I walked away because he played too many games after repeatedly asking for substance in the relationship. Do I wish it would’ve worked out? Absolutely, but if the relationship is stagnant and doesn’t bring stability it’s not worth it!
Ghosting hurts until you do shadow work. I couldn't care less about being ghosted. I am often the one doing the ghosting because not everyone is worthy of my time or energy. Great video. Thank you
Facts. I’m the queen of ghosting and when I say that, it doesn’t mean I am disrespectful of others emotions, etc. but I’ve learned that very few people deserve your explanation. Most people will take your explanation for granted, or dismiss you as nagging. I will tell you a problem, once or twice, we’re adults, you don’t need me to do it more than once. Most people don’t respect those conversations, the ones that do, have that conversation. But when you identify people are either a. Taking your willingness to work things out through useful conversation OR they dismiss you as nagging- they’re the best candidate for ghosting. Because no matter what you say or do, they will never respect it.
They only get ghosted after a few fair warnings. Three strikes, you’re out. I let them know it’s been three times and after many discussions together I decided I can no longer maintain the energy it takes for the relationship. Then BOOM!
Don't give them three chances, I warned them once and then gave them silence after they treated me bad the 2nd time. I will not contact them again and it was a friend of 20 years.
I’ve done this every time I see someone’s trying to play with me or I’ve given more than 1 opportunity. I stand on it and do it silently. They never expect It, always surprised and always come back, months even years later multiple times. It really works.
Great video Alex! Ghosting is on my opinion the only way to escape from being romantically entangled with a covert narcissist. Could you please make more videos on the passive aggressive techniques those toxic individuals use to trigger you emotionally within a romantic relationship?
Oooo yes. I had to do this with a covert that I didn’t even date and he started stalking and harassing the shit out of me. I remained silent the entire time he finally got the god damn message. No thank you sir
I did this last night but before that, I sent a picture looking Knockout 👊 hahaha, hope he feels regret for treating me so crap. I'm not short of attention but trying to figure out why I would settle for such rubbish. This is such a learning curve, I know that I did the best I could but there are deal breakers that I will never compromise on again 💯
You are absolutely right my friend.......absolutely to the point....For those who have studied a lot.....!!!!!!! you are always Prove your high level of knowledge and formation on human studies.....Thank you!
Some people are late for everthing. I know cos ive been one of them people. Its gotta be drummed into u as a kid and if its not u will not be great at managing time. If i like a guy theres even more chance il be late cos i wanna make myself look good and i managed my time wrong. I am getting better at it but your jumping to all kind of conclusions because shes late.... that being said, if u like a girl to turn up on time find one who does.
I was dating a guy who told me he’d quit smoking cigarettes for me n almost a year later he didn’t. There were many other reasons …..but this was a big one. I said right up front I won’t date a cigarette smoker. I’m out bae. lol I’m not gonna take care of them when they get lung cancer. Sorry
But you also gotta be mindful that its an addiction.... ita not easy to stop an addiction let alone cold stone turkey, you would be out of touch with reality to think anyone can stop an addiction in a short amount of time
@@Twighlight333 I understand what you're saying but even if it's an addiction, it's not on her to put up with it. A lot of addicts have no business being in a relationship if they themselves don't know know any concept of self-care. And more often than not, we end up taking care of them. It may be an addiction, it may be recreational, the point is she doesn't want to date people like that. It's his addiction, so it's problem -- he has to have the selfawareness to recognize that, and the maturity to start being responsible to take care of his problems. It's a codependent thing to make excuse for others just because they have an addiction, whether they mean it or not, they ultimately wreak havoc on relationships.
There's absolutely no difference from walking away in silence and ghosting. When they're gone, they're gone. No one knows what your intention of disappearing is.
Hi Alex, what to do when a guy has nothing interesting to say and makes no interesting plans if not ghost. If i keep responding they keep texting for eternity and wasting time
@@emmaboyett8667 maturity is a person who is not disrespecting you. Thats mature! If you have the best will and someone is taking you down... what is there to talk about? I dont want energies like that around me so yeah i block and never ever look back. And than i am talking about someone that is really low on you.
Sooooo…. What if you walked away… not in silence, but in a blaze of 100 or text messages telling them what a piece of sh*t they are in the span of about a week???. Oooops! Well I walked away at least I guess better luck walking away in silence next time? I’m silent now, I deleted their number 🤷🏼♀️
I was the girl who checked the phone..went into my next relationship...7 years didn't check...should of checked..dude was into other dudes and cheated on me. Check their phone!!
I get triggered every time you tell the story of the baddie being late. “Baddies” get perceived so much so it makes you more self conscious which can turn you into a perfectionist and that can also lead to symptoms of ADHD like poor time management. When I would be getting ready and running late I would think of this story and feel like shit about running late even though I gave myself an adequate amount of time….your brain tells you a different story.
ADHD is your problem to manage !!! Even though it is not your fault. Get sine kind of professional help bro. The world wont bend backwards because you have a diagnosis.
You dont gotta tell me twice, and you’ll never hear from me again, because you can’t find someone who doesn’t want to be found.
Agree
I like the walking away, cuz I just can't be arguing back and forth
I walked away because he played too many games after repeatedly asking for substance in the relationship. Do I wish it would’ve worked out? Absolutely, but if the relationship is stagnant and doesn’t bring stability it’s not worth it!
Ghosting hurts until you do shadow work. I couldn't care less about being ghosted. I am often the one doing the ghosting because not everyone is worthy of my time or energy. Great video. Thank you
Facts. I’m the queen of ghosting and when I say that, it doesn’t mean I am disrespectful of others emotions, etc. but I’ve learned that very few people deserve your explanation. Most people will take your explanation for granted, or dismiss you as nagging. I will tell you a problem, once or twice, we’re adults, you don’t need me to do it more than once. Most people don’t respect those conversations, the ones that do, have that conversation. But when you identify people are either a. Taking your willingness to work things out through useful conversation OR they dismiss you as nagging- they’re the best candidate for ghosting. Because no matter what you say or do, they will never respect it.
what is shadow work?
This is me. I ghost all the time and I have no issues with it. The law of detachment serves me well!
@@ecoker382bring your unconscious to light and integrate. Basically our darker side of the human experience.
How do you do shadow work
This video was sent straight to me from the higher ups. I’ve been contemplating this idea and here comes father Alex with the green light !
They only get ghosted after a few fair warnings. Three strikes, you’re out. I let them know it’s been three times and after many discussions together I decided I can no longer maintain the energy it takes for the relationship. Then BOOM!
Same girl!!
“If I cut you out of my life you handed me the scissors.”
Don't give them three chances, I warned them once and then gave them silence after they treated me bad the 2nd time. I will not contact them again and it was a friend of 20 years.
Hi your videos help me heal my disorganized attachment style. I just walked away from a “situationship.” Feeling great! Thank you.
I’ve done this every time I see someone’s trying to play with me or I’ve given more than 1 opportunity. I stand on it and do it silently. They never expect It, always surprised and always come back, months even years later multiple times. It really works.
I didnt just walk away in silence. I moved to a different town. Gone but not forgotten 😋
😬😁 You go, girl! 😂
I left the country. Disappeared into thin air.
God I wish I could do that
Great video Alex!
Ghosting is on my opinion the only way to escape from being romantically entangled with a covert narcissist.
Could you please make more videos on the passive aggressive techniques those toxic individuals use to trigger you emotionally within a romantic relationship?
He really needs to make more videos on your topic
Oooo yes. I had to do this with a covert that I didn’t even date and he started stalking and harassing the shit out of me. I remained silent the entire time he finally got the god damn message. No thank you sir
THIS. Reactive abuse is real.
You are literally speaking to me on this exact day in this video.
I did this last night but before that, I sent a picture looking Knockout 👊 hahaha, hope he feels regret for treating me so crap. I'm not short of attention but trying to figure out why I would settle for such rubbish. This is such a learning curve, I know that I did the best I could but there are deal breakers that I will never compromise on again 💯
Okay, Iam going to try this walking away in silence strategy... ❤
You are absolutely right my friend.......absolutely to the point....For those who have studied a lot.....!!!!!!! you are always Prove your high level of knowledge and formation on human studies.....Thank you!
The personal policy I made(thanks to YOU Alex)...Helped Me make the difficult decision to walk away....❤
Everything you said is absolutely on 🎯
Perfect timing. The same I do. 🔥💪
Thoughtfully expressed. Thanks
thank you for this.
I like that Alex quotes Nietzsche. Another level of intelligence.
This is the most truest statements ever.
Some people are late for everthing. I know cos ive been one of them people. Its gotta be drummed into u as a kid and if its not u will not be great at managing time. If i like a guy theres even more chance il be late cos i wanna make myself look good and i managed my time wrong. I am getting better at it but your jumping to all kind of conclusions because shes late.... that being said, if u like a girl to turn up on time find one who does.
Father Alex thank you ❤😊
I love you so much Alex ❤
Watching for a while now… 🔥 content
So good father Alex
Preach it ✝️
I was dating a guy who told me he’d quit smoking cigarettes for me n almost a year later he didn’t. There were many other reasons …..but this was a big one. I said right up front I won’t date a cigarette smoker. I’m out bae. lol I’m not gonna take care of them when they get lung cancer. Sorry
But you also gotta be mindful that its an addiction.... ita not easy to stop an addiction let alone cold stone turkey, you would be out of touch with reality to think anyone can stop an addiction in a short amount of time
But you DID date a smoker lmao. Date someone who doesn't smoke, you don't get to control others.
@@chelseyt7091right 😂
Addictions are a major red flag regardless @@Twighlight333
@@Twighlight333 I understand what you're saying but even if it's an addiction, it's not on her to put up with it. A lot of addicts have no business being in a relationship if they themselves don't know know any concept of self-care. And more often than not, we end up taking care of them. It may be an addiction, it may be recreational, the point is she doesn't want to date people like that. It's his addiction, so it's problem -- he has to have the selfawareness to recognize that, and the maturity to start being responsible to take care of his problems. It's a codependent thing to make excuse for others just because they have an addiction, whether they mean it or not, they ultimately wreak havoc on relationships.
Hola Padre Alex👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
There's absolutely no difference from walking away in silence and ghosting.
When they're gone, they're gone.
No one knows what your intention of disappearing is.
I don't understand checking phones. We are adults not babies. It's shocking
Hi Alex, what to do when a guy has nothing interesting to say and makes no interesting plans if not ghost. If i keep responding they keep texting for eternity and wasting time
Block move on
The crack analogies 😂
Hey can you do a video in when he pulls away but also watches you IG everyday like clockwork as if he is employed to do so.
Master or monster. Pick one
16:08 🎉
That’s so rude I’m glad you got rid of her nobody is that pretty to be dealing with that
You are the 💣
Omg the comments...🤦🏼♀️
Yasss🙌🏻
❤ you are the best my coach because I don't date😂
That why she did it father Alex she was testing. You
You are so handsome
Yes he is 😍
Which book is it?
blocking was really immature
@@Liz-dragon-street. maturity is about being able to consider situations outside of yourself
Blocking was invented for a reason
@@emmaboyett8667 maturity is a person who is not disrespecting you.
Thats mature!
If you have the best will and someone is taking you down... what is there to talk about?
I dont want energies like that around me so yeah i block and never ever look back.
And than i am talking about someone that is really low on you.
Sooooo…. What if you walked away… not in silence, but in a blaze of 100 or text messages telling them what a piece of sh*t they are in the span of about a week???. Oooops! Well I walked away at least I guess better luck walking away in silence next time? I’m silent now, I deleted their number 🤷🏼♀️
😂😂😂😂
You look like you could be related to Keith Lee father Alex 😂
I was the girl who checked the phone..went into my next relationship...7 years didn't check...should of checked..dude was into other dudes and cheated on me. Check their phone!!
I get triggered every time you tell the story of the baddie being late. “Baddies” get perceived so much so it makes you more self conscious which can turn you into a perfectionist and that can also lead to symptoms of ADHD like poor time management. When I would be getting ready and running late I would think of this story and feel like shit about running late even though I gave myself an adequate amount of time….your brain tells you a different story.
ADHD is your problem to manage !!! Even though it is not your fault. Get sine kind of professional help bro. The world wont bend backwards because you have a diagnosis.
What about situationships with a co-worker.
What’s a situationship??
@@ellem4music156 sod that! Get out it's not good for your soul.
Information junkie?
Like looking at medusa
Alex has manly hands
Bro Alex, why is your hair always scattered sir? Pls look more organised please 🙏🏽
father Alex saving my soul one video at the time