Understanding Attachment Challenges in Adoptive Families - Shannon Guerra
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- Опубликовано: 16 сен 2024
- Bonding and cultivating attachment between adopted children and their forever families can be a challenge, and oftentimes, it takes more than love to overcome the struggles. Shannon Guerra offers insight from her family’s experience with attachment issues and suggests ways to support adoptive families.
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Thank you so much Shannon
Thank you for this!! Such a great message! We adopted through foster care and love when our issues are addressed! Thank you !!!
Thank you for this message. We adopted our daughter at 5 yrs old...she came into our home at 2 yrs old. She will soon be 22 yrs old. She is still struggling with adoptive issues. We love her dearly and she loves us, but...she struggles with why didn't my birth mother do better? Was I so awful? We pray our daughter will some day truly see herself as lovable.
We have struggled with this same issue. You were enough! Continue to love and support her.
In january this year my wife and i adopted a 2 month old boy, whom we could not love anymore if he were our own but im dreading the day we will have to tell him he is adopted! We struggled for 10 years to fsll pregnant as we never wanted to ever adopt we were then placed as children church leaders and we realized we could love other kids as our own! The day i dread now is telling him he is adopted...
You've shared a very important concern, Dre. For some good ideas on how to handle this situation, we think you'll find it helpful to read the Q&A on our website titled, "Telling a Child that She was Adopted" - bit.ly/2NtNkQZ. We also encourage you to visit our page on Adoptive Families - bit.ly/3hWqShJ. We hope this information is helpful, friend. May God bless you and your wife for your willingness to adopt this precious baby boy.
@@notw22 I’m a birth mother in a closed adoption (not by choice) and the best advice I could give is be educated. The past year I’ve made the difficult decision to heal. I’ve listened to both adoptees and adoptive parents and I have a better understanding and compassion. I would highly recommend looking up Jeanette Yoffe, she specializes in child adoption and was part of the foster care system. I would also recommend Barbara Freedgood, she is an adoptive mother and great at understanding all forms of losses in adoption. I cannot control my son’s adoptive parents, all I can do is be educated. Adoptive parents who are educated will help their child’s development future and reduce their fears of getting close to people.
@@katrinaa7581 thanks for the reply kat
I needed this.
love this im adopting my foster child in two months
As an adopted kid I have memories of being a baby somehow and thinking I need to go this life alone. My adoption helped better than foster care but left me bereft with feeling unwanted.
Thank you!!!!
(We adopted 3 boys 7 years ago, they were 6,7 and 8 years old)
People who want to adopt need to go through a vigorous mental health check. I suffered very much by that very simple mistake. Not everyone is built to adopt sensitive kids!
That was me too. I needed a clingy type of family that overwhelmed me with praise and hugs. I was left feeling unwanted and unloved even threatening to run away and dreaming up other fake parents like Cher. Uggg
Please let her talk!!!
This needs to be talked about a lot more it takes a real toll on your mental health it is like parenting in reverse 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️soooooooo challenging to navigate
Well how about if you are desperate for a child and really want them you would always want them no matter what
Nadia 168, you may well be a wonderful adoptive mother. It sounds like your heart is open. Along with unconditional love and commitment, these kids need very strict boundaries and that would be my caution. We have three biological and two adopted children. Believe me, we love them to the moon and back. But love alone is not enough. Best wishes as you perhaps move into the foster/adoption arena!
Wow, she's laughing that the child tried to eat compost!? That's messed up! That poor child has many traumas they're dealing with. I'm glad she can find someones trauma humorous!