UPDATE ❤ To be honest,we did not expect this video to reach so many of you given this channel is very much new ❤ The highlight is going through your beautiful comments and also seeing some of you reconcile with your friends. Love is a beautiful thing. We might make another video together soon and I promise to make this channel a safe space for all of us❤ Few things, .I know I snitched 😂😂😂😂blah blah blah,…anyws, Jokes aside,… 1. Please continue Subscribing to Zawadi’s channel through this link ruclips.net/video/s76olkCN87c/видео.htmlsi=X8xQ9UG9ZbTf66OF 2.please Subscribe to this channel too, it will mean a lot to me❤ 3.Details on Zawadi’s hair, my sweater and lipstick coming in our next video 4.If you would like to reconnect with your friend through this platform, feel free to drop me an email ,Lynnngugipersonal@gmail.com 5.Keep sharing this video with your loved ones🙏 6.Have a beautiful week ahead ❤
I just like the way u are free to express your feelings even after staying apart for 5yrs ,this is true love aky..atleast it has helped me to stop ule upuuzi wa deleting n blocking pple who offend me
Wow! Lynn this is good... a beautiful reunion to a lasting friendship what a mature way to reconcile.First you do look alike and I am proud of you because you have just taken your friendship to another level...maturity now you know when you are not doing right or handling your conflicts well.👏🏾to a.lasting friendship.
It's a great topic. So many are reluctant to address it because it may cause some awkwardness, vulnerability,reflection and hopefully reconciliation. 🇹🇹
I met a girl in 2008 in Capetown and we hit it off and became best of friends. We really had a beautiful relationship that we shared a lot. So when i got pregnant she was the first person I shared with and asked her to keep to herself until I was ready to share with my family. She failed to do that and it really hurt me. We exchanged bad words and broke our friendship. Four years later I reached out to her and we hit it off without hesitation. We really cried when we met. Fast forward she died in 2017 and i happened to be the last person she had spoken to that day. I am glad that we reconciled before she died.
In 2020 I had to terminate a 20 years relationship i was so low and down but I had too.Right now am.okay after offering her a job at my company she stabbed me I decided not to suck her but to terminate our relationship and deal with her like any other staff. She used to do her work so well but I could not stand her behaviour anymore.
My best friend of 10 years also passed away 7 years ago and I swear it still feels like yesterday. I was the last person she spoke to that night and got buried on my birthday 💔 A part of me is never coming back and I have to learn to live with that. However I gained other friendships ❤ they healed my broken heart, they nurtured me, they genuinely want to see me win and I question God what did I do to deserve such human beings... I love them so much, they are the best part of me ❤
Waaaaah that was me I had my Good friend my bff, she was rude to me and I was very Angry with her, we stayed over 7 years without talking to each other, honestly i missed her, we meet later we become friends again, unfortunately after 3 year's she passed away😢😢😢 2022 June, I miss her every day
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I had a friend from high school but as we grew post-university - we became very toxic to each other. In the end, we drifted apart. After 5 years plus, she reached out and said she missed me and would like us to meet. I told her my regrets in how badly i had behaved towards her as a friend. And i profusely apologised to her. But instead of her apologizing as well - she began to remind me of how badly i had treated her. She never once mentioned how badly she had treated me... i decided there and then not to rekindle the friendship. Because i realized that in all those years apart, she had had no reflection of her past behaviour, and that also meant she had not really grown and changed as a person
I wish someone else did this interview so that all of you can concentrate on andwering the questions, and true you have so much in common, soft spoken, good hearted, look alikes etc. Thank you Lynn for introducing us to someone like you.
So many things can contribute to friendship breakdowns, but the most hurtful is when people change on you because their life has changed for the better and they feel like you are not on the same level as them anymore.
That's what happened to me...she left me for people that were doing better than me in a number of aspects...I tried to get us to meet and talk over a snack but it never helped. It left me broken...to today I tear up thinking about it. But then I also know that it was a way of God separating me for a greater cause, which I pursued and would never have had we stayed close friends...that doesn't take away the fact that it did hurt anyway. Thanks Lyn for sharing your story.
A friendship breakup is one of the worst feelings ever. I had a bad breakup with my high school best friend and looking back, it wasn't even something worth breaking up for so looong. It hurts, really hurts. I got another friend later in life, and had another breakup, now more mature, we sat and talked and solved our misunderstandings. It hurts when a friendship is lost
Personally I dropped my friends because if I don't reach out no one will they will wrong me and am still the one to reach out and ask like what going on no apology no explanation gat tired and went off.i had few friends only 4and only talk to one. And am good we don't everyday but when we do it's always a good time❤.so I went off on my other because I felt like am always the one trying to mend things was draining and being alone is better ❤so far
Such a beautiful conversation. Lilian and Lyne are both beautiful and they kinda look alike, they can pass for siblings. Am glad they have decided to put their differences behind.
I had a best friend back in high school who I loved dearly. We always shared our dreams, told our secrets to each other we even knew what the other was thinking. She was the best friend I ever had. Senior year everything changed. She stopped speaking to me, stopped calling me, stopped hanging out with me etc. I was hurt and tried asking her what’s going on but she refused to speak with me. After graduation, I never saw her again until our 30th high school reunion last year. She reached out and apologized and wanted things to be the way they were. I accepted her apology but told her that we are better off continuing to go our separate ways. It still effects me and I know it definitely affects her.
You have not forgiven her for how she left she hanging. If you did forgive her, you would look forward to a reconciliation and accept it when it comes. You should let go of the hurt. Life is short.
@@iamenabled9372 forgiveness doesn’t mean that you allow certain people back into your life. Too much time has passed that I’m not interested in forming a bond with her. I didn’t say why she stopped speaking to me but I do know that communication is key and I want friends who can communicate with me and have a conversation about what went wrong and she refused to do that at the time. Another thing I didn’t mention was that she wasn’t loyal. She ended up being close to a girl who was envious of me and the friendship ended really bad. By the time she found out what type of person she was it was too late to save our friendship. I’m in a better place and have better friends who values friendship so I’m good. I wish her well.
@@iamenabled9372I disagree with your opinion. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you must continue your relationship with them. We can forgive and choose to move on
@@iamenabled9372 we have choice to make; the writer of the comment made hers so did her friend before the 30 years. you can forgive someone and still don't want to do anything with that person. Forgiveness is for past conciliation and for future consideration as simple as that.
I lost my best friend of almost 8 years in 2020. So much has happened in my life that I really wish she was there to celebrate with me but well, life. Maybe one day we'll get to sit and talk, or maybe not. Glad you guys reconciled
This reminds me of my childhood friend, whom I’ve always supported with everything. 23 years of friendship. It took me a minute to realize that I had to let that friendship go. She reached out last year but I felt like we were better off without being in each other’s lives ❤
@@cammyokinda1735 so I starting noticing how one sided our friendship was. In 2020 we both were getting married. Her Wedding was supposed to be July 2020 while mine was in September 5th of that same year .They couldn’t find a wedding venue for the date that they wanted especially since it was done last minute. So they had to choose a different date. Instead of choosing a date that would work for both of us. She ending up choosing august 27th. While being a good friend I spoke to my husband and my family and we pushed my wedding to September 12 that way I would be able to attend her wedding and also give her time to come to mine. Keep in mind that we live in different states . I did all that only for her not to even come to my wedding. Let’s just say it made me realize that I was the giver in the relationship
I don't think i can reconcile with my ex girlfriend ...she did so much damage reaching an extent of sending me to prison...bad mouthing about me to my husband 🙏🙏🙏
@@katrinachamia be strong girl let her go for good ....for give her for the sake of your peace of mind ...and keep the distance long ....I left my ex gf I shifted from the village we were staying n I went far a way from her n her family ......but of recent a friend of mine told how she went on texting him asking for my number 🙄🙄🙄 nkashanga n was like what does she want looking for me
@@hailee6486 I wish you could know how she destroyed me and not once or twice😭😭😭 I never shared it with anyone it kills the respect I had for myself when I remember all that she did......it came to a point that I don't value myself again.....ushawai kuwa weakness fulani alafu mtu akutusi nayo ama akuongee nje or uwe una shida ya mwili and then someone is using that to paint other way round hadi chali anaona enyewe sasa huyu dem anakaa aje sura yake😭😭😭😭
@@hailee6486 I'm always don't trust myself or anyone when they tell me am cute or beautiful .....I gat scar on my face I try hiding it, I go through a lot alafu mtu anachukulia advantage it really hurts me my dear ila najua mwili hakuna spare part kama za gari😭😭😭
I have lost friends before but l can never imagine losing my best friend whom l have known for 9 years, she's also a family friend.Sometimes we get at loggerheads but a day can never pass without making up.Falling out with a best friend is worse than a break up with a boyfriend.
I broke up with my Kenyan friend. I’m Tanzania. It’s been 2+ years. I’m the one that cut ties and she never reached out. I felt like she never held space for me when I needed her and at that time I really needed her. Such is life. The memories have become so distant and far and even now that I’ve moved on she still crosses my mind from time to time.
@@roselidaawino6712 nimekushtua kidogo lakini mimi ni mtanzania halisi. People that make statements like these have only been around less privileged Tanzanians. Meaning you’re less privileged and can only afford to be around such. Acha dharau, travel some more and be around multicultural people.
You nailed it!👌 Even worse when people don't want to own their malicious ways. Or transferring blame. I love the song by Kenny Roger's "You can't make old friends" 🎶
I lost my almost 20 year old friendship with my friend who got swallowed up in Alcoholism and got depressed after closing down her businesses due to Covid 19. I tried all I could but nothing worked. I tried writing to Lynn and see if she could hook her up with a Rehab but I believe she didn’t see it. I pray that God sends His help to my ones very Hardworking ,focused , go getter friend and restore her. Friendship is a Gift from God . Happy for you adorable ladies
Hi Lynn, you girls are beautiful and kind of look alike. So the saying is "don't tell me who or what was talking about me, tell me why they were so comfortable doing it in your presence" Oh and Lillian is nice and humble, she's calm cool and collected. Wishing you all the best in your friendship.
Oh my God Lynn, it's 3years now sobbing about my friend, the only friend I had for 7 years. I don't know what happened 😭. I pains me so much, I hope we get a second chance like you guys. May God bless your friendship Lynn, much love from China❤❤❤
The dynamics of female friendships can get complicated especially when big life changes happen. Learning to grant people grace along the journey and being super intentional in nurturing the relationships is one way to grow and thrive. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability with each other.
A friendship breakup is more painful than a romantic relationship. I can relate. And I’m happy we reconciled this year after 4 years. And I feel like our friendship is stronger and we’ve accepted each other as is
Wao all support to Zawadi she has a beautiful heart. If you people did not have such a breakup, this story would not be here. We have learned and can relate to this.
Lynn Zawadi means gift.... She is a true Zawadi to you.... A friend to forever keep... You broke a girl Code but she clearly loves you... She is amazing❤
Sisterhood or girl code is v important ....one should not date or gossip with someone's husband,fiancee,boyfriend even if they are ex's....men says bros before hoes.....
How i pray and wish my friendship with my best not to break bcz i love her so much ❤ ooo God grant us love, humanity and patience for each other 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏 always in my heart 💕❤️💕❤️💕.
Woman to woman relationships are so underrated. They are sisterhood that sometimes are even sweeter than romantic relationships. This was beautiful to watch.
After three years I reached out to my best friend towards the end of 2023 and apologized. In those three yrs I feel like we've grown to be so different that now I don't know how to reconnect
I understand Lilian very well Lynn it was not your place to say anything irregardless of what he said you have no business comfirming or denying any of it. Faithfulness. This was an interesting episode i went thru the same. I felt betrayed😂
Its great how Lynn is so supportive. She has Lilian's best interest at heart and its so evident. I'm happy Lilian has taken the challenge to open her RUclips channel, and we are voting for you girl. Everything starts with a single step. Love y'all
Hi Lynn The reconciliation with your best friend reminded me of my best friend who we've never talked in 4years till date though we didn't throw hurtful words to each other, it only went silent for whatever had happened. I too got your bad behavior lynn of deleting, terminating and blocking peoples number and memories when i feel they wronged me 😊 hopeful I'll change for the better just like you... Unfortunately while watching the episode till end it happened that i remember my best friend's number after forgetting it for such a long time. I'll give it a shot to see if we can reconcile and allow whats flow to flow. I'll come back with a reconciliation testimony when God allows it to happen. Thank you Lynn and Lilian for the inspiration!! ❤❤
Best conversation..it's normal to be human..but reconciliation and confession is a great step for healing.."confess your sins to one another and you will be healed,"Good work Lynn ❤❤❤
Today Lynn you ministered to my heart through your conversation with you best friend. Am so happy for you two. Thanks for reconciling. I also broke with a friend whom I still value. I felt betrayed and one day just blocked them and never said a word. They much later learnt I had blocked everywhere. Its been a while now. Recently, I unblocked on sms and calls and some old messages they wrote a while back came in with one message saying,..... "are you okay? please lets talk when you are available". My heart sunk and I felt so guilty but then I didn't know what we would talk about. I am like you lynn, I give my all to a friendship/relationship (completely all) and when i feel disappointed, I can easily walk away. I have actually walked away of friendships that no one would think I could but the most unfortunate thing is, once I walk away, I hardly feel the need to go back reason being, I gave it my all but I pray just like you, my heart may soften and give space to allowing back coz in my case, anyone I ever interacted with considering that I gave my best will at some point fight to reconcile but I find it hard to let back.
Watching this and i automatically miss my friend too...tulikosana kitu ya ujinga 7yrs ago saa hii kila.mtu akonna familia na watoto 😭😭😭 i just survive by stalking her ...
I can see the true love here this is totally how me and my best friend used to be🥹 but we are not in good terms right now💔 i hope we get here someday 💗🤲🏽
Candid conversations😢 Friendship break-ups are painful if you really cared about the other person genuinely, lets embrace having conversations when we are hurt!Took me back to some pain but oh well, we loose some ❤So happy for you two!
Ngai! You look like identical twins. Your friendship has been beautiful and despite that fall off, your friendship still remains grounded and the foundation was honesty. Thanks for sharing your journey of friendship and confirming forgiveness is key. God bless you both .
I broke up with my bestie for a week and I felt my heart bleeding. I was unable to sleep for that period. Wueeh😢. I've been in a romantic breakup but this one for a friend hits different. I'm glad we made up❤❤
Lynn, thank you so much for this vulnerable show. I had two spe iak friend that were like family to me. In 2009 I got married and moved abroad. I never imagined that would be the slow death of our friendship. I was always the one who texted, called, reached out. I am just crying, thinking how much heart pain I felt, especially when I had my first daughter and none of my friends checked on me. One friend we have reconnected, and although it it never be the same, I am grateful. The other I got tired of reaching out and just accepted it. Friendship breakups can be even more traumatic than romantic breakups. I am glad you made up with your twinny
Some friendships are exhausting especially when its one person who has to mend...you are reciprocated with ego pride and spite...Regardless we learn and embrace the real ones that are ready to always reciprocate the love and maturing 😊
Some friendships are meant to break forever. There are people who talk too much and will always talk about you and say things they shouldn't without a care in the world how you feel about it. They will tell people who respect you and in the end when you get wind of it you make that one time decision and live to never regret it.
You look like siblings ❤ . I've had 'friend' ghost us (I have a friend group which I loved and still do dearly) without telling us what we did wrong. It hurt. Now I look back and wonder what we did wrong to date.
This was an inspirational talk on friendships. Thank you Nguni and Lilian . I had a best friend who betrayed me and I was hurt to the core by telling The lead leader how she used to support me and telling my secrets because she was sleeping with him 🤦🏿♀️ My friend has no shame, I disrespect her for allowing herself to be used and dump a friendship we had from before. Very sad. But thankfully I don’t miss her 😂😂😂and will never need her in my life. I know she chose a path that is going to teach her a lesson . You ladies have shown us how to do it… SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT IT. Thanks ladies♥️
What amazes me is they are both October babies and I relate so much with their behaviors lol because I am also a Libra like them. Not to lean so much on astrology but I feel like a mix of both. This was very vulnerable .❤❤
It is the worst feeling ever 😢 missing that person yet you don't have the guts of admitting the fact that you are no longer close..... thanks for this conversation Lynn it helped me a lot ❤
Nice to see two women addressing issues. I once had a friend who treated me so bad for no reason. When she betrayed me first time, I forgave, then she did it again and this time it was so bad. This person decided to attack my character by talking really ill of me to people I know. I learnt a lot after the betrayal, I forgave her but I can never allow her back my life again. I'm doing so much better and I have a brilliant circle of friends now. I've also realised that she is a very mentally unhealthy person and lacks intellect.They say iron sharpens Iron. Surround yourself with people who build you not try to drag you down.
This is one of the realest conversations I have ever heard. It is very relatable. So many close friends have gone through this. Unfortunately some never pulled those walls down enough to take accountability and fix the friendship. It takes so much grace and courage to admit fault and try again. Kudos to you ladies.
Currently I'm going through this. I've tried to reason with him but penye imefika it's just to sit back maintain boundaries. Friendship break ups hurt more than relationship break upsv
I think am not normal cos idon't have friends in my life am alone may be its from my guardian who never allowed any friend in her house or me visiting any just keeping me indoors upto now am 28yrs but ifear people .thx Lynn i love yr content.
This video speaks to me. I lost a friendship after a silly argument, I can't even remember what it was about or who did what. 3 Years down the line I still grieve from time to time. I have never had the courage to reach out, and as Zawadi has said, I keep wondering 'what if'... - If our paths never cross again in life, I do hope I can at least have 100% peace.
I feel blessed by how I've watched this, the same happened to me and my best friend but I'm grateful for her cause she's more of a sister than a friend just like Lynn said... For the record we got back together after a whole year and truthfully nothing and no one really fills the gap they leave. God bless you two 🙏
UPDATE ❤
To be honest,we did not expect this video to reach so many of you given this channel is very much new ❤
The highlight is going through your beautiful comments and also seeing some of you reconcile with your friends. Love is a beautiful thing.
We might make another video together soon and I promise to make this channel a safe space for all of us❤
Few things,
.I know I snitched 😂😂😂😂blah blah blah,…anyws, Jokes aside,…
1. Please continue Subscribing to Zawadi’s channel through this link ruclips.net/video/s76olkCN87c/видео.htmlsi=X8xQ9UG9ZbTf66OF
2.please Subscribe to this channel too, it will mean a lot to me❤
3.Details on Zawadi’s hair, my sweater and lipstick coming in our next video
4.If you would like to reconnect with your friend through this platform, feel free to drop me an email ,Lynnngugipersonal@gmail.com
5.Keep sharing this video with your loved ones🙏
6.Have a beautiful week ahead ❤
You look sisters...I just love what u are talking..this things do happen
I just like the way u are free to express your feelings even after staying apart for 5yrs ,this is true love aky..atleast it has helped me to stop ule upuuzi wa deleting n blocking pple who offend me
Wow! Lynn this is good...
a beautiful reunion to a lasting friendship what a mature way to reconcile.First you do look alike and I am proud of you because you have just taken your friendship to another level...maturity now you know when you are not doing right or handling your conflicts well.👏🏾to a.lasting friendship.
It's a great topic. So many are reluctant to address it because it may cause some awkwardness, vulnerability,reflection and hopefully reconciliation. 🇹🇹
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Kama umekuja hapa juu ya Lynn's in Dialogues with Jagelo hit a like hundred times
I met a girl in 2008 in Capetown and we hit it off and became best of friends. We really had a beautiful relationship that we shared a lot. So when i got pregnant she was the first person I shared with and asked her to keep to herself until I was ready to share with my family. She failed to do that and it really hurt me. We exchanged bad words and broke our friendship. Four years later I reached out to her and we hit it off without hesitation. We really cried when we met. Fast forward she died in 2017 and i happened to be the last person she had spoken to that day. I am glad that we reconciled before she died.
In 2020 I had to terminate a 20 years relationship i was so low and down but I had too.Right now am.okay after offering her a job at my company she stabbed me I decided not to suck her but to terminate our relationship and deal with her like any other staff.
She used to do her work so well but I could not stand her behaviour anymore.
May your bestie rest in eternal peace. I'm glad you worked things out and rekindled your beautiful friendship.
My best friend of 10 years also passed away 7 years ago and I swear it still feels like yesterday. I was the last person she spoke to that night and got buried on my birthday 💔 A part of me is never coming back and I have to learn to live with that. However I gained other friendships ❤ they healed my broken heart, they nurtured me, they genuinely want to see me win and I question God what did I do to deserve such human beings... I love them so much, they are the best part of me ❤
Waaaaah that was me I had my Good friend my bff, she was rude to me and I was very Angry with her, we stayed over 7 years without talking to each other, honestly i missed her, we meet later we become friends again, unfortunately after 3 year's she passed away😢😢😢 2022 June, I miss her every day
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Zawadi is so pretty, still, calm, collected, and soft-spoken.
I had a friend from high school but as we grew post-university - we became very toxic to each other. In the end, we drifted apart. After 5 years plus, she reached out and said she missed me and would like us to meet. I told her my regrets in how badly i had behaved towards her as a friend. And i profusely apologised to her. But instead of her apologizing as well - she began to remind me of how badly i had treated her. She never once mentioned how badly she had treated me... i decided there and then not to rekindle the friendship. Because i realized that in all those years apart, she had had no reflection of her past behaviour, and that also meant she had not really grown and changed as a person
Some friends are toxic and don’t value the friendship
That's manipulative, if I were you I will keep my distance.
Lynn you can use this channel to reconcile friends too,it would be very interesting to watch❤❤
Brilliant 👏 idea😮
i agree
Kabisaa I need this
Start with Jacky and Milly
yep....
Who is cutting onions in here.Keep Zawadi she is authentic pretty calm and collected
Happy friendship Lynn and Zawadi
My mum just walked in and she thinks you are interviewing yourself.Enyewe you two were a friendship made in Heaven.❤
I wish someone else did this interview so that all of you can concentrate on andwering the questions, and true you have so much in common, soft spoken, good hearted, look alikes etc. Thank you Lynn for introducing us to someone like you.
Very true
There should have been a tension breaker
I wish milly chebi and jacky could also resolve their issues 😢
I love that lynn and her twinnie are all a vibe❤❤❤❤
They will imagine,for now let them be...
I wish so too but I feel like Terrence is part of the reason they will stay longer without reconciliation
So many things can contribute to friendship breakdowns, but the most hurtful is when people change on you because their life has changed for the better and they feel like you are not on the same level as them anymore.
This is so painful
That's what happened to me...she left me for people that were doing better than me in a number of aspects...I tried to get us to meet and talk over a snack but it never helped. It left me broken...to today I tear up thinking about it. But then I also know that it was a way of God separating me for a greater cause, which I pursued and would never have had we stayed close friends...that doesn't take away the fact that it did hurt anyway.
Thanks Lyn for sharing your story.
And when people change on you because they can't handle that your life has changed for the better. Sad
😢it hurts
I experienced this
Ladies ,for our friendships to blossom,we must have boundaries with the Men in our lives…we cannot mix this …,
How can I, a fifty year old keep enjoying Lynn Nguni’s conversations? You are a gem. God bless you.
Age is a number. What would you be watching if not positive stories? Just asking
The name is strange 😮😮😮fune...
@@ednahbiwot3038 It means I hate funerals, so when I can I hop to the next wedding.
@@ednahbiwot3038 You are so right, it was a rhetorical question.
I also do im 53
A friendship breakup is one of the worst feelings ever. I had a bad breakup with my high school best friend and looking back, it wasn't even something worth breaking up for so looong. It hurts, really hurts. I got another friend later in life, and had another breakup, now more mature, we sat and talked and solved our misunderstandings. It hurts when a friendship is lost
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Wow! I like the Mature part
Personally I dropped my friends because if I don't reach out no one will they will wrong me and am still the one to reach out and ask like what going on no apology no explanation gat tired and went off.i had few friends only 4and only talk to one. And am good we don't everyday but when we do it's always a good time❤.so I went off on my other because I felt like am always the one trying to mend things was draining and being alone is better ❤so far
@@wanguidee853I'm glad you left that one-sided and selfish relationship
@@nyambun4356 am happier now and at peace ❤
Ladies this is an important conversation. Thank you so much for doing this for us!
On this, Lynn was the one on the wrong, glad you got back. I lost a close friend last year too. 😢
Yeah, and she kinda not admitting
I wish Jackie and Milly will one day be in this channel
Sometimes break up is good to get discover who we are clear toxicity within ourselves and now learn to treasure one another
Let's talk also about jealousy and envy in friendship. It happened to me and I now have trust issues which has really affected genuine friendships
I can relate
Great suggestion ❤
It happened to me too.
Exactly my sentiments!
Keep Zawadi, she is a sweet friend.. ata she blends with the way you have a mouthful of words... it is nice to have such a one
Lynn, there is something about your bestie. She has a warmth about her. Like a very warm, gentle spirit. There is something
But Lynn is somehow proud
Such a beautiful conversation. Lilian and Lyne are both beautiful and they kinda look alike, they can pass for siblings. Am glad they have decided to put their differences behind.
Thank you❤
You've spoken my mind
True they look alike.
They look alike
And their names start with the same letter
I had a best friend back in high school who I loved dearly. We always shared our dreams, told our secrets to each other we even knew what the other was thinking. She was the best friend I ever had. Senior year everything changed. She stopped speaking to me, stopped calling me, stopped hanging out with me etc. I was hurt and tried asking her what’s going on but she refused to speak with me. After graduation, I never saw her again until our 30th high school reunion last year. She reached out and apologized and wanted things to be the way they were. I accepted her apology but told her that we are better off continuing to go our separate ways. It still effects me and I know it definitely affects her.
You have not forgiven her for how she left she hanging. If you did forgive her, you would look forward to a reconciliation and accept it when it comes. You should let go of the hurt. Life is short.
@@iamenabled9372 forgiveness doesn’t mean that you allow certain people back into your life. Too much time has passed that I’m not interested in forming a bond with her. I didn’t say why she stopped speaking to me but I do know that communication is key and I want friends who can communicate with me and have a conversation about what went wrong and she refused to do that at the time. Another thing I didn’t mention was that she wasn’t loyal. She ended up being close to a girl who was envious of me and the friendship ended really bad. By the time she found out what type of person she was it was too late to save our friendship. I’m in a better place and have better friends who values friendship so I’m good. I wish her well.
@@iamenabled9372anyone who dumps me as their friend so they can be friends with someone else was never really my friend.
@@iamenabled9372I disagree with your opinion. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you must continue your relationship with them. We can forgive and choose to move on
@@iamenabled9372 we have choice to make; the writer of the comment made hers so did her friend before the 30 years. you can forgive someone and still don't want to do anything with that person. Forgiveness is for past conciliation and for future consideration as simple as that.
I lost my best friend of almost 8 years in 2020. So much has happened in my life that I really wish she was there to celebrate with me but well, life. Maybe one day we'll get to sit and talk, or maybe not. Glad you guys reconciled
This reminds me of my childhood friend, whom I’ve always supported with everything. 23 years of friendship. It took me a minute to realize that I had to let that friendship go. She reached out last year but I felt like we were better off without being in each other’s lives ❤
Almost my story,and for sure it's better without us together again😊
My story too..i let go 17 yrs of friendship
Why did you let her go?
@@cammyokinda1735 so I starting noticing how one sided our friendship was. In 2020 we both were getting married. Her Wedding was supposed to be July 2020 while mine was in September 5th of that same year .They couldn’t find a wedding venue for the date that they wanted especially since it was done last minute. So they had to choose a different date. Instead of choosing a date that would work for both of us. She ending up choosing august 27th. While being a good friend I spoke to my husband and my family and we pushed my wedding to September 12 that way I would be able to attend her wedding and also give her time to come to mine. Keep in mind that we live in different states . I did all that only for her not to even come to my wedding. Let’s just say it made me realize that I was the giver in the relationship
What a beautiful friendship ❤❤.
You look alike years ago.
I'm glad you reconnected.
I hope it last for a lifetime.
Waoh, Lynn you are one in a million, please bring us mom, we would wish to hear her tell us how she raised such a great woman. More love ❤❤🎉🎉Lynn.
Yes,yes please
I don't think i can reconcile with my ex girlfriend ...she did so much damage reaching an extent of sending me to prison...bad mouthing about me to my husband 🙏🙏🙏
O.M.G! That's what happened to me too😭😭
And when I remember all she did to me I always cry asking myself where I went wrong😭😭😭
@@katrinachamia be strong girl let her go for good ....for give her for the sake of your peace of mind ...and keep the distance long ....I left my ex gf I shifted from the village we were staying n I went far a way from her n her family ......but of recent a friend of mine told how she went on texting him asking for my number 🙄🙄🙄 nkashanga n was like what does she want looking for me
@@hailee6486 I wish you could know how she destroyed me and not once or twice😭😭😭 I never shared it with anyone it kills the respect I had for myself when I remember all that she did......it came to a point that I don't value myself again.....ushawai kuwa weakness fulani alafu mtu akutusi nayo ama akuongee nje or uwe una shida ya mwili and then someone is using that to paint other way round hadi chali anaona enyewe sasa huyu dem anakaa aje sura yake😭😭😭😭
@@hailee6486 I'm always don't trust myself or anyone when they tell me am cute or beautiful .....I gat scar on my face I try hiding it, I go through a lot alafu mtu anachukulia advantage it really hurts me my dear ila najua mwili hakuna spare part kama za gari😭😭😭
I have lost friends before but l can never imagine losing my best friend whom l have known for 9 years, she's also a family friend.Sometimes we get at loggerheads but a day can never pass without making up.Falling out with a best friend is worse than a break up with a boyfriend.
Very true
Now give us a show Lilian and Lynn. Heal friendships. This episode seems to have healed so many friendships out here. Am loving Lilian already.
Adult friendship it's hard 💔
I pray to God I one day find a genuine girl friendship
Ad love that for me too😢
you wannna have me ...😢😂
@daisynimoh3798 hi! It's so hard I agree 💯 but we can make a good one with you if you don't mind 😊
@@wa_ngeci5131hey! I'm here 😅❤
@@wa_ngeci5131hey! I'm here we can make a good friendship ❤😊
Zawadi is so sweet, so authentic and Beautiful! She’s like your twin sister. Thank you Lynn for sharing this, it will help many broken friendships.
I broke up with my Kenyan friend. I’m Tanzania. It’s been 2+ years. I’m the one that cut ties and she never reached out. I felt like she never held space for me when I needed her and at that time I really needed her. Such is life. The memories have become so distant and far and even now that I’ve moved on she still crosses my mind from time to time.
Try to reach her n make up things , it's not too late
Are u sure, u r from Tanzania na hiyo kizungu🤣
@@roselidaawino6712 nimekushtua kidogo lakini mimi ni mtanzania halisi. People that make statements like these have only been around less privileged Tanzanians. Meaning you’re less privileged and can only afford to be around such. Acha dharau, travel some more and be around multicultural people.
@@MelissMburu-wq2ry Honestly, I would never. I just came her to vent a little.
Adult friendships are very complex. Especially when you get to different levels in different ways. It needs maturity.
very true especially career path
More so career paths! And its different progression levels. And motherhood too.
@@unsolicitedadviceke yeah when parenthood enters everything changes automatically ,it's life
Indeed
You nailed it!👌 Even worse when people don't want to own their malicious ways. Or transferring blame. I love the song by Kenny Roger's "You can't make old friends" 🎶
I lost my almost 20 year old friendship with my friend who got swallowed up in Alcoholism and got depressed after closing down her businesses due to Covid 19. I tried all I could but nothing worked. I tried writing to Lynn and see if she could hook her up with a Rehab but I believe she didn’t see it.
I pray that God sends His help to my ones very Hardworking ,focused , go getter friend and restore her. Friendship is a Gift from God . Happy for you adorable ladies
My friend whom we walked together walked away when I was sinking to hyper thyroid but am healing now
Please remember to Subscribe🙏
It will mean a lot to me❤
Lynn ❤you look very beautiful today
You look like true twins,
Hi Lynn, you girls are beautiful and kind of look alike. So the saying is "don't tell me who or what was talking about me, tell me why they were so comfortable doing it in your presence"
Oh and Lillian is nice and humble, she's calm cool and collected.
Wishing you all the best in your friendship.
Oh my God Lynn, it's 3years now sobbing about my friend, the only friend I had for 7 years. I don't know what happened 😭. I pains me so much, I hope we get a second chance like you guys. May God bless your friendship Lynn, much love from China❤❤❤
I have subscribed to all your channels n zawadi's
The dynamics of female friendships can get complicated especially when big life changes happen. Learning to grant people grace along the journey and being super intentional in nurturing the relationships is one way to grow and thrive.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability with each other.
I hear
One of those big life changes is marriage. When one gets married and responsibilities increase with children and family.
Zawadi is really likeable ❤
Thank you Lynn and Zawadi for being soo authentic.
A friendship breakup is more painful than a romantic relationship. I can relate. And I’m happy we reconciled this year after 4 years. And I feel like our friendship is stronger and we’ve accepted each other as is
Reminds me when my bestfriend left to abroad without letting me know I cried like a baby
You are very right
Wao all support to Zawadi she has a beautiful heart. If you people did not have such a breakup, this story would not be here. We have learned and can relate to this.
Aawww thank you ❤
@@ZawadiL my name sake you are so beautiful
Lynn Zawadi means gift.... She is a true Zawadi to you.... A friend to forever keep... You broke a girl Code but she clearly loves you... She is amazing❤
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Sisterhood or girl code is v important ....one should not date or gossip with someone's husband,fiancee,boyfriend even if they are ex's....men says bros before hoes.....
How i pray and wish my friendship with my best not to break bcz i love her so much ❤ ooo God grant us love, humanity and patience for each other 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏 always in my heart 💕❤️💕❤️💕.
The friendship that you value most then something happens and you go apart is very painful. Thank you for doing this show Lynn
For sure it's painful 😢
it hurts deeply.i thought i was the only but realizing we a lot
Zawadi is so soft spoken..you really twinning ❤
Woman to woman relationships are so underrated. They are sisterhood that sometimes are even sweeter than romantic relationships. This was beautiful to watch.
After three years I reached out to my best friend towards the end of 2023 and apologized. In those three yrs I feel like we've grown to be so different that now I don't know how to reconnect
Same here
This conversation is very therapeutic. Thank you ladies.
Me too,we are now completely different
I also had a fallout with a friend. It's still hard and I don't know if we will be close again.
I understand Lilian very well Lynn it was not your place to say anything irregardless of what he said you have no business comfirming or denying any of it. Faithfulness. This was an interesting episode i went thru the same. I felt betrayed😂
Lynn and your best friend can start a podcast...you look good ❤
Thank you❤
Its great how Lynn is so supportive. She has Lilian's best interest at heart and its so evident. I'm happy Lilian has taken the challenge to open her RUclips channel, and we are voting for you girl. Everything starts with a single step. Love y'all
Let’s support her all the way❤
Hi Lynn
The reconciliation with your best friend reminded me of my best friend who we've never talked in 4years till date though we didn't throw hurtful words to each other, it only went silent for whatever had happened.
I too got your bad behavior lynn of deleting, terminating and blocking peoples number and memories when i feel they wronged me 😊 hopeful I'll change for the better just like you...
Unfortunately while watching the episode till end it happened that i remember my best friend's number after forgetting it for such a long time. I'll give it a shot to see if we can reconcile and allow whats flow to flow.
I'll come back with a reconciliation testimony when God allows it to happen.
Thank you Lynn and Lilian for the inspiration!! ❤❤
Did you call her
Yes please give us an update!
Waiting for an update ❤❤
Before we get into the conversation can we appreciate whoever’s house they are at. The interior décor is minimalist perfection.
I noticed too
Thank you🙏
❤
@@LynnNgugiPersonal You’re most welcome 😊.
Me too
Best conversation..it's normal to be human..but reconciliation and confession is a great step for healing.."confess your sins to one another and you will be healed,"Good work Lynn ❤❤❤
Today Lynn you ministered to my heart through your conversation with you best friend. Am so happy for you two. Thanks for reconciling. I also broke with a friend whom I still value. I felt betrayed and one day just blocked them and never said a word. They much later learnt I had blocked everywhere. Its been a while now. Recently, I unblocked on sms and calls and some old messages they wrote a while back came in with one message saying,..... "are you okay? please lets talk when you are available". My heart sunk and I felt so guilty but then I didn't know what we would talk about. I am like you lynn, I give my all to a friendship/relationship (completely all) and when i feel disappointed, I can easily walk away. I have actually walked away of friendships that no one would think I could but the most unfortunate thing is, once I walk away, I hardly feel the need to go back reason being, I gave it my all but I pray just like you, my heart may soften and give space to allowing back coz in my case, anyone I ever interacted with considering that I gave my best will at some point fight to reconcile but I find it hard to let back.
This is me.especially when trust is lost, I run and ask God never to look back. For me , Lack of trust is a deal broker.
Lyn is the emotional one. I can tell. 😊
I like how vulnerable you guys are with your conversation.
This is maturity.
Watching this and i automatically miss my friend too...tulikosana kitu ya ujinga 7yrs ago saa hii kila.mtu akonna familia na watoto 😭😭😭 i just survive by stalking her ...
Call her today please 😢
Talk to her
She misses you as well lakini no one wanna be the first person to start that conversation. Go for it
What if you call them.... thinking they wanna talk back....but in real they are not interested @@MaryKariuki-ko5bc
I can see the true love here this is totally how me and my best friend used to be🥹 but we are not in good terms right now💔 i hope we get here someday 💗🤲🏽
You guyz deserve each other. More wins zawadi and lynn
Thank you❤
I have to tell my friend Faith Mwendwa to watch this for me, for us❤. This is Soo real 😘. Lynn you bring what life is✅
I fully understand you, I forwarded this to my friend Ruth Macharia ❤, all the best with your friend
I fully understand you too n I take this chance to tell my friend Wa Hope to watch this for us.
This is the exact life
I fell out with my childhood friend sometimes back I tell you I never had peace of mind until I had to look for her and apologize.
Eish as I listen to this 😢, my heart goes to Mily Cheby and Jacky Matubia. May they reconcile one day
Candid conversations😢 Friendship break-ups are painful if you really cared about the other person genuinely, lets embrace having conversations when we are hurt!Took me back to some pain but oh well, we loose some ❤So happy for you two!
Ngai! You look like identical twins. Your friendship has been beautiful and despite that fall off, your friendship still remains grounded and the foundation was honesty. Thanks for sharing your journey of friendship and confirming forgiveness is key. God bless you both .
Word of advice,never allow your friends men to bring their relationship woes to you,let them take their issues and seek advice from their fellow !!!
No matter what u did to each other back then, you were still younger. You are now older and wiser🎉
Please include subtitles when you break into kiswahili. You have international fans
CC
Lynn ni mkali 🤣🤣🤣. Zawadi was genuinely mad but Lynn hakua anaambilika. Glad you reconciled.
Friends are good to have but I prefer not having best one coz I'll have no one to hurt or I to hurt anyone...happy life❤
I broke up with my bestie for a week and I felt my heart bleeding. I was unable to sleep for that period. Wueeh😢. I've been in a romantic breakup but this one for a friend hits different. I'm glad we made up❤❤
You guys look alike. Just like twins. 👌❤️
Lynn, thank you so much for this vulnerable show. I had two spe iak friend that were like family to me. In 2009 I got married and moved abroad. I never imagined that would be the slow death of our friendship. I was always the one who texted, called, reached out.
I am just crying, thinking how much heart pain I felt, especially when I had my first daughter and none of my friends checked on me.
One friend we have reconnected, and although it it never be the same, I am grateful. The other I got tired of reaching out and just accepted it.
Friendship breakups can be even more traumatic than romantic breakups.
I am glad you made up with your twinny
There are friends forever,
friends for a season,for a reason.
Some friendships are exhausting especially when its one person who has to mend...you are reciprocated with ego pride and spite...Regardless we learn and embrace the real ones that are ready to always reciprocate the love and maturing 😊
*maturity
Some friendships are meant to break forever. There are people who talk too much and will always talk about you and say things they shouldn't without a care in the world how you feel about it. They will tell people who respect you and in the end when you get wind of it you make that one time decision and live to never regret it.
Very true...but some are just treasures.😢
This is very much true. There is mine that happened exactly this way. I had to make that one decision
You look like siblings ❤ . I've had 'friend' ghost us (I have a friend group which I loved and still do dearly) without telling us what we did wrong. It hurt. Now I look back and wonder what we did wrong to date.
Zawadi is authentic... The friendship is heavenly
My best friend went to be with the lord 😢😢😢😢it broke me to the moon n back but she lives in me now❤
A painful 💔 part happened to me too
This was an inspirational talk on friendships. Thank you Nguni and Lilian . I had a best friend who betrayed me and I was hurt to the core by telling The lead leader how she used to support me and telling my secrets because she was sleeping with him 🤦🏿♀️ My friend has no shame, I disrespect her for allowing herself to be used and dump a friendship we had from before. Very sad. But thankfully I don’t miss her 😂😂😂and will never need her in my life. I know she chose a path that is going to teach her a lesson . You ladies have shown us how to do it… SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT IT. Thanks ladies♥️
Two beautiful friends! It takes emotional maturity to have such a candid conversation. Long live your friendship🙏
Exactly
At times, taking a break from a best friend is a necessary pain. It could be a time of growth, reflection & strength
At times I sit down and go through Lynn's profile and imagine walking down the aisle holding her hand... This lady Lynn ❤❤❤much love 🥰🌺
Huskii unaota😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Si utasusu Kwa bed mzee😂😂😂
@@Edna784 roho ilipenda huyu msichana kabsa ✨
@@MisszippyOtieno-di5qg may those dreams come true 😭roho yangu ilipenda Lynn kabsa
This is one honest conversation ever..@lyn you are so funny..zawadi is so cute and honest..may God restore your friendship 100%
What amazes me is they are both October babies and I relate so much with their behaviors lol because I am also a Libra like them. Not to lean so much on astrology but I feel like a mix of both. This was very vulnerable .❤❤
I'm Oct 16th❤
Discovering this today, and I love it. Wish this would be me with my long lost friend .I miss the good old days...
This is so impactful and lessons learnt thanks Lynn for making me feel there is always a second chance
Beautiful friendship.
Lilian is calm and gentle.
It is the worst feeling ever 😢 missing that person yet you don't have the guts of admitting the fact that you are no longer close..... thanks for this conversation Lynn it helped me a lot ❤
Nice to see two women
addressing issues. I once had a friend who treated me so bad for no reason. When she betrayed me first time, I forgave, then she did it again and this time it was so bad. This person decided to attack my character by talking really ill of me to people I know.
I learnt a lot after the betrayal, I forgave her but I can never allow her back my life again. I'm doing so much better and I have a brilliant circle of friends now. I've also realised that she is a very mentally unhealthy person and lacks intellect.They say iron sharpens Iron. Surround yourself with people who build you not try to drag you down.
mnafanana sana ! beautiful conversation!
I don't know either of you, but I am sooooooooooooo happy you got back together.
5yrs I would imagine how many opportunities were lost all the best wishes.
Time heals all wounds ❤
These two ladies are so real with each other . Very genuine friendship, I love both of them.
Lynn, you have a good friend here. They don't come easy. Don't let her go and i hope she sticks by you too 🙏🏾 ❤
Lynn mentioning "my partner" several time is cute🥰
I’m relating to this😢I have Lynn habit of blocking deleting and forgetting people
It’s hard to breakup with your best friend.we are healing though
This is one of the realest conversations I have ever heard. It is very relatable. So many close friends have gone through this. Unfortunately some never pulled those walls down enough to take accountability and fix the friendship. It takes so much grace and courage to admit fault and try again. Kudos to you ladies.
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Currently I'm going through this. I've tried to reason with him but penye imefika it's just to sit back maintain boundaries. Friendship break ups hurt more than relationship break upsv
Sending you ❤
I think am not normal cos idon't have friends in my life am alone may be its from my guardian who never allowed any friend in her house or me visiting any just keeping me indoors upto now am 28yrs but ifear people .thx Lynn i love yr content.
Hhhhhh you are like me I'm just wondering how people bcm friends like this I've never had a best friend
I just stay in my house I don't even know my neighbors name
This video speaks to me. I lost a friendship after a silly argument, I can't even remember what it was about or who did what. 3 Years down the line I still grieve from time to time. I have never had the courage to reach out, and as Zawadi has said, I keep wondering 'what if'... - If our paths never cross again in life, I do hope I can at least have 100% peace.
I feel blessed by how I've watched this, the same happened to me and my best friend but I'm grateful for her cause she's more of a sister than a friend just like Lynn said... For the record we got back together after a whole year and truthfully nothing and no one really fills the gap they leave. God bless you two 🙏