How it feels to age without seeing yourself changing… (blindness + self confidence)
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I'm Molly, a typical sushi, makeup, and fashion loving millennial girl who just so happens to be blind! I was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa at just 4 years old and began public speaking at age 5. I started just doing motivational speaking, but now I make videos and even model! Even though I can’t see, I know that there are bright spots in everything we face. Let’s find them together. 💕
My Mom passed away young so I see any sign of aging as a badge of honor. Everyday is a gift and not everyone gets to grow old.
Same. My first nephew only got 18 days on Earth. I am so grateful that I am still here after 40 years of days.
@@racheljamie1 ❤️ 🫂 I am so sorry about that loss. Losing your mom is hard at any age but to lose her when you're young is a terrible thing. You are speaking from a unique perspective and it's a good one. Getting wrinkles is a badge of honor. Stretch marks from having a baby or Life changes are as well.
My caregiver lost her mom when she was under two or around two. She was only 31 and had an undiagnosed aneurysm that blew. There was a younger baby at home too and they were alone for a couple of days. Smh 😢
@@NiaLaLa_V I have experienced a lot of loss. I had friends die on their way to see me. This is the summer before my senior year. The caregiver that I mentioned above ended up being related to the only survivor who a is a relative of my best friend from high school. This was the summer before my senior year and. It really messed with my head. I had a cousin die at 19 from osteosarcoma. He was brilliant and so kind.
I'm not mentioning all of them. I'm 50 now. I have lost my dad and so much family and in my friendship circle we lost all but three of us one had cancer. One has cancer and I'm not doing so hot myself. The cancer survivor of that group is in a nursing home. My best friend is alive today in part due to this friend's experience. Fine to make it easy. Her name is Karen. Karen's breast cancer was detected at stage 1. My bestie determined to get regular mammograms and that made all the difference. It's still very scary and very serious and she is only 48.
Last August I nearly lost my daughter and granddaughter at the same time. My granddaughter was born, not breathing and she didn't breathe for quite a while as in 12 minutes. Quite a while and my daughter stopped breathing for a minute or two. They both had magnesium toxicity. She is due again in November but they are scheduling a C-section due to placenta previa and I'm scared. Having lost my dad most of my friendship circle, my best friend has cancer. They're concerned that my mom have may have cancer and my daughter is having another dangerous pregnancy/delivery...
I'm losing my mind. I have seriously developed some pretty serious anxiety and then there's my own health... I have been bed bound for a year even more than a year. You can probably see me deteriorating over the course of writing this. I have to use speech to text and it drives my blood pressure sky high. I have EDS that wasn't found until I was very progressed. Very very progressed. I'm at risk of losing my ability to walk and use my bowels and bladder correctly. It's a race against Time.
I wish we didn't experience so much loss. Growing to old age Is truly a gift.
As a middle-aged blind man I can say you are absolutely gorgeous! And I always tell the ladies that when a blind man can see your gorgeous you must be very gorgeous!
Now that is a real compliment! Because you sir are reading the energy and not superfluous unimportant subjective information.
Crushes my soul that you are feeling this way. Number 1, you are stunningly beautiful. You look 12. I can't see a single wrinkle on your whole face. There is nothing you should ever do to change you face. Your eyebrows look amazing. Number 2, you are so much more than your looks. You have so much to give and share and you are still amazingly beautiful. I remember at 30 I felt old too and thought I was aging. Nope, it wasn't until 50 that I really had noticeable wrinkles and such. You have plenty of time looking young and beautiful. I promise. Do NOT listen to anyone who says anything negative about you. They are jealous because of your beauty and amazing personality.
Funny story about my relationship with aging. Most of my friends had a bit of a freak out as we were approaching 30 while I was cool as cucumber. What really kinda shocked me about my own aging journey was listening to music with my mom and realizing the song "Senora de las Cuatro Decadas," which we used to sing about her and how "someday" she would reach her 4 decades of life. But now she has long passed her 4 decades of life, and soon I will be 4 decades old lol. So while I'm not dreading 40, it is more sombering now. And a priviledge since now I have memories of former classmates who didn't have the fortune to get to live this many years. So bring on the wrinkles and grays, I'm ready!
I'm 70, and just had cataract surgery, which also gave me 20/20 vision, instead of the 20/200 I had previously. When I looked at the mirror, I looked SO FREAKING OLD and my red hair had turned white! The last time I could see myself clearly, I was in my 50's. I never thought I would look any different. What a difference 20 years makes. Not seeing yourself age is not always a bad thing.
That eyebrows and lips comment was plain WRONG lol
This is so odd - I was looking through your instagram last week and genuinely thinking ‘Mollie is at the most beautiful I have ever seen her’.
I don’t know if it’s because I am a similar age (28), but watching people around me growing into mature women has been so wonderful to see and I genuinely think all of my friends hitting these ages are the most beautiful versions of themselves I’ve ever seen!
“We as a society have lacked a lot of compassion and humanity and understanding”
That really got to me because it’s so true. People need to really take a step back and realize that the energy they’re using to leave negative comments could be used in so many more productive and uplifting ways. We need to show more compassion to each other every day.
I can't believe somebody commented that about your eyebrows and lips! Girl, your eyebrows are BEAUTIFUL, your lips are on the thinner side but you have such a BEAUTIFUL smaller nose, and big eyes and that's why your lips suit you. You are very pretty, and you know what they say - if a girl compliments a girl then it's a real thing 😄 But for real, if you could see yourself in the mirror you would maybe be even arrogant because of your looks. Keep rocking Molly, you're such an inspiration! 💖
Especially since Molly has an eye for fashion and she knows what looks good I agree.
I support this comment fully, unique beauty is not supported these days and that's why many celebrities now have "the same face", well described for example by an author of this video: ruclips.net/video/ZUq5KqcAPG8/видео.htmlsi=NmEx-cHbbkxiix7u
Petition for Molly to play Elle Woods in a Legally Blonde spinoff called Legally Blind 😂
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Thank you so much for this video, I am a teenager and went blind at nine, I really share the feelings that you have and I appreciate you spreading your message I really needed that today
Not aging is a mixed bag. As someone who ages slowly I often have people assume I'm in my early 20's (I'm closer to 40 then 30) and I feel I get less respect. I find myself working my age into conversations at work to make me more respected.
Same!
I’m 29 and I feel this so much! I wish people saw me as my age and not younger.
Don't worry, it'll turn around, when you get older, you'll be completely ignored and treated as irrelevant because of your age
Same over here :) i am 36 will be 37 in two months and i look like 18 or even younger. 😂😂 so some people do not even believe my age 🤣😂 but i feel it, starting to have pain i did not have 5 years ago 😅
I love when people think I’m much younger than I am. I don’t like aging. But I’m 37 now so it happens less and less unfortunately.
If someone makes mean or nasty comments it says more about them than you. You are beautiful. Vibrant. Raw. Honest. Inspirational. Educational and a gazillion more positive adjectives. Listen to the eyes of the people that love you.
Who decided that lips have to look a certain way to be attractive? It is so weird to me. There's absolutely nothing wrong with how your lips look, Molly!
I remember the person that made the comment about lip filler. I think a few people told her how rude and wrong she was.
You made this issue extremely easy to “understand” from a sighted listeners perspective.
I get angry when I think something about my hair/outfit looks bad and someone says “it’s PERFECT” because it’s completely undercutting how I feel about something. Sometimes I want to just pitch a fit when people do this lol. This doesn’t compare in intensity, but this is what your experience reminds me of on a small scale.
There is a sudden uptick in minute insecurities online and I HATE it. Like why am I thinking about if I’m talking with my upper or lower teeth?! Unnecessary!
I'm 56 and I agree with you that growing old is a positive thing. You look great and you do look much younger than 30. I think you are amazing and I have been following you for years.
Hi Molly! I had emergency surgery the other night, your videos always make me feel better. ❤️
Molly, i’m an older sighted woman and I always learn so much from you. Thank you for sharing and educating.
Hi Molly! I’m a sighted person, but I still have a hard time understanding what i look like or how I’m physically perceived. Even with being able to see myself in a mirror, my own perception of how i look changes alot. It feels strange, like what is in the mirror changes with how i feel, what people tell me and sometimes just for no good reason. Also other peoples opinions of what i look like vary for different reasons, like if they like me, if they are used to how i look, how their brain percieves things, their personal prefrences and on top of that I have to figure out if people are being genuine when they tell me what they think. I say all this not to invalidate what you are feeling, obviously it’s still a very different expirience, but to share that the sight is heavily influenced by perception and to hopefully bring some comfort in sharing this feeling of struggle with self perception.
I remember having that "I didn't even know this was a thing to be worried about" feeling. It was as a young woman the first time someone joked about their double chin. I had no idea there was a word for the way your neck folded when your head went down - but I've been self conscious about it SINCE THAT DAY.
Thank you for sharing this
Honestly, I think tik tok can give just about any person insecurities that they weren't even aware of was a thing before then! 😝 I never got on tik tok and planning for it to stay that way ❤️
I'm 42 and going blind. One of my eyes has no useable vision and the other is losing sight too and I'm registered sight impaired. I will eventually go blind. Tbf in my forties I have just reached the point where I just don't care what other people think. I'm sure people judge.
My main grief is that my eye condition is degenerative and at the moment I am hoping that my sight will last long enough to see my son all grown up and see what he looks like as an adult, he's currently 12.
You mention pmdd and I have that with my pcos and at the moment I am perimenopausal and getting spots... oh the joys.
what’s your condition called?
@@paulwoodford1984 progressive high myopia. But I've also had a double retinal detachment.
@@paulwoodford1984 other name for it is pathological myopia or degenerative myopia.
@@paulwoodford1984 progressive myopia
When I turned 30, I suddenly got TERRIBLE adult acne. More than I had ever had as a teenager. Lasted about a year, and I felt so defeated at times! I cleaned up my diet, stopped touching my face so much, and saw a dermatologist. Now I’m really happy with where I’m at. You’ll get there too, Molly! Be kind to yourself ❤️
You are slaying in that Chanel outfit and those pearls, ear rings and rings.
Wtf I have never noticed your upper lip. People are so rude. Your lips look fine!!
sometimes looking in the mirror can be hard. Smile lines and crows feet give me a bit of insecurity. I know my husband loves me no matter what, it is hard to be confident when you don't feel that way. But I know as you said it only means that I have smiled a lot in life. ❤️
I think it’s also so much harder with the normalization and widespread use of Botox and filler. We aren’t seeing people age naturally as we used to.
Thirty isn't old, it's finally being grown up. At thirty your face matures, is no longer a child's face. Wrinkles and signs of aging come later.
And believe me, seeing yourself in the mirror only boosts your confidence if you already have confidence. If you lack confidence to begin with, when you look at yourself in the mirror you will see even more blemishes, more imperfections than anyone else has ever criticized. Your mirror image isn't objective. It shows you what you already believe.
You have more reason to feel confident of your own worth than almost anyone else. You have a following of literally millions of people who admire you, love you and want to learn from you. Who else can say that?
Your brows are perfect! I have no idea why someone would make that comment!
This was a very interesting perspective and conversation, thanks for sharing!
I LOVE this hair era for you, but totally understand it coming down to what makes you feel beautiful and happy. Your style is inspiring and fun, I hope you continue feeling confident in your choices and journey!
Those who feel the need to point out the "imperfections" (whether they are true or not) in others seriously have issues! There is no need to take those personal. That said I know it's not easy to look past those comments. God knows, I would not be able to deal with fame myself.
I think what makes us look “mature” (not aged) as we approach our 30s and during this time frame is natural weight loss in the face. I also have read that having a bright even complexion is more important than line or wrinkle reduction for a youthful look.
You look gorgeous Molly and you are definitely giving Barbie vibes with ur pink outfit 🧡🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🧡💙💙💙💜🌈💕🩷🦋🦋❤️🪷🌸🌊🌊💚💕💜🫶🏻🩵🧡🩵🫶🏻🫶🏻🧡🧡💜💜💘🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🌼🌼🌼🌞🌹🌹🌻💞🌾🪻❣️💘❤️❤️💖💖🌈💚💙💙🌊🌊💞🌻🫶🏻💜🌞💜🫶🏻🧡🦋❤️🌼🌼🌾🌊🌊💙
just a heads up, this many emojis is hard for screen readers. It'll read out: orange heart emoji, heart hands emoji, heart hands emoji, heart hands emoji, orange heart emoji, blue heart emoji, blue heart emoji, blue heart emoji, purple heart emoji , rainbow emoji... I think you get the idea.
As someone who has lost a friend when they were only 31 and my sister-in-law at 39, I think this has changed the way I see ageing. I now see it as a privilege and I think it has changed the way I personally see myself ❤.
But Molly remember, everything in life is transitory. One day you'll look back on these moments and see how far you've come
I left a comment about your eyebrows once and now I see that I was insensitive, I'm sorry.
I thought you go regularly to microblade and that it was useful to encourage you to research more about what suits you best. But even then I knew I might be wrong about them not suiting you and that I'm not an expert on eyebrows and that no one is, because it's subjective.
And it is such a small detail whether they're one shade "too dark", I always thought you're really beautiful!
Just how I analyse my face more and find more 'flaws' on me because of beauty standards, I start doing that to other people thinking I'm being useful. I will think more before commenting someone's appearance next time.
I had no idea your eyebrows are microbladed. I just thought you were blessed with full eyebrows. Honestly so smart that you don’t have to do them every day, because eyebrow makeup is so hard to get right.
im 35 and my body feels it and I didnt think it started happening this early lol my mother had me when she was 30 I used to say she was old bc every other mom was younger. I dont like it at all lol I think the goal is to stay young at heart
I am reaching 30 and I like how I look but I do FEEL not as good.
@Tiffygg89 I’m 34, can you elaborate how exactly your body has changed and what do you feel?
I like the way you explain about visual words. communication is so complex!
Molly! Read this until the bottom because I have a HUGE question that I need your perspective on about aphantasia!!
This is a really fantastic video, Molly! I appreciate your perspective souch rn because I can't control my weight anymore due to multiple autoimmune diseases and chronic illnesses. And I was the petite-fit girl my entire life up until around 31-32. I'm 35 now and I think a lot of horrible things. I can't work out like I used to and I used to be a personal trainer. My body experiences 300-500+ symptoms and pain. I feel so powerless. The aging certainly isn't helping even though I have always looked young because I have a baby face. Hearing your perspective somehow makes me care less and just feel grateful that I am alive and have a body, despite it betraying me, because I have a man who loves me and two amazing son's. It does make me want to push myself harder though through the pain to accomplish something during this life. I just have to be careful because I experience so much pain, and I have been clean 12years, but if I set my aights too high and feel constant pain, it could be a trigger to use to compensate for the pain. It's a shame we have horrible pain management in this country and the "war on drugs" is the biggest flop, especially with millions of illegals enyerng our country from all over the world- which WILL only affect our healthcare system worse and worse every year and even every month. But THAT is a whole other subject. There is something I am curious about and it is about aphantasia. I have aphantasia (I am sighted) and I wonder if all blind people have aphantasia or just some. Is this something you have ever looked into? This isn't the first time I have has questions about aphantasia and it is a subject I am investigating in a journalistic way, so if you could respond if you see this comment out of the hundreds, please respond!
Me as a blind woman. Because I’ve been blind since six months old. It’s not bad at all growing old and being blind. I have a bunch of handfuls and handfuls of gray hair. And a lot of people tell me it looks beautiful on me.
Also, one thing I like about growing old as a blind person you don’t have to worry about that time of the month or you know having your period. That’s what I like about being blind and growing old. Because me and my sisters, we’re closer to 60 but I’m out of seven kids with my dad side , so old my two sisters that’s a year and two years old is great. I love it as a blind person because I can share my experience to my sisters who fully sided and I can share their fully experience to me as a blind person.
I can see more than you can. My left eye is a prosthetic and sees. Nothing obviously and my right eye on a good day, I see about 200 over 20. But I cannot see my face in the mirror or if my hair is turning a little Gray cause I'm 44 and my body changes disturb me. But my husband says I look OK. Ay, what else is he supposed to say! LO? L. You have a better grasp on makeup and fashion. And clothing than I do because I lost my vision at 30. I know how to put on some tinted. Sunscreen, but that's about it, and I'm so afraid of injuring the I that sees a little that I don't put any eye makeup or anything near it because it's very irritated. Most of the time. I am so scared that my face looks a lot different than it did when I was 30. People like my mom and my husband say no, it's just a little fooler, but what the hell does that mean question mark😅
So you can wear some cool prosthetic eyes :)
People said my pixie cut was my best haircut but I immediately felt dysphoric when I got it. I ordered wigs the next day. I get it!
As a woman who turned 50 less than a month ago who has always been hearing impaired on some level, it is interesting to hear the experience of someone else who has lost more of one of their major senses over time. I have been legally deaf forever but I am losing what residual hearing I did have. My world is very visual. It does scare me as I lose more of my vision with the years.
Sorry I can't even say or type anymore right now. I'm very unwell at the moment.
Not that my opinion matters but I actually love the short bob on you. I think it is flirty and chic and fresh.
For what its worth, you look very youthful and vibrant. Your skin looks glowy and fresh. Love your brows, love your hair. I look to you for all style and beauty inspiration.
Wrinkles are stories of life lived. Laugh lines tell about good times. When my brother died my dad soon after got a new long line on his face, a grief line. I at 33 have small lines in between my eyebrows from frowning a lot, I frown unconsciously when I'm anxious or overloaded. It's okay. Life is like that. I still dye my hair green and buy the blingiest piercing jewelry I can find and it makes me feel good in my body. I remember that the reason my face used to be so angular was an ED and I'm happy that my features are now softer, it looks cute. Change is scary but it is definitely beautiful and necessary.
As someone who's actually a part of the non-existent upper lip club, I can reassure you that your lips are totally normal. You can definitely see them just fine, not too big, not too small and perfectly proportioned to evenly match your other facial features. And most importantly, they look natural, which in my opinion (as well as the opinion of the majority of Men) is far more attractive and preferred especially compared to the current trend of getting filler that will almost certainly be a passing phase. Plus, I can't imagine that all of these chemical injections, that are foreign to the body, being that healthy or safe for us.
Work with what God gave you because you're beautiful the way you are. He made us all individually unique and beautiful in our own ways and these cosmetic trends are really taking away from that, making everyone start to look the same like they came off of an assembly line. It's actually quite sad to see, especially all of these super young Women in their late teens and early 20's that are being told that they need filler and botox as "preventative care" by predatory clinicians and ads online that are preying on their insecurities which have been completely blown out of proportion due to their growing up during the age of social media, where everything is constantly being recorded and photographed and then filtered and photoshopped giving a false perception of unattainable perfection. Unfortunately though, all of these cosmetic procedures are starting to make these young Women look 10, or even 20, years older than their actual age, robbing them from their youthful appearance.
You always help us, Molly-you’ve been helping me for years!! Thank you for sharing so genuinely, as always!❤
I am not Blind but I am Deaf. I feel the same way but about different things. I recently found out that other people can hear you peeing in public toilets. That made me so self conscious. I didn’t even know this!
Lots of wisdom in this video -- thanks, Molly!
And good luck to you, and to anyone else who reads this, on your self-confidence and self-compassion journey. ❤.
There’s a big difference between fact and opinion. Your face looks exactly as it should. That is fact. There’s nothing wrong with your lips- they suit you well because those are the lips you were meant to have. Your eyebrows are also nice, they are 1-2 shades lighter than your hair which is how it should be for brunettes. The only opinions you should trust are from those you KNOW have your best interest at heart.
I’m a 55 year old legally blind (5% remaining vision from RP) woman, and I firmly believe that we (women) are our own worst enemies! Print media with anorexic model cover girls, and now Social media platforms have ALL played a part in shaming women. We can’t all be Victoria’s Secret models, so embrace your uniqueness and continue thriving 😊
Girl you look amazing. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise!! As long as you do your skincare like you are now, there is nothing to worry about for years and years to come. You still look younger than you are. I am 47 and it's only now that i think that age is showing a little and you know what, it doesn't bother me as much as i thought it would. It would be weird to tell people i am 47 and i would look like 25. I am the same as you, i am not going to take fillers in my lips or anything. I take care of my skin and that will mean i will age as i am supposed to. When you get older it becomes more about staying healthy. Again, you look amazing!!
Regarding fashion and our bodies "THE look" seem to change as frequently as the seasons. However I never thought about how a person without sight might be affected by unfortunate posts or clueless potential employers. Someone can tell me my hair is bad, but I can go home look in the mirror to be assured that it was not true, just one person's opinion. It is something all of us should be aware whenever we post or verbalize our opinions. BTW adult acne is a concern for me also so whenever the product testing is done, please post. If possible try to keep product regime simple with affordable items that are non-prescription.
Due to EDS I always look younger than my age. My skin doesn’t really wrinkle and is very stretchy I’m also really small so that tends to also make me look younger. I think age positivity is so important! I really appreciate this video! ❤
Due to EDS I look even older because my skin is so loose and sagging off of my body 💀
You halve a beautiful chin and jaw line.I have always had a double chin no matter my weight.Now at 52 my plump round face is keeping me looking younger.I know my soul is beautiful no matter my outside and Molly has a beautiful soul!
Molly you do have a mirror it's called trust like your mum and partner that will tell you there truth
Your lips are perfect. Your brows are perfect. I love them on you. Those people are projecting their own body dysmorphia on to you.
The look you're wearing with your hair pulled back in that blazer, is a very very nice look for you. Your dark hair is so glamorous on you I guess suit you so much more than any other colour. The bob is a hard no for me
It's interesting but I can relate slightly as a seeing person. Since I have Aphantasia and cannot visualize in my mind, I don't see myself in my head. I actually forget other people are looking at me. I know it sounds weird. But yes, I can get personal validation from a mirror or photo, I just don't carry that on my mind with me.
As a seeing person I would love to tell you how absolutely BEAUTIFUL you are. And your brows are on point! But I find blessings happen in the dark. And what a blessing to see past looks. Always shoot for positivity! ❤
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You always look beautiful Molly. Yet I can understand how hard it must be to validate yourself not having the information you need, with no sight. But I think in my humble opinion external beauty is overrated. You can feel beautiful no matter what you look like. Beauty is on the inside. And also presenting yourself in a beautiful way does a lot for the sight of others, if that's relevant and you are definitely good at that. 💕🐝
Molly, you are not alone Ilook younger than I am right now I’m 21 and I look like I could be in high school.That’s awful that Molly‘s subscribers told her that her eyebrows basically aren’t good enough. I know those weren’t their exact words, but Lily counts once said the things that make you different or what makes you beautiful. She has different kind of eyebrows too.
yeah- I'm 18, I'm just about 5 feet tall, and some people think I look like a child, and I just graduated high school
@@boborambles that’s frustrating. Congrats on graduating.
I have always really appreciated how raw you are in your videos. I've been on my own journey and seeing you travel yours is a beautiful. Life's not always easy, peaks and valleys but we will get there ❤️
Yoy look great, as always. Molly!
You are gorgeous don't let anyone tell you that you're not
I really needed to hear this. Thank you Molly!
My parents just moved away, and I am struggling with work and internally. But I am working out and trying to eat better to help me feel better. Thank you for allowing me to not feel so alone!
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Molly, I can relate to feeling insecure about getting older. I just turned 39 last month, but fiancé pointed out something that made me much more grateful to be the age that I am… because a lot of our dear friends and loved ones passed away before the age that I am now. Age truly is just a number. I say positive affirmations daily and when I catch myself having a negative thought about myself or saying something negative about myself, I immediately come up with three to five positive things to say about myself. That has made a huge difference in my self esteem and mental health. We all have flaws, but that is what makes us unique individuals. And as long as I am taking care of myself (physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually), that is what matters. We all age if we are blessed enough to live long enough to experience it… and it is so much more empowering to embrace it than to be self critical of it. And as a sighted person, I think that you are stunningly beautiful Molly and I don’t think that you need to change anything about how you look. 💗
I really feel like we should normalize aging naturally, because omg all those modified actors in movies are giving us crazy ideas.
@Molly I'm glad you have honest people in your life. About the bangs, have you tried those small combs that went viral on tiktok? And maybe a half up? I also dislike not being able to put my hair up as well so I put my front pieces up in two small ponies that sit flat against my head.
I have a baby face, so I always tend to look younger than I actually am. This is even more apparent when I get a haircut. One day someone asked me if I was 15 when I'm actually 21.
If it helps at all - your eyebrows are NOT green! The microblading looks really nice on you
Really interesting! I wonder if you have some people whose style/ beauty opinion you trust enough to be similar to your own? I find a lot of the time when people comment on things its not objectively ‘too dark’ or the ‘too baggy’ or ‘the wrong tone’ - its kind of pointless feedback unless we have the same style.
My daughter is 31, and she looks 16. When she is with her, lots of people can really tell she is my daughter.
If Molly did show up with green eyebrows, I'd assume it's a fashion trend!
Aging is such a gift a lot of people dont get. We should be thankful for the blessing of getting older.
Pausing to say, I know you aren't making this video for validation, but I'm going to give it to you anyway. You are stunning. Your eyebrows are on point. And I'm not lying when I say, getting older is really the best. I feel more confident at 44 than I ever have before and like you said, it's mostly from internal work. Thank you for talking about taboo subjects, it's important. And more and more women are dressing for the female gaze and not the male gaze. It's liberating.
8:19 A lot of people troll and lie to women about how they look. As a sighted person, I regularly see women be insulted about things that are not even true! Women even get told they’re fat when they’re super thin all the time. I also saw a video of a woman saying some random stranger told her she had saggy knees. But when she showed her knees in the video, there was no sag there.
I always hated being young. I am trying to learn to enjoy my youth. I always wanted to be older. The stigma around my age group is ridiculous. I am not your typical 20 something year old. Young people now are rude, disrespectful, and stupid. So, I hated being compared to them. I am always called 16-18. Sometimes people will say 20-25.
I love your corporate Barbie comment. I think it's more like 1950's corporate Barbie. addition I did a complete pixie in 2023, but I despised the bangs I got. So I feel your pain on growing out the bangs, Molly. Also I just wanted to say I think you are beautiful and super inspiring.
Molly, my lip is thinn and too small but it's mine and we are enough ❤ 🥰😘🤗😘😘😘😘😘
From Marie in Sweden ❤
Love you
And Molly.... it's ok and normal to have a 30 year old crisis.
I had it in my 30's and my 40 and 50 and I'm now 54. And now I see that I'm ageing. But it's ok. ❤
You’re beautiful!! It’s truly amazing how put together and stunning you are while BLIND that’s crazy cool.
One thing I like is how our faces slim down from 20s to 30s! Your bone structure its popping these days! Im a similar age and noticed the same thing.
“Silenzio Bruno” (iykyk) I think you are looking more mature but soo much more beautiful lately! Honestly, I don’t know if it’s that you’re happier or what exactly but you are glowing!! & you still look 25!
On that note though, I recently had a baby and I’ve always looked younger than my age.. and when we are out I’m like people must think I’m 18 (I’m 29) with baby married to a 35 y/o 🤣
I look younger, and now I'm 54 but fell like I'm 30.
And 30 was the best age.
Don't listen to people.
You are so beautiful and good lookking
Hug Marie in Sweden
No you're eyebrow is not green 😂❤
Love you
Marie in Sweden ❤
You are a very pretty woman. Your skin looks flawless and glowing to me!! I'm so glad that you haven't gotten those LA lips...stay natural, you're beautiful inside and out. You are aging wonderfully! If you could see, I think you would think (like I do), that grey hair and fine lines and wrinkles are attractive!
I wear glasses. They are pretty strong. So 90% of the time I use a mirror it’s without glasses. So I don’t see small flaws. Till the random moment I’m near a mirror and have my glasses on 😮. Thankfully I have youthful looks. And I look well over 10 years younger then I am. Most people think I’m early 30’s. But I’m much closer to 50….
As a gay man.. Molly you are absolutely gorgeous!! Maybe living in LA, The Superficial Capital of the World, has affected your self esteem, because damn you are gorgeous. You have nothing to be self conscious about. Anybody putting you down is probably projecting their own insecurities. I wish you could see how beautiful you are! Thank you for another insightful lesson. But for real, you are the epitome of beauty, and I hope you “see” that inside and out.
Girl your lips are fine. The filler lips are trend and they are fading because the Botox is moving and not become sustainable. I’ve never looked twice at your eyebrows. You fine. 😂
i'm in the same boat with the bob. it was so cute when i was younger, i absolutely hate it now. it's worth mentioning that for me, at middle age, my hair for whatever reason has started growing in curly. my hair will NOT grow. i cut my hair mid spring, here it is almost the end of summer and it's grown maaaaybe half an inch. NEVER AGAIN. i look horrible--like someone with many mental illnesses (i know how that sounds, but if you saw me, you'd agree), i literally look horrible. men literally look the other way, i hate it. it used to not be like that.
I get it . My vision was 20/600 last timd we checked . Im 59 now . I live in calfornia . Some people can be very judgmental here .
For instants my lovely family have no proplem say good luck finding a man now . Aka your old ,disabled . Its hard to look in the mirror . I can still see somewhat . But those exstreme magnifing mirrors omg . If i look hard enough ... ya know Robin Williams in peter pan when one of the lost boys realized he truly was peter . Sterecthing his face say oh now i see you Peter. Thats me in the mirror . Acceptance is hard somedays . Truly beauty comes from within .
Sorry for the multiple typos . Typing is so harc now.
For me, having a baby (and the subsequent sleep deprivation as nd hormone fluxes) has defs Accelerated my aging. I'm 32 but I feel like the last 2 years I aged Much more 🙃 so...don't love that. Wrinkles not so much but my skin seems lots less even and bright, and yup pimples all over the place like im a teenager, and So many more grey hairs I hate . Going to treat myself to my first salon dye for my birthday to hopefully sort out for awhile
visually you've not nothing to worry about. You're beautiful and I love how you're embracing your natural features and the changes time brings (none of which I can notice btw).. filer looks ugly in my opinion... I've NEVER noticed your upper lip being thin.. and if this helps too this comment is coming from a professional oil painter who paints aesthetic fantasy realism paintings which usually include women and flowers in them :)
I'm a man and over 70. Thirty was the worst birthday for me. Beauty may fade but your brain will last a lot longer. Enjoy your health and the benefits of a younger age. Exercise both body and mind. Thank God for every day.
As someone with chronic illness who’s visually challenged but not blind, I can’t relate to not watching my body age but being autistic don’t care that much 😂 I mean, I have outlived my dad by 20 years and I will be 45 when I get my master’s, 50 when I get my PhD. I don’t really let my age bother me but I do realize that it impacts how other people perceive me. As long as I stay young at heart 💜 I’m happy
Hi Molly, I’m your same age and I’ve been watching you for maybe 8-9 years. I think you are aging beautifully. As you age, your jaw/bone structure becomes more defined and your face shape becomes for feminine and womanly, I primarily see less fat on your face. Your skin still looks very smooth and wrinkle free, at least what we can see on camera. I wish you could see it, in my opinion you have only become more beautiful throughout the years.
I have all sorts of physical effects on my body and looks thanks to my medical mayhem and disability. I don’t have any teeth anymore, but it’s been 16 years so I’m used to it, dentures have just never worked for me so I have been just fine however the effects of no teeth and no dentures on my jaw are really hitting in now, the fact both my jaw and palate would shrink and change the shape of my face, the look of my mouth and lips if I didn’t use dentures was never explained properly to me until I educated myself too late and it was much later after that before a doctor brought it up.
I have also put on a considerable amount of weight on the last four years since I have had to use a wheelchair full time and a power chair at that, it wasn’t to bad until I stopped smoking two years ago after 28 years of heavy smoking, that when my weight gain went wild!
So my body image and facial image have diverged so much from what it was for my first 42 years it is very hard to work with the new reality, I am getting better at knowing what size and style of clothing I need but the whole blooming thing isn’t helped by my low vision. I have neuropathic corneas, extreme dry eye and heavily scared corneas altogether this really does limit my vision because I really struggle to pick out any detail. Recognising faces is so difficult that I have passed my own children on the street and not recognised them! I went to my youngest daughters school plays but had to wait until the released the dvd before I could actually see my child’s performance.
So very long post shorter, body wrecked by medical issues, disability and self harm (smoking, my lungs are not good), my appearance has detrimentally changed but I’m not able to see the full detail of that changed
Edit because it seems I can’t spell weight the first time and while I’m sucre there will be other spelling, grammar and other errors I’m unlikely to manage to fix them.
Accutane is a game changer if you have significant acne or hormonal acne. Wise to do it before you end up with significant scarring, though better late than never. If doing a less stripping or less overmoisturizing skincare doesn't do the trick, that's the step I would take. It's a one and done and for life, you don't have acne more than a tiny one that some Zapzyt will get rid of by morning and it happened because you forgot to wash your face at night or something silly. I did it at 35 and haven't had a breakout since and I'm 61. It's a bit of a process, but once you're through it, you're set for life with good skin. I've yet to meet anyone it didn't work well for. It's life changing.
Oh and your eyebrows aren't green in case no one told you. lol No worries. Whoever that happened to must have gotten some bad ink or something. Yikes. It makes perfect sense a blind person would get their brows tattooed as that's an annoying thing to try to do when blind I'm sure. I got mine done because my brows are too blond so it was so hard to SEE them to color them in so that I had some.I got a wheat blonde shade that looks very natural with my blonde hair so you can't even tell. Looks the same as when I'd color them in. lol I've considered, though haven't done, a lip line and tint tattoo, faint and very natural, because my lips are pale and the line is uneven. I would guess being blind that could be helpful for you so you didn't have to worry about being so precise, esp w/ a red lip, but you have a nice lip color so idk if I'd mess with it. I wouldn't do anything ELSE to your face though as you have a beautiful face as is, so were I you, I'd only do things that made life easier (like the brows or maybe lipline, maybe very naturalish eyeliner that would also look good makeup-free. I'd never consider doing anything else like botox, fillers, etc. as I just feel like it mostly just looks like you're trying to look younger without actually achieving it, imo. Takes the character out of a face and the emotion too, and as humans, we need that to communicate. Just my take.
As a fellow perpetually younger looking person whose looks have finally caught up with my actual age, it’s hard to accept that I actually look my age now. My body and face have officially changed and it’s just weird.
I’d be insecure here and there about weight when it came to certain things not fitting me right. At 5 feet weighing 180lbs it’s been hard. But I never was insecure about my double chin. Never noticed it, but hearing everyone complain about there’s, I caught myself looking at mine in the mirror. People need to stop complaining about their self image in public tbh.
Like when my cousin who is a size 6 starts complaining that she’s a whale, what am I in her eyes at a size 16?
I know you can't see it yourself, but you look radiant. Fine lines are also tricky for sighted people to see on camera, too, just so you're aware. In your videos, I truly notice no signs of aging on you at this point. You mention smile lines and lines around your eyes, but those aren't visible on camera from our perspective. The only time I ever notice them in any video is if it's a really close shot of their face/eyes (like in a movie or tv show during dialogue), but your content (and pretty much all youtube content) isn't shot in that style. Also, for the record- I think your eyebrows look great, and I'm a makeup artist!! You have high-contrast features- fair skin with dark hair, so of course your eyebrows are going to be higher contrast than someone with blond or lighter brown hair. It's not wrong- it's the proper color difference for you.
My husband thinks I have the cutest lips ever. Mine look similar to yours. The idea of lip filler grosses my husband out, and it's expensive anyways.