The honesty is a tricky one for at least three reasons. Lots of autistic people have met very hostile receptions from employers and co-workers when they reveal that they are autistic. This may be changing but the change is slow. The next reason is that there is a lot of undiagnosed autistic adults out there. Some may have some suspicions, others don't. So how are you to be honest about something when, to the best of your knowledge, the answer to the question, "Are you autistic?" is either "No," or "I don't know, I've never really thought about it." Then there is the question, when do you say, "I'm autistic." When you've self-diagnosed? When you've got a formal diagnosis, which may take years to get, or, depending upon where you live, be unaffordable.
Thanks for posting this. As an autistic adult who now works for myself, I have to say I'm quite scared of ever re-entering a traditional workplace. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in my struggles. P.S. I agree with the other commenter that the constant cutting between shots only makes your video harder to watch. I scrolled away and listened instead, and that was fine :)
Being "honest about it" more often that not doesn't lead to better accomondations. It leads to mocking and condenscention from colleagues, and easy scapegoating and laying off. Even for workplaces and managers that say they're all about 'diversity' and 'accomondation'. Also a small tip: don't change camera angles too often just for the sake of it. If you want to have some variety, you can do it at the end of "thought chunks" (when you've made a concrete point etc, as opposed to mid-sentence at random which can be jarring).
@@unconventionall-autism I guess. It's sort of like violence is bad, but when caught on a war one is better to duck when bullets are fired, since lamenting about how "in principle people shouldn't fire at each other" wont help!
Is there a specific test for autism? It seems that my granddaughter has been given labels like ADD, sensory processing disorder and the like, but nobody has come out and said anything about autism. She is very honest and has no filter, but she is the sweetest 12 year old you will ever meet. If you tell her what she said hurt your feelings she is totally shocked and feels terrible. She never wants to hurt anyone. I know that now and we simply talk about what she said and I comfort her and tell her I know she did not mean it and let her know how much I love her. She can literally hyper focus on the fact that she hurt someone's feelings and this can go on for an entire day. She just beats herself up about it. She has trouble keeping friends and now I can see why this might be the reason for that. I hate that this happens to her.
Have you ever spoken to the school about it? To go down the NHS route, they need to be onboard really. Failing that, there a bunch of private people who specialise in diagnosis but that wouldn't be enough to get additional funding in school if required. You'd need the NHS for that and the wait is about 3 years.
Most practicing doctors are crap at diagnosing, or have decades old misconception about how autism presents. Basically unless they specialize on the subject, it's just one half-digested thing they half-know about from their studies, plus whatever misconceptions they have about it (like "she's making eye contact and is mostly pleasant, can't have autism"). The thing is, if she has some autistic traits, she might very well have autism if she has ADD, as the co-occurence of autism and ADD is very high (compared to the chances of the general population having autism, a person with ADD having autism too is much higher, same for the inverse - person with autism having ADD).
Subscribed! I'm in a similar situation as you, late diagnosed after being a successful employee and now a manager for years but succumbing to the "peter principle" and been through some hell, which is what led me to seek diagnosis. I like your content but don't do so many viewpoint changes with the camera and get rid of the background music.
Thank you for sharing that story and I understand only too well the period you're in. I also massively appreciate the feedback on the video and will use it on the next one.
Your camera zooming in and out constantly makes your videos almost impossible for me to watch. Actually, not almost unwatchable. Genuinely unwatchable. Sorry.
@@unconventionall-autism Maybe reduce the frequency of cuts between the perspectives a little. Drop the zooms and see how the audience reacts. Its understandable to have jump cuts to edit speech mistakes but don't over do it. Record a second take. You have good lighting and framing.
The two perspectives are ok, but you still cut between them too frequently. It’s hard to explain. It’s like I just get focused and then you move. I can either watch the image, but not concentrate on what you’re saying, or shut my eyes and listen. I can’t do both. I have a similar problem with following someone else scrolling on a computer, particularly if they’re talking to me at the same time. I don’t know if it’s an autistic thing or not, but I can generally only focus on one thing at a time.
@@unconventionall-autism: No, I found that you were flicking far too frequently between the two. Use more footage from one angle and then go gently to the other angle at a point in the talk where the topic ~ or the angle on the topic ~ changes.
Really? I had to say I was autistic at work, and I had the god damn VP of DEI try to get me fired. If you have to say you are, you need to set your self up for legal protection.
I agree with you. You need to know you are safe first before coming out as autistic or as anything else. I have personally chosen not to inform people except my manager who I know is safe. Some colleagues use words like autistic or schizophrenic as insults so I don't want them to know. I prefer if they think I'm arrogant or rude. When you come out people might judge, invalidate or mock you, especially if you're not a white cis privileged man even though it might happen even in this case
This video is misguided. As an AuDHD person, ideally I could be authentic, honest, and open in the workplace. However, not all coworkers, bosses, or companies ascribe to the same ideals. Backstabbing, judgement, and competition are rampant in the workplace and this results in a form of harassment and bullying akin to the worst childhood playground imaginable.
The honesty is a tricky one for at least three reasons. Lots of autistic people have met very hostile receptions from employers and co-workers when they reveal that they are autistic. This may be changing but the change is slow.
The next reason is that there is a lot of undiagnosed autistic adults out there. Some may have some suspicions, others don't. So how are you to be honest about something when, to the best of your knowledge, the answer to the question, "Are you autistic?" is either "No," or "I don't know, I've never really thought about it."
Then there is the question, when do you say, "I'm autistic." When you've self-diagnosed? When you've got a formal diagnosis, which may take years to get, or, depending upon where you live, be unaffordable.
Brilliant comments and something to address in the next video for sure. Thank you.
Thanks for posting this. As an autistic adult who now works for myself, I have to say I'm quite scared of ever re-entering a traditional workplace. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in my struggles.
P.S. I agree with the other commenter that the constant cutting between shots only makes your video harder to watch. I scrolled away and listened instead, and that was fine :)
I often say I couldn't go back now. But if I had to I would certainly be honest about the way I see the world.
Being "honest about it" more often that not doesn't lead to better accomondations. It leads to mocking and condenscention from colleagues, and easy scapegoating and laying off. Even for workplaces and managers that say they're all about 'diversity' and 'accomondation'.
Also a small tip: don't change camera angles too often just for the sake of it. If you want to have some variety, you can do it at the end of "thought chunks" (when you've made a concrete point etc, as opposed to mid-sentence at random which can be jarring).
@@foljs5858 you've just summed up everything that's wrong with society.
@@unconventionall-autism I guess. It's sort of like violence is bad, but when caught on a war one is better to duck when bullets are fired, since lamenting about how "in principle people shouldn't fire at each other" wont help!
Is there a specific test for autism? It seems that my granddaughter has been given labels like ADD, sensory processing disorder and the like, but nobody has come out and said anything about autism. She is very honest and has no filter, but she is the sweetest 12 year old you will ever meet. If you tell her what she said hurt your feelings she is totally shocked and feels terrible. She never wants to hurt anyone. I know that now and we simply talk about what she said and I comfort her and tell her I know she did not mean it and let her know how much I love her. She can literally hyper focus on the fact that she hurt someone's feelings and this can go on for an entire day. She just beats herself up about it. She has trouble keeping friends and now I can see why this might be the reason for that. I hate that this happens to her.
Have you ever spoken to the school about it? To go down the NHS route, they need to be onboard really. Failing that, there a bunch of private people who specialise in diagnosis but that wouldn't be enough to get additional funding in school if required. You'd need the NHS for that and the wait is about 3 years.
Most practicing doctors are crap at diagnosing, or have decades old misconception about how autism presents. Basically unless they specialize on the subject, it's just one half-digested thing they half-know about from their studies, plus whatever misconceptions they have about it (like "she's making eye contact and is mostly pleasant, can't have autism"). The thing is, if she has some autistic traits, she might very well have autism if she has ADD, as the co-occurence of autism and ADD is very high (compared to the chances of the general population having autism, a person with ADD having autism too is much higher, same for the inverse - person with autism having ADD).
Totally resonates. Spent 26 years doing most of this.
This is just another one of you channels... It's very weird to leave a positive comment on your own video from a different channel.
What's with the schizophrenic visual editing?
Subscribed! I'm in a similar situation as you, late diagnosed after being a successful employee and now a manager for years but succumbing to the "peter principle" and been through some hell, which is what led me to seek diagnosis. I like your content but don't do so many viewpoint changes with the camera and get rid of the background music.
Thank you for sharing that story and I understand only too well the period you're in. I also massively appreciate the feedback on the video and will use it on the next one.
Your camera zooming in and out constantly makes your videos almost impossible for me to watch.
Actually, not almost unwatchable. Genuinely unwatchable. Sorry.
I never even notice this stuff
Thanks for the feedback, I'll take it onboard. So the 2 perspectives are OK?
@@unconventionall-autism Maybe reduce the frequency of cuts between the perspectives a little. Drop the zooms and see how the audience reacts. Its understandable to have jump cuts to edit speech mistakes but don't over do it. Record a second take. You have good lighting and framing.
The two perspectives are ok, but you still cut between them too frequently. It’s hard to explain. It’s like I just get focused and then you move. I can either watch the image, but not concentrate on what you’re saying, or shut my eyes and listen. I can’t do both. I have a similar problem with following someone else scrolling on a computer, particularly if they’re talking to me at the same time. I don’t know if it’s an autistic thing or not, but I can generally only focus on one thing at a time.
@@unconventionall-autism: No, I found that you were flicking far too frequently between the two. Use more footage from one angle and then go gently to the other angle at a point in the talk where the topic ~ or the angle on the topic ~ changes.
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Really? I had to say I was autistic at work, and I had the god damn VP of DEI try to get me fired. If you have to say you are, you need to set your self up for legal protection.
And then it's definitely time to move on. Why would you want to live in a world where people don't understand you?
I agree with you. You need to know you are safe first before coming out as autistic or as anything else. I have personally chosen not to inform people except my manager who I know is safe. Some colleagues use words like autistic or schizophrenic as insults so I don't want them to know. I prefer if they think I'm arrogant or rude. When you come out people might judge, invalidate or mock you, especially if you're not a white cis privileged man even though it might happen even in this case
This video is misguided. As an AuDHD person, ideally I could be authentic, honest, and open in the workplace. However, not all coworkers, bosses, or companies ascribe to the same ideals. Backstabbing, judgement, and competition are rampant in the workplace and this results in a form of harassment and bullying akin to the worst childhood playground imaginable.
How can I get a formal diagnosis? I don't know if I'm on the spectrum for certain, but I suspect I am.
As an adult, I'd certainly consider a private assessment. It will answer a lot of questions and give you peace of mind.