Dearest Cass, there is a high that comes with the binge of the purchase and the purge of the declutter. When we give up both the binge and the purge, we are left with a lot of empty space and time- we need to know what is right to do with that, what is right for our OWN Self. Some things that can fill this space and time consist of: reading books from the library, spending time in nature, time with friends and family, listening to music, dancing, writing, playing a musical instrument, gardening, cooking… I’m listing these in order of the most ephemeral to more material. Playing music requires and instrument, cooking requires material items, crafting requires material items… we need to choose what is in alignment with our TRUE Self and keep within that arena- some people only need to sit and meditate but they are very very few. If our true self happens to need material items then deckuttering what we don’t need will help us live our best life. We just need to know who we are and not be afraid to sit in the nothingness of empty space and unscheduled time for long enough in order to discover that. Then we have to dare to be who we truly are and not put anything in the way of that. God bless you and thank you for this wonderful channel helping myself and so many others ❤ 🙏🏻
@@maiaheiss2991 I applaud your reply. So true. I a, still learning to be quiet with myself. My journey has provided me time I never thought possible to have. I mostly work training my dog and nature walks plus lots of high value podcasts and reading. In our fast pace materialistic society doing nothing or activities that may feel like nothings is a learning journey.
So true! I am a creative person and like photography, painting, interio design and so many other things. I like rotating candleholders, cushion covers during the year for example. I feel like creating the home brings me joy. I like to renovate and paint furniture. Being minimalistic is not working with my personality. But I like having a nice looking home, order and closed storage for the things we have, so it does not look messy. Minimalistic videos is a great inspiration for me, to always ask myselt if I really want to keep my stuff. We give away or sell things allt the time. The hard part is getting rid of things I like, but don't use, and going through photos because it's so much. If I did not have things I would have to watch tv, read books, go out doing things and meet friends often to not feel empty. I don't have energy for these things often because of my brain tiredness and health. The home and things makes me enjoy my days. I also have something to do at home, when I finally have some energy. I think many try to fill an empty or sad life with just things.
it all boils down to lust of the eyes, we want something new to look at because we get bored looking at what we already have. I have found that if I rotate things, put some things away, rearrange the furniture or items thereon it changes the whole outlook and gives me something to look at in a new way.
This is an interesting take on almost creating something new with something old. In a way, when you rotate toys for children, they might be excited to see the old toys after awhile!
I was just thinking about this applied to wardrobe. If you have a good quality piece that you love but got tired of, just pack it away to the back of the closet and "find" in a year when you completely forgot about it. No need to throw or donate and buy anything new, saves a lot of money and effort to find something that fits, considering you buy high quality pieces that would last longer than a season, and that your size/style doesn't change.
Cool! That is so well done!! I am not a minimalist at all and own about the same amount of shoes as you have now... I think I have 15. But I have other areas of things with too much, that I really need to do something about. I have clothes and things I like, but don't wear. I want to let go of things like that. But 300 to 12 is really hard to reach!! I don't think I can do that in those areas... Great job!
Wow 300? Where did you put them all! I’m just amazed! I’m not a shoe person, but I find that I just buy things because it’s a good deal, then realize it’s not working for me. So then I have to get rid of it. How dumb!
I have started treating my buying habits like my grocery shopping. Just replacing things I use a lot when they wear out. Like when you buy more bread when you run out of bread.
The thing that you said about middle aged women shopping as a hobby and a job and it’s a part of her life!!!! That switched something in me. I do not want that to be my job. It is gross. It’s the opposite of my values and intention. Thank you so much for this interview! And, Cass, thanks for being so real! It is what keeps me, another ADHD mom, coming back to you! Not to buy something but to get inspired!
Well said. I had a similar reaction, and I’m so thankful that Cass not only shared that statement, but also resisted it (especially in the face of temptation to earn more).
Yeah but everyone needs a hobby. You need to replace shopping with a different hobby you enjoy - you can’t just drop shopping as a hobby because there will be a void. The idea is to have a hobby other than shopping, because you are always going to need to shop. By the way, if you want to change your self-identity as a shopper, then shop alone, never with others. Don’t let other people associate you with shopping.
I hate the work of decluttering. Donation sites are becoming more selective about what they will accept and selling on FB is a hassle. When I am tempted to make an unnecessary purchase, I think about the work it will take to eventually declutter that item or to declutter something else to make room for it.
@HeatherRiley-c7h When I put my NYC apartment up for sale, I donated 50 boxes of stuff. The balance (roughly 30 boxes of stuff, unopened gallons of paint, _nice_ furniture, Crate and Barrel rugs, decor items) I got rid of by placing ads on Facebook Marketplace and Craigslist. It was a pleasure to interact with the people who were going to give my stuff new homes. Most touching were the people who came to pick up the boxes of free food that I could not longer use in the few days of remaining time I had in the space. My only regret was that I did not do this as a yearly task, and help more people during the years I was there.
I am the same way. But if something is worth to be donated if it can fit in a bag or box I take it to a donation box instead of a thrift store and if it is something big like a piece of furniture or something like that I take it to the dumpsters down by my house and sit it off to the side next to the fence in case someone wants it they can get it. But I know not everyone has dumpsters near their house to do that. Plus I also do like you and really think about something before getting it.
I always think of having a building where I can just fill it up with things I don’t need and also other people can bring their unwanted items and let people come and get it for free because there are so many people out there that are less fortunate and struggle to buy things that they need for their families 😢
Cas, I absolutely love listening to you interview someone. You are so knowledgeable and prepared and above all, respectful. You allow the person to fully answer your questions. That is where I often find the most information. It’s never rushed, never talked over. Just a calm environment where I believe you truly want to hear what the person is saying. Well done!
This episode was probably your best one yet. I actually unfollowed several “minimalist” influencers because of their constant ads and affiliate links. I love how you really seemed to have a lightbulb moment about influencing during this interview. Keep up the great work.
Cass I love that you said no to disguised buying advertisements!! I haven’t watched RUclips for about 2 months until restarting now, bc I was SO SICK of buying these “life changing” products. RUclips no longer was enjoyable and I started to not trust the RUclips channels I once loved bc everyone was doing it. So thank you from one mom to another for being transparent, truthful, and caring about your listeners to not push that agenda. ❤
I hope I can help you look at things differently because I used to shop for fun too. I think what helped me most was volunteering with a homeless shelter and seeing people without basic necessities like socks. I often hear decluttering influencers say to toss something that is not in great condition (towels for example) because we "deserve" to have one that makes us feel good. Well, I find much more long lasting joy donating my money to help others in need than buying something new when what I currently have functions just fine. The other thing that changed me was how I felt when I first started decluttering and had the realization that every item I have ever purchased and will ever purchase will end up in a landfill. Even if I donate an item and someone else uses it between me and the landfill, I have participated in that process.
The science of addicition shows us that any harmful habit we have developed because it gives us *something* that we need, even if it unfortunately comes with a lot if negative things attached. Whether you're trying to stop impulse buying, binge-eating, binge-watching, gambling, drinking, or whatever, you cannot maintain long term success unless you replace that habit with something else that fills that need. It can help a lot to pay attention to how you feel immediately before and after that behavior, which requires suspending judgment and getting curious and compassionate instead. Maybe shopping helps you feel connected when you're lonely or a sense of belonging and fitting in, maybe it gives you a hit of dopamine that you need to get through a hard day (or focus on the day ahead - especially if you have ADHD!) maybe it distracts you from anxiety or other unpleasant emotions. Understanding the WHY has to be the first step to making real changes, because then you can REPLACE that habit with something harmless that fills those same needs, which is so much more compassionate and sustainable than trying to white-knuckle through "giving up" a habit that you started for a reason!
This was so good. I’ve found myself buying things from you tube influencers that I would have never bought if I hadn’t watched the influencers sing their praises and gush over these products that they say they can’t live without. And the next week they have 20 more new items they can’t live without…
One of the things I do when I get an urge to spend is to go to the library. I love to read and listen to music, and my local library has tons of books and albums that I've never experienced before. Plus there's a limited amount of time they can stay at my house, so once I've enjoyed them, I head back, return them and get another batch.
I discovered the Minimalists back in 2018 after we lost our home to foreclosure and rented a house. I watched the documentary over and over again. It really helped me during a very difficult time in my life. I still can’t label myself minimalist but when we decided to stop renting and move into a studio apartment we had in the back of our business, we would say we were striving for being minimal. I have so much respect for the minimalists!
Decluttering is so much fun, when I hear a friend wanting to, I help them haha. I love it. Life is way better with less, and you have more money in the bank for experiences like holidays instead of junk!
We have a " hunter gatherer" instinct by nature, there is also a thrill that comes with finding a good deal. I need help stopping that relentless search for deals, even while trying to be frugal. Also, pls discuss sometime other ways to satisfy that instinct. I have found that foraging for wild foods is one way to use that instinct for good without accumulation of " stuff"
“love people, use things” I love this and the 30 day challenge 🙂 unless it’s food or drink that we need I’m stopping buying “things” today. Thank you so much Cas and Joshua 💖
Joshua and Ryan literally changed my life with their documentary and podcast. It prompted me to be far more intentional about how I spend money, as well as my relationships and more intentional about how I spend my time. It even prompted my husband and I to downsize our home - and we don’t regret it one bit! I’m grateful to help my children see the value in being intentional with our resources and to love people and use things (not the other way around). Thank you, Joshua and Ryan!
I’m so impressed with how well you love and care for the people you interview just by using your voice and your sincere heart. It’s a very special thing.
Thank you for talking about influencer culture and refusing to give in to that because it is the right thing to do. We need more people like you on social media!
I had an aha moment, experiences are the next big sell. Vacations are letting us escape our “stuffed” lives. I am in horror of my search for meaning in finding things to add to my life. Thank you for the great interview.
My home has sentimental items that either l inherited or gifted to me. I incorporate gifted items around my home because it makes me think of that person and appreciate them in the moment. I also know that it brings pleasure to my gifter to see their gift displayed / used during their visit. I also have items that l switch out for seasons. It brings me pleasure to refresh how my home looks. In essence l have items that are purely functional, purely beautiful (to me), purely sentimental and a mix of the above 2 or all 3 categories: functional, beauty and sentimental. I'm aware that each room is a 'container' that can only hold a finite number of items and secondly there must be space to move around. Thirdly, l must be able to store the item when not used or on display, without the storage interior spilling out. Stored items must be easily visible. If there is something l want, l'll take a photo and it stays on my phone for at least 2 weeks before purchasing. This awareness helps to minimise impulse purchases.
Testimonial for stopping social media: I will say that when I started decluttering I also took all social media off my phone (except RUclips). I had wanted to do this for years but kept not because some of my business came from Instagram. I finally decided to give it a year. I let that part go and it has been 3 years- so thankful… cut my desire for spending by so much! Also- one reason I watch you Cass is I don’t feel “sold” to.
Love Joshua Millburn! The minimalists turned me on to my new lifestyle of living with less. Still on the journey and everyday I try to have a little less and enjoy time doing things I enjoy such as a long nap this afternoon instead of slaving cleaning my home because now I have less to manage and clean.
Cass, I'm so glad you followed the impulse to sign up for the class about making $1,000 extra per month. It turns out you were inspired to listen in on it to get clarity about how you don't want to do things! About how you don't want to sell more "stuff". Thanks for sharing that story along with the rest of your journey with us!!
I am currently downsizing into a smaller house and it’s difficult. I am going to have to get rid of a lot of things and I’m struggling. But, I’m also excited about this new place as it’s a cottage in the country which is super cute and peaceful. I am slowly moving in and only bringing in the things I absolutely need and enjoy. Once I feel like it’s just right, the purging will begin. I don’t want it crammed full like my current house. I like his mantra of use things love people. I want this new house to feel loving and inviting.
I have been contemplating this, and still do : What Truly Ours, are 1. Food we already eat and not making us sick. 2. Clothes that we wear until worn-out. 3. Stuffs we use regularly, until broken/consumed. 4. Things we donated to other people. All food in fridge that left to rotten, clothes merely worn or just for keepsake, stuffs sitting in garage/basement/storage but never use, stuffs in display or piling around the house, all are not ours, just squatting in our house rent-free (even costly if considering the time we spend to shuffle it around or buying storage solution just for them). But, the letting go is still the hardest part for me. 😢
I sell vintage collectables which stemmed from my own passion for collecting vintage items, but recently my own 'keep' pile has been getting out of hand. The thrill of hunting for treasure is a buzz and the fear of missing out on that one fantastic item or bargain stresses me out! Thanks to Cass and Dawn (Minimal Mom) I've got much better at decluttering my own/household stuff, I just need to practice the same with my business. It's so true that "What the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over" (a quote attributed to Philip Lymbery) which for me means less time scrolling the temptation of vintage sellers on Instagram, setting regular spending bans and focusing on enjoying what I already have. Love and appreciate the advice, thanks as ever💖
That was very inspiring!! I’m right with you Cas when it comes to purchasing. It has become a vicious cycle for me. I get rid of so many things then turn around and order new things and I’m right back where I was. I’m going to log out of my Amazon account so I can get ahead of the game. Thank you Joshua & Cas for making so much sense.
Thank you Cass! So grateful for this episode, and even more for your perspective on not wanting to merely SELL to your listeners/viewers/followers. You have so much integrity, I just want you to know that it matters to people like me. I’ve unfollowed so many “minimalist” “influencers” who have no issue giving decluttering advice and then turning around and promoting endless products. I feel a sense of betrayal when that happens. I also know the temptation to do that is REAL, and I admire you for choosing not to be that way. ❤
24:00 decluttering techniques: 1) how might my life be better/more with less? (understanding the why of simplifying) 2) unpacking party 3) 30-day minimalism game 4) spontaneous combustion rule 5) does this thing add value to my life? 6) redefine what success is
Down sizing to a smaller house with only 2 bedrooms and 2 baths with a garage and out door space is enough when the kids are grown. Friends and family stays in an Airbnb or hotel when they visit. We socialize with them and invite them to dinner and we go out for entertainment. Everyone is happy. Keeping a big mcmansions is wasting money on up keep. The smaller space feels more homey too.
Cass.. I just recently inherited my Mother's home. We'll it's not been so recent. It's been a year+. I've tried to declutter her 62 year hoard...yes I loved her dearly. She kept EVERYTHING. I myself am guilty and I know part of my not getting my mom's things out was bc one of my sisters thought I was selling everything and making as much $$$ as I could but what they don't know i do not care to toss anything....not bc I want to sell but to keep. We all know how we hoarders are. We're not going to be doing much selling. I think they now may have figured out that I'm not going to sell but I DO want them to get what things mean the most to them. Here I am watching your podcasts and video's trying to find a video that is going to help me get it together. I can't even bring MY things here bc the house is full. Please make a video to help us to empty a house we grew up in & are now moving in to it and moving our parents out. I went through so much depression. I still go through days of it. 😢😢😊😊😊😊
Oh yeah. This is me. I'm still working on my hoarder mother's house and it's been four years this month. I've weeded it down to only the hard things. Now i just need my cousin to take the crap I'm holding onto for her, and my step-sibs to take what they want. It's been so hard, grieving and resenting having her nightmare house dumped on me at the same time. So many decisions. It's emotionally exhausting.
I've come to the conclusion that I buy things either for necessity, or for novelty. If I know I'm buying something novel, I'll enjoy it for a certain amount of time before I get bored of it and want to donate it. If I'm buying something for necessity, I go in knowing this item is going to last in my home. I don't set a limit on the amount of novel items I bring into my home, but just making that distinction before making a purchase has saved me a lot of money. If I realize I'm just buying something for novelty, I'm much less likely to buy it! I don't know if something like this would help you, but it has really helped me!
Joshua has such a gentle thoughtful expression, I appreciate The Minamalist and have watched them several years and have successfully practiced these principles…Thank you Cass for staying on task with the questions and not repeating what other interviewers have already asked him.
I feel like shopping is an addiction. I'm trying so hard to stop. I know I don't want to accumulate more nor pay more bills, yet the allure is there. It's easy to justify purchases. The best way I've found is to go cold turkey and tell myself that credit card bill won't bring me joy. I've also found if I have a back up plan/even written down so to speak when I need that shopping high, I can refer to that list of things to do instead.
Cas, I really enjoyed this podcast. I used to have a problem with spending as well. I didn't spend beyond my means but I was continually buying things I didn't really need. I realized it was all connected to my childhood and not having a lot when I was growing up and that I was constantly chasing after that little bit of excitement or that feel good feeling I got when I bought a new lipstick, item of clothing, kitchen tool or appliance, book, home decorating item, etc....whatever... you name it. Some call it "retail therapy". But for me, the "high" was a wolf in sheep's clothing. And it dissipated fairly soon or some other life disappointment/irritation/rough spot happened and I would feel the need to make another purchase. I rationalized what I was doing with all kinds of excuses. I FINALLY stopped myself from doing this over time by doing a couple of things. First, I start listening to what I was telling myself in the store or online while I was anticipating making the purchase and why I felt the need to buy it. I learned a lot about what was going on with me. Then when ahead and made the purchase, I made sure to keep all the receipts and tags for everything I bought and began to force myself to start returning items vs. keeping them a few days later when I'd come to my senses. And boy, did I hate returning things! But I made myself do it and over time I realized that if I stopped buying things I didn't need...I wouldn't have to return them. Over time, the purchases got less and less. But occassionally, I still get swooped up in the moment and something I've ordered online doesn't live up to my expectations or I realize I don't really need it...and I return it. I've also come to terms with the fact that no amount of retail therapy is going to make up for what I didn't get as a child. But making peace with the past does. That was then...this is now.
Case- you are my soul sister. I have no problem decluttering but I LOVE to shop. It's much worse with social media these days and also my kids are growing up and don't need me like they used to. Opens up time and anxiety - which in turn leads me straight to Amazon😢
Great podcast episode, as always! Cas, I love how open and honest you are. One thing that might be useful if you struggle with Amazon purchases is to go to your Amazon orders and use the pull-down menu to choose 2023. Look at everything you bought last year and ask yourself if you got value from each purchase. At the time of purchase you thought you would, but did you? How often? 50%? 70%? Less? This won't solve the problem, but it might help. Also, you're probably shopping for that burst of happy brain chemicals, so maybe look for another, healthier source of those brain chemicals? Like, did you know studies show that both we and our dogs get boosts in oxytocin when we look into each other's eyes? I'm not saying Penny can solve everything, but she's awfully cute ;)
This was very interesting & informative. I now HAPPILY live in 750 sq ft. I only have items in my home now that serve a function or purpose and bring me great joy. I am also still a Bricks & Sticks shopper still enjoying going into a Retail store. I only use Online shopping a few times a year for a hard to find gift. I am also very conscious of the money I spend as I want to get to the end of my life before the end of my money. Thanks again for a great Podcast !!
both the act of buying and decluttering an item can give you a rush of dopamine - maybe adhd is a contributing factor in your/our decision making, too, forever seeking that rush and being stuck in that cycle!
I love this topic. Yes, stuff will inevitably continue to come into our homes and yes, we need to be in the habit of continual decluttering. But limiting the stuff coming in should be a huge part of the equation. For one thing, it reduces waste.
Dear Cassandra, this is a video of you that I couldn't watch till the end, because it made me so sad about the misunderstood child you were and I just cried. My daughter also has AD(H)D, she is in her 30's and she also is still struggling with all day life. I just found out how much she struggles with ALL the things that are so 'normal' to me. I recommended your site and your RUclips channel to her. I am sure she will find comfort there and in your ideas/hacks about cleaning and decluttering. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Very vulnerable, but very valuable indeed.
I love how balanced this is....we were so sensible in the 70 s but in UK 1980 s it just got slowly materialistic then manufacture and internet....its time for us to stop and think in our different ways. Healing butterfly
I think it's extra hard for those of us with ADHD. We just get bored so easily. And suddenly, there's a shiny new thing!! How cute is that? I can use this to make a craft, or try a new learning toy for my kids, or decorate for the upcoming holiday or, etc. And suddenly.....DOPAMINE! I'm gonna buy 3! I just spent way way too much money on shopping this past weekend because I had a terrible awful no go lousy week. It's a coping mechanism for me. But really it's an ignoring mechanism. Or an avoiding mechanism. The trick is to find a healthier way to release. Any suggestions?
Wow, what a guru! I’ve always respected and valued my stuff and was heartbroken when others didn’t. I have a screwed up vision of what a home should because I lived with a hoarder where each pathway and room was an Olympic hurdling event with 3D carpet. He would get annoyed at my stuff and did’t like me having room for my stuff and me in the house. Now I’m working out my own clutter threshold and when I move house I’ll be using the container method to its Nth degree. I’m not used to empty spaces yet but it’s an exciting process with progress.
Thank you for this podcast interview, I have learned so much from the minimalist 😊 they are such an inspiration to be who you are and not try to keep up with everyone else ❤
My brother says to move and start over. There is nothing you can’t buy again. I want to donate stuff but he wants to trash it all. He is also a big shopper (anything that’s a good value). He has gotten me some cute things that I will never use. He never pays too much for any of his stuff and so throwing stuff out doesn’t bother him. No he doesn’t live with me but is trying to help me get my house together. Example: I had banking stub from before I was married (over 50 years ago). It has now all been shredded. I have been declutterring for about 5 years now and still feel like I am in a sand pit. It keeps coming down into my clean space (from another room-not new stuff). Thank you for letting me vent.
I love Cas! Will never stop watching her! My first time hearing of Joshua. Really good, he has a great way of sharing & such a wonderful personality. If anyone minds sharing more channels of decluttering, minimalism, cleaning, etc… that y’all enjoy or watch as well please?
I have so many lol! That awkward mom is great and karrie lynn for home diys and cleaning inspo. Joshua Becker for minimalism. There's sooo many let me know if you want more, or different as you may know of these channels??
@shellyoneill6931 yes!! I'm in her mentorship group!! It's great!! I figured she may know Dana and Dawn, I definitely should've mentioned them in case she hasnt!!
Thank you so much, Cas!!! I have been on a spending spree for quite a while and say I want to stop and then don’t. This podcast gave me so many ideas. I’m excited to stop spending and am going to thoroughly define my why and focus on that
I listened to this episode on the podcast, and am thoroughly enjoying this video more, because the podcast lacked their facial expressions & reactions throughout the convo. SO GOOD 😄
It is the constant churning that needs to stop, which is not so much minimalism but buying things that are discarded after only a very short time of being used. The comment in this piece of "you might as well put it on the curb" was relevant here. There are things that one can purchase, even via Amazon (though that company has gone downhill in quality), that do last for a long time and bring us value. I don't know why influencers nearly always try to sell us cheap stuff rather than better things that will last. All this churning does not bring us happiness, but a few nice things might. A well-made bicycle should last us 25 years, likewise good cast iron pots, solid wood furniture. Maybe start with Tara Button's book "A Life Less Throwaway: the lost art of buying for life". This does not mean we ought to own nothing and all be minimalists, because I love my books, but we should think about things not winding up at the curb seemingly before we unwrap them from the packaging.
Great podcast. I had to laugh when you said that part about middle age women having a hobby of buying stuff because that is so true. Through listening and watching a lot of videos about minimalist, I have learned to really evaluate why I buy things now and work for a better balance.
"Happiness is your default state,..." @12:09. JUST WOW! Complete game-changing perspective. OF COURSE!! (Summary here, my own) This is what our maker designed us to BE. We "chose and continue to choose," like Adam and Eve chose (past tense, our present tense), their own perils... 22:15 goes on to the "you shoulds," preachings and DIGNITY (required). Absolutely essential points by the guest @TheMinimalists.
Josh is insightful & inspiring. I love the video he did about his mother’s things, it really resonated with me. My own mom also had many winter coats & lived in a hot climate.
I found these two long before their movie came out and they facilitated such a powerful shift in the way I thought and behaved. I’ve also struggled with influencers and unfollowed many of them and fast forward through endorsements of the ones I do choose to keep following. When the Amazon driver starts showing up too much, I often take a no-spend month. This isn’t for necessities or experiences, just STUFF. It’s always a great reset and my bank account thanks me!
I love the minimalists! I am very different from them, but I so appreciate hearing their perspectives! I always listen to their podcast. Joshua just reduces my stress haha
When I started my decluttering journey i was so overwhelmed and I found The Minimalists website. I think I probably read through almost ALL of it and it really helped. And I also love the other Joshua from Becomingminimalist. Stuff definitely end up owning you. Great inspiring podcast Cas!!
Hi, I stop buying things thinking that I dont need to have things to enjoy them. I go to the store and spend 15 minutes admiring and touching all the eastern decorations because they are so beautiful, but I dont buy anything. I get the pleasure in the admiring, so I can go. I feel happy with sharing. Hugs from Mexico.
I believe in the pursuit of happiness. If we pursue mindfulness, purpose, generosity, and becoming our best selves, we will likely find happiness. We just have to be intentional about what we are pursuing. I support the U.S Constitution, mindfully and intentionally !
Josh's comments on success were superb. So true, but so different from what our culture wants us to believe. Also, I think of myself as an "Intentionalist." The things in my home should be enjoyable and useful. Sure, I could do with 1 set of tablespoons and teaspoons, but 2 sets serve me well.
The way I started to declutter was by thinking about what I would take with me if I had to leave again? If I had to take the bear minimum in a hurry like last time. When I left my first husband I really didn’t own much. I was a poor farmer. It was easy. I chose my couch and my mattress and a set of bunk beds. That’s it besides my clothes which were pretty tatty as we lived in the country, and my horses and their associated gear. And some tools that were mine. I didn’t want anything that reminded me of that relationship. I started collecting clothing when I got a job in the city and needed new clothes for work etc. I got addicted to having nice things and used shopping as therapy. But I still kept my farm clothes just in case. I didn’t know how to let go after living with scarcity all my life. I also had a need to get more of these beautiful things I’d never had before. That’s something I still struggle with, I buy to much stuff that I don’t need. If I like a top, I get it in every colour. It’s ridiculous but I do it without thinking and it’s an addiction.
Excellent interview. Thanks to both of you for such heart felt information. You helped me see my why. I've been stuck for a while, going crazy with nasty self talk. What I have to declutter right now has felt overwhelming. I lost my why, and you helped bring it back! Thank you!
Yes, not interested in sponsored products that you see in someone’s house one day and not in any other video. I just fast forward through those segments and don’t even trust their favourite non-sponsored items (and have to say that they’re not sponsored). When they say it’s not sponsored it’s almost like they don’t like it as much judging by the enthusiasm in their voice compared to the sponsored gear.
The tricky thing is needing something in the future. As a teacher, the supplies, the visual aids, and nowadays, the dress up and props for spirit days-- which aren't the same every year. I'm now in a small apartment and this stuff is a nuisance.
Dearest Cass, there is a high that comes with the binge of the purchase and the purge of the declutter. When we give up both the binge and the purge, we are left with a lot of empty space and time- we need to know what is right to do with that, what is right for our OWN Self. Some things that can fill this space and time consist of: reading books from the library, spending time in nature, time with friends and family, listening to music, dancing, writing, playing a musical instrument, gardening, cooking… I’m listing these in order of the most ephemeral to more material. Playing music requires and instrument, cooking requires material items, crafting requires material items… we need to choose what is in alignment with our TRUE Self and keep within that arena- some people only need to sit and meditate but they are very very few. If our true self happens to need material items then deckuttering what we don’t need will help us live our best life. We just need to know who we are and not be afraid to sit in the nothingness of empty space and unscheduled time for long enough in order to discover that. Then we have to dare to be who we truly are and not put anything in the way of that. God bless you and thank you for this wonderful channel helping myself and so many others ❤ 🙏🏻
@@maiaheiss2991 I applaud your reply. So true. I a, still learning to be quiet with myself. My journey has provided me time I never thought possible to have. I mostly work training my dog and nature walks plus lots of high value podcasts and reading. In our fast pace materialistic society doing nothing or activities that may feel like nothings is a learning journey.
Excellent thoughtful comment!! You speak truth! We want to fill the emptiness with either stuff or with mindless media.
Well, I know what you should do with your time: write a book!👏👏👏♥️🇨🇦
Well said @maiaheiss
So true! I am a creative person and like photography, painting, interio design and so many other things. I like rotating candleholders, cushion covers during the year for example. I feel like creating the home brings me joy. I like to renovate and paint furniture. Being minimalistic is not working with my personality. But I like having a nice looking home, order and closed storage for the things we have, so it does not look messy. Minimalistic videos is a great inspiration for me, to always ask myselt if I really want to keep my stuff. We give away or sell things allt the time. The hard part is getting rid of things I like, but don't use, and going through photos because it's so much. If I did not have things I would have to watch tv, read books, go out doing things and meet friends often to not feel empty. I don't have energy for these things often because of my brain tiredness and health. The home and things makes me enjoy my days. I also have something to do at home, when I finally have some energy. I think many try to fill an empty or sad life with just things.
it all boils down to lust of the eyes, we want something new to look at because we get bored looking at what we already have. I have found that if I rotate things, put some things away, rearrange the furniture or items thereon it changes the whole outlook and gives me something to look at in a new way.
This is an interesting take on almost creating something new with something old. In a way, when you rotate toys for children, they might be excited to see the old toys after awhile!
@@jac4RUclips I do the same.
I was just thinking about this applied to wardrobe. If you have a good quality piece that you love but got tired of, just pack it away to the back of the closet and "find" in a year when you completely forgot about it. No need to throw or donate and buy anything new, saves a lot of money and effort to find something that fits, considering you buy high quality pieces that would last longer than a season, and that your size/style doesn't change.
Joshua is extremely eloquent and his doco changed my life. I started with my shoes, I went from 300 pairs to 12.
Cool! That is so well done!! I am not a minimalist at all and own about the same amount of shoes as you have now... I think I have 15. But I have other areas of things with too much, that I really need to do something about. I have clothes and things I like, but don't wear. I want to let go of things like that. But 300 to 12 is really hard to reach!! I don't think I can do that in those areas... Great job!
Wow 300? Where did you put them all! I’m just amazed! I’m not a shoe person, but I find that I just buy things because it’s a good deal, then realize it’s not working for me. So then I have to get rid of it. How dumb!
wow!
I have started treating my buying habits like my grocery shopping. Just replacing things I use a lot when they wear out. Like when you buy more bread when you run out of bread.
The thing that you said about middle aged women shopping as a hobby and a job and it’s a part of her life!!!! That switched something in me. I do not want that to be my job. It is gross. It’s the opposite of my values and intention. Thank you so much for this interview! And, Cass, thanks for being so real! It is what keeps me, another ADHD mom, coming back to you! Not to buy something but to get inspired!
Well said. I had a similar reaction, and I’m so thankful that Cass not only shared that statement, but also resisted it (especially in the face of temptation to earn more).
Yeah but everyone needs a hobby. You need to replace shopping with a different hobby you enjoy - you can’t just drop shopping as a hobby because there will be a void. The idea is to have a hobby other than shopping, because you are always going to need to shop. By the way, if you want to change your self-identity as a shopper, then shop alone, never with others. Don’t let other people associate you with shopping.
I really needed to hear that. I have gotten out of control and really cannot afford it.
I hate the work of decluttering. Donation sites are becoming more selective about what they will accept and selling on FB is a hassle. When I am tempted to make an unnecessary purchase, I think about the work it will take to eventually declutter that item or to declutter something else to make room for it.
@HeatherRiley-c7h When I put my NYC apartment up for sale, I donated 50 boxes of stuff. The balance (roughly 30 boxes of stuff, unopened gallons of paint, _nice_ furniture, Crate and Barrel rugs, decor items) I got rid of by placing ads on Facebook Marketplace and Craigslist. It was a pleasure to interact with the people who were going to give my stuff new homes. Most touching were the people who came to pick up the boxes of free food that I could not longer use in the few days of remaining time I had in the space. My only regret was that I did not do this as a yearly task, and help more people during the years I was there.
I am the same way. But if something is worth to be donated if it can fit in a bag or box I take it to a donation box instead of a thrift store and if it is something big like a piece of furniture or something like that I take it to the dumpsters down by my house and sit it off to the side next to the fence in case someone wants it they can get it. But I know not everyone has dumpsters near their house to do that. Plus I also do like you and really think about something before getting it.
Love that!
I always think of having a building where I can just fill it up with things I don’t need and also other people can bring their unwanted items and let people come and get it for free because there are so many people out there that are less fortunate and struggle to buy things that they need for their families 😢
Cas, I absolutely love listening to you interview someone. You are so knowledgeable and prepared and above all, respectful. You allow the person to fully answer your questions. That is where I often find the most information. It’s never rushed, never talked over. Just a calm environment where I believe you truly want to hear what the person is saying. Well done!
This episode was probably your best one yet. I actually unfollowed several “minimalist” influencers because of their constant ads and affiliate links.
I love how you really seemed to have a lightbulb moment about influencing during this interview. Keep up the great work.
I found a RUclipsr that "exposes" influencers. I very skeptical of some people I like on social media.
I want to like the Minimalists content so much but it's so repetitive.
First I went out and bought all the totes and containers and organized my stuff. THEN I began decluttering the stuff AND the totes and containers!
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Cass I love that you said no to disguised buying advertisements!! I haven’t watched RUclips for about 2 months until restarting now, bc I was SO SICK of buying these “life changing” products. RUclips no longer was enjoyable and I started to not trust the RUclips channels I once loved bc everyone was doing it. So thank you from one mom to another for being transparent, truthful, and caring about your listeners to not push that agenda. ❤
I hope I can help you look at things differently because I used to shop for fun too. I think what helped me most was volunteering with a homeless shelter and seeing people without basic necessities like socks. I often hear decluttering influencers say to toss something that is not in great condition (towels for example) because we "deserve" to have one that makes us feel good. Well, I find much more long lasting joy donating my money to help others in need than buying something new when what I currently have functions just fine. The other thing that changed me was how I felt when I first started decluttering and had the realization that every item I have ever purchased and will ever purchase will end up in a landfill. Even if I donate an item and someone else uses it between me and the landfill, I have participated in that process.
The science of addicition shows us that any harmful habit we have developed because it gives us *something* that we need, even if it unfortunately comes with a lot if negative things attached. Whether you're trying to stop impulse buying, binge-eating, binge-watching, gambling, drinking, or whatever, you cannot maintain long term success unless you replace that habit with something else that fills that need. It can help a lot to pay attention to how you feel immediately before and after that behavior, which requires suspending judgment and getting curious and compassionate instead. Maybe shopping helps you feel connected when you're lonely or a sense of belonging and fitting in, maybe it gives you a hit of dopamine that you need to get through a hard day (or focus on the day ahead - especially if you have ADHD!) maybe it distracts you from anxiety or other unpleasant emotions. Understanding the WHY has to be the first step to making real changes, because then you can REPLACE that habit with something harmless that fills those same needs, which is so much more compassionate and sustainable than trying to white-knuckle through "giving up" a habit that you started for a reason!
This was so good. I’ve found myself buying things from you tube influencers that I would have never bought if I hadn’t watched the influencers sing their praises and gush over these products that they say they can’t live without. And the next week they have 20 more new items they can’t live without…
Thank you for not bombarding us with all the ads ❤️
One of the things I do when I get an urge to spend is to go to the library. I love to read and listen to music, and my local library has tons of books and albums that I've never experienced before. Plus there's a limited amount of time they can stay at my house, so once I've enjoyed them, I head back, return them and get another batch.
I discovered the Minimalists back in 2018 after we lost our home to foreclosure and rented a house. I watched the documentary over and over again. It really helped me during a very difficult time in my life. I still can’t label myself minimalist but when we decided to stop renting and move into a studio apartment we had in the back of our business, we would say we were striving for being minimal. I have so much respect for the minimalists!
Hi Cass
I love the way you really listen to your guest. You don’t interrupt and ask great questions. 💕💕
Decluttering is so much fun, when I hear a friend wanting to, I help them haha. I love it. Life is way better with less, and you have more money in the bank for experiences like holidays instead of junk!
We have a " hunter gatherer" instinct by nature, there is also a thrill that comes with finding a good deal. I need help stopping that relentless search for deals, even while trying to be frugal. Also, pls discuss sometime other ways to satisfy that instinct. I have found that foraging for wild foods is one way to use that instinct for good without accumulation of " stuff"
“love people, use things” I love this and the 30 day challenge 🙂 unless it’s food or drink that we need I’m stopping buying “things” today. Thank you so much Cas and Joshua 💖
Yes not the other way around
Joshua and Ryan literally changed my life with their documentary and podcast. It prompted me to be far more intentional about how I spend money, as well as my relationships and more intentional about how I spend my time. It even prompted my husband and I to downsize our home - and we don’t regret it one bit! I’m grateful to help my children see the value in being intentional with our resources and to love people and use things (not the other way around). Thank you, Joshua and Ryan!
I’m so impressed with how well you love and care for the people you interview just by using your voice and your sincere heart. It’s a very special thing.
Thank you for talking about influencer culture and refusing to give in to that because it is the right thing to do. We need more people like you on social media!
I had an aha moment, experiences are the next big sell. Vacations are letting us escape our “stuffed” lives. I am in horror of my search for meaning in finding things to add to my life. Thank you for the great interview.
My home has sentimental items that either l inherited or gifted to me. I incorporate gifted items around my home because it makes me think of that person and appreciate them in the moment. I also know that it brings pleasure to my gifter to see their gift displayed / used during their visit.
I also have items that l switch out for seasons. It brings me pleasure to refresh how my home looks.
In essence l have items that are purely functional, purely beautiful (to me), purely sentimental and a mix of the above 2 or all 3 categories: functional, beauty and sentimental.
I'm aware that each room is a 'container' that can only hold a finite number of items and secondly there must be space to move around. Thirdly, l must be able to store the item when not used or on display, without the storage interior spilling out. Stored items must be easily visible.
If there is something l want, l'll take a photo and it stays on my phone for at least 2 weeks before purchasing.
This awareness helps to minimise impulse purchases.
Testimonial for stopping social media: I will say that when I started decluttering I also took all social media off my phone (except RUclips). I had wanted to do this for years but kept not because some of my business came from Instagram. I finally decided to give it a year. I let that part go and it has been 3 years- so thankful… cut my desire for spending by so much!
Also- one reason I watch you Cass is I don’t feel “sold” to.
Great discipline good job. My downfall is Whatnot.
RUclips is also my only social media. No more worrying about what ppl from high school or past jobs are doing or saying. 😂 It is so freeing!
@@beckylc3526Amen to this!
Love Joshua Millburn! The minimalists turned me on to my new lifestyle of living with less. Still on the journey and everyday I try to have a little less and enjoy time doing things I enjoy such as a long nap this afternoon instead of slaving cleaning my home because now I have less to manage and clean.
Cass, I'm so glad you followed the impulse to sign up for the class about making $1,000 extra per month. It turns out you were inspired to listen in on it to get clarity about how you don't want to do things! About how you don't want to sell more "stuff". Thanks for sharing that story along with the rest of your journey with us!!
I'm staring at this now...the hardest of things I have to declutter, but I'm not sure why. So many "will I need this?" items. Thanks for the help
I am currently downsizing into a smaller house and it’s difficult. I am going to have to get rid of a lot of things and I’m struggling. But, I’m also excited about this new place as it’s a cottage in the country which is super cute and peaceful. I am slowly moving in and only bringing in the things I absolutely need and enjoy. Once I feel like it’s just right, the purging will begin. I don’t want it crammed full like my current house. I like his mantra of use things love people. I want this new house to feel loving and inviting.
I have been contemplating this, and still do :
What Truly Ours, are
1. Food we already eat and not making us sick.
2. Clothes that we wear until worn-out.
3. Stuffs we use regularly, until broken/consumed.
4. Things we donated to other people.
All food in fridge that left to rotten, clothes merely worn or just for keepsake, stuffs sitting in garage/basement/storage but never use, stuffs in display or piling around the house, all are not ours, just squatting in our house rent-free (even costly if considering the time we spend to shuffle it around or buying storage solution just for them).
But, the letting go is still the hardest part for me. 😢
I sell vintage collectables which stemmed from my own passion for collecting vintage items, but recently my own 'keep' pile has been getting out of hand. The thrill of hunting for treasure is a buzz and the fear of missing out on that one fantastic item or bargain stresses me out! Thanks to Cass and Dawn (Minimal Mom) I've got much better at decluttering my own/household stuff, I just need to practice the same with my business. It's so true that "What the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve over" (a quote attributed to Philip Lymbery) which for me means less time scrolling the temptation of vintage sellers on Instagram, setting regular spending bans and focusing on enjoying what I already have. Love and appreciate the advice, thanks as ever💖
Cass, your authenticity shines through in this podcast. What a coup! Great interview and fabulous advice from both of you.
That was very inspiring!! I’m right with you Cas when it comes to purchasing. It has become a vicious cycle for me. I get rid of so many things then turn around and order new things and I’m right back where I was. I’m going to log out of my Amazon account so I can get ahead of the game. Thank you Joshua & Cas for making so much sense.
Thank you Cass! So grateful for this episode, and even more for your perspective on not wanting to merely SELL to your listeners/viewers/followers. You have so much integrity, I just want you to know that it matters to people like me. I’ve unfollowed so many “minimalist” “influencers” who have no issue giving decluttering advice and then turning around and promoting endless products. I feel a sense of betrayal when that happens. I also know the temptation to do that is REAL, and I admire you for choosing not to be that way. ❤
24:00 decluttering techniques:
1) how might my life be better/more with less? (understanding the why of simplifying)
2) unpacking party
3) 30-day minimalism game
4) spontaneous combustion rule
5) does this thing add value to my life?
6) redefine what success is
Down sizing to a smaller house with only 2 bedrooms and 2 baths with a garage and out door space is enough when the kids are grown. Friends and family stays in an Airbnb or hotel when they visit. We socialize with them and invite them to dinner and we go out for entertainment. Everyone is happy. Keeping a big mcmansions is wasting money on up keep. The smaller space feels more homey too.
Oooo she called us middle aged women OUT! Thanks for bringing that out i will never forget that example!
Cass.. I just recently inherited my Mother's home. We'll it's not been so recent. It's been a year+. I've tried to declutter her 62 year hoard...yes I loved her dearly. She kept EVERYTHING. I myself am guilty and I know part of my not getting my mom's things out was bc one of my sisters thought I was selling everything and making as much $$$ as I could but what they don't know i do not care to toss anything....not bc I want to sell but to keep. We all know how we hoarders are. We're not going to be doing much selling. I think they now may have figured out that I'm not going to sell but I DO want them to get what things mean the most to them. Here I am watching your podcasts and video's trying to find a video that is going to help me get it together. I can't even bring MY things here bc the house is full. Please make a video to help us to empty a house we grew up in & are now moving in to it and moving our parents out. I went through so much depression. I still go through days of it. 😢😢😊😊😊😊
Oh yeah. This is me. I'm still working on my hoarder mother's house and it's been four years this month. I've weeded it down to only the hard things. Now i just need my cousin to take the crap I'm holding onto for her, and my step-sibs to take what they want. It's been so hard, grieving and resenting having her nightmare house dumped on me at the same time. So many decisions. It's emotionally exhausting.
Also, just be kind to yourself and know it takes time. Sending hugs because i feel this so much.
I've come to the conclusion that I buy things either for necessity, or for novelty. If I know I'm buying something novel, I'll enjoy it for a certain amount of time before I get bored of it and want to donate it. If I'm buying something for necessity, I go in knowing this item is going to last in my home. I don't set a limit on the amount of novel items I bring into my home, but just making that distinction before making a purchase has saved me a lot of money. If I realize I'm just buying something for novelty, I'm much less likely to buy it! I don't know if something like this would help you, but it has really helped me!
Joshua has such a gentle thoughtful expression, I appreciate The Minamalist and have watched them several years and have successfully practiced these principles…Thank you Cass for staying on task with the questions and not repeating what other interviewers have already asked him.
I feel like shopping is an addiction. I'm trying so hard to stop. I know I don't want to accumulate more nor pay more bills, yet the allure is there. It's easy to justify purchases.
The best way I've found is to go cold turkey and tell myself that credit card bill won't bring me joy.
I've also found if I have a back up plan/even written down so to speak when I need that shopping high, I can refer to that list of things to do instead.
Cas, I really enjoyed this podcast. I used to have a problem with spending as well. I didn't spend beyond my means but I was continually buying things I didn't really need. I realized it was all connected to my childhood and not having a lot when I was growing up and that I was constantly chasing after that little bit of excitement or that feel good feeling I got when I bought a new lipstick, item of clothing, kitchen tool or appliance, book, home decorating item, etc....whatever... you name it. Some call it "retail therapy". But for me, the "high" was a wolf in sheep's clothing. And it dissipated fairly soon or some other life disappointment/irritation/rough spot happened and I would feel the need to make another purchase. I rationalized what I was doing with all kinds of excuses. I FINALLY stopped myself from doing this over time by doing a couple of things. First, I start listening to what I was telling myself in the store or online while I was anticipating making the purchase and why I felt the need to buy it. I learned a lot about what was going on with me. Then when ahead and made the purchase, I made sure to keep all the receipts and tags for everything I bought and began to force myself to start returning items vs. keeping them a few days later when I'd come to my senses. And boy, did I hate returning things! But I made myself do it and over time I realized that if I stopped buying things I didn't need...I wouldn't have to return them. Over time, the purchases got less and less. But occassionally, I still get swooped up in the moment and something I've ordered online doesn't live up to my expectations or I realize I don't really need it...and I return it. I've also come to terms with the fact that no amount of retail therapy is going to make up for what I didn't get as a child. But making peace with the past does. That was then...this is now.
Two of my favourite yt people at the same time ❤
LOVE Joshua & crew. The podcast guided me through a cross country move in so many ways far beyond decluttering. What a treat!❤
I was a patron for the minimalist for a long time they are the greatest
Case- you are my soul sister. I have no problem decluttering but I LOVE to shop. It's much worse with social media these days and also my kids are growing up and don't need me like they used to. Opens up time and anxiety - which in turn leads me straight to Amazon😢
In my opinion, this is one of your BEST videos. I also enjoyed the insightful comments from the people who posted their thoughts.
What a powerful combo with you and the founder of the Minimalists, Joshua on your podcast!! Wonderful decluttering advice from you both❤
Great podcast episode, as always! Cas, I love how open and honest you are. One thing that might be useful if you struggle with Amazon purchases is to go to your Amazon orders and use the pull-down menu to choose 2023. Look at everything you bought last year and ask yourself if you got value from each purchase. At the time of purchase you thought you would, but did you? How often? 50%? 70%? Less? This won't solve the problem, but it might help. Also, you're probably shopping for that burst of happy brain chemicals, so maybe look for another, healthier source of those brain chemicals? Like, did you know studies show that both we and our dogs get boosts in oxytocin when we look into each other's eyes? I'm not saying Penny can solve everything, but she's awfully cute ;)
This was very interesting & informative. I now HAPPILY live in 750 sq ft. I only have items in my home now that serve a function or purpose and bring me great joy. I am also still a Bricks & Sticks shopper still enjoying going into a Retail store. I only use Online shopping a few times a year for a hard to find gift. I am also very conscious of the money I spend as I want to get to the end of my life before the end of my money. Thanks again for a great Podcast !!
both the act of buying and decluttering an item can give you a rush of dopamine - maybe adhd is a contributing factor in your/our decision making, too, forever seeking that rush and being stuck in that cycle!
I love this topic. Yes, stuff will inevitably continue to come into our homes and yes, we need to be in the habit of continual decluttering. But limiting the stuff coming in should be a huge part of the equation. For one thing, it reduces waste.
Dear Cassandra, this is a video of you that I couldn't watch till the end, because it made me so sad about the misunderstood child you were and I just cried. My daughter also has AD(H)D, she is in her 30's and she also is still struggling with all day life. I just found out how much she struggles with ALL the things that are so 'normal' to me. I recommended your site and your RUclips channel to her. I am sure she will find comfort there and in your ideas/hacks about cleaning and decluttering. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Very vulnerable, but very valuable indeed.
I love how balanced this is....we were so sensible in the 70 s but in UK 1980 s it just got slowly materialistic then manufacture and internet....its time for us to stop and think in our different ways. Healing butterfly
Wish I could give this 1000 likes. You are both treasures!
Great episode! I especially love the 'spontaneous combustion rule'. Definitely going to use this one! ❤
I think it's extra hard for those of us with ADHD. We just get bored so easily. And suddenly, there's a shiny new thing!! How cute is that? I can use this to make a craft, or try a new learning toy for my kids, or decorate for the upcoming holiday or, etc. And suddenly.....DOPAMINE! I'm gonna buy 3! I just spent way way too much money on shopping this past weekend because I had a terrible awful no go lousy week. It's a coping mechanism for me. But really it's an ignoring mechanism. Or an avoiding mechanism. The trick is to find a healthier way to release. Any suggestions?
I struggle with this, too.
SO so good!!! ❤and I LOVE your honestly about consumerism. I think it’s the majority of us! Thank you for this awesome episode! 🙏🏼😊
Wow, what a guru! I’ve always respected and valued my stuff and was heartbroken when others didn’t. I have a screwed up vision of what a home should because I lived with a hoarder where each pathway and room was an Olympic hurdling event with 3D carpet. He would get annoyed at my stuff and did’t like me having room for my stuff and me in the house. Now I’m working out my own clutter threshold and when I move house I’ll be using the container method to its Nth degree. I’m not used to empty spaces yet but it’s an exciting process with progress.
Thank you for this podcast interview, I have learned so much from the minimalist 😊 they are such an inspiration to be who you are and not try to keep up with everyone else ❤
I absolutely loved my talk with Joshua! You're right they are a true inspiration!
My brother says to move and start over. There is nothing you can’t buy again. I want to donate stuff but he wants to trash it all. He is also a big shopper (anything that’s a good value). He has gotten me some cute things that I will never use. He never pays too much for any of his stuff and so throwing stuff out doesn’t bother him. No he doesn’t live with me but is trying to help me get my house together. Example: I had banking stub from before I was married (over 50 years ago). It has now all been shredded. I have been declutterring for about 5 years now and still feel like I am in a sand pit. It keeps coming down into my clean space (from another room-not new stuff). Thank you for letting me vent.
I love Cas! Will never stop watching her! My first time hearing of Joshua. Really good, he has a great way of sharing & such a wonderful personality. If anyone minds sharing more channels of decluttering, minimalism, cleaning, etc… that y’all enjoy or watch as well please?
I have so many lol! That awkward mom is great and karrie lynn for home diys and cleaning inspo. Joshua Becker for minimalism. There's sooo many let me know if you want more, or different as you may know of these channels??
The minimal mom with Dawn is great‼️
@shellyoneill6931 yes!! I'm in her mentorship group!! It's great!! I figured she may know Dana and Dawn, I definitely should've mentioned them in case she hasnt!!
@@dianasonabudgetplease I’d love the suggestions
@@shellyoneill6931thank you! She is great
Loved this colab🎉🎉.
Thank you so much, Cas!!! I have been on a spending spree for quite a while and say I want to stop and then don’t. This podcast gave me so many ideas. I’m excited to stop spending and am going to thoroughly define my why and focus on that
I listened to this episode on the podcast, and am thoroughly enjoying this video more, because the podcast lacked their facial expressions & reactions throughout the convo. SO GOOD 😄
It is the constant churning that needs to stop, which is not so much minimalism but buying things that are discarded after only a very short time of being used. The comment in this piece of "you might as well put it on the curb" was relevant here. There are things that one can purchase, even via Amazon (though that company has gone downhill in quality), that do last for a long time and bring us value. I don't know why influencers nearly always try to sell us cheap stuff rather than better things that will last. All this churning does not bring us happiness, but a few nice things might. A well-made bicycle should last us 25 years, likewise good cast iron pots, solid wood furniture. Maybe start with Tara Button's book "A Life Less Throwaway: the lost art of buying for life". This does not mean we ought to own nothing and all be minimalists, because I love my books, but we should think about things not winding up at the curb seemingly before we unwrap them from the packaging.
It's all about the money. Everyone's in it for the money. Some get paid to encourage us to buy things.
We can only pursue happiness, but we can BE happy.
Great podcast. I had to laugh when you said that part about middle age women having a hobby of buying stuff because that is so true. Through listening and watching a lot of videos about minimalist, I have learned to really evaluate why I buy things now and work for a better balance.
"Happiness is your default state,..." @12:09. JUST WOW! Complete game-changing perspective.
OF COURSE!! (Summary here, my own)
This is what our maker designed us to BE. We "chose and continue to choose," like Adam and Eve chose (past tense, our present tense), their own perils...
22:15 goes on to the "you shoulds," preachings and DIGNITY (required). Absolutely essential points by the guest @TheMinimalists.
For the first time I disagree with Joshua, decluttering is fun! I love it! 😂
Josh is insightful & inspiring. I love the video he did about his mother’s things, it really resonated with me. My own mom also had many winter coats & lived in a hot climate.
I found these two long before their movie came out and they facilitated such a powerful shift in the way I thought and behaved. I’ve also struggled with influencers and unfollowed many of them and fast forward through endorsements of the ones I do choose to keep following. When the Amazon driver starts showing up too much, I often take a no-spend month. This isn’t for necessities or experiences, just STUFF. It’s always a great reset and my bank account thanks me!
Been a fan of both of you for years. Just a fantastic conversation. Great thought-provoking insights. All of this coming from a middle age woman.
💗 Best podcast talk I've listened to in a long time.
I love the minimalists! I am very different from them, but I so appreciate hearing their perspectives! I always listen to their podcast. Joshua just reduces my stress haha
When I started my decluttering journey i was so overwhelmed and I found The Minimalists website. I think I probably read through almost ALL of it and it really helped. And I also love the other Joshua from Becomingminimalist. Stuff definitely end up owning you. Great inspiring podcast Cas!!
This was a great interview. I’ve fallen to a lot of “influencing” this Xmas. He was able to nail a few things. ❤
Holy moly! I really enjoyed this and am so incredibly inspired- Thank you ❤️
For shoppers it's really not so much about the " things", it's about the hunt....
Hi, I stop buying things thinking that I dont need to have things to enjoy them. I go to the store and spend 15 minutes admiring and touching all the eastern decorations because they are so beautiful, but I dont buy anything. I get the pleasure in the admiring, so I can go. I feel happy with sharing. Hugs from Mexico.
This was incredible and so valuable. Thanks Cass!
So many advertisements in this prodcast!😢 I love the minimalists also because their podcast is 100% advertisements free. Thanks, Joshua!
I believe in the pursuit of happiness. If we pursue mindfulness, purpose, generosity, and becoming our best selves, we will likely find happiness. We just have to be intentional about what we are pursuing. I support the U.S Constitution, mindfully and intentionally !
Josh's comments on success were superb. So true, but so different from what our culture wants us to believe. Also, I think of myself as an "Intentionalist." The things in my home should be enjoyable and useful. Sure, I could do with 1 set of tablespoons and teaspoons, but 2 sets serve me well.
Awesome guest!!!!!!
Very inspiring! Decluttered the entire time. Thank you x
The way I started to declutter was by thinking about what I would take with me if I had to leave again? If I had to take the bear minimum in a hurry like last time. When I left my first husband I really didn’t own much. I was a poor farmer. It was easy. I chose my couch and my mattress and a set of bunk beds. That’s it besides my clothes which were pretty tatty as we lived in the country, and my horses and their associated gear. And some tools that were mine. I didn’t want anything that reminded me of that relationship.
I started collecting clothing when I got a job in the city and needed new clothes for work etc. I got addicted to having nice things and used shopping as therapy. But I still kept my farm clothes just in case. I didn’t know how to let go after living with scarcity all my life. I also had a need to get more of these beautiful things I’d never had before.
That’s something I still struggle with, I buy to much stuff that I don’t need. If I like a top, I get it in every colour. It’s ridiculous but I do it without thinking and it’s an addiction.
This was life changing, thanks Cass ❤🎉
Excellent interview. Thanks to both of you for such heart felt information. You helped me see my why. I've been stuck for a while, going crazy with nasty self talk. What I have to declutter right now has felt overwhelming. I lost my why, and you helped bring it back! Thank you!
Another awesome interview! You both were so eloquent with your words. Very easy to listen to. Great job Cass!
Wow! Pause for thought! This is probably the most powerful video of yours I have ever watched.
Yes, not interested in sponsored products that you see in someone’s house one day and not in any other video. I just fast forward through those segments and don’t even trust their favourite non-sponsored items (and have to say that they’re not sponsored). When they say it’s not sponsored it’s almost like they don’t like it as much judging by the enthusiasm in their voice compared to the sponsored gear.
Value vs clutter: great concept.
Spontaneous combustion rule is the best in my opinion, very eye opening
I love the minimalists. They actually led me to your channel, Cas!
Brilliant! I love The Minimalists read all books and love your honesty about buying too much! Soo refreshing! Lots of love from Sweden 🇸🇪
What an amazing collaboration. I love listening to you and Joshua.
Thank you so much….I am continuing to learn.
The tricky thing is needing something in the future. As a teacher, the supplies, the visual aids, and nowadays, the dress up and props for spirit days-- which aren't the same every year. I'm now in a small apartment and this stuff is a nuisance.
Very important message.