Betrayal Trauma: How We Get Stuck in Trauma Bonds
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Discovery of your spouse’s affair or sexual addiction usually triggers a tidal wave of intense emotions, and trying to heal from the trauma is no easy task. Where you choose to go from here is vital! If you don’t understand how trauma changes the body and the brain, things can get worse. In this article, I discuss what trauma looks like, how it affects you as a couple and an individual, and how you can actually heal from what feels like insurmountable pain
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Almost 7 months passed and here I am again.. at 5 AM overthinking and ruining my brain with all kinds of useless thoughts. Getting cheated on is the worst thing that you can experience in this life. More so if you are a honest and decent person. 😞 I'm so tired
No offense but your significant other should be up thinking not sleeping soundly
Good bless you George I’m here same with you from my wife and it ruined our family and drove my once happy daughter to depression
@@ducky1115 yes but that doesn’t happen to them. What “should be” doesn’t apply in betrayal.
Rumination will wear you down. I still struggle with it 20 years later. Infidelity is very traumatic.
Tired and empty.
Betraying your spouse by infidelity is quiete literally the most awful, terrible, hurtful, damaging, sick act anyone can commit. If you’re not happy, just get out, leave, end it
I agree but I think people do it for more reasons than just being unhappy. Someone that inconsiderate wouldn’t have the consciousness to just leave.
Thank you for sharing. It took me almost four years to get this understanding. It's bad enough you have the emotional pain and trauma, but when it over takes your brain and body, it's so unfair the truama this causes for the betrayed and we have way more work to do then the one who betrayed them 💔 😢 💪💜
Almost four months since D-day and I’ve had a kind of numbness month. Felt absolutely nothing and that was okay. But now it all came back. The hurt, pain, rage, sadness, depression and anxiety. I’m so very tired of crying 😢
Besides my initial reaction when I was told, I have been calm and functioning well enough. I haven’t cried besides that first day. My mind wonders a bit/space out but I can carry on my day like normal. I think about the infidelity rationally with little to no emotion. It’s been 6 days, and I’m still waiting for “when it will all hit me” but after speaking to a therapist I was advised it might not come. Now I know why, my body/brain are trying to protect me from trauma. It’s quite Impressive.
I had the same response....and it did eventually "hit me", and when it did it completely destroyed me. I'm in month 2 since d-day. I have days where I'm fine and rational, and then days where I feel like I'm drowning in sorrow and panic. It's the most painful thing I've ever experienced in my life.
Omg it’s 3 years and Christmas is the time of the year it all came out. Our adult children and grandchildren are reminded and miss their Pop. He is now living with his AP and we all have trouble still accepting this. These talks are fantastic for me as I don’t feel so alone Thankyou Wayne 10:03 10:03
I thank you for this video. I hope other betrayed watch this, and seek ptsd help if they get stuck here.
His English accents are clearly understood. Seems he is putting effort so that everyone can understand. Good video . Till now i was knowing about flight or fight. But Indeed i have been passed through another traumatic event when i was feeling same as freeze mode for a year or two. As if a dead fish flowing in the water. Emotional numbness is the saddest part because nothing a person can do, because he cannot feel a butcher or a love..
Thank you!!! Omg I was in tears listening to you. I finally have clarity.
Thank you for helping me to understand my spouse’s trauma/pain.
I've been living with almost all of these symptoms for the last 35 years ever since my wife's last affair was disclosed. Some people seem to be able to overcome all of this but I never have. Some hurts simply don't heal.
Oh man, this really hit hard. Thank you for this info.
How much more traumatic if the affair partner got pregnant by your husband
How much more hurtful when your husband got the affair partner pregnant
What about those who have been abandoned and left after betrayal. No talking no closure. Staying together shows a willingness to work it out at least. But what about those individuals who are betrayed and discarded?
Hey Truth please reach out to info@hope-now.com. To healing, The Hope-Now Team.
Unfortunately we have to do the work to heal ourselves. But God will guide you as you seek Him for truth. It takes longer, but He is faithful. You will get more truth from God then a cheater and liar anyway.
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Yes, I can vouch they all happen.
I’m in Collapse. How do I get out of collapse? I already had adrenal and thyroid dysfunction beforehand. I literally feel paralyzed most of the time. I can’t form thoughts etc What do I do?
Hey Sheena - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I hope you are able to find medical help and healing. Feel free to reach out to info@hope-now.com for more info on healing from infidelity. To healing, the Hope-Now Team.
Does a sexless marriage cause relational or betrayal trauma?
No. It doesn't. It causes MARITAL problems. It doesn't cause someone to cheat or betray....that is 100% a CHOICE. It contributes to the cheating spouses pain, but does not CAUSE them to make a choice.
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How to get in touch if I am in India
Hey Sunita! Please reach out to info@hope-now.com.