How to TALK About Your JEALOUSY With Your PARTNER (WITHOUT BLOWING UP!!!)
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Do you struggle with blowing up on your partner when you feel jealous? How do you talk about it without feeling so triggered?!
WELL, I'm here to help you with THIS video. Trust me, these tips are going to change the game and help you save your relationship.
I understand so much how jealousy can take over your life and sabotage your relationship, which is the last thing you want! You just want to love your partner and be with them while being in control of your feelings.
I hope this video helps you feel heard and more confident in going into conversations with your partner about your jealous feelings!
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I would love to speak to you, you explain every feeling in my body to the T. Thankyou for your existence ✨ my guardian angel brought me to this channel and I thank them everyday 🙏. I have not friends at all and had no one to confirm this is a normal feeling.
Awww, that is so sweet of you to say!!! Thank you for making me feel so special! I'm happy I could help in any way and to make you feel listened to. :) Stay strong! I know it can be tough to feel lost and alone, but just know you're not the only one who feels this way.
@@glowwithvero Thankyou! I’ve only recently turned 17 in a serious relationship for the past year and a half. Things can get so heated where we’re hitting each other and arguing over my jealousy, to be honest our whole relationship surrounds about what we will and won’t do due to how paranoid I get. We just love each other so much and have been best friends for years we’re literally soulmates. At the start of the relationship he used to talk about other girls and once we spoke about how it upset me, but ever since I’ve been severely paranoid. Ended up bricking a girl and her family’s windows over some of our arguments. I’ve had broken bones due to hitting him and people out of anger, but since watching you videos I’ve came to terms with how life works. (I know that sounds weird) and I feel like things have been so much more calmer. I couldn’t thank you enough! ✨✨
@@zaramarnitz5695 This is my honest, raw, advice, coming from the bottom of my heart: both of you need to STOP being violent with each other. That’s not healthy, at all. I understand that both of you are very hurt by things, but being violent (like hurting each other and breaking things) is not the answer! What happens when you continue to do things like this, you become dependent on these habits to become your lifestyle and you won’t know how to act anyway else. But this isn’t good!
I know you’d hate to hear this as well, but you are both young and still have A LOT to learn about life, that both of you aren’t always going to get everything right and it’s something you’ll have to learn to expect. Your partner isn’t perfect and neither are you, so you need to be kinder to each other when misunderstandings happen.
I would highly suggest talking to a professional, both of you, if things get very heated between you two. You both need to learn to develop healthier ways of communicating where you DON’T need to resort to violence.
I know it’s a lot to hear, but I truly think it’s things you need to hear. Or else you won’t form a healthy relationship with your partner.
I love you so much, I don't know what I would do without you ❤❤
Sending love to you, too, Rey!!! 💕💕 Stay strong!!!
I appreciate the way you name what is happening in our brains and why. I feel it's so hard to explain why or what I'm wrestling with and feel that friend's don't always get it (because it's often that hypervigilance and not much has happened so it doesn't sound like a big deal), but you are very relatable and validating! Thank you for sharing your tips and thoughts! ❤️
I'm so glad you feel heard! 🥰 Wishing you luck on your healing journey!!
Thank you. I really needed to hear this. I've done the things you said to try to avoid and then I end up hating myself afterwards. Why did I push them to tell me the exact things I didn't want to hear?!?! Thanks a lot. This video was very calming and informative.
I know how difficult it can get..! I can sometimes still get this way, too. Practise and be kind with yourself, have patience with yourself, and stay strong.
@@glowwithvero Yes! I am really trying to do things differently with this one. Had an honest conversation with him yesterday whilst remembering what you said in your video and we finally got somewhere! You're so right in that I was actively looking for things that supported my suspicions and then getting mad when I found what I was looking for. I felt this but didn't realize what I was doing to myself and/or him. Thanks again for being able to put into words what I was doing to fuel my own fire!
I love your video ❤️
Thank you so much! I hope it helped 🥰❤️
Hi I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost two years and it’s been the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I’ve noticed how my jealousy lately has kept me very distant from her at certain moments. I’ve made her feel like she did something wrong when in reality she did nothing. I feel so guilty for making her feel that why and I wrote down an apology and saying why I felt this way and how I’ve had trauma before. I get very emotional but try to hide it. I have a hard time communicating. I wrote about my trauma and the situation I saw and that I am sorry. That I know she’s not doing anything. Problem is I’m scared of me saying all this will drive her away. Like if I’m too much damaged goods.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time..!
Firstly, I would advise being practising on being kinder to yourself, don't call yourself "damaged goods" or "broken", because it reiterates your anxiety and doesn't help. Just know that your hurt causes you to act certain ways, and it's normal and it's most importantly not your fault!! You're doing your absolute best to heal and recognizing this is an amazing first step.
Secondly, practise challenging these insecurities you feel when the thoughts enter your head. Do you NEED to ask her where she is? Do you HAVE to be paranoid right now? Will it help my relationship or destroy it? It takes practise to know that everything is in our minds and we should just leave it alone.
She loves you and you really love her, continue to remember that she would never hurt you that way and that you deserve to be nice to yourself as well, and that you DESERVE this relationship!!! I hope this helps! Best of luck, sending you strength 💕💕💕
@@glowwithvero thank you for your kind words. I’m almost done watching all your videos and they already have helped a ton. I will work on being kinder to myself. I do deserve her and she does deserve me. Thank you very much 🙏🏼
@@3ltaco1 Yaaay, I'm so happy to hear that! I'm glad to have helped in any way, best of luck to the both of you :) You've got this!!!