15 months post d-day and I’m still so traumatized. I can’t look at him the same. I was suicidal at one point sitting under the xmass tree with a belt looked around my neck getting ready to attach it to the pull up bar. My children are the only thing that saved me. I couldn’t do it to them.
Your partner betrayal trauma is real and I'm sad to hear that you are struggling so hard with these mixed emotions. If you haven't already, I would recommend seeing a local doctor and having a suicide hotline number available to address and prevent any suicidal tendencies. Regarding the partner betrayal trauma, you can make an appointment with one of our certified therapists here who will walk with you through the process toward healing. Call us at 719-278-3708 to get started and consider joining one of our support groups as well. For helpful materials, check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book or DVD and workbook. These will provide validation and guidance on this matter as well. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-dvd/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
26 years of marriage four 4 children later dealing with a narcissist and having all four of my children turn on me not visit me not talk to me and my abusive ex-husband built a new home with his home wrecking slut of a girlfriend who he was having the affair with everybody including my children knew and they all lied to me … I am so screwed up as one could get at this point and I’m really angry because this is gonna take me years to unpack
I understand that you're going through a challenging time right now with a range of mixed emotions. The hurt you're feeling is completely valid, especially considering the betrayal you've just recently experienced. You don't have to navigate this journey alone though. Our office is here to provide support and guidance. You can reach out to us at 719-278-3708, and my team will assist you in connecting with a therapist who specializes in partner betrayal trauma and get you started in the healing process. Additionally, you can join our Partners Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/. This community of supportive women can provide you with empathy and support as you navigate through this difficult time. There's also our Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook you can check out as well: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
Thank you sir I love the fact that you said sir if your wife is having you watch this..... I mean seriously if we are this desperate please listen because it's the end of the road at this point and obviously we don't want to give up we love you please stop I'm literally begging you please stop
totally appreciate your content and addressing us men who have also experienced and living through this trauma experience. wouldn’t wish this on anyone
Every time I check on him, he does not disappoint. He forgot to mention before we got married that he’s bisexual. His affairs have been with men. 22 years of my life gone. Just like that. And the kicker? He doesn’t want to divorce. Are you kidding me? What about what I wanted?
Your partner betrayal trauma from this is real. If my team can help you in any way, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and we can get you connected with a partner betrayal trauma therapist for support and healing. You can also join our Partners Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa In the meantime, for materials, you can check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook which would be useful in validating what you have gone through and help you move forward: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
No matter what you've been through or how long it's been regarding the partner betrayal trauma, healing is possible. If you need support, you can make an appointment with one of our betrayal trauma therapists to help you process this and heal. You can also join one of our Partners Facebook group for community support as well. www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/ You can also check out our helpful resources at partnerbetrayaltrauma.org that would provide validation and guidance on your journey.
Betrayal trauma i have experience it many times by different people. In fact in every facet from friendships to brother sister and father and mothe. I must be a really strong person in Jesus Christ name. A few minutes ago while crying something released from the middle of my skull and then I felt a coolness. To me is that i found the theme through my whole life story. Betrayal trauma. Soul work are you doing it? Does God answers you like he answers me. Last barrier before paradise. I believe it also affected my weight loss and gain. It made it hard to lose. This psychosomatic energy stored in my cell is a blueprint on how to attack not only the weight loss but the rudimentary things that got me there. This journey is going to be epic. Last battle ground before we go to war
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 there's something called tactfulness and timing. When someone is down u don't put them down further. I don't believe in the church who stands in sole judgement. Jesus Christ came to show us mercy and the way to the truth and salvation of God. What does that have to do with me being a Christian?
@@karinteeples9715 I not only standby what I say. I will prove it. This word is going forth out of my mouth this day the church needs to change its thinking. While you had your thoughts. This is how I recovered. I was crying a few nights ago May glory be to God hallelujah!!!! While I went silent I heard Jesus Christ or a spirit WEEPING. I RECOVERED. THIS IS MY GOD. remember remember remember don't limit our maker only to SCRIPTURE. HALLELUJAH!!!!!
It’s hard to know if I should break up with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for over a year and he told me about his addiction which involved betraying me. He’s now in therapy and has been very open to change and growth but it’s long distance and before this he was set to move in with me at the end of next month. I don’t know if it’s wrong to leave or if after everything I should just end the relationship. I kind of wish he was a horrible person who won’t admit to his fault, but he’s taking responsibility, going to SAA and therapy. I feel stuck.
I understand that this is a difficult decision to make. It's good to hear that he is getting help with his addiction and trying to be more open with you. In recovery, it is important to believe behavior. Regardless, it is clear that what he did still caused you pain and your partner betrayal trauma from it is valid. I would suggest getting healing and support for yourself so that you can have someone to help you through this and provide guidance on the matter. Ultimately, the choice is yours on whether you want to stay or not. If you'd like, you can contact my office at 719-278-3708 and make an appointment with one of our therapists trained in this area and join our Partners Facebook group. You don't have to be alone in this. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa For materials, you can check out the Partners Healing from His Addiction book and workbook, which would provide validation and help you work through this: www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-recovery-guide-ebook/ You might also find the "Unstuck" and "Why Do I Stay" video downloads useful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/unstuck-video-download/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/
We do have phone and virtual counseling available by calling our office at 719-278-3708 to get booked with a certified therapist. There's also a few Facebook support groups as well: www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/
Your pain and trauma are real and it hurts my heart to know that you've experienced this. Cheating is not a rational decision ever. It can stem from unmet needs, emotional immaturity issues, and other shortcomings that the person has. It's important to remember that the decision to cheat is solely the responsibility of the person who commits the act, not the partner. He would do well to find out why he chose this behavior. If you need help and support, call our office at 719-278-3708. Our certified therapists are trained in partner betrayal trauma, along with sex addiction and infidelity issues. You can start getting healing for yourself, and your husband can start the recovery process if he is willing. Our wide range of services includes individual sessions, couples therapy, support groups, and an intensive program created to expedite the counseling process in a short period. You are not alone in this. You might find the "Unstuck" video download helpful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/unstuck-video-download/
If you need support healing from this, we have a team of therapists who specialize in partner betrayal. You can book a session with at 719-278-3708, as well as join our free Partners Facebook group to connect with a community of women who've experienced similar situations. facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/ You might also find the Partner Betrayal Trauma ebook and workbook helpful in processing what happened. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
Yes, I do deserve to heal, but because everything cost money I can’t. It’s been almost 3 years. More damage was done by an incompetent psychotherapist also here in the same town where you are at, she emboldened him to make him feel like a victim, and even to this day, I am dealing with it. It is the most awful thing I’ve ever experienced and I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.I do wish you had some kind of affordability though because I would like to feel like myself again. This man has caused me everything mentally emotionally and financially too, so I can’t even get healing from what he did to me.
Thank you for sharing this. What you have experienced is tragic and I deeply sympathize for you. Between his actions and the mistreatment from the psychotherapist, your partner betrayal trauma is so real. As you already know, getting healing and support for yourself is critical. You can check to see if there are any local support groups available to join for encouragement and advice. Here at Heart To Heart Counseling Center, we have certified counselors trained in partner betrayal trauma to help you work through what has occurred and start healing. If you're interested, you can call our office at 719-278-3708 and my team can schedule you with a partner betrayal trauma therapist. You are not alone in this. You can also check out partnerbetrayaltrauma.org for some of our free resources, including our Facebook support groups that you can join, and the bible plans and newsletter that you can use. partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/partner-betrayal-trauma-support-groups/ For materials, you can get the Partner Betrayal Trauma ebook and workbook, which you might find helpful in validating what you have gone through and providing steps toward healing. You can also check out and see if you can get them through a public library or interlibrary loan. www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/ www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/ You might also find the DVD "Why Do I Stay" helpful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/
You need to stipulate that your video is geared primarily towards women healing so men don’t think that it will be a video to address their issues too.
We need to make people less fragile. Nearly 70% of people will experience some form of infidelity in their life and not 70% of the population is traumatized. What makes a small fraction of the population traumatized by infidelity? What makes one partner throw all their self-esteem and self-worth into something that is more likely to fail than succeed? We have to address how we raise people as a society because that's just asking for trouble...
Glad to know you live everyone’s experiences and have put so much effort into empathy, understanding and truly learning how to put yourself into someone else’s shoes….NOT! We are all wired differently yet made in His image. 🤔 Interesting. No one wants to feel like crap or have their internal chemistry destroy their sense of being. No one signs up for this for pity or to be made to feel like a bigger fool by others who mock and judge them. No one is taught how to cope with this anymore than if they were told they have a terminal disease! It costs NOTHING to be kind but can cost someone their life to be cruel!
@@Sharrpei3 I am not sure I understand what you mean bu we in HIS image. Can you explain. But also, you missed the point entirely of my post. My post wasn't about dealing with the current small segment of the population traumatized by this but rather, try to prevent this from happening in the first place. If you suffer from this kind of trauma, wouldn't you want your daughter to be immuned from this pain when it happens to her? 70 percent of the population will experience infidelity in their life. Those are statistics. So you already know it will happen. Don't you want to prevent pain? There's a concept in business called Anti-Fragility. It's meant for teams to reduce the risks of failures. But I have found that if i apply these same concepts to myself, I have become MUCH less susceptible to the whims of emotions and experience little to no emotional distress. I still suffer from things like anger and sadness but to a MUCH lesser degree. I am sorry my post triggered you so much but it was about future generations and how to teach our kids, not how to resolve problems of the people today. Although come to think of it, it might help. To treat something, we must get to the root cause. Why would one person be susceptible to trauma and not another under the same condition? Then and only then can you treat it. It's always the same with the human body. That's how medical research is done!
15 months post d-day and I’m still so traumatized. I can’t look at him the same. I was suicidal at one point sitting under the xmass tree with a belt looked around my neck getting ready to attach it to the pull up bar. My children are the only thing that saved me. I couldn’t do it to them.
Your partner betrayal trauma is real and I'm sad to hear that you are struggling so hard with these mixed emotions.
If you haven't already, I would recommend seeing a local doctor and having a suicide hotline number available to address and prevent any suicidal tendencies.
Regarding the partner betrayal trauma, you can make an appointment with one of our certified therapists here who will walk with you through the process toward healing. Call us at 719-278-3708 to get started and consider joining one of our support groups as well.
For helpful materials, check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book or DVD and workbook. These will provide validation and guidance on this matter as well.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-dvd/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
26 years of marriage four 4 children later dealing with a narcissist and having all four of my children turn on me not visit me not talk to me and my abusive ex-husband built a new home with his home wrecking slut of a girlfriend who he was having the affair with everybody including my children knew and they all lied to me … I am so screwed up as one could get at this point and I’m really angry because this is gonna take me years to unpack
Its been 3wks and I still don't know how to put into words how I feel... But it's so unbelievably hard to pretend to be happy M-F around my kids 😮💨
I understand that you're going through a challenging time right now with a range of mixed emotions. The hurt you're feeling is completely valid, especially considering the betrayal you've just recently experienced. You don't have to navigate this journey alone though.
Our office is here to provide support and guidance. You can reach out to us at 719-278-3708, and my team will assist you in connecting with a therapist who specializes in partner betrayal trauma and get you started in the healing process.
Additionally, you can join our Partners Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/. This community of supportive women can provide you with empathy and support as you navigate through this difficult time.
There's also our Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook you can check out as well:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
Thank you sir I love the fact that you said sir if your wife is having you watch this..... I mean seriously if we are this desperate please listen because it's the end of the road at this point and obviously we don't want to give up we love you please stop I'm literally begging you please stop
totally appreciate your content and addressing us men who have also experienced and living through this trauma experience. wouldn’t wish this on anyone
I am right there with you brother.....so painful
Every time I check on him, he does not disappoint. He forgot to mention before we got married that he’s bisexual. His affairs have been with men. 22 years of my life gone. Just like that.
And the kicker? He doesn’t want to divorce. Are you kidding me? What about what I wanted?
Your partner betrayal trauma from this is real. If my team can help you in any way, you can contact our office at 719-278-3708 and we can get you connected with a partner betrayal trauma therapist for support and healing. You can also join our Partners Facebook group: facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa
In the meantime, for materials, you can check out the Partner Betrayal Trauma book and workbook which would be useful in validating what you have gone through and help you move forward:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
it's been 2 years and events in between and I didn't heal yet , feels like I won't ever heal from it.....I can never be the same person I use to be.
No matter what you've been through or how long it's been regarding the partner betrayal trauma, healing is possible. If you need support, you can make an appointment with one of our betrayal trauma therapists to help you process this and heal. You can also join one of our Partners Facebook group for community support as well.
www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/
You can also check out our helpful resources at partnerbetrayaltrauma.org that would provide validation and guidance on your journey.
Betrayal trauma i have experience it many times by different people. In fact in every facet from friendships to brother sister and father and mothe. I must be a really strong person in Jesus Christ name. A few minutes ago while crying something released from the middle of my skull and then I felt a coolness. To me is that i found the theme through my whole life story. Betrayal trauma. Soul work are you doing it? Does God answers you like he answers me. Last barrier before paradise. I believe it also affected my weight loss and gain. It made it hard to lose. This psychosomatic energy stored in my cell is a blueprint on how to attack not only the weight loss but the rudimentary things that got me there. This journey is going to be epic. Last battle ground before we go to war
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 who's is to say I wasn't following Jesus Christ. That's who saved me. Who is saving you
@@theraptureisnearbelieveinj448 there's something called tactfulness and timing. When someone is down u don't put them down further. I don't believe in the church who stands in sole judgement. Jesus Christ came to show us mercy and the way to the truth and salvation of God. What does that have to do with me being a Christian?
@@nadiaconseillant8616You’re overreacting to her comment. She meant no harm. Take a breath. We’re all hurting here.
@@karinteeples9715 I not only standby what I say. I will prove it. This word is going forth out of my mouth this day the church needs to change its thinking. While you had your thoughts. This is how I recovered. I was crying a few nights ago May glory be to God hallelujah!!!! While I went silent I heard Jesus Christ or a spirit WEEPING. I RECOVERED. THIS IS MY GOD. remember remember remember don't limit our maker only to SCRIPTURE. HALLELUJAH!!!!!
I will seek counseling by my vicinity ty
It’s hard to know if I should break up with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for over a year and he told me about his addiction which involved betraying me. He’s now in therapy and has been very open to change and growth but it’s long distance and before this he was set to move in with me at the end of next month. I don’t know if it’s wrong to leave or if after everything I should just end the relationship. I kind of wish he was a horrible person who won’t admit to his fault, but he’s taking responsibility, going to SAA and therapy. I feel stuck.
I understand that this is a difficult decision to make. It's good to hear that he is getting help with his addiction and trying to be more open with you. In recovery, it is important to believe behavior.
Regardless, it is clear that what he did still caused you pain and your partner betrayal trauma from it is valid.
I would suggest getting healing and support for yourself so that you can have someone to help you through this and provide guidance on the matter. Ultimately, the choice is yours on whether you want to stay or not.
If you'd like, you can contact my office at 719-278-3708 and make an appointment with one of our therapists trained in this area and join our Partners Facebook group. You don't have to be alone in this.
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa
For materials, you can check out the Partners Healing from His Addiction book and workbook, which would provide validation and help you work through this:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-recovery-guide-ebook/
You might also find the "Unstuck" and "Why Do I Stay" video downloads useful:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/unstuck-video-download/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/
Do u have online support .Please let me know
We do have phone and virtual counseling available by calling our office at 719-278-3708 to get booked with a certified therapist. There's also a few Facebook support groups as well: www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/
Why did he cheat knowing that theres a chance that ill leave?
Your pain and trauma are real and it hurts my heart to know that you've experienced this. Cheating is not a rational decision ever. It can stem from unmet needs, emotional immaturity issues, and other shortcomings that the person has. It's important to remember that the decision to cheat is solely the responsibility of the person who commits the act, not the partner. He would do well to find out why he chose this behavior.
If you need help and support, call our office at 719-278-3708. Our certified therapists are trained in partner betrayal trauma, along with sex addiction and infidelity issues. You can start getting healing for yourself, and your husband can start the recovery process if he is willing. Our wide range of services includes individual sessions, couples therapy, support groups, and an intensive program created to expedite the counseling process in a short period. You are not alone in this.
You might find the "Unstuck" video download helpful: www.drdougweiss.com/product/unstuck-video-download/
My husband had afair and I Caught.him with girl that is 17 years younger they him it's been a year seen his affair
If you need support healing from this, we have a team of therapists who specialize in partner betrayal. You can book a session with at 719-278-3708, as well as join our free Partners Facebook group to connect with a community of women who've experienced similar situations.
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
You might also find the Partner Betrayal Trauma ebook and workbook helpful in processing what happened.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
Yes, I do deserve to heal, but because everything cost money I can’t. It’s been almost 3 years. More damage was done by an incompetent psychotherapist also here in the same town where you are at, she emboldened him to make him feel like a victim, and even to this day, I am dealing with it. It is the most awful thing I’ve ever experienced and I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.I do wish you had some kind of affordability though because I would like to feel like myself again. This man has caused me everything mentally emotionally and financially too, so I can’t even get healing from what he did to me.
Thank you for sharing this. What you have experienced is tragic and I deeply sympathize for you. Between his actions and the mistreatment from the psychotherapist, your partner betrayal trauma is so real.
As you already know, getting healing and support for yourself is critical. You can check to see if there are any local support groups available to join for encouragement and advice. Here at Heart To Heart Counseling Center, we have certified counselors trained in partner betrayal trauma to help you work through what has occurred and start healing. If you're interested, you can call our office at 719-278-3708 and my team can schedule you with a partner betrayal trauma therapist. You are not alone in this.
You can also check out partnerbetrayaltrauma.org for some of our free resources, including our Facebook support groups that you can join, and the bible plans and newsletter that you can use.
partnerbetrayaltrauma.org/partner-betrayal-trauma-support-groups/
For materials, you can get the Partner Betrayal Trauma ebook and workbook, which you might find helpful in validating what you have gone through and providing steps toward healing. You can also check out and see if you can get them through a public library or interlibrary loan.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook-ebook/
You might also find the DVD "Why Do I Stay" helpful:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-video-download/
You need to stipulate that your video is geared primarily towards women healing so men don’t think that it will be a video to address their issues too.
We need to make people less fragile. Nearly 70% of people will experience some form of infidelity in their life and not 70% of the population is traumatized. What makes a small fraction of the population traumatized by infidelity? What makes one partner throw all their self-esteem and self-worth into something that is more likely to fail than succeed? We have to address how we raise people as a society because that's just asking for trouble...
Glad to know you live everyone’s experiences and have put so much effort into empathy, understanding and truly learning how to put yourself into someone else’s shoes….NOT! We are all wired differently yet made in His image. 🤔 Interesting. No one wants to feel like crap or have their internal chemistry destroy their sense of being. No one signs up for this for pity or to be made to feel like a bigger fool by others who mock and judge them. No one is taught how to cope with this anymore than if they were told they have a terminal disease! It costs NOTHING to be kind but can cost someone their life to be cruel!
@@Sharrpei3 I am not sure I understand what you mean bu we in HIS image. Can you explain. But also, you missed the point entirely of my post. My post wasn't about dealing with the current small segment of the population traumatized by this but rather, try to prevent this from happening in the first place. If you suffer from this kind of trauma, wouldn't you want your daughter to be immuned from this pain when it happens to her? 70 percent of the population will experience infidelity in their life. Those are statistics. So you already know it will happen. Don't you want to prevent pain? There's a concept in business called Anti-Fragility. It's meant for teams to reduce the risks of failures. But I have found that if i apply these same concepts to myself, I have become MUCH less susceptible to the whims of emotions and experience little to no emotional distress. I still suffer from things like anger and sadness but to a MUCH lesser degree. I am sorry my post triggered you so much but it was about future generations and how to teach our kids, not how to resolve problems of the people today. Although come to think of it, it might help. To treat something, we must get to the root cause. Why would one person be susceptible to trauma and not another under the same condition? Then and only then can you treat it. It's always the same with the human body. That's how medical research is done!