My husband is 61 now and has never lost his curiosity. Because of that he is an accomplished musician, master gardener, an antiques expert, hobbiest silversmith, and knows a great deal about mineralogy and horse care. He is currently learning about the Hindu religion. Needless to say, we always have something interesting to talk about. I love his active mind.
Thank you for sharing that. I did not mention this in my video, but being an intellectual man is also a sure way to be interesting and appealing to women.
I am sixty. Achieving the Boy Scout Merit Badges, traveling internationally, athletics, university, military service, and continued learning has made me well rounded.
You're quite right. That's why reading as part of a book club is a good idea. Putting the ideas of the book into your own words helps you remember what you read.
I find having a digital or notebook library helps just as well for those who don't have time or like book clubs (I'd rather just sit down and read the book in one day). I find just writing my thoughts down itself etches them in my mind. My current process is I'll read a chapter, write my thoughts in a notebook, go back through the chapter and think through it again and capture anything I missed the first time through. Then I put it through an AI extraction and logging software which stores it in my KMS.
Respectfully disagree but I understand what you are trying to say. Emerson had a great quote that said "I cannot remember everything I have read anymore than I can remember all the meals I have eaten. But I know they have made me." But to your point I agree good books need to be reread. Passages noted. New words learned. With that being said, I recognize my limitations but that shouldn't stop anyone from reading.
@@mcpower75 You're quite right. The experience of all things - even those we don't recall - shape us. But let's face it, 99% of what 99% of readers want from (especially non-fiction) literature constitutes concrete, permanent and useful insights and knowledge. Securing that requires some kind of active recall and spaced repetition system (conscious or not). Nonetheless, you are absolutely correct in a very interesting way. Thinking about it, I barely recall any details whatsoever from Pogge's 'World Poverty and Human Rights' (I actually struggled to even recall the title of the book!), but the book itself still left a particularly strong albeit indirect impression on me - namely the virtue in striving to think and write with acute precision. Of course the book bears no explicit instruction at all on that topic, it just caught me at the right moment in life where it was able to make that unintended impact. Thanks for the thought. B.
It really depends what you read, for education and information or for leisure. I love fantasy books and read/listen to about 30 books a year. But I love fantasy, classic books like mentioned here but also mythical stuff like Edda, greek mythology etc.
Excellent advice James !! As a man of 72 I find it much easier to turn off the “screens” and spend more time reading and enjoying my sound system. It’s so refreshing to hear someone of your age with so much common sense.
I have to say, I am 64 years old but find your videos to be refreshingly insightful. You may have heard you can't teach an old dog new tricks, but that's not true at all. I almost always find something of value in your videos, and I think this was one of your best. Thank you for posting!
@@geoffreysundstrom We have a great range of ages both in the audience of this channel and in our community. It lends a variety of perspectives that I don't think many other online spaces offer
I always knew my dad loved me, but he had his own demons, and, suffice it to say, he wasn’t a consistent presence in my formative years. At 45 years old, I’m still putting the pieces together of what it means to be a man and a gent, and channels like this are hugely helpful
In the early 20th Century Harvard looked to gather the best of the Western Cannon at the time into one collection called "The Harvard Classics." You can either spend a little over a thousand bucks to get it or you can read all of it for free on the internet. That's a great place to start.
I would argue that the last point in your video, self-awareness, may be the most helpful in developing intellect. The older I get, the more I see emotional intelligence, the broader topic of both self and social awareness as a critical human skill. So many of my successes and struggles can be attributed to the development, or sometimes lack of, emotional intelligence.
Well said! I was a mediocre student, I didn’t complete a college degree, and I’m certainly not the most well-read guy, but I’ve always had an innate sense of self-awareness and what we now know as emotional intelligence. I attribute much of my personal and professional success to these skills. Being able to empathize with, relate with and communicate with other people is absolutely crucial
Speaking of classical works, do not forget about the true classics such as the works of Plato, Cicero, Shakespeare, Descartes and the like. If you're religious, specifically Christian, read the church fathers and maybe some works by people closer to our age like Bishop Fulton Sheen, JP II or Benedict XVI.
I am a young teacher, living and working in Germany and i have to mention a superficial aspect of your video : The sweater vest suits you very well. One day i decided to implement this style into my work wardrobe and it is a game changer. Well fitting sweater vests are hard to find, especially made out of decent materials. I only buy them from second hand shops- luckily thete are many well stacked in the city i live, Bochum. Please consider making a video for teachers and how they should dress, please also talk about sweater vests. You're doing a great job. Thanks a lot.
Thank you. The sweater vest is pretty new to me but it seemed fitting for this video. As a teacher, I recommend you also wear a tweed jacket in the winter James
I’ve done quite a lot of travelling in my life and I agree that it helps to broaden one’s understanding and outlook. But you do have to immerse yourself somewhat into the local culture. One thing that drives me crazy is seeing people in another part of the world, staying in a Holiday Inn and complaining about how different things are there from home.
Hi James. When you cracked that well-timed joke in this video, it contributed to your appeal. I think sometimes there’s a perception that the classic gentleman can be a bit stiff and stodgy, but a true gentleman has mastered the art of humor. I feel like this is a key ingredient, along with charm and charisma. Those could be great future video ideas
Audiobooks are a great way to get more reading in. I like to take audiobooks on walks outside and I find I can quite easily listen to the same audiobook a few times over to increase my understanding and retention.
I'd add that the intellectual man confronts his ideas to the world, his knowledge is in constant interactions with the diversity of reality. A mind that adjusts the facts to force them into its theories and simplifying views will only increase the distance between you and your surroundings. Instead of creating a refuge where you are always right, your intelligence should help you become more powerful and increase your capability of action. Holding eternal truths doesn't matter -- there's no such things -- only the present counts. Remember, the world is too beautiful and has too much to offer to reduce it to models, sadly too many intellectuals and scientists forgot what life is all about.
"In a world of screens and distractions, training your brain just to focus on the words on a page will help you concentrate better in other tasks, in your professional and your personal life." Wise words, James - to which we should all pay heed (male and female, young and not so young, alike). Your statistic, by the way - that 46% of Americans hadn't read a single book in 2023 - was shocking
A video about the most appropriate places for Gentleman in the city of Chicago. For instance: a library, a cultural center, Museum, bars, public spaces. A place where a gentleman can truly express him self.
Can you do a video about these topics: How to be a gentleman in a realtonship and how can a gentleman recognise a lady in a relationship. The true definition and meaning of a high value man, woman, man of value and woman of value Attractive traits of a seductive and irresistible character and attractive personality qualities. Dating and love guidance and tips for single men in thier 20s and 30s
Try to read a lot and discover many writers, this way you develop your own taste. Start with the classic and continue to build on a wider horizon. I’m seventeen but once you start there’s no way of stopping it, it becomes a kind of addiction. And not just Russian literature.
I agree. When I was 16/17, I used to Google lists like 'Books every man should read'' and I'd work my way through them on the train and in-between classes and college. I'm so glad I did that.
I am a fourteen year old gentleman, I do my best to be a gentleman, I wear suits everyday and am kind to many people I am currently reading The Da Vinci code book and I play many instruments and know over seventeen languages. I would like to thank you for the inspiration of your videos. When I grow up I would like to go travel one day as well.
I keep my phone in a different room at night to give my body a break from radiation. I also tend to keep it far away during the day and I never hold it against the side of my head. I watched your respect video before I watched this one. Here is my suggestion for eliminating posture problems from working on the computer. I work from home. My laptop is behind a 55" television screen, which works as my monitor (yes, less radiation from the laptop -- the blue Microsoft screens are not your friend). I have a big old leather couch with matching armchair and ottoman in the room where I work. I sit near the arm, which is my mouse pad. I have an end table next to me and a coffee table nearby. I supposed you can add one of those lap desks, but I find I don't need mine. I work in a relaxed, laid back position on the couch. I can read, write, draw, communicate, whatever from this position. I never have to bend forward to see the screen. Works great! Working hunched over a laptop is now incomprehensible to me. You can travel with an HDMI cable and hook your laptop to any hotel or airbnb TV.
I'm really enjoying your videos. Which is very strange. I live in an off grid cabin way out in the mountains with my wife,4X4, pit-bull, and shotgun. There is no danger of me becoming a gentleman. However I'm going to up my game when I head into town.
There's something very appealing about that way of life too. Being a gentleman is not about your ties, your car, or the way you drink your whiskey. It's about who you are inside. Having said that, there's lots of pleasure to be found in life's finer things too. I'm glad you're enjoying my videos and I'm glad they've inspired you next time you head into town.
As always, outstanding subject. Thanks for sharing this. Your presentation is engaging and elegant with a touch of good humor. Bravo!!👏🏼🤩 I find that having an intellectual interaction with another to be intoxicating in a way. It keeps the energy high and engaging. Ahhh!! Sooo nice!😊 take notes gentlemen!! Definitely something to keep in mind while engaging with others.🙌🤩👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Excellent video! Reading is such a fulfilling and important habit to develop. Keeping a journal of what you read, what ideas/quotations stood out to you, and reflecting about how the book relates to your own experiences is useful as well.
I like more word the man of knowledge. I learn more from traveling then from reading the books.The best books I read are from writers like Graham Green,Andre Malraux, Bernard Tavern,Joseph Conrad,Jean Genet. They were all travellers,journalist with the thirst of adventure. My favourite was Richard Burton who was soldier,explorer and spoke around 18 languages,first white man who went to Mecca,lived in India and Africa.Discover the lake of Tanganyika walking from Egypt to look for source of Nile through the jungle. They were not the armchair writers.They wrote and lived the life.
Great advice James. Question everything, even more so in todays world for young men to question everything, especially where questioning something may have the powers that be trying to silencing you.
Honestly, I am looking to learn a few new skills in the future, like learning french, or how to cook on my own. I read a lot and practice for hours everyday, and also work out, I still need to work in that department as well. I think that learning a new skill shouldn't necessary cost money, the internet is a great source of information, since there are countless tutorials. They won't work for every skill, but for something like learning how to cook, how to do certain fitness exercises , etc; you can learn them on your own, with the help of the internet.
This is an excellent video. I especially like your thoughts about travel. I've traveled a lot in my life, and for nine years (ending ten years ago), I lived in China as part of a work assignment. I learned Chinese (good but not great....HSK4 out of 6 levels) and I feel like I now have at least some understanding of the psyche of people from such a different culture. If not fortunate enough for such an arrangement, I agree very much that traveling "on the cheap" forces you to be better immersed in local cultures. More than anything, my travel experiences is what has broadened my mind far beyond the little California beach town of my youth.
For the forward looking young man, think about what you hope for your children. Before you can set goals for your children, you must try to become what you wish for them to become.
Hi James! Seeing your beautiful tribute to Alain Delon it got me thinking about another actor who is also considered a style icon - Marcello Mastroianni! I, and many others I suspect, would love if you did a video about Mastroianni and his style in the future!
These all apply to women, too. I've lived in six countries, and I'm still learning. I'm just finishing my medical studies in my early sixties. If you fulfil what is said in this video, you will never get bored. I was born and raised as a lady, but I always enjoyed new perspectives.
Something Ive learnt about these things is to ask yourself 'To what end?' and to each answer, ask again 'To what end?' and on and on. You will find that a lot of these 'Gentlemanly pursuits' are actually worthless. As soon as an answer to this question becomes 'to impress others' you have lost. Do everything for your own benefit, and that will benefit others. But the best thing you can do for yourself in this current time is Go Your Own Way as in #MGTOW The most important thing to learn is social engineering. Dont be an asshole, but learn manipulation, social cues and use it ethically.
Read the Harvard Classics for fifteen minutes a day. After a year of reading the Harvard Classics, for fifteen minutes a day, the intellect will increase exponentially. The most important lesson you should learn, after reading the Harvard Classics is the greater one's intellect becomes; the greater one should realize her or his past and present ignorance.
Disagree with your point on reading wholeheartedly. Most books are just the “screens and distractions” of yester-year. 1) Read to digest, not to consume. 2) mostly read pieces that have withstood the test of time (1000+ years old) 3)spend more time writing than reading “When we read, another person thinks for us: we merely repeat his mental process. It is the same as the pupil, in learning to write, following with his pen the lines that have been pencilled by the teacher. Accordingly, in reading, the work of thinking is, for the greater part, done for us. This is why we are consciously relieved when we turn to reading after being occupied with our own thoughts.” Intellectuals are thinkers. Not scholars.
This might be a silly question, but would you consider Frasier (Dr Frasier Crane) a gentlemanly role model? His sense of style, the way he speaks and conducts himself, etc
Read Marcus Aurelius, Plato, Bertrand Russell, for philosophy: Dickens, Austen, Shakespeare for human nature; Iliad/Odyssey for adventure; Wordsworth & Lord Byron for poetry. That should get you started.
Good point about a print ( also online?) newspaper. May I add that one you can come accross subjects you wouldn't be interested in ? Also, good idea ( hope this isn't telling anyone to suck eggs) read a newspaper/ news magazine which has a point of view you disagree with....right, back to The Morning Star..
Reading physical media for 10 minutes a day helps improve cognitive thought. I worry that reading and writing (cursive) will become a lost skill in the near future.
I would add: 7. Be aware of your intellectual limits and slow to hold strong opinions on topics you haven't researched in-depth. Be even slower to argue about a topic that you don't know well. As you alluded to in the video, the modern climate encourages exactly the opposite, where everybody online is an armchair expert on Israel, Ukraine, nuclear energy, tariffs, immigration, religion, psychology, male / female differences, healthcare, weight loss, strength training, psychedelics, autism / ADHD, US history, and whatever else the hot topic du jour is. When you actually know something about any of these topics in depth, you'll notice how often people who shoot off at the mouth about them are ignorant of the most basic facts around the issue in question. I don't think it's unreasonable to have a minimum standard of 50 hours of *real* study (serious books, research papers, etc., not podcasts and similar bullshit) to even hold an opinion on a complex topic. 100 is better. Almost without fail I've found in studying complex topics that there's a reason why the issue is controversial. 8. More controversial, but it seems like it needs to be said in online men's spaces...don't take manosphere gurus seriously. Red pill, black pill, pickup, MRA, whatever else, it's 95% garbage and the gender equivalent of alternative medicine. As with AM there are occasionally good insights...but most are bad, and the few that are good tend to get exaggerated beyond reason.
Couldn't agree more on No 8. The algorithm throws a lot of the manosphere my way for some reason. They can range from "useful in small doses", through "silly but basically harmless" (which is where I'd put this channel with its obsession with wiping away women's tears) to "utterly toxic and a bit rapey" (you know which bald cigar-smoker I'm talking about). To be taken in small doses and with a pinch of salt.
@@goggo9More like 400 page lmao, guns usually have a very complicated, convoluted and difficult history to grasp, it truly is a great thing to read about if you're interested in the topic.
The Scientologist's 'A Special Course on Human Evaluation ' has some exceptionally great material for dealing with oneself's and other's emotions and emotional experiences .. Enjoy !! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Any thoughts from Hemingway on masculinity,have to be taken with a five-pound grain of salt. Even while living,several of his contemporaries found him to be a bit of a macho poseur,rather than the authentic article. He admired boxers,bullfighters,and soldiers,but had no lived experience as any of these. Great author. Fantastic writer. But in persona,he's basically the John Wayne of American literature.
You can deepen your horizon with certain stuff, usually doing the stuff you like and stay away from online quite a bit. Other than that it's a silly statement.
Ok so I need time to read, exercise, learn a fourth language travel around the world raising a baby, calling my friends and family WHILE grinding at work to pay my rent. Never thought of that.
Maybe we don't lose the curiosity so much as we just don't like the answers. Also, I can ask "why?" of merchants about why they screwed up my order and get no reply at all? I could go on and on w' examples that you don't read, anyway..............
Actually, a lot of neighborhoods, the internet may provide much better content and aspirational focus or whatever. When you're young you're more likely to be immersed in academic setting and such, so it's slightly better chance for stimulation, etc.
Traveling europe is nice. Tip: travel in a sleeptrain I would like to think that is the gentleman way! I would like to hear about the anger management, would you like to make a video of it? . I Will try boxing, thank you for the tip.
A leader not be title only studies, and practices, Critical Thinking Habits of Mind. Yes, read, everything! Magazines, newspapers, books…Everyman must read: 1) 7 Pillars of Wisdom by T.E. Lawerence; 2) With the Old Breed by E.B. Sledge; 3) The Mission, The Man, and Me - Lessons from a Former Delta Force Commander by Pete Blaber; 4) Profiles in Courage by John F. Kennedy Travel: Thailand, specifically Sukhthai; Japan - Tokyo, Kyoto, Okinawa; Saipan; Montana; Wyoming; West Texas, East Texas, South Texas; Badlands, S. Dakota; Sri Lanka Learn how to use a firearm, safely “Know yourself and seek self improvement.” U.S. Marine Corps Leadership Principle
My husband is 61 now and has never lost his curiosity. Because of that he is an accomplished musician, master gardener, an antiques expert, hobbiest silversmith, and knows a great deal about mineralogy and horse care. He is currently learning about the Hindu religion. Needless to say, we always have something interesting to talk about. I love his active mind.
Thank you for sharing that. I did not mention this in my video, but being an intellectual man is also a sure way to be interesting and appealing to women.
@@Gent.Z it worked with me.😊 Happy together since 1982.
Your husband is a Jack of all trades
I am sixty. Achieving the Boy Scout Merit Badges, traveling internationally, athletics, university, military service, and continued learning has made me well rounded.
@theruggedscholar1544 Well how nice for you.
"A person who won't read has no advantage over one who can't read." - Mark Twain
Vital: What you read and don't remember, you may as well never have read at all. Develop systems to etch what you read into your long term memory.
You're quite right. That's why reading as part of a book club is a good idea. Putting the ideas of the book into your own words helps you remember what you read.
I find having a digital or notebook library helps just as well for those who don't have time or like book clubs (I'd rather just sit down and read the book in one day). I find just writing my thoughts down itself etches them in my mind. My current process is I'll read a chapter, write my thoughts in a notebook, go back through the chapter and think through it again and capture anything I missed the first time through. Then I put it through an AI extraction and logging software which stores it in my KMS.
Respectfully disagree but I understand what you are trying to say. Emerson had a great quote that said "I cannot remember everything I have read anymore than I can remember all the meals I have eaten. But I know they have made me." But to your point I agree good books need to be reread. Passages noted. New words learned. With that being said, I recognize my limitations but that shouldn't stop anyone from reading.
@@mcpower75 You're quite right. The experience of all things - even those we don't recall - shape us. But let's face it, 99% of what 99% of readers want from (especially non-fiction) literature constitutes concrete, permanent and useful insights and knowledge. Securing that requires some kind of active recall and spaced repetition system (conscious or not). Nonetheless, you are absolutely correct in a very interesting way. Thinking about it, I barely recall any details whatsoever from Pogge's 'World Poverty and Human Rights' (I actually struggled to even recall the title of the book!), but the book itself still left a particularly strong albeit indirect impression on me - namely the virtue in striving to think and write with acute precision. Of course the book bears no explicit instruction at all on that topic, it just caught me at the right moment in life where it was able to make that unintended impact. Thanks for the thought. B.
It really depends what you read, for education and information or for leisure. I love fantasy books and read/listen to about 30 books a year. But I love fantasy, classic books like mentioned here but also mythical stuff like Edda, greek mythology etc.
Excellent advice James !! As a man of 72 I find it much easier to turn off the “screens” and spend more time reading and enjoying my sound system. It’s so refreshing to hear someone of your age with so much common sense.
I have to say, I am 64 years old but find your videos to be refreshingly insightful. You may have heard you can't teach an old dog new tricks, but that's not true at all. I almost always find something of value in your videos, and I think this was one of your best. Thank you for posting!
@@TheBokey thank you, that means a lot to me.
James
I'm 65 and feel the same as you
@@geoffreysundstrom We have a great range of ages both in the audience of this channel and in our community. It lends a variety of perspectives that I don't think many other online spaces offer
I am sixty. I could not agree more.
I always knew my dad loved me, but he had his own demons, and, suffice it to say, he wasn’t a consistent presence in my formative years. At 45 years old, I’m still putting the pieces together of what it means to be a man and a gent, and channels like this are hugely helpful
When you stop learning, you start dying. Many people die long before they actually go to the grave.
In the early 20th Century Harvard looked to gather the best of the Western Cannon at the time into one collection called "The Harvard Classics." You can either spend a little over a thousand bucks to get it or you can read all of it for free on the internet. That's a great place to start.
Please don’t forget that writing and teaching are key habits of the intellectual man. Also, maintaining a strong network of other intellectuals.
I completely agree with you. Thanks for your comment.
James
I would argue that the last point in your video, self-awareness, may be the most helpful in developing intellect. The older I get, the more I see emotional intelligence, the broader topic of both self and social awareness as a critical human skill. So many of my successes and struggles can be attributed to the development, or sometimes lack of, emotional intelligence.
Well said! I was a mediocre student, I didn’t complete a college degree, and I’m certainly not the most well-read guy, but I’ve always had an innate sense of self-awareness and what we now know as emotional intelligence. I attribute much of my personal and professional success to these skills. Being able to empathize with, relate with and communicate with other people is absolutely crucial
Speaking of classical works, do not forget about the true classics such as the works of Plato, Cicero, Shakespeare, Descartes and the like. If you're religious, specifically Christian, read the church fathers and maybe some works by people closer to our age like Bishop Fulton Sheen, JP II or Benedict XVI.
Translations of Plutarch’s Lives should still be read.
I am a young teacher, living and working in Germany and i have to mention a superficial aspect of your video : The sweater vest suits you very well. One day i decided to implement this style into my work wardrobe and it is a game changer. Well fitting sweater vests are hard to find, especially made out of decent materials. I only buy them from second hand shops- luckily thete are many well stacked in the city i live, Bochum. Please consider making a video for teachers and how they should dress, please also talk about sweater vests. You're doing a great job. Thanks a lot.
Thank you. The sweater vest is pretty new to me but it seemed fitting for this video. As a teacher, I recommend you also wear a tweed jacket in the winter
James
Hello fellow german!
@@sirloollonator guten Tag
@@user-zw1ib4ph4j Ebenfalls schönen guten Tag!
I’ve done quite a lot of travelling in my life and I agree that it helps to broaden one’s understanding and outlook. But you do have to immerse yourself somewhat into the local culture. One thing that drives me crazy is seeing people in another part of the world, staying in a Holiday Inn and complaining about how different things are there from home.
Hi James. When you cracked that well-timed joke in this video, it contributed to your appeal. I think sometimes there’s a perception that the classic gentleman can be a bit stiff and stodgy, but a true gentleman has mastered the art of humor. I feel like this is a key ingredient, along with charm and charisma. Those could be great future video ideas
The BEST PART of these videos is the links you post to where you bought the stuff that you wear. REALLY HELPFULL!
30 minutes of read and 30 minutes of an audio book everyday.
Audiobooks are a great way to get more reading in. I like to take audiobooks on walks outside and I find I can quite easily listen to the same audiobook a few times over to increase my understanding and retention.
I'd add that the intellectual man confronts his ideas to the world, his knowledge is in constant interactions with the diversity of reality. A mind that adjusts the facts to force them into its theories and simplifying views will only increase the distance between you and your surroundings.
Instead of creating a refuge where you are always right, your intelligence should help you become more powerful and increase your capability of action. Holding eternal truths doesn't matter -- there's no such things -- only the present counts.
Remember, the world is too beautiful and has too much to offer to reduce it to models, sadly too many intellectuals and scientists forgot what life is all about.
So much of the polarization and division in the US would be alleviated if more people took this to heart
One of the best videos in this channel.
Thank you
James
"In a world of screens and distractions, training your brain just to focus on the words on a page will help you concentrate better in other tasks, in your professional and your personal life." Wise words, James - to which we should all pay heed (male and female, young and not so young, alike). Your statistic, by the way - that 46% of Americans hadn't read a single book in 2023 - was shocking
A video about the most appropriate places for Gentleman in the city of Chicago. For instance: a library, a cultural center, Museum, bars, public spaces. A place where a gentleman can truly express him self.
Can you do a video about these topics:
How to be a gentleman in a realtonship and how can a gentleman recognise a lady in a relationship.
The true definition and meaning of a high value man, woman, man of value and woman of value
Attractive traits of a seductive and irresistible character and attractive personality qualities.
Dating and love guidance and tips for single men in thier 20s and 30s
Thank you for your suggestions. I'll keep these in mind when planning videos on relationships
Try to read a lot and discover many writers, this way you develop your own taste. Start with the classic and continue to build on a wider horizon. I’m seventeen but once you start there’s no way of stopping it, it becomes a kind of addiction. And not just Russian literature.
I agree. When I was 16/17, I used to Google lists like 'Books every man should read'' and I'd work my way through them on the train and in-between classes and college. I'm so glad I did that.
I would love to see a video on emotional maturity!
Another great video James. I love the idea of setting a day aside each week free of social media.
Thank you, Geoffrey.
Nice video!
Would it be possible that you could make a video about how you can make a woman feel safe around yourself, people in general too.
I am a fourteen year old gentleman, I do my best to be a gentleman, I wear suits everyday and am kind to many people I am currently reading The Da Vinci code book and I play many instruments and know over seventeen languages. I would like to thank you for the inspiration of your videos. When I grow up I would like to go travel one day as well.
As someone 16 years your senior. Do all of those things for yourself, ideally for the Lord and Jesus Christ. Do not pursue these things for women.
This is an excellent video.
When was the last time I complimented anybody.
I think 5 years ago.
@@jasonkrick1614 I’m glad to be on the receiving end of your compliment. Thanks for watching
James
great content, James - btw, the glasses really boost your look ;)
@@dillonvossen1144 thank you. I hope to get some more pairs in the future to add some variety
I keep my phone in a different room at night to give my body a break from radiation. I also tend to keep it far away during the day and I never hold it against the side of my head.
I watched your respect video before I watched this one. Here is my suggestion for eliminating posture problems from working on the computer. I work from home. My laptop is behind a 55" television screen, which works as my monitor (yes, less radiation from the laptop -- the blue Microsoft screens are not your friend). I have a big old leather couch with matching armchair and ottoman in the room where I work. I sit near the arm, which is my mouse pad. I have an end table next to me and a coffee table nearby. I supposed you can add one of those lap desks, but I find I don't need mine. I work in a relaxed, laid back position on the couch. I can read, write, draw, communicate, whatever from this position. I never have to bend forward to see the screen. Works great!
Working hunched over a laptop is now incomprehensible to me. You can travel with an HDMI cable and hook your laptop to any hotel or airbnb TV.
I'm really enjoying your videos. Which is very strange. I live in an off grid cabin way out in the mountains with my wife,4X4, pit-bull, and shotgun. There is no danger of me becoming a gentleman. However I'm going to up my game when I head into town.
There's something very appealing about that way of life too. Being a gentleman is not about your ties, your car, or the way you drink your whiskey. It's about who you are inside. Having said that, there's lots of pleasure to be found in life's finer things too. I'm glad you're enjoying my videos and I'm glad they've inspired you next time you head into town.
@@Gent.Z 100%
As always, outstanding subject. Thanks for sharing this. Your presentation is engaging and elegant with a touch of good humor. Bravo!!👏🏼🤩 I find that having an intellectual interaction with another to be intoxicating in a way. It keeps the energy high and engaging. Ahhh!! Sooo nice!😊 take notes gentlemen!! Definitely something to keep in mind while engaging with others.🙌🤩👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Excellent video! Reading is such a fulfilling and important habit to develop. Keeping a journal of what you read, what ideas/quotations stood out to you, and reflecting about how the book relates to your own experiences is useful as well.
Thank you for the attire joke! Well placed!
Just wear glasses! Got it!
Also use long words that you don't really understand in the hope that your audience won't understand them either.
And a tweed jacket with leather patches on the elbows helps.
Media often shows a perfected character that exists only in art.
I'm a writers and drama coach.
The character is a mask normally.
I like this video. My opinion about intellectual pursuits is that you have to
have an interest in it.
Jeff
I like more word the man of knowledge.
I learn more from traveling then from reading the books.The best books I read are from writers like Graham Green,Andre Malraux,
Bernard Tavern,Joseph Conrad,Jean Genet.
They were all travellers,journalist with the thirst of adventure.
My favourite was Richard Burton who was soldier,explorer and spoke around 18 languages,first white man who went to Mecca,lived in India and Africa.Discover the lake of Tanganyika walking from Egypt to look for source of Nile through the jungle.
They were not the armchair writers.They wrote and lived the life.
Great advice James. Question everything, even more so in todays world for young men to question everything, especially where questioning something may have the powers that be trying to silencing you.
AN excellent message to young men! -- from perhaps your oldest fan
The Sweater Vest is a Must. 🤓
Honestly, I am looking to learn a few new skills in the future, like learning french, or how to cook on my own. I read a lot and practice for hours everyday, and also work out, I still need to work in that department as well. I think that learning a new skill shouldn't necessary cost money, the internet is a great source of information, since there are countless tutorials. They won't work for every skill, but for something like learning how to cook, how to do certain fitness exercises , etc; you can learn them on your own, with the help of the internet.
This is an excellent video. I especially like your thoughts about travel. I've traveled a lot in my life, and for nine years (ending ten years ago), I lived in China as part of a work assignment. I learned Chinese (good but not great....HSK4 out of 6 levels) and I feel like I now have at least some understanding of the psyche of people from such a different culture. If not fortunate enough for such an arrangement, I agree very much that traveling "on the cheap" forces you to be better immersed in local cultures. More than anything, my travel experiences is what has broadened my mind far beyond the little California beach town of my youth.
For the forward looking young man, think about what you hope for your children. Before you can set goals for your children, you must try to become what you wish for them to become.
Hi James! Seeing your beautiful tribute to Alain Delon it got me thinking about another actor who is also considered a style icon - Marcello Mastroianni! I, and many others I suspect, would love if you did a video about Mastroianni and his style in the future!
These all apply to women, too. I've lived in six countries, and I'm still learning. I'm just finishing my medical studies in my early sixties. If you fulfil what is said in this video, you will never get bored. I was born and raised as a lady, but I always enjoyed new perspectives.
Sans mustache! Well done sir. Well done!
I might be stretching your demographic as a 53-year-old member of your audience, but your content is brilliant to me. Keep it up James!
Soon 100K….Many Congrats 🥂.
Lots of Love from India.
Start by learning to keep your counsel.
Other great classic authors to read: Hemingway, Melville, Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, Nietzsche, Camus, Faulkner, Cormac McCarthy, James Joyce
Great video there!! Good luck reaching 100k subscribers 🎉
Thank you. I'm excited to hit that goal soon
Something Ive learnt about these things is to ask yourself 'To what end?' and to each answer, ask again 'To what end?' and on and on. You will find that a lot of these 'Gentlemanly pursuits' are actually worthless. As soon as an answer to this question becomes 'to impress others' you have lost. Do everything for your own benefit, and that will benefit others. But the best thing you can do for yourself in this current time is Go Your Own Way as in #MGTOW
The most important thing to learn is social engineering. Dont be an asshole, but learn manipulation, social cues and use it ethically.
Holy shit, I thought the thumbnail was a stock image. You're a real dude. Lookin' good, brother.
EMOTIONAL MASTERY......YES PLEASE!!!!
Much awaited video ❤ great job
Great topic and video, James!! ❤
Yes please to a ' controlling emotions ' video, especially anger.
We need a link for those fire glasses!
The link is in the description
James
The best as always!
Read the Harvard Classics for fifteen minutes a day. After a year of reading the Harvard Classics, for fifteen minutes a day, the intellect will increase exponentially. The most important lesson you should learn, after reading the Harvard Classics is the greater one's intellect becomes; the greater one should realize her or his past and present ignorance.
Disagree with your point on reading wholeheartedly. Most books are just the “screens and distractions” of yester-year. 1) Read to digest, not to consume. 2) mostly read pieces that have withstood the test of time (1000+ years old) 3)spend more time writing than reading
“When we read, another person thinks for us: we merely repeat his mental process. It is the same as the pupil, in learning to write, following with his pen the lines that have been pencilled by the teacher. Accordingly, in reading, the work of thinking is, for the greater part, done for us. This is why we are consciously relieved when we turn to reading after being occupied with our own thoughts.”
Intellectuals are thinkers. Not scholars.
This might be a silly question, but would you consider Frasier (Dr Frasier Crane) a gentlemanly role model? His sense of style, the way he speaks and conducts himself, etc
Read Marcus Aurelius, Plato, Bertrand Russell, for philosophy: Dickens, Austen, Shakespeare for human nature; Iliad/Odyssey for adventure; Wordsworth & Lord Byron for poetry. That should get you started.
Good point about a print ( also online?) newspaper.
May I add that one you can come accross subjects you wouldn't be interested in ?
Also, good idea ( hope this isn't telling anyone to suck eggs) read a newspaper/ news magazine which has a point of view you disagree with....right, back to The Morning Star..
Waiting for the 100k-subscribers video!! ;)
Great video. Will you do a video on hats? Do you wear them?
Great video.
Thank you
Unfortunately, I was cursed with perfect vision. How would you recommend I damage my eyes so that I require glasses?
Bravo young, chap. Bravo.
Us Brits call it a tank top, not a sweater vest.
Be open minded
Emotional mastery sounds good as an idea. However, isn't it supposed to come naturally from experience and, perhaps, literature
Amazing video
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You mean educated, one cannot become an intellectual, they just are
video on Emotional Mastery please
lol @ glasses and sleeveless top.
Reading physical media for 10 minutes a day helps improve cognitive thought.
I worry that reading and writing (cursive) will become a lost skill in the near future.
I would add:
7. Be aware of your intellectual limits and slow to hold strong opinions on topics you haven't researched in-depth. Be even slower to argue about a topic that you don't know well. As you alluded to in the video, the modern climate encourages exactly the opposite, where everybody online is an armchair expert on Israel, Ukraine, nuclear energy, tariffs, immigration, religion, psychology, male / female differences, healthcare, weight loss, strength training, psychedelics, autism / ADHD, US history, and whatever else the hot topic du jour is. When you actually know something about any of these topics in depth, you'll notice how often people who shoot off at the mouth about them are ignorant of the most basic facts around the issue in question. I don't think it's unreasonable to have a minimum standard of 50 hours of *real* study (serious books, research papers, etc., not podcasts and similar bullshit) to even hold an opinion on a complex topic. 100 is better. Almost without fail I've found in studying complex topics that there's a reason why the issue is controversial.
8. More controversial, but it seems like it needs to be said in online men's spaces...don't take manosphere gurus seriously. Red pill, black pill, pickup, MRA, whatever else, it's 95% garbage and the gender equivalent of alternative medicine. As with AM there are occasionally good insights...but most are bad, and the few that are good tend to get exaggerated beyond reason.
Couldn't agree more on No 8. The algorithm throws a lot of the manosphere my way for some reason. They can range from "useful in small doses", through "silly but basically harmless" (which is where I'd put this channel with its obsession with wiping away women's tears) to "utterly toxic and a bit rapey" (you know which bald cigar-smoker I'm talking about). To be taken in small doses and with a pinch of salt.
Thank you for your additions, Spencer. I agree with your points and you make them well.
All good points but US history, guns and rifles apart, is a 4 pages handbook, right?
@@goggo9More like 400 page lmao, guns usually have a very complicated, convoluted and difficult history to grasp, it truly is a great thing to read about if you're interested in the topic.
Good video, thanks.
love it
Thank you, glad you enjoyed the video
The Scientologist's 'A Special Course on Human Evaluation ' has some exceptionally great material for dealing with oneself's and other's emotions and emotional experiences ..
Enjoy !!
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I want it all
Thank you sir
Everything you want to leasrn to can learn on RUclips.
Just wear glasses!
Joke ;)
First of all: Fortunately, Americans are not the standard!
My approach: Read daily a good newspapers!
Books will follow…
Smithsonian magazine,
National geographic
Writers
Joseph Conrad
Corrie Ten Boom
e.g.
far east! just go!
I became an intellectual but then realized I lost my sense of reality so then I went back to being a common person.
Once Hemingway said “ Don’t be an intellectual. Be a man.”
Precisely, my only critique of the video. If you have to call yourself an intellectual you probably aren't one.
Any thoughts from Hemingway on masculinity,have to be taken with a five-pound grain of salt.
Even while living,several of his contemporaries found him to be a bit of a macho poseur,rather than the authentic article.
He admired boxers,bullfighters,and soldiers,but had no lived experience as any of these.
Great author. Fantastic writer.
But in persona,he's basically the John Wayne of American literature.
Read stuff!!!!
You are either intelligent or you arent, period. Read all you like
You can deepen your horizon with certain stuff, usually doing the stuff you like and stay away from online quite a bit. Other than that it's a silly statement.
@@dobridjordje How deep that horizon gets is directly related to your innate intelligence. Which cant be taught, that is scientifically proven
He wore horn rims with clear lenses just to look more waspy.
Ok so I need time to read, exercise, learn a fourth language travel around the world raising a baby, calling my friends and family WHILE grinding at work to pay my rent. Never thought of that.
How to become an intellectual man? Wear spectacles.
If ye read crap, you're still neigh intellectual.
Most them books w' the BIG words has the SMALL print. Sigh.
Vonnegut kinda phunny, but he neigh exactly BIG words, either.
Maybe we don't lose the curiosity so much as we just don't like the answers. Also, I can ask "why?" of merchants about why they screwed up my order and get no reply at all? I could go on and on w' examples that you don't read, anyway..............
I know that standards and such have dropped, so asking "why?" may has become rhetorical in most cases YEARS ago?
Actually, a lot of neighborhoods, the internet may provide much better content and aspirational focus or whatever. When you're young you're more likely to be immersed in academic setting and such, so it's slightly better chance for stimulation, etc.
Traveling europe is nice. Tip: travel in a sleeptrain I would like to think that is the gentleman way!
I would like to hear about the anger management, would you like to make a video of it? . I Will try boxing, thank you for the tip.
Be prepared for a lonely life…!! Nobody wants you to succeed that’s include your family and friends…!
This'll be funny.
Bro looks like a Prep from Bully 😭😔
No, he looks like a well dressed gentleman.
The game?
A leader not be title only studies, and practices, Critical Thinking Habits of Mind. Yes, read, everything! Magazines, newspapers, books…Everyman must read: 1) 7 Pillars of Wisdom by T.E. Lawerence; 2) With the Old Breed by E.B. Sledge; 3) The Mission, The Man, and Me - Lessons from a Former Delta Force Commander by Pete Blaber; 4) Profiles in Courage by John F. Kennedy
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