Amber is absolutely a calming sense of possibility and encouragement to the fallen. She is so right, many many people recover and you don’t always know who they are. Some of the most admirable people, I’ve met so many successful people that are smashing life…sober
Most parents that I have spoken to describe their children as loving sweet creative talented and the same with my son . I believe many are very sensitive and chose a road of addiction to console something inside of them. When they become sober they shine and become what the world needs because they are so beautiful
So true I know an old man who is 87 yrs old and he has been sober for 57 years he stopped very young and has stayed sober, today still helps people achieve sobriety for themselves.
Thank you for these videos Amanda. I was 7 years sober before relapsing and going on a 4.5 year run. Alcohol and cocaine are my drugs of choice. I am currently 35 days sober and between AA, therapy and these videos, I have even better sobriety than I did before I relapsed. I also have my own channel, Dissapointing Your Demons, where I'm telling my story of my life long love affair with alcohol and drugs. Thanks for making these videos. They help immensely.
This "contributing" action makes sense to me...its the getting the motivation to get to that action that I'm having trouble with. As of yesterday, I've been sober 46 days.
Hi Amber, thanks for this video. I've quit drinking since 2008 and still have cravings from time to time. I just don't take them seriously and certainly don't act on them.
Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established. Isaiah 53:6 “All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.” Iniquity is the lies that we believe
💡You’re absolutely right 💡the same mind that convinced me to do it , the same mind that’s going to condemn me. Thank you for all the good you are putting in in this world 🌎 ❤
My son told me the other day he would rather take his life than go through detox. I asked him what if after detox you get to the other side and it made him upset as he said that’s what everyone thinks and it’s not the way it works . Ironically I missed the live chat because I was with him . Thank you for all you do for all of us going through this
Sorry you missed the chat and I totally get the part of "ironically I missed it"...and the reason why. You're nit alone. My daughter, for years now continues to refuse detox and rehabilitation. The physical toll has broken our hearts.
I know the pain and excruciating heartache . A mothers heart love is limitless and I feel I’m always struggling with my heart vs how strong I need to be I don’t ever want to lose hope that my sons life can change for the better
That's the answer that my housemate needs I am trying to save her life, and given so much of my time investing into her victory over alcohol addiction, that is the key to unlock her heart to change and get the help she needs.
CONTRIBUTION is a great distraction for me to help me get away from my cravings. To help someone else, to get me out of my head, and make me feel good.
Every time i want to to a drink i put my tong on the end of the electric fly swatter ! joking aside alcoholism is a monster that takes courage and outside support to get your arms around, there is no easy fix you need to get to the point that the part of you that wants to live is stronger that the part that want to die YOU ARE WORTH IT !!! YOU! yes YOU ! are are worthy of happiness and love .
My biggest monster thought is: well i gotta work tomorrow and i cant be in a bad way all day, so ill just have a few tonight and stop when i have some time off. 2nd most common is: omg, im just too stressed right now, i just need a little to calm down n get some sleep. The two ofthen go hand in hand with trying to stay functional enough to pay rent, or finish moving, or any other difficult thing i have to do.
I was sober for 8 years… husband than started going to al-anon because I was realizing our marriage was over. This made me go out. We’re now divorced and I go back and forth with alcohol. I have a lot of anxiety in general and know alcohol is not the answer. Kids are out of town right now was my excuse last night. I hate the cycle of feeling relief only to hate myself.
I have a adult son in rehab (2weeks) drugs and alcohol. He says he is determined to stay away from drugs but hasn’t mentioned alcohol. Do you think sober living after rehab is a good idea. He is in another state far away from home and his children. he is divorced . I’m sure he is homesick. Would it be a bad idea to let him go visit children for few days and then go back to sober living ?
Amber who ever ask about ibogaine tell them its mot good. I know s person who tried it few yrs ago and afterwards this person went fown the darkest long road..😢
Hi Amber. Thanks for this video. I'm wondering, do these techniques work even with HARD drugs like Meth or fentanyl? I was under the impression these drugs have stronger addictive power. Is that true? My niece is addicted. I was told the only way to beat the addiction is for her to take other drugs to break the cravings. I'm confused
Relapsed sfter 70 days , went out fior a night out , ended up havinvg 6 pints of beer, lucky i dtopped and had a curry afterwards and went home to bed, butcwoke up early this mornjbg , sweating , with a panic attack smd feeling awful..Im done,li got to listen to my body now...Not goimg to beat myself up , im thankful i felt this way..Got a temp.buzz out of the beerrs amd gad a bit if a dance etc but the experience wasnt great and wirrh this...I gen gekieve i could have gone out snd not drunk and still had a laugh for a couple of hours...
I'm not the drinker, it's my son. So so heartbreaking. I'm doing better since listening to put the shovel down. I always used to try and convince him to quit drinking and did everything for him. I have learned to stop cleaning his room and doing his laundry and just let it all play out (whatever happens) he got out of detox about 4 weeks ago and has relapsed. I've also learned instead of lecturing him about it to except that it will probably happen at least 4 more times. He's doing exactly what you said they would do. ( Oh it's not gonna be like it was, I can control it now) thank God for your insight and podcast put the shovel down. So I'm not freaking out.
Oh ya, also he does pay rent to us every month on time and works 6 days a week. My problem with it is that he is killing himself. Bad liver and he's only 30.
I imagine any addiction. This channel is geared specifically toward alcoholism but Amber has said many times that the concepts, tools, and strategies taught here apply to all addictions.
One difference is that people with an eating disorder not only need to still use the thing they have addictive behavior towards - the "substance" - daily, but multiple times a day (and in a healthy / normal way) versus substance addictions like alcohol where the goal is to not use the substance anymore. I'm guessing one key would be to determine what eating healthy / normally would be (for basic meals, hunger, nutrition), and what and when and why food is being used addictively and figure out the things that contribute to wanting to use food that way / what the reasons are and what to do instead. You probably know all that, but yeah, because there are some differences, it's probably helpful to find some good food addiction / eating disorder resources on the web and RUclips. But this channel definitely has plenty of info that can apply and is useful too. It's a great resource on alcoholism recovery but also addictions in general.
Bad advice if you had one and you have abottle u can still stop I guess maybe u can but the craving is much worse for me after a drink ( almost overwhelming) have 6 days after a small slip
Hi Amber👋 you wanted ,, triggers / craving, cause for relapses,, my partner would tell me ,,,,,,”””IT NEEDS ME “””,,, I think this is a woman’s thing maybe ,, as her corrupted , delusional reason for drinking had developed into a maternal / protective & religious/faith combination. This I think reduced her guilt and shame . It was like something out of science fiction,, she’d found the the holy grail on a super market shelf between some beer bottles .She needed to be bathed in its light, in return she would protect and nurture it faithfully . Spiritually for alcohol ,, getting closer ,to neat ,, spirits.
Maybe I was lucky or happened to do it right, it’s been over 9 months and I don’t crave a drop of alcohol, the key difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal after go’ogling and reading Steffon Barkload, not even within the first 30 days after I quit and told no one, did not need AA meetings or meds either.
More on Relapse Prevention 👉🏻👉🏻ruclips.net/p/PLaaJWwIpP_zYGVn_ClPrHnBbUBmhCsAox
Amber is absolutely a calming sense of possibility and encouragement to the fallen.
She is so right, many many people recover and you don’t always know who they are. Some of the most admirable people, I’ve met so many successful people that are smashing life…sober
"smashing life...sober"- Love this!!!!
Me too.🏵🏵🏵
Most parents that I have spoken to describe their children as loving sweet creative talented and the same with my son . I believe many are very sensitive and chose a road of addiction to console something inside of them. When they become sober they shine and become what the world needs because they are so beautiful
So true I know an old man who is 87 yrs old and he has been sober for 57 years he stopped very young and has stayed sober, today still helps people achieve sobriety for themselves.
Thank you for these videos Amanda. I was 7 years sober before relapsing and going on a 4.5 year run. Alcohol and cocaine are my drugs of choice. I am currently 35 days sober and between AA, therapy and these videos, I have even better sobriety than I did before I relapsed. I also have my own channel, Dissapointing Your Demons, where I'm telling my story of my life long love affair with alcohol and drugs. Thanks for making these videos. They help immensely.
Wish I could hit the like button 1,000 times. You have helped me so much!!
ahhhhhh, thanks, Haley!
Thanks for the help I just started trying to get sober im on my second day
@@ShannonMassey-q2r you’re so welcome. You got this 💪
This "contributing" action makes sense to me...its the getting the motivation to get to that action that I'm having trouble with. As of yesterday, I've been sober 46 days.
Congrats Cheryl! That's wonderful 💪🏻
Hi Amber, thanks for this video. I've quit drinking since 2008 and still have cravings from time to time. I just don't take them seriously and certainly don't act on them.
Congratulations! So happy you got your life back.
Nice work!
You’re absolutely the best I’ve ever heard. Thank you ❤
Wow, thank you! 💝
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@@PutTheShovelDown: No, YOU are the WOW
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Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.
Isaiah 53:6
“All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.”
Iniquity is the lies that we believe
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💡You’re absolutely right 💡the same mind that convinced me to do it , the same mind that’s going to condemn me. Thank you for all the good you are putting in in this world 🌎 ❤
In helping others we help ourselves ❤️
I am going to try this to stop smoking
God is Good Y’all.
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My son told me the other day he would rather take his life than go through detox. I asked him what if after detox you get to the other side and it made him upset as he said that’s what everyone thinks and it’s not the way it works .
Ironically I missed the live chat because I was with him . Thank you for all you do for all of us going through this
Sorry you missed the chat and I totally get the part of "ironically I missed it"...and the reason why. You're nit alone. My daughter, for years now continues to refuse detox and rehabilitation. The physical toll has broken our hearts.
and my heart aches for my baby girl...it's a vicious monster of a disease.
I know the pain and excruciating heartache . A mothers heart love is limitless and I feel I’m always struggling with my heart vs how strong I need to be I don’t ever want to lose hope that my sons life can change for the better
Can identify 😢
This is literally life-changing. Thank you so much!!!
I just wish I had a grandmother still , with a Christmas tree in her attic.
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Thanks Amber! I am an old veteran and you help me.
I've watched this one 3 times. In a row! Awesome educational info.
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You are beautiful inside and outside
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My craving is sweets.
Listening to this as I’m on my way to see my love one who is in the verge… thank you. Blessings to you!
Amber you are awesome...this was awesome! So, true.. contribute.....I'm living proof this works!❤💃☕️
You're awesome!
Amber, this is fabulous!!!!!! I have never in all of my years, of recovery, ever heard something like this! I’ll be teaching this! Thank you! 🫂
That's the answer that my housemate needs I am trying to save her life, and given so much of my time investing into her victory over alcohol addiction, that is the key to unlock her heart to change and get the help she needs.
Been trying to quit smoking for awhile. I for sure will try this and share results. 😀
Your hair is amazing !
Thank you so much 😀
I’m going into detox next week, thanks a lot for your videos 😊
Spot on , Amber, you darling lady !
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You are awesome i just found you im going to listen to all your videos thank you
Thanks Miguel! Welcome to our little community. So glad you're here 👋🏻
You are an inspiration!
CONTRIBUTION is a great distraction for me to help me get away from my cravings. To help someone else, to get me out of my head, and make me feel good.
Love it! 🤩🤩🤩🤩
Loved this video ❤ Thanks so much for helping us!
My pleasure. So glad it was helpful. Thx for watching😁
Excellent,if you are alive,you are in the game. 😅❤
Wow, thanks!
You bet!
Every time i want to to a drink i put my tong on the end of the electric fly swatter ! joking aside alcoholism is a monster that takes courage and outside support to get your arms around, there is no easy fix you need to get to the point that the part of you that wants to live is stronger that the part that want to die YOU ARE WORTH IT !!! YOU! yes YOU ! are are worthy of happiness and love .
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another gold nugget. thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
My biggest monster thought is: well i gotta work tomorrow and i cant be in a bad way all day, so ill just have a few tonight and stop when i have some time off. 2nd most common is: omg, im just too stressed right now, i just need a little to calm down n get some sleep. The two ofthen go hand in hand with trying to stay functional enough to pay rent, or finish moving, or any other difficult thing i have to do.
These are perfect examples! Thank you so much for sharing them. Super helpful 🤩🤩🤩
Thanks very much 😊
You're welcome 😊
That’s what I did yesterday straight up went out and outside and gardened
Love it, Love it, Love it! ⭐⭐⭐💯💯💯💯
"What's the point"... Gets me every time
Thanks!
Wow! Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you
You're welcome
I was sober for 8 years… husband than started going to al-anon because I was realizing our marriage was over. This made me go out. We’re now divorced and I go back and forth with alcohol. I have a lot of anxiety in general and know alcohol is not the answer. Kids are out of town right now was my excuse last night. I hate the cycle of feeling relief only to hate myself.
Hi Cali, Don't get discouraged. Take a look at this video. It's about how to get back on track after relapse: ruclips.net/video/q98F9K0pDng/видео.html
Amber have you done any work with the amino acids to stop cravings and fix brain chemistry..? Such an interesting tool.
There is some pretty interesting research on salt deficiency and addiction...
I have a adult son in rehab (2weeks) drugs and alcohol. He says he is determined to stay away from drugs but hasn’t mentioned alcohol. Do you think sober living after rehab is a good idea. He is in another state far away from home and his children. he is divorced . I’m sure he is homesick. Would it be a bad idea to let him go visit children for few days and then go back to sober living ?
What about the Sinclair Method , what does it do for the mood
Amber who ever ask about ibogaine tell them its mot good. I know s person who tried it few yrs ago and afterwards this person went fown the darkest long road..😢
A relative of mine needs help is so addictive to drinking and is becoming crazy
Can’t beat ‘em join em or YOUR own emotions get the better of you
Hi Amber. Thanks for this video. I'm wondering, do these techniques work even with HARD drugs like Meth or fentanyl? I was under the impression these drugs have stronger addictive power. Is that true? My niece is addicted. I was told the only way to beat the addiction is for her to take other drugs to break the cravings. I'm confused
Hi Amber, I find my trigger for a relapse is to treat myself. That treat is alcohol. Do you have any suggestions on how I can rewire my mind on this?
Very insightful. Whenever you start viewing sobriety as a "restriction," remind yourself of the freedom that comes with Sobriety.
I can't stop
What do you do instead ? Eat?
Im Alice yes I relate to the cravings
Relapsed sfter 70 days , went out fior a night out , ended up havinvg 6 pints of beer, lucky i dtopped and had a curry afterwards and went home to bed, butcwoke up early this mornjbg , sweating , with a panic attack smd feeling awful..Im done,li got to listen to my body now...Not goimg to beat myself up , im thankful i felt this way..Got a temp.buzz out of the beerrs amd gad a bit if a dance etc but the experience wasnt great and wirrh this...I gen gekieve i could have gone out snd not drunk and still had a laugh for a couple of hours...
I'm not never gonna drink anymore. I can handle it. YA RIGHT.
You got this!
I'm not the drinker, it's my son. So so heartbreaking. I'm doing better since listening to put the shovel down. I always used to try and convince him to quit drinking and did everything for him. I have learned to stop cleaning his room and doing his laundry and just let it all play out (whatever happens) he got out of detox about 4 weeks ago and has relapsed. I've also learned instead of lecturing him about it to except that it will probably happen at least 4 more times. He's doing exactly what you said they would do. ( Oh it's not gonna be like it was, I can control it now) thank God for your insight and podcast put the shovel down. So I'm not freaking out.
Oh ya, also he does pay rent to us every month on time and works 6 days a week. My problem with it is that he is killing himself. Bad liver and he's only 30.
I am in recovery now. I gave my mother sleepless nights. Probably gray hairs.
Would the mind set you are talking about in this video be applicable to eating addiction? 😳
I imagine any addiction. This channel is geared specifically toward alcoholism but Amber has said many times that the concepts, tools, and strategies taught here apply to all addictions.
One difference is that people with an eating disorder not only need to still use the thing they have addictive behavior towards - the "substance" - daily, but multiple times a day (and in a healthy / normal way) versus substance addictions like alcohol where the goal is to not use the substance anymore.
I'm guessing one key would be to determine what eating healthy / normally would be (for basic meals, hunger, nutrition), and what and when and why food is being used addictively and figure out the things that contribute to wanting to use food that way / what the reasons are and what to do instead.
You probably know all that, but yeah, because there are some differences, it's probably helpful to find some good food addiction / eating disorder resources on the web and RUclips.
But this channel definitely has plenty of info that can apply and is useful too. It's a great resource on alcoholism recovery but also addictions in general.
@@tinaperez7393 thank you for your thoughtful reply. And yes! This channel is an excellent resource.
I find eating enough REAL food helps, i.e., not processed
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Bad advice if you had one and you have abottle u can still stop I guess maybe u can but the craving is much worse for me after a drink ( almost overwhelming) have 6 days after a small slip
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Hi Amber👋 you wanted ,, triggers / craving, cause for relapses,, my partner would tell me ,,,,,,”””IT NEEDS ME “””,,, I think this is a woman’s thing maybe ,, as her corrupted , delusional reason for drinking had developed into a maternal / protective & religious/faith combination. This I think reduced her guilt and shame . It was like something out of science fiction,, she’d found the the holy grail on a super market shelf between some beer bottles .She needed to be bathed in its light, in return she would protect and nurture it faithfully . Spiritually for alcohol ,, getting closer ,to neat ,, spirits.
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Maybe I was lucky or happened to do it right, it’s been over 9 months and I don’t crave a drop of alcohol, the key difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal after go’ogling and reading Steffon Barkload, not even within the first 30 days after I quit and told no one, did not need AA meetings or meds either.
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