COMING OUT TO MY DAD AS TRANSGENDER

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @ap0llogetic427
    @ap0llogetic427 5 лет назад +1183

    I think he’s trying to say: „you’re still my child. You’re still the person I raised“

    • @gimygaming8655
      @gimygaming8655 5 лет назад +31

      That does make sense.

    • @katewarner-clement7558
      @katewarner-clement7558 5 лет назад +110

      Me too. He sounds like he's trying to be supportive but doesn't know how to do it.

    • @damanichildrey84
      @damanichildrey84 4 года назад +8

      Nah. That's your heart felt thoughts not approving what he said, and trying to soften the blow. He clearly is saying, he's still is gonna call him jason, and refer to him as such.

    • @AlexSmith-ov6fk
      @AlexSmith-ov6fk 4 года назад +17

      That's how it sounded to me. He just sounded a bit ham-fisted, which I suppose can be natural for someone still processing such a life changing scenario. She was right to keep reminding him Jason isn't her name anymore, and it felt like this is a relationship with opportunities to improve. I don't think anyone can expect everyone they come out to to be immediately onboard 100%, especially the people that raised you. I think you need to listen for the positives, take them for what they are and be patient with the negatives.
      Kudos to the poster, anyway. This was an incredibly moving video and I wish her and her family all the best. ❤️

    • @lamariposa5558
      @lamariposa5558 4 года назад +17

      @@damanichildrey84 This is such an ignorant statement. You do realize that there are people who aren't familiar with the issue of being transgender and the changes it brings along, especially the older generations (her father is between his 50s and 60s)? No, apparently not.
      He's talking to his child, who he only knew as male for over twenty years, for the first time since she came out to him as transgender.
      This is his position: He's confused, overwhelmed, he doesn't know what's the right thing to do or say, probably doesn't even know what all of this means, he needs to process what he learned and get to know his child from a whole new perspective as well as get used to it.
      And so, he asks her questions about how she felt, about her current life, he tells her he'll always love her and says that he's happy as long as she's happy.
      Furthermore, Jae's storytime after her coming out confirms that her dad fully supports her, accepts her as his daughter and refers to her that way.
      The way you shame him for misgendering her since he didn't know any different without and ounce of consideration is sickening.
      You're no better than any transphobic, just as obstinate and hostile towards everything outside your bubble.

  • @Littlechonch
    @Littlechonch 7 лет назад +1806

    ''Do you still play guitar?'' YOUR DAD IS SO CUTE IM SORRY

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 года назад

      @Miss Cute no I cant

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 года назад

      @Miss Cute guy alart

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 года назад +1

      @Miss Cute alright Mr cute

    • @Gigachad-kb1pp
      @Gigachad-kb1pp 3 года назад

      @Miss Cute I didn't

    • @tianapolanco4926
      @tianapolanco4926 3 года назад +5

      @Miss Cute sorry you have to deal with people like desta. male, female or anything else, no one deserves that.

  • @atticusgene2177
    @atticusgene2177 6 лет назад +2819

    im not mad at the dad, I'm sure he loves her. I think he just doesn't realise the power of a name. I don't think he realises it hurts to be called the wrong name.

    • @heyna1185
      @heyna1185 6 лет назад +66

      @@Network126 don't project your own issues on other people's lives. Thank you.

    • @Network126
      @Network126 6 лет назад +15

      @@heyna1185 I'm going to keep venting as much as I need to. This is my outlet. I deserve to be heard too.

    • @heyna1185
      @heyna1185 6 лет назад +82

      @@Network126 you can comment whatever you want but I have no respect for people who blame an entire minority group for their own personal issues. You're dad might have hurt you and your family but it doesn't make sense for you to blame "transsexuality" for it. A lot of people have a fucked up childhood but not everyone goes around blaming others who are totally unrelated to their own life. There's literally no need for you to misgender Jae despite being disrespectful. You disrespect her for no reason, I'm not gonna respect you either buddy

    • @Network126
      @Network126 6 лет назад +9

      @@heyna1185 Wow you're so triggered by this! I'm not here to make enemies, I'm here to wake people up and make people realize that this gender-bending shit hurts both sides. If facts hurt your feelings, then so be it. You're probably going to be furious when my book comes out. It's going to be such a blow to the trans community.

    • @valentinaaa3330
      @valentinaaa3330 6 лет назад +14

      HeyNa He's not generalizing them all. I can only imagine how damaged he is just from experiencing this at such a young age. He's explaining how it's hard for both parties and it's extremely ignorant of you to block out an experience caused by this... I understand that transgenders experience so much trauma and i really do get that but it impacts people's lives around them. And his story is a great example.

  • @choiseokone
    @choiseokone 6 лет назад +1642

    When he said “maybe god wanted you to be like this” that makes me happy. Because most people say “god made you a man/woman” but he said otherwise which is cool

    • @vmaxyneko5734
      @vmaxyneko5734 6 лет назад +28

      Idc about god and don't believe in god, i only care if shes happy the way she is

    • @lyndonleedalee1738
      @lyndonleedalee1738 6 лет назад +42

      @@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423 If happiness is wrong by your god then I want to become a satanist. Sorry.

    • @elizaheintzelman8764
      @elizaheintzelman8764 5 лет назад +12

      @@damanmanswantssubssubsgimm2423
      That might be true to you but why do you care if we go to "hell."

    • @crazyunicorn4884
      @crazyunicorn4884 5 лет назад +8

      God is fake

    • @lionofthecherubim4486
      @lionofthecherubim4486 5 лет назад +4

      @@lyndonleedalee1738 oh ok. So u think pedophillia is ok because it makes pedos happy gotcha

  • @graces-r59
    @graces-r59 7 лет назад +2091

    "I didn't wanna lose you" broke me

    • @graces-r59
      @graces-r59 7 лет назад +58

      You have no idea, do you?

    • @asterry6049
      @asterry6049 7 лет назад +20

      +it'sMe TheHerpes your an awful person for thinking that! What is the matter with you!? You would willing post a comment out to the public like this?! You need to find help and see how much suffering these people are going through! I do care about you because I believe that you were taught that these people are bad or you were bullied or abused and I just hope you learn to love people. Please just delete your comment and confess that you made a mistake and you are going to do your hardest to be kind and good.

    • @asterry6049
      @asterry6049 7 лет назад +4

      I edit it because I forgot the + but besides that nothing else changed.

    • @darklake9420
      @darklake9420 7 лет назад +3

      Gracie Dolan That's what my mother told me before I lied my way back into my closet.

    • @librababy2639
      @librababy2639 7 лет назад

      Weak

  • @Hi_Its_LP
    @Hi_Its_LP 7 лет назад +1628

    You can tell he loves his child. So much. He's struggling to make sense of everything. It can be tough (depending on how you were brought up, your culture, religious beliefs, etc) to understand this particular situation. It sounds like this man is guided by life long religious principles. He is trying. You can hear that he really does love his child. No matter who she is. I think he's confused and trying to put it all together. The hardest question for a lot of parents to answer is "why did this happen?" Stay strong, beautiful. He will come around.

    • @erichbradshaw4673
      @erichbradshaw4673 7 лет назад +32

      __LP__ Exactly!!!! I feel like she was hard to him. He was trying so hard and he still loves her and support her even bought a guitar I mean...there are fathers abandoning their kids for being trans, her father was EXCELLENT !!!

    • @myoona648
      @myoona648 7 лет назад +26

      __LP__ Right, like with the name too. I understand that it's hard to hear your birth name when you're transgender, but it's hard for a parent to completely ignore the name that they chose out for you. I'm sure he will come around even more at one point.

    • @Hi_Its_LP
      @Hi_Its_LP 7 лет назад +3

      TheDeadliestUnknown Sounds like someone needs a hug.

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 лет назад +63

      TheDeadliestUnknown I actually paid for my entire transition and for me to live on my own. I battled my entire life to be who I am; I've experienced homeless, prejudice, racism, etc, just because of the person that I am. if it's one person who knows what she wants it's me. But thank you for input and thank you even more for the view. 😘

    • @EmilyRoseVance
      @EmilyRoseVance 7 лет назад +26

      TheDeadliestUnknown She's financially independent and can do whatever she wants with her life. I assume you're a man. Her living authentically as a woman for the rest of her life is the same thing as you living as a man for the rest of yours.

  • @brewine9727
    @brewine9727 7 лет назад +842

    People are bashing her dad. it's honestly so damn hard to comprehend and wrap your head around the whole thing. I have a 17 year old transgender son. It took me a long time to understand. I'm going on 56 and it was so uncommon back in my days that when I first heard it it was almost bizzare. But for my son, I tried my hardest to do the best I can. I started calling him Nick instead of Danielle , but it took me 3 years. This is very difficult and especially for parents and grandparents. Now 8 years later he is my son and I no longer see him as my daughter. This is very hard to see your child change to someone else. Its very hard but I love him. His happiness is all that matters.

    • @brewine9727
      @brewine9727 7 лет назад +73

      You can't expect them to automatically say okay daughter! I love this new change this is amazing I support you! This hurts us too. Not because it's wrong but just because it feels like a lost. Imagine living with and raising your son and he one day tells you he is your daughter. It hurts us too, but we love our children.

    • @sunshinenuggets385
      @sunshinenuggets385 7 лет назад +37

      Bless you. It can be hard to fully understand the situation of your child. The fact that you learned to accept him and call him who he wants gives me hope😁

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 лет назад +17

      Will you adopt me? I'm joking, my parents aren't very accepting but I'm here two more years, so I think I can last. I would love to hear dad call me his son, but I don't think it'll ever happen.

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 лет назад +15

      Robin Sezen That question made me cringe in every way possible.

    • @FreakingFerret
      @FreakingFerret 7 лет назад +18

      Robin Sezen No, I am a man trying to make other people see me as a man as well. I am a man, some people just don't see it that way.

  • @minecarft6460
    @minecarft6460 5 лет назад +500

    ‘but that’s not who i am...’ 😭 💔 omg also ur voice is adorable

  • @cl4za
    @cl4za 7 лет назад +424

    I think he's saying "you'll be Jason to me" because to him you'll be the same to him like you won't be different in his eyes. You'll always be his kid. So glad he was so supportive and loving 💜

    • @mayberry6636
      @mayberry6636 7 лет назад +27

      Clarezy May this is exactly how I took it when he said it! ❤️ I just don't think he used the right words to explain what he meant x

    • @boydiv
      @boydiv 7 лет назад +10

      Clarezy May that's how i understand his words, too, but it's so relateable that she tooked it wrong in that situation, because she thought he would not support her. And if you raise a kid, and year later it tells you he/she is not the one who he/she was Born as, it's pretty Hard and room some time. I hope and, After all we heard in this call, I guess he will try Ing to u drrstand it better and maybe will call her by her real name and accept her completely as the Person she is now ^-^

    • @docteurshepherd
      @docteurshepherd 7 лет назад +4

      Clarezy May yeah I think she was just upset because he was saying he accepted her but at the same time wasn't by still calling her Jason

    • @elkm9802
      @elkm9802 7 лет назад

      Clarezy May. Thank YOU someone understood!

    • @noenth
      @noenth 7 лет назад

      Clarezy May thats exactly what i thought when he said that!

  • @Hanna-rt6tb
    @Hanna-rt6tb 7 лет назад +104

    "i'm normal" - the most important sentence she said that shows how strong she is. bless

  • @kaik8561
    @kaik8561 7 лет назад +70

    I came out to my mom as trans in December 2015 and the first thing my mom said was "I'll never see you as my son." Now she's actually making attempts to use my correct pronouns and name. Took lots of time & explaining but she's finally starting to come around. I wish you all the best with your dad and your transition.

  • @oliviakingsley4884
    @oliviakingsley4884 6 лет назад +1570

    SHES SO PRETTY WOW I AM S O GAY

    • @jubjub4603
      @jubjub4603 6 лет назад +24

      I feel that 😭😤

    • @zach4936
      @zach4936 6 лет назад +13

      U look it

    • @evadelliquadri
      @evadelliquadri 6 лет назад +4

      i know.

    • @tye4895
      @tye4895 5 лет назад +2

      @@zach4936 yucare

    • @zach4936
      @zach4936 5 лет назад +3

      @@tye4895 I didn't say I did care tf u on about

  • @smiles0901
    @smiles0901 7 лет назад +173

    Give your dad time to adjust to a new name... he says he accepts you and that's a HUGE first step!! You've taken a giant first step by talking to him!!! Embrace these successes!!! Congrats on your transition and new life... all the doors are opening for you!!!

    • @tawnayrigoyen1557
      @tawnayrigoyen1557 7 лет назад +1

      smiles0901 well said

    • @johnclhugyugihjbvgbkj9729
      @johnclhugyugihjbvgbkj9729 6 лет назад

      Agreed, to a point. I don't believe/agree with certain lifestyles but at least the dad is trying, I agree there.

  • @brandi2510
    @brandi2510 6 лет назад +654

    I really like this dads reaction. He is definitely trying. It's going to be hard for him to automatically start calling her by a different name. But you can tell he's seriously trying so hard to understand and be there. I have respect for him.

    • @hunterwheeler5510
      @hunterwheeler5510 6 лет назад +2

      B I can tell he does not like it but he is just trying to be the best dad he can

    • @lyndonleedalee1738
      @lyndonleedalee1738 6 лет назад +12

      @@Network126 You don't understand because you don't have dysphoria.

    • @th3yluvx4nny
      @th3yluvx4nny 6 лет назад +3

      @@lyndonleedalee1738 oop someone said it

    • @murphdawgswizzle
      @murphdawgswizzle 6 лет назад +2

      but he kept calling her Jason. that was bothering me.

    • @christophermcgarry6832
      @christophermcgarry6832 5 лет назад +1

      Lyndon Leedalee It's not dysphoria. It's dilusion.

  • @Jam29Josh
    @Jam29Josh 7 лет назад +3806

    Damn that almost made me cry.
    Sounds like a good dude who wants to be supportive

    • @mountainmistakes4169
      @mountainmistakes4169 7 лет назад +6

      Politely Enraged Gamer I feel sad for the dad..the phone hangs up..and he wants to shoot SOMONE...fuck this dud..you will always be Jason and a boy

    • @brendonmakesthosehighheels838
      @brendonmakesthosehighheels838 7 лет назад +99

      Mountain Mistakes Fuck you???

    • @undercoverundercover1480
      @undercoverundercover1480 7 лет назад +5

      Politely Enraged Gamer ikr

    • @bunny8962
      @bunny8962 7 лет назад +3

      Ikr

    • @-s-8355
      @-s-8355 7 лет назад +13

      Politely Enraged Gamer But he won't consider saying her name

  • @hussainabbas4765
    @hussainabbas4765 6 лет назад +1053

    I swear you guys complaining about the dad misgendering her are giving me cancer.
    He needs time do adjust.

    • @JC-jd1us
      @JC-jd1us 6 лет назад +12

      It's one thing to adjust it's another to outright deny someone love for being themself.

    • @tiko5876
      @tiko5876 6 лет назад +11

      J C la la land is wonderful huh? Fuckin tweaker.

    •  6 лет назад +16

      J C which he didn’t do so youre comment is irrelevant

    • @mikaeladonna590
      @mikaeladonna590 6 лет назад +16

      For real fuck the labels the dad is still showing Love through all the struggles . Shit I’m a crossdresser planning to transition in the far future and if people wanna call me Michael idgaf they can call me IT for all I care . I’m happy :)

    • @pedrosenchez5622
      @pedrosenchez5622 6 лет назад +10

      Right? That take times, it is not everybody who can go so easly and already making an habit to call you by your other name. Jeez! People are never happy tsss .
      The father is already a good parent to support and love her. But nooo, not enough ...-_- pathetic

  • @hazelnutsheep7863
    @hazelnutsheep7863 7 лет назад +1245

    I felt so bad for her when her dad started to call her Jason.

  • @sahrayasmin8534
    @sahrayasmin8534 7 лет назад +158

    I have a transgender brother (born female) he is 14 years old and had multiple suicide attempts the last one was the worst..
    he is still having trouble to go on in life, because of a similar problems like mentioned(bullying or family support) this video made me cry so much and gave me hope that one day the father of mine can accept my brother..thank you for posting this video!
    i wish you the best of luck and success in life ♡

    • @bojana875
      @bojana875 7 лет назад +11

      Sahra Eleah you are such a good sister.😊

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 лет назад +8

      princess jin thank you so much !!🌹

    • @sofiadrizi6980
      @sofiadrizi6980 7 лет назад +7

      Sahra Eleah I hope your brother will be okey and you too of course I wish you all a beautiful happy life ❤

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 лет назад +5

      Sofia Rtrsrtrs thank you so much 😘 i wish u happiness and a good life🌼🌼🌼🌼🌹🌹🌹

    • @sahrayasmin8534
      @sahrayasmin8534 7 лет назад +3

      Game Gamer thank you🌹

  • @imaniyup7908
    @imaniyup7908 7 лет назад +615

    "if God tells you to do this it got to be for a reason" I love this

    • @SasuKarinChIdOri
      @SasuKarinChIdOri 7 лет назад +25

      Lion Serpent the first time i heard someone in this situation use god to accept someone.I thought it was rlly cute.

    • @emmamaguire8491
      @emmamaguire8491 7 лет назад +9

      Cindy Pollard Maybe not, but you can tell he is trying to make her feel better

    • @zoeann7315
      @zoeann7315 7 лет назад +16

      I'm Christian. And I get it. People are scared of doing what they feel is right, or doing what makes them happy because they think it will dissapoint God. But people need to realise that everything happens for a reason. So if you really have faith in God, just let it be.

    • @thewhitewolf490
      @thewhitewolf490 7 лет назад +3

      KlarClara God doesn't exist and there is no such thing as sin.

    • @zoeann7315
      @zoeann7315 7 лет назад +2

      Samael Where's your proof? Of course we can't prove it. But neither can you. It goes both ways.

  • @GreiyzVallejoKat
    @GreiyzVallejoKat 6 лет назад +129

    Your dad loves you, he may not completely understand, but with time he will, he loves you and accept you, thats the important, he really triyng

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 года назад +1

      Hey guys how far away are we love one another a different angle minor rights even or not exact opposite of you I love you respect you honor you and I here I'm just razon equally angry mad or sad or any kind of way I want to be the boys people that wish day set them up as someone feel like the little bun and self and feel like it's worse than you are on your own cuz they took getting here I want it want to feel are your feelings adult about this and that and our people and people don't want other people so I want to I am open arms personality person that does not I love everyone all equally all the same even your a different calling everybody out there for color your all beautiful marijuana card or sword or fat I still love you anyway and I still love you and I'll help people that like the someone shot him up and pushed him out of the way and for your face before getting rid of old by someone's purple words and bullying I want to speak up campaign one day hopefully from her when I was getting bullied and hurt but other people cuz we get hurt if you like you mad at Eric people before like you want to push him away and surrounding face, names go up and ring on that so hope you guys are okay and probably not calm people that being bullied or feel like they've been Littles work being pushed out more like from home and his people know where I am I feel so sorry that they had a rough time at home or any type of things happened home and I care if it's someone Tarak didn't care but you have to say I do cuz I want to help people that

  • @commanderuwu457
    @commanderuwu457 7 лет назад +2383

    The dad the whole time: "I SUPPORT YOU CHILL THE FUCK OUT I LOVE YOU, BUT WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME SOONER, AND PICK UP THE GOD DAMN PHONE."

    • @burzumhemdead3561
      @burzumhemdead3561 7 лет назад +105

      Bubbles Wilson that's what I herd, I herd a father that loves his child regardless,

    • @kkzcraze6225
      @kkzcraze6225 7 лет назад +7

      Burzumhem Dead like...like a *herd* of cows? ooohhhh heard. yeah go back to 2nd grade

    • @burzumhemdead3561
      @burzumhemdead3561 7 лет назад +16

      seriously? wtf did I do ,to deserve that? try and be nice to the libtards , and this is what I get.

    • @hailyhomer7858
      @hailyhomer7858 7 лет назад +17

      Bubbles Wilson wtf her dad will always remember her as Jason

    • @ilovefrankocean7823
      @ilovefrankocean7823 7 лет назад

      Haily Homer he is still a boy and doesnt put him in a girl position

  • @elizaroll9810
    @elizaroll9810 7 лет назад +615

    How is her skin sO PRETTY HOW?!

  • @hollychamberlain4759
    @hollychamberlain4759 7 лет назад +63

    Oh my god, the part where you said "I didn't choose this" made me cry...and then your dad said "God is looking at you, he put you in there. You're okay." This is great 👏🏻☺️💓

  • @Sour.Lemonz
    @Sour.Lemonz 6 лет назад +399

    I haven’t seen many MTF trans people, honestly If I saw you in public, I would never clock you as a trans. I think you are very beautiful, and it’s great that you can accept yourself, you’re very inspirational. Honestly you are way prettier than me, I’m really jealous

    • @femboyrules7594
      @femboyrules7594 5 лет назад +9

      You're not ugly you're a gorgeous human :)

    • @fuckwit107
      @fuckwit107 4 года назад +23

      Hi, I'm a trans man and I really love your sentiment! However I'd like to give you some friendly pointers on how to compliment trans people in the future. I can see why you would think saying someone doesn't look trans is a compliment, but a lot of the time isn't seen as such. Many trans people who don't pass can feel invalidated, or "less" trans. Just saying they're pretty works! Again I really love your intentions, just wanted to give some guidance!

    • @Sour.Lemonz
      @Sour.Lemonz 4 года назад +13

      @@fuckwit107 yes, yes, im aware of that now :) i think everyone is beautiful no matter what they identify as whether they pass or not. I actually came out as a trans identifying nonbinary at the start of this year 😊

    • @fuckwit107
      @fuckwit107 4 года назад +13

      @@Sour.Lemonz Oh radical!! There's so much personal growth in this comments section, proud of y'all.

    • @leetiffee7814
      @leetiffee7814 4 года назад +3

      I’m 13 and I’m a male but want to be a female but don’t know how

  • @caswelch6689
    @caswelch6689 7 лет назад +378

    you and your girlfriend at the end made me so happy, she was so sweet. this whole video is so sweet omg i gonna cry

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +17

      Thas is one cool chick.

    • @deniset2115
      @deniset2115 7 лет назад +5

      I'm still confused. This is a once male who's now female and has a romantic girlfriend? So this is a transformation to be a lesbian?

    • @ryanisarat2550
      @ryanisarat2550 7 лет назад +19

      Denise T Sexuality and gender are two different things.

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +13

      SkytaskyGaming You seem to be confused.
      Yes, both are biological, in that they are both possessed by biological entities, rather than say, a calculator.
      Biological sex, Sexual Orientation, sexual expression, and gender are all different things.
      All of them are rooted in biology.
      And some of them are influenced by our desires and choices.
      In that someone can be born with a brain and personality that does not match their genitals.
      And some are ambivalent, and can choose. Not all can.
      Imagine if you woke up with the wrong genitals and appearance tomorrow.
      how would you feel.
      That's how a lot of trans people fell, from childhood.
      Does that make things clearer?

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +2

      King of Pop Exactly what causes the variation in human sexuality is not completely understood.
      It has a genetic component, a hormonal component, and a psychological one.
      It's not under your control, nor is it wholly genetic.
      Research is ongoing.

  • @Marta-fs3jb
    @Marta-fs3jb 6 лет назад +453

    Don't worry your dad just need some time, you are a pretty girl and he will understad it.

  • @jbwayz157
    @jbwayz157 6 лет назад +2128

    YOUR VOICE IS SO SWEET

  • @BananaWorm
    @BananaWorm 6 лет назад +685

    The dad didn’t do anything wrong. He obviously doesn’t know how to react to this, he’s still supporting her and is accepting it. He even said so. Idk why people are talking shit.

    • @galaxy._.boi0451
      @galaxy._.boi0451 5 лет назад +25

      Flex2slick it’s not a mental illness. 😤🙄🙄

    • @MidnightLabyrinth12
      @MidnightLabyrinth12 5 лет назад +26

      For me at least, it's common for people to say "hey, I support you....BUT...." and say exactly what the issue is here.
      Most of my family has been this way and even some of my friends have too. They'll say they support me, but claim that they just want me to be androgynous, pick at every bit of myself that makes me insecure in my masculinity, and go as far as to say "[deadname] is your name. That's who you are, and that's what I'll call you." and do way more things than that.
      Sure people can say they are supportive (and I'm sure the dad is supportive), but everyone has something to nit pick about things like this and act like it doesn't hurt the person telling them this. Words can be powerful and so can names.

    • @IronShredder
      @IronShredder 5 лет назад +17

      @@daddyndaughter6106 It isn't a "mental illness." Educate yourself before saying stupid shit.

    • @rer-cilantro4008
      @rer-cilantro4008 5 лет назад +4

      @@IronShredder I love your answer you are great

    • @rer-cilantro4008
      @rer-cilantro4008 5 лет назад +2

      @@daddyndaughter6106 what a pussy that can't even give an answer

  • @baka4041
    @baka4041 7 лет назад +156

    You are so brave, you did it! And you two are so adorable, glad to see that you have people who support you

  • @tenna_martyna916
    @tenna_martyna916 7 лет назад +868

    Aww this girl is just so beautiful just the way she is.

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 лет назад +9

      Tenna_ Martyna he* handsome*

    • @charliebrayson
      @charliebrayson 6 лет назад +50

      Jack Frost What is your problem? You're just actively trying to offend people, beautiful and handsome aren't gender specific, and she's a female

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 лет назад +8

      Charlie Brayson no he is a male not a female not trying to annoy people

    • @charliebrayson
      @charliebrayson 6 лет назад +38

      Jack Frost You have no right to decide someone's gender

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 лет назад +8

      Charlie Brayson i know i don't he was born male so he is a male i didn't decide god did ☺

  • @jaycelegends4300
    @jaycelegends4300 7 лет назад +181

    this is both heartbreaking and heartwarming at the same time.

    • @sugarwuzzy7586
      @sugarwuzzy7586 7 лет назад

      Damn...that profile picture gave me a fucking heart attack!

  • @danny6356
    @danny6356 5 лет назад +201

    "maybe God wanted you to be like this and it's who you are. so you be proud of yourself. because I'm proud of you too. okay?
    and I'm with you. a hundred percent."
    gdi I almost started crying. this man deserves no hate. he is trying to support his daughter and needs time to adjust. good on him.

    • @theevilmoppet
      @theevilmoppet 4 года назад +7

      @@mmarvel2003 No, that's just not how being transgender works. *She* is his *daughter*.

    • @dawn2697
      @dawn2697 4 года назад +4

      @@mmarvel2003 no her name is Olivia because she now changed her name to Olivia

    • @DinosaurNick
      @DinosaurNick Год назад

      @@mmarvel2003 Her name is (I think) Olivia

  • @chadlikespasta3142
    @chadlikespasta3142 7 лет назад +2347

    whoa, you're actually a really beautiful girl. im extremely sorry your father is the way he is. atleast he still loves you. it sucks, i know. but you'll get through this. again, atleast your dad is accepting, and maybe one day he'll understand.

    • @riccardoagodi4309
      @riccardoagodi4309 6 лет назад +13

      Chad Eats Pasta no he is a deformed man

    • @thetruth2258
      @thetruth2258 6 лет назад +23

      Its a guy....not a girl.....

    • @adiosAuxiliator
      @adiosAuxiliator 6 лет назад +107

      SHE'S a girl. If she says she's a girl she's a girl. She has female hormones and her name is Jae.

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 лет назад +13

      adiosAuxiliator are you dumb that's a fucking dude not matter what

    • @SnowTheGoon
      @SnowTheGoon 6 лет назад +14

      What more do you expect from him? He had a son, raised him, loved him, gave him everything he needed and even now fully supports him. Its his son, that's who he knows, its basically the same thing like when a dad tells his daughter that no matter how old she is, she's still his baby girl. Its not about him not accepting the change, its literally whats in his heart.

  • @natheniapotter4858
    @natheniapotter4858 7 лет назад +156

    so incredible, literally in tears😭💛

  • @MeelC8
    @MeelC8 7 лет назад +290

    Hi, Jae... I'm a mexican writer, I'm bisexual so I understand how hard it is to come out. See.. I'm writing a LGBT book, it's poetry, actually... And this video inspired me so so so much! Thank you! stay strong! You're a beautiful woman. Much love :)

    • @RosieBrownie
      @RosieBrownie 7 лет назад +4

      Melissa Cornejo You're *AMAZING* 😊👍

    • @MeelC8
      @MeelC8 7 лет назад +4

      Rosie Brown Thank you so much!!!! ❤❤❤

    • @felicityjohnston9276
      @felicityjohnston9276 7 лет назад +5

      Melissa Cornejo id love to read that ❤ im lesbian. everyone i know knows that i am and most people dont want me to be lesbian they wish i am straight but im not. i used to be bi and they know that. so they still think i could be with a guy.but the truth is i was only bi as a form to fit in because i tried to deny myself because it is hard. but i love being different and i love my sexuality. mainly my moms the only one in my family who fully accepts me,but she has to lol....shes bi. but people say if im happy then they have no choice but to accept me bec happiness is the most important thing.

    • @skye7489
      @skye7489 7 лет назад +4

      Melissa Cornejo I just came out to my friend last night as bi. she's the onky one who knows.
      I know thts off topic ok bye now

    • @felicityjohnston9276
      @felicityjohnston9276 7 лет назад +2

      Pacify That Crybaby thats great. ❤did she take the news happily? i hope so.

  • @ysabiau4058
    @ysabiau4058 6 лет назад +148

    Oh my god she is absolutely gorgeous.
    Y’all need to stop being rude to the dad, he’s trying to understand something that’s very hard to comprehend. I think what he meant was that you will always be his child and no less of a person than you were before?

  • @lindseysummers5351
    @lindseysummers5351 7 лет назад +50

    Jae, you put a lot of thought and heart into this. I can tell by your father's words that he loves you very much. Accepting that he has a daughter named Jae is going to take him time. I've learned that, as a transgender person, patience is a virtue and sometimes you have to take what you can get. Give him time to get acclimated, be prepared to answer his questions, and if he is going to disagree with you at all on this topic, don't invalidate his feelings but instead let him know where you're coming from (you did a great job of this during your conversation, and I'm so proud of you!!) It's a long and difficult road for someone in transition. Know that you are never alone, as there are always going to be people out here supporting you. As for the detractors, they will always be there, talking their smack. Let 'em. They don't matter. You know who you are as a beautiful young woman. Be happy, be strong, and be proud.

  • @WebVManReturns
    @WebVManReturns 6 лет назад +2172

    If I were her father, I would respond by saying, "I HAVE NO SON!!! So daughter, how is life treating you now?"

    • @night7185
      @night7185 6 лет назад +3

      WebVMan him.

    • @jonathanmoss503
      @jonathanmoss503 6 лет назад +73

      Typo “I HAVE NO DAUGHTER!!! So son, how are you doing

    • @-kiwiflower3783
      @-kiwiflower3783 6 лет назад +103

      Jonathan Moss ass

    • @jonathanmoss503
      @jonathanmoss503 6 лет назад +6

      Galactacium I wouldn’t want to see his

    • @KN_-kc6kx
      @KN_-kc6kx 6 лет назад +60

      Brian Zmolek Well truthfully that's transphobic and it's all about which gender the person feels, and doesn't matter biologically what you are. You can be a toaster of you want. You aren't hot tho, that's the thing, so that's one thing you'll have to improve on, mabey a few plastic surgerys will fix it. Being trans is about how you feel and then transitioning to the gender you feel to stop dysphoria get the most of you and lead you to the edge of suicide.

  • @katelyndickinson3458
    @katelyndickinson3458 7 лет назад +496

    poor girl her dad is sending such mixed messages i really hope he can learn more.i wish her only the best

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 лет назад

      Same

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 лет назад

      @Jonathan Castelino girl* 👀

    • @shyryTsr2k
      @shyryTsr2k 6 лет назад

      @Jonathan Castelino girl~*

    • @wnhi5029
      @wnhi5029 6 лет назад

      @Jonathan Castelino what is with people asking about other people's genitals like the fuck?

  • @leonardodicapriosbabymama111
    @leonardodicapriosbabymama111 6 лет назад +405

    "I wanted to kill myself for the longest time"
    I want to hug u so bad omg...my mom died when i was 10 and she was the only one who would accept me....keep fighting sis maybe one day we can all be accepted as human💔

    • @lex4103
      @lex4103 6 лет назад +7

      nawhwwh sorry this has nothing to do with your comment but
      SKSKSKSK YOUR NAME
      CRANKGAMEPLAYS
      DAN AND PHIL
      AND TØP
      YOU ARE MY COPY

    • @leonardodicapriosbabymama111
      @leonardodicapriosbabymama111 6 лет назад +5

      @@lex4103 lmao😂

    • @nohtopia
      @nohtopia 5 лет назад +4

      💕💕💕

    • @tye4895
      @tye4895 5 лет назад +3

      Ok 1 love ur name ||-//, 2 I'm so sorry for your loss.

    • @virgilsanders1542
      @virgilsanders1542 5 лет назад

      I am so sorry for your loss

  • @sywitz
    @sywitz 6 лет назад +157

    I could really tell your dad cares about you a LOT. He isn't the most eloquent when it comes to comforting you, and he doesn't always say the most empathetic, calming things, but he really does care about you, which is fantastic :)

  • @lemonskilledmyson9862
    @lemonskilledmyson9862 7 лет назад +1049

    You'll alway be the same person to him. I think that's what he's trying to say.
    I don't think he was trying to be rude. I think that's what he was trying to say. :)

    • @hailyhomer7858
      @hailyhomer7858 7 лет назад +2

      Yeah

    • @-s-8355
      @-s-8355 7 лет назад +26

      Lee is a he The name is very important to her. Being called Jason.. Saying that she is only Jason, can't be called something different, is actually pretty fucking rude.

    • @lemonskilledmyson9862
      @lemonskilledmyson9862 7 лет назад +13

      Quinn Winchester but that's not what he was saying.
      He's saying she'll always be the same person to him

    • @thetruepatriot7733
      @thetruepatriot7733 7 лет назад +4

      Quinn Winchester well although he changed his name, appearance, and voice...she is still a guy! no amount of medication can change that. these people have a mental illness and the treatment is transitioning. I'm fine with that, but people have to stop pretending this is normal and recognize that this no different than diabetes.

    • @rattyamber6848
      @rattyamber6848 7 лет назад +14

      LIZZY THE ROTTWEILER no they don't have a mental illness, she is a she and won't be a a male they *TRANSITIONED*, and it's disrespectful to call someone something they aren't and clearly you sound like a homophobic.

  • @ImFuckingAwesome97
    @ImFuckingAwesome97 7 лет назад +464

    my parents told me I'd always be their baby girl but now years later they've told me when they look at me they can only see their son, Charlie. it took time but now they understand and see me as their little boy.

  • @justin_rawrxd8113
    @justin_rawrxd8113 5 лет назад +280

    Me:I so relate so much to this
    Mom:”yOuR nOt A bOy *birth name*”
    Me:*starts crying when I here my birth name
    Mom:” YoU cRy tO mUcH tO bE a BoY”

    • @Static3649
      @Static3649 4 года назад +28

      I know I'm a year late but I saw that nobody commented so
      *Hugs*

    • @xoll1571
      @xoll1571 4 года назад +16

      Awh im trans too and I found this pretty funny it’s good that you can make a joke about it stay strong bro 🤍🤍

    • @rememberme3762
      @rememberme3762 4 года назад +6

      @@xoll1571Male or female?

    • @xoll1571
      @xoll1571 4 года назад +10

      Remember me!!! Female 💕

    • @huaraches8934
      @huaraches8934 4 года назад

      Calm down justin

  • @briizrachel
    @briizrachel 7 лет назад +654

    She's so cute, her smile is contagious.

    • @sosa3017
      @sosa3017 7 лет назад +7

      his smile not her.

    • @bojana875
      @bojana875 7 лет назад +56

      SosaDa'Vinci *her* smile.

    • @noenth
      @noenth 7 лет назад +45

      SosaDa'Vinci *HER* smile is beautiful, and she's a beautiful person

    • @domenic3933
      @domenic3933 7 лет назад +4

      Michael4ever - Rachel |-/

    • @Noided88815
      @Noided88815 7 лет назад +6

      Michael4ever - Rachel *his

  • @shesinscrubs
    @shesinscrubs 7 лет назад +830

    Your smile is so radiant! I can't imagine how hard this was, you're so strong💕

    • @shesinscrubs
      @shesinscrubs 7 лет назад +18

      Hurt my heart every time he said J*****😞

    • @shesinscrubs
      @shesinscrubs 7 лет назад +52

      I have the same bee pillow pet 😂

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 лет назад +101

      same. but i'll make him come around

  • @steverock100
    @steverock100 7 лет назад +203

    Him saying that you will always be Jason, to him, is a parent thing. It's not meant to be hateful or hurtful. He even said he supports you and accepts who you are.

    • @Blankphotograph5799
      @Blankphotograph5799 7 лет назад +3

      Donald Stevenson yes it’s great and we understand that but they have to understand that it does hurt.

    • @milo9376
      @milo9376 5 лет назад

      Very off topic but the profile pic you have rn i used to have as my lock screen and my instagram pic 😂

  • @Max-ny1pm
    @Max-ny1pm 3 года назад +13

    I'm telling my parents I'm trans soon. But I have no clue how.
    Honestly this helped me gain so much confidence you said it so easily.
    Your so beautiful. And so brave.

    • @ax6356
      @ax6356 3 года назад +1

      did it go as imagined?

    • @sunskist
      @sunskist 2 месяца назад

      how did it go?! update please 🙏🙏 im in your shoes you were in 3 years ago and terrified

  • @courtneyfleming8698
    @courtneyfleming8698 7 лет назад +175

    I hate it when certain family members tell me, "I love you and support you, but you will always be (deadname) to me."

    • @tuckermayatt2705
      @tuckermayatt2705 7 лет назад +18

      Courtney Fleming well it takes time to process this type of stuff :p

    • @l64258
      @l64258 7 лет назад

      I don't know about anyone else, but personally, I hear in the dad using her birth name, he's using it because it seems he feels he's losing this child and he's scared. Although I understand and have 100% respect for the person dealing with it, I think they have to understand that the parents are going through it as well, and particularly in this case, it sounds like he did not see it coming so he will need time to get used to it. Personally, I would call someone by any name and use whatever pronouns that they would like me to but I think when it comes to the parents, trans and non-binary people need to understand that its not just them going through it and especially for the parents, no parent wants to think that they haven't realised that their child has been going through something so big on their own. I don't necessarily agree with everything the dad said ie religion and the name and pronouns, but I do hear a father who loves his child, has genuine concern for her mental and emotional wellbeing and is doing the absolute best he can to support her and love her in a situation that he doesn't understand.

    •  7 лет назад +3

      Damn give them a break? At least they are trying to attempt on growing instead of saying "get out of my life". Gotta give people time, most people are like that.

    • @lainaann3574
      @lainaann3574 7 лет назад

      Its easy for me to call them by there new name but pronouns take a while. I don't mean to be rude if i "misgender" someone im just stupid lol

    • @brittlandrum7672
      @brittlandrum7672 7 лет назад +1

      Courtney Fleming calling someone by their old name brings the person losing their child peace and some closure.

  • @terrybyte8328
    @terrybyte8328 7 лет назад +318

    He's telling you that he supports you, yet he calls you his 'son'. Hopefully it's because it's a shock and he will get there soon. Also, when he sees how you look he's going to be mesmerised!

    • @ghostxlee5565
      @ghostxlee5565 7 лет назад +9

      Tezza The Poetic Guitarist my mother fully supports me, it just takes time to change pronouns and names

    • @Bundy6Hunna
      @Bundy6Hunna 6 лет назад +3

      because son coincides with his, or “her”, sex/gender. it’s simple. i could care less if someone wants to live their life as a female, you’re still gonna be a male but i don’t care what you have going on in your head, just don’t force society to bend to your will just because you don’t understand biology

    • @denizyuksel5093
      @denizyuksel5093 6 лет назад +4

      Members Only Media "just because you don't understand biology"
      Oh boy, you guys are the only people and totally not biologists all around the world.

    • @lucien9815
      @lucien9815 6 лет назад

      Tezza The Poetic Guitarist the problem is, I don't think he understands.

  • @christiecazarez5754
    @christiecazarez5754 7 лет назад +94

    This is honestly inspiring and so brave. I love you so much Jae and I thank you for putting this out for everyone to see. You deserve so much more. Thank you so much

  • @PokemonParadise2010
    @PokemonParadise2010 6 лет назад +103

    The dad is pretty understanding imo.. yes he may be old school but he ain't disowning his child... or saying to not do that... watch from 5:03 to 5:23

  • @chrisdarcyxx8747
    @chrisdarcyxx8747 6 лет назад +59

    It seems like her dad wants to understand, but because of his background and the way he's brought up, he's struggling to. I find it sweet that he still loves her, even if he is still calling her Jason. Maybe he'll get it and start calling her Jae one day. (Side note: I'm in love with her hair)

  • @twi.squared
    @twi.squared 7 лет назад +1097

    Her dad doesn’t seem to understand that calling her son and Jason still is not accepting her, her dad seems like a pretty cool person but that makes me sad

    • @RayAtchley
      @RayAtchley 7 лет назад +61

      twila502 aj He'll understand eventually. The best thing she can do is just let time pass eventually he'll fully accept her

    • @RayAtchley
      @RayAtchley 7 лет назад +1

      ThePOKERJEDI I'm a Trump supporter bruh

    • @patriciaproctor4284
      @patriciaproctor4284 6 лет назад +5

      twila502 aj but he is a he he is biologically a he

    • @girlwithoutafairy
      @girlwithoutafairy 6 лет назад +18

      Pronouns are not biological indicators. Besides that being trnsgender is a biological issue so one could make the argument that she is biologically a woman.
      Male & female refer to sex and can never be changed
      Man, woman, boy, and girl refer to gender.
      Pronouns refer to gender

    • @IronCay
      @IronCay 6 лет назад +2

      It takes time

  • @nameunknown4320
    @nameunknown4320 7 лет назад +496

    I'm still a closeted trans girl, this video hit me SOOOOO hard. People like you give me hope. ❤ Sending love your way.

    • @AlexaHuisman
      @AlexaHuisman 7 лет назад +26

      Name Unknown I wish you luck with coming out when you're ready. I know it's scary and it's hard but you can do this. you got this, girl

    • @soupsiedaisie
      @soupsiedaisie 7 лет назад +4

      You're a dude.

    • @callmesononemoretime3664
      @callmesononemoretime3664 7 лет назад +14

      gore and you're an ignorant bitch :)

    • @kyrad7890
      @kyrad7890 7 лет назад +2

      Just let people live how they want! If a cis boy wants to be a woman let them be just that!

    • @ZaraAngel
      @ZaraAngel 7 лет назад +13

      Big Bosseseses you have the most fucked up close minded mind

  • @freyayt6789
    @freyayt6789 4 года назад +85

    My respect for her dad: 📉📈📉📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📈📉📉📉📉📈📉📈📉

  • @naome3904
    @naome3904 7 лет назад +43

    i HATE it when people are like "he was born a boy he will always be a boy" like i was born a baby but i'm not a baby anymore and Jae isn't a boy she's a girl

    • @OscarLopez-np2zf
      @OscarLopez-np2zf 6 лет назад +3

      If you were born with a penis you will forever be a male, even if you chop it off!

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 года назад +1

      If you want with phones out and stuff and I didn't feel like they're here or there anywhere but here because who likes full like you're angry mad at other people in like he's like all the feelings out and what's going to happen if lick your friends out in the opening and it's like oh I have feelings too you know I feel angry and mad I didn't say I didn't trust routing for someone or pull someone here but you feel like you get angry and mad how to parent rating height of people that they can

  • @janeholiday9799
    @janeholiday9799 7 лет назад +2281

    i feel like everyones dad answers the phone the same way
    "Hello?"
    hello...
    "...HELLO??"
    ...hello..
    "HELLO!??"
    edit: oh my gosh ty for the likes i hope ur dads are all doing well and will recognize your voices 😭💕

    • @viiperbiite
      @viiperbiite 7 лет назад +19

      BobDuncansWife :3 literally my mum.

    • @snazzyperson1106
      @snazzyperson1106 7 лет назад +14

      BobDuncansWife :3 my dad answers like "whats'aht min" (what's happnin)

    • @leggomyeggo8814
      @leggomyeggo8814 7 лет назад +5

      Lol thats how my dad answers too

    • @kittiekillua9751
      @kittiekillua9751 7 лет назад +6

      BobDuncansWife :3 my dad is like "what do you want" and I talk to him about something and he ends it 😂

    • @dirtylenzcap5586
      @dirtylenzcap5586 7 лет назад

      BobDuncansWife :3 OMIGOSH EVERY TIME

  • @user-gx7we5qt6c
    @user-gx7we5qt6c 7 лет назад +14

    i can't imagine the fear she was so hesitant but it ended up benefiting. your smile is beautiful btw :)

  • @gillfyy
    @gillfyy 5 лет назад +59

    You transitioned so well! I love your voice too. And this is exactly what my dad said when I told him I want to transition, he said whatever you become or are you will always be my (insert real name here)

  • @LeonIsAPro
    @LeonIsAPro 7 лет назад +16

    OMG that was so touching. This is how a parent should behave, unconditionally love your children. You are a brave woman, I sorta know what it is being bisexual, and this was one of the most stressfull moment in my life to come out to family and friends, so I know it requires courage. It's great that you have your dad's support, it makes a huge difference to have a parent's support.
    Don't worry about him calling you son, or your old name, or using the wrong pronouns, he has many years of memories with you as his son, so it's gonna take some time for him to adapt, but he definitely has the right attitude towards you.
    I know it must've hurt hearing him say "to me you'll always be Jason", but what he meant was the person, not the name or gender. He truly cares about you, and he didn't say that to hurt you. This is new to him, and he needs time.
    I never had a relationship with my mother, we were never friends. Until I came out to her at 43 years old. Before we spole once a year, maybe 30 minutes of agonising talk, but now we speak every week and I enjoy our talk. I even look forward to it, I even surprises myself with thinking of calling her when I have news. Being myself was the key to us having a relationship. I'm not saying it will be the same with you and your dad, but do not miss out the chance of connecting with him. Mine died many years ago, and I will always regret not having had one with him.
    Good luck dear :-)

  • @hara0453
    @hara0453 7 лет назад +746

    God...why did I start crying?

    • @mattheffernan4854
      @mattheffernan4854 7 лет назад +5

      It's me me cause your soft

    • @stression7899
      @stression7899 7 лет назад +8

      It's me me the ninja is cutting onions where you are again

    • @telesha8902
      @telesha8902 6 лет назад +3

      I couldn't find an available user name same I did too

    • @maddiesvlogs8243
      @maddiesvlogs8243 6 лет назад

      I couldn't find an available user name please sub to my channel!

    • @jessicajones7689
      @jessicajones7689 6 лет назад +3

      Hear with you I'm a transgender woman my name is Jessica Samara

  • @jetoyeandrews9820
    @jetoyeandrews9820 7 лет назад +70

    I wish I had a girlfriend like that, so maturing and kind, they're such a beautiful pair. You're so strong baby girl❤️ I hope one day that I can do the same

  • @kittiepuppimeow
    @kittiepuppimeow 6 лет назад +69

    GIRL YOUR VOICE IS SO PRETTY AHHHHH I LOVE IT

    • @bacicinvatteneaca
      @bacicinvatteneaca 5 лет назад +1

      That's a lie. You can say many things about her femininity, but complimenting her voice is a lie, and lying like that is the best way to generate new transphobia.

    • @fawnie5887
      @fawnie5887 4 года назад +4

      Thingaloo but her voice is pretty??

    • @kittiepuppimeow
      @kittiepuppimeow 4 года назад +4

      @@bacicinvatteneaca I’m not lying.. what does this even mean?

    • @bacicinvatteneaca
      @bacicinvatteneaca 4 года назад

      @@kittiepuppimeow hypocrisy generates contrarian reaction

    • @priestgoober5160
      @priestgoober5160 4 года назад

      @@bacicinvatteneaca your jealous

  • @yoinx5435
    @yoinx5435 7 лет назад +34

    Oml I cried during this, you are an amazing person. You got an instant subscribe from me.

    • @theilluminati4687
      @theilluminati4687 7 лет назад

      Heyimmercer I laughed. and then cried cos its so fucked up

  • @whisperingdonut1311
    @whisperingdonut1311 7 лет назад +33

    I feel like your dad handled that really well. New names are hard to get use to sometimes.

  • @cosmo588
    @cosmo588 7 лет назад +1981

    I've never watched you before, but I'm proud of you, I hope your future is as bright as your smile💕

  • @unlacedmalkavian
    @unlacedmalkavian 5 лет назад +3

    I'm currently going through this exact thing with my mom. Thank you so much for filming yourself at such a vulnerable moment. You took that conversation in stride, you're so brave. While speaking to my mom tonight, I broke down sobbing for the longest time. She said very hurtful things. But it's because she doesn't understand, she's confused, she's upset, she's not quite sure what she should do, what her role in my life is now... I love her, so much... it hurts me more than anything else, more than I can express, that she is resistant... but at the end of the day, she tells me she loves me... and I'm hopeful it will get better. I hope it got better for you.

  • @weirdoonthestreet1155
    @weirdoonthestreet1155 6 лет назад +398

    I'm glad I found a mtf. Theres always ftm on the internet (no hating) because they get more support. When a boy who feels like a girl and is a girl wants to be a girl it's bad. I'm glad you had the guts to tell your father. I'm trans ftm and my family dosent support.

  • @chantiquoi
    @chantiquoi 7 лет назад +23

    this touched my heart im glad you feel free and can be yourself 😭

  • @gracemerritt5316
    @gracemerritt5316 7 лет назад +45

    my soul broke when her dad said you'll always be Jason and her face fell

  • @ToadNibb
    @ToadNibb 3 месяца назад +1

    I was so confused about who I was 5 years ago when I first stumbled upon your videos, and despite countless hours of digging, I haven't been able to find your channel again until now. I just wanted to thank you so much. If I had never come across you in the first place I am unsure if I would have ever figured out who I was. Seeing you go through this process gave me the courage to do it myself, and though it has been difficult, I wouldn't go back for anything. Thank you so much, I hope you are doing well!

  • @sofiaverduzco8244
    @sofiaverduzco8244 7 лет назад +316

    Why did I start crying when they talked about the guitars wtf

  • @emmaurbon-newman7861
    @emmaurbon-newman7861 7 лет назад +6

    Jae, you are such an amazing person and we are here for you one hundred percent of the way. You are so brave for doing this and then sharing this was such a brave thing. You inspire me and a ton of other people. You are such an inspiration to so many people. Thank you for sharing this with us and we all love you!!!!!!!

  • @kittikat4124
    @kittikat4124 7 лет назад +21

    Awh, babe, you are so strong for doing this! much love to you❤

  • @twothree995
    @twothree995 7 лет назад +251

    Stay Strong! ❤️ if people in you're family don't support you move on.

    • @hatipkazani
      @hatipkazani 7 лет назад +2

      Mia R f u he bought guitar for her he accepted her what the f you are talking don’t separate people from family for a fu... name .

    • @olivia-jtrans5693
      @olivia-jtrans5693 6 лет назад +1

      Mia R, thank you that's what I do, someone who rejects me I can do without.

    • @plasthicck
      @plasthicck 6 лет назад

      Its hard to move on from someone who has been in your life from the beginning, its much easier said than done. Im a transgender teenager also and i am so thankful for the family i have as they accept me for who i am, but hearing her pain and how scared she was really hit close to home for me. Growing up i always felt like i was broken, and if I actually showed the truth i would be rejected by the people who mean the most to me. Everybody’s situation is different but at the same time NOBODY wants to be different.
      (Not attacking you btw)

  • @marshiahammock9134
    @marshiahammock9134 7 лет назад +17

    your one brave young woman! I believe that God gives each one of us our own burden to bear. He made you this way. So be strong!!! He judges all of us by what's in our heart and whos in our heart... Your beautiful inside and out it seems to all of us!!!

  • @lumosnox22
    @lumosnox22 7 лет назад +212

    im not religious at all, even in the tiniest bit. I don't believe in religion, I've never been to church, I don't really believe in any deities. but I loved that the dad said "maybe god wanted you to be like this, and that's who you are". I feel like a lot of religious parents tend to use religion and their god to make their child feel like shit, but jae's dad used it to try to be supportive. I think that's really sweet.

    • @samuelc.3575
      @samuelc.3575 7 лет назад +1

      yes, i noticed that, it was sweet of him.

    • @patrickstar7428
      @patrickstar7428 7 лет назад +5

      No, not really. Most(except the few that are assholes) TRUE CHRISTIANS or religious people will be accepting of really anything.

    • @user-ut7wi1if9q
      @user-ut7wi1if9q 7 лет назад

      SAMMYY TRANS AF yeah he is a true father

    • @mikaylagrace9106
      @mikaylagrace9106 7 лет назад +2

      No Christian is perfect, as no one is truly perfect. But Christians ARE commanded in the Bible to accept and love everyone. God, our friends and enemies, people of all race genders and religion, and even ourselves as we have the Holy Spirit dwelling in us. Sometimes we mess up and may act like we don’t like someone, but a true Christ follower doesn’t have to like everyone but is commanded to love everyone. Please don’t think that all Christians are hateful because you saw one person who claimed to be Christian act hateful towards people of different views than them. I am Christian and I try my best to love everyone although sometimes I don’t agree with others morals or ideas of sins/okay acts.

    • @alanamorris1984
      @alanamorris1984 7 лет назад

      Ur gonna go to hell

  • @EmelynAbreu
    @EmelynAbreu 3 года назад +5

    He needs time, but it broke my heart seeing the way she was devastated when he called her the wrong name. You are amazing, beautiful and strong, I'm proud of you girl.

  • @rachaelramen6281
    @rachaelramen6281 7 лет назад +12

    This was such an inspiring video, I am so proud of you Jae, I am so happy for you too. I can't even explain or imagine how scary this was. I respect you so much, you are helping so many people out there in the world, trans or not. Your strength truly inspires others. I can't wait to see more of your lovely journey, and am excited to see your growth. 💗

  • @sheilaj.1163
    @sheilaj.1163 6 лет назад +1032

    Ok, as a mom of a transgender son, I don't understand why your dad is responding in this way..he keeps calling you Jason when you have already legally changed your name. then the whole God thing has to be brought into it. I feel for you.. I'm sorry hon..and your mom shut you out? Awful My son is Sam Collins, not sure if you know of him, but he's also a RUclipsr and came out last year as trans to all his supporters. I hope your dad is more supportive of you and accepts you as Jae and not calling you Jason. It is hard, yes, for parents but they should be supportive. Were you close to your dad before, or from a distance? I hope you can work things out but the most important thing for you is that YOU are happy with who you are, and live your life, surround yourself with those who love you... I support you !

    • @sheilaj.1163
      @sheilaj.1163 6 лет назад +46

      TYSM! :) I'm sorry your sister didn't get the support of your mom...hopefully in time, she will come around.. it can take people time to adjust. Thanks for supporting Sam!

    • @olivia-jtrans5693
      @olivia-jtrans5693 6 лет назад +31

      Sheila J. very nice comment, parents and others make it about "themselves" what an EGO. like: [how can you do this to me ? ? ] Jae is a beautiful girl.

    • @sheilaj.1163
      @sheilaj.1163 6 лет назад +10

      ty

    • @helloleonhere
      @helloleonhere 6 лет назад +26

      Sheila J. I just want to say I love Sam’s videos! He’s a great person and I’d like to be friends with him tbh
      And you’re a incredible mom!

    • @katelyndhenin1623
      @katelyndhenin1623 6 лет назад +14

      i watch your son all the time! you seem like such a great mom.

  • @GageElle
    @GageElle 7 лет назад +1758

    I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You inspire me in so many ways, and this video will inspire so many others. You're incredibly brave for sharing this and you deserve all the support in the world. LOVE YOU JAE ❤️💚💜💛

    • @PedroNogueiranunes
      @PedroNogueiranunes 7 лет назад +6

      Gage omg, my diva is here!

    • @magixshiz2543
      @magixshiz2543 7 лет назад +2

      *it'sMe TheHerpes* Well, if your telling the truth, watch your ass for assault charges.

    • @Your20droid
      @Your20droid 7 лет назад

      it'sMe TheHerpes Fuckin hell, can't believe you have Delirious as your YT banner

    • @kcdarla
      @kcdarla 7 лет назад +1

      Gage Right on the money Gage. Could not have said it better. 💜

    • @chadlikespasta3142
      @chadlikespasta3142 7 лет назад +2

      it'sMe TheHerpes yknow, i understand your mentality, ive grown up amongst people who feel the same as you. but all i can tell you is that this aint a choice. kids like this dont choose to be this way, thats evident from the suicide rates. and i dont understand how letting them be themselves and leaving them alone is harming society. i will say, society is going to an extremely leftist place, which isnt good. but letting kids like these be themselves isnt part of the problem. id really love to hear some feedback on this comment, im always up for a good, civil debate

  • @whydoineedthis.
    @whydoineedthis. 6 лет назад +57

    When her voice started cracking and she was on the verge of tears I started crying...I wish I could give her a big hug.
    EDIT: When she said she wanted to kill herself...damn I felt that. I'm balling my eyes out. I just want to give her a hug.

    • @jamesedwardford589
      @jamesedwardford589 4 года назад +2

      If you feel like there's someone's out there in the world that feel like they're alone for you to pick up there or what happens in Fast and I'm open person and I care about our feelings other than myself I've been charged for Daiso different reasons and Clyde love people even there like restaurant us to love you even when you mad at me not liking Trump I'll still love you anyway even you be angry with me at pushing me away I will come

  • @jessicabentley5508
    @jessicabentley5508 7 лет назад +24

    Girl, I would've been crying soo much I would go through soo many tissues. You a lot stronger than I am. I am also MtF Transgender but I haven't had the guts to come out to my parents, soo I told them I'm going to the therapist for depression. I was going to have a sit down with me, my parents, and my therapist in the same room after the first 3-4 months and get my therapist to help me explain who the real me is to my parents. Us girls gotta stick together.

  • @MLCelaya317
    @MLCelaya317 7 лет назад +65

    how beautiful that he accepts supports and loves you. you might not even realize it now but him telling you that God put this into your life for a reason is so beautiful and meaningful. it is the best thing you can keep in the back of your mind whenever you feel insecure. your dad loves you. how lucky you are.

  • @colinenowakowski7418
    @colinenowakowski7418 7 лет назад +786

    you're the strongest girl I've ever seen. Be proud of yourself you're beautiful

    • @colinenowakowski7418
      @colinenowakowski7418 7 лет назад +17

      Big Bosseseses and you are a dumbass.

    • @co9620
      @co9620 7 лет назад +6

      Big Bosseseses No, She is a woman

    • @CHloE748
      @CHloE748 7 лет назад +2

      Coline Nowakowski "woman" *insert meme ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT!* 😂

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +8

      +CHloE748 so punctuation, not your thing huh?
      and yes, she seems pretty sure about it.

    • @miajoy8870
      @miajoy8870 7 лет назад +3

      Big Bosseseses If you disagree with this why would you watch it?

  • @rosieemily8758
    @rosieemily8758 6 лет назад +26

    Her dad is saying he accepts her but he won’t acknowledge that Jason isn’t who she is anymore! Please don’t feel like you ever want to end your life! You are beautiful for who you are and no one should make you feel any differently x 💛 x

  • @sagegreeby2861
    @sagegreeby2861 7 лет назад +713

    only four minutes in and im sobbing

    • @sagegreeby2861
      @sagegreeby2861 7 лет назад +9

      im non binary and im afraid to come out to my parents and tell them that im not tori im sage. they know im bi and they think its a phase... im so glad you had the courage to come out. youre so brave

    • @OliviaNoel
      @OliviaNoel  7 лет назад +42

      Tori Greeby stay strong 💕 always be true to yourself and never let anyone tell you differently ! You're perfect

    • @sagegreeby2861
      @sagegreeby2861 7 лет назад +11

      Jae Noel thank you so much. you inspire me so much

    • @5FOOT6WARRIOR
      @5FOOT6WARRIOR 7 лет назад +3

      only four minutes in and I lost brain cells

    • @meexooc
      @meexooc 7 лет назад +2

      Tori Greeby me too- I love how her dad kept supporting her and saying he's here and he loves her no matter what.

  • @nanners1154
    @nanners1154 7 лет назад +15

    OH MY GOD YOU'RE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PERSON I'VE EVER SEEN INSIDE AND OUT OH MY GOD

  • @kendrahwhyte1116
    @kendrahwhyte1116 7 лет назад +16

    I remember the time when I called my grandmother (we hadn't been in touch in a long time [my middle name is Raye]). And she says to me:"Raye, you sound like a woman!!!" I said:"I am a woman, now." She was cool with it!!!

  • @kylemassey4060
    @kylemassey4060 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for these videos, Olivia.
    They've helped me a lot. I came out to my mother today.
    Thank you.

  • @richg16
    @richg16 6 лет назад +185

    I don’t understand why everybody so angry with the dad. He clearly supports this person he just doesn’t really understand what it’s all about/how to interpret it

    • @scootywooty2205
      @scootywooty2205 6 лет назад +8

      Rich G for me, it pissed me off because it hit very close to home. The difference, though, is that my parents forced me into coming out. Taking a step back, I can sort of see his side, but being where she was, it hurts like hell. More than he'll ever be able to understand

    • @MarkiplierOfficial
      @MarkiplierOfficial 6 лет назад

      Rich G exactly

    • @rickyismss
      @rickyismss 6 лет назад

      He’s choosing not to even try, he says he is supportive but he refuses to call her by her name. That’s like saying you understand a burger is a burger but you’ll always see it as a cow still.

    • @ree3197
      @ree3197 6 лет назад

      Exactly

    • @joly5180
      @joly5180 6 лет назад +2

      fynn Why lmao but he has been calling her like this all his life
      he gave her her name

  • @Rainbow_Warrior_Princess
    @Rainbow_Warrior_Princess 7 лет назад +52

    I am glad that your father accepts you and that your girlfriend is so supportive and caring. 👍 Your cute smile and soothing voice is adorable. 😍😘

  • @kerriannechilders
    @kerriannechilders 7 лет назад +743

    That's exactly what my parents say to me.
    "You'll always be *birthname*. You'll never be my son. "
    And it hurts.

    • @lukaspatel
      @lukaspatel 7 лет назад +5

      re-fucking-tweet. ~lukas

    • @iTheStalker
      @iTheStalker 7 лет назад +64

      You need to realize that they hurt just as much as you.
      For them... they lost their son or daughter.
      Think about that next time. Maybe you are hurt, but they are hurt too. All that matters is that they still love you. Parents never accept 100% the choices their kids make. That's just parents being parents.

    • @lukaspatel
      @lukaspatel 7 лет назад +27

      being trans should not make "parents be parents." we are coming into our own. we are becoming the person we are meant to be. they should know that we are still their child and we will now be happy. ~lukas

    • @erichbradshaw4673
      @erichbradshaw4673 7 лет назад +6

      TriggerWarning I'm a 100% agree with you!!! Is exactly what I wrote,it is not only one's journey ,is your family's journey as well,and will be for everyone you decided to involve in, she had to be more conscious on her father's feelings and be Happy because he still loves her and he is supportive and he's trying so hard to understand and be with her. I can't believe she doesn't believe in God, Are all trans people not God believers???

    • @amibabyy
      @amibabyy 7 лет назад +16

      Jack Elliott thats how my boyfriend's parents are, but I was like "okay here's what we'll do..." and I moved him out, and now he lives with me and my parents, his parents don't have any contact with him(their choice) I helped him get started on testosterone, and get his top surgery, and hes so much happier now I'm so happy I got him out of that toxic household

  • @immortxelle
    @immortxelle 6 лет назад +28

    I love your hair. You are killing the game girl. It will take a little bit for your dad to understand. Stay strong they will always be people who don't like it.

  • @trippm102
    @trippm102 7 лет назад +262

    You have a Father who loves and supports you and is willing to be there for you instead of write you off take his hand and accept it. "Jason" is just a name not your person, your father accepts everything else about you don't force him he'll accept the name when he's ready. ❤️

    • @erichbradshaw4673
      @erichbradshaw4673 7 лет назад +4

      Tattooed Dad Exactly!!!! 👏👏👏👏

    • @drabby7925
      @drabby7925 7 лет назад +5

      Tattooed Dad you don't understand

    • @ethaniovino9908
      @ethaniovino9908 7 лет назад +3

      Tattooed Dad Exactly! And as hard as it is for us trans people to come out, be accepted, and feel comfortable in our own skin, the parents struggle with it too. My bio dad struggled with it before accepting me and calling me "Ethan" instead of my legal name. (Though my dad also struggles with split decisions and mental illness, so it didnt last too long because of that). The parents usually feel as though they've lost a child, even though that may not be the case, and it takes time for them to come to terms with that and "celebrate a new child," from their point of view. However, everyones parents are different. Some will never come to terms with it, some take longer than others, and others will accept it immediately. This woman in this video has an accepting father; he's not disowning her or abusinv her. He even wanted to talk with her about it. But you can see he's going to struggle with it at first, but acceptance is the first step to coping with it. I wish my dad reacted the way her dad did when I came out as FTM. And hopefully, he'll come to terms with her, but it takes time and nobody should try to shame him for that. She's a beautiful woman with a beautiful girlfriend and i know her and her father will try to get through this together.

    • @ethaniovino9908
      @ethaniovino9908 7 лет назад +2

      lydia willyhands I believe he does as a matter of fact. Even a certified gender therapist will tell you that. Her father is struggling just as she is, but he accepts her. It will take time for him to come to terms with this.
      Sincerely, an FTM person who has been abused, kicked out, and not truly accepted by his biological father, and has gone to a variety of therapy, including but not limited to conversion (unsuccessful & very detrimental) and gender (successful & very beneficial) therapy.

    • @MiaRosenbloom
      @MiaRosenbloom 7 лет назад

      Tattooed Dad, do you have an aversion to your biological sex, gender role as a man, and birth name (gender dysphoria)? If not, then you have no idea what it's like to be trans, and therefore you have no right to judge what you don't understand.

  • @daniellealexandra237
    @daniellealexandra237 7 лет назад +883

    This broke my heart so much. Seeing you cry like that 😢
    It seems like your dad can't seem to let go of 'Jason' which is understandable as he watched 'Jason' being born and raised him for such a long time. But he also says he supports you which is a good thing right? At least he doesn't hate you. Keep strong and one day your dad will accept it fully and call you by your real name. Lots of love 💕💕💕

    • @Stellajenkins
      @Stellajenkins 7 лет назад +5

      she was never born a male in the transgender communitys eyes?..

    • @socorrespecial
      @socorrespecial 7 лет назад +3

      Chloe's Gaming Channel what

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +20

      +Chloe's Gaming Channel No. Thier innate sense of self was female. Their body just didn't match.
      Think of it like this: Your mom is black. Your dad is black. Your siblings are black. Your culture, life and friends are black.
      But, you have a skin disorder that makes your skin white.
      Are you black?
      If there was a treatment that could fix your skin, so you look the way you think you should, would you take it?
      Same sort of idea. She's a woman.
      But she was born with the wrong hormones and genitals, for whatever reason.
      And now she's working on fixing it.
      wouldn't you?

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +8

      +BornAgain happyfriday sorry, but no.
      A: not evil,
      B: nonexistent people have trouble doing anything, let alone 'saving' anyone.

    • @Azirahaelx
      @Azirahaelx 7 лет назад +10

      +BornAgain happyfriday Clearly? Nope. Sorry. Not clear at all.
      What business of yours how somoene esle chooses or needs to live their lives?
      What does 'god's opinion matter, when no one can even show that it exists?
      Abomination? This is the same bible that condones killing unruly children, human sacrifice, abortion, slavery and genocide?
      Not sure a follower of that religion has any business telling anyone else about morality.
      Fuck that. Fuck you also.

  • @lisiaraya3356
    @lisiaraya3356 6 лет назад +128

    I know this is off topic,but your voice is sooo soft&relaxing
    I love it!!

  • @Minirow
    @Minirow 6 лет назад +68

    Them: "Don't show his number."
    FBI: "ZOOM AND ENHANCE!!!"

  • @kengineer12
    @kengineer12 6 лет назад +49

    Personally, I love the way she was honest. Telling how you feel is the best way to make sure people understand.