The ghosting part happened to me. I handled it like a gent. A few months later she invites me through a friend to spend a Sunday together in a group of friends. I politely declined.
Well handled. It's pretty much a given that ghosting will happen to a young man on the dating market. What you can control, however, is how you deal with it. - James
@@Gent.Z I do appreciate your quote; "What you can control, however, is how you deal with it.". That particular concept is of a stoic philosophy. I am not certain if it was Seneca or Marcus Aurelius, but I've heard said as follows, "You can not control what happens to you in life, but one can control how you deal with it."
Never allow it to affect your self esteem or how you value yourself. It’s Rejection is hurtful and disappointing but life moves on and you will get over it.
When it happened to me . she said " I am not currently looking for anything ect" I responded with "very well ,I wish you well " and she responded in kind . I am still incredibly fond of her solely from the way she articulated and politely and respectfully declined .
Don’t take it personally. Move on accept that it happened. If you ever see her speak but don’t give her a lot of your time. Whenever I approach women don’t have a losing mindset. It’s just a friendly conversation between a man (yourself) and a woman that you find attractive. Her body language will tell you if she is interested. Move on and go live life.
Recently I got rejected by the girl I like. I had asked her out a week before and didn’t acknowledge it wake I know that she heard it. It was yesterday as I write this that she replied. She said that she enjoys my company as a friend but doesn’t want me the way I had wanted her. I followed her text with a simple graceful accepting that and followed it up with a joke at nobody’s expense.
Thank you so much for generously sharing your time and expertise to address such a subject.👏🏻✨ If I may add: gents, one can never be too polite when it comes to dealing with a rejection. How a lady treats you is a reflection of her as a person. Keep on being your awesome, classy and polite self. The right lady will prize and appreciate such a gesture🤩🙌
As always. Great advice and wise counsel. I hope our younger guys learn to appreciate women,but not to idealize and pedestalize them. A good woman can add to your life. But she's still a flawed,fallible human being. Not an angel who came to earth to heal you.
Regarding the first kiss I recommend asking. “Would you like a kiss?” “May I kiss you?” Timing is important but it is an adult approach. If things become more intimate asking permission to touch or do certain things again ensures consent. Some women are irrationally intimidated by men and may not push your hand away thinking you have consent. Asking allows her to use her words. (Boy I sound like a school teacher there). Great video.
I actually approached a very cute girl in the train today n got a negative response.. instead of feeling down, I played it cool n forget abt it bcs I get to learn where to improve n be more confident as time goes on.. its crazy how this video got released today
It all changes when you realize that you only want to be around people who want to be around you. So if she rejects you, she doesn't want to be around you--be glad that she let you know that, and go find someone who does!
I am impressed how you describe these forms of rejection and the gentleman way of handing. You speak of these subjects directly and yet do it with class. There are lots of articles and videos discussing such matters but almost all are too nuance and young (and old) men are left with using their imagination to fill in the gaps. The latter is not much help. Using your experience of getting rejected but handling it with dignity gives men a good role model to look up to.
I'm approaching 60 and as one might imagine, I have had a measure of success and rejection and I can say that this is absolutley sound advice. I have been rejected at the kiss and I can say that if you pass it of with an added smile of amusement, as if it's not a big deal at all, that can build a little intrigue. women have lots of experiences too and have seen the same reactions often more than once. I your reaction stands out, they do notice and it makes them curious. like a cat
I must say I knew all you describe and I usually act like this and it was great to hear you because sometimes, although you have a plan and you stick to it, it still hurts. And it's wonderful and very healing to hear, and of course reinforce, the idea that you are behaving in a good way although it hurts. Thank you.
I met a girl at a batch party I talked to her and invited her to tea ,then I texted her when i reached home after sometime I asked her out again for tea on text now in a assertive tone she said that you are a nice person but I am not interested so pls don’t waste your precious time I am a student of medicine and she is my batchmate I cross by her every day and think about our first meeting I think that I was foolish because I was assertive and foolish now that I still in awe of her is that a sign of weakness or am I not mature enough
As a follow up to being rejected when you are a bit further along with her: don't beg, bargain, or grovel. These things cheapen and weaken you both in her perspective and yours.
Rejection is a harsh word in the dating context. You have to put yourself out there to gain time with a potential partner, but you often can’t predict how the other person will react to you. It is honest to be able to say that this person isn’t it for me. It works both ways, gentlemen. Don’t ghost a woman when you said that you want to see her again. Have a real conversation and clearly state that she isn’t for you but you wish her well. I respect anyone who can manage both honesty and kindness.
One more thing you might mention - and that is, while no means no (and it's always safe to play it that way) - don't apologize for the pass. That, believe it or not, was advice I got from my mother when I was about nine - long before I even thought about dating.
Rejection can be a massive confidence killer, among other things. It's because of rejection that I needed a self-imposed mental, physical and emotional overhaul. Now, I'M the one I'm trying to impress. 😉
It's important to impress yourself before trying to impress others. I have some upcoming videos that might help you with what you're going through. Stick around. -James
When the right moment comes just tell them something like: "I just want you to be happy with or without me..." The idea is to give them pleasure, not to get pleasure from them; because only after they (women) feel happy we (men) are entitled to feel happy as well. Kool video btw, SUBSCRIBED! 😎👍🏽
emasculating a hypothetical boyfriend you don't even know is real is just a sign of insecurity, even if implied in a joking manner. this comes off as insulting to both the man and woman, but a woman prone to cheating won't mind this. there's someone for everyone.
Rejection is part of the game of life. It comes in many forms. Get used to it. Players don't have time to be effected by rejection. The future is much more interesting.
I think we've all had a few rejections over the years, and a few ladies who've jumped our bones, so to speak. I was once "dumped" by a gorgeous girl who wanted to "see" a friend of mine's brother. She was concerned I wouldn't take it well and take it out on the chap. I reminded her that it is not within my gift to choose who she wishes to be with.... That's all you need to know.
Is it common to be ghosted after even kissing each other? I met a girl this summer through Hinge, and we texted each other every day. We also sent 30-40 voice messages to each other. The first date was fantastic and she wanted to meet again, but before the second date she canceled due to family problems. So it was understandable and after a few weeks I asked how everything was going and she said things had gotten a lot better. I didn't plan to ask her out but I still wanted to communicate so I kept texting her. But now she has stopped writing to me. Last time we chatted was 1 month ago. I don't really understand what I have done wrong. Has anyone gone thru a similar story?
You may not have done anything 'wrong', she may just be in a different place after her family situation, or work may have changed, etc.. Whatever her reasons, it does seem like it's best to move on...
Take salsa dancing lessons. There are invariably twice as many women as men. 1) You will learn very quickly who likes you. 2) Your confidence will go through the roof even in regular places: You will learn the true use of the word "next". 😉
I think if you sail past the cold approach and other preliminary forms of rejection, but you get the sex rejection, that means you've got a decent woman. You need to just be cool and not take personally. In a way, it's a good thing.
On a second date, do not make plans to see each other again unless it is her idea. Otherwise, you wait a three or four days so she can develop her sense of mystery surrounding you and then you can ask her out again. On a second date, do not be in a place where you will introduce her to your friends. You should be in place where it is just you and her. Never be in a place with your friends or her friends if you can help it. In fact, avoid this at all costs (introducing friends deliberately is something you do after you are already a "committed" couple, though sometimes a woman's friends in the early stages will "mysteriously" show up. I have some ideas about what to do in this situation, but you should be able to figure that out on your own.) The last points you make are excellent. And, by the way, I probably have no idea what I am talking about, but this is the wisdom that I would impart to a young man.
I’ve found that going in for a kiss slightly before she is ready for it, and letting her pull away from it is actually helpful. It shows as a man you aggressively go for what you want, which turns women on. Also makes them feel that they may have missed their only opportunity to kiss you. Better off trying early than not getting another opportunity later. However I never kiss on the first date unless I already know the woman.
do you have statistics to back this up? 😂 since when has aggressive non-consentual escalation ever been attractive to women? most of the complaints you hear about these days are of overly aggressive men going too fast and leaving her thoughts and feelings in the gutter. you should probably do some introspection.
@@johndoe1274 It’s happened 3 times already this year. And it’s not non-consensual. You do this with a woman who you are hanging out with one on one. A woman who hangs out one on one with a man knows it is partially or possibly romantic. You have to be able to read between the lines. If you tell a woman you want to kiss her, and she says no, but the vibe does not go bad after that, it’s a sign you can try later. If the vibe goes bad between you two, then you don’t go for it. Either way you move in for the kiss slow enough for her to pull away.
I love it when a woman ghosts me, then months later bumps into me in public while I'm in the company of another beautiful woman. I'm sure the optics are memorable for her and nothing gets said, not even a "hello". A while later, I can relish on the look on her face. Being nice does go a long way however, Karma gets them every time.
I don't think I have ever met someone who met their partner by chance on the street so I think if you are brave enough to do such a thing you probably don't have any issues with rejection.
Not everyone is going to be attracted to you and you are not going to be attracted to everyone either. that is the wat it is. Everyone gets rejected and more than once. If it happens to you just pull up your feelings of self confidence and know that you are fine. Jeff
@@simplyspecial69 😂😂😂😂 James is a natural for that role. Or with his boxing,being a musician,and goth background, he could play Eric Draven in The Crow.
Pro Tip: If she has been touching her hair, playing with it. She laughs at your dumb jokes and looks you in the eye…gently hold her hand. If she tightens her fingers around your hand…pull her towards you, she will kiss you
@@Gent.Z thank you, Kemo Sabe. I’m very happy for you by the way. Your channel is growing, rapidly, because you have a servants heart. Make time to have fun and enjoy the journey.
not surprised she rejected you if you tried to arrange 3rd meeting while still on a 2nd date😂 this isn't a relationship yet. you need to make her unsure if you will want 3rd meeting and wait a few days, at the end of the date just say BYE, you still have her number and she knows it. you gave yourself on a plate to her, tied yourself up to her.. women HATE that. she would have to be wild about you in order not to shake your attachment off her at this stage... sometimes it just flows out of people and they want to genuinely do things together, but there is clear enthusiasm and openness in such case. more often though it takes time. LET HER BREATHE.
And women wonder why they struggle with men. Men hate these kinds of senseless games. If things were going well and I brought up a third date, but she pulled back, I would assume she's not interested, move on, and hope she finds someone she actually wants to spend time with...
The ghosting part happened to me. I handled it like a gent. A few months later she invites me through a friend to spend a Sunday together in a group of friends. I politely declined.
Well handled. It's pretty much a given that ghosting will happen to a young man on the dating market. What you can control, however, is how you deal with it. - James
@@Gent.Z I do appreciate your quote; "What you can control, however, is how you deal with it.". That particular concept is of a stoic philosophy. I am not certain if it was Seneca or Marcus Aurelius, but I've heard said as follows, "You can not control what happens to you in life, but one can control how you deal with it."
respect
The video I was ashamed to ask to, but that I needed
Glad to be of service. - James
Same
@@Gent.Z You make a great content. You speak so well that you sound british. Cheers from Versailles
@@LetsBoogieLetsDance He's from Alabama.
@@Thitithen_of_Wome
Born in Alabama. Raised in Wales. Moved to London at age 18.
Love this. Don't yell at the women and call her names. 😂😐
Thanks, Jade. It should just be common sense, really. - James
@@Gent.ZOf course. 😂 It's comical and sad that this sometimes happens. Men need this channel❣️
Never allow it to affect your self esteem or how you value yourself. It’s Rejection is hurtful and disappointing but life moves on and you will get over it.
Absolutely. - James
I'm a woman older enough to be your mother, but I really enjoy your channel!
I love gentlemen♪
When it happened to me . she said " I am not currently looking for anything ect" I responded with "very well ,I wish you well " and she responded in kind . I am still incredibly fond of her solely from the way she articulated and politely and respectfully declined .
Gentleman, value yourselves and you will realize that it is their loss.
Excelent video! I wish I had seen it 30 years ago. Thanks.
Glad to be of service. Thanks for watching.
- James
I wish I could have seen it 40 years ago!
Video very well done! I like it!
I know about rejection. 100% rejections since I was 13, and now I’m 51. Heading other directions in life.
Your content is getting really accurate to my life
Well, in the case of this video, I'm sorry to hear that. But I'm glad my content is useful and relevant to you. Thanks for watching. - James
Very good and useful advice you gave here, for every young men.
I always assume that any woman who rejects me is a good judge of character.
First post that made me deeply laugh all day 😊 ty 🌿
Thank you! two days ago i've been ghosted by a lady. This video help me a lot.
Think of rejection as information. Either the timing isn’t right, you’re not right for her, or she’s not right for you. All good information.
Don’t take it personally. Move on accept that it happened. If you ever see her speak but don’t give her a lot of your time. Whenever I approach women don’t have a losing mindset. It’s just a friendly conversation between a man (yourself) and a woman that you find attractive. Her body language will tell you if she is interested. Move on and go live life.
Well said. It's not a win versus loss, it's a potentially mutually beneficial interaction. If she's not interested, she's not right for you. - James
Thank you brother
Such mature and great (and gentlemanly!) advice!
Thanks, Scott. James
Recently I got rejected by the girl I like. I had asked her out a week before and didn’t acknowledge it wake I know that she heard it. It was yesterday as I write this that she replied. She said that she enjoys my company as a friend but doesn’t want me the way I had wanted her. I followed her text with a simple graceful accepting that and followed it up with a joke at nobody’s expense.
Thank you so much for generously sharing your time and expertise to address such a subject.👏🏻✨
If I may add: gents, one can never be too polite when it comes to dealing with a rejection. How a lady treats you is a reflection of her as a person. Keep on being your awesome, classy and polite self. The right lady will prize and appreciate such a gesture🤩🙌
@@dioneiakunz4836 Thank you for sharing a lady’s perspective on this important topic. -James
Those musical interludes 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Glad you appreciate it. I'm putting a lot of time into editing to make these videos more engaging. - James
@@Gent.Z absolutely! It’s certainly entertaining!
As always. Great advice and wise counsel.
I hope our younger guys learn to appreciate women,but not to idealize and pedestalize them.
A good woman can add to your life. But she's still a flawed,fallible human being. Not an angel who came to earth to heal you.
Thanks, Sam. I know you speak from experience and I appreciate your wisdom as always. - James
Regarding the first kiss I recommend asking. “Would you like a kiss?” “May I kiss you?” Timing is important but it is an adult approach. If things become more intimate asking permission to touch or do certain things again ensures consent. Some women are irrationally intimidated by men and may not push your hand away thinking you have consent. Asking allows her to use her words. (Boy I sound like a school teacher there). Great video.
I actually approached a very cute girl in the train today n got a negative response.. instead of feeling down, I played it cool n forget abt it bcs I get to learn where to improve n be more confident as time goes on.. its crazy how this video got released today
It all changes when you realize that you only want to be around people who want to be around you. So if she rejects you, she doesn't want to be around you--be glad that she let you know that, and go find someone who does!
Very nice P.S.A - should be broadcast
Thanks Suzanne
-James
I am impressed how you describe these forms of rejection and the gentleman way of handing. You speak of these subjects directly and yet do it with class. There are lots of articles and videos discussing such matters but almost all are too nuance and young (and old) men are left with using their imagination to fill in the gaps. The latter is not much help. Using your experience of getting rejected but handling it with dignity gives men a good role model to look up to.
Thank you very much. I try to make the content I wished already existed and to create videos that are genuinely useful. - James
I'm approaching 60 and as one might imagine, I have had a measure of success and rejection and I can say that this is absolutley sound advice. I have been rejected at the kiss and I can say that if you pass it of with an added smile of amusement, as if it's not a big deal at all, that can build a little intrigue. women have lots of experiences too and have seen the same reactions often more than once. I your reaction stands out, they do notice and it makes them curious. like a cat
Nicely put, sir!
I don’t know how this channel appeared on my feed but I’m a fan since 3 months ago. Greetings from Perú. Gabriel
I must say I knew all you describe and I usually act like this and it was great to hear you because sometimes, although you have a plan and you stick to it, it still hurts. And it's wonderful and very healing to hear, and of course reinforce, the idea that you are behaving in a good way although it hurts. Thank you.
That jacket is amazing! Could you tell me where it's from?
Amazing video! I would like to see a video about how the gentleman James himself lives in his apartment and how it’s furnished.
I met a girl at a batch party I talked to her and invited her to tea ,then I texted her when i reached home after sometime I asked her out again for tea on text now in a assertive tone she said that you are a nice person but I am not interested so pls don’t waste your precious time I am a student of medicine and she is my batchmate I cross by her every day and think about our first meeting I think that I was foolish because I was assertive and foolish now that I still in awe of her is that a sign of weakness or am I not mature enough
Good advice, sir! I experienced a couple of these when I was younger.
Good thing I’m not in the dating pool, any more.
As a follow up to being rejected when you are a bit further along with her: don't beg, bargain, or grovel. These things cheapen and weaken you both in her perspective and yours.
Ghosting is the lowest form of disrispect. I'd recomend forget about it without further communication. I'd actually erase her contact
Congratulations on 100k!
Rejection is a harsh word in the dating context. You have to put yourself out there to gain time with a potential partner, but you often can’t predict how the other person will react to you. It is honest to be able to say that this person isn’t it for me. It works both ways, gentlemen. Don’t ghost a woman when you said that you want to see her again. Have a real conversation and clearly state that she isn’t for you but you wish her well. I respect anyone who can manage both honesty and kindness.
One more thing you might mention - and that is, while no means no (and it's always safe to play it that way) - don't apologize for the pass. That, believe it or not, was advice I got from my mother when I was about nine - long before I even thought about dating.
Rejection can be a massive confidence killer, among other things.
It's because of rejection that I needed a self-imposed mental, physical and emotional overhaul.
Now, I'M the one I'm trying to impress. 😉
It's important to impress yourself before trying to impress others. I have some upcoming videos that might help you with what you're going through. Stick around. -James
The essential content I never know I need 😅
Thanks you James!
5:27
The crickets...
😂😂😂
Haha, that's the reality of modern dating at times!
You don't ask for a kiss... That moment just born
Good discussion. This is the way to make rejection better. Ended up in an immature way after rejection is gonna make it worsen for you
The secret to success is approach the encounter as if failing was a predetermined conclusion, in that case you can make bolder choice and be yourself.
Really good and important video
Thank you. -James
God Bless you.
Thanks for sharing such valuable information!
When the right moment comes just tell them something like: "I just want you to be happy with or without me..."
The idea is to give them pleasure, not to get pleasure from them; because only after they (women) feel happy we (men) are entitled to feel happy as well.
Kool video btw, SUBSCRIBED! 😎👍🏽
Awesome…! He had a peculiar sense of humor…!
When you get rejected, don’t settle for less than what you desire.
Well done Gent Z. Just be cool Gents. There's a lot of ladies around. Next....
Years ago, I ask a girl out, she said, oh no, your too cornbread fed for me! 🌽
very useful, thanks james!
Are used to say oh my God! Youre gay?
Or if they say, I have a boyfriend, I would say no problem. He can make us breakfast in the morning.
emasculating a hypothetical boyfriend you don't even know is real is just a sign of insecurity, even if implied in a joking manner.
this comes off as insulting to both the man and woman, but a woman prone to cheating won't mind this. there's someone for everyone.
Rejection is part of the game of life. It comes in many forms. Get used to it. Players don't have time to be effected by rejection. The future is much more interesting.
I think we've all had a few rejections over the years, and a few ladies who've jumped our bones, so to speak. I was once "dumped" by a gorgeous girl who wanted to "see" a friend of mine's brother. She was concerned I wouldn't take it well and take it out on the chap. I reminded her that it is not within my gift to choose who she wishes to be with.... That's all you need to know.
Is it common to be ghosted after even kissing each other?
I met a girl this summer through Hinge, and we texted each other every day. We also sent 30-40 voice messages to each other. The first date was fantastic and she wanted to meet again, but before the second date she canceled due to family problems. So it was understandable and after a few weeks I asked how everything was going and she said things had gotten a lot better. I didn't plan to ask her out but I still wanted to communicate so I kept texting her. But now she has stopped writing to me. Last time we chatted was 1 month ago.
I don't really understand what I have done wrong. Has anyone gone thru a similar story?
I would imagine she is just no longer interested and does not have the communication skills to be honest with you. I recommend you move on. - James
@@Gent.Z I see.. Well, thank you for the response.
You may not have done anything 'wrong', she may just be in a different place after her family situation, or work may have changed, etc.. Whatever her reasons, it does seem like it's best to move on...
Make this same video for other types of rejection such as career, other social rejections, etc.
All rejection is hard to deal with. It's horrible when you like that you person. But a person has made a choice. It can be a bitter pill to swallow.
Take salsa dancing lessons. There are invariably twice as many women as men. 1) You will learn very quickly who likes you. 2) Your confidence will go through the roof even in regular places: You will learn the true use of the word "next". 😉
Great advice. - James
Never ask if you may kiss her. You know when the time is right, just do it. If she pulls away, then you know she's not into you.
I think if you sail past the cold approach and other preliminary forms of rejection, but you get the sex rejection, that means you've got a decent woman. You need to just be cool and not take personally. In a way, it's a good thing.
Another comment. Being a gentleman gets you out of situations while you are on top.
On a second date, do not make plans to see each other again unless it is her idea. Otherwise, you wait a three or four days so she can develop her sense of mystery surrounding you and then you can ask her out again.
On a second date, do not be in a place where you will introduce her to your friends. You should be in place where it is just you and her. Never be in a place with your friends or her friends if you can help it. In fact, avoid this at all costs (introducing friends deliberately is something you do after you are already a "committed" couple, though sometimes a woman's friends in the early stages will "mysteriously" show up. I have some ideas about what to do in this situation, but you should be able to figure that out on your own.)
The last points you make are excellent.
And, by the way, I probably have no idea what I am talking about, but this is the wisdom that I would impart to a young man.
I’ve found that going in for a kiss slightly before she is ready for it, and letting her pull away from it is actually helpful. It shows as a man you aggressively go for what you want, which turns women on. Also makes them feel that they may have missed their only opportunity to kiss you. Better off trying early than not getting another opportunity later. However I never kiss on the first date unless I already know the woman.
do you have statistics to back this up? 😂
since when has aggressive non-consentual escalation ever been attractive to women? most of the complaints you hear about these days are of overly aggressive men going too fast and leaving her thoughts and feelings in the gutter. you should probably do some introspection.
@@johndoe1274 It’s happened 3 times already this year. And it’s not non-consensual. You do this with a woman who you are hanging out with one on one. A woman who hangs out one on one with a man knows it is partially or possibly romantic. You have to be able to read between the lines. If you tell a woman you want to kiss her, and she says no, but the vibe does not go bad after that, it’s a sign you can try later. If the vibe goes bad between you two, then you don’t go for it. Either way you move in for the kiss slow enough for her to pull away.
James, good content…….but the shirt collar ruins the outfit.
The youth of today should all watch this. Seen some ugly scenes.
I literally thought this was about jobs initially lol. Man wouldn’t I love to get back at the people who reject me 😂
I love it when a woman ghosts me, then months later bumps into me in public while I'm in the company of another beautiful woman. I'm sure the optics are memorable for her and nothing gets said, not even a "hello". A while later, I can relish on the look on her face. Being nice does go a long way however, Karma gets them every time.
I don't think I have ever met someone who met their partner by chance on the street so I think if you are brave enough to do such a thing you probably don't have any issues with rejection.
Cool style. Not convinced about the sloppy colar and double brested but still nice.
is that a linen blazer?
Yes. I always put the link to everything I'm wearing in the description. - James
@@Gent.Z thank you! checking it out right now
Not everyone is going to be attracted to you and you are not going to be attracted to everyone either.
that is the wat it is. Everyone gets rejected and more than once. If it happens to you just pull up
your feelings of self confidence and know that you are fine.
Jeff
Excellent video! Can you do a video on how to touch a girl?
Hello good sir!
we da first
@@simplyspecial69 Welcome, gents.
Dearest James , how old was that girl that rejected you ?
Same age as me, 26.
No kiss before marriage.
Did you really tell men to not go on a date with a woman because she doesnt want to kiss on the first date?!
here before 40 views
Glad to have you here. - James
@@Gent.Z Bond*
@@simplyspecial69
😂😂😂😂
James is a natural for that role.
Or with his boxing,being a musician,and goth background,
he could play Eric Draven in The Crow.
Pro Tip: If she has been touching her hair, playing with it. She laughs at your dumb jokes and looks you in the eye…gently hold her hand. If she tightens her fingers around your hand…pull her towards you, she will kiss you
Captain is sharing wisdom. Takes notes, gents.
@@Gent.Z thank you, Kemo Sabe. I’m very happy for you by the way. Your channel is growing, rapidly, because you have a servants heart. Make time to have fun and enjoy the journey.
not surprised she rejected you if you tried to arrange 3rd meeting while still on a 2nd date😂 this isn't a relationship yet. you need to make her unsure if you will want 3rd meeting and wait a few days, at the end of the date just say BYE, you still have her number and she knows it. you gave yourself on a plate to her, tied yourself up to her.. women HATE that. she would have to be wild about you in order not to shake your attachment off her at this stage... sometimes it just flows out of people and they want to genuinely do things together, but there is clear enthusiasm and openness in such case. more often though it takes time. LET HER BREATHE.
And women wonder why they struggle with men. Men hate these kinds of senseless games. If things were going well and I brought up a third date, but she pulled back, I would assume she's not interested, move on, and hope she finds someone she actually wants to spend time with...