Being cold with a man always gets me the men I want. Being happy and nice and open about my emotions to men has always resulted in me getting played. Being cold is essentially being emotionally intelligent if your a women. But not cold in the sense that you cheat or are mean but cold in the sense that you don’t give a damn, don’t get jealous or show emotion and you don’t react to nothing. And if it comes down to them doing you dirty You just say your not putting up with it and leave.
Can you really be yourself tho feel like you would just be wearing a mask with that person what about when you get married and have kids your going to be emotional women are naturally emotional beings
Nah cold ppl only attract ppl with childhood traumas. A healthy person with self esteem who has a secure attachment style doesn’t want someone who lacks emotional intelligence.
Everyone needs coldness when dealing with men. I’m sorry but I know I’m doing something right when men call me cold. And I am not a cold person with other people. You just need to learn how to deal with men and it’s not by being all nice let me tell you that.
@@Mermaid03_03 yeah I’ve noticed that too. They always say your different but the only thing i do is not being all up in their a**. And do my own thing, think about myself before i ever think about a man. I’ve even had one guy tell me I was not acting like a normal girl??? And he thought I was hiding things. I said excuse me how does a normal girl even act? That’s when I knew. 😂
Cold Women win over manchild who seek validation Real women win with real men who are secure and confident Yes, being emotionally intelligent and managing stressful situations with calm is good but being cold in a relationship ? Who would even be with someone who is cold?
I normally became cold from trauma and dealing with abusive people. I see it as a good thing honestly I know what to look out for and any red flags I leave.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
This is why I always say be a Bxtch, spend his money. They always want those kinds of women. Never the nicey-nice reserved type. Nah, she’s just the image he marries so other people can say “you did well” while he’s cheating with the “bxtch”. 😂😂😂
You understand the “game”, I bet you don’t get play like that by males unlike these women in the comments section. No wonder they getting all kind of ish from males…😅. This world is not for the weak hearted
@@MyAkachi I agree overall but I think 30s and up we really need to get our mental health together. Avoidant attachment style is a sign for trauma just as much as anxious attachment style. Attachment styles change with proper help
When I was younger I felt this way. After being chewed & spat out again, I find it off putting if some one is cold with me.. like never again off putting.
Going through a situation like this recently. I don't care to go into details, but what I did gain out of all of it is Self Respect. Great Channel with insightful advice from such a young man. Oh and btw. you're such a cutie pie!😊
I have the same issue as you where I see rejection/contempt as a challenge and I want to win them over and people please instead of stepping back. But lately I’ve been focusing inwards and protecting my energy. Not going to try too hard to win people’s approval.
I understand . Some don't realise, they keep chasing chasing such individual and in that process, they get to feel avoided,hurt,lessworthy etc deep inside. That might also cause some anger,frustration in a individual....
So glad I’m seeing this video. I’m a nice person, but just got rejected by my ex boyfriend from years ago. We came back into each others life, I had gotten therapy years ago and I’m healed, but he’s not he is still holding on his past relationships
As long ur partner not narcissistic. Once u knw they narcissistic THE END. Coldness just fine but narcs will devalued u and mental abuse u the rest or ur life. Totally not woth it. Be careful guys
These are amazing tips but everyone just remember before applying these tactics, all you’re going to attract are insecure people. It also means you have to constantly act cold to keep them interested…. Which if it doesn’t come naturally to you can be draining and unfulfilling. It also makes for a toxic relationship.
seems like people in the comment section are commenting before watching the video. Because I've addressed that this doesn't attract a good partner if this is all you do
You explained my mentality in few minutes. Especially this thing about not going back doesn't matter what. But thing is that cold people were warm in past but due to experiences they became chill and distant. Why I should give energy into people? It's not giving sense to me.
I’m so cold I don’t even call anyone…. If they don’t call me, we won’t speak… and I only reply to text, I never text first. NOBODY except my son and mom
I was reading The Game by Neil something I forget his last name and it’s incredibly interesting kinda covers the same thing. Might be toxic but hey it gets u what u want. Like they say why play fair in a unfair world 🤷♀️
For me coldness from the outside Signals a kind of stableness and beeing able to have control over emotions. But if he would be cold outside and inside its a huge Turn off for me. Its like i want to get through to his warm ,sensitiv inside which is kind of exclusively for me❤
Whenever I like someone and they don’t like me back, I’ll stop liking them, then all of a sudden they’ll start showing some type of interest. All the signifies to me is that, that person isn’t my person. If they were suppose to be with me we would of connected at the same time.
I will give you one simple example..I went in a desert in Jordan 🏜️ ..there were many camels ..some of them they don't let people touch them ,very cold ..but some camels very kind,warm you can hug them ..I was drawn to their warmth ,I always go where the love is 😊 People who are cold hearted they can win but what is life without love ?? Meaningless ,empty
I’m considered cold but I have strong boundaries. I’ve had very healthy relationships but my boundaries are legendary and bc of that I get called cold. I’m really not tho.
@LMNM800 if you say that you won’t do something. Stick to it. If they plead for you to change your mind leave the area after you told them no. Never reward bad behavior. Always be willing to leave if they ignore your wishes. I have clear boundaries of bf treatment from husband treatment. A bf won’t drive my car, or have any nudes of me or have access to my bank accounts etc. but my husband will. If bf can’t understand that always be willing to walk away without any drama. Just leave. No long conversation bc it doesn’t serve you to feel disrespected or uncomfortable. Once he realizes that you are serious about your boundaries he’ll respect them. Never tell them what your boundaries are just talk about it when the situation arises. But I never broadcast my boundaries. Just stay sweet and nice but have a line in the sand that you won’t cross under no circumstances. Hope this helps!
Interesting video! I am someone who is warm. I like that about myself. I see it would benefit me to apply coldness to boundary setting. I am perfectly fine setting boundaries. However, I need the coldness to kick in stronger when they are not respected. It's an art I need to learn and apply as needed! ❄️🩷❄️
This video is what I needed to hear! Thank you ❤ Does anyone know who/what that recording is that Alex uses in his videos? The man talking??? I want to hear the whole thing
You are THE Coach for the new, toxic generation. Not that i like it..but its better to understand whats going on nowadays.. it became part of Western culture
Are you married? In a committed relationship? What's your attachment style? Im guessing fearful aviodant by the advice you give. Honest these clowns. I was single 6 years work on yourself men like this dont exist to me now ❤
Men always get revenge on me when i do this ! Its crazy im letting you go and letting you do what you wanna do , and your getting angry because im not calling and seeing how your doing ?! When i know for sure your w/someone else ? Like how ?! I dont get it im no longer getting in to relationship's just using these sukas for drinks and food period its premature but guess what treat men like ish
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A naturally warm person can occasionally use coldness to establish boundaries and gain respect.
This is me! Especially at work!
Yes this is what I tend to do
Yes! Absolutely!
Being cold with a man always gets me the men I want. Being happy and nice and open about my emotions to men has always resulted in me getting played. Being cold is essentially being emotionally intelligent if your a women. But not cold in the sense that you cheat or are mean but cold in the sense that you don’t give a damn, don’t get jealous or show emotion and you don’t react to nothing. And if it comes down to them doing you dirty You just say your not putting up with it and leave.
So true
how to be cold
Learn to date people you don’t like. You will naturally be cold
Can you really be yourself tho feel like you would just be wearing a mask with that person what about when you get married and have kids your going to be emotional women are naturally emotional beings
I love your post ❤
Nah cold ppl only attract ppl with childhood traumas. A healthy person with self esteem who has a secure attachment style doesn’t want someone who lacks emotional intelligence.
Yup. I walk away easily
Being cold does not always mean you lack emotional intelligence.
Yep 👏🏼👏🏼
Amen
Make your own channel mrs know it all😅. Just kidding. Thats what he is saying.
Ironically when I'm warm people take advantage, cross boundaries, & hurt me. When im cold i get respect.
Everyone needs coldness when dealing with men. I’m sorry but I know I’m doing something right when men call me cold. And I am not a cold person with other people. You just need to learn how to deal with men and it’s not by being all nice let me tell you that.
Totally agree. I’ve had men flat out tell me that my detachment is what draws them to me. I’m naturally detached.
@@Mermaid03_03 yeah I’ve noticed that too. They always say your different but the only thing i do is not being all up in their a**. And do my own thing, think about myself before i ever think about a man. I’ve even had one guy tell me I was not acting like a normal girl??? And he thought I was hiding things. I said excuse me how does a normal girl even act? That’s when I knew. 😂
This is amazing I love it! It’s about to turn into a freezer by me!!!
@@catherineaubert2098😂😂😂😂❤❤❤
It’s easy to be cold if you’re avoidant 😊
avoidants are abusers
Cold Women win over manchild who seek validation
Real women win with real men who are secure and confident
Yes, being emotionally intelligent and managing stressful situations with calm is good but being cold in a relationship ? Who would even be with someone who is cold?
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Exactly. Too cool=uninterested
Yes, but realistically, how many men are you actually winning over? Men do not think like women 😂.
My friend is a warm person and she’s getting played all the time so all you said is bullshit
Two fake important people. Both role playing to see who is colder but can out burn the other FIRST. Real stupid games.
I normally became cold from trauma and dealing with abusive people. I see it as a good thing honestly I know what to look out for and any red flags I leave.
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
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This is why I always say be a Bxtch, spend his money. They always want those kinds of women. Never the nicey-nice reserved type. Nah, she’s just the image he marries so other people can say “you did well” while he’s cheating with the “bxtch”. 😂😂😂
You understand the “game”, I bet you don’t get play like that by males unlike these women in the comments section. No wonder they getting all kind of ish from males…😅. This world is not for the weak hearted
It just seem like people that want cold people or act cold just need a therapist. Especially, if you’re 30 and up.
I don't think there's an age bracket for that. If you have such attachment issues, you need professional help, no matter your age.
@@MyAkachi nope in my opinion as someon in their 30s, we should be accountable for our mental health
@@MyAkachi I agree overall but I think 30s and up we really need to get our mental health together. Avoidant attachment style is a sign for trauma just as much as anxious attachment style.
Attachment styles change with proper help
Facts 👏🏼👏🏼
@@Living.peachy you think you got it figured out at 30?? hehehe...wait till 40
When I was younger I felt this way. After being chewed & spat out again, I find it off putting if some one is cold with me.. like never again off putting.
Going through a situation like this recently. I don't care to go into details, but what I did gain out of all of it is Self Respect.
Great Channel with insightful advice from such a young man. Oh
and btw. you're such a cutie pie!😊
I have the same issue as you where I see rejection/contempt as a challenge and I want to win them over and people please instead of stepping back. But lately I’ve been focusing inwards and protecting my energy. Not going to try too hard to win people’s approval.
Look into Attachment Theory, it explains a lot (to me) and I think you’ll find value in it! And ‘ACEs too high’ (Adverse Childhood Experiences)
@@Ida-Adriana yeah I’m very familiar with attachment theory haha
I understand . Some don't realise, they keep chasing chasing such individual and in that process, they get to feel avoided,hurt,lessworthy etc deep inside. That might also cause some anger,frustration in a individual....
So glad I’m seeing this video. I’m a nice person, but just got rejected by my ex boyfriend from years ago. We came back into each others life, I had gotten therapy years ago and I’m healed, but he’s not he is still holding on his past relationships
Silly question but when you are healed why let you a toxic person back in your life?
@@Franziska1008girl that’s exactly what I was thinking
As long ur partner not narcissistic. Once u knw they narcissistic THE END. Coldness just fine but narcs will devalued u and mental abuse u the rest or ur life. Totally not woth it. Be careful guys
Thanks!
Chile where are you from?
These are amazing tips but everyone just remember before applying these tactics, all you’re going to attract are insecure people. It also means you have to constantly act cold to keep them interested…. Which if it doesn’t come naturally to you can be draining and unfulfilling. It also makes for a toxic relationship.
seems like people in the comment section are commenting before watching the video. Because I've addressed that this doesn't attract a good partner if this is all you do
Easy to be cold when you don’t have empathy
Yep
Exactly. Mainstream. Everything trafficked.
Damn this video is good. Alex, I've been watching you from the beginning and your growth is inspiring my guy
Alex, you are a genius. I am lost for words. Pure dating game.
You explained my mentality in few minutes. Especially this thing about not going back doesn't matter what. But thing is that cold people were warm in past but due to experiences they became chill and distant. Why I should give energy into people? It's not giving sense to me.
I love this cold series so much it makes no sense! 😃
I’m so cold I don’t even call anyone…. If they don’t call me, we won’t speak… and I only reply to text, I never text first. NOBODY except my son and mom
I should learn!!!
hope you never ever need anyone in life
lmao I have a phone addiction. Two extremes
@@FleurRebelle I’m good in life love thanks for your concern
Girl I’m the same way!!
Once I say what I will or won’t do I stick to it no matter what and ppl don’t understand that and I get called cold.
I was reading The Game by Neil something I forget his last name and it’s incredibly interesting kinda covers the same thing. Might be toxic but hey it gets u what u want. Like they say why play fair in a unfair world 🤷♀️
Me blocking my ex at everything and start a new life ❤
For me coldness from the outside Signals a kind of stableness and beeing able to have control over emotions.
But if he would be cold outside and inside its a huge Turn off for me.
Its like i want to get through to his warm ,sensitiv inside which is kind of exclusively for me❤
I'm way too Nice. 🙄
Whenever I like someone and they don’t like me back, I’ll stop liking them, then all of a sudden they’ll start showing some type of interest. All the signifies to me is that, that person isn’t my person. If they were suppose to be with me we would of connected at the same time.
Yessss!!! I loved that this one got voted 🎉🎉
Father Alex you don’t seem warm🤣
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He just said that so we would not take his rude comments about (Melissa) to heart 😂😂😂😂
I notice anytime am cold he runs after me. Am tired of the games
Thank you for making this video ‼️
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Father Alex are you a Fearful Avoidant ?
I will give you one simple example..I went in a desert in Jordan 🏜️ ..there were many camels ..some of them they don't let people touch them ,very cold ..but some camels very kind,warm you can hug them ..I was drawn to their warmth ,I always go where the love is 😊 People who are cold hearted they can win but what is life without love ?? Meaningless ,empty
I’m considered cold but I have strong boundaries. I’ve had very healthy relationships but my boundaries are legendary and bc of that I get called cold. I’m really not tho.
@LMNM800 if you say that you won’t do something. Stick to it. If they plead for you to change your mind leave the area after you told them no. Never reward bad behavior. Always be willing to leave if they ignore your wishes. I have clear boundaries of bf treatment from husband treatment. A bf won’t drive my car, or have any nudes of me or have access to my bank accounts etc. but my husband will. If bf can’t understand that always be willing to walk away without any drama. Just leave. No long conversation bc it doesn’t serve you to feel disrespected or uncomfortable. Once he realizes that you are serious about your boundaries he’ll respect them. Never tell them what your boundaries are just talk about it when the situation arises. But I never broadcast my boundaries. Just stay sweet and nice but have a line in the sand that you won’t cross under no circumstances. Hope this helps!
Basically if you aren’t an easy lay or smiling all the time acting like a cleanup yes-woman who’s always like smiley face you’re “cold” 😂😂😂💀💀💀
@@MT-gb6pl❤❤
Great to know I wish I knew this back then.
You are so right
This was good!
He definitely has a Sociotropy personality type and I do too
Interesting video! I am someone who is warm. I like that about myself. I see it would benefit me to apply coldness to boundary setting. I am perfectly fine setting boundaries. However, I need the coldness to kick in stronger when they are not respected. It's an art I need to learn and apply as needed! ❄️🩷❄️
Love you Alex wanted to stop by May God bless you in the mighty name of Jesus ❤
I have heard about pair bonding?? Please cover the topic.
Requires loyalty and commitment to create pair bonding.
Ok but what do they win?
That they get emotionally unavailable men. 😂😜
@@Franziska1008 There's no winning this ugly game
This video is what I needed to hear! Thank you ❤
Does anyone know who/what that recording is that Alex uses in his videos? The man talking??? I want to hear the whole thing
Really good video... thank you
You are THE Coach for the new, toxic generation. Not that i like it..but its better to understand whats going on nowadays.. it became part of Western culture
Stir anxiety lol
So true ❤
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10K likes 😊 the love is real
I like these new videos
Loved the ending😂😂😂 so how are we supposed to treat cold people?
Are you married? In a committed relationship? What's your attachment style? Im guessing fearful aviodant by the advice you give. Honest these clowns. I was single 6 years work on yourself men like this dont exist to me now ❤
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Sad but true folks 😢😂
Honestly these tricks and stuff only work if you’re mentally disturbed or just immature !
This is true
I guess I am cold. Lol
Men always get revenge on me when i do this ! Its crazy im letting you go and letting you do what you wanna do , and your getting angry because im not calling and seeing how your doing ?! When i know for sure your w/someone else ? Like how ?! I dont get it im no longer getting in to relationship's just using these sukas for drinks and food period its premature but guess what treat men like ish
I hate this. I am very warm and open and cute. And single forever.
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rihanna & lori harvey both lost….
Rihanna is happily married
Amen
Whats with the Melissa thing? Lol. Thats my name and Im starting to feel there's some hate towards us 😅
Cold women just end up alone
Or life as a sugar baby or a trafficker.
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Nothing cool about being cold hearted
Wait until that is the only option you have!
@@ankitajksahni4683 that will never be the only option
@@Jasminepsalm true . I totally agree. Being cold hearted does not do any good!
you say a whole a lot of none related stuff from the topic
4:20 So true.