another tip: if you like skirts but they make you dysphoric, kilts are a good alternative. they especially go well with goth/punk clothing styles and they make you look more masc while still having all of the benefits of a skirt. plus, pockets.
Also, wearing long and/or dark skirts is somehow better for me than short skirts. Wear a collared shirt and a sweater vest on top (surprisingly great for flattening, at least for me) for a devastatingly epic dark academia look :)
Hey everyone. Just remember no matter your weight, body shape, or size, you are a guy. Not all men are sticks. In fact, most men aren’t sticks. You’re perfect just the way you are.
reminder for everyone: you dont have to cut your hair if you like it long. obviously for a lot of people this is like the "first step" of their transition, but guys can have long hair too! if you like rocking it long, by all means keep it long. it doesnt make you any less valid
Thank you so much!! I came out to my friends, and they constantly want to cut my hair even though I've told them multiple times that I wouldn't want that. So your comment really made my day!! ^^`
Yes! also you can masculanize long hair too. For example either not parting your hair at all and just having it all pushed back or parting your hair in the middle might make it look more masc. also when putting long hair up not letting the sideburns hanging out helps too.
Thanks!! I absolutely love long hair. Like it on anyone, men, women, cis or trans. It's nice to have something to stroke and there's more of it to style.
Tipssss: 1) wear white under shirts with unbuttoned button up tee shirts. It helps so much with chest dysphoria. 2) swim trunks, swim shirt, and trans tape is the ultimate guide to summer. 3) talk slow, it’s helps a lot with a pre t voice 4) Tuck cuff of pant legs in your socks just a little bit to make pants a bit looser on your legs and reduce leg dysphoria. 5) laugh quieter, and talk louder but don’t yell at the top of your lounges, it will make your voice higher.
Also if you hum for around 30-60 seconds as deep as you can go it'll temporarily deepen your voice a bit more. Tho if you do it too often it kind of makes you vocal cords sore? It's uncomfortable but yk
"rings make your hands look more masculine" i can vouch for this. im overweight because i'm really short so i have more fat hands. luckily, my grandma is a jewelry hoarder which is mostly not listed for sale. got some free rings from my homophobic ass grandma!
YES Not so much lately because more people have been recognizing me and ive been changing my wardrobe, but those days where the girls behind me won't stop deadnaming me, YESSSSS
Hey dudes. Fun clothing tip if you have a small chest: FLANNELS! Don’t button it up, but let each side hang on your shoulders to cover your chest. Really useful for me. Hope this helps!
If you let it shape around your chest growths it looks more obvious. But you can make sure it's just going straight down your chest to look like it isn't getting caught on anything. Also wearing a sports bra or a regular bra on the smallest setting
little tip for trans guys on their periods. the brand always has period underwear that you throw away when you are done with them they are for "night" but i use them all day. they are sold at walmart a little pricey but not horrible. and sometimes if you wear tight boxers over then they give you a bulge. they are comfy but make sure you shower often because they don't breathe well
I'm not even trans or anything but I find these videos oddly entertaining. Trans people go through so much in their head! It's probably similar to people going though eating disorders or weight issues and going through the associated depression. Just remember, you are strong and worthy. Please do not give up
people outside of my friend group will never see me as a man since i’m so feminine. sometimes i like having long hair and wearing makeup, and wearing skirts and aprons and collecting stuffed animals. sometimes i like to feel more masc than other times. but femininity is a part of who i am. i’m trying my best to get out of my shell and be who i am even though i will face ridicule. i will not back down :) any other feminine trans boys in the comments you are not alone!
Hi! I've been femme my whole life, admired my femme grandma's old fashioned styles, used to collect little Barbie girl's hairstyle pamphlets, love makeup, still always been a boy/ man. I feel like I'm a mix of masc and fem but leaning more in the fem direction. I even love my very feminine given name and regret that it's the wrong gender for me.
some more tips on passing (as someone who isn't out to anyone, with the exception two people): these all worked for me, so I hope they do for you all - if you have any tank tops from when you were a child, wear those, along with a non-padded sports bra. don't layer with more than two clothes, and not more than 8 hours. it makes a bit of a difference, if you don't have too big of a chest. - for me, I've found she/her pronouns give me more dysphoria than they/them. they/them pronouns are also more inconspicuous, so you might be able to get away with it around parents, teachers or anyone you aren't comfortable to come out to - when you're shopping, go for a fit that's one size bigger. if your parents ask, you can just say you like the fit better. - this might have already been mentioned, but ask if you can get a pixie cut. calling it a 'pixie' makes it sound more feminine and might make it seem more favourable to your parents. you can usually style it more masculinely later, worked wonders for me remember, that regardless of whether or not you can do these/want to do these/have done these, you are perfect the way you are, and you're just as valid as any other Mal human being
100% vouch the 'pixie cut' part. I once pointed at a picture of Whitney Houston at a hair salon and said "I want this. A pixie cut." Nobody questioned it. Then I styled it with hairgel when I got home lol.
Personally, they/them is only a little bit better than she/her and can put up with it but much prefer he/him. Hopefully nice story: I used to go to the barber with my dad to get my hair cut and it was gender affirming even though I never came out to him.
I feel kinda conflicted because there are certain parts of who I am that sometimes feel dysphoric, like how I talk or my interests, but I also believe in defying gender roles and I don't want to change just because I'm guy (adjacent). sometimes I just worry that even on t, what if my voice drops but not enough or what if my voice is still too bright and it sounds off? gaaaaaaah
Just try not to worry about it. There are plenty of dudes who's voices don't match up with their faces. And I've met some dudes with high voices and they are still men. If you end up having a high voice or don't think it matches just go with it bro
Don’t do it u will regret it you’re young ofc your mind changes every day I believe if u have doubts for even. A second it’s the wrong choice just my 2 cents … just think a bit is all I’m saying I’m not totally excluding it but think … n yes I know the trans cult is gonna say blah blah how dare u tell her no … nope telling her to think long n hard
so recently ive joined a new school and i got people to call by the name 'Nebula' but for quite a while ppl keep on saying stuff like "oh is it because u like guardians of the galaxy" and im like no its because i like things to do with space then they would just ignore me and ive been wanting ppl to refer to me by my correct pronouns but only a very small amount of ppl do which im glad about but around other ppl i dont feel like i should be around them at all because they make me feel uncomfortable and plus waaaay too many times ppl say oh "her pronouns are they/them" like its so frustrating i told my mum and she literally yelled at me and was like " OH THIS PRONOUN THING IS NEW TO PPL THEY WONT GET IT STRAIGHT AWAY!" but i have told ppl too many times and im gonna loose it. but wait theres more ive been wanting to go by Orion instead of Nebula because its more gender neutral sounding and i can be considered as my own person but i dont want to be a pain and tell ppl the new name i want to go by and i havent really told anyone about it yes so i dont know what i should do i need help 🥲
Hey Orion. I hand a similar problem when telling people I liked the name Elijah as well and I promise the people around you don’t think it’s as bothersome as you feel you are being. Telling someone your name isn’t at all bothersome or annoying. And when it comes to pronouns correction I just correct the Person in question and move on. I don’t know how to just get people to use the right thing. I know because I use (he/they) I can just say “I’m a dude” and get away with that. But I don’t know what the equivalent is for they/them (sorry I couldn’t help in that department) ps:Orion is a super cool name
Hey person! I feel the same way, honestly, in terms of names. I want to try going by Spencer, but I feel like it’ll be too much of a bother, especially since I’ve been using the name Aiden for half a year now, fully. So, I know how you feel. But don’t worry, Orion, if they truly care, they’ll try to understand.
Have some random tips: Those chest bags or fanny packs worn with the bag part over your chest can be great for chest dysphoria! Also black caster oil rubbed into your cheeks/jaw/upper lip daily can work for growing a little facial hair - it only works over time slowly and might not be as good as medication/T, but it’s the only reason I have some facial hair on my actual cheeks rather than just on the edges of my jawline and I’ve been on T for a couple of years now lol Also, if anyone’s worried about going bald on T, the genes for that you get from your mother’s side of the family, so keep that in mind. Also also, T doesn’t automatically give you muscles, you still gotta work out 😭 People will still wanna date you/be attracted to you, no matter who you are. Whether you’re feminine or masc or whatever, however you identify. You just have to find the right crowd, and you’ll fit in. Really. Button up shirts that have thicker material and are plaid/have some sort of dark pattern are good for hiding curves/breasts. Plus, your chest probably isn’t as noticeable as you think - it’s rare that cis guys are fully flat, and most cis people don’t notice. Same with packing - most people won’t notice if you’re just wearing regular clothes, if you’re not packing. Having thick/dark eyebrows can really help make you look more masc, and you can train your jawline to be a bit more defined with jaw exercises/clenching your teeth or something regularly, which can also help If you bind with tape (sports tape, KT tape or trans tape), then buy baby oil and cotton wool pads or something. Cover your nipples with the cotton, and when it comes time to remove the tape (because it can last a few days if applied correctly), use a LOT of oil and go very slowly. Use more oil than you think you need. Otherwise it can be really harmful, so be careful. You want to pull your breasts under your armpits with the tape, essentially. Also, I dye my facial hair lol. But I also dye my regular hair the same colour so it looks fine, and I apply the dye to my beard with one of those mascara brush things, so I comb the dye through my facial hair - if you just rub it all over the place, then you’re going to end up with a stained face. I use regular permanent hair dye (I’ve used Just For Men once before and that was fine but stained my face for longer than regular dye). It does stain the skin slightly but it comes off with washing and cleanser after a couple of days, so usually if I’m dying my facial hair I’ll do it a couple of days before I have to go out. Also, you can totally look up voice training on RUclips to get a deeper voice. It can take a while to get results but if you keep at it you’ll definitely get better
"you can train your jawline by clenching your teeth regularly" Eyyy I already have TMJ from stress, so I can already check this off! Glad to know I was already training my jaw without even knowing it, but also my poor muscles hurt and are constantly knotted 😅
I know some of you guys bind for more than 8+ hours (I did-) and sticking to the rules is easier said than done- but if you damage your ribs while binding, it will really hurt and will hinder your be ability to get top surgery. also it just really hurts, even if it’s minor discomfort! (I can’t take deep breaths without some pain) also you will have to lay off binding for a bit while you heal! - another young transmasc
Okay so this is gonna sound really weird but looking at a lot of art of men with really exaggerated chests has helped me a lot with dysphoria with my chest-
9:23 I told my Mom I wanted some new deodorant because the one I have is literally called lady speed stick or something and I picked out some men’s deodorant and she said “ew you’re gonna smell like a man” mom that’s the point-…
I remember before I came out as trans I was thinking that I was non-binary and I was happy with that until I thought: but like nobody cares if I'm non-binary (I mean the people where I live, not all of yous
I'm closeted nonbinary and most of my dysphoria comes from my chest. Heres some advice: You dont need to shave your legs. If you don't want to, then don't. If people ask you why, tell them you just don't care to shave Random t shirts are amazing. My favorite one is an old hand-me-down. Look for ones with more masculine or androgynous designs. Also, get men's t shirts rather than women's. Women's t-shirts highlight curves and shoulders. Some of my favorite outfits consist of baggy black jeans, platforms, and a hoodie with a big logo. It covers my chests really well. I got it from a school event It's okay to dress femenine. If you like the outfit but think it's fememnine, wear it anyway. Overall, you can slowly change your wardrobe to more androgynous clothing and excuse it with "a change in style" "I'm a tomboy" or "I like more comfortable clothes" Hope this helps! Remember, you WILL reach the point where you can come out!!! You WILL have a place. You WILL find people who accept you for WHO YOU ARE!! I accept you, love you, respect you, and am proud of you!!! Now go out there and do something to make YOU happy! 💙💖🤍💖💙 💛🤍💜🖤 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
I don’t cry much…..this makes me feel valid. Recently I’ve been thinking about the fact that I’m gonna have to come out to all my friends and one of them is super homophobic and *HATES* Trans people….I’m trans.
Sadly we will sometimes outgrow people. Our paths reach a fork in the road, which, for you, would be whether or not to tell your extremely queerphobic friend that you're trans. Or, a third option could be to just never tell them but still cut them out. You don't owe others an explanation, especially in a situation where you know the likelihood of rejection and the spreading of information will be high. You are not obligated to share that you're trans to anyone, and no one is entitled to that knowledge. Do whatever you feel is best for yourself, keep yourself safe first and foremost as best as you can. Your toxic friend will have their own fork in the road to choose, too. They'll gave to choose if they want to shun, reject, and lose you, or if they instead want to grow and learn in order to keep up with you. We sadly can't fully predict or get the choice from them we wish they would take, to learn to be an even better friend to you and help you feel safer, but you can only decide what to do with the present knowledge of the situation. Just one more thing. Since I am a recovering people pleaser and still struggle with self-sacrificing, carefully think over how much this friend if yours means to you. Do you look forward to seeing them? Do you feel safe around them? Does hanging out with them or thinking of seeing them make you feel stressed, anxious, or exhausted? Do you feel energized and excited after talking to them? It's also okay and completely possible for positives and negatives to exist at the same time. Emotions are difficult to work through, especially when we aren't taught how to sort through them and self-regulate in healthy ways. I don't know any of the answers to those question prompts, and I can't tell you how to handle your own individual situation, but just heed a reminder and warning to not suppress the real you as to not hurt someone else's feelings, and don't let others only take and take and take all of your time and energy. Try to spend your time and energy in ways that makes you happiest. It doesn't even have to be with other people. Play video games, draw, hang out with your pet, spend time with yourself and love who you are and where your interests and dislikes start and end, and before you know it, you're going to find real, true friends who will love and accept you for who you are in the present and who you will become in the future. I know it's going to feel like it takes forever before you find new friends who aren't homophobic, transphobic, or generally queerphobic, but trust that you _do_ deserve a lovely social community and that you _will_ have one. You're already on the path, and you just have to keep moving until it comes into view. I know I rambled a lot at you, but I really hope that anything I said helped you even a little bit. I'm rooting for you, my fellow internet stranger, and I wish you much luck and happiness on your unique journey /)^v^(\
thank you so much 4 this it really helped im using all these tips from this video idk what i would have done without this video thank you thank you thank you sooo so much for this video I hope to see more like these in the future.
okay as a trans man I have to say that around 14:49 where it says to wear a binder in the shower PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS!! you aren't supposed to wear a binder while it's wet as it could damage your chest or ribs!! the rest of this video is great though :)
Yo bulky rings are your best friend if you think you'd hands are fem, also lightly darkening things like your eye bags can help with dysphoria if you feel dysphoria about things like that(I do and that helps but Im not positive it'll help y'all) and for the love of gods don't not wash your binders of fabric things you use to bind.iy can be clean and do it's job just do it at a time where you aren't binding or have a binding break.
Some tips if you want a more visible Adam’s apple is to “pant” like a golden retriever or just any big dog and then do the same but lighter, like for a small dog. It helps!
i havent finished the video but i have a haircut tip! before i came out i would always ask for a very short bob (below the ears + layered) thats got short bangs. if i were to wear a hoodie or hat it would get me gendered correctly more,
if you can’t cut your hair just take a pair of scissors and cut it off- not too short and it doesn’t hVe to look good. Hopefully, your parent (s) will take you to a hair dresser to make it not look as shitty and you can get a shorter cut
3:40 this tiktok made me cry, it's so beautiful of someone to say that after being in closet for almost 3 years. Just wishing that my dream would come true one day - to be a man
You are a man. You've just gotta hang in there a bit longer tho, keep going for you future self, the one who gets to be comfy with being a man. You'll get there :)
My mum always told me not to shave my legs because I have “beautiful blonde leg hair” and it will come back darker and now I’m like “what if that’s what I want?”
lmao that just sparked a memory for me, my mom would tell me the same thing. i’m not blonde, but my arm and leg hair still ended up being really light and kinda thin. wish it were darker :]
2:16 I really am thankful to this man. Thank you for making me feel valid and sharing things that help me and probably all other trans people (both ftm and mtf). Thank you my brother.
I came out to my mom like 4y ago and she said she’s supportive (she’s a complicated person that has been abusing me mentally and is also a alcoholic soooo things are kinda…fucked up ig) anyways the point is that she accepts and supports trans people. She supports my trans friends and uses their pronouns and names correctly (always) ngl that breaks my heart like f**k you. I know you can do it you just don’t care about your own son, she hasn’t been using my pronouns ever and my name only a few times..I start to hate her bc she makes me feel like my entire identity is a joke
Any tips for school uniform? Let me explain more: My family is a little transphobic (mainly my mum) and she probably won’t let me get any masc uniform and plus my school shirt is tight on me (not able to get another atm) and it’s mainly to hot to wear my jumper so any tips? (Btw last year of secondary not primary xd) and plus we aren’t allowed to wear hoodies and my pe kit is like that to (without a jumper or hoodie) and plus there’s only one set of bathrooms that are for any genders but they are quite far from my pe lesson and I’m not allowed to go to them (ik its bs) and I don’t feel comfortable in the female changing rooms but the teachers are gonna try to get me to get my pe kit and start changing. So ye any tips?
You could try wearing the pe uniform underneath your normal uniform unless you get too hot. You said the normal uniform is tight, but maybe you'll be able to wear your pe uniform still? There's places that give away uniforms for free, i think. If there's a nurse's office bathroom, then maybe you can use that.
The last person is agressively positive and I love it I thought I'd share some positivity as I'm 17 and only found out I was trans masc 2 years prior, so I don't have any tips
I have multiple trans big brothers and sisters on the internet, and unfortunately, a cousin who my mom forced to cut me off.. i love how many of us like to stick together :))
The worst part is that i feel kinda trans but at the same time i have a very feminine body so big hips and thick thigs and big boobs and an hourglass figure and im scared that i wont pass:((
I had a very femine body as a teen and still have lots of curves as a pre-T adult. Fortunately I've always loved goth , rock and metal music. The clothes associated with that are dark, bandshirts only in men sizes and the men sometimes wore more tighter clothes and I could blend in. Metal guys even have long hair often and teen metal fans lack beard sometimes.
8:49 CHECK YOUR STATE LAWS FOR THE NAME THING!!!!!! IN INDIANA AND I THINK ANOTHER STATE TEACHERS HAVE TO TELL THE PARENTS IF A CHILD WANTS TO CHANGE THEIR NAME
I wanted to know if theres a way to still look masculine with shoulder length hair and curtain bangs (I'm a lover of the 70's look what can I say) Like- should I just wear masculine clothing and hope for the best? Also i'm not really trans more like genderfluid so- yeah idk if that adds anything.
My look is kind of similar, shoulder length hair at least (no bangs). One thing that helps is having my hair half-up half down, just a little ponytail in the back. You can still have the bangs loose in the front, but somehow the ponytail helps (at least for me). It might help to brush or fill in your brows a little to make them seem bushier. Make them look a bit scruffy, Han Solo style! If you're okay with makeup, try contouring for a more shadowed/dramatic jawline. One good contour trick is starting with a straight, diagonal line from just below your cheekbone to a point on the bottom of your face (hard to describe where, and all faces are different, but draw an imaginary line straight down your face from the center of your eye. The contour should end when it intersects that line at the bottom of your chin.) This creates that stereotypically masculine cheekbone shadow rather than a feminine "hollow", which is similar, but is a curved line AROUND the cheekbone. As for clothes, you probably know your preferences already, but stuff that emphasizes your shoulders can be great. I have a men's denim trucker jacket that's naturally a box shape, got properly gendered wearing that even with long hair :) Masculine clothing IS probably your best way to go, but there's more than one kind that'll help with dysphoria and/or passing, so don't give up if one thing doesn't work! Also, it's okay to ID as genderfluid and not really identifying with "trans", labels are your own to take or leave, forever and always. Final note, 70's bangs are awesome and no one will ever convince me otherwise :)
Anyone who has parents that won’t let you get your hair cut, say fuck it and go nuts with scissors. Also, remind your parents that if they weren’t ready to have a trans/queer kid, they weren’t ready to have a kid at all. It’s not your fault, you aren’t a mistake, you aren’t worthless, you aren’t a freak, you are a handsome little man and you my brother, are a king above all
So um ik this might not be the case for everyone, but the one sports bra and the other one on top backwards didn’t work for me so here’s what I do if it doesn’t work!! put on one sports bra fold it a little bit of the bottom of it over your breasts put another one on top of it so the one under doesn’t unfold easily ( optional: you can also fold the one on top just like the one under if that helps more ) also you can tuck your breasts in more under the fold(s) if you need to! HOPE THIS HELPS ❤️
I’m not trans but I enjoy watching these because I’m more masculine then feminine. I really love baggy “boy” clothes and not tight girly clothes. I also don’t like my chest and my waist showing through my clothes so I like watching these tips so I can kinda hide my chest and waist.
getting into(watching) sports, working out, having a guy pf online, playing video games (Nintendo, Playstation are good) using faceApp and measuring the two fingers either side of my middle finger to see the right one is larger (if the finger on your left side, beside the middle finger is larger, your more feminine) and last but not least wearing larger shoes or when the end of my sock, you know that part that be a different colour, when it can't/ don't reach your pinkey, makes my feet look bigger. These are things the give me Euphoria
I WAS REACHING FOR A GRAPE AND HIT THE DISLIKE BUTTON I'M SO SORRY BUT I UNDID IT AND LIKED THE VIDEO SO IF YOU GET A NOTIFICATION IT'S A FALSE ALARM I PROMISE
If you can’t get a binder or a safe alternative, I use a sports bra, baggy clothing, and slouch. This works better with smaller breasts I’m unsure about larger, sorry 😢
nawh bc the tip from 5:26 is crazy but rlly damn thoughtful and idk but it might help LMAO edit:the one from 19:30,the binding with leggings one. tried it. PERFECT. i personally recommend it.
Btw another tip: to flatten ur chest and u don’t have the money for a binder or ur not out to ur family I recommend using 2 sports bras that really tight. U put the first bra on first normally then the second bra ur gonna put it on backwards. If u don’t have 2 small sports bras and u can buy it urself ur family will just think ur asking for new bras. Hope this helps ❤ (btw PSA trans doesn’t look like ANYTHING if u r trans then u r and u r valid no matter if ur “passing” or not)
the baggy clothes tips at the start only works on skinny trans guys, for us others it doesn't do much. it's better than anything else but doesn't hide the feminine features at all. at least for me.
I wear pe clothes underneath my school uniform and just take it off (it's cold in my school almost the whole year but if it's hot in yours that may be a problem)
Any other trans guy like the lyric "he can't be a man because he doesn't smoke the same cigarettes as me" from Can't Get No Satisfaction by the Rolling Stones? Singing along to male singers has been something that's helped my dysphoria a lot over the years. I want to sound like Chester Bennington and Damon Albarn still.
im 14 and female. I tend to dress a bit more masculine and dream of cutting my hair of my mom wont let me . she says then ill look like a man. thats kinda the point but idk how to tell her that casue i think her and my dad are transphobic. I have to wait til 18 to start testosterone and ima wait till then to get my tittis chopped. idk when ill get my hair cut of bc im scared i wont look good until i start testasterione . but its kinda killing me to wait so long to start it.
my dad's 5'4 lol so 5'2 isn't that bad, as long as you're able to do everything else, height isn't as big of a factor. but if ur still feeling dysphoric you can wear platform shoes
1:40 sumwon whas making fun of my frend facke geto kinda kid idragd my frends hand two our table grbed her whater botle draged ourselvs back to them spray him in the face (he is soaked at this point ) then walk away he tride to spray us later but i bloked most of it with my arm (his whas plastic ours whas thols 1s with super jet nosles you can whaterfall from ) i dident get introbele thogh he did (i whas standing up for sumwon ) had a good cry with the besti and never had troble from his frend groop agen . 🙈
About to go outside for the first time in 10 years because it boosts t
It's not worth it, man, it's outside!
Is this serious
@@_DishSoap its probably a joke lol
another tip: if you like skirts but they make you dysphoric, kilts are a good alternative. they especially go well with goth/punk clothing styles and they make you look more masc while still having all of the benefits of a skirt.
plus, pockets.
this and also just wearing a skirt over jeans^^ not a look for everyone but i like it^^
Also, wearing long and/or dark skirts is somehow better for me than short skirts. Wear a collared shirt and a sweater vest on top (surprisingly great for flattening, at least for me) for a devastatingly epic dark academia look :)
I accidentally disliked yo comment I dunno if u got the notiff I'm so sorry fam
cool tip too
Yep! I'm part Scottish and recently got a punk kilt. It makes me happy
@@foxofranticco People don’t know when you dislike lmao
Hey everyone. Just remember no matter your weight, body shape, or size, you are a guy. Not all men are sticks. In fact, most men aren’t sticks. You’re perfect just the way you are.
I'm built like a freaking ice cream cone lmao
*@Hunter* That's just the sort of things guys NEVER say to each other but EXACTLY what girls say to each other!
Thank you, that made my day☺️
Not all men are cisgender and cisgender does not equal "real/not fake". I wish I knew this when I was younger.
@@keyboarddancers7751 ? What ? It’s literally called being nice
reminder for everyone: you dont have to cut your hair if you like it long. obviously for a lot of people this is like the "first step" of their transition, but guys can have long hair too! if you like rocking it long, by all means keep it long. it doesnt make you any less valid
Thank you so much!! I came out to my friends, and they constantly want to cut my hair even though I've told them multiple times that I wouldn't want that. So your comment really made my day!! ^^`
When I came out, i left my hair. I just felt good because i had some crush on a guy who had long hair. So I though, why not?
Yes! also you can masculanize long hair too. For example either not parting your hair at all and just having it all pushed back or parting your hair in the middle might make it look more masc. also when putting long hair up not letting the sideburns hanging out helps too.
yess, and guys with long hair look SO good, man😌
Thanks!! I absolutely love long hair. Like it on anyone, men, women, cis or trans. It's nice to have something to stroke and there's more of it to style.
Tipssss:
1) wear white under shirts with unbuttoned button up tee shirts. It helps so much with chest dysphoria.
2) swim trunks, swim shirt, and trans tape is the ultimate guide to summer.
3) talk slow, it’s helps a lot with a pre t voice
4) Tuck cuff of pant legs in your socks just a little bit to make pants a bit looser on your legs and reduce leg dysphoria.
5) laugh quieter, and talk louder but don’t yell at the top of your lounges, it will make your voice higher.
Thank you so much
Also if you hum for around 30-60 seconds as deep as you can go it'll temporarily deepen your voice a bit more. Tho if you do it too often it kind of makes you vocal cords sore? It's uncomfortable but yk
@@Nevevermore90 yes. It can make your voice gravely (which might not be too healthy) which is read as mor masculine
I just throw out all my under shirt yesterday-
3 is gonna be hard for my adhd lol
"rings make your hands look more masculine" i can vouch for this. im overweight because i'm really short so i have more fat hands. luckily, my grandma is a jewelry hoarder which is mostly not listed for sale. got some free rings from my homophobic ass grandma!
If you're young, get dietary advice and hit the treadmill. You've only one body; make the most of it.
@@keyboarddancers7751weirdo
@@prageruwu69for what? Giving him advices about his health with total respect? You are the weirdo
@@nacka2843 but who asked?
anyone else randomly get a rush of gender dysphoria that’s only soothed by putting on a hoodie
YES
Not so much lately because more people have been recognizing me and ive been changing my wardrobe, but those days where the girls behind me won't stop deadnaming me, YESSSSS
CONFIDENCE IS KEY!!!! Remember that it’s literally the most part because if you believe you’re a guy, people will start to believe it too
STAN THE USERNAME + so true
I love that username!!!
This. Walk around like you own the place just don't be rude about it (or do idc)
"if you believe you’re a guy, people will start to believe it too"... not really!
I wish I saw this a few months ago; I was clueless, dysphoric, and dabbling in toxic masculinity. Thank you so much for what you do 👍😊👍
3:00 you're wonderful, sir. I hope you're doing well, because you are gonna save a trans kid's/teen's life.
I'm genderfluid but this will help a lot with masc or even non-binary tendencies (male 90% of the time non-binary is about 9.5% female .5%)
you reminded me of that genderfluid people don’t have to always change genders because i sometimes feel but kinda know that as a genderfluid person
Hey dudes. Fun clothing tip if you have a small chest: FLANNELS! Don’t button it up, but let each side hang on your shoulders to cover your chest. Really useful for me. Hope this helps!
If you let it shape around your chest growths it looks more obvious. But you can make sure it's just going straight down your chest to look like it isn't getting caught on anything.
Also wearing a sports bra or a regular bra on the smallest setting
little tip for trans guys on their periods. the brand always has period underwear that you throw away when you are done with them they are for "night" but i use them all day. they are sold at walmart a little pricey but not horrible. and sometimes if you wear tight boxers over then they give you a bulge. they are comfy but make sure you shower often because they don't breathe well
I'm not even trans or anything but I find these videos oddly entertaining. Trans people go through so much in their head! It's probably similar to people going though eating disorders or weight issues and going through the associated depression. Just remember, you are strong and worthy. Please do not give up
people outside of my friend group will never see me as a man since i’m so feminine. sometimes i like having long hair and wearing makeup, and wearing skirts and aprons and collecting stuffed animals.
sometimes i like to feel more masc than other times. but femininity is a part of who i am. i’m trying my best to get out of my shell and be who i am even though i will face ridicule. i will not back down :)
any other feminine trans boys in the comments you are not alone!
:O you're just like me!
Hi! I've been femme my whole life, admired my femme grandma's old fashioned styles, used to collect little Barbie girl's hairstyle pamphlets, love makeup, still always been a boy/ man. I feel like I'm a mix of masc and fem but leaning more in the fem direction. I even love my very feminine given name and regret that it's the wrong gender for me.
@@phoebegee54 hello! It's nice to meet you!
i am the exact opposite of a fem trans dude, but i have SO MUCH respect for those who are!!! theyre so cool :) you go dude!!
some more tips on passing (as someone who isn't out to anyone, with the exception two people):
these all worked for me, so I hope they do for you all
- if you have any tank tops from when you were a child, wear those, along with a non-padded sports bra. don't layer with more than two clothes, and not more than 8 hours. it makes a bit of a difference, if you don't have too big of a chest.
- for me, I've found she/her pronouns give me more dysphoria than they/them. they/them pronouns are also more inconspicuous, so you might be able to get away with it around parents, teachers or anyone you aren't comfortable to come out to
- when you're shopping, go for a fit that's one size bigger. if your parents ask, you can just say you like the fit better.
- this might have already been mentioned, but ask if you can get a pixie cut. calling it a 'pixie' makes it sound more feminine and might make it seem more favourable to your parents. you can usually style it more masculinely later, worked wonders for me
remember, that regardless of whether or not you can do these/want to do these/have done these, you are perfect the way you are, and you're just as valid as any other Mal human being
100% vouch the 'pixie cut' part.
I once pointed at a picture of Whitney Houston at a hair salon and said "I want this. A pixie cut." Nobody questioned it.
Then I styled it with hairgel when I got home lol.
Personally, they/them is only a little bit better than she/her and can put up with it but much prefer he/him.
Hopefully nice story: I used to go to the barber with my dad to get my hair cut and it was gender affirming even though I never came out to him.
I feel kinda conflicted because there are certain parts of who I am that sometimes feel dysphoric, like how I talk or my interests, but I also believe in defying gender roles and I don't want to change just because I'm guy (adjacent). sometimes I just worry that even on t, what if my voice drops but not enough or what if my voice is still too bright and it sounds off? gaaaaaaah
Just try not to worry about it. There are plenty of dudes who's voices don't match up with their faces. And I've met some dudes with high voices and they are still men. If you end up having a high voice or don't think it matches just go with it bro
Don’t do it u will regret it you’re young ofc your mind changes every day I believe if u have doubts for even. A second it’s the wrong choice just my 2 cents … just think a bit is all I’m saying I’m not totally excluding it but think … n yes I know the trans cult is gonna say blah blah how dare u tell her no … nope telling her to think long n hard
Lots of men have high voices. If you're not happy, you can probably train your voice.
@P S "the trans cult" 💀 bruh if you're only here to be transphobic then get off of youtube and go touch some grass
so recently ive joined a new school and i got people to call by the name 'Nebula' but for quite a while ppl keep on saying stuff like "oh is it because u like guardians of the galaxy" and im like no its because i like things to do with space then they would just ignore me and ive been wanting ppl to refer to me by my correct pronouns but only a very small amount of ppl do which im glad about but around other ppl i dont feel like i should be around them at all because they make me feel uncomfortable and plus waaaay too many times ppl say oh "her pronouns are they/them" like its so frustrating i told my mum and she literally yelled at me and was like " OH THIS PRONOUN THING IS NEW TO PPL THEY WONT GET IT STRAIGHT AWAY!" but i have told ppl too many times and im gonna loose it. but wait theres more ive been wanting to go by Orion instead of Nebula because its more gender neutral sounding and i can be considered as my own person but i dont want to be a pain and tell ppl the new name i want to go by and i havent really told anyone about it yes so i dont know what i should do
i need help 🥲
Hey Orion. I hand a similar problem when telling people I liked the name Elijah as well and I promise the people around you don’t think it’s as bothersome as you feel you are being. Telling someone your name isn’t at all bothersome or annoying. And when it comes to pronouns correction I just correct the Person in question and move on. I don’t know how to just get people to use the right thing. I know because I use (he/they) I can just say “I’m a dude” and get away with that. But I don’t know what the equivalent is for they/them (sorry I couldn’t help in that department) ps:Orion is a super cool name
@@Sprinkles-is-confused its fine thank you Elijah ps: i find ur name really cool aswell
@@Orion_Yoshii168 thanks! hope everything works out!
Hey person! I feel the same way, honestly, in terms of names. I want to try going by Spencer, but I feel like it’ll be too much of a bother, especially since I’ve been using the name Aiden for half a year now, fully. So, I know how you feel. But don’t worry, Orion, if they truly care, they’ll try to understand.
@@r3x208 little late but I think if you like the name you should be fine. Hope it goes well Spencer
Have some random tips:
Those chest bags or fanny packs worn with the bag part over your chest can be great for chest dysphoria! Also black caster oil rubbed into your cheeks/jaw/upper lip daily can work for growing a little facial hair - it only works over time slowly and might not be as good as medication/T, but it’s the only reason I have some facial hair on my actual cheeks rather than just on the edges of my jawline and I’ve been on T for a couple of years now lol
Also, if anyone’s worried about going bald on T, the genes for that you get from your mother’s side of the family, so keep that in mind.
Also also, T doesn’t automatically give you muscles, you still gotta work out 😭
People will still wanna date you/be attracted to you, no matter who you are. Whether you’re feminine or masc or whatever, however you identify. You just have to find the right crowd, and you’ll fit in. Really.
Button up shirts that have thicker material and are plaid/have some sort of dark pattern are good for hiding curves/breasts. Plus, your chest probably isn’t as noticeable as you think - it’s rare that cis guys are fully flat, and most cis people don’t notice. Same with packing - most people won’t notice if you’re just wearing regular clothes, if you’re not packing.
Having thick/dark eyebrows can really help make you look more masc, and you can train your jawline to be a bit more defined with jaw exercises/clenching your teeth or something regularly, which can also help
If you bind with tape (sports tape, KT tape or trans tape), then buy baby oil and cotton wool pads or something. Cover your nipples with the cotton, and when it comes time to remove the tape (because it can last a few days if applied correctly), use a LOT of oil and go very slowly. Use more oil than you think you need. Otherwise it can be really harmful, so be careful. You want to pull your breasts under your armpits with the tape, essentially.
Also, I dye my facial hair lol. But I also dye my regular hair the same colour so it looks fine, and I apply the dye to my beard with one of those mascara brush things, so I comb the dye through my facial hair - if you just rub it all over the place, then you’re going to end up with a stained face. I use regular permanent hair dye (I’ve used Just For Men once before and that was fine but stained my face for longer than regular dye). It does stain the skin slightly but it comes off with washing and cleanser after a couple of days, so usually if I’m dying my facial hair I’ll do it a couple of days before I have to go out.
Also, you can totally look up voice training on RUclips to get a deeper voice. It can take a while to get results but if you keep at it you’ll definitely get better
"you can train your jawline by clenching your teeth regularly"
Eyyy I already have TMJ from stress, so I can already check this off! Glad to know I was already training my jaw without even knowing it, but also my poor muscles hurt and are constantly knotted 😅
I know some of you guys bind for more than 8+ hours (I did-) and sticking to the rules is easier said than done- but if you damage your ribs while binding, it will really hurt and will hinder your be ability to get top surgery. also it just really hurts, even if it’s minor discomfort! (I can’t take deep breaths without some pain) also you will have to lay off binding for a bit while you heal! - another young transmasc
Unrelated but nice Haruhi pfp
@@kuromistan645 Ty lol
what helps me as a ftm is to also keep a binder schedule . wear your binder on weekdays until Friday and keep it off for the weekend.
damn, thanks for the paranoia about possibly never being able to get top surgery 👍
Okay so this is gonna sound really weird but looking at a lot of art of men with really exaggerated chests has helped me a lot with dysphoria with my chest-
9:23 I told my Mom I wanted some new deodorant because the one I have is literally called lady speed stick or something and I picked out some men’s deodorant and she said “ew you’re gonna smell like a man” mom that’s the point-…
I remember before I came out as trans I was thinking that I was non-binary and I was happy with that until I thought: but like nobody cares if I'm non-binary (I mean the people where I live, not all of yous
BRO SAME
I know no one will see this but I just came out to my mom a she was so accepting!
I'm closeted nonbinary and most of my dysphoria comes from my chest. Heres some advice:
You dont need to shave your legs. If you don't want to, then don't. If people ask you why, tell them you just don't care to shave
Random t shirts are amazing. My favorite one is an old hand-me-down. Look for ones with more masculine or androgynous designs. Also, get men's t shirts rather than women's. Women's t-shirts highlight curves and shoulders.
Some of my favorite outfits consist of baggy black jeans, platforms, and a hoodie with a big logo. It covers my chests really well. I got it from a school event
It's okay to dress femenine. If you like the outfit but think it's fememnine, wear it anyway.
Overall, you can slowly change your wardrobe to more androgynous clothing and excuse it with "a change in style" "I'm a tomboy" or "I like more comfortable clothes"
Hope this helps! Remember, you WILL reach the point where you can come out!!! You WILL have a place. You WILL find people who accept you for WHO YOU ARE!! I accept you, love you, respect you, and am proud of you!!! Now go out there and do something to make YOU happy! 💙💖🤍💖💙 💛🤍💜🖤 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈
thank you for all of your submissions! the form is now closed, love you guys!!
I just filled out my form, I'm Jack/Jax, I hope I make it in your book, good luck with it!
Heyooo, just did the form ! My name is Robin! I hope your book is great !
good luck with your book! i believe in you
I don’t cry much…..this makes me feel valid. Recently I’ve been thinking about the fact that I’m gonna have to come out to all my friends and one of them is super homophobic and *HATES* Trans people….I’m trans.
It’s scary but if they hate people just for their identity than you shouldn’t be friend with them at all. Just be safe and do what feels right
Sadly we will sometimes outgrow people. Our paths reach a fork in the road, which, for you, would be whether or not to tell your extremely queerphobic friend that you're trans. Or, a third option could be to just never tell them but still cut them out. You don't owe others an explanation, especially in a situation where you know the likelihood of rejection and the spreading of information will be high. You are not obligated to share that you're trans to anyone, and no one is entitled to that knowledge. Do whatever you feel is best for yourself, keep yourself safe first and foremost as best as you can.
Your toxic friend will have their own fork in the road to choose, too. They'll gave to choose if they want to shun, reject, and lose you, or if they instead want to grow and learn in order to keep up with you. We sadly can't fully predict or get the choice from them we wish they would take, to learn to be an even better friend to you and help you feel safer, but you can only decide what to do with the present knowledge of the situation.
Just one more thing. Since I am a recovering people pleaser and still struggle with self-sacrificing, carefully think over how much this friend if yours means to you. Do you look forward to seeing them? Do you feel safe around them? Does hanging out with them or thinking of seeing them make you feel stressed, anxious, or exhausted? Do you feel energized and excited after talking to them? It's also okay and completely possible for positives and negatives to exist at the same time. Emotions are difficult to work through, especially when we aren't taught how to sort through them and self-regulate in healthy ways. I don't know any of the answers to those question prompts, and I can't tell you how to handle your own individual situation, but just heed a reminder and warning to not suppress the real you as to not hurt someone else's feelings, and don't let others only take and take and take all of your time and energy. Try to spend your time and energy in ways that makes you happiest. It doesn't even have to be with other people. Play video games, draw, hang out with your pet, spend time with yourself and love who you are and where your interests and dislikes start and end, and before you know it, you're going to find real, true friends who will love and accept you for who you are in the present and who you will become in the future. I know it's going to feel like it takes forever before you find new friends who aren't homophobic, transphobic, or generally queerphobic, but trust that you _do_ deserve a lovely social community and that you _will_ have one. You're already on the path, and you just have to keep moving until it comes into view.
I know I rambled a lot at you, but I really hope that anything I said helped you even a little bit. I'm rooting for you, my fellow internet stranger, and I wish you much luck and happiness on your unique journey /)^v^(\
thank you so much 4 this it really helped im using all these tips from this video idk what i would have done without this video thank you thank you thank you sooo so much for this video I hope to see more like these in the future.
I've been binging these types of compilations for my entire morning because I just wanna be able to pass man 😭
i started to cry while watching this. my parents dont accept me but my friends do and this is just makes me happy :']
Leave suggestions in the comments for more compilation ideas!!
I finally convinced my mom to get me a binder!!!
okay as a trans man I have to say that around 14:49 where it says to wear a binder in the shower PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS!! you aren't supposed to wear a binder while it's wet as it could damage your chest or ribs!! the rest of this video is great though :)
Some binders such as gc2b can be worn in water but make sure it’s a water safe binder
Yo bulky rings are your best friend if you think you'd hands are fem, also lightly darkening things like your eye bags can help with dysphoria if you feel dysphoria about things like that(I do and that helps but Im not positive it'll help y'all) and for the love of gods don't not wash your binders of fabric things you use to bind.iy can be clean and do it's job just do it at a time where you aren't binding or have a binding break.
17:23 my school has cameras pointing towards the enterances to every bathroom... there is a total of 80 highschoolers max here. I could never do this.
your school has *what*
@@FreshCarrotsFinally they aren't inside them or anything, but they can know every person who goes to the restroom.
@@Schnort That is so creepy
Some tips if you want a more visible Adam’s apple is to “pant” like a golden retriever or just any big dog and then do the same but lighter, like for a small dog. It helps!
i havent finished the video but i have a haircut tip! before i came out i would always ask for a very short bob (below the ears + layered) thats got short bangs. if i were to wear a hoodie or hat it would get me gendered correctly more,
if you can’t cut your hair just take a pair of scissors and cut it off- not too short and it doesn’t hVe to look good. Hopefully, your parent (s) will take you to a hair dresser to make it not look as shitty and you can get a shorter cut
Or put gum in it and call it an accident
or don’t if they will use physical violence on you to ‘discipline’ you
"Nothing could be of less importance than what other people think." - Hector P. Valenti
3:40 this tiktok made me cry, it's so beautiful of someone to say that after being in closet for almost 3 years. Just wishing that my dream would come true one day - to be a man
You are a man. You've just gotta hang in there a bit longer tho, keep going for you future self, the one who gets to be comfy with being a man. You'll get there :)
Your dream has come true, man. You are you. Nothing and nobody else matters. Be who you are. You rock.
Remember, cisgender does not equal "real". That's why we have that word!
My mum always told me not to shave my legs because I have “beautiful blonde leg hair” and it will come back darker and now I’m like “what if that’s what I want?”
lmao that just sparked a memory for me, my mom would tell me the same thing. i’m not blonde, but my arm and leg hair still ended up being really light and kinda thin. wish it were darker :]
2:16
I really am thankful to this man. Thank you for making me feel valid and sharing things that help me and probably all other trans people (both ftm and mtf). Thank you my brother.
Remember everyone, never bind with bandages or kt tape, and passing doesn't have to be your goal!
I used to bind with a scarf but only for short periods of time. Is that safe?
@@phoebegee54 I'm not sure, but I don't think so, scarves aren't usually stretchy so you wouldn't have room to breathe.
i thought KT tape was safe
@@hexhollows Nope. No room to breathe. If you're going to use tape you have to use trans tape.
The passing tips about the hair and the beanie, i’m trying to pass as a boy in school but they don’t allow beanies or any type of hat 😭
Tie your hair back use thick hair ties (they don’t break)
You can try a bun and leave some hair out? Idk my school doesn't allow it either but I just wore my hair in a ponytail I haaaaaattteeedd it
I came out to my mom like 4y ago and she said she’s supportive (she’s a complicated person that has been abusing me mentally and is also a alcoholic soooo things are kinda…fucked up ig) anyways the point is that she accepts and supports trans people. She supports my trans friends and uses their pronouns and names correctly (always) ngl that breaks my heart like f**k you. I know you can do it you just don’t care about your own son, she hasn’t been using my pronouns ever and my name only a few times..I start to hate her bc she makes me feel like my entire identity is a joke
Im so sorry it’s like that, I hope your mom is able to accept your identity someday. No matter her view though, you will always be valid
@@forgotabouteli272 thanks
Any tips for school uniform? Let me explain more:
My family is a little transphobic (mainly my mum) and she probably won’t let me get any masc uniform and plus my school shirt is tight on me (not able to get another atm) and it’s mainly to hot to wear my jumper so any tips? (Btw last year of secondary not primary xd) and plus we aren’t allowed to wear hoodies and my pe kit is like that to (without a jumper or hoodie) and plus there’s only one set of bathrooms that are for any genders but they are quite far from my pe lesson and I’m not allowed to go to them (ik its bs) and I don’t feel comfortable in the female changing rooms but the teachers are gonna try to get me to get my pe kit and start changing.
So ye any tips?
You could try wearing the pe uniform underneath your normal uniform unless you get too hot. You said the normal uniform is tight, but maybe you'll be able to wear your pe uniform still? There's places that give away uniforms for free, i think. If there's a nurse's office bathroom, then maybe you can use that.
The last person is agressively positive and I love it
I thought I'd share some positivity as I'm 17 and only found out I was trans masc 2 years prior, so I don't have any tips
don't be shy. GIVE ME MORE INFORMATION
When I wrote this, I was laughing so hard that I choked 😀🤩
I have multiple trans big brothers and sisters on the internet, and unfortunately, a cousin who my mom forced to cut me off.. i love how many of us like to stick together :))
6:31 helped me a lot bc there are free bindersssss
The worst part is that i feel kinda trans but at the same time i have a very feminine body so big hips and thick thigs and big boobs and an hourglass figure and im scared that i wont pass:((
Oh boy do I know that feeling 😅
Same. I wish I'd had access to puberty blockers.
I had a very femine body as a teen and still have lots of curves as a pre-T adult. Fortunately I've always loved goth , rock and metal music. The clothes associated with that are dark, bandshirts only in men sizes and the men sometimes wore more tighter clothes and I could blend in. Metal guys even have long hair often and teen metal fans lack beard sometimes.
i feel that
8:49 CHECK YOUR STATE LAWS FOR THE NAME THING!!!!!! IN INDIANA AND I THINK ANOTHER STATE TEACHERS HAVE TO TELL THE PARENTS IF A CHILD WANTS TO CHANGE THEIR NAME
I wanted to know if theres a way to still look masculine with shoulder length hair and curtain bangs (I'm a lover of the 70's look what can I say) Like- should I just wear masculine clothing and hope for the best? Also i'm not really trans more like genderfluid so- yeah idk if that adds anything.
My look is kind of similar, shoulder length hair at least (no bangs). One thing that helps is having my hair half-up half down, just a little ponytail in the back. You can still have the bangs loose in the front, but somehow the ponytail helps (at least for me). It might help to brush or fill in your brows a little to make them seem bushier. Make them look a bit scruffy, Han Solo style! If you're okay with makeup, try contouring for a more shadowed/dramatic jawline. One good contour trick is starting with a straight, diagonal line from just below your cheekbone to a point on the bottom of your face (hard to describe where, and all faces are different, but draw an imaginary line straight down your face from the center of your eye. The contour should end when it intersects that line at the bottom of your chin.) This creates that stereotypically masculine cheekbone shadow rather than a feminine "hollow", which is similar, but is a curved line AROUND the cheekbone. As for clothes, you probably know your preferences already, but stuff that emphasizes your shoulders can be great. I have a men's denim trucker jacket that's naturally a box shape, got properly gendered wearing that even with long hair :) Masculine clothing IS probably your best way to go, but there's more than one kind that'll help with dysphoria and/or passing, so don't give up if one thing doesn't work! Also, it's okay to ID as genderfluid and not really identifying with "trans", labels are your own to take or leave, forever and always. Final note, 70's bangs are awesome and no one will ever convince me otherwise :)
@@zanekrissoff2245 thank you so much, this was such a sweet message and meant a lot to me. you're really cool :)
I have a buddy who has waist - length hair and still looks rather masc (tbh I'm so jealous of him sgdhwbabajbs), so it is possible :)
@@drownedtrashrat3501 good to know! I've had hair almost that long before.
If you tie your hair back but leave a lot out in the front it looks kinda masculine (Sirius Black)
When they said guys don’t use their hands I died
IS THE REASON MY VOICE IS SO DEEP CUZ I LOVE GRAPES AND BANANAS?!? THEYRE LITERALLY SOME OF THE ONLY FRUITS I EAT
Anyone who has parents that won’t let you get your hair cut, say fuck it and go nuts with scissors. Also, remind your parents that if they weren’t ready to have a trans/queer kid, they weren’t ready to have a kid at all. It’s not your fault, you aren’t a mistake, you aren’t worthless, you aren’t a freak, you are a handsome little man and you my brother, are a king above all
12:24 me also watching this at an unreasonable time of night
So um ik this might not be the case for everyone, but the one sports bra and the other one on top backwards didn’t work for me so here’s what I do if it doesn’t work!!
put on one sports bra
fold it a little bit of the bottom of it over your breasts
put another one on top of it so the one under doesn’t unfold easily
( optional: you can also fold the one on top just like the one under if that helps more )
also you can tuck your breasts in more under the fold(s) if you need to!
HOPE THIS HELPS ❤️
I’m not trans but I enjoy watching these because I’m more masculine then feminine. I really love baggy “boy” clothes and not tight girly clothes. I also don’t like my chest and my waist showing through my clothes so I like watching these tips so I can kinda hide my chest and waist.
23:07 idk how good it is but it is one of Asia’s top selling binder brands or so I’ve heard. Heroine binders and they sell swimsuit binders or smth.
getting into(watching) sports, working out, having a guy pf online, playing video games (Nintendo, Playstation are good) using faceApp and measuring the two fingers either side of my middle finger to see the right one is larger (if the finger on your left side, beside the middle finger is larger, your more feminine) and last but not least wearing larger shoes or when the end of my sock, you know that part that be a different colour, when it can't/ don't reach your pinkey, makes my feet look bigger. These are things the give me Euphoria
Thanks for the Point Of Pride tip. I will try to get a binder delivered in France ❤️ Stay safe
I WAS REACHING FOR A GRAPE AND HIT THE DISLIKE BUTTON I'M SO SORRY BUT I UNDID IT AND LIKED THE VIDEO SO IF YOU GET A NOTIFICATION IT'S A FALSE ALARM I PROMISE
LMFAO ITS OKAY I DONT GET NOTIFS ABT DISLIKES 💀💀💀 hope that was a good grape
If you can’t get a binder or a safe alternative, I use a sports bra, baggy clothing, and slouch. This works better with smaller breasts I’m unsure about larger, sorry 😢
Watching this ans HOLY SHIT BROO 23:10 IM IN SCHOOL WITH THAT GUY HES SO NICE
Me reading the stuff in the second video be like: lmao I don’t even need the eye shadow under my eyes cause I’m just ✨extremely sleep deprived ✨
nawh bc the tip from 5:26 is crazy but rlly damn thoughtful and idk but it might help LMAO
edit:the one from 19:30,the binding with leggings one. tried it. PERFECT. i personally recommend it.
I went back through my diary to find things such as
I want my hair short like a boy
I can see why men like boxers
Etc
That could've been a clue...
At 7:51 when it told me not to bind over 8 hours I was like I shoot I haven't taken off my binder in a week!
The funniest thing I had an add that was about boxers for girls
15:44 when I saw the one about man spreading I was like “bet, I already do that”
Okay so what do I do when my parents know I’m trans and don’t support me, and won’t let me bug baggy clothes because they want me to be fem
0:13 this helped with my dysphoria so much
Btw another tip: to flatten ur chest and u don’t have the money for a binder or ur not out to ur family I recommend using 2 sports bras that really tight. U put the first bra on first normally then the second bra ur gonna put it on backwards. If u don’t have 2 small sports bras and u can buy it urself ur family will just think ur asking for new bras. Hope this helps ❤ (btw PSA trans doesn’t look like ANYTHING if u r trans then u r and u r valid no matter if ur “passing” or not)
I'm not allowed to cut my hair but my hair like just isn't long enough to flip it up 👁️👄👁️
Same
Only if I can use HALF OF THESE TIPS!
I’m female to non binary boy pronouns are they/he and these help alot
@8:22 A SCARF WHY WTF EVEN
me, a feminine trans guy: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I made a makeshift "binder" like half an hour ago!! experiencing euphoria and back pain :D
the baggy clothes tips at the start only works on skinny trans guys, for us others it doesn't do much. it's better than anything else but doesn't hide the feminine features at all. at least for me.
transmen and transmascs are different, but someone can be both if they want to. i am transasc but not a transman for example?
8:10 I'm literally wearing that same one rn 😭 it's rlly comfy for me at least
MY SISTER WAS IN THE NEXT ROOM AND THE BEGINNING PLAYED SUPER LOUD
Did she say anything about it lol
@@1cattails no lmao
Yep baggy clothes are my best friends(I’m FTM)
I’m getting my hair cut soon, i can’t wait
that sounds super fun :D
What do you do when you are at school and you have to change in front of people for pe?
I wear pe clothes underneath my school uniform and just take it off (it's cold in my school almost the whole year but if it's hot in yours that may be a problem)
I just need to learn how to walk more masculine T-T
same lol
Try to walk more outwardly and make sure your legs aren’t crossing over each other, that helps me a lot
Damn I remember when my mom walked in on me trying to wrap duct tape around my chest and it was so embarrassing D:
MY UNCLE IS GETTING ME A BINDER BC WHO I LIVE WITH WONT
13:14 and go to bed at a R E A S O N A B L E time tonight you HEATHEN
me whatching this at 2:36am: 👀
Any other trans guy like the lyric "he can't be a man because he doesn't smoke the same cigarettes as me" from Can't Get No Satisfaction by the Rolling Stones? Singing along to male singers has been something that's helped my dysphoria a lot over the years. I want to sound like Chester Bennington and Damon Albarn still.
14:34 how would eating food with testosterone help? And what other foods should I eat with high testosterone?
Boutta go to the beach because the sun helps with T production
im 14 and female. I tend to dress a bit more masculine and dream of cutting my hair of my mom wont let me . she says then ill look like a man. thats kinda the point but idk how to tell her that casue i think her and my dad are transphobic. I have to wait til 18 to start testosterone and ima wait till then to get my tittis chopped. idk when ill get my hair cut of bc im scared i wont look good until i start testasterione . but its kinda killing me to wait so long to start it.
18 is a good age to make the decision whether or not to "start testosterone and get yr tittis chopped".🤣🤡
dont be scared, i bet youll look good! im 15 and ftm, i got a haircut, i havent started testosterone yet either.
edit: this comment made me laugh too
My friend is the best she bought me a binder for Christmas
i dont feel dysphoric from having no facial hair just my t!tties mostly and some other things
I jus wanna know if i can still pass even if im 5'2
my dad's 5'4 lol so 5'2 isn't that bad,
as long as you're able to do everything else, height isn't as big of a factor. but if ur still feeling dysphoric you can wear platform shoes
1:40 sumwon whas making fun of my frend facke geto kinda kid idragd my frends hand two our table grbed her whater botle draged ourselvs back to them spray him in the face (he is soaked at this point ) then walk away he tride to spray us later but i bloked most of it with my arm (his whas plastic ours whas thols 1s with super jet nosles you can whaterfall from ) i dident get introbele thogh he did (i whas standing up for sumwon ) had a good cry with the besti and never had troble from his frend groop agen . 🙈
6:30 i want to get a binder so much, but my gmail acount is linked to my moms, so i cant
@Akira if i do i would get kicked out or hate crimed, thats not an exaduration, shes done it before