Social Anxiety Documentary: Afraid of People
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- Опубликовано: 12 май 2011
- This is the only documentary I've seen that focuses on SA so i hope it helps people with it.
Below are websites that offer help and support for people with Social Anxiety.
www.gofundme.com/78nbhk - This a new charity created by Peter Hearne
www.freedomfromfear.org/
www.mind.org.uk/ - charity for people living in England and Wales
www.sociallypositive.com/ - A Social Anxiety focused website with lots of information and techniques to overcome Social Phobia
www.socialanxiety.co.uk/ support website for sufferers
www.sawest.org./ support group for Bristol, bath or the west in England. Also information for other sufferers too
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/s...
A very helpful website for Social Anxiety sufferers
I will add more websites as i find them. If you know of or host a website/Blog and think people will benefit from it them send me a pm with your website and mention about it being put in the description of this video.
Sometimes i feel like i wanna go back in time and start my whole life again.
Maria same! :(
We all do.
Right? I think about all the things I gave up because of social fobia. Aaah, such a waste!
@@RaquelSarinha I often wonder of the missed chunks of life interaction due to bouts of been house bound.PTSD. I found personally the more I excepted that what I was doing alternatively at home was just as relevant in my lifes purpose.
it sounds shite but I found a layer of anxiety fell away through the accepentance.
I feel like never existing sounds better- for myself
I think the main fear of someone with social anxiety is the fear of being judged. They feel that everything they do is going to be looked at in negative way.
I remember my supervisor told me one time that I looked “all pissed off” and another time he told me that I looked “scared and nervous” it really made me mad because he has no idea of MY social anxiety and depression, and honestly my bad attitude has lost me a lot of jobs because I really thought people were saying or thinking negative things about me.
Kara Ryan Yeah, because we've been raised like that
Being judged and rejected is the worst combination for anyone for social anxiety.
I have anthropophobia, its not that for me: everything about people scare me. Its incredibly deeper than being scared of being judged. I couldn’t give a shit what others think of me. But also: anthropophobia is different than social anxiety.
And social anxiety is much deeper than just the fear of being judged.
I also don’t mean this in a negative way. I don’t know how to talk in a concise way that people can understand what I’m thinking.
That’s a big part of it for me, but it’s because I HAVE been judged so often in my life, and listening to people judge others. Every time I try to tell myself everyone is focused on themselves and not really that interested in me, someone comes up and makes a comment at random.
Severe social anxiety is one of the worst disabilities to have because to live in modern society everything requires you to be social.
no it doesnt. you can have a work from home job, order everything for delivery, etc. etc. and not have to deal with people in person. social media makes it worse.. getting a job and being around others on a daily basis is important. my neighbor has told me he has a form of this and how it has kept him from doing a lot of things in life he wanted to do. he works from home and goes no where. he literally puts gas in his car once a year. Im a talker (too much probably) and when talking with him in the driveway he always cuts it off to go back inside. Really short sentences, doesnt describe anything in detail almost like he is afraid to speak too much. Like he thinks hes being judged all of the time.
@@peartfaldo Landing a work from home job still requires social interaction. As does taking delivery. And any amount of it is cripplingly traumatic for someone with severe anxiety. Its impossible to live in society free from any social interaction like some require and would prefer.
Less and less actually
True ..I decided to settle for working from home because I just can't go out
Exactly. :(
it's even worst to have social anxiety nowadays. People are so judgmental, impatient, unkind, and love to mock others!
Are you those things?
That’s not even true. Most people are good and not judgmental and much more worried about themselves.
@@Peace0fmindx Everyone is bad when compared to what is good.
@@ShepherdMinistrylearn to not give a damn what people say and live your life. Dont regret wasting your life being shy or scared of being judge
@@mynutshanglow2352 why are you commenting this to me?
I used to think social anxiety was based on things that aren't real, when In reality it is real, people are cruel and harsh and we know it and we don't want to deal with it.
We're the smart ones with high levels of discernment and intuition. Most ppl are arseholes.
exactly. The evil people sense that we are good targets and they cant help but unleash on us for no reason.
But there’s also a lot of good, kind and generous people. I’m at the point in my life when I’m done with cruel people, I have hard boundaries against them, and low tolerance. I’ve learnt to hold uncomfortable situations to hold them calmly but firmly to account and teach them not to mess with me. If i can’t cut them out of my life I Grey rock them. Why should I sacrifice being the kind generous person I am for those small mean people? And the more we meet the world with openness and kindness the more the world responds in kind. I remember when I moved to a new town and I thought everyone was so friendly, but it was me being friendly and as I settled into the daily grind that “friendly world” became more muted.
Totally agree, some people are so rude, but after you meet them you realize that they are also insecure because of what they have lived. So we're all fckd up 😅, so I try to be happy knowing that, and try to put boundaries also. (Sorry for my english, I'm learning)
@@goodmorningsundaymorning4533very true
Who else avoids eye contact with people they know just so you don't have to say hi
Literally will cross the street if I notice them first and act like I didn’t see them
I do all the time
wazza Omg I thought I was the only one who does this :(. I don’t do it on purpose, I’m just so afraid to say hi, so I look away. As a result ,people think I don’t like them :/
wazza its annoying
I have tried this but , i feel like people will hate such behaviour .they might also felt annyoed or feel igonored or not valued which ruins relationship ..this has happened to me soo many times....i jst dont know what do
As someone who suffer from severe social anxiety and also depression, the only thing I can suggest to others who are in a similar place is this: love yourself unconditionally no matter what. There's an enormous pain deep inside of you that created this anxiety, respect that, respect yourself, be loyal to yourself, let yourself be awkward or weird, let yourself feel whatever comes up whether it's shame, guilt or fear. Everybody are damaged, we live in a very sick society. You can't control what others think of you, but you can stop judging yourself and stop looking for validation from other people and start accepting yourself fully. Nobody is better than you and in the end you have to become your own best friend and forgive yourself and stand by yourself no matter what happens.
You right❤
Good points.
I would also add, good to force yourself to be exposed to as many difficult social situations as possible. It kind of desensitize you a little bit.
Also, try developing some passion s, like exercise, painting etc. It gives you a sense of self worth and uniqueness.
And also, to be more observant of other people. It would make you realize that in our world there are lots of stupid, false or just plain boring individuals. And that meeting someone kind, sensitive and intelligent with interesting inner world is a real treat.
Amen well said
Good advices thanks !
It is hard to love yourself when you fail at everything.
I went to college to become a teacher, but never became one. I was afraid that none of the teachers would like me, sit with me during lunch, etc. Looking back, I would’ve made a fantastic teacher. I raised seven kids, almost everyone is a doctor or a lawyer, I took care of many other children as a daycare provider. All of them excelled. I didn’t know how to believe in myself, I am 74 years old, and still learning. God bless anyone who reads this. I feel you.
❤️
To use a Muslim prayer. May Allah grant you ease in all your affairs and bring tranquility to your life
these are the comments that get me and make me wanna kms
@@altwab Islam and tranquility?? :)))))
I'm a teacher with social anxiety and it's helped me so much! Kids are way less judgmental than adults. It's never too late! Even if you don't teach, you could volunteer in the classroom!
“There’s always those outsiders at schools, but I feel like l was an outsider of the outsiders.” That’s quote is really deep
I can totally relate. It's not easy.
I like it!
The quote is good,God is with us.
God I wish people understood me.
@@n0rbert If anyone relates to this quote I would strongly recommend looking up Autistic youtubers to see if you relate to their experiences
Lack of empathy in our callous world makes struggling with social anxiety a lot worse.😞😔
@@joebaker7788I think you’re right. When I finally had enough guts to go to work. I found other people that had the same problem. It made it much easier for me to handle. It’s not an easy thing. And you’re right, if you’ve never had it, you can’t understand that. God bless you!
Ore more likely; thats what started it.
Yeah every lab made fake ass superficial overly fortunate pos thinks you’re a complete idiot.
@@joebaker7788I don’t even know where to start. It seems there’s nowhere to start.
Those "lacking in empathy" affect all of us. It is the building of strength and toughness of character to deal with it and come out not in the gutter which is critical to survival, no matter what.
Every day waking up and leaving my house feels like going into battle. I'm glad to see a documentary about this.
Bro, you are right on the money.
And how are you doin' now?
Which country are you from?
That is exactly how I phrase it. This has been a long war.
I don t wana leave the house at all
Ah! There is someone like me😢
Those who are constantly criticized by their parents or bullied by colleagues develop this disease, and this is exactly what happened to me.
Me too. Years of bullying and abuse have taught me to hate myself and not trust anyone. I stay at home unless I am with someone I trust.
Or bullied by older siblings growing up.
It's not a disease
@@ashleyrigatoni702not true. People know how to destroy someone’s self worth.
You're not alone
people who don't have social phobia will not understand how we feel
+Lets be Friends Hey man I had it and im telling you it does get better. You obviously know that feeling we get when our body is feeling anxious our heart is beating fast and we're so fucking hot and sweaty. I put myself into situations so I can feel that and slowly after more and more times I put myself into extremely fucking uncomfortable situations I started not having any symptoms. Slowly but surely. Its the first push we need to get ourselves to do thats so scary. Heck im 21 years old and im deathly afraid of presentations and I fail classes because I dont do the work for them. My social anxiety is literally none existent now and the only thing I need to overcome is public speaking and Ill be completely free of the Social phobia. I can still barely raise my hand without feeling the anxiety but after so many times of answering questions and making myself the center of attention it goes away.
Rob I'm still overcoming my fear of speaking in public and etc. I used to not have a social anxiety disorder before I don't where it started but as far as I know it all started when my so called friends bullied me. They made me feel so down they embarrass me in public that I once think to just end my life because of depression and I was only 12 during that time so I honestly think that experience has caused me to have a social phobia
Rob the worst part of having a social phobia is the difficulty of having friends
Lets be Friends Yea man I know the feeling dude seriously I think all of us who are watching videos like these understand the feeling and we all gone through it. Its just finding the courage to push ourselves out of our comfort zone.
+Rob yeah even tho its hard u should definitely do it coz u can't be like that forever
I have social anxiety, i ALWAYS feel that everybody is watching at me..at school i don't talk to nobody and they are always like "Why you never talk?" "why are you so quiet?" and then when i say something they act all shocked and go "omg you spoke"! so it makes you even more frustrated and scared to talk. It's a losing game here.
I am an adult now and I worked for years but it was living hell, I finally was evaluated and put on disability for more horrible anxiety. :( It sucks when you know you are smart and you can't form a prop[er sentence because you feel you will fail or be judged. I hope someday I can return to work because it hurts to not feel like a man and be part of society.
That is my whole life!
I know that feeling all to well and im 31 and still struggle. I hope you have better luck getting past it
I hate when people say "why are you so quite or shy" like I don't know that's just the way I am, and when they say that it makes your anxiety worse. So to everyone who asks those questions do us all a favor and don't please! you're not making the situation better by asking us why we're quite and or shy you're actually doing the opposite because the moment you ask us that question we're going to feel as if there was something wrong with us and thus creates more and more social anxiety. We are all different with different personalities don't make us feel as if there was something wrong with us because we choose not to speak, we shouldn't have to force ourselves to speak just so we feel socially acceptable. People suck!
Yes, and many ppl dont understand us bc they dont have it and they cant relate, they always end up thinking im being rude or i hate them but its not like that. I dont tell many ppl though. I hate having social anxiety its the worst😑
We might be quiet and anxious, but we are kind and we care. ❤🤗
It's ok to be kind but honestly after 40 years choose your recipients very wisely or you'll turn into a doormat.
No, we don't. We're the same as the rest of the human garbage out there, we just make less noise.
Anxiety doesn't make you a better person.
You never understand Social Anxiety Disorder if you don't experience it yourself. It's easy to just say "oh go to therapy, you'll be fine" or "just go out and talk to more people, you'll get used to it".
Yeah, this documentary provides false hope. Treatment isn’t always effective, medication side effects are pretty terrible unto themselves… And what is it all for? Just for use as a subordinate… They even filmed a patient hanging over a balcony for a wedding proposal, his fear response subdued by anxiety medication. Where are these people 5 years down the road? A few weeks of filming does not encompass the truth behind the struggle.
@@KH-rt3efhey, have you tried meditation before?
@@ingathidup what kind of meditation do you suggest?
“Just be yourself!”
@@KH-rt3efi am almost recovered from social anxiety. I would go back to being extremely social anxious if I got off my meds tho. I rather deal with the side effects of my meds which are also the same to treat my other disorders than to live how I used to. It is treatable if you want it gone, and if it’s social anxiety, you do want it gone. I was a kid who went to summer camps anytime school was out cause my parents are workaholics and I would need to adapt to being in a group with different people each week. I don’t have to tell you I have no recollection of most of it because I was panicking 24/7 but it made me be good at being social. Now I’m medicated since 14 because I had around 5 panic attacks per day, my social anxiety was so bad I felt out of control with my body and my general anxiety was terrible so I had to go to the psych ward to keep me from doing the worst and since then I’m on meds. It’s a godsent. Medication, therapy and putting yourself out there with a good friend group is the key.
"There's always outsiders in high school, then me, I felt like I was on the outside of the outsiders".
This line hit me hard.
+Kenneth Bowie me too
*****
I understand. I don't even have a job currently because it is so hard. Anxiety is like your body is just constantly under stress, especially in social situations, and it is so draining. I'm proud of you for even having a job and showing up to work everyday because that is a challenge itself.
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Skidittles I can relate to that so much. In my early years of high school I had no social anxiety and I was very popular, however I had always been very quiet around new people, but after being around them for a while they would be very surprised because I would eventually open up and people would say things like "you've really came out your shell" and stuff like that. Anyway, all my friends were popular and so was I, but this weird side of my personality was never a problem as it caused no anxiety and I would eventually open up, this was until about half way through high school when anxiety started to accompany it, I think it was mainly in my English class that the anxiety began. At this point I probably had a case of SAD, it's weird because I was well known before I had it, so people knew me as being confident then all of a sudden I was very quiet and only spoke to my close friends who are still my close friends today. I felt like I was part of a different species in high school and I was the only member of it. Girls would always ask at parties why I never talk and say things like are you gay and stuff like that, I was kind of ashamed because I couldn't change myself as I didn't know I even had something wrong with me, I missed out on so much potential as being ashamed and suffering became a daily routine for me. It's shit because I'll never be able to go back and change my later high school years.
May i know your ig account?😀
I hate suffering from social anxiety, it's taken away from me everything that makes life worth living
Its like whats the point living, i already ruined my life
+Dragon C. Pawns can become Queens, bishops, Knights or rooks, but not kings
Sanjit Bolina you're not alone
You're a childish moron if ya think everything that makes life worth living is being around people! All you'll find in group social settings is FALSEHOOD and idiots. Grow the fuck up!
@@TiOZAO1966 No human being can be "happy" without social contaxts or a girlfriend; that is completely impossible.
I've been crippled and restrained by this disorder for much of my life. It leaves you wondering what you could have been or done if you simply didn't have to go through all of this.
I dont condome bad habits but if you really want to stop having social anxiety just drink a lil good for masking
@@mynutshanglow2352 Don't encourage alcoholism, come on.
@@GiraffeCoco you're right but social anxeity is a bitch
👋🏽🗣️It’s not an idea. It’s a FACT!!! People are judging you & deciding how well or badly they treat you based on everything about yourself!! 🎉. They hurt & mistreat you. Then others keep doing it over your life. We are tired of people being given excuses to treat us like crap 🚮. We’re tired of being gaslit!!! Tack on racism, misogyny, & toxic masculinity before the rest of the judging, living in American culture is a nightmare. Too often Americans wake up & realize they need to sell everything & ✈️ expatriate 💆🏽♀️👨🏻👩🏻🦰💆🏻♀️👨🏾🦱
I feel for you dear. I knew what it is to feel inferior to everyone. You’re probably a nice guy & much better than you think! Good luck to ya!✌️
What I hate most about my condition and being quiet is the inevitable overhearing of people talking, saying "he's weird", "he's creepy". It's gotten to where I don't know if I avoid people because of fear or I hate them.
I know what you mean. I remember waiting with other parents in the hallway outside a classroom every day. We were all waiting for the end of the school day, for the kids to come out. Two ladies (parents) were standing right next to me, having a loud conversation about how their electric/heating bills were going up and I said something about a sales person for a utility company coming to my house, trying to get me to switch companies. They shut me down immediately. One of them was annoyed, saying "You're interrupting" and the other one said "Yeah, stop eavesdropping". After that, I never spoke to anyone in that hallway again for a long time. Once I was walking toward the classroom, and I was out of view around a corner. What I heard devastated me further. One of the parents was asking out loud "should I invite her son to the birthday party?" I heard "No, she's creepy and she's a stalker." They were talking about me. My son and her son were best friends in the classroom, so it really hurt.
@@susan638Wtff I am 21 and I thought these childish and gossiping behaviour only happened in highschool but it seems that many adults are still this childish 😮😮😮
Sorry, people are so mean and you’re not weird or creepy! I was the quiet kid who got bullied in school but it was kind of ironic since I felt the other kids around me were stuck up and cold and I’m the one with the issue not talking to them? They didn’t want to talk to me, just my experience
@@ussr001 High school never ends... go to any office and you will see the exact same behaviour. Most people don't grow up
@@BillClinton228 That's actually very sad😳
it gets worse when people start calling you "awkward" that's the last thing on this earth I want to be called.
Trust me I know the feeling. I avoid people to avoid that label. Or at least I'm very selective with the people I interact with.
When it's difficult to make eye contact with random people thats where it started with me. Plus I tend to mumble and mess up words when anxiety hits, I wish I didn't have to talk at all sometimes. Then when you hear about people talking shit about you it makes you not want to go to work, school, social events. Sometimes I wonder if I over exaggerate, but most of the time my intuitions are correct.
***** People can call me anything they like. I AM kind of awkward. No one should give a damn about other people's opinions of them.
i have heard calling me directly "awkward" or i have heard my friends saying that so-and-so think that you are awkward. this doesnt bother me, i have accepted myself quite fully, but i still have problem. the problem is in negotiating, i'm afraid to bargain at anything, or when i try i cant breathe anymore and i just wish i wasnt there. i used to have this with women, but with a lot of experience and trials and errors i became faceless with women and get anything i want from them, but not when it's not about flirting,,, so i guess, it's just about training,, i will start to train at big marketplaces to buy stuff at half the price that is written there, it might work
I know right there not helping there making it worst.
social anxiety is caused by society
+justin williams I agree.
+justin williams so true
and more and more people will suffer from that...
+TheGabrielPT
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Hope help!!!
Do you mean how society tells us we should look/behave?
People are very apathetic and aggresive nowadays. It's no wonder why so many people are too scared to socialize or be around others anymore.
Turn to bible and allow CHRIST to be your therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist. No man nor women fits to be one. All are sinners and without glory, all are tempted and suffer the same.
All are expected to REPENT AND BORN AGAIN, to LIVE HOLY AND GO AND SIN NO MORE.
All are weak in the daily fight between their spirit and flesh.
All these therapist, psychologist and psychiatrist, this world provides, can do is:
to deceive and steal.
They deceived you through all these “diagnoses” and they steal your money, through all the pills which you “need”.
In short: they poison your mind and your overall health, leaving you with neither one.
Many among-st them are: John 8:44 KJV
Therapist, Psychologist and Psychiatrist = Field where no human soul, never ever going to fit of being an help, no matter the among of years spend in “medical schools” or the decree gotten from there.
ALL of us are daily deceived, no matter the walks of life.
Do not trust one nor to try to be one.
1 John 4:1 KJV
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.
Turn to the BIBLE yourself and advice it to others also.
I really wish teachers in school were more sensitive to these types of issues. I remember the absolute dread of being called upon for an answer. Doing speeches in front the class were absolutely terrifying. Playing team sports which I weren’t good at and made fun of. The way the teacher kept probing over and over for her to talk made me cringe. There needs to be more one on one support with sensitive children rather than just throwing them out there with the rest and saying suck it up. It’s traumatizing
High school was the worst for me.
I agree. I was/am extremely shy since childhood. I recall almost being held back in elementary school b/c they thought I could not read. And having an assignment in 11th grade English class to read a poem in front of the class. I privately told the teacher to just fail me b/c I couldn't do it. She docked points but allowed me the option to read it after class to her only. Even that was a struggle.
I chose as work the past 25 years as an accounting clerk b/c I don't have to deal with people.
Social phobia is awful. It's definitely a result of being highly sensitive, low self esteem and insecurity. God Bless all that suffer from Social phobias.
When we got the syllabus, I’d immediately turn to see if there were any presentations. If so, I’d think about it every single day until it came. Sometimes failed classes because I was so petrified to get in front people.
I went to school in the 80’s. Teachers were completely oblivious and neither trained or qualified to help people like us.
I wonder where pedagogy is looking if it is closely related to psychology, especially in developed countries. I don't understand
The video and the comment section make me cry. This disorder is a living hell, it has completely ruined my life.
blueflower are you ok now?
I’ve had so many public humiliations that I never wanna leave my room and my family could never understand...or maybe they would but I’m to ashamed to even tell them. My life feels ruined and being 22 now I honestly don’t even see it getting better even tho I try to work at it.
Same here
Ya it does but it’s up to us really it’s not fun living when u care too much to people
Not as much as mines
People who don't have Social Anxiety are the luckiest people in the world. In my family I am the only one having Social Anxiety. Things are really difficult to me. I am afraid of going to school, sitting in the class. I am afraid of presentation. I am afraid of being the centre of attention.. I can't share my opinion. I never had any romantic relationship. People always say "You are silent" "You are shy" that really pisses me off.. In the past I have tried working out hard. I took some risks. But still it hasn't gone..I am afraid that I will remain like this all of my life...Please if anyone have overcome SA share it... Positive feedbacks really make me feel good. They inspire me...I hope that one day me and all others who have this disorder have a good life... Anxiety free...
Your post was interesting.. If someone has advice to give i wanna hear it too.
U r like me Man U should thank the god cause there's ppl feel like u not u alone
+Chris Martyn I'm going to copy & paste what I posted to someone else in the comment section " Keep at it & challenge yourself daily. There was a point in my life where I couldn't even cough in public without feeling that awkwardness or feeling stupid about it. Now I'm 26 (will be 27 next month). I'm in the military and also a public figure known for saying weird, strange, bold things on the internet. Just keep at it & don't give up!" I also do some pretty strange and pointless videos that people find super funny. I used to self medicate with alcohol because that seemed to get me out of my shell. I realized that's a bad habit to form & also that new people I would meet while drunk would think that I'm really cool but then when trying to hang out with those people while sober, it was nearly impossible because I wasn't the same person anymore. The key is to challenge yourself daily! The more uncomfortable you feel within a situation, try to stay in that situation longer. For example, I never felt comfortable meeting new people and I would always run and hide to a room by myself when people I don't know are around. To challenge myself, I left my state for a weekend and hung out with a friend. Nowhere to run and hide and couldn't leave until that weekend was over.
That Is very true, I feel the same way
+Chris Martyn While it may seem as if ignorance is bliss, there are some wonderful ways in which social anxiety helps us. tinybuddha.com/blog/the-gift-of-anxiety-7-ways-to-get-the-message-and-find-peace/
People who never experience this don't understand what it's actually made me feel. My heart beating so loud and I panic all the time whenever I'm with a person.
Go to a diet thats full of nutrients,whole foods,look up the anti inflammatory diet that will help.
If you are overweight that would be the best approach,because you may have high blood pressure,and then start excercising every day,keep busy,dont let your mind dwell or worry,instead do things that will bring a good outcome,the past is gone.
Same here.I have problem even with 1 person.Haven't you thought about going to psychiatrist?
S.A.D. it really is "sad". I've had this all my life (i'm 60 now). It has always felt like the world (people) are "bigger" than i can cope with. I'm retired & i've always loved rainy days because i feel relatively "safe" from someone just dropping by. I hate even quick trips out.
I love rain , probably because i thought it hid the sadness on my face , and it kept my face wet and cold, and not warm or red due to blushing. This was when I was 16 years old
@shanew.williams - I'm 62, been through so much trauma and nobody understands my social anxiety apart from people like you. Even going out causes me to panic like crazy and now it's even affected me so much I don't go to see my children & grandchildren, I feel so guilty and pathetic. ♥️🇬🇧♥️
@@carolehankinson4969 Don't be too hard on yourself.
@@shanew.williams bless you for saying that to me, I needed a kind word, so honestly thank you.
I've always been there for my brothers and sister but they've never afforded me that grace but I've never held that against them, seriously I haven't as I think holding onto things like that can make you bitter so I've always been grateful for that.
Thank you again, it's a relief that I'm not the only person who feels the way I do even though I wouldn't wish it on anyone, I've always been told to buck up and get my s*it together which just makes me feel even more isolated. ♥️🇬🇧♥️
Does anyone else come off to people as serious, angry, hard, or mugging when in reality your not doing that?
Yeah. Normally when I’m myself (fully anxious in public), I come off as quiet, boring, no personality and sad. When I try to act confident for once around other people, I unintentionally overdue it and I come off as angry, cocky, and mean, when that’s not the case. I just want to fit in but i never will sadly
Yes. Idk if it's the black woman stereotype or what, but I'm laughin like what? Lol
Priscilla Monter you described me perfectly.
Totally. I can't seem to help it i'm just totally zapped from stress
yes
I have social anxiety so bad I don't even leave my house. I haven't worked in a year, I have no friends. It's extremely depressing to the point you're forever exhausted and always sad. I almost feel nothing it's hard to explain. I hate when people say just get out and you will feel better, I absolutely hate that! That's not the case at all that makes everything worse.
I lost almost all pleasure..nothing pleases me, just the thought of being gone
curious how are you doing now? hopefully everything is going okay
I'm not gonna hit the like button 'cause I know very well how hard it is 😭😭😭
@@Voidingo "thiry mf"? Huh?
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The secret to stop anxiety is not to care what people think of you.Thats liberating.
Yes but when you have Anxiety like this or any kind you just can't say that. It's constantly within you head. It's wiring in the brain. No matter how hard you try it's there. I sought treatment after an accident at work and have not looked back. Calmative medication and depression medications have helped me so much, I wish I had them after my sister passed when I was 10 as things like trauma can cause this. Also those of us that suffer from this inherit it. I have nothing but love and Compassion for all who suffer this condition. You/we are not mad, our brains are wired differently. My kindest thoughts to you and your families and Furbabies from Australia
I wish it’s that easy :(
@@hmmmmp9312 I know it's not easy, try to talk to your doctor and get a referral to a proffesional. Honestly if I knew when I first experienced this almost paralyzed state, I couldn't turn my head, I couldn't look up, it was like every day where I thought everyone was staring at me (they weren't) everyone was judging me ( they weren't) I couldn't speak for fear of everyone watching me, fear entering a supermarket, public transport, every situation where there were other people, a terror that no one understands that's inside you. Your heart beat you can hear, sweating, over active brain, a fear like everyone is staring at you. I wish I could explain better but please know I've been there and still am. But medication does help. Please speak to your doctor and get a referral to a Psychiatrist as these professionals can help in prescribing the best treatment and medication. Not a Psychologist as in my case they didn't help me. Psychologist can not prescribe any beneficial medication, just talking. I copied and pasted this. Psychiatrists are medical doctors who specialize in mental health. They can treat anxiety with a variety of treatment modalities, including numerous types of medication and psychotherapy. Choosing the best treatment for the patient will depend on their specific needs. Please know I wish I could hug you because I know what you and everyone here are going through. Social Anxiety "Afraid of People" is a Real Condition and it's treatable. My kindest thoughts to you and your family and Furbabies (pets) from Australia with Hug's Alway's. Know you are a truly Beautiful Soul and it will be ok once you get treatment/ medication. There is hope. 🙂😇
easier said than done unfortunately:/
oh my god!! really? i didnt know that!! i'm cured now!
I was very bullied in school, only had my mother who suffered from anxiety, borderline, depression and always raged and screamed at me... everyone abandoned me as a kid, always ridiculed... I just wish there would be a pill you can take to forget...
You're a fucking great human being, don't forget it 😉
Try to seek out trauma focused therapy, if possible for you. There is a path to healing, it isn't easy but it is very possible and attainable.
Fluoxetine/Paroxetine
@@SpectatingSpeculator Doesn't help 🙄😕
School is the worst thing ever! It's the most social period of your life and you're just thrown in there with no warning. And then people think you don't value your education when your grades start to fall and your actions change. When in reality you're struggling with the social situations you face on a daily basis. Especially in high school. Trying to deal with aggressive, mean spirited people who are the exact opposite of you and won't leave you alone.
Story of my life
#growup, get a backbone, stand up to the loud mouths. become quick witted to give it right back to them, go into the military ...come back and beat their Lil cry baby asses back into their daddy's balls where they came from to start with. :)
I feel you :(
It's not as easy as that, if this person genuinely has a disorder and isn't just an overly anxious teen, they can't just "get a backbone". That's very patronizing of you.
Makes me so mad . Adults wouldn't put up with that kind of harassment in the workplace so why should kids have to ?
One of the worst things about having SAD is other people not taking you seriously, and labelling you as "shy", or "stuck up". It's so much more than just shy.......so frustrating 😩
Good to know Im not the only person of color who has to suffer.
@@edgydemon946 "Negroids are hos!" Maybe if you could use proper puncuation and grammar you would have a much easier time getting people to take your racist infantile comments more seriously.
So true I just hate this world
I hate my life. I just wish that I wasn't born like this
"But, people aren't going to judge you. They're preoccupied with themselves. Everybody's nervous sometimes, that's normal."
Great. Thanks. Yes, I feel very normal. And, knowing that others (probably) won't care to look at or judge me doesn't make the feeling go away.
I will never forget in high school in one of my classes the desks were arranged in a way where one side of the class faces the other with a walkway down the middle. Well I was seated in the front row and I remember looking down at my desk afraid to look up while the teacher was teaching. It felt like I couldn't breathe. Well when I finally got the confidence to look up just for a brief second I saw half the class just staring at me like "fukk he's weird" and I knew they were staring at me because they all turned their heads towards the teacher when I looked up. I wanted to burst into tears so bad. I don't understand how can God allow something so torturous to exist inside a human being. Even though I can better control it today I lost my teenage years and my 20s to SAD. It literally stole my youth.
I am so sorry this happened to you, and I completely understand. Social anxiety is horrible. Being afraid of everybody is horrible. I hope things are better for you now. I had to come to the point, in my mid40s, to understand that God made me. If he made me, I had an application to like myself. If not, that meant I didn’t accept 8:32 what God had made. That help me a lot, I’m 74 years old now. Social anxiety sticks around for such a long time. I pray that this helps anyone who reads it. God bless you!
I completely understand.
I feel the same way .. its the worst because u cant be happy
@@mkdiablo995 It’s so hard. I have a feeling they were a lot more people like us than we know. God bless you my friend!
@@judedeprey6831 thanx ... i hope teens get help before they try suicide, coz for me i didnt wanna live
I have had this so badly my entire life.
The word crippling is perfect... I would rather be alone than live life
Same. I just want to be alone.
Social anxiety disorder ruined my life, this disorder will draw you to suicide if bad enough. People are uncomfortable around me I'm excluded everywhere, even family. I can't keep a job. I'm going on disability because it's taken over my life and always will. It's a social distortion, respect to anyone to anyone suffering through this
It’s been a year since this comment - hope you’re doing better.
how are you doing now ??
may I ask which symptoms you have?
Hey, my aspergers which is on the autism spectrum makes me feel like that.
@@Barefoot67 Doing public speaking courses and joining group activities even if uneasy can help reprogramme the mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breath is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes. Senior Counsellor.
the social anxiety causes you to isolate. the isolation makes the anxiety and depression worse. i feel there's no escape from this self-perpetuating cycle. im stuck longing for a connection while severing all the ties i could have.
The worst thing for me is when i ignore and push away people that are as socially awkward as i am, and probably as lonely.
I take benzos. It’s the only thing that works for me. It’s sad I need to be on drugs just to shut off the anxiety in my head. I can’t help it
Can we talk..?
Same
@@fonzarellyplay370I drink and smoke, and on shrooms, you're better off than me
I don't think that we fear other people. It is being judged by other people that we fear. It is a fear of scrutiny.
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yep, it's being perceived. the reaction to being seen is to change into a acceptable form, when you dont feel like your usual form is acceptable for the situation, people, or environment.
Yeah that!
I have anxiety every time I step outside. I can no longer work on my car, any time I walk to the store, which is just across the street from me I feel like everybody is looking at me and making fun of me. Shit sucks… I never used to think like this when I was in my early 20s(34 now).
Same. By the way me and you share the same name
And not only that but I create an online persona the opposite of who i really am … its so hard. So hard
i was like this but got diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder and agoraphobia
thank you for sharing this because me too
I think your mind is always playing tricks on you maybe there's some people that judge most of the time people are just busy they dont have time to look at you
Thanks to social anxiety, I wasted highschool and never built any meaningful relationships during that time
Same
Same. :(
Same and have no friends as a adult
You now can make new and meaningful friendships😊
I wasted all of college. Dont go out. Have maybe one genuine friend. Age 24. Halfway to 30 and I've already wasted any opportunity for a relationship. And love life? Forget it. Terrified of even looking at a pretty girl let alone actually fucking talking to them. I've started to even believe it's better for me to be utterly alone to prevent fucking ruining relationships with any potential people due to how much my social anxiety has fucked up my ability to act normal.
My gf says 99% of people stress her out. They judge, criticize, and constantly making her feel like a sounding board for THEIR problems, never genuinely interested in her life, what she might be going through. She's happiest in her comfy bed, surrounded by her cats, listening to old 70s/80s sitcom reruns, a time when things were so much simpler.
She sounds really cool. Her happy place is the exact same as mine.
We live in a blaming culture. When shit happens, I always get targeted. I think it's best interest for people like us to play victim to deflect blames and things that cause us anxiety
Same as me, to.avoid stress i radar stay home with my bird, turtle and frog ,my plants , build livingrooms for bird... money dont faze me no more
@@lorishu48103 me too
Yeah the good ole 70’s - with all those active serial killers out & about 😂.
I could remember several years ago I suffered anxiety and mental disorder for over 11 years. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here. and mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on this planet i wish people would all realize. they could solve a lot of problems, more than just mental treatments, environmental clean up; the possibilities are endless with fungus.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Greece. Really need!
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
I'm starting to feel anxious just watching this, hearing people describe their anxiety. I feel like my social anxiety is preventing me from having friends and getting a job. But what I'm most afraid of is not being a part of the world, and living to my full potential.
You just expressed my own fears.😢
same here ;(@@benjamin5038
I'm kinda surprised that so many people watch these videos. It's good to know I'm not alone.
Youll never meet us tho cux were too anxious
No I won't click those links
@RasmusFBA
Similar to me,
I bet yor tempted tho. Lol 😆
Lol ;)
You definitely are not alone
Every second you are outside your home it truly feels like you are under a constant spotlight in front of millions of people judging you and even though I know I won’t die it actually feels death threatening.
Spotlight. I say that all the time! That's exactly what it feels like! If you ever need support, I'm open to help
Have you tried benzos like klonopin? It’s an addictive medication but it works. I can’t go out without it
@@fonzarellyplay370 I used to have oxazepam, but the doctor stopped prescribing it after my school was over. Since that I've pretty much given up on school or work, I barely manage to do the groceries. I don't know what to do. I am gonna start psychoterapy soon but I know that, like the other therapies won't help. And I'm too scared and anxious to go to a doctor and ask for a medication 'cause a) benzo aren't easy to get and b) my social anxiety peaks at places like the doctors, and I'm just a huge mess, in that situation I simply can't try talk to a doctor. I feel like I'm out of hope, it's an endless hellish cycle everyday...
🎉🫂💗Get into a support group, work with others with SA, & go shopping in groups for safety. 🎉
Yep I hate leaving my home. Talking to people is hard and worrying about people judging you is exhausting. But also when you're a highly sensitive person everything feels overwhelming - crowds of people, loud noises... Its just all too much for me handle 😭
It took me around 30 yrs to overcome social anxiety.. Those days felt like going through slow death everyday.. I could never look ppl in the eye.. Not even mine in the mirror. At 42 yrs now, i am glad i am 95% healed.. And so much more confident than ever before.. Somewhere spirituality and self reflection helped a lot in my journey.
I'm loosing all my friends and relatives day by day , I think I need a doctor .
@@sidhant.h2459 hi 🙂 most of the time we already know what we are going through.. What the problem areas are. I did go to cpl of professional docs, but i finally worked on myself by myself. If u wish u can talk to a doc. Some things that helped me were Journaling my thoughts and emotions in a diary and understanding y it happened, y I was upset, y did it trigger me, putting myself in other persons shoes, who inflicted the pain on me. And at last forgiving that person and most importantly forgiving myself. Another thing that helped was to focus more on creative things like a hobby, or physical activity that i love. So u dont get much time to ponder about ppl. Oh wat they are thinking and so on. Once u focus on you.. It doesn't matter wat the other person is thinking or saying. Your family and friends will always be there for u.. No matter wat. 🙂 if anything else write to me.. I'd love to help u. How old are u?
Can you tell me how you healed?
How did you heal?
@@jinfin221 It took me years to see my self worth.. Once I understood that I was powerful as a personality..that i was at par with everybody else.. That nobody was superior or inferior to me. I cld focus on myself. I achieved this by forgiving myself, in every situation.. In a social situation, if I was quiet. And somebody pointed it out.. I wud just shrug and say.. Ya m like that only and smirk.. Or if I fumbled myself with words.. I wud forgive myself and say.. And say to myself.. It happened.. So wat.. And move on.. Never let it get to my head.
Then journaling also helped.. I wud write down every detail about my life incidents that hurt me deeply or made me ashamed of myself.. I wud write about, how it happened, why it happened, who did it, why I felt bad about it, analysed y the person did it.. And then forgave me and that person. This is called purging.. I cried a hell lot during journaling.. But since I wrote and purged it , now I don't remember any of those past incidents.. That way I am free to focus on my present. Even if those memories come bk, I again purge or shrug it off.. So this practice helps me if anything new disappointments occur afresh with new ppl. I am more mature now not to take it seriously.
And I like my me time. I still don't have friends, its mostly ppl at work and family that I associate with.. I am not a ppl person and I like it that way.. But atleast now in big social gatherings, I still hold myself up. Iv noticed when I am self assured and look happy, nobody's taunts or stares hurt me.. I just smile bk. I am not the best small talker.. But I manage better than before.
Loving myself has been the best medicine.. For healing!!
There's a reason social anxiety disorder is abbreviated as SAD. 😭
SAD already taken Seasonal Affective Disorder. Fuck psychiatrists and DSMVI
@@keymeter1917 Seasonal Affective Disorder, not affected :P
Well aren't you the clever one? Lol
Actually it isn't. SAD is Seasonal Affective Disorder. You get very depressed in winter usually.
stingersplash Right!! I looked it up thx
I have social anxiety
It's ruined my life
feeling the same
send me a message, i will show you how i overcame it 100%
you CAN change your life completely.
people are just like u man they ain't from another planet they won't bite u... God bless u ! ;)
same but I know I cn make it better
Brian Jones..
Im not trying to sell you anything.. Im working with my dream now, and its all because I beat this disorder 100%, it is possible.
I wasted 15 years before i found the way.
this was my key :
google :
lucinda midwest center for anxiety
When you’re beat down by other kids and teachers at school and are punished for fighting back you tend to just sit quietly. As the years roll by it becomes part of your personality.
Real asf man
I'm so tired of fighting this since I was 13. It never gets any easier. I give up. I am at the Point where I just don't care anymore. If I am an under achiever, so be it. I'll be 50 in March. I'm tired.
I'm almost 30. Idk how much longer I can go. SIngle.. it's a wrap.
I'm 50, just diagnosed with autism. Maybe you are too
Try to hang in there everyone. Through all this, I still somehow have hope for a better tomorrow. Even though, tomorrow will probably be much the same as today. I haven't been able to work since 2006. I was always awkward and out of place. I now have an over sensitivity to people. I was diagnosed with pyromania in 1991 when I was 17. I can't hold down a regular job, relationships are out of the question now. Hard to see just how far you come when there's still mountains to climb in front of you. I am no longer taking part in the pyromania behavior. That finally stopped in 2006. Now, I am super sensitive to people, crowds, individuals. I feel like I need to be armed when I leave the house. I have a severe case of social anxiety, extremely strong performance anxiety and major depression. These things have held me back in life.
I'm sharing this because someone else may be able to relate to it. Not exactly the same but maybe similar.
Keep on going 👍💪.
We are strong from all these challenges.
Most of us are autistic and not aware of it, please give yourself grace
I'm in high school,9th grade, female. I have no friends because of social anxiety(I wasn't diagnosed with it, I just know). I always wait in the bathroom stalls during lunch because...I just don't like sitting by myself because that'll cause more attention to me. My social skills suck. Whenever I try to have a convo with someone, it just ends up being awkward, and I just can't keep up a conversation. Like I make them feel uncomfortable...and them I assume they hate me. It doesn't help that I embarrass myself every. Single. Day. I'm so dang awkward and it's annoying. Also, I always do this weird trembling thing when I get nervous (which is most of the time). So I guess people at school might think I'm crazy.
I'm even shy around my family sometimes. Wtf? This is bullshit. I want to be NORMAL. I cry almost every night because of this. Maybe I'm too sensitive. I feel like I'm trapped in a shell that I can't get out of! Yeah, I know that sounded stupid but that's how I'm feeling. It's been this way since I started middle school of course.
You're probably wondering why the heck I even wrote this, well I obviously have no one to talk to about this and I just let it all out...on RUclips's comment section...yeah.
i feel exactly the same way. i hate it so much. what i really hate tho is that teachers grade you on how much you speak in class. idk if its just my school but ugh it sucks
Try relaxation meditation and mindfulness meditation. If you do that seriously, it will help.
I know how you feel. I just wanna let you know that you'll get better at handling it. I'm 28 now but i remember high school clearly. It was hell. High school was tough. Job interviews are tough. If I didn't have my faith I don't know how i would have gotten through it. I still have anxiety but i've got to a point where I don't care what people think about me I just do my best. Don't lose hope. It'll get better.
This is me 100 percent, feeling shy around my family is the worst for me.
Yeah social anxiety is really a big problem. Students should be taught from a young age on how to be socialize they should make a class to teach student that at a young age so that they get used to it when they grow up. This really is a huge issue. My father makes fun of me and my brother sometimes because we're uncomfortable with socializing with other people and I think "Where the fuck were you when I was young?" He wasn't there for me. He waited for me to grow up after encountering horrible experiences with led me to get anxious in social situations and now he's judging me.
From what you said, my anxiety isn't as bad as yours. I am in college now and I have no close friends and it's funny that I am capable of having a conversation with people that I don't like but I get super nervous whenever I meet a person that I'm interested in. I met a guy and we have a lot of things in common and I really wanna be his friend. I'm a guy too by the way. I'm pretty sure he considers me as a friend but I still feel awkward and anxious around him and he has no idea.
No idea if anyone read all of this... anyway hope we all get better
When I'm in a group social setting I feel like I can't speak and when I do I feel like everyone is judging every word that comes out of my mouth.
Same
there are two ways to overcome it
firstly doctor by taking appropriate drugs
secondly social exercises by talking, talk And talk don't give up.
from my experience
same about me ....my life turns darkness ..but i wont give up .
Khaled Awwad what if you have taken several prescription medication for YEARS and still anxiety?
Sophie Veld it depends on your social exercises like teaching and talking were there are adult audience, you will feel worrying at the start just for seconds. if you over come on these seconds, you will win it. all above is not important without appropriate drugs by doctor.
you will be enhanced by this about 80%, and this percent is excellent.
I wish teachers and kids could have discussions about this. I was incredibly socially awkward. I grew up with a mOm and siblings who constantly told me I was no good. And guess what, I believed it! It took me until I was 45, when I realize that God made me, and to not like myself was an insult to him. I did a lot of journaling, and God worked with me in amazing ways. I pray for all of you guys, it’s a horrible thing To overcome, and many of us never do. I am 74 years old, and I still struggle a bit. I am much better than I was. Thank you God!
Hello, I love your comment.
I am suffering the same.
Can I ask, how did you overcome failures? When all of it is trying to prove I'm one? It's a despairing dead end.
It's hard, I hope you'll reply.
@@richardjames6613 I am so happy to reply. When I was in my 40s, I was praying to God and told him I needed to know he was there. I felt a hand on my face, I saw a warm glow, and I felt warm peace go from my head all the way down to my toes very slowly, as if a doctor had put an IV in me and I could feel the medicine go in.it changed my life. I came out of my shell, and I knew that God had made me, I had to be good. It was such a changing moment in my life. If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to ask. But my life changed drastically at that point. God bless you my friend. It is a rough, rough journey.
In a world where even God is mocked, one should not be afraid of criticism!
There is no god
There is no god
its funny how the people who don't know hot this feels say "you gotta work around it" "don't let it control you" you got no idea how it feels; the fear of fear itself its a trigger. And trying to hold all that energy is not easy, for you to have a war in your head isn't easy when you're trying just to act/look normal.
But it is like that. We have to learn to get over our anxiety.
'you need to calm down, stop worrying, chill out, let your hair down, relax, you're talking too fast'.. Ah yeah cos I didn't know it already
I believe its out of our control. I believe you can manage it to a certain point but it is extremely hard.
@Kenny Sr. You seem like your just mocking.
I am convinced that people can not understand what it is like to live with a mental health illness without having had one. They just can't relate. They do not understand what it is like to be in real terror, to be at war with your own mind. To have a darkness that is constantly and relentlessly telling you lies, telling you that you should fear something that is not rationally a threat in anyway.
Even people that have a mental illness may not understand a person with the same condition. We all have many variables and different circumstances and it depends a lot on the person. My mother is a narcissist and has Bipolar 2, I have major depression and social anxiety. She doesn't understand and never has and on her new meds all she seems to be doing is getting more self-absorbed and less empathetic.
She uses my mental illness against me and belittles me and acts like i'm a lunatic and that i'm the reason she is sick it's really really wicked and f'ed up
She has played a PART in my problems, or maybe my struggles with my problems, but i'd never try to cop out and use someone as a skapegoat for all my problems. But what can I say? She's sick.
I truly agree with you, only people with sad truly understand what it feels like battling with your mind every single minute.
My teacher wrote on my kindergarten report card "She's a loner." That stayed with me the rest of my life.
I know it sounds cliche, but this is literally me. Also, sometimes I hide/stall in the bathroom just so I have an excuse to not interact with people.
Everyone needs a healthy dose of "I don't give a s*** what other people think."
And to stand up for yourself.
Well i have this attitude and think that way but still the anxiety is there because that fear usually comes from that you know people can be impulsive so you always want to avoid those situations and sometimes avoiding situations ends up to avoiding everything in life
Much profound, very helpful.
Literally, also known as growing up.
Hear hear
As a person with this, My first thought is with all the people in our society who gossip, talk about people in a terrible manner then when they see that person that they were just talking about, when you see them being so nice and then as soon as that person walks away they start taking again nasty about that person. I've seen it all my life. From parents family and friends to coworkers and bosses. It's everywhere. People are judging people all the time which therefore I think has made the very sensitive loving and caring ones mental. I don't know. Only thing I can come up with.
You make very good points. I think my social anxiety (which was quite severe) began to decline when I realised just how sick most of society is. It was a realisation that there was really little point in trying to meet people's expectations and "accommodate" them. Rather, I should focus on my own inner desire to move forward in life, taking one day at a time and setting goals and challenges for myself (rather than conforming to those of others). At that point, life became a journey of self-exploration rather than self-destruction. Unfortunately this didn't happen until about five years ago, and am now in my late fifties! But better late than never! The main thing is I no longer feel like I'm under the spotlight; I stepped out into the sun.
yeah I feel like they might say somting bad about me. they use to say youo have to watch the quiet ones! It seems most people just dont notice me that's the only way I have coped throught life. you cant feel emotions I "ve got stories it seems nobody cares.
Do you think you do any of these things?
@@St.Buddha_Brahman-Sun_of_Light You dont think you do evil things?
This World is relentless, built on Lies, Greed, judgment and betrayal… nobody’s exempt from it no matter how good of a person you are.. I wish it weren’t true but unfortunately it is. My Grandfather always told me that this World is a giant stage with a lot of Actors… you just gotta keep pushin through and treat’em like cardboard cutouts or video game background characters who are insignificant…
I'm not saying that life is a piece of cake for those who never had social anxiety, but I think they never realized how lucky they are for easily being able to cope with everyday things like building connections/relationships, dealing with co-workers, giving presentations...
Yeah everyone have struggles but they are different.. Some have it easier than others , but in the end everyone has their dark moments.
I've always felt like I'm on the outside of a bubble looking in and seeing people live normal happy lives and I'm doing everything within my power to try and pierce the bubble to get inside to live like them but as hard as I try I can never get inside and forced to be alone
Same. And people are so judgemental and horrible.
I'm terrified of leaving comments but I'm going to comment this anyway because I want to overcome this
Nasdog are you better now??
It's incresing in me
NasDog express yourself there is NO shame in it
@@stevensullivan5282 👍
Nasdog You might not realize it but that was a first step towards conquering your social anxiety.
My parents called me lazy to do a job but reality is I am afraid of people.....
They never can't understand
That's a good excuse.
Thomas People like you will never understand until it happens to you.
@@Thomas-jf3eu why are you even here
Same.
This hurts
Especially since I’m in a dysfunctional family that criticizes people for sport. I feel trapped. I daydream about having a better support system to help me. I don’t believe I can do this at all, definitely not alone.
Ppl, don’t take this the wrong way but this is what I did. I stopped giving a FLYING F what anyone else thinks. Block the ignorance out and walk with confidence! Hold your head up, make eye contact and be as friendly as you can be. Those negative interactions won’t be from you, it’s others with a problem and brush them off like advanced dandruff on a black shirt. Stop caring what other ppl think. Find something you love or that you’re good at and concentrate on being the best at it. Ppl will find you and gravitate toward you. Seriously! Hold your head high and tell yourself that you are worth it! That you are human just like them and that you deserve respect.
If you have social anxiety you need some meds to make you able to do it? But otherwise you’re kind of right. I have BAD social anxiety and other anxiety disorders (DIAGNOSED BTW I’m actually mentally I’ll) and since I’ve been on meds, social anxiety is a joke. I can have this idgaf mentality and face my fears and expose myself to social interaction. Yes I still have it and it can resurface when I don’t have a good way of living but it is mostly under control. But before meds, this comment would make no sense. I literally was aware of my whole body and was trying to control everything about my presence in a room. I would get weird spasm feelings of my body moving weirdly. I would literally wait in line and my thoughts were this: “omg they are laughing at me for sure;why are you holding your card that way do it that way; you’ve been standing in this position for too long it’s weird; omg why is my head moving so shakily, they must see it; fuck now they’re probably laughing about me; I need to stare somewhere else, I look weird; don’t look up, look down now; fuck it’s my turn to go up”. basically I don’t have the mind space of being like idgaf because my body and mind are in synch about being weird. I would also dissociate during and before any presentation or in too stressful social interaction (I would see myself out of my body basically as if I’m not here, I’m a fly on the wall”
And I was really good socially yet no one had a clue I was literally panicking 😅😂
Even writing comments on the internet is hard for me. It's hard to express a complete sentence.
+azsegrxdhtfgvijnkoml ewrhtgoij/pkL The quiet people have the loudest minds.. i rly understand you man! i have the same problem
azsegrxdhtfgvijnkoml ewrhtgoij/pkL ikr it's very hard
LupoWolf ikr
Damn rlly
@@joliearanda3893
Its a joke
I've missed so many opportunities, possibilities of new friends, and so many normal life activities because of it.
Kimberly Exactly how I feel
All those opportunities slipping from between my hands while the years go by
Same here, 28 fucking years old, no jobs,no good education, no friends, no talents...is being dead really
Kimberly It doesn't matter at the end of the day.
Kimberly same here and u have judgment from ur own family that dont mean to but they do i really hope the best for u please keep trying day by day by u doing that will help me and many others ♥♥♥♥♥👽👽🙉🙈🙊💩🙏🙏😌😒😱😲😳😵😩😨😰😦😥😟😷😒😛😜😋😗😙😚😝
These people are reacting normally to an abusive society. THEY are not dysfunctional, society is.
Yes and no. I'm one of them and we over react. Its the fight or flight thing. The meds help. I'm proof.
people just don't like me. never have. i try to be a nice guy, and friendly...but it always glitches somehow. now at sixty....i just want to be alone. i bought a remote five acres on a mountain in idaho. it will be my oasis.
Good luck up there, buddy! Hang in there!
I swear that if I conquer SA, I will dedicate my life to helping every single one of you.
How's it going?.
I want to do the same, when I saw that little girl shut down I broke down bad cuz it brought back memories of my childhood, that was me.
T q bro
It's a societal problem. It's not our fault. Society has a cookie-cutter one-size-fits-all approach to mental health. It cannot and will not work. We are not ill. Our society is ill and we're just more conscious of it.
@@stevensullivan5282 VERY well said
I always wondered why socializing comes so easy to everyone, except me. It's unfair because it's something I have to work on my whole life and it has caused me loneliness.
Me 2!
So true. And I hate it when people make comments like "you're so shy" or "you should be more outgoing"...
U know when I come across people on the street people stare at me this thought revolves around Why? For around 3 yrs I couldn't make any friends whom I could share just 3 or 4 friends encouraged me to come out they changed me not throughly but somewhat that I could just speak out for my self
People are the most evil thing in the world
Social anxiety is just the self awareness of knowing that something obvious about you is going to likely receive a negative reaction from people (because that’s what happens). So you get anxiety in anticipation of this negativity. That’s all it is.
I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do anymore with my life. I basically have no friends, can’t talk to people or even form relationships. Loneliness sucks man
talk to Jesus Christ. He is always with you! I understand the pain
i felt this on a personal level
Same
@@TheStranger513 wanna be friends? :)
@@dacanation12 wanna be friends too ?:)
Sometimes it starts with being shy > then loosing social skills > (and because of that) receive bad social feedback from others > avoiding social situations > social anxiety disorder > (and if not treated correctly) avoidant personality disorder.
The earlier you start a treatment, the more chances you have of recovering a total control of social situations.
Nope, people are born with the disorder. Its a mental illness. but I think a lot of people who claim to have it on the web aren't born with it they just developed it over the years from being shy and, or never facing there fears. When you really have the disorder it just doesn't seem to go away no matter what you do. But I think getting treatment starting from childhood is highly likely you would it escape social anxiety disorder.
People can be born with a mental propensity to have a SAD, but they're definitely NOT born with the disorder.
And no, you're wrong. It's possible to be cured (or at least, control) a SAD with cognitive behavorial therapy. It has been proved.
thats what happened to me, it did start from being shy
to instinctzz something
that also happened to me, i slowly developed social anxiety from grade 5-7 or 8 not sure
I just think avoiding people is for the best
38 years old from the U.K. here. It’s an evil curse this condition, and it has ruined my entire life. I can only imagine the man I could have been had I not been cursed with this.
I don't like talking to people or being around people. Why? Because...
I can't have a normal verbal conversation with another person without feeling awkward, either face to face, over the phone, or even written online chatting. I can speak perfect English and I am a smart person, but my brain is slower than most people when it comes to on-the-spot thinking and on-the-spot creativity. When I am talking to someone, my brain is too slow to think up words and ideas to speak about. This makes me end up just being very quiet and only really talking when I am asked a question. If I force myself and try really really hard to hold a normal conversation, I can nearly do it, but it will only be about 70% of what it should be (assuming a normal conversation is rated 100%). So I have 2 options: either (1) I have to put so much effort into speaking, or (2) I can just be myself and say a few awkward words/lines here and there and look like a idiot. Both options make me uncomfortable, so I just avoid talking to people altogether. I feel slightly more comfortable talking to someone when I have a purpose for the conversation e.g. if I need something or some information from them. But if the conversation is not necessary and it's just a social chat, I can't do it. It's too hard and too awkward for my slow brain. I can force myself, but it's hard work, and I don't like it. I write an excellent email (necessary conversation, of course), since I have plenty of time to formulate my words and ideas. But if it's a social email, I steer away from those too. Speaking in a group is even harder than one on one, because nobody pays attention to me since I become quiet or just can't speak up to the normal conversational standard, and it's just as if I were never there. So basically, because I can't talk to people, I can't have any friends, and even family is too hard to talk to as well. Except for very close family who I live with and who have accepted the fact that I can't talk to them much. So basically I am just alone all the time, and I feel quite happy and a lot more comfortable that way, rather than having to face people or converse with them and feel awkward (or exhausted from 'try-harding' conversations). Don't really have a job either, because most jobs, no matter what they are, you still kinda have to talk to people and interact with them every day. There are very few people like this. But I just hope there is at least one person out there who feels the same way as me, so that I know I am not alone.
The worst part is:
Knowing that I've had this problem for a long time, I decided it was time to try and overcome it. So I got an office job for 3 years and started hanging out with friends again. Struggling through every single day for 3 years, putting a smile on my face every day and making an effort to talk to people. But the pain of being uncomfortable and awkward in every single conversation would just never go away, no matter how much I tried. I sometimes tried just being myself i.e. the quiet awkward conversationalist, and whenever I would try that, I would feel uncomfortable too. The whole thing was just exhausting for me, whereas, for the normal average person, it would be just a walk in the park. So after 3 years, since nothing improved from my efforts, I left the job, left all my friends, and went back to being alone. I don't feel 100% happy when alone, but definitely MUCH happier than having to be around people. Such is life, it sucks, but I guess you just gotta make the most of it and do what makes you happiest. After all, the meaning of life is happiness, isn't it? For me right now, it's being alone and not talking to people. Unless I somehow magically change, I don't know what else to do. Don't you think every human being should have a vote on whether or not to be born? It's like we had no choice or say in it whatsoever...we're all just dumped here on the earth with all these human feelings and are forced to go through life and deal with it.
+Ryan Adams I feel the same exact way as you've described. I feel I have so many opinions to share whether in person or online, and I'm just afraid if someone responding negatively or with their own opinions. It is more difficult in person though. I cannot speak with the words I can come up with mentally or what I say is difficult for others to comprehend, or I'm socially unintelligent when I'm really smart. I just can't speak with others when I have to think on the spot or be quick about certain things. I can't speak to authority figures without feeling tense or reluctant. I feel so awkward and stupid at times and even when random people approach me hoping they hadn't or I thought I was unnoticeable (even though I feel as everyone pays attention to me) I can't say but a few short words. Then I'm out of breath and pretend I had just finished running so I can't catch my breath and then I hurry and end the shortest exchange of words (not really a conversation). I have no friends, I have a daughter and find it hard to take her to the park, school, groups, dance class...all because I'm afraid to make conversations with other people and I feel they're judging me for some reason. I also get the sickest feeling when I have to be around people, speak in front of groups (small or large) or even with family.
i get exactly the same thing
i am the same. have been the quiet guy in class but fuck it people still want to be my friend. people actually tell me that i dont talk to people because i think im better than them? they ask. im 24 now and still have this. now its harder though cause alcohol came into the story. but im working on that. anyway. just fuck everybody
Your story really spoke to me. I'm sorry, this comment is already a few months old, but I can't help but reply. As a very sheltered individual, I've lived a life without much contact from anyone outside my close family. Because of this, I'm unable to do many things a normal person would, such as go to the grocery store. I can never do this naturally. On the rare occasions I do walk into a store, I feel incompetent. Even worse still is that my family doesn't understand, getting impatient when I can't do something so easy they learned how to do very early in life. In highschool, I only had one friend for a very long time, and only because that person persisted to hang out with me even when I was rude. Even still, I consider her a distant friend at best....which saddens me because she deserves more. Reading your story spoke to me because I experience many of the same things you have. It angers me when people claim to have social anxiety or be antisocial when they just have a bit of difficulty talking in front of a crowd, or making friends. For me it isn't about the crowd, I actually do quite well with public things that don't involve talking to someone past the first day or a group project that effects not just myself. I guess my anxiety lies in the fact that I can't do many common, considered by most to be easy, tasks that others do....and that I'm not comfortable risking anything that could potentially reveal that fact to the others around me. In the end, our social anxieties are different, but at the same time it was close enough that I felt a connection. Even if you don't read this or reply, I want you to know you are not alone....and that I'm thankful to you for showing me the same.
The worst thing about anxiety, I think, is that you know these fears are irrational. But that "what if?" Factor, that fear of the unknown, the uncertain, that's what gets you. You can never know exactly what someone is thinking or how they are perceiving you, and that is terrifying. You only know yourself and your reality, you don't know theirs. And because of that, you assume the worst. You fear they will see all of your flaws and hate you. Perhaps that comes from not liking yourself. You think everyone is going to hate you as much you hate yourself.
And making a small error feels like failure. I dropped a soda bottle once on the way home from the store, and it took all I had not to cry. I felt like the biggest failure, and I was embarrassed even though I'm pretty sure no one saw. A busted soda bottle was enough to make me want to burst into tears, how awful is that? It's like anxiety has taken away control over my emotions and I literally can't handle anything and it sucks.
Everything you've said: I feel you..
I know
It makes me feel better that I’m not alone. Has anybody tried to take on a fake personality to cover it up?
Okay, your social anxiety is even worse than mine, but at the end all forms of social anxiety are the worst. :/
weed helps.
I am 43 and I just realised that I am not the only one . at this momentI feel so happy and so much pain that I lost the best moment of my life because of it .
Yep, when you’re going through it you don’t realize other people are in the same boat. It helps to know that other people go through this. I was scared of everything my whole life, until I was in my mid40s. At that point I realized that God had made me. If I didn’t like myself, I felt it was an insult to God. That has helped me. A lot of journaling, and a lot of talk with Jesus. I will keep you in my prayers. It is not a fun journey, but the more we talk about it, The greater strides we will make. Amen
This condition caused me to start drinking and taking drugs in my teenage year's what a path of utter destruction!
Me too, though kinda.. I probably didn't need it at first cause making some sort of connection with people wasn't a problem before drugs and alcohol... it certainly became a problem after, needing it in every social gathering that didn't involve sports. Just to get out of my shell..
And my social structure collapsed once I quit drugs and alcohol to a large extent. Really tough to spend time with people for long periods being sober...
@dco1019 i needed the alcohol or i couldn't even go anywhere or speak to anyone which became extremely problematic then used drugs to just escape myself! One disaster just lead to another. I feel like my whole life i have been so misunderstood because people couldn't see how badly i struggled and suffered just to be normal!
@@laurasmith9763 I feel you, my life kinda unfolded the same way. in the end I was left with a bunch of relations that meant very little (while they were very valuable at first) cause alcohol and drug use was maintaining those relationships.. kind of a gift and curse though.. it made it easier to limit my drinking and it made it easy to be alone.
For all of us suffering with social anxiety: YOU ARE NOT ALONE!, despite what you think when things are bad
🙄🙄🙄
Actually, I am alone, every day, all day.
@@indigobunting2431 yea me too...well me and my methadone,...
@@indigobunting2431that’s the uniting factor if you think about it
@@indigobunting2431You need to accept the friendship offered to you by Jesus, who was well acquainted with grief, a man of sorrows. He is God. And as such, He can be near to you, comfort you and sustain you if you trust Him and receive Him.
everyday is like a war....
Like sitting in a trench and the bombs dropping, that’s how I feel.
My social anxiety had destroyed me and thank you for making this for mental health awareness
Naw. There is help. I'm lucky. The meds work. The roller coaster is trying them out. Now I know, I shoulda been on these my hole life 59. I feel so much better. Keep trying. I practice perma grin. I force myself to smile 24/7. Even during attacks, alone. Smile. It works for me freind.
@@tomhowe1510 it's hard to fake it to make it 😔
@@MrMartellSincere ya. It is, but it works. Even when you fake it. Try it man. Find a nice smile. Nod alot. It drives people nuts. They get envious, then nod and go. I take paxil. Its only a sedative. I'll be on it forever. No more panic attacks. Don't stop. There's help. You just gotta smile and find the right meds.
one of my biggest accomplishments relating to my social anxiety was walking into a Starbucks by myself and ordering a drink and paying with a card. normally if i had to do it myself I would completely give up on doing it no matter how badly i wanted it. i was so happy i ordered a drink at Starbucks thta i was telling ppl about it and they were all like "all you did was order a drink." :/
chanellovvesyou and I would of been like so what. It took me a lot of courage to do it. But im proud of you. Way to go.👏🎈🎉🎊🎇
People that make comments like that do not understand.
@@Bluelinechevy82 right. Smh
Nope. Drive thru
Wow I can relate!
"I felt like I was on the outside, of the outsiders." That explains it so well.
Sometimes I feel this has to do with family trauma, PTSD or upbringing.
This disease kill me every days.
In the past maybe this was odd. But the truth is most people ARE NOT very nice these days.
Superio Mando Oh so glad you said that. I'm sure that really helps....PLEASE!!!
Do you not think these people have tried this 'simple' thing.
jhon sargent I have an idea of how you feel. It can help to know when to go out. I'm sure you have your 'safe' times you like to go out more.
jhon sargent It sounds quite normal to me. You are protecting yourself. It is important to try to go out. However, you need to take little steps.
***** Maybe not now. That is ok. But you will. Can you get person you know to help you more?
jhon sargent It looks like you need to educate your parents. Show them some good role models. If you look away from the TV you will find them. The general media has an agenda and it is not always a very nice one. Creating fear is a way to control people.
And after that...you are going to have to make your own choices. This is your life, your only chance to see life. Don't waste it. Just take little steps.
Social anxiety is literally so tough. I know that I'm a fun talkative person deep down inside, but i feel like my personality get scared. So when I actually do muster the courage to talk to someone, I have nothing so say, and I start shaking and my heart beats out of control.. All I can do with people is ask questions, if I do speak. But most of the time I'm quiet and want to run away. I think low self esteem is something that probably contributed to it. All the people in the video who have social anxiety I relate to, ah I feel like crying :(
You look cute. I'll be your friend if you want. I can't deal with a lot of people either.
***** aw yay friend! ah same :/ tell me about it
Grace, I wish you courage, strength, wisdom, and it is not your fault!!!
same here! it takes me like months to be comfortable to talk to someone :(
Hi, h r you? can i have ur Skype or face book? we can be friends! )
Bullying and criticism in early childhood development.
I used to be incredibly social in my school years. Making people laugh was always my favorite part of any social interaction. As an adult I’ve become incredibly introverted and I don’t really have any friends. I still enjoy making people laugh though.
I feel the exact same way 🤍
I’m 21 years old now and I’m still struggling. I always wanna get away from everything and crawl back into my hole.
Had this for most of my life (34 years old) and wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Covid era was a blessing for me.
Go hypnotherapy
Did CBT therapy but only saw a brief improvement. Thanks for the comment/advise.@@TalesFromTheSubreddit
Social anxiety fucked up my life. It also ruined my academics, my grades, my relationship, I pushed away my friends (mainly my highschool friends) I'm scared of going to reunions. I'm college now, I was supposed to be in my 2nd year but my anxiety f**cked me up so bad and my grades got really low that I need to stop one semester. My mom & dad was so mad at me, they didn't know I was having a rough time and they don't know that I have social anxiety as well and I'm kinda scared to open that kind of topic to them because I know they'll not going to understand it. I'm sick and tired of it. I just want to be normal. I just want to go out and live a normal life like my friends who are very outgoing. I hate cancelling plans, and pushing my friends away, and for not having a boyfriend because I'm just scared. Scared of everything. I fucking hate my life and sometimes I think it's just better to end it all up but I know that suicide is not the answer for it. & I know that this will get better.
I'm in the same boat:/ I'm sorry. Stay strong:)
im 18 years old guy and i also have social anxiety eye contact is the scariest thing for me i dont have friends and ive been thinking about suicide lately
+Blue I'm going through the same thing.... I wish it weren't like this
+Denise bxzr i hope the best for you and may god bless you
I used to think that being dead would be better but I wish I would have known then that I would slowly get better with age. Also a raw, living foods diet has helped me with my anxiety tremendously. I recommend anyone who suffers from anxiety or depression to aim for a raw food diet, its hard at first but its worth it.
I've had social anxiety since I was 8 years I'm know 53 years old.
In a few days school will start again. I’m already anxious. It’s a vicious cycle. Pure hell
Im going through the same exact thing, im terrified
@@allieflores5472 I wish you all the best!
I feel so god damn trapped all I want to do is fucking cry.
***** Would you be able to help me? :/ ...
you're not alone, i just want you to know that you're a good person and you don't deserve what you're experiencing...at all
Megan Wolf all those people who say they have a cure for social anxiety is fake, they just wanna make money out of people who are suffering and they hit the weak points, don't belive in that.
I don't take any meds for my depression or SAD... It is just a lost cause I suppose..