Liked the idea of having been lost in the marriage and the divorce was a way to get back to yourself. I was recently discussing with someone the stress of getting divorced at the age of 60 (after 33 years with the cheater) and that person turned to me and said “ this is your chance to be free, be at peace.” That was such a great reframe for me. I will be able to be at peace and to be free from all of the toxicity that being married to an abusive cheater has been. I don’t know that I’ll eat candy every day for breakfast, but not having to walk around on eggshells will be such a great start to each and every day. So freeing to no longer be the “chaos janitor.”
"Chaos janitors "....love it .....perfectly describes the situation.
Great conversation. Keep being Mighty!
Liked the idea of having been lost in the marriage and the divorce was a way to get back to yourself. I was recently discussing with someone the stress of getting divorced at the age of 60 (after 33 years with the cheater) and that person turned to me and said “ this is your chance to be free, be at peace.” That was such a great reframe for me. I will be able to be at peace and to be free from all of the toxicity that being married to an abusive cheater has been. I don’t know that I’ll eat candy every day for breakfast, but not having to walk around on eggshells will be such a great start to each and every day.
So freeing to no longer be the “chaos janitor.”