I think if you are so concerned and self- reflective, it's Highly Highly Improbable . Most have some narc post trauma reactions, but many don't even bother to lift the rug and take an honest look ❤ embracing our shadows in the light all groovy
Unlikely not impossible. Usually when the skills they have stop working they can be susceptible to a willingness to look within. But if their world doesn’t collapse then they almost won’t ever seek help. Think about it why would someone who derives so much pleasure from something stop engaging in that behaviour, if they saw it as a positive.
I think I do have narcissistic traits I acknowledge that and I do want to change that but taking accountability is very very hard for me to know that another person thinks I'm a bad person for hurting their feelings I feel they won't ever forgive me I think this is selfish to think about how I feel more than them
I keep having this thought, and I know I should talk with my therapist about it, but I always forget by the time i talk to them. I feel like i treat my partner horribly, but i swear i'm trying so hard to be good to him. He's so good to me. Very patient, loving, and understanding. I just feel like a burden. 😥
There is a difference between "being a narcisist" and having 'narcisistic tendancies' the spectrum of how we own our selves and handle outside situations and people are impacted by our environment and as people we always grow and change, its understanding how your self is vs others around you and not 'overrulling' everyone else just for yourself. At least not consistnatly. If you yell at your kids and override everyone to get them out of traffic so they dont get hit by a car, that is most likely acceptable because its a safety concern. If you yell at your kids because they didnt bring your food hot enough to you, then you might be selfish and narcisistic because you aren't consdering anything other than your own needs and overriding everyone elses. It’s the consistency of the behavior-especially when it becomes more of a pattern-that differentiates a self-centered moment from a chronic narcissistic issue. I think this analagy is fair, may not be perfect.
In fact, id go as far to say that someone who is "not" leaning towards narcisistic personality would help cook, and try to take care of others as well as themselves, especially their family, and in doing that, I would even add that if you do it and hold it against everyone and get angry when they don't say thank you or do the dishes you may still show narcisistic tendancies, doing it to serve others and not expect anything in return and if you need something done you communicate it in a way that is not overruling the environment, that would be the best way to foster 'the team' or 'healthy group mentality' setting, when the 'group is the self' is kind of where you would want to gravitate twoards, noones perfect, its when it's consistantly one way or the other that it can be more easliy measured. At least this is how i view it.
@@lordsye7267 I needed to see this right now. And I needed to hear this right now. I am extremely inlove with the words you've said here. I really thank you cause what you just said made so much sense to me and I love this. I love this.
I think I’m a narcissist. I feel like I’m better and smarter than most people. I know I’m not perfect, but I feel like I could be if I really applied myself, and that I’m unique in that way. Even when I admit my flaws it’s usually false-modesty to fish for sympathy. This comment I’m writing right now is an example. I also lie a lot, usually lies of omission or keeping secrets: I pretend I don’t know something that I do. I like the feeling that people are underestimating me, and that I’m smarter than they think I am. Makes me feel superior.
So basically, you want the "perfect human being" façade but really you're just imperfect like the rest of us. Why not take the façade off like everyone else? Everyone is imperfect. That's okay and beautiful. You're a human not a robot. Accept that. Life really does get so much easier because you're no longer carrying the burden of false appearances and instead can just start being your genuine self.
OMG! The writing assignments is freaking awesome! A description of myself strikes me as difficult, much more difficult than describing a significant other in my life. MAN! Sometimes I think I have some narcissism, other times I'm not sure maybe it's more paranoia. I have a very difficult time thinking of myself as a "bad/evil person" but is that because of how my society defines and talks about narcissus people? I guess a better question for me is, are all narcissus people bad or can one be a narcissus without hurting others?
Someone can have traits without having full NOD. A psychotherapist can help determine why you feel the way you do and help build the superego. Also check for copper toxicity, mold, or hormonal issues to ensure it isn’t that. Living in a state of survival can cause paranoia and narcissistic defenses to run high.
Best way to find out is to go to an experienced psychologist and get an assessment. If it comes out positive, great! Now you know and can get help with your own past traumas that are causing you to be narcissistic. If it comes out negative, great! Now you can get help with your past traumas that are making it so hard for you to internally reflect. No matter what. Go get help. You're a human being, and you have value no matter what the results. I've suffered horrifically under the hands of a narcissist my whole life, and they are people too. Survivors act and talk like narcissists have no value, but in doing that, we become no better than the narcissist. So I will not do that. If you're a narcissist, you have value, you are loved, you can get better. You CAN GET BETTER! Don't fear anything. Not even a possibility of getting a positive result. Go get an assessment. It'll be ok. Then...DO THE WORK! Good luck.
Are you the type of person to chase relationships over love, then quickly lose that feeling of love after getting what you want? Are you the type of person who sees themselves as someone who wouldn't cheat or do harmful things towards a romantic partner, but then proceeds to frequently cheat or emotionally hurt your partner? Or at least have a very hard time not cheating, or avoiding flirting or engaging in other love-driven behaviors. Are you the type of person to, when you quickly lose feelings for a partner or they no longer benefit you enough, try and push a partner away, rather than be the one to break up with them, as a form of defense for your own self image or worth when there is no apparently issue with a relationship other than your own lack of feeling/care for the other, or their lack of benefits? Someone's relationship with love can say a lot about whether or not they're a narcissist. If you're too young to have been in many relationships, then your brain just hasn't developed to a point where you could or couldn't be a narcissist. If you just aren't romantically inclined in any way, then your issues likely either aren't related to narcissism to begin with, or you're an asexual/aromantic narcissist, which would be incredibly unlikely. This is coming from a narcissist myself. I'm just very much into philosophy and the nature of existence, I don't think narcissists would typically ever care about introspection, and it's very unlikely that you'll find one here, or be one yourself. All of these traits fit me, and yes, I still see myself as the type of person who wouldn't cheat on a partner, emotionally abuse others, or make decisions based off of preserving my own self image and benefiting myself in some way, yet that's still who I am, to no real emotional dismay of my own.
yes they r the meaning of “bad” because of not been loved and accepted enough in childhood ,they live in anger,jealousy,have no empathy. so what to expect than?
@@thecure3982i have a lot of narcissistic traits and i do suffer from ptsd from abuse. i’m still in a very abusing environment and it almost feels empowering to believe i’m a narcissist and say i don’t care. sad thing is i do and i’m a weakass. i think my brain is telling me i’ll need a little bit of a narcissistic response for a little while. what it gets to get out and get safe i guess. can’t fight with monsters without becoming one for the fight..(?
Sometimes I think that I am the only actual person and that everybody else is just a facet of my personality projected into my sensory field and that the different and contradictory facets (other people) struggle for influence over me in order to settle my soul or decide who I am, but it really doesn't matter who I am because there is not really anybody else to be affected by it. The universe is just an infinite hall of mirrors: my imagination. That sounds pretty narcissistic, but maybe it isn't, because I don't want all that to be true, and besides I try to be an alright guy in case other people do exist. I try to be nice to them and consider them and stuff, though sure I can be pretty selfish sometimes. OK, thanks.
I'm no psychologists, but to me that sounds like something else. Now, I'm not sure exactly what that sounds like but NOT narcissism. For example, when you read this please understand I'm NO psychologists, so I haven't the proper vocabulary to speak on the subject, but it's the only way I know how to explain. Ready, okay, it sounds like something lesser than but akin to schizophrenia, but not like can't cope, running, drooling and screaming because there out to harm you,
I always hear, "If you're worried about being a narcissist, that means you aren't one." And i think that is the lamest way to avoid seeking true self reflection. Not every narcissist is an evil self-serving villain. There are ones who are self-aware because they had the same question, "Am i a narcissist?" And worked towards not being so horrid to other people. Stop telling people you are or aren't this, that, or the other. You cause far more damage that way. Anyway, I'll finish the video now instead of continuing my rant after reading these oblivious comments. 😂
thank you so much for saying that! almost everywhere i look i always get the »narcissists think they're perfect so they wouldn't even question if they are one« and it's so frustrating bc I'm genuinely trying to find out and all this invalidating really doesn't help me
I have simple diagnostic tool to check whether I'm dealing with a narcissist: I ask myself: do I remember that person saying sorry honestly (to me or someone else)? I would love to consult that intuition with an expert :)
Sorry, long ass comment I’m really board and felt like sharing. Hmmm yes and no, honestly depending on how heavily involved you are with said person and what gains they see in you, depends on how much effort they will put in to aid in you feeling secure/blind enough to extract said gains from you. Like when current my partner found out I was actually working (pre pandemic) as a prostitute and I didn’t have a successful cleaning business like I said, he was understandably hurt. He has since shared with me it was the act of the working but it was also finding out how easily I can lie and what lengths I would go to, he knows I’m not normal. But i was able to save things with a multitude of my techniques focusing on his insecurities, and obviously I had to give up the job. I was so annoyed initially when he didn’t get over it as soon as I did/would/could coz he couldn’t see “what I had given up for him” but I also had to acknowledge the hurt that finding out I was “working” would have had on him. I can logically see the world would prob be better of without people like myself, but I won’t check out. I use to in a way pride myself on being a certain way, being able to feel or not feel certain things, feeling almost like I had super power I knew I couldn’t tell any about. But now I see these tools/skills more like maladaptive behaviours I learnt up as a child because of my extreme neglect and abuse I was exposed to, I wasn’t able to process and I lived in a fantasy land because my reality as a small and relatively innocent child was exposed to such circumstances I wasn’t equip to deal with. Its taken me 5+ years of intense therapy and 3-4 years of anger management in jr/high school to come to this conclusion and I’m not just diagnosed with npd, having co-morbid personality disorders has probably aided in me becoming willing to share my experience and to seek help. A pure narc who’s not as venerable as myself may not ever come to this conclusion, coz if it’s workthing for them then why would they, I sure as shit wouldn’t seek help if I didn’t have to. It’s so fucked up sitting with the shame and guilt. If I could run around heartless I prob would. But If anything I want to tell you that this “genuine sorry” theory isnt the most reliable nor reoalistic way of assessment. Hey mate you can and prob should go about it your own way. But I’m board and thought I would suggest you tread lightly with who you share this theory to, in your personal life anyway. If you do say it to someone who’s close enough to you with npd, because someone could possibly see that as an easy “blindfold” of yours/that they can use, or possibly a challenge or a sort entertainment trying to see how impenetrable you really are. But through a fuck ton of therapy, I know that I don’t have to act on my thoughts, but I was board here on RUclips reading comments and I decided to share this
My wife of 20-years tells me I hate to say "I'm sorry" or she'll say "You've always had a hard time saying "sorry" which the first few times I would think, aw, she's just upset at the moment, but she's said it so much I'm not sure anymore:) For example, I'm being truthful when I say, if I'm wrong I'll gladly admit it, but what if I'm not seeing it? For example, what if I say something and the words/tone/attitude in which I speak it comes across completely different than what I was feeling and thought about in my own mind. Right, am I sorry? I'm sorry I wasn't able to convey it the way I had hoped and was trying to; YES! Am I sorry that I may have inadvertently offended you? Well, I don't want to offend anyone purposely, but I hate that your feelings got hurt, but it's not like that was my aim. I don't know man, I just don't know:) HA! Sorry for the book I guess:) Later,
They can break down,cry but actually they hold they breath and make themself pass out, we think they sorry and they look for way out, only sorry is for themself, cant full me no more
im worried i may be a narcissist, but i also have a very low opinion of myself. yet i cant seem to keep friendships ( i dont date so relationships are irrelevant) going. i really like my alone time, and find it a chore to keep in touch with people at times. ugh, i hate stuff. im probably a narcissist.
Or on the spectrum lol. So many people see SO many of my behaviours as rude, but they understand now that I’m not being rude, it’s like an Italian speaking very passionately and someone from a country that tends to be more submissive seeing the Italian and thinking wow why is he so aggressive but to other Italians they are like what are you talking about? That’s not aggression at all, just a cadence of speech. Not to say all narcs are autistic because I do not believe that. Just wanted to point out not being able to keep friends, enjoying alone time, etc can be common in adults on the spectrum.
You may be autistic. A lot of autism is internal rather than external. And often the traits of autism can be seen as narcissistic tendency, rather than what they actually are.. which is the inability to adapt or learn social cues/behaviors that are necessary to keep relationships.
@@sadiefalco4673it can also be common in behaviors of those who’s nervous system has when’s affected by neglect and trauma with someone who isn’t on the spectrum.
at a certain point one becomes so painfully aware of their inability to love genuinely and to even see people and not yourself in their eyes it's so sickening and exhausting and I've made no progress mimicking how a normal person would act cuz I don't actually feel that way As for the task, it's equally hard to describe myself and other people, though one of the reasons for that besides npd is that I can never be sure with my assessments, somehow they always end up being proven wrong reeeal quick Conclusion I wish I could love lol
You can love. In your comment you say, "...cuz I don't actually feel that way" Then how do you actually feel? Stop suppressing your true feelings. Stop mimicking how a normal person would act. Instead how would you act? But truly? You need to do a deep dive on that. I think for lots of narcissists, their true feelings is that they feel inferior, broken, or flawed. That's what should be expressed. Not the perfectionistic, façade cover up. Be broken. Be flawed. But also forgive it and be better. Improve upon it. Be genuine. Life gets easier when you are genuine.
In five decades, I've had just one entirely rational conversation with our family narc that didn't degenerate into a screaming match. The narc was genuinely confused that some long-time friends had stopped coming around, and would only communicate through Facebook. When I respectfully stated that that had been happening since retirement two decades ago because nobody wanted to be around the drama and unhappiness, the narc burst into grieving tears, saying, "I AM happy. Why can't anybody see that?" I realized then that the clinical psychologist who gave the diagnosis was honest and correct; it would not get better, it would get worse, and I couldn't fix it. That said, while there are tests that can accurately assess narcissism, getting the narc to fully accept the results is a profoundly monumental task. In hindsight, I realize I should have taken the Dr's advice and moved far away. Loving someone is a complete thing; you're either in or out. I get that. But noone should try to love a wall. Stay Strong. ❤
@@GIwillo - And maybe you should as well. Perhaps you are just another troll. But as far as I can tell, most who watch and comment on this issue have suffered years of abuse and hate from a loved one afflicted with this condition. Most are trying to move on in life, and just want the modicum of respect they're due. And a bit of validation goes a long way. Never have I seen narc's identified by name, so no one's being slandered and therefore no shame or apology is necessary, especially not to strangers. And btw, being heckled for doing the right thing is something narc survivors are used to, so bear that in mind before making more negative remarks.
Loving someone who are capable of loving, capable to sacrifice or make compromises for the relationship. Who understands that a relationship is about two people and can love you back, not using you as an object to fulfill their every need. I am sorry that you lived a long time in a relationship where you didn't have support and partner ship. I am very sorry that I learned it late too. I didn't realize that I deserve respect and care the same way as I am willing to give. I didn't realized that they will never get what is wrong in their behavior. It is always your fault if you felt that something is missing and your emotional needs should be considered too.
@Nikki E. since she mentioned that the "family narc" was diagnosed and was warned about the useless sacrifice trying to make a narc feel better or try to heal them will end up losing oneself in the process to see that no sacrifice or commitment is enough to even make a dent of improvement. This person lost 50 years and still, has been invalidated by some one who is commenting on a video about narcissism. We don't need to give more understanding for the narcissists shake (we are here because THAT is what we have been doing for years) and stab into someone who hasn't been looked at as a person who have valid needs and points. Besides, it was not a maleficent comment at all, just sharing frustration and pain.
I can read my description easily under a narcissistic viewpoint. It's so hard to tell. Eg I have always had this desire to be seen and I feel an extreme amount of shame about it. But then again I never showed myself and I was never seen so how do I know that it is not just a normal human desire to be normally seen?
Im not a narcissist. Im just here to be the best source of narcissistic supply I can be ! Shortage of good obedient blind supply out there from what I hear.
I call people out on their bs. If they say something but they really mean somthing different i can tell. Then i start thinking why are they being like that. Then i think their just trying to one up me. I clearly just heard what i heard so what are they trying to accomplish. Then i think how do they think they will accomplish this. Then i get paronoid. What are they about to do and what am i going to do to. Then i get mad at them say what ever i feel like i need to say then cut them out of my life. I feel like everybody thinks like that right. Dont start nothing their want be nothing. Or why is it ok for you to say somthing but not for me. Apparently i have Cluster A PPD and im bipolar.
I'm assuming you're a guy "Billy" and maybe you're still youthful, that's my first question, how old you are and what country were you raised in. For example, if you are no older than a 30-year-old male who grew up in the USA, I'd chalk it up to haven't yet fully matured and developed before I'd go to a personality disorder.
Don't listen to her. Normal people like myself. That is exactly what a narcissist would think. That they are normal and everything is in everyone's head. Some of us do deal with these things. If you are scared you are a narcissist chances are you aren't. Narcissist are not even able to conjure a thought that something MAY be wrong with them they think they are NORMAL at best. @JustJess-xw5cr
Am I a narcissit if I blame God and people, because I born/became narcissist because of the circumstances? I blame that you are kind and I'm evil. I blame everyone, because they have good hearts given to them. And they didn't have to ask for it, just born with it.
Yes. No one is automatically good. That's your incorrect assumption. It's not easy being good. It's actually easier to be evil. Instead of blaming everyone else and God, take responsibility for yourself. That's what all good people do in order to be good. Your life will get much better if you do.
I don’t know about you, but I might be a real narcissist who is very good at hiding it even from myself under a genuine layer of care for others. That’s quite perverse. I am a selfish animal at core without dignity or self- respect. If I had any self- respect I would not put up with abuse. I am a coward narcissist. That’s one thought on top of all other shit- like a fluffy pink cloud on top of a mountain of shit.
Found out, I have both, sociopathic and narcissistic personality traits, I’m aware of it. And it explains a lot about my personality, not a bad person, just calls into question a lot of my behavior. Interesting stuff.
How do we actually know tho if we are one... I have a victims mentality I have an extreme reaction to being lied to or betrayed... I am controlling but it's not because I want to own someone it's because I'm scared I'm being lied to or betrayed.. if someone hurts me I am very quick to hurt them back with no thought until after and normally end up apologizing and feeling really bad but I keep being told I'm a narcissist I know I have borderline personality disorder but I just need someone to tell me how many personality disorders I have and why I am such a horrible person to so many people.. at first I am helping them and giving them a home helping them get a job work on credit scores but once someone doesn't follow our agreement I cut them off very hurtfully.. I just need to know why I am hated by everyone even though I leave myself open and vulnerable to everyone im an open book with my heart on my sleeve but once someone crosses me or i feel hurt by someone I'm ready to go to war... What is wrong with me!!!! I show up for the daily battle for people and then they leave me or break our agreement and I have to push them away. It isn't like I want impossible stuff. It's roommates... I want a sober home a clean home and a home up to date on bills and someone will falter on this I will speak to them mostly about drugs next thing u know I'm at war with this person because I don't want drugs in my home... Or I don't wanna live in other people's mess.. or at work I work hard and I get upset when I'm paired with someone who doesn't want to work but I can't bring myself to slow down and I feel exploited I get upset argue I want to work alone and now the whole team is passively aggressive to me please someone help me
If you've been called a narcissist on numerous occasions, that is a sign you are one. Healthy, secure people don't get told that. It sounds like you are unable to cope with imperfection and failure. As soon as something goes wrong, or does not meet your expectations, then the entire thing is ruined and you want to bite back. It is an "all or nothing" mentality. Real life does not work like that so you should throw that mentality out. To do so, learn to be okay with failure. Learn to be okay when someone does not meet your expectations. You should not be placing expectations on others at all. Humans are not perfect. You are not perfect and that's a beautiful thing. Let them make mistakes. Allow yourself make mistakes. That's okay. Speak to yourself with positive self talk. Loving self talk. If you know you are a horrible person, now you know what you can work on. The bad behaviors we have is just our inner child throwing a tantrum. Parent your inner child while being gentle, loving, and forgiving to it. Not harsh and scolding. Keep it in check. When you can learn to love yourself when you make a mistake, it becomes easier to love others when they make a mistake. Then you get a healthier, broader perspective of the world, rather than the "all or nothing" perspective.
Everyone has those traits, some narcissistic traits to a degree is healthy. It's called boundaries and putting yourself first. Every successful entrepreneur, artist, musician..etc has narcissistic tendencies, but it's whether you manipulate someone or not
_Depends on the context._ Those with NPD, cycle between moments of (+) idealisation and (-) devaluation -- involving unstable beliefs about both themselves and others. Those ebb & flow states between (+) ego inflation and (-) ego collapse which occur within the narcissist -- are heavily influenced by current life events for the individual. _NPD is an ego-dystonic disorder._ Self-assessments are quite difficult for those with NPD due to the way narcissistic delusions distort a person's *current* identity -- and the way that identify shapes their capacity for self-inventory.
This is interesting. By studying their self assessment you could make somewhat of an assessment of them as an external reference in regards to their narcissism. But would this work on covert narcissists?
I’m looking for a video that I can send to my siblings so they can send it to their significant others. I’m taking a break from dating (for a good long long time), but my siblings are still trying to find a good match. We all seem to have wound up in relationships with people that are charming and wonderful on the surface, but roller-coastery and controlling in private. I know people still have to go to a professional to get diagnosed, but I feel like we’d be helped so much if we had a means of helping the people we encounter see that their behavior is a little different. If we had some kind of reference video we could share with them… I was hoping this video was such😕I’ll keep searching.
I believe I've got narcissistic traits, a teacher quite memorably pointed it out to me when i was around 10 years old. I maybe tick some of the boxes due to my personality type being introverted, but not really any of the malicious ones? I have kept a mindful eye on it through my adult life, but the word gets thrown around so much these days that it's got me thinking.. does it hold the same value? Or is it something people say when they are sure of themselves?
I've always liked helping people out expecting only but a level of respect equal to it. When I get disrespectful attitude I get pretty upset - is that narcissistic?
When people leave me for no apparent reason that I can think off, I feel like maybe I asked for too much or ttied to manipulate them. And then i feel like I could be the Narcissist. Or maybe the Universe simpky removed these people out of my life because I desrve better
Much easier test. Go without social media for a long time or forever. And: can you spend prolonged periods by yourself, content to be having no influence over anyone? If you say "yeh but...." to this, you've found a power feed. Simples😅
Although I'm definitely here for self growth. It's a peculiar fascination the west has with narciccism. Anyone have any thoughts on that. It exists in nature. Is it not natural. Is it a by product of capitalism, either the " illness" itself or the individuation of us all. If we lived as our ancestors, would there be this wierd fixation..or am I just a narc trying to sgirk responsibility? I'm deffo sure that a society of individuality creates this atmosphere and the subsequent naval gazing seems and odd misdirection. Yes we should address individual problems. But the splitting of the collextive and subsequent alienation is the problem..do psychologists look at this Do they assess tribal people for narciccism. I bet they're not obsessed like us
Well said and analysed. I think your take on it is accurate. Western society exalts individualism, the super ego, being confident to the point of defiance. Being 'separate' from the whole, distinct, with loads of defining traits and features. So, so WRONG. I have begun a spiritual journey of relinquishing my ego, using it only for self-preservation, but not in my interactions with people. It is a revelation. The 'who am I' question is redundant, unimportant. Because the 'I' is a burden of external conditionings and impositions, coming from various sources, family, school, religion, society, media, etc. What we truly are is PART OF THE WHOLE. And there is much more that we all have in common than we have that's different. Many have some narcissistic traits without actually being a narcissist, as I was. Thanks to this spiritual path I have become self-aware, and am chipping off on the 'identity' narrative which truly isn't real. Less 'I'. My spiritual guide has also recommended that the pronoun 'I' be used far less in speaking and writing. Not easy. We use it continually, in abundance, and it is detrimental to us and others.
@@gabykappscomposermariagabr749 Amen!! Just wanted to let you know, The Holy Spirit used your ‘message/testimony’ to answer me. Clarity and guide me. Thank you for being that vessel!
This has me so confused and feels like doublespeak🤣🤣🤣🤣I do appreciate it though cause a whole lotta effort went into this but I am definitely not sure if I am one or not or how the hell one is defined clearly
I don't understand the assessment. How can I describe myself very clear, I'm not sure how other people see me, and I'm probably not very objective about myself. I mean I'm a human like almost everyone else, but that is probably not very helpful to say
He knows what he is but doesn't care ,he thinks he got it all right can't be wrong . Its everyone else! He can fake it for a long time .He wont get help ,denial keeps him looking normal to who he wants to fool .
Really? Not one person in your life that's important to you? If true, what happened? Please explain if you can, was it a tragic loss or something? Just curious, not trying to set you up or anything.
@@geico1975 I cannot bear someone's closeness for more than a few months or weeks. Had enough of this pattern so I quit. I stop contact with my "family". And lets not forget "significant other" means in this context someone you live within a partner or family relation.
No, do I look successful or wealthy to you? If I preyed on everyone within arm's reach I'd have a mountain of wealth and acclaim, and probably a few political and corporate appointments, You can tell someone is not a narcissist if they're a nobody, and that they are a narcissist if they are a somebody. There is a distinct correlation. Most people with college degrees are exploitative, abusive, dangerous narcissists who exploit their positions to hurt people while pretending to be benevolent.
I used to be a narcissist but now I'm perfect.
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😂😂....yeah, I defo concur with u, as I can relate!! It's gets like that sometimes!!!!😂😂
No one wants to be a narcissist but everyone is quick to point one out
some sort of narcissism is okay, but extreme versions of it, that is serious
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Everyone thinks "narcissist" is just a pejorative, and they have no clue what they are saying.
@@mohammedkhalfan7985True!!!
This person saying have a good life, that's not that difficult.
Thank you, I’m now even more confused if I’m a narcissist.
I think if you are so concerned and self- reflective, it's Highly Highly Improbable . Most have some narc post trauma reactions, but many don't even bother to lift the rug and take an honest look ❤ embracing our shadows in the light all groovy
Haha. That makes 2 of us. But see for the bright side, at least you have a good sense of humor. HAHAHA
@@iloveFreedom.narc post trauma reactions, wow, I’ve never heard it described as that. Thank you that helps so much!
She said nothing. She is a nutjob.
LOL IKR!?!?!
This needs self honesty and a willingness to face our own shortcomings. That in itself an unlikely scenario for a narcissist.
Exactly. Most people who think they're narcissists, aren't. Those who can self-reflect and change their ways, weren't even on the end of the spectrum.
Unlikely not impossible.
Usually when the skills they have stop working they can be susceptible to a willingness to look within.
But if their world doesn’t collapse then they almost won’t ever seek help.
Think about it why would someone who derives so much pleasure from something stop engaging in that behaviour, if they saw it as a positive.
Unlikely but not impossible , Hey 👋
I think I do have narcissistic traits I acknowledge that and I do want to change that but taking accountability is very very hard for me to know that another person thinks I'm a bad person for hurting their feelings I feel they won't ever forgive me I think this is selfish to think about how I feel more than them
so then im not a narcissist, im just an awful person
I keep having this thought, and I know I should talk with my therapist about it, but I always forget by the time i talk to them. I feel like i treat my partner horribly, but i swear i'm trying so hard to be good to him. He's so good to me. Very patient, loving, and understanding. I just feel like a burden. 😥
I can relate!
I watch her videos and pretend she’s my mentor/professor. 😊
I think narcissistics have a bad rep. We've all been there before self reflection so seeing this video means you're on the right path. ❤
There is a difference between "being a narcisist" and having 'narcisistic tendancies' the spectrum of how we own our selves and handle outside situations and people are impacted by our environment and as people we always grow and change, its understanding how your self is vs others around you and not 'overrulling' everyone else just for yourself. At least not consistnatly. If you yell at your kids and override everyone to get them out of traffic so they dont get hit by a car, that is most likely acceptable because its a safety concern. If you yell at your kids because they didnt bring your food hot enough to you, then you might be selfish and narcisistic because you aren't consdering anything other than your own needs and overriding everyone elses. It’s the consistency of the behavior-especially when it becomes more of a pattern-that differentiates a self-centered moment from a chronic narcissistic issue. I think this analagy is fair, may not be perfect.
In fact, id go as far to say that someone who is "not" leaning towards narcisistic personality would help cook, and try to take care of others as well as themselves, especially their family, and in doing that, I would even add that if you do it and hold it against everyone and get angry when they don't say thank you or do the dishes you may still show narcisistic tendancies, doing it to serve others and not expect anything in return and if you need something done you communicate it in a way that is not overruling the environment, that would be the best way to foster 'the team' or 'healthy group mentality' setting, when the 'group is the self' is kind of where you would want to gravitate twoards, noones perfect, its when it's consistantly one way or the other that it can be more easliy measured. At least this is how i view it.
@@lordsye7267 i love the analogy. ♥️♥️
@@lordsye7267 I needed to see this right now. And I needed to hear this right now.
I am extremely inlove with the words you've said here. I really thank you cause what you just said made so much sense to me and I love this. I love this.
she has a great voice
I love watching Dr. Diamond talks!
I think I’m a narcissist. I feel like I’m better and smarter than most people. I know I’m not perfect, but I feel like I could be if I really applied myself, and that I’m unique in that way. Even when I admit my flaws it’s usually false-modesty to fish for sympathy. This comment I’m writing right now is an example. I also lie a lot, usually lies of omission or keeping secrets: I pretend I don’t know something that I do. I like the feeling that people are underestimating me, and that I’m smarter than they think I am. Makes me feel superior.
So basically, you want the "perfect human being" façade but really you're just imperfect like the rest of us. Why not take the façade off like everyone else? Everyone is imperfect. That's okay and beautiful. You're a human not a robot. Accept that. Life really does get so much easier because you're no longer carrying the burden of false appearances and instead can just start being your genuine self.
I actually enjoy the process of seeking perfection in myself 😅
OMG! The writing assignments is freaking awesome! A description of myself strikes me as difficult, much more difficult than describing a significant other in my life. MAN! Sometimes I think I have some narcissism, other times I'm not sure maybe it's more paranoia. I have a very difficult time thinking of myself as a "bad/evil person" but is that because of how my society defines and talks about narcissus people? I guess a better question for me is, are all narcissus people bad or can one be a narcissus without hurting others?
Someone can have traits without having full NOD. A psychotherapist can help determine why you feel the way you do and help build the superego. Also check for copper toxicity, mold, or hormonal issues to ensure it isn’t that. Living in a state of survival can cause paranoia and narcissistic defenses to run high.
Best way to find out is to go to an experienced psychologist and get an assessment. If it comes out positive, great! Now you know and can get help with your own past traumas that are causing you to be narcissistic. If it comes out negative, great! Now you can get help with your past traumas that are making it so hard for you to internally reflect. No matter what. Go get help. You're a human being, and you have value no matter what the results.
I've suffered horrifically under the hands of a narcissist my whole life, and they are people too. Survivors act and talk like narcissists have no value, but in doing that, we become no better than the narcissist. So I will not do that. If you're a narcissist, you have value, you are loved, you can get better. You CAN GET BETTER! Don't fear anything. Not even a possibility of getting a positive result. Go get an assessment. It'll be ok. Then...DO THE WORK! Good luck.
Are you the type of person to chase relationships over love, then quickly lose that feeling of love after getting what you want?
Are you the type of person who sees themselves as someone who wouldn't cheat or do harmful things towards a romantic partner, but then proceeds to frequently cheat or emotionally hurt your partner? Or at least have a very hard time not cheating, or avoiding flirting or engaging in other love-driven behaviors.
Are you the type of person to, when you quickly lose feelings for a partner or they no longer benefit you enough, try and push a partner away, rather than be the one to break up with them, as a form of defense for your own self image or worth when there is no apparently issue with a relationship other than your own lack of feeling/care for the other, or their lack of benefits?
Someone's relationship with love can say a lot about whether or not they're a narcissist. If you're too young to have been in many relationships, then your brain just hasn't developed to a point where you could or couldn't be a narcissist. If you just aren't romantically inclined in any way, then your issues likely either aren't related to narcissism to begin with, or you're an asexual/aromantic narcissist, which would be incredibly unlikely.
This is coming from a narcissist myself. I'm just very much into philosophy and the nature of existence, I don't think narcissists would typically ever care about introspection, and it's very unlikely that you'll find one here, or be one yourself. All of these traits fit me, and yes, I still see myself as the type of person who wouldn't cheat on a partner, emotionally abuse others, or make decisions based off of preserving my own self image and benefiting myself in some way, yet that's still who I am, to no real emotional dismay of my own.
yes they r the meaning of “bad” because of not been loved and accepted enough
in childhood ,they live in anger,jealousy,have no empathy.
so what to expect than?
@@thecure3982i have a lot of narcissistic traits and i do suffer from ptsd from abuse. i’m still in a very abusing environment and it almost feels empowering to believe i’m a narcissist and say i don’t care. sad thing is i do and i’m a weakass. i think my brain is telling me i’ll need a little bit of a narcissistic response for a little while. what it gets to get out and get safe i guess. can’t fight with monsters without becoming one for the fight..(?
Sometimes I think that I am the only actual person and that everybody else is just a facet of my personality projected into my sensory field and that the different and contradictory facets (other people) struggle for influence over me in order to settle my soul or decide who I am, but it really doesn't matter who I am because there is not really anybody else to be affected by it. The universe is just an infinite hall of mirrors: my imagination. That sounds pretty narcissistic, but maybe it isn't, because I don't want all that to be true, and besides I try to be an alright guy in case other people do exist. I try to be nice to them and consider them and stuff, though sure I can be pretty selfish sometimes. OK, thanks.
my bf said something similar to me one day.. he also said he sees people as tools
@@mayamia9339 Your bf sounds weird.
I'm no psychologists, but to me that sounds like something else. Now, I'm not sure exactly what that sounds like but NOT narcissism. For example, when you read this please understand I'm NO psychologists, so I haven't the proper vocabulary to speak on the subject, but it's the only way I know how to explain. Ready, okay, it sounds like something lesser than but akin to schizophrenia, but not like can't cope, running, drooling and screaming because there out to harm you,
Good luck.
You pretty much nailed on the head my belief system in a nutshell. 👍
You are not alone.
I always hear, "If you're worried about being a narcissist, that means you aren't one." And i think that is the lamest way to avoid seeking true self reflection. Not every narcissist is an evil self-serving villain. There are ones who are self-aware because they had the same question, "Am i a narcissist?" And worked towards not being so horrid to other people.
Stop telling people you are or aren't this, that, or the other. You cause far more damage that way.
Anyway, I'll finish the video now instead of continuing my rant after reading these oblivious comments. 😂
thank you so much for saying that!
almost everywhere i look i always get the »narcissists think they're perfect so they wouldn't even question if they are one« and it's so frustrating bc I'm genuinely trying to find out and all this invalidating really doesn't help me
I have simple diagnostic tool to check whether I'm dealing with a narcissist: I ask myself: do I remember that person saying sorry honestly (to me or someone else)? I would love to consult that intuition with an expert :)
Sorry, long ass comment I’m really board and felt like sharing.
Hmmm yes and no, honestly depending on how heavily involved you are with said person and what gains they see in you, depends on how much effort they will put in to aid in you feeling secure/blind enough to extract said gains from you.
Like when current my partner
found out I was actually working (pre pandemic) as a prostitute and I didn’t have a successful cleaning business like I said, he was understandably hurt.
He has since shared with me it was the act of the working but it was also finding out how easily I can lie and what lengths I would go to, he knows I’m not normal.
But i was able to save things with a multitude of my techniques focusing on his insecurities, and obviously I had to give up the job.
I was so annoyed initially when he didn’t get over it as soon as I did/would/could coz he couldn’t see “what I had given up for him” but I also had to acknowledge the hurt that finding out I was “working” would have had on him.
I can logically see the world would prob be better of without people like myself, but I won’t check out.
I use to in a way pride myself on being a certain way, being able to feel or not feel certain things, feeling almost like I had super power I knew I couldn’t tell any about.
But now I see these tools/skills more like maladaptive behaviours I learnt up as a child because of my extreme neglect and abuse I was exposed to, I wasn’t able to process and I lived in a fantasy land because my reality as a small and relatively innocent child was exposed to such circumstances I wasn’t equip to deal with.
Its taken me 5+ years of intense therapy and 3-4 years of anger management in jr/high school to come to this conclusion and I’m not just diagnosed with npd, having co-morbid personality disorders has probably aided in me becoming willing to share my experience and to seek help.
A pure narc who’s not as venerable as myself may not ever come to this conclusion, coz if it’s workthing for them then why would they, I sure as shit wouldn’t seek help if I didn’t have to. It’s so fucked up sitting with the shame and guilt. If I could run around heartless I prob would.
But If anything I want to tell you that this “genuine sorry” theory isnt the most reliable nor reoalistic way of assessment.
Hey mate you can and prob should go about it your own way.
But I’m board and thought I would suggest you tread lightly with who you share this theory to, in your personal life anyway.
If you do say it to someone who’s close enough to you with npd, because someone could possibly see that as an easy “blindfold” of yours/that they can use, or possibly a challenge or a sort entertainment trying to see how impenetrable you really are.
But through a fuck ton of therapy, I know that I don’t have to act on my thoughts, but I was board here on RUclips reading comments and I decided to share this
@@juicylucy6488 Thank you for sharing.
My wife of 20-years tells me I hate to say "I'm sorry" or she'll say "You've always had a hard time saying "sorry" which the first few times I would think, aw, she's just upset at the moment, but she's said it so much I'm not sure anymore:) For example, I'm being truthful when I say, if I'm wrong I'll gladly admit it, but what if I'm not seeing it? For example, what if I say something and the words/tone/attitude in which I speak it comes across completely different than what I was feeling and thought about in my own mind. Right, am I sorry? I'm sorry I wasn't able to convey it the way I had hoped and was trying to; YES! Am I sorry that I may have inadvertently offended you? Well, I don't want to offend anyone purposely, but I hate that your feelings got hurt, but it's not like that was my aim. I don't know man, I just don't know:) HA! Sorry for the book I guess:) Later,
@@geico1975 good points! Thanks a lot! My diagnostic tool has obvious limitations :)
They can break down,cry but actually they hold they breath and make themself pass out, we think they sorry and they look for way out, only sorry is for themself, cant full me no more
I think to a degree, we all have narcissistic traits in us Its just how we deal with them.
im worried i may be a narcissist, but i also have a very low opinion of myself. yet i cant seem to keep friendships ( i dont date so relationships are irrelevant) going. i really like my alone time, and find it a chore to keep in touch with people at times. ugh, i hate stuff. im probably a narcissist.
Or on the spectrum lol. So many people see SO many of my behaviours as rude, but they understand now that I’m not being rude, it’s like an Italian speaking very passionately and someone from a country that tends to be more submissive seeing the Italian and thinking wow why is he so aggressive but to other Italians they are like what are you talking about? That’s not aggression at all, just a cadence of speech. Not to say all narcs are autistic because I do not believe that. Just wanted to point out not being able to keep friends, enjoying alone time, etc can be common in adults on the spectrum.
You may be autistic. A lot of autism is internal rather than external. And often the traits of autism can be seen as narcissistic tendency, rather than what they actually are.. which is the inability to adapt or learn social cues/behaviors that are necessary to keep relationships.
@@sadiefalco4673it can also be common in behaviors of those who’s nervous system has when’s affected by neglect and trauma with someone who isn’t on the spectrum.
at a certain point one becomes so painfully aware of their inability to love genuinely and to even see people and not yourself in their eyes
it's so sickening and exhausting and I've made no progress mimicking how a normal person would act cuz I don't actually feel that way
As for the task, it's equally hard to describe myself and other people, though one of the reasons for that besides npd is that I can never be sure with my assessments, somehow they always end up being proven wrong reeeal quick
Conclusion I wish I could love lol
love the drinking misato pfp
You can love. In your comment you say, "...cuz I don't actually feel that way" Then how do you actually feel? Stop suppressing your true feelings. Stop mimicking how a normal person would act. Instead how would you act? But truly? You need to do a deep dive on that. I think for lots of narcissists, their true feelings is that they feel inferior, broken, or flawed. That's what should be expressed. Not the perfectionistic, façade cover up. Be broken. Be flawed. But also forgive it and be better. Improve upon it. Be genuine. Life gets easier when you are genuine.
In five decades, I've had just one entirely rational conversation with our family narc that didn't degenerate into a screaming match.
The narc was genuinely confused that some long-time friends had stopped coming around, and would only communicate through Facebook.
When I respectfully stated that that had been happening since retirement two decades ago because nobody wanted to be around the drama and unhappiness, the narc burst into grieving tears, saying, "I AM happy. Why can't anybody see that?"
I realized then that the clinical psychologist who gave the diagnosis was honest and correct; it would not get better, it would get worse, and I couldn't fix it.
That said, while there are tests that can accurately assess narcissism, getting the narc to fully accept the results is a profoundly monumental task.
In hindsight, I realize I should have taken the Dr's advice and moved far away.
Loving someone is a complete thing; you're either in or out. I get that. But noone should try to love a wall.
Stay Strong. ❤
@Doris Datewood right!
@@GIwillo -
And maybe you should as well.
Perhaps you are just another troll.
But as far as I can tell, most who watch and comment on this issue have suffered years of abuse and hate from a loved one afflicted with this condition. Most are trying to move on in life, and just want the modicum of respect they're due. And a bit of validation goes a long way.
Never have I seen narc's identified by name, so no one's being slandered and therefore no shame or apology is necessary, especially not to strangers.
And btw, being heckled for doing the right thing is something narc survivors are used to, so bear that in mind before making more negative remarks.
Loving someone who are capable of loving, capable to sacrifice or make compromises for the relationship. Who understands that a relationship is about two people and can love you back, not using you as an object to fulfill their every need. I am sorry that you lived a long time in a relationship where you didn't have support and partner ship. I am very sorry that I learned it late too. I didn't realize that I deserve respect and care the same way as I am willing to give. I didn't realized that they will never get what is wrong in their behavior. It is always your fault if you felt that something is missing and your emotional needs should be considered too.
@Nikki E. since she mentioned that the "family narc" was diagnosed and was warned about the useless sacrifice trying to make a narc feel better or try to heal them will end up losing oneself in the process to see that no sacrifice or commitment is enough to even make a dent of improvement. This person lost 50 years and still, has been invalidated by some one who is commenting on a video about narcissism. We don't need to give more understanding for the narcissists shake (we are here because THAT is what we have been doing for years) and stab into someone who hasn't been looked at as a person who have valid needs and points. Besides, it was not a maleficent comment at all, just sharing frustration and pain.
I understand you well, I have the same experience as you
I can read my description easily under a narcissistic viewpoint. It's so hard to tell.
Eg I have always had this desire to be seen and I feel an extreme amount of shame about it. But then again I never showed myself and I was never seen so how do I know that it is not just a normal human desire to be normally seen?
Im not a narcissist. Im just here to be the best source of narcissistic supply I can be ! Shortage of good obedient blind supply out there from what I hear.
This is the funniest thing I’ve seen all week😂😂😂😂😂
I call people out on their bs. If they say something but they really mean somthing different i can tell. Then i start thinking why are they being like that. Then i think their just trying to one up me. I clearly just heard what i heard so what are they trying to accomplish. Then i think how do they think they will accomplish this. Then i get paronoid. What are they about to do and what am i going to do to. Then i get mad at them say what ever i feel like i need to say then cut them out of my life. I feel like everybody thinks like that right. Dont start nothing their want be nothing. Or why is it ok for you to say somthing but not for me. Apparently i have Cluster A PPD and im bipolar.
I'm assuming you're a guy "Billy" and maybe you're still youthful, that's my first question, how old you are and what country were you raised in. For example, if you are no older than a 30-year-old male who grew up in the USA, I'd chalk it up to haven't yet fully matured and developed before I'd go to a personality disorder.
All that stuff is just happening in your own head, and you are projecting it to others. Normal people, including myself, don't think like that.
Don't listen to her. Normal people like myself. That is exactly what a narcissist would think. That they are normal and everything is in everyone's head. Some of us do deal with these things. If you are scared you are a narcissist chances are you aren't. Narcissist are not even able to conjure a thought that something MAY be wrong with them they think they are NORMAL at best. @JustJess-xw5cr
I feel like I'm narcissistic.
Your not don't worry
We are better off )
@@servantofgod1724you don't even know them. Don't assume just because someone watches this video they're automatically not an narssasist..
Narcissists don't self-assess or self reflect. They consider themselves perfect. They're most likely researching how to get rich and con people.
It's a natural human trait
Am I a narcissit if I blame God and people, because I born/became narcissist because of the circumstances? I blame that you are kind and I'm evil. I blame everyone, because they have good hearts given to them. And they didn't have to ask for it, just born with it.
Yes. No one is automatically good. That's your incorrect assumption. It's not easy being good. It's actually easier to be evil. Instead of blaming everyone else and God, take responsibility for yourself. That's what all good people do in order to be good. Your life will get much better if you do.
Im either a narcissist or got gaslighted into believing I'm one
You think a narcissist would even click on this video to try and figure themselves out? I'm not being sarcastic lol I really am wondering that
I don’t know about you, but I might be a real narcissist who is very good at hiding it even from myself under a genuine layer of care for others. That’s quite perverse. I am a selfish animal at core without dignity or self- respect. If I had any self- respect I would not put up with abuse. I am a coward narcissist. That’s one thought on top of all other shit- like a fluffy pink cloud on top of a mountain of shit.
Are you autistic?
So im not
Im just perfect
She's so cool...
Wish she showed a healthy example of someone describing self.
I think most people are better in assessing others than in assessing themselves, because they`re biased when it comes to certain treats or truths.
i love this editing
But those questionnaires don’t explain your results, just leading to more confusion.
Found out, I have both, sociopathic and narcissistic personality traits, I’m aware of it. And it explains a lot about my personality, not a bad person, just calls into question a lot of my behavior. Interesting stuff.
You're not a bad person? You're calling strangers pedophiles. How is that being a good one?
You're definitely a bad person
How do we actually know tho if we are one... I have a victims mentality I have an extreme reaction to being lied to or betrayed... I am controlling but it's not because I want to own someone it's because I'm scared I'm being lied to or betrayed.. if someone hurts me I am very quick to hurt them back with no thought until after and normally end up apologizing and feeling really bad but I keep being told I'm a narcissist I know I have borderline personality disorder but I just need someone to tell me how many personality disorders I have and why I am such a horrible person to so many people.. at first I am helping them and giving them a home helping them get a job work on credit scores but once someone doesn't follow our agreement I cut them off very hurtfully.. I just need to know why I am hated by everyone even though I leave myself open and vulnerable to everyone im an open book with my heart on my sleeve but once someone crosses me or i feel hurt by someone I'm ready to go to war... What is wrong with me!!!! I show up for the daily battle for people and then they leave me or break our agreement and I have to push them away. It isn't like I want impossible stuff. It's roommates... I want a sober home a clean home and a home up to date on bills and someone will falter on this I will speak to them mostly about drugs next thing u know I'm at war with this person because I don't want drugs in my home... Or I don't wanna live in other people's mess.. or at work I work hard and I get upset when I'm paired with someone who doesn't want to work but I can't bring myself to slow down and I feel exploited I get upset argue I want to work alone and now the whole team is passively aggressive to me please someone help me
If you've been called a narcissist on numerous occasions, that is a sign you are one. Healthy, secure people don't get told that. It sounds like you are unable to cope with imperfection and failure. As soon as something goes wrong, or does not meet your expectations, then the entire thing is ruined and you want to bite back. It is an "all or nothing" mentality. Real life does not work like that so you should throw that mentality out. To do so, learn to be okay with failure. Learn to be okay when someone does not meet your expectations. You should not be placing expectations on others at all. Humans are not perfect. You are not perfect and that's a beautiful thing. Let them make mistakes. Allow yourself make mistakes. That's okay. Speak to yourself with positive self talk. Loving self talk. If you know you are a horrible person, now you know what you can work on. The bad behaviors we have is just our inner child throwing a tantrum. Parent your inner child while being gentle, loving, and forgiving to it. Not harsh and scolding. Keep it in check. When you can learn to love yourself when you make a mistake, it becomes easier to love others when they make a mistake. Then you get a healthier, broader perspective of the world, rather than the "all or nothing" perspective.
I think I have positive and negative traits. Came I stop worrying about being a narc ☹️
I relate
Everyone has those traits, some narcissistic traits to a degree is healthy. It's called boundaries and putting yourself first. Every successful entrepreneur, artist, musician..etc has narcissistic tendencies, but it's whether you manipulate someone or not
_Depends on the context._
Those with NPD, cycle between moments of (+) idealisation and (-) devaluation -- involving unstable beliefs about both themselves and others.
Those ebb & flow states between (+) ego inflation and (-) ego collapse which occur within the narcissist -- are heavily influenced by current life events for the individual.
_NPD is an ego-dystonic disorder._
Self-assessments are quite difficult for those with NPD due to the way narcissistic delusions distort a person's *current* identity
-- and the way that identify shapes their capacity for self-inventory.
This is interesting. By studying their self assessment you could make somewhat of an assessment of them as an external reference in regards to their narcissism. But would this work on covert narcissists?
I ask my friend that question who I think is a narcissist and he found a really difficult to answer
I’m looking for a video that I can send to my siblings so they can send it to their significant others. I’m taking a break from dating (for a good long long time), but my siblings are still trying to find a good match. We all seem to have wound up in relationships with people that are charming and wonderful on the surface, but roller-coastery and controlling in private. I know people still have to go to a professional to get diagnosed, but I feel like we’d be helped so much if we had a means of helping the people we encounter see that their behavior is a little different. If we had some kind of reference video we could share with them… I was hoping this video was such😕I’ll keep searching.
After watching the video, I still don't know if I am a narcissist.
Everyone has narc traits built in. Put two narcs together see the differences.
I believe I've got narcissistic traits, a teacher quite memorably pointed it out to me when i was around 10 years old. I maybe tick some of the boxes due to my personality type being introverted, but not really any of the malicious ones? I have kept a mindful eye on it through my adult life, but the word gets thrown around so much these days that it's got me thinking.. does it hold the same value? Or is it something people say when they are sure of themselves?
I've always liked helping people out expecting only but a level of respect equal to it. When I get disrespectful attitude I get pretty upset - is that narcissistic?
Notice everyone in the comments blames other people
Not a whole lot of self reflecting 😂. On a side note I have to work on myself.
By the description alone, everyone on LinkedIn is a narcissist 😂💀. Everyone is a lead, founder, CEO, director, head, etc. LOL
Best believe if both of your parents are narcissists you tempt to copy their behaviors . Both of my parents are baby boomers narcissists.
If you have to ask ... y'know?
By mere chance i did this exercise with my ex and recorder her. My ex narcissistic could you do this at all. At all!
When people leave me for no apparent reason that I can think off, I feel like maybe I asked for too much or ttied to manipulate them. And then i feel like I could be the Narcissist. Or maybe the Universe simpky removed these people out of my life because I desrve better
good video ✅
if youre here youre not a narcissist
Much easier test. Go without social media for a long time or forever. And: can you spend prolonged periods by yourself, content to be having no influence over anyone?
If you say "yeh but...." to this, you've found a power feed.
Simples😅
I’m already perfect so I can’t be a narcissist
Todd Beaupré sent me here
Although I'm definitely here for self growth. It's a peculiar fascination the west has with narciccism.
Anyone have any thoughts on that. It exists in nature. Is it not natural.
Is it a by product of capitalism, either the " illness" itself or the individuation of us all. If we lived as our ancestors, would there be this wierd fixation..or am I just a narc trying to sgirk responsibility?
I'm deffo sure that a society of individuality creates this atmosphere and the subsequent naval gazing seems and odd misdirection.
Yes we should address individual problems.
But the splitting of the collextive and subsequent alienation is the problem..do psychologists look at this
Do they assess tribal people for narciccism. I bet they're not obsessed like us
Well said and analysed. I think your take on it is accurate. Western society exalts individualism, the super ego, being confident to the point of defiance. Being 'separate' from the whole, distinct, with loads of defining traits and features. So, so WRONG. I have begun a spiritual journey of relinquishing my ego, using it only for self-preservation, but not in my interactions with people. It is a revelation. The 'who am I' question is redundant, unimportant. Because the 'I' is a burden of external conditionings and impositions, coming from various sources, family, school, religion, society, media, etc. What we truly are is PART OF THE WHOLE. And there is much more that we all have in common than we have that's different. Many have some narcissistic traits without actually being a narcissist, as I was. Thanks to this spiritual path I have become self-aware, and am chipping off on the 'identity' narrative which truly isn't real. Less 'I'. My spiritual guide has also recommended that the pronoun 'I' be used far less in speaking and writing. Not easy. We use it continually, in abundance, and it is detrimental to us and others.
@@gabykappscomposermariagabr749
Amen!!
Just wanted to let you know, The Holy Spirit used your ‘message/testimony’ to answer me. Clarity and guide me.
Thank you for being that vessel!
I took the test and it said that I am neither an empath nor a narcissist. Wtf
This is gonna be my opening line for dating sites for now on…weed em out quickly lol
This has me so confused and feels like doublespeak🤣🤣🤣🤣I do appreciate it though cause a whole lotta effort went into this but I am definitely not sure if I am one or not or how the hell one is defined clearly
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I guess i know what i need to do. I hate myself
I don't understand the assessment. How can I describe myself very clear, I'm not sure how other people see me, and I'm probably not very objective about myself. I mean I'm a human like almost everyone else, but that is probably not very helpful to say
Just check if you have empathy. If you feel what other person feels. If you can't feel it, you are a narcissist.
Hello, narcissist here, good evening.
If you think you're a narcissist, you're probably not a narcissist.
I'm the best.
A narcissistic cannot be critical of self. They rule the universe didn't ya know
He knows what he is but doesn't care ,he thinks he got it all right can't be wrong . Its everyone else! He can fake it for a long time .He wont get help ,denial keeps him looking normal to who he wants to fool .
self bealif shoudn't be considered narcissim, if it is, no one would make a change for progress.
I think I am one
Woah
Babs? Is that you?
I have no significant other. What would i write to such questionnaire.....
Really? Not one person in your life that's important to you? If true, what happened? Please explain if you can, was it a tragic loss or something? Just curious, not trying to set you up or anything.
@@geico1975 I cannot bear someone's closeness for more than a few months or weeks. Had enough of this pattern so I quit. I stop contact with my "family". And lets not forget "significant other" means in this context someone you live within a partner or family relation.
That was horrible. If I am a narcissist; I am also a little dumber now.
No, do I look successful or wealthy to you? If I preyed on everyone within arm's reach I'd have a mountain of wealth and acclaim, and probably a few political and corporate appointments, You can tell someone is not a narcissist if they're a nobody, and that they are a narcissist if they are a somebody. There is a distinct correlation. Most people with college degrees are exploitative, abusive, dangerous narcissists who exploit their positions to hurt people while pretending to be benevolent.
Not helpful. To much round and round without definitive steps. Just get to it already.
This sure didn't tell me much of anything...
I'm not the problem, everyone else is💩
Would a narcissist even be here? Mmmm
Well let's see:
I hate Narcissists and
I really don't like Narcissists and
I find Narcissists really annoying and
Did I say I hate Narcissists???
She said absolutely nothing. What a crazy video and person.
She kinda looks narcissistic herself lol.