Matt Paxton - Crazy Decluttering Stories | Clutterbug Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 26 мар 2023
- Matt Paxton is one of the world's leading decluttering experts, he also happens to be hilarious. In today's podcast, Matt shares his incredible knowledge and expertise, as well as some crazy decluttering stories from his 15 seasons on Hoarders and his new tv show, Legacy List.
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I have one adult daughter and I had kept a lot of her stuff after she graduated from high school and went off to college. I continued to keep it in bins or boxes until she married and bought a house. Then because I knew she had room to store it I began to ask her if she wanted it. This is what I love about texting. I would go through her box and lay the stuff out on my living room floor, take pictures and text it to her with the message, do you want any of this stuff? If not I’m going to give it away. She said no to probably 90% of it. I donated what she didn’t want and drove what she did want to her house. I wasn’t about to wait for her to pick it up from me or it would get buried in my house again. I’ve run across more of her stuff so once I get to that room in the house for my decluttering project I’ll text her again. This gives me peace to let her make the decision to keep it or give it away and me the power to actually take it out of my house. 😀 I’m not saying this is the best way but it worked for me.
i LOVE that!
Pre-internet: my parents just showed up with the stuff I'd asked them to keep, and they, hubs and I carried it into the house. The very next weekend, Hubs parents did the same thing. In eight days, our 936-square foot house was kinda full.
When we moved from that house to the new one, we managed to donate, throw out a lot of stuff and prevent moving it to the new home.
I was widowed some years ago. Chapter Two fellow moved in, and didn't edit his possessions before he did. He's got four totes of pictures he never looks at. A lot of them were his mom's, and I suspect he feels guilty about throwing away the pictures, even if they're of people he can't identify.
Brilliant!
Yes, I love that! I do the same with my adult sons. Text them a pic of my things im getting rid of and ask. No hurt feelings if they don’t want. Works great except they live out of town so it doesn’t leave immediately…
Glad you put that idea out there! We have a messenger group for our family called "All the Stuff" and I do the same thing - take pictures, daughters do thumbs up or down, then I save it or donate it away. It's nice because they are all at that very busy stage of life and appreciate that I can do some of the "editing" for them. It's easier to decide in a picture, too, than when things are in your hands. Win-win for everyone.
I could listen to you two all night! I’m an 80 year old widow. Since my husband died, I have given his things to my kids and grandson. Not, all at once, just at special times. Like at Christmas time this year I gave my grandson my husbands watches, because he had mentioned he wanted to start a watch collection. While he ( he’s 29 ) and his dad, my son were going thru the boxes, my son also found a large ring that looked a bit like a bracelet. We all had a good laugh relating the story that my husband had rung a heifer instead of a bull one year, and, he kept the ring as a reminder. Things like this give me joy, I’d rather give them now so I can see them enjoy them. By the way, no one wants my china either! It will go to Good Will soon! I’m purging now, so my daughter will not have to deal with the junk when I’m gone.
God bless you for purging now and not leaving it for your children.
Doing this Exact thing right now. Much to my hubs displeasure.
I want to do this as well. I don't want to burden my children.
...me too.....do I really need 6 blankets in the "blanket" box ...what, in case there is a blizzard in Florida? Camping equipment....only what I need if the power goes out...etc.
I have been purging my house too. Don’t donate to goodwill there are better charities.
A lot of mine went to Dress for Success, homeless shelter, disabled vets, etc.
I got bored easily as a kid, so taught myself to draw and paint, took guitar lessons and started writing songs at 12, and spent 2 hours a day practicing singing. I became a studio vocalist, and an illustrator. If I had internet during those years, I wouldn't have developed those 2 talents.
Content and all else aside - you’re a great interviewer because you allow the guest to speak! It’s distracting when the guest is cut off all the time. You’re so kind and respectful.
Thank you!
@@ClutterbugPod You are also very empathic :}
Lovely comment. Very true.
I agree. Cas you are so gracious.
Listening 🎶Memories From My Aunt Gloria is will be 96 this year Solana Beach California ⛱️ 💙 ❤️
49:52 Hoo boy! I'm nearly 80. I have my grandmother's cedar chest STILL STORING HER STUFF! I inherited it when I was 10! I've probably moved with it 10 times. Just ordered the book. I hope it gives me the strength to deal with it and all the other items I inherited from my great grandmother!
And thank you for the information regarding the good that Goodwill does.
I put stuff on the curb and i get so happy when people come to pick it up❤
.....me too!
A couple months ago I asked my parents what was the most cherished thing they had. My dad pulled out his pocket knife and said this so I asked him to tell me the story of why it’s so special. He went on to tell me story after story of adventures he had involving this pocket knife including hitchhiking from the southern east coast to Alaska just after high school in the 70s. I know now what my father’s most cherished possession is but also why. He let me know to keep that and feel no guilt about getting rid of anything else of his. My mom however….. lol
So cool. I wish I had asked that.
My husband graduated high school in 1970 and hitchhiked across the US and Canada! And he collects knives lol!
❤❤❤I just spent two weeks with my son’s family in Florida. The kids and I walked to and from school. We played 20 questions, looked at the flowers 🌸 in the yards, and actually spoke to each other. What a great opportunity to communicate from one generation to another. We also had fun watching the new puppy learn about the world of smells. ❤❤❤❤
My son got a job at Goodwill after he worked through his diagnosis of epilepsy and the anxiety and depression that go with it. He moved on from there, and has a job he loves, as well as the knowledge that he is important.
This made my heart squeeze. Good stuff.
I love this! I'm a big fan of Goodwill - I both shop and donate there.
Been going through my moms home after helping her move into assisted living. Each time we do a pivotal process, we have a long conversation with her stories and memories and it’s been really good.
Thanks for interviewing Matt Paxton. He seems to be such a good man 🙂
My 2024 resolution is to get rid of at least one thing from my house every day. So far this year I’ve given away and thrown away 140 things…big and small.
Good for you:) I toss stuff every chance I get.
Great idea! I’m gonna start a box this minute and once a week I’ll stop at Good Will…Thanks!
I saved my stepmoms earrings because they still smell of her perfume. I loved her so.
I really enjoyed watching Hoarders because it made me feel good because "at least my house doesn't look THAT BAD" 🤭 I enjoyed seeing Matt on the program - he was great.
Every time I watched hoarders I would feel bad. And I was a house cleaner in my younger years. Then became rabid organizer. i had OCD with a huge dose of ADHD. Medication helped me overcome a lot. I’m still that way, just not as bad.
Wonderful! Thank you. Entertaining while informative. My dear, kind and compassionate friend (female)who is almost 69 is an EXTREME hoarder and she admits it and knows she needs help. Never married, no children and minimal family. She was a TEACHER for learning disabled children and then a college professor. She was actually my babysitter when I was young and we have remained friends for almost 44 years now. My adult children call her “Aunt” and they adore her. I’m educating myself on how to best help her get rid of all the stuff and this podcast was so helpful. Matt, you are wonderful and I appreciate you sharing your knowledge.
This is one of my favorite decluttering listens ever. I have consumed so much decluttering and minimalism content over the past few years - I didn’t think I could hear anything new anymore. This gentle podcast proved me wrong. Thank you.
Same here. It’s just profound.
It was hard to part with my dad's Marine uniform. It felt disrespectful to throw it . We found an organization that wanted uniforms for military honor burials. My grandmother donated my WW1 uniform to the local history museum. My husband donated his AF Academy uniforms to the local children's theater. The pictures are the memories.
I myself find taking a picture of the items. Maybe even frame it!! ❤❤
Matt hit the nail on the head of the guilt of women over fifty-five, oldest adult daughter, dealing with generations of stuff, feeling like they have to do it all themselves.
Our grandparents and parents lived through the great depression of the late 1920's through the 1930's (over a decade of stress/trauma) - everything was valuable, because they could never be sure they wouldn't need it again and not be able to afford to replace it. Pretty trinket, kitsch stuff, had it's own significance for the same reason.
I helped move my 94 y.o. Aunt into assisted living from her parent's house that had generations of belongings stored in the basement and throughout the house. It's been a year and a half since her move, and she'll still ask me if I know what happened to some particular item.
I did take photographs with me and more stuff I now wish I hadn't, but she keeps thinking everything went to the dump. I remind her that a professional guy was brought in to clear the house, and that any items of value would have been kept by him for resale, since he had an "antique" shop as part of his business, that he would know the worth of the items better than we would. . . .
There's more behind it all, but this podcast is helping me see more clearly what I need to do in my own situation.
Many thanks!
it's the narcissism of the eldest ... as a middle child, believe me no one is asking you to "do it all" yourself. You just want to present yourself to the world that way. It's a common trait among insecure eldest siblings and a way they think they can control their siblings into adulthood. Sorry, sister, not buying it. Also not buying the idea that anyone who happened to have lived during the Depression can't unlearn bad habits. So what if you were hungry one afternoon in 1935? that doesn't mean you need to keep piles of crap stacked everywhere in your house - it's just an easy excuse that people like you fall for.
@@Marcel_Audubon wtf?
Oh my gosh! I have a bag of blankets in my garage, that I want to take to an animal shelter! LOLOL!! AND I’m a nurse!!! 😂😬
This man bringing families together is so beautiful. I have 6 kiddos 5 young ones.. struggling with ADHD and hubby left us recently. Decluttering and organizing is so difficult .. donate to causes that you believe in was such a great idea.. going through DV situations I plan to donate to my local safe house for women and resource center for abused women. Such a wonderful idea, I can’t wait to start this new journey.
This is the first time I’ve heard anyone talk about “Ice Cream Maker” turning a big wheel over. As a kid, we turned our tricycle turned upside down to make an “Ice Cream Maker”!
What kid would think of that now? You don't churn ice cream at home you buy it. If you have your own ice cream maker, it works like a food processor.
We did the same thing with our tricycles.
This video - I never got to watch the full episode…. My mom and I love your channel have for years!! I so wish I listened to this when I started to because in December I lost my mom. I am now cleaning out her apartment and finding things I had no idea how cool and I have no idea where she got it, who it’s from or the story behind it. She was an English teacher of immigrant students For over 30 years!! And every single year, they all loved her. They would tell me themselves how amazing she was. She would get the most beautiful meaningful gifts!! I miss her so much and I didn’t get to ask these questions!! It breaks my heart! But God had me listen to this video for a reason today!! I am full of containers of stuff I’ve brought home to go through. Having watched this video now will help out a new perspective of what will stay!!
Thank you Cas and Matt!!!
YES!!! this is what I tell my husband whenever he has a hard time “just” donating to goodwill. I love finding a good deal at goodwill and have been blessed by things I have found there so I never feel bad donating there. I know when it’s something nice that I am making someone’s day!
Yep, pregnant with baby #2 and found a double stroller at goodwill for $15 the other day. It will be such a great blessing to our family! Strollers can get expensive.
As a fellow professional organizer, the whole “you get a check and a hug” really does happen. I love changing people’s lives!
Oh I love listening to Matt! He’s so down to Earth & gives great advice! I’m in my 70’s & it’s so true my stuff is burying me! I’ve gone through stuff a little @ a time & realized no one really wants my stuff or collections. So I’m donating to the Vets so they can use the money! Thanks for your tips - family stories are important to pass down!!
I love this. My grandmother wanted me to have her doll collection (mostly creepy old dolls and Franklin Mint dolls from the 80's that). The one thing of hers I really wanted was her old treadle sewing machine because I remembered playing with it as a kid. I love sharing stories too.
Yikes. I hate creepy dolls and wonder why people have them in their homes.
Oh my, you just allowed me to laugh at myself. ( as a 55+ woman)...such truth...I have finally got to the point that I am willing to just donate "heirlooms" after 10 yrs of decluttering. Keep inspiring.
As the oldest adult daughter of an oldest adult daughter and also aspiring minimalist, this was really mind blowing. I will work on letting go of the guilt of letting go of items my parents have sent me as they are in the process of downsizing.
Thank you both! As someone who supports grievers, I see loss in every episode of Hoarders.
This was sooooo helpful, saving things for family when they all are passed away, a bingo moment!!!
I love this colab!!!! My dad is 88yrs old, and is in the process of moving. He had almost 3 acres, a HUGE shop, 2 car garage, 3 sheds, and at least 4 storage trailers. Now he's having to hire people to remove the scrap metal and junk and move what he's keeping out to his new property. He's finding that it's costing money to move it, but he still has the mindset that maybe he'll need that 1ft piece of wood and he would have to rebuy it, so it needs to be kept.
And you're right about the stories. I never knew that the dresser I used as a kid and that he uses now, was his when he was a teenager.
Matt has always been my favorite on Hoarders! Great interview:)
Great info Matt!!! Thank youuuu!!! Cas- I am praying that you get as many shows as you want! You (and Wendell) were FABULOUS on Hot Mess House and on youtube! There is soooo much room for your wisdom, knowledge and compassion for those who need you! You are my favorite!!! Keep going!!! Emmys are sure to be on the way! Hugs!!!
After watching this podcast, I proceeded to binge-watch all of Legacy List seasons 1 and 2. It's my new favorite show! Congratulations, Matt, on your award nomination! Thank you, Cass, for such a great interview!
This is gold! I've always loved Matt on Hoarders. It's so true, that the daughter -in-law and the grandkids get to throw out the peanut butter jars and even the plastic covers that your husband's mother saved from his bed wetting days as a young boy. 😮 And that was after the oldest sister of the husband was weary of sorting through her parent's things. 55 yr olds, please throw your trash away.
I am a total fan of Matt, from being a previous fan of hoarders! This interview is so great!! I appreciate the in depth convo regarding items that are sentimental. I had to personally rationalize my collection of “nanas” items. My favorite person from childhood, which is now passed. These types of conversations help me immensely. Thank you, thank you! My house is back in order, while still honoring my nana 🤍🤍🤍
Hoarders is one of my favorite shows of my whole life and I have been a fan of both of y’all separately and now I get to see you both here! What a treat! This has been one of the best podcasts I’ve listed to EVER. I have been wanting to make it a career to help others declutter their homes and I’ve been watching lots of decluttering & minimalism content for a few years now, and just started finding out about slow living which is where I aim to venture as a mom & wife with ADHD but as I get our house under control, I have just never known where to start to help anyone else. Y’all are inspiring. Now, I even more so want to go out there and help others. Thank you for making this podcast! This touched my heart! ❤️
It’s a way to tithe. Pass it forward, and you are giving your time too. 🎉🎉
Thank you for introducing Matt to us. I have never heard of him! This made me excited to start putting together my memory box for my son.
WOW! Just WOW!! This entire podcast is bursting with mind blowing ideas and stories and insights. WOW!! 🤯❤️🌟
"The guy from Hoarders is hoarding kids." The best kind of hoard!
My father was devoted to his eldest sister who practically raised him. And when she died he moved all of her furniture into his house. Furniture that has never been used. Furniture that's never given away to relatives. My siblings and I know it's going to be a nightmare to get rid of all of the stuff they've accumulated in that house for 60 years, plus the things that they inherited from other relatives.
I love Legacy List! I would enjoy watching a new episode nightly. TV stations should appreciate good shows like this. Cas, thanks for having Matt as your guest. Great show!
Your kids are magically not bored if the solution you offer (and then require) is chores. 😂
I moved with my household full of stuff into my parents hoarded house full of stuff to help when dad was ill. He passed. Then I helped/ took care of mom for a number of years. It’s been 20 years since I first came here-and it’s getting better. So much stuff went to auction and goodwill ! There is still stuff to go thru! Meanwhile, I am getting older and it’s harder to clean it out. Whew
it doesn't take 20 years to clean a hoard, sister - what's going on with YOU?
@@Marcel_Audubon do you really want to know? Or are you just being snarky?
@@lindaaphillippi7015 it was a question for you to answer to yourself, I don't really care, o random internet stranger - but 20 years? yeah, something going on there.
@@Marcel_Audubon I imagine it's impossible to clean out a hoard when the hoarder is still alive and in control. Not to mention all the energy it takes being a caregiver, taking care of an ill person's hourly/ daily needs on a daily basis 24/7 for years. Not to mention all the things needed to manage her own life! I'm proud of this lady for all she has accomplished while living under this condition and caring for her parents. 🥰 Hugs to her!
I imagine it's impossible to clean out a hoard when the hoarder is still living there and in control. Not to mention all the energy it takes being a caregiver, taking care of an ill person's hourly/ daily needs on a daily basis 24/7 for two decades. Not to mention the challenges of managing your own (usually has to be put on hold) life as well as theirs. I'm proud of you for all you have accomplished while living under this condition and caring for your parents. 🥰 Hugs to YOU!
38:02 MATT PAXTON YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD- yes! The guilt on keeping items of passed relatives. The doing it yourself. The daughters have to do it. OMG are you looking in my window? This is my life right now!!!!
❤❤ He holds a special place in my heart for sure. Last month I almost committed suicide. (Prescriptions stopped working for Depression and anxiety, then made it an actual crisis situation where I took a leave of absence at work for over a month. I've done inpatient before eight years ago, but this wasn't needed in the sense that I put myself last, ever the people pleaser.) All that to say that I waited out my personal hell for all that time at home with the cat, and I watched a ton of Hoarder episodes. I didn't know until watching some of them that I shared major, deep rooted issues with both the hoarders and their kids. I cried so much. I'd already been "doing the work" with understanding and healing for mostly my depression. Thank you both for being such good people!
I'm a 63 yo retired RN. People don't listen to their elderly. I took care of a lady that all the staff just referred to as a "Karen" patient, elderly in her 80's about 15 years ago. Well, she was tired, sick, unhappy.... and the first graduate of any architect school in the entire state of Arkansas, and had been a top architect in the state for 45 years. When you got her to talk about that? We lost the Karen and had a vibrant lady who was loving and great. She was just so sad and lonely.
I'm a nurse as well 63 years old, and I know the attitudes of healthcare workers towards their patients. Sometimes it's hard to remember that they are people who have a history and have needs that go beyond an order in a chart! It's so very sad for that woman especially since she was such an accomplished person.
Love you guys! My daughter is Autistic and works at our communities equivalent of Goodwill.all the same principles apply. We are so grateful for donations! Love all y'all do!
I love Matt Paxton! I love to watch Hoarders and Legacy list. I could listen to the cool stories all day long! Matt, I love that you found one of your dad's paintings! Too cool. Definitely a God sent gift.
I watch hoarders while I am decluttering my house!!! It works
It definitely motivates me to get it done!
As a child in the 50-4:47 60's we were "allowed" to go outside where the magic happened. We invented ways to stay active and we knew everyone in our neighborhood. Today we are told everyone is out to get us which is a shame. Children are "entertained" 24-7 and they get bored. I was never bored.
Truly your best interview to date. You and Matt have a synergy of souls. I love what he said about legacy❤❤❤
I would pick Matt over any of those other nominations - in a heartbeat. Thanks for this interview!
Oh my gosh 😂😂😂 I'm lying in bed cracking up as I listen to Matt talk about letting rats run over him. What a great interview! Thanks Cas!!
Cas, I just wanted to let you know, out of all the motivating videos the algorhythm gods have sent my way, yours have been the ones to light the strongest fires under my butt! Worked really hard at organizing my entire adult life and always struggled with maintaining it. No hoarding, just a complete inability to develop or maintain a system. The worst offender? The mail. I would lose my mail in piles of more mail. My home insurance canceled because I forgot to pay it, due to the paperwork disappearing in a pile of more older mail. Paper clutter negatively impacted my life and my mental health existentially. I would have panic attacks every time my husband walked in with more mail.
Until your paper dump zone video. Then everything fell into place. My dining table has been clutter free for 6 months. My kitchen counter has accumulated 0 clutter for 6 months. My bills are always paid on time, my family's meals for the week are all planned, my groceries accordingly purchased, and in this period of extreme food inflation i spend a fraction of what I used to and never worry where the next meal is cooming from. It's like overnight I had all this free headspace to function with, that previously was occupied by fear of having everything pulled out from under me and juggling emergencies to keep it together.
Seriously, from the bottom of my heart, thank you! ❤❤❤
Wow! I also struggle severely with mail and paper. Thanks for sharing your success and I will look for that video!
I love the Legacy List. It's on 11pm where I am, so I haven't been able to talk my parents into watching it. But it's so great.
I like how calm you are when you talk to Matt. When you're super hyped, it makes me nervous.
When she’s hyped it just gets me pumped!!! I love it! Don’t change CAS!! ❤
@@Angebaby1237 I am not asking her to change, just saying is was lovely listening to her being calmer.
I like doing Podcasts too, where things can move at a slower pace. Hopefully I can keep making both!
Thank you for talking about Goodwill...I heard alot of Charities pay the CEO and not much money goes to the actual Charity.
Not to mention they just throw stuff away if they don't think it's good enough.😢
@@daisy1022except that some of the stuff they get probably truly is trash. Last year I tried to help a friend declutter. In her eyes, nothing was trash. Sticky, degraded plastic dishware. Dusty, misshapen candles. Clothing from which we shook mouse droppings. Filthy toys (charities do not have time to scrub items). All went in the donate box. As the person taking it to the charity drop-off, I took out the one or two truly donation-worthy items and threw the rest away. If she hadn’t been housebound herself, the charity would have had to deal with that trash. “Good” is debatable, and even items that are clean and in working order aren’t necessarily saleable
Another minimalist suggests taking a picture of a sentimental item, and then getting rid of the item. If you aren't using the item, but it still brings back memories, you can always look at the picture and be free of the item. I always suggest writing your memoires, so your most important stories are there for your ancestors. This can include mentions of special items that you own.
I have done this! Especially for sentimental items that are handmade and might break down over time, like foam Easter bunnies my Mom made when I was a kid. I don't need them, would never display them, so I snapped a picture and moved on. And now with everything being digital, you don't even have to waste space with photo albums. All you need is an SD card or a memory stick.
Lol it's like I wrote your comment. Funny😅.
Matt is the best! His book has 10 legacy list questions that are fabulous conversation starters.
You both mention Peter Walsh He is currently doing a series called Space Invaders. He is so wonderful about why people end up in a mess
Omg!! I love Matt Paxton! I’ve been watching hoarders lately mainly because I am a hoarder but the show gives me major motivation to get rid of my “crap”! I don’t like dirty messes! It makes my skin crawl.. But having adhd, I’m a compulsive buyer.. which is horrible for hoarding.. But I’m in therapy and learning how to regulate myself.. It’s been an intense but amazing journey!
Love love love Matt Paxton ❤️ I'm so glad you did this interview!
Cas, thanks for having Matt Paxton on your channel. My decluttering muscles are getting stronger with every video I watch. You both were amazing.
I grew up in a family of 12. Yes, 12. And we lived in house that was far smaller than what most people have today. Most homes were 4-5 bedrooms and we shared rooms.
36:30 TRUTH! I recently found I could donate junk journal supplies to dAFi (Disabled Artist Foundation, Inc.) instead of throwing them away (book pages - because I can only use so many from each book, papers, fabrics, scraps, etc.) and now I've let go of about 75% of things in the categories I've gone through so far. I'm currently putting it all out there on RUclips: scary, but I've gotten so much encouragement in the comments.
Your comment caught my eye & of course; After reading I immediately popped over to your YT-Channel! I'm currently Your Newest Subscriber!!! I'll be checking in! LOL! ~🙏💙🙏Much Gratitude From the Carolinas🙏💙🙏~
What a fantastic guest! Matt is funny, compassionate, a great storyteller and so real! I love the story about his dad’s artwork. Thank you to you both for the wonderful show! I will check out Legacy List!!
WOW. Just wow. This was magic…inspiring…all the good left in the world, right here. Thanks Cass & Matt😊
Wow, Cas this is one of your best podcasts ever! Thank you for having him on and doing such a great interview!
Haha didn't realize Hoarders was off air! Still watching it! ❤
Matt and Peter are indeed heroes helping people live better, happier lives! Thank you for sharing this interview with us❤️
Love these think tank style interviews. I’m totally a “I will gladly donate but it has to go to someone that will love it” like the blankets to dog shelters, or “so and so will use this” it’s so hard. Lol I’m working on it though. Craft supplies are my kryptonite.
I started this because I thought hey it would give me decluttering tips, but instead I heard a true genius with a unique perspective that has me thinking about my legacy list.
I will listen to this over and over again. My favorite of all of your videos. ❤
Years ago I bought a book by Don Aslett. He started the same way Matt did. After reading it I did a big clear out. For one, I decided my kids didn’t need 200 crayons. 🖍️ thanks to Don, Matt, Cory, etc for your advice.
Wow! This is so relatable it is scary!!! 57 yrs, works in healthcare, and I have things from my deceased grandmother/grandfather, mom, dad, and two deceased brothers. Depression era mindset. And on and on
Omgoodness finding his Dad's painting just teared me up!
I've got his book in my shopping basket, right now...can't wait to read it.
THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST INTERVIEWS YOU'VE EVER DONE!!
AMAZING!!😃
Peter Walsh was my first awareness of minimalism. Peter Walsh deeply cares about the people he helped.
I have been through several house fires in my lifetime. The first one was on Christmas Eve when I was a child. My parents wouldn’t tell us what any of our gifts had been. They said it’s gone, no use crying about it now.
In fact my grandma had a saying “three moves are worse than a fire”.
Later, as an adult, our house caught fire. Our kitten died. The firemen just threw it on the lawn and it traumatized me. Now I have zero attachments to anything. It can all be gone in an instant. I write stories on my phone and in texts with my kids, grandkids, and great grandkids. They’ll have all my stories about all my family history.
Also my parents died in a fiery wreck, caused by a drunk driver, a week after I turned 14. Could be why I don’t care about material things.
You've been through some horrible traumas! I can understand where you're coming from to not want to be attached to things because so painful to see things taken from you and that way. You are so terribly young to lose your parents! But I imagine you're stronger than a lot of people in some ways because of that and hopefully you can be an inspiration to other people
Mins 22-26: BEST POINTS - perfectionists, donate it. Personally, l don’t throw away anything that is usable. 🏠🏠Because when l was a young adult, l lived at Goodwill and Salvation Army. I would never have made it without people who gave to thrift stores. I bought EVERYTHING used.
What an amazing story how Matt got his start. Check and a hug.
I'm so excited to watch the Legacy List. Thank you Cas for putting your podcasts on RUclips. I loved Hoarders.
This is a great podcast, but can I just say that me and my sister did the same thing with our bikes and acting like it was an ice cream maker??? How weird is that, and this isn’t the first time I’ve heard about other people doing that as kids lol. So random, love it!
Cas, this interview with Matt Paxton is fantastic! I have learned so much. His comments about the story behind pieces we keep from our parents and grandparents resonated with me. So I am keeping my grandmother's recipe box since I have many memories of baking with her from childhood. But the Depressionware platter she hardly ever used, I am donating because I don't use it either. Thanks to you and Matt!!
My dad's been gone for 26 years, gone at 51, wasn't in advertising but was in commercial collections. I KNEW I related to Matt for a reason. That said, something about Matt makes me feel not only that I know him but that he is relatable to everyone because he's so real, he can see the truth when others can't, he can concentrate on the prize aka a clean, decluttered home. It's funny, because I also have inherited china that I don't want and it's the last thing left, aside from a gorgeous red coat that I unbelievably CAN wear. Sigh. Family. I wish we could keep them forever instead of any stuff they left behind.
The sad thing about goodwill is they no longer accept Anything unless it's close to perfect. I don't own anything that's close to perfect. So most of my stuff would go in the trash by goodwill's hands
You are so right. I have seen them literally throw perfectly good things in the trash that somebody might have wanted. I would never donate to Goodwill😢.
I wish I could have been in on this conversation. Custodians and janitors should be on your list.
Swedish Death Cleaning is a remarkable trend.
This was excellent! I got a new perspective on Matt and the work that he does ... more two-dimensional than just seeing him on Hoarders. And Cass, you did an excellent job at interviewing him! That is what made this so great. Thanks for this Podcast!!
MATT!! We LOVE your Legacy List show!!! I can't wait to get your book! We only have over-the-air TV so I am SUPER grateful you're on PBS! Cas! Thanks so much for the great interview/discussion! I always come back here (and regular YouYube channel) for more of YOU! What you share has made such a difference for us! Thank you!!
Awe I love Matt (and you of course!) I'd love to see the two of you collaborate on something. ❤ I've watched hoarders for years before finding your channel to help motivate me to clean and declutter. Even my 6 year old will ask to watch it now. 😂
This is incredible. I immediately shared this with both sides of my family as we have aging relatives to help sort their belongings that have so much meaning.
a message from your aging relatives: back off, sister!
So true! I'm elder, my brother is 6 years younger. I have things from both sides of my family, my husband who passed away in 1997, my parents, and this husband has a load of stuff. You are 💯 on point about the reasons I hold things. I want to give away some of it, but the guilt is so real. And, the ramifications of a professional, oh my goodness! I know it sounds crazy, but you just gave me permission to give away the dresser my mil gave me. I loved her so much, she was a wonderful woman and incredible friend, a great mom. But it has burned places from her cigarettes would be forgotten and fall out of the ashtray. The legacy bag is an awesome idea as well. I've been trying to purge for so long, and just couldn't. Now I think I can! For the record, I'm almost 77, so the age thing is for real. Thank you both for this program. I feel set free!!
My mom and I watched Hoarders a lot, and my little sister would call it Quarters.
Its about lack & sacrifice. The 20th century, where most of these goods have come from, was the first century where manufacturing and post war prosperity allowed for stuffed houses. We are wired by biology to conserve, to save. The wasters were weeded out by natural selection ... I am sentimental about utilitarian, functional objects, also a bit of a perfectionist, also a trauma survivor. Im primed to be a hoarder by being in my 6th decade, with my parents having passed, and a overly developed desire to keep things out of the landfill. Its so true, if someone came thru and needed a whole room of my house, i would 100% send it out the door.
Absolutely loved this podcast ! Matt is very interesting and for sure has so much knowledge on what keeps us ticking. A great sense of humor too !
I liked him on Hoarders. He actually spent the night in several houses to get the feel of the Hoarders situation. Sometimes there were no lights nor electricity, rodents, etc. Respect!
This was A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!!!! I need to rewatch this so i can write down all the important points which are many. Thank you both!!
I am an only child on both sides of the family. I have SO many things and antiques. the problem is I have stories for most things and i could never pick just a few and get rid of the rest! I've typed up the stories and I am going to just let my 3 kids pick what they want when i'm gone. They are not in life positions yet where they could take what they want now.
The 55 and older guilt from dead people thing is exactly what's going on with my aunt. She is a hoarder, and I've been slowly working with her but this comment is so gold. She has stuff not only from her life with her late husband, but all kinds of stuff from when her own parents passed away, her mother-in-law, a brother-in-law. Plus her own crafty interests that take up space, and stuff she accumulated because of her position as the eldest daughter who put together Christmas stockings for the extended family. Next time I see her I'm going to place this portion of the podcast for her. And I took notes on the rest of what Matt said. Thank you.