What happened between me and my best friend that made us enemies for five years & how we reconciled
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- Опубликовано: 9 янв 2024
- Today, one of my close friends Lilian Zawadi joins me on this heart to heart conversation. We open up on our friendship journey, breaking up, reconciling and lessons learnt.
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UPDATE ❤
To be honest,we did not expect this video to reach so many of you given this channel is very much new ❤
The highlight is going through your beautiful comments and also seeing some of you reconcile with your friends. Love is a beautiful thing.
We might make another video together soon and I promise to make this channel a safe space for all of us❤
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You look sisters...I just love what u are talking..this things do happen
I just like the way u are free to express your feelings even after staying apart for 5yrs ,this is true love aky..atleast it has helped me to stop ule upuuzi wa deleting n blocking pple who offend me
Wow! Lynn this is good...
a beautiful reunion to a lasting friendship what a mature way to reconcile.First you do look alike and I am proud of you because you have just taken your friendship to another level...maturity now you know when you are not doing right or handling your conflicts well.👏🏾to a.lasting friendship.
It's a great topic. So many are reluctant to address it because it may cause some awkwardness, vulnerability,reflection and hopefully reconciliation. 🇹🇹
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I met a girl in 2008 in Capetown and we hit it off and became best of friends. We really had a beautiful relationship that we shared a lot. So when i got pregnant she was the first person I shared with and asked her to keep to herself until I was ready to share with my family. She failed to do that and it really hurt me. We exchanged bad words and broke our friendship. Four years later I reached out to her and we hit it off without hesitation. We really cried when we met. Fast forward she died in 2017 and i happened to be the last person she had spoken to that day. I am glad that we reconciled before she died.
In 2020 I had to terminate a 20 years relationship i was so low and down but I had too.Right now am.okay after offering her a job at my company she stabbed me I decided not to suck her but to terminate our relationship and deal with her like any other staff.
She used to do her work so well but I could not stand her behaviour anymore.
May your bestie rest in eternal peace. I'm glad you worked things out and rekindled your beautiful friendship.
My best friend of 10 years also passed away 7 years ago and I swear it still feels like yesterday. I was the last person she spoke to that night and got buried on my birthday 💔 A part of me is never coming back and I have to learn to live with that. However I gained other friendships ❤ they healed my broken heart, they nurtured me, they genuinely want to see me win and I question God what did I do to deserve such human beings... I love them so much, they are the best part of me ❤
Waaaaah that was me I had my Good friend my bff, she was rude to me and I was very Angry with her, we stayed over 7 years without talking to each other, honestly i missed her, we meet later we become friends again, unfortunately after 3 year's she passed away😢😢😢 2022 June, I miss her every day
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Zawadi is so pretty, still, calm, collected, and soft-spoken.
Lynn you can use this channel to reconcile friends too,it would be very interesting to watch❤❤
Brilliant 👏 idea😮
i agree
Kabisaa I need this
Start with Jacky and Milly
yep....
I had a friend from high school but as we grew post-university - we became very toxic to each other. In the end, we drifted apart. After 5 years plus, she reached out and said she missed me and would like us to meet. I told her my regrets in how badly i had behaved towards her as a friend. And i profusely apologised to her. But instead of her apologizing as well - she began to remind me of how badly i had treated her. She never once mentioned how badly she had treated me... i decided there and then not to rekindle the friendship. Because i realized that in all those years apart, she had had no reflection of her past behaviour, and that also meant she had not really grown and changed as a person
Some friends are toxic and don’t value the friendship
That's manipulative, if I were you I will keep my distance.
I wish milly chebi and jacky could also resolve their issues 😢
I love that lynn and her twinnie are all a vibe❤❤❤❤
They will imagine,for now let them be...
I wish so too but I feel like Terrence is part of the reason they will stay longer without reconciliation
I don't think i can reconcile with my ex girlfriend ...she did so much damage reaching an extent of sending me to prison...bad mouthing about me to my husband 🙏🙏🙏
My mum just walked in and she thinks you are interviewing yourself.Enyewe you two were a friendship made in Heaven.❤
I wish Jackie and Milly will one day be in this channel
A friendship breakup is one of the worst feelings ever. I had a bad breakup with my high school best friend and looking back, it wasn't even something worth breaking up for so looong. It hurts, really hurts. I got another friend later in life, and had another breakup, now more mature, we sat and talked and solved our misunderstandings. It hurts when a friendship is lost
🙏🙏🙏
Wow! I like the Mature part
Personally I dropped my friends because if I don't reach out no one will they will wrong me and am still the one to reach out and ask like what going on no apology no explanation gat tired and went off.i had few friends only 4and only talk to one. And am good we don't everyday but when we do it's always a good time❤.so I went off on my other because I felt like am always the one trying to mend things was draining and being alone is better ❤so far
@@wanguidee853I'm glad you left that one-sided and selfish relationship
@@nyambun4356 am happier now and at peace ❤
Ladies ,for our friendships to blossom,we must have boundaries with the Men in our lives…we cannot mix this …,
Who is cutting onions in here.Keep Zawadi she is authentic pretty calm and collected
Happy friendship Lynn and Zawadi
Adult friendships are very complex. Especially when you get to different levels in different ways. It needs maturity.
very true especially career path
More so career paths! And its different progression levels. And motherhood too.
@@unsolicitedadviceke yeah when parenthood enters everything changes automatically ,it's life
Indeed
You nailed it!👌 Even worse when people don't want to own their malicious ways. Or transferring blame. I love the song by Kenny Roger's "You can't make old friends" 🎶
I wish someone else did this interview so that all of you can concentrate on andwering the questions, and true you have so much in common, soft spoken, good hearted, look alikes etc. Thank you Lynn for introducing us to someone like you.
Such a beautiful conversation. Lilian and Lyne are both beautiful and they kinda look alike, they can pass for siblings. Am glad they have decided to put their differences behind.
Thank you❤
You've spoken my mind
True they look alike.
They look alike
And their names start with the same letter
Ladies this is an important conversation. Thank you so much for doing this for us!
So many things can contribute to friendship breakdowns, but the most hurtful is when people change on you because their life has changed for the better and they feel like you are not on the same level as them anymore.
This is so painful
That's what happened to me...she left me for people that were doing better than me in a number of aspects...I tried to get us to meet and talk over a snack but it never helped. It left me broken...to today I tear up thinking about it. But then I also know that it was a way of God separating me for a greater cause, which I pursued and would never have had we stayed close friends...that doesn't take away the fact that it did hurt anyway.
Thanks Lyn for sharing your story.
And when people change on you because they can't handle that your life has changed for the better. Sad
😢it hurts
I experienced this
Thank you Lynn and Zawadi for being soo authentic.
Waoh, Lynn you are one in a million, please bring us mom, we would wish to hear her tell us how she raised such a great woman. More love ❤❤🎉🎉Lynn.
Yes,yes please
Zawadi is so soft spoken..you really twinning ❤
Now give us a show Lilian and Lynn. Heal friendships. This episode seems to have healed so many friendships out here. Am loving Lilian already.
Sometimes break up is good to get discover who we are clear toxicity within ourselves and now learn to treasure one another
On this, Lynn was the one on the wrong, glad you got back. I lost a close friend last year too. 😢
Yeah, and she kinda not admitting
How can I, a fifty year old keep enjoying Lynn Nguni’s conversations? You are a gem. God bless you.
Age is a number. What would you be watching if not positive stories? Just asking
The name is strange 😮😮😮fune...
@@ednahbiwot3038 It means I hate funerals, so when I can I hop to the next wedding.
@@ednahbiwot3038 You are so right, it was a rhetorical question.
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Discovering this today, and I love it. Wish this would be me with my long lost friend .I miss the good old days...
Keep Zawadi, she is a sweet friend.. ata she blends with the way you have a mouthful of words... it is nice to have such a one
Adult friendship it's hard 💔
I pray to God I one day find a genuine girl friendship
Ad love that for me too😢
you wannna have me ...😢😂
@daisynimoh3798 hi! It's so hard I agree 💯 but we can make a good one with you if you don't mind 😊
@@wa_ngeci5131hey! I'm here 😅❤
@@wa_ngeci5131hey! I'm here we can make a good friendship ❤😊
Zawadi is so sweet, so authentic and Beautiful! She’s like your twin sister. Thank you Lynn for sharing this, it will help many broken friendships.
Let's talk also about jealousy and envy in friendship. It happened to me and I now have trust issues which has really affected genuine friendships
I can relate
Great suggestion ❤
It happened to me too.
Exactly my sentiments!
The dynamics of female friendships can get complicated especially when big life changes happen. Learning to grant people grace along the journey and being super intentional in nurturing the relationships is one way to grow and thrive.
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability with each other.
I hear
One of those big life changes is marriage. When one gets married and responsibilities increase with children and family.
Today Lynn you ministered to my heart through your conversation with you best friend. Am so happy for you two. Thanks for reconciling. I also broke with a friend whom I still value. I felt betrayed and one day just blocked them and never said a word. They much later learnt I had blocked everywhere. Its been a while now. Recently, I unblocked on sms and calls and some old messages they wrote a while back came in with one message saying,..... "are you okay? please lets talk when you are available". My heart sunk and I felt so guilty but then I didn't know what we would talk about. I am like you lynn, I give my all to a friendship/relationship (completely all) and when i feel disappointed, I can easily walk away. I have actually walked away of friendships that no one would think I could but the most unfortunate thing is, once I walk away, I hardly feel the need to go back reason being, I gave it my all but I pray just like you, my heart may soften and give space to allowing back coz in my case, anyone I ever interacted with considering that I gave my best will at some point fight to reconcile but I find it hard to let back.
This is me.especially when trust is lost, I run and ask God never to look back. For me , Lack of trust is a deal broker.
I didn't want this conversation to end..your friendship is beautiful ❤
I love this!! friendships can be very challenging to navigate around but it’s always fun when you overcome obstacles ❤
I have lost friends before but l can never imagine losing my best friend whom l have known for 9 years, she's also a family friend.Sometimes we get at loggerheads but a day can never pass without making up.Falling out with a best friend is worse than a break up with a boyfriend.
Very true
I feel blessed by how I've watched this, the same happened to me and my best friend but I'm grateful for her cause she's more of a sister than a friend just like Lynn said... For the record we got back together after a whole year and truthfully nothing and no one really fills the gap they leave. God bless you two 🙏
This reminds me of my childhood friend, whom I’ve always supported with everything. 23 years of friendship. It took me a minute to realize that I had to let that friendship go. She reached out last year but I felt like we were better off without being in each other’s lives ❤
Almost my story,and for sure it's better without us together again😊
My story too..i let go 17 yrs of friendship
Why did you let her go?
@@cammyokinda1735 so I starting noticing how one sided our friendship was. In 2020 we both were getting married. Her Wedding was supposed to be July 2020 while mine was in September 5th of that same year .They couldn’t find a wedding venue for the date that they wanted especially since it was done last minute. So they had to choose a different date. Instead of choosing a date that would work for both of us. She ending up choosing august 27th. While being a good friend I spoke to my husband and my family and we pushed my wedding to September 12 that way I would be able to attend her wedding and also give her time to come to mine. Keep in mind that we live in different states . I did all that only for her not to even come to my wedding. Let’s just say it made me realize that I was the giver in the relationship
What a beautiful friendship ❤❤.
You look alike years ago.
I'm glad you reconnected.
I hope it last for a lifetime.
I like how vulnerable you guys are with your conversation.
This is maturity.
Hi Lynn
The reconciliation with your best friend reminded me of my best friend who we've never talked in 4years till date though we didn't throw hurtful words to each other, it only went silent for whatever had happened.
I too got your bad behavior lynn of deleting, terminating and blocking peoples number and memories when i feel they wronged me 😊 hopeful I'll change for the better just like you...
Unfortunately while watching the episode till end it happened that i remember my best friend's number after forgetting it for such a long time. I'll give it a shot to see if we can reconcile and allow whats flow to flow.
I'll come back with a reconciliation testimony when God allows it to happen.
Thank you Lynn and Lilian for the inspiration!! ❤❤
Did you call her
Yes please give us an update!
Waiting for an update ❤❤
I lost my best friend of almost 8 years in 2020. So much has happened in my life that I really wish she was there to celebrate with me but well, life. Maybe one day we'll get to sit and talk, or maybe not. Glad you guys reconciled
Candid conversations😢 Friendship break-ups are painful if you really cared about the other person genuinely, lets embrace having conversations when we are hurt!Took me back to some pain but oh well, we loose some ❤So happy for you two!
I lost my almost 20 year old friendship with my friend who got swallowed up in Alcoholism and got depressed after closing down her businesses due to Covid 19. I tried all I could but nothing worked. I tried writing to Lynn and see if she could hook her up with a Rehab but I believe she didn’t see it.
I pray that God sends His help to my ones very Hardworking ,focused , go getter friend and restore her. Friendship is a Gift from God . Happy for you adorable ladies
My friend whom we walked together walked away when I was sinking to hyper thyroid but am healing now
Beautiful friendship.
Lilian is calm and gentle.
Awww❤, i watched this and teared down. It's authentic, more grace to your friendship. I pray for such divine n productive friends
Zawadi is such a beautiful gentle soul. Love her. Thanks for this episode. We need more of this....
Its great how Lynn is so supportive. She has Lilian's best interest at heart and its so evident. I'm happy Lilian has taken the challenge to open her RUclips channel, and we are voting for you girl. Everything starts with a single step. Love y'all
Let’s support her all the way❤
This is so impactful and lessons learnt thanks Lynn for making me feel there is always a second chance
Zawadi is really likeable ❤
How i pray and wish my friendship with my best not to break bcz i love her so much ❤ ooo God grant us love, humanity and patience for each other 🙏💖🙏💖🙏💖🙏 always in my heart 💕❤️💕❤️💕.
The friendship that you value most then something happens and you go apart is very painful. Thank you for doing this show Lynn
For sure it's painful 😢
it hurts deeply.i thought i was the only but realizing we a lot
Friends for life.....!! When you love someone you feel it so much when mukikosana. The more the love the deeper the hurt❤ Love your sweater Lynn. You should dress like this on your d how...smart casual.❤❤
This video speaks to me. I lost a friendship after a silly argument, I can't even remember what it was about or who did what. 3 Years down the line I still grieve from time to time. I have never had the courage to reach out, and as Zawadi has said, I keep wondering 'what if'... - If our paths never cross again in life, I do hope I can at least have 100% peace.
Lynn you are so genuine. May God bless you. I love that you both reconciled and you both have beautiful hearts.
Lynn, there is something about your bestie. She has a warmth about her. Like a very warm, gentle spirit. There is something
But Lynn is somehow proud
I can see the true love here this is totally how me and my best friend used to be🥹 but we are not in good terms right now💔 i hope we get here someday 💗🤲🏽
This is one honest conversation ever..@lyn you are so funny..zawadi is so cute and honest..may God restore your friendship 100%
This is so authentic, i also had an ugly break up with a friend for about 5 years, too. Glad we got back and looking forward meeting her in June as i am out of the country.
A very mature and authentic conversation ❤❤. Thank you to you beautiful women for ending stigma around female friendships and reconciliation.
Wao all support to Zawadi she has a beautiful heart. If you people did not have such a breakup, this story would not be here. We have learned and can relate to this.
Aawww thank you ❤
@@ZawadiL my name sake you are so beautiful
Before we get into the conversation can we appreciate whoever’s house they are at. The interior décor is minimalist perfection.
I noticed too
Thank you🙏
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@@LynnNgugiPersonal You’re most welcome 😊.
Me too
Lyn is the emotional one. I can tell. 😊
Lynn Zawadi means gift.... She is a true Zawadi to you.... A friend to forever keep... You broke a girl Code but she clearly loves you... She is amazing❤
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Sisterhood or girl code is v important ....one should not date or gossip with someone's husband,fiancee,boyfriend even if they are ex's....men says bros before hoes.....
Lynn and your best friend can start a podcast...you look good ❤
Thank you❤
This is so beautiful 😍 ❤. Am 1 year down since I lost a friendship of almost 13 years still on the healing journey, God atakam through
So happy to see that you guys worked through it and put your differences aside.Friendship breaks up really hurt no lie.
You look like siblings ❤ . I've had 'friend' ghost us (I have a friend group which I loved and still do dearly) without telling us what we did wrong. It hurt. Now I look back and wonder what we did wrong to date.
I fell out with my childhood friend sometimes back I tell you I never had peace of mind until I had to look for her and apologize.
Friends are good to have but I prefer not having best one coz I'll have no one to hurt or I to hurt anyone...happy life❤
Thank you Lynn for this authentic conversation. I love it❤ I'm laughing at how i handle situationships like Lynn..I block and delete memories to move on faster😂😂
Wow I love how you guys reconnected and love each other. I broke up with a friend who betrayed me in the worst way possible. I wish we can air our stuff like you guys but we can never be back in each other’s lives due to the outcome of the betrayal. She came to my place when friends when I was going through tough times after nearly 20 yrs and I was glad . I even had to tell my daughter to support me and I was very anxious.
Following You Everywhere. Taking Notes Always.
Lynn and Lillyan, this was so beautiful to watch. Thank you both for sharing and for being super honest and vulnerable with us
Lynn, you have a good friend here. They don't come easy. Don't let her go and i hope she sticks by you too 🙏🏾 ❤
You guyz deserve each other. More wins zawadi and lynn
Thank you❤
I had a best friend back in high school who I loved dearly. We always shared our dreams, told our secrets to each other we even knew what the other was thinking. She was the best friend I ever had. Senior year everything changed. She stopped speaking to me, stopped calling me, stopped hanging out with me etc. I was hurt and tried asking her what’s going on but she refused to speak with me. After graduation, I never saw her again until our 30th high school reunion last year. She reached out and apologized and wanted things to be the way they were. I accepted her apology but told her that we are better off continuing to go our separate ways. It still effects me and I know it definitely affects her.
You have not forgiven her for how she left she hanging. If you did forgive her, you would look forward to a reconciliation and accept it when it comes. You should let go of the hurt. Life is short.
@@iamenabled9372 forgiveness doesn’t mean that you allow certain people back into your life. Too much time has passed that I’m not interested in forming a bond with her. I didn’t say why she stopped speaking to me but I do know that communication is key and I want friends who can communicate with me and have a conversation about what went wrong and she refused to do that at the time. Another thing I didn’t mention was that she wasn’t loyal. She ended up being close to a girl who was envious of me and the friendship ended really bad. By the time she found out what type of person she was it was too late to save our friendship. I’m in a better place and have better friends who values friendship so I’m good. I wish her well.
@@iamenabled9372anyone who dumps me as their friend so they can be friends with someone else was never really my friend.
@@iamenabled9372I disagree with your opinion. Forgiving someone doesn't mean you must continue your relationship with them. We can forgive and choose to move on
@@iamenabled9372 we have choice to make; the writer of the comment made hers so did her friend before the 30 years. you can forgive someone and still don't want to do anything with that person. Forgiveness is for past conciliation and for future consideration as simple as that.
This is so beautiful. Love the honesty and authenticity.
I don't know either of you, but I am sooooooooooooo happy you got back together.
Best conversation..it's normal to be human..but reconciliation and confession is a great step for healing.."confess your sins to one another and you will be healed,"Good work Lynn ❤❤❤
Lynn, thank you so much for this vulnerable show. I had two spe iak friend that were like family to me. In 2009 I got married and moved abroad. I never imagined that would be the slow death of our friendship. I was always the one who texted, called, reached out.
I am just crying, thinking how much heart pain I felt, especially when I had my first daughter and none of my friends checked on me.
One friend we have reconnected, and although it it never be the same, I am grateful. The other I got tired of reaching out and just accepted it.
Friendship breakups can be even more traumatic than romantic breakups.
I am glad you made up with your twinny
I love this episode. Real convos. Adult friendships are hard though you both show how it works.
Woman to woman relationships are so underrated. They are sisterhood that sometimes are even sweeter than romantic relationships. This was beautiful to watch.
There's one thing that hit me I also get so much attached to people. Not because I'm emotionally dependant on them but I love without reservation. I give my all. To the point when they leave I have nothing left in me other than memories. I'm like Lynn I will delete the pictures delete the number unfollow you but the blocking part is what I don't do. I'm always hoping that they will reach out and we will resolve the issue
Zawadi is authentic... The friendship is heavenly
These two ladies are so real with each other . Very genuine friendship, I love both of them.
Wooow!
Nice conversation Lynn and Zawadi.
I always fear to start a friendship than to end it because I hate saying Goodbye
Sharing right on time! I need this as I broke up with a dear friend after 6 years... It really hurts😢
I feel you. It hurts more when it's your siblings and you've tried your very best
Hi Lynn👋 congratulations for your channel.I love it already .❤❤
I'm so glad you and Lilian were able to find your way back to each other. That's beautiful.
Woow just woow!!!
Thank you so much Lynn and Zawadi for sharing your story ❤❤
Two beautiful friends! It takes emotional maturity to have such a candid conversation. Long live your friendship🙏
Exactly
After three years I reached out to my best friend towards the end of 2023 and apologized. In those three yrs I feel like we've grown to be so different that now I don't know how to reconnect
Same here
This conversation is very therapeutic. Thank you ladies.
Me too,we are now completely different
I also had a fallout with a friend. It's still hard and I don't know if we will be close again.
There are friends forever,
friends for a season,for a reason.
best podcast and episode i ran too. I love how natural you both were. You are such a family❤
Lynn am happy u guys reconnected,pls we need more of this😂we love the other side of u Lynn..❤
You guys look alike. Just like twins. 👌❤️
I love this conversation. Thank you ladies ❤
Some friendships are exhausting especially when its one person who has to mend...you are reciprocated with ego pride and spite...Regardless we learn and embrace the real ones that are ready to always reciprocate the love and maturing 😊
*maturity
Very touching conversations.
Everyone goes through this ❤.
Love is very delicate and beautiful
I broke up with my Kenyan friend. I’m Tanzania. It’s been 2+ years. I’m the one that cut ties and she never reached out. I felt like she never held space for me when I needed her and at that time I really needed her. Such is life. The memories have become so distant and far and even now that I’ve moved on she still crosses my mind from time to time.
Try to reach her n make up things , it's not too late
Are u sure, u r from Tanzania na hiyo kizungu🤣
@@roselidaawino6712 nimekushtua kidogo lakini mimi ni mtanzania halisi. People that make statements like these have only been around less privileged Tanzanians. Meaning you’re less privileged and can only afford to be around such. Acha dharau, travel some more and be around multicultural people.
@@MelissMburu-wq2ry Honestly, I would never. I just came her to vent a little.
itwas just like tough you guys were not talking.. you two look beautiful...am glad you back together
Ngai! You look like identical twins. Your friendship has been beautiful and despite that fall off, your friendship still remains grounded and the foundation was honesty. Thanks for sharing your journey of friendship and confirming forgiveness is key. God bless you both .