I think it is easy to follow and fully explained.
    2. There are many topics in your channel about INTP/ INTJ that I care about.
    3. You help me in expressing myself out with words.
    4. The possibility that you're going to produce more useful videos in the future.
    Your videos are very helpful! @lovewho :)
    ( English is not my native language so excuse me for my mistakes)

  • @TorpisoulYT
    @TorpisoulYT 4 года назад +14

    I literally have a meeting with my boss tomorrow to discuss where I can fit into the company that fulfills my "natural interests" as I get bored too easily and love shiny new things lol.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +6

      Interesting, now I'm curious what kind of company it is and how the meeting goes...comment and let us know what happens! ~ Nathan

    • @TorpisoulYT
      @TorpisoulYT 4 года назад +6

      @@lovewho I will. It's a small software development business. My bosses want to find me a role that I can thrive and be happy in, one that suits my natural interests. They pointed out that I am easily distracted by new and shiny things but quickly get bored. I deal with customer support, too, which... Isn't for me.
      We'll see how it goes!

    • @TorpisoulYT
      @TorpisoulYT 4 года назад

      I realise I've pretty much just repeated myself...

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +4

      @@TorpisoulYT Interesting so an area I've noticed suits ENTPs and INTPs alike is when they can be involved in whatever the "new thing" thats being created by the company is. For example "rapid prototyping" is something my ENTP friend does where he's responsible for quickly creating a product, not even necessarily an mvp, but something that just proves the idea can exist and work.
      Then it's up to the other places in the company to figure out how to create the full product, make it scalable it and sell it etc.
      If the company doesn't have any place within it that offers that then... either try to make one lol or maybe you should be the one asking the company why it doesn't have new things being created rather than them trying to make a place for you!
      ~ Nathan

    • @TorpisoulYT
      @TorpisoulYT 4 года назад +2

      @@lovewho yeah, from my research to prepare for the meeting, roles that would suit me and the company would be that kind of thing. I had gravitated to UX design for that very reason. Basically, I just want to be able to say "this part of the software doesn't make sense. To be more logical, this should be X and Y should be moved to Z".
      I've pinged my boss information on my profile results as an INTP-A to help him understand me. Lol. He got us to do a weird career test thing a few months ago so I imagine he's open to the idea.

  • @iambenditaofficial
    @iambenditaofficial 2 года назад +3

    I am 15 and am a INTP [according to the personality test]. I have this strong intuition whereby i had these two friends. when i noticed how inconsistent they had become and how drawn to lying to their parents and misbehaviour they had become, i left them. Just by no t talking to them and not going to their houses, even though we live on the same street. I hate it when people are dishonest and not up front about what they want to say. They beat around the bush. I also hate it when people come to me and i give them advice and they clearly don't follow it. I love it when the consequences come to bite them in the butt. I am the only one of my siblings who can argue and question my parents' authority successfully, that makes them think i am the favourite.

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Keep your ego in check and you’ll be a great asset to your siblings who might not reason as well.

  • @18358J0S6
    @18358J0S6 4 года назад +2

    Ok, I've just subscribed. I was one of those INTP watching from the shadows 😂

  • @HalleluyahJJang
    @HalleluyahJJang 4 года назад +5

    he knows about the stupid zone!! we've been had, run for the hills!!!

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      My apologies for saying it publicly ~ Nathan

  • @yonni222
    @yonni222 4 года назад +2

    Throughout my whole life, I've got so many lame advice that came from the speaker's point of view and experience that I could not relate to.
    I could tell that they didn't understand my problems in the first place.
    I watched your video by pure chance, and your solution is to the point, realistic, based on a perfect understanding of how INTPs perceive the world.
    You made my day(It's the first time in my life that I use this phrase).
    Thank you so much.
    from an INTP from South Korea

  • @absolutfx
    @absolutfx 4 года назад +3

    I remembered that I had adjustable weights in my trunk from a year or so ago. So, I took them completely apart, cleaned them, and put them back together. Best decision I've made all week and it was almost therapeutic. That's probably the first and last time this week I'll use them.

  • @Noone-nk5uh
    @Noone-nk5uh 4 года назад +4

    wow you get it so well. Thank you very much, this is what we INTP's really need.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      That's great to hear, glad you liked it ~ Nathan

  • @wyxiecarolina
    @wyxiecarolina 4 года назад +6

    Schmoozing is definitely the answer when debating or at work when Ti is in control. But not so much help to me in more tricky social situations like... uuummm... flirting with someone I like haha... when my Ti haywires and my Fe is scared shitless. It'll be great if you'd make a video of INTP in love and flirting

    • @wyxiecarolina
      @wyxiecarolina 4 года назад +1

      Also, I tried ordering a mug, but no option to ship to the Philippines :(

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад

      Thats a really good idea for a video series actually! ~ Nathan

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад

      @@wyxiecarolina Oh no!!!! Thats a shame. Well if you're ever visiting the UK lol I'll give you a mug in person ~ Nathan

  • @oOZanlanOo
    @oOZanlanOo 4 года назад +4

    8:29 Wrong. I subscribed way longer, in hope for some INTP stuff; because your channel is high quality.
    So here we are.

  • @moosamihran4839
    @moosamihran4839 4 года назад +6

    Please do one for infps
    P.S I just love the way you ask for subs. Never change nathan☺

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      Will do! And thank you! ~ Nathan

  • @nbb2553
    @nbb2553 4 года назад +3

    "...then forget the camera is off." As an INTP, this is how it goes for me every week.

  • @user-tk2ql5mm8z
    @user-tk2ql5mm8z 4 года назад +11

    Wait a god damn minute : he is HOW old?! 25?
    That is... i assumed he was in his early 30. Not, bc he looks old but because he knows so much and seems to be so experienced.
    That, and the marriage thing if i didn't misunderstood everything.
    I'm 19 and now I feel like i have to hurry up 😂.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +9

      Perspective is so funny, when I see someone who's 19 years old it makes me feel like 1000years old ~ Nathan

    • @tomgang5612
      @tomgang5612 4 года назад +1

      I am 40 and this guy is more wise and articulate than I am.

    • @ivonabilusic
      @ivonabilusic 4 года назад +1

      Right? I was thinking of him as an older INTP brother figure, now I hear that he's a fellow 25-year-old INTP 😂

  • @burpie3258
    @burpie3258 4 года назад +2

    The amount of fights I've gotten in with my father for simply pointing out the contradictions in his thinking in an effort to HELP him... the struggle is real.

  • @RogueTangent
    @RogueTangent 4 года назад +3

    This is such amazingly helpful advice. I do alright at being as charming as possible before picking apart positions. But the bit about sweating the small stuff before bring perfection back into a project makes me believe that I have been on the right track with some of my new goals. I was feeling like most people would have created something straightaway, but I am putting more effort into the prep phase. I thought it was insecurity and procrastination, but I can see it as laying the groundwork for the perfection I see in my mind. I am bolstered by your words. I would love to see INTP advice for decision-making and follow through.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      " I am bolstered by your words" - I can't tell you how good that feels to hear, keep lining things up, then when you're ready, your natural inclinations will do the work for you ~ Nathan

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      “Be as charming as possible”
      Some people have broken it down into more concrete steps of how to be listened to. I don’t remember it all, but it can help to begin an email on a positive note. Begin an argument with an outlining of where you think the person-to-be-convinced is absolutely correct.

  • @brunosilva9796
    @brunosilva9796 4 года назад +3

    Was watching from the shadows and clicked the subscribe button by mistake, but then, because I do enjoy your videos a lot, it would be too much effort to just go and unsubscribe.. glad I didn't have to make the decision to click it.
    Really liked what you had to say in this video!

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      I'll take it!! ~ Nathan

  • @Amy-xv4sp
    @Amy-xv4sp 4 года назад +4

    Just casually watching this and then THERE IS A SHERLOCK REFERENCE OMG

    • @nightreaper1824
      @nightreaper1824 3 года назад

      Sherlock Holmes was an INTJ. They're the chess players. I found out why there has always been an awkward silence between Stephen King and I on Twitter. Probably the reason he doesn't want to discuss H.P. Lovecraft. I suspected Jules Verne when I got my first MBTI results. Who doesn't suspect Lewis Carroll?

  • @DeViceCrimsin_
    @DeViceCrimsin_ 2 года назад +2

    0:10 INTP’s globally in unison raise an eyebrow and silently chuckle with one though in mind: “Are you sure about that?”

  • @bananagirl3844
    @bananagirl3844 4 года назад +3

    lmao i literally yesterday was telling my family that despite staying in bed all day my brain was working constantly and it takes more effort than physical activity so they shouldn't complain to me about how tired they are. did not know this was a general intp thing lol

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      It certainly is an INTP thing!! ~ Nathan

  • @jamersbazuka8055
    @jamersbazuka8055 4 года назад +2

    Brilliant prep advice on starting new things or creative ventures.
    On inter-personal slights, I think something we INTPs can do is have RBF but with our tone of voice, so even if we're not coming down on someone, they can still feel like they're being attacked.

  • @joshevanlee
    @joshevanlee 4 года назад +4

    Another great/insightful video! Would love to hear you address reflexivity in relation to your analyses, your own type, your relationship with typology and how you arrive at these ideas. Or if that was already discussed in another video then oops! Thanks Nathan :)

  • @adeldaouadi9977
    @adeldaouadi9977 4 года назад +2

    This so true, i am an intp and i really could find the way, i’ve been strugling for at least 10 years now, depression anxiety luck of motivation, i hate it

  • @asuka-ryo
    @asuka-ryo 4 года назад +3

    “Don't worry, I thought this through.”
    **nods approvingly**

  • @iangonzalez4661
    @iangonzalez4661 3 года назад +1

    “ As well as subscribing which I know you did at the start of the video” this man is to strong too be left alive ( mind reading )

  • @PowerRedBullTypology
    @PowerRedBullTypology 4 года назад +8

    Great video and certainly good advice as far as I undestood it fully. My non native english is limiting my understanding of things like "take action'' though. Does that mean: 'Think it over once again to further improve the idea'?

  • @jaimephillips1521
    @jaimephillips1521 4 года назад +1

    Not an INTP, nor do I have an INTP in my inner circle. However, I do really enjoy your INTP videos. It's like learning about centaurs or something equally mysterious, but the knowledge is way more applicable.

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      Centaurs are less aware of what biases they may have
      In my personal experience

  • @MyouKyuubi
    @MyouKyuubi 4 года назад +5

    Beep Boop, this unit has passed inspection and is awating orders.

  • @2sunalibar
    @2sunalibar 4 года назад +1

    Very well said “ sometimes things don’t need to be clever, they just need to be DONE” 😂💔

  • @aschmuas
    @aschmuas 4 года назад +3

    Well played, subbed

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад

      Thank you!! Hopefully our content keeps you interested long term! ~ Nathan

  • @kerrynmansell4165
    @kerrynmansell4165 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! Ive been changing my mind on what type I was for years, everything was right this time. Definitely INTP, you will help me make my life easier when dealing with others now after recognising my diffcult areas. Great advice! I'll get on with it now.

  • @adalheidismond3523
    @adalheidismond3523 4 года назад +6

    Literally subscribed yesterday. I thought I was watching one of the INTP videos I overlooked on this channel... apperantly not

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      Great timing! Hope you enjoyed this video ~ Nathan

    • @adalheidismond3523
      @adalheidismond3523 4 года назад

      @@lovewho i always do xD

  • @liswah6583
    @liswah6583 3 года назад +1

    "Try to be charming and ease people in without making myself sick"
    Got it. I'll need to spend my whole life working on this project.

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      That’s an extremely healthy realization.
      Instead of “Ill never be as charming as that guy,” make it “I am probably predisposed to underestimate the practicality of being charming, and the more charming I can become the better”

  • @himekoyakuza1750
    @himekoyakuza1750 4 года назад +3

    "Taking actions"
    *quit the video*
    Well, we can say that I take actions now 🤔

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      Well played ~ Nathan

  • @toast7150
    @toast7150 Год назад

    as an intp i think sm about human nature and seeing stuff like this is so validating! the viewing your body as not yourself is so accurate 😭

  • @kbobdixie1829
    @kbobdixie1829 4 года назад +4

    I'm an INTP and also happen to be good looking and a former D1 baseball player. I say this for context, not arrogance. It was always a struggle to be myself bc people expected me to be a certain way. My brain during pitching was thinking about such random and distracting things that I literally had to turn it off in order to be successful. The thoughts we have are so deep that it can affect anything happening, even if just a physical sport.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад

      An INTP in sport is fascinating too, in what ways do you think your type/way of analysing the game gave you a competitive advantage/what issues did it cause? ~ Nathan

    • @kbobdixie1829
      @kbobdixie1829 4 года назад

      @@lovewho it's caused A LOT of issues. Whereas most players don't really think and enjoy the game, my brain was always overanalyzing everything and trying to predict outcomes based on what I did. So, instead of just throwing the ball, or think about getting the perfect leg kick, where I was looking, people in the stands, etc. I finally overcame this and became a top 10 national pitcher but I went through A LOT of dark moments because of my INTP thinking. It's a magical curse..that's what I tell my wife after I tell her the 5th random fact of the day lol

    • @kbobdixie1829
      @kbobdixie1829 4 года назад

      @@lovewho *I'd. Not or

    • @kbobdixie1829
      @kbobdixie1829 4 года назад +1

      @@lovewho and in order to be prepared for the game, I'd basically have to isolate myself from social fun bc it would drain my mind too much. Was pretty tough with a team full of extroverts..

    • @SuperJack454
      @SuperJack454 4 года назад +1

      When did you have more fun and achieved more success - when you were playing the game while thinking and over analyzing or when you were playing for fun?

  • @jesseblack2285
    @jesseblack2285 4 года назад +2

    As an INTP I don’t have a routine I have a fucking system lol

  • @jamersbazuka8055
    @jamersbazuka8055 4 года назад +3

    I wish I could re-title "How to win friends, and influence people" by Dale Carnegie to "How to interact with humans you recently met without slighting them, and argue with people without making them feel dumb and insulted."
    The original title can be off-putting to INTPs, even though the content is solid.
    My Ne is threatening to make a wall of text referencing ideas from the book, but I'll refrain unless people ask for it.
    Edit: am INTP.

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +1

      LOL!!! In my opinion, your title is far, far superior ~ Nathan

  • @beyondallreason-du4pq
    @beyondallreason-du4pq 11 месяцев назад

    true, setting up the environment is difficult for me and I often do it last which drains me ...thank you for the advice

  • @seventhsheaven
    @seventhsheaven 4 года назад +3

    Watching this and taking notes, since we’re basically the same except for different levels of cuddliness. - ENTP

    • @lovewho
      @lovewho  4 года назад +2

      Good point! ENTPs could benefit from this too but they'll get they're own video at some point as well ~ Nathan

    • @SigFigNewton
      @SigFigNewton 9 месяцев назад

      ENTPs have more body fat?

  • @Backwardlooking
    @Backwardlooking 2 года назад

    Your last point about the intellectual ‘Hammer’ and ‘Charm’ strikes home!. However, we generally haven’t developed that social skill through nature and nurture. We tend immediately to attack illogical opponents as you remark with full broadsides. Too late in life for myself but very useful advice from a young man who‘knows everything.’ And I am a subscriber who only happened upon personality types in my eight decade.
    👍🏻🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

  • @n0_n0
    @n0_n0 4 года назад +2

    Mic drop

    • @NathanJGlass
      @NathanJGlass 4 года назад +1

      Why thank you, flattery will get you everywhere.

  • @erinwhitefields3320
    @erinwhitefields3320 3 года назад +1

    I especially agree with the last point. After coming into contact with, and weaponising my extroverted feeling I’ve become straight up good at expressing myself, my opinions and thoughts according to a test I made with a psychologist. Basically I’ve become good at manipulating. I’m also a lot more accepting of my own and others emotions. It was painful to get to this point but I couldn’t be happier with the results. This would have never become a reality without my infp sister dragging me kicking and screaming out of denial of my own humanity and feelings. Overall I give it a solid 9/10, would recommend to fellow inferior extroverted feeling people. Wouldn’t recommend the severe depression and anxiety that made it necessary though.