In my experience I dated a girl, and she wasn’t a believer in Christ. (Christian). But what attracted me was her character and how interested she was about my faith. Which I was very open to her about. Christ is king in my life, and I live daily to put God first. So I dated her because we had chemistry and in this dating period she got to see my faith in action. I would answer her questions about Christ and salvation which she would always question. But she would always stay interested. And eventually she gave her life to God and proclaimed Christ as King in her life. So I married her. She’s my helper and we help each other grow in character with God. We pray together, we serve together. If she would have never came to faith then I wouldn’t have married her to put it simply. That I do agree on, but dating a non believer I see no problem. The scriptures don’t say anything about dating. Zip. Old Testament or New Testament. But it does on marriage. So having a clear understanding on what marriage is truly important. This is my story hopefully it helps somebody out there.
Hi! Thank you for your well-needed testament. I recently just fell into the same situation as you - he's a very curious man who initiates asking questions about my faith, except that he already has some negative views about christianity to begin with (yet he still maintains neutrality as he understands my faith more). Sometimes we'd have fruitful discussions about my faith, and usually they go well, and he'd be very sensitive and caring about the talks lest it hurts me in any way. For now at least, I kinda worry sometimes that I don't give a good/correct picture of my faith to him. I guess like you said, I should continue to do what I need - "live daily to put God first" and exemplify my faith in my life, while praying a lot for him. If he leaves eventually because of this, then I guess this is a way of God's answer to me. A lot of endurance and focus is needed. And never forgetting who truly is my desire is important. Of course I hope this relationship turns out well, but if it doesn't, I pray that God will catch me when I fall and cry. That being said, do you have any advice you could give? For instance, the ways you explained your faith to her, and how did you manage to make sure that she didn't proclaim salvation for your relationship but truly for herself? Thank you!
@@lxmgg Hello, by my experience I went through very similar thoughts. Especially on the idea the partner could potentially just be doing all these questions and talking about faith just to keep us around. I’d say keep reminding yourself the big picture, God is always first above the other person. Keeping a good perspective on the entire foundation of the relationship. If the partner is asking healthy questions and your providing the best answers you know how that’s progress. I’d say one area where people of faith might find challenging is maintaining patience on the “conversations of your Christianity” The process and progress is a slow one, A tree doesn’t grow in a day. The temptation on our end is wanting the relationship to work when it’s clearly not going anywhere. One of the ways of seeing those indications is having an outside friend of faith you trust in the loop. You have to be honest to yourself and God, as well as the boyfriend/girlfriend on your actions, they deserve the truth on your intentions as well. If they stick around to ask questions then be that person of faith for them. But always be gentle like a dove and wise as a snake. Try to figure out the person you like’s intentions. Stay pure to yourself and to God, and to your boyfriend. Don’t awaken the sexual intimacy, this also helps maintain a proper view of the relationship.
@@ramonbarrera8341 It's amazing how we can connect like this. I'm really grateful for your wise advice! And also, I'm happy for you that it turned out all well :) I've just got one more question and I'm going to be very honest here - I have done some of what you said in the last paragraph about "awakening the sexual intimacy". And it's a pity that I've "awakened" it, as it makes it harder to go backwards although it's still possible. Given that my partner and I are in a long-distance relationship now, I'd hate to admit but I think that some degree of sexual intimacy is needed to keep things going. Perhaps I'm wrong and it doesn't have to be sexual. I think it's definitely going to be hard to maintain the intimacy especially when I've got the 2 hard things going in my relationship right now: 1) dating a non-Christian ; 2) being miles apart from each other. How did you and your partner keep things afloat without the sexual intimacy? Would there be any tips/reminders you could enlighten me with? Thanks so much!
@@lxmgg Hey there! I’m in the exact situation as you. I hope things are going well for you. I’m currently dating a girl and we are in a long-distance relationship. We go to separate colleges and it’s been about 2 years. I originally started dating her not thinking it was a sin to date non-Christians. I think I knew it would be unwise to marry a non-Christian, but this is my first relationship and I really wasn’t heading toward marriage. I’m still not heading toward marriage, and neither is she, as we both still have to enter into medical school. However, about a month ago I believe I was convicted pretty hard after hearing a sermon about not marrying unbelievers, so I broke up with her and we were both distraught. However she said it didn’t make any sense as she was still learning about Christianity and wanted to continue to learn more. I told her that I didn’t want to influence her to make a decision to follow Christ for me, as it’s disingenuous and not true faith. She said she knows, and she wouldn’t want to marry me if she doesn’t believe in Christianity in the first place, but she told me that she knows that talking about Christ is 90% of my personality, and if she was ever turned off from this she would have left a long time ago. I decided to continue the relationship by answering her questions and we decided we would go to church together whenever we visited each other on the weekends. She knows we can’t marry unless she comes to the Lord, but she wants to give the relationship a chance just in case she decides to (she still has to learn more and sort out her own questions before she makes a genuine decision). However it’s hard because I hear some pastors talk about dating unbelievers as sin, and I don’t want to sin against God. He’s more important to me than any girl, and I completely understand now why it would be unwise to marry a non-Christian. I think it’s pretty clear biblically. I’m just worried that continuing relationship is sin (even if we both know we can’t marry until she sorts things out) I don’t think it is but certain things I read online really do bother me, and it makes me fearful. Just know you’re not alone! Also, depending on what you mean on sexual intimacy, it could be sin. If it’s just stuff like kissing or cuddling, you’re fine. But if it’s sexual immorality in the biblical sense I would steer clear. I’m not being judgemental I’m just trying to help. My girlfriend and I both want to wait until marriage but obviously being alone with the opposite sex leads to temptation, so while we’re both virgins we have gotten pretty heated in the past and we had to put a stop to it.
@@thomasbagwell2084 Hey Thomas! Wow really glad to hear that someone out there is in the exact same situation. Maybe there are actually a lot of us in this situation, but we don't really voice out. Thank you for being open and letting me know I'm not alone in it. Don't worry about sounding possibly "judgemental" or anything, I certainly most appreciate this openness and timely reminders. It's really really easy to get lost along the way and it is precisely being open about our own struggles like this that can help us receive gentle rebukes that lead us back to Christ. So thank you! There are actually updates to my situation. My guy has always been opposed to LDR, and back then he really liked me so much so he asked me out. But he took back his decision after a week because he was so uncomfortable about it. And I think that's fair. It's hard for him, and he's not ready. I did lots of thinking and talking to friends before embracing this attitude of understanding. But that being said, he was still clearly fond of me. And the same goes for me. So I've made plans to go meet him this summer, to see how things will really turn out. It's really a leap of faith, because after summer, he may or may not continue the relationship. And I trust that God's going to lead the way through this. No matter which way it's going to turn out, God's in control of it and I just gotta stick close to what He wants me to do, for e.g. in the aspect of sexual intimacy. He did tell me his reservations. Even if LDR wasn't an issue, he didn't think we would be possible because we both wanna date to marry, and I made it clear that I only wanna marry christians. On this aspect, I really have no control over anything. I can only continue to show him how a christian loves - how Christ loves - and if the time is up, I guess it's up. I move on. Maybe God has a better plan for him. Thank God I have a brother in Christ close to me who reminds me constantly that, God loves the guy I like too. So anything I do that dishonors God, I am basically dishonoring the guy I like. This has always been a powerful message to me, and I hope it also gives you a good reminder to push on and live out the Christ within you :)
I agree on most of the things he's said. However, I don't agree with the part where he basically said if you're dating a non-believer for evangelism, it's okay. In that situation, you are basically lying (or putting on a facade, etc.) towards that other person, with the hidden (or even unhidden) intention of bringing them to God. But God doesn't need your "lies" to bring Him glory; it's about trusting His power to be greater than anything. If your heart is genuinely for that person to be saved, there are other ways to do it than through dating them!!
I think he meant, if you define a "date" as an appointment over pizza or coffee... that's why he asks, how do you define "dating" because some people may casually say they're going on a date with a friend, coworker, classmate, etc.... the word dating isn't just reserved for romance
The guy was amazing but I was never settled in that relationship because the Holy Spirit kept convicting me. I treated him badly hoping he would leave and get a more compatible partner. He eventually got tired and left me completely devastated. It has been a week since he left but the pain is still very raw. I don't want to get out of bed. I can't stop crying. Thankfully, I deleted his phone number and so there is no other way I can contact him. I don't have an option but to move on. I regret getting into a relationship with this man. Never Again! Please pray for me.
I just got out of a almost 3 year relationship that I was in before I became born again and found the grace of god. It’s been hard but I look forward to the future with Yahweh
This is true , In my most recent relationship it made me lose my dignity and I realized that the only true love is of Jesus Christ and the marriage under his covenant
It's funny how ppl will put a fictional character above their partner, they deserve better leave him so he can have someone that appreciates something real instead of your fake pagan ass
Dear God give us the serenity to accept what can not be changed. The courage to change what can be changed and the wisdom to know one from another. Serenity prayer.
If marriage is the only way to bring people to Christ then why not marry non believers ?The reason why so many people are dieing Without JESUS.Changed from fishermen to fishers of men. Win win win people for him we do not know the day nor the hour but it is no longer soon it is near and here.
Using the word "people" meaning everyone is stereotypical .. Everyone is different, not "all" people are the same. I want to know what's right in God's eyes, God's will. John Piper is truly gifted in helping me understand God's word.
From my personal experience, I dated a Jewish man from Israel, and one non believer. As much as I so loved them, and prayed to God to let me have a relationship work out with them God really didnt want me to be with these men. It has taken me 18 years and I see the outcome and now I am glad I didnt marry a non believer. I stand behind what the bible says. Dont date a non believer. Especially if Christ is a big part of your life.
+Kerry Brett well done girl. similar situations for me. We need to remember Jesus has our best interests at heart, He knows what is best, if He says don't do it its because it will not be good for us! xx Good on you for being obedient, I'm proud sister!
I disagree & yet another religious advice. I’m Christian & dating Muslim. Didn’t deliberately set out to date a Muslim but love him regardless & He is a good soul. As night is separate from day we learn to live in both conditions. Our only difference is the God we serve & abide in. I will love him and pray for his salvation but do I think I have sinned against God. Definitely not - judgment is the Lords & I don’t live my life based on people’s interpretation of what they think God wants. I trust God can convert a life. I don’t have the power to, only God. But I will continue to love my man as he is however he comes.
Kerry Leigh thank you for your boldness. I’m currently going through this situation now where I was dating a non believer. We were actually living together until The Lord saves me. For the last 2 months after my conversion (by God’s Grace) , I struggled with it almost everyday until I asked her to marry me and she said, “no”. Then I told her that we can’t be together anymore because I do not want to live in sin anymore. It’s so hard for me to have broken up with her because I feel her pain of rejection and also I did promise her before that I would never leave her. That promise was broken because of Christ. Please pray for my perseverance and that God saves my x girlfriend not for my sake but for His sake.
Luv4Musika, Have you seen the movie "Not without my daughter"? It is about a lukewarm Christian woman that marries a muslim man. All seems well for years, until they visit his country of origin. Then he is pressured by his family to treat her according to islamic rules. She gets abused and imprisoned in her home by a man, who resembles in no way the guy she fell in love with. If you feel you must disagree with the Bible, than do so. But don't call yourself a Christian if you have such contempt for God's word. You want it your way? Fine, but you will reap what you sow.
"you can date a Christian and be sinning" dang. That's truth right there. I came into this episode with the mindset of: "oh this is obvious; while it's not necessarily a sin to date a non-Christian, it most likely will be because whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. And even if it isn't sin it's still a bad idea." And then Pastor John hit me with that bomb and reminded me of how much I don't know.
When I see how difficult a marriage is even when two people are a united front with same beliefs, being with a nonbeliever is hell on earth. In the long term and in the end it would be a huge disappointment knowing the spouse didn't have that deep bond & amazing understanding of faith with you.
Hey Adam, and now I do understand where your strange logic comes from. You've been influenced by the buddist. And that is exactly the reason why God forbids such marriages, for they easily become a trap in spiritual ways, that people don't see nor recognize. But others do see it. Tinker is wise.
Eden, So you are calling God's Word bullshit now? How come it is all about your relationship with another person being 'heaven'. Isn't being humble and obedient to God worth more than having it your way?
If you love a non believer (as we should love everyone) and if you date someone you know dosen't believe in Jesus christ, then it is our job to share the truth again. Out of this could result that he or she converts and accepts Jesus christ. We cannot evade others just because he or she doesn't believe. If you are dating someone that dosent believe then use that situation to potentially bring life to that individual and give them everlasting life. Out of love we must peruse the lost.
I’ll keep you in my prayers. I hope you and hopefully your significant other will be drawn closer to Christ. I understand from personal experience that it’s not as simple as just breaking up. You want to see them when we reunite with our father. You have love which is a Godly thing but we must continue act Godly. It’s hard
jyseninthecloud So if God put a person that was a nonbeliever in your path to share a life together with you and the is no chance only Gods plan for you do you go against Gods plan for you and this nonbeliever or do you except the gift God has laid out for you
Adam, have answered you before how unlogic this way of thinking is. God doesn't want believers to marry unbelievers. So it will never be God's plan for them in the first place to marry an unbeliever.
I was unequally yoked, and God took him out of my life. God spoke to me ( happens rarely) and said, " John was idolatry, I'm a jealous God" but God spoke it in a nice way. I'm single now. and won't date a non believer ever again. I sinned so so so so much.
Traci H I was also married to a nonbeliever and he was my idol. When we met, I wasn't following the Lord, but after we were together I turned back to Christ. My nonbelieving spouse became very jealous of my relationship with the Lord and he (my husband) persecuted me in my own home for it. One thing I never had being married with a nonbeliever was someone to pray in agreement. The more and more I pray, as a single woman, with people after church, the more I realize that this I is an incredible gift that I missed out on. I so desire to have a spouse that will turn with me to the Lord in prayer and who will pursue a relationship with the Lord both independently and with me. It is very difficult to be married to someone who dies not have their security in the Lord, nor do they have the love of Christ in them. It is hard for someone to love us fully when they do not have the experience of being loved fully (being loved by the Lord).
Traci H could you share your testimony with me in more depth? I just broke up with my Muslim boyfriend because I couldn’t decide if wrong or right because his values lined up with mine and we got a long so great but deep down I would love a husband I could worship and pray with. Most Christian marriages I know struggle so much and don’t pray or study together so it doesn’t seem any better than other marriages anyway. I would love for you to share what Hod revealed to you.
Maria H thank you for sharing this. I just broke up with my Muslim boyfriend because I really want someone I can worship and raise godly children with.
Sounds like you worship John that's why God said he was a idolatry in your heart and that God was jealous. You put them in the place of God in your heart that isn't John issue that was your issue
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
So every Christian is right and every other religion practiced all over the world (or lack thereof) is wicked and wrong and evil. There is no gray area. So, if you are a Christian and you're a pedophile, you're righteous, but if you're an atheist with good morals, you are wicked. Light and dark, simple. This is coming from your holy book. Out of the thousands of religions ever to have existed, yours is the one and only true one. Use critical thinking skills and get off your high horse.
The Bible is clear on this issue. Marrying an unbeliever is a sin. (2 Cor 6:14; 1 Cor 7:39) The reason so many people want to argue with such a clear standard is that men "suppress the truth by their unrighteousness." (Rom 1:18) If a person is a true believer, they love Jesus. Jesus said, “If God were your Father, you would love me." (John 8:42) Jesus also said "Whoever hates me hates my Father also." (John 15:23) A union between a believer and an unbeliever is a union between someone who loves God and someone who hates God. They might not *say* that they hate God, but to reject Jesus is to reject God. (Luke 10:16) Who do you love more? Jesus? Or your unsaved boyfriend/girlfriend?
You want to know something the reason why I am so bitter towards Christian relationships is because of my ex girlfriend who is in the church used me to get what she wants.
I feel like We should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. I know your intent may be to change them and lead them to Christ, but the danger is that the unbeliever may lead you astray. I have personally been there and it is very stressful being with someone who does not truly love Christ, they will even mock you and put down your commitment to GOD. summation, do not do it.
I’m currently in this situation and we’ve lived together for a year now. I got closer to God these past few months and regret moving in. I pray but I still feel trapped in this situation. I want the best for him but he’s made it clear that he respects my beliefs and wants nothing to do with them. It’s tragic really :(
I'm in my two months relationship with a guy who is from Iran and who comes from a Muslim family, but as per him he don't like their religion and beliefs. And I'am a christian a leader of the youth ministry. We enter in a relationship so fast, that me myself really couldn't believe at first to fall for him easily. On our 2nd day of knowing each other, he confessed to me his mental illness (bipolar disorder) and even his darkest past and ugly character. But after knowing those things, instead of rejecting him like what I normally do to those guys who try to pursue me that cause me to become a so called "No Boyfriend Since Birth", there is a voice and a force who speaks to my heart says "don't leave him". Days passed by we know each other more specially our weaknesses and our struggles in life. I shared him words of God and I always pray for him.. Then one day he told me... " I want to be converted into christian, when I come there in the Philippines". I did not asked him to be converted actually, I just share some of my stories about my faith journey, some opinions when he asked me if I'm him what should i do, I just share how Christ works in my life. And also, it never affected my faith. To be honest he makes me realized and proved that "Loves cover multitudes of sin", it is not my love, but the love of God. I do believed that the voice who speaks to me is God. He wants me stay in contact to my bf to show His love, grace and mercy through me. And until now he is growing with his faith, last week he told me that he had a deep talked to God that he surrendered his plan for revenge to his aunt who casted evil spell to him and his family, she is a witch. And he also told me that, he really experiencing true peace now, is becomes motivated about life, he has a joy in his heart and specially he feels that God is beside him... So I just shared this story to you guys, but I don't say that it is not bad to date a non believer. Yes it maybe works for me, but it does not mean it will work with you guys too... Just always pray to God, if your are still not in a relationship and you love that person ask for God's confirmation. Now if you are already in a relationship, ask for God's wisdom and guidance. And you will know the tree from it's fruit, when you noticed that it affected your spiritual life, your devotions, your prayers, your character and your faith... That is a red mark brothers and sisters.
I once heard a well known Bible teacher say this and it has always anchored me in the reality of the real issue at hand here. He said "If you marry an unbeliever, beware your father-in-law" When you fully consider until you understand what that means, only then will you understand the real issue and the necessary caution to stay within the Apostles teachings in the Scriptures.
Wow! I will remember that in my sharing the gospel. What a great statement.! Wonderful wonderful insight...... In fact I just used it in the comment below this one. Thank you
Remember, it is not unequally yolked, as in an egg. It is unequally yoked, as in the burden an ox has to carry. If your future spouse is not a believer, chances are neither is his/her family. They will be a weight on you and a strain on your marriage. The load to bare is too much for one person. The family you will marry into will not understand, or tolerate, the mind set you have. They will see your faith as a nuisance or even as a foe. Marriage is tough enough. Why add to it? Look, I did not listen to God;s wisdom and relied on my own and it made for areal bad situation. Look, if you will not listen to God's advice, why wold I expect you to take mine? I speak from experience. I give this as a warning from the present. The non-believer will promise to change, but since they haven't already, they will revert to the family patterns that raised them. It is not your job to convert them. It is time to look elsewhere. Better a broken heart now, then a broken life later.
I don't believe in dating. I believe in friendships in groups until God reveals to the couple a greater purpose than friendship. Then they can go from friends to a committed relationship. I'm speaking to Christian's of course. I'm unequally yoked. I was desperate and made bad decisions. I've learned my lesson, but I can't unmarry him.
Negative. The "group friendship" crap is just a waste of time. Put in months of time having fleeting interaction with someone, never really getting to know them. Then if they pass some vibe test and you both are interested, then it's ok to ask them out. It's stupidity. The moment I tossed that aside, God put a stranger in my life who is everything a biblical wife should be. And it didnt take months of friendzone to make a relationship happen.
I think to say "I don't believe in dating" is a little disingenuous. You have to date people, whether you call it dating or not! The only alternative is to be friends with someone until you decide to get married - this is not how relationships work. Between friendship and marriage, all relationships have a period of love (romantic love, a deeper relationship that friendship) - this period can be generally referred to as "dating", whether you call it that or not!
yes you can unmarry him. separate from him completely and wait until he commits a sexual sin; then you can divorce him. thats how i unloaded an unbelieving spouse. didnt take long!!
@@Lauren-vd4qe I just want to say that intentionally isolating yourself from someone in order to encourage them to seek love with someone else is kind of evil. I have never read a RUclips comment from someone so proudly saying they did something so hurtful.
@@MrLordFireDragon u are making decision without knowing all the facts dude; my ex was VERY abusive to me in ALL ways THATS why I left him. he wd have caused my death; the police told me to buy a g un and leave the area immediately which i did. it saved my life.
I think you have to listen to the Holy Spirit and not grieve him. If you’re dating someone and then become born again ask the Holy Spirit what you should do. But I wouldn’t recommend entering a dating relationship with someone who is a non believe with the idea “oh but God I can bring them to you and you can change them” because I’m reality it’s easier for them to bring you down than for you to pull them up. But we also can’t dismiss the possibility of the spirit leading you to date someone. Pray and seek the lord and he will reveal all things to you for he is not a god of confusion.
You can't marry them, period, that's what the word says, and the Holy Spirit will not contradict God's world, sounds like your listening to your emotions.
this is so amazing because when a believe say they don't want to marry a nonbeliever, they are looked funny by nonbeliever and think or even say ' you think you better then us' . its not about being better then anyone, for scripture says count others as more valuable but it's about having to live life with this person who does not see Christ as supreme. its like you and this person are going two completely different direction in life, you don't have the Same goals, you, its to glorify God and to live in light of eternalty and that person its to live for the here and now and glorify themselves. this is why it's important that a believes marrys a believer.
Rebecca Kamara And if it was Gods plan of this nonbeliever to be apart of your life and that life was to be together as man and wife, who are you to question that plan, after all, if the meeting of a man and woman was not meant to be then they would not have met because there is no chance only Gods plan for us.
Adam, you didn't think your comment through. God doesn't go in against what He said before. He is truth. Completely. So He never does anything that is not in line with Himself. He doesn't want any Christian to marry a non-Christian. And for good reason. So He wouldn't plan for a nonbeliever to be part of your life to begin with. You write: "if the meeting of a man and woman was not meant to be, then they would not have met." You lost me there. We meet thousands of people every month. In public transport, in the workplace, in the supermarket, etc. It is our preferences and our decisions to turn any stranger into a friend, or more. The question here is: Are our preferences and decisions in line with God's commands and wishes? There is not only God's plan for us. Sadly most people live outside of God's plan for them. They live after their own desires, ignoring God's will. If you want to know what God wants, I suggest you start studying your Bible. Begin with the New Testament, but do not leave the Old Testament out. You will gain much insight in how God deals with (His) people. This doesn't mean that God doesn't show mercy and grace in this time and age. He does so continually, for He wants all people to repent of their sin and believe in Jesus Christ as Lord. But not even God gets what He wants all the time, for still many people sadly keep Him at an unsafe distance. Hope you are not one of those. Sometimes people want to know what God's will is for their lives. My answer is always the same: He has profusely made His will known in the Bible. Read that first and apply that first. That accounts for at least 90% of God's will for you. If there is anything special, He will lead you in His ways, IF you are willing to do the first 90% first. How can He lead you, if you are rebelling against His already stated will?
What Piper fails to mention is that being married to someone, without God, can destroy your spouse spiritually. If your spouse is a carnal or lukewarm Christian, or even more so, an unbeliever; your attempts to win them Christ by being an example and encouraging them to draw closer to God; may lead to them despising you and rejecting God. They may become lost because they were never truly ready for a truly saved spouse and had no idea of the pressure put on them to be truly saved. Therefore, you can make your spouse reject Christ if you are a godly influence. But what may likely also happen is your spouse may draw you into carnality if they are a carnal Christian; or into sin if they are an unbeliever. This will eventually ruin your testimony for Christ, and again, cause your spouse to reject God when they see a so- called Christian sinning. Thus, many Christians in the comments, are only seeking a spouse because of themselves- their loneliness, their emptiness, their pain. And they may be tempted to risk their relationship with God to make themselves happy. But what about your spouse? If God doesn't ordain the marriage, you can cost them their soul and be the deciding factor of why they end up in hell. What a terrible feeling! Now, God allows for marriages to stay together if a couple is already married and one becomes a believer but if one is single then they should remain that way until God provides a spouse. To do otherwise may damn yourself; but even worse, the one you dearly love, your spouse. You do not want this on your conscience. Also, what is ironic is that you may end up single anyway. Your spouse may leave because they may reject the pressure to be saved if you are a godly spouse. Or you may have to leave because of repeatedly being drawn into lukewarmness or sin if you are not a godly spouse. Therefore, single Christians should be content to be single because you can ruin someone else's life and soul. It is not all about you. This is from someone who ignored God, got married, and had a terrible 10 year marriage. My husband is still unsaved and may now never seek God because of my ungodly behavior by being drawn into sin. I also terribly hurt my relationship with God in the process. And end the end I am now single which is what God asked of me in the first place. I deeply regret this and wish I would have been content in Christ alone.
Thank you for sharing Deana. Through your experiences you can lead many other Christians, and to help build the BODY OF CHRIST. God is not done with you yet. He's never done with us, whether we like it or not... and it's just incredible to think of how loving and merciful our almighty GOD is. If I may say however, don't worry about the past, but focus on the future-for any time soon THE LORD will return in all HIS mighty glory and grace!!!!!!! So let's get excited for that day of jubilee, and ask GOD to take from your hands all of your pains and all of the other things that you've been holding on to!!!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU sister
I am an example of marrying non believer and finally ended up in divorce. I was spiritually blind before. When Jesus Christ opened my blind folded eyes I realised what disaster I had done by marrying non believer. Truly I tell everyone here, don’t marry or date any non believer. I don’t mean non believers are bad. They may be very good. But they are always vulnerable to devil. And it’s common sense too. Compatibility is one of the main requirement of marriage. How can there be compatibility between a Christian and non believer? And yes, God’s word clearly states don’t marry outside Christian faith. People will always try to interpret the scriptures like how they want and they need. But there is no place for confusion in God’s word. God is about clarity. Don’t marry non believer!!
Same here. We were once Non Believers as well. Ended up with a wrecked marriage. But in our country, we don't have divorce yet though it was passed as a bill already, I thought. The question is, can we still remarry with a Christian, this time
@@maryrosecericos154 if there is no possibilities of reunion, you can marry. Listen to what Holy Spirit says. If marriage brings glory to God, please marry. It is your personal decision. Now some legalistic people might say you can’t marry, but ignore them. Do what Holy Spirit tells you. Pray about it. 😊
coming from experience: terrible stuff happened when I let myself cross this line and "dated' an unbeliever. The heart is full of wicked desires, trust God above what you selfishly want, things can spiral out of control when you lie to yourself that you're with them for their salvation.
@@T262-u9n I started to spend more time in the Bible and private prayer and focus my thoughts on God and Gospel and now I am much better! Wish the same to you!!! ❤️
"3 Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son. 4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly."- Deuteronomy 7:3-4
That is old testament with old covenant, with Jesus there is a new covenant. Also, here is what someone else wrote about the video. ''the context of the book and the surrounding context: 1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth… 2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle… 3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God… B. V14 1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol… 2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness… 3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context… 4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian… The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also… C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect… 1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." () 2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
From my personal experience, I fell in love with someone I thought who's a Christ-committed person. But God indeed loves me, for He does not want me to sin anymore, when I found out that this person believes that all religions are the same and worships the same God and even told me that allah is God. From them on, I tried to live my life for our Lord Jesus and trusting Him that there could be someone out there who is a true Christ-committed follower whom I will spend the rest of my life with living in Christ.
My dad met my mom when he was 17 and she was 14. She was a non-believer, he was a diehard believer. He showed her what love was, and helped her to understand how she could also develop a relationship with Christ. They’ve now been married over 25 years, have 4 kids and live God honoring lives. In this video it’s really interesting how he draws a parallel between the “right” and “wrong” way to pursue a relationship with someone you’re attracted to. I don’t think that either of the examples he gave in this particular video are completely accurate... just another POV, something to think about if you’re looking for real insight.
That's a great story. Happy for your parents. God Bless them. I'm going through similar situation like your dad. I like a non Christian lady but I am a life long believer. Slowly getting her to know Christ but we get along really well. I feel that I'm here to lead her to convert and faith. I care a lot about her. Just staying patient.
I agree with pastor John. And those who don't agree with him, usually are not the wise ones. Marriage is for the glory of God, it's meant to reflect the intimacy of God the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. But nowadays, because of great ignorance and hatred of the goodness of God, I see marriages (especially dates) fall apart easily, and not being wholly true. So also, as it says, "Whether you eat or drink, do all for the glory of God" marriage is for the glory of God, and if you don't do it for God's glory but for your own cunning, deceitful, evil passions and sins, you aren't going to do well. And there is a great consequence for that. Especially if you are Christian, these teachings are from the word of God. I was arrogant, foolish, and very bitter in dating, until I had to admit, I must be honest to myself that what I'm doing apart from God's word and grace, I'm doing wrong, so, it is more pleasant to submit yourself to God and His grace, and to joyfully glorify Him, within also marriage, and (being careful) dating.
God's word is expansive it cover's all areas of life and different situations so that "we" don't get so self-righteous that if we should find ourselves joined with an unbeliever than 1 Peter 3:1-6 handles it like a boss. If there was meant to be a one size fits all (religious attitude) then we'd be looking at utopia right now but there isn't and who knew that better - Jesus. I don't agree with the pastor or your sentiments that to disagree with this pastor means the rest of us are usually unwise. Utter Nonsense.
When I met my partner who was the number lever I prayed about it and people say where would go to agree to be in a relationship with an unbeliever my partner is learning about Christ with curious my three children are raised going to church praying and he is comfortable with it supports me and he thinks that it's the right thing for the children to be influenced by their mother and Jesus he does not see it as something that he disagrees with he said he only prayed once to be with someone who truly loves him and he asked God it was his only one prayer and when he met me he felt that god gave him a chance he seems to be growing in Christ every day he even sings worship music and play them together he will even visit and support me going to church but he's still a nonbeliever if I have sinned I asked God to forgive me but I am truly happy 17 years and a great man and Jesus is growing my life more and more everyday I feel closer to god more than anything I believe that he loves me because god gave him to me I know that some would disagree and I know we're not supposed to judge I did not leave this comment to say that I disagree but yes it's so important to put god first before anything else my eldest came to Jesus at 6 years old and he wants to join the ministry and it's such a big difference in my partner's life he changed his life completely when we first met he was homeless with nothing and now he has a family and his grown closer and closer to my way of life god is in charge of my life my family and my partner seems to be easing into it every day hope I'm not judging
if you are NOT married to this man but are living with him then you are living IN SIN! STOP doing that! have him move out and DONT have sex with him AGAIN.
This is really hard I was an unbeliever before I got into a relationship with by bf. A few months into the relationship, God showed himself to me and I was born again. Now I’m a believer and I tell my bf all about Jesus and what’s to come, but I don’t see it having any affect on him to make him wanna do something about, more like he understands but can’t live it. I hate to push on him the truth, but I know that we can’t be unevenly yoked... I want to wait on the Lord to show himself to my bf, but at the same time I don’t know if I’m wasting my time :/
@@aaronlalembaarook5626 This is not a helpful comment. We should show love and exercise patience, but remember the bible clearly suggests that we shouldn't marry a non-believer. I would pray, see where God leads you. He may suggest you end the relationship, or he may suggest the relationship is approved by Him and that He will use you (or something else) to bring this person to know God before you consider marriage. Lets be loving and God focused instead of jumping to negative and harmful conclusions people! :D
Thank you for this very well structured answer. So we'll explained. Instead I'm newly saved with a non believing partner. It's very difficult and not something id recommend to purposely choose. I pray to God every day to give my partner a new heart and awake to god.
Choose God and watch blessings come through. Its temporary pain but remember we will all return to him/God. Stop deceiving yourself. it's a sin this could lead u to hell for eternity. Rid all sins and sinful desires.
I gave up the prospect of ever finding a Christian girl. That's why I hope there will be marriage in heaven and I guess some recompense for the loneliness and hopelessness I experience here. I've come to terms with the fact that I won't get a girl I desire here. Honestly if God doesn't come back soon I pray I die young, callous and inconsiderate to family and loved ones as it may be. Even at 20 the lonliness kills me. Can't imagine being 30-40-50 etc (don't mean that in an obnoxious, belittling way). You can't vent about this topic in Christian circles because they tell you your standards are too high or that you're carnal or that your trials are petty compared to many who are suffering worse. I remember reading a comment on a forum regarding the topic of marriage in heaven from a disabled guy who pretty much can't get married. Dude poured his heart and soul and and one of the first replies was "you've been watching too many romance movies"..
I do agree though, it's not easy finding a Bible believing Christian, who is single (never married, cause that's adultery if you marry a divorced Christian or you the divorced Christian remarry ) and age appropriate.
I have been in a relationship with a non-believer for many years. I was dating him long before I became a Christian. I thought I could win him over and convert him by loving him and setting a good example of what Christianity was truly about. However, the reality is that he hated Jesus more than he loved me. It was very problematic because we were going in two separate directions. His ultimate goal in life was to get drunk and make money. Whereas, my objective was about serving God and building up the church. In the end, we had to break off our relationship because he was leading me down a path that I cannot follow. From this experience, I have learned that unrepentent sinners will do whatever it takes to justify their sin, even to the point of denying clear scripture. I know this because I was once like that. Many people from my church confronted me with verses in the bible, telling me why I should end the relationship with that man. However, I kept on looking for excuses to justify my decision to stay with him. My reasoning was this: I am dating him in the hopes that he may become a Christian because of my shining example. Little did I know, I was being a self-deceived hypocrite. Fortunately, my pastor had a chat with me and warned me that if I continued in that relationship, I would be ex-communicated from the church. Upon hearing this, I was finally brought to my senses. I ended my relationship with my disbelieving boyfriend. It was a very difficult decision, but my church was very supportive in helping me to find comfort and pray for him.
I don't know that there were tbh, more Christianity in culture sure, but more actual Christians? I dunno. Got to be careful before romanticising the past
A very complex question. Thank you Pastor John for your clarity. I think it’s important to note like mentioned, you could be with a believer and still sin. This speaks to the fact that there are persons who are of the same faith who are also unbelievers. “They honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me.” Matthew 15:8-9. Many persons are married and get married to believers and they lose their faith as well. I think the concept of equally yolkness extends beyond just faith but also, purpose, mindset, and values. An important thing to consider is what is the Holy Spirit saying because sometimes God allows for a person to pursue an unbeliever because he knows their heart. He also knows who is most strongest and suitable to win hearts for his kingdom. If marriage is a ministry, then the pursuit of marriage should be to bring God glory and another way that could be done is not only through marrying a believer but leading a non-believer to God through the pursuit of a godly marriage.
This is a mystery for me. There were 3 girls in my youth/college career group who married non-Christian men. All three have been happily married for more than 25 years, they are doing well financially and have nice kids. Meanwhile 30% of the women that married inside our church group or with other Christians are divorced, some are married but going through financial and relationships difficulties, many had problems with their kids, including drugs and rebellions. Some of the happiest couples I've seen are not typical church going Christians. I was on a church single's group for many years. Most divorced people there married people they met in church and they prayed for God's direction about their marriage. I really can't make any connection between being a evangelical Christian and happy marriage. Based on the number of books written, conferences, counseling, and sermons that there is much more marriage problems in churches than outside.
Well the devil will attack those in the church, and if their faith in God Ainu strong enough to withstand the storm; then they would fall. The reason, could be that many within the church restrict themselves from discussing important topics that could lead to a stable marriage...for instance, sex, roles etc I could be wrong, but that is just my observation
Here is some elses response from the comments. ''the context of the book and the surrounding context: 1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth… 2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle… 3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God… B. V14 1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol… 2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness… 3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context… 4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian… The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also… C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect… 1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." () 2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
Very well said❤ thank you🙏 I for some reason always attract satanist guys. Everytime I meet a sweet guy that I like& ask what he believes, he ends up saying that😥 but there's this 1 I really fell for& I want to be with him, but don't want to go against God💔 please keep me in prayers& thanks again for this message, it really helped alot.
@@Lauren-vd4qe I do, but I fall for em really fast. We talk for a few hours& I swear like it's love, but its not. But it'll be some random post or smthn that made us talk& we get side tracked& talk about similar stuff& connect soo good& I'm like omg hes perfect& then I'm like WAIT...lemme ask THE question..."Do u believe in God?"& they say "no I'm actually a Satanist or smthn& yeah...
@@gurlygirl5019 well instead of talking for HOURS why not go onto christian ONLY dating sites; and HERES a novel idea...ask God to send you THE ONE HE has planned for you!! quit wasting your time in places that theres virtually NO chance of finding the RIGHT ONE.. get tough on yourself and get smart on yourself...
@@Lauren-vd4qe in my original comment(9 months ago), I mentioned there was 1 I really fell for..I knew him since I was 10& he was a believer, but I haven't seen him from age 12-18. When I was 18 we caught up& I've always liked him. Well we're together now& these past few months I've been thinking about baptism& really living for God, but I cant be w/him if I'm baptised? Idk how to do this& Im stuck now& its been so hard
God says to be wise lol. not obeying that is sin. however i think in certain situations, it’s not unwise? idk prayer. but for women i think it is generally unwise since we don’t have the same authority as guys. women should follow men and vice versa so if he’s not drawing u to God he’s drawing you away.
I fully believe that this pastor's theology is very deficient here. btw, Brother Andrew never dated at all. I don't think 'more can happen' because one of them has to give their 'consent' there in that dating situation. Pastor is wrong. a believer can marry an un-believer based on 1 Cor. 7 verse 16. I will go by what the sacred scripture specifically states over fallen mankind's erroneous opinion. (note: it's called being a Berean and searching the scriptures). thank you & b4n.
Read john chapter 4 . Jesus talked to a Samaritan lady that was married 5 times .! And she was living with a guy . And Jesus did not blow her off. He offers her a drink of his water & then set her free in her heart .! And she became overcome by love and joy . So you can find answers for life from john gospel chapter 4 to solve this problem .
Hard to hear. Buts what I need to hear... I pray God sends me to a Godly woman, because I have an awful lot of committed love to give and I’m surrounded by kind and charming unbelievers...
@@troywright359 what have my profile pic gotta do with anything? Beliving becomes scary when old fairytales should affect people in modern times. And that goes for all religions.
What does Almighty God have to say folks? "14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean; and I will receive you, 18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty." 2 Corinthians @-18 (KJV).
This is from a Paul Washer Video: He was asked by some people, that they if they found them attractive they would be able to bring them to Christ through dating them. Paul Washer replied: "Well, then why don't you want to bring an ugly Person to Christ?"
I don't think I'd be too happy if someone with no romantic intentions dated me for 'missionary purposes' as advocated on this video. Not a good Christian example to be dishonest and to play with someone's emotions to pressurise them into becoming a Christian to try and move the relationship forward. I love John piper's theology but his real life advice is very poor
we sure date with love, romance, emotion with whom we wanted to date with, but we are strongly advice to not be deceive with just our feelings, it'll be more okay to love someone with the same faith.
I’m non Christian, and am dating with a Christian guy. I started to study bible for MYSELF not for him. But I’m not sure I’m doing truly for my self. He doesn’t want me to do for him. I really love him. He cried when he told me that he needs religious relationship coz I’m not Christian. We don’t decide to break up right now. We love each other. Im feeling so guilty.
Fuck what people tell you. If your happy than that’s all that matters. Who cares what either of you believe. Any religion that is making you feel guilty for being in love is immoral.
It is encouraging to hear you want to read the Bible for yourself. Continue to find God. Tell him "if you are there, show yourself to me". If you are sincere, He will show you because Jesus is alive and all need to do is Ask.
Happiness cannot be the reason an action is right. Someone can rob the bank and be happy because of the money they got. Happiness is a result of a moral action which is based on a moral code which is given by a moral giver. The question is Who has the right to give a moral code to all humanity? "Where even our conscience bear witness to it"..
Tim Collins Dear brother they are not wicked,they has been lead astray by the culture of the fallen world,we should spread the truth so more and more people will know,if God had planted His Spirit in them.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbeilievers should never be veiwed as Law although it is a law that if broken would have devestating consequences on your relationship with God. Is it a sin? No being that if you are Christ's... He died unto sin for you. So all sin is done away with for you. So withother any contradiction, there are guidings from the Holy Spirit that He will lead you or quicken you to or warn you of things that will lead you in to bondage again. One of these would be to date an unsaved person. Again I'm not making this a law because Christ died unto the law and its requirements for us to meet in order to have eternal life and that life has already been given to us through His resurrection and can never be taken away. However, we will learn that the unsaved dont have the mind of Christ so every thought of Christ in the believer is contrary to the world's thought process. You will eventually find yourself choosing if you will choose God or this person because the unregenerate mind is emnity with God meaning they are constantly at war with anything that resembles righteousness. If you say Homosexuality is not an acceptable lifestyle with God they will counter it with unrighteous reasonings because their minds havent been enlightened by the Light of God's word and will by any means rebel Another trick is they will play like they have a relationship with God all the while luring you into darkness with them. For that cause Paul writes to not be unequally yoked because you will find that you have nothing in common and are actually at odds with them. Im not saying you shouldnt try and evangelize but there must be much pray to die to self desires and cant be mixed with wanting God to save them for you. Then at that point its no longer His will but yours. Ive been through all that and it is a NO GO!!! MARRY in the body only! No commandment but just words of wisdom to keep you from the evil one
Maybe marrying a Non-Christian is a little problematic. But dating? Nah. How else is the gospel supposed to be spread if men and women can't get to know each other before sharing Christ? That said, I thought Pastor John's description of what sin "is" at the beginning of this video was absolutely amazing and very insightful.
Thank you Pastor John! I am a baptist Christian who loves the lord and I wanted to know what missionary dating was because I like this girl at work who is unbeliever I assume, and she likes me. So thank you for your answer
I agree. However, being human and wanting companionship is normal and not sinful. Gen 2-18-25 (God said it is not good to be alone. The reason behind making a woman for man as long as they are suitable). 1 Corinthian 7:2 says " But because of [the temptation to participate in] sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband." I always bring God's scriptures back to him when I feel lonely. I say this because I do desire to be in a relationship and wish to have what companionship brings..
Not all are his children, John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to those who believe in His name Not everyone believes in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior
Donald Harvey I think they’re saying that if we are all God’s children then we are all believers... and so go ahead and marry anyone... however, this is the wrong interpretation.
I'm aware os the things Jonh said is this video and I'm agree with most of them. Expect the "dating for evangelism" in the way HE DESCRIBED seems absolutely wrong, but I'll give him the credit of not been to clear. Now the thing is the Bible should be our guide to many things, but God himself is the first person to ask and listen (and with that I'm not saying the Bible is not the word of God because IT IS). And through the Holy Spirit that lives in a true believer we can make our decisions based on God's will. Now with been said I think there's is good arguments about NOT dating a non-believer, but I think is reality that you can be an instrument of God on that person's life, if this is His will. Christ should be your only aim and where your heart should rest. So listen the Holy Spirit that is with you, read the Bible and pray a lot and the answer then will come from God as it should be. I'm a person who had a previously relationship with a non-believer when I myself was one too and turned out horribly. Now Jesus is my life, He saved me from that relationship and saved me from myself when I was on the brick of suicide. I didn't hang myself that night because God used my friend to save me. The Glory is for God, not my friend or the passages I'm reading today, the Glory is for Jesus Christ. If you want to date someone that doesn't have Christ and if you really have Him, make Him the advicer, listen do other people have to say with caution, me included, and becareful of your heart, it can lead you to very dark places. Praying for everyone, we are together in Christ.
oh man, I have dated a Christian man , whatever he did with me, I wish, enemy though didn't do that thing, it was disgusting experience, I was in depression for year or 2 year. Now, I'm single but I am attracted to a men who is non-believer, even I have no idea what is going to be happen in future, but personally I believe love is god n god is love this whole world is created by lord, how we can decide to whom we should love or not. love is not a artificial emotion, its just a love, keep pray for yourself to a god, he will show you a way. love is prayer n we no need anybody's permission to love for Christian or non-christian.even god loves equally to all people.
Dating a non-Christian is like playing with a cobra? Ask older people that did so in disobedience to the Word of God. It is better to avoid making Satan the umpire in your marriage. Good luck!
It's dam near impossible to meet an available single attractive Christian woman when you live in a mostly liberal area like I do. I feel like I am totally screwed and my faith as a result is in the garbage. I actually can't even meet a halfway decent personality non-Christian female and I have to follow the Biblical rule and only date "in the Lord". I feel so dam discouraged and I have no faith, I admit it. God help my unbelief and sins.
Read this reaction from some1. ''he context of the book and the surrounding context: 1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth… 2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle… 3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God… B. V14 1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol… 2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness… 3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context… 4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian… The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also… C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect… 1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." () 2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
@@NotClosedMinded Thanks, I need to re-study these scriptures again, as a non believer is attracted to me, and I was told to believe the interpretation in church like this Pastor John. Do you have any other related scriptures that could suggest for further study?
ay ay...i dated a woman that was a believer, but she went with another guy. I was left alone about 3 months ago. Now, I am talking to another woman that is a non-believer, and we have things in common, but not Christ or the bible. I am not happy where things are.
I'm religious and I'm dating someone whom is nonreligious. I never really considered that a sin but I could understand where the man speaking in the video is coming from. However if a Christian were to fall in love with an nonreligious person and sees a possible future with them isn't it a good thing for them to follow their heart? No matter whom I'm with, God is a part of me and no one in this lifetime can take that away from me. The boy I'm with would never try to do that because he knows how passionate I am about my religion and he in fact adores me for it. I want to raise my future children to be Christian and bring them to church and all that, and if say the person I'm with supports me in my choices (which he does) and will stick by me regardless of me having different views on religion then he does, down the road then I personally don't see a problem with that. We don't fight. We explain our point of views on everything and yea we'll have disagreements but we will also have agreements and with time we will grow on our relationship. And i hope that one day we will go from being a seed to a beatiful flower. I personally believe it's ok to date a nonreligious person as long as you have good intentions and truly want to give them a chance despite their views on religion but one must understand there will be some conflict here and there. It's expected but you and the person in whom you are dating are a team. You will work together to grow together. If you truly like someone that's nonreligious and you both want to make it work you need to listen and be understanding that they may not see religion the way you do and that's ok as long as you could look past the fact that one or another may not agree on things that you believe. If your love for that person is strong enough you will be able to. And if not that's ok too. We all learn from experience and if say you are religious and are dating a nonreligious person, and you fight way to much about religion to a point where you feel like your in a toxic relationship that's something to definitely take into consideration that the relationship isn't good to be in and that you need to be with someone that has the same views as you. I personally am very passionate about my religious beliefs but i would never force my beliefs on anyone. I will however enourage my future kids and if they one day decide maybe they don't agree with my religion like i said that's perfectly fine. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion as is the person I am with. Sure we have different views on some things but we look past them because our love for each other is to strong to give up on each other for having disagreements. All couples have disagreements. It's normal.
I'm sorry, this is going to sound offensive but I really do have to speak up on this. I'm glad that your boyfriend applauds you and loves you the way he does, that's a good thing! But there's a bigger issue than you seem to realize. What you're saying is that even if your boyfriend/husband and children don't put their trust, hope, and faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, then you'll be content as long as you live together in harmony and love for one another? You say that you're personally passionate about your religious beliefs and won't force it on anyone, but if you do claim that you're passionate for Jesus Christ, then you do realize the consequence of them of not knowing Jesus? You're romanticizing dating in a way that also rejects the truth of condemnation for those who don't know Christ. If you truly love the person that you're dating that's non-christian, then shouldn't that break your heart and make you sorrowful and anguished over that person's soul? You're not looking at the condition of that person's soul; instead you're compromising (as long as everyone agrees with one another, it doesn't matter if my loved ones don't believe in God). Opinion does not suppress truth... Even if you say that everyone is entitled to their opinion, that doesn't remove the fact that their souls are condemned into hell unless they personally know Jesus Christ as their Lord and savior. Good intentions will not remove the truth. Him adoring you for your passion for Christianity will not remove the truth. Your love for each other that's seemingly strong will not remove the truth. Yes, people are entitled to their own opinion, but that self-entitlement from God's everlasting truth is a different story. You and I can disagree on certain things and that's okay (the same with people in relationships, families, etc.), however, there are no exceptions to God's truth. Honestly, that's great that you guys seem to have a great relationship (even though it's clearly a command that God gives to us that non-christians should not be yoked with believers) but if you truly do love him then you would keep praying and yearn for God to change his heart (AND EVEN THEN, there's the issue of whether you put your husband and children before God or if you have God as your primarily, first love before the love for your loved ones on Earth).
Joseph Kim Thank you for the Godly truth in your response. I am believer that knowingly got into a relationship with an unbeliever. I know this was an act of disobedience and am in anguish over his soul. Im devastated by the man that I love resisting what I live for and desire the most. He is a good man and I deeply yearn for him to know Christ personally. Imagine how much more incredible he would be. In my repentance I have made the commitment to not marry him until he comes to Christ. I have made the commitment to unceasingly pray for his heart to change and in faith to await his salvation. Is this not enough? Should I not even be involved with him? Uncertain lover of Jesus over here!
Yeah Joseph really said it best here. I would just ask why would you want to date a non-christian? If you love the Lord and know that he loves you and knows what's best for your life, then why would you knowingly go against his word and be unequally yoked with an unbeliever? Why would you pick someone who doesn't love the lord and have Jesus as their saviour over someone who does? It doesn't make sense. We should put our father in heaven first in our lives. Trusting and knowing that he knows what's best, not us. You should fall in love with another Human because you see Jesus in them and you love Jesus. Remember that when we are saved we are a new creation in Christ. If Jesus is at the centre of your life and is everything you are, then why date someone (dating eventually leads to marriage) who doesn't share those same beliefs. I would say, be friends with that person you like! Share the gospel with them. And then if they make a decision to follow Jesus and fall in love with God then you go ahead and date them :p
@Khwezi Mlaba I apologize for my late response, but I don't think I can really give you advice because I don't personally know you: your mind and heart in this. There may be issues that I have towards relationships which may or may not help you (Even though everyone has their own opinions/biases). My recommendation is to go to your local pastor about the questions you have and to continue to pray. Pray for knowledge, wisdom, empowerment, and convictions. That being said, even though I can't personally give advice on whether or not you should stay committed to that person, there are questions to think about and reflect on. This article I've found is pretty helpful in thinking about these kinds of issues (The advices given can also be applied to people that are struggling in non-christian relationships, not just before it starts). jarridwilson.com/before-dating-a-non-christian/ 3 questions we should really ask ourselves before or even during non christian relationships (if you're still in one) 1. What are my motives? 2. Will this hinder my relationship with God? 3. What does the Bible say? Be sure to read the entire article! I'd say pray and reflect with these questions in mind. If you see that your motives and relationship isn't aligned with God's will in scripture, then it's probably best to not be involved with the person. But as you know already... What I say isn't final haha Hopefully this comment reaches you soon
I’m a Christian but I’m in love with a Muslim even though he’s not practicing Islam. I’m trying to show him who Jesus is but not getting very far. I’m so scared of a heartbreak. :( why can’t I be with him???? He’s respecting and supporting my faith.
I think if you're feeling guilty it's a sign that he wasn't for you. I too have a relationship with a Muslim but the fact that I'm not living in peace is God way to say to me that i should not pursue it. It still difficult but God loves us so we need trust Him.
1 Corinthians 7 is quite Clear on this issue, as long as the non-believer wants to be with you, yes. God will respect that relationship and your Children, according to Paul.
Agree with Rodrigo and Natalie. jman doesn't read the Bible carefully. It clearly states that if you are ALREADY married and THEN become a believer, you ought not to leave your spouse. But as to those that willfully sin whilst dating: God is not fooled by your trying to know better. Whom are you following: Christ? Or that big liar Satan... Anyone in doubt just read the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7. It sheds much light.
Recently my partner broke up with me because he wasn't born again and we had sex and made me fall into other sins as well...he does believe in God and he loved me so much but he felt very ashamed for taking my virginity. I hope he will genuinely come to Jesus one day...I hope we will reunite again I don't want to give my body to someone else 🙁
I still didn't have sex... But my unbelieving ex and me kissed and did some things....i feel the same after break-up... I don't want to give my body to someone else etc etc.... But when God is our priority.... Maybe we should just let His will be done. Btw... It's been 5 months... How's things now?
this video is odvious for true christians because its odvious that everyone that has something negative to say doesn t understand sin and your painful life is shown in your words smart people comment only on topics they understand don t show your ignorance
My life is perfectly painless and happy and I’m an atheist. Of course I don’t understand the concept of sin. Why would I allow a thousand year old book to dictate how I live my life. Here is a thought, do what makes you happy and be a good person. I don’t need the Bible, or any other religion, to do that.
@@bryce2939 define a hole and being nice. you are creating a standard that you believe benefits you, and otheras as well by the designation as an oppoiste to 'good person'.
2 Corinthians 2:11 Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. Ephesians 5:3 But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
This is true, but our relationship with sin should be that we want to stay as far away from it as possible, repent, and strive to get closer to God. Not to sin then fall on forgiveness while actually being pulled farther from Christ
It's Christ's righteousness that is imputed unto us and nothing in of ourselves but you are not of Christ if you continue to live in sin and justify it by saying "well I'll be forgiven anyways so it's okay". You have no love for God with such a mentality but the exact opposite and not only are you living in sin but you are also spitting on what Christ has done for you. There is a difference between living FOR sin and living FOR Christ. Living for Christ means you are no longer serving sin, but this does not mean you are now sinless or that your "living in sin" lifestyle is now completely justified.
Im Living with my boyfriend , and hes not Christian , unfortunate. I really ned prayers for this situation. I need help to get right with god and all the practical stuff too.. my head and heart is heavy over this, mostly because i want him to get saved and know god the Way i have experienced him. This is my Third time ive moved in with my boyfriend. I probably havent learned anything yet. I feel so stupid and numb. Please god get me out of this in the best Way possible. Not my Will but your Will 😭😭
I guess I'm not fit for any relationship with anyone because I'm a non-believer. If that's the case, then so be it. If I die alone, perhaps when it comes to that or I do it earlier, depends on what I decide for myself.
Is there marriage that really not a Will of God? But how can you remarry with a Christian if long way before you were not still a Christian when you got married with your Non-Christian husband too
+Hailey Vella Let that person pursue God or who he is rather than just so they can be with you. The best you can do is end yor situation and strengthen your relationship with Christ whilst praying that he also pursues him... for his own salvation, not just so that you can be with him. You have to be selfless here and let him go.... If the Lord wills or you both to be together, it will happen but dont try to force this.
+Hailey Vella I would agree with Ashley below. If you really want this person to meet Christ then you need to step away completely and allow God to encounter them if He will. Otherwise you could be standing in the way of him meeting Jesus. While he has his eyes on how amazing you are, he may not be able to see how much he needs to have his eyes on Jesus. I have done this twice...before I really learned. Both men I dated at (different times and years) they were non christian, both were so keen to come to church, one got "saved" and baptised. When God convicted me of my error in dating them I ended the relationship. Where are they now? Not with God, not at church, having nothing to do with Jesus. Why? Because they weren't actually going to church for Jesus...but for me. Stay strong honey. Fix your eyes on Jesus He is all you need and more
I agree with Kirsty and Ashley. You cannot step in between a man or a woman who's about to come to the Lord. The same applies to a situation where a man or woman who just accepted Christ Jesus as Lord and are at the beginning stages of their walk, you also need to back away from them, because their desire and love for Jesus can be compromised by the desire and love for you over God. I myself have a desire to date, but now know it may cause me to stumble and fall away from God. I was originally saved back in June of 2013, but fell quickly from pursuing God to pursuing my selfish wants and became no different than that of a Pharisee. I had no relationship with God up till about a week ago. My awakening for God happened Valentine's day 2016 as I realized how truly alone I was with no girl in my life. I then put too much focus on hoping God would give me a woman, but he convicted me of my relationship with Him. Ever since, I've been pursuing God above all. I got a million flaws yet, but I now know all I truly need is Jesus and to desire Him above all. Thank Jesus for my new found true walk in Him!
wtf ppl. I was in the exact same situation and breaking up forcefully is SO WRONG. it will only scar him and scar yourself as well by forcibly ending a relationship. if the relationship shall not work out, it won't turn out to work out eventually. NO FRUCKING NEED TO END IT FORCIBLY
Pursue friendship with him. Don't seriously date. Maintain the standards of holiness that the Lord gives us and make sure you seek the Lord first in all things. The Lord's standard of holiness does not change; if you compromise they may not grow and you definitely won't.
In my experience I dated a girl, and she wasn’t a believer in Christ. (Christian). But what attracted me was her character and how interested she was about my faith. Which I was very open to her about. Christ is king in my life, and I live daily to put God first.
So I dated her because we had chemistry and in this dating period she got to see my faith in action. I would answer her questions about Christ and salvation which she would always question. But she would always stay interested. And eventually she gave her life to God and proclaimed Christ as King in her life.
So I married her. She’s my helper and we help each other grow in character with God. We pray together, we serve together. If she would have never came to faith then I wouldn’t have married her to put it simply.
That I do agree on, but dating a non believer I see no problem. The scriptures don’t say anything about dating. Zip. Old Testament or New Testament. But it does on marriage. So having a clear understanding on what marriage is truly important. This is my story hopefully it helps somebody out there.
Hi! Thank you for your well-needed testament.
I recently just fell into the same situation as you - he's a very curious man who initiates asking questions about my faith, except that he already has some negative views about christianity to begin with (yet he still maintains neutrality as he understands my faith more).
Sometimes we'd have fruitful discussions about my faith, and usually they go well, and he'd be very sensitive and caring about the talks lest it hurts me in any way. For now at least, I kinda worry sometimes that I don't give a good/correct picture of my faith to him. I guess like you said, I should continue to do what I need - "live daily to put God first" and exemplify my faith in my life, while praying a lot for him. If he leaves eventually because of this, then I guess this is a way of God's answer to me.
A lot of endurance and focus is needed. And never forgetting who truly is my desire is important. Of course I hope this relationship turns out well, but if it doesn't, I pray that God will catch me when I fall and cry.
That being said, do you have any advice you could give? For instance, the ways you explained your faith to her, and how did you manage to make sure that she didn't proclaim salvation for your relationship but truly for herself? Thank you!
@@lxmgg Hello, by my experience I went through very similar thoughts. Especially on the idea the partner could potentially just be doing all these questions and talking about faith just to keep us around.
I’d say keep reminding yourself the big picture, God is always first above the other person. Keeping a good perspective on the entire foundation of the relationship. If the partner is asking healthy questions and your providing the best answers you know how that’s progress.
I’d say one area where people of faith might find challenging is maintaining patience on the “conversations of your Christianity”
The process and progress is a slow one, A tree doesn’t grow in a day.
The temptation on our end is wanting the relationship to work when it’s clearly not going anywhere.
One of the ways of seeing those indications is having an outside friend of faith you trust in the loop.
You have to be honest to yourself and God, as well as the boyfriend/girlfriend on your actions, they deserve the truth on your intentions as well. If they stick around to ask questions then be that person of faith for them.
But always be gentle like a dove and wise as a snake. Try to figure out the person you like’s intentions.
Stay pure to yourself and to God, and to your boyfriend. Don’t awaken the sexual intimacy, this also helps maintain a proper view of the relationship.
@@ramonbarrera8341 It's amazing how we can connect like this. I'm really grateful for your wise advice! And also, I'm happy for you that it turned out all well :)
I've just got one more question and I'm going to be very honest here - I have done some of what you said in the last paragraph about "awakening the sexual intimacy". And it's a pity that I've "awakened" it, as it makes it harder to go backwards although it's still possible.
Given that my partner and I are in a long-distance relationship now, I'd hate to admit but I think that some degree of sexual intimacy is needed to keep things going. Perhaps I'm wrong and it doesn't have to be sexual. I think it's definitely going to be hard to maintain the intimacy especially when I've got the 2 hard things going in my relationship right now: 1) dating a non-Christian ; 2) being miles apart from each other.
How did you and your partner keep things afloat without the sexual intimacy? Would there be any tips/reminders you could enlighten me with? Thanks so much!
@@lxmgg Hey there! I’m in the exact situation as you. I hope things are going well for you. I’m currently dating a girl and we are in a long-distance relationship. We go to separate colleges and it’s been about 2 years. I originally started dating her not thinking it was a sin to date non-Christians. I think I knew it would be unwise to marry a non-Christian, but this is my first relationship and I really wasn’t heading toward marriage. I’m still not heading toward marriage, and neither is she, as we both still have to enter into medical school. However, about a month ago I believe I was convicted pretty hard after hearing a sermon about not marrying unbelievers, so I broke up with her and we were both distraught. However she said it didn’t make any sense as she was still learning about Christianity and wanted to continue to learn more. I told her that I didn’t want to influence her to make a decision to follow Christ for me, as it’s disingenuous and not true faith. She said she knows, and she wouldn’t want to marry me if she doesn’t believe in Christianity in the first place, but she told me that she knows that talking about Christ is 90% of my personality, and if she was ever turned off from this she would have left a long time ago. I decided to continue the relationship by answering her questions and we decided we would go to church together whenever we visited each other on the weekends. She knows we can’t marry unless she comes to the Lord, but she wants to give the relationship a chance just in case she decides to (she still has to learn more and sort out her own questions before she makes a genuine decision).
However it’s hard because I hear some pastors talk about dating unbelievers as sin, and I don’t want to sin against God. He’s more important to me than any girl, and I completely understand now why it would be unwise to marry a non-Christian. I think it’s pretty clear biblically. I’m just worried that continuing relationship is sin (even if we both know we can’t marry until she sorts things out) I don’t think it is but certain things I read online really do bother me, and it makes me fearful. Just know you’re not alone! Also, depending on what you mean on sexual intimacy, it could be sin. If it’s just stuff like kissing or cuddling, you’re fine. But if it’s sexual immorality in the biblical sense I would steer clear. I’m not being judgemental I’m just trying to help. My girlfriend and I both want to wait until marriage but obviously being alone with the opposite sex leads to temptation, so while we’re both virgins we have gotten pretty heated in the past and we had to put a stop to it.
@@thomasbagwell2084 Hey Thomas! Wow really glad to hear that someone out there is in the exact same situation. Maybe there are actually a lot of us in this situation, but we don't really voice out. Thank you for being open and letting me know I'm not alone in it.
Don't worry about sounding possibly "judgemental" or anything, I certainly most appreciate this openness and timely reminders. It's really really easy to get lost along the way and it is precisely being open about our own struggles like this that can help us receive gentle rebukes that lead us back to Christ. So thank you!
There are actually updates to my situation. My guy has always been opposed to LDR, and back then he really liked me so much so he asked me out. But he took back his decision after a week because he was so uncomfortable about it. And I think that's fair. It's hard for him, and he's not ready. I did lots of thinking and talking to friends before embracing this attitude of understanding.
But that being said, he was still clearly fond of me. And the same goes for me. So I've made plans to go meet him this summer, to see how things will really turn out. It's really a leap of faith, because after summer, he may or may not continue the relationship. And I trust that God's going to lead the way through this. No matter which way it's going to turn out, God's in control of it and I just gotta stick close to what He wants me to do, for e.g. in the aspect of sexual intimacy.
He did tell me his reservations. Even if LDR wasn't an issue, he didn't think we would be possible because we both wanna date to marry, and I made it clear that I only wanna marry christians. On this aspect, I really have no control over anything. I can only continue to show him how a christian loves - how Christ loves - and if the time is up, I guess it's up. I move on. Maybe God has a better plan for him.
Thank God I have a brother in Christ close to me who reminds me constantly that, God loves the guy I like too. So anything I do that dishonors God, I am basically dishonoring the guy I like. This has always been a powerful message to me, and I hope it also gives you a good reminder to push on and live out the Christ within you :)
I agree on most of the things he's said.
However, I don't agree with the part where he basically said if you're dating a non-believer for evangelism, it's okay. In that situation, you are basically lying (or putting on a facade, etc.) towards that other person, with the hidden (or even unhidden) intention of bringing them to God. But God doesn't need your "lies" to bring Him glory; it's about trusting His power to be greater than anything. If your heart is genuinely for that person to be saved, there are other ways to do it than through dating them!!
I think he meant, if you define a "date" as an appointment over pizza or coffee... that's why he asks, how do you define "dating" because some people may casually say they're going on a date with a friend, coworker, classmate, etc.... the word dating isn't just reserved for romance
+Milliene Xu > if you're dating a non-believer for evangelism
This is a honeytrap, isn`t it?
Please tell me what's the other way besides dating them? Just curious.
@@gsgaming4403 For example, how about soliciting a person to believe in God at gunpoint?
@@falknorman1 i agree with u
It just leads to a path of you wrestling with God and your conscience. Avoid it completely.
The guy was amazing but I was never settled in that relationship because the Holy Spirit kept convicting me. I treated him badly hoping he would leave and get a more compatible partner. He eventually got tired and left me completely devastated. It has been a week since he left but the pain is still very raw. I don't want to get out of bed. I can't stop crying. Thankfully, I deleted his phone number and so there is no other way I can contact him. I don't have an option but to move on. I regret getting into a relationship with this man. Never Again! Please pray for me.
@@felliesweetie i will
Yeah I’m there now. Wrestling with God and with what i want. He’s such a nice guy 😭😭
@@Fierclyfabulous why not you asking creator to give you inner peace?
I just got out of a almost 3 year relationship that I was in before I became born again and found the grace of god. It’s been hard but I look forward to the future with Yahweh
It will draw you away from your personal relationship with God
This is true , In my most recent relationship it made me lose my dignity and I realized that the only true love is of Jesus Christ and the marriage under his covenant
Not always.
It's funny how ppl will put a fictional character above their partner, they deserve better leave him so he can have someone that appreciates something real instead of your fake pagan ass
..or draw your partner closer to God. It depends. If you pray, God will find you the right partner.
That’s why sometimes God let the relationship ends.
Syn Nium it’s just a metaphor sweetheart!
@@abandff ending relationship not big deal now!
@@shafuimcoming5151 It is
Ending it also benefits the non-Christian. Dating a fundie Christian can be an insufferable nightmare.
@@socksumi Oh yeah Im sure its worse than dating someone who is living in unrepentant sin. lol
Dear God give us the serenity to accept what can not be changed. The courage to change what can be changed and the wisdom to know one from another. Serenity prayer.
If marriage is the only way to bring people to Christ then why not marry non believers ?The reason why so many people are dieing Without JESUS.Changed from fishermen to fishers of men. Win win win people for him we do not know the day nor the hour but it is no longer soon it is near and here.
@@anyangolilian2225 Because they can and most possibly will corrupt you instead of the other way around.
People never want to hear the truth .
The truth in this comment. Literally the perfect reply for some of the comments posted here.
Using the word "people" meaning everyone is stereotypical .. Everyone is different, not "all" people are the same. I want to know what's right in God's eyes, God's will. John Piper is truly gifted in helping me understand God's word.
I agree with you shezsohot
I pray truth leads you to changing your very revealing avatar, showing cleavage is not pleasing to God. Does that truth hurt?
It’s her choice and your reaction ( @Keith Thompson)
From my personal experience, I dated a Jewish man from Israel, and one non believer. As much as I so loved them, and prayed to God to let me have a relationship work out with them God really didnt want me to be with these men. It has taken me 18 years and I see the outcome and now I am glad I didnt marry a non believer. I stand behind what the bible says. Dont date a non believer. Especially if Christ is a big part of your life.
+Kerry Brett well done girl. similar situations for me. We need to remember Jesus has our best interests at heart, He knows what is best, if He says don't do it its because it will not be good for us! xx Good on you for being obedient, I'm proud sister!
Kerry Leigh amen, thankyou for that
I disagree & yet another religious advice. I’m Christian & dating Muslim. Didn’t deliberately set out to date a Muslim but love him regardless & He is a good soul. As night is separate from day we learn to live in both conditions. Our only difference is the God we serve & abide in. I will love him and pray for his salvation but do I think I have sinned against God. Definitely not - judgment is the Lords & I don’t live my life based on people’s interpretation of what they think God wants. I trust God can convert a life. I don’t have the power to, only God. But I will continue to love my man as he is however he comes.
Kerry Leigh thank you for your boldness. I’m currently going through this situation now where I was dating a non believer. We were actually living together until The Lord saves me. For the last 2 months after my conversion (by God’s Grace) , I struggled with it almost everyday until I asked her to marry me and she said, “no”. Then I told her that we can’t be together anymore because I do not want to live in sin anymore. It’s so hard for me to have broken up with her because I feel her pain of rejection and also I did promise her before that I would never leave her. That promise was broken because of Christ. Please pray for my perseverance and that God saves my x girlfriend not for my sake but for His sake.
Luv4Musika, Have you seen the movie "Not without my daughter"? It is about a lukewarm Christian woman that marries a muslim man. All seems well for years, until they visit his country of origin. Then he is pressured by his family to treat her according to islamic rules. She gets abused and imprisoned in her home by a man, who resembles in no way the guy she fell in love with.
If you feel you must disagree with the Bible, than do so. But don't call yourself a Christian if you have such contempt for God's word. You want it your way? Fine, but you will reap what you sow.
"you can date a Christian and be sinning" dang. That's truth right there. I came into this episode with the mindset of: "oh this is obvious; while it's not necessarily a sin to date a non-Christian, it most likely will be because whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. And even if it isn't sin it's still a bad idea." And then Pastor John hit me with that bomb and reminded me of how much I don't know.
Nice avatar Shepherd
It’s all fun and games until your partner’s savior turns out to be the Anti-Christ...
Ohhh boi 😂😂😂
When I see how difficult a marriage is even when two people are a united front with same beliefs, being with a nonbeliever is hell on earth. In the long term and in the end it would be a huge disappointment knowing the spouse didn't have that deep bond & amazing understanding of faith with you.
Tinker Diggens Really I have been married to a Buddist for 20+ years now
Hey Adam, and now I do understand where your strange logic comes from. You've been influenced by the buddist. And that is exactly the reason why God forbids such marriages, for they easily become a trap in spiritual ways, that people don't see nor recognize. But others do see it.
Tinker is wise.
We are together 10 years and trust me, our relationship is heaven! Don't speak about things you don't truly know sister
Garden Joy that is, sorry, bullshit
Eden, So you are calling God's Word bullshit now? How come it is all about your relationship with another person being 'heaven'. Isn't being humble and obedient to God worth more than having it your way?
If you love a non believer (as we should love everyone) and if you date someone you know dosen't believe in Jesus christ, then it is our job to share the truth again. Out of this could result that he or she converts and accepts Jesus christ. We cannot evade others just because he or she doesn't believe. If you are dating someone that dosent believe then use that situation to potentially bring life to that individual and give them everlasting life. Out of love we must peruse the lost.
Very well said. God bless you.
Struggling HARD dating a non believer,Thank you and please keep me in your prayers.
Leave her, it's that simple really.
Same
I agree leave her, she deserves better than a pagan.
I’ll keep you in my prayers. I hope you and hopefully your significant other will be drawn closer to Christ. I understand from personal experience that it’s not as simple as just breaking up. You want to see them when we reunite with our father. You have love which is a Godly thing but we must continue act Godly. It’s hard
At the end of the day if you are alive in Christ, why would you want to be with someone dead in Satan?
End of.
jyseninthecloud So if God put a person that was a nonbeliever in your path to share a life together with you and the is no chance only Gods plan for you do you go against Gods plan for you and this nonbeliever or do you except the gift God has laid out for you
Adam, have answered you before how unlogic this way of thinking is. God doesn't want believers to marry unbelievers. So it will never be God's plan for them in the first place to marry an unbeliever.
jyseninthecloud because christ gives you eternal life no matter what! Jesus said: love your enemies!!!!
Eden, love your enemies is NOT the same as dating and marrying them. Also !!!!
Amen
I was unequally yoked, and God took him out of my life. God spoke to me ( happens rarely) and said, " John was idolatry, I'm a jealous God"
but God spoke it in a nice way. I'm single now. and won't date a non believer ever again. I sinned so so so so much.
Traci H I was also married to a nonbeliever and he was my idol. When we met, I wasn't following the Lord, but after we were together I turned back to Christ. My nonbelieving spouse became very jealous of my relationship with the Lord and he (my husband) persecuted me in my own home for it.
One thing I never had being married with a nonbeliever was someone to pray in agreement. The more and more I pray, as a single woman, with people after church, the more I realize that this I is an incredible gift that I missed out on. I so desire to have a spouse that will turn with me to the Lord in prayer and who will pursue a relationship with the Lord both independently and with me. It is very difficult to be married to someone who dies not have their security in the Lord, nor do they have the love of Christ in them. It is hard for someone to love us fully when they do not have the experience of being loved fully (being loved by the Lord).
Traci H could you share your testimony with me in more depth? I just broke up with my Muslim boyfriend because I couldn’t decide if wrong or right because his values lined up with mine and we got a long so great but deep down I would love a husband I could worship and pray with. Most Christian marriages I know struggle so much and don’t pray or study together so it doesn’t seem any better than other marriages anyway. I would love for you to share what Hod revealed to you.
Maria H thank you for sharing this. I just broke up with my Muslim boyfriend because I really want someone I can worship and raise godly children with.
Sounds like you worship John that's why God said he was a idolatry in your heart and that God was jealous. You put them in the place of God in your heart that isn't John issue that was your issue
reyelfather who are you speaking to?
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
LOL..Do you even really know what those statements mean?
+Tatisha Strange do you know what those statements mean? If so, explain to me and I will gladly read them.
+Tatisha Strange pls explain
So every Christian is right and every other religion practiced all over the world (or lack thereof) is wicked and wrong and evil. There is no gray area. So, if you are a Christian and you're a pedophile, you're righteous, but if you're an atheist with good morals, you are wicked. Light and dark, simple. This is coming from your holy book. Out of the thousands of religions ever to have existed, yours is the one and only true one. Use critical thinking skills and get off your high horse.
Tatisha Strange LOL, too funny! Right.
The Bible is clear on this issue. Marrying an unbeliever is a sin. (2 Cor 6:14; 1 Cor 7:39) The reason so many people want to argue with such a clear standard is that men "suppress the truth by their unrighteousness." (Rom 1:18)
If a person is a true believer, they love Jesus. Jesus said, “If God were your Father, you would love me." (John 8:42) Jesus also said "Whoever hates me hates my Father also." (John 15:23) A union between a believer and an unbeliever is a union between someone who loves God and someone who hates God. They might not *say* that they hate God, but to reject Jesus is to reject God. (Luke 10:16)
Who do you love more? Jesus? Or your unsaved boyfriend/girlfriend?
Thank you brother!
You want to know something the reason why I am so bitter towards Christian relationships is because of my ex girlfriend who is in the church used me to get what she wants.
@@JoshuaLeggans she's not a Christ follower then. you should read bible and know real characteristic of what Christ followers would behave.
@@arthurbelljames I know what to do
This is true 😢
The first part of this response was exactly what I needed to hear. May God show us what our hearts treasure.
I feel like We should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. I know your intent may be to change them and lead them to Christ, but the danger is that the unbeliever may lead you astray. I have personally been there and it is very stressful being with someone who does not truly love Christ, they will even mock you and put down your commitment to GOD. summation, do not do it.
hi. its what I'm going through too
I’m currently in this situation and we’ve lived together for a year now. I got closer to God these past few months and regret moving in. I pray but I still feel trapped in this situation. I want the best for him but he’s made it clear that he respects my beliefs and wants nothing to do with them. It’s tragic really :(
Lol I am married to a woman who practices Wicca
It’s a recipe for disaster
I'm in my two months relationship with a guy who is from Iran and who comes from a Muslim family, but as per him he don't like their religion and beliefs. And I'am a christian a leader of the youth ministry. We enter in a relationship so fast, that me myself really couldn't believe at first to fall for him easily. On our 2nd day of knowing each other, he confessed to me his mental illness (bipolar disorder) and even his darkest past and ugly character.
But after knowing those things, instead of rejecting him like what I normally do to those guys who try to pursue me that cause me to become a so called "No Boyfriend Since Birth", there is a voice and a force who speaks to my heart says "don't leave him". Days passed by we know each other more specially our weaknesses and our struggles in life. I shared him words of God and I always pray for him.. Then one day he told me... " I want to be converted into christian, when I come there in the Philippines".
I did not asked him to be converted actually, I just share some of my stories about my faith journey, some opinions when he asked me if I'm him what should i do, I just share how Christ works in my life. And also, it never affected my faith. To be honest he makes me realized and proved that "Loves cover multitudes of sin", it is not my love, but the love of God. I do believed that the voice who speaks to me is God. He wants me stay in contact to my bf to show His love, grace and mercy through me. And until now he is growing with his faith, last week he told me that he had a deep talked to God that he surrendered his plan for revenge to his aunt who casted evil spell to him and his family, she is a witch. And he also told me that, he really experiencing true peace now, is becomes motivated about life, he has a joy in his heart and specially he feels that God is beside him...
So I just shared this story to you guys, but I don't say that it is not bad to date a non believer. Yes it maybe works for me, but it does not mean it will work with you guys too...
Just always pray to God, if your are still not in a relationship and you love that person ask for God's confirmation. Now if you are already in a relationship, ask for God's wisdom and guidance. And you will know the tree from it's fruit, when you noticed that it affected your spiritual life, your devotions, your prayers, your character and your faith... That is a red mark brothers and sisters.
I made this mistake and no good came from it.
Amen. I pray God gives us the grace
God bless you for making this video! Help people that need to be saved!
I'm a happy atheist, thank you very much
I once heard a well known Bible teacher say this and it has always anchored me in the reality of the real issue at hand here.
He said "If you marry an unbeliever, beware your father-in-law"
When you fully consider until you understand what that means, only then will you understand the real issue and the necessary caution to stay within the Apostles teachings in the Scriptures.
ChildOf GodsGrace the farther in law means devil o shii
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But what if she doesn't have a father?
Wow! I will remember that in my sharing the gospel. What a great statement.! Wonderful wonderful insight...... In fact I just used it in the comment below this one. Thank you
Dang that hits different
Remember, it is not unequally yolked, as in an egg. It is unequally yoked, as in the burden an ox has to carry. If your future spouse is not a believer, chances are neither is his/her family. They will be a weight on you and a strain on your marriage. The load to bare is too much for one person. The family you will marry into will not understand, or tolerate, the mind set you have. They will see your faith as a nuisance or even as a foe. Marriage is tough enough. Why add to it? Look, I did not listen to God;s wisdom and relied on my own and it made for areal bad situation. Look, if you will not listen to God's advice, why wold I expect you to take mine? I speak from experience.
I give this as a warning from the present. The non-believer will promise to change, but since they haven't already, they will revert to the family patterns that raised them. It is not your job to convert them. It is time to look elsewhere. Better a broken heart now, then a broken life later.
I don't believe in dating. I believe in friendships in groups until God reveals to the couple a greater purpose than friendship. Then they can go from friends to a committed relationship. I'm speaking to Christian's of course. I'm unequally yoked. I was desperate and made bad decisions. I've learned my lesson, but I can't unmarry him.
Negative. The "group friendship" crap is just a waste of time. Put in months of time having fleeting interaction with someone, never really getting to know them. Then if they pass some vibe test and you both are interested, then it's ok to ask them out.
It's stupidity. The moment I tossed that aside, God put a stranger in my life who is everything a biblical wife should be. And it didnt take months of friendzone to make a relationship happen.
I think to say "I don't believe in dating" is a little disingenuous. You have to date people, whether you call it dating or not!
The only alternative is to be friends with someone until you decide to get married - this is not how relationships work. Between friendship and marriage, all relationships have a period of love (romantic love, a deeper relationship that friendship) - this period can be generally referred to as "dating", whether you call it that or not!
yes you can unmarry him. separate from him completely and wait until he commits a sexual sin; then you can divorce him. thats how i unloaded an unbelieving spouse. didnt take long!!
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I just want to say that intentionally isolating yourself from someone in order to encourage them to seek love with someone else is kind of evil. I have never read a RUclips comment from someone so proudly saying they did something so hurtful.
@@MrLordFireDragon u are making decision without knowing all the facts dude; my ex was VERY abusive to me in ALL ways THATS why I left him. he wd have caused my death; the police told me to buy a g un and leave the area immediately which i did. it saved my life.
I think you have to listen to the Holy Spirit and not grieve him. If you’re dating someone and then become born again ask the Holy Spirit what you should do. But I wouldn’t recommend entering a dating relationship with someone who is a non believe with the idea “oh but God I can bring them to you and you can change them” because I’m reality it’s easier for them to bring you down than for you to pull them up. But we also can’t dismiss the possibility of the spirit leading you to date someone. Pray and seek the lord and he will reveal all things to you for he is not a god of confusion.
yes
Abe P yes I have a point but his message and Bible is clear. “ you cannot be unequally yoked”!!
You can't marry them, period, that's what the word says, and the Holy Spirit will not contradict God's world, sounds like your listening to your emotions.
this is so amazing because when a believe say they don't want to marry a nonbeliever, they are looked funny by nonbeliever and think or even say ' you think you better then us' . its not about being better then anyone, for scripture says count others as more valuable but it's about having to live life with this person who does not see Christ as supreme. its like you and this person are going two completely different direction in life, you don't have the Same goals, you, its to glorify God and to live in light of eternalty and that person its to live for the here and now and glorify themselves. this is why it's important that a believes marrys a believer.
Rebecca Kamara And if it was Gods plan of this nonbeliever to be apart of your life and that life was to be together as man and wife, who are you to question that plan, after all, if the meeting of a man and woman was not meant to be then they would not have met because there is no chance only Gods plan for us.
Adam, you didn't think your comment through. God doesn't go in against what He said before. He is truth. Completely. So He never does anything that is not in line with Himself. He doesn't want any Christian to marry a non-Christian. And for good reason.
So He wouldn't plan for a nonbeliever to be part of your life to begin with. You write: "if the meeting of a man and woman was not meant to be, then they would not have met." You lost me there. We meet thousands of people every month. In public transport, in the workplace, in the supermarket, etc. It is our preferences and our decisions to turn any stranger into a friend, or more. The question here is: Are our preferences and decisions in line with God's commands and wishes?
There is not only God's plan for us. Sadly most people live outside of God's plan for them. They live after their own desires, ignoring God's will. If you want to know what God wants, I suggest you start studying your Bible. Begin with the New Testament, but do not leave the Old Testament out. You will gain much insight in how God deals with (His) people.
This doesn't mean that God doesn't show mercy and grace in this time and age. He does so continually, for He wants all people to repent of their sin and believe in Jesus Christ as Lord. But not even God gets what He wants all the time, for still many people sadly keep Him at an unsafe distance.
Hope you are not one of those.
Sometimes people want to know what God's will is for their lives. My answer is always the same: He has profusely made His will known in the Bible. Read that first and apply that first. That accounts for at least 90% of God's will for you. If there is anything special, He will lead you in His ways, IF you are willing to do the first 90% first. How can He lead you, if you are rebelling against His already stated will?
Rebecca Kamara what happens if you already married him before you were saved
Hannah Carrillo the Bible says that you remain married to him and pray that God will save him too.
The bible says "the truth will set you free", most people don't want to hear the truth.
Peace, Love, Joy, Hope, Faith.
What Piper fails to mention is that being married to someone, without God, can destroy your spouse spiritually. If your spouse is a carnal or lukewarm Christian, or even more so, an unbeliever; your attempts to win them Christ by being an example and encouraging them to draw closer to God; may lead to them despising you and rejecting God. They may become lost because they were never truly ready for a truly saved spouse and had no idea of the pressure put on them to be truly saved.
Therefore, you can make your spouse reject Christ if you are a godly influence. But what may likely also happen is your spouse may draw you into carnality if they are a carnal Christian; or into sin if they are an unbeliever. This will eventually ruin your testimony for Christ, and again, cause your spouse to reject God when they see a so- called Christian sinning.
Thus, many Christians in the comments, are only seeking a spouse because of themselves- their loneliness, their emptiness, their pain. And they may be tempted to risk their relationship with God to make themselves happy. But what about your spouse? If God doesn't ordain the marriage, you can cost them their soul and be the deciding factor of why they end up in hell. What a terrible feeling! Now, God allows for marriages to stay together if a couple is already married and one becomes a believer but if one is single then they should remain that way until God provides a spouse. To do otherwise may damn yourself; but even worse, the one you dearly love, your spouse. You do not want this on your conscience.
Also, what is ironic is that you may end up single anyway. Your spouse may leave because they may reject the pressure to be saved if you are a godly spouse. Or you may have to leave because of repeatedly being drawn into lukewarmness or sin if you are not a godly spouse.
Therefore, single Christians should be content to be single because you can ruin someone else's life and soul. It is not all about you. This is from someone who ignored God, got married, and had a terrible 10 year marriage. My husband is still unsaved and may now never seek God because of my ungodly behavior by being drawn into sin. I also terribly hurt my relationship with God in the process. And end the end I am now single which is what God asked of me in the first place. I deeply regret this and wish I would have been content in Christ alone.
Thank you for sharing Deana. Through your experiences you can lead many other Christians, and to help build the BODY OF CHRIST.
God is not done with you yet. He's never done with us, whether we like it or not... and it's just incredible to think of how loving and merciful our almighty GOD is. If I may say however, don't worry about the past, but focus on the future-for any time soon THE LORD will return in all HIS mighty glory and grace!!!!!!! So let's get excited for that day of jubilee, and ask GOD to take from your hands all of your pains and all of the other things that you've been holding on to!!!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU sister
I am an example of marrying non believer and finally ended up in divorce. I was spiritually blind before. When Jesus Christ opened my blind folded eyes I realised what disaster I had done by marrying non believer. Truly I tell everyone here, don’t marry or date any non believer. I don’t mean non believers are bad. They may be very good. But they are always vulnerable to devil. And it’s common sense too. Compatibility is one of the main requirement of marriage. How can there be compatibility between a Christian and non believer? And yes, God’s word clearly states don’t marry outside Christian faith. People will always try to interpret the scriptures like how they want and they need. But there is no place for confusion in God’s word. God is about clarity. Don’t marry non believer!!
Same here. We were once Non Believers as well. Ended up with a wrecked marriage. But in our country, we don't have divorce yet though it was passed as a bill already, I thought.
The question is, can we still remarry with a Christian, this time
@@maryrosecericos154 if there is no possibilities of reunion, you can marry. Listen to what Holy Spirit says. If marriage brings glory to God, please marry. It is your personal decision. Now some legalistic people might say you can’t marry, but ignore them. Do what Holy Spirit tells you. Pray about it. 😊
I should listen to Pastor John, more than I actually do
Not assuming you are or not, but God should be the one who you are listening to more above anything else
coming from experience: terrible stuff happened when I let myself cross this line and "dated' an unbeliever.
The heart is full of wicked desires, trust God above what you selfishly want, things can spiral out of control when you lie to yourself that you're with them for their salvation.
100.0% agree.
Happening to me now. Couldn’t agree more ❤
@@T262-u9n
I feel the same and I am almost lost 😢
Can we share our experiences somewhere, maybe in private messages?
@@Moonlight-px6sz absolutely I would love to chat! I hope you’re well! ❤️
@@T262-u9n I started to spend more time in the Bible and private prayer and focus my thoughts on God and Gospel and now I am much better!
Wish the same to you!!! ❤️
"3 Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.
4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly."- Deuteronomy 7:3-4
Facts!
That is old testament with old covenant, with Jesus there is a new covenant. Also, here is what someone else wrote about the video. ''the context of the book and the surrounding context:
1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth…
2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle…
3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God…
B. V14
1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol…
2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness…
3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context…
4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian…
The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also…
C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect…
1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." ()
2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
@@NotClosedMinded Thx
From my personal experience, I fell in love with someone I thought who's a Christ-committed person. But God indeed loves me, for He does not want me to sin anymore, when I found out that this person believes that all religions are the same and worships the same God and even told me that allah is God. From them on, I tried to live my life for our Lord Jesus and trusting Him that there could be someone out there who is a true Christ-committed follower whom I will spend the rest of my life with living in Christ.
Did you find them?
They don't worship the same God as you. It's also easier for you to cave in the name of "Love". I'm here right now. I'm praying to God for this
My dad met my mom when he was 17 and she was 14. She was a non-believer, he was a diehard believer. He showed her what love was, and helped her to understand how she could also develop a relationship with Christ. They’ve now been married over 25 years, have 4 kids and live God honoring lives. In this video it’s really interesting how he draws a parallel between the “right” and “wrong” way to pursue a relationship with someone you’re attracted to. I don’t think that either of the examples he gave in this particular video are completely accurate... just another POV, something to think about if you’re looking for real insight.
That's a great story. Happy for your parents. God Bless them. I'm going through similar situation like your dad. I like a non Christian lady but I am a life long believer. Slowly getting her to know Christ but we get along really well. I feel that I'm here to lead her to convert and faith. I care a lot about her. Just staying patient.
I agree with pastor John. And those who don't agree with him, usually are not the wise ones. Marriage is for the glory of God, it's meant to reflect the intimacy of God the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. But nowadays, because of great ignorance and hatred of the goodness of God, I see marriages (especially dates) fall apart easily, and not being wholly true. So also, as it says, "Whether you eat or drink, do all for the glory of God" marriage is for the glory of God, and if you don't do it for God's glory but for your own cunning, deceitful, evil passions and sins, you aren't going to do well. And there is a great consequence for that. Especially if you are Christian, these teachings are from the word of God. I was arrogant, foolish, and very bitter in dating, until I had to admit, I must be honest to myself that what I'm doing apart from God's word and grace, I'm doing wrong, so, it is more pleasant to submit yourself to God and His grace, and to joyfully glorify Him, within also marriage, and (being careful) dating.
Ruben Calderon so would u date a non believer
Its sooo harsh but true👍
God's word is expansive it cover's all areas of life and different situations so that "we" don't get so self-righteous that if we should find ourselves joined with an unbeliever than 1 Peter 3:1-6 handles it like a boss. If there was meant to be a one size fits all (religious attitude) then we'd be looking at utopia right now but there isn't and who knew that better - Jesus. I don't agree with the pastor or your sentiments that to disagree with this pastor means the rest of us are usually unwise. Utter Nonsense.
Ruben Calderon i wouldn’t date a non believer because our views will clash and then I will have a hard time even wanting to have a future with them
You know the Greeks invented marriage right?
Currently experiencing this and it is difficult..
Am I the only one that thinks he is going around the question? It's a Yes, or No question!
Sister Rose In all of these comments you were the only one.
@@o2bnob you can;t just say 'yes/no' have to give understanding while not being blunt. he's trying to give an informative loving answer
Things are complicated. Bible does say his thoughts are higher than ours, so just assuming yes or no in every circumstance and situation is dangerous.
When I met my partner who was the number lever I prayed about it and people say where would go to agree to be in a relationship with an unbeliever my partner is learning about Christ with curious my three children are raised going to church praying and he is comfortable with it supports me and he thinks that it's the right thing for the children to be influenced by their mother and Jesus he does not see it as something that he disagrees with he said he only prayed once to be with someone who truly loves him and he asked God it was his only one prayer and when he met me he felt that god gave him a chance he seems to be growing in Christ every day he even sings worship music and play them together he will even visit and support me going to church but he's still a nonbeliever if I have sinned I asked God to forgive me but I am truly happy 17 years and a great man and Jesus is growing my life more and more everyday I feel closer to god more than anything I believe that he loves me because god gave him to me I know that some would disagree and I know we're not supposed to judge I did not leave this comment to say that I disagree but yes it's so important to put god first before anything else my eldest came to Jesus at 6 years old and he wants to join the ministry and it's such a big difference in my partner's life he changed his life completely when we first met he was homeless with nothing and now he has a family and his grown closer and closer to my way of life god is in charge of my life my family and my partner seems to be easing into it every day hope I'm not judging
if you are NOT married to this man but are living with him then you are living IN SIN! STOP doing that! have him move out and DONT have sex with him AGAIN.
It is a terrible sin that has harmful effects on people.
Sin is universal it is not broken into parts, sins is sin.
Not true some sins are punishable by death according to The Torah and ONE SIN according to Jesus is PERMANENTLY UNFORGIVABLE
This is really hard
I was an unbeliever before I got into a relationship with by bf. A few months into the relationship, God showed himself to me and I was born again. Now I’m a believer and I tell my bf all about Jesus and what’s to come, but I don’t see it having any affect on him to make him wanna do something about, more like he understands but can’t live it. I hate to push on him the truth, but I know that we can’t be unevenly yoked... I want to wait on the Lord to show himself to my bf, but at the same time I don’t know if I’m wasting my time :/
He’s not gonna marry you he’s using you
@@aaronlalembaarook5626 This is not a helpful comment. We should show love and exercise patience, but remember the bible clearly suggests that we shouldn't marry a non-believer.
I would pray, see where God leads you. He may suggest you end the relationship, or he may suggest the relationship is approved by Him and that He will use you (or something else) to bring this person to know God before you consider marriage.
Lets be loving and God focused instead of jumping to negative and harmful conclusions people! :D
If you marry a non-believer beware of his spiritual father-in-law!
Turtle-dom lol 😂
so what happened. tell us you unloaded him...
Thank you for this very well structured answer. So we'll explained. Instead I'm newly saved with a non believing partner. It's very difficult and not something id recommend to purposely choose. I pray to God every day to give my partner a new heart and awake to god.
How’s it going?
Choose God and watch blessings come through. Its temporary pain but remember we will all return to him/God. Stop deceiving yourself. it's a sin this could lead u to hell for eternity. Rid all sins and sinful desires.
i thanks God for your answer! Really a good reminder for me: even date a believer could be sinful.
I had to reject 5 non-Christian women this year and have never even met a Christian woman my age my entire life.
I'm never going to find love...
I gave up the prospect of ever finding a Christian girl. That's why I hope there will be marriage in heaven and I guess some recompense for the loneliness and hopelessness I experience here. I've come to terms with the fact that I won't get a girl I desire here. Honestly if God doesn't come back soon I pray I die young, callous and inconsiderate to family and loved ones as it may be. Even at 20 the lonliness kills me. Can't imagine being 30-40-50 etc (don't mean that in an obnoxious, belittling way). You can't vent about this topic in Christian circles because they tell you your standards are too high or that you're carnal or that your trials are petty compared to many who are suffering worse. I remember reading a comment on a forum regarding the topic of marriage in heaven from a disabled guy who pretty much can't get married. Dude poured his heart and soul and and one of the first replies was "you've been watching too many romance movies"..
There's no marriage in Heaven. It's a earthly institution.
I do agree though, it's not easy finding a Bible believing Christian, who is single (never married, cause that's adultery if you marry a divorced Christian or you the divorced Christian remarry ) and age appropriate.
@@ygkr6437 so adam and eve were not married?
You should have just dated the non Christian women and then share the gospel with them at some point
I have been in a relationship with a non-believer for many years. I was dating him long before I became a Christian. I thought I could win him over and convert him by loving him and setting a good example of what Christianity was truly about. However, the reality is that he hated Jesus more than he loved me. It was very problematic because we were going in two separate directions. His ultimate goal in life was to get drunk and make money. Whereas, my objective was about serving God and building up the church. In the end, we had to break off our relationship because he was leading me down a path that I cannot follow. From this experience, I have learned that unrepentent sinners will do whatever it takes to justify their sin, even to the point of denying clear scripture. I know this because I was once like that. Many people from my church confronted me with verses in the bible, telling me why I should end the relationship with that man. However, I kept on looking for excuses to justify my decision to stay with him. My reasoning was this: I am dating him in the hopes that he may become a Christian because of my shining example. Little did I know, I was being a self-deceived hypocrite. Fortunately, my pastor had a chat with me and warned me that if I continued in that relationship, I would be ex-communicated from the church. Upon hearing this, I was finally brought to my senses. I ended my relationship with my disbelieving boyfriend. It was a very difficult decision, but my church was very supportive in helping me to find comfort and pray for him.
This is why I wish I was born in the 1800s there where way more fellow Christians
GIjoeWEARSdiapers ! Pray and ask God to send you your Godly spouse. Also pray for discernment to identify them.
I don't know that there were tbh, more Christianity in culture sure, but more actual Christians? I dunno. Got to be careful before romanticising the past
A very complex question. Thank you Pastor John for your clarity. I think it’s important to note like mentioned, you could be with a believer and still sin. This speaks to the fact that there are persons who are of the same faith who are also unbelievers. “They honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me.” Matthew 15:8-9. Many persons are married and get married to believers and they lose their faith as well. I think the concept of equally yolkness extends beyond just faith but also, purpose, mindset, and values.
An important thing to consider is what is the Holy Spirit saying because sometimes God allows for a person to pursue an unbeliever because he knows their heart. He also knows who is most strongest and suitable to win hearts for his kingdom. If marriage is a ministry, then the pursuit of marriage should be to bring God glory and another way that could be done is not only through marrying a believer but leading a non-believer to God through the pursuit of a godly marriage.
This is a mystery for me. There were 3 girls in my youth/college career group who married non-Christian men. All three have been happily married for more than 25 years, they are doing well financially and have nice kids. Meanwhile 30% of the women that married inside our church group or with other Christians are divorced, some are married but going through financial and relationships difficulties, many had problems with their kids, including drugs and rebellions. Some of the happiest couples I've seen are not typical church going Christians. I was on a church single's group for many years. Most divorced people there married people they met in church and they prayed for God's direction about their marriage. I really can't make any connection between being a evangelical Christian and happy marriage. Based on the number of books written, conferences, counseling, and sermons that there is much more marriage problems in churches than outside.
Well the devil will attack those in the church, and if their faith in God Ainu strong enough to withstand the storm; then they would fall.
The reason, could be that many within the church restrict themselves from discussing important topics that could lead to a stable marriage...for instance, sex, roles etc
I could be wrong, but that is just my observation
If they ruined their relationships then it's obvious God wasn't leading their marriage
The Christians who married non- Christians may be spiritually blessed though. They may have become lukewarm in their faith and just not showing it.
Here is some elses response from the comments. ''the context of the book and the surrounding context:
1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth…
2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle…
3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God…
B. V14
1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol…
2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness…
3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context…
4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian…
The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also…
C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect…
1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." ()
2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
Thank you pastor John this will help me to choose the right person in future for marriage
Very well said❤ thank you🙏 I for some reason always attract satanist guys. Everytime I meet a sweet guy that I like& ask what he believes, he ends up saying that😥 but there's this 1 I really fell for& I want to be with him, but don't want to go against God💔 please keep me in prayers& thanks again for this message, it really helped alot.
gurly girl it’s not a big deal. It’s fine dare outside religion. It doesn’t affect your beliefs at all.
u attract satanist guys? WHAT? ask them what their spiritual beliefs are BEFORE you consider dating them.
@@Lauren-vd4qe I do, but I fall for em really fast. We talk for a few hours& I swear like it's love, but its not. But it'll be some random post or smthn that made us talk& we get side tracked& talk about similar stuff& connect soo good& I'm like omg hes perfect& then I'm like WAIT...lemme ask THE question..."Do u believe in God?"& they say "no I'm actually a Satanist or smthn& yeah...
@@gurlygirl5019 well instead of talking for HOURS why not go onto christian ONLY dating sites; and HERES a novel idea...ask God to send you THE ONE HE has planned for you!! quit wasting your time in places that theres virtually NO chance of finding the RIGHT ONE.. get tough on yourself and get smart on yourself...
@@Lauren-vd4qe in my original comment(9 months ago), I mentioned there was 1 I really fell for..I knew him since I was 10& he was a believer, but I haven't seen him from age 12-18. When I was 18 we caught up& I've always liked him. Well we're together now& these past few months I've been thinking about baptism& really living for God, but I cant be w/him if I'm baptised? Idk how to do this& Im stuck now& its been so hard
Why even bother. Stay single. You'll be much happier!!!
It's not a sin to date unsaved people but it's not wise.
God says to be wise lol. not obeying that is sin. however i think in certain situations, it’s not unwise? idk prayer. but for women i think it is generally unwise since we don’t have the same authority as guys. women should follow men and vice versa so if he’s not drawing u to God he’s drawing you away.
I fully believe that this pastor's theology is very deficient here. btw, Brother Andrew never dated at all. I don't think 'more can happen' because one of them has to give their 'consent' there in that dating situation. Pastor is wrong. a believer can marry an un-believer based on 1 Cor. 7 verse 16. I will go by what the sacred scripture specifically states over fallen mankind's erroneous opinion. (note: it's called being a Berean and searching the scriptures). thank you & b4n.
Read john chapter 4 . Jesus talked to a Samaritan lady that was married 5 times .!
And she was living with a guy . And Jesus did not blow her off. He offers her a drink of his water & then set her free in her heart .! And she became overcome by love and joy .
So you can find answers for life from john gospel chapter 4 to solve this problem .
not true; He said go and SIN NO MORE
Yes, he saved her, because he is God; he didn't marry her.
jC wasn't dating her at he well. He was talking with her.
Hard to hear. Buts what I need to hear... I pray God sends me to a Godly woman, because I have an awful lot of committed love to give and I’m surrounded by kind and charming unbelievers...
YES. Next question.
OK, that's all I needed. Thank you
It's scary reading these comments....
I take it, by your profile pic, that perhaps you think it's scary that some people believe in God
@@troywright359 what have my profile pic gotta do with anything? Beliving becomes scary when old fairytales should affect people in modern times. And that goes for all religions.
@@killerboba it just didn't seem to be the profile picture of someone who believed in God
What does Almighty God have to say folks?
"14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty."
2 Corinthians @-18 (KJV).
This is from a Paul Washer Video:
He was asked by some people, that they if they found them attractive they would be able to bring them to Christ through dating them. Paul Washer replied: "Well, then why don't you want to bring an ugly Person to Christ?"
I don't think I'd be too happy if someone with no romantic intentions dated me for 'missionary purposes' as advocated on this video. Not a good Christian example to be dishonest and to play with someone's emotions to pressurise them into becoming a Christian to try and move the relationship forward. I love John piper's theology but his real life advice is very poor
yeah that's true. that's why Christians are not advised to date with an unbelievers.
+hennimore1 I don't understand how you date someone with no romance sound difficult
we sure date with love, romance, emotion with whom we wanted to date with, but we are strongly advice to not be deceive with just our feelings, it'll be more okay to love someone with the same faith.
I’m non Christian, and am dating with a Christian guy. I started to study bible for MYSELF not for him. But I’m not sure I’m doing truly for my self. He doesn’t want me to do for him.
I really love him. He cried when he told me that he needs religious relationship coz I’m not Christian. We don’t decide to break up right now. We love each other.
Im feeling so guilty.
Fuck what people tell you. If your happy than that’s all that matters. Who cares what either of you believe. Any religion that is making you feel guilty for being in love is immoral.
wow
It is encouraging to hear you want to read the Bible for yourself. Continue to find God. Tell him "if you are there, show yourself to me". If you are sincere, He will show you because Jesus is alive and all need to do is Ask.
Happiness cannot be the reason an action is right. Someone can rob the bank and be happy because of the money they got. Happiness is a result of a moral action which is based on a moral code which is given by a moral giver. The question is Who has the right to give a moral code to all humanity? "Where even our conscience bear witness to it"..
Don't do it. Don't fall at the feel of this sky daddy
Forgive them father, they know not what they do. They are wicked in their heart.
Tim Collins Dear brother they are not wicked,they has been lead astray by the culture of the fallen world,we should spread the truth so more and more people will know,if God had planted His Spirit in them.
We are not wicked. We are human beings just like you but just do not believe in a God.
translation "I've been a very naughty girl daddy I didn't know any better~!" you all are ridiculous.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbeilievers should never be veiwed as Law although it is a law that if broken would have devestating consequences on your relationship with God.
Is it a sin? No being that if you are Christ's... He died unto sin for you. So all sin is done away with for you.
So withother any contradiction, there are guidings from the Holy Spirit that He will lead you or quicken you to or warn you of things that will lead you in to bondage again.
One of these would be to date an unsaved person.
Again I'm not making this a law because Christ died unto the law and its requirements for us to meet in order to have eternal life and that life has already been given to us through His resurrection and can never be taken away.
However, we will learn that the unsaved dont have the mind of Christ so every thought of Christ in the believer is contrary to the world's thought process. You will eventually find yourself choosing if you will choose God or this person because the unregenerate mind is emnity with God meaning they are constantly at war with anything that resembles righteousness. If you say Homosexuality is not an acceptable lifestyle with God they will counter it with unrighteous reasonings because their minds havent been enlightened by the Light of God's word and will by any means rebel
Another trick is they will play like they have a relationship with God all the while luring you into darkness with them.
For that cause Paul writes to not be unequally yoked because you will find that you have nothing in common and are actually at odds with them.
Im not saying you shouldnt try and evangelize but there must be much pray to die to self desires and cant be mixed with wanting God to save them for you. Then at that point its no longer His will but yours.
Ive been through all that and it is a NO GO!!!
MARRY in the body only! No commandment but just words of wisdom to keep you from the evil one
Once saved always saved is A LIE FROM HELL
Maybe marrying a Non-Christian is a little problematic. But dating? Nah. How else is the gospel supposed to be spread if men and women can't get to know each other before sharing Christ? That said, I thought Pastor John's description of what sin "is" at the beginning of this video was absolutely amazing and very insightful.
I love hindu girl
But now we have lots of issue in our relationship
What should i do?
She even says to quit
Please pray ? Show me the good way Jesus
The Deven Wait on the Lord. Pray!
The Deven praying for you, God Bless
Deven, leave her. I know it's hard, but it's better for you relationship with God, what relationship is more important?
Where love builds bridges, religions erect walls.
obey the Bible; leave her and get a christian girl.
It’s dangerous. I married a non-christian and lived 18 years of abuse and poor testimony for our children
Thank you Pastor John! I am a baptist Christian who loves the lord and I wanted to know what missionary dating was because I like this girl at work who is unbeliever I assume, and she likes me. So thank you for your answer
This helped a LOT
I love and truly respect christianity
I agree. However, being human and wanting companionship is normal and not sinful. Gen 2-18-25 (God said it is not good to be alone. The reason behind making a woman for man as long as they are suitable). 1 Corinthian 7:2 says " But because of [the temptation to participate in] sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband." I always bring God's scriptures back to him when I feel lonely. I say this because I do desire to be in a relationship and wish to have what companionship brings..
People never mention 1 Cor 7:12-16.
God is love and we're all His children.
He is the giver of love.
Not all are his children,
John 1:12 But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to those who believe in His name
Not everyone believes in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior
What does 1 Cor 7:12-16 have to do with dating?
Donald Harvey I think they’re saying that if we are all God’s children then we are all believers... and so go ahead and marry anyone... however, this is the wrong interpretation.
I'm aware os the things Jonh said is this video and I'm agree with most of them. Expect the "dating for evangelism" in the way HE DESCRIBED seems absolutely wrong, but I'll give him the credit of not been to clear. Now the thing is the Bible should be our guide to many things, but God himself is the first person to ask and listen (and with that I'm not saying the Bible is not the word of God because IT IS). And through the Holy Spirit that lives in a true believer we can make our decisions based on God's will. Now with been said I think there's is good arguments about NOT dating a non-believer, but I think is reality that you can be an instrument of God on that person's life, if this is His will. Christ should be your only aim and where your heart should rest. So listen the Holy Spirit that is with you, read the Bible and pray a lot and the answer then will come from God as it should be.
I'm a person who had a previously relationship with a non-believer when I myself was one too and turned out horribly. Now Jesus is my life, He saved me from that relationship and saved me from myself when I was on the brick of suicide. I didn't hang myself that night because God used my friend to save me. The Glory is for God, not my friend or the passages I'm reading today, the Glory is for Jesus Christ.
If you want to date someone that doesn't have Christ and if you really have Him, make Him the advicer, listen do other people have to say with caution, me included, and becareful of your heart, it can lead you to very dark places.
Praying for everyone, we are together in Christ.
oh man, I have dated a Christian man , whatever he did with me, I wish, enemy though didn't do that thing, it was disgusting experience, I was in depression for year or 2 year. Now, I'm single but I am attracted to a men who is non-believer, even I have no idea what is going to be happen in future, but personally I believe love is god n god is love this whole world is created by lord, how we can decide to whom we should love or not. love is not a artificial emotion, its just a love, keep pray for yourself to a god, he will show you a way. love is prayer n we no need anybody's permission to love for Christian or non-christian.even god loves equally to all people.
what are u doing on a christian site if you dont believe in God or read or obey the Bible?
Dating a non-Christian is like playing with a cobra? Ask older people that did so in disobedience to the Word of God. It is better to avoid making Satan the umpire in your marriage.
Good luck!
Yep! 2 Corinthians 6:14
You are a smart. MAN.
Explain so well. BLESS. U.
It's dam near impossible to meet an available single attractive Christian woman when you live in a mostly liberal area like I do. I feel like I am totally screwed and my faith as a result is in the garbage. I actually can't even meet a halfway decent personality non-Christian female and I have to follow the Biblical rule and only date "in the Lord". I feel so dam discouraged and I have no faith, I admit it. God help my unbelief and sins.
Read this reaction from some1. ''he context of the book and the surrounding context:
1. Paul is dealing with challenges to his apostolic authority in the letter. There are some questioning Paul’s style and his adequacy as an Apostle. Some may have been challenging that Paul was not a legitimate Apostle because of His suffering, his weakness in speech, the fact that he wouldn’t take any financial support from the Corinthians, among other things... The false apostles led Paul to lose credibility in the eyes of some in Corinth…
2. He, throughout this epistle, tries to show the Corinthians that God is indeed at work in his ministry, and that his suffering as Jesus did was a sign of it… He tries to show the glory of the message and to de-emphasize the messenger, contrary to the false teachers who were arrogantly lifting themselves up in importance… And the focus of chapters 11-12 is Paul defending His authority as an apostle…
3. It is within this context we have Paul pleading with the Corinthians at the end of chapter 5 all the way through the beginning of chapter 7 to open their hearts to God’s representatives, himself being one of them… They were allowing these false teachers to take them away from the truth, and at the end of chapter 5, he pleads with them to be reconciled to God…
B. V14
1. In verses 11, 13, and 7:2 (before and after, Paul says to the Corinthians, “Open up your hearts to us.” He wanted them to stop listening to these men who were leading them away from Christ to another Christ, to an idol…
2. It’s in this context, Paul says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers” or “Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” He is showing them exactly who they are joining themselves with. Not with Christ. Not with His representatives. But with unbelievers… With idolaters… And they need to get away from them so that they can grow in their holiness…
3. So Paul is not saying, “Do not marry an unbeliever.” He is saying, “Stop joining your hearts to these men who are teaching you false things and leading you away from Christ into idolatry. As they listened to these men and followed them, they were joining in with these false teachers in their work. They were having fellowship with them instead of Paul and the other apostles… This is what Paul is showing them in this verse within its context…
4. So with these things said, I do want to make sure I am not misunderstood about the point that I am making. What I am saying is that I don’t believe this passage prohibits marrying a non-Christian…
The passage does not say, “do not BECOME yoked together,” but do not BE unequally yoked… There is more here in this passage than not entering a relationship, but also the idea is here that you need to leave a relationship that is an unequal yoke! So if Paul is talking about marriage here, he would not only be saying, “Don’t marry unbelievers,” but he would also be saying, “Leave your marriages with unbelievers.” The context would bear this out also. He talks about “coming out from among them” in verse 17. He commands to leave whatever relationships the unequal yoke is present in… Most who would use this passage to say that Paul is condemning marrying a non-Christian usually don’t want to take the passage to this conclusion, but based on the these used, this is a position you would be forced to also…
C. And if Paul is talking about marriage here, there would be a conflict or a contradiction between what he teaches here and what he teaches in . We have talked about making sure we are careful as we interpret scripture to make sure we don’t bring one passage into conflict with another, causing a contradiction… This shows that our understanding of one or both of the passages may be incorrect…
1. "To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him." ()
2. Paul shows in this verse that being married to an unbeliever is not sinful. He says do not divorce your unbelieving spouse… If were talking about marriage, then Paul would be contradicting this statement… The passage in is pretty straightforward in regards to a marriage with a believer and an unbeliever, so understanding Paul to be talking about marriage in is incorrect. We can see this based on this conflict that arises before we even look at the passage within its context…''
@@NotClosedMinded Thanks, I need to re-study these scriptures again, as a non believer is attracted to me, and I was told to believe the interpretation in church like this Pastor John. Do you have any other related scriptures that could suggest for further study?
"Do not be unequally yoked" has nothing to do with marriage. It has to do with suffering heretics and unrepentant sinners in the church.
ay ay...i dated a woman that was a believer, but she went with another guy. I was left alone about 3 months ago. Now, I am talking to another woman that is a non-believer, and we have things in common, but not Christ or the bible. I am not happy where things are.
This is a stupid question. We are all sinners. Do Christian's even have a clue, or do they just use Christ as a crutch.
I would never compromise my beliefs and principles just to get a girlfriend. If you dont believe in god, its cool. Youre just not for me.
I'm religious and I'm dating someone whom is nonreligious. I never really considered that a sin but I could understand where the man speaking in the video is coming from. However if a Christian were to fall in love with an nonreligious person and sees a possible future with them isn't it a good thing for them to follow their heart? No matter whom I'm with, God is a part of me and no one in this lifetime can take that away from me. The boy I'm with would never try to do that because he knows how passionate I am about my religion and he in fact adores me for it. I want to raise my future children to be Christian and bring them to church and all that, and if say the person I'm with supports me in my choices (which he does) and will stick by me regardless of me having different views on religion then he does, down the road then I personally don't see a problem with that. We don't fight. We explain our point of views on everything and yea we'll have disagreements but we will also have agreements and with time we will grow on our relationship. And i hope that one day we will go from being a seed to a beatiful flower. I personally believe it's ok to date a nonreligious person as long as you have good intentions and truly want to give them a chance despite their views on religion but one must understand there will be some conflict here and there. It's expected but you and the person in whom you are dating are a team. You will work together to grow together. If you truly like someone that's nonreligious and you both want to make it work you need to listen and be understanding that they may not see religion the way you do and that's ok as long as you could look past the fact that one or another may not agree on things that you believe. If your love for that person is strong enough you will be able to. And if not that's ok too. We all learn from experience and if say you are religious and are dating a nonreligious person, and you fight way to much about religion to a point where you feel like your in a toxic relationship that's something to definitely take into consideration that the relationship isn't good to be in and that you need to be with someone that has the same views as you. I personally am very passionate about my religious beliefs but i would never force my beliefs on anyone. I will however enourage my future kids and if they one day decide maybe they don't agree with my religion like i said that's perfectly fine. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion as is the person I am with. Sure we have different views on some things but we look past them because our love for each other is to strong to give up on each other for having disagreements. All couples have disagreements. It's normal.
I'm sorry, this is going to sound offensive but I really do have to speak up on this.
I'm glad that your boyfriend applauds you and loves you the way he does, that's a good thing! But there's a bigger issue than you seem to realize.
What you're saying is that even if your boyfriend/husband and children don't put their trust, hope, and faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, then you'll be content as long as you live together in harmony and love for one another? You say that you're personally passionate about your religious beliefs and won't force it on anyone, but if you do claim that you're passionate for Jesus Christ, then you do realize the consequence of them of not knowing Jesus? You're romanticizing dating in a way that also rejects the truth of condemnation for those who don't know Christ. If you truly love the person that you're dating that's non-christian, then shouldn't that break your heart and make you sorrowful and anguished over that person's soul? You're not looking at the condition of that person's soul; instead you're compromising (as long as everyone agrees with one another, it doesn't matter if my loved ones don't believe in God). Opinion does not suppress truth... Even if you say that everyone is entitled to their opinion, that doesn't remove the fact that their souls are condemned into hell unless they personally know Jesus Christ as their Lord and savior. Good intentions will not remove the truth. Him adoring you for your passion for Christianity will not remove the truth. Your love for each other that's seemingly strong will not remove the truth. Yes, people are entitled to their own opinion, but that self-entitlement from God's everlasting truth is a different story. You and I can disagree on certain things and that's okay (the same with people in relationships, families, etc.), however, there are no exceptions to God's truth.
Honestly, that's great that you guys seem to have a great relationship (even though it's clearly a command that God gives to us that non-christians should not be yoked with believers) but if you truly do love him then you would keep praying and yearn for God to change his heart (AND EVEN THEN, there's the issue of whether you put your husband and children before God or if you have God as your primarily, first love before the love for your loved ones on Earth).
Joseph Kim Thank you for the Godly truth in your response.
I am believer that knowingly got into a relationship with an unbeliever. I know this was an act of disobedience and am in anguish over his soul. Im devastated by the man that I love resisting what I live for and desire the most. He is a good man and I deeply yearn for him to know Christ personally. Imagine how much more incredible he would be.
In my repentance I have made the commitment to not marry him until he comes to Christ. I have made the commitment to unceasingly pray for his heart to change and in faith to await his salvation. Is this not enough? Should I not even be involved with him?
Uncertain lover of Jesus over here!
Joseph Kim beautifully said!!!
Yeah Joseph really said it best here.
I would just ask why would you want to date a non-christian? If you love the Lord and know that he loves you and knows what's best for your life, then why would you knowingly go against his word and be unequally yoked with an unbeliever? Why would you pick someone who doesn't love the lord and have Jesus as their saviour over someone who does? It doesn't make sense.
We should put our father in heaven first in our lives. Trusting and knowing that he knows what's best, not us. You should fall in love with another Human because you see Jesus in them and you love Jesus.
Remember that when we are saved we are a new creation in Christ. If Jesus is at the centre of your life and is everything you are, then why date someone (dating eventually leads to marriage) who doesn't share those same beliefs.
I would say, be friends with that person you like! Share the gospel with them. And then if they make a decision to follow Jesus and fall in love with God then you go ahead and date them :p
@Khwezi Mlaba
I apologize for my late response, but I don't think I can really give you advice because I don't personally know you: your mind and heart in this. There may be issues that I have towards relationships which may or may not help you (Even though everyone has their own opinions/biases). My recommendation is to go to your local pastor about the questions you have and to continue to pray. Pray for knowledge, wisdom, empowerment, and convictions.
That being said, even though I can't personally give advice on whether or not you should stay committed to that person, there are questions to think about and reflect on. This article I've found is pretty helpful in thinking about these kinds of issues (The advices given can also be applied to people that are struggling in non-christian relationships, not just before it starts).
jarridwilson.com/before-dating-a-non-christian/
3 questions we should really ask ourselves before or even during non christian relationships (if you're still in one)
1. What are my motives?
2. Will this hinder my relationship with God?
3. What does the Bible say?
Be sure to read the entire article! I'd say pray and reflect with these questions in mind. If you see that your motives and relationship isn't aligned with God's will in scripture, then it's probably best to not be involved with the person. But as you know already... What I say isn't final haha
Hopefully this comment reaches you soon
I’m a Christian but I’m in love with a Muslim even though he’s not practicing Islam. I’m trying to show him who Jesus is but not getting very far. I’m so scared of a heartbreak. :( why can’t I be with him???? He’s respecting and supporting my faith.
I think if you're feeling guilty it's a sign that he wasn't for you. I too have a relationship with a Muslim but the fact that I'm not living in peace is God way to say to me that i should not pursue it. It still difficult but God loves us so we need trust Him.
1 Corinthians 7 is quite Clear on this issue, as long as the non-believer wants to be with you, yes. God will respect that relationship and your Children, according to Paul.
jman exe In the case that you are already married but not dating on a trajectory to marriage
That's only if you are already married. Gods hates divorce.
Agree with Rodrigo and Natalie. jman doesn't read the Bible carefully. It clearly states that if you are ALREADY married and THEN become a believer, you ought not to leave your spouse.
But as to those that willfully sin whilst dating: God is not fooled by your trying to know better. Whom are you following: Christ? Or that big liar Satan...
Anyone in doubt just read the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7. It sheds much light.
Recently my partner broke up with me because he wasn't born again and we had sex and made me fall into other sins as well...he does believe in God and he loved me so much but he felt very ashamed for taking my virginity. I hope he will genuinely come to Jesus one day...I hope we will reunite again I don't want to give my body to someone else 🙁
So he used you and despised you
I still didn't have sex... But my unbelieving ex and me kissed and did some things....i feel the same after break-up... I don't want to give my body to someone else etc etc.... But when God is our priority.... Maybe we should just let His will be done. Btw... It's been 5 months... How's things now?
this video is odvious for true christians because its odvious that everyone that has something negative to say doesn t understand sin and your painful life is shown in your words smart people comment only on topics they understand don t show your ignorance
My life is perfectly painless and happy and I’m an atheist. Of course I don’t understand the concept of sin. Why would I allow a thousand year old book to dictate how I live my life. Here is a thought, do what makes you happy and be a good person. I don’t need the Bible, or any other religion, to do that.
@@bryce2939 'good'. define it. You need a standard to hold it to - he chooses the Bible. You don't, that's fine.
@@troywright359 I define “good person” as don’t be an A hole and be nice to other people. How do define it?
@@bryce2939 define a hole and being nice. you are creating a standard that you believe benefits you, and otheras as well by the designation as an oppoiste to 'good person'.
@@troywright359 you don’t know what an asshole is?
i like this guy and hes not a christian but hes a beleiver in God. plus he wants to learn about it .
This is why we can't have world peace.
We'll never have world peace until Jesus establishes it.
Hi Ariel. Would recommend you to do an experiment. Read and study that mythical book and see
2 Corinthians 2:11
Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.
Ephesians 5:3
But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Let me say this, all sin is forgiven... nobody's perfect
No, not all sin.
@@OZTutoh Aside from blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, which sin are you talking about?
This is true, but our relationship with sin should be that we want to stay as far away from it as possible, repent, and strive to get closer to God. Not to sin then fall on forgiveness while actually being pulled farther from Christ
You won't enjoy the lake of fire, my friend.
It's Christ's righteousness that is imputed unto us and nothing in of ourselves but you are not of Christ if you continue to live in sin and justify it by saying "well I'll be forgiven anyways so it's okay". You have no love for God with such a mentality but the exact opposite and not only are you living in sin but you are also spitting on what Christ has done for you.
There is a difference between living FOR sin and living FOR Christ. Living for Christ means you are no longer serving sin, but this does not mean you are now sinless or that your "living in sin" lifestyle is now completely justified.
Im Living with my boyfriend , and hes not Christian , unfortunate. I really ned prayers for this situation. I need help to get right with god and all the practical stuff too.. my head and heart is heavy over this, mostly because i want him to get saved and know god the Way i have experienced him. This is my Third time ive moved in with my boyfriend. I probably havent learned anything yet. I feel so stupid and numb. Please god get me out of this in the best Way possible. Not my Will but your Will 😭😭
Are you guys still together
I’m in love with a non beleiver 😞. I can’t seem to get over him 😭
Mireille Papineau praying for you , God Bless
thivy thaya thank you so much! ❤️
I think it's best if you follow your heart. You'll probably be happier that way.
Im going through the same situation, what’d you do?
Pamela Vargas i’m getting over him.. we barely talk to each other now...
I guess I'm not fit for any relationship with anyone because I'm a non-believer. If that's the case, then so be it. If I die alone, perhaps when it comes to that or I do it earlier, depends on what I decide for myself.
Be not unequally yoked. Period John
Is there marriage that really not a Will of God? But how can you remarry with a Christian if long way before you were not still a Christian when you got married with your Non-Christian husband too
I am in love with a non-believer and he is becoming more and more open to becoming a christian, since they are opening up to it can i date them?
+Hailey Vella Let that person pursue God or who he is rather than just so they can be with you. The best you can do is end yor situation and strengthen your relationship with Christ whilst praying that he also pursues him... for his own salvation, not just so that you can be with him. You have to be selfless here and let him go.... If the Lord wills or you both to be together, it will happen but dont try to force this.
+Hailey Vella I would agree with Ashley below. If you really want this person to meet Christ then you need to step away completely and allow God to encounter them if He will. Otherwise you could be standing in the way of him meeting Jesus. While he has his eyes on how amazing you are, he may not be able to see how much he needs to have his eyes on Jesus. I have done this twice...before I really learned. Both men I dated at (different times and years) they were non christian, both were so keen to come to church, one got "saved" and baptised. When God convicted me of my error in dating them I ended the relationship. Where are they now? Not with God, not at church, having nothing to do with Jesus. Why? Because they weren't actually going to church for Jesus...but for me. Stay strong honey. Fix your eyes on Jesus He is all you need and more
I agree with Kirsty and Ashley. You cannot step in between a man or a woman who's about to come to the Lord. The same applies to a situation where a man or woman who just accepted Christ Jesus as Lord and are at the beginning stages of their walk, you also need to back away from them, because their desire and love for Jesus can be compromised by the desire and love for you over God. I myself have a desire to date, but now know it may cause me to stumble and fall away from God. I was originally saved back in June of 2013, but fell quickly from pursuing God to pursuing my selfish wants and became no different than that of a Pharisee. I had no relationship with God up till about a week ago. My awakening for God happened Valentine's day 2016 as I realized how truly alone I was with no girl in my life. I then put too much focus on hoping God would give me a woman, but he convicted me of my relationship with Him. Ever since, I've been pursuing God above all. I got a million flaws yet, but I now know all I truly need is Jesus and to desire Him above all. Thank Jesus for my new found true walk in Him!
wtf ppl. I was in the exact same situation and breaking up forcefully is SO WRONG. it will only scar him and scar yourself as well by forcibly ending a relationship. if the relationship shall not work out, it won't turn out to work out eventually. NO FRUCKING NEED TO END IT FORCIBLY
Pursue friendship with him. Don't seriously date. Maintain the standards of holiness that the Lord gives us and make sure you seek the Lord first in all things. The Lord's standard of holiness does not change; if you compromise they may not grow and you definitely won't.
Best explination of sin I've heard yet
No it's not.