Coming Out to my Dad ON CAMERA (FTM)
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 2 фев 2016
- Hello! I'm Ean. I am just now starting my transition and so far its not been easy. Coming out to my dad was a big deal for me and I'm glad with how it turned out.
Email me any time for anything at ean.ross.duffield@gmail.com
or DM me on Instagram @just.a.raven or @radio.active.raven
"I finally have a son!" MY HEART BLESS. HIS DAD IS THE BEST.
Sister Daniel oh hello phandom
PhaNDoM
oh my gosh my heart did to
Sister Daniel i also felt something when he said that.
Sister Daniel I STARTED CRYING SO HARD AT THAT
"Some kind of sexual thing?"
"You've got a girlfriend?"
"You've got a boyfriend?"
"You wanna have an operation?"
"I finally have a son."
He knew didn’t he ?
AWH "I finally have a son!" Oh my gosh!!
My dad wouldn't have even talked to me about it, but congrats! ~
Edith :3 ikr!
Faithee Same
|-/
same
it cracked me so much XD
"My parental instincts are telling me to tell you it's just a phase, but I know that's not helping because I'm sure you'd feel like I'm not hearing you, I don't want to be that parent."
That is actually so beautiful. The amount of understanding there is heartwarming. Naturally so protective, but still putting your thoughts and feelings first. You have such a great dad.
"You got a girlfriend?"
"No-"
(whispers) "You got a *boyfriend* ?"
sharpshooter lol
This makes me wish i had a dad like yours
My dad is transphobic, homophobic, and is super religious.
Edit 11/24/2023 (7 years update)
I completely forgot I posted this until now haha, I’m on testosterone now and I went no contact with my family. 👍 Turns out they were actually really abusive! Shocker how abusive people tend to be like this!
I remember watching these videos all the time when I was like 11-14, in retrospect, it doesn’t seem like so much time had passed. I’m 20 now and didn’t expect to come this far tbh, I wish all of the trans people who relate(d) to me 7 years ago luck! Shit can be hard! Boys, ladies, enbies, etc-you got this, it gets better!!! You’ll inevitably become who you truly are ❤️ even if it hurts like hell, you’ll rise to achieve your happiness ^_^
you have a great dad
SAME! my father called me garbage when I came out!
Jellyton same but everyone in my family except my dad
Jellyton same
Jellyton same. And I'm Maybe trans Idk. I Think I'm agender and gay. ._. Yay
"Pretending to do an essay"
Five seconds in and I already relate
"I finally have a son!"
That is the best fucking dad I've ever heard in my life!! 😂😂😂😂😂
currently binge watching every trans coming out video to try to prepare myself to come out to my mom
did you?
Didja?
Exactly my life
Same
How did it go?
father of the year right here. omg im jealous
"You've probably already guessed this.."
"You've got a girlfriend."
Totally my parents lol
I love your dad! Ugh, wish my parents would say that but...they have a son already. Whale they're about to get another!
😔😔 I haven't came out yet, idk how they will react my dad says he loves his "daughter" 😢😭
Mh stopmotion So do mine, but if they truly love you, they will accept you. If they don't accept you, you've still got so much support from friends and other family.
+Tyler Smith thank you 😊😊
Tyler Smith I have two brothers, here is a new edition.
That's what I said;
You have two sons, here's a third.
Your dad is a great one. He sat down, talked with you and showed interest in understanding how you feel. That's a big fortune and something to be proud of. I wish you all the best :>
"I finally have a son!" My heart.
B L E S S, "I finally have a son!" B L E S S S S S S S S S S S S S S S S BLESS THIS VIDEO, BLESS YOU, BLESS YOUR FATHER B L E S S
my dad is racist , homophobic , transphobic and everything else, but he talked to me my sister talked to him, we are all trying to educate him, headspace talked to him, he thinks people will laugh at me, but im his child and hes trying his hardest, i'm talking to him again this weekend i dont know whats going to happen
He sounds like a really intolerant person if he’s also racist. How the fuck can you discriminate against people who can’t change theirselves of change the way they feel ffs.
"You wanna meet with someone you met up on the Internet"
.......... my dad........
The dads reaction is the best! Mine was just sorta like "I feel disrespected that you don't want to be called your birth name anymore its the name I picked for you" yeah... I'm a teensy bit jealous
Oh my god, that's exactly what my dad said to me :/
My mom said the same thing
my dad reaction was the same and that's hurt a lot
My mom... didn’t accept me :((
But I’m scared to come out to my dad even though I know he will accept me since he said he would support me through it. He told me “I’ll even support you if you think your a boy” 💗 still scared though
Omg I’m not 100% my adult child is trans however I’m thinking back at things I have said over the years and this is one of those “I picked your name”, along with other things I’m sure I have inadvertently. Feeling extremely guilty I may have hurt feelings 😢😢😢
"I finally have a son" ❤ best moment made me happy.
I feel happy for you❤❤
"I finally have a son!"
Congratulations, on this momentous occasion!
I'm so happy for you and it makes me so happy to see other TransGuys
with accepting environments unlike my own xx
your dad is a good man. i realized that uh-oh, im actually a dude, about two years ago, and i am not to anybody, out of fear of my parents. very fundamentalist christians, very conservative and right wing people in the bible belt. watching this made me ache to have a relationship like this with one of my parents. not having that, is a void that will always come back to haunt me. cherish that, please, for those of us who will never have that in our lives. go to a therapist. get help. they will diagnose you with gender dysphoria and get you the help you need to go on hormones, if you so desire. coming from a mental health professional, im sure your dad will feel much more at ease. god bless both of you.
I like how your dad is playing the guessing game.
Me too
"I finally have a son!" awwww i smiled so big!!!! his dad is the best!!!
I freaking love your dad. I'm watching a ton of coming out as FtM videos to prepare myself for coming out, this one, your dads reaction, it really helped me. Thank you thank you thank you so much.
did u come out?
Oli Ver how did it go?
I LOVE YOU GUYS
Reading your comments made me cry and I'm glad that people can be inspired and see that a lot of good can happen and there will always be a bright side.
I'm just a socially awkward kid, like I don't expect to be an inspiration and I'm just so happy I could something. Thank you guys so much
Ean Ross I love u so much I am a boy and I'm 12 and I really have a hard time with being transgender but now I am ready to embrace it and I'm going to tell my parents that I'm Transgender thank you so much and God bless u
Thank you for this video. It's nice to see how your dad reacts. Listen man in my eyes you're a guy.
@@hatsuneriku1998 me to! same age and everything!
You are such a brave boy and your father's reaction is so cool.
I also wanted to come out (as mtf) at your age but that was in the 80s and there was no internet and no support for it. I'm finaly out sinds two years.
@@hatsuneriku1998 so you're... 18 now? How's life treated you since then? Genuine question cause I hope you're doing fine and dandy
Person: are you crying?
Me: No!! I just have something in my eye...
Person: and what was it? *laughing*
Me: TEARS!!!!
Nice Undertale reference.
Haha this is the best reaction ever ! "I finally have a son !" love it, congrats
Congrats on making such a big step and coming out! Your dad sounds awesome and so kind. I'm glad things went so well!
I love your pfp
I'm not crying... I just have something in my eye...
Shane Hicks was it tears?
JaiUniverse how did you know?! 😂
Your dad is the best! My mom always said that she would love me no matter what and she has transgender and gay friends but I feel like I'm not ready to come out to her yet. My dad and I don't really have a relationship so I don't give any fucks there. But the rest of my family is pretty transphobic.
Finley is a potato I totally understand what you are saying I'm transgender ftm and my mum is so supportive of all LGBT stuff but I can't tell her I just can't
Safsaf Rabbit
I know right!
Rayegon is a potato I understand bro
This is Nothing. Same, everything you just said is basically my family
This is Nothing. My family is transphobic
You're dad is so goofy aw! OML I'M GONNA CRY AWS
I finally have a son OMG💓💓💓
my family unfortunately are religious and phobic.
me too sometimes I believe just in heaven but sometimes I think there were just assholes who wanted power and stuff so they wrote something who called bibel and tell ppl to kill they children if they are gay or trans and stuff...
nothing unfortunate about that.
Sir BravoSierra ye
Todd Toure my dad is like that too even though I haven't came out to him my dad has been wanting to know about my change in appearance and attitude and everything and he said that he would rather have me tell him that I'm lesbian or whatever instead of keeping it to myself and he said that he would be a little hurt but he would rather have me tell him instead of keeping it to myself and that is what gave me the boost to actually think about telling him. Trust me you parents love you and they will love you no matter what. Don't be afraid. I hope this helped🙂🙂
Mines religious, but not phobic.
I'm glad your dad was so involved with knowing more about the situation and actually TALKING to you about it. He seemed so understanding and that's how parents should be. Also, your lisp is so cute iM SCREAMING
Right? My mom just shut me down as soon as I mentioned it
"i finally have a son"
that- that sparked my joy
I love your profile picture!
@@sonofcar9980 thank you!
your dad sounds awesome and understanding and very calm
I about cried watching this. I'm cis, but I love to watch and learn about trans people to further my understanding. I've never been -phobic to anything and I'm Bisexual myself, but I really love learning about this. I watch a lot of Stef Sanjati and GiGi Gorgeous to better my understanding and I love the support your dad had for you, Ean. I'm happy for you.
SugarSpiceAndEverythingNice I LOVE STEF AND GIGI. I wish all Cis people were willing to get educated like you are. I am transgender and this means the absolute world to me.
You're great. I think every cis person should research about being transgender even a little bit :)
Anything to just understand my fellow humans more :)
SugarSpiceAndEverythingNice sameee❤️
Bicis gang :p
Omg your dad is so awesome... My dad wouldn't ever understand. I hope your transition goes well. 💗
Damn you have an accepting father
This honestly made me cry I my self am a FTM and I have been wanting to tell my parents I’m trans (and Pan ) for months but haven’t had the courage or self esteem to do it. This honestly gave me hope that my parents will be supporting
I hope you understand how awesome your dad is ☮️❤️
I'm currently watching every RUclips video I can find about trabs coming out and this video have me some sort of hope that when I come out my parents will support me
Subscribed ahh this gives me hope I'm too scared to come out to my parents or like anyone
call me daddy Don't come out until you're absolutely ready. Don't feel like you HAVE to do this, that this is something you're hiding or that this is the only thing that makes you, you. You are valid regardless if they know or if they don't.You probably already know that lol, but I just wanted to say it anyway.
omg your dad is the best. like seriously. he took this so well. my parents would never, ever react like this. I'm so happy for you man
When I came out to my dad, his reaction was cool, like he said to me "But you know it's okay if I finally have a son ! You can be anything you want to be and don't forget that I will always love you no matter what you wanna do or be, I love you my son
thats so sweet
Yeah it is ! :D Even if my parents and brothers still use "she" and it piss me off, but I hope they will use the right pronouns.. one day :/
I would never be able to do what you did. Coming out is such a huge thing and my parents/whole family is super transphobic. I came out to my older brother as bi and he was okay with it, the rest of my family is homophobic. I think your dad too this fairly well compared to other people so congrats man!
you can do ANYTHING you're ready to do.
I wish I had a dad like you.
Your Dad is super empathetic, you can tell he doesn't know much about being transgender but he's trying his best to understand your feelings :)
your such an adorable bean omg go you! your such a role model
"I finaly have a son!"
OMG THATS ADORABLE EBHDUDIDIF88F
okay your dad is the sweetest, idk how you two are now months later, but that was such a great start!
I truly wish I had a father like this growing up. Not even necessarily accepting right off thr bat, just someone I felt like wouldn't immediately dismiss me or put words in my mouth. I get a hard time wrapping my head around people having healthy relationships with their fathers, but when I see it hurts so much. He seems like a good guy.
This gives me a boost of confidence to tell my father about me being Transgender. I am already out to some parts of my family including my mother. seeing your video opens me up a bit to tell my father. Your an inspiration!!! Don't ever give up Ean. 😃
Wow I'm so glad it didn't go negative. I'm shitting myself for coming out Ftm trans. I'm so scared that I could end up homeless
I'm only 15
you can make it through
I was 13 when I came out.
Stay strong, you can do it
I am honestly here on this video, because I looked up "How to come out as Transgender to your dad" while in school...I am crying because I wish that my dad was as supportive as yours, and would actually sit down and talk to me about it and to just be supportive... You are an inspiration....💙💜
Hey you can get through whatever happens. Just do what makes you happy and let them think what they want. Whilst he may be your father, if he's not going to accept you then thats his loss.
"i finnally have a son!!" i died. this needs to be everyones father
YOOOO I CLICKED THE LIKE BUTTON AND IT WENT FOM 1.7K to 1.8K I'M SO PROUD
Dude this made me have all the feels since I actually just sent a letter coming out as trans to my parents and I don't know what their reactions will be yet, but I'm so proud of you for having had the bravery to do this! Also, I think it's so cool that you're from the Denver area because I actually live in Colorado Springs!
+blissandbubblegum (this is Ean on my other account~) oh cool! I wish you luck on coming out! it was hard for me but I did it sooo.
My mom was more accepting than I thought she would be, but she said to wait until later to tell my dad.
blissandbubblegum im glad for you :)
thanks bruh, you too
blissandbubblegum oh my god more trans Colorado guys!!! What are all of you doing here?
I'm the only "girl" in my family and they have always loved it. My grandpa just passed and it feels weird having trans feelings now, I don't know why though. None of my family knows I have these feelings. I think the only person that would be really accepting is my brother (aka my best friend 😂😁). I have always hated the way I've looked (every female part), since a young age. This video helped me gain a little confidence coming out. Btw, your dad is sooo supportive and I love it.
“I finally have a son!”
Me- *mental breakdown noises*
Everybody: I wish my dad was that respecting
Me:I wish I had a dad to tell…
honestly wish my dad was as accepting as yours.
You give me a lot hope!! I love you!!!
Your dad is awesome! He's so supportive!
The way your dad just listened to you and talked it out its heartwarming. He wanted to understand what you were feeling and you could see how careful he was being. I love this video a lot. I'm so proud of you
Just like me pansexual and transgender
Selena Zacarias Same!
Selena Zacarias Me too :D
SAME! : )
Selena Zacarias SAME FAMALAM
I'm bi and transgender
Bless this sweet sweet man. "I finally have a son".. That's fantastic!!
yes, i am so so proud of you
20:38 bruh im jealous asf with this, you and your bond with your dad is adorable! im so happy you have a dad that accepts you :)
Awe I love your dad’s reaction, honestly you’re , even lucky that you have a family like that- 🖤
OMG WHEN HE SAID THAT I FELT SO FUCKING HAPPY "I finally have a son YAY" My heart felt sooooooo much happiness
I feel like this is how coming out to my mum could go when I finally do it so thank you for this. It gave me a bit more confidence to come out.
Your dad seems so wanting to understand and be by your side, this is how is should be.
Happy for you dude, hope your transition went smoothly xx
My entire life I was aware that I’m not quite like other girls. I didn’t have many crushes on guys, I wanted to play with the boys more than the girls. Nothing pissed me off more than when the boys were playing football and mom wouldn’t let me play, or told them they if I joined they weren’t allowed to play the game properly because I was a girl. My older brother that’s closest in age with me is 18 months older than me. He was allowed to have BB guns, knives, build clubhouses, etc.. The only time I got to do any of those things were when she wasn’t around. Even after being older than he was at those ages, I’m still not allowed to. My brothers have always said I was more like a boy-sister or something along those lines, even saying I was more of a boy than some of the boys they knew. I came out as Bisexual near the end of 8th grade, almost three years ago. Pretty much everyone in my family knows and supports me, or at least doesn’t care. My dad doesn’t know, and I have no intention of telling him. Everyone else in my family, I have no problem telling if they don’t already know regardless of their feelings or reactions. Everyone who’s reaction I care about already knows and is okay with it (other than my dad). I knew I was a boy inside before I ever even heard the term Transgender. When I finally found the term I think it was the summer before or right after I turned 11, I thought I had finally found what I was and a way out of living my life like this but then I started hearing about how people thought about it. A lot of my non-immediate family is homophobic, and most people (immediate and non-immediate) are at varying levels of transphobic. Some minor changes have been made in my life recently, but I’m hoping it will lead into a good direction for me. I had some important conversations and I’m getting a job soon. I’m going to be working on getting my driving permit (should’ve been working on the licence by now, but I have driving anxiety), then eventually I’ll be moving out and onto college. My mom won’t let me cut my hair again, but I can’t stand living like this. I can’t stand the idea of having to go through big life events like this not being happy and not living true to myself. I don’t want to go through another 2-4 years of school getting called by a name that doesn’t feel like mine.
I feel like I’m lying to not only everyone, but myself as well. I’ve been nonstop trying to be the person I should be and that some people want me to be but I can’t do it anymore. I think it’s time to tell someone in my family how I’m feeling, but I don’t know who. I want to start somewhere though. I’m thinking possibly my sister. She has some strong opinions about a lot of things, but I know she would consider what I have to say and my feelings about it. Regardless of her own views I know she’d be there for me and try to help me.
That is great! He took it so well! Congrats! You are very brave!
"I finally have a son." OMG my heart melted
Your dad reacted so lovely! He sounded very excited while saying "I finally have a son!". I'm gonna watch your other videos in a moment because I'm really curious how it went on you. I'm so happy for you, I hope you got everything that you wanted and you're happier now!!
“ I finally have a son!“ 😭❤️
"I finally have a son!" That made me smile 😊
I'm really glad you made this video and your dad's reaction really was amazing. He was patient, had questions but let you talk. I hope your journey continued well.
I'm so proud of you I just started watching your RUclips channel and I love that you told your dad
This brought up memories of my own coming out, my heart was in my throat the whole time I watched this. I'm truly so happy for you. It's a long journey, I hope you stay safe.
Awe his reaction is so pure! I love it so much. I can only hope my family is half as supportive as yours. Congratulations man!
awe that was so sweet. best of luck. I'm starting to document my journey as well. I go to see my physician next week on Wednesday. I'm so excited. you are awesome. stay strong and we are here for you!!!
Bruh when he said “I finally have a son!” I legit burst into tears. Cause like that’s how I would’ve wanted my dad to react when I came out to him as trans, but that just wasn’t the reality of it. I’m really happy that you were lucky enough to be able to open up a dialogue with him about you being trans. I’m happy for you. 💙
Congrats!!!!
My dad would've never reacted this way but I'm so happy for you
You have a very supportive dad! I almost cried watching this ...so emotional
Omg the whole time I was smiling!! I'm so happy for u!! I'm gonna cry
Very good dad. I love how he really care about your feeling, really seeing you and want to know what you feel. Also that he adknowledge how you must feel. Good job, dad!
Your dad is so incredibly sweet, understanding, and listens and responds so well, even with his questions. Wow.. You are so lucky! What an amazing parental figure to have in your life.
Your lisp is absolutely adorable!!! His reaction just made me cry my eyes out! Maybe one day I’ll get there 😭
AWHHH HIS FIRST REACTION THATS SO CUTE “I finally have a sonn! :D” AWH I LOVE HIM
i honestly started crying, that reaction was amazing. i'm still in the closet and trying to find my way out. watching this helped me so much. thank you.
awwww “ i finally have a son” that was so cuteeeeee 🥺🥺💕
This is great, it made me cry. Im so happy for you
You are so lucky, having such a wise and understanding father !
I love watching positive coming outs but i always get envious.
I wish my coming out went as well as this
"i finally have a son!!" that was so pure omg i wish my parents reacted like that initially
when his dad said "i finally have a son" i started to WEEP
I hope everything is going ok ur so brave! Good luck with your transition:)