I unfortunately emotionally hurt my ex one too many times by lying. We were both truly in love with one another and hit it off immediately, and It was such a great time being with her. I should've worked on myself before her and I committed to each other. She left me over a month ago, and honestly it was for the best, not only for her but for me as well. That breakup lit a fire under my ass to actually take stock of my past actions and seek help to better myself. I'm so sad to have lost her but at the same time happy, because I know she'll be happier and I will become a better person because of this.
Similar happened to me 8 months ago. My insecurities and emotions got the better of me and I brought on exactly what I feared. I still miss her today but I have learnt a couple life lessons over the last 8 months. Best of luck to you buddy.
@@milksteak0154 Glad to hear it! Yes my ex has been reaching out aswell. We will have nice conversation, then she will go quiet and ghost me again. I dont double text anymore, she knows she can text me back so if she decides not to I leave it.
@@maybugz We talked the whole day yesterday, even on the phone. She unblocked me on everything as well. However, today I didn't text her or reach out at all. I'm not falling into her trap, I know she cares about me still but she wanted to see If I was still on her hook. I kept our convos light and playful but I'm not chasing. If she wants to talk I'm letting her initiate it. She needs to know that I do not need her nor do I care. I know its tough to not want to talk, but NC has taught me self control and I'm sticking to it. It was refreshing to hear her voice, but I'm sticking to my boundaries. Stay strong brother!
My ex and I actually do talk with each other and we even meet up with each other occasionally. Although she’s with someone else, i feel like there is something more. I’m just focus on the relationship that we have. I don’t want her back, i want to be with her. I know i changed, and i just hope that she might like me back
Coming from the exact same experience I can tell you that the chances are slim. For your sake I hope it goes better for you than it did for me. But eventually you have to know when enough is enough and find new happiness in life. Good luck my friend :)
Hey coach! Did no contact for 2 weeks, my ex posted sad posts, she even posted our song. She even reached out once anonymously and said she can't sleep. We are together for 2 years and we are in a long distance relationship. Even after she told me how she felt I suggested a break, but she kept cuddling to me every night, and when I took distance she came close to me. I should also mention she has depression, so I don't totally leave her alone, due she is ill. Yesterday we made voice messages and I told her what went wrong in the relationship and she was very happy about it (I was needy and too obsessed with her), she replied and said she misses me and pf course loves me but she can't be in a relationship, but she really needs me as her best friend. Any help would be great, I am very very confused because all of these. Thank you, stay strong everyone!
I’m trying to do no contact with my ex. Unfortunately, the reason she broke up with me was because I wasn’t putting in enough effort to communicate with her on a daily basis while I was 3 hours away at college. I’m just afraid that going through no contact will make things worse considering lack of communication was the issue in the relationship in the first place. I’ve been back in my hometown (where she lives) and communicating with her/ hanging out with her on almost a daily basis for 5 months but nothing has changed. (She told a mutual friend that she thinks she’s more attractive than me). Thoughts as to what I should do?
@@LeafsIn2025 everyone I talk to tells me something similar to this. I just feel terrible because she was right. I wasn’t being a good boyfriend. Now she seems like a different person than she was a year ago. Despite it all, I have trouble letting her go. In the 2 years we were together she was the apple of my eye and my motivation to be a better person and have a great day. but I never showed it to her. I’ve never been good at that. Despite all this, sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you had hoped. But I still see her in my dreams every night and wake up in an empty bed in the morning
@@LeafsIn2025 I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed a non-objective opinion. The kindness of a complete stranger to listen to my story and give me solid advice is exactly what I needed. It gives me hope for the future knowing there are good people in this world and that god works in mysterious yet omniscient ways. I hope you have a beautiful life and that everything works out well for you and your loved ones
What if you've tried to talk to them and they won't talk to you? I wrote him a letter and emailed it, owning up to my mistakes, apologized for it, and asked him to talk to me, but instead he basically said goodbye via text. Now what?
I messed up my chance I had got little aggressive trying to dance with her drank to much she told me she’s not going back to watching/ taking care of me when I overdrink 🤦🏽♂️ really sucked… any suggestions…thanks in advance
Maybe grow up just a little???? We all make mistakes, but how about in the future keep the drinking to yourself or atleast away from her and more with your friends.... thats what I do. Clay helped me get my ex back and better than ever. So, you're in the right place and you have great intentions. ❤ You most likely didnt completely ruin your last chance, but quite possibly you may have one more. Who knows? I hope so for you!! Good luck and hope you're doing great!!!
Hey coach! Is there any difference when the ex who dumped me has mental illness? I'm talking about depression in my case. She shows many mixed signals (she likes my closeness, but she needs to focus on herself, she misses and loves me but can't be in a relationship right now, and wants to stay best friends with me). So I'm wondering what the right step would be in order to be in a happy relationship with her again. Take things slow? Have the special connection we have but don't put label on it? We live in a long distance relationship and I very much love her, we have a huge history! Thank You!
Hey Zozi, if your ex is assessed by a licensed professional and is indeed going through level of depression, it is best that she would focus on her well-being. Her mental health is important as it is with your relationship with her. You can be a good support system but your relationship should not intertwine with her personal struggles on her well-being.
@ClayAndrews I secretly aboslutely live this. And you're spot on. I went through this with my ex wife. Depression tore us apart snd by following your guidance was able to connect deeper than ever. She still struggles with depression but I allow her to be in control of herself and allow her to heal at her own pace. I told her that it was a marathon and not a sprint and that she needed to take care of herself for me and I would take care of myself for her!!! ❤ I learned all of this from you!!!
I tried to explain the whys of certain behaviors from my side while in relationship with him. I tried to bring them up and say I am sorry. He doesnt want to talk about them and simply offers a "its okay, I understand, I want to move on from these things". What to do then, if he doesn't really hear me out ?
@@chilloften Thank you. I think one of the problem is that he takes me for granted now. So if I try to communicate needs, he feels as if I demand things from him or blame him.
1st thing. How do you start talking to them again when they are avoiding you completely. Blocked in social media, numbers. Etc. You can't even apologize. Thats the problem of most peeps out there. Esp in Ldr relationships.
Hi Clay, I need your wonderful advice. I recently got in touch with my ex after six months of no contact and binge-watching your videos. I have been working on myself and have been nominated for two awards for my work in university. Can you please give some examples of how to connect to him? For example, he mentioned his childhood friend was going through a tough time. So it was his birthday yesterday and I asked my ex how he was. I then left the conversation there. I discussed whether he would reconsider a relationship with me earlier this week and he said we were on different paths in life at the moment and remain friends. He sent mixed signals and would text first but now it's gone dead again. I am still moving on with my life, I just wish he could understand I would love to have him on this journey with me. We have always been very independent people, as I tend to put myself first but I had to move out of his town because of covid and since then he is uninterested. I am not sure if I should move back because I am focusing on driving and seeking a good job in the media. If you think a programme of yours would help lmk. thank you.
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I unfortunately emotionally hurt my ex one too many times by lying. We were both truly in love with one another and hit it off immediately, and It was such a great time being with her. I should've worked on myself before her and I committed to each other. She left me over a month ago, and honestly it was for the best, not only for her but for me as well. That breakup lit a fire under my ass to actually take stock of my past actions and seek help to better myself. I'm so sad to have lost her but at the same time happy, because I know she'll be happier and I will become a better person because of this.
Similar happened to me 8 months ago. My insecurities and emotions got the better of me and I brought on exactly what I feared. I still miss her today but I have learnt a couple life lessons over the last 8 months. Best of luck to you buddy.
@@maybugz She reached out today after 2 months NC
@@milksteak0154 Glad to hear it! Yes my ex has been reaching out aswell. We will have nice conversation, then she will go quiet and ghost me again. I dont double text anymore, she knows she can text me back so if she decides not to I leave it.
@@maybugz We talked the whole day yesterday, even on the phone. She unblocked me on everything as well. However, today I didn't text her or reach out at all. I'm not falling into her trap, I know she cares about me still but she wanted to see If I was still on her hook. I kept our convos light and playful but I'm not chasing. If she wants to talk I'm letting her initiate it. She needs to know that I do not need her nor do I care. I know its tough to not want to talk, but NC has taught me self control and I'm sticking to it. It was refreshing to hear her voice, but I'm sticking to my boundaries. Stay strong brother!
@@milksteak0154 any update now ??
My ex and I actually do talk with each other and we even meet up with each other occasionally. Although she’s with someone else, i feel like there is something more. I’m just focus on the relationship that we have. I don’t want her back, i want to be with her. I know i changed, and i just hope that she might like me back
Coming from the exact same experience I can tell you that the chances are slim. For your sake I hope it goes better for you than it did for me. But eventually you have to know when enough is enough and find new happiness in life. Good luck my friend :)
Same here .
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I love the Frozen reference.. really hit home, lol.😅👌🏽
:-) Thank you.
Hey Clay, always good content! Thank you! 👍🙂
Glad you enjoy it!
This is really helpful. I've been in no contact for 39 days. I'm almost ready to reach out.
Hey coach! Did no contact for 2 weeks, my ex posted sad posts, she even posted our song. She even reached out once anonymously and said she can't sleep. We are together for 2 years and we are in a long distance relationship. Even after she told me how she felt I suggested a break, but she kept cuddling to me every night, and when I took distance she came close to me. I should also mention she has depression, so I don't totally leave her alone, due she is ill. Yesterday we made voice messages and I told her what went wrong in the relationship and she was very happy about it (I was needy and too obsessed with her), she replied and said she misses me and pf course loves me but she can't be in a relationship, but she really needs me as her best friend. Any help would be great, I am very very confused because all of these. Thank you, stay strong everyone!
Is this advice applicable if you never had a defined relationship where both partners declared their live for each other?
That can be a bit tricky. Have you communicated with the person to see if both of you are on the same page?
Thank you Clay , for the new consistent content 🤓🔥💯
I’m trying to do no contact with my ex. Unfortunately, the reason she broke up with me was because I wasn’t putting in enough effort to communicate with her on a daily basis while I was 3 hours away at college. I’m just afraid that going through no contact will make things worse considering lack of communication was the issue in the relationship in the first place. I’ve been back in my hometown (where she lives) and communicating with her/ hanging out with her on almost a daily basis for 5 months but nothing has changed. (She told a mutual friend that she thinks she’s more attractive than me). Thoughts as to what I should do?
@@LeafsIn2025 everyone I talk to tells me something similar to this. I just feel terrible because she was right. I wasn’t being a good boyfriend. Now she seems like a different person than she was a year ago. Despite it all, I have trouble letting her go. In the 2 years we were together she was the apple of my eye and my motivation to be a better person and have a great day. but I never showed it to her. I’ve never been good at that. Despite all this, sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you had hoped. But I still see her in my dreams every night and wake up in an empty bed in the morning
@@LeafsIn2025 I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed a non-objective opinion. The kindness of a complete stranger to listen to my story and give me solid advice is exactly what I needed. It gives me hope for the future knowing there are good people in this world and that god works in mysterious yet omniscient ways. I hope you have a beautiful life and that everything works out well for you and your loved ones
What if you've tried to talk to them and they won't talk to you? I wrote him a letter and emailed it, owning up to my mistakes, apologized for it, and asked him to talk to me, but instead he basically said goodbye via text. Now what?
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I messed up my chance I had got little aggressive trying to dance with her drank to much she told me she’s not going back to watching/ taking care of me when I overdrink 🤦🏽♂️ really sucked… any suggestions…thanks in advance
Maybe grow up just a little???? We all make mistakes, but how about in the future keep the drinking to yourself or atleast away from her and more with your friends.... thats what I do. Clay helped me get my ex back and better than ever. So, you're in the right place and you have great intentions. ❤ You most likely didnt completely ruin your last chance, but quite possibly you may have one more. Who knows? I hope so for you!! Good luck and hope you're doing great!!!
Haha, I haven’t watched Frozen yet, but if I haven’t yet, it’s not a spoiler.
Hey coach! Is there any difference when the ex who dumped me has mental illness? I'm talking about depression in my case. She shows many mixed signals (she likes my closeness, but she needs to focus on herself, she misses and loves me but can't be in a relationship right now, and wants to stay best friends with me). So I'm wondering what the right step would be in order to be in a happy relationship with her again. Take things slow? Have the special connection we have but don't put label on it? We live in a long distance relationship and I very much love her, we have a huge history! Thank You!
Hey Zozi, if your ex is assessed by a licensed professional and is indeed going through level of depression, it is best that she would focus on her well-being. Her mental health is important as it is with your relationship with her. You can be a good support system but your relationship should not intertwine with her personal struggles on her well-being.
@ClayAndrews I secretly aboslutely live this. And you're spot on. I went through this with my ex wife. Depression tore us apart snd by following your guidance was able to connect deeper than ever. She still struggles with depression but I allow her to be in control of herself and allow her to heal at her own pace. I told her that it was a marathon and not a sprint and that she needed to take care of herself for me and I would take care of myself for her!!! ❤ I learned all of this from you!!!
I tried to explain the whys of certain behaviors from my side while in relationship with him. I tried to bring them up and say I am sorry. He doesnt want to talk about them and simply offers a "its okay, I understand, I want to move on from these things". What to do then, if he doesn't really hear me out ?
Communicate needs.
@@chilloften Thank you. I think one of the problem is that he takes me for granted now. So if I try to communicate needs, he feels as if I demand things from him or blame him.
I have seen Frozen... Yoghurt.
1st thing. How do you start talking to them again when they are avoiding you completely. Blocked in social media, numbers. Etc. You can't even apologize. Thats the problem of most peeps out there. Esp in Ldr relationships.
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Should I give up . If they love their ex girlfriend and is trying again with her? Need help .
@@ellababy1296 No I'm okay . I'm going give him some space n work on me
Hi Clay, I need your wonderful advice. I recently got in touch with my ex after six months of no contact and binge-watching your videos. I have been working on myself and have been nominated for two awards for my work in university. Can you please give some examples of how to connect to him? For example, he mentioned his childhood friend was going through a tough time. So it was his birthday yesterday and I asked my ex how he was. I then left the conversation there. I discussed whether he would reconsider a relationship with me earlier this week and he said we were on different paths in life at the moment and remain friends. He sent mixed signals and would text first but now it's gone dead again. I am still moving on with my life, I just wish he could understand I would love to have him on this journey with me. We have always been very independent people, as I tend to put myself first but I had to move out of his town because of covid and since then he is uninterested. I am not sure if I should move back because I am focusing on driving and seeking a good job in the media. If you think a programme of yours would help lmk. thank you.
It works on me
I got my lost lover back
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
+ 1 (4 4 3 ) 8 5 5 0 8 5 0..
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i say you do it :) whos to say whats meaningful or better
you do you