She is much more likely help him compromise than he is to help her believe. It will always be an issue. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
Amen! Unbelievers as God says are darkness and lawlessness compared to those who love Jesus. They are carnally minded and are not subject to the laws of God, nor can they be as Romans 8 says. Do not marry an enemy of God.
I know people aren't dogs but every time one of my dogs picks up a bad habit the rest of them pick it up also lol. I think we as people have that same problem if you hang around drug addicts sure you may never try drugs but you are putting yourself in a bad situation that could lead you there.
Christianity is such a terrible religion, it's horrible to teach people that unbelievers are the same as darkness and Christians themselves are supposedly righteous, as if teaching inequality makes people less awful towards each other.
As a non believer I married my Christian wife 53 years ago. Through her I found Jesus and six years later we both entered full time ministry serving 44 years and we are both still active in our church. Her pastor in front of me told her not to marry me. I am glad she didn't listen but sad he did not see the changes that were happening in my life because of her. The bible advice of not being unequally is true, but beware of making your christianity legalistic, allow God's grace space to move thus avoiding the danger of believing the power of God is greater than the power of unbelief. However unlike this girl I respected my wife's belief and later discovered it was The beauty of Jesus in her life that made her so attractive. I thank God every night for her and through her His power and presence in my life.
Good testimony. All glory to *Christ.* Testimonies like yours are rare. But to obey *God’s* Word doesn’t make a Christian a legalistic. Yes and amen for *His* grace. However, *God’s* grace teaches us to not obey the flesh. Titus 2:11-12, “For the grace of *God* that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age…”
Trust me yall! Do not do it! During fights they mock your faith, and during the best they're not really there for you. Just don't. It hurts sometimes tho.
@sterlingfallsproductions3930 My point is that, we're all terrible people in need of redemption. God gave us a way out of judgment. He sent his only son Jesus to be the scapegoat for our sins. If we have a change of mind about our standing with him in our sins, and trust on his atonement for us on the cross. Then we will be saved. Upon that moment we will be given his Holy Spirit and we will begin to change from the inside out. Have your parents been perfect for you? Mine sure havent, God had been the BEST Father I've ever had. He's also been the best mother I've had as well. My parents are not perfect people. Neither are you or me, but I know someone who is. That's our Savior, our redeemer. Jesus Christ, the only one who can save us from ourselves. I hope you have a good day my friend. God bless you, and I pray a door is opened for you to be in right standing with God. No matter what you've done or who you are, he has a new identity for all of us.
Relationships, yet another thing ruined by religion because brainwashed cultists can't tolerate anyone who thinks differently about their religious propaganda.
Let’s not pretend to be blind . It’s just like politics now . If you believe that we should be able to defend ourselves so the government can’t come and put your wife in a cage , you can’t marry a woman that thinks guns are evil .
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 Yeah it's not beneficial for both parts. So a unbeliever should marry an unbeliever (aka someone with same values) and a christian with a christian. I think it's fair enough
I recently had dinner with a girl who I would best describe as agnostic that I wanted to get to know to potentially date. During the night, I found out we had a lot in common and I really liked her. I explained to her that I was a Christian and even asked if she’d like to come to church sometime. She didn’t seem opposed which I knew was a good sign. Unfortunately, as soon as she found out I was a pro-life person, she wanted to leave right then and there, only to text me the next day and say that she didn’t think we were compatible and didn’t respond to any further messages. I was sad at first, but I believe that was God protecting me because if anything serious would have started between us, it would’ve been a nightmare in the long run
Bro, God did protect you!!! I know of some Christian whom are married to non-believers. All of those marriages are nightmares. I’m a 60 year old single guy (went through a divorce before I became a Christian). It’s paramount to that if I ever marry again that she’s a true believer. Back when I was in the dating world some women proclaimed to be Christian but really weren’t when we began discussing beliefs. God protected me as well. 🙂
Never text back when someone dumps you via text over Christian values and especially over Christ's blood bought salvation. Its far beneath you to give it anymore oxygen.
Ask out a Christian girl please.. I’m always so sad when the guys start looking elsewhere when they already have the pick of many Christian girls (ie the ratio is out in church - ie more women will miss out on love for their faith)
My brother in Christ, you are a good man! As a woman I can say there are true Christian women out there who would be lucky to have you. God is saving you for a special one!
In the proper context this is a verse that talks about not communicating with people who do not believe and proclaim that there's no resurrection of Jesus Christ and that christian people who have passed away won't be resurrected. Do not believe the claims of people who reject the resurrection.
@@doctorfear9241 Anyone who doesn’t love Jesus is a bad influence to have. As God says ”Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?“ II Corinthians 6:14-15 NKJV God says unbelievers compared to believers are darkness and lawlessness, so yes they are bad company. That’s why God commands us to be fairly separated from such people.
Great stuff. A man in Christ trying to help his brother in Christ. And another mature christian man on stage giving biblical advice. This is what we need.
I married a nonbeliever a few weeks after I got saved and was married for 10 years. It was the worst 10 years of my life. We divorced 25 years ago and I'm still suffering the consequences of that relationship today. NEVER marry an unbeliever.
@@EatLeadPal You - She was aggressively opposed to what my strongest beliefs were. Response - That statement sounds like a half-truth. Do you mean she was opposed to beliefs that you felt she should adopt.?
Men tend to follow their wives' desires.... which is why the Patriarchs and the Jewish nation were warned again and again not to intermarry with the daughters of nations surrounding them, and when they ignored that advice, it was always to their detriment. It was also the case with my mom and dad... Dad was a former Mormon who turned atheist in college, and my mom was Lutheran. He eventually learned of the true God through her, converted, and became a staunch believer in Christ. That's not the norm, though, so I am very grateful it did work out in that case. Praise God for the exceptions that he redeems!
Yes , your experience is not the norm. We used to call it “ missionary dating “ . Usually the non Christian begins to resent the Christian. There are so many women who come to church with their children but the unsaved fathers seldom come.
@@gingercake0907 @gingercake0907: “There are so many women who come to church with their children but the unsaved fathers seldom come.” Just like me, but not seldom, never.
@@gingercake0907 yep. I knew another couple in my former church: mom was a dedicated Christian, dad was not. On the bright side, he did come every Sunday and supported her and his kids. He's a "good man" by worldly standards, but as of last time I saw them, he still was not a believer. I can't imagine being in a household where my spouse thinks my most deeply held beliefs are fake. And especially the message that would send to my kids.
Yea it's a no for me dog 2Cor 6:14 *You are not the same as those who do not believe. So do not join yourselves to them. Good and bad do not belong together. Light and darkness cannot share together.*
@@jwlptjmki9608 Oh yes it does! Jesus says “If you love me, you will keep my commandments”. Those of the world are enemies of God ”Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.“ James 4:4 NKJV The world hates God, if your of the world you hate God
I love Frank Turek. He was a vital factor in me converting from atheism to Christianity back a few years a go. He is always very kind and answers the questions with grace, but logic as well. God is using him well. Thanks for everything you do dr Turek!
I used to be atheist, condemning Christ name, and I met now my wife who is Evangelical Christian. We had similar political views (i.e. right leaning) but I told her I had no desire to be Christian. She accepted that, and we dated, asked her to be my gf, and slowly I had a began opening my heart to Christ. The biggest revelation I had was when I heard the spirit talk to me and say "something will happen and you will try and repent but by then it would be too late, do it now or else you will not have chance" After that experience, I devoted my self to Christ in full.
I’m a skeptic, but I respect Christians who work in academia, both stem and humanities : John Walton, Christopher B. Hayes, Carly Crouch, Joshua Rasmussen, Liz Jackson, Ard Louis, Heino Falcke, Joshua Swamidass, Casey Strine, Mark S. Smith, Oliver D. Crisp, Francis Collins, Rosalind Picard, Praveen Sethuapay... these men and women are more brilliant and hardworking in their field than I ever could dream of. I just don’t like fundies like Frank who pretend to be more than they claim...
I'm a Christian and also my kids but my wife thinks it's all a joke and many arguments come off it between us over it ,but I'm always persistent over my faith and in my prayers I always asked god to show my wife a sign , my thoughts are if it is god will to show her a sigh he will ,I'll shall be patient, nothing is impossible for god
My parents and all my siblings are Christians yet throughout our whole life our Father has hindered us. I've begun to wonder if my Father is truly saved or if he's just a backsliding Christian.
There's a statistic that if the father (but not the mother) goes to church, the children are like 80% more likely to also believe and go to church. If the mother (but not the father) goes to church, the children are only like 30% likely. Fathers have a strong influence! Luckily my mom was a strong Christian and motivated us to go (my father wasn't in the house). I've loved church my whole life because of her.
Thank God for this brother who is worrying for his friend and brother, not only for his relationship, but also for his spiritual health. It's always tough when romantic relationships are involved because we are oft hesitant to speak out, but God bless this brother and his brother that they may not keep the peace with the world and lose their souls. Prayers up for them.
He sounds jealous of his friend which could be the root of the problem. “But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambitions exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” James 3:14-16
Excellent call out that probably doesn't get done enough. Some people say they grew up as a Christian, but how do they know it's the true version? The common turn away is because there's so much emphasis on rules and regulations, while missing the real point. And that is Jesus. As for the individuals, before they date, should they not assess what their core values are first? Perhaps there ought to be more discussions about the practice of dating and whether one should take part in it.
I must point out that those who love Jesus will keep His commandments as Jesus says “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” If they refuse to wait till marriage, if they see no wrong in being drunk or watching porn despite scripture presented, it is because they do not keep Gods words and do not love Jesus. My dad was like this and from such “Christians” run away.
@@buddy_132 That reminds me. I don't think some people know what it truly means to be a Christian. Some view it as simply just being a member of a religion. And then there are those who don't really know what love means. This is why it's a good thing that on this channel, there are several videos that consistently remind us that love IS NOT affirming everything the other does.
@@JiraiyaSama86 Amen! My mom who is 50 believed in Jesus ever since she was little, but when I questioned her on what the gospel was and even reframed it as ‘the good news of Jesus’ as a pop quiz, she had no idea. I’m scared to know how many more Christian’s are like this!
@@buddy_132 Same here on the fear part. I think what we'll find, if we travel, is that many only have the watered down and possibly false versions. I have already seen the fragile foundations of one. And let's just say, if they were pressed, they'd either shut out or crumble.
The problem with "dating her until she accepts Christ" is..... how do you know she'll tell you the truth about it/won't lie just to get you to marry her? Ask my aunt about the heartache of that. My uncle lied to her about being a Christian. She ended up in an "unequal yoke" situation for 40 years. It caused a lot of hurt in their marriage. My uncle finally accepted Christ after a near death car accident in his 60's. Life is tough. Start marriage off on the right foot...... ACCORDING TO GOD'S DESIGN!!
There is no way as a Christian I’d marry someone who wasn’t a Christian too. It’s hard enough being saved after marriage and your spouse remaining unsaved by choice. Not worth the heartache!
@@somerandom3247 Revelations 21:4-5 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful.
@@somerandom3247what is your point with that question? That has nothing to do with what they are saying which is don’t marry someone who isn’t a follower of Christ if you are a follower of Christ.
It seems unfathomable to me to even consider marrying someone who doesn't love Jesus as much as, or more than, I do. If my foremost goal is to grow closer to my Savior, and everything else in my life stems from that, how could I entwine my being with another human who doesn't even share that? If I marry, it will be to a man who is so in love with Christ that he can't help but use his every ability to serve and witness to people, and I would walk alongside him in that work. Anything less than that holds no attraction for me.
@annahenderson2155: “It seems unfathomable to me to even consider marrying who doesn't love Jesus as much as, or more than, I do. That would be your fault. I am an Atheist and my wife is a Christian, married for 45 years. We respect each other and don’t try to convert each other. A custom and belief of 99% of the Christians.
@@willievanstraaten1960 I respect the fact that you have made your marriage work. How you have done it, knowing that you and your wife are walking opposite roads, I do not understand. It is not just about this life; it's all about your eternity too. To think of not seeing my spouse in Heaven breaks my heart. Your wife must feel that way.
@@annahenderson2155 @annahenderson2155: “How you have done it, knowing that you and your wife are walking opposite roads” We have much more in common than opposing issues. Home, children, friends, community, family (all Christians) animals, movies, TV, doing shows, etc. Seldom discuss religion. I don't mind listening to her gospel music and devotional programs. We don’t always support the same tennis players or rugby teams or athletes and that is also good and nice. We fully accept and respect each other’s views. We are not trying to convince or indoctrinate each other. We live in peace and harmony. I cannot remember when we last had a serious disagreement.
The Scriptures encourage us to marry amongst believers. Marrying a non-believer will most likely lead you into an unnecessary tug of war. *1 Corinthians 7:15-16* "How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"
If you're not sure of your capabilities, I advice not to do it. I was blessed enough to have a strong enough faith and good influence on my now girlfriend who was an atheist and became a reborn Christian now for almost 2 years. We attend church and read scripture together, also having God at the center of our relationship 🙏🙏
Just because that person says they're a christian, isn't enough. What you need to look for is someone that is going to give all their love to Jesus. I can't imagine not being able to share in something so important to me as Jesus with my spouce.
Marriage is a gift. It’s a BIG deal. I had many bad, damaging relationships and waited on God for over 20 years to give me a godly woman. Had He not done so, I would’ve spent my days single, but He answered years of prayer in such an amazing way. Don’t jump in. Don’t compromise. Don’t get lured in for all the wrong reasons. Trust in the Lord and He will deliver.
To add to this, be mindful of the denomination a potential mate is coming from. There are more and more groups that are falling into apostasy and no longer abide in sound doctrine. Church attendance isn't necessarily a guarantee of saving faith, but when compounding with unbiblical values from an apostate church it's a relationship killer.
@@oscargr_ That is not a wise idea. For a life long bond we can’t take a risk like that. Even if that happened imagine 5, 10, or 20 years before they even start to change. Avoid the drama
Let's take a look in the Bible. There are many stories and many times it has been told. Men that marry women outside their faith, will turn away from God and worship their false gods. Samson married outside his circle and that got him blinded and his hair cut off. Solomon had 1000+ wives and built altars for worshipping idolatry. I am a guy who married a christian woman and have been recently gotten more into the Bible. Was always a sort of a nonbeliever myself. Dont really know where I stand yet, but I hope to get to where I want and need to be one day. May God bless and stand by your times of difficulties and decision making.
On rare occasions, belivers will hook up with non believers. In most cases it don't workout, but there's a small percentage it does workout. Personally as a Christian believer, I prefer to be with another believer. But in a believer and unbeliever type of relationship is tricky. Sometimes the unbeliever in the relationship will become a believer because the believer of that relationship will rub off on them. But then you'll have the unbeliever in the relationship will rub off on the believer and cause that person to turn away from there faith. It's just risky for a Christian to hook up with a non-Christian
I didn't grow up fully Christian but became one later in life, it just leads to conflict dating with someone of a different religion, best to avoid it.
We should only marry Christians. However, I find it interesting how in the Old Testament, Old Testament Joseph was in love with and married Asenath, who was a pagan Egyptian, but, she loved and was so attracted to Joseph that she allowed him to love and worship God and he allowed her to worship her pagan Egyptian gods and goddesses. And their marriage was extremely successful and loving.
The idea a wife or husband “allowing” worship of God is a terrible thing, and a spouse worshiping a pagan god (demon) is horrific and an abomination to God. Far from a successful marriage inviting demons into the home
I'm dating a non believer now but she is probably the best relationship I've ever had. She's always been sweet. She is what some people would describe as almost a Christian. I struggle with what to do. I've introduced her to my faith recently but it's an uphill battle. She's one of those people who can't accept the concept of things that can't be scientifically proven. I don't want to break up with her because she's been so good to me and I don't want to break her heart. I've never been able to date a Christian woman. Not one has ever been interested in me to my knowledge. Maybe that's just God's way of saying I should remain single or is testing me or maybe there is another plan entirely I don't know. However it's a hard situation. What's crazy is there is nothing that feels like a problem. It's just her reluctance to except the existence of God. It feels like part of her even wants to but she's being held back by something. Like she knows the truth but she's afraid of what it could mean if she went down the path of faith. It really breaks my heart. I hope that there can be a Godly resolution to this. Please pray for me everyone.
Good luck to you. Two things to think about: 1) At some point, life is going to happen which may require completely trusting God. If only one of you is doing this, the relationship will fray. 2) From a scientific standpoint, a Christian marriage is actually more likely to succeed. In sociology, they teach triads (group of 3) are more stable than diads (groups of 2). The reason for this is that the 3rd person (in the case of a Christian marriage the 3rd person is God) helps to meditate between the other two. From my own personal experience, I tried dating “good” women by societal standards and even those who said they believed but would otherwise not go to church unless I brought them there with me and unfortunately, I broke up with every single one of them. The short story is I got comfortable with the idea of being single for life and once I did, it was a short time later I went on my first date with my now wife.
I’m 18 bro an in the exact same situation. Every word you said I could say too. Good luck man. I really love this girl. I really hope she becomes Christian. I’ve told her that I will not marry her if she isn’t. But that obv I don’t want her to have a fake conversion just to. Be with me
Brothers, I am deeply connected in Spirit to your cases. I had to break up with a 8-year exceptional relationship due to her pseudo-christian faith. Trust me, I cried my eyes out for almost 3 months every single day. Trust me, make this simple prayer with me " Heavenly Father, I am your child and come to you as broken. Your plan is perfect and nothing can constraint it to give the full potential of my life down this Earth. I praise you to let me here your plans and accept them instead of my own will. I trust that if I have to lose this girls it's for a better reason. Give me the strength to work through your paths, not mine. Give me the courage to give up on my will and do what you have prepared for me until the origine of time. I trust you. I love you. I'm Jesus name. Amen" All my support to you brothers. And never forget one thing: love is not about feeling, it's the ability to sacrifice your life for the one you have. Praising for you !
ok, I am one of those evil, immoral atheists that eats babies for dinner every night, but I'll chime in a bit anyway (I'm also single, which is probably the more significant problem 😅)... I suspect that your differences might become a problem down the road, and, if your faith is something you hold very dear to you, then eventually things are likely to fall apart, if your faith is more important than your love for someone, or if she finds your faith to be a problem for whatever reason. I am not sure if this is unavoidable, though - she did choose to be with you, so it's possible that this doesn't become a problem at all. Trying to convert her, IMO is a good way to ruin it, though, again, it depends on her background and it isn't a simple "issue" to solve. I, obviously, wouldn't advise to try to convert her, but it would indeed be sad to throw away someone that you love and that loves you for any reason. And, I suspect I might actually have to say this here - yes, atheists can genuinely love someone as well, we're not in it just for the demonic orgies, though those are kinda fun as well xDDD (the demonic orgies thing was a joke, just to be clear)
You probably don’t want to hear this, but break the relationship immediately. Pray and ask the *Holy Spirit* that she takes it well. Never date an unbeliever. *God* is very on this, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 “[14] Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? [15] And what accord has *Christ* with Belial? Or *what part has a believer with an unbeliever?”* Hopefully you’re not in fornication or touching here and there. We need to fear and obey *God.* Immerse yourself in prayer and the Word.
Don't do it. You won't change the unbeliever. They are fundamentally flawed and incapable of being a life long spouse that a believer wants. It is being unequally yoked always pulling in different directions with no firm foundation to build on.
Abandon them because they “might” not form a relationship with Christ? I don’t mean to sound rude or anything like that, but that’s what your paragraph kind of sounds like
@@jacobrainey8044 why date someone who hates God whom I place above all? It is asking for trouble whether you think so or not. People "abandon" relationships for a lot less important reasons.
@@vuho2075 yea it’s superstition to people who are unable to see the Truth of our reality … unfortunately not everyone is humble enough to see God .. to know we are created , as evidenced in DNA. It’s impossible for DNA or RNA to have written itself by chance .. we were intelligently designed and created … infinite space and time prove another realm exist that we as finite being cannot begin to fathom … then you look all around you see good and evil exist … ask a Satanist they will tell you the demonic world exists … our time line is all based on Jesus … BC/AD .. we see decay in our culture the further we remove God from our lives … the Bible prophesied 2000 years ago what we are seeing unfold in Israel today … yep all superstition .. to some … it’s time to wake up dude
In the past, I had dated atheists. It never ever worked out! Infact, I was ridiculed, mocked and resented for my faith. I've learned my lesson not to date anymore non- believers.
I feel that any proposed partnership needs a lot more thought than they are often given. How does it work if he plays golf every weekend and she wants him to take her shopping? How does it work if a 'strong' Catholic marries a lapsed Catholic? Or a pro-life atheist hooks up with a pro-choice atheist. A slow 'courtship' is probably a good idea, how do we make relationships work? A difference of religious belief could cause problems but it is not as simple as finding a partner who goes to the same Church/roller skating club/political youth group.
Speaking from experience: It is NOT worth it You may want to SAVE others, but let me remind you, that isn't your job, that's God's! You just plant the seed. Not to mention, why be a blessing to a non believer when there are THOUSANDS of single Christian women waiting for a Christian man????
If God himself commands us not to join with the unequally yoked. Its because he can see the outcome of that relationship or friendship and its gonna cause us to have massive regrets.
I made this mistake, GOd even gave me a dream with a clear interpretation within the dream. Didn't listen, HORRIBLE things happened. Even if someone is a Christian, you might not be equally yoked, let alone non-believers. 100% DON"T DO IT!
@@nicknick1726 long story short music. We were at fair/carnival and despite that she looked depressed. Inside a ferris wheel I played some music to lift her up (classic rock would always put me in a good mood as a kid). She looked me dead in the eye and told me she couldn't hear the music. In the dream, I called my sister for an honest opinion, and she flat out told me that people who can't hear music don't have Christ in them (something along those lines). Everything after was true for the next years. Had a lot of baggage and did not, or could not change. She ended up doing some horrible things.
You're unevenly yoked , you will not go far in the relationship butting heads. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. 17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. 18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil
After graduating from a Christian college I married a woman not of my faith & beliefs. To keep the peace when kids came we decided not to raise them in the Christian faith. 45 yrs later both are still non believers.
Personal faith doesn’t hold a candle to the extent other people’s faith impacts life. Just the fact that you exist, shows the most dramatic impact. If your parents’ faith in end times had been fulfilled, you wouldn’t have been. If you get to that area of the mark of the beast, it won’t be through people who have no belief. Do you think your children will spend the reprieve for your err in prophecy like we see current Christians doing? Give their life purpose by denigration and humiliation of other belief? More evidence that the faiths of others impact our lives more than ours could ever hope to do.
I broke up with a backslidden christian girl 4 yrs ago we were long distant she was in sweden . Still havent met a christian lady where we share some sort of commonality . I think they are even more rare. I made compromises to seek outside the church several times. Im not going to put myself through the drama anymore. I havent been with a dedicated christian lady b4.
Sounds like a hopeless situation. You’re wanting to have a relationship with a deluded woman who’s already in a relationship with an imaginary character from a book who she will always put before you and receive instruction from. Good luck with that.
@@Moist._Robot Hey Franky, what's up big guy? What relationships have worked out better for you Cardano, the simple heathen women relationships OR the trans women relationships?
A lot of people here are playing God by telling others to not do something mainly based off their own experiences. I can agree that it is something that i wouldn't personally recomend as people who have different values a lot of times enter in conflict but there are relationships in which the other person has become a believer, that is a fact so good can come out of it so don't speak in absolutes, by doing that you are playing God.
I think they're just giving opinions But if you go to the bible, Paul gave a strong opinion on marrying outside of the faith, and he gives the reasons why. Even God from Genesis to Revelation hones down on the importance of marriage and its purpose. Perhaps you'd desire their answer more if they used Bible verses to prove their point? Marriage is about agreement and if 2 don't agree on the basics of their salvation, then how is that of the Lord? The gift of discernment needs to be utilized more in believers
@@dorcaso1619 But giving their opinions by saying God is instructing them to do something while being innacurate of God's will is playing God weather they know it or not. I know and understand Paul's opinion on marriage and to a degree agree. Two people that do not share the same values will have a higher likelyhood of having a bad relationship which is why Paul said what he said, and that is fair. Wasn't Paul a murderer before converting? Didn't Jesus hang out with unbelievers? How does that dynamic come from God? A believer has the power to potentially lead someone to God which is why he instructed people to spread the gosple to the unbelievers. Now sure the dynamic of a romantic relationship is differnet sure but the outcome could be the other person converting and submitting to God. How would that oppose God and his will? Isn't Satan the one who tries to sway people away from unbelivers? Who are we serving if we tell someone to not be with another person if it could actually be God's will in the first place. What if the other person is already at the process of opening their heart to God? What if the other person has miscinceptions of what the bible said and their lartner could guide them into the truth which would bring that person closer to God? We have the responsability to lead people to follow God's will not to instruct others to do what we think/feel is best for the other person. It is one thing to say that it is not recomended it is another to say not to do it. And how is discernement being used if one says to another "don't be with that person" without even knowing either one of them and their circumstances and what the future holds for them?
Bruh, the wisest non-divine dude in the Bible had a thousand non-Christian women. Guess what happened to him? Depression happened, according to Ecclesiastes.
I think that men influence women easier probably because women are usually less stubborn. I know this from my own experience of being with my partner and bringing her to Christ.
Women feel more Unless a man is like super in love,the women are typically folding but some women are manipulative and the men be folding because of love 😂😅😅 Not everyone's relationship with an unbeliever will lead to the other coming to Christ.
@@Refulgent_Rascal actually Bible does say about influence of husband over wife in a positive light in Ephesians 5 25 and 1 Corinthians 7. So good for you and your point is valid. It is possible in certain cases for a good outcome of a marriage between a believer and unbeliever. Just choose a partner who at least is sincere and loves you.
God says clearly in the Bible: ”Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.” (2. Corinthians 6:14-16)..
I disagree with alot of the Christian commentors here.. Please please please don't misunderstand-I'm not saying these things to hurt anyone, but what I am saying can be painful. If your spouse is mocking you for anything, there are deeper problems in your relationship itself, not just a difference in faith. If your spouse disagrees with you on issues of morality, that happens even in Christian couples, even supposedly devout ones. If he/she argues about how to raise the kids, that happens in most marriages. The main disadvantage of having a non-Christian spouse is not having somebody to strengthen my faith. So I ask the Holy Spirit - strengthen my faith. I know there might come a day when my wife might go against me due to my faith in Christ - but if I'm not ready, by then, to sacrifice life, limb, wife, mother, father, brother, friend and all my family... if I'm not ready to stand completely and utterly alone for the sake of my faith in Christ, then I don't deserve Him anyway..
When an unbeliever mocks Christians, what do we call that? It happened in the Bible times😅 I'd go through point by point but at the end of the day, the foundation of a relationship between a Christian man and a Christian woman is Christ. So they can always go back to the Lord when these disagreements come up. The Lord isn't going to tell them both 2 different things. He's going to give them what they need to be able to make a godly and sound decision. But an unbeliever and a believer can't do that, because they believe in.....2 different things. And also, Someone's gonna compromise at the end of the day. It's common and realistic for that to happen. But if the foundation is the bible, then the Lord's vice trumps everything
Ive been with the mother of my children for 15 years. I got saved about 5 years ago. We aren't married yet and I'm currently going through this mental battle about marriage. I know the bible says not to marry an unbeliever. Is that period? Or is there an exception when you already have children before one of you gets saved? I don't know what to do.
Firstly, don't ask random strangers on the internet for advice! We may not all have your best interests at heart. Without being able to sit down and go through all (and I do mean all) of the issues with you and your partner, it is way too difficult to give sensible advice not that that will stop me! In some respects, when you got together and started a family, you became what we used to call 'common law' man and wife. It might be argued that you were in some respects married before converting, and therefore, you might ought to think about staying loyal to her, to the children and getting married. But, what does she want? I don't know why, but I assume that you are a protestant, and so I am going to suggest something a bit odd. Go and have a long chat with either a rabbi or a Catholic priest, people who are not in the Church you attend. Either will give you lots of guidelines and thoughts, and will at least be able to help with some of the questions that you should be asking yourself. Sooner or later (and sooner is probably better) you need to have a serious discussion with your wife and both of you need to understand that the children's best interests are more important than your feelings. If you are worried that you are not following all Biblical instructions, keep in mind that the person who lays down their life shall gain life. (Don't ask me chapter and verse, you can look that one up on a Bible app.)
@@timw4115 If you're claiming to be Christian, As a believer in Christ, what's your foundation? I mean, I dont know you, but the God of the Bible is clear on foundations As far as marriage, like the guy in the vid said, overtime, your feelings will supercede what you know is right and wrong. So, it's about time to scale back, especially since you're in a state of confusion. Ask yourself, what do you care about more? Your salvation or your feelings? If your answer is your Salvation, you should go to Christ and ask him, is this the relationship that you want for me? You should talk to him like a friend, and honestly ask Jesus, show me what I'm supposed to do so that I'm in your will. This is what the Bible shows us that we can do Proverbs 3:6 In ALL your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path. God wants to direct your path, but you need to set some time aside to do just that
@@timw4115 Paul actually cautioned us to not mingle with unbelievers. You can do it, it's not a sin to. But would God want his precious child that he set apart for himself to mingle with someone who doesn't respect Him and see Him as their Lord? Probably...absolutely Not Read 2 Cor 6 to see the entire excerpt about being unequally yoked, and about fornication and sex outside of marriage He doesn't just sat DONT DO IT. He actually explains why you shouldn't do it. 1 Cor 7 talks about a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever. But...theyre already married, so that doesn't apply to you You gotta read the word of God to make proper judgment on what to do next. The priest or the rabbi ain't gonna help you, especially if they don't lead you BACK to the word of God
Part of the dating game is to find out what you like-and don't like. And I thought part of the Christian is to spend time with non-Christians, let them see what it looks and feels like.
The harm is the individual that's a true Christian cannot relate to an unrighteous person therefore we do not date outsiders that's what I call ungodly unrighteous people, because we devote our life to the son of God vs a person that lives for the world without a care about their eternity where they are heading when their earthly life comes to a closure.
What a brilliant friend this guy is! It just doesnt work and as nice as the unbeliever is. The Christian always compromises. Better to stay single than go down that road!
I don't understand why a Christian would want to marry a non-Christian... if you're hiring someone for a job, you would hire someone who's best for the position. If you're trying to find a spouse, you should be even more careful and find someone who shares your world view and morals, especially since you may have children together. A non-Christian may not want to attend church every Sunday, give money to church or missions, wait until marriage to have sex, etc. Also, you will be separated for eternity after you die. It's not arbitrary.
This topic is soooo rampant in the American Christian community. Its even in Christian movies of a believer marrying non-believers or marrying people who believe but not accept jesus as savior.
You dont identify as a Christian, you live as one. You don't have the authority to declare your own identity to the world. Trust peoples actions more than their words 💯👌
@logicalatheist1065 not a logical application of the no true Scotsman fallacy. I never said she wasn't a Christian, I just said you don't become one by identifying as one, you just are one by your actions. Can't talk the talk without walking the walk!
It’s crazy to marry someone who hates Jesus, who is an enemy of God. God describes unbelievers as “Darkness” and “lawlessness” compared to those who love God. To cling your selves to such a person in marriage is beyond insanity
My only question is, where in the world are the attractive girls in the church environments? They don’t seem to be there. It’s not quite correct to say this out loud, but the primary thing a man needs for satisfaction in that arena of life, is a girl that is physically attractive. My search has taken me five years and I finally found the right girl, in Germany. If the choice comes down to an ugly girl or a life of celibacy, I’ll be content with celibacy.
Im in that situation right now. I'm dating a woman who is a Muslim and my faith rests in Christ. Part of me believes I can convince her to come to Christ but she was raised as a Muslim since her childhood and seems to dedicated to the Islamic ideology. I don't know what I should do God is #1 in my life I don't want to forsake God or set myself up for more pain
Get her to watch Sam Shamoun and Apostate prophet. She’ll hate watching it but get her to watch just a few of their videos. She’ll leave Islam within no time
How's this? Respect your partner's beliefs and have her do the same for you. You're just going to drive a wedge between her and you if insist on proselytizing to her when she doesn't want it. If you're not willing to do this, then I don't know why you started dating her to begin with. Personally, I think it's strange to think of your partner as another person you need to convert.
Only God can save. Seek Him not advice from strangers who don’t know either of you. Pray for her don’t TRY to convince her. Ask the Lord if she should be your wife. Don’t do anything until you hear from the Lord.
My brother is married to a Muslim and what's worse than your situation is that he is a non-believer .They have never loved anyone as much in there whole lives.
@@rationeextrema3776 Amen 🙏 I always ask for God's guidance in everything I face in life 🙏 I mean she is a nice girl however our beliefs are in direct contradiction to each other, I just don't want to do anything that is displeasing to God because God comes first 🙏
Your friend is dating a non-christian? What should you do? Mind your own business for a start 👌 The answer is "absolutely nothing" and learn to accept their choice.
@@colbywidener7092 No, it's about you feeling entitled to push your beliefs and restrictions onto others regardless of whether those people want to hear it.
I can testify this relationship won't work ,cant work its contrary to God's word ,there are consequences for living in disobedience to the very words of God .
Okay. This is for comedic purposes. True story. In brain: This is going well. Maybe I’ll ask her out. Girl: I don’t eat meat. Brain: It’s fine. She’ll live longer. Girl: I don’t believe in God. Brain: That shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Maybe we can- Girl: I’m allergic to dogs. Brain: This is not going to work. When church friends asked me about it I said “I can convince her to believe in God. I can’t convince her to stop having allergies”
The lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh, and the pride of life, can get you in trouble big time! His friend needs to not walk but run away! Maybe he can witness to her as a Christian but not date her. He's leading with his flesh and his lust; he needs to pray and fast and end the relationship with this girl.
I was talking to someone about this one night and he told me if the other person believes in another God its wrong to marry them but if they just dont believe in God ,then its ok because you can teach them how to believe in christ and show them the way. But i know that isnt exactly correct. But could that actually happen tho?
My Dad was a Buddhist when him and my mom got married. She prayed and didn’t try it force anything on him and he eventually got saved. I think the key is my mom prayed relentlessly and let The Holy Spirit do the rest of the work. She did not push it on him.
@@nicholasgarcia4447 Oh snap thanks for sharing, that does make sense because if you try to push people it wont help them but praying constantly and with time God will save them. When i first became a Christian i made that mistake and i was trying to tell this friend i knew about Jesus but i was forcing it on him too much and he didnt wanna be my friend anymore and got very mad at me.
His friend is not a Christian. The *Holy Spirit* will never lead a born again Christian to date an unbeliever. His friend is being led by the flesh and not by the spirit.
@Theo_Skeptomai I'm not going to entertain you. Don't be a puppet to satan. *Christ* died for our sins to save us. Turn to *Him* to have everlasting life.
He most definitely can be a Christian, because apparently unlike you the rest of us Christians can make bad choices and ignore God at times. Glad your the perfect Saint who has always lived above reproach smh
A judge does not punish a criminal but instead the judge allows his own son to be killed ( to clean the criminal's sins).. The criminal sets free. Is that judge fair? and should that judge do that?
@@Gek1177 PREJ'UDICE, n. [L. prejudicium; proe and judico.] 1. Prejudgment; an opinion or decision of mind, formed without due examination of the facts or arguments which are necessary to a just and impartial determination. You ain't even using the word "prejudice" correctly .. if that ain't ignorant I don't know what is 🤯
@@nonamejustbecause5130 uh, yeah I am. You just advocated for not getting involved with non-believers based on your preconceived opinions that they are in some way bad. Prejudice is exactly what you are.
@@Gek1177 read the definition again .. a decision made WITHOUT due examination of facts and arguments .. mine and these others decisions are made WITH due examination of facts and arguments .. SMH .. you probably believe there are more than 2 genders lol or that God is mean or unfair lol .. grow up buddy and start using that God given commen sense, reason, and logic
@@nonamejustbecause5130you should just man up and own the fact that you are prejudice instead of trying to make excuses for the way you prejudge non-believers. Real men face reality they don't pussyfoot around the truth.
If someone who claims to be a Christian is pursuing a relationship with an unbeliever, they are (1) extremely immature, naive and shortsighted (2) engaged in some massive suppression of obvious truth and elevation of desire or (3) not actually a believer...or some combination of these. When you consider the meaning and purposes of marriage from a biblical perspective, as well as the magnitude of a marital commitment in general just from a practical perspective, the thought of not sharing the most fundamental and foundational beliefs with the person that you intend to spend the rest of your life with and perhaps raise a family with should without any doubt whatsoever give one serious pause, raise red flags, and honestly should strike a believer as a sad and repulsive thought. If one is clearheaded about this and not blinded by their desires or confused about their identity and ultimate allegiances, this is not at all a difficult conclusion to come to or determination to make.
A true christian will continually cause offence to unbelievers. the life style of a believer precludes any sort of friendship with the unsaved. A true christian preaches the truth,,, the gospel of salvation to all they know. that is the result of love for thee lost. If they receive the truth,,, well done, If they dont they will despise you,,, the end.
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She is much more likely help him compromise than he is to help her believe. It will always be an issue.
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14
Exactly brother 🙌
Yep 👍
Amen! Unbelievers as God says are darkness and lawlessness compared to those who love Jesus. They are carnally minded and are not subject to the laws of God, nor can they be as Romans 8 says.
Do not marry an enemy of God.
I know people aren't dogs but every time one of my dogs picks up a bad habit the rest of them pick it up also lol. I think we as people have that same problem if you hang around drug addicts sure you may never try drugs but you are putting yourself in a bad situation that could lead you there.
Christianity is such a terrible religion, it's horrible to teach people that unbelievers are the same as darkness and Christians themselves are supposedly righteous, as if teaching inequality makes people less awful towards each other.
As a non believer I married my Christian wife 53 years ago. Through her I found Jesus and six years later we both entered full time ministry serving 44 years and we are both still active in our church. Her pastor in front of me told her not to marry me. I am glad she didn't listen but sad he did not see the changes that were happening in my life because of her. The bible advice of not being unequally is true, but beware of making your christianity legalistic, allow God's grace space to move thus avoiding the danger of believing the power of God is greater than the power of unbelief.
However unlike this girl I respected my wife's belief and later discovered it was The beauty of Jesus in her life that made her so attractive. I thank God every night for her and through her His power and presence in my life.
Good testimony. All glory to *Christ.* Testimonies like yours are rare. But to obey *God’s* Word doesn’t make a Christian a legalistic. Yes and amen for *His* grace. However, *God’s* grace teaches us to not obey the flesh.
Titus 2:11-12, “For the grace of *God* that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age…”
Thank you for sharing your testimony.
Thanks for sharing your story. I liked it.
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Not everyone is like you...and she was fortunate.
Trust me yall! Do not do it! During fights they mock your faith, and during the best they're not really there for you. Just don't. It hurts sometimes tho.
@sterlingfallsproductions3930 My point is that, we're all terrible people in need of redemption. God gave us a way out of judgment. He sent his only son Jesus to be the scapegoat for our sins. If we have a change of mind about our standing with him in our sins, and trust on his atonement for us on the cross. Then we will be saved. Upon that moment we will be given his Holy Spirit and we will begin to change from the inside out. Have your parents been perfect for you? Mine sure havent, God had been the BEST Father I've ever had. He's also been the best mother I've had as well. My parents are not perfect people. Neither are you or me, but I know someone who is. That's our Savior, our redeemer. Jesus Christ, the only one who can save us from ourselves. I hope you have a good day my friend. God bless you, and I pray a door is opened for you to be in right standing with God. No matter what you've done or who you are, he has a new identity for all of us.
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 Hallo sterling.
Relationships, yet another thing ruined by religion because brainwashed cultists can't tolerate anyone who thinks differently about their religious propaganda.
Let’s not pretend to be blind .
It’s just like politics now . If you believe that we should be able to defend ourselves so the government can’t come and put your wife in a cage , you can’t marry a woman that thinks guns are evil .
@@sterlingfallsproductions3930 Yeah it's not beneficial for both parts. So a unbeliever should marry an unbeliever (aka someone with same values) and a christian with a christian. I think it's fair enough
I recently had dinner with a girl who I would best describe as agnostic that I wanted to get to know to potentially date. During the night, I found out we had a lot in common and I really liked her. I explained to her that I was a Christian and even asked if she’d like to come to church sometime. She didn’t seem opposed which I knew was a good sign. Unfortunately, as soon as she found out I was a pro-life person, she wanted to leave right then and there, only to text me the next day and say that she didn’t think we were compatible and didn’t respond to any further messages. I was sad at first, but I believe that was God protecting me because if anything serious would have started between us, it would’ve been a nightmare in the long run
Bro, God did protect you!!! I know of some Christian whom are married to non-believers. All of those marriages are nightmares. I’m a 60 year old single guy (went through a divorce before I became a Christian). It’s paramount to that if I ever marry again that she’s a true believer. Back when I was in the dating world some women proclaimed to be Christian but really weren’t when we began discussing beliefs. God protected me as well. 🙂
Never text back when someone dumps you via text over Christian values and especially over Christ's blood bought salvation. Its far beneath you to give it anymore oxygen.
Agh, the power of indoctrination and proof of it working as desired.
Ask out a Christian girl please.. I’m always so sad when the guys start looking elsewhere when they already have the pick of many Christian girls (ie the ratio is out in church - ie more women will miss out on love for their faith)
My brother in Christ, you are a good man! As a woman I can say there are true Christian women out there who would be lucky to have you. God is saving you for a special one!
Bad company corrupts good character
I mean, you're right but i think you should refrase a little, it just sounds like anyone that is not christian is a bad company
Not all Christians are Bad company😂
In the proper context this is a verse that talks about not communicating with people who do not believe and proclaim that there's no resurrection of Jesus Christ and that christian people who have passed away won't be resurrected. Do not believe the claims of people who reject the resurrection.
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Anyone who doesn’t love Jesus is a bad influence to have. As God says
”Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?“
II Corinthians 6:14-15 NKJV
God says unbelievers compared to believers are darkness and lawlessness, so yes they are bad company. That’s why God commands us to be fairly separated from such people.
@@buddy_132 Corinthians is supposed to be written by Paul. Of course you are free to consider him as a god.
Great stuff. A man in Christ trying to help his brother in Christ. And another mature christian man on stage giving biblical advice. This is what we need.
Why would you date someone who disrespect your savior?
I married a nonbeliever a few weeks after I got saved and was married for 10 years. It was the worst 10 years of my life. We divorced 25 years ago and I'm still suffering the consequences of that relationship today. NEVER marry an unbeliever.
What consequences?
@@anguschiggins2161 In my case, being married to someone who is 100% aggressively opposed to what your strongest beliefs are.
@@EatLeadPal How is this affecting you 25 years later?
@@EatLeadPal
You -
She was aggressively opposed to what my strongest beliefs were.
Response -
That statement sounds like a half-truth.
Do you mean she was opposed to beliefs that you felt she should adopt.?
Let me guess, this person used reason and you couldn't stand it ?
Men tend to follow their wives' desires.... which is why the Patriarchs and the Jewish nation were warned again and again not to intermarry with the daughters of nations surrounding them, and when they ignored that advice, it was always to their detriment.
It was also the case with my mom and dad... Dad was a former Mormon who turned atheist in college, and my mom was Lutheran. He eventually learned of the true God through her, converted, and became a staunch believer in Christ. That's not the norm, though, so I am very grateful it did work out in that case. Praise God for the exceptions that he redeems!
Yes , your experience is not the norm. We used to call it “ missionary dating “ . Usually the non Christian begins to resent the Christian. There are so many women who come to church with their children but the unsaved fathers seldom come.
Pretty sure it was just racism.
@@gingercake0907 @gingercake0907: “There are so many women who come to church with their children but the unsaved fathers seldom come.”
Just like me, but not seldom, never.
@@gingercake0907 yep. I knew another couple in my former church: mom was a dedicated Christian, dad was not. On the bright side, he did come every Sunday and supported her and his kids. He's a "good man" by worldly standards, but as of last time I saw them, he still was not a believer.
I can't imagine being in a household where my spouse thinks my most deeply held beliefs are fake. And especially the message that would send to my kids.
I find that in the majority of cases, it is actually Christian woman, non Christian man.
So saying that the woman is the problem is not always true.
Yea it's a no for me dog
2Cor 6:14 *You are not the same as those who do not believe. So do not join yourselves to them. Good and bad do not belong together. Light and darkness cannot share together.*
Amen! How can we be joined together with someone who hates Jesus? Who is an enemy of God himself? It’s crazy talk to me
@@buddy_132 If someone doesn't believe that Jesus is god or son of god it doesn't mean that they hate Jesus.
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Oh yes it does! Jesus says “If you love me, you will keep my commandments”. Those of the world are enemies of God
”Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.“
James 4:4 NKJV
The world hates God, if your of the world you hate God
@@buddy_132 not believing In god doesn't mean that the person is evil or bad you and your god are just begging enemies with that sentence.
@@buddy_132 and If world doesn't know god how can someone from the world hate god?
I love Frank Turek. He was a vital factor in me converting from atheism to Christianity back a few years a go. He is always very kind and answers the questions with grace, but logic as well. God is using him well. Thanks for everything you do dr Turek!
I used to be atheist, condemning Christ name, and I met now my wife who is Evangelical Christian.
We had similar political views (i.e. right leaning) but I told her I had no desire to be Christian.
She accepted that, and we dated, asked her to be my gf, and slowly I had a began opening my heart to Christ. The biggest revelation I had was when I heard the spirit talk to me and say "something will happen and you will try and repent but by then it would be too late, do it now or else you will not have chance"
After that experience, I devoted my self to Christ in full.
Why did you have no desire to become a Christian?
I’m a skeptic, but I respect Christians who work in academia, both stem and humanities : John Walton, Christopher B. Hayes, Carly Crouch, Joshua Rasmussen, Liz Jackson, Ard Louis, Heino Falcke, Joshua Swamidass, Casey Strine, Mark S. Smith, Oliver D. Crisp, Francis Collins, Rosalind Picard, Praveen Sethuapay... these men and women are more brilliant and hardworking in their field than I ever could dream of.
I just don’t like fundies like Frank who pretend to be more than they claim...
How do you know that was a spirit and not just a thought you had!
@somerandom3247 why would I randomly think that? Being an atheist, and at the time I was just editing a video.
@@Fatalinvesting Cool.....so now you hear voices in your head. Good to know.
I'm a Christian and also my kids but my wife thinks it's all a joke and many arguments come off it between us over it ,but I'm always persistent over my faith and in my prayers I always asked god to show my wife a sign , my thoughts are if it is god will to show her a sigh he will ,I'll shall be patient, nothing is impossible for god
My parents and all my siblings are Christians yet throughout our whole life our Father has hindered us.
I've begun to wonder if my Father is truly saved or if he's just a backsliding Christian.
May "God" answer your prayers.
Hi Nick, it's difficult for an imaginative figure to show signs.
There's a statistic that if the father (but not the mother) goes to church, the children are like 80% more likely to also believe and go to church. If the mother (but not the father) goes to church, the children are only like 30% likely. Fathers have a strong influence! Luckily my mom was a strong Christian and motivated us to go (my father wasn't in the house). I've loved church my whole life because of her.
Thank God for this brother who is worrying for his friend and brother, not only for his relationship, but also for his spiritual health. It's always tough when romantic relationships are involved because we are oft hesitant to speak out, but God bless this brother and his brother that they may not keep the peace with the world and lose their souls. Prayers up for them.
He that one true friend, who is caring and say the truth. Hope he can help his friend. But in the end, everyone is responsible for their own actions.
He sounds jealous of his friend which could be the root of the problem. “But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambitions exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” James 3:14-16
Excellent call out that probably doesn't get done enough. Some people say they grew up as a Christian, but how do they know it's the true version? The common turn away is because there's so much emphasis on rules and regulations, while missing the real point. And that is Jesus.
As for the individuals, before they date, should they not assess what their core values are first?
Perhaps there ought to be more discussions about the practice of dating and whether one should take part in it.
Romans 2:13 (For not the hearers of the law are just before God, but the doers of the law shall be justified.
I must point out that those who love Jesus will keep His commandments as Jesus says “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”
If they refuse to wait till marriage, if they see no wrong in being drunk or watching porn despite scripture presented, it is because they do not keep Gods words and do not love Jesus. My dad was like this and from such “Christians” run away.
@@buddy_132 That reminds me. I don't think some people know what it truly means to be a Christian. Some view it as simply just being a member of a religion. And then there are those who don't really know what love means. This is why it's a good thing that on this channel, there are several videos that consistently remind us that love IS NOT affirming everything the other does.
@@JiraiyaSama86
Amen! My mom who is 50 believed in Jesus ever since she was little, but when I questioned her on what the gospel was and even reframed it as ‘the good news of Jesus’ as a pop quiz, she had no idea. I’m scared to know how many more Christian’s are like this!
@@buddy_132 Same here on the fear part. I think what we'll find, if we travel, is that many only have the watered down and possibly false versions. I have already seen the fragile foundations of one. And let's just say, if they were pressed, they'd either shut out or crumble.
Thank you CE
The problem with "dating her until she accepts Christ" is..... how do you know she'll tell you the truth about it/won't lie just to get you to marry her? Ask my aunt about the heartache of that. My uncle lied to her about being a Christian. She ended up in an "unequal yoke" situation for 40 years. It caused a lot of hurt in their marriage. My uncle finally accepted Christ after a near death car accident in his 60's. Life is tough. Start marriage off on the right foot...... ACCORDING TO GOD'S DESIGN!!
God did not give us a spirit of cowardice
but rather of power and love and self-control.
So do not be ashamed of your testimony to our Lord
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There is no way as a Christian I’d marry someone who wasn’t a Christian too. It’s hard enough being saved after marriage and your spouse remaining unsaved by choice. Not worth the heartache!
Would there be such heartache in heaven? I thought heaven was supposed to be free of pain and suffering
@@somerandom3247 Revelations 21:4-5
And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful.
@@somerandom3247what is your point with that question? That has nothing to do with what they are saying which is don’t marry someone who isn’t a follower of Christ if you are a follower of Christ.
Good can't become one with evil so there shall always be war in that marriage and this life is already a battle there is no need to make it worse.
Or relationships based on the wrong sexual orientation...
It seems unfathomable to me to even consider marrying someone who doesn't love Jesus as much as, or more than, I do. If my foremost goal is to grow closer to my Savior, and everything else in my life stems from that, how could I entwine my being with another human who doesn't even share that? If I marry, it will be to a man who is so in love with Christ that he can't help but use his every ability to serve and witness to people, and I would walk alongside him in that work. Anything less than that holds no attraction for me.
Godbless you sister! As hard as finding a partner it may be, you will be greatly blessed in keeping God words
@annahenderson2155: “It seems unfathomable to me to even consider marrying who doesn't love Jesus as much as, or more than, I do.
That would be your fault. I am an Atheist and my wife is a Christian, married for 45 years.
We respect each other and don’t try to convert each other. A custom and belief of 99% of the Christians.
@@buddy_132 Thank you! Encouragement is so sweet.
@@willievanstraaten1960 I respect the fact that you have made your marriage work. How you have done it, knowing that you and your wife are walking opposite roads, I do not understand. It is not just about this life; it's all about your eternity too. To think of not seeing my spouse in Heaven breaks my heart. Your wife must feel that way.
@@annahenderson2155 @annahenderson2155: “How you have done it, knowing that you and your wife are walking opposite roads”
We have much more in common than opposing issues. Home, children, friends, community, family (all Christians) animals, movies, TV, doing shows, etc. Seldom discuss religion. I don't mind listening to her gospel music and devotional programs.
We don’t always support the same tennis players or rugby teams or athletes and that is also good and nice.
We fully accept and respect each other’s views. We are not trying to convince or indoctrinate each other. We live in peace and harmony. I cannot remember when we last had a serious disagreement.
The Scriptures encourage us to marry amongst believers. Marrying a non-believer will most likely lead you into an unnecessary tug of war.
*1 Corinthians 7:15-16*
"How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"
If you're not sure of your capabilities, I advice not to do it. I was blessed enough to have a strong enough faith and good influence on my now girlfriend who was an atheist and became a reborn Christian now for almost 2 years. We attend church and read scripture together, also having God at the center of our relationship 🙏🙏
Thank you dr. Turek and cross examined team
For what?
Just because that person says they're a christian, isn't enough. What you need to look for is someone that is going to give all their love to Jesus. I can't imagine not being able to share in something so important to me as Jesus with my spouce.
I don't think women can fully understand how to fully Love God without a God-fearing man.
You will be craving for any love for your entire marriage.... Jesus gets it all.
Pascal's wager just got worse.
@@SingleMaltBuckeye What? You obviously don't mix with any nuns.
You need to go to their church and speak with her pastor.
Marriage is a gift. It’s a BIG deal. I had many bad, damaging relationships and waited on God for over 20 years to give me a godly woman.
Had He not done so, I would’ve spent my days single, but He answered years of prayer in such an amazing way.
Don’t jump in. Don’t compromise. Don’t get lured in for all the wrong reasons. Trust in the Lord and He will deliver.
And if you never found a "godly" woman, would you have considered your prayers _not_ to have been answered?
@@Theo_Skeptomai Maybe it isn't God's will for you to marry.
@@dhenderson1810 Maybe this 'God' is not a reality.
Don’t bitter, it will be like Solomon. That’s why his story is in the Bible too, to teach a lesson to man. I did it, and it’s a hard cost to pay.
To add to this, be mindful of the denomination a potential mate is coming from. There are more and more groups that are falling into apostasy and no longer abide in sound doctrine. Church attendance isn't necessarily a guarantee of saving faith, but when compounding with unbiblical values from an apostate church it's a relationship killer.
Amen! Imagine a 5 point Calvinist with a Provisionist
@@buddy_132they already said dont marry a non Christian. Its redundant to mention a 5 point calvinist
Just trust that the holy spirit will guide him or her in the exact same direction you are in.
@@oscargr_
That is not a wise idea. For a life long bond we can’t take a risk like that. Even if that happened imagine 5, 10, or 20 years before they even start to change. Avoid the drama
@@buddy_132 I hear you... You don't trust the holy spirit.
Let's take a look in the Bible. There are many stories and many times it has been told. Men that marry women outside their faith, will turn away from God and worship their false gods. Samson married outside his circle and that got him blinded and his hair cut off. Solomon had 1000+ wives and built altars for worshipping idolatry.
I am a guy who married a christian woman and have been recently gotten more into the Bible. Was always a sort of a nonbeliever myself.
Dont really know where I stand yet, but I hope to get to where I want and need to be one day.
May God bless and stand by your times of difficulties and decision making.
On rare occasions, belivers will hook up with non believers. In most cases it don't workout, but there's a small percentage it does workout. Personally as a Christian believer, I prefer to be with another believer. But in a believer and unbeliever type of relationship is tricky. Sometimes the unbeliever in the relationship will become a believer because the believer of that relationship will rub off on them. But then you'll have the unbeliever in the relationship will rub off on the believer and cause that person to turn away from there faith. It's just risky for a Christian to hook up with a non-Christian
To address the question “if Christianity were true…”? 2:36 :
There is no false version of the truth.
There is only truth.
I didn't grow up fully Christian but became one later in life, it just leads to conflict dating with someone of a different religion, best to avoid it.
We should only marry Christians. However, I find it interesting how in the Old Testament, Old Testament Joseph was in love with and married Asenath, who was a pagan Egyptian, but, she loved and was so attracted to Joseph that she allowed him to love and worship God and he allowed her to worship her pagan Egyptian gods and goddesses. And their marriage was extremely successful and loving.
Where do you get this information from; not from the Bible?
The idea a wife or husband “allowing” worship of God is a terrible thing, and a spouse worshiping a pagan god (demon) is horrific and an abomination to God. Far from a successful marriage inviting demons into the home
Yeah.. interesting case
Please provide the bible verse
@@dorcaso1619 Genesis 41:45
This principle even goes for non believers. Don’t marry someone who doesn’t share your value system. It is FAR more likely to end in misery.
Wishing for friends like the guy asking the question
As always great answer.
I'm dating a non believer now but she is probably the best relationship I've ever had. She's always been sweet. She is what some people would describe as almost a Christian. I struggle with what to do. I've introduced her to my faith recently but it's an uphill battle. She's one of those people who can't accept the concept of things that can't be scientifically proven. I don't want to break up with her because she's been so good to me and I don't want to break her heart. I've never been able to date a Christian woman. Not one has ever been interested in me to my knowledge. Maybe that's just God's way of saying I should remain single or is testing me or maybe there is another plan entirely I don't know. However it's a hard situation. What's crazy is there is nothing that feels like a problem. It's just her reluctance to except the existence of God. It feels like part of her even wants to but she's being held back by something. Like she knows the truth but she's afraid of what it could mean if she went down the path of faith. It really breaks my heart. I hope that there can be a Godly resolution to this. Please pray for me everyone.
Good luck to you. Two things to think about: 1) At some point, life is going to happen which may require completely trusting God. If only one of you is doing this, the relationship will fray. 2) From a scientific standpoint, a Christian marriage is actually more likely to succeed. In sociology, they teach triads (group of 3) are more stable than diads (groups of 2). The reason for this is that the 3rd person (in the case of a Christian marriage the 3rd person is God) helps to meditate between the other two.
From my own personal experience, I tried dating “good” women by societal standards and even those who said they believed but would otherwise not go to church unless I brought them there with me and unfortunately, I broke up with every single one of them. The short story is I got comfortable with the idea of being single for life and once I did, it was a short time later I went on my first date with my now wife.
I’m 18 bro an in the exact same situation. Every word you said I could say too. Good luck man. I really love this girl. I really hope she becomes Christian. I’ve told her that I will not marry her if she isn’t. But that obv I don’t want her to have a fake conversion just to. Be with me
Brothers, I am deeply connected in Spirit to your cases. I had to break up with a 8-year exceptional relationship due to her pseudo-christian faith. Trust me, I cried my eyes out for almost 3 months every single day. Trust me, make this simple prayer with me " Heavenly Father, I am your child and come to you as broken. Your plan is perfect and nothing can constraint it to give the full potential of my life down this Earth. I praise you to let me here your plans and accept them instead of my own will. I trust that if I have to lose this girls it's for a better reason. Give me the strength to work through your paths, not mine. Give me the courage to give up on my will and do what you have prepared for me until the origine of time. I trust you. I love you. I'm Jesus name. Amen"
All my support to you brothers. And never forget one thing: love is not about feeling, it's the ability to sacrifice your life for the one you have. Praising for you !
ok, I am one of those evil, immoral atheists that eats babies for dinner every night, but I'll chime in a bit anyway (I'm also single, which is probably the more significant problem 😅)...
I suspect that your differences might become a problem down the road, and, if your faith is something you hold very dear to you, then eventually things are likely to fall apart, if your faith is more important than your love for someone, or if she finds your faith to be a problem for whatever reason. I am not sure if this is unavoidable, though - she did choose to be with you, so it's possible that this doesn't become a problem at all. Trying to convert her, IMO is a good way to ruin it, though, again, it depends on her background and it isn't a simple "issue" to solve.
I, obviously, wouldn't advise to try to convert her, but it would indeed be sad to throw away someone that you love and that loves you for any reason. And, I suspect I might actually have to say this here - yes, atheists can genuinely love someone as well, we're not in it just for the demonic orgies, though those are kinda fun as well xDDD
(the demonic orgies thing was a joke, just to be clear)
You probably don’t want to hear this, but break the relationship immediately. Pray and ask the *Holy Spirit* that she takes it well.
Never date an unbeliever. *God* is very on this, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 “[14] Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? [15] And what accord has *Christ* with Belial? Or *what part has a believer with an unbeliever?”*
Hopefully you’re not in fornication or touching here and there. We need to fear and obey *God.* Immerse yourself in prayer and the Word.
Don't do it. You won't change the unbeliever. They are fundamentally flawed and incapable of being a life long spouse that a believer wants. It is being unequally yoked always pulling in different directions with no firm foundation to build on.
Abandon them because they “might” not form a relationship with Christ?
I don’t mean to sound rude or anything like that, but that’s what your paragraph kind of sounds like
@@jacobrainey8044 why date someone who hates God whom I place above all? It is asking for trouble whether you think so or not. People "abandon" relationships for a lot less important reasons.
Marrying a non Christian can destroy not just your life but your children
The bright side is that now the kids have a chance to not grow up superstitious
@@vuho2075 yea it’s superstition to people who are unable to see the Truth of our reality … unfortunately not everyone is humble enough to see God .. to know we are created , as evidenced in DNA. It’s impossible for DNA or RNA to have written itself by chance .. we were intelligently designed and created … infinite space and time prove another realm exist that we as finite being cannot begin to fathom … then you look all around you see good and evil exist … ask a Satanist they will tell you the demonic world exists … our time line is all based on Jesus … BC/AD .. we see decay in our culture the further we remove God from our lives … the Bible prophesied 2000 years ago what we are seeing unfold in Israel today … yep all superstition .. to some … it’s time to wake up dude
But the sex is AMAZING!!!!
@@vuho2075
And a superb chance to grow up and parrot pseudoscience indoctrination.
@@TomMichael5678 Parroting anything that doesn't involve an invisible deity with magical powers is a win in my book
Malachi 2 also .. what God desires is godly offspring.
Im muslim & he is christian . In both our religions its forbidden marriage. But we love each other more than anything in life
In the past, I had dated atheists. It never ever worked out! Infact, I was ridiculed, mocked and resented for my faith. I've learned my lesson not to date anymore non- believers.
Hi Carinita 👋, how are you and your daughter? Hope all is well 🙏❤️ 🙌.
God bless you both richly.
@@TomMichael5678 Greetings kind brother 🙏 ❤ we are doing fantastic
Perhaps you shouldn't have faith in such a ridiculous story. That would also solve your problem.
@@somerandom3247
What alternative have you to present to a Christian. The same pseudoscientific gibberish you buy into!
@@TomMichael5678
Here's an alternative: instead of believing clearly fictional stories with talking animals, magic, mythical creatures, and evidently untrue events; don't.
I feel that any proposed partnership needs a lot more thought than they are often given. How does it work if he plays golf every weekend and she wants him to take her shopping? How does it work if a 'strong' Catholic marries a lapsed Catholic? Or a pro-life atheist hooks up with a pro-choice atheist. A slow 'courtship' is probably a good idea, how do we make relationships work?
A difference of religious belief could cause problems but it is not as simple as finding a partner who goes to the same Church/roller skating club/political youth group.
this too is true.
Yes indeed.
Speaking from experience: It is NOT worth it
You may want to SAVE others, but let me remind you, that isn't your job, that's God's! You just plant the seed.
Not to mention, why be a blessing to a non believer when there are THOUSANDS of single Christian women waiting for a Christian man????
Great!
If God himself commands us not to join with the unequally yoked.
Its because he can see the outcome of that relationship or friendship and its gonna cause us to have massive regrets.
I made this mistake, GOd even gave me a dream with a clear interpretation within the dream. Didn't listen, HORRIBLE things happened. Even if someone is a Christian, you might not be equally yoked, let alone non-believers. 100% DON"T DO IT!
Hi can you please share how it was shown in your dream
@@nicknick1726 long story short music. We were at fair/carnival and despite that she looked depressed. Inside a ferris wheel I played some music to lift her up (classic rock would always put me in a good mood as a kid). She looked me dead in the eye and told me she couldn't hear the music. In the dream, I called my sister for an honest opinion, and she flat out told me that people who can't hear music don't have Christ in them (something along those lines). Everything after was true for the next years. Had a lot of baggage and did not, or could not change. She ended up doing some horrible things.
You're unevenly yoked , you will not go far in the relationship butting heads.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil
Christians don’t break. We just bend a little lol
I’ll definitely share this to my friend who is going to marry a non believer in 2 months. 🙏🏼
Romans 2:13 (For not the hearers of the law are just before God, but the doers of the law shall be justified.
Met this girl the other day and I'm really feeling her but I doubt she's a Christian just because nobody seems to be nowadays
I’m Christian and I once dated a catholic girl. Boy were we opposite lol
Wow, this is even worse than a Steelers fan dating a Browns fan!
Yup. A steelers fan dating a ravens fan
After graduating from a Christian college I married a woman not of my faith & beliefs. To keep the peace when kids came we decided not to raise them in the Christian faith. 45 yrs later both are still non believers.
It’s easier to pull someone down, than to Lift someone up
Thanks Dr ❤
Personal faith doesn’t hold a candle to the extent other people’s faith impacts life.
Just the fact that you exist, shows the most dramatic impact. If your parents’ faith in end times had been fulfilled, you wouldn’t have been.
If you get to that area of the mark of the beast, it won’t be through people who have no belief.
Do you think your children will spend the reprieve for your err in prophecy like we see current Christians doing? Give their life purpose by denigration and humiliation of other belief?
More evidence that the faiths of others impact our lives more than ours could ever hope to do.
So much wisdom and insightful testimonies in the comments!
Praying for his friend and people in his situation 🙏🏾
I broke up with a backslidden christian girl 4 yrs ago we were long distant she was in sweden . Still havent met a christian lady where we share some sort of commonality . I think they are even more rare. I made compromises to seek outside the church several times. Im not going to put myself through the drama anymore. I havent been with a dedicated christian lady b4.
Sounds like a hopeless situation.
You’re wanting to have a relationship with a deluded woman who’s already in a relationship with an imaginary character from a book who she will always put before you and receive instruction from.
Good luck with that.
@@Moist._Robot
Hey Franky, what's up big guy?
What relationships have worked out better for you Cardano, the simple heathen women relationships OR the trans women relationships?
A lot of people here are playing God by telling others to not do something mainly based off their own experiences.
I can agree that it is something that i wouldn't personally recomend as people who have different values a lot of times enter in conflict but there are relationships in which the other person has become a believer, that is a fact so good can come out of it so don't speak in absolutes, by doing that you are playing God.
I think they're just giving opinions
But if you go to the bible, Paul gave a strong opinion on marrying outside of the faith, and he gives the reasons why. Even God from Genesis to Revelation hones down on the importance of marriage and its purpose.
Perhaps you'd desire their answer more if they used Bible verses to prove their point?
Marriage is about agreement and if 2 don't agree on the basics of their salvation, then how is that of the Lord? The gift of discernment needs to be utilized more in believers
@@dorcaso1619 But giving their opinions by saying God is instructing them to do something while being innacurate of God's will is playing God weather they know it or not.
I know and understand Paul's opinion on marriage and to a degree agree. Two people that do not share the same values will have a higher likelyhood of having a bad relationship which is why Paul said what he said, and that is fair.
Wasn't Paul a murderer before converting? Didn't Jesus hang out with unbelievers? How does that dynamic come from God? A believer has the power to potentially lead someone to God which is why he instructed people to spread the gosple to the unbelievers.
Now sure the dynamic of a romantic relationship is differnet sure but the outcome could be the other person converting and submitting to God. How would that oppose God and his will? Isn't Satan the one who tries to sway people away from unbelivers? Who are we serving if we tell someone to not be with another person if it could actually be God's will in the first place. What if the other person is already at the process of opening their heart to God? What if the other person has miscinceptions of what the bible said and their lartner could guide them into the truth which would bring that person closer to God?
We have the responsability to lead people to follow God's will not to instruct others to do what we think/feel is best for the other person.
It is one thing to say that it is not recomended it is another to say not to do it.
And how is discernement being used if one says to another "don't be with that person" without even knowing either one of them and their circumstances and what the future holds for them?
Bruh, the wisest non-divine dude in the Bible had a thousand non-Christian women. Guess what happened to him?
Depression happened, according to Ecclesiastes.
I think that men influence women easier probably because women are usually less stubborn. I know this from my own experience of being with my partner and bringing her to Christ.
Women feel more
Unless a man is like super in love,the women are typically folding
but some women are manipulative and the men be folding because of love 😂😅😅
Not everyone's relationship with an unbeliever will lead to the other coming to Christ.
@@dorcaso1619 Yes true I agree with everything you said. God bless you 🙏
So your partner now loves Jesus Christ?
@@souvikguha yes
@@Refulgent_Rascal actually Bible does say about influence of husband over wife in a positive light in Ephesians 5 25 and 1 Corinthians 7. So good for you and your point is valid. It is possible in certain cases for a good outcome of a marriage between a believer and unbeliever. Just choose a partner who at least is sincere and loves you.
God says clearly in the Bible:
”Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.” (2. Corinthians 6:14-16)..
I disagree with alot of the Christian commentors here..
Please please please don't misunderstand-I'm not saying these things to hurt anyone, but what I am saying can be painful.
If your spouse is mocking you for anything, there are deeper problems in your relationship itself, not just a difference in faith.
If your spouse disagrees with you on issues of morality, that happens even in Christian couples, even supposedly devout ones.
If he/she argues about how to raise the kids, that happens in most marriages.
The main disadvantage of having a non-Christian spouse is not having somebody to strengthen my faith.
So I ask the Holy Spirit - strengthen my faith.
I know there might come a day when my wife might go against me due to my faith in Christ - but if I'm not ready, by then, to sacrifice life, limb, wife, mother, father, brother, friend and all my family... if I'm not ready to stand completely and utterly alone for the sake of my faith in Christ, then I don't deserve Him anyway..
When an unbeliever mocks Christians, what do we call that?
It happened in the Bible times😅
I'd go through point by point but at the end of the day, the foundation of a relationship between a Christian man and a Christian woman is Christ. So they can always go back to the Lord when these disagreements come up. The Lord isn't going to tell them both 2 different things. He's going to give them what they need to be able to make a godly and sound decision. But an unbeliever and a believer can't do that, because they believe in.....2 different things.
And also, Someone's gonna compromise at the end of the day. It's common and realistic for that to happen. But if the foundation is the bible, then the Lord's vice trumps everything
Ive been with the mother of my children for 15 years. I got saved about 5 years ago. We aren't married yet and I'm currently going through this mental battle about marriage. I know the bible says not to marry an unbeliever. Is that period? Or is there an exception when you already have children before one of you gets saved? I don't know what to do.
Firstly, don't ask random strangers on the internet for advice! We may not all have your best interests at heart.
Without being able to sit down and go through all (and I do mean all) of the issues with you and your partner, it is way too difficult to give sensible advice not that that will stop me!
In some respects, when you got together and started a family, you became what we used to call 'common law' man and wife. It might be argued that you were in some respects married before converting, and therefore, you might ought to think about staying loyal to her, to the children and getting married. But, what does she want?
I don't know why, but I assume that you are a protestant, and so I am going to suggest something a bit odd. Go and have a long chat with either a rabbi or a Catholic priest, people who are not in the Church you attend. Either will give you lots of guidelines and thoughts, and will at least be able to help with some of the questions that you should be asking yourself. Sooner or later (and sooner is probably better) you need to have a serious discussion with your wife and both of you need to understand that the children's best interests are more important than your feelings. If you are worried that you are not following all Biblical instructions, keep in mind that the person who lays down their life shall gain life. (Don't ask me chapter and verse, you can look that one up on a Bible app.)
@@harryfaber thankyou for your reply, I appreciate your advice and will take those pointers on board, God bless.
@@timw4115
If you're claiming to be Christian, As a believer in Christ, what's your foundation?
I mean, I dont know you, but the God of the Bible is clear on foundations
As far as marriage, like the guy in the vid said, overtime, your feelings will supercede what you know is right and wrong. So, it's about time to scale back, especially since you're in a state of confusion. Ask yourself, what do you care about more? Your salvation or your feelings?
If your answer is your Salvation, you should go to Christ and ask him, is this the relationship that you want for me? You should talk to him like a friend, and honestly ask Jesus, show me what I'm supposed to do so that I'm in your will. This is what the Bible shows us that we can do
Proverbs 3:6
In ALL your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path.
God wants to direct your path, but you need to set some time aside to do just that
@@timw4115
Paul actually cautioned us to not mingle with unbelievers. You can do it, it's not a sin to. But would God want his precious child that he set apart for himself to mingle with someone who doesn't respect Him and see Him as their Lord?
Probably...absolutely Not
Read 2 Cor 6 to see the entire excerpt about being unequally yoked, and about fornication and sex outside of marriage
He doesn't just sat DONT DO IT. He actually explains why you shouldn't do it.
1 Cor 7 talks about a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever. But...theyre already married, so that doesn't apply to you
You gotta read the word of God to make proper judgment on what to do next. The priest or the rabbi ain't gonna help you, especially if they don't lead you BACK to the word of God
personally I'm dating a woman who's father is very antitheistic and i managed to convert her to christianity from atheism
Please dont take this as rude or disrespectful. I wish you the best! But We don't convince them, the Holy Spirit does!
🙏
@@NewtonVieira“Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” - Jesus The Christ
Hopefully you’re not in fornication or touching here and there.
My friend started dating a non Christian and now she is doubting her faith. Its dangerous dont do it.
Part of the dating game is to find out what you like-and don't like. And I thought part of the Christian is to spend time with non-Christians, let them see what it looks and feels like.
The harm is the individual that's a true Christian cannot relate to an unrighteous person therefore we do not date outsiders that's what I call ungodly unrighteous people, because we devote our life to the son of God vs a person that lives for the world without a care about their eternity where they are heading when their earthly life comes to a closure.
What a brilliant friend this guy is!
It just doesnt work and as nice as the unbeliever is. The Christian always compromises. Better to stay single than go down that road!
That is a great question if Christianity were and I used that question on a Facebook post on my Facebook friends.
Setting aside the issue of religion, it's generally ill-advised to partner up with someone who does not share your values.
It is possible for Christians and non-Christians to share the same values.
@@CrinkledPankerSociety Can confirm.
I'd rather have children with different parental values.
I don't understand why a Christian would want to marry a non-Christian... if you're hiring someone for a job, you would hire someone who's best for the position. If you're trying to find a spouse, you should be even more careful and find someone who shares your world view and morals, especially since you may have children together. A non-Christian may not want to attend church every Sunday, give money to church or missions, wait until marriage to have sex, etc. Also, you will be separated for eternity after you die. It's not arbitrary.
This topic is soooo rampant in the American Christian community. Its even in Christian movies of a believer marrying non-believers or marrying people who believe but not accept jesus as savior.
It just shows how loose we are when it comes to the Lord ...the creator of heaven and earth couldn't lead you to one of his own🥲
No harm at all if you can keep your beliefs at bay, my wife identifies as a Christian
You dont identify as a Christian, you live as one. You don't have the authority to declare your own identity to the world. Trust peoples actions more than their words 💯👌
@@amb4368 Christianity is just another religion...
@@amb4368 no true Scotsman fallacy...
@@amb4368 Abrahamic religions are absolute trash, and they've caused a lot of horror in the world.
@logicalatheist1065 not a logical application of the no true Scotsman fallacy. I never said she wasn't a Christian, I just said you don't become one by identifying as one, you just are one by your actions. Can't talk the talk without walking the walk!
RUN.
Like Solomon in the Bible who fooled with women from other beliefs and got lost
I be like she ain’t a Christian I say na there’s a ton of fish in the sea
It’s crazy to marry someone who hates Jesus, who is an enemy of God. God describes unbelievers as “Darkness” and “lawlessness” compared to those who love God. To cling your selves to such a person in marriage is beyond insanity
I've had a successful marriage for over ten years.
My wife is a deluded theist... like you.
People can marry outside of the cult
My only question is, where in the world are the attractive girls in the church environments? They don’t seem to be there. It’s not quite correct to say this out loud, but the primary thing a man needs for satisfaction in that arena of life, is a girl that is physically attractive. My search has taken me five years and I finally found the right girl, in Germany.
If the choice comes down to an ugly girl or a life of celibacy, I’ll be content with celibacy.
Cherish her because she saves a lot of money on psychiatric care to deal with the delusion of religion
Im in that situation right now. I'm dating a woman who is a Muslim and my faith rests in Christ. Part of me believes I can convince her to come to Christ but she was raised as a Muslim since her childhood and seems to dedicated to the Islamic ideology. I don't know what I should do God is #1 in my life I don't want to forsake God or set myself up for more pain
Get her to watch Sam Shamoun and Apostate prophet. She’ll hate watching it but get her to watch just a few of their videos. She’ll leave Islam within no time
How's this? Respect your partner's beliefs and have her do the same for you. You're just going to drive a wedge between her and you if insist on proselytizing to her when she doesn't want it. If you're not willing to do this, then I don't know why you started dating her to begin with.
Personally, I think it's strange to think of your partner as another person you need to convert.
Only God can save. Seek Him not advice from strangers who don’t know either of you. Pray for her don’t TRY to convince her. Ask the Lord if she should be your wife. Don’t do anything until you hear from the Lord.
My brother is married to a Muslim and what's worse than your situation is that he is a non-believer .They have never loved anyone as much in there whole lives.
@@rationeextrema3776 Amen 🙏 I always ask for God's guidance in everything I face in life 🙏 I mean she is a nice girl however our beliefs are in direct contradiction to each other, I just don't want to do anything that is displeasing to God because God comes first 🙏
Your friend is dating a non-christian?
What should you do?
Mind your own business for a start 👌 The answer is "absolutely nothing" and learn to accept their choice.
We are our brothers keeper. He's his brother and friend. So he is doing the right thing by caring about his well-being
@@colbywidener7092 No, it's about you feeling entitled to push your beliefs and restrictions onto others regardless of whether those people want to hear it.
I don't know why the Christian men i meet don't want marrying ..they want nothing to do with me.. so i dated a non Christian and he left me broken
There are people of mixed faiths and no faiths who have a lifelong successful marriage.
Yes, true. But ultimately they are not saved.
@@GloryBeToGodForever That has nothing to do with the question the young man was asking.
@@alohaohana901
It's in regards to your comment.
God sees marriage deeper than that
I can testify this relationship won't work ,cant work its contrary to God's word ,there are consequences for living in disobedience to the very words of God .
It's actually good to marry a non-believer, as doing so will save them. 1 Corinthians 7.
no.shes cant save
Okay. This is for comedic purposes.
True story.
In brain: This is going well. Maybe I’ll ask her out.
Girl: I don’t eat meat.
Brain: It’s fine. She’ll live longer.
Girl: I don’t believe in God.
Brain: That shouldn’t be a deal breaker. Maybe we can-
Girl: I’m allergic to dogs.
Brain: This is not going to work.
When church friends asked me about it I said “I can convince her to believe in God. I can’t convince her to stop having allergies”
The lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh, and the pride of life, can get you in trouble big time! His friend needs to not walk but run away! Maybe he can witness to her as a Christian but not date her. He's leading with his flesh and his lust; he needs to pray and fast and end the relationship with this girl.
I was talking to someone about this one night and he told me if the other person believes in another God its wrong to marry them but if they just dont believe in God ,then its ok because you can teach them how to believe in christ and show them the way. But i know that isnt exactly correct. But could that actually happen tho?
My Dad was a Buddhist when him and my mom got married. She prayed and didn’t try it force anything on him and he eventually got saved. I think the key is my mom prayed relentlessly and let The Holy Spirit do the rest of the work. She did not push it on him.
@@nicholasgarcia4447 Oh snap thanks for sharing, that does make sense because if you try to push people it wont help them but praying constantly and with time God will save them. When i first became a Christian i made that mistake and i was trying to tell this friend i knew about Jesus but i was forcing it on him too much and he didnt wanna be my friend anymore and got very mad at me.
His friend is not a Christian. The *Holy Spirit* will never lead a born again Christian to date an unbeliever. His friend is being led by the flesh and not by the spirit.
Have you ever _directly observed_ this 'Holy Spirit'?
@Theo_Skeptomai
I'm not going to entertain you. Don't be a puppet to satan. *Christ* died for our sins to save us. Turn to *Him* to have everlasting life.
@@GloryBeToGodForever Was that a "yes" or a "no"?
He most definitely can be a Christian, because apparently unlike you the rest of us Christians can make bad choices and ignore God at times. Glad your the perfect Saint who has always lived above reproach smh
Sounds like in this scenario she does not even respect his Christian faith, marrying her wouldn't change that.
A judge does not punish a criminal but instead the judge allows his own son to be killed ( to clean the criminal's sins).. The criminal sets free.
Is that judge fair? and should that judge do that?
Blows my mind how ignorant most people are .. of course you shouldn't get seriously involved with someone who is not a believer .. smh
What blows my mind is how prejudice and insular extremist religious people still are.
@@Gek1177 PREJ'UDICE, n. [L. prejudicium; proe and judico.]
1. Prejudgment; an opinion or decision of mind, formed without due examination of the facts or arguments which are necessary to a just and impartial determination.
You ain't even using the word "prejudice" correctly .. if that ain't ignorant I don't know what is 🤯
@@nonamejustbecause5130 uh, yeah I am.
You just advocated for not getting involved with non-believers based on your preconceived opinions that they are in some way bad.
Prejudice is exactly what you are.
@@Gek1177 read the definition again .. a decision made WITHOUT due examination of facts and arguments .. mine and these others decisions are made WITH due examination of facts and arguments .. SMH .. you probably believe there are more than 2 genders lol or that God is mean or unfair lol .. grow up buddy and start using that God given commen sense, reason, and logic
@@nonamejustbecause5130you should just man up and own the fact that you are prejudice instead of trying to make excuses for the way you prejudge non-believers.
Real men face reality they don't pussyfoot around the truth.
If someone who claims to be a Christian is pursuing a relationship with an unbeliever, they are (1) extremely immature, naive and shortsighted (2) engaged in some massive suppression of obvious truth and elevation of desire or (3) not actually a believer...or some combination of these.
When you consider the meaning and purposes of marriage from a biblical perspective, as well as the magnitude of a marital commitment in general just from a practical perspective, the thought of not sharing the most fundamental and foundational beliefs with the person that you intend to spend the rest of your life with and perhaps raise a family with should without any doubt whatsoever give one serious pause, raise red flags, and honestly should strike a believer as a sad and repulsive thought.
If one is clearheaded about this and not blinded by their desires or confused about their identity and ultimate allegiances, this is not at all a difficult conclusion to come to or determination to make.
A true christian will continually cause offence to unbelievers. the life style of a believer precludes any sort of friendship with the unsaved. A true christian preaches the truth,,, the gospel of salvation to all they know. that is the result of love for thee lost. If they receive the truth,,, well done, If they dont they will despise you,,, the end.
Funny that you call an untrue religion the "truth".
My brother is married to a non Christian woman. Prayers would be appreciated❤
Did your brother _choose_ to marry his wife?
@@Theo_Skeptomai Yes? Here in America, who doesn't choose their wife/husband?
@@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon Then what concern is it of yours if it was HIS choice and what solution do you suggest now?
@@Theo_Skeptomai *I* don't have a solution which is why I'm praying.
@dhisufiroafrozenseraphimdragon And are you going to receive a solution from this 'God'?
The butt grab in the first little clip 😂😭