11 months on...Still crushes me. I see him when I close my eyes, when I look up at the sky. I loved him more than anyone I've ever loved. So sad, he is so unwell. He is so unwell :(.
@@stephaniedekinger2463 funny you should say that I have been reading the Bible and John for the first time in my life. Yeah he definitely has narcissist traits
@@elaineswanson8578 hugs Elaine, it's so hard isn't it. We have got to move on and that's the saddest thing, especially if we didn't want it to ever end. The song Dark Paradise by Lana is stuck in my head today. Strangely comforting. We got this, let's love and focus on ourselves sooo hard!!
Even you said that people will usually tend to be honest with these things. When someone says that take their words for what it is. Don't fail to grasp what's being said. I've learnt to move on and not try to hold onto someone who doesn't want to hold onto me.🤷🏽♀️👏🏽💯
Yes in the moment take their words for what it is but know that it's coming out emotionally in the moment without long term understanding... usually they said it out of emotion and regret it.
Hi Robert, we definitely agree. That is why our programs are designed with holistic approach. We have to be realistic that there are relationships that can be worked and relationships that we have to let go. but the fact that we have honed the needed life skills, it will help us to have that positive impact in our future relationships and towards the other people around us.
Keep them coming Clay. You are helping so many including myself so much more than you realise. 🙏 - I miss her so much 💔 but I try and listen and follow your advice as much as possible 🙏
In my case, my ex said he didn't love me in a romantic way anymore. He was in a rebound but insisted he wanted to be friends. He just didn't want to let me go. He was still wanting to talk to me every day and he knew I wanted to get back together. My heart was breaking for months, I had to go into no contact for myself. I wasn't able to get over him and watch him move on while he only wanted to be friends with me at that time.
@@nickwalker5666 I've been in NC since Oct, so 7 months now. He reached out at 60ish days to tell me he was mad at me, he was still with his rebound. He was angry that I "cut him out of my life", he said. Which proves he wanted control of the situation instead of what was best for me. It didn't seem to matter to him that I was dying inside. I know I did the right thing. As difficult as it was. And I'm totally better off alone.
My ex said she was never gonna get back with me then 4 months later she wanted me back,went back to her like an absolute idiot hence it did not work,so just leave your ex to it an never take em back,just my humble opinion.
Shit your on the ball. Just asked my ex wife of 4 days who is. Still living with me. After moving out and coming back.Separate rooms. Just returned from 2 weeks holiday together abroad. Pecked kisses and cuddles. Just asked are we defo over no chane, she replied yes. No chance , no she replied. I then said if your sure that's OK I just needed to hear it, everything will be fine. Fuck how that empowered me. I've not change my stance iv stayed stron supportive focused and on my purpose from the start.and no no one wrong. I believe menapsuse death of her mum of which I was her rock. 35 years together. Told her one the home sells I will not be their. The death of my absence is yet to unfold. Thank you for all your videos that have help me stay strong and resilient. And no I never begged. Thank you. . .
He dumped me .. today is day 3 although he was still texting me angry at me.but keep telling me that he wants to be alone forever. I thought it was anger..but he still says the same thing today .I blocked him because it hurts so bad.. but he didn’t block me ..
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Kerizma. Breakups can really be tough and could be emotional for some. We hope that you are holding on well. How do you feel about doing Active No Contact and focusing on your healing and well-being?
It's been 5 months since me and my ex spoke. In those 5 months she's liked some of my post on social media and I don't understand that. Lately I've been wondering if I should reach out to her,but I'm not sure. My mother told me not to and my friend says I should, because maybe she wants me to. But I mean if she wanted me to reach out to her she would have already contacted me. About 2 days ago I saw she updated her status to in a relationship. When I saw this I was devastated, because I don't understand how she could move on so quickly, especially since she told me that she's not in a good place health-wise. I still have some of her stuff and she also hasn't asked for her stuff back and I was wondering if I should just go and give it to her? I've been trying really hard to move on and work on myself,but I just can't stop thinking about her. Ever since I saw her status I've been wondering if it's true or if it's just a way to get attention. Does anyone have advice? I just can't do this anymore and in all honesty, I'm tired and I don't want to go on.
Hi Ethan, What if both of you are waiting for who would initiate first? That is why we advocate more of an active approach than being passive and waiting.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you for replying Clay. Correct me if I'm wrong,but as I understand it, I should make contact with her? I'm not sure if she really is in a relationship with someone new,but I'm scared that if I make contact with her now I'll seem needy and desperate. In all honesty,the idea of her with someone else is heartbreaking to me, especially how fast she moved into a new relationship. Hope to hear from you soon.
What is important when you decide to contact her is that you are coming from a place of acceptance, detached to any form of outcome and have fully healed from the breakup.
I’ve been broken up with my ex for around a month and a week and she never texted me first and when I texted her trying to start a fun Conversation she was always single texting and I had asked her if she needs space and she said she is just uninterested and this week I had to change a password for an account i let her have that she used a lot and she finally texted me first spamming me like she use to when we were still dating just to ask for the password so I got mad and just told her really this is the only reason you are texting me and then left her on read and now she has muted me in Xbox parties but hasn’t blocked me on any forms of communication honestly idea at this point
@@ClayAndrews Then I look forward to your next birthday! Maybe some inspiration for a video, and if not, something I'd love to get a little input about from you: I can't help but feel very hurt by my ex hooking up with someone directly after breaking up with me after many years of a profound relationship. I watched your videos on rebounds and resentment and it all makes sense, but it still hurts so much and I don't know how to get over it. There is an aspect to it I haven't seen you adress yet. Sex is something deeply personal to me and it makes me sick she shared that with someone else (though I know it "didn't mean anything" to her). We still talk in a good way and both don't want to rule our getting back together after some time of healing and resolving our issues. But I don't know how to deal with the sex thing and I'm pretty sure it's not solely my own insecurity or self-worth.
Clay, what if he's gone back and forth on the idea of reconciliation for 3 months, but ultimately told me that we can't repair things? We were supposed to meet up next weekend after many weeks of no contact. I gave him time and space as he had requested. He said he has made some emotional and mental progress over those few weeks/months and he doesn't want to fiddle with what he's been able to establish and fall into a mental slump again by seeing me. I know he suffered a lot too after the breakup even if he's the dumper. How can I rebuild trust/connection with him if he's refusing to see me period? And I can't even blame it on the breakup being fresh. I am spiraling...
It doesn't matter any amount of advice they receive from others when they say something like "I don't believe we're meant to be with just one person" After that, it's over. Permanently. Ain't no way they should receive a second chance from anyone.
@@markai2002 Romans 10:9 King James Version 9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
What if they are bk together with their other ex girlfriend they really wanted. Should I just really keep going on focusing on me all time n let their relationship be for now Clay ? X
As much at its hard and hurts. You must continue to move forward and focus on yourself, especially as they are together now. Keep your head strong and push on each day Gemma 🙏
Okay I need help bad I got my ex back after I cheated on her I thought I changed I really did I love her and I don’t want anyone else but I cheated again and this time she seems certain there isn’t a chance in hell she will take me back what do I do I’m confused I love her and I want her and only her and I know what I did wrong and why I did it and I know it won’t happen again I just need help
11 months on...Still crushes me. I see him when I close my eyes, when I look up at the sky. I loved him more than anyone I've ever loved. So sad, he is so unwell. He is so unwell :(.
He sounds like he’s a narcissist. Please seek Jesus. He loves you more than anyone! Read John 15
@@stephaniedekinger2463 funny you should say that I have been reading the Bible and John for the first time in my life. Yeah he definitely has narcissist traits
It's been a yr and 2mons sens my break up with my ex and I still miss him and cry at night
@@elaineswanson8578 hugs Elaine, it's so hard isn't it. We have got to move on and that's the saddest thing, especially if we didn't want it to ever end. The song Dark Paradise by Lana is stuck in my head today. Strangely comforting. We got this, let's love and focus on ourselves sooo hard!!
@@therealyou5824 There are no coincidence, it’s all Jesus! Hallelujah!
Even you said that people will usually tend to be honest with these things. When someone says that take their words for what it is. Don't fail to grasp what's being said. I've learnt to move on and not try to hold onto someone who doesn't want to hold onto me.🤷🏽♀️👏🏽💯
Yes in the moment take their words for what it is but know that it's coming out emotionally in the moment without long term understanding... usually they said it out of emotion and regret it.
Some things can't be fixed. I had a situation like that not too long ago. I've accepted it.
Hi Robert, we definitely agree. That is why our programs are designed with holistic approach. We have to be realistic that there are relationships that can be worked and relationships that we have to let go. but the fact that we have honed the needed life skills, it will help us to have that positive impact in our future relationships and towards the other people around us.
Well done,just let them go and move on and enjoy your life.
Keep them coming Clay. You are helping so many including myself so much more than you realise. 🙏 - I miss her so much 💔 but I try and listen and follow your advice as much as possible 🙏
Thank you, I will. :-) thanks for watching our videos as well and we are happy to hear that you have learned so much from us.
In my case, my ex said he didn't love me in a romantic way anymore. He was in a rebound but insisted he wanted to be friends. He just didn't want to let me go. He was still wanting to talk to me every day and he knew I wanted to get back together. My heart was breaking for months, I had to go into no contact for myself. I wasn't able to get over him and watch him move on while he only wanted to be friends with me at that time.
what was the outcome? this fits my situation to a T and i would love some insight
@@nickwalker5666 I've been in NC since Oct, so 7 months now. He reached out at 60ish days to tell me he was mad at me, he was still with his rebound. He was angry that I "cut him out of my life", he said. Which proves he wanted control of the situation instead of what was best for me. It didn't seem to matter to him that I was dying inside. I know I did the right thing. As difficult as it was. And I'm totally better off alone.
What is important is you are doing things for your self and your well-being. You truly deserve to heal and feel better as well. :-)
She's told me that i can't count how many times, we were married 18 years and divorced 3 years now and no contact now
My ex said she was never gonna get back with me then 4 months later she wanted me back,went back to her like an absolute idiot hence it did not work,so just leave your ex to it an never take em back,just my humble opinion.
Shit your on the ball. Just asked my ex wife of 4 days who is. Still living with me. After moving out and coming back.Separate rooms. Just returned from 2 weeks holiday together abroad. Pecked kisses and cuddles.
Just asked are we defo over no chane, she replied yes. No chance , no she replied.
I then said if your sure that's OK I just needed to hear it, everything will be fine.
Fuck how that empowered me. I've not change my stance iv stayed stron supportive focused and on my purpose from the start.and no no one wrong.
I believe menapsuse death of her mum of which I was her rock. 35 years together.
Told her one the home sells I will not be their.
The death of my absence is yet to unfold.
Thank you for all your videos that have help me stay strong and resilient. And no I never begged. Thank you.
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What if they still said that after a month of breakup!?? Is it still emotionally or is it time to give up?
Great video
My ex says no more chances but yet will still answer my texts and we talk on the phone and shares her kids lives w me. Why does she do this?
He dumped me .. today is day 3 although he was still texting me angry at me.but keep telling me that he wants to be alone forever. I thought it was anger..but he still says the same thing today .I blocked him because it hurts so bad.. but he didn’t block me ..
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Kerizma. Breakups can really be tough and could be emotional for some. We hope that you are holding on well. How do you feel about doing Active No Contact and focusing on your healing and well-being?
It works on me
I got my lost lover back
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
+ 1 (4 4 3 ) 8 5 5 0 8 5 0..
It's been 5 months since me and my ex spoke. In those 5 months she's liked some of my post on social media and I don't understand that. Lately I've been wondering if I should reach out to her,but I'm not sure. My mother told me not to and my friend says I should, because maybe she wants me to. But I mean if she wanted me to reach out to her she would have already contacted me. About 2 days ago I saw she updated her status to in a relationship. When I saw this I was devastated, because I don't understand how she could move on so quickly, especially since she told me that she's not in a good place health-wise. I still have some of her stuff and she also hasn't asked for her stuff back and I was wondering if I should just go and give it to her? I've been trying really hard to move on and work on myself,but I just can't stop thinking about her. Ever since I saw her status I've been wondering if it's true or if it's just a way to get attention. Does anyone have advice? I just can't do this anymore and in all honesty, I'm tired and I don't want to go on.
Hi Ethan, What if both of you are waiting for who would initiate first? That is why we advocate more of an active approach than being passive and waiting.
@@ClayAndrews Thank you for replying Clay. Correct me if I'm wrong,but as I understand it, I should make contact with her? I'm not sure if she really is in a relationship with someone new,but I'm scared that if I make contact with her now I'll seem needy and desperate. In all honesty,the idea of her with someone else is heartbreaking to me, especially how fast she moved into a new relationship. Hope to hear from you soon.
What is important when you decide to contact her is that you are coming from a place of acceptance, detached to any form of outcome and have fully healed from the breakup.
Update bro?
I’ve been broken up with my ex for around a month and a week and she never texted me first and when I texted her trying to start a fun Conversation she was always single texting and I had asked her if she needs space and she said she is just uninterested and this week I had to change a password for an account i let her have that she used a lot and she finally texted me first spamming me like she use to when we were still dating just to ask for the password so I got mad and just told her really this is the only reason you are texting me and then left her on read and now she has muted me in Xbox parties but hasn’t blocked me on any forms of communication honestly idea at this point
She dumped me because she said she lost interest and only loves me as a friend btw
It works on me
I got my lost lover back
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
+ 1 (4 4 3 ) 8 5 5 0 8 5 0..
Gold as always
It really depends, we had the live stream last time as it was my birthday. :-)
@@ClayAndrews Then I look forward to your next birthday!
Maybe some inspiration for a video, and if not, something I'd love to get a little input about from you:
I can't help but feel very hurt by my ex hooking up with someone directly after breaking up with me after many years of a profound relationship. I watched your videos on rebounds and resentment and it all makes sense, but it still hurts so much and I don't know how to get over it. There is an aspect to it I haven't seen you adress yet. Sex is something deeply personal to me and it makes me sick she shared that with someone else (though I know it "didn't mean anything" to her). We still talk in a good way and both don't want to rule our getting back together after some time of healing and resolving our issues. But I don't know how to deal with the sex thing and I'm pretty sure it's not solely my own insecurity or self-worth.
Clay, what if he's gone back and forth on the idea of reconciliation for 3 months, but ultimately told me that we can't repair things? We were supposed to meet up next weekend after many weeks of no contact. I gave him time and space as he had requested. He said he has made some emotional and mental progress over those few weeks/months and he doesn't want to fiddle with what he's been able to establish and fall into a mental slump again by seeing me. I know he suffered a lot too after the breakup even if he's the dumper. How can I rebuild trust/connection with him if he's refusing to see me period? And I can't even blame it on the breakup being fresh. I am spiraling...
He's also conclusively wrapped up the conversation... i.e. ending in "I'm sorry and I wish you the best".
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It doesn't matter any amount of advice they receive from others when they say something like "I don't believe we're meant to be with just one person"
After that, it's over. Permanently.
Ain't no way they should receive a second chance from anyone.
Yeah she did, and I believe her lol
Just trust Jesus, He truly knows what’s best for you. Be still and know He is God. 🙌🏽🥰
How do you be still
Confirmation
@@elaineswanson8578 By just trusting Jesus. He truly is the answer to all of life’s issues.
What if we don't believe in Jesus or God?
@@markai2002 Romans 10:9
King James Version
9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
I dont understand so if they break up with you then you ask them to be friends???
What if they are bk together with their other ex girlfriend they really wanted. Should I just really keep going on focusing on me all time n let their relationship be for now Clay ? X
Of course you should, what else would you do?
As much at its hard and hurts. You must continue to move forward and focus on yourself, especially as they are together now. Keep your head strong and push on each day Gemma 🙏
It works on me
I got my lost lover back
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
+ 1 (4 4 3 ) 8 5 5 0 8 5 0..
been in no contact for almost 11 months do you think it would be ok to reach out
Of course, when if not now?
Any update?
Okay I need help bad I got my ex back after I cheated on her I thought I changed I really did I love her and I don’t want anyone else but I cheated again and this time she seems certain there isn’t a chance in hell she will take me back what do I do I’m confused I love her and I want her and only her and I know what I did wrong and why I did it and I know it won’t happen again I just need help
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Hey clay!..my ex text me to be in relationship but she tell me i wont share my password..what should i do?
Trust garna sikna paryo ni bhai
It works on me
I got my lost lover back
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
+ 1 (4 4 3 ) 8 5 5 0 8 5 0..
I guess I would say: ok your loss bye 😄