Questions for my husband about orgasms, hemorrhoids, and houses | marriage with a disability
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- Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2022
- My husband was trapped in the car with me for 2 hours so I made him answer questions that I thought were interesting!
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I have no idea how you ended up in my RUclips feed, but I've enjoyed watching several of these because you do a great job of communicating the reality of a human experience different from most of ours, and what the human world needs most is empathy--the ability to understand, as much as possible, other people's experiences and realities. So, you're doing the world a service here, beyond the practical benefit to other people in your same situation.
I wholeheartedly agree, she is amazing!
I was thinking the same thing last night. Why can I not stop watching her videos?
My biggest hope is that I can help people relate to those of us with disabilities better. I think the best way to achieve that is being honest and vulnerable. And really all the things I talk about are universal. I mean who hasn't been insecure about their hemorrhoids lol?
Thanks ❤️!
I'm secretly trained as a hypnotist lol, that's why you can't stop watching my videos 🤣 😜. JK
What I liked about Joe was that he thought about the answers. I felt that he tried to be prudent, to answer in an understanding way and at the same time to be sincere. You make a really nice couple
Joe definitely thinks analytically about everything lol.
A special relationship....2 people who definitely love each other!! Thanks for sharing your life with us!! Love is love and you make each other shine bright!!
You and your husband are wonderful. I wish you and your family a beautiful life always
Thanks so much!
Another cute video that I can't get enough of. I love how honest and open you are to each other. And, with or without a disability, it makes a strong and healthy relationship.
We are definitely honest with each other! It sometimes gets us in a fight lol.
I stumbled across your videos and love them! I am also a part of an inter-able couple as I have CP. Your husband sounds really genuine and I love the honesty in your videos. I am also a parent so I can relate to the fears of being a new parent. I think the only time, my husband was concerned when leaving me alone with our son was when we were not in OUR house and visiting parents/in-laws. We set up our house so I could care for my son independently in his newborn days. As you mentioned it does get easier as kids get older, my son can now help push the grocery cart, carry light bags, he even grabs my crutches out of the car. I think having a disabled mom may benefit him in the future.
You guys are great 😊 I appreciate the candid answers. Glad you have each other & thank you for sharing!
I have a saying that i find myself saying a lot ." If I am not laughing I am crying and I am tired of crying."
Always find that laughter . Its important to your soul and I am so glad that given your tribulations in this life you can do that.
Your husband is a good man because he doesn't see the wheel chair he sees just you. And that is love.
I just discovered your channel! You two are such a great couple, so enjoyable to listen to you two connect. Thank you for wanting to share your journey, you are so inspiring!!!
Just discovered your page! Love y’all already!! You crack me up!! My family is very open about topics that most would avoid. It’s life! We all have bodies that operate in a similar fashion so why be embarrassed? Your hubby’s responses were awesome!! He obviously wasn’t concerned with your paralysis or he wouldn’t have dated you in the first place. He saw beyond that, he saw your beauty & your personality!!
Welcome to my channel! I'm probably way to open but I spent years hiding all the parts of me that I thought were shameful and it was exhausting 😔. Now I much prefer to scare people away that can't handle my level of TMI !
These are very interesting and informative discussions. I appreciate the openess and the depth of the talks. Good stuff and thank you very much.
I'm not paralyzed at all, but I find what you do really inspirational. Thank you for doing ehat you do. I'm sure you help a ton of people.
Unbelievably difficult subject and both your honesty should empower both of you.
You are both blessed people. Thank you for your honesty.
I love all your videos and think you’re amazing. Joe’s sense of humor and answers were great!
You guys are awesome! Love both of your outlooks on things👍
Thanks!
Honesty in stark relief. It's a pleasure to listen and watch a great couple deal with the realities of what's been dealt without apparent fear. Side note....I love your old school amber sunglasses!
Thanks! I love my sunglasses too!
Joe is a very wise man....and fortunate - you two are an awesome couple and a good example for others!!
Joe is annoyingly smart lol. We complement each other pretty well most days:)
You are so lovely and honest, with such a positive attitude. Keep on spreading the word as you are doing such a good job in showing how disabled people can cope.
Thanks ! I try my best to be a good example for others that are newly injured. Gotta show them that they will.be ok!
Hi guys. I'm new to the channel. It's awesome. I retired from the VA some years ago and one of the books that I found helpful in my career was John Hockenberry's "Moving Violations". He is a high quad i believe and had an awesome career as a news correspondent, traveling to the mid East. The book is funny and touching and has some interesting stories showing how differently able people are treated in different countries. Interestingly he found his worst experiences in the USA.
Y’all have great chemistry and he has a sense of humor and patience. Your my new must watch!
Awe thanks! Welcome to the channel!
I am so glad and thankful I found your channel and you too
You two are adorable and funny! Love the way you are together!
thanks!
Bless the both of you!
Your husband is a gem.
Wow third video of yours I have watched
Love learning about the practical realities of your life and how you both approach and see things
It is one of the joys of the modern internet world learning about other people's lives and challenges and how they cope
BTW you both seem like keepers
The internet has definitely opened up the world and allowed us to peer into the realities of those with different circumstances than our own! It's pretty cool!
Wow! This level of educated honesty and straight forwardness is so refreshing. It really seems like you love your live with all pros and cons (like everybody does, right?)
you two are a good team!
Impressive on so so so many levels, thanks for giving me hope that mankind is essentially good :)
You and your husband remind me SO much of Alex and Kimberly Wadsworth from The Wads. I found your channel a couple of days ago and I've been binge watching and laughing at your honesty and realistic view of disability. It's laugh or cry, I guess 😂 I love that your channel has grown so much lately, you deserve it!
Well now I have yo go check them out!
I thought the same exact thing, they do remind you of the same type of couple cute
It seems like folks forget so often that kids are small people! They just don't know stuff yet, and they're growing and changing all the time. They're so much more aware and conciencious than people give em credit for...when you show them how to be.
What a wonderful beautiful couple he is blessed to have you and you’re are blessed to have him
Guys, like many people here, I am able bodied but I find watching several of your videos because of your openness about the ups and downs and hurtles. KUDOS!!!!
I had a stomae (poop bag) for a 11 months and I went out with a nurse that was working at the hospital. One time, during intercourse, my bag slightly detached and soiled the sheets but she was totally cool about it, because of the fact that she worked in that specialty. That openess of mind of the significan other can be so conforting !!! KUDOS !!!!!
I bet that situation was embarrassing for you. These kinds of situations show how accepting most people are though. We always think it's going to be horrible and it ends up not being so bad!
you both individually and combined make an awesome couple.
Thanks!
I came across your channel and I find it so special. My mother in law is disabled but is probably one of the most ambled humans I know. She become disabled after having her 5th baby , and then proceeded to have 2 more baby’s.
You and your husband are an inspiration!
Thank you
Wow, I admire women with disabilities that are brave enough to have more than 2 kids lol!
You both are completely awesome. I love the open nature of the discussion. No holds barred! Thank you for the honesty. I love Squirmy & Grubs as well. A question: with very little to no body fat on your butt, are you more prone to pressure sores? How do you prevent them?
I’m older and for many years have wondered about the challengers and specifics about being disabled. First, I applauded your openness and courage to do these vids. Second, it’s so incredible to hear your story and see people so caring and in love. Of course you’re Canadian so there’s that…..🥰love you guys and your family.
OMG your suppository story! I’m crying!
I am so proud of you and your husband for informing us about your life. God bless you.
another great video, may God bless you both.
Thanks!
Lol Interesting questions. Poor Joe.....I was waiting for him to vacate the vehicle while it's still moving! But I enjoyed watching & learning. Keep the videos coming. Love you guys!
I definitely made him squirm!
He's an awesome sport about it love his outlook
lol @ your sixties bush - I am dying here.🤣😂 True love is blind, my friend; that is evident with your marriage. Keep up the great work! 💞
It was definitely vintage down there lol
New subscriber here. Enjoying your videos, openness and humor. 😊
Welcome!
What stands out the most to me is what good friends you are and how you make each other happy . That matters the most doesn't it. Fortunate to have such a great relationship.
We are definitely best friends!
Yeah you guys ARE cute!!! Hehe I am 50, chair user and hubby is 53, we have been married 22 years... (neither of us 'groom' down there!) You really do just get comfortable with each other and all is good!
Wow thanks for sharing this is important for aging people as well. Sometimes we all need help
That was a good answer Joe. Good save. If Joe slips up will she forgiving. I think she should.
You guys are so cute! I loved this video 💜
Thanks!
You guys are great. Keep up the great content. When you were talking about the unmanicured areas, I started thinking, you can’t see the forest for the trees 😅😂
lol you definitely couldn't see the forest for the trees before I started grooming haha
I love listening to your story. I am paralyzed in the pelvic area and can totally relate to you as far as using the restroom to sex. I had fallen off a roof when I was 21. I broke my back. the L1 vertebra totally exploded I had bone fragments stuck to my spinal cord. I also fractured the L2. I had crushed my spinal cord so much that they said if it was crushed a hair more it would have been severed. Luckily I had amazing surgeons. I was paralyzed waist down. I started getting some feeling back and I had to learn how o walk all over again. Unfortunately my pelvic area never got feeling back so I have to self cath every time I need to pee. Going poop is an issue also. I can go a few days without pooping but I have to be careful because when I get the urge to go poop I can't really control it. Sex is a whole other issue. I can still have sex but can't really feel it physically. It was all mental at the beginning and basically retrained my body for sex. This May will be 30 years of my life this way and it is nice to see others that go through this having a great outlook on life. Keep the stories coming and I will keep looking forward to them. Feel free to contact me if you ever want to know anything from a males side of it. I always love telling my story especially if it helps someone understand what we go through. Thanks again and keep up the great work.
Brittney & Joe, be assured that there's millions of non-disabled women that haven't had orgasms either so don't ever worry about it. Communication is way more important and you've got that going on!
yes unfortunately I'm not alone in this....wish it was as easy for us as men lol
Awsome Video you have an understanding an awsome husband and kids.
I do!
Some of these questions I've never thought about. I saw a video of ur baby bed. Had no clue that was even out there. After that I just thought we'll this couple evaluates what issues they may have and adapts to make it doable
God bless you both 🙏🏾
I love your videos! You both are just so real and true to life! Keep the videos coming🤗
Thank you so much for sharing my loved one has spinal Timor’s taking his mobility and his life if only he wasn’t in constant pain. We could cope with the wheelchair god bless you both love you both all the way from Australia and yes I’m crying because I understand and I care love you 😍 guys I’m so grateful ❤ps we are in ou 50s🎉
I'm so sorry that you have to watch a loved one suffer. Sending love and healing vibes your way ❤️
Thank you☺️
You're welcome!
I love this video and I love you too! It’s so refreshing to hear frank conversations about sex. Good job just going for it.
Thank you! I'm sure my honestly is too much for some people but to help those that desperately need answers to these questions I'll take the chance of offending a few people!
You're a beautiful couple. Thanks for the videos
You are amazing!❤
Thanks!
There are a number of disabled vets that can benefit from this channel!
What a wonderful couple. Big love for Joe.
Thanks! Joe's a keeper for sure!
😆😜u guys r fun!! Thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!!
Thank you for this, very personal, but also very informational video. I’m a nursing student and will be staring my clinical at the hospital. I remember learning about digital stimulation and thought it was some technological way of stimulating defecation. I’ve learned so much with your videos. I hope I’m prepared when I take care of a person with disabilities thanks to your videos.
So great to see Joe again! We really enjoy these Q and A videos - well, I enjoyed all of it; Debbie had to skip the first couple of questions and the last part. Maybe some of it was “too close to home” for her.
Definitely more liberal with topics as women these days! I'm sure many older women are uncomfortable with sex topics!
@@EmpoweredPara Are we saying that Debbie fits into the “older women” category? Hmmm…lol !
@@westiepower2020 older than me lol. I'm in the older women category to a 20 year old lol!
@@EmpoweredPara My goodness, you sound sooo much like our favourite niece!
@@EmpoweredPara Deb says you replied really well! The promised steak dinner is back on the table!
Idk why this came up on my feed but I’m so glad it did ! I’ve already watched and likes 4 videos and I love how you communicate and you two are a wonderful couple be blessed my friend 😊
Love you guys 😊
❤️ you more!
Dude!!!! You ate freaking 👌!! Now this is my kinda people, with the naming of the hemorrhoids & all. I call them Leroys. Lol 😆 Just a few minutes in & IM HOOKED! New subscriber instantly ✨️
lol Leroys! I love that haha.
About CPR and people in a wheelchair.
I teach CPR and once I was at a school. One of the teachers was in a wheelchair. She insisted to follow the program.
When she had to perform CPR, she hopped out of the chair and performed one of the best CPR sessions I ever saw. So nope, that isn't a problem at all.
All I can say is your husband is one lucky guy. God bless
Yeah I reminded him how lucky he is daily lol!
@@EmpoweredPara He knows
I just love your openness, but sometimes it seems prying. Maybe because I'm older. Your husband is awesome. It really helps us able bodied be empathetic and understanding (hopefully not ask questions to a handicapped person). Thank you!💜
I'd like answering all the questions that most people are too shy to pry about!
You are so cute! Gotta love Joe. What a guy, but I understand why he loves you so much.
Lol Joe's a keeper for sure!
I am so glad I am not driving that car right now...... lol ... amazing souls you both are...
You guys are awesome
"It is what it is." The value of your channel is how you make us reflect on our own lives through your very realistic philosophical lens.
I love it love your family
What kind of glasses are you wearing? They're beautiful! ❤
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You really put him on the spot 😂 love the honesty because it’s real life conversations and topics. Two and a half years out from my injury and I definitely am not ready to date because of all the reasons 😆 another great video 💗
I totally put him on thr spot lol. And some of the answers were unexpected lol. I can always count on him to be honest though, even if it makes me uncomfortable!
Shit Wasup lol
Might you do a video about how you met and courted as an inter-abled couple?
Fantastic video, guys! As far as the orgasm thing, I think we as a culture put too much emphasis on having one. I'd say that not being able to in your case opens up a whole new world that focuses on all the other great stuff we can do to enjoy our sexuality. I like Joe's honesty and flexibility on the issue. Sometimes it's important, sometimes not. If you don't care then he doesn't either because you 2 have learned that orgasm doesn't have to be the be all end all of intimacy. I bet you 2 have a better sex life than a majority of people in our society!
100%! If we're happy then that's really all that matters!
I can tell he so adore you.
most of the time lol. Sometimes I'm a pain in the butt!
Wonderful, Hilarious video. You two are so funny together with your banter. Lots of random questions for Joe in that one but he answered them very well. A little off topic but I do have a question about him driving your van. Is it an easy procedure for him to be able to drive it without using the hand controls because it looks like he wasn't using the hand controls there?
The hand controls don't change anything about the vehicle,just allow me to reach the pedals from higher up. So Joe can still drive with his feet:)
@Empowered Para Oh right on, good to know. I've always wanted to try driving a vehicle just in an open parking lot or a field just to get the feel of it.
You give me hope that I will find my Joe one day. It’s so hard to date when you’re living with disability. I’m also paraplegic (T4).
Start by believing that your wheelchair is an asset!
Have you put in a residential elevator in your home? I saw anther couple where the wife has a spinal injury and they did. Seems like a nice option if you can fit it in. I would think even for seniors with mobility issues it would be great adaptation. Thier channel is jerry rigs everything.
Brit, Thanks for being so open about your situation. One question rose from watching your videos. I totally understand that being seated in a wheelchair definitely has an impact on your body, body mass, etc. Can "bed soares" be an issue for a SCI person ? I don't know of anybody in that situation so that I'd ask, hoping that bed soares are NOT an issue, but is probably something that you need to pay close attention to ? Thanks again! -dan
Pressure sores are a huge issue for those in wheelchairs. I have had many friends die from them. Do I am very diligent about my skin!
Beautiful woman !
Thanks ❤️ 😊
You guys are nuts. LOL I love you both.
We are nuts lol.
Hubby’s doing a bang up job keeping himself out of the doghouse, is all I’m saying-
lol yep he was trying really hard not to hurt my feelings
You guys are great. I have CP, a college degree I have worked in many settings . I am not paralyzed. I have taken care of kids on my own which are not mine.
I've dated only non-disabled women. My ex-wife was not disabled when we were married. We never had children together. I'm interested in dating and possibly marrying again. I wish there was website where people look to date someone with a disability. There are many benefits to dating someone with a disability. Some benefits are close parking (Handicap) permanent income) Disability) just to name a few. Myself, I have a decent income and can care for myself and I own my own home.
You make a point. If you love someone and can wipe them if you have to you love them..
I have trouble lately in meeting women to date. I guess mostly the assume way to much. It's funny how when we finally have sex, she says, "If I had known it was going to be like this with you, I would have slept with you a lot sooner." They keep coming back sometimes. But don't seem to want to commit.
When I first started the video I thought Joe was the one with the disability. I'm convinced that it takes a special person to be with a disabled person. If I have to give her sex everyday I would.
You guys are great. Good luck in all you do.
Most of us can only dream of such love 🥰
wow you really put Joe on the spot!!!!!! lol
totally lol, he really didn't want to hurt my feelings 🙃
at the moment very snowy in vancouver another fun video i think the worst thing a person said to me was well normal people have no problem doing it
people are dumb sometimes 🙄
Shame Joe, some tough questions, but good answers
When you were pregnant, did not having feeling in that area pose any problems? For example, were you able to feel contractions to know when you were going into labor? Were you able to feel your babies kick or move?
I could feel them kick and move. Could not feel the pain of labor but felt the pressure of the contractions!
Also Shane from Squirmy and Grubs- "Go ahead, break me!"
😂😂
I love them lol
You’re definitely not shy.
You’re honestly, 😂 sorry .. keep this spirit and the love for each other.. perfect kopple …
Where going away for our 33 year anniversary in our favorite country place in Pennsylvania! Were you under 29 days
His first reaction was now this is a natural woman
Well I hope that was his reaction! Whatever I did seemed to work lol!
Does your car still have foot pedals or is it hand driven only?
It still has foot pedals. Just brackets that attach to the foot pedals and extend to hand controls that I can use to push the pedals.
It is crucial, to be honest with yourself and your partner !!! But, after some point, I would answer, it is necessary to make it public? Intimacy is very private and different for every couple, so, in this light, does make it helpful, instead of discovering it by yourself? There are
no shortcuts...
I totally agree. But me being honest about the I securities I faced in the process gives other people encouragement who think they can never find someone.
@@EmpoweredPara That is true also !!!