From a City Apartment to a Rural One-Room Cottage
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- Опубликовано: 9 мар 2021
- Transitioning from City to Rural Cottage Life - my story and advice to other dreamers and romantics
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This video is for those seeking to change their life or to move away from the city, feeling overwhelmed or stuck in the situation they are in. Maybe you simply wish to reimagine or romanticize your life into something new. I am unable to offer specific advice, since I am not a finance nor real estate expert. But even if I was, I think everyone’s situation is so unique that it is difficult to give examples that are applicable to everyone. Therefore, I wish to suggest a new way of looking at one’s own life - as a storybook full of chapters that are each meaningful part of your journey. Maybe you are not where you wish you were. As you wait for that time to come, there is so much to experience and learn. I wish to turn away from the idea that we need to be in a specific location (city, town, or country) to be happy or to lead the peaceful and meaningful life we yearn for. In my personal experience, the answer didn’t come from moving to a new place and leaving a chaotic and loud city. These changes, of course, were positives for me and helpful to my spirit that yearned for quietness and peace and slow living. However, this peace and slowness can be achieved in many walks of life. We can live environmentally conscious lives wherever we are. We can cultivate happiness wherever we are. Moving isn’t an option for many, be it for financial, health, and other practical reasons. You can bring aspects of what you love into your own life, be it in a city or town.
We spend so much time on social media admiring incredible lifestyles that are full of adventure and excitement - we must keep in mind that no matter where you go you often take your personal struggles with you. Your own life, right now, can be a dream come true. Not a perfect dream, maybe, but reality often works that way. I hope this video brings you comfort wherever in life you are, and that my personal story can help others who have struggled with sadness and depression. Life goes on, seasons change, and so will you. One day is different from the next, and if you stay hopeful and are not afraid to ask for help, things can get better and more manageable. Overtime, your life may change completely. Embrace your story and the many paths it takes you on, positive and challenging. Each chapter has something to teach if you wish to learn.
Sending love to all,
Paola
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Some resources that may be helpful to those seeking to change their life or are unhappy in their situation (these do not necessarily reflect my own opinions, I just wanted to offer a variety of perspectives and advice):
- On loving where you already live: global-goose.com/love-where-y...
- www.theminimalistmom.com/is-c...
- What to consider about rural living: www.frugalwoods.com/2020/07/0...
At the end of this video you can see some wonderfully inelegant moments while filming 😂
Also, at the beginning of this video you may be wondering where I am 🧐 I had some family friends allow me the honor of visiting their property, which has been passed down in their family for over 100 years! It is a very old cabin with an incredible amount of history attached to it. I was so excited to share some glimpses of it with you.
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Name: Paola
Age: 24
Birthday: December 5th
What camera I use: iPhone 11
I live and work in Washington State
I love youuu🥺
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wow that's nice 😍
As long as I face the ocean/sea I am ok... thinking about living in a remote village in Fiji kinda the same thing--Remarkably Fijians are happy truly happy in what they have. I am glad you are able to find your corner of paradise--for me its the relationships I have with people yes even digitally LOL (yes its possible) because HOME for me is where the people are Much aroha Nui
Wow we’re the same age! You’re so mature 🌹
When I was young I had a profound life changing moment. I was watching a random little-known documentary (to this day I can’t remember the name of it). It took place in a foreign city with crime, pollution, hideous devastation, and war. But there was a minor character...a single mother...whom I will never forget. The camera followed her down a rat infested alley, trash and rubble lined both sides. The door to her home had been crudely painted turquoise. The camera followed her inside...and the transition between hell and heaven was stark. You see, her home was clean, decorated with little things with no true value, but placed just right. She had drawn beautiful pictures and placed them carefully on the walls. She had potted plants/weeds in discarded cans and put them on her window sill to block the chaos outside. Her home was relatively quiet, and what little she had was used to the best of her ability. We have control over the inside of our homes AND our hearts. If we capture those two places and make them the seedling of our future goal I think we would all be happier, more peaceful people.
Let us know if you find the name of the documentary
Love your comment.
Wow, thank you for this beautiful comment. So much wisdom and isn't it wonderful that you had the insight at a young age to understand and absorb the lesson that documentary presented?
I love , We have control over our heart and home.🌻🌻🌻. Even when I lived in a rundown place I made it as cheerful as I could🌺
Betsy Ten Boom, Corrie Ten Boom's sister, did this while in a jail cell WW II.
Having survived colon cancer surgery and am now 100 per cent cancer free I find such great joy in this channel
You must thank THE GOD, THE ONE AND ONLY, for surviving, you can't do anything by yourself without him.
So happy
yayyyyy!! so happy for you!
very glad to hear that so so happy for you ❤️
That is amazing. Bless you! I hope soon I can see a loved one beat cancer. It's been a hard road.
Yes, living in the past leads to depression, living in the future leads to Anxiety. How many days have I wasted trying to live in a time that doesn’t even exist!
Same.
I couldn't have said it in a better way. However, I'm still learning how to fully live in the present and appreciate my current life.
Thanks for your he,ping to remind me to live in the moment 🌼🌿🌼🌼🌿
Well spoken. ☘
And it's very very hard to forget about the time that once existed and now has passed ..I don't know how to do that.
My mom says “you can move wherever you want but you have to take you with ya” you gotta love yourself and be able to find happiness within you no matter where you are or what your situation is. 💕
This is so good! I needed this! It starts from within!
PRECISELY !
So, so true😌❤
My mum says the same thing! Its still something I can completely understand one day and forget the next. I'm getting better though
Amen
Thank you for mentioning the ablebodied thing. I'm disabled and can't live the "cottagecore, gardening, self sustainable, cottage in the woods" life I dream of because of my disabilities. However I'm learning to find ways to live in ways that are doable for me but also enjoyable. I moved to a beautiful very rural state, but I live in a town where things are walking distance or a short drive. So I can enjoy nature and see beautiful mountains out my windows but also live near doctors and neighbors and stores. The next step is just asking others for help and give up on my idea of wanting to be fully self reliant. Thank you for this video and thank you for acknowledging being abled it really matters.
Well I hope dear Ratty LOL. You feel pleased with your achievements. For the view you now have. That you are still independent even if some help is needed. You can choose those helpers I hope. I find you very inspirational and exactly in your perfect setting. Contentment always to you.
There are people who want to help...🥰...take that next step and just ask...🌷
I have realised one of the bravest words we can ever say is 'help'.
u run and not weary.... get the book power of your subconscious mind by joseph murphy
mind and tap in the infinite power within .. good luck good bless
Having been made to rely on myself/ trust only myself it’s been a journey for me too to learn the word “help” even from my own husband and his very supportive family. Sometimes it’s the bravest word we can utter
Living in the future was ruining my present...the hardest part was learning to be satisfied where I currently was
This sentence really hits home! Thanks for sharing as always ❤️
Same here. It reminded me of things Annie of The LA Minimalist from Instagram would talk about.
@@itschamamama2466 , thank you for mentioning Annie. She’s a bit of an old soul with old soul (and common sense) advice. I just started following her because of you🥰
"Living in the future was ruining my present". Powerful words, thank you for sharing. 🙂
Wow. I’m that 19 year old in college crying myself to sleep, so exhausted and tired of feeling this way and feeling so trapped. Thank you for this reminder
Please listen to your instincts and to what they tell you to do. I have had the trapped feeling for many years. I'm about to break free, but how better it would be for all of us to never be trapped in the first place. 💕
Pressure can be overwhelming.
All the best to you! I am sure you will find your way. ♡
@@melissaoleary8196 Somtimes it's not so easy.. so when you can't control your context, you still can help with the little trick Paola gave us: asking for help, working towards our dream day by day as much as we can, even if it's relatively "slow", controlling our inmediate places (room, house if you own one, etc.) as well as our hearts and minds, etc. ^^
Let the last thing you listen to before bed be a beautiful guided meditation, something that fills your heart with hope and peace. Sending you love. X
im currently 15, its been almost one year since ive had to live alone because i lost my mother, in my tiny studio apartment i find it hard waking up every day to nothing but a hungry stomach and my empty apartment. When they took my mother they also took alot of our valuables, ive had to live off canned sausages and canned tuna for a few months before i was able to reach out to my half siblings for help. this truly inspires me and helps keep me going, in times like these where my mental health is bad i find comfort in your story. may this chapter of my life be a story to tell my children.
You are so young yet so strong. I’m 23 and I learnt something from you. Hang in there. 😇
I hope you are doing alright. Hang in there. Perhaps you can find work somewhere? Have you tried looking into cashier positions or cleaning jobs near you? How are you paying rent?
My heart breaks for you. Keep going and I recommend getting into a vocational trade or get your real estate license so you can create your own income not be limited and not have to waste money on college.
Oh Rina, I’m so sorry.
You are strong.. and your kids will be fortunate to hear your stories of triumph.. good luck
I cried so much watching this, everything just seems in place and it's pure, connected and beautiful.
I cannot express it in words, you make me a better person, not only do you continually bring me peace with your videos. You also helped me appreciate my rural life and you inspired me to make the best decision (documenting my own journey) which is really huge for me considering I used to literally hide where I live because I was so ashamed
Thank you so much for the kind words, I feel honored to be a recipient ❤️ much love
I have always wanted to live in a small town. I will most likely settle in one😍
I cried too but I think the beauty of this video ( and the person making the video) reminded me of how much of my life has been spent doing things that were a waste of time .....now that I am an old lady I realize that with a shorter view ahead many of these dreams I have will never materialize and that I SHOULD have tried harder to implement them when I was younger, healthier and stronger. I know now that I didn't have the self assurance or belief in myself to take the steps that I needed to fulfill some of my own needs. It makes me incredibly sad to feel this way but also it makes me so very happy to see that some people ( the Cottage Fairy among others) are taking the steps to live the lives that truly fulfill them .....even if the steps are slow they are nonetheless strong and purposeful and move them in the direction of a life well lived and one that will ultimately be one that will give them a sense of peace and satisfaction. My best advice to younger people is to take the steps YOU need to begin the journey ....life is a process and it takes time to find the right path but DON'T waste time ....just begin with one thing and keep going till you know in your heart that you are moving towards that place, purpose, joy and peace that you need and deserve!!!
Just subscribed to your channel!
Same! So I will subscribe to you as well
I'm 63 years old. I grew up in Chicago, moved to a suburb and raised 3 children. Four years ago I moved to a cottage in the West of Ireland with my husband and youngest son, who was 14 at the time. It all started with a love for Irish traditional music, a 10 day trip to Ireland 22 years ago and clipping photos of Irish cottages from magazines and taping them to my suburban refrigerator at a time when I had no idea how I would be able to actually move into one.
What a wonderful story.
My husb’s GF was Irish and we have his birth certificate. We’ve been thinking of moving there from Canada (I just worry about health care.) Your comment truly has me choked up. Thank you for sharing. Maybe we’ll see you there one day. 🙏❤️
I’m thinking on going to Ireland and it seems hard to find jobs or volunteering in farms, is there some advice you could give me? If so, I thank you in advance!
@@2010celes Hi Celeste, I just saw your comment here and I'm a Career Coach here in Ireland. It's unlikely that you'd find jobs or volunteering working on farms. They are all very little here and usually ran by the family and passed through family/relatives and neighbours. If you want to get a job or volunteering it might be best to find them in companies. Best of luck with the search and if you'd like tips on careers etc. you're welcome to subscribe to my channel 🙂
really cool, like law of attraction
"One of the most dangerous parts of feeling that way is that you think it will last forever, and believe tomorrow will be no different."
I'm 27 now and still can't figure a way to live my life the way I want... Bless everyone who are struggling, I hope we all find one good place for us that we truly desire.
I have just moved to my tiny home with my puppy on a beautiful coastline. I am 53 & finding true contentment is a work in progress. I used to view past years a wasted, but now see them as a life lesson, including my ms diagnosis, I am now learning to embrace my life, the good & bad and see the lesson in each one & how strong I can be. Love to you all 🌈♥️
My family & I move to a more rural area 10 yrs ago. I have learned the most with having had so much quiet, I'm was used to sirens, airplanes, noisy neighbors, etc.... Ive felt heartbreak, loneliness, forgiveness, acceptance, and finally peace. It's amazing the feelings and experiences that you go thru when you step out of the mainstream. It's not always Mayberry & that was a hard lesson to learn. But I'm at peace and looking forward to moving to a more rural area since ours is being more populated.
Living outside of a person's norm definately gives perspective!
I love Vlog. His video is a very relaxing video too! He is my friend.
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This is my dream too. Hated my prior life as a doctor-the hours made me so thirsty for the outdoors. Burn out led to major chronic illness. Now medically disabled 5 years since age 49 and still feeling guilty for resting during the day which is not even a choice! DO ANY OF YOU WOMEN LIVING ALONE HAVE FEAR DOE YOUR SAFETY? It’s my dream too just waiting 4 more years till my youngest graduates high school :)
@@minimalfarmhouseliving5922 wow a doctor..good on you, so sorry its led to illness. To say live your life to the full is such a cliche & I'm still a work in progress on that one, things still get me. I wish you so much happiness.. hang in there 🌈🙏
I think accepting the past experiences in this way is a real bravery....Congratulations.🤗wishing you the happiest life you do deserve🌷🙏
huge respect for this lady. i did spend ten years of my life working farrrrr toooo hard and destroying my health. it certainly was not worth it either financially, emotionally or physically. I felt trapped. Finally i just decided to pack in my small computer business and take a leap of faith something else would be better. it was. GREAT VOICE, so relaxing as always
So glad you decided to take another path in life. Wish you the best in your journey.
Inspiring me. Thank you alot.
Life don't have to be so drastic. Having to meet goal does not mean one's have to sacrifice. Plenty ways available 😊
good for you good luck. may god bless ur life infintely
@@jackzhimo6460 happily retired now
You provide such a calming wisdom…please know how much you encourage others. I live in a small apartment built onto the back of a hill, with deer, coyotes and foxes as well as so many birds (& my 2 cats). I would never trade the views from my balcony or walks in the woods for more room…I have downsized possessions to those with real meaning for me . And in winter…the trees on top of the hill lose their leaves… I wake up every snowy morning in an Ingmar Bergman film ❤️
“Life challenges us to simply enjoy existing.” These words were a lightbulb moment for me. Thank you for putting your thoughts out for the world. Wishing you well.
Hello Ona
I adore this quiet life 💖
me too! 😍
@Elianor Anouk oh my gosh yeah! exactly, i am definitely a countryside person 🌻
What makes it even more alluring is its authenticity.
❤️
Me to
"Life doesn't need to always be happy in order to be fruitful."
Thanks, thanks, thanks a lot for this bit of advice.
....it seems it's often the opposite! The darkest times in my life have, looking back, brought the deepest fruit, wisdom and growth...although of course, going through much pain and heartache was absolutely not what I had ever wished for ...
I also changed my life, moving from a large Italian city to a small mountain village of just 1500 inhabitants, in a beautiful valley between Italy and Switzerland. It's been nearly five years ... and nobody will ever be able to move me from here. I have found my heaven on earth, and I thank life every day for the river that I can see from my home. I found simplicity in the little things. One day I hope to buy a cottage with a large plot of land too. It is a wonderful life.
I discovered this channel today, and I gladly signed up for it. I find your art and videos to be inspiring and relaxing. Good job!
- Elena
Your words are so true! It took me forty years to finally create a beautiful farm life. The important lessons began in my 20's when I lived in a roach infested apartment in Brooklyn. Out back was a tiny, garbage covered slab of cement. One day I cleaned it up and started putting plants there. In two years it became this amazing garden with shrubbery and vegetables and vines. Whenever I had a little extra money I would push my toddler's stroller two miles to the nearest nursery and bring home flats of plants. By the end of that second summer all of the neighbors commented at how this little oasis brightened their lives every time they looked down upon it from their apartments. I had only done it for myself but it was such a blessing to others. The happiness was contagious.
Your videos are a bright spot in my week! xxoo
Sadly my beautiful parents recently passed from covid pneumonia. I feel so lost I’m going to my cabin in the woods climb a tree and just sit there and watch ,listen and think. Hopefully put the brakes on and slow down. Enjoy your videos thanks!
I’m so sorry for your loss...please know their souls are with you and watch over you. Take care of yourself.
Love and blessings x
So sorry to hear that your beautiful parents passed x it’s times like this we really do need to watch listen & think x mark you will be in my prayers & thoughts 🌸
I’m so sorry you lost both parents at the same time. Time is the healer.
I'm so sorry you have lost both parents. That is traumatic. Be good to yourself. This is a big life changing event. I totally understand you feeling lost.
So very sorry for your loss of both parents! May God give you comfort and peace in the difficult days ahead! My sincere condolences! 😭😭😭💐
You write in such a beautiful poetic way that your written words are a balm.
I appreciate that 🤍 thank you
My husband and I just lost our house and we have to move in with my parents. It's difficult to give up all our space and privacy, and to give up our lives here. I love your videos because they remind me to just appreciate small joys in life that I often otherwise don't notice. And finding those small joys makes everything at least a little easier.
i find it really hard to find peace in my life currently because my home is not able to be welcoming and safe most of the time. I try often to figure out how to stay courageous in the constant adversity that I face, and watching videos like these bring me comfort and hope. I personally try to do at least one little activity that will calm my anxious nerves but it is an ongoing battle. To anyone who's struggling to find peace in their daily lives, you are not alone. I hope that soon you'll be able to find comfort and peace that will stay in your life for a long time.
My parents forced me to study hard to become a doctor, which brings a lot of stress on my free time, but what I really want to be is a writer, editor, and a Café owner/worker
Go for it. Your parents dreams isn't your dreams. Took me years to learn this. Now I do me.
You need to be true to yourself and do what makes your heart happy! ♥️🦋
Vivian your a doctor & you work hard & earn good money x ( if your young ) save hard x for YOUR dreams 💕 & know that in sometime in the future 4 years 10 years you can & will accomplish it you might meet a mate who would love 💕 that too x as parents we want only for our children to be happy earn lots of money be self sufficient so we can be sort of be at peace knowingly your ok & because we live in a tough wold & we need you to be allways all-right ( it’s a parent thing 🌸) but please don’t give up on YOUR beautiful desires to live the life you want x your parents will be happy if they see your ok x love 💕 & peace to you Vivian & I will pray for your dreams to come true 🌸
Parents think they are helping us have a “great life” by pushing us. It’s taken me a long time to know I don’t need to ask for their permission. Pls try to change your life to what you like. You are worth it! They just want you to be happy and even if they don’t say it - or know it fully - when they see the change in you they will know. Much love.
Yes go for it!!! I completely did a 360 in where I was, working in a medical profession, I am older but retired, but went to work in different profession. I am still working to downsize and live simpler. In life sometimes it takes a while to get where we need to be. Enjoy your life!!!
Living in the future has truly been ruining my present and I needed to hear those words out loud just now to realize it. I'm much older, 54, and so in a very different season of life, but still very busy with my 3 Etsy shops and 3 kids. I'm trying to learn to love where I am because I'm not ready to move somewhere else just yet...or maybe ever. You give very good advise for someone your age. I didn't have that wisdom then. Always be mindful of what you want because the years go so fast...so fast.
Eu não entendo inglês...queria tanto que tivesse legenda em português.
@@maricastro2831 Sorry, can you translate please?
Rarely do each of us know "exactly" what we want our future to be. Starting where we are and moving forward bit by little bit can often lead us in wondrous and new directions even better than we could have imagined.
Even at almost 70 I am looking forward to finding my happy place as I haven’t had a real home in 10 years...❤️Thankyou for giving me hope.-and wisdom
Oh God !
Your comment gave me goosebumps ...i saw myself in it.
I studied and worked in a busy Rome, Siena and Viterbo for 10 years of my life.. but since I moved back to Sicily (where I'm from), in the countryside, I truly found my balance and inner peace. Now I am 29 yo and live with my wonderful dogs (Tobia, Zara, Strella, Lillo and Lotto), share with them the magic of nature and the contentment of growing plants and look after them day by day. After so many years of despair enchained in such a frenetic lifestyle, i found joy in the smallest things.. Noone would have ever wondered to drink my wine and eat my oranges and vegetables and olive oil. Now i have another little dream, that everyone could visit me in my cottage and cellar (i am currently patiently renovating it, with no rush) and share a little slice of this warm light.
I really love your thoughts and the way you give us glimpses of your magical life. Thank you very much for sharing your journey.
Greetings from southern east Sicily!
Valeria
Can we ALL visit?
Just not yet, but in a couple of years yes! 😋
Oooh, ciao Valeriooooo 🤝😘
In bocca al lupo con i tuoi progetti, Valeria! 🌱
Hi Valeria ,can I visit?
I agree it is SO important to take even a fraction of your dream and translate it into something you can attain in the here and now of your life. I sometimes feel so "exposed" in the world out there, that I've created a home where I can feel truly protected, hidden and loved. Life is good.
These seem like lovely letters to me. I close my eyes and imagine I'm being spoken to by an old, far away friend who is full of wisdom i need to hear
I grew up in a Big City in England.
I’ve always loved nature and animals.But never had the opportunity to be with either.
As an adult I moved away from city life and began a life in a medium size town, which had some countryside close by and 20minute drive to the Seaside.
I was livening with the wrong partner at the time and though I tryed to make the best of it, life was hard and often Cruel.And I got caught in this weird cycle.
An opportunity came my way and I went for it. This was good but some element from my old life were seeping into my new life .
I had some unbelievable hard choices to make, it was not easy at all.
My self an my second partner moved away from all the negative people and situations and began a new life in a new country.
It’s been an still is hard at times living here, but now I live in the middle of the countryside.It’s taken 30 + years to get here and it seemed impossible at the beginning.
To anyone reading this You Can Do It, keep Moving forward.❤️💜💚🌈
Oh wow, this so mirrors my experience...right down to the sneezing fits...lol!
I spent my first decade of adulthood living in cities and being really unhappy with it, until I learned to "practice" for the life I wanted right where I was. I grew little gardens in our tiny condo yard, I would start seeds in windowsills, and hang bird feeders outside our windows. I'd go explore the woods when I could get the time off to do so. I learned to paddle a canoe, how to walk in snowshoes, archery, and was practically an expert in chicken breeds before we owned our first acre.
I remember all too well that feeling of "this will never change", and it really was hard to bear. But it really is a falsehood. Everything changes, and when you're ready, you can steer those changes into the life that's right for you.
That is so well said, I will remember that, to ‘practice’ for the life you want - beautiful! Thank you for sharing, lovely to hear from others who went on a similar journey ❤️
I recently moved into a house with 4 other people (originally 5, but one moved out). At first I hated it. I only really know one person here and I hate hate hate being around crowds of people and parties, both of which are a regular occurrence here. But after a month, I've started to take advantage of and embrace the full social life here and I've found myself the perfect balance between having my space and spending time with others
Wow this is so lovely!… I remembered my ongoing sorrow in my early 20s. I am a childhood trauma survivor and I didn’t know I had CPTSD at that time. I became a lawyer but life was so hard for me, changed my occupation eventually. However my vicious inner critic did not get quiet whatever I accomplished. My inner critic’s only mission was to make me feel inferior, invaluable, unlovable and not enough. I quitted my career and moved to the US. I tried to pursue my law career in here as well but I couldn’t. Just lately, I have realized what was wrong with me. My only career is to make myself feel better right now whatever it takes. So, long story short is you take your emptiness wherever you go and whatever you do and whichever you have as long as you carry the traumas in your cells. Now my only dream is to achieve my full potential and share my healing journey with others in my native country to help the awareness level raise how our childhood experiences may ruin our entire life and makes us spending our lives without the living.
I can so relate to you.....
Love the pussy willows. Mine are just starting to bloom. I grew up in a rural area and from the age of 21 to 62 I lived in a small city. I am now living rural again and am so at peace because of the move. You can never be to old to get your dreams fulfilled. Thank you for your lovely vlogs. Take care.
Well said ❤️ my mother grew up in the projects of Puerto Rico and spent decades dreaming of having her own home in the countryside, she’s over 50 and finally got it! She knew with patience she’d get there. Lovely to hear your story, thank you and take care as well 🙏
@@lianatobias3741 Favorite quote. "It's not about age, it's about passion."
@@TheCottageFairy Happy for your mom.
I am about to be 62. Single woman with two jobs. I finally got my dream of buying seven acres. I’ve only owned it for four years. Blank canvas really. No water. No electric. Small amount of locust trees not my favorite). But those trees allowed me to hang a hammock and read, rest and plan. Since the purchase I’ve established water. Electric a camper. Planted 38 trees countless shrubs an orchard etc started the base of a home there is much to do. Until the virus hit I was on a steady path to establishing a home for myself. Although life does through out bumps in the road I will never stop pursuing my dream. This is where being stubborn pays off and the need to fulfill my own dream.
When I was in my late 20s I lived in a large city and yearned to live in the country! Finally it happened in my late 30s. I had always lived in cities (and in different countries) so I wasn't even sure I would like it once I got there. Earning a living was challenging, but I learned to live frugally. It actually became a joy to do so, and has made life much simpler, and finding things free or at bargain prices has become so much fun! Now I'm in my mid-60s (you still feel the same as in your mid 20s, except with more experience under your belt, and you wonder how you are suddenly at this seemingly large number that is your age)! I love my life now. Whatever I may have "sacrificed" to live in the country has been more than made up by the many joys I experience every day. No noise, no traffic, no light at night to block out the stars, beautiful woods to walk in, chirping birds at my feeder (and the occasional deer and fox), space to roam. If it's really what you want, it will come with time and patience. Paola is right - do the best you can to love where you are in this moment - to find the joys, to look for what is good and beautiful. Every moment is part of the journey, to be savoured as best we can, and learned from, and grow from. We are all blessed by these moments with The Cottage Fairy. Thank you Paola!💝 And thanks for the little glimpse of spring - and pussy willows!🌷
Just wanted to know...Which state do you live in
I'm also thinking about moving but still looking at different states and yours sounds amazing
Which state do you live in
I really wanna know❤❤❤
I live in Ontario, Canada!🇨🇦 😊
Thanks!!
Canada is such a beautiful country
@@tasha2267 It IS! I feel very blessed to live here.
I was married at 19. All I wanted was to belong to a family. I had a less than perfect upbringing and there was much pain and left home when I was 15 where I had to survive on my own.
I have had two marriages and 7 children. I have only known giving to everyone but myself.
I am creative, artistic and love my garden with my whole heart, as that gives me solace in this crazy world.
I now suffer from an autoimmune disease and am in pain constantly. Yet, I get out in my garden everyday, as it heals me to see each bloom as they greet me along the way.
Thank you for sharing, as even though we are on the opposite side of the planet, you in the USA and I in a small island in the South Pacific, I feel, connected.
Keep sharing. You are an angel without wings xxx
You're a beautiful, gifted, enlightened human being with the wisdom in such young age to have decide to follow your own path. To quote Thoreau: 'I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived... '
This is unrealistic, the life she presents is not real
Your voice is so calming and serene. Your students are so lucky to have such a kind and understanding teacher
Is she a teacher
3 days before Thanksgiving 18 yrs ago moved from City to Country. Much improvement happened but not too quickly to adjust & savor country life. And why the hustle of city was not the best cup of iced coffee at the time. I grew more wiser & slowed down when moving to the country. I live close to a river & old country bridge that when spring comes it calls me to its trails to breathe in the fresh air & enjoy the beauty that the city life does not give.
You choose the best topic each wk. Thank you for always giving such ideas to each of us to work on our own life's happiness! #choosejoy #choosewhatinspiresyou
Ah! Well said, your story is very inspiring, and your home sounds beautiful ❤️ thank you as always Deborah for your thoughtful comments, hugs to you and your sweet one
I audibly gasped when I saw how beautiful the hot air balloons are! Paola, I absolutely adore all of the videos you make, they are so inspiring. You are so wise and still have a childlike sense of wonder that most adults seem to lose somewhere along the way. Thank you for all that you do!
I could relate to what you said in this video, I was very unhappy where I lived before and did as much as I could to find happiness there until I could fully manifest my move back to my home state and to a rural area surrounded by woods. I'm very happy and at peace now in my new cottage in the woods. Many blessings. 💛❤️💜
Your videos are a gift. The visuals and the messages are such a calm moment in the day. Thank You for giving us a moment of peace and beauty and visual poetry. 🧡🍑🙌🏻Lisa
For nearly 20 years i thought i was going crazy as my health and mind deteriorated. I got tests done and found i had infections and metal poisoning and mold from work. I tried to do everything on my own , but it was only when i reached out recently for help that i found it. On the path from darkness i am finally finding light. And i found love around the same time. This video reasonated with me greatly. Xxx
Paola, this is SO SPOT ON advice for all of us in the season of waiting for our cottage dreams to come true. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us. God bless your heart 😊❤️
I grew up in the woods and love trees and the wind that talks through them and sunshine on my face and the wonderful smells that come from life and living..🥰
I like the outtakes at the end. I cannot wait to see a garden tour when the frost is over.
Much love from INDIA.❤️❤️.I always wanted a life like this but I can't .I am rubbing my ass off for getting a job in an organisation .When I watch your videos I always get emotional bcz somewhere I don't want to run after so called success. I just want to be satisfied and contempted like u. May god bless u❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I believe your contentment and sweet life will find you! This is just a chapter. Maybe the chapter you need to lay the foundation for the next chapter.
you will live your dream
God bless you too sweety 🍬🍭
May the divine guide you towards the path that leads to life. 😊
Mokshayni, you're not alone. There are many of us around the world who do not have a life like this. This person and her husband worked hard and were lucky. Many people work just as hard and are not lucky. You look like you're still very young. Give yourself time and if you can not have this life, you can still make a nice life for yourself. Go in a different direction. If I told you about some of my jobs when I was young, you would laugh and hopefully feel a little better about your own life. Best of luck to you.
@@scotsam7590 ❤️
I used to fantasize about living in a big beautiful house because I thought it meant stability and peace. I thought If I lived somewhere else or had more then things would be perfect. As I’ve continued living I’ve found such joy and comfort in little things. I’ve learned to love where I am even if it’s not the fanciest. I’ve learned to enjoy every little pleasure and see the magic in my life. This video was a much needed reminder to not take things for granted no matter the stage in the journey.
Thanks so much for sharing your content and journey 😊😊
Hi Paola. Just to say, since this video came out I've watched it a lot and am now finally realising my dream to move into the countryside. Thanks for the inspiration and for helping me keep the faith x
This makes me want to move away from everything 🥰 definitely bring bring peace before going to sleep
P.S. Dont u just love pussy willows?
Sometimes I wonder on the what ifs. I always find you there. 🤍
You make me feel calm. 🥀
Life is too short to live where you hate it. Moved back to my hometown and never been happier!
Thank you again from Russia, I loved Ireland. Once I've studied there, this time was so changeable in my life.. It was a start of my inner transformation as a human.. This air of the ocean, smiling faces..
I am currently a student and totally relating to how you felt as a student. I’m graduating next month and finally making my first step towards where I want to be, moving to the mountains! :) Whenever i watch your videos it feels like I’m receiving therapy
You are such a gifted tactile life storyteller...your gift is being received🙂
Great advise!! If I may, the following is my life philosophy: Always learn from the past, embrace the positive lesson and discard the negative baggage, live positively in the present, develop a proactive plan broken up in achievable goals for motivation & ultimately placing yourself where u want to be in the future. Understand and embrace that only u r responsible for ur life journey. Always respect others in their journey. Work steadfast, hard, humbly and quietly.
Your voice is so calming. Your message really hit close to home. Tears in my eyes when you said "learning to be satisfied where I currently am". I am in those 'between' places and sometimes it's far from easy, but I know I am in a working progress for my future, step by step. Thanks you. 💖
So I’m not the only one who sneezes 3 times in a row! 😛 Bless you!
😆 Me too. My work colleagues nicknamed me Three Sneeze Jo 🤧
I lived in a metro city for almost a decade pursuing my higher studies, initially I thought I would never move back home because I just loved the city lights, the shopping, the freedom but, they were all superficial reasons and with time the excitement faded away and my health deteriorated day by day , I used to sleep a lot yet, sleep deprived and always tired both physically and mentally. It took away a part of my soul.
Good choise🙏👍
What a great video, I have been away of my phone for a little bit, having a really hard time with depression and anxiety, and I open RUclips and suddenly your video comes out first.
And your words are so kind and truthful.
I really appreciate you sharing your videos, kindly ❤️
I think tomorrow will be a better day 😊
Have a great day ❤️
OMG how do you do it!? 🤔 Just when I think I couldn't love your videos any more 🥰 you come out with this gem of wisdom. Thank you again. I've had a stressful start to my birthday but you've just washed that stress away. Sigh... smile... 🙏
You know how precious you are? This video has something more, in a way: for those in town (like me, mother and w2ife with 3 kids) it's sometimes a fight to watch your videos. On one side they nourish me so deeply. On the other side a sense of impossibility arises in me and I can sometimes end up feeling more trapped than I was. This is not your responsability: it's mine. Isometimes work on this inner voice telling me: "She can. I can't". Ever happened? I'll keep watching your videos anyway, I love them. But this one touched a depth that overcomes space and limits. So thank you. (From Milan, Italy).
Now I can be firm on my belief that my tomorrow can be better than today. But first, I also need to appreciate and value all those situations and conditions in which I live today. Thank you for this video Paola.! I am learning to be happy and content..!
I've enjoyed collecting firewood with my dog in preparation for the winter, every dog walk feels like an accomplishment.
I love reading these comments because I realize that there are many more like minded people in life than I could ever imagine. Paola has brought us out into this community of people who appreciate, admire and/or aspire to rural life. I especially like reading comments from older people in their 50’s and 60’s who get just as much enjoyment from watching these videos as I do. My aging mother lives with me, so I have to be in the city. I agree with and am grateful for the reminder to create such a life for myself here to enjoy. I am also encouraged by comments that remind me that I can have this life at any age. Thank you Paola and Cottage Fairy community ♥️🌷♥️🌷♥️🌷♥️🌷♥️🌷♥️
I visited the Grand Canyon today and thought of this channel when sitting in silence alone listening to the wind. As always, thanks for a great video.
Thank you for existing, Paola. Thank you for creating RUclips account
Learning to be content in any situation is a learned skill. But so very valuable.
I think we can never truly be happy unless we have experienced sadness..life is such a blessing..i am much older but i embrace my age as i have found i have less "angst" +appreciate the little things that are soo important..i also do not see problems but face challenges..like my darling dad said..its all in our minds 🤗🤗🐾🐾
My journey is starting to live a more greener way and upcycling my items to more useful in my everyday.
I’m lucky to have a home in the country, and one in the city, but my heart is in the country. Life may bring me there full time yet!
Thank you for helping me embrace me and the moment. It's like when I hear your video time stop slow down. I am starting to enjoy existing and everything outer no longer seem to matter. My environment was driving my existence but not anymore.
So thank you🖤
I love how you enjoy your quiet place and treasure every moment of your life. It’s my pleasure to know you! Stay happy and take care. ❤️
I was crying watching this. I’m at a weird stage of life right now. I’m from New York and last year my husband had a job opportunity and free schooling but it was in Texas. Never in my life have I ever thought of moving here. I was miserable at the thought. I did not want to leave the east coast. As a matter of fact, my dream was the move down south to the Carolinas once we decided to move from New York. My dream did not happen. It crushed me. I have been in Texas for over a year now, and ever day more and more.. I feel like yearn to just leave here and go back to the east coast. I want to be with nature, the big trees, the running water, the birds chirping. When I am here, I feel like everything looks dead, my backyard barely has grass, the creeks are always dried up. It depresses me even more than I am since I already suffer from anxiety and depression. I just pray one day in the future my husband’s schooling will pay off and we can go wherever we want, preferably again...to the Carolinas. My soul needs it. It’s like my soul feels alive when I am in nature, just looking at the beauty of it all.
it will be well one day. "not all of the life has to be happy in order to be fruitful". try to enjoy smth in Texas now, cz you aren't going to live there forever. and keep fighting 'em mental issues, you're doing well.^^
Same. Moved with my fiance to FL. It's similar to TX. No mountains or shape to it. There's no reasons just hot 24/7.
You're a woman after my own heart. Moved to Florida 6 years ago from Long Island. I cried for 1& 1/2 years. Was completely miserable. I kept saying " I want to go home". Well we couldn't afford it anymore. We are retired and the cost of living there is crazy. I one day said to God, if this is where you want me to be, I'll accept it. From that day on I've been fine. I am also an avid nature lover. Fed my birds everyday.
This is, literally, exactly what I’ve needed for the last day and a half. Honestly an answer to a real prayer. All my love, thank you Paola 💕
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You " I encourage you to embrace your current location and pour your love into living your best life." It soothed my heart! ❤
I was being emotionally mentally, and physically abused by my biological sperm donor, I am getting a restraining order on him next Friday, I can't wait to walk outside and not have to run back into my home scared of what he would do, I am a senior this year, and after graduation i am planning to fully write, read, and do art, and thrift, and donate, its going to be a fun summer, I will be discovering what to do with my life and slowly living it, and finding out what makes me happy, what makes me just get up and do something fun, doing more simple things, enjoying the process and outcome of them, watching it all happen simply and surely. Thank you for sharing your video, it gives me an outline of where i can be and what I can already start putting into my life and live it better. Thank you lovely, blessed be.
This hits home. Your words are so beautiful as a teenager I really needed this thankyou!
"I needed to know that I could build a wonderful life whether or not things were perfect" I was also stuck in a nightmare situation three years ago at work. I was contractually bound for the year, but I committed to trying my very best to still live a satisfying life. Of course, I still wouldn't choose to go back to that time in my life, because I was sad, but I am really proud that I did find lots of things to be thankful for and joyous of during that challenging season. Reminds me that I am tenacious and can always find gratitude.
I truly admire your soft voice, engaging thoughts, beautifully shot video, the scenery you surround yourself with ♡ it's enhancing that life has many ways to uncover beauty. Thank you dearly
Your videos speaks healing. I always adore this quiet life living in a country side. The smell of fresh air, the spund pf trees and birds,, calmness and healing
As someone constantly daydreaming about the future, this video made me question a lot of things. I'm always waiting and waiting and waiting for a chance to finally be content with the life I have and fully appreciate it. "When I finally live with my long distance boyfriend". "When I finally get that job I've been working so hard for". "When I can finally exchange the city for a little town surrounded by nature". I get so worked up in what will be, that I forget to enjoy what's happening right now. Thank you, Paola.
Coppolas Vision come true: a country girl being the next Rembrandt. Such an artful series of films
I just recently found your channel and I wanted you to know how inspiring to me it is. I'm 39 and it's my dream to live in a beautiful quiet place like yours. I currently live in a suburb of a large city, so my life is quite busy and loud with two young children. I do have a small balcony garden where I grow vegetables and herbs. This is my quiet retreat for now but I hope to one day get a small mountain cottage where I can have a bigger garden and chickens. ❤️
Meu sonho é viver perto de uma montanha.Vomo vc vivo em uma cidade grande no Brasil. Aqui sobra violência e falta paz. Talvez um dia,com a idade que tenho desejo realizar esse sonho...paz e luz pra vc
I have moved 36 times I'm my life. First because I was a military brat and then because my husband's job moved us every 2ish years. Early on I adopted the adage "bloom where you are planted". All the wile learning, experimenting, and dreaming of my someday garden. Now, this year, at the age of 57 I am slowly planting that dream garden. My joy has been in the journey. The things I have learned. The people I have met. Most of all the family I have raised!
Watching these videos offer a nice break from this crazy upside down world we are in now.
The way you speak is so poetic... It's like every Wednesday, I get to hear such wonderful stuff and I get motivated to work on ky tiny poetry channel, even though it has very few subs and views, I keep working on it because creators and amazing people like you motivate me❤
Wherever you are you can make it cozy and lovely. You can make it your own and reflect what you love.
Thank you for sharing your journey; and some very good advice. I am now 70 years old and we finally moved to my ideal place. So better late than never. In So. Utah we are out every day exploring, enjoying nature, petroglyphs, pictographs, ghost towns, with the mountains and lakes just above us minutes away. You are a joy to follow, and am so happy you live in such a beautiful place.
I always feel so peaceful watching your videos ♥️ I always feel so inspired by your cottage and art ☺️
Oh! ❤️ thank you, I am so happy to hear that
@@TheCottageFairy I looked at your Etsy page the other day ♥️ the hot air balloon with the bunnies is so cute! And magical ☺️
The message in this video is perfect (just like the visuals, Paola’s narration etc) 👌🏼💕
After years of struggling with depression, I finally learned some key lessons. Chief among those lessons was the simple truth, "This will change," or, alternately, "Things will not always be like this!" I remind myself of that truth often, and I am grateful to be in a better place now and for the last 12 years or so. Gratitude is so important, and I hear you express gratitude often in your videos. Thank you for your beautiful, calming, positive, uplifting videos. I am so glad I discovered you!
As someone who's not contended with my current place of stay, I'm comforted in the knowledge that I can develop the right mindset to make it a little better. Thanks, Paola 💛
Same here.... my life in nowhere land, is such an adjustment for a Social person, yet in these videos it becomes lovely
....that snow scene at the end when you fell was cute-lol
The hot air balloon!!!!! I had one come right over my house once from behind.
They probably got a kick seeing my jaw drop and my face light up.
Late last year, I just moved from a city life to a rural provincial life. For years I have been praying for it and thank God it finally happened. Living in a fast-paced city was good, there are so many things to do and places to go. Yet it felt like time was too fast there, I sometimes barely have time for self-care and got no time to relax. But when the pandemic happened it slowed time, yet still the busy city life was not healthy for me mentally. When I moved to a rural area, of course there was a lot of adjustments (and i am still adjusting now), esp that there are things we can find in the city that we can't find in the rural, but it made me more creative in finding alternatives for the things I get used to while in the city. What takeaway I have from living in a rural place is contentment and simplicity. There really is beauty in simplicity, and life is more enjoyable when there is contentment. I'm just glad I get to take care of myself now, more than ever.
Que bommm. Fico feliz por vc. Queria muito um dia fazer essa viagem.
I love your videos! I find them like a bag of donuts, I just can’t stop watching them! They are stunning visually, intellectually and calming to listen to. Also, your sweaters are amazing! Is knitting one of your crafts I wonder?
Haha! Thank you so much, I appreciate it ❤️
I am not a knitter but would love to try my hand at it again someday!
I always admire the sweaters too! They are so pretty! But then again I admire everything about the videos! Like someone else said they're like a balm- yet somehow still stimulating in that they lift my spirits & my hopes! I truly so look forward to when I get a notification of a new video! Thank you so much Paola for sharing your life, thoughts, & your part of the world with us! You are a blessing to so many!