I have tried to leave my husband 12 times, served him divorce papers and he still fought for us | LN

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  • Опубликовано: 4 авг 2022
  • The truth of this story is, that Santos loves Venus and Venus loves him right back. The couple has been together for 21 years and might pass for what everyone would call, "Couple Goals".
    But the other truth is, Venus has packed 12 times ready to leave her husband, and even served him divorce papers twice. On the other hand, Santos has drunk and slept outside only to walk home in the morning and have his young daughter open the door for him only to ask, "Daddy, where are you coming from".
    So, how has their marriage survived the test of time?
    Why would Venus fast and pray for her husband for 15 years and why did Santos decide to fight so hard for his wife and children?
    Let's all find out together on this episode of LNS
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  • @LynnNgugi
    @LynnNgugi  Год назад +130

    Good morning team LNN,
    What message do you have for this lovely couple? Feel free to reach them on
    Santos: 0722842424 and
    Venus on 0722816167
    Also feel free to Subscribe to Venus RUclips channel here ruclips.net/channel/UCDLG6Ozl2ZNa3b-Z5Ue_Cxw
    We thank you for your love and support💛💛

    • @jeddymoon3803
      @jeddymoon3803 Год назад +4

      Wanna thankyou them for showing us that marriage still works...

    • @michellekungu8536
      @michellekungu8536 Год назад +3

      Lynn you look amazing.🥰🥰🥰
      Thank you for this platform.
      Thank you to the guests.

    • @balancedviewpoint7418
      @balancedviewpoint7418 Год назад +3

      Counseling is a good thing and it's often not for sick or mad people but for everyone. Therapy is about one's mental wellness. I am a Counseling psychologist and can attest to what Venus is saying 100%. Big up my colleague Venus and your amazing hubby, Santos. It is well with you.

    • @bettiedaytoday9389
      @bettiedaytoday9389 Год назад +11

      Lynn aki I haven't finished watching this story,but pls bring this woman to the show again,she is a vibe and has alot of wisdom about marriage pls let her come back

    • @gracewagaki966
      @gracewagaki966 Год назад +1

      @@bettiedaytoday9389 please 🥺 I support you dear

  • @omatomusic1885
    @omatomusic1885 Год назад +46

    Wow! I have learnt a lot today. I was once a victim in a toxic marriage and the partner was not willing to change even after trying every way possible to work things out🤔 I had to quit and even forgot everything about the past marriage 💪
    I am happy and proud to say today that after moving on, good things came into my way👏👏 I have a wonderful wife ,handsome son, have a good paying job and many projects that were stuck by then are now complete and others are still going on. I really thank God. There is no more stress,drama,ulcers. What a blessing of a perfect family from the Creator❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @faithmulewa4595
      @faithmulewa4595 Год назад +1

      Wooow,all the best

    • @margaretmacharia7330
      @margaretmacharia7330 Год назад +2

      its not perfect as you can see she has been trying to leave. the African men #hould learn to appreciate their wives

    • @vincentomondi5612
      @vincentomondi5612 Год назад +1

      Wow blessings bro

    • @Impossibly_gorgeous
      @Impossibly_gorgeous Год назад

      If your former spouse is still alive your current union is adulterous by biblical standards.

    • @sakuraesther6309
      @sakuraesther6309 Год назад +1

      @@Impossibly_gorgeous But it is forgivable . Eiiii you guys dont even call out physical abusers like this

  • @atienolynne
    @atienolynne Год назад +68

    Flipping into comments to see who has noticed Robert Burale's image 🤔 😀
    Very interesting story ... keep sowing Lynn 🤗

  • @bethmainagakunga4017
    @bethmainagakunga4017 Год назад +72

    Have been married 22yrs also and have parked twice but hv fought for this marriage to stand with GODS grace am still here he loves me and the children sooo much ..its not easy but its doable..i have four children 2girls and two boys

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  Год назад +8

      Amen and Amen...we are here for these kinda testimonies❤️❤️

    • @infuse_keepingyouinformed
      @infuse_keepingyouinformed Год назад +1

      I love this. Only God will make you stand, fight in prayers

    • @janehughes6927
      @janehughes6927 Год назад +8

      I have been married for 25 and have never packed my bags that doesnt mean we never fought we did since marriage is not a bed of roses.

    • @CHD1718
      @CHD1718 Год назад

      God bless you 💞

  • @Africanvillagetee
    @Africanvillagetee Год назад +50

    It was toxic until it wasn't toxic anymore. Not every one can deal with toxic relationships fir 12 years

  • @hanifahmulindwa6899
    @hanifahmulindwa6899 Год назад +145

    Watching from Uganda 🇺🇬 greetings our neighbors from Kenya 🇰🇪 please vote wisely

  • @bancymunene3436
    @bancymunene3436 Год назад +117

    This was a wonderful conversation. my take home....
    1. pray, pray, pray.
    2. Don't lose yourself in marriage, love n build yourself as much as you can.
    3. Don't be quick to pack... answers to prayers take time.
    4. The devil is not happy with a successful marriage, he will try to steal, kill and destroy. Refuse, God has provided a life in abundance for all of us.
    5. Ask for help, don't die alone.
    6. Communication is key.
    7. Read number 2 Thrice.

  • @odionugbiyobo2316
    @odionugbiyobo2316 Год назад +22

    The man in this story showed commitment and he also took responsibility which is not common in some African men especially when they are in the wrong. The lady is just exceptional in understanding and in knowledge. God bless your beautiful marriage it takes two.

  • @michaelalando
    @michaelalando Год назад +126

    I have a friend whose wife left him 17 times, going back to her parents. (She secretly told me this story - not him - after my wife had left me for the second time). Each time he went back for her. When she took off the 18th time and he went for her, her mother told her: "if you leave him again do not come back here."
    The lady was ultimately very grateful for the advice and especially that her man had gone back for her again and again and not given up. AT the time in the 17th year of their marriage, she was advising me not to give up - which I had done as a man fed-up after 10 years of marriage. They remain happily married and to watch them lovey-dovey you couldn't believe all that had taken place.

    • @annnjuguna6560
      @annnjuguna6560 Год назад +3

      Amazing!!

    • @aqulinamusyoki4216
      @aqulinamusyoki4216 Год назад +3

      Like me every year like twice l back to my parents, because my bbe heartbroken me.telling myself enough is enough and found myself again back to my marriage 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤔

    • @marthangili2455
      @marthangili2455 Год назад +1

      BBC Africa

    • @spectra.4840
      @spectra.4840 Год назад +1

      @@aqulinamusyoki4216 Work on you're cminication skills,so.that you can clearly and effectively share with him what you want and don't want what you feel basically effectively communication around all issues.

    • @spectra.4840
      @spectra.4840 Год назад +2

      @@aqulinamusyoki4216 Am an introvert and would always withdraw and go silent instead of addressing issues,then run back home,but once I identified my weakness,worked on myself we are in a better place now,very happy celebrating 27 years and 4 babies.

  • @kobbykanyu148
    @kobbykanyu148 Год назад +74

    Marriage is work, but it shouldn't be confused with 'kuteseka'😂.

    • @wanjikumuragu5113
      @wanjikumuragu5113 Год назад +5

      Exactly...
      I can't do all this work for now 😂😂😂

    • @stellachepngetich8043
      @stellachepngetich8043 Год назад +1

      @@wanjikumuragu5113 me too😂😂,

    • @doreenkanje9839
      @doreenkanje9839 Год назад +5

      I tell you sijaoleka but nikifikiria challenge zenye watu husema I stop kupenda woiii 🤣🤣🤣🙈

    • @wanjikumuragu5113
      @wanjikumuragu5113 Год назад +2

      @@doreenkanje9839 take a bottle on my bill juu weuh

    • @Zee-qm3vr
      @Zee-qm3vr Год назад +2

      This very comment shd be pinned. Kuteseka mi siko. I love myself too much to endure pain in the name of love. Pain doesn't have to be physical, emotional pain kills too

  • @djZezeman
    @djZezeman Год назад +240

    The world is full of confusion,, some will tell you to pray for your husband or wife to change, others will tell you that you can’t pray for your cheating partner 🤔🤔 so which is which 😞😞, choose your confusion wisely 😊

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 Год назад +57

    Lynn indeed you look absolutely amazing in that dress....together with your warm ❤, passion and commitment to your cause, you are a 99.9% fully packaged woman. No doubt the man in your life or shall one day be, shall be a lucky one. I pray that he never hurts you. I affirm you 100%. Keep it up.
    The guests are equally amazing and blessed like you and God's grace is sufficient for all of you 👪 👏👏
    Behind the Camera there is an incredible, shy and very competent clue led by the awesome Ochieng that your fans Lynn never get to see despite the fact that they carry a substantial amount of contribution to your daily content. I personally acknowledge and affirm them. It's never easy to package such captivating and educative content day in day out without sheer hard work. Ochieng accept my sincere affirmation of your role in this globally acclaimed masterpiece-content. Big up man..

  • @joycenyambura6054
    @joycenyambura6054 Год назад +18

    Lynn you are heavenly sent.i almost walked out of my marriage today then came across this video it just touch me and will truly fight for my marriage.God bless

    • @njokimunene588
      @njokimunene588 Год назад +1

      May the Grace of God be sufficient for you Girl... Nothing is impossible With our God dear.

  • @abainelydia9456
    @abainelydia9456 Год назад +19

    "Accept, Adjust and Advance"
    "No one is perfect"
    Such a blessing to listen to such amazing people. And the way LN explores their knowledge and experience is so magnificent.

  • @serahkimani8562
    @serahkimani8562 Год назад +16

    1. Make sure your marriage is from God(helps you avoid a lot of trauma and heartache)
    2. When you build your spouse, do it whole heartedly and also make sure you grow as well !

  • @MinAaliyah
    @MinAaliyah Год назад +116

    I would listen to this woman Venus over and over again without getting bored... She's such a vibe 👍❤️❤️

    • @namusanaakiiki7347
      @namusanaakiiki7347 Год назад +1

      God is great and powerful. GOD Almighty IS a GOD of all the flesh nothing is impossible for HIM. Jeremiah,32:27.

  • @immanjeri9242
    @immanjeri9242 Год назад +111

    This year my marriage has been crazy and very tough and was almost leaving. After listening to you guys I have decided to fight for my marriage.
    Thanks Lynn for bringing them on this show.

    • @dianakilonzo5617
      @dianakilonzo5617 Год назад +13

      But know what you are Fighting my dia he is willing to fight with you otherwise think well you don't end up leaving your kids or kid motherless

    • @Anyango31
      @Anyango31 Год назад +7

      Ukiskia tu mwanamke anasema her marriage is tough, jua tu the man is doing all sorts of nonesense. Sasa fighting for marriage anataka kuomba na kuforce therapy with a man who is living her best life. Endeleeni kufight

    • @luvaipatrick
      @luvaipatrick Год назад +1

      @@Anyango31 Wow, I didn't know women are angels, so, kukiwa na shida kwa marriage, mwanaume ndio mbaya? Righteous one!!

    • @Anyango31
      @Anyango31 Год назад +2

      @@luvaipatrick yes. I hope that answer satisfies your narrow notion.

    • @luvaipatrick
      @luvaipatrick Год назад +1

      @@Anyango31 I won't engage you further, it's a waste of my precious time.

  • @lilywhite8029
    @lilywhite8029 Год назад +27

    Can we just appreciate how young and beautiful they look. Wow! I want my marriage like this

    • @praizesjovial209
      @praizesjovial209 Год назад

      Yeah they look wow❤💕, amen to that. I want my marriage to be best, though I know nobody is perfect BT we are perfected by God.

    • @lucynjuguna9653
      @lucynjuguna9653 Год назад +1

      Unless you are ready to go through what they have

    • @lilywhite8029
      @lilywhite8029 Год назад +1

      @@lucynjuguna9653 I think it is in the mind. Not forgetting yourself because you are married. A good skin routine, some movies, some good intimacy and taking it easy.Above all, maombi

  • @faithaudi3061
    @faithaudi3061 Год назад +31

    Very mixed feelings here
    1. As a parent you do not chase away your children when they come back to you, first just welcome them embrace them and give them a safe space until they are ready to talk or ready to go back.
    2. She calls the so called friends who were ready to help her with money to sort her divorce as not a friend. This lady made her decision to leave she filed for divorce and she did not have the money and a friend was there for her... how then do you call the same person not a true friend???? As for the salvation good for both

    • @jpwabob8149
      @jpwabob8149 Год назад +5

      Asking same question....in my opinion that was a friend in need.

    • @gracewahome7667
      @gracewahome7667 Год назад +9

      @Faith Audi sorry i dont want to disagree with your comment but i have understood her 100% coz i have gone through the same with the so called best friends! Sometimes we need to be wise coz they may come in so quickly in the name of friendship to help but secretly they envy what you have and they can do anything to help you loose a good chance in life or in this case a good partner.

    • @faithaudi3061
      @faithaudi3061 Год назад +9

      @@gracewahome7667 when friends are there for you you call it envy when they say no you say "not one of them was willing to help" the friend did what she asked for she asked for money what else was the lady supposed to do??? Tell her to stay? Then thats when shes a friend?

    • @mimikimanga3126
      @mimikimanga3126 Год назад +1

      Me too naona anaongea sanaa but it’s jst her lucky that huyo cheating husband didn’t infect her with diseases and she didn’t die due to depression and leave her children while yo man gets another wife woiiiiiiii Afu anamlaumu huyo mtu as bad Frnd akati ye mwenyewe ndo kampigia na kamwambia amefikia pabaya she needs money for divorce 🥺yan alitakaje sijui mtu amwambie endelea kuoambana hadi ufe juu ya marriage

    • @mimikimanga3126
      @mimikimanga3126 Год назад

      @@faithaudi3061 aki faith me huyu mmama hapo amenikwazaaa hata haeleweki

  • @janengari827
    @janengari827 Год назад +35

    This was the best couple's discussion ever. Thanks Santo and Venus. Many blessings.

  • @seseih-Barney
    @seseih-Barney Год назад +26

    Dear ladies... An elderly woman once told me..you know how we love marriages and comfort when we are in our 20's n 30's.its the same comfort men. Want in their 40's n 50's.so if a man misbehaves earlier on in your marriage n changes years on...it's not answered prayer...it's now that he needs comfort and a home to come back to...and heshima ya society...ati ithe WA ng'ania na kuitwa function za wazee

  • @janetkageha9878
    @janetkageha9878 Год назад +15

    I have been married for exactly thirty years,and this session has teach me alotand it has made me know that I have alot to work on to my marriage and family as a whole..

  • @katepetals
    @katepetals Год назад +11

    As much as I appreciate their vulnerability, I see alot of glorified red flags only for her to brand them religious names. I don't get how she calmly say that infidelity is "part"of marriage struggles. The moment she said that a friend offered to help her when she wanted to seek legal council only for her to castigate her and call her names yet she is the one who sought help. You were gaslit to think in a certain way, and just because you do, doesn't make it true / correct.
    So many red flags but she's trying so hard to turn them green.

  • @ideasruleourworld
    @ideasruleourworld Год назад +18

    Dear Lynn,well done. I feel this couple needs to start a RUclips channel on marriage so they could help other couples

  • @marynjoki3658
    @marynjoki3658 Год назад +12

    In my opinion. I think you both started not at the right place. If you had done the ndoa counseling to prepare you for marriage. Maybe you would not have gone to your home 12 times. I also believe, God would not direct you to sin by yoking yourself with someone who is not a believer.
    Lastly, I do not support parents sending back their daughters when they come back home just because there was a big wedding.
    I am happy that your marriage is working but let us not glorify some things in the name of being real. Some things are just mistakes that we should avoid as believers.
    It is a great talk because a lot of marriages are in these kind of situations but for those who have not yet gotten in this institution. Just avoid some things.

  • @kobbykanyu148
    @kobbykanyu148 Год назад +45

    I wouldn't send my daughter back to circumstances she is running away from. She should always feel like she can come to me. Going back should be her decision.

    • @ananciataodindo7044
      @ananciataodindo7044 Год назад +10

      Exactly but God has his ways of things if you do listen till the end Venus is the dramatic type so I believe her father knew his daughter 😄

    • @Miz-B
      @Miz-B Год назад +1

      I was just thinking how effed up sending her back sounded to me.

    • @susankhayanga
      @susankhayanga Год назад

      @@Miz-B h.
      Y

    • @susankhayanga
      @susankhayanga Год назад

      Mbbm
      Mmmmh Jbm

    • @judithopili7445
      @judithopili7445 Год назад

      Very educative

  • @yvonneochieng8038
    @yvonneochieng8038 Год назад +4

    Loved this conversation. Can relate so much to their marriage journey. A testament to any one, single, newly weds, seasoned marriages that God has to be the glue for a thriving marriage. thanks for sharing your story, we need to celebrate and testify that their are succesful marriages. I can attest to it. God bless you Venus and Santos and may He continue to use your marriage to testiy of HIs goodness

  • @JulietMigwiInspires
    @JulietMigwiInspires Год назад +45

    Venus and Santos, so great to hear your story. I was there 21 years ago when you met, you still look so good together😍 I have loved how vulnerable both of you were as you shared your journey and the wisdom you have garnered in the process. I can see and testify of that character development. Look at what the Lord has done!! Surely, there is hope for marriages after listening to you. Can't wait to hear about the pillars of marriage🤩
    Lynn, I love how you guide and direct conversations. You are a beautiful and wonderful host!🥰

  • @emeldahnjoki7045
    @emeldahnjoki7045 Год назад +24

    I listened through almost without a blink. Purpose is strong, beautiful couple, beautiful story.

  • @naomim104
    @naomim104 Год назад +17

    Benjamin Zulu needs to review this😄....there are certain tears that you can avoid. Kindly don't start your relationships this way. Their "luck" may not be yours.

  • @rosebellewaihenya4888
    @rosebellewaihenya4888 Год назад +40

    Why does marriage in an African context feel like the guy living his best life and the woman hurting everyday. A lot of women come out of these marriage with terrible diseases, I feel like a lot of his bad behaviours was hidden or put out as domestics.
    I would never want my daughter to sacrifice her life for a man hoping that he’ll change. I’m happy that she’s happy but these are the marriages that are making women suicidal.

    • @mende72
      @mende72 Год назад +8

      This is what I commented. I also wonder, with great wonder! Something is truly wrong!

    • @teejayangel6638
      @teejayangel6638 Год назад +3

      Very true and good observation. But am glad that more and more Kenyan men are changing and have seen a need to change that narrative, which is good for future generations. There's hope for Kenyan marriages, and I hear your concerns, there's no way am going to allow someone's child to marry or be married to my child and I've spent time and resources allowing God to teach me to bring up my child in a Godly way while you checked out of your child's life never teaching your child as I did.

    • @kammusic22
      @kammusic22 Год назад +2

      @@teejayangel6638 true, some parents are just sending their kids to their parents .

    • @susanmbataru7163
      @susanmbataru7163 Год назад +5

      Know yourself first na ujipende,,,,no one is responsible for your happiness except you...na upunguze expectations....You can only give what you have ....

    • @staceyobiya6523
      @staceyobiya6523 Год назад +6

      Your soo right.women tend to suffer more while men enjoy their lives.

  • @joyritakarimi1828
    @joyritakarimi1828 Год назад +7

    Thanks Lynn for this show I have learnt a lot. I have understood myself better because I have been raised by abusive dad who instilled alot of fear in us and I think this as been hunting me for many years...and now I have to work on myself... Venus she is blessed she is such a vibe...

  • @perismonchari5378
    @perismonchari5378 Год назад +37

    The gentleman looks like Robert Burale's brother........God bless the family

  • @MinAaliyah
    @MinAaliyah Год назад +15

    Beautiful Couple with an amazing story. I'm inspired. Thanks LN for the great show... I'm a single Mum and still trusting God to have a family. when the time is right he will make everything beautiful ❤️

  • @TheMillenialClub
    @TheMillenialClub Год назад +23

    I love the humor Venus have, she's just funny 😆..

  • @anjelineadhiambo5954
    @anjelineadhiambo5954 Год назад +21

    This is what love really mean. They all made an effort and that's why they're where they're. Am inspired as a woman. thanks Lynn am natured

  • @Prince.editspro
    @Prince.editspro Год назад +8

    Wow! I have really learned alot through this program.I can relate to most of the things that Venus stands for and also her character is almost like mine.Kudos to Lyn for bringing to us such an impactful power couple!

  • @ananciataodindo7044
    @ananciataodindo7044 Год назад +91

    Wishing you all my fellow Kenyans back at home to vote wisely and maintain Peace Amani my lovely brothers and sisters ❤️🙏🏿🇰🇪🇰🇪lovely story and a fantastic couple

    • @anneketu6860
      @anneketu6860 Год назад +3

      Yes ✌️
      Lets pray 4 peace

    • @ananciataodindo7044
      @ananciataodindo7044 Год назад +1

      @@anneketu6860 Yes darling we should ☝🏿Tuko pamoja

    • @ritahqueen4821
      @ritahqueen4821 Год назад +1

      You better come on ground and vote

    • @janewanguiwamuyu4079
      @janewanguiwamuyu4079 Год назад

      Sorry for being out of topic, someone answer my question please are Kenyan abroad allowed to vote for Kenyan general election??

    • @hustlernationisunstoppable4083
      @hustlernationisunstoppable4083 Год назад

      @@janewanguiwamuyu4079 will be voting for president only

  • @susannangiro8736
    @susannangiro8736 Год назад +11

    I cdnt hold my tears 😢 this part touched my heart, where he said, " I dint want to end up alone in old age" Indeed marriage is not a bed of roses. As the Bible says, what God has put 2gether let no man put asunder. May God be at the centre of all covenant marriages. Thank u for sharing

  • @mercy.joseph
    @mercy.joseph Год назад +8

    From every LNS shows have watched...just learnt that we should put God in everything we do...a single prayer can move a mountain.

  • @paulinemaina9695
    @paulinemaina9695 Год назад +54

    Am in my twenties and this is the best platform I get to learn more and more things about life. I love it when Santos says you can lose 80 when focusing on 20 .

    • @light7933
      @light7933 Год назад +2

      LNN CHANNEL ❤️❤️❤️ & BENJAMIN ZULU CHANNEL❤️❤️❤️

    • @paulinemaina9695
      @paulinemaina9695 Год назад +1

      They are so educative

    • @dorisgakii6896
      @dorisgakii6896 Год назад +1

      manze ata mimi that really hit the soul 😃..a deep take home!

    • @maureenwanja9708
      @maureenwanja9708 Год назад +1

      My mom says you can lose 9 when chasing that 1

  • @Gichiritrizah_Ke
    @Gichiritrizah_Ke Год назад +41

    This lady is just a vibe. Her energy is on another level and I can see how passionate she is about marriage and making marriages work💖💖I 've learned a lot.

  • @NLRita
    @NLRita Год назад +10

    Relationships, Christianity and Kenyans we can be so interesting. A few minutes in- "I was a church girl (because that's what I was taught, by a family which left me with trust issues (read childhood trauma), he was a raha guy (read character development)...but 'God told me this is the one'...and then I shikiliad for 21 years as guy found himself" 😅. No thanks. Women, let's work on self love, self worth, self awareness and maybe these trauma bonds will not be passed down to the younger generation.🥶. I am very curious about whether the kids are going for therapy and especially the girl children, what's their perception of marriage ?

    • @DorisWanjohiGifttv
      @DorisWanjohiGifttv Год назад

      Waaa more reason why we need Benjamin Zulu in our homes speaking with a loudspeaker system daily

  • @anik8204
    @anik8204 Год назад +25

    This story… First, not all marriages have this degree of drama. Biggest red flag was her marrying someone, clearly knowing his lifestyle but hoping to change him. Two, her father sending her back home is nothing to laugh about. Luckily there was no physical abuse involved. Three, all I hear is an emotionally immature young bride that threw tantrums in various ways trying to elicit a reaction from her husband. The two were incompatible from the very start. A major component in any marriage. In my opinion the only thing that saved this marriage was the husband’s calm nature. I’ve been married over twenty years and as a woman even I got exhausted listening to her drama back then. Yes he had issues but, she married someone who did not uphold anything she stood for, then proceeded to blame him for not living up to her standards. I also cannot agree with the idea of encouraging women to spend years of their married lives miserable, praying that someone will change. Meanwhile your own life is passing you by. Marriage should be harmonious from beginning to end, even with day to day life challenges. But choose compatible partners. Finally, regarding man caves… they need it. Let them retreat from time to time and leave them alone. Women, occupy your time with other things in the meantime. He will eventually come out mentally ready to engage.

    • @achiengomondi6594
      @achiengomondi6594 Год назад +3

      You do have some interesting takes on it.

    • @lovelydays1412
      @lovelydays1412 Год назад +1

      I agree 💯.

    • @Impossibly_gorgeous
      @Impossibly_gorgeous Год назад +3

      If a man gets a man cave then women should have places where they can get away from him and the kids and come out when she is ready to engage. People need to stop handling grown men with kid gloves. He should get the same energy he puts out

    • @bigjoebj4639
      @bigjoebj4639 Год назад +1

      You nailed it. My opinion is that, she's selfish and a control freak. The majority of men hate conflict and confrontation especially with a woman. Man cave is our only safe heaven at that point. She even tries to pull him from his man cave.

    • @hellespont1
      @hellespont1 Год назад +1

      @@Impossibly_gorgeous women already have those spaces through their circles of friends which every woman does... That is her woman cave.
      Men don't normally confide on emotive issues with their comrades and use man cave to weather the storms of personal issues...he needs that space to resolve the happenings within himself before sorting it with the spouse.
      Anyone who cares about him should let him deal with issues internally until when he is ready... It's similar to asking a woman not to talk to her circle of friends yet thst is her system to weather the storms.
      Pointing fingers solves nothing.. Understanding is everything. Men and women are different with different needs and behavioral patterns. In the same way you think having a man cage is being treated with kids glove is the same way men think need for constant attention by women is being petty... Appreciating each others differences is the solution

  • @estahadassah9470
    @estahadassah9470 Год назад +6

    Thank you for this discussion 😍. That was the shortest 2 hours that I've watched. The kiss 😘 was wonderful; keep that love burning 🔥.Today I complimented hubby on his outfit 🌟. It's important to tell your partner what hurts you about his behavior. It's equally important to do things for him that he really likes 💞

  • @susanmbataru7163
    @susanmbataru7163 Год назад +18

    I really needed to hear this, I feel encouraged.

  • @sharonnzuki2747
    @sharonnzuki2747 Год назад +25

    Beautiful story there… As you pray for a husband, pray and wait for one who is ready to become a husband not just one that wants a wife. After and while praying, WAIT! The art of waiting not just praying is something that has been lost by our generation. Waiting! Yes he might be the one, even God may say he is the one. But more than just getting married, you must not marry him until God thoroughly trains him on becoming a good husband, leader, a good father and priest of your home!! Amos 3:3, shall two walk together except they agree….. life is too short to spend 12years of it praying for character change. Meanwhile, Lynn Ngugi and Zulu are such a blessing to this generation ❤️ listening to their wisdom will bless you

  • @nancymuchiri6853
    @nancymuchiri6853 Год назад +22

    Great story here.
    Thank you Lynn for having both of them on set.
    This is so balanced and helpful.
    Keep on.

  • @salomenjoroge6019
    @salomenjoroge6019 Год назад +3

    Quite sobering and inspiring as well. I can quite get enough words about how grateful I am about this one. Thanks Lynn.

  • @lydiahnduta
    @lydiahnduta Год назад +8

    Marriage is not battle, wise people make it work! This is proverbs 31 woman really we don't submit foolishly, this type of man is thorn that Paul had, God couldn't remove it! 😰 He changed him at his own time! Life lessons! Kudos Lynn for positive story! You're absolutely smart 🙏

  • @ruthpearl2439
    @ruthpearl2439 Год назад +9

    I sat down, listened ,learnt and kept it all in my heart just like Mary the mother of Jesus when she was visited by the angel. Great interview

    • @julius7546
      @julius7546 Год назад

      Wow! I love that, like mary kept everything on her heart.

  • @alicen625
    @alicen625 Год назад +6

    Beautiful interview. So much to learn from this beautiful couple !

  • @janemusyoki7846
    @janemusyoki7846 Год назад +29

    When Venus said "I thought I was gonna get married to a pastor" then Santos laughs his heart out😂😂

  • @Wanjamburu.23
    @Wanjamburu.23 Год назад +6

    She's brilliant. Each of them are very aware of what they at individual levels. The good thing is he was willing to change for the better. Marriage is very tricky. You came in there not knowing your temperament or his, dealing with issues of the past,then the package of children, inlaws, friends,finances, drunkardness and so forth only God can help. Its never easy.

  • @lyrickyms2408
    @lyrickyms2408 Год назад +33

    I know Santos,we grew up in the same neighborhood.Thanks for sharing your story.... marriage is a beautiful blessing.

  • @philisimbuga8307
    @philisimbuga8307 Год назад +10

    They're an amazing couple.thats what we call couple goals.i really enjoyed watching them expressing there feelings towards each other.may God bless that union

  • @Godsamazinggrace254
    @Godsamazinggrace254 Год назад +13

    Thank you Lynn for bringing this couple on board I must say I have learnt alot av known things that I never knew and av now known better the next time am getting into a serious relationship I know how I can handle some issues without creating dramas or without having to walk away at every slightest provocation..I am blessed with this story

  • @esthernyokabi3225
    @esthernyokabi3225 Год назад +7

    Can we count the number of times that Santo has reffered to his wife's point or remarks 🤗🤗🤗.. simply beautiful ❤️💕

  • @jessicakitari221
    @jessicakitari221 Год назад +3

    Wow! Lynn I never comment but this is very inspiring and an eye opener....issues have been tackled to the core. I would listen again and again....Amazing!! thanks for sharing this story, blessings🙏

  • @jeddymoon3803
    @jeddymoon3803 Год назад +13

    Marriage is not easy. It takes compromise, sacrifice, and revealing yourself to another person. However, if you are willing to work and submit to the process, it Mostlty promises great reward.

  • @Sofia-dl9vw
    @Sofia-dl9vw Год назад +8

    Thank you for this story. I love this couple! Their wisdom is just so fresh and genuine. Their examples are so realistic and are real challenges facing marriage. They are a real couple. Thanks so much for bringing this couple Lynn. The more that they speak, the more I am nodding my head because everything they are saying is so true! Don't leave 80% for 20%. Marriage requires someone to always be working on the relationship's survival. Even the temptation of affairs. The husband saying that when she shines, I shine too made my heart melt. Where are men like this? This is an amazing one. One of my best apart from that other couple that was on the show a few weeks ago.

  • @juliakamatoto987
    @juliakamatoto987 Год назад +1

    Very educational, thank you for sharing your experience. God bless you always.

  • @shiess9860
    @shiess9860 Год назад +1

    Lynn I feel blessed and enlightened by that show...you are in the right track... it's a big inspiration for all people in Kenya and outside Kenya. Be blessed

  • @sheewamungu3010
    @sheewamungu3010 Год назад +18

    The two of you looks so good together. Wish you the very best.

  • @rephaa7905
    @rephaa7905 Год назад +3

    Amazing couple 💑, wish them luck. Thanks Lyn for hosting different people who tell different stories, am really learning alot

  • @mercyschwanenberger824
    @mercyschwanenberger824 Год назад +2

    Lynn Thanks for this amazing Message.Marriage is not always roses thy are more thorns to battle ahead.And we can’t change a person only the person within her/him can change herself

  • @jeffgachiri6072
    @jeffgachiri6072 Год назад +17

    A lady who has done this repeatedly can do it anytime..sometimes financial security is wht makes such women stay

    • @janemusyoki7846
      @janemusyoki7846 Год назад

      As if venus is not financially stable...zip it insecure man

  • @jacklinechepkoech2127
    @jacklinechepkoech2127 Год назад +5

    😍😍😍 My! This is just soo beautiful! I am inspired, I have learnt so much. Thank you Lyn for bringing this couple.. Can't wait to see them again

  • @florenceannenechesa1506
    @florenceannenechesa1506 Год назад +5

    Having Venus as one of my role model in Rotaract has been a very inspirational.This is a couple I treasure.

  • @Winiwinny
    @Winiwinny Год назад +1

    Lynn God bless you,the type of interviews are needed in the world we living today,I love how you connect with the people you’re interviewing

  • @fkmutai9
    @fkmutai9 Год назад +2

    Hi Lynn.thanks for the good lessons about marriage . May God bless the family .

  • @heatherl7094
    @heatherl7094 Год назад +16

    Thanks, Lynn for this vlog it was filled with so many lessons not only for a couple in marriage but also for a single person contemplating marriage. I am happy the day the Lord exposed me to your RUclips channel. Nuff love from Jamaica!!

  • @Gacheri-Gacheri
    @Gacheri-Gacheri Год назад +3

    This show was just meant for me,thank you beautiful couple and Lynn God bless you.

  • @tripletsfoundationfpb9852
    @tripletsfoundationfpb9852 Год назад +51

    Am encouraged marriage is not a scam, true love exists

    • @komuramuziagnes342
      @komuramuziagnes342 Год назад +1

      True. After undergoing toxic marriage with the daddy of my kid, God blessed me with one. Love u Akiiki

    • @Yvonne7220
      @Yvonne7220 Год назад +1

      True I believe love is such a beautiful thing

  • @eddnamakori3591
    @eddnamakori3591 Год назад +10

    Never look for a pretty face it will turn old one day, Never look for perfect skin it will wrinkle one day, Never look for colourful hair it will turn white one day and lastly Never look for perfect man/woman no one is perfect instead look for a royal heart that will love you and Never change

  • @phylisotota779
    @phylisotota779 Год назад +3

    Just watched here at Lynn ngugi n decided l just have to look for you on RUclips n subscribe n follow you.
    You such a blessing especially today my first time to hear n watch successful marriage. Good work Lynn

  • @bettiedaytoday9389
    @bettiedaytoday9389 Год назад +4

    Lovely couple,I love this.when we see these we still blv surely marriage works...

  • @mikesgenerators2068
    @mikesgenerators2068 Год назад +2

    Thanks Lynn for bringing up this couple, trust me I personally am truly grateful to watch and listen to this, it has truly enlightened me on several occasions I need to address in my relationship

  • @peterwabwire6511
    @peterwabwire6511 Год назад +2

    Thanks Lynn so much for bring this couple I have learnt much from them, much love ❤ to them.

  • @letenjoylifewithjesus8592
    @letenjoylifewithjesus8592 Год назад +3

    Me am victim of going for 20 and almost lost 80 but thank God I changed my mind and went back to my husband.

  • @carolinekolom5510
    @carolinekolom5510 Год назад +8

    A friend that cares will take your word as you put it….. sending you money doesn’t mean your friend was bad. I feel you should withdraw your words……

  • @abletasharnetwork
    @abletasharnetwork Год назад

    Wow ilove this message already the introduction God me thinking God just sent me amazing soul to speak to me 🙏am so grateful. Thanks lyne for watcha nitulie Sasa 👂🥰

  • @charity4908
    @charity4908 Год назад +1

    ...very useful conversation on this episode...bless the couple...encouraging observation on this...

  • @wanjirusspace
    @wanjirusspace Год назад +40

    Thank Lynn for this particular episode.
    The couple has taught us a lot about marriage. I love their vulnerability, the fact that there is no perfect marriage. it takes hard work to make it work and both parties have to be willing to cooperate.
    Good job Venus and Santos.

    • @mikesgenerators2068
      @mikesgenerators2068 Год назад +1

      True my sister, we should learn to accept and amend the marriage we all accepted to love

  • @JascahRita
    @JascahRita Год назад +3

    Lovely... great advice. I would love Venus to come alone and narrate that journey candidly... I feel I din't hear that journey well and she is such a good story teller ✅

  • @Omi1865
    @Omi1865 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your lives with us. I love you both. Wow..... God's faithfulness right there......!!!

  • @joycenganga4763
    @joycenganga4763 Год назад

    Thank you Lynn for bringing this couple to us...their story has helped mi alot reflect on sooo many things Abt marriage...alot of lessons learnt nd ready to strive

  • @hmackennatv3989
    @hmackennatv3989 Год назад +9

    This is what I have wanted to see for a long time…a show with healing 👏👏👏👏

  • @Jimax-fx
    @Jimax-fx Год назад +3

    great conversation about marriage. this the only part of life that we are never taught anywhere, experience teaches us. good work Lyn.

  • @monicanduta8167
    @monicanduta8167 Год назад +1

    Beautiful couple 💕💕💕💕💕💕So encouraging love story.i have learned alot 🙏May God bless you

  • @peninahkabugi7173
    @peninahkabugi7173 Год назад +3

    This couple has taught me alot in marriage.Lynn got wisdom.thanks for this great show.True 💕

  • @bellakay78
    @bellakay78 Год назад +3

    Thank you Lynn for bringing different people to tell their stories.i have learnt most things from here.much love from uganda.

  • @annkariuki1108
    @annkariuki1108 Год назад +3

    Aki these great lady amenifungua macho...mimi nikikasirika,nakuaga kaa nimezitupa..lakini nimelearn the importance of keeping calm when am angry nisiseme maneno itahurt my partner for the rest of his life..thanks for talking about this great couple ..hamjui mmesaidia watu wangapi?b blessed

  • @esthersvendsen
    @esthersvendsen Год назад +1

    Ooh wow. May God bless them. I have really learnt alot alot alot. Thank you so much.

  • @essiejohnsofficial8817
    @essiejohnsofficial8817 Год назад +1

    Beautiful story from a beautiful couple😍😍Thanks for this, av really learnt alot🙏💕more blessings

  • @giftytengey2066
    @giftytengey2066 Год назад +14

    Fervent prayer and conscious effort to make something work produces result. Congratulations to you both. I believe this show will help couples to hold on, make that conscious effort, and not give up. God bless you Lynn. Gifty from Ghana 🇬🇭

  • @qui_wilsons983
    @qui_wilsons983 Год назад +6

    Here for the love of my fellow Rotary members.. I love this show. A great couple there!

  • @essy_tasha1
    @essy_tasha1 Год назад +1

    Waaoow this couple is just amazing I've learnt a lot for real, I've always had a phobia when it comes to marriage but they've encouraged me. God bless them abundantly and you lynn you're doing amazing job.thanks

  • @lizlove3962
    @lizlove3962 Год назад +1

    Lynn your shows zimenifunza sana, and am still learning everyday. I never miss one. God bless you.l love the couples they really inspired me.Much love from Tz

  • @abletasharnetwork
    @abletasharnetwork Год назад +3

    Ihave taken every thing home may God bless you all ❤️❤️❤️and I can't wait to have more of this always may God reach this channel to everyone straggling in all areas of there lives am humbled to be part of this show sending you love from dubai 🙏😘