3 Signs You Are Idolizing Relationships and Marriage: God Won't Bless You With An Idol
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- Опубликовано: 30 янв 2018
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One reason many people remain single is because they have idolized relationships and marriage in their hearts. God won't bless you with an idol. In this video you will learn 3 signs that show you are idolizing relationships and you will learn what you should do if you are idolizing relationships or marriage.
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I needed this. I'm guilty of idolizing relationships but the Lord convicted me about it. That's why I'm learning to enjoy my singleness and if I never have a mate, I know God knows best.
Enjoy it sister, to the fullest! No matter what, because you love Jesus and follow Him, your life will be awesome!
Adeline Proverbs31 yep, God knows best. It is better to be single than to be with someone who is not right for you.
Wow praise the Lord for your attitude. That’s a great place to be with the Lord! Keep staying faithful !
Adeline Proverbs31 same!!
How does an introverted person make the time to meet people when my job is totally demanding? I'm tired of being mentally and physically exhausted when I get home.
I idolized a relationship so badly that God corrected strongly and He kept speaking to me “I Am the Lord your God and beside me there is no other”,! It took me years to figure out why He kept telling me that because I was so focused on my exhausting, halted idol of a relationship!
I am in your same shoe which I didn't realise it. When I found out my ex happily have a new found beau whom he is loving, I was like, why was that God give him someone during his healing process to forget me quickly while I stick to my principle, I don't want to hurt anyone before I am heal.. then I was like so unfair, but then as I am slowly healing, I realise, by not following the footstep like my ex, I didn't hurt anyone though is tough for me to walk alone in my process as I am so fearful I will end up being alone. I desire to get married as 46yrs this year, not only my mum worry about me I never want to be single 😕😕😕 I hope I have God's strength to overcome this
It's hard because I lost my dad and both my parents are with God. I love God but I pray that God brings me a Godly man. I know He loves me but I become extremely lonely with my friends having their own lives with their own families. Please pray for me. I'm doing a lot better than I did last year but I really want a family.
Alchymyst 02 God knows the desires of your heart and He cares for you so don't worry love your blessing is coming.
#roseofsharon Get involved in the places that a likeminded man would go such as a ministry at church, it will also help you to keep busy and feel good about helping others
Pray to God to help you spend time with him in your prayer closet, private time with him
I wish we could become good friends
I already prayed for you, darling. This is what I faceing also :) and I do believe that you gonna get a good person who can make the family in your dream come true ! God bless you, RoseofSharon
This hurt, but I appreciate it
Duct_Tape Heart I agree, but thankfully all pain isn't damaging. Meaning the truth that hurts is the truth that can make us free and gives beauty for ashes
Oi flip to 1 King 3:1 pray exactly what Solomon did to Father God in Jesus's name. That's what I did then when the video was playing I was so happy that I was corrected.
Same, but praise God for the conviction. It’s only to better us.
Great word. Just 2 days ago while praying, God revealed to me that I have made my husband an idol. All I could do was accept what He told me and now return to my first love. The one true and living God.
Amen, when we repent of idolatry we are free to enjoy the gift the way God intends :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger hello friend, I have the dream to become an Ilustrator, but drawing has turned into an idol (it’s really my dream to be an ilustrator), will I need to quit drawing forever because I have made it into an idol? How should I preceed my brother? I really want to serve Christ with my illustration career not draw cursed stuff (soaked in Idolatry), I’ve watched videos from pastors like “Tim Conway” who told me storyes about people who had idolatrous relationship with physical exercises, and I really don’t know what to do, I’ve quited drawing for about 4 months because of this, It’s sad to see that ,due to lack of training, my abilities to draw are getting weacker, I really want to draw, It’s my passion, but can I just kill the “idol” not the drawing or I got to stop drawing forever in order to kill it? Christ says we should die to self everyday, I’ve never felt so dead like now before.
Marriage is the covenant from God. Not sure if you want to put Gods signature on divorce.
@@JimJin2010 I don't think she meant that she left her husband. Marriage is a gift from God, but it's not meant to be placed BEFORE God. She gave first priority back to God, and now she can truly love and enjoy her husband in a new way, not as an idol.
@@leviackerman6678 I thought I would answer this question with the information you provided. Your case may be different but If drawing is for a means of income for you, then it is not wrong to invest in it as you would a job, but don't obsess over it where it affects your time with God. To give you an idea, the average time people work(and get paid) a day is 8-9 hours, 5 days a week.
In order:
-God
-Goals
-Girls
1 Girl only ;)
@@tesspulido he's grammatically correct, because he's not speaking to one person.
God in everything
The Woman who you marries should be placed 2 then your goals should be 3rd.
I'm guilty of this! Lord please forgive me!
God Bless You.
I'm a bad person i don't deserve blessing I guess..
K but no need idk
@@usernotfound5935 theres no such thing as a good person all have sinned and fallen short of God's glory
A 19-20 year-old gets married and everyone rejoices and never thinks that the person who left singleness LITERALLY THE MOMENT THEY HAD THE OPPORTUNITY made marriage an idol. But the 30-40 year-old single who has prayed and hoped and waited on God's blessing and who dares to be honest about how much they are suffering, frustrated, and confused gets subtly accused of making marriage an idol.
Philippians 2:14
Idolizing means putting somebody/something on a pedestal.
This is a struggle. Especially when you are trying to heal from a toxic relationship with a narc. You want so bad to relieve that uneasiness with another person. Oh abba, please fill all of the empty places within me
That rigth and angry in u so just pray me i need to change my life more before i date
Hmmm GOD PLEASE HELP US
I never thought about Chronic Singless being a possible symptom of idolizing relationships. I've been chronically single, but I think at least for me, it's partly to do with a fear of getting hurt since I remember what it felt like to get my heart broken. I still want to be married but I want God to be in control.
Just hurts me to but i wait on God until he send me the one u go on date ppl heart must be broken to find the one but walk holy
My issue was my past porn I have stopped, still get these thoughts sometimes but getting more mature I right now confused on wether I want a relationship or not. I regret my past so much and I pray God helps me overcome which so far he's gotten me to stay humble I do have issues I feel with football all the time. Amen
Yeah I was surprised he said that
i can relate.
I was thinking it could also mean a fear of getting hurt
I believe romantic relationships are placed in high priority in today's society. To not be in one at a certain age, can cause others to judge that person's sexuality or value as a human being. I think this is a great video that you posted. 🤗
Amen! Thanks for the encouragement :)
Well put!
Iv dealt with exactly what you just said my entire adult life, Iv been in denial but Im starting to think that maybe Iv been guilty of this as well
Lisa C society should stop pressuring people to be in relationships. Some of us have not found the right person.
Well there's freedom in rejecting the world's standards. Bad romance will do a number on your soul so go at your own pace.
This is going to be a pivotal point in my Christian walk. Idolatry is my sin. You nailed it. I totally see myself in these words. I'm so grateful for this video. Amen.
I'm so glad you found this video helpful Nikki
I'm guilty of this. I'm very interested in someone to the point where he was the only thing that could make me happy. Everything between me and this guy has gone wrong. It got to the point where I started to get into tarot, new age, and obsession. He rejected me, threatened me, and broke my heart to the point of suicide attempts. I've realized that I made him an idol and I need God to save me🙏
Praying for you. God will heal you. Just keep praying and have unwavering faith in Jehovah God.
This was so helpful...I have idolized relationships in the past. Repent, put God first in my heart. I am doing the work right now
What if you did date always but now you have a godly man that you are about to be his wife ?
Very well said! Just realized I'm guilty of doing this. Especially giving up and abandoning God's word to be in a 'relationship.' That never worked out, now I know why.
Nula Rayn all we can do is repent and keep moving forward with the Lord. Thank God for his grace!
Nula Rayn wow story of my life
did the same thing. tried so hard to work it out. but really it's never gonna work. it was doomed to fail at the beginning. it breaks my heart now that it's over. but I know, what happened is a blessing.
Nula Rayn take it from me. My name is Justin. I once had a relationship for 9 years. I tried to work it out no light in that tunnel. Wait for it for gods plan.
Whatever you idolize in your heart, God will withhold from you. Praying God changes my intention to go from attracting a man to pleasing him, not so he can bless me but so I can learn to glorify him in everything.
Brother Mark, recently discovered you in youtube n i love it . Im nearing 40. Pliz pray for me for a godly man ... fr india
So great to hear from you! God bless, and I just prayed that God would bring you a godly man.
Brother mark, wow.... u made my day .. it is 7.16 am here in india . Gud morning...mark, im tired of suffering frm lack of finances . Pliz pray for breakthru in my finances n favors... i want to settle abroad with a godly n rich man . My heart's desire is to help d poor especially orphans
Hi sister from India. Why do you need your man to be rich? What if he is poor and loves you and God very much? "Take delight in the Lord" (first!), "and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4 When you put God first, your desires will match with His desires!
Sweet love , im being specific of wat i want coz i hv been poor all my life n my heart desire is to help d poor especially children wit no parents. I dont wat a rich man to hv a good life . I want a rich man blessed by God to help d poor .. this is wat i mean sister sweet . Thank q for d encouragement .. god bless u
+Chongpy Misao you cant serve God and money in the same time
and if you think you "need" money -that could be a lack of faith
Oh Lord conviction after conviction after conviction
Its good though. I think that if you feel after you realise a person you may be thinking about could be making you put more thought in them then into God, being aware it may be idolatry is important. I see pride and idolatry are 2 sins people need to be more aware of as they are always in our path in most things we do in life
I was one that NEVER went on a date and NEVER wanted to go out because I've seen so much of the wrong approaches by Christians to Christian and non-Christians on the dating scene. I stayed away. However, this was not do to fear, this was in preserving myself to receive my husband! We cannot just open ourselves up to just anyone. We must open our hearts to the right people. The word tells us to guard our hearts. Good video to help though. We need to stop idolizing. The devil deceives many with this sin.
A Mimms amen, guarding your heart and walling your heart off in a tower are different. You are right, guarding the heart is biblical and right (proverbs 4:23)
This really hit me! I used to have a Instagram account because I was following actresses and look what they wear so I can follow also the trending clothes, shoes, lipstick, you named it the worldly things. Then just last February I just decided to deactivate my account and start reading the bible and start watching some Godly educational here on You tube. I did not realized that following actresses is idolizing. I feel so much better now! I thank God for opening my eyes and heart. Now i am more aware that Hollywood is run by satan!
If you can't say "amen", say, "ouch"! 😆 Definitely a timely message, Bro. God bless!
Amen *and* ouch over here!
Oh wow I never thought of idolizing relationships by NEVER going on dates, wow this is totally me 🙁 aw man that’s rough.
The last two I’m guilty of. Thank you for sharing the truth bro, much appreciated! God is good.
So glad this video was helpful Steven!
I dint really understand the part mark said about idolizing cause we Dont go on dates
How is that idolizing because you don't go on dates? That doesn't make sense to me at all.
@@BruceJC75 very well said, thank you for sharing
Bro you just did a sermon on idolatry
Wow! I didn't think that not wanting to be around a crowd could possibly be idolatry.
Certainly not all the time, but sometimes it can be if we are avoiding the crown because we fear what they think of us thus elevating them too high
It isn't, some of us aren't the crowd gathering types. I can only relate to a few people at once anyway so being in the crowd doesn't bother me but I prefer less people around me.
I am idolizing relationships, thank you for opening my eyes to this
This was awesome! I agree with you about obeying God and keeping God first. That is the key. Everything else will fall into place. I'm a new subscriber and I love your videos.
Beauty4Ashes so glad you found this channel and it's blessing you. God bless!
Not going on dates ? but what if I haven't encountered someone who is worthy of my quality time.
smh then you may be proud (?)
Thank you Mark. I literally bursted into tears after hearing this. I am married but I have 2 Idols in my heart Both ex. It's difficult for me but I will follow the steps. Thanks.
My God... Help me put you first Lord! ❤
Amen!
I prayed to God in the morning about showing me what idolatry in relationships means and if I have committed this sin in the past. Your video popped up in the evening. Praise the Lord!
correct preach. God told us we should walk by faith not by sight.As a child of God we should renew our mind by not idolizing any thing so far. We need to obey God because obedience is better than sacrifices. More over we need to obey God , and our husbands as long as we are walking in the same faith. I am encouraging with such kind of preach to know how to obey God in our lives and relationships.
I’ve never been in a relationship because I believe it will happen when it happens. Haven’t met someone I see spending my days with. Also, I’m very independent. Sometimes I feel I would have to carry my partner mentally and emotionally and I don’t feel like I want to do that right now. I’m working on myself and my career first.
Edén Delgado 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾 ♥️
“The fear of man brings a snare.” This helped me so much because I’m not sure I believed relationships could be idols, WHILE I was doing it...and I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t get emotionally free! Pray for me as I repent and work to rightly align my life to Jesus!
This is so true for me, idolizing or placing relationships too high, above God & at times having disobeyed God 😔 The Lord has taken me through a very lonely season, removing everyone from my life… I can use this to make the necessary changes, repent and put The Lord back at the top, thank you for sharing!
That was intense! I couldn't stop taking notes haha. I would like to share my personal reflections from your advice. This totally reminds me of parental relationships and other intimate relationships in our lives. Sometimes idolatry is overlooked with regards to obeying parents because it's put on a pedestal. I know a lot of muslims fall into that trap because of cultural hindrance. And i just realized where this applies in my life... my dad! I always thought it would be a romantic partner as you addressed but generally our idea of relationships start from our observance of our mum and dad. Forgetting that they could very well be messing up in their approach
Thanks for sharing this Walaa Ali!
I think it is difficult for a woman in marriage because of the curse on eve in Genesis. Very easy to let primary relationships to overgrow in our hearts. All the topics you brought up go much deeper...
Even at my age, it's one thing to have a knowledge of these things - it is another thing living it out. It is a day by day by day process & looking back at my life - well... it really is God's grace & mercy out working
Wow!!! I thank God for you this has just helped me i was going through this I feel free now I dnt know wat I was going through until I watched your videos ...God bless
Anne Muchiri so glad this was helpful and God bless!
Not enough likes to emphasize how spot on is this video! Thank you for allowing God to use you to impart His wisdom.
This was so enlightening! Wow! I thank God for your ministry! May God continue to bless u beyond measure!!
I am guilty of this,please forgive me Lord and help me to focus on You!
Woah, I never thought of the flip side, as it may be a sign of fear. That's so good! I really needed to hear that. Thank you!
Thank God for this message. This really spoke to me and was very much needed.
This guy is legit. Thank you brother!
You are speaking truth, brother. Keep it up. I want to encourage you. There are so many that need this and I thank you for shedding light on idolatry. God bless you
Great word. Explained perfectly why my marriage failed. Applying God's word moving forward for strength and healing.
Your teachings have been a great comfort Mark and really appreciate that you don’t equivocate on God’s word. I got into a dating relationship with an unbeliever and mistakenly thought I evangelize her and now dealing with the inevitable pain from the breakup. Thanks so much!
This was a slap in the face that i absolutely needed.
So enlightening thank you brother mark 🙏🏽
Thanks mark just on point👌🏼... God bless you
Brilliant teaching. Definitely under the anointing. 🙌🏼🙌🏿🙌🏻🙌🏾
Im glad I found your Channel! Keep making these videos. God bless
I'm fortunate to have learned I've idolized relationships. I'm now confident enough to say I put God before my relationship. Next idol I have to remove is my career.
This has been very eye-opening. Thank you.
Waw very helpful! Thank you and God bless you brother!
This was such a game-changing video for me. I know where I am and i now know the way forward. Thanks so much
Loved this video, it spoke truth when I most needed to hear it. I had the Lord use a mentor of mine today to convict me of putting friendships and relationships as an Idol in my life. It happened slowly and through trauma but I was unaware of just how dependent I had become on these friendships of mine. Each of the signs you spoke about if reconfigured to mean any relationships (including friends) struck deep and true to aim. Today is the day, I want to change that. This Idol has cause me unbelievable stress because of it's deep direct ties to my emotional highs and lows...I'm ready for that to stop. Thank for making this video in the general sense because it was used to help me even though my situation is probably quite different than what you had in mind when making this video.
Only just got around to watching this video but it has been coming up as 'recommended for me' for a few weeks...sometimes God does this with certain RUclips videos when He really wants me to hear the message! And I really needed to hear this 😂 It helped me identify that as much as I want to be in a relationship, I really have feared taking even small steps such as dating, due to my idolisation! Thanks for being a messenger for God, Mark!
It's very seasonal. I badly need this message right now.
Man eye opener!
I never thought about the loner aspect about idolizing. I am guilty of this. I have stayed away from relationships for the fear of "not touching one". How do I practice becomeing less distant but not swaying to the other extreme of always seeking relationships out?
Wow very helpful!!! Thankyou soo much!!!🙏🏾
I'm guilty of it all but God is faithful !! Thank you for this
May God bless you bother in Christ. The Lord just answered my prayer regarding this topic. What a blessing you are!!!! Thank you :)))
Excellent content and most of all, VERY BIBLICAL.
Thanks Cristo, glad this was helpful! God bless
This was the best RUclips video I ever heard. Thank you!!!
Wow. This was really eye opening. I wasn't aware of some things.
Great, how enlightening! The Spirit of the Lord is at work.
I am grateful to God for this confirmation🙏
I'm really enjoying your videos. This one was really helpful, it helped me to place things in the right order. I loved your book 'The One' too... Thanks
So good and insighful. Relate. Thanks again
Thanks for posting this video and the wonderful advise...
This is his most powerful video for me, thank you.
Seek first the kingdom of God and His Righteousness and these things will be added to you 👍
Amen!
What you said about being petrified and fearful of relationships and group settings is so me! You described my situation perfectly. I noticed for some reason I’m always scared around guys and talking to them. I avoid them. I also do the same with group settings and friends. I feel like I always need to be this perfect image in order to get what I want. So exhausting. I want a relationship but I’m so scared.
This is really important ministry. Big Thanks brother
Great video, brother. Very God honoring and biblically sound. Praise the Lord.
So glad it was helpful :)
These videos are life changing!! Thank you so very much and God bless your ministry!! It's a God send!!
Pic Ky so glad they have been helpful! God bless :)
I often felt that Relationship and its status was the source of Joy or Sadness in my life. Now I am going through toughest phase of my life where I lost my parents many years back n having tough time with the Girl I loved. But God is able to restore me. I pray that relationships shouldn't be idolized in my life as well as anyones life.
Thanks Brother.
Bhupathi Raj you got this bro. I prayed for you
Great teaching Mr. Mark. Its definately helpful for me
levi awomi amen! That's the goal :)
Great video, Mark! I realized after my divorce that I had idolized my ex. I immediately repented and asked God for forgiveness.
Wow. The second point hit me right home... Lost for words. I thought I never really wanted to date anyone prior to actual marriage, mainly because I was so busy with life, or I knew that the “perfect” person will come in the future anyway. But it was a form of idolization... Thank you for this, Mark.
I appreciate that you reiterated that there are some who are called to be single. I believe I've learned that I was born to do so. And yet, there's this childhood friend who God seemed to say I would be with, some day; I grieved over her in adolescence. And now, God has put me into a situation where I'm inextricably near her,'geographically', but can go no further towards, or away, from her.
I just want to say thank you for making this video. This has giving me a new perspective on relationships and another way to improve myself while being single.
Amen, so glad this was helpful to you :)
Very informative, I am suffering from idolizing relationships, yes, my focus was on this guy in cellgroup who I went out last year. The saving grace was him telling my cellgroup leader how uncomfortable he was about me pursuing him everytime via WhatsApp or Facebook. I felt hurt that I did it to him. Made my confession about it last year and still struggling with it. With this struggle, I always ask this priest from Philippines to help get advice from. Pray for me, please! Thanks. Great advice, from this video. Gb!👌😃
great points thanks for sharing my brother you are In my prayers
Thank you so much for making this video. It truly blessed me.❤
Great teaching! Opened my eyes to the truth!
Amen Cody Arndt, glad this was helpful to you!
I was resheduling my time to serve in the ministry just to be with this girl i met, so i know what you are thalking about,thx keep up the good work 🙏💪♥️
Great teaching! Thank you. May God continue to use you. Blessings~
Enn Love thanks and blessings to you as well :)
I never even thought about a lack of dating as potentially being idolatry as well. I’ll definitely have to pray over these things and ask God to reveal my heart to me. Thanks for sharing this!
Excellent. This video is really helping me. Thank you so much for your videos. God bless!
I've learned allot from this video. Keep up the good work , brother.
So useful and god answered me through this video
Have spent years trying to be appealing to others, forcing connections with attractive ppl, and just not knowing what I was doing and desperately seeking love and adoration. Which is why God got me sitting right by myself right now lolololol
Whoaaa my jaw dropped @ never dating or talking to guys can be an idol and I said don't get me together Mark! But you sure did.
I knew something was off about me being NEVER talking to guys or going on dates because you're so right it has become an idol. Too much exalting the opinions of others, fear, and unworthiness under the pretense of living holy or true love waits lol. But I've grown a lot and I think I'm ready. It's just sad how the church is so aggressive about waiting for marriage and fornication but not many are teaching about how to do it with love and purity and holiness. It makes some of us feel like there's something wrong when we desire a relationship and scares us away. Your service is so needed. Thank you!
Thank you again😭😭😭 Needed that
Thank you for your wisdom and guidance.😇
Great advice never looked at it this way.Its so true!
Gavin Locke glad this was helpful :) God bless
Truly a blessing! Thank you Mark. 🙂
My pleasure Eric!
That's why we have to ask God for balance in are life and seek him with our whole heart , mind , spirit soul and body! And he will direct our path.