What message do you have for Victoria? You can reach her through her number: 0792330676. To share your story with us, send an email to yvonne.kawira@tuko.co.ke or eucabeth.mukami@tuko.co.ke.
Same I've worked as a watch lady...life has been tough but am graduating this month of November date 10, i thank God for i know this is the first blessing as i wait for marriage in Jesus mighty name 🙏
People are afraid to let go of toxic situations because they hold onto every good memory they have of someone, and attach to it, thinking the exact feeling will revisit again. Toxic people are like drugs, having you search for what’s gone and destroying you slowly in the process. Normalise respecting your intuition at 1st place. Prioritise your peace of mind over disrespect and dramatic people.
The death of her mum was the only painful experience she underwent. She spoke about her ordeal with her husband and she was all smile waah her strength was in another level
Vicky you are such a beautiful soul and you will go far. What you went through does not determine your destiny, keep holding your head high and bring up those pretty girls in love. So sorry for the loss of mom, it is well
As wemen we must realize verbal or emotional abuse begets physical one. sisemi ni vizuri but truth is truth. If you want to heal relations or families bring both sides and create peace. that is when social media will be useful. Anyway keep God first. I dont know who else one can depend on in this life other than the Most High.
White background always bounces back light,,Incase they decide to use a dark backdrop they should consider getting backlight to illuminate the background
Sometimes we should learn to swallow our pride and reset your life. This lady held on to the relationship because of her pride, thinking that there will be change!
Women please sit your daughters down and explain to them about the cruel world out there. The predators are out there are lurking out there. Take your time and look after themselves. Travel, see the world and when you are ready, you will be able to see a woolfe in sheep"s clothe.
Its time young people to learn from their place what marriage is most of the breakups now are for young people and other people are raising kids who are not theirs, its good she learnt the hard way its time to move on in the right direction.
I escaped a toxic relationship just around the time waiting to go to uni and just finishing high school. Im super happy I prayed and asked God to let me escape the relationship n im always grateful i did involve God in this
That was so relatable when you said you prayed to God to just kill him. That was me a few years ago. That is a clear sign that it's the end. Sending you hugs mama.
wueh... I remember well when I knew it was time to leave my toxic relationship... I was boiling maji ya ugali kwa kettle, then nikaweka kwa sufuria, and for a split second I thought of kumwagila (we were not fighting, we were in good terms)... nikajua wachatu nijitoe.
I see a strong woman despite what she went thru and the mistakes she did, she decided to pick lessons and grow instead of self pity and destruction, everyone should takes que from her, she is a believer of self and porpuse, am proud of you gal
I have enjoyed how this lady narrates her story ..I just like how she is being herself ...yaani anajua kupiga story ..... Alafu wengine wenu mnaona ni maringo ako nayo...she is just being herself.. She is just being herself. Back to the topic...I wish her the best.she seems to be a nice lady.
If you have never been in a toxic situation you will never understand..It’s like running on a ever ending treadmill with different settings..Sometimes it’s hard to jump of it..The only way is to switch the treadmill off and walk away..
Good the comment I was looking for especially to those who keep saying she didn't see red flags ukiwa na narcissist huwa uko in a world you don't understand he will love bomb you ufike heaven Mara gifts mara kukupikia mara attention etc but acha ukosee kidogo hivi he will turn around and even abuse you they are extremely cruel individuals
That was a perfect example of a Narcissist. They shift blame, they shield you from your loved ones, they manipulate they threaten, they abuse and then they confuse you by bombloving
@@bethtoox9435exactly I went through this and do you know according to Tim Fletcher ako youtube he talks about narcissists it can take you 2 years to recover from narcissistic abuse ata kama muli date for only 2 months utakua na lifetime of trauma after that ...
Mimi husema hivi let people know that those who keep making victims look like villains by asking the other side of the story hiyo side wajue wataiyonea kwa maisha yao experience ndio watapata
These days I don’t judge till I hear the other side of the story. Personally I do say a coin has 3 sides and not 2. So in this story there is her side ( Vicky), the guy ( Njoro) side and the truth ( God) otherwise stay strong and all the best.
a lot of missing dotes in this story, how can you bring a girlfriend to your bed when your husband is around and you know he would come to sleep at some point.
Mimi I've been in such situation and I can tell you for sure that getting out of such relationships is the hardest thing in life. These people are psycho
@@daisydaisy3383 understandable since you are speaking from experience. I know it's like Stockholm's syndrome where you want to leave but something like a strange force or spirit is holding you back
wah am a man but huyo wako hapana that was to much of him am so sorry gal u deserve better by ur story u deserve better but also ladies why stay somewhere because of peer pleasure or people
women get married to men.. for years.. then when the guy either gets broke or the woman feels she can get a better man.. all of a sudden, the man become a narcissist. 90% of women think their husbands are narcissists - makes you wonder🤔🤔
I think women formulate stories in their head to justify anything so that they are devoid of guilt and shame. Huyu dame hajasema anything good about hubby wake and the were together for 8years. She probably also did some shady stuff but she has convinced herself that she was done wrong,and she has to be right(in her head at least)
I don't condone violence, but truth be told,this dame looks too proud and she has an attitude....looks like a script to taint someone.... She stayed because the guy was "loaded"..she wanted soft life.....as per her words. This interview is down and off .😡
Starting a sentence with "i dont condone violence" and then the things u say next are victim shaming and blaming? So u want the victim to be appealing to you for her experience to be valid? You dont think her strory should be aired coz u dont like her? How dyu know she's lying? Whether you like her her not should be irrelevant. Her personality does not justify violence. You are judgemental and rude.
What message do you have for Victoria? You can reach her through her number: 0792330676.
To share your story with us, send an email to yvonne.kawira@tuko.co.ke or eucabeth.mukami@tuko.co.ke.
Try light/bright background.
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Same I've worked as a watch lady...life has been tough but am graduating this month of November date 10, i thank God for i know this is the first blessing as i wait for marriage in Jesus mighty name 🙏
People are afraid to let go of toxic situations because they hold onto every good memory they have of someone, and attach to it, thinking the exact feeling will revisit again. Toxic people are like drugs, having you search for what’s gone and destroying you slowly in the process. Normalise respecting your intuition at 1st place. Prioritise your peace of mind over disrespect and dramatic people.
Sure l support you l was in toxic relationship once l notes l walk away now am in peace no drama no stress❤❤
They are scared of starting over again not even good memories
it's called trauma bond
Exactly
Inafaa Ivo bt manze si rahisi especially kukiwa na watoi involved
The death of her mum was the only painful experience she underwent.
She spoke about her ordeal with her husband and she was all smile waah her strength was in another level
Vicky you are such a beautiful soul and you will go far. What you went through does not determine your destiny, keep holding your head high and bring up those pretty girls in love. So sorry for the loss of mom, it is well
You were dealing with a classic textbook narcissist… so sorry! May God protect women from such toxic men
As wemen we must realize verbal or emotional abuse begets physical one. sisemi ni vizuri but truth is truth. If you want to heal relations or families bring both sides and create peace. that is when social media will be useful. Anyway keep God first. I dont know who else one can depend on in this life other than the Most High.
Pole sana Victoria. God will see you through. Huyo mwanaume ni bure kabisa.
I don't care whether he is a good provider or giver my happiness cames first period
This
Kawera you are God sent to inspire our Souls thro Tuko. God bless you girl. You will move far
DARK BACKGROUND DOES NOT LOOK GOOD FOR CAMERA. Not sure why TUKO lately chose dark background for their studio taping.
You spoke my mind
I had also seen the same. White will always be the best for a TV production
White background always bounces back light,,Incase they decide to use a dark backdrop they should consider getting backlight to illuminate the background
Personally I feel a dark background is excellent. It highlights the people and foreground very well
The background iko poa
Sometimes we should learn to swallow our pride and reset your life. This lady held on to the relationship because of her pride, thinking that there will be change!
Plus the dude's family was rich. She's overemphasizing
She's a very bold and intelligent woman ❤
Vicky you are a strong woman , thank you for sharing i am certain you have just inspired many to make the right decision.
Aki Vicki may the Lord heal your heart ♥ I knew you as a strong girl back in Buruburu. Pole for all you went through baby girl 😘
Walai I just knew she might be from buru, anakaa tu buru sijui mbona
Women please sit your daughters down and explain to them about the cruel world out there. The predators are out there are lurking out there. Take your time and look after themselves. Travel, see the world and when you are ready, you will be able to see a woolfe in sheep"s clothe.
True we are so protected hadi when we go into the world we can't
Do they listen?
Its time young people to learn from their place what marriage is most of the breakups now are for young people and other people are raising kids who are not theirs, its good she learnt the hard way its time to move on in the right direction.
Aki your story has made me cry, your un iron lady I love you
When it comes to this stories i prefer kuskiza both sides.Boy child uumia sana bila kuskizwa.May she find peace
kabisa both side
Ukiona mother in law anakupenda jua kijana yake ako na shida
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Kabisaa, kabisaa
By the way... another one is if everyone loves you in that family, look deeper...
True 😢
You are strong sorry about the tears may God continue helping you and other abused people 😭🙏🏽😊
She said " You never know the strength you have inside of you, Nobody but you"
Sorry for what you went though be strong and continue praying your going far and u will May God bless you and your children too mob love
Am moved and encouraged by this. May God bless you
Rule number one usiwai wacha family ju ya mtu... reason why I hate to get married si rahisi akii 💔😭
My situation right now,i just want to move out😭💔
Sis leave now!!!!!!!!!
I hope you left
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My situation too ,I don't know what to do
@@jacintamugo267 stress tuko nayo ni ya government peke yake😂😂
The mum was not supportive alijua kijana ni bure ask me , as long as the son is ok she support and she will support the next coz of his problem
I escaped a toxic relationship just around the time waiting to go to uni and just finishing high school.
Im super happy I prayed and asked God to let me escape the relationship n im always grateful i did involve God in this
That was so relatable when you said you prayed to God to just kill him. That was me a few years ago. That is a clear sign that it's the end. Sending you hugs mama.
wueh... I remember well when I knew it was time to leave my toxic relationship... I was boiling maji ya ugali kwa kettle, then nikaweka kwa sufuria, and for a split second I thought of kumwagila (we were not fighting, we were in good terms)... nikajua wachatu nijitoe.
Story of my life..narcissist are real n they know how to manipulate
you are a strong woman vicroria...sio rahisi....
Be gentle with your comments please
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My schoolmate 😊... Thank you for sharing your story Shaz
Narcissist husband you had..you are a strong lady may God protect you.
I see a strong woman despite what she went thru and the mistakes she did, she decided to pick lessons and grow instead of self pity and destruction, everyone should takes que from her, she is a believer of self and porpuse, am proud of you gal
The amount of abuse you've been through in that marriage is unbelievable
I wish you healing in Christ 💕
Am not judging lakini kwanini upeleke mwanamke kwa kitada utalala na bwanako?
Ati bwana yake pia alikua bibi ya mtu mwingine. Hopefully, she recovers and find happiness in this life.
Beautiful you are strong lady, God see you through.
Story of my life😢😢
Unasema you don't drink be he used to drink. WHen you started living together mnakunywa pamoja kwa nyumba. WHich is which?
Sorry for what you went through. I now understand what you mean. And sorry for judging you too early. Be strong. You'll make it
You have never had a drink with your husband or boyfriend?
Omg is it me or she kinda looks like Angela white a.k.a Black china
She's beautiful ❤️
beautiful girl! That jawline shows that her ancestry was of royal family
Yes her jawline inakaa ya celebrities kama Brandy
Problem of mum's boys and rich families
I have enjoyed how this lady narrates her story ..I just like how she is being herself ...yaani anajua kupiga story .....
Alafu wengine wenu mnaona ni maringo ako nayo...she is just being herself..
She is just being herself.
Back to the topic...I wish her the best.she seems to be a nice lady.
I agree..She is just confident with a large good heart..I wish her the best..
If you have never been in a toxic situation you will never understand..It’s like running on a ever ending treadmill with different settings..Sometimes it’s hard to jump of it..The only way is to switch the treadmill off and walk away..
Good the comment I was looking for especially to those who keep saying she didn't see red flags ukiwa na narcissist huwa uko in a world you don't understand he will love bomb you ufike heaven Mara gifts mara kukupikia mara attention etc but acha ukosee kidogo hivi he will turn around and even abuse you they are extremely cruel individuals
May GOD Protect and keep you In Jesus Christ Name
Bring the HUBBY too... We wanna hear His side of the Story. This Women especially working class we know them I'm a Victim 🤭
Do you think he can do that after hearing all that she has said about him?
Very true you are right 👍
Is he gonna confirm that he was a wife and a husband at a time 😂😂😂
Thankyou very important 😢😢
That was a perfect example of a Narcissist. They shift blame, they shield you from your loved ones, they manipulate they threaten, they abuse and then they confuse you by bombloving
True it's a cycle idealization,devaluation,discard
@@bethtoox9435exactly I went through this and do you know according to Tim Fletcher ako youtube he talks about narcissists it can take you 2 years to recover from narcissistic abuse ata kama muli date for only 2 months utakua na lifetime of trauma after that ...
But this guy vile anasema he lacked the spiritual factor that gives morals.
Evyon, it's really painful to loose a loved one. I am already on the same and am praying for God to see us thro.
Hao wanawake wanasema they need the other side of the coin.....i believe you gave a VERY VERY GOOD LIFE
Mimi husema hivi let people know that those who keep making victims look like villains by asking the other side of the story hiyo side wajue wataiyonea kwa maisha yao experience ndio watapata
nimekulilia machozi ikaisha....you're a strong woman
Heee 🙆🏾♂️🙆🏾♂️🙆🏾♂️,, let's salute Yvonne ladies & gentlemen 🫡🫡
Yvonne you have the capacity to hear all these things mehn 🤦🏾♂️. We celebrate you 🙌🏾
sielewi mbone watu huvumilia ujinga mimi mungu hajanieka nipende kufa i dont love to an extent nivumilie upumbavu
Me too, sinanga uvumilivu mimi ata kama sina kitu ntatoka
Anaogea pride Sana
These days I don’t judge till I hear the other side of the story. Personally I do say a coin has 3 sides and not 2. So in this story there is her side ( Vicky), the guy ( Njoro) side and the truth ( God) otherwise stay strong and all the best.
Kesi ilienda na meli. Such a beautiful hearted wife.
In Habakuku,it says in a certain verse that a man without God is like a beast
Madem mtaacha hizi relationship za mbushi and taking your parents for granted. Make allow proper courtiship and take time.
He hit you coming back late on the same day you lost your mum😢😢
that guy was a narcissist, insecure and a control freak....i hope you heal my dear.
😂😂😂 allow me ooh!!! what a story teller😢😢
If that guy is resistant to police and the authorities, report him to God ..
What shocks me are the women usually involved in the 'live act'
Wished it was all in English or at least with a subtitle
Tap on cc(closed caption)of the screen of whatever you are watching on.
a lot of missing dotes in this story, how can you bring a girlfriend to your bed when your husband is around and you know he would come to sleep at some point.
My question too
She must have been naive.
I thought the same
Hamjawahi teswa akili ikasimama!....we hope you never experience such
It's all over....I'm not even following
Kawaida if mother-in-law ana kutreat poa then the husband opposite huwezi pata yote
Aki hii story Ni Mimi 😢😢😢😢😢
Im i the only one who is not understanding this story
Try switching on English subtitles. There's translation.
Touch the screen and touch the square with the two letters cc.
She has many stories 😂😂😂
The story is interesting but since they are mixing up their language it's a blow to some of us ...
imagine
I am worried for this man. How sad.
He was a narcissist he used to manipulate you and gas light you.......women mungu atupe tu nguvu
Throwing words that you don't even know the meaning..nkt😢
Wooooooiiiiii, ati the husband was someone's wife too. 😢😢😢 So saaaaad
A Christian family that does not visit upcountry, 😮😮😮
Just a question kwani all stories people are always crying? hakuna story ya positity?
subtitles stopped midway. please rectify
This story is very informative however describing him as " nurturing and a good provider baffles me...I doubt he was any of that.
stop hating without evidence.. were you there?
Of course it is possible. The good action they do is calculated, they are strings attached, nothing genuine.
When a guy gets broke he becomes a narcissist. Akiwa na doh ni Mr. charming. Why wait for 8 years kama uliona signs
Mimi I've been in such situation and I can tell you for sure that getting out of such relationships is the hardest thing in life. These people are psycho
@@daisydaisy3383 understandable since you are speaking from experience. I know it's like Stockholm's syndrome where you want to leave but something like a strange force or spirit is holding you back
Actually narcissist men are mostly moneyed the reason for abuse because they provide but very arrogant
@@daisydaisy3383 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣hii yako mni mchezo
Hh
Pole sana Victoria
wah am a man but huyo wako hapana that was to much of him am so sorry gal u deserve better by ur story u deserve better but also ladies why stay somewhere because of peer pleasure or people
Story ya njoro wa uba. But i sympathise with you in the whole story. Pole sana dear. Your strong.
Waaa 😫 people go through hell in the name of marriage,it can not be me 🥹but after you come out with testimony 🫰🏽
These woman is the real divination of slay queen
Can't judge based on one side of the story. Just fear ladies.. watakuangushia ngori ushangae.
Hawawezi kuangusha kama wewe mwenywe ukona Tabia nzuri.
Aiii huyu nikama aliseti dude wake, alizima simu kwanini??
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Sasa hii comment c ungeandika na kijaka?
She didn’t say where she is at the moment
what is the motive of this story,,,,
Marriage is not for the weak at heart..inachosha...
Please bby girl it's time to move on with your life.marriage sio must.
Narcissistic and separation from the loved ones
Pole, Victoria. Is the number given above still working?
Guest akilia si muende break😢
Victoria my good friend na vile ulikuwa na relatives wazuri .
Yawa.... yani this life don't balance ♎⚖️ pole sana beauty.... It shall be well...
Hii ni story ya jaba, nothing adds up honestly,its very one sided ;tarnishing the guy, herself acting very innocent
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Felt the same 🤣
women get married to men.. for years.. then when the guy either gets broke or the woman feels she can get a better man.. all of a sudden, the man become a narcissist.
90% of women think their husbands are narcissists - makes you wonder🤔🤔
Be in the that kind of situation then speak
So you know more than the women living in those situations?
Wait til it's your turn you will understand
Alafu,, Narcissist wameanza na hii generation??
Where were they as we grew up?
I think women formulate stories in their head to justify anything so that they are devoid of guilt and shame.
Huyu dame hajasema anything good about hubby wake and the were together for 8years.
She probably also did some shady stuff but she has convinced herself that she was done wrong,and she has to be right(in her head at least)
I don't condone violence, but truth be told,this dame looks too proud and she has an attitude....looks like a script to taint someone.... She stayed because the guy was "loaded"..she wanted soft life.....as per her words. This interview is down and off .😡
💯. I feel the same
Hapo kwa proud aky ni ukweli
Something is seriously not adding up.story za jaba
Starting a sentence with "i dont condone violence" and then the things u say next are victim shaming and blaming? So u want the victim to be appealing to you for her experience to be valid? You dont think her strory should be aired coz u dont like her? How dyu know she's lying? Whether you like her her not should be irrelevant. Her personality does not justify violence. You are judgemental and rude.
Stop stereotyping
Can you turn on your subtitles 😊
Subtitles pleaseeee! You shows seem interesting, but I am thrown off by the language barrier.
Plenty fish in da sea❤
Kwani uliolekea fisi